Thank you so much coach lee. My ex left me three months ago and instantly got into a rebound relationship, I went into no contact and now he’s come back telling me he misses me and wants me back. Have faith 🙏🙏
@@camillamay5592 mine is away from almost 6 months...he is with someone else now and he says he don't feel for me now..do you think their is possibility of him to come back
Don't take back someone that thought someone else was better than you but once it realized it wasn't, wants you back. Don't take them back. You're more valuable than that. Show them.
There is no way I will ever take him back. I don't love him anymore. I worked on myself, listened to Coach Lee for hours, and I realized I was being used. He can have his RICH rebound, but don't dare come running back to me after you use her for everything she's got.
By the time your ex decides to reach out and contact you again, you probably will have moved on completely with your life, which is obviously the best thing to do. You'll most likely hear from them at a random time, when you've picked up the pieces of your life and when you're doing well on your own two feet and not thinking of them any longer. You probably won't see them in the same light as you once did when you two were together and in love, because you will have grown so much since you last saw them, but people do change their minds and feelings change over time. Some people decide to start a clean slate, some decide to just stay friends, and some decide they are better off with no ties to their ex. Just keep in mind, when your ex dumped you they thought they could do better. But when they decide to come back around you'll be 10xs the person you were when they last saw you and the ball will be in your court
True but unforturnately I make it very clear to myself that I will never accept him coming back once he has moved on with a new woman. Time's up and nothing special in our relationship anymore. A man who doesnt consider to fix a relatiopship but prefer to walk away from it is not a treasure to keep at all. I'm really sick of him now and moving on for a better future without that arrogant man.
@@kristypham8130 that's the best thing anyone can do. They made the decision to leave and to cut off the connection that took time to build. Sadly they all realize this too late. Im with you there on moving on and not looking back
True , it’s been a month since being horribly dumped. For weeks I was a mess. The grief has passed , now it’s a mix of anger and ambivalence 🤷♂️ She can have whatever it is she has now . If she ever comes crawling, I ain’t gonna be there. Why should I . And I loved her to bits. You asked me not to reach out again, you got it..
colCollins It took me a good six months to move on. When you do, its the best feeling in the world. But you've gotta go through the grieving process first
Probably already been said, but my buddy put it this way that struck a cord for me: No matter what mental issues, depression, confusion your ex felt that caused the breakup, of they come back remorseful and wanting to make up after a rebound, think of this: You’ve been improving yourself. Your mental health. Your physical well being. Your career. Your intelligence. You have improved. Meanwhile, what have they done? They’ve been with other dude/chick. You are only demeaning yourself if you get back with them and that’s not self-love.
My dream is the minute he comes snooping around. He fought tooth n nail till I got an order against him. That very second he got back with his ex. I anticipate the day she doesn't work out yet again (big time cheater, filthy housekeeper, 3 kids all neglected) And he tries to come around. I have what I wanna say right in my head. I will NOT DISGRACE MYSELF and lower myself to this. Thanks tho, flattering.
I partially agree with you, but what if they truly show change, remorse, and willingness to work things out genuinely? I believe in second chances unless they come back the same. If she changes, and you know it's genuine, why not? Holding grudges for life will only make your own life difficult and harder to appreciate stuff
@@heartymcdurianzi thought this way she proved so much change and remorse. Just to cheat again many months later. Or they got the other dude they are still talking to him just incase you break up again
Many would disagree, but I think, that people who can forgive are the strong ones. Don't get me wrong - I'm not saying that moving on is weak. I'm just saying that it's not wrong to let an ex back into your life. Forgiving someone and not taking revenge is a sign of strength of the heart, which few posses.
@@widf1l699 I don't think it's being a fool at least in my case. This woman was my everything both in our mid 20s and together for 6 years. We were bestfriends since she was 13 and both madly in love then a little later on had 2 beautiful baby girls at 19. If she wants to come back at some point I would be willing to make it work so long as she showed me she was ready and willing to show me change.
I know it’s hard, but don’t look @ a rebound like a negative. That only makes them realize there’s only one of you. My best friend and his girlfriend were together for a year and split because they were both going through things. After6 months they came back together and both admitted to messing with someone else. They got back together and now have been together for the last 8 years. If it’s meant to work it will. Just focus on bettering yourself atm!
If you wana let another person disrespect you by sidelining you and o ly then realizing you were actually of value. If it takes hooking up with someone else for the person u care about to realize your value then they are NOT worth it. Period. Save the heartache. Respect yourself.
@@mr.fettesq.7705as sick as it may sound or seem..sometimes they need to go see if that grass is greener for them to realize what they had was better and y’all problems wasn’t as bad as they thought they were. They always come back, always. What you decide to do when they try is completely your decision but also keep in mind, everyone has a past, 9.9/10 your partner was with someone else before you in the first place
@@Jay410S having a past before u enter the picture is way tmdifferent then someone leaving u to go ran around with other men or women to then just come back to you. That type of behavior is way to tolerated. It's disrespectful. Nobody should put up with it because then you are essentially accepting a second place back-up trophy. Don't be a back up or else he/she will treat you and look at you as a back-up and makes it more likely for that type of thing to just happen again down the road
@@mr.fettesq.7705 Sorry, but I took a huge L with her and got way too cocky assuming she would never leave me for my horrible attitude, and once she was gone, I realized I messed up. Of course, I would take her back because this wouldn't have happened if I did her right the first time. Circumstances matter, my friend.
Depending on the person, ignoring the person does work. Don’t be friends with an ex while they’re with a rebound. You’re giving them the best of both worlds
Never ever be friends with an ex, especially if they enter into a new relationship in less than two months, they already had that person lined up on the bench in the waiting. And that is narcissism, and that's sick.
@Petros K learn from your mistake and let it guide you in your next relationship, which will be 10 times better than the one you just had, i guarantee - granted you learn from your previous short comings.
Coach Lee I got broken up with a month ago, didn’t do no contact the first week after the break up didn’t know about it, then I went into no contact acting like I was busy (which I was) and a month later my ex blocked me, while I was doing no contact. It’s over completely isn’t it?
Christopher Vibe It is.... If you try to get back together it may go well for a month or two then she will turn into a monster and destroy you because she feels like she can abuse you and you will just come back.
The signs that someone is rebounding with you is, they call you babe on a first date. They want you to stay the night a lot. They will give you the love they wanted to give to the previous person. They might even tell you they love you in a weeks time. Then one day they disappear or their communication gets less frequent and you already know who they are back talking to. No expectations, no heartbreak.
That’s good. I wish you could tell my friend that. She was separated for a month but less than a month later some stray Venezuelan boy ran into her talking about having a relationship with him already they had a baby due to a One Night Stand, then they eloped after they had it, she barely knew him.
Wish everyone is good like you .to heal their hearts first before getting a new realationship..i was once a reboundee and it was really suck hurts..it was so unfair..
To the men specifically: I know you love them. I know you do. I still love my ex more than anything. BUT, she rebounded. She threw out what we had and is getting railed by another man. I’ll never take her back. She strung me along for 6 months and was with him the entire time. She dug her grave and now she has to lie in it. Don’t take them back, RESPECT yourself more than that. If they give a piece of their soul to someone else, consider them dead.
I’m in the same boat. She had an emotional affair which I also think rose to physical. 14 years but I’ll never take her back because I could never trust her snd it disgusted me that she was someone else.
guys, remember anybody who has a rebound relationship did this because its too hard to accept the breakup. its a psychological response to stress. they dont even know what theyre doing. my ex found a guy after a few days. they are now doing everything that we used to do together and its been 2 weeks. it baffled me at first, but i realize shes going to have to go through the stages for her to realize she just wants me back.
Absolutely true, my ex dumped rebound , came back, i asked her if she aware of what she is doing, then she left me and Went back to previous rebound LOL
I’m tired of having false hope. I don’t want my ex back if she chose to be with someone else..... she made the decision to kick me out of her life, why do I want to go back with her? I deserve better.... everyone here deserves better in this comment section
Me. I gave him everything and treated him like a special human. Never cheated, never lied never hurt him. Now 4 months later his living with his co worker and her son. I deserve better💔
Everyone is saying are u willing to take them back after they got with someone else.. Yes I would.. because I love them.. and I messed up too.. it is something u can overcome.. people all over the world are still together after those times in life.. humans do that shit.. all the time.. u better believe it.. it's so common.. they question is do u love them enough to want to be with them.
DNA Tru Lyricist that’s because it’s usually a bad idea,they usually leave again when things get a little hard because there’s no perfect relationship and it’s hurt 10 times more when they do.
I agree, both partners frequently make mistakes. For my part I will never go back with an ex I left 6 years ago. He had repeatedly tried to make me jealous with a girl, I freaked out & completely ghosted him. I was heartbroken to hear that he had dated that very same girl for 3 years after I left. Last summer I unexpectedly stumbled on a radio program he was co-hosting. He had chosen the discussion subject: "revenge dating". It was really weird, many things he said seemed to apply to our past relationship. At one point he said that the length of a relationship means nothing at all, that it's possible for a man to date a woman for years without being in love. He seemed quite emotional & his colleagues teased him about his "real life experience". It was only after hearing that show that I was able to forgive him, because I messed up too. I mean, ghosting someone you love is cruel. However, time has passed, we live in different countries & we both moved on, so I will never attempt to contact him.
Sometimes we have to view our relationship from another perspective view, even if they sexually/emotionally cheated and chose a rebound over you. Why you two broke up? And when he/she was with you, did they treat you right? If they treated you right, focus on the reason for breaking up, did you treat them right, or did you neglect them in some way, or not give them enough attention? Do not focus on his/her rebound because it’s their problems to be solved not yours. It’s just their way to heal their pain so let them do it and they will learn a lesson. Not all the people are cheating or having a rebound that they are narcissistic or underestimate your value, maybe just because they have some past trauma and self-esteem, unlovable issues to heal and to learn. Trust me they maybe didn't want to hurt you but when they don't know how to love themselves, how could they love you the right way? Learn to solve your problem first and respect your exes if they did love you and treat you right before. Do not judge a whole person for just one mistake they did. If you see clearly that they aren't worth fighting for, just moving on with your life.
