As much as people deserve empathy they deserve honesty even more. Someone in that woman's circle should tell her to be more realistic and she will have better outcomes. This "I am the table" mentality is going to leave a lot of people single and alone.
lets be real…its not just older men…its older men that can provide her a 1% lifestyle…and older man who living an average lifestyle based on his salary/retirement allowance is invisible to her
I’m 20 and I want to date much older women (mid 20’s, late 20’s, early 30’s 40’s, etc) but society (Reddit, Twitter, UA-cam, etc) says I can’t and shouldn’t. What should I do?
Let's not kid ourselves, 95% of man her age or older would date her, but she doesn't want them, she wants top 1% of man older than her because thats what she is used to, she dated that caliber of men her whole life and now she can't downgrade
@Just Another Commenter there are good men, she just picky. I dated a not very attractive guy. Didnt work because, his self-esteem was so low, he became very controlling.
Our generation are going to be the most miserable senior citizens ever. Don't let this be you, enjoy your life while your young, be grateful for what you have and age gracefully.
The game is front-loaded in life for women and back-loaded for men. However to be a truly beautiful woman is probably the most privilege one can have in life. SHE has been cashing out on it for literally 50 years and now that privilege is gone and she feels the way everyone else does now and is sad
@@onlytaylor8257 When you get something upfront it's guaranteed. If you get it later there's a chance later may never come. Most black men don't even live long enough to retire.
The most ironic thing about her...is in her 20's, SHE married a rich dude who was 20 years older than her. Now she's complaining that guys her age want younger women...
@@rosewishes2232 because when it was beneficial to her she loved it and when it stopped being beneficial, she called it a societal problem that needs to be fought against.
@@rosewishes2232 If you can't see the obvious irony...idk if my explanation will do any good, but I'll try: She's complaining about younger women doing EXACTLY what she did when she was their age. Now she wants to claim "ageism" because it's no longer working to her benefit. In other words: "Ageism" was perfectly fine when it benefitted her, but it's bad now, because she's on the other side of the equation.
As a young supermodel her dating options were limitless. Listening to an older supermodel complain about having limits within the dating world, that the rest of us have faced our whole lives, makes my eyes roll as far back in my head as possible.
Yep.... As a men, you'll be invisible for the most part of your life, not affection, sex, bad treatment, laugh at, rejected so many times that either you brake and stop caring about women or just be in a red pill rage 🙃
Exactly. Its almost as if she transitioned from being able to have all you can eat buffet meals every meal to only being able to get up to seconds or thirds per meal. Like even with the limits she would still be eating well
It’s also highlights a high level of entitlement and narcissism, brining This social justice isms and phobias in dating is reflects that. Like you said I’m sure in her prime she had the pick of the litter of men and now it’s gone she wants to cry about it
As hard as it is to hear (and probably even harder to implement), date personality and character over looks, because like looks, that type of practice never ages well. And ageism isn't the problem in this instance, she's caught up in her feelings because she is not what she used to be and because she chased superficial attributes, it is biting her back. Aging is a natural and normal process - I was an ugly mfer 10 years ago and now I am ugly and older (maybe a little wiser) - it is what it is
She dated older men because they had more money and were more mature. Looks came after wealth. Money isn't personality and character, but it's not really superficial either.
That being said, there is a baseline level of attractiveness necessary. Dating someone you're not attracted to is only going to make you end up hurting them
Truly Beauty is subjective, and I find we are our worst critics. Is there a global standard of beauty? Of course, but almost none of us live up to that. That's for the super wealthy who we watch on our televisions that can literally pay for surgical procedures to avoid aging naturally! Then some people hit the genetic lottery, but in my experience beauty is defined differently to each person.
As a woman I love growing older. I'm not as insecure anymore, I don't feel I need the same form of validation as I believed I need back in my 20s. I'm considered over my prime years by some, and that's okay too, I'm actually more comfortable with that. It's freedom of the mind and the role I felt I needed to fulfill to feel worthy. It made me value superficial things, and those things made me shallow and even arrogant at times. I hope I can live a long, healthy life, and I hope I will learn alot more... because the older I get, the more I realize I know not much. It's humbling, and that's a beautiful thing. And if a man or a woman wants to date a certain type, and I'm not falling into that category, that's perfectly fine too. I wish growing old would be more celebrated though, not in the 50 is the new sexy. But in the: it's amazing to grow older and experience this whole new mindset.
She is a woman of extreme privilege lacking self-awareness. She's not invisible. There are PLENTY of men courting her. They are just not to her standards. How many men were and are invisible to her? Instead of changing her standards just like her age has changed, she thinks she can keep the same standards she had in her 20's. That is an alternate reality that only a woman like her can occupy. A man would be ridiculed until the end of his days for doing the same. You two gentlemen hit the nail right on the head.
I'll be 30 this year but still look like I'm 16 years old. I can't count on my hands how many times I've been rejected by women around my age because of how young I look. There's pros and cons to everything in life just enjoy it for what it is and stop blaming everyone else.
Grow a beard, I have the same issue with a baby face. Although mines still growing to the length I want, it's helped me out, best of luck, I have been using garlic oil as a rub it helps. And also tastes amazing on pasta. Gl man.
TK. keep them fresh looks because once everyone starts losing hair and their chin starts getting bigger. you'd be like. I done told y'all ,pity me now, envy me later .
I usually get upset over my young looks, because I'll be 40 soon yet have been mistaken for early 20s and even as a high school student. 😱🤯 The baby face dilemma is something people don't want to talk about or assume we are being nasty or whining, but we aren't, we are just pointing out our issues and having a conversation over something that is similar in nature. Nothing wrong with discussing the matter. I agree we need to enjoy what we have and take it as it goes. Thank you for sharing your experience. PS: Do you get the feeling people just assume you are naive or know nothing just because you look so young? I get that a lot. Best to you and everyone else.
@@azura3277 bro some of us look young partially because we can’t grow out a beard (I physically can’t anyway because my facial hair doesn’t grow beyond a small moustache and besides in the military of my country you have to be clean shaven) so just saying “just do this one thing and it’ll solve your problem” isn’t realistic or relatable to everyone else
I think this lady is full of it. I'm looking at her and she's clearly an attractive woman. I'm sure there a men that would feel like winners if they were with her. I think the problem is that they're not the men she wants. Blaming this "issue" on agism is more than a little disingenuous.
She was married at 26 in 1989 until her husband past in 2019. I wouldn't put her in the same category as women who wasted their youth being a modern independent woman.
This is why it’s important to expand your dating options. When you restrict yourself, you wind up like this woman demanding we “change beauty standards” to accommodate her. There’s nothing to change on our end except her being open to the possibility of a relationship with a man her age.
She was just dating Aaron Sorkin, the 60yr old famous screenwriter who won an Oscar for the Social Network, but she’s invisible? I do understand her not wanting to date a 20yr old (the age of her son) at 50 but she has to look outside of her preference. Also, I agree with Aba, fighting sings of aging is a losing battle and there is much more a person has to offer. I hope she’s successful finding a meaningful relationship.
She’s so used to her looks getting her everything she wants that now she thinks somethings wrong with the world when they don’t. Ron White said beauty fades but stupid is forever.
My Nana gave me the best advice right around puberty. She said never go for looks or money because as you age both are usually gone. You will only find happiness in a partner you share common interests and enjoy a great conversation with. Find someone you can sit next to and you don't fill obligated to fill it up with noise..... hushed quiet existence and that's OK.
Whether it’s this or fat acceptance, a lot of women do think like incels. The difference is not enough people call them out the way they do male incels.
@@shifter1919 besides not getting laid incels and older women like her literally think the same way....both have superficial expectations...the mainstream media is not a good source for how women like her are viewed....shes actually getting ripped by both men and women on social media platforms
Incels at least have the option to get in shape or increase their income to be more attractive, which takes effort. These women choose not to date down, which requires no effort to change.
I agree with you Aba and preach. It seems like now society is afraid to age. You see a lot more people with plastic surgery or botox just so that they can appear younger so that they can still look "pretty" to not only men but women too. Like it's a competition.
Dear Clifford. I apologize if my comment misled you about my worldview. Indeed, to fit a complex thought into a few lines is a difficult and potentially misleading task. So I thank you for the opportunity to clarify my thinking. I was talking about this particular human being without extending my comment to any gender, group or ideology. The world I live in is complex and nuanced, so I try to avoid generalizations or simplifications unless they are based on verifiable statistics. And even then, I do not lose sight of the fact that these genders, groups or ideologies are composed of human beings who are all different in their backgrounds and aspirations.I hope that I have made myself clear. I wish you an excellent day.
