The 4 Rebound Relationship Stages
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- Опубліковано 16 бер 2022
- In this video we'll be discussing the 4 rebound relationship stages.
We'll be discussing what your ex may be going through as well as what you can expect from them as they go through the stages of a rebound relationship.
We'll also cover what you can do to position yourself to get back together with them, if that's what yo want to do. - Розваги
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Clay I need some advice I’m in a full break down
1. Reaction stage - a narrative they’re creating for themself
2. Reality Stage - they realize they’re overcommitted w/ someone they don’t have an emotional connection with
3. The Reckoning- they realize the rebound isn’t the person they projected them to be, their narrative is crumbling, this is where trouble begins as they realize they’re not better than the ex, it doesn’t mean the rebound relationship will fail, if 2 people choose to stay together they will whether it’s a bad relationship or not
4. The Resolution - not all rebounds end but if they do it happens at this point in all the conflict, they decide to break up or stay together.
I find it very very interesting that you mentioned "NPD" when talking about the person whom they rebound with. I find that to be very very common amongst the rebound relationships I've seen
Very helpful
Can you do a video on Double Rebound relationship? My wife & I recently separated and she filed for divorce. Shortly after separating she met a guy who very recently just divorced. He pursued her aggressively, sending flowers, gifts and promising the moon. They are currently together, but she reached out to me telling me that she missed me while I was in no contact.
Update?
Hi Clay, can you start writing down your steps in a video, or puts labels on the video as you mention the steps. 1. 2. 3. 4. Resolution
Probably what happened with my relationship.
Exactly what my ex is doing. 4 yr relationship and jumped into rebound same week with a family friend. Now pinning engagement, marriage and baby stuff on Pinterest a month into their relationship. Even tho she reached out to me the day before she started doing that. Lol
I'd say u definitely dodged a bullet!!
@@chocolate-soulja40 update..... 3 months after that post she got engaged. Will be married in July. So in 7 months they will have gotten engaged and married. The pace is insane. And I'm left struggling to even go on a date in 6 months. It makes no sense how someone could jump into a relationship and date the same week when I can't even go on a date. Worst thing that possibly could have happened.
@Sevoflurane2014 danm! Well I'd do the inner work before dating again. U should probably set strong boundaries. Ik it hurts right now but, u will get past this. She probably jumped straight into the fire with this new guy. He's probably going to put her through hell & back. So her leaving u is a blessing in disguise🥸
@@chocolate-soulja40 bro EVERYONE says this lol... I pray that's the case.
@Sevoflurane2014 Nope don't wish bad karma on people. Let it catch up to him because, if you wish bad karma, it can come right back to u, lol.
So did your ex stay engaged and get married or did it fizzle out?
Hey, I had some of the same issues. Rebound marriage, pretty insane. Wonder if I could share my experience.
I reached out of 20 days active no contact. My ex responded instantly and asked to call me. We spoke for an hour and during the conversation she was telling me her rebound has been embarrassing her and not listening. However she didn’t use her name she said ‘’’she, this person’’…. Any seggustions on how to handle complaints about the rebound?
Listen and validate her feelings about her experiences, maybe give examples of how you felt when similar things happened to you. But don't put the other person down it'll probs make you look bad. Alternatively, if you are too uncomfortable with her talking about her rebound just say your boundaries
Lou needs to get a clue!
My husband has emotional affairs then he left me. He's only talking to her. What does that mean? Considering rebound relationship?
My ex and i once had a relationship for almoat 3 years and 6 months she got her new talking while still have a relationship after 1 week ahe choose to break up my heart now she's with someone now. It's almost 3 months i used to beg with her now i decide to go no contact maybe she still remember me It's possible?
i mean it could just be from what I'm seeing on the outside, but in my case the rebound seems like a good fit, but we'll see what happens later
So was the rebound a good fit
@tyetr9853 they're still together, I'd assume so, plus from what my siblings and coworkers say what they do at work I'd assume so too, but they're moving fast as I'd expect from my ex. Within the first month of them being together, she's moved out, and they're living together. They both might last just because of their own insecurities, my ex dating ppl that's she is clearly too good for, and the dude young and dry for two years, shorter than her and honestly a little bigger than me too. So she's clearly a catch for him looks wise.
Edit: me and my ex was supposed to work on ourselves and see if we could get back together after we fixed our issues. But she's never been one to stay single long and very dependent on the attention and affection of others. Within 4 days of us breaking up she had already fked the guy, and within a week they made it official. I on the other hand have gone to therapy, lost 20 lbs, and on the road to university.