Very well said. My ex left me for her previous ex and I felt this. Some days are harder than others. It hit the ego hard at first but I do hope she is doing well. She always told me how well I treated her and how toxic her ex was but her I am sitting alone haha probably some familiar unhealed childhood trauma
Well said. Exactly what my ex did. On top of it her rebound is with a coworker who has a wife and 3 kids. Of course his family doesn't know about his affair
My story: My ex dumped me after five years of romance, eight years of friendship. She'd been thinking about leaving me for at least a year, maybe as long as two years, so she had a lot of time to process this. I'm sure it was hard for her and hurt, but she did it. There was, on my part, no cheating, abuse, judging, gaslighting, not communicating, etc. But I still wasn't good enough for her. She just felt she wasn't getting what she needed from me and I didn't measure up or prove my love to her. I'd been in a few relationships in my life. I was in my fifties when I fell in love with her. She was my one. Deep. True. We were friends. Really. There was commitment, companionship. She even acknowledged that. We were family. It was easy being with her. Until it wasn't. I was happy, at peace. I didn't fear she would leave. I was naive, trusting, and missed signals. She actually talked about how she was a catch, and men were interested in her. She was a restless, discontented, "grass is greener" somewhere else person. She was in a rebound relationship within two weeks of me leaving. That only lasted for a few weeks. She jettisoned that poor slob and was immediately with someone else. That next rebound relationship lasted almost two years. He was physically/verbally abusive, according to her. How do I know? She came to see me right after she finally broke up with him. She was emphatic in stating that there was no chance for us and never would be and that I shouldn't get my hopes up. I did, of course, and I didn't play it well. Shot myself in the foot several times. It was only AFTER this happened that I stumbled across tutorials from Coach Lee, and several others (Clay Andrews, Coach Corey, Dr. Les Carter, Alan Robarge, etc.) that talked about how people will say one thing, but it's not always what's really going on, or a state of mind that's set in stone and will never change...and that often people will say the opposite of what's really going on in their hearts. Often, they don't even know their own minds/hearts. But when she came back to have an "anniversary drink" with me, I didn't know this stuff. I accepted everything she said at face value and I panicked and I blew it. (Though, in the long run, it's for the best as she was an immature narcissist who lacked/lacks empathy, mercy, forgiveness, kindness, acceptance, etc.I still love her, but she has her own path and a long way to go. ) Within a week, or two, of seeing me - to "test the waters" perhaps? - she started yet ANOTHER new relationship which continues to this day. Maybe this one will stick. If not, she'll very likely get right into yet ANOTHER relationship. How she rolls, for all the reasons Coach Lee touches on. She's a long way, if ever, from taking a year or two to get in touch with herself, grow up, find peace, forgiveness, grace, clarity, and so much else. MY LESSONS: Sometimes a love that can seem SO real, SO good, SO deep, meaningful, true and beautiful, even healthy, can be one-sided. We can create entire realities in our heads and hearts that the other person doesn't share, even when it seems so much like they are. It's heartbreaking because often the two of you can even have wonderful conversations about how this is a shared reality! What's a person to do when there is such deception? When what seems like a strong castle is, instead, a house of cards built on sand? It's frustrating. It's life. Yes, there are red flags and signs, but sometimes, even the older-but-wiser among us can be duped. SO, learn how this person interacts with their family. How they feel about them, how they treat them. Huge lessons there. Learn how they treated their romantic partner before you, if there was one. Watch. What they say and do. Especially what they DO! If they kick you to the curb when you've done nothing really wrong - there was no cheating, lying, abuse, ignoring/taking for granted, emotional abuse, shaming, manipulating, etc. - EVEN if they were the love of your life, count your blessing they left and NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER take them back. Understand what they did, that it was likely hard for them, even if they're a narcissist/sociopath/borderline personality. (Though narcs and the like don't take it very hard in the scheme of things. Plus, that's one of the purposes of the rebound relationship. Transference, distraction, emotionally-medicating, status, replacement/repudiation of you, etc.) Have that compassion and empathy and remember the good times and the love that was there - at the very least on your side (and give yourself some good credit for that!) - but MOVE ON. Realize that anyone who REALLY saw you, accepted you, valued you, and cared about you, would never have kicked you to the curb because of their own confusion and restlessness. That's their unprocessed, unresolved baggage. They projected it all on you, and blamed you. In the end, they DIDN'T care about you, they DIDN'T love you, they DIDN'T value you, they DIDN'T take your feelings into consideration. They put themselves first based on their own biases, fears, unresolved anger, demons, blame, shame, grief, abandonment issues, etc. Not that you have no personal responsibility or acted flawlessly or perfectly, but in most cases, when you have been "true blue" and acted with the best honor, integrity, loyalty, vulnerability and honest communication you could muster AND THEY STILL KICKED YOU TO THE CURB, move on, consider yourself lucky, learn, respect yourself, value that you can love that much, selflessly. Take some time to heal, settle down, find some peace, accept, forgive, find clarity. I've taken four years, now in my fifth year. I've struck out in all my relationships, going back 40 years, so I'm done. (I had a tradition of picking narcissists/borderline personalities/sociopaths, so that's my stuff! Finally figuring it out! Better late than never, thank God!) I recommend to anyone to take at least a year break. If it was a really deep, long-time (three years or more) love, two or even three years is ideal. But there's no set timetable. Everyone is different. BUT an absolute for ALL: Do NOT jump into a rebound relationship! DO.NOT. Finally, if they want to stay in touch in some way, be friends, etc., and you're in a place where you can manage that, by all means, do that. But be wary, and guard your heart. This is now all about you and self-care. Often, they may just want to see if you're still on the hook, feed their ego, etc., especially if they're the immature, confused, unconscious person they sure acted like when they kicked you to the curb and did the serial rebound relationship trip! It's almost mathematical. QED. Cause and effect. Where there's smoke, there's fire...Blah blah. You thought you saw their true colors, a la the Cyndi Lauper song. NOW, actually see their REAL True Colors. BUT see yours first! That's a super-power. Then, you can take on virtually anything, handle anything. Good luck! (And luck is a major player in love, unfortunately.)
Sir, Your experience seems valuable. Can you share more ? I am an empath. All my life I have ignored Red Flags. But this time, It was fatal. It was like a shark attack. It was brutal.
@@urvashisingh2135 Thank you sir! I learned a lot, mostly the hard way, which is kind of how we humans are wired. We have to face the fire. The truly wise listen and heed the advice of those who faced that fire. But that wasn't me. I don't know what else I can offer, beyond what I wrote above. I will say it's only my perception, my observations, and it sure doesn't apply to all, and all cases. I am sorry you were attacked and it was brutal. Obviously, it wasn't literally "fatal" or you wouldn't be commenting. LOL. But we both know that for many broken-hearted lovers, it did turn fatal. How many thousands, even millions, over the centuries have taken their lives? A few additional thoughts, for what it's worth (and some re-stating what I said before): luck plays a huge role. Happenstance. And there's not much we can do about that. Fate. I've had deep conversations with the few couples I know who stayed together, some 40, 50, even 65 years. They powered through. One couple found their soulmates and were smitten for life. But that's probably 5% of us. Maybe. Most people I know have LOST the true loves of their lives. Of course then people always say "Well, then that person wasn't the love of your life!" Yes, some truth to that, but tell that to our hearts. And such a flip, pat thing to say, really. Like "Time heals all wounds." It doesn't. Not really. What most of these "survivor" couples told me is that at some point, they both fully committed to the relationship and they had the strength, fear, certainty and uncertainty to do that, to be "loyal." That was a word that kept coming up. "Loyalty." And "honor." And "committment." But these are rare qualities in our current society. (And maybe always?) Too much "grass is greener," and change-the-channel choices. Remote controls for remote people. A lot of starter relationships/marriages. If you're the first, second, or even fourth or fifth serious lover, you're probably too soon in the game of romantic musical chairs. Not saying being early in means one is doomed, but it's something to keep in mind, especially harkening back to what I wrote about "luck." This is one small way to stack the deck a WEE bit in one's favor. Maybe. As people burn through relationships, and get burned, they grow, hopefully in mostly positive ways, and also get weary, resigned, not so picky, etc. Or they can. But not all. Some get to that place of more acceptance, more unconditional love, less judging, pickiness, checklists, etc. Of course, some go the other way. Really try and suss out these qualities in a prospective partner. And be alert to lip service. Are they really accepting? Non-judging, non-blaming, with few, if any, expectations? Remember: none of us "deserve" anything. We are not "entitled" to anything. It's not our jobs to fix others. It's not our job to put people on pedestals and prop up their frail, insecure egos, or prove ourselves over and over; prove our "love." That's not love. Are they truly loyal? Committed? Of course I realize the ironic contradiction here as relates to what I wrote earlier about waiting 'til one is Mr/Ms. fifth or sixth lover. If a prospective partner has plowed through a bunch of lovers, what does that say about their loyalty? Not a good track record, though we could hope they're older and wiser. Now, if they were the ones left, that's a different story. Find all this out. Pay attention to what they say about their previous lovers. That can be very telling, and likely what they will say about you down the road. Hmm. I guess I did have more to say. Ha ha. Again, watch what they do, not say. Don't get swept up in emotions and lose yourself in it all, as intoxicating and fun as that can be. Reality check with family and friends who know you! Listen to their objective assessment of you and this new lover. And I mean LISTEN, and take to heart. Hope this helps. Good luck. Again, at the end of the day, a lot does come down to luck, unfortunately. Sucks. Oh, and please don't waste your time or life trying to get an ex back, even if you loved her/him like a hurricane. If someone left you, hurt you, threw you away, they didn't love you, I don't care how much they might say they were "confused, scared, messed up, etc." I have empathy for their immature confusion, but it's a screaming signpost of their emotional instability and cavalier ways. Expect more of the same if they reel you back in...I'm not saying never give anyone a second chance, but I'm 99% saying that. LOL. Take care of you!
I can empathise. I was the rebound too, one that lasted 20 months & involved living together. I'd supported him with anxiety issues stemming from his wife leaving him & yet he had no care for the trauma & anxiety he caused me when he suddenly ended things.
I was the rebound😓 I felt all this and told her she needed to figure out what she wanted and that I don’t do rebounds. She said it wasn’t so but all the anxiety and being unsure showed me she wasn’t over her ex. Very toxic situation that’ll leave you questioning yourself if you’re not strong enough.
Same here bro, she let me feel and said that she will not dive into our relationship if she was not sure of me, then her ex comes back and she became confuse all of a sudden and it's alone time again
I had always suspected that people will 'force' a relationship that was born out of a bad breakup or a cheating situation or even other factors such as family disapproval etc. in order to 'prove' that the choice that was made, was in fact the 'correct choice', I did not know there was a term for it. People who do this will put up with negative behaviors that they would not have previously had done if only to prove to themselves that they were right, it's not sustainable.
I’m going through this now my ex is trying to prove a point that he made the right decision by rebounding quickly after me . Although mine is still fresh it’s been 5 months , I have a feeling I’ll have the last laugh .. he’s showing her off and making it be known he’s with her due to his family disapproving on how he got with her , he was already monkey branching with her then when our breakup was official immediately got with her and is claiming to be in love and marry her lol
never tell how you feel . let them imagine , never give certainty . when you tell them what they want to hear . she knows she is at safe place so she can look up for new stuff , but if you dont give that validation . she will be only thinking about you just because they are unsure about how you feel that is the first step of falling in love , we are in a bad mood and always thinking about them cuz we are uncertain about how they feel about us . we dont get that validation cuz we are not hearing about them so we are thinking about and obssessing about them . it is just a ego game we need to out grow this , if they tell you right away i missed you all day i love you so much etc. then we will lose respect and forget about obsessive thoughts about them cuz we are sure and valideted now . you see how funny brain works .
I listened to this and it helped me realize that I was the rebound relationship. I don’t think he ever moved on from his wife, and he tried to make me the light at the end of the tunnel. That was hard to realize but it helped me move on. To all of those going through a breakup , it gets better. Focus on yourself and know that it’s better to be alone than to be with someone who doesn’t love or appreciate you.
Is rebound relationship had sex too? I'm so down always thinking that my ex gf had sex with her rebound relationship and she said that it's not a rebound.. after we break up after 1 week she had a new boyfriend 😭😭
I've been in no contact for a little over a month now, and I can say.. the comments section in this channel has given me hope to trust the process and hopefully get back or move on from my ex.
These videos have helped me so much! However I've also come to the realization that I was likely a rebound as well. Went through all these phases, and once I ended it he was with someone else within a week 😅 my ego was shattered but now after 3 months I feel indifferent toward him, wish him the best and sincerely hope he's capable of following through for this new girl. I think the hardest thing is your anxiety will tell you they're everything for her they could never be for you when in reality they're still their same dismissive selves but the relationship hasn't had enough time to self destruct. Heal yourself and attract healed people. ❤️
This guy by far is the best of the best. He makes good sense and he knows what he is talking about. And he talks in soft voice with lots of wisdom. Guys take notes.
I came here intentionally to say this... My ex (from work) rebounded with another girl (also at work) about 12 months ago. Just as I was about to reach out to my ex as I had come to a place of acceptance, they broke up, just before their 1 year anniversary. Honestly, so many days of suffering and I FINALLY have some justice. I'm pretty sure my ex was the one that was dumped.
I'm in the exact same situation right now. We broke up three months ago, I moved out one month ago. I called her the day after I moved and told her I regret breaking up with her. She said she wanted to work on herself before considering to work on us(yeah right). I did no contact for a month, she started dating another guy and let me know via Facebook relationship status. I'm currently just focusing on myself and continuing no contact. She'll be back.
@@@asmallbitchybananagood point. But if it was deep in the first place, they would have not went and got with another person. I know my self when it comes to the feels department. I hold on even until the very end. Even if they tell me they don't want to see me or talk to me, of course I would give them what they want but deep inside im still holding on. Grand gestures? even if it works or not, I will do it. But I do have a limit and that's my limit. Because it goes down to principles now. No matter how much in love I am with you, my principles are still more valuable.
So true. My ex came back with a grand gesture of even moving states to be with me after 4 years way too late, because I’m watching this video for a completely different break up and am so beyond uninterested for someone I once wanted so bad lol funny how life works. Hopefully this current situation will end up the same.
Never work backwards. If your ex wants you back, the let them, but move on. Always moving forward. Going back to an ex to me, is never a good idea. You already know it didn’t work out the first time and you know what to expect. A clear case of “been there done that”
this man is the most correct at describing things! my ex after 2.5 months ended her rebound! when she made it look like the love of her life while cloning our relationship to the level of the same BD necklace! I just keept trusting this wonderfule coach Leestien. Thank you for helping me thru the tuffest time of my life! I keep repeating ( usually this is good news for you).
@@tr9809 no worries, show you are stronger. That guy will Boeing her by trying to fix her. I got my ex back. She left again BC she acted very bitchy and with disrespect so i pushed her away by telling her i wont tolerate that and considring my self respect more important than anything. I wrote that i like her and want to be with her but we are not on the same wave. Wished her well with another guy or with me and entred nc again. I hope she fix her self and comeback.
