how you play games is how you do everything.
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- Опубліковано 10 чер 2024
- This video is for anyone who's like me who can't seem to stick to a single game (and anything else in their life, for that matter). We're all creatures of habit, and how we play games might shed some light on how we live our lives. Consequently, changing some things about how we game might have bigger implications.
0:00 Intro
1:18 "How you do anything is how you do everything"
1:57 I can't commit
3:23 I'm too focused on the end
4:18 How I used to be
5:07 The hope
6:06 Outro
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man this comments section has become something insane. thank you all for sharing your story, regardless if you agree or disagree. genuinely love reading every single one.
I just finished watching this video and you commented something 😭
Nice content! Like others I randomly stumbled over your video via youtube algorithm and man your style of editing is exactly the type I enjoy and stay focused on. The Jeff nippard of gaming :D
Stay focused and keep up your good and healthy work. Love it !
Good one! Keep it up!
I am exactly like you in that way i am also a serial starter
And often i am quite talented at things but i never see it through
would have been real funny for the video to just end without it being completed
He's changing
underrated lol
*In Morpheus voice* he's beginning to believe
It should be still be in his editing program if so
@@L3onkingye
props to the youtube algorithm to actually recommending me this
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I lost my happiness and excitement to play games a few years ago, nothing was interesting to me anymore, when new games came out I got it, rushed through it, looked up on yt where to find things, what to do first. I was lead by a string like your video said. It became draining but then I just wanted to explore thing's on my own pace, not care about how fast I can finish a game, get the best gear, items, ect. I just layed back in the evening, played the game however I wanted to without anyone guiding me, at my own comfortable pace and that brought me some joy back and love for gaming. So be yourself, don't listen to others and enjoy the ride
Agreed. So what you've been playing lately?
@@wookim9066 right now I'm playing ghost of Tsushima on PC, very beautiful but also a bit depressing lol dead bodies everywhere 😅
@@risingg3169 I tried that too recently but couldn't bother play more than a hour😅. I mean you play one ps game you've played them all
@@risingg3169 what's your cozy game?
@@wookim9066 I know what you mean by that 🤭 I own a PS2 but from that point on just PC. You can definitely see similarities but sometimes it's nice to just admire the artwork. I do like taking pictures of nature and in video games so having a beautiful looking game is very nice but definitely not the main point. For just relaxing I recently tried fabledom. Nothing serious just building your town while watching UA-cam or twitch at the side or when my friend is free play some Fortnite together or dead by daylight. What about you?
I was talking to my therapist about this exact thing today, how the way I play games mirrors the way I do everything else and that I can't commit to finish things, I don't put a continuous effort in the things I want to do and shit
It's 2:56 am where I live and I can't sleep so I decided to open youtube to watch some random things, but then this video was on my front page. What a coincidence, you have the exact same experience as I do and just today I was talking about this thing.
Thank you for your video and thank you UA-cam algorithm
Oh my god, dude.
It's exactly 2:56 am where I am right now as of writing this comment, and I'm also watching this video randomly because it popped up ln my recommended.
Thank you UA-cam for this even funnier coincidence.
Not a coincidence
2:04 here wandering the internet for another interest
@@TorManiak its 2:48 am and this is showing up now.
if i may, it seems you have a problem with self-discipline... most committal issues are with that, leading to unfished projects and tasks that the sufferer WANTS to finish (note that there is a difference contrasted against tasks that the person does not care to finish).
that is, if a person cannot finish something they do not care about, that is one thing; but a person that cannot finish something they do want to actually finish, is another thing.
now, that outcome can potentially be 'not your fault' (eg. ADHD dysfunctionality of the brain) or it can be 'your fault' (which many people never hear, oddly), it may literally be your lack of willpower and committing to it.
try to exercise your self-discipline towards something small and easy at first, increasing scope and difficulty after that, each time. actually commit though.
if you absolutely cannot finish tasks, it will affect your life negatively (eg. getting fired lots). this can be alleviate with medication. good luck to you, friend.
Scrolled on the home page for fun, UA-cam decided I needed an intervention instead
Oh you too?
Damn yeah….
Same…
Yikes this comment hits me right in the heart
Big same
You actually made me realize something, I have trouble finishing games because I dont want the excitement to end, just how in life im scared of fully committing to expressing myself because im afraid of people disliking me
"im scared of fully committing to expressing myself because im afraid of people disliking me"
Wow I had a small breakthrough reading this. Fitting into the bounds of social norms has always been a difficult for me. Growing up as a weird kid trying really hard to un-weirdify myself has made me a self conscious adult with guards way up and any time it comes down and I have a lapse of impulse control I feel so anxious about it
Always consider that just as many people will like you, as dislike you. Fearing the negative actually ensures that you never get the positive. So, without the positive, have you really avoided the negative you're afraid of? Or are you just blindfolding yourself with it.
as i learn and experience more to life i’ve realized people can dislike you for anything, after awhile it’ll look like their purposely look for that specific reason.
even if you become a people pleaser, go to the gym (not saying you need to), get a partner, get ur dream job, wear clothing other people like etc there will always be those that judge you for things you can’t control like race or religion.
what i’m getting at is you’ll always be capable of loving yourself the way others can’t. be yourself no matter if people like you or not cause if they dislike the real you, their opinion about you doesn’t matter
@@ryucartel351it’s like speaking something bad into existence then wondering why it’s happening
@@JackTowns-mn2ob I understood this for so long but my unconscious brain still can’t realise it really frustrates me I don’t know when it will finally click inside it’s like my brain is programmed to try and make people like me everytime
For as long as I can remember, I’ve started things and didn’t finish. I have a portfolio of unfinished drawings, a hard drive full of unfinished songs, several unfinished playthroughs of games. I have this desire driven by a burst of motivation and ambition that just ends abruptly. What I do in the games I play now is usually just drive around aimlessly to avoid anything, or to search for something exciting. Sometimes I’m driven, and other times I’m burnt out. But regardless, we just keep driving.
if i may repeat my own comment, it seems you may have a problem with self-discipline... most committal or completionist issues are with that; leading to unfished projects and tasks that the sufferer WANTS to finish (note that there is a difference contrasted against tasks that the person does not care to finish).
that is, if a person cannot finish something they do not care about, that is one thing; but a person that cannot finish something they do want to actually finish, is another thing.
now, that outcome can potentially be 'not your fault' (eg. ADHD dysfunctionality of the brain) or it can be 'your fault' (which many people never hear, oddly), it may literally be your lack of willpower and committing to it.
try to exercise your self-discipline towards something small and easy at first, increasing scope and difficulty after that, each time. actually commit though.
if you absolutely cannot finish tasks, it will affect your life negatively (eg. getting fired lots). this can be alleviated with medication.
if you really do not care if you finish games, songs, projects, et al. then it may just be a nonchalance of personality, or a sense of ennui.
either way, whether you seek help for it or just accept it, good luck to you, friend.
i feel almost the same. as the guy below you mentioned, I think i have a very severe self discipline issue, and i’m gonna try to work on it but slowly trying to complete tasks and working upward from there.