She’s mourning the way she used to look and all the positive shit it brought about. Beautiful women worry about aging a lot because they know they’ll be discarded. There’s always gonna be a supply of beautiful young women and that shit must hurt. Going from being the forefront of everything because of a random draw to invincible at 40?
Had a convo with a hs student of mine who said she wanted to die young so she didn’t look old in her casket or in heaven (which isn’t how it works anyway but that is beyond the point ….). Aba made a great point which I wished I would have told her “is looks all you want to offer?” Like why is that so important?
Beauty is "easy" since they know the moment they speak either they're saying something awful and or stupid. Look "cute" and be quiet. The problem is beauty is subjective yet it is also heightened by many other social factors like knowing how to talk to people, how to treat them right, how to be a good person. Beauty is like being nice it's expected so it ain't really doing much.
“This is literally incel talking points” *YES!* We live in a time where women can actually talk like them but *no one just gives a shit when they do it!*
@@Alecexo There's no such thing as a femcel. They are surrounded with a plethora of choices that they don't want (I'm not saying that they have to want them, but this is reality) and incels have no options. This is the truth.
She has her own money. She was married to a man who had and still has significantly less than her. What she wants is to remain as desired now as she was in her 20s. She was actively helping contribute to the societal acceptance of older men with much younger women when she was that younger woman. Now that that model of existence doesn't favor her, she wants to change it.
@@makerarchive6502 true enough. My point is she doesn't want or need money. She wants to maintain her desirability, the power she used to have in her superficial circles that used to be where she garnered all her self worth as a human. She wants to be the exception. Instead of changing herself, and where she gleans her value as a human, she just wants things to be as they were and as easy as they were. Its not entirely her fault she is programmed that way. All women are told their worth comes solely from the desire of men. If men don't find you sexually attractive, unless you're their mother or grandmother, you have no value in society.
@@unwelcomemotivation she always had the money and the freedom. Her husband didn't bless her with those things. Her looks and youth gave her those things. What she had was all the power. What she had was all the choices and every straight man's attention. She didn't need anything from her husband outside of his desire in order confirm her worth and confirm her power. That's what she's missing now, and that's what she wants back.
Grandparents aren’t “grand-parenting” the way they used to. What in the AARP is going on these days? Is knitting, volunteering, or cooking like Martha Stewart not a thing anymore? Idk RIP the concept of aging. 🤧 I agree with Aba, stop placing value in your looks while aging. It’s natural for us to age gracefully and give back.
My mother qualifies for this sort of panic. My father passed away and they'd been together since they were 15 or something. And now in her fiftiy something's she's looking to put herself out there knowing she looks younger than most at her age. But she's exactly the type of person to fall prey to this mentality that others should change their standards and preferences instead out of her frustration. I think women who have been monogamous or didn't get to date around early in life or got dealt a hand like that are way more susceptible to this craze then others, and it's uncomfortable because it isn't graceful at all. But it's a reality. Also that rhyming slaps.
This entitled lady. God, what a hypocrite. She benefited from the game for years and years and now that she can't play anymore, she wants to shut the game down for everyone else. Look, even the GOATS retire. Jordan, Kobe, Brady, they all retired. You were the GOAT in the 90s but you're not anymore, and that's just how it goes.
@@am33x She's only better than average-looking because she's plastic and faked up Look at pictures of 50 yr old wmn from thh 1960's She's as real as her expensive hair coiffure
Once you hit 40 your job prospects start dropping dramatically and I’m not talking about acting or modeling, I’m talking about actual work that most of us do. That would be a good conversation around ageism, but instead we want to center it around dating smdh.
The job prospects for younger people too start off low because companies also look for experience which a lot of younger people lack. You have better prospects from mid 20’s to late 30’s, you have experience but you are young enough for a company to invest in cause you have the potential to work a lot more years with the company, getting more productivity out of you.
Agreed but nobody ppl in their 20s trynna get their first serious job struggle too 50yo+ ppl, looking 4 a new job struggling too I dont have data but i would not complain ppl in their 30-40yo first on the job market
As a now older woman who used to get a lot of attention based on looks, yes, it can be a challenge. However, if you're identity is totally about your looks, your going to struggle. Yes, it used to hurt the ego not getting as much attention. Embrace to good parts about getting older....no more creepy guys hitting on you. And, I look at it like this... I had a good run for a lot of years! And so did you, Paulina, 80's super model!
Struggling with someone is honestly such a beautiful thing. Having a ride or die person where its you against the world is something that is hard to explain how meaningful it is. I think im finally gettin towards the finish line on my struggles (at least financially) and I wish so bad my wife who died a couple years ago at 25 could be here to enjoy it with me cuz im damn sure id still be fucked if it weren't for her pushing me to be who i am now
I am so grateful I'm a POC because WOW. My mama is 70 and looks 50. But all things aside, just date someone who is compatible, or if you're lonely, someone who has a fetish for older women, or an 80-year-old.
5:05 that’s a big part of it right there. When you’ve contributed nothing to society your entire life but being beautiful, when it fades you’re lost as fuck smh.
Standards for women like her have almost always been about finances and security, not long-term goals and principles like it should be. Very rarely can you have both without sacrificing your time and commitment, at least for the average and below people. Now it's been normalized for women to "save time" and go with a pro because choosing a novice could lead to "wasted time", and they don't want to put in the work only for it to potentially fail. Because these types women are consistently going for a shortcut, they've given these more experienced men plenty of options and those women now become a replaceable commodity. They're reaping the consequences of their own actions, because they've never had to deal with the pressures of having to be deemed worthy of dating, and they're finally having to put in effort like those older men originally had to when they first started out.
Is there a difference? Don't both of them depend on what stimulates a person sexually? If you were to say valuing personality versus sex appeal I could agree with you but I don't think there is a difference between physical beauty and sex appeal. Please elaborate.
@@sterlingsilver5937 Sex appeal is not the same as beauty. There are people that have sex appeal but are in no way beautiful and there are people that are beautiful but have no sex appeal. Sex appeal is like an allure, you don't have to be beautiful to be alluring.
@@wanderer5200 Alluring is someone that, well...allures you. They might not be good looking on the face at all, but it might be their body, the way they talk, the way they think, how they seduce that might attract you to them, even if it's for a bit. Might not be long though, because they are rough in the face and certainly don't have a beautiful personality lol. That's what I mean.
Back when I was dating, all I wanted was a woman my age. I'm in my mid 30s and if I was to ever wind up single again, I could never date someone in their 20s or a woman in her 50s.
This is what happens when you try to create a social movement based upon preference, while simultaneously holding the same beliefs that caused you to want to begin this movement in the first place! I can probably guarantee based upon population that she could find a man she is attracted too, but he probably doesn't fit her strict list of requirements. Settling only happens in terms of character, now people equate settling with age, perceived beauty, and of course being short and how much money you've accumulated. Lol
@@Farhan_049 I know this probably doesn't mean anything, but don't give up..stop giving a shit what society says is desirable! Some of these women will snap out of their delusion, good women, and they will see your value! But thats irrelevant because you have inherent value even if they don't see it, and you should walk around as such! You guys don't understand that a good and beautiful woman will be with a man she loves and will date someone the world doesn't find attractive, because beauty is subjective. Build up your character& confidence! You don't need to he in the top 1% to be loved. I am telling life goes by in a blink. Your young and healthy; and everyday your given the privilege grow older should he a honor! Don't waste it.
@@charissa6648 Thank you for your kind words. It's not that I take everything society says to heart; I acknowledge them and move forward. I chose to give up on finding love because there are a few things that I just can't provide. Seeing how strict the dating marketplace is nowadays, I've lost hope, and also interest, in finding a life partner. An overwhelming amount of rejections in my early to late teens don't help either! I'm 24 and still don't know what a woman's lips feel like, forget hookups! With all that in consideration, my priorities have changed and I feel like as I grow older, my craving for a woman's affection will also diminish. I wasn't worth it back then, I won't change much even if I'm 30, so why at that age? The notion of 'new relationships' lose the 'novelty' factor with time, at least for me. We won't be able to do stupid shit like teenage couples, we can't eat whatever we want and not think about health problems, I'll probably have osteoporosis by my late 40s just like my Mom and Dad, romance and PDA will feel awkward; heck even coitus would be awkward then! So, what's the point? When we get into relationships during our teens, everybody congratulates us. At age 30 or later, they'll say, “FINALLY you got to get laid!” or something along those lines. It almost sounds like a chore! But maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I'm having tunnel vision and things do get better. But these thoughts are what I've accumulated after a lot of self-reflection and I stand by them.