Is rebound relationship had sex too? I'm so down always thinking that my ex gf had sex with her rebound relationship and she said that it's not a rebound.. after we break up after 1 week she had a new boyfriend 😭😭
I’ve been following your advice for months now and Im on the brink of a breakthrough with my ex & I came back to refresh myself on all the points you make and I have to say that everything has played out verbatim to what you describe so far. We aren’t out of the woods yet but there is progress... many thanks Coach Lee 🙏🏻
My ex (now boyfriend again) went into a rebound relationship and I had no clue until he told me upon getting together. Throughout the painful breakup, I listened to coach lee daily and went into complete no contact around 2 months after the breakup. My ex got in touch at around the 52 day mark and was very clear that I was the one for him! You HAVE TO listen to coach Lee and do the work. I started studying, I changed my hair, nail colour etc and started feeling good. The key thing is that the work needs to continue even when you get back together. Having a strong sense of self is attractive to a man. Keep going, no contact works!!!!
Respect yourself. Why does it take the physical comfort and hookup of another person for your ex to realize your worth? Ask yourself that question. You are much better then that. Even the playing field....see if your other can handle the same scenario and if he can then maybe...if not then you have your ultimate answer
@@jacqui8392 I didn't continue to focus on my self development upon getting together and also found out that he continued sleeping with a rebound for about a month after getting together. We went away on holiday, lots of arguments and he broke up with me around month ago. I'm absolutely devastated, depressed as he had introduced me to his family etc but back in no contact. I know where I went wrong, and.I can see why attraction dropped. I've got myself a personal trainer and and I'm hoping we can reconcile. He seems to be going through the stages a dumper goes through which is a good sign. He was mean to me at first when I tried to convince him to stay, but I went no contact. Now, he is the first to view my statues etc which shows he is a little curious. I've been in no contact for about 3 weeks with the off message here and there. But as of last Friday, I've gone radio silence. I will also stop posting on my status so that the curiosity grows more. It's hard.
@@sl3904 dear lord, where you went wrong was taking him back after all of his frivolous behaviors! You took him back regardless of it. You didn't put your foot down and took him back regardless. This is where you went wrong and it lowered your value. You begged him to stay and he lost it for you. You take him back again....? And he knows he can leave and go as he pleases. Have some self respect and never go back again. Otherwise it's your fault now
@@mr.fettesq.7705 Not that simple. I had specific asks that he did carry out, so yes I did put my foot down. I didn't beg either. He introduced me to his family, he booked the holiday, all on this own back. The fact is, I also made mistakes which included being argumentative, taking him for granted and not having enough of my own life. I have self respect, otherwise I would attempt and have previously been successful at no contact.
Dude… I wish I would’ve found this video sooner, I’m not using this as confirmation of the signs I’ve been noticing but this video has given me clarity and motivation to keep on fighting the good battle of this period of no contact. Thank you Coach Lee!
Hey coach, I'm not sure if this will get lost in the comments or not but you have such great advice. My ex left me around 7 months ago and I stumbled upon your channel. My original plan when her and I were together was to move closer to her after I got out of the Navy at the end of this year, since we were about 5 hours apart. I was to focused on her that I didn't focus on myself. I was torn between moving closer to my family and being with her. Now that I followed your advice and did no contact, I've been feeling so much better. I'm registered for college full time with a part time job working in a hospital already set up and I'll be closer to my family. I don't even want her back and you've helped me focus on myself so much. Anyone who walks out on your life and gives up on you for someone else is not worth having you in your life. You have value and don't forget that. Keep bettering yourself and you will be okay. It just takes time.
Yes rebound relationship always fail even if the rebound is good looking. If they're mentally not ready and just jumped into a new good looking person, there's a difference between a physical connection and a soul connection that took time and commitment.
Thank you coach Lee. I watch your videos every night to help me get through this tough time and to stay in no contact. The knowledge and advice you give has helped me tremendously.
I followed your Teaching Coach Lee. And it is clear the short relationship is over. And I'm being stalked by Her through a fake Instagram account with fake pictures.
I love this, thank you. Here lately I have been thinking a lot about my first love. Things ended on bad terms and eventually he stopped talking to me. That was 16 yrs ago and it still hurts. Daily. Looking back on his actions after we split I can see a lot of what you've talked about here and it's comforting. Thank you.
My Ex hooked up straight away with a close work colleague, he had known her for a while and are still together after 2 years. He has broken up the whole family for it and our teenagers won’t speak to him. I don’t want him back but would like the new relationship to fail.
This is a REAL good video... I was feeling down today, glad I found it.. it feels like u lose all faith over time.. but all I know is I've tried everything else.. theres no other option then no contact!! And I swear to god.. I'm not giving up on it.. cuz it's been over a year.. and I still love this person.. things just dont get better over time.. when ur hearts broken.. when its real.. it's real hard. Even if it isnt hard for them... it can be years of pain for you. And I letting every phase and stage happen for them... and when they reach out.. I'll be here to say hi. :) I've just learned u cant show ur love.. but it dosnt mean it isnt there.. but it is here.. and waiting.
After listening to this I realise I just ended a two year rebound relationship. You describe the stages perfectly...I did not want to end things with my ex but I wasn’t happy and I just jumped into something new for distraction and fun. The rebound got attached quickly and struggled with insecurity the whole time sensing my mind was elsewhere. I did all the comparisons and Yes initially I did reach out to my ex and then try harder to make it work with the rebound. After 6 mths I told him “I love you but I’m not in love” just as you said but he was so devastated I pushed on. I guess the reason I didn’t end it until now is because my ex was never going to treat me the way I needed to be treated. And my rebound became obsessed with me and I convinced myself I loved him but it was only limerance. 😓
I dont even know if i want her back. 4 years together, engaged broke up with me for reasons i dont understand. Has gaslighted me at every opportunity and found out she was with someone else. Quite frankly i just want my movie moment. Her relationship falls over, she comes back and wants to start again and i just go....nup
@@hafidhrendyanto2690 To a very small extent. But full blown is extremely tragic and toxic to people who think and reason along normal lines. Everyone has a certain amount of psychopathy...but Covert Narcs in the "B Cluster Group" are about the very worst!
@@darring.9161 I agree. If no one out there has been in a relationship with a "Cluster B" they will never get it and that's just a fact. I was with someone that had narcissistic personality disorder and it was clearly the worst relationship of my life and the hardest (hands-down) to recover from.
My experience as well, only mine was a 64 Old Woman who was a serial cheater and always projecting her guilt onto me but suggesting that I was the one doing it. Refused to discuss anything in the relationship, displayed animosity and whorish behavior and generally a lot of the silent treatment and then after the discard...engaged in a very repulsive smear campaign on Facebook. She'd regularly post "targetted memes" or accuse me of leeching or emotionally abusing her. She knew I caught up to her act red-handed, and as such...the discard. A few weeks earlier she told everyone in my family at the Thanksgiving Dinner how I was the "Love of her Life"? She would normally appear as the most adjusted and friendliest person you could ever meet in public, but beyond closed doors...she was downright degrading and evil. She was always posting various things to make herself like a good and caring person, but in reality...she couldn't give two shits about anything. Later on, she would attempt to triangulate my Mom too, but thankfully...she knew better and she knew my feelings for this Woman were very genuine. She also jumped into the new supply 4 days in advance of the discard...but had been grooming him since August. The discard was on November 14th and I braced for and accepted it. I worked to keep it civil and without drama then she behaved very hostile and hateful towards me while I was packing my stuff to leave her. It was like a whole different person I had never seen before...and it was scary. \ When I'd set my boundaries, she'd behave like an irate and little fiendish little girl, run to the bedroom and glared at me with this evil look from out under the covers, followed with more silent treatment or degrading comments. I had never experienced such a painful and emotionally damaging breakup and I'm still very devastated over it. I went from 227lbs to 180lbs very rapidly and also became agoraphobic, anxious, and depressed. She'd even talk ill of her supposed best friends behind their backs as well but would do it in such a way that they'd never suspect it was her starting the rumor mills going on at work. I hope I never have to experience this again. She'd already hoovered me back once before, and I became too co-dependent on her also. She had my full heart, but she stomped on it in the end and acted as if I was something that should've been killed! I always treated her well as anyone could and with high regard and respect and dignity, compassion, sincerity, etc. I am more aloof now, and I will be even more guarded now with my heart and feelings. One thing is certain, I will definitely need a good Psycho-therapist to deal with my emotional damages!
I was the victim in a rebound relationship with a girl who still had feelings for her ex and who was seeing him on the regular behind my back. Behind both of our backs. In her mind, we were just dating. In my mind, based on the things she told me, we were in a committed relationship. She told me she loved me, how good of a role model for our kids I would be and blah blah fucking blah. Are you just dating a person you talk about kids with? One can wonder.. She ended up just blocking me after our first vacation together and we haven't spoken since. NEVER let someone treat you this way. Respect yourself more.
Thank you coach lee. Two days ago I found out my ex of 11 years got into a rebound 2 weeks after he broke up with me. The worst is I had no clue especially because he was keeping my hopes by saying he loves me every two weeks. By saying I am the one, that he wants to have kids with me and build a family. And then I find out while he was constantly telling me this that he was with a persons. Even when I confronted him he still says he loves me and I’m the one. That he is/was with her because she gave him things I didn’t give him. When I found out I was super understanding with him. However the day after (yesterday) I still tried to keep my calm but at night I was mad and angry and upset. Thank you for this video, I will do exactly what you said showing understanding and stepping way from all this drama. Needless to say I feel completely betrayed and also feel sorry for the girl because she doesn’t even know he was all this time speaking with me and that we had sex several times while he was with her (I had sex with him not even knowing that he was with her). In sum , shitty person he is. After 11 years never expected this.
Trust me buddy, let me help you out. I was the rebound guy a month ago with a girl, and didnt work out. I notice she was emotional unavailable. Hot and cold. Distance. And its a headache to deal with her. Now she is back with her ex right away. Im a good person and treated the girl well, but wasnt enough. So stay calm, she will be back at you :) stay strong
bro, me and my ex broke up in january, buts always in contact cause we still loved each other and always making plans. This summer outta nowhere she got with a new guy, I'M DEVASTADED!!! you aren't alone in this, but yoo, no contact plz, do that! No contact will most likely bring her back, I just started no contact lets see how it turns out
It’ll be alright my guy I’m in the exact same situation right now, dated her for 2 years and found a new guy a month and a half later, he’s nothing special, he’s the first guy she ran into and nothing else, I don’t know if I want her back or not all we can do is focus on ourselves and time will tell who you’re supposed to be with
Coach lee.. You’re AWESOME!! It’s really because of disgusting lust, perversion, and, no loyalty, they cheat.. So why would you want your ex back after she’s been in a sexual affair with an obvious downgrade, doing God knows what with that person!! Johnny Depp said it best; “if you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second.” Society, Social media, technology has destroyed everything. NO CONTACT, is meant for self improvement!! The Hell with the unloyal Ex!! That person was not the TRUE LOVE!!! Four years being married, my ex cheated on me with a UGLY criminal that has kids!! She lied just to be him!! She desecrated her vows, so I know She’ll burn for eternity!! I’ve moved on. It’s been five months, but I know she’s miserable!!! She gave up my family(Who is well respected and AWESOME), her best friend, and me, just to sleep with him!! I can feel something is wrong because we had a strong BOND!! Let her SUFFER for what she’s done, for no woman DARES does what she did, and say they fear GOD, when they are the biggest Hypocrites!! Someone worthy of me and my love that is loyal and honest is waiting. I don’t need an unfaithful, lying, disgusting excuse for a woman for a partner. He can have her, like he had the prostitutes he paid for, and other skank women he slept with, only to use her. Karma is great!!
I think I was the rebound for a widower. We had a great relationship when he started distancing for a couple of weeks then just ghosted. He wasn’t ready. Coach lee, could you please do a lesson on dating a widower? There are so many out there in my middle age range. Thank you.
Unfortunately I was the rebound relationship for him. He had just ended things with his ex. He told me the love I showed him he was just very vulnerable and wanted to to be loved the way I loved him. This is crazy I’m seeing this video. He broke up with me when he had to step up to the plate. I walked away knowing I was a great woman to him and knowing my worth. 9 days officially no Contact
Many people are known to say things to get what they want and need from other people… the true depth and history of your involvement in a brief rebound is hardly earth shattering commitment material. 🤷♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏿♀️🤦♀️
sweetheart...understand that since he just ended a relationship with someone and you said it yourself that you were the rebound, his ex could never be a rebound for him to come back to you while you are using no contact. please understand that no contact would work for you if he would not have been in a serious relationship prior to meeting you.
I was watching this video right after breakup. But Its been 3months now and he started dating someone else the first week since we broke up. (Of which I heard they might break up soon), and he started texting me. But now rewatching this video, had made me realise how much I dont care now. I dont need some unwanted 'car" anymore.
my ex and i would break up all the time but we’ve never let more than a month between us.. it’s now day 66 of no contact and i’m starting to lose hope..
