39 Tips To Get Your Ex Back

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  • Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
  • Today I'm 39. Here are 39 tips to get your ex back.
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    In this video, I'll be discussing 39 lessons I've learned in helping people with their relationships over the past 12 years. This isn't just going to be the usual recycled advice you'll hear everywhere else, like "just do No Contact." This is based on what has worked for my clients, many of whom are back together and enjoying great relationships right now.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 67

  • @ClayAndrews
    @ClayAndrews  3 роки тому +16

    Thanks for all the birthday wishes everyone. I appreciate it a lot. If you are interested in getting some extra help with your relationship, please head on over here: www.modernlove.life/quiz

  • @kitty2doggyMeow
    @kitty2doggyMeow 7 місяців тому +1

    1. Emotional Connection, 2. bet on yourself. 3. Share feelings 4. Connect 5. Be at peace with what they said 6. Decrease emotional reactants.

  • @kitty2doggyMeow
    @kitty2doggyMeow 7 місяців тому +1

    7. Focus on the process, 8. Understanding the five stages, 9. Present a new relationship

  • @kitty2doggyMeow
    @kitty2doggyMeow 7 місяців тому +1

    32. Always hope. 33. Choose to be the person that you want to be through your choices. 34. Relationships don't happen because of fancy gestures. 35. The purpose of the goal is in becoming the person that you must become to achieve the goal. 36. Choices we make on a daily basis. The small moments. 37. Push the boundaries 38. We are on the same team. 39. No matter what there is nothing wrong with you because you experienced challenges in love.

  • @rarecoral212
    @rarecoral212 3 роки тому +3

    I have done that many times given my 💯 but he was just not ready for commitment. I set him free.. if he is mine he will
    Comeback if he is not that’s fine. Life is good 👍🏼

  • @jeffk5525
    @jeffk5525 3 роки тому +7

    Happy Birthday Clay! I loved your 38 tips and now you’ve improved on it! Look forward to hearing from you soon.

  • @drew1980ish
    @drew1980ish 3 роки тому +5

    Happy bday Clay , appreciate you and the staff I'll be working with Francis soon 💯

  • @jocelynavila2884
    @jocelynavila2884 3 роки тому +7

    This is such a good video 🙏

  • @shikhadrimahanta7193
    @shikhadrimahanta7193 3 роки тому +4

    Made me so emotional! Can you please inform beforehand, if you are doing a live stream?!

  • @AGSEdits
    @AGSEdits 3 роки тому +4

    Happy birthday Clay ! All your videos give me strengh and hope

  • @truechampion6812
    @truechampion6812 3 роки тому +5

    Happy birthday clay hope you have a good one... with family and friends. and all that you wish for come true for you today! All the best and you got this in the bag... With all your good advice take care 👍🏽👍🏽👌🏽👌🏽💯💯🙏🏼🙈

    • @ClayAndrews
      @ClayAndrews  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you! You too!

    • @promiseefut5420
      @promiseefut5420 3 роки тому

      +-2-3-4-9-1-3-1-8-3-9-4-3-3
      What him now for your readingg

  • @benhartart9487
    @benhartart9487 3 роки тому +4

    Happy birthday 🥳 keep up the work helping peoples relationships
    I’m 40 btw 😀👏🏻

    • @promiseefut5420
      @promiseefut5420 3 роки тому

      +-2-3-4-9-1-3-1-8-3-9-4-3-3
      What him now for your readingg

  • @anaaelizabeth3070
    @anaaelizabeth3070 3 роки тому +4

    Happy b'day clay🤗🤗🤗..many more to go dear🤗🤗

  • @lauraeckert8971
    @lauraeckert8971 3 роки тому +3

    Happy birthday Clay 🎁🎊🎈

  • @larrymosca5215
    @larrymosca5215 2 роки тому +2

    You are such a super wonderful person. Thanks so much.

  • @Letsdoit365K
    @Letsdoit365K 3 роки тому +3

    Happy Birthday Clay!🥳🥳🥳

  • @wategoslife8371
    @wategoslife8371 3 роки тому +4

    Happy birthday from Byron bay Australia 🇦🇺 🐬🌈🇦🇺🙏😍

  • @Letsdoit365K
    @Letsdoit365K 3 роки тому +3

    Happy birthday Clay!!! :)

  • @user-eu8hj2ek7f
    @user-eu8hj2ek7f 3 роки тому +4

    Happy birthday! 🎂

  • @lhoycacaloy1871
    @lhoycacaloy1871 3 роки тому +2

    happy happy birthday..clay..