@@Farhan_049 Well, I have to say that it is a wonderful thing that you have never been with a woman and not a shame to bear. When you marry than you will have the honor of knowing that your saved yourself for your wife!! No shame to anyone else, but that is impressive! You also cannot tell me it's because women don't want you because if that was the case you would have paid for it. I know what you mean about being in love and older, but 30 is not old. Being in your 30s for most people are the "golden" Years because of the wisdom and maturity they have gained. Some people can, but I am of the belief that most people depending on many factors do not have the capacity to be in a loving relationship in their 20s. Or if they have that capacity it's difficult to find another person who shares those same values and desires! Maybe its the societal pressures and norms or ideologies being propogated to the youth, but I think you should take advantage of your 20s to build character. You can do stupid silly things in your 30s!! You can certainly eat whatever you want! Even if you have osteoporosis, you can stoll live a beautiful life. I have an a degenerative bone disease, and you cannot tell although I can feel it and my joints bear the damage. I still live a full life!!! Worry about that when it's necessary, and do not fret about disease that could cause you to despair. Your only 24 and that very young. About 6 years ago you were in Highschool. Your not supposed to have everything figured out! Also you have more time than a woman who wants children does. I respect your perspective and believe it's valid! I am not trying to change your mind but only give you a little hope and a different perspective!!! A relationship is not just about getting laid it's much more than that. It's about sacrificing, compassion, love, passion, and troubles and choice. Being in love is a choice, and hard work! If I may; stay away from certain online dating sights like tinder. Do you attend church? Hobbies?
You guys nailed it. Especially with the empathy statement. Too many people want to show empathy to others that can’t take accountability for their ill advised and/or stupid actions. Nobody learns, nobody grows if empathy is the automatic go-to for the majority of people.
The impudence! The audacity! The unmitigated gall! That's right, she can have preferences and standards, but nobody else is allowed to. If it weren't for double standards, they wouldn't have any at all.
As I age, it became so easy to date. At 23 I looked like a child. Now at 28, I look like an adult. In my opinion, as men age, it is easier to date. As women age, it becomes more difficult, as they want to settle, while I’m exploring like they were in their younger years.
Most times when people say "I can't find anyone who wants to date me", they really mean "I can't find anyone who meets my high standards who also wants to date me"...
I’m happy that I found this Chanel! In the middle of so many red pill and miss understanding between man and woman nowadays , you bring a very clever, empathic and healthy opinion! Great job guys 🎉
She is a clasist and an ageist herself...there is a lot of hormone crazed younglins and poor men that would love to share some quality time with her, if she refuses to give them a chance is her frigging problem.
People are purposely making it harder on themselves by having these weird age thresholds when it comes to relationships. The fact that she struggles with dating anyone because they’re her age or younger says more about her than anything.
@@mysteriousgirl935 tbh I never said huge gap, I said weird and arbitrary. The thing is it’s not really about people my age, it’s more for her. I think once you’re over 35 these things should matter less and less but you’ll find people that get stuck on age like her.
When I was dating I dated younger and older it wasn’t a deal breaker for me. Age didn’t matter it was the person. My husband is younger than me by 3 years. He’s 50 and I’m 53 and we’re good.
@@kidkid985 No it’s not. The point I was making is I didn’t date based on age. I dated 25 years older to 15 years younger. Age was never a factor. Also, I met him when I was 40 and he was 36 there were some differences.
Focusing on personality and character, taking the time to get to know someone, requires effort and patience. Us obsessing over looks is just a byproduct of instant gratification, among other things of course.
Spot on with incel-talking-points. The whole women dating scene on the internet, "high value men", women dating strategies, etc... they're all nearly identical to incels, except they aren't incel because men have lower standards. But the things they say, the beliefs they hold, et cetera... no different than incels.
There's plenty of young guys who like older women like myself in younger years, but it comes down to what she's looking for and who she gets attached to. This sort of sounds like a situation that happens when someone fools around easy with others and then gets devastated when the guy/girl you met an hour ago won't go out with them.
Dating as a older women is obviously sad and difficult...But it one of those things we can't make disappear. Men like younger women. Women like Older men. Is what it is.
I mean she had her chance she just blew it just google photos of her from the early eighties Paulina was a baddie could have had any man she wanted literally and be living in a penthouse on the Upper East side like most models in New York City but she chose a D list rock star earning less than her I don't get it
They like children they are sick. Idk i’m not sure i’m not knowledgable if they’d choose a 26 year old. I’m still extremely young & some men want like 14 18 21
Ageism is real but we need to scrape non-issues like this away from the central issue. And keep these vainglorious people from trying to hijack a cause for there personal benefit.
I truly feel bad for older women in the dating market. That said, we can't change biology. If some younger aren't attracted to that, you can't just convince them to feel differently. It's like trying to tell someone to enjoy a food that doesn't appeal to them. -Nick
Facts.... In her prime she was a SuperModel and could of had anything that she wanted at one point in time but now that your 50yrs. old with kids what else do you have to offer society
Im not disagreeing with your general idea but I think your wording is quite bad. Just because some is less attractive in the dating world doesn’t mean they have nothing to offer to society. Human beings are way more than looks. Looks are actually what least contributes to society. I think you could have worded your comment a bit better.
@@Carolina-rd3gh Looks are everything in the dating world because nobody and I mean nobody is checking for a 50yr. old woman... FYI this is how she made a living off her looks as a supermodel.... So again what else does she have to offer society
@@dilly07-tradesmen77 I don’t think you understood what I said. I just mean that the dating world is not the only world and society isn’t just men. Most benefit to society is not produced in the dating world. Someone who isn’t attractive can still contribute to society, which makes your wording a bit unfortunate. I think you could replace “men that she wants” instead of “society”.
@@dilly07-tradesmen77 I know she isn’t but you are. That’s all I’m saying when I commented on your wording, do you understand? Men ≠ Society Value in the dating world ≠ value in the world
Don't forget about burn victims. I don't see anyone trying to get with them. Should they die alone? Lol I agree with you. People are attracted to what they're attracted to. There will always be people who will always be alone for that reason. Some people are simply not at all appealing sexually. That doesn't mean they don't have any value elsewhere, but the onus is on them to find peace and to create their own value and meaning where they can.
People talk about moneyism all the time like that idea that the man “provides”, etc. Even redpill and traditional ppl talk about that, the change starts with ppl and there weird views. Ppl talk about money non stop especially women and traditional ppl….
Ideally you want to be in a stable relationship before you hit this age range as looks decay for some people and today's modern people are very superficial.
The most telling sign that she refuses to accept that she's aging is that she still calls them "older men". Boo boo they're just men to you at this point.
exactly.. she's speaking as if she is still in her 20s. Im thinking what older men? Older men than her are probably either dead, sick or got tangled up with a way younger woman.
No, I'm not interested in dating women that age because I want to start a family of my own. I don't care if I'm called an ageist or whatever. People are allowed to have standards.
Good for you, but don't get mad if young women don't want your defective, old sperm either. The doors aren't fixed to swing one way only. Doors of life are unpredictable. I also find people who are over 40 wanting kids selfish. You are passing disorders and disabilities onto your children. Enough facts out there that show that people over 40 who have babies create complications in how kids come out. For women, it's Down Syndrome and for men, it is Autism. I would do a genetic analysis before making babies after the age of 40. Good luck out there.
Are you a young man or are you old? Because the only reason a woman would date you if you are old is either because you have money or because you are her age. Otherwise, it's hard. Good luck out there I guess.
For real! I tell my mom. I can't wait till I get to 65 to get those discounts, Medicare and other benefits for being old... OMG especially them discounts for utility bills and property taxes. YAAAYYY!!! 👍😎👍
"Just grow old and embrace it"...YES! And just take care of yourself while you are growing old. I'm in my 40s and don't look or feel like it because I take care of myself. I actually looked forward to turning 40.
Okay here's the thing... She WON.. Got married at 19... Was married for over 30 years Only reason she still isn't married is because husband died... She's even technically never dated in her adult life if she got married at 19... She made all the RIGHT decisions in her younger years but I feel her pain so wish her all the best
Married AT 19yo with a 40+ older men is more a risky choice than a right decision, she married a dumb rockstar who cheated on her multiple Times and spend her money.. Why would a 40 yo man go for a 19 yo girl..it's problematic as hell!
She displays the same kind of thirst for attention akin to a washed up athlete: begging and pining for relevance after the sun has set on their career. Her plight is incredibly superficial at best. Blame social media for this problem of narcissism and over-inflated egos--especially for women like this.
Though she has a fair point - she's beautiful and has money and is famous. She's not going to date a janitor. Someone with money and in those circles will likely match her better.