Just over 2 months , hang in there ...some men even go six months but by that time with no contact then its time to def. Move on but if youre focusing on self improvement youd be healed and ready to date by that point so its a win win
Or... they are completely head over heels and find their "new" love of their life, get engaged, and start popping out babies. So much for a "rebound" just my flippin' luck
This is happening to me after being in a relationship for 7,5 years. Now she's sending me Snapchats about her new "better life without me". Ignoring and no contact are worth gold these days.
She's definitely trying to make you jealous. Which also means she's thinking about you. The loudest thing you can do is say nothing. Hope it worked out, or you were able to realize your worth and move on
I ended up here after searching to find out if I’m seeing a guy whose trying to rebound... and it appears I am... I’m a little disappointed. Think I’ll have the talk tomorrow night & suggest we get some space between us and hopefully he’ll think over things. It’s a choice to move on or not. Gotta respect a man with a kind heart. It’s not a bad thing to be attached. But it is a bad thing to try to start something with someone when you know you’re not over the past...
They've been dating for about 22 days and I've been on no contact for 17 days. Right now it looks like she's in in the phase where she's trying to prove it's an actual relationship. I mean they've escalated fast. But watching your videos help me gain confidence that this IS a rebound and it will end soon. Thank you Coach.
@Esdras Manrique k bro um they broke up after about a month. She hasn't reached out or nothing. But the guy who was her rebound did. He asked me why we broke up I told him she lost feelings, and THEN he told me he got her pregnant and I lost my shit. She probably got an abortion or took plan B. Now I'm on 9 months of no contact and I still think about her, and I have fell down into a dark path that includes alcohol, I'm only 19 years old and it feels like I've lived all the happy moments I could n now its all darkness
@@_prowlerofthenight_ damn bro I'm sorry to hear that. I'm also in a dark place hoping she contacts me. I dream of her every day now. I also feel like I can't be happy unless she's by my side. Stay strong bro 💪 🙏 💙.
@@esdrasmanrique6457 Right back to u, 💪 I recommend reflecting on your past relationship(s) and see how u can be a better boyfriend so that if and when she comes back you're a better man
My ex left me during the pandemic. Short time later got together with someone new, made a big song and dance parading him everywhere, making a big deal on social media. Got pregnant by him. Fast forward 2 years, and the relationship dissolved.
😂😂Rebound relationships always end in Karma their intentions were to prove a point and hurt you but they wind up looking stupid , mine is fresh it’s been 5 months since my ex is with his rebound and they are talking marriage and having a child so I’ll like to see how everything plays out
My ex just made her new relationship "Facebook official," after six weeks. I want to call her out as a liar. She said there wasn't anyone else. She told me she needs to be alone. She lied to me. Although this fucking hurts, it helps.
My ex said to me and his friend that he doesn’t want a relationship anymore ect , after tow months I think he met new girl and these days he is changing his WhatsApp picture so much ,basically is their picture together ,we are almost 6 months broke up and 3 months NC
Thought I’d leave a comment to those who need it and need reassurance during their breakup after their partner rebounded, I had someone for 5 years and who I thought would be forever. She rebounded after leaving me within a week and trust me it is the worst feeling in the world, there’s no denying it’s horrible at the time. However, as much as it seems like they are having the best time and have moved on and you’re out of the picture, it’s just not true. A few days ago she reached out after I kept in no contact for over a month (split up for 3 months currently) after failed attempts of me pleading for her back and belittling myself, saying she wants to sort things out and she wants me and no one else. But as everyone says, it’s once you are moving on that they want you back. Personally, I don’t want this person back, people are different but I can’t see a future there anymore. The first few weeks are the hardest parts to get through but once you get there, and stay in no contact, go to the gym speak to other people get yourself out there, your confidence will rise again and you’ll see your self worth. Trust me when I say that I would watch these videos everyday and still refuse to believe that the rebound relationship wouldn’t last, but yet they were so happy a week ago on social media? They simply can’t replace you that quickly, keep the head high keep yourself busy and you hear it a lot but truly focus on yourself, no one else!!
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I was hoping for reconciliation after my ex broke up with me during lock down and we were ldr. Less than 2 month he is rebound relationship. And he is talking abt marriage with this rebound chic he met online who took his phone and block me and deleted my fb. He told my by email. His rebound made me easier to let go n move on. We loved each other once but if he is willing to break up with me due to lock down then he didn’t love me enough. I deserve better.
You need to start reaching out. But you need to say the right things and ask the right questions. There's vids on how to reach out after doing no contact
I was a rebound, and obviously I had no idea because he lied to me about when he broke up. Me thinking this is a real relationship with mutual love, and he used me to forget her. This hurts.
I got the same crap... he said he brokeup 7 month before, i found out he brokeup 2 months before he dated me. As soon as he brokeup he “fell in love with me”, after one month of actions and words and promises he started being emotionally distant... i asked million times if there is an issue, he would say shit like lot of work, tired, he kept saying he loves me and want a future with me and nothing changed... i couldnt take it anymore and brokeup with him. Till the last day he would keep saying he wants a future with me... what a joke... f...liar. Then i called him to verify if he is going to change, and told me he doesnt want to breakup and he wants to meet so we talk about our issues and fix things, i said ok, but he didnot call me.... then after 2 days he texted me asking how i was, i talked to him like nothing happened, like i was great. After that he never texted again, it has been 10 days since then, i guess trying to get back with his ex... what a shame, i believed on this guy because he did so much, he even introduced me all his friends and family....
So.much.yes. With the sum total of all his videos, and all he is touched upon, he’s touched so many facets of my own relationship with her it’s astounding and what has continued my attention.
All these phases are spot on, my ex got curious and started checking on me after 2 and a half months since the break up. She started coming back to this video game we use to play which she hasn’t played ever since we broke up. We had casual conversations and she even spent time playing it with me during the week of Christmas. I found it a little strange cause shouldn’t she be spending the holidays with her rebound? One conversation we had, I asked if she was doing okay and she dodged the question which left me confused. New years has passed and it’s now January. Since she already broke no contact, I decided to reach out to her this time. I messaged her on Instagram and said hey but she ghosted me. Not sure if this would be considered hot and cold behavior but I’m gonna say it is.
She was seeing how available you were and if you’d take her back with open arms instead of show strength and resilience and that you don’t need her. The ladder is what gets them back.
Even if ex seeks you out and you go back , the breakup will happen again . Do you really want to go through it again ? After a few months of no contact and following advice about becoming stronger you wouldn't won't them back . They could leave you again when you have children , get older , become ill , or get into debt . Then you'll wish you hadn't taken them back . To late .
Taking someone back after they dump you is self degradation You are now the rebound You will never look at them the same way, the trust and respect is gone ! A mirror reflects reality A broken mirror reflects the same thing !!! A new reality !! Sloppy seconds Crumbs from the table Contaminated goods New emotional baggage Once your partner turns the relationship into garbage, you're just dumpster diving trying to re-salvage what you had !! Good luck with your new choice
Vanish and let it burn 🔥 It will happen and then they’ll realise and come running back to you. Show them the boot when they do. Now that’s consequences and trust me you’ll feel like a million bucks
Thank you so much coach lee. My ex left me three months ago and instantly got into a rebound relationship, I went into no contact and now he’s come back telling me he misses me and wants me back.
Have faith 🙏🙏
After how many months he came back
@@happysoul3454 it took three months, but I think I slowed the process down as I begged and pleased for almost two months!
@@camillamay5592 mine is away from almost 6 months...he is with someone else now and he says he don't feel for me now..do you think their is possibility of him to come back
@@camillamay5592 hahaa same as me i begged n pleaded for one month but its two month now we break how mny more sud i wait
@@camillamay5592 yes hello Camilla I did the same mistake begging and crying wrong q
Don't take back someone that thought someone else was better than you but once it realized it wasn't, wants you back. Don't take them back. You're more valuable than that. Show them.
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I cant stand that he has been with someone else
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@Petros Kyragiannis well my next doesn't now me
He did and still went with another
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@petros 😅😅
Them getting with the rebound not only gives you clarity on the reality of the situation, it buys you time to get in shape and reinvent yourself
But they’re dirtied and tainted with the fluids of other men ...
@@Jordantzd what
Facts
@@Jordantzd omg the drunk married troll my ex is with who talks about her small hands soo gross
There is no way I will ever take him back. I don't love him anymore. I worked on myself, listened to Coach Lee for hours, and I realized I was being used. He can have his RICH rebound, but don't dare come running back to me after you use her for everything she's got.
By the time your ex decides to reach out and contact you again, you probably will have moved on completely with your life, which is obviously the best thing to do. You'll most likely hear from them at a random time, when you've picked up the pieces of your life and when you're doing well on your own two feet and not thinking of them any longer. You probably won't see them in the same light as you once did when you two were together and in love, because you will have grown so much since you last saw them, but people do change their minds and feelings change over time. Some people decide to start a clean slate, some decide to just stay friends, and some decide they are better off with no ties to their ex. Just keep in mind, when your ex dumped you they thought they could do better. But when they decide to come back around you'll be 10xs the person you were when they last saw you and the ball will be in your court
True but unforturnately I make it very clear to myself that I will never accept him coming back once he has moved on with a new woman. Time's up and nothing special in our relationship anymore. A man who doesnt consider to fix a relatiopship but prefer to walk away from it is not a treasure to keep at all. I'm really sick of him now and moving on for a better future without that arrogant man.
@@kristypham8130 that's the best thing anyone can do. They made the decision to leave and to cut off the connection that took time to build. Sadly they all realize this too late. Im with you there on moving on and not looking back
True , it’s been a month since being horribly dumped. For weeks I was a mess.
The grief has passed , now it’s a mix of anger and ambivalence 🤷♂️
She can have whatever it is she has now . If she ever comes crawling, I ain’t gonna be there. Why should I . And I loved her to bits. You asked me not to reach out again, you got it..
@@kristypham8130 That's great! I did this...and honestly, I've never been happier.
colCollins It took me a good six months to move on. When you do, its the best feeling in the world. But you've gotta go through the grieving process first
Probably already been said, but my buddy put it this way that struck a cord for me:
No matter what mental issues, depression, confusion your ex felt that caused the breakup, of they come back remorseful and wanting to make up after a rebound, think of this:
You’ve been improving yourself. Your mental health. Your physical well being. Your career. Your intelligence. You have improved. Meanwhile, what have they done? They’ve been with other dude/chick. You are only demeaning yourself if you get back with them and that’s not self-love.
My dream is the minute he comes snooping around. He fought tooth n nail till I got an order against him. That very second he got back with his ex.
I anticipate the day she doesn't work out yet again (big time cheater, filthy housekeeper, 3 kids all neglected)
And he tries to come around. I have what I wanna say right in my head. I will NOT DISGRACE MYSELF and lower myself to this. Thanks tho, flattering.
I partially agree with you, but what if they truly show change, remorse, and willingness to work things out genuinely? I believe in second chances unless they come back the same. If she changes, and you know it's genuine, why not? Holding grudges for life will only make your own life difficult and harder to appreciate stuff
@@heartymcdurianzi thought this way she proved so much change and remorse. Just to cheat again many months later. Or they got the other dude they are still talking to him just incase you break up again
Yup
One size doesn’t fit all, especially if you were the cause of the break up. They might not need to change anything
Many would disagree, but I think, that people who can forgive are the strong ones. Don't get me wrong - I'm not saying that moving on is weak. I'm just saying that it's not wrong to let an ex back into your life. Forgiving someone and not taking revenge is a sign of strength of the heart, which few posses.
Indeed
True
dont be a fool.
Couldn’t agre more
@@widf1l699 I don't think it's being a fool at least in my case. This woman was my everything both in our mid 20s and together for 6 years. We were bestfriends since she was 13 and both madly in love then a little later on had 2 beautiful baby girls at 19. If she wants to come back at some point I would be willing to make it work so long as she showed me she was ready and willing to show me change.
I know it’s hard, but don’t look @ a rebound like a negative. That only makes them realize there’s only one of you. My best friend and his girlfriend were together for a year and split because they were both going through things. After6 months they came back together and both admitted to messing with someone else. They got back together and now have been together for the last 8 years. If it’s meant to work it will. Just focus on bettering yourself atm!
If you wana let another person disrespect you by sidelining you and o ly then realizing you were actually of value. If it takes hooking up with someone else for the person u care about to realize your value then they are NOT worth it. Period. Save the heartache. Respect yourself.
@@mr.fettesq.7705 what if you messed up and they left?
@@mr.fettesq.7705as sick as it may sound or seem..sometimes they need to go see if that grass is greener for them to realize what they had was better and y’all problems wasn’t as bad as they thought they were.