Woah, watching this made me realise I have the problem you mentioned but in a weird way. Any game I play, I try to explore the world and talk to every NPC ever, try going through every door in the area, for about like 25 minutes. Then I try to just progress through the story and forget about all the exploring, doing it haphazardly when I do. After a few days, no matter how much I enjoyed the game, I always find it difficult to open my PC and just- launch the game. I can't get myself committed to starting it up again, even if I want to play it. I think to myself that if I start now, I'll just end up playing for the whole day and waste my time. However, I end up just doomscrolling and not achieving anything at the end of the day either.
Doing things haphazardly and being afraid to commit to one game shows in other aspects of my life aswell. Getting the urge to study but not wanting to open the book, knowing that I should text my friends back but not wanting to open their messages.
Thank you for making this video, it made me think about a lot of things. Maybe I should start by opening a game I've been meaning to play for a long time?
are we the same person or what because literally same😭
Real and relatable
I stopped playing video games this year. Got into martial arts, going to the gym, running. It's been one hell of a journey changing my entire life and its been for the better. My mental health has never been better, my relationships, outlook on life. And it started by seeing dark souls 1 all the way through. Embracing the sucky aspects. Embracing the trying and failing. Seeing beauty in the chaotic and dark world i immersed myself in.
Strange how our entertainment can shape us. How art truly can move us.
Keep it up bud!
Nice to see fellow gamers embracing real life. Honestly as an aspiring game dev my goal is to make a game that inspires people to start putting in the work to improve their life, or at least touch grass.
hell yeah bro what kinda martial arts are you doing
Not gonna lie playing Elden Ring inspired me to never give up outside of gaming. Just keep going, learning and growing. You’ll end up seeing progress in both games and irl.
goat good shit
i seriously thought this video was a dude with like 100k subs and a million views, props fr bro
This hobby channel has higher production quality (mic, voicing, pp) than a lot of full time YTubers.
same
Haven't you seen the memes of small channels making high quality content? It's the truth.
It kinda makes sense if you listen to his story. Dude is super energetic about a subject, but can't stay in the same lane consistently long enough.
So when he is in creator mode, then it's 200% passion. Also likely had rabbit holes in public speaking / storytelling / film&game analysis and other how Tobe quality creative binge watches just out of momentary pure curiosity. Even if it's random interest, not prep for work, some info is bound to stick. So he has vastly superior foundations than soulless content-mills or limited previous interests/experience honest startup channels.
Surprisingly there's a ton of high quality content out here from smaller accounts. YT is finally showing it and giving newer creators a chance
I really noticed that I kinda rush through games.
im playing sekiro right now, this video made me realize the same shit since im always looking up guides on how to fight the bosses, when i will have more development if i just send it in there and learn. i clicked on this video just because but i actually took something away from it.
The thing that makes this problem so much worse for me is whenever I identify it, I get that rush to better myself but just end up giving up and seeping back down into depression. It’s just an endless cycle of inspiration quickly leading to desperation for a success story that never comes because I just lose all momentum and motivation to do anything in my life. The hardest part of life is figuring out how the end of one verse can lead into the next but you gotta do it anyways. Don’t be like me, go out there, get help if you need to, do that thing you wanted to do 3 weeks ago but never had the push to do.
Social Media does this to us. It's designed to keep our attention span for a few seconds, and then it's on to the next thing. I try to fight against it, and stop the mindless scrolling.
This more people need to realise this and wake up
@@realnpulsive the irony of you saying this while on UA-cam is baffling 🤦🫵🤡
Nah i have been swapping games since I was a kid, way before social media
I call it google brain. We have outsourced are attention and memory to the internet. I am fighting this, if u ever are having a convo with a friend and are trying to recall a actors name , refrain from googling it, work those brain muscles , it has helped so much in recalling words to peoples names , getting rid of brain fog.
I need to wake up
It took me many years to start emulating my game talents into irl talents, it began a question between friends online of just "... what if i just did this IRL instead" in the realm of: leadership, organization, goals, efficiency, grind, cost analysis, time analysis, mechanical skills, complex problem solving, tutorial creation, community management. Honestly if I never mentioned game anywhere it would just sound like it's an organization/work activities already. Great video, excellent reminder
Soo true. Literally last month I’ve come to a realisation that it’s pretty hard for me to learn something new from games. Why not try the same stuff but irl? So I decided to drop games as a test and do whatever I want but irl only (usually I have around 80-100 hours in steam per two weeks). For now it looks like one of the best decisions of my life. I’m 31 btw
I'm not good at any of that. In fact, I have to play every game on easy mode and still don't finish alot.
@@misha9209 what do you do after getting home from work now?
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What if you completly suck at games
Few years back I had no direction in life and was addicted to video games, but the thing is is that I was very good at the games I played. Meticulous even. I was able to take that process of how deeply I would perfect something and how fixated I was on how things 'worked' into software development. Taught myself to code, and now I'm an engineer. People don't understand when I say this but for a time when I experienced major growth I had turned work into a game.
this video moved me to tears. i see myself in a lot of what you said. i'm quite literally the same: always rushing to the end, not able to finish things... the sentiment of "how you do anything is how you do everything," and starting small are sentiments I'll always carry with me. i'll not soon forget it. thank you for making this.
This video was really touching for me, and I’m sure it was for you too. I’m guessing no one will read this, but I’d like to say it anyways even if it only benefits me. I don’t play video games anymore, but when I did, I would play shooter games. All I could play was multiplayer, and all that brought me excitement was being in the action, flanking the enemy team, and getting massive multi kills with snipers or explosives. I realised part of this translates to my real life. I spent less time with family and taking care of my passions (such as gardening, art, and music), and focused so much on having a good social life and going out all the time. This all or nothing attitude was clear through the way I played games. Instead of being present, enjoying campaigns and small details of the graphics or story, I would fast-forward to the action. In other words, I’m learning to live a more balanced and present life, without rushing and setting huge expectations on the ‘big things’. This video really helped me, I’m even going to tell my therapist about it tomorrow. Thank you 😁
I read it and clicked like and so did 40 other people 😊
The second sentence in combination with the likes brought up something I've heard long time ago:
"the less you expect something, the more likely its gonna happen."
The second sentence in combination with the likes brought up something I've heard long time ago:
"the less you expect something, the more likely its gonna happen."
Bruh quit yapping
As an older gamer, I've found I run into a weird problem - I fall in love with a game, but I know if I finish it, I won't come back to it to finish all the extra side quests, so I investigate side quests and try to delay beating the game entirely.
Except, then what happens is I stop playing the game. I can't even explain why. This happened with Zelda: Tears of the Kingdom. I loved Breath of the Wild, but once I beat it, I didn't go back in to finish the side content. So, with TotK, I've intentionally focused on the side quests.
Now, we're more than a year from the game's launch and I've just stopped playing entirely. I haven't beaten it. I just stopped playing it. I'm still not sure why. 🤷♂
This was a GREAT video - it really made me think about how I game (as well as how I approach other parts of life).
this exact thing happens to me, although funny enough not with Zelda just bc that's my number one.
i hate endings, so i put them off. i avoid and do less serious things than the main quests, then i stop playing and pretend that it doesn't end.
and that is the problem with open world games. I think Elden Ring does this the worst way possible. You aren't constantly following a proper story, it's just you and the massive hostile world where all you do is fighting so once you are done you are really glad about it. At least that's how i felt, took me extremly long time to complete.