The older you get the harder dating is unfortunately. That applies to everyone. I'm 31 and been in a relationship for 13 if I was single again I'd be lost as fuck
About 3 years ago, I was dumped by someone whom has bipolar disorder(recently diagnosed, and in short, glad I am out of that abusive relationship). With that said, I am 32, and still single. It sucks. I can confirm that dating is terrible as you age. Especially with this hookup culture going on too. Never was my thing.
As a 19-year-old girl, I'm gonna respond to the question, "Is Ageism a problem?"- devoid of the context put forward. Short answer-yes. In dating, in work, in social groups, in life- ageism is a problem for older AND younger people regardless of sex. People are more likely to invest in younger people, but they are also more likely to take advantage of them coupled with their extreme opposite (the elderly). People treat you like you are useless based on specific ages, also as you get older it's harder to get jobs or go back into the workforce. There is a whole lot of invalidating the opinions and decisions of younger people- and stigmatizing the elderly or middle age demographic for their "traditional beliefs". If we wanna talk about dating, I could say men have it easier, but its based on the metric by which men consider "easier" to be (they can decipher that for themselves tbh). Outside of it, grandmothers, mothers and elderly women, in general, are treated with more compassion than elderly males (sexism). Blatantly discriminating against someone because of their age, race, sex or face in any aspect of life is truly your choice. A preference is a preference, or so you would call it- whether you are an employer, looking for a partner, etc., but making someone out to be lesser than in general is ABSOLUTELY UNACCEPTABLE (to me). Nonetheless, keep it pushing - it is a privilege to age or be young, age gracefully (in thought, physical, spiritual, etc.). Don't take to heart the opinions of people you don't know.
you are so right! I love this comment, women are told their only value is in their looks and sex appeal from their youth, young people are NOT valued for anything beyond that and it continues on and on, when your an "ugly," "average" or simply pretty girl, you have to work on your personality, goals and inner self esteem etc. to find value in yourself cause you can't lean on your "beauty," Beautiful girls often don't do that cause they get an instant leg up in their youth and then Once their beauty fades they start to panic cause they didn't do any inner work, for when the time would come for their beauty to fade they would find themselves ok with who they were. But ageism is an issue in soo many ways like you said, not just in the realm of sex appeal and beauty! I am thirty now but look like I'm in my early twenties, when I was in my twenties I looked Like a teenager and was constantly disrespected cause I simply looked younger, when I told people my age I would notice their perception would change immediately cause suddenly they didn't assume I was some young kid that "didn't know anything." I feel your pain girl, I was there lol
if you actually live to get older and are healthy enough to worry about dating you are blessed , privilledged and above ground. Be greatful , thankful , and humble
She was lazy, let me explain myself. At a young age she didn’t want to meet a man her age because she didn’t want to build up with him. Dating older men that are established is lazy, but you have to remember that an established man has many WAY more options. She aged and the same men who would have picked her up at 20 no longer want her because she’s old. In her 20’s she could have picked a great looking man with a promising future whom she could have built a life with and aged with.
and this is very much true, she monetized her looks with the older dude but what the video ain't saying is that that very older dude cut her out of his will . women should be smarter.
They were together for 30 years so I wouldn't say it's just laziness. She probably genuinely loved him if they were together that long. Still there are consequences for her now though.
No, you are just projecting she didn't Care about status, cuz she was Richer than her husband...she just prefered older men and it wasn't about money, future or being established..
I mean she was one of the most successful models in the world in her youth so I don't think she really fits what you're talking about. She was also married to her husband for a very long time and talks about how her insecurities grew as she aged because he seemed less attracted to her as she aged. She genuinely loved him and was heartbroken by this.
I’m sick of this woman wingeing… Every minute it’s, “this is unfair”, or “I should have this” blah blah, seems to me like she’s the type of person who’s never really struggled in life and now at her old age she’s gotta date the rest of us at the bottom lmao… We’re not at the bottom but I guess to her we must be because clearly she doesn’t want to date average people… There’s plenty of us out here… She wants to date the rich semi young Dan Bilzerians who are spending their money and wealth on young girls who SHE used to look like whilst also getting money spent on her due to her beauty. Life is all of a sudden “hard” for her now that she’s at the bottom of the barrel like everyone else, big whoop give it a rest lady! 🙄 It’s as if nothing is enough for this woman… She’s been a bombshell model, looked good her entire darn life, probably has major riches herself by now and she’s still not satisfied?
I think dating should still be a thing for old single women, bcuz there are old single men. But most old single men go after young women to feel like they themselves are young. And half, give or take, old men are lonely but refuse to look at the women their age. So they end up becoming simps, as in paying younger women for things as simple as time with no sex. This can make women not want to age, and men are already trying to find ways through women and things to not feel as old as they are. Thats what i gathered from observing things.
In the book Art Of Seduction, these people are the easiest to seduce or manipulate. The Dandys, the Siren, the Charmer when they lose their audience they will do anything to get it back. And that’s when the seducer becomes the seduced. Poor woman.
Holy shit aba explained it Spring : puberty ,when sexuality and relationship wants blossom, then summer: when relationships are hot, carefree, many long days of fun. Fall : when things change, relationships , marriage, kids, sometimes divorce, body's, or looks. Then winter: things get colder, maybe a bit harsh and kinda somber then freezing cold death lol.
Difference is that one of them can’t be changed. You can not be broke with effort and some brain power. You can be decently looking by working on your self and your image. You can’t change your height no matter what you do. Maybe you can wear boots, but it’s not going to make a difference because girls will either view you as tall or short already and an inch isn’t going to do jack.
@@TacticalDimples I mean you can’t really control your looks either. I’m a stocky guy and I always clean my face and brush my teeth but my baby face has plagued me (I’m 24 btw) if I could afford plastic surgery I would do it to make me look more manly
Who can remember this statement by these guys better than I? "You have more I common with people in your same financial bracket than you do w your own race". Anybody remember the exact wording.? It's too good not to know.
I dont want to quote Fresh n fit here but women always think attraction is asymetrical when its really not. Men dont like the same things in women they like in men
Like you said in one of your other videos "I'm not my type's type". She like rich older men who want younger women. That's not the type that wants her anymore. It's kind of sad.
She hasn't been in the dating game since the late 80s. To be married, that long the dating world has changed from when she was 26 when she got married and now are in her late 50s.
Every man would have killed themselves to even breathe the same air as Paulina when she was 18 I don't feel badly for her because since she's made her bed let her lay in it she could have had any millionaire billionaire in her prime instead chose a D list rock star who was probably earning less than she was I never got ir
@@hipponew3820 to a D list bass guitarist of all people smh I am sure se regrets it her model peers are all married to millionaires and billionaires and she married a nobody
It took me till recently (I'm 29) that the kind of men I want don't want me and it was a harsh reality check. Ever since I've been working to change myself to be what, what I want wants.
Who will not want you? You are in a perfect age still not to young, but still young so younger people will not have problem and old enough to older people to not view you as a little kid
you only want chad lmao. took you long enough to realize. the men you want treat you like an object because they are much more attractive than you, while you ignore the guys who are equally as attractive as you because you think they aren't good enough
@@newcrew1210 maybe she just rejects the ones who would commit bc they're not good enough for some reason. She did say that she's dating "just for fun" so god knows.
She complains that the men SHE wants aren't very interested ;-) It's a classic. When women complain they don't get attention from guys they ignore 500 guys and complain about the one they want.
My dad's last wife before he died was just 4 years older than me. It worked for a while because he didn't fool himself, when I tried to warn him (I'm a lawyer), he flat out said: "she wants my money, I want a young woman son". That was it. And she did try to rob him at the end, but by that point he already had secured his kids' part in a trust and I filed suit against her. She lost the pension and went on the run. You gotta know what you want, because these women do
When beauty is your best attribute and the way you make a living, what happens when beauty fades?! Education would have suited her better and helped her through these hard times she’s facing now. But, I could be wrong! 🤣🤣🤣
I personally have no issue with her not wanting to date someone her sons age. It's like everything in life; people don't realize things until the shoe is on their foot.
This coming from an average/below average dude (according to most, not me) I learned the hard way in my early 30s now that it’s best to work on you for you when you’re starting out, rather than trying to impress people on superficial shit they want, only to be screwed and have nothing. Wasted my entire 20s doing that, and I refuse to do that ever again. There’s an old saying: “having a nice face and a nice ass won’t get you around your whole life. When you turn 30, you better have a personality. Beauty fades, dumb is forever.” I’ve never rly had a chance for a summer, but I don’t worry about that anymore, I have much more important things to deal with. Just be you and work on yourself for you, not others.