They always come back, always. What you decide to do when they try is completely your decision but also keep in mind, everyone has a past, 9.9/10 your partner was with someone else before you in the first place
@@Jay410S having a past before u enter the picture is way tmdifferent then someone leaving u to go ran around with other men or women to then just come back to you. That type of behavior is way to tolerated. It's disrespectful. Nobody should put up with it because then you are essentially accepting a second place back-up trophy. Don't be a back up or else he/she will treat you and look at you as a back-up and makes it more likely for that type of thing to just happen again down the road
@@mr.fettesq.7705
Sorry, but I took a huge L with her and got way too cocky assuming she would never leave me for my horrible attitude, and once she was gone, I realized I messed up. Of course, I would take her back because this wouldn't have happened if I did her right the first time. Circumstances matter, my friend.
Depending on the person, ignoring the person does work. Don’t be friends with an ex while they’re with a rebound. You’re giving them the best of both worlds
Never ever be friends with an ex, especially if they enter into a new relationship in less than two months, they already had that person lined up on the bench in the waiting. And that is narcissism, and that's sick.
After the rebound you should just leave them alone, move on, the world is full of interesting people
@Petros K learn from your mistake and let it guide you in your next relationship, which will be 10 times better than the one you just had, i guarantee - granted you learn from your previous short comings.
Why would you want someone back after they threw you away to have sex with someone else ???? F### that !
To each his/her own. Some people think differently.
I had sex with more girls then my ex girlfriend who only had one guy :D am i the bad guy? :D
Coach Lee I got broken up with a month ago, didn’t do no contact the first week after the break up didn’t know about it, then I went into no contact acting like I was busy (which I was) and a month later my ex blocked me, while I was doing no contact. It’s over completely isn’t it?
Christopher Vibe It is.... If you try to get back together it may go well for a month or two then she will turn into a monster and destroy you because she feels like she can abuse you and you will just come back.
@@christophervibe7430 well look you should be sleeping with new girl already, because life is short
The signs that someone is rebounding with you is, they call you babe on a first date. They want you to stay the night a lot. They will give you the love they wanted to give to the previous person. They might even tell you they love you in a weeks time. Then one day they disappear or their communication gets less frequent and you already know who they are back talking to. No expectations, no heartbreak.
looool so true
My G
Yup😩
Oh shit I’m the rebound.🙄🙄😩😩
Yep I'm a rebounded
I don’t do rebound I take time to myself and heal .that’s makes you realize where you failed.Take your time and heal
That’s good. I wish you could tell my friend that. She was separated for a month but less than a month later some stray Venezuelan boy ran into her talking about having a relationship with him already they had a baby due to a One Night Stand, then they eloped after they had it, she barely knew him.
Same 👍🏼💪🏼
Wish everyone is good like you .to heal their hearts first before getting a new realationship..i was once a reboundee and it was really suck hurts..it was so unfair..
To the men specifically: I know you love them. I know you do. I still love my ex more than anything. BUT, she rebounded. She threw out what we had and is getting railed by another man. I’ll never take her back. She strung me along for 6 months and was with him the entire time. She dug her grave and now she has to lie in it. Don’t take them back, RESPECT yourself more than that.
If they give a piece of their soul to someone else, consider them dead.
I’m in the same boat. She had an emotional affair which I also think rose to physical. 14 years but I’ll never take her back because I could never trust her snd it disgusted me that she was someone else.
Yep. Simple. Period.
She came back?
But i was the one hurt her during our relationship, i took her for granted and neglected her feelings. So i am open to taling her bacl
@@yespls800 same bro same.
guys, remember anybody who has a rebound relationship did this because its too hard to accept the breakup. its a psychological response to stress. they dont even know what theyre doing. my ex found a guy after a few days. they are now doing everything that we used to do together and its been 2 weeks. it baffled me at first, but i realize shes going to have to go through the stages for her to realize she just wants me back.
My ex fiance has been with his rebound gf for almost 4 months.. can't believe he took her every where we used to go. 💔
Did she want you back?
What happened?
Absolutely true, my ex dumped rebound , came back, i asked her if she aware of what she is doing, then she left me and Went back to previous rebound LOL
@@Iam-God-g1t you did the right thing, she has no loyalty.
I’m tired of having false hope. I don’t want my ex back if she chose to be with someone else..... she made the decision to kick me out of her life, why do I want to go back with her? I deserve better.... everyone here deserves better in this comment section
Me. I gave him everything and treated him like a special human. Never cheated, never lied never hurt him. Now 4 months later his living with his co worker and her son. I deserve better💔
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Everyone is saying are u willing to take them back after they got with someone else.. Yes I would.. because I love them.. and I messed up too.. it is something u can overcome.. people all over the world are still together after those times in life.. humans do that shit.. all the time.. u better believe it.. it's so common.. they question is do u love them enough to want to be with them.
DNA Tru Lyricist that’s because it’s usually a bad idea,they usually leave again when things get a little hard because there’s no perfect relationship and it’s hurt 10 times more when they do.
DNA Tru Lyricist no. Hes living and sleeping with her after 4 months of break up. 7 years wasted
@@lordsith952 well I was saying if they still wanted to be with u.
THANK YOU
I agree, both partners frequently make mistakes. For my part I will never go back with an ex I left 6 years ago. He had repeatedly tried to make me jealous with a girl, I freaked out & completely ghosted him. I was heartbroken to hear that he had dated that very same girl for 3 years after I left. Last summer I unexpectedly stumbled on a radio program he was co-hosting. He had chosen the discussion subject: "revenge dating". It was really weird, many things he said seemed to apply to our past relationship. At one point he said that the length of a relationship means nothing at all, that it's possible for a man to date a woman for years without being in love. He seemed quite emotional & his colleagues teased him about his "real life experience". It was only after hearing that show that I was able to forgive him, because I messed up too. I mean, ghosting someone you love is cruel. However, time has passed, we live in different countries & we both moved on, so I will never attempt to contact him.
Sometimes we have to view our relationship from another perspective view, even if they sexually/emotionally cheated and chose a rebound over you. Why you two broke up? And when he/she was with you, did they treat you right? If they treated you right, focus on the reason for breaking up, did you treat them right, or did you neglect them in some way, or not give them enough attention? Do not focus on his/her rebound because it’s their problems to be solved not yours. It’s just their way to heal their pain so let them do it and they will learn a lesson. Not all the people are cheating or having a rebound that they are narcissistic or underestimate your value, maybe just because they have some past trauma and self-esteem, unlovable issues to heal and to learn. Trust me they maybe didn't want to hurt you but when they don't know how to love themselves, how could they love you the right way? Learn to solve your problem first and respect your exes if they did love you and treat you right before. Do not judge a whole person for just one mistake they did. If you see clearly that they aren't worth fighting for, just moving on with your life.
This is value packed
well said
Very well said. My ex left me for her previous ex and I felt this. Some days are harder than others. It hit the ego hard at first but I do hope she is doing well. She always told me how well I treated her and how toxic her ex was but her I am sitting alone haha probably some familiar unhealed childhood trauma
Well said. Exactly what my ex did. On top of it her rebound is with a coworker who has a wife and 3 kids. Of course his family doesn't know about his affair
@@billyb3105 I’m in the same situation, are you in no contact, do you still want them back ?
hahaha, that's what happen to my ex. Trust me rebound fails, always.
GM Razu50 how long did they lasts
GM Razu50 how long did it last ??
Only 3 month 😂🤣
GM Razu50 you are a true hero thank you sir and you have a great day
made me believe in my plans now morethan ever
It actually depends on the reason of ur break up
My story: My ex dumped me after five years of romance, eight years of friendship. She'd been thinking about leaving me for at least a year, maybe as long as two years, so she had a lot of time to process this.
I'm sure it was hard for her and hurt, but she did it. There was, on my part, no cheating, abuse, judging, gaslighting, not communicating, etc. But I still wasn't good enough for her. She just felt she wasn't getting what she needed from me and I didn't measure up or prove my love to her. I'd been in a few relationships in my life. I was in my fifties when I fell in love with her. She was my one. Deep. True. We were friends. Really. There was commitment, companionship. She even acknowledged that. We were family. It was easy being with her. Until it wasn't. I was happy, at peace. I didn't fear she would leave. I was naive, trusting, and missed signals.
She actually talked about how she was a catch, and men were interested in her. She was a restless, discontented, "grass is greener" somewhere else person.
She was in a rebound relationship within two weeks of me leaving.
That only lasted for a few weeks.
She jettisoned that poor slob and was immediately with someone else.
That next rebound relationship lasted almost two years. He was physically/verbally abusive, according to her. How do I know? She came to see me right after she finally broke up with him. She was emphatic in stating that there was no chance for us and never would be and that I shouldn't get my hopes up. I did, of course, and I didn't play it well. Shot myself in the foot several times. It was only AFTER this happened that I stumbled across tutorials from Coach Lee, and several others (Clay Andrews, Coach Corey, Dr. Les Carter, Alan Robarge, etc.) that talked about how people will say one thing, but it's not always what's really going on, or a state of mind that's set in stone and will never change...and that often people will say the opposite of what's really going on in their hearts. Often, they don't even know their own minds/hearts. But when she came back to have an "anniversary drink" with me, I didn't know this stuff. I accepted everything she said at face value and I panicked and I blew it. (Though, in the long run, it's for the best as she was an immature narcissist who lacked/lacks empathy, mercy, forgiveness, kindness, acceptance, etc.I still love her, but she has her own path and a long way to go. )
Within a week, or two, of seeing me - to "test the waters" perhaps? - she started yet ANOTHER new relationship which continues to this day. Maybe this one will stick. If not, she'll very likely get right into yet ANOTHER relationship. How she rolls, for all the reasons Coach Lee touches on. She's a long way, if ever, from taking a year or two to get in touch with herself, grow up, find peace, forgiveness, grace, clarity, and so much else.
MY LESSONS:
Sometimes a love that can seem SO real, SO good, SO deep, meaningful, true and beautiful, even healthy, can be one-sided. We can create entire realities in our heads and hearts that the other person doesn't share, even when it seems so much like they are. It's heartbreaking because often the two of you can even have wonderful conversations about how this is a shared reality!
What's a person to do when there is such deception?
When what seems like a strong castle is, instead, a house of cards built on sand?
It's frustrating. It's life. Yes, there are red flags and signs, but sometimes, even the older-but-wiser among us can be duped.
SO, learn how this person interacts with their family. How they feel about them, how they treat them. Huge lessons there.
Learn how they treated their romantic partner before you, if there was one.
Watch. What they say and do. Especially what they DO!
If they kick you to the curb when you've done nothing really wrong - there was no cheating, lying, abuse, ignoring/taking for granted, emotional abuse, shaming, manipulating, etc. - EVEN if they were the love of your life, count your blessing they left and NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER take them back. Understand what they did, that it was likely hard for them, even if they're a narcissist/sociopath/borderline personality. (Though narcs and the like don't take it very hard in the scheme of things. Plus, that's one of the purposes of the rebound relationship. Transference, distraction, emotionally-medicating, status, replacement/repudiation of you, etc.) Have that compassion and empathy and remember the good times and the love that was there - at the very least on your side (and give yourself some good credit for that!) - but MOVE ON.
Realize that anyone who REALLY saw you, accepted you, valued you, and cared about you, would never have kicked you to the curb because of their own confusion and restlessness. That's their unprocessed, unresolved baggage. They projected it all on you, and blamed you. In the end, they DIDN'T care about you, they DIDN'T love you, they DIDN'T value you, they DIDN'T take your feelings into consideration. They put themselves first based on their own biases, fears, unresolved anger, demons, blame, shame, grief, abandonment issues, etc. Not that you have no personal responsibility or acted flawlessly or perfectly, but in most cases, when you have been "true blue" and acted with the best honor, integrity, loyalty, vulnerability and honest communication you could muster AND THEY STILL KICKED YOU TO THE CURB, move on, consider yourself lucky, learn, respect yourself, value that you can love that much, selflessly. Take some time to heal, settle down, find some peace, accept, forgive, find clarity.
I've taken four years, now in my fifth year. I've struck out in all my relationships, going back 40 years, so I'm done. (I had a tradition of picking narcissists/borderline personalities/sociopaths, so that's my stuff! Finally figuring it out! Better late than never, thank God!)
I recommend to anyone to take at least a year break. If it was a really deep, long-time (three years or more) love, two or even three years is ideal. But there's no set timetable. Everyone is different. BUT an absolute for ALL: Do NOT jump into a rebound relationship! DO.NOT.