@deathfromasian You are on the better path for the long term than your ex is. My ex boyfriend is similar in the sense that he has trouble being alone - immediately hops onto dating apps and tries forging connections with people to find a new relationship. There is no "improvement" in jumping into new relationships, but some people like the feeling that their life is going in a new direction by being with someone new. Sure sometimes a new partner brings us new opportunities and thats fine as long as youre doing your own internal work. But truthfully that's not progress, its just lateral movement. You on the other hand seem to be actually making progress in your own life which is more valuable.
@@nicoleevaherbst7306 thanks, i've figured that but i guess sometimes you just keep telling you that it's not true and eventually you believe it. but you're right she's still in that vicious cycle of dependency, and hopely everything turns out alright if you're lucky and have something willing to bare all the weight for a while till you figure yourself out
Did your ex end up staying married to her rebound do you know?
My wife and I are separated and I still love her. She started seeing a guy she used to work with. I asked her if she wants a divorce and she said "right now I would say yes but, I'm holding off." I asked her why and she said "we don't know what the future holds." What does that mean?
Hi Michael, I'm sorry that things are not quite well between you and your wife. We hope that you are holding on well. Though we really cannot exactly assume what your wife really means, but like what she said, she wouldn't know what the future holds. Whatever things that you do right now will define the future outcome of your relationship. So will you be willing to make the necessary efforts to possibly make your marriage work?
@@ClayAndrews of course! We have a child so I cannot have no contact. I will continue to work on an emotional connection as we have trips planned this summer with our son. Just the three of us! Is this an advantage for me?
You can do Limited Active No Contact like what we talk about inside the Ex Solution Program. Your child's welfare is still important as parents.
"What does that mean?"
Ask her.
Sounds like she wanted to use you as a doormat so she wouldn't have to be alone
She started a new relationship 2 months after our break up and she tried to make me get jealous at the beginning. I told her to try again but she told me she can't right now. We are in no contact for 2 months. Is it a rebound or not ?
How long does the honeymoon period last in a rebound relationship?
I think I saw around 1-3 months
Hello guys, i need some advice. My ex and I broke up a few months ago and we were together for 2.5 years. And she recently got into a new relationship about a month after we broke up. And after we caught up she told me how she felt that she may have rushed things with him and that he isn't the most attractive. I am guy who works out constantly and is working to become a doctor, while this new guy is a bit of a bum and isn't the most attractive. So I am convinced that this is a rebound that she is in, and my ex has also told me how she kept a lot of the gifts I gave her and even kept some intimate pictures of us. She even said that her friends thought that this was a rebound but her and this guy are trying to prove them wrong. So that makes me feel that it is not a real relationship and more of a stubborn choice she made.
And then we ended up hanging out and grabbing lunch and it all felt great, just like the old times. And she gave me weird mixed signals like, "getting very close to me", saying "I actually forgot we broke up" and we ended up having sex. So I am super confused as to what she wants, because it seems her and this guy are moving super fast. Like they have been together for like a month-ish, he already mentioned about moving in together. So my friends told me to just stop talking to her, but I am very as to what she wants. I feel that it is very weird for her to say all these things to me, and try to hold my hand and run her hand thru my hair WHEN she was the one that broke up with me. I know she doesn't have the best relationship with her dad but I don't know if this is a common thing some girls do.
She sounds like she is all over the place and doesn't know what she wants. Be wary.
My Ex Went Back To One Of His Past Exes!
classic
Still together?
So I don't know if I was the rebound or my ex's current relationship is. We broke up 5 months ago. About two months after we broke up, he went back to his ex before me. He spent two years telling me how awful she was. I thought I was handling the break up pretty well, until I found out about him going back to her. I am crushed. Why? So again, was I the rebound or is she?
Difficult one to call.
I think having to ask that question is a way big enough red flag of him
In a similar situation.I was with him longer but he went back to his ex 3 weeks after breakup after promising he loved and respected me too much.
Possibly, rebound relationships commonly last around 5.2 months
I don’t think a “rebound” relationship can ever be sustainable..
This doesnt make sense to me cuz every relationship after ur very first one could be considered as a rebound (unless ur single for like 5+yrs str8 after that)) so I cant sustain a good relationship since i was like 17? No bro. I had relationships that I was happy to end and never looked back but then theres this one specific relationship in everyones life that its end is hard to accept. Could Be Hard for you but easy for ur ex to dump you and never look back and I hate thinking this but cant help myself
@@necromancerbenz4742That’s great and all but I think (and as this video makes clear) all rebounds have to start as a reaction to the breakup as opposed to an organic connection