I do this as well, but it's also just a bad habit I've always had since I was a kid, I don't want to miss out on content but I get bored when grinding doing the less fun parts so the game starts to feel like a job and as a kid I could power through but as an adult I just stop playing the game as it's now another chore to do.
I'm literally having the same problem with TOTK hahah
I’m glad I’ve finally come across someone with the same problem as me. Not that I have looked very hard but still…I’ve always felt insane trying to explain it to the few friends I have that still play games. I’m completely aware of it by now but it still doesn’t stop me from doing it. “This time will be different” is what I tell myself. And I actually got better for a while until it happened again recently. I started playing through Bloodborne a few years back and actually finished it 100% to then go on and do the same with Dark Souls (1-3), Sekiro, and Elden Ring when it came out. After ER I was also surprisingly able to 100% TotK - never thought that would happen especially with the koroks. But every game after that has been back to the same old routine. It’s beyond crazy for me to understand why. Those games I mentioned are definitely some of my all-time favs but it’s not like other games I play aren’t fun to me. I could understand if I was forcing myself to finish games I had no interest in but that’s for sure not the case. Who knows? Unnecessarily long comment but at least I finished it lmao.
You made me realize that one I do have a problem with consistency in video games and in real life but also I realized that gaming isn’t as fun to me anymore because everytime I hop on a new game I’m focused on becoming the best rather than enjoying it and whenever I get to a point where I feel like im not good i just give up. i think this mindset also interferes with my life now because i have so many goals but im nervous and worried i cant do it
i have a problem with consistency so this gave me a new perspective and insight on how i should apporach things maybe. thank you, brother and may we all keep keeping on
It's a very strange thing, our brains.
We commit to something, and pull all our energy and effort into something we're interested in; and it almost feels like a chore to do it.
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But those moments where we sit back, just relex and dont really have expectations: that's when the joy comes in and thats when we have the most fun with gaming.
I say "we", but I really mean just me. I don’t know if anyone else has the same effect, but it feels like the more I want to enjoy something; the less I actually enjoy it.
Those moments where I'm not really focusing on the plot, or the characters, or the gameplay; but just "being there" and chilling - those are when my best experiences with games happen.
A lot of the people in the comments seem to be similar to you, so I figured I'd toss out my perspective. I'm someone who only really plays one game at a time, one task at a time. I commit hard to things and seek self-improvement above all when it comes to tasks (and games). In life, it's led me to learning great time management skills and to become a really efficient worker. In games, I've become a pretty consistent tournament player for the past few years, even just in smaller community run stuff.
Where for you the downside seems to be overcommitment leading to burnout. For me, anything I don't see worth committing to just doesn't get anywhere near my normal effort, if any at all.
Every set of traits has its ups and downs. Being a good casual gamer might help you enjoy things while relaxing, while being too competitive means you can't have fun without being pushed to your limit. Maybe no expectations is best, maybe expectations are needed. Who knows? Everyone has to find out for themselves.
@@hawklight3739 This is very good insight. Thank you
I’m the exact same way. Is there any advice you have for us both?
Advice on what? @michaeldost8155
hell yeah 100% true for me also..
Instantly subscribed . I feel like this honestly something i dont see often. In a sea filled with game reviews or game analysis: there’s something oddly refreshing about hearing someone explain how a game affected them personally. I feel like that adds a sorta authenticity that we rarely see online
0:02 seconds in the video and i IMMEDIATELY recognised #8 regret from splatoon 2, and cheered i wonder what this says abt me....
i’ve noticed this for people’s driving IRL. the way they drive, the attitudes, habits, abilities, and reactions line up with their general personality
I CAN TELL SOOOO MUCH just observing how people move their carts in a grocery store and how they shop 😭😭🙏🏼
tell me more🤔
keep going @@mishtrology
@@mishtrologyyoo do elaborate more, would love to know how u observe
@@koenigsegg1.1 if i may continue for them (they may never return), if a person 'drives' their cart cautiously, looking at the floor for spills and objects and hazards; that may be one aspect of how they live their life, a methodical, cautious approach to things, prizing safety. if a person 'drives their cart' fast and not looking for hazards, in contrast; that may be one indicator of how they may live parts of their life, or all of it, a speedy, uncaring for safety approach to life, always in a hurry, always seeking their target goal in the distance (and potentially, not enjoying the journey on the way, and missing many small things in life).
there are many interpretations of course, it is not always cut-and-dry (straight-relations) of one observation to their condition, but it can give hints to how they may live their life.
peace to you.
I have recently felt a disconnected from my younger self. I felt adult life take over and I stopped getting to know my self. This bled into gaming. I started to only grind games, instead of explore. I wanted to complete, instead of learn. After this revelation I have begun to look at pictures of myself from the time I was exploring, learning, being curious, and I feel Im starting to get to know myself again. Shortly after I started enjoying, stopped grinding, started exploring instead of finishing.
Great video with a deep topic.
Dope thing to say
Thank you brother for this, insanely on point and with precise timing. Praying for all of us to power through, for us to have courage to let life do its thing on us, pushing us to become who we are. Love you all.
you've perfectly articulated my experience with games - i've found myself rushing through and struggling to fully appreciate them for the past few years and i'm looking to do that again
YT algorith hits hard
UA-cam saw what I was watching and decided I needed therapy. lol
Yeah
Playing through a game like a to-do list just to "finish the story" takes away the appreciation in the moments. Taking in these moments is all that matters. You wouldn't want to rush through life just to "finish the story". So stop living your life like it's a to-do list. Enjoy each quest in this life, even how dull it may seem. appreciate the mundane, going to work/gym/school etc.
This video somehow managed to express the thoughts that have been on my mind recently. Thank you❤
I'm playing Stray right now and I stop and appreciate the beauty of the game so much, that I screenshot and send to my friend. I realize I just want someone to share these beautiful moments with, it's sad to experience them alone all the time. Even tho I really enjoy spending time with myself it's extra lonely in those times.
@@lovekittyforever i totally get what you're saying. Whenever i play games and i see something beautiful (which is wherever i turn if I'm playing rdr2😭) i feel the urge to share it with my friends. Maybe subconsciously to get validation... Idk. Anyway I guess it's in those moments I've recently began to tell myself "I'm gonna enjoy this by myself, and that's fine". Because we spend our whole lives with our own minds. Which means we should get comfortable going solo from time to time, without getting the spotlight effect (feeling that everyone is noticing you in public). As long as one has a balanced lifestyle between sharing moments with others and experiencing them solo.
Yeah like Death Stranding. People call it walking simulator yeah it is but it is more than that and it is more like hiking.
This is the eleventh video in my playlist of the most important videos I have watched.
Watching this inspired a realization in me that this video's thesis is true; I've stuck with some games for a while, but most feel like a checklist (and that mirrors how my life has felt).
I've also been a chronic starter. I saw another comment that said they anticipate what they'll do once they get to a point or achieve something, then the feeling dies off when effort is needed (or something to that effect); I've felt that myself, but I'm getting a little better at sticking with things that'll take effort and let me achieve what I want to do.