Finally, if they want to stay in touch in some way, be friends, etc., and you're in a place where you can manage that, by all means, do that. But be wary, and guard your heart. This is now all about you and self-care. Often, they may just want to see if you're still on the hook, feed their ego, etc., especially if they're the immature, confused, unconscious person they sure acted like when they kicked you to the curb and did the serial rebound relationship trip! It's almost mathematical. QED. Cause and effect. Where there's smoke, there's fire...Blah blah. You thought you saw their true colors, a la the Cyndi Lauper song. NOW, actually see their REAL True Colors. BUT see yours first! That's a super-power. Then, you can take on virtually anything, handle anything.
Good luck! (And luck is a major player in love, unfortunately.)
Thank you for sharing that
@@no89lan3 You're very welcome and thank you!
Sir, Your experience seems valuable. Can you share more ? I am an empath. All my life I have ignored Red Flags. But this time, It was fatal. It was like a shark attack. It was brutal.
@@urvashisingh2135 Thank you sir! I learned a lot, mostly the hard way, which is kind of how we humans are wired. We have to face the fire. The truly wise listen and heed the advice of those who faced that fire. But that wasn't me.
I don't know what else I can offer, beyond what I wrote above. I will say it's only my perception, my observations, and it sure doesn't apply to all, and all cases. I am sorry you were attacked and it was brutal. Obviously, it wasn't literally "fatal" or you wouldn't be commenting. LOL.
But we both know that for many broken-hearted lovers, it did turn fatal. How many thousands, even millions, over the centuries have taken their lives? A few additional thoughts, for what it's worth (and some re-stating what I said before): luck plays a huge role. Happenstance. And there's not much we can do about that. Fate. I've had deep conversations with the few couples I know who stayed together, some 40, 50, even 65 years. They powered through. One couple found their soulmates and were smitten for life. But that's probably 5% of us. Maybe. Most people I know have LOST the true loves of their lives. Of course then people always say "Well, then that person wasn't the love of your life!" Yes, some truth to that, but tell that to our hearts. And such a flip, pat thing to say, really. Like "Time heals all wounds." It doesn't. Not really. What most of these "survivor" couples told me is that at some point, they both fully committed to the relationship and they had the strength, fear, certainty and uncertainty to do that, to be "loyal." That was a word that kept coming up. "Loyalty." And "honor." And "committment." But these are rare qualities in our current society. (And maybe always?) Too much "grass is greener," and change-the-channel choices. Remote controls for remote people. A lot of starter relationships/marriages. If you're the first, second, or even fourth or fifth serious lover, you're probably too soon in the game of romantic musical chairs. Not saying being early in means one is doomed, but it's something to keep in mind, especially harkening back to what I wrote about "luck." This is one small way to stack the deck a WEE bit in one's favor. Maybe. As people burn through relationships, and get burned, they grow, hopefully in mostly positive ways, and also get weary, resigned, not so picky, etc. Or they can. But not all. Some get to that place of more acceptance, more unconditional love, less judging, pickiness, checklists, etc. Of course, some go the other way.
Really try and suss out these qualities in a prospective partner. And be alert to lip service. Are they really accepting? Non-judging, non-blaming, with few, if any, expectations? Remember: none of us "deserve" anything. We are not "entitled" to anything. It's not our jobs to fix others. It's not our job to put people on pedestals and prop up their frail, insecure egos, or prove ourselves over and over; prove our "love." That's not love. Are they truly loyal? Committed? Of course I realize the ironic contradiction here as relates to what I wrote earlier about waiting 'til one is Mr/Ms. fifth or sixth lover. If a prospective partner has plowed through a bunch of lovers, what does that say about their loyalty? Not a good track record, though we could hope they're older and wiser.
Now, if they were the ones left, that's a different story.
Find all this out.
Pay attention to what they say about their previous lovers. That can be very telling, and likely what they will say about you down the road.
Hmm. I guess I did have more to say. Ha ha. Again, watch what they do, not say. Don't get swept up in emotions and lose yourself in it all, as intoxicating and fun as that can be. Reality check with family and friends who know you! Listen to their objective assessment of you and this new lover. And I mean LISTEN, and take to heart.
Hope this helps. Good luck. Again, at the end of the day, a lot does come down to luck, unfortunately. Sucks.
Oh, and please don't waste your time or life trying to get an ex back, even if you loved her/him like a hurricane. If someone left you, hurt you, threw you away, they didn't love you, I don't care how much they might say they were "confused, scared, messed up, etc." I have empathy for their immature confusion, but it's a screaming signpost of their emotional instability and cavalier ways. Expect more of the same if they reel you back in...I'm not saying never give anyone a second chance, but I'm 99% saying that. LOL. Take care of you!
@@davidnyro19 Thank you so much for sharing that. It is very familiar to what happened to me. Take care....
Looks like a was the rebound after all. A rebound that lasted for a year.. what a shitty thing to do to another human being.
welcome to modern dating where everyone’s hurting everyone in this vicious cycle
it’s the worst. my ex is going to hurt this girl so bad.. or shes going to hurt him. lack of emotional intelligence
Most folks are shitty human beings these days
I can empathise. I was the rebound too, one that lasted 20 months & involved living together. I'd supported him with anxiety issues stemming from his wife leaving him & yet he had no care for the trauma & anxiety he caused me when he suddenly ended things.
Even if I don't get back with him- you are helping me calm down about our breakup. Thank you
My ex was already seeing someone before breaking up with me and I just even discovered they are on vacation and having a cool time. Wow life ..
Stay strong and improve yourself. You can never take that person back.
GuitarGuy thanks .. u right no need to take such a person back . Thank God I was able to see certain things .
Trust and believe that person was in the back burner . Keep on moving forward and never look back . Show that person what u really made of .
Walter Estrada yea u are right and it’s because of the new person that my ex decided to breakup with me so I let them be . God knows why.
Simon Ray keep ur head up . This is a blessing is disguise u just can’t see it yet .
I was the rebound😓 I felt all this and told her she needed to figure out what she wanted and that I don’t do rebounds. She said it wasn’t so but all the anxiety and being unsure showed me she wasn’t over her ex. Very toxic situation that’ll leave you questioning yourself if you’re not strong enough.
Same here bro. Obviously she told me she left me because she wants to focus on her kid. But, we know that’s a lie. Baby daddy drama
@@Bubby4myTummy if she has a kid it is better yo run
Confirmed my suspicion she slept with her bandy daddy the same week she ended it.. now she’s pregnant lol.
Same here bro, she let me feel and said that she will not dive into our relationship if she was not sure of me, then her ex comes back and she became confuse all of a sudden and it's alone time again
how long yall kicked it?
I had always suspected that people will 'force' a relationship that was born out of a bad breakup or a cheating situation or even other factors such as family disapproval etc. in order to 'prove' that the choice that was made, was in fact the 'correct choice', I did not know there was a term for it. People who do this will put up with negative behaviors that they would not have previously had done if only to prove to themselves that they were right, it's not sustainable.
Omg. So true. I just went through this
I’m going through this now my ex is trying to prove a point that he made the right decision by rebounding quickly after me . Although mine is still fresh it’s been 5 months , I have a feeling I’ll have the last laugh .. he’s showing her off and making it be known he’s with her due to his family disapproving on how he got with her , he was already monkey branching with her then when our breakup was official immediately got with her and is claiming to be in love and marry her lol
She just came to me yesterday after her rebound failed,😂😂😂😂😂 now it's my decision what to do with her, trust me guys it's working.
How long did you do NC?
i'd just make her a boodie call !
Abuu Hozza update?
update?
Update!
never tell how you feel . let them imagine , never give certainty . when you tell them what they want to hear . she knows she is at safe place so she can look up for new stuff , but if you dont give that validation . she will be only thinking about you just because they are unsure about how you feel that is the first step of falling in love , we are in a bad mood and always thinking about them cuz we are uncertain about how they feel about us . we dont get that validation cuz we are not hearing about them so we are thinking about and obssessing about them . it is just a ego game we need to out grow this , if they tell you right away i missed you all day i love you so much etc. then we will lose respect and forget about obsessive thoughts about them cuz we are sure and valideted now . you see how funny brain works .
This is very true.
Damn. I already told her and spilled all my emotions that I loved and missed her smh :(
isnt it crazy, but you are exaclty right
I listened to this and it helped me realize that I was the rebound relationship. I don’t think he ever moved on from his wife, and he tried to make me the light at the end of the tunnel. That was hard to realize but it helped me move on. To all of those going through a breakup , it gets better. Focus on yourself and know that it’s better to be alone than to be with someone who doesn’t love or appreciate you.
You guys are lucky for even knowing that your exes are rebounded. Mine left me clueless about everything.
Same
Same just treat it like a rebound and while you are "waiting" you invest in yourself so if it really happens you are over them already.
Same here. Six months I had no clue my buddy was banging my ex after she dumped me four weeks earlier... Extremely humiliating... 😡
Is rebound relationship had sex too? I'm so down always thinking that my ex gf had sex with her rebound relationship and she said that it's not a rebound.. after we break up after 1 week she had a new boyfriend 😭😭
@@norellmarksalaan9587 you really shouldn’t be worrying about what your ex is doing in her rebound, show her that you’re better than that.
I've been in no contact for a little over a month now, and I can say.. the comments section in this channel has given me hope to trust the process and hopefully get back or move on from my ex.
Keep the hope! We are all here for hope 😘
These videos have helped me so much! However I've also come to the realization that I was likely a rebound as well. Went through all these phases, and once I ended it he was with someone else within a week 😅 my ego was shattered but now after 3 months I feel indifferent toward him, wish him the best and sincerely hope he's capable of following through for this new girl. I think the hardest thing is your anxiety will tell you they're everything for her they could never be for you when in reality they're still their same dismissive selves but the relationship hasn't had enough time to self destruct.
Heal yourself and attract healed people. ❤️
This guy by far is the best of the best. He makes good sense and he knows what he is talking about. And he talks in soft voice with lots of wisdom. Guys take notes.
he really be the best around, understands both from logic and emotion
@@ignaciobrizzio3999 human nature too
Why would someone buy back an old car for the same price after it’s been driven on the track by someone else?
Because you find out it's the best car you've driven, due to all sorts of familiar quirks or features. And also a lot of sentimental value.
Un1234l What would it mean to you if you found out your ex slept with someone in the back of it? What would the car mean to you then?
Slossage17 sorry, but you’re one-sided idiot
all the girls slept with someone, you also sleep now with someone ex. So what? what a childish possessiveness
It is a vintage car and the value is great
I came here intentionally to say this... My ex (from work) rebounded with another girl (also at work) about 12 months ago. Just as I was about to reach out to my ex as I had come to a place of acceptance, they broke up, just before their 1 year anniversary. Honestly, so many days of suffering and I FINALLY have some justice. I'm pretty sure my ex was the one that was dumped.
is your ex reaching you ?
They were definitely rebounding and had an expectation that it would go the distance in an attempt to make it look real to everyone around them.
Did he reach out?
I wish I can see this for my ex...
My ex is in a rebound relationship we broke up 4 weeks ago today.... crazy she trying to move on, self improvement and no contact is my best ally
Let the new guy have her expired tuna fish taco🤢
What's up now bro? :)
I'm in the exact same situation right now. We broke up three months ago, I moved out one month ago. I called her the day after I moved and told her I regret breaking up with her. She said she wanted to work on herself before considering to work on us(yeah right). I did no contact for a month, she started dating another guy and let me know via Facebook relationship status. I'm currently just focusing on myself and continuing no contact. She'll be back.
Update?
@@GoranZ1 Did she comeback?
The question is. Are you willing to take them back after they got with someone else?
Praxy Yeah depends on the love
That is the question.
Absolutely not but I want him to want me back. That’s all I want.
Depends on what we had. It was all just a superficial relationship then no. But if the commection was deep, i probably would rethink.
@@@asmallbitchybananagood point. But if it was deep in the first place, they would have not went and got with another person.
I know my self when it comes to the feels department. I hold on even until the very end. Even if they tell me they don't want to see me or talk to me, of course I would give them what they want but deep inside im still holding on. Grand gestures? even if it works or not, I will do it. But I do have a limit and that's my limit. Because it goes down to principles now. No matter how much in love I am with you, my principles are still more valuable.
Sometimes when people hurt so bad I ignore it then I realize they were affecting me and my mindset
Crazy timing. I was just thinking about how my ex and her new man were doing (I shouldn’t be doing that I know). Excited to watch this tho!
So true. My ex came back with a grand gesture of even moving states to be with me after 4 years way too late, because I’m watching this video for a completely different break up and am so beyond uninterested for someone I once wanted so bad lol funny how life works. Hopefully this current situation will end up the same.
