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"Im too focused on the end" Man I feel you 😢

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People change overtime, so how I play video games changes too. Childhood - Perfectionism era. Let's just say I hung around the wrong people as a kid, and was in a setting that made me try waaaaay too hard to be the best at everything. Succeeded, buuuut always was miserable. In video games, they were kind of new, so I was known as the kid who could beat any video game, and was praised for it. Teenage/early 20s Perfectionism, with some experimental gameplay era - Got so good at most video games, that transferable skills meant I was kicking people's butts who have been playing for months on my first day... Winning didn't really feel like a thing because it was expected. So I always was experimenting to see what ways I can perfect my skills, or to play in an alternative way that no one else bothers to even attempt because it's not meta and/or goofy Late 20s "Dead inside" era - Job was now a particular fast food place where everyone hated each other with daily screaming, and causing my body to be very sore by the end, and dehydration making it very hard to even think at all. All IRL friends moved out of town. So I ended up going through the motions, not caring about anything. This carried over to video games, so most games I just didn't care for... Doesn't help that around this time there was considerably more games that require grinding to progress. Not all games of course, and for the non-grindy games, I just had no passion for because I treated playing games like a chore. I was just so exhausted from work/chores everyday that I had no energy for games, much less anything else in life. My video game skills started to stagnate and decay. 29ish-33ish Social era - With my body being wrecked, mind being numbed, and anxiety getting worse overtime, I knew I had to change jobs, but everything was so awful that I couldn't even think straight, but I knew I needed to change jobs or something. So I bought VR and forced myself to stop playing normal video games, since IRL friends hasn't really helped before, especially since everyone always leaves town. To my surprise, my brain was very sensitive to VR as if I'm talking to someone IRL (but ya know, looks like anime/cartoon characters). It actually succeeded in making me get over anxiety, and learned to love being with people in general. Also, learned how to just be happy just existing, not having to do something to become happy. Everything in life became easy, and everyone loved being around me as I was so cheerful, yet still getting everything done IRL. Ever play those games where you try to figure out the motivations of characters and make the best possible outcome? Basically felt like that, except real life people it's significantly more complex, ever changing, and doesn't always have a nice easy answer.... Yes, psychology is basically my #2 favorite hobby after video games, though that was partially because as a kid I was like "I don't understand. I do everything, and do it well, why aren't I happy!?". The brain doesn't work that way kid, stop taking life seriously and you'll get so much more done, and you and everyone around you will be so much happier =p 34ish to 35 Nostalgic era - A particular friend in VR never had many video games, so I figured I go play video games with them, as video games are and probably forever will be my favorite thing to do in life. However, they didn't have a job at the time, and they chose some grindy games, and the inner gamer woke up and said "nah, I can grind fast enough and keep up even with my less time", which led to cutting into sleep, and not socializing as much. Then things got steadily worse without me realizing it because it was so gradual. Too rusty that I don't got my old gamer skills (especially since often times recently my ego going "oh but I know this already" getting in the way of actually looking at my faults so I can actually improve), and not socializing as much means social skills that people came to love me for have diminished a little bit as well. Sooo I feel as this point in life I'm not doing great. That said, I've babysit and see kids give up on what they want to do, and I gotta "trick" them into improving and being surprised at what they can do. I've also helped old people, and I've seen what can happen with them. My grandfather going from the smartass jokester war verteran to being an empty husk of a man, makes these 2 things always a big reminder to me to never try to improve no matter what, and try to be careful of my mental state. Now I'm realizing I care more about my friends, and that the less time I play video games, the better they are when I do actually play them. Also, looking at game log stuff made me realize that it's impossible to play every single good game, especially with how quickly new good ones are being made (even if you have to sift through a lot of garbage). So if it's impossible to play every game, you better make the time that you do play worthwhile to enjoy. So cutting into sleep to try to get to all your games is just going to make you bored/dislike the game, and for the story based ones the story wont hit right, so why even bother grinding out the games? 36 (now) and the future - The other night friends went digging through their old youtubes and cringing at it, and then I realized I've been getting into sleepy mode like I used to, so planning to fix that now. Social stuff comes first as socializing activates so many more parts of your brain than most video games, yet it often allows the mind a chance to relax to properly think about things with the settings where I socialize. Then I have scheduled times where I can play video games if I want to (should not be mandatory.... I made that mistake with certain competitive games in the past, especially once I got my first job reducing the amount of time I have to let my brain do it's thing. Hard to learn if your brain is screaming to stop the whole time) Still fiddling with numbers on how to make my schedule though. 3D modeling/animation, music, voice acting, game design. Between, work, chores, checking on friends/family, it's hard to find that time. TLDR Childhood - Perfectionism Teenage/young adult - Perfectionism, but with lots of experimention, and self-made handicaps/challenges Late 20 - Mindless grinding 29-33ish - Social/casual (happiest time in my life) 33-36 - Nostalgic decay/ attempting to go back to perfectionism 36-future - Perhaps a return to social era, but with scheduled game time and/or improving at other hobbies. I still love "mastering" things

The thing I’m currently doing is organising everything I started so I have them on a list that last for more than 30 years, and then, I stop. Cause now I know I won’t forget what I’m missing out on and I can do it later instead of starting it and getting distracted. Fomo is my bane, but I’ve been getting so much better.