This spoke a lot to me. Sometimes we only crave the destination! This is a reminder to also slow down and enjoy the journey. Thank you doozy 👏🏽
To me, this is the definition of having epiphanies, miniature enlightenment. You ever notice how monks talk very simply, but the more you ponder, you realize it was something very deep, just guised on the surface as simple? This is how everything in life really is, and I think we can start to have these deeper experiences by, like you explained eloquently, being in the present moment. This is truth my brother and I think it’s really cool you had this realization through video games.
I am so appreciative for all of you watching this video and sharing your thoughts. I read every comment. And yes, I will ask my doctor about potentially having ADHD, haha. Thank you again. 🙏
Lmaoo I was just finna comment something about this, really like the video man good job
While watching, I kept thinking “this is me.” I’ve not been diagnosed with ADHD, but I’m almost certain I have it. Regardless, I think you’re right about the approach, and I’m going to try to hold myself to it as well (try being the keyword lol). Excellent video, and thank you for sharing! That quote is really resonating…
As someone with 33 years of experience in ADHD, let me tell you what I've learned -- it's not going to be elegant, it's not going to be pretty, and it's not going to be glamorous.
If you want to complete something, you're going to need to learn how to smash your face into it until it's complete. This goes for video games, and, well, everything else. The dumbest person that shows up to something is still smarter than the smartest person who doesn't. Consistency is key, but consistent consistency is impossible without doing something you don't want to do. That's just the way it is.
Hope this helps. Also, it's OK to not want to finish things, but when you're struggling with finishing something you really want to finish, I hope you remember this advice.
Real
dont worry adhd has advatange and is another popular clickbait. some whine with it. for me its a superpower.
Funny, I used that exact same quote in my last scholarship application. I think you’re absolutely right, or at least my expectations have been consistent with yours. I’ve gone from being a high school dropout with zero motivation, to just graduating with an associates from my local community college. I didn’t start large though - I had to make small, incremental changes over the course of years, just as you said. Take back more and more of my agency. I think one of the most healthy mindsets you can take is to be okay with being a work in progress; to recognize that you are still doing things that you’d like to change, but that you’re working on it day-by-day. Have some self-compassion. These things take time. The less you care about ‘getting it over with’, the easier it will come. That, at least, I can attest to. Anyways, good luck in your respective journeys! Stick with it
That SpongeBob clips about Squidward getting bored overtime doing his ideal routine (after moving in to some kind of squidward town) which he couldn't do with SpongeBob and Patrick around really hit home. It only fun at the beginning and after some time it just felt like a chore and you wish to do something different. Be it bad or good, random things that happens in your life add a little of colour to your normal mundane life.
I recently started an apprenticeship (I live in Germany) and am working full time for the first time in my life. It's crazy how everything speeds up to the unimaginable. Get up, work, come home, sleep. Now do that again.
And my coping was to completely lose myself in it. Rushing things and only trying to aim for results because I was always short on time for everything. I lost the way I usually did things.
What really helped me was playing Stray. Anytime I had a little bit of free time I played as a cute cat wandering around. And I started the game with no real goal at all. I just wanted to enjoy the game. I tried to act like a cat would lmao. Doing whatever I wanted in just that moment. Whatever came to my mind and be it for whatever reason.
Also I wanted to see and enjoy beauty again so I stopped at every nice view and every cozy place. At first I had to force myself because my mind was still racing but once I found something nice, once I gave in to the view and found beauty in a forgotten city or enjoyed a trickling sound in some quiet place, I started noticing so much more, enjoying lots and lots of other things. And before I knew it my mind was flooded with beautiful things I found and was excited to play some more once I got off from work just like when I was a kid and nothing else mattered.
I really enjoyed giving in to that mindset and it helped me remember that there are other ways of doing things in everyday life instead of just aiming for results.
And now, after remembering and reliving other ways of life, it is up to me to change my lifestyle and enjoy more things in life.
Best of luck to everyone, we're all still growing up.
- "Keep your mind wide open"
I enjoyed reading this before bed. Thank you for the uplifting story. I was blown away by how charming and interestingly detailed Stray was too.
Beautiful words. I've been meaning to pick up stray as well
Yeah... Adulthood isn't easy, but you're taking the right steps. Don't let life rush past you; always keep your mind in the present, because if you don't, before you know it, ten years will have flown by. A decade starts to feel like "yesterday" faster than we can imagine.
On a side note, if you liked Stray and its slow burn, "take your time" pace, you should try Death Stranding (Director's Cut). Some, including me, consider it a masterpiece, but you need to be in the right frame of mind for it.
Keep on keeping on, bro.
Viel Glück in deiner Lehre mein Freund!
You know what, I like this idea. I'll try to do it, treating everything as a Dark Souls Boss and trying to overcome it through persistence and gradual improvement, after all, I can do it in Dark Souls, so why not in real life.
Key problem is unlike ds life doesnt give you unlimited chance to try because it is hard and annoying
@@berkaysekercioglu3742 fax
@@berkaysekercioglu3742This. Plus there's way harder stuff like Ninja Gaiden lol
doozy the goat for this one. everything you said resonated and i’ve been thinking the same thoughts about my gaming habits - but you managed to spin it into positivity and i want to thank you for that!
I never used to finish games too, hell even now i still have like 10 unfinished games. But i've been slowly working towards more platinum trophies and it's been a grind for sure, but the sheer dopamine rush of getting the trophy is worth it in the end, it's a small thing but it feels nice to finish something you put so much effort into.
TLDR, finish the games you like, even if it takes a while you'll feel 10x better looking at it on your profile than having it stuck at like 60% completion
The ADHD serial starter is such a real feeling.
Edit: Man there are some ignorant and insecure people here. I don’t have the time nor the crayon’s to assist your unwrinkled brains in understanding what ADHD is.
And I’m not saying the creator has ADHD but merely sharing a related experience. Ffs.
It's who I am.
I'm at the other adhd end, I know games have the potential to eat weeks of my life while I obsessively push through and platinum them, so I try really hard not to play too many new ones.
It’s not ADHD, its just bad discipline
@@educampsrocks You are kinda wrong. It's an adhd thing. The longer you invest your time in something the more it gets boring. You get less and less Dopamin for doing the same thing over and over again. It's pretty frustrating because you want to play but its just way to draining
@@educampsrocksThis is a harmful misconception. Those with ADHD suffer from Executive Dysfunction, which makes building consistent habits very difficult. Please look up executive dysfunction and take the time to put aside your false misconceptions to learn something, and stop spreading misinformation about neurological conditions through willful ignorance.
"Stop and smell the roses."
In our hectic lives, it's hard to do this. But I'm going to try to do this in my gameplay as well.
I spent most of my time in the Witcher 3 just riding around and picking herbs 😅
ETA: And playing Gwent!
real, relatable, i thing we live in times where we compare ourselfs too much with other people and not compare us with ourselves .. Enjoy life how it is, dont rush to to end of the goal, enjoy going trough the steps it takes to get there!
To be entirely transparent, the way that I play video games is that I start them and I get familiar with what it is and the vibe overall; then I put the game away for about a year and a half before I pick it back up and beat half of it. Then typically I never pick up the game again.
This is true. I like games with resource management, grinds, and economies and some creativity. I like structure and min/maxing. This translates in my life to financial gain and management, conscientiousness, detailed-oriented, and some perfectionism, but I lack spontaneity.