Never work backwards. If your ex wants you back, the let them, but move on. Always moving forward. Going back to an ex to me, is never a good idea. You already know it didn’t work out the first time and you know what to expect. A clear case of “been there done that”
this man is the most correct at describing things! my ex after 2.5 months ended her rebound! when she made it look like the love of her life while cloning our relationship to the level of the same BD necklace! I just keept trusting this wonderfule coach Leestien. Thank you for helping me thru the tuffest time of my life! I keep repeating ( usually this is good news for you).
Wonderful. Sadly mine is dating a psychotherapist and he knows what to say, and to do. They've been together for six months now
@@tr9809 no worries, show you are stronger. That guy will Boeing her by trying to fix her. I got my ex back. She left again BC she acted very bitchy and with disrespect so i pushed her away by telling her i wont tolerate that and considring my self respect more important than anything. I wrote that i like her and want to be with her but we are not on the same wave. Wished her well with another guy or with me and entred nc again. I hope she fix her self and comeback.
Eros Vera update ?
Is rebound relationship had sex too? I'm so down always thinking that my ex gf had sex with her rebound relationship and she said that it's not a rebound.. after we break up after 1 week she had a new boyfriend 😭😭
Coach Lee is like the Michael Jordan of breakups and relationships lol
I’ve been following your advice for months now and Im on the brink of a breakthrough with my ex & I came back to refresh myself on all the points you make and I have to say that everything has played out verbatim to what you describe so far. We aren’t out of the woods yet but there is progress... many thanks Coach Lee 🙏🏻
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How’s your situation now mate? Hope everything is going better then ever 🤞🏻
My ex (now boyfriend again) went into a rebound relationship and I had no clue until he told me upon getting together.
Throughout the painful breakup, I listened to coach lee daily and went into complete no contact around 2 months after the breakup.
My ex got in touch at around the 52 day mark and was very clear that I was the one for him! You HAVE TO listen to coach Lee and do the work.
I started studying, I changed my hair, nail colour etc and started feeling good. The key thing is that the work needs to continue even when you get back together. Having a strong sense of self is attractive to a man.
Keep going, no contact works!!!!
Respect yourself. Why does it take the physical comfort and hookup of another person for your ex to realize your worth? Ask yourself that question. You are much better then that. Even the playing field....see if your other can handle the same scenario and if he can then maybe...if not then you have your ultimate answer
How you going 6months later S L?
@@jacqui8392 I didn't continue to focus on my self development upon getting together and also found out that he continued sleeping with a rebound for about a month after getting together. We went away on holiday, lots of arguments and he broke up with me around month ago. I'm absolutely devastated, depressed as he had introduced me to his family etc but back in no contact. I know where I went wrong, and.I can see why attraction dropped. I've got myself a personal trainer and and I'm hoping we can reconcile. He seems to be going through the stages a dumper goes through which is a good sign. He was mean to me at first when I tried to convince him to stay, but I went no contact. Now, he is the first to view my statues etc which shows he is a little curious. I've been in no contact for about 3 weeks with the off message here and there. But as of last Friday, I've gone radio silence. I will also stop posting on my status so that the curiosity grows more. It's hard.
@@sl3904 dear lord, where you went wrong was taking him back after all of his frivolous behaviors! You took him back regardless of it. You didn't put your foot down and took him back regardless. This is where you went wrong and it lowered your value. You begged him to stay and he lost it for you. You take him back again....? And he knows he can leave and go as he pleases.
Have some self respect and never go back again. Otherwise it's your fault now
@@mr.fettesq.7705 Not that simple. I had specific asks that he did carry out, so yes I did put my foot down. I didn't beg either. He introduced me to his family, he booked the holiday, all on this own back. The fact is, I also made mistakes which included being argumentative, taking him for granted and not having enough of my own life. I have self respect, otherwise I would attempt and have previously been successful at no contact.
Dude… I wish I would’ve found this video sooner, I’m not using this as confirmation of the signs I’ve been noticing but this video has given me clarity and motivation to keep on fighting the good battle of this period of no contact. Thank you Coach Lee!
Hey coach,
I'm not sure if this will get lost in the comments or not but you have such great advice. My ex left me around 7 months ago and I stumbled upon your channel. My original plan when her and I were together was to move closer to her after I got out of the Navy at the end of this year, since we were about 5 hours apart.
I was to focused on her that I didn't focus on myself. I was torn between moving closer to my family and being with her. Now that I followed your advice and did no contact, I've been feeling so much better. I'm registered for college full time with a part time job working in a hospital already set up and I'll be closer to my family. I don't even want her back and you've helped me focus on myself so much. Anyone who walks out on your life and gives up on you for someone else is not worth having you in your life. You have value and don't forget that. Keep bettering yourself and you will be okay. It just takes time.
Very good! You are way ahead of the game.
Did your ever get out of navy ? What’s the update
Yes rebound relationship always fail even if the rebound is good looking. If they're mentally not ready and just jumped into a new good looking person, there's a difference between a physical connection and a soul connection that took time and commitment.
If my ex will have intimate with another person if he doesn't love her I can't take him back HE can't comeback to me
Thank you coach Lee. I watch your videos every night to help me get through this tough time and to stay in no contact. The knowledge and advice you give has helped me tremendously.
I followed your Teaching Coach Lee. And it is clear the short relationship is over. And I'm being stalked by Her through a fake Instagram account with fake pictures.
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This is like my 9th time watching this😂 I gotta make sure😑
Me too ! I watch it over and over lol when I feel down especially
I too gotta make sure to stay in No Contact
Lol I have watched this multiple times as well
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Me too. But sometimes i think my ex gf had sex her rebound relationship. She told me that her new bf is not rebound relationship 😭😭😭😭
I love this, thank you. Here lately I have been thinking a lot about my first love. Things ended on bad terms and eventually he stopped talking to me. That was 16 yrs ago and it still hurts. Daily. Looking back on his actions after we split I can see a lot of what you've talked about here and it's comforting. Thank you.
Really? Omg u are still thinking about ur first love that u broke up 16 years ago??? How close you were?
Damn 16 years and u still think frequently about him. Great im fucked
Omg!!! I was the rebound !!! It all makes sense now! Thank you
My Ex hooked up straight away with a close work colleague, he had known her for a while and are still together after 2 years. He has broken up the whole family for it and our teenagers won’t speak to him. I don’t want him back but would like the new relationship to fail.
Update ?
Ex (after no contact): do u like sherlock holmes
Me: yea i met a real life sherlock in the field of marriage and relationship while u were gone 😂
This is a REAL good video... I was feeling down today, glad I found it.. it feels like u lose all faith over time.. but all I know is I've tried everything else.. theres no other option then no contact!! And I swear to god.. I'm not giving up on it.. cuz it's been over a year.. and I still love this person.. things just dont get better over time.. when ur hearts broken.. when its real.. it's real hard. Even if it isnt hard for them... it can be years of pain for you. And I letting every phase and stage happen for them... and when they reach out.. I'll be here to say hi. :) I've just learned u cant show ur love.. but it dosnt mean it isnt there.. but it is here.. and waiting.
Best part about these videos is the comments. So much good information down here.
After listening to this I realise I just ended a two year rebound relationship. You describe the stages perfectly...I did not want to end things with my ex but I wasn’t happy and I just jumped into something new for distraction and fun. The rebound got attached quickly and struggled with insecurity the whole time sensing my mind was elsewhere. I did all the comparisons and Yes initially I did reach out to my ex and then try harder to make it work with the rebound. After 6 mths I told him “I love you but I’m not in love” just as you said but he was so devastated I pushed on. I guess the reason I didn’t end it until now is because my ex was never going to treat me the way I needed to be treated. And my rebound became obsessed with me and I convinced myself I loved him but it was only limerance. 😓
2 years!? You’re evil
So you're back with the ex or neither?
I dont even know if i want her back. 4 years together, engaged broke up with me for reasons i dont understand. Has gaslighted me at every opportunity and found out she was with someone else.
Quite frankly i just want my movie moment. Her relationship falls over, she comes back and wants to start again and i just go....nup
Hope this situation happen to me, saw her going out with her new bf alot. Damm this hurt me when she did the things we both always do together
Playing hard to get: I'm glad you said that. So many men I meet play hard to get right after they pursue me. Then when I ignore them, they get angry.
The narcissist is gone and he better not come back!!........ITS DONE😎 This is a
Great video for normal people though!!
^^^ Nailed It. ^^^
Everybody has a narcissist side to them
@@hafidhrendyanto2690 To a very small extent. But full blown is extremely tragic and toxic to people who think and reason along normal lines. Everyone has a certain amount of psychopathy...but Covert Narcs in the "B Cluster Group" are about the very worst!
@@darring.9161 I agree. If no one out there has been in a relationship with a "Cluster B" they will never get it and that's just a fact. I was with someone that had narcissistic personality disorder and it was clearly the worst relationship of my life and the hardest (hands-down) to recover from.
My experience as well, only mine was a 64 Old Woman who was a serial cheater and always projecting her guilt onto me but suggesting that I was the one doing it.
Refused to discuss anything in the relationship, displayed animosity and whorish behavior and generally a lot of the silent treatment and then after the discard...engaged in a very repulsive smear campaign on Facebook.
She'd regularly post "targetted memes" or accuse me of leeching or emotionally abusing her. She knew I caught up to her act red-handed, and as such...the discard.
A few weeks earlier she told everyone in my family at the Thanksgiving Dinner how I was the "Love of her Life"?
She would normally appear as the most adjusted and friendliest person you could ever meet in public, but beyond closed doors...she was downright degrading and evil.
She was always posting various things to make herself like a good and caring person, but in reality...she couldn't give two shits about anything.
Later on, she would attempt to triangulate my Mom too, but thankfully...she knew better and she knew my feelings for this Woman were very genuine.
She also jumped into the new supply 4 days in advance of the discard...but had been grooming him since August.
The discard was on November 14th and I braced for and accepted it.
I worked to keep it civil and without drama then she behaved very hostile and hateful towards me while I was packing my stuff to leave her.
It was like a whole different person I had never seen before...and it was scary. \
When I'd set my boundaries, she'd behave like an irate and little fiendish little girl, run to the bedroom and glared at me with this evil look from out under the covers, followed with more silent treatment or degrading comments.
I had never experienced such a painful and emotionally damaging breakup and I'm still very devastated over it.
I went from 227lbs to 180lbs very rapidly and also became agoraphobic, anxious, and depressed.
She'd even talk ill of her supposed best friends behind their backs as well but would do it in such a way that they'd never suspect it was her starting the rumor mills going on at work.
I hope I never have to experience this again.
She'd already hoovered me back once before, and I became too co-dependent on her also.
She had my full heart, but she stomped on it in the end and acted as if I was something that should've been killed! I always treated her well as anyone could and with high regard and respect and dignity, compassion, sincerity, etc.
I am more aloof now, and I will be even more guarded now with my heart and feelings.
One thing is certain, I will definitely need a good Psycho-therapist to deal with my emotional damages!
I was the victim in a rebound relationship with a girl who still had feelings for her ex and who was seeing him on the regular behind my back. Behind both of our backs.
In her mind, we were just dating. In my mind, based on the things she told me, we were in a committed relationship. She told me she loved me, how good of a role model for our kids I would be and blah blah fucking blah.
Are you just dating a person you talk about kids with? One can wonder..
She ended up just blocking me after our first vacation together and we haven't spoken since.
NEVER let someone treat you this way. Respect yourself more.
Well Now you have some insight,do yo thang friend,take care of your priorities ❤
Coach Lee is the Truth..Seen a lot of videos but no one ☝️ breaks it down like him..Gotta love him 🙏🏼
I was someone’s rebound once the relationship only lasted 10 days
Thank you coach lee.
Two days ago I found out my ex of 11 years got into a rebound 2 weeks after he broke up with me. The worst is I had no clue especially because he was keeping my hopes by saying he loves me every two weeks. By saying I am the one, that he wants to have kids with me and build a family. And then I find out while he was constantly telling me this that he was with a persons. Even when I confronted him he still says he loves me and I’m the one. That he is/was with her because she gave him things I didn’t give him.
When I found out I was super understanding with him. However the day after (yesterday) I still tried to keep my calm but at night I was mad and angry and upset. Thank you for this video, I will do exactly what you said showing understanding and stepping way from all this drama.
Needless to say I feel completely betrayed and also feel sorry for the girl because she doesn’t even know he was all this time speaking with me and that we had sex several times while he was with her (I had sex with him not even knowing that he was with her).
In sum , shitty person he is. After 11 years never expected this.