I do think that there are many communities e.g. latin americans, Caribbeans, asians and africans that value and protect their elders regardless of what they look like. The problem is this women and others that subscribe to her narrative have gotten by easily on the sheer basis of their looks. Now that those looks are fading they are realizing that there isn't much below the surface for them to be respected or wanted for. That's how you become invisible. Young men won't fix her problem because they don't have the stability she is accustomed to.
If you missed part 1.
Part I: ua-cam.com/video/4Z1Dho8Wh70/v-deo.html
hi
I thought i was having Deja vu for a moment.
As much as people deserve empathy they deserve honesty even more. Someone in that woman's circle should tell her to be more realistic and she will have better outcomes. This "I am the table" mentality is going to leave a lot of people single and alone.
She wants that “New Money.” $$$
9:40 missed opportunity, "ive fallen and i cant get up!"
lets be real…its not just older men…its older men that can provide her a 1% lifestyle…and older man who living an average lifestyle based on his salary/retirement allowance is invisible to her
Thank you
I’m 20 and I want to date much older women (mid 20’s, late 20’s, early 30’s 40’s, etc) but society (Reddit, Twitter, UA-cam, etc) says I can’t and shouldn’t. What should I do?
kinda fuckin weird that women just want to be pampered by someone rich.......... bro girls like this stay single lol most men dont go for gold diggers
@@llawliet6262....you should listen
@@llawliet6262 you should resolve your mommy issues & date women somewhat close to your age. +/- 5 years is a decent range.
Let's not kid ourselves, 95% of man her age or older would date her, but she doesn't want them, she wants top 1% of man older than her because thats what she is used to, she dated that caliber of men her whole life and now she can't downgrade
Your right because, for her age she still looks really good.
@Just Another Commenter there are good men, she just picky. I dated a not very attractive guy. Didnt work because, his self-esteem was so low, he became very controlling.
She still thinks she can have any of the men that showed up to watch her on the runway when she was young. Silly elderly woman
Exactly. Hypergamy
@@solimine1007 THIS^^^. She just can't get the that top percent.
Our generation are going to be the most miserable senior citizens ever. Don't let this be you, enjoy your life while your young, be grateful for what you have and age gracefully.
Or, you know, build for the future.
@@Visstnok "or"?
Senior citizens? Yh I doubt we're making it that far.
@@Eking-su3tr the world will end before 2040. I’m calling it
@@kumbi8368 Not an exclusive "or", I should add.
Young Men struggle with dating, old women struggle with dating. It's fair when you compare the two lives. Both have their fair share of struggle.
But the woman has already experienced years of happiness and endless options. The young man may never experience that in his entire life.
The game is front-loaded in life for women and back-loaded for men. However to be a truly beautiful woman is probably the most privilege one can have in life. SHE has been cashing out on it for literally 50 years and now that privilege is gone and she feels the way everyone else does now and is sad
@@ichoosemysanity6467 facts
@@onlytaylor8257 When you get something upfront it's guaranteed. If you get it later there's a chance later may never come. Most black men don't even live long enough to retire.
@@onlytaylor8257 No such thing as an sigma male. Or alpha or beta or Gama or omega
This isn’t ageism. It’s AGE. She’s got age on her side, but little wisdom to show for it.
based take my bro :D good job
She is trying to appear smart her whole life, but she lacks wisdom and maturity. That was my first thought.
The most ironic thing about her...is in her 20's, SHE married a rich dude who was 20 years older than her.
Now she's complaining that guys her age want younger women...
@@rosewishes2232the irony is obvious
@@rosewishes2232 Is that a rhetorical question? I think his statement is pretty obvious.
@@rosewishes2232 because when it was beneficial to her she loved it and when it stopped being beneficial, she called it a societal problem that needs to be fought against.
@@rosewishes2232 really? she went for a man much older than her and she acts surprises why dudes are not going for her now that she’s older
@@rosewishes2232 If you can't see the obvious irony...idk if my explanation will do any good, but I'll try: She's complaining about younger women doing EXACTLY what she did when she was their age. Now she wants to claim "ageism" because it's no longer working to her benefit.
In other words: "Ageism" was perfectly fine when it benefitted her, but it's bad now, because she's on the other side of the equation.
As a young supermodel her dating options were limitless. Listening to an older supermodel complain about having limits within the dating world, that the rest of us have faced our whole lives, makes my eyes roll as far back in my head as possible.
Yep.... As a men, you'll be invisible for the most part of your life, not affection, sex, bad treatment, laugh at, rejected so many times that either you brake and stop caring about women or just be in a red pill rage 🙃
Exactly. Its almost as if she transitioned from being able to have all you can eat buffet meals every meal to only being able to get up to seconds or thirds per meal. Like even with the limits she would still be eating well
@@jhonnycultura4455 that’s so sad 😞 I feel bad for the red pill men that resulted to that they just need love
It’s also highlights a high level of entitlement and narcissism, brining This social justice isms and phobias in dating is reflects that. Like you said I’m sure in her prime she had the pick of the litter of men and now it’s gone she wants to cry about it
@@jhonnycultura4455 let's be honest. There are way more options than the 2 you presented.
As hard as it is to hear (and probably even harder to implement), date personality and character over looks, because like looks, that type of practice never ages well. And ageism isn't the problem in this instance, she's caught up in her feelings because she is not what she used to be and because she chased superficial attributes, it is biting her back. Aging is a natural and normal process - I was an ugly mfer 10 years ago and now I am ugly and older (maybe a little wiser) - it is what it is
She dated older men because they had more money and were more mature. Looks came after wealth. Money isn't personality and character, but it's not really superficial either.
But look how beautiful you are in the middle. You are spot on. In the end we'll all be twins. Identical piles of rot and decay. Identical dust.
Pitajee chowdhury , whew ! you are hard on her lol! but lots of truth in there.
That being said, there is a baseline level of attractiveness necessary. Dating someone you're not attracted to is only going to make you end up hurting them
Truly Beauty is subjective, and I find we are our worst critics. Is there a global standard of beauty? Of course, but almost none of us live up to that. That's for the super wealthy who we watch on our televisions that can literally pay for surgical procedures to avoid aging naturally!
Then some people hit the genetic lottery, but in my experience beauty is defined differently to each person.
As a woman I love growing older. I'm not as insecure anymore, I don't feel I need the same form of validation as I believed I need back in my 20s. I'm considered over my prime years by some, and that's okay too, I'm actually more comfortable with that. It's freedom of the mind and the role I felt I needed to fulfill to feel worthy. It made me value superficial things, and those things made me shallow and even arrogant at times. I hope I can live a long, healthy life, and I hope I will learn alot more... because the older I get, the more I realize I know not much. It's humbling, and that's a beautiful thing. And if a man or a woman wants to date a certain type, and I'm not falling into that category, that's perfectly fine too. I wish growing old would be more celebrated though, not in the 50 is the new sexy. But in the: it's amazing to grow older and experience this whole new mindset.
Loving this comment! So much blessings, love and light to you.
I dig it 😎👌🏽✨
If only there was a way to love this comment.
Major props to you, Sofie.
Except men don't value any off that. Do you, but don't expect men to care about any of that
She is a woman of extreme privilege lacking self-awareness. She's not invisible. There are PLENTY of men courting her. They are just not to her standards. How many men were and are invisible to her? Instead of changing her standards just like her age has changed, she thinks she can keep the same standards she had in her 20's. That is an alternate reality that only a woman like her can occupy. A man would be ridiculed until the end of his days for doing the same.
You two gentlemen hit the nail right on the head.
BEST comment on here!!! 👍💯
Very well spoken my friend
People can't take responsibility for this decisions, instead they blame whatever ism fits there problems.
They even create “isms” then feel so smart after the fact
I can take responsibility for myself. …I am a legitimate piece of shit
@@marlom7882 This made me laugh. Hope you find your way. God bless :)
I mean aging is not a decision though. Same thing for heightism when it comes to men. They’re both real.
@@marlom7882 lmaooooo thank you I needed that. You my friend are already better than them cuz you are humble.
I'll be 30 this year but still look like I'm 16 years old. I can't count on my hands how many times I've been rejected by women around my age because of how young I look. There's pros and cons to everything in life just enjoy it for what it is and stop blaming everyone else.
Grow a beard, I have the same issue with a baby face. Although mines still growing to the length I want, it's helped me out, best of luck, I have been using garlic oil as a rub it helps. And also tastes amazing on pasta. Gl man.
TK. keep them fresh looks because once everyone starts losing hair and their chin starts getting bigger. you'd be like. I done told y'all ,pity me now, envy me later .