My best friend likes tactical fast-paced action games with quick dopamine hits or soap operas with a lot of character interaction like Mass Effect. He is more sociable, in-the-present and thrill-seeking, but lacks structure, planning, and patience. We're a dynamic duo, but rarely want to play the same games.
Great video!
Omg the way you described yourself is exactly me! That’s why my favorite game is Stardew Valley, among other things, it’s like the game was made for me. What are some games do you recommend?
I play all kind of games, never finish them and abandon them. This translate to my lack of purpose and drive in real life 😅
@@frog6054LMAOOOO
@@mel4340 Give Palworld a go if you haven't yet. The game has a lot of charm by itself, but the breeding and base mechanics gives you many goal-oriented objectives. It's quite addicting breeding the strongest Anubis to increase your ore production or finding new Pals to work on your farms and you will definitely enjoy it a lot, the world is also beautiful for explorationand the different variety of Pals keeps it interesting. It's like Pokémon meets Zelda.
If you're into history and military or political tactics, try Crusader Kings 3. It's about building an empire and conquering the world through subterfuge, war, diplomacy, or wealth and managing your empire and its dynasty. It has a steep learning curve, and may take some time to get used to.
Planet Crafter is also pretty good. It's about building up a Martian planet atmosphere and making it survivable and eventually inhabited by small flora and fauna. It's made by a husband and wife duo and recently left early access and they release frequent updates.
Satisfactory and Factorio are also meant to be great games in this niche, but I have yet to play them. A lot of people I know that like Stardew Valley also talk highly of games like Undertale, but I don't know much about that one.
(UA-cam keeps deleting my comments. Apologies if this comment shows multiple times!)
My comments are only showing up when I sign out... This silly website.
Dude just made me realize the biggest lesson in my life. I try to take shortcuts to succeed.
Now it feels like I am not alone anymore.
which I don't think is bad.
Real
@@emperorborgpalpatineIt's not bad until you fail to succeed and have nothing to show for it.
This video genuinely hits so close to home, I think I’m the same way, I get distracted easily, try doing everything and just stopping halfway, feeling empty and guilty for not being able to do certain things and just self hating.
It even shows in my comments and sentences, I was gonna talk about something else than I forgot and just went back to edit this in, it’s bad.
I never commit and if I do, I burn myself out so quickly, and then I do it again and again, it’s a cycle and I can’t escape it.
Genuinely glad UA-cam decided to promote this video. Actually reading through Atomic Habits right now - looking to implement some of the ideas you championed here.
Thanks for this.
This made me realize how i started batman arkam asylum recently and when a difficult level came which is kind of sacry i just stopped playing. I am scared facing my problems and i tend to avoid them until its too late. I used to play alot of pokemon and whenever the game got difficult i just quit or used cheats to finish the game instead of working hard to level up my pokemon and defeat the elite four. So i have to start facing all my problems and issues head on instead of ignoring them and second i need to work hard and not quit when things get hard or try to look for easy way out.
Damm this video was something.
Thankyou man
I'm in a place where I genuinely needed to hear something like this. Appreciate the algorithm for doing something right for a change
this video hits home and I have felt this about games as well. it’s so cool to see how a game is actually a mirror to yourself
Don't wanna write too long of a comment, but you really made me relook at how I see the way I do things in life. thank you for sharing such a simple yet meaningful sentiment to us :)
its crazy how UA-cam looked into my soul and recommended me the exact thing Ive been wondering about myself, from someone who faces the exact same struggles as me. Good luck on your journey man.
I relate to this as well, and it's awesome that cyberpunk helped you realize this. The best parts of Cyberpunk are when V just sits back and talks to their friends. Sitting around the fire with the Nomads, comforting Judy on the roof, helping Johnny through an existential crisis at the oil fields.
In a game where so much of it is spent in a world of sensory overload, ads and sexuality and gore, it is the quiet moments that bring you down to the present.
It is also very easy to run through the game at max speed, hammering every encounter that looks like a nail. But the game becomes so much more rewarding when you lean into the builds and rp aspects of being a merc.
At the end of the day not *everything* in Night City wants you dead, so it can be nice to just walk around and enjoy the dark future. Look up whenever you're walking down a sidewalk in game and it'll probably be a pretty cool view.
Yes! The quiet moments and the kinda tragic characters make this game so special to me. Also I spent hours just flying (with jetpack mod) on roofs and balconies, sucking in the all the different views and angles of Night City. Finding weird or abandoned places. Looking under bridges. Checking out the borders of the map. Finding places in between skyscrapers that were not meant to be found by the player. Changing sunset time to nighttime just to experience the different moods it creates at different places. I still can’t get enough of it.
Seriously every time combat happens in this game I kind of hate it, we should have a firewatch style of game in the cyberpunk universe where its just people talking about their lives
@@thechugg4372 really? I love the combat. Check out videos by Benjamin Winters to see what combat looks like if you mastered the game.
@@thechugg4372 really? I love the combat. Check out videos by Benjamin Winters to see how combat looks like when you mastered the game.
This video hit hard for me honestly. Whenever I play games, I rarely enjoy it, and I only play them because I like the competition. But just like in games, I struggle to find a lot of enjoyment in my life, and when I focus it's only when there's competition I'm playing against. I'm honestly thinking about why I turned out like this when I used to just be able to enjoy everything in life, but I know the answer already. Thanks for making this video fr, imma try my best to change as well.
what was the reason, if you don’t mind me asking?
Wow I feel called out. Thanks for this man, I'm the exact same way and I feel my life spiraling sometimes. I'm gonna try this, start out small and see how things go. Stay healthy mate ❤
that line bro "How you do anything is how you do everything"
Really explains everything in ones life
You really make me pause and think its really true
Thank you sir you deserve more respect
This video made me realize that I don't enjoy gaming like I used to (besides the try hards) is because all of it feels like an assignment to reach some goal. I lose interest when things feel like its an assignment or I have to do it.
I don’t typically comment on videos, or rather, I don’t do it often at all but honestly man your message is something I’ve been seeing present in my day to day life pretty much everyday for the past few days for me. It’s wild how the universe works, the past is gone and the future isn’t here, stay and enjoy the present. Cheers man, I subbed to see what else you put out next.
adding up to the pile of comments saying thank you YT for recommending me this. your story resonates a lot with mine. I hope we can both find balance in our lives.
A coworker told me I work like if I was in a video game.
- collect objectives
- run to all locations
- complete objectives asap
- "collect xp" and get my next objective
I work in production. Boss says work comes out the plant the days I'm in
Yea but with those achievements irl we dont get a progression bar, so the lack of stimuli turns us with adhd off
@IIIISai It doeeeees! Which is why I barely achieve anything outside of work. The objectives don't feel as clear
@@IIIISaimake the bar in your head
The irony that I get this recommended and I'm playing cyberpunk and I too have heard the quote from my old sales manager, this also makes me feel like that in a way, you are raised right as you want to be happy, thank you
*edit*
39k in a few days? Looks like the algorithms are getting better. Hope our content creator doesn't think 39k = a free ticket out of his content haha, all the best.
Cyberpunk is so good fr
Also currently replaying Cyberpunk for the first time in years (not because I hated it at launch or anything, I actually loved the game at launch despite it's issues, but because my Desktop has been broken for ages and I recently brought a really powerful laptop) and got recommended this. I swear, the algorithm knows things.