As a person diagnosed with ADHD in his 30's, it sounds like something worth exploring with a therapist. Bring diagnosed it didn't really... change... anything, I've lived my whole life with it, developing my own strategies to cope with it, but knowing I have gives me a new lens to explore behaviors or strategies I've taken for granted and be more intentional about whether they're serving me

This is a really impressive point, I've thought about this before. But for me it was about in-game choices. I replayed some of my favorite games and at some point realized that the former me years ago was such a people pleaser who simply could not be rude or have a point of view. So yeah, it was nice to see present me acting more mature and confident even in video game.

dope video!

I am so glad i found this channel. I worked for at least 10 years to get to my current career. It started out as absolute surety I would retire from the military, and conveniently, that would get me out of my small town, to go see the wider world. I did, and for 6 long years, I found one thing after another, I did not want to do for the rest of my life. I left, did my Reserve time while i went to College on the Post 9/11 GI bill. I knew i wanted to work on airplanes, but the military had a different plan... i didnt agree, so i went to school, and made it happen. I graduated with a BS, and my certification to work on airplanes, got a job, and spent 5 years there. I suffered from imposter syndrome, right up until i got burnt out because i felt rudderless. I was settling into a career i loved, but it felt like all i was doing was the same crap i did when i was younger. Then my partner got pregnant, and i realized, exactly what you said. I got a new job, that pays so much better, i sorted out my disability so my partner can be a SAHP, and my job, being the thing that makes my life easier for my little family, validates the last decade and a half of my life, makes it all worth it, and oddly, has made me love what i do again, in deeper and more meaningful ways than i thought possible. Thanks for once again, summing up a piece of the journey my life has taken and giving me a bit of peace in my mind.

I 100% play games like real life. I'm the father of twins, determined to be a better dad to them than my dad was, so i give them as much attention as possible, so i game while theyre asleep (not even 2 yet) and that means my games stay paused for long periods of time, and when i come back to them, its a crapshoot on whether i have the energy, or the desire to give my time and effort to a game. I was 21 when skyrim came out, and back then i could pursue quests, spending hours running from place to place, spotting a place and diving in and finding something neat... then as i got older, i stopped playing more adventurous games because they take up so much of my bandwidth, and i have so little left to give after work, and family. Now i play things like Satisfactory, Oxygen Not Included, Space Engineers, Hardspace: Shipbreaker, and Tiny Glade. Its rough because I miss those adventurous games, and my more adventurous gaming days where even if i spent nights out, i had time to play my games. Im glad this video came up in my recommendations because it really gave me a few minutes to really examine my life as it is. Gonna go home now, and spend my morning with my family, before i have to sleep for a bit. Stay safe out there yall!

Ohhhh he has ADHD

Sounds stupid and is stupid

Cyberpunk? Splatoon Music in the background? Two seconds in, and im hooked.

I like breaking game engines and testing the limits of what’s possible, I remember driving up the dam wall because I thoughtd it’d be funny, it worked too which was funnier

And they still say computer games are bad for you

thanks mane

I feel like when I get good and fully understand how to play I lose interest in the game

Thank you man!

I love this video it made me think on how i go with live, i just wanna have fun while being careful too, i guess you're right thank you for making this video 🥺🫂🫶❤️

My gaming says if i have unchecked power i am a monster and i am a dog to my allies. Undying loyalty to the bitter end for no reason even if morally theyre bad. If they are not a target im a sweet and will reload a save over and over to make sure they live. Self sacrifice over all for the allies. Stormed saka tower alone with my edgy terrorists homie Johnny to make sure no one we cared about got hurt. Ill die for their cause kill hundreds but will not let them lay a finger on my issues. Dishonored also proved this. Everyone who was in my way will fall, civilians if needed but ill feel bad all to save the kid of my queen. It wasnt about revenge just taking back what they stole leaving death in my path which ended up burning and corrupting the innocents of what i was fighting for. I am a selfish man but a loyal one...when it comes to gaming im just a weapon morally

never seen a video hit me right at home like one like this

One of the best videos I’ve ever seen… truly… Loved it!

I didn't finish cyberpunk because it sucks.

Awesome video man, I feel a lot of this in myself. I'd never really thought about it until now. Really great stuff.

Awesome video bro

This is the exact content I want to learn how to make, can we connect my friend?