I just found out right now that my ex-girlfriend already has a rebound relationship and it devastated so much i cry and cry
Trust me buddy, let me help you out. I was the rebound guy a month ago with a girl, and didnt work out. I notice she was emotional unavailable. Hot and cold. Distance. And its a headache to deal with her. Now she is back with her ex right away. Im a good person and treated the girl well, but wasnt enough. So stay calm, she will be back at you :) stay strong
bro, me and my ex broke up in january, buts always in contact cause we still loved each other and always making plans. This summer outta nowhere she got with a new guy, I'M DEVASTADED!!! you aren't alone in this, but yoo, no contact plz, do that! No contact will most likely bring her back, I just started no contact lets see how it turns out
It’ll be alright my guy I’m in the exact same situation right now, dated her for 2 years and found a new guy a month and a half later, he’s nothing special, he’s the first guy she ran into and nothing else, I don’t know if I want her back or not all we can do is focus on ourselves and time will tell who you’re supposed to be with
@Kartik Bora 2 weeks of no contact rigth now, she keeps watching my insta storys, don't know if it's working or not... I hope so...
@Kartik Bora how long were you guys dating?
I keep watching this, I love this, perhaps a video in ‘Grass is Greener on The Other side’
Coach lee.. You’re AWESOME!! It’s really because of disgusting lust, perversion, and, no loyalty, they cheat.. So why would you want your ex back after she’s been in a sexual affair with an obvious downgrade, doing God knows what with that person!! Johnny Depp said it best; “if you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second.” Society, Social media, technology has destroyed everything. NO CONTACT, is meant for self improvement!! The Hell with the unloyal Ex!! That person was not the TRUE LOVE!!! Four years being married, my ex cheated on me with a UGLY criminal that has kids!! She lied just to be him!! She desecrated her vows, so I know She’ll burn for eternity!! I’ve moved on. It’s been five months, but I know she’s miserable!!! She gave up my family(Who is well respected and AWESOME), her best friend, and me, just to sleep with him!! I can feel something is wrong because we had a strong BOND!! Let her SUFFER for what she’s done, for no woman DARES does what she did, and say they fear GOD, when they are the biggest Hypocrites!! Someone worthy of me and my love that is loyal and honest is waiting. I don’t need an unfaithful, lying, disgusting excuse for a woman for a partner. He can have her, like he had the prostitutes he paid for, and other skank women he slept with, only to use her. Karma is great!!
I think I was the rebound for a widower. We had a great relationship when he started distancing for a couple of weeks then just ghosted. He wasn’t ready. Coach lee, could you please do a lesson on dating a widower? There are so many out there in my middle age range. Thank you.
Its good to see u back coah lee u are one of the best after my break up i hunt utube for ur videos they helped me alot thank you
Unfortunately I was the rebound relationship for him. He had just ended things with his ex. He told me the love I showed him he was just very vulnerable and wanted to to be loved the way I loved him. This is crazy I’m seeing this video. He broke up with me when he had to step up to the plate. I walked away knowing I was a great woman to him and knowing my worth. 9 days officially no Contact
How long was it?
It’s been now 40 days no contact
Many people are known to say things to get what they want and need from other people… the true depth and history of your involvement in a brief rebound is hardly earth shattering commitment material. 🤷♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏿♀️🤦♀️
sweetheart...understand that since he just ended a relationship with someone and you said it yourself that you were the rebound, his ex could never be a rebound for him to come back to you while you are using no contact. please understand that no contact would work for you if he would not have been in a serious relationship prior to meeting you.
Hi Coach Lee could you do a video specifically on cheating and leaving you for someone else?
I was watching this video right after breakup. But Its been 3months now and he started dating someone else the first week since we broke up. (Of which I heard they might break up soon), and he started texting me.
But now rewatching this video, had made me realise how much I dont care now. I dont need some unwanted 'car" anymore.
update
my ex and i would break up all the time but we’ve never let more than a month between us..
it’s now day 66 of no contact and i’m starting to lose hope..
Same with mine I think it’s time to move on
Just over 2 months , hang in there ...some men even go six months but by that time with no contact then its time to def. Move on but if youre focusing on self improvement youd be healed and ready to date by that point so its a win win
Or... they are completely head over heels and find their "new" love of their life, get engaged, and start popping out babies. So much for a "rebound" just my flippin' luck
This is happening to me after being in a relationship for 7,5 years. Now she's sending me Snapchats about her new "better life without me". Ignoring and no contact are worth gold these days.
Rick Verheggen No contact is priceless
She's definitely trying to make you jealous. Which also means she's thinking about you. The loudest thing you can do is say nothing. Hope it worked out, or you were able to realize your worth and move on
I ended up here after searching to find out if I’m seeing a guy whose trying to rebound... and it appears I am... I’m a little disappointed. Think I’ll have the talk tomorrow night & suggest we get some space between us and hopefully he’ll think over things. It’s a choice to move on or not. Gotta respect a man with a kind heart. It’s not a bad thing to be attached. But it is a bad thing to try to start something with someone when you know you’re not over the past...
They've been dating for about 22 days and I've been on no contact for 17 days. Right now it looks like she's in in the phase where she's trying to prove it's an actual relationship. I mean they've escalated fast. But watching your videos help me gain confidence that this IS a rebound and it will end soon. Thank you Coach.
Update bro?
@Esdras Manrique k bro um they broke up after about a month. She hasn't reached out or nothing. But the guy who was her rebound did. He asked me why we broke up I told him she lost feelings, and THEN he told me he got her pregnant and I lost my shit. She probably got an abortion or took plan B. Now I'm on 9 months of no contact and I still think about her, and I have fell down into a dark path that includes alcohol, I'm only 19 years old and it feels like I've lived all the happy moments I could n now its all darkness
@@_prowlerofthenight_ damn bro I'm sorry to hear that. I'm also in a dark place hoping she contacts me. I dream of her every day now. I also feel like I can't be happy unless she's by my side. Stay strong bro 💪 🙏 💙.
@@esdrasmanrique6457 Right back to u, 💪 I recommend reflecting on your past relationship(s) and see how u can be a better boyfriend so that if and when she comes back you're a better man
@@_prowlerofthenight_ will do thanks.
My ex left me during the pandemic. Short time later got together with someone new, made a big song and dance parading him everywhere, making a big deal on social media. Got pregnant by him.
Fast forward 2 years, and the relationship dissolved.
😂😂Rebound relationships always end in Karma their intentions were to prove a point and hurt you but they wind up looking stupid , mine is fresh it’s been 5 months since my ex is with his rebound and they are talking marriage and having a child so I’ll like to see how everything plays out
Same here... He got the rebound pregnant and called me to say he is sorry for everything 😅😅 😢 let's see how it goes from distance
Update, they are still together. But they are struggling financially amongst this cost of living crisis.
My ex just made her new relationship "Facebook official," after six weeks. I want to call her out as a liar. She said there wasn't anyone else. She told me she needs to be alone. She lied to me. Although this fucking hurts, it helps.
I'm sorry to hear that man :( block her it's the only way =/
Mine did same , after 2-3 weeks ? 🙄
My ex said to me and his friend that he doesn’t want a relationship anymore ect , after tow months I think he met new girl and these days he is changing his WhatsApp picture so much ,basically is their picture together ,we are almost 6 months broke up and 3 months NC
@@gaoang3391 how long were you guys together
@@jboxer1231 16 months ..
47 days no callback, thanks for all ya support mate, if I had $$ I'd send you some 😊
Thought I’d leave a comment to those who need it and need reassurance during their breakup after their partner rebounded, I had someone for 5 years and who I thought would be forever. She rebounded after leaving me within a week and trust me it is the worst feeling in the world, there’s no denying it’s horrible at the time. However, as much as it seems like they are having the best time and have moved on and you’re out of the picture, it’s just not true. A few days ago she reached out after I kept in no contact for over a month (split up for 3 months currently) after failed attempts of me pleading for her back and belittling myself, saying she wants to sort things out and she wants me and no one else. But as everyone says, it’s once you are moving on that they want you back. Personally, I don’t want this person back, people are different but I can’t see a future there anymore. The first few weeks are the hardest parts to get through but once you get there, and stay in no contact, go to the gym speak to other people get yourself out there, your confidence will rise again and you’ll see your self worth. Trust me when I say that I would watch these videos everyday and still refuse to believe that the rebound relationship wouldn’t last, but yet they were so happy a week ago on social media? They simply can’t replace you that quickly, keep the head high keep yourself busy and you hear it a lot but truly focus on yourself, no one else!!
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This is such great advice. Thank you
I was hoping for reconciliation after my ex broke up with me during lock down and we were ldr. Less than 2 month he is rebound relationship. And he is talking abt marriage with this rebound chic he met online who took his phone and block me and deleted my fb. He told my by email. His rebound made me easier to let go n move on. We loved each other once but if he is willing to break up with me due to lock down then he didn’t love me enough. I deserve better.
Yeah covid destroyed my relationship
Sabrina Beh..... any updates??
I dont even know if my ex is dating a new person now or not.
Good for u
@@TheRenabaka lol she got back to me.. I hit and dipped out. She still wants me
day 86 no contact i guess she already loves the rebound within a month dang crazy how people can switch up in a blink of an eye
Still nothing she's going on 3 months with her rebound it's hard to say if I will ever hear from her again still makes no sense
Any changes?
So true. My ex texted me this am, he is moving on with someone after 40 days of NC.
You need to start reaching out. But you need to say the right things and ask the right questions. There's vids on how to reach out after doing no contact
They switch faster then relay..💯
What if rebound is with someone who he emotionally cheated with?
^^^
It will fail too
Thank you, Coach Lee, for always being here for us!!
I appreciate your kind words!
I was a rebound, and obviously I had no idea because he lied to me about when he broke up. Me thinking this is a real relationship with mutual love, and he used me to forget her. This hurts.
I got the same crap... he said he brokeup 7 month before, i found out he brokeup 2 months before he dated me. As soon as he brokeup he “fell in love with me”, after one month of actions and words and promises he started being emotionally distant... i asked million times if there is an issue, he would say shit like lot of work, tired, he kept saying he loves me and want a future with me and nothing changed... i couldnt take it anymore and brokeup with him. Till the last day he would keep saying he wants a future with me... what a joke... f...liar. Then i called him to verify if he is going to change, and told me he doesnt want to breakup and he wants to meet so we talk about our issues and fix things, i said ok, but he didnot call me.... then after 2 days he texted me asking how i was, i talked to him like nothing happened, like i was great. After that he never texted again, it has been 10 days since then, i guess trying to get back with his ex... what a shame, i believed on this guy because he did so much, he even introduced me all his friends and family....
So.much.yes. With the sum total of all his videos, and all he is touched upon, he’s touched so many facets of my own relationship with her it’s astounding and what has continued my attention.
Coach Lee, you look great, we missed you!
Coach Lee, ur by far the best coach there is out there. I have seen so many, and ur videos have so much experience, love ur videos.
All these phases are spot on, my ex got curious and started checking on me after 2 and a half months since the break up. She started coming back to this video game we use to play which she hasn’t played ever since we broke up. We had casual conversations and she even spent time playing it with me during the week of Christmas. I found it a little strange cause shouldn’t she be spending the holidays with her rebound? One conversation we had, I asked if she was doing okay and she dodged the question which left me confused. New years has passed and it’s now January. Since she already broke no contact, I decided to reach out to her this time. I messaged her on Instagram and said hey but she ghosted me. Not sure if this would be considered hot and cold behavior but I’m gonna say it is.
Hey piattos, are you guys together now ?
@@nikhilgarg1326 We are not, I’m happily with someone new now.
She was seeing how available you were and if you’d take her back with open arms instead of show strength and resilience and that you don’t need her. The ladder is what gets them back.
Now I know ,Sir LEE (coach)
. . . true WISDOM❤
good to see you again Coach Lee.
Even if ex seeks you out and you go back , the breakup will happen again . Do you really want to go through it again ? After a few months of no contact and following advice about becoming stronger you wouldn't won't them back . They could leave you again when you have children , get older , become ill , or get into debt . Then you'll wish you hadn't taken them back . To late .
Wanting to be back with an ex is a bad idea.. move on.. if they really love you they will never leave you.
Ourday Willcome period
True
truth.
I was in a rebound situationship... I had no idea he had just gotten dumped. I feel so used.
I tried too hard to be attentive during rebounds because I had frozen out my previous girlfriend and overcompensated with the new girls.
I was the rebound after her 7 year relationship. We then were together for 6 years. Now she's with a new man instantly after the breakup.
Taking someone back after they dump you is self degradation
You are now the rebound
You will never look at them the same way, the trust and respect is gone !
A mirror reflects reality
A broken mirror reflects the same thing !!! A new reality !!
Sloppy seconds
Crumbs from the table
Contaminated goods
New emotional baggage
Once your partner turns the relationship into garbage, you're just dumpster diving trying to re-salvage what you had !!
Good luck with your new choice
Vanish and let it burn 🔥 It will happen and then they’ll realise and come running back to you. Show them the boot when they do. Now that’s consequences and trust me you’ll feel like a million bucks