@@Lunam_D._Roger pretty much in the same boat myself wtf
This hits on a very personal level. Everything comes in time and we also change as individuals over time. Just remember to manage your time right, it's easy to get lost in a spiral. You're doing great.😊
Great video! That is a line that stuck with me too when I read Unreasonable Hospitality.
I was recently reflecting on how the availability of different games + the reduced time for games makes it much harder to stick to one game. I look fondly back at my first time playing Megaman Legends as a kid. I spent so much time in that game, I must have spent like 3-4 hours just enjoying walking around in the first city square, jumping on buildings, talking to people, trying to ride on all the cars without getting hit (and getting hit a lot). I never felt more present than those times when I just look around at the game and explore the little things. I’m trying to do that more now, and it feels good. 👍
I hardly cry at all, and I don't know if I have ever watched a UA-cam video and really cried from it- aside from this one.
Between the realization of how much we have all changed since we were kids and how your experience of hopping from one thing to the next mirrored mine, you were able to get to me- to pierce right through whatever excuse of a shell I have for an ego and speak straight to me instead of the mask that I pretend to be.
The main point is an incredibly worthwhile thing to reflect on, as is trying to think back to how I played games when I was younger- and just back to how I was as a kid in general.
Thank you so much for sharing this with the world. I really appreciate all of the time, effort and thought you put into making this. It is amazing and so are you.
I cheat in every single player game eventually (never in multiplayer games don’t worry)… IDK why I do it, I just can’t wait to get to the fun op stuff, I just pull up the console or download a mod. And now I completely understand how I approach stuff, I’m impatient (comes with ADHD), I always start things thinking about what ill do at the end, and once I start I try to find shortcuts and it usually hampers my ability and causes me to quit, until I get obsessed with the cool stuff I want to do with said thing again and the cycle repeats… Something something far cry quote… But jokes aside it gets tiring and no matter what I can’t stop myself from just shooting myself in the foot.
You’re not alone 💪🤝🫡
Seems like you have an issue with delayed gratification. It's an issue that holds many of us back.
How do you have any fun at all by cheating. That doesn’t seem rewarding at all
@@Maconviking play isn’t just about challenge but sometimes just seeing “what if”
I can’t answer why OP does it but that’s certainly why I do it in some games.
…Why not see what happens if you took on an entire army while indestructible, able to fly, and with punches that catch enemies on fire? Just to see…
@@Odyssey636 And then there I am looking up console codes to cheat in XP, money, or item… 2 very different sides of a coin.
This literally described the way i play games and live my life i have never seen a video about video games more relatable than this
Thank you for making this amazing video
This video literally made me cry, like impulsively. I think because of the joy I had in games once like you mentioned and the way my adult life has now changed my perception on games and the tasks within them. I feel like even my escape isn’t an escape, but I hope to fix that soon, thx to this video. Goina start small🤞🏼
So a tip i can give you man is, just slow down and catch a breath, before you try something new ask yourself “It’s really worth my time? Am i gonna keep doing it? Or is it just a one time thing?”. ‘Cause ik this feeling too well.
Anyway good video and gl :)
Issue is I know I won't whatever it is, at least I "tried" and to quote Dr K a bit, tomorrow you is new you. Today I wanted to try out the guitar, bought/ordered it and.... it's still in a box 2 years later. I was so convinced I will at least try it, nope took too long for it to arrive, assuming that was the problem. The Me who wants to play it, no idea when he pops up again, if ever.
Very good input, I use a similar approach when it comes to making purchases, big or small. Asking myself: Do I really need it/ is there an application. Will I be using it in a year from now. Does it make me happy.
@@CrazyKraut20 and answer is yes and the item proceeds to stay in closet for years. Great investment.
@@gamerdweebentertainment1616 If it appreciates in value then yes :P
@@gamerdweebentertainment1616 sometimes the initial struggle seems like a hundred meters long mountain, but it's just a slight steep.
The very fact that you're making this video and aware of your patterns and downfalls, shows you won't get stuck in them. (or shouldn't assuming you want to break free of them) Good luck, and great video.
P.S. PLLEEASSSEEE see Phantom Liberty through. It's one of the best narratives in the world.
No. I've been aware of a lot of my shortcomings, but could change almost none of them. Awareness does not equal improvement.
@@MrAliquam exactly, God taught me that today. Awareness can even be bad to improvement.
@@MrAliquam In my experience, awareness is the first step in changing patterns that do not serve us. Sometimes it's not enough though and seeking external help is perfectly legitimate.
@@MrAliquam Not always, but it is the start to change. Trust me, I feel you, on shortcomings that you know about but stil can't change. It's a struggle. But being aware DOES help.
@@MrAliquam Correct action = improvement. Awareness of the fault, the need to improve, and understanding how to improve is the catalyst that allows for the action.
You describing yourself as a chronic starter really resonated with me as I do the exact same thing. I will try harder to slow down like you say, thanks for making this video.
Man, this is the most relatable thing I've heard in awhile. Glad im not the only one. To think, among 8 billion people in this world we share the same struggles or ambitions. Keep up the good content🙌
bro you opened my mind, i am too competitive in videogames, and always trying to be the best of the game in the shortest time, but now i started to realize that i do the same in my life, always trying to be the winner, be the best in mentality, in study, in everything, and i will not lie, this took me far, but i dont stay happy with the things that i conquer, but now i will be more grateful for the things that i conquer and start to see fun in small things
thank you
True. I see all my games out until the end and don’t begin another game until I have completed the one I am currently playing through. My brain would not be able to comprehend starting 5 different games at once and playing them on and off. I have to dedicate myself to one game at a time or two at most. The same is true for the way I watch TV.
I try to be more like that, but sometimes I need a change of pace, like rn I'm playing kingdom come deliverance, replaying hades cos I didn't finish it for hades 2 and animal well, I mainly feel like playing animal well on weekdays after work, because its relaxing and not too taxing. But hades and kingdom come are very addicting for me and I can play for 4 to 6 or even longer hours without any effort, so I leave them until weekend so I can just get into it and have lie ins. can be similar for an anime too, like about halfway through monster, I just had a break and watched all of devilman crybaby in a couple days, because it was short and completely different kinda pace, and then carried on with monster.
@@anlraider1954 So when it comes to TV shows I have to complete one season at a time before I can move over to something else. I’ll normally have a taxing SP game which I will compete (such as TW3) and also have a multiplayer game which I can play alongside it causally with friends. I have been known to complete games I despise also because I am unable to move away from them until they’re finished. That makes me the polar opposite to people such as yourself, haha. I am planning on playing Kingdom Come Deliverance on a Switch Lite in a few months but I’ll probably be dedicated to that game until it’s complete. It might take me 2 months to complete it but I won’t be distracted by other games unless I am playing multiplayer titles.
This video is absolutely fantastic! Glad it was recommended.
My homepage has been knocking it out of the park recently.
I do exactly the same thing. Start something that really excites me, then when the initial fun wears off I get bored of it, and lose motivation. This was a great video to be able to tell me to work on that, just by starting with playing games a little longer so I don't constantly start and stop things. Thank you so much, I'm indebted.