  • @Tchallak67890
    @Tchallak67890 3 роки тому +2

    Happy Birthday Andrew :)

  • @Letsdoit365K
    @Letsdoit365K 3 роки тому +4

    Great video!!!

  • @lorenfarris6325
    @lorenfarris6325 3 роки тому +3

    My wife laid in bed all day popping bubble wrap.I felt she had some kind of depression.She eventually left our marriage of 45 years because she felt I lost emotional connect,instead of communicating her problems to me,it seemed to me she was breadcrumbing what she lacked and wanted me to solve her problems.I thought females were good at communicating their feelings

    • @SpiderBite90x
      @SpiderBite90x 3 роки тому +2

      Kind of in a similar situation. I could tell something was up, but I was too caught up in figuring out how to be a better man for her. Too busy trying to find a career path that would benefit both of us.
      Instead of saying “hey, i love you and I’m scared of falling out of love with you”
      She broke up w me three months ago. We were together for 9 years… can’t imagine 45.
      I hope it all works out for you bud.

    • @mikeclement3941
      @mikeclement3941 2 роки тому

      ✝2347010918901📞📞⏯⏯

    • @Adrian-fi2nk
      @Adrian-fi2nk Рік тому +3

      They’re only good a telling you after the fact and before then they expect you to pick up on the clues .

  • @admiralfishface8750
    @admiralfishface8750 3 роки тому +2

    Happy belated birthday

  • @BeautyandtheBarista
    @BeautyandtheBarista 3 роки тому +6

    What if my feeling is a fear. That is still a thought...
    I'm afraid that all he wants is a sexual relationship with me without giving me an actual commitment.
    But I'm also trying not to be relationship focused. :(

  • @juliemiles9848
    @juliemiles9848 3 роки тому +5

    Thanks for the help from you and your team, Clay. And also happy birthday. 🎈I wish I could afford your coaching, but I’m hoping I could get help. My ex wants to be friends and says he’s ok with seeing other people. It feels like he wants best of both worlds. Me and his freedom to be with other women. I feel the opposite. What do I do if I want to be friends but don’t want to see other people? Is it not a good time for me to be his friend?

    • @mariettehartley4938
      @mariettehartley4938 3 роки тому

      Believe me I'm not bragging or trying to make unnecessary comment here, this was what really happened to me. I have a broken relationship for 2 years but now we are back together through her help, she can really help you as
      She help me ❤️

    • @mariettehartley4938
      @mariettehartley4938 3 роки тому

      Whatsspp her on....🎁🎉❤️🎁

    • @mariettehartley4938
      @mariettehartley4938 3 роки тому

      +2.3.4.9.0.6.9.3.1.3.9.5.5.

  • @LyliJ
    @LyliJ 2 роки тому +1

    Hi Clay, my ex left me 3 months ago because of my terrible disrespectful behavior while drinking, I have stopped drinking completely and plan on never drinking again, he sees that I’m not the same person but he says he doesn’t want commitment. I hurt him with my words and he doesn’t trust me.
    He seems happy to see me and always replies and sometimes we call each other, but I’m now doing all the initiating because he says that he’s stuck right now, confused and doesn’t want a commitment right now. He’s not seeing anyone else and has retreated to his ‘cave’.
    Thank you for this video because I felt like there was no point in me initiating since he doesn’t want a relationship with me (at least for now). But I feel that there’s hope to make things work and I will initiate without pressuring him.

    • @thetarotcottage7262
      @thetarotcottage7262 2 роки тому

      I can refer you to a man who helped me get my ex back in 48 hoursWhatsApp him now

    • @rispakinyua9497
      @rispakinyua9497 Рік тому +1

      did you manage to get him back?

    • @LyliJ
      @LyliJ Рік тому +1

      @@rispakinyua9497 yes :) !! been together again 8 months and going strong

    • @rispakinyua9497
      @rispakinyua9497 Рік тому

      @@LyliJ after how long? I am in the exact situation you were in

    • @FromAlabamabutanAuburntigerfan
      @FromAlabamabutanAuburntigerfan Рік тому

      @@LyliJ that’s dope . Did to do no contact

  • @kitty2doggyMeow
    @kitty2doggyMeow 7 місяців тому

    I find a lot of these 39 steps are so similar that I am always missing 1 step. Please write out all the steps 1-39, I would like to see which I am missing and where. So far I have 38 but they may not be the exact title you used.