I usually get upset over my young looks, because I'll be 40 soon yet have been mistaken for early 20s and even as a high school student. 😱🤯 The baby face dilemma is something people don't want to talk about or assume we are being nasty or whining, but we aren't, we are just pointing out our issues and having a conversation over something that is similar in nature. Nothing wrong with discussing the matter. I agree we need to enjoy what we have and take it as it goes. Thank you for sharing your experience.
PS: Do you get the feeling people just assume you are naive or know nothing just because you look so young? I get that a lot. Best to you and everyone else.
@Just Another Commenter wow dude. No we don’t. I just can’t believe you typed these words 😆
@@azura3277 bro some of us look young partially because we can’t grow out a beard (I physically can’t anyway because my facial hair doesn’t grow beyond a small moustache and besides in the military of my country you have to be clean shaven) so just saying “just do this one thing and it’ll solve your problem” isn’t realistic or relatable to everyone else
I think this lady is full of it. I'm looking at her and she's clearly an attractive woman. I'm sure there a men that would feel like winners if they were with her. I think the problem is that they're not the men she wants.
Blaming this "issue" on agism is more than a little disingenuous.
Let's be honest, most of the men her age will go for younger women..that's the point.
Thank you
She even said she has many men hitting her up. Its just not the men she wants
Exactly she most likely only want a top 10 percent man
She’s an old haggard washed up gold digger, there will be plenty more of them coming in future.
She was married at 26 in 1989 until her husband past in 2019. I wouldn't put her in the same category as women who wasted their youth being a modern independent woman.
What’s a modern independent woman
This is why it’s important to expand your dating options. When you restrict yourself, you wind up like this woman demanding we “change beauty standards” to accommodate her. There’s nothing to change on our end except her being open to the possibility of a relationship with a man her age.
Facts we have to Adapt
She’s straight up greedy.
"What you want doesn't want you anymore"
That's the truth that most of us need to accept and move on
Or at least accept that you have to find out what exactly it is that you want, and what they want, and see how or if you can meet that.
She was just dating Aaron Sorkin, the 60yr old famous screenwriter who won an Oscar for the Social Network, but she’s invisible? I do understand her not wanting to date a 20yr old (the age of her son) at 50 but she has to look outside of her preference. Also, I agree with Aba, fighting sings of aging is a losing battle and there is much more a person has to offer. I hope she’s successful finding a meaningful relationship.
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Its over. If she finds a guy to give her attention she should feel lucky. She's 50. She has nothing left that men actually value.
i agree
@@nicholashenderson6941 Men only value looks?
@@nicholashenderson6941 Tell that to your mama.
She’s so used to her looks getting her everything she wants that now she thinks somethings wrong with the world when they don’t. Ron White said beauty fades but stupid is forever.
My Nana gave me the best advice right around puberty. She said never go for looks or money because as you age both are usually gone. You will only find happiness in a partner you share common interests and enjoy a great conversation with. Find someone you can sit next to and you don't fill obligated to fill it up with noise..... hushed quiet existence and that's OK.
Sounds like me and my wife to be fair... although she's gorgeous, poor woman settled hard with me 😂
Your nana was a romantic lol i Know nana who would advise you to go for money..point blank..and i'm not joking.
She's what i call. A "free soul". Probably the only struggle in her life was : "i can't find my eye lashes"
She's actually a very intelligent woman - not remotely like that.
@@MothGirl007 I agree, she is shallow and ignorant in a more sophisticated manner.
Whether it’s this or fat acceptance, a lot of women do think like incels. The difference is not enough people call them out the way they do male incels.
100% true.
Ehh...they can all still get laid. We'll fuck them, but we won't marry them. Also, they're really just pissed the man they want doesn't want them.
@@shifter1919 sad
@@shifter1919 besides not getting laid incels and older women like her literally think the same way....both have superficial expectations...the mainstream media is not a good source for how women like her are viewed....shes actually getting ripped by both men and women on social media platforms
Incels at least have the option to get in shape or increase their income to be more attractive, which takes effort.
These women choose not to date down, which requires no effort to change.
I agree with you Aba and preach. It seems like now society is afraid to age. You see a lot more people with plastic surgery or botox just so that they can appear younger so that they can still look "pretty" to not only men but women too. Like it's a competition.
They sure do.
We live in a society
The surgery makes it worse in my opinion.
After cosmetic surgery they do not look any younger; they just look like someone older who's had cosmetic surgery
@@jaydell4039 there are a few cosmetic procedures that usually turn out well, but most of them are almost always a losing bet.
Can't stop thinking about Bill Burrs comedy bit about plastic surgery... People out there looking like lizards lol
It's always the same BS : "If I don't get what I want, I'm opressed and society needs to be fixed."
Yeah that’s all women
And u see it in people like antifa n blm
N whatever other bs grifting group
Dear Clifford. I apologize if my comment misled you about my worldview. Indeed, to fit a complex thought into a few lines is a difficult and potentially misleading task. So I thank you for the opportunity to clarify my thinking. I was talking about this particular human being without extending my comment to any gender, group or ideology. The world I live in is complex and nuanced, so I try to avoid generalizations or simplifications unless they are based on verifiable statistics. And even then, I do not lose sight of the fact that these genders, groups or ideologies are composed of human beings who are all different in their backgrounds and aspirations.I hope that I have made myself clear. I wish you an excellent day.
She’s mourning the way she used to look and all the positive shit it brought about. Beautiful women worry about aging a lot because they know they’ll be discarded. There’s always gonna be a supply of beautiful young women and that shit must hurt. Going from being the forefront of everything because of a random draw to invincible at 40?
Had a convo with a hs student of mine who said she wanted to die young so she didn’t look old in her casket or in heaven (which isn’t how it works anyway but that is beyond the point ….). Aba made a great point which I wished I would have told her “is looks all you want to offer?” Like why is that so important?
Beauty is "easy" since they know the moment they speak either they're saying something awful and or stupid. Look "cute" and be quiet. The problem is beauty is subjective yet it is also heightened by many other social factors like knowing how to talk to people, how to treat them right, how to be a good person. Beauty is like being nice it's expected so it ain't really doing much.
“This is literally incel talking points”
*YES!* We live in a time where women can actually talk like them but *no one just gives a shit when they do it!*
Incels and femcels are the plague of our society. Furthering the divide between genders.
We as society often forget female point of view and femcel talking points.
Lol.
@@Alecexo There's no such thing as a femcel. They are surrounded with a plethora of choices that they don't want (I'm not saying that they have to want them, but this is reality) and incels have no options. This is the truth.
@@Alecexo he’s still not wrong
I love that we live in a world where anybody can get upset over the littlest things and they get interviewed for it.
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let's be real: what she's really saying is she likes mature [men's] money.
She has her own money. She was married to a man who had and still has significantly less than her. What she wants is to remain as desired now as she was in her 20s. She was actively helping contribute to the societal acceptance of older men with much younger women when she was that younger woman. Now that that model of existence doesn't favor her, she wants to change it.
She wants that New Money. $$$
@@MN-zh2vd its not social acceptance, its nature. Women dating old man has been a thing for centuries
@@makerarchive6502 true enough. My point is she doesn't want or need money. She wants to maintain her desirability, the power she used to have in her superficial circles that used to be where she garnered all her self worth as a human. She wants to be the exception. Instead of changing herself, and where she gleans her value as a human, she just wants things to be as they were and as easy as they were. Its not entirely her fault she is programmed that way. All women are told their worth comes solely from the desire of men. If men don't find you sexually attractive, unless you're their mother or grandmother, you have no value in society.
@@unwelcomemotivation she always had the money and the freedom. Her husband didn't bless her with those things. Her looks and youth gave her those things. What she had was all the power. What she had was all the choices and every straight man's attention. She didn't need anything from her husband outside of his desire in order confirm her worth and confirm her power. That's what she's missing now, and that's what she wants back.
Grandparents aren’t “grand-parenting” the way they used to. What in the AARP is going on these days? Is knitting, volunteering, or cooking like Martha Stewart not a thing anymore? Idk RIP the concept of aging. 🤧
I agree with Aba, stop placing value in your looks while aging. It’s natural for us to age gracefully and give back.
My mother qualifies for this sort of panic. My father passed away and they'd been together since they were 15 or something. And now in her fiftiy something's she's looking to put herself out there knowing she looks younger than most at her age. But she's exactly the type of person to fall prey to this mentality that others should change their standards and preferences instead out of her frustration. I think women who have been monogamous or didn't get to date around early in life or got dealt a hand like that are way more susceptible to this craze then others, and it's uncomfortable because it isn't graceful at all. But it's a reality. Also that rhyming slaps.