You're very much right. I don't like challenges, either in games on irl, i like to play from a safe vantage point, with very little drawbacks. Usually i play creative games or games where i can express my creativity one way or another, especially if they involve a character creator (which i often use as a way to visualize my ideal self which i'm working towards). If i'm playing action games, i always choose the safest combat option, like archery, sniper or, since you mention Cyberpunk, a netrunner). it's something i've been aware of for a long time, that the way i play mirrors the way i live and i sort of had to make myself watch this video because hearing that idea reinforced scares me, cause it makes me realize how safe and sometimes lazy i tend to be. I've been working on it through therapy for a while now, and even though the way i run my life has changed, the way i play hasn't much.
same
strange, I love challenges in games, but hate challenges in real life. probs because one is fun and one usually isn't.
@@anlraider1954 For me, there's an instinctual "fear of failure" that lies beneath it. Even when it's a single player game, even when i can just save and retry it's still there, preventing me from being more courageous. As an example, when i was a kid i used to be afraid of venturing into dungeons for the fear of dying and losing all my items or losing my way and getting stuck in. Over time obviously that went away, but i still struggle with that fear of failure.
@@mygetawayart I get that, like I usually draw the line at something like an extraction shooter, like tarkov, as it fills me with more anxiety than determination, but I look for games that I can easily get lost in or have to persevere to beat something, like in souls games and roguelikes, and because its designed to be a challenge unlike a random player, it feels good to finally overcome.
Set small goals and challenges for yourself. Think of something you're afraid of or find difficult, start with something just a little outside of your comfort zone, and once you achieve it, take it up a notch. Do this little by little, and before you know it, you will be looking back and realize you've faced all of your fears and overcome challenges you previously thought outside of your ability. Level up.
You have no idea how many games AND shows I’ve started and haven’t finished within the past 3 years. I still have games in my library that I found interesting and got on sale that I haven’t even pressed play on yet. I start new games all the time, but never fully finish EXCEPT for the very few that pull me in. The ones that I do complete I get 100% completion or pretty close to it because of how much I enjoy the game and how much I love the experience, but I never play it and finish it twice for some reason, even if I say it’s my favorite game of all time. I realize now that this is how my life is as I’m reflecting on this video. The games I’ve started and enjoy, but haven’t finished (and most likely never will) are like these minor hobbies I’ve started in life that I do enjoy, but I don’t stick with it because of bigger things. For example, I like messing around with my guitar and ukulele, but never take real time to actually properly learn fingerings or theory, I just know some chords. However with piano, I took lessons for 8-9 years, went through tons of theory, recitals, performances, an exam with college judges, tests, master classes, etc. I’m off of my piano ride as of recent and am now pursuing basketball to see where it takes me. I’ve played for about 3 almost 4 years, but never actually stuck with training until now. I’ve had countless hobbies that I’ve liked, but never put much time into except for piano and basketball. Sadly I’m a Jack of All Trades but a master of none at the moment. Now, those games that are still waiting to be finished are like my minor hobbies. Fencing, guitar, ukulele, baseball, drawing, whatever it is, just waiting to be picked up again, which I normally do, but I still never put much time into them. They’re more like just party tricks at this point or conversation starters. The main games that I’ve finished and got immersed into are like my main hobbies. Piano, singing, and basketball. I put time and effort into them. I try to make sure I’m exploring and figuring out the best way to learn and execute something. Speaking both from game and hobbies perspective. Yet, I never play and complete the same game twice. I think that might be because I already went through that area once before I find it boring, even if I choose a different path since I already got the one I wanted when I went through the first time. I think that could mean that maybe I don’t like having the same moment happen twice? I’m always exploring and searching for something new rather than dwelling on what I could’ve done? I feel like both apply to me, but I also sometimes think about what I could’ve done differently in real life situations. I’m also kinda spontaneous, so I guess that could stem from me spontaneously playing a new game and then stopping soon after. Anyway, I need to freaking finish Omori, Stay, Artful Escape, Elden Ring, Mind Scanners, Alan Wake, Fallout 4, FNAF: Sister Location, Murdered: Soul Suspect, Watch Dogs, Watch Dogs 2, Watch Dogs: Legion, Red Dead Redemption, Assassin’s Creed: Odyssey, Assassin’s Creed: Unity, Far Cry 5, Dear Esther, Kona (so I can play Kona Brume), and probably more games I’ve forgotten about. Not to include the TV shows I still haven’t finished 😭😭😭 Most of those games are fantastic btw I just haven’t finished them and idk why.
ALSO WHAT YOU SAID ABOUT BEING AGGRESSIVE IN SHOOTERS IS SO TRUE. I used to play Fortnite and Rainbow Six a lot with my friends and I would always forget to say I was pushing people because I was so focused on getting kills and “being the best”. I do tend to take more risks in life and expect to get the optimal result even when I don’t tell others my plans. Except thankfully that tactic works better in real life 😅
A friend once told me "a master of none is better than a master of one" this really helped me since I'm also a jack of all trades and master of none and thought it is useless to be a master of none. Be proud of having diverse skills instead of only one. In the end it's always better to have a diverse skillset even if it's not leveled up to the fullest :)
I mean, you said yourself, that you are really good at piano! In my opinion you should be happy, that you've been invested to piano, then to basketball as much as you've been! My biggest hobbies right now are reading books, watching movies, listening to music and playing DnD and even though you can't really call that a skill, using Dungeons & Dragons language I would call it my feature. You don't need to be the best nor professional level in everything! You can be invested in one thing you love and still enjoy exploring new hobbies, actually doing some things as amateur is much more fun! It's not about making a living out of for example drawing, if you use most of your energy for basketball. It's about the journey.
May I ask you how old you are?
I read through your whole comment cos it felt like I wrote it. Why are you me?😭
@@nishhx_x yeah I know him, its me.
Usually I get like really invested in most any game that I discover, sometimes it gets boring along the way but I don't quit easily. It's kinda the same in my life, I'm not a quitter. I'd also agree that now that I'm in a better place mentally, I feel like I play games more mindfully, and it feels livelier than before. Quite a nice idea to ponder on. Thanks for this vid.
I am exactly like you, and I feel the same way about a lot of things you said. Including the development and loss of love of finishing games, or things in general, and exploring.
I think, in a way, the world really has taught us to remove the fun from our own lives in the name of efficiency. Games, and life in general.
I hope you can make that positive change. I hope I can too.
Well done dude. You're spot on. And remember to remind yourself you are in the good old days.. you are not as fat, skinny, ugly as you think you are. One day you will look back on yourself and be proud of who you were, and who you turned out to be. Keep it pushing
Beautiful comment
So true 💜
I’m a “serial starter” too and I felt everything you said
I got the same exact thing striking me in past. How jumping and never finish a game reflects to actual life and how serious you are in life in completing stuff.
Thank you, i really needed this, currently working on reconstructing my whole lifestyle and how to manage things. Huge inspiration and reinforcement.
This Video really spoke to me so I'm just going to share some thoughts as someone who falls into almost the same MO and who almost had a full blown identity crisis because of it.