  • @Talkwithdulci
    @Talkwithdulci 2 місяці тому

    Hey,
    What if you guys were physical but plan to meet up to discuss what happened. He keeps saying it was a lesson learned via text but still keeps contacting me.

  • @ferrarilacson5851
    @ferrarilacson5851 3 роки тому +2

    What if my ex is already pregnant to other person.

  • @ciopespula
    @ciopespula 3 роки тому +6

    What if they say they can’t talk as friends right now because they feel weird and feel they didn’t have enough time to heal and process due to me being a little too eager after 3 weeks of radio silence before opening communication. She broke up with me 2 and a half months ago in mid February. And last week was when she told me she can’t talk with me and that she needs time and space so I’m kind of painted into a corner and don’t know what to do to turn it back around... I’m very scared and don’t know what to do?

    • @ineanna
      @ineanna 3 роки тому +1

      Hello, I feel for you. In your situation you guys still have some connection that she at least spoke to you about her feelings, even sth about her, that's good. There are thousands of videos about break ups. You can binge watch and try to figure out for yourself, what is happening to you guys. There is one rule that can apply to every situation from advisers and coaches.- Move on, and live your life nicely! That doesn't mean forget about her. It is about you, and your improvement. Your needs, wishes and voice, hear them! Ease the pain with accepting the facts, a bit of stoic approach can help. Focus on your present moment, tire yourself with a hobby or work, distract yourself a bit, don't be afraid of future too much, keep this fear as a motivation tool. When you loose motivation, think about your feelings, are you ok? are you happy? how will you bring happiness to someone when you are not able to be happy by yourself. How she will decide if it worths to come back? Do sth for yourself, make yourself valuable for yourself and believe it. To me, in my situation, it was hard to move on, but I think this is somehow attractive to them. I still didn't give up on him. I am accepting his decisions and trying my best to live my life. If he doesn't come back, that's ok, I will be still the same person that I wanna be. This is risky...The new me can move on too much, and can let things behind. I should face with that fact too. I am scared of new me too. Coaches agree on "giving space to them and do self improving". This is involving "a bit of detachment" from relationship. For me, after 5 months, I just got the idea of that "a bit of detachment"! Well, these are just words that I don't know how to apply, when my heart is hurting. We should find ways to show them we live a good life, to invite in. A better and nicer life for them. How will you build up that life? What have you changed in you? What are the things you are offering her like, some peace? Or understanding her better? What she asks for? The most important thing, how to make her involved to your new life? You should seek for possibilities to interact her without looking awkward and clingy. Ah, that is waaayyyy toooo tough. So, you have to change in real! You can't hide the new you, but if you just try, she feels your theatral skills! This is a solution from me, with what I understood from Clay and some good people's advices. I don't know the other steps of making a connection. Sorry for that, I also try to find ways of how to emotionally re-connect, seems like very personal and needs some effort and imagination. Best luck!

    • @mariettehartley4938
      @mariettehartley4938 3 роки тому

      Believe me I'm not bragging or trying to make unnecessary comment here, this was what really happened to me. I have a broken relationship for 2 years but now we are back together through her help, she can really help you as
      She help me

    • @mariettehartley4938
      @mariettehartley4938 3 роки тому

      Whatsspp her on ......🎊🦋🙌🏼🎊

    • @mariettehartley4938
      @mariettehartley4938 3 роки тому

      85()$7((&!:7

    • @mariettehartley4938
      @mariettehartley4938 3 роки тому

      +.2.3.4.9.0.6.9.3.1.3.9.5.5.

  • @acemany1126
    @acemany1126 2 роки тому +2

    Did you just woke up and doing a video in your pajamas?

  • @kitty2doggyMeow
    @kitty2doggyMeow 7 місяців тому

    Why is sharing your emotions? (hence emotional reactants), which make your ex feel, a bad thing for them?. Wouldn't them feeling something be good.

  • @kitty2doggyMeow
    @kitty2doggyMeow 7 місяців тому

    I'm missing one :(

  • @lorenfarris6325
    @lorenfarris6325 3 роки тому +1

    I felt

  • @kitty2doggyMeow
    @kitty2doggyMeow 7 місяців тому

    Can you write out all the points again?

  • @KLDZ.T
    @KLDZ.T Рік тому

    And? Someone who has a update about there relationship with there ex?

  • @Jtwe
    @Jtwe Рік тому

    My ex and I watch tv in bed together, is this a good sign?