Transcribed speech at end: If I want to become someone who commits to hobbies and personal projects, and sees them through,I need to start by finishing what I set out to do in video games. I can start by not rushing through game content, but instead just taking it slow - enjoying the joy found in the little moments of the process "Being the genius that makes the plan, but also the dummy that follows it." If I make those changes in something as small as how I play games, Then it can start to affect the way I read books, the way I work. These small tweaks to how we play games can make bigger differences in our life and the medium to long run.

This Is always interesting to me because a video game simulates a well-lived and well organised life with clear purpose. Even the missions break down things into substeps You have a mini map to guide the way if you fall off track and help you continue Yet many of us live a life without these signposts to remind us of our mission, and expect ourselves to end up successful in our missions. Live like a video game character.

I don't play games cause I'm simply too bad at it for the game to actually continue, I only watch game vids... does that make me a spectator of life afraid of fail- wait WHAT

Not true for me. I am a planner and overthinker in real life and I storm in with brutal force into every fight in a game, without much thought.

Practicing being present is a great habit to learn :)

So i just go in hard and fast and hit my head against the wall until i win. Yeah, checks out

Great video, dude 👍 As someone who's pivoting between careers and has been chasing passions most my creative/professional life (I'm a musician and audio professional), I've realized that finding fulfillment doesn't come from chasing dreams - it comes from fulfilling the values that are most IMPORTANT in your life, and doing so allows you to tap into your greater creative potential 😊 The hard truth is that even a "dream job" can feel soulless and tedious. That's when you need to take a step back and evaluate the truest values in your life, focus on your basic needs, and then create actionable GOALS based on how you can best achieve those values and needs in your life. That's the best advice that I've been given, and it's most definitely a journey. Wishing you (and anyone who reads this) well 🤘🤘

Authors idea is spot on for me, trying to figure out the same for myself 💪

i think this was reflected in my experience too, but in an opposite way? when i was a kid, i only ever played games when i was doing it with my sister. i loved halo and minecraft, but i was too scared of failing or monsters to play alone without someone looking out for me. as i got older, that very slowly shifted. it feels super goofy to be “proud” of playing games on hard mode and exploring without being afraid, but it took a long time to let go of some of those fears. thanks for the video and the reflection you inspired!

I really appreciate you reflecting this. Cool to hear what you've realized!

Wow. I just watched this video and honestly I did not expect it to connect as much as it did with my personality. Ever since I have been a kid I have had an interest in so many different things but I can never keep it consistent enough to finish so I get frustrated and give up and now that I'm 21 i see the repercussions of all of that. When I play games if I can't finish a certain section of a game or can't figure it out I quit. When I was a kid I did that a lot with games on my DS and my 3ds any sort of puzzle or problem I ran into in a game I would just give up and quit because I hated how stressed it made me. Even when I was in 10th grade in 2019 I was taking a culinary arts class and eventually I just got bored and tired of everything in the class and gave up. And even now that I'm still 21 I still struggle with consistency but I am working on it because my psychiatrist says that in order to grow I need to accept uncomfortable situations for what they are and figure out a way to overcome them and I've been keeping her words in my mind and in a way it's helped me out somewhat. Either way after this video I subbed liked and gotta say thank you for making this video it was so well done and so informative and honestly I'm glad that I'm not the only one who struggles with consistency. I hope you have a wonderful day every day and once again thank you for making this video. I'm out.

In warthunder and forza Im methodical and cautious. Most everything else I'm a raging bumbling idiot.

I notice this as adult be tent to always keep on moving fast with the world that we aren't even patient with our hobbys and that creates a sense of disconfort is my hobby is games to but now everytime i play one it's like a rush to do list to finish it rather than enjoy it like eating a meal tasting the flavors so i'm trying to desecelerate and give time to things everything takes time to enjoy even games and if you wanna be succesfull in what you do again the importance of things is in the little details as in life

My UA-cam algorithm has been absolutely crap but this was a pleasant surprise.

I like to play sneaky slow, and when needed i am fast and accurate, so i am a Introvert and and keep things to myself sneakily. I really never thought about this.

Metal Gear Solid (Extreme)

Sounds like ADHD. I feel the same as you and I got checked out and turns out I have it to.

great vid, i needed this.

ok bro joegainz

Realized this quite shockingly as I was playing Assassin's Creed. I would find myself just waiting around for no reason, I was so scared of failing that my brain just resorted to doing nothing, even in a video game. 😢😢😢 Seeing the character just standing around there doing nothing was surreal, my biggest flaw aptly exposed to me by a video game.

Saved this to watch later, didn't know i saved it to feel later

im currently studing for the comp tia A+ i wanted to give up, but now i have a new wind.

amazing vid. got me big cryin

Beautiful video, it really moved me, you’re amazing!❣

Previously I tried letting go of a girl but I only realised recently that it's best to completely let go and already I've found someone who cares about me and things have been going really well for me