Long story short the same habit you talked about with finding a thousand hobbies and topics you're interested in but never for longer than a few weeks really made me question whether I will ever find a career path that suits me and that I'll be passionate about for 40ish years. It also comes with the choice paralysis because you realize that choosing one path will forever shut you out of so many other possible paths that could be your passion one day in the future. I always thought that games would be that passion for me but now that I am in a game dev university major I find myself less and less interested in gaming as well and right now I cant imagine myself ever actually working in the gaming industry or in any one industry for my whole working adult life.
However what really helped me was the realization that I actually like all of that about me. I love getting lost in the most random topics, thinking about nothing else and learning as much as I can about it even if it doesn't help me make money in any way. Or getting lost in a game of Stellaris and thinking about nothing but my space empire for 16 straight hours on one day and then not touching it for 6 months after that. Who decided that having a structured lifestyle with consistent habits is the only way to have a fulfilled and successful life? Who decided that a specialist, who dedicated his life to one craft is better then a generalist who can connect any topic to a larger context and who can draw new and creative Ideas from so many, completely unrelated sources.
So this Chaotic Brain as I always call it can actually be your greatest strength if you actually see it as a strength and not something to be fixed. Habits work great for some people but they aren't for everyone and that's ok. Sure you're never going to study 30 minutes every day to ace your exams but once your hyperfixation actually tackles the topic you're supposed to learn, you are going to devour months of learning material in a few days. Sure I'm never going to have the same level of productivity every day at my job but on some days I just get really into my project at the time and do 5 days worth of work so who cares If I listen to random podcasts for 4 days after that. One person who really made me feel understood was Elizabeth Filips here on UA-cam who talks a lot about handling life with a chaotic brain and finding little tricks to make yourself productive despite everything. Like you can actually increase the likelihood of your hyperfixation jumping on a topic you actually need to learn by surrounding yourself as much as you can with things relating to that topic because we can only be hyperfixated on things that actually make it onto our 'mental feed'.
Society is made for people who thrive with structure. Our whole system is created around structure and timetables. Comparing yourself with those structured people will only make you hate yourself. Like a fish who resents not being able to climb a tree like a monkey despite having his own unique and valuable skills a monkey could never even dream of having. So just get to know yourself and get to know what works for you and know you're not alone in this as every other comment here proves!
This hit close to home because yesterday I was doing another playthrough of Elden Ring and was getting frustrated fighting a boss that was gimmicky knowing three things: the boss was optional, I was doing a “no armor” run, and they dropped nothing of value (runes included). Yet knowing this I kept fighting him until I beat him but got frustrated during the process and this reflects my life to a T.
W Video
It's Soo amazing to see a UA-cam Video Can Bring out the best of us in such Beautiful Ways! ☺️
I still love this quote. Such a deep quote in such a small part of the movie. I think about it often when thinking of my daily activities and how they shape me and how they reflect on me, just as much as they are what I would normally do.
Trust me after watching this I felt a sense of closeness. I was just like you as a boy curious, eager to learn, In the games I played I same as you talked to every NPC, visited all places explored, captured moments, etc but now under the burden of society. I feel so worthless, burnt out from life itself I feel like I serve no purpose and living a loop, a bad loop. In recent times I have not played a single game and is just watching UA-cam videos. I want to escape this faith live the life I used to live get a chance to be curious again. I and you feel like the same person.
Thank you for reminding me to enjoy life l just genuinely forgot.
I needed this. Literally in the span of a week I lost my job had to put my car in the shop and found out money I was expecting to come outside of my job would be reduced. It (along with other recent experiences) has made me rethink how I need to approach things going forward so that I’m not in such a bind anymore. My motivation and spirits are high I just need to be more meticulous about what’s next.
This hit a lot of notes for me. I am the same way with games. Multiple games that I throughly love I haven't got back to. I do that with life as well. The small but consistent changes is exactly what I need to start. Thanks for the great video.
This video and (personally) deferred happiness encapsulates a lot in my life, thanks for sharing. It's always nice to know we are not alone, stay strong amigos :)
Such a relatable piece of growth advice. Now the trick is to remember it in the moment and slow down. I find myself rushing through the main quest of life all the time. You can really min max the fun out of life by grinding too long and not appreciating the journey. Just like when you min max too hard in a video game and lose the magic, I just becomes a numbers game with no joy, I believe we tend to do that to our own lives. I’m working on enjoying the day to day quests without rushing.
Figured I should add my voice to the pile, since I was starting to make these kinds of changes. It helps to hear it put into words in a way that doesn't go after deep weaknesses or how your house was as a kid, just that the outlook has changed over time. After going through a tough semester and a hard breakup, I started the push to get things done. Having moved to a new place recently highlighted how many abandoned projects I have, and how much they're in my way and degrading my ability to believe I can get things done. In two weeks I've already accomplished more than I had in an entire summer, and this was a nice nudge of support to hear as I sit in front of a particularly difficult project debating if I really want to start it today. I hope more people get to see this video when they're in the headspace for it to push them to be better, it's pretty well thought out and presents good points.
i dont want to leave a long comment but i do want to say taht this struck a cord with me as i too struggle with consistency.
What made me want to comment though was your beautifully soothing voice. Thank you for just making this little bite sized youtube video in the hell of 30 minute video essays ❤
Okay but like that book Atomic Habits is actually soooo good. I've never cared for self-help books but that one is so straight forward and full of knowledge
Similar thoughts crossed my mind while playing strategy games. I was playing Stronghold Crusader and realized how I always invest tons of time into the economy, developing my castle and army, and only start attacking when I know I can win easily. And I do. But it takes way too long to build up and do something, so it's not the most fun way of playing.
Then I realized I’m doing the same in life and a lot of joy that I had before was gone because all I do is for the big important future. I’ve mostly been over this issue for a while now, but at that moment, I realized games can reflect what I’m doing in real life and maybe expose a bad pattern. Now that I think of it, maybe realizing this was one of the reasons I started breaking this pattern of always prioritizing future gain over fun in the moment.
Congrats on first viral video! Keep it up!
That hit the spot in me. Thanks for sharing
@@kebabas222 I'm glad! I'm usually not too chatty about personal stuff on internet but video was so on point and honest that it made me want to share as well.
This video really hit close to home, though I'm the opposite of you when playing video games, I always try to explore every nook and cranny on my first play through, taking it slow and enjoying the story and experience, and if I liked the game enough, I'll get all the achievements, I'm a bit of a completionist in games, and how I am in video games is the complete opposite to how I am in real life. Having been diagnosed with ADHD as a young adult sucks, though I kinda knew as a late teenager by doing actual in-depth research. I have so many things I want to try, drawing, music, writing (which I actually do frequently), and so many more traditionally creative/artsy hobbies, but it's like I physically can't put in the focus to do things that would make a meaningful impact in my life no matter how much I want it, I just have hyperfixations on a game or show/movie for a period and then I move on, reflecting my issue with trying to do my hobbies. I always get distracted by games or UA-cam videos, I guess I should try working on that even if I don't yet have ADHD meds that work for me. Don't know why I felt the need to leave all this in a comment on UA-cam, but it felt kinda nice just letting it out even if no one will read this in the sea of other comments.
Brother I’m just like you when it comes to being able to stick to a game.
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I read your title and found myself thinking just as you did when you heard that quote from the movie.
I personally think my (and maybe yours) consistent train of thought is that we always want to explore and try a piece of everything.
However I really appreciate your perspective on this and it’s definitely going to resonate with me long term.