This entitled lady. God, what a hypocrite. She benefited from the game for years and years and now that she can't play anymore, she wants to shut the game down for everyone else. Look, even the GOATS retire. Jordan, Kobe, Brady, they all retired. You were the GOAT in the 90s but you're not anymore, and that's just how it goes.
she was living life on ultra-easy mode and shes mad now that its only on easy mode.
True. And she's still better looking than the average 25yo who's fat or obese, so she has options.
@@VestigeFinder She still gets hit on by people decades younger but she is not interested and continues to complain
@@am33x she wants an uber-rich, handsome man which makes her options next to nothing in that hunting ground lol
@@am33x She's only better than average-looking because she's plastic and faked up
Look at pictures of 50 yr old wmn from thh 1960's
She's as real as her expensive hair coiffure
Once you hit 40 your job prospects start dropping dramatically and I’m not talking about acting or modeling, I’m talking about actual work that most of us do. That would be a good conversation around ageism, but instead we want to center it around dating smdh.
This!!! Ppls priorities are out of wack.
The job prospects for younger people too start off low because companies also look for experience which a lot of younger people lack. You have better prospects from mid 20’s to late 30’s, you have experience but you are young enough for a company to invest in cause you have the potential to work a lot more years with the company, getting more productivity out of you.
Agreed but nobody ppl in their 20s trynna get their first serious job struggle too
50yo+ ppl, looking 4 a new job struggling too
I dont have data but i would not complain ppl in their 30-40yo first on the job market
That and plus being pregnant or having kids is an issue too
As a now older woman who used to get a lot of attention based on looks, yes, it can be a challenge. However, if you're identity is totally about your looks, your going to struggle. Yes, it used to hurt the ego not getting as much attention. Embrace to good parts about getting older....no more creepy guys hitting on you.
And, I look at it like this...
I had a good run for a lot of years! And so did you, Paulina, 80's super model!
Lmao creepy=ugly
yea even the creepy guys wont touch y’all
@@mattiaslp9645 and who would touch you?
@@mattiaslp9645 What a disgusting comment. As if anyone wants creeps anyways!
So true.
Struggling with someone is honestly such a beautiful thing. Having a ride or die person where its you against the world is something that is hard to explain how meaningful it is. I think im finally gettin towards the finish line on my struggles (at least financially) and I wish so bad my wife who died a couple years ago at 25 could be here to enjoy it with me cuz im damn sure id still be fucked if it weren't for her pushing me to be who i am now
I am so grateful I'm a POC because WOW. My mama is 70 and looks 50. But all things aside, just date someone who is compatible, or if you're lonely, someone who has a fetish for older women, or an 80-year-old.
"I don't want to be with anyone near my son's age"
"Fine. I don't want to be with anyone near my grandma's"
...
"We need to change society"
'Rules for thee and not for me' personified
5:05 that’s a big part of it right there. When you’ve contributed nothing to society your entire life but being beautiful, when it fades you’re lost as fuck smh.
Standards for women like her have almost always been about finances and security, not long-term goals and principles like it should be. Very rarely can you have both without sacrificing your time and commitment, at least for the average and below people. Now it's been normalized for women to "save time" and go with a pro because choosing a novice could lead to "wasted time", and they don't want to put in the work only for it to potentially fail.
Because these types women are consistently going for a shortcut, they've given these more experienced men plenty of options and those women now become a replaceable commodity. They're reaping the consequences of their own actions, because they've never had to deal with the pressures of having to be deemed worthy of dating, and they're finally having to put in effort like those older men originally had to when they first started out.
This is what happens when we only value sex appeal and not beauty.
Is there a difference? Don't both of them depend on what stimulates a person sexually? If you were to say valuing personality versus sex appeal I could agree with you but I don't think there is a difference between physical beauty and sex appeal. Please elaborate.
@@sterlingsilver5937 Sex appeal is not the same as beauty. There are people that have sex appeal but are in no way beautiful and there are people that are beautiful but have no sex appeal. Sex appeal is like an allure, you don't have to be beautiful to be alluring.
@@cherryhazard8002 Interesting. How would you define alluring?
@@cherryhazard8002 I'm not understanding the logic, but can you give examples of people who have sex appeal but no beauty?
@@wanderer5200 Alluring is someone that, well...allures you. They might not be good looking on the face at all, but it might be their body, the way they talk, the way they think, how they seduce that might attract you to them, even if it's for a bit. Might not be long though, because they are rough in the face and certainly don't have a beautiful personality lol. That's what I mean.
Back when I was dating, all I wanted was a woman my age. I'm in my mid 30s and if I was to ever wind up single again, I could never date someone in their 20s or a woman in her 50s.
A man of culture
What if ur pushing 40 and want to start a family of ur own???
@@alimo3011 the big question for me would be *"why would I start a family so late?"*
@@alimo3011 the answer to that is good luck.
Smart man!
This is what happens when you try to create a social movement based upon preference, while simultaneously holding the same beliefs that caused you to want to begin this movement in the first place!
I can probably guarantee based upon population that she could find a man she is attracted too, but he probably doesn't fit her strict list of requirements. Settling only happens in terms of character, now people equate settling with age, perceived beauty, and of course being short and how much money you've accumulated. Lol
That's why I've just given up.
@@Farhan_049 I know this probably doesn't mean anything, but don't give up..stop giving a shit what society says is desirable!
Some of these women will snap out of their delusion, good women, and they will see your value! But thats irrelevant because you have inherent value even if they don't see it, and you should walk around as such!
You guys don't understand that a good and beautiful woman will be with a man she loves and will date someone the world doesn't find attractive, because beauty is subjective.
Build up your character& confidence! You don't need to he in the top 1% to be loved.
I am telling life goes by in a blink. Your young and healthy; and everyday your given the privilege grow older should he a honor! Don't waste it.
@@charissa6648 Thank you for your kind words.
It's not that I take everything society says to heart; I acknowledge them and move forward. I chose to give up on finding love because there are a few things that I just can't provide. Seeing how strict the dating marketplace is nowadays, I've lost hope, and also interest, in finding a life partner. An overwhelming amount of rejections in my early to late teens don't help either! I'm 24 and still don't know what a woman's lips feel like, forget hookups!
With all that in consideration, my priorities have changed and I feel like as I grow older, my craving for a woman's affection will also diminish. I wasn't worth it back then, I won't change much even if I'm 30, so why at that age? The notion of 'new relationships' lose the 'novelty' factor with time, at least for me. We won't be able to do stupid shit like teenage couples, we can't eat whatever we want and not think about health problems, I'll probably have osteoporosis by my late 40s just like my Mom and Dad, romance and PDA will feel awkward; heck even coitus would be awkward then! So, what's the point?
When we get into relationships during our teens, everybody congratulates us. At age 30 or later, they'll say, “FINALLY you got to get laid!” or something along those lines. It almost sounds like a chore!
But maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I'm having tunnel vision and things do get better. But these thoughts are what I've accumulated after a lot of self-reflection and I stand by them.
Perfectly said
@@Farhan_049 Well, I have to say that it is a wonderful thing that you have never been with a woman and not a shame to bear.
When you marry than you will have the honor of knowing that your saved yourself for your wife!! No shame to anyone else, but that is impressive! You also cannot tell me it's because women don't want you because if that was the case you would have paid for it.
I know what you mean about being in love and older, but 30 is not old. Being in your 30s for most people are the "golden" Years because of the wisdom and maturity they have gained. Some people can, but I am of the belief that most people depending on many factors do not have the capacity to be in a loving relationship in their 20s. Or if they have that capacity it's difficult to find another person who shares those same values and desires! Maybe its the societal pressures and norms or ideologies being propogated to the youth, but I think you should take advantage of your 20s to build character. You can do stupid silly things in your 30s!! You can certainly eat whatever you want!
Even if you have osteoporosis, you can stoll live a beautiful life. I have an a degenerative bone disease, and you cannot tell although I can feel it and my joints bear the damage.
I still live a full life!!!
Worry about that when it's necessary, and do not fret about disease that could cause you to despair.
Your only 24 and that very young. About 6 years ago you were in Highschool. Your not supposed to have everything figured out!
Also you have more time than a woman who wants children does.
I respect your perspective and believe it's valid! I am not trying to change your mind but only give you a little hope and a different perspective!!!
A relationship is not just about getting laid it's much more than that. It's about sacrificing, compassion, love, passion, and troubles and choice. Being in love is a choice, and hard work!
If I may; stay away from certain online dating sights like tinder. Do you attend church? Hobbies?
You guys nailed it. Especially with the empathy statement. Too many people want to show empathy to others that can’t take accountability for their ill advised and/or stupid actions. Nobody learns, nobody grows if empathy is the automatic go-to for the majority of people.
People should be grateful they even get to an older age instead of dying young.
The impudence! The audacity! The unmitigated gall! That's right, she can have preferences and standards, but nobody else is allowed to. If it weren't for double standards, they wouldn't have any at all.
Lol off topic but I remember that from the Jim Carrey's Grinch movie. Love that movie lol
Man of culture.
👏👏👏
Great movie 🍿
As I age, it became so easy to date. At 23 I looked like a child. Now at 28, I look like an adult. In my opinion, as men age, it is easier to date. As women age, it becomes more difficult, as they want to settle, while I’m exploring like they were in their younger years.
I mean you are still quite young
At 28, you can't say "as I age". You haven't aged yet.
@@ananse77 sure let’s just ignore this persons life experiences.
Bro, you still a baby.
haha you are still young and in the prime of your life. This is a terrible example. Write this out when you are 45 and up.
Most times when people say "I can't find anyone who wants to date me", they really mean "I can't find anyone who meets my high standards who also wants to date me"...
Women*
Lots of dudes are invisible when it comes to dating prospects.
@@bbbbbbb51 because women hold all the cards and most dudes are just too damn thirsty
@@bbbbbbb51 don’t most dudes want a young virgin 20 year old?
@@dennyden7612 No really, only religious people.
@@dennyden7612 Sure, but we're realistic. Few if any guys have turned down a woman because shes 24 and has had a handful of partners.
I’m happy that I found this Chanel! In the middle of so many red pill and miss understanding between man and woman nowadays , you bring a very clever, empathic and healthy opinion! Great job guys 🎉
She is a clasist and an ageist herself...there is a lot of hormone crazed younglins and poor men that would love to share some quality time with her, if she refuses to give them a chance is her frigging problem.
People are purposely making it harder on themselves by having these weird age thresholds when it comes to relationships. The fact that she struggles with dating anyone because they’re her age or younger says more about her than anything.
where are you from because i rarely see people date with huge age gaps especially the 20 something’s they all couple up and stick with each other.
@@mysteriousgirl935 tbh I never said huge gap, I said weird and arbitrary. The thing is it’s not really about people my age, it’s more for her. I think once you’re over 35 these things should matter less and less but you’ll find people that get stuck on age like her.
@@JohnDoe-vc5qb 🤔i miss read your comment i see exactly what you mean
When I was dating I dated younger and older it wasn’t a deal breaker for me. Age didn’t matter it was the person. My husband is younger than me by 3 years. He’s 50 and I’m 53 and we’re good.
50 and 53 isn’t a huge age gap though
@@kidkid985 No it’s not. The point I was making is I didn’t date based on age. I dated 25 years older to 15 years younger. Age was never a factor. Also, I met him when I was 40 and he was 36 there were some differences.
@@Fly2fitchick still doesn’t change anything
If he’s 50 and you’re 53 you can basically say that you’re the same age.
@@Solitaire427 true idk why they act like its abnormal
She can still date my 86 years old grandpa though
Lmao. Pin this.
It would be the Pin of Badass.
"That's the worst kind of discrimination ...
The kind against me !!!"
B.B. Rodriguez
Focusing on personality and character, taking the time to get to know someone, requires effort and patience. Us obsessing over looks is just a byproduct of instant gratification, among other things of course.
So it's ageism when men only want younger women but not when women want only older men??? Right.
It will be heightism when men want tall women but when women want tall men , it's normal. 😂
True, but to be fair when she was 20 she was dating 40 and + men which is clearly unusual..
"But now you've evolved, dear Pokémon" took me out 😂😂😂
How nonchalant he said it too 🤣
🤣🤣🤣
@@M.j.7 Yesss 😂
Best part of the vid lol 😂
Spot on with incel-talking-points. The whole women dating scene on the internet, "high value men", women dating strategies, etc... they're all nearly identical to incels, except they aren't incel because men have lower standards. But the things they say, the beliefs they hold, et cetera... no different than incels.
There's plenty of young guys who like older women like myself in younger years, but it comes down to what she's looking for and who she gets attached to. This sort of sounds like a situation that happens when someone fools around easy with others and then gets devastated when the guy/girl you met an hour ago won't go out with them.
These guys have good chemistry. I’m sure they’re great friends outside of UA-cam 😌
You had your cake in your 20’s.
It’s time to eat your humble pie and let men enjoy their well deserved fun in their 30’s and up.
The average man goes downhill after 28, respectfully lol
Dating as a older women is obviously sad and difficult...But it one of those things we can't make disappear.
Men like younger women.
Women like Older men.
Is what it is.
Careful with that "men like younger women", because some groom underage kids and justify it by saying "girls mature faster".
I mean she had her chance she just blew it just google photos of her from the early eighties Paulina was a baddie could have had any man she wanted literally and be living in a penthouse on the Upper East side like most models in New York City but she chose a D list rock star earning less than her I don't get it
@@summerrose8110 she means women in their prime not children.
@@summerrose8110 Women and Children are 2 different things 💀
They like children they are sick. Idk i’m not sure i’m not knowledgable if they’d choose a 26 year old. I’m still extremely young & some men want like 14 18 21
Midlife crisis mixed in with millennial standards is terrifying
You just nailed it 👌.
She needs to get off Instagram. She’s trying to compete with 22 year olds.
Omg facts 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
Ageism is real but we need to scrape non-issues like this away from the central issue. And keep these vainglorious people from trying to hijack a cause for there personal benefit.
I truly feel bad for older women in the dating market. That said, we can't change biology. If some younger aren't attracted to that, you can't just convince them to feel differently. It's like trying to tell someone to enjoy a food that doesn't appeal to them. -Nick
Facts.... In her prime she was a SuperModel and could of had anything that she wanted at one point in time but now that your 50yrs. old with kids what else do you have to offer society
Im not disagreeing with your general idea but I think your wording is quite bad. Just because some is less attractive in the dating world doesn’t mean they have nothing to offer to society. Human beings are way more than looks. Looks are actually what least contributes to society.
I think you could have worded your comment a bit better.
@@Carolina-rd3gh Looks are everything in the dating world because nobody and I mean nobody is checking for a 50yr. old woman... FYI this is how she made a living off her looks as a supermodel.... So again what else does she have to offer society
@@dilly07-tradesmen77 I don’t think you understood what I said. I just mean that the dating world is not the only world and society isn’t just men. Most benefit to society is not produced in the dating world. Someone who isn’t attractive can still contribute to society, which makes your wording a bit unfortunate. I think you could replace “men that she wants” instead of “society”.
@@Carolina-rd3gh The whole video is about her struggles in the dating world as a supermodel and her age... SHE isn't talking about the world
@@dilly07-tradesmen77 I know she isn’t but you are. That’s all I’m saying when I commented on your wording, do you understand?
Men ≠ Society
Value in the dating world ≠ value in the world
We should discourage money-ism and short-ism as well, women should date cheap short guys as well out of principal of "fairness"!
EQUALITY!✊🏾
Don't forget about burn victims. I don't see anyone trying to get with them. Should they die alone? Lol I agree with you. People are attracted to what they're attracted to. There will always be people who will always be alone for that reason. Some people are simply not at all appealing sexually. That doesn't mean they don't have any value elsewhere, but the onus is on them to find peace and to create their own value and meaning where they can.
That's my take on what you're saying between the lines there.
People talk about moneyism all the time like that idea that the man “provides”, etc. Even redpill and traditional ppl talk about that, the change starts with ppl and there weird views. Ppl talk about money non stop especially women and traditional ppl….
Ahaha
Ideally you want to be in a stable relationship before you hit this age range as looks decay for some people and today's modern people are very superficial.
The most telling sign that she refuses to accept that she's aging is that she still calls them "older men". Boo boo they're just men to you at this point.
exactly.. she's speaking as if she is still in her 20s. Im thinking what older men? Older men than her are probably either dead, sick or got tangled up with a way younger woman.
@@juleeanng Clint Eastwood is still kicking...knock on wood.
It's scary i'm 35 and haven't dated in 5 yrs, the thought of it just freaks me out.
No, I'm not interested in dating women that age because I want to start a family of my own.
I don't care if I'm called an ageist or whatever. People are allowed to have standards.
Good for you, but don't get mad if young women don't want your defective, old sperm either. The doors aren't fixed to swing one way only. Doors of life are unpredictable. I also find people who are over 40 wanting kids selfish. You are passing disorders and disabilities onto your children. Enough facts out there that show that people over 40 who have babies create complications in how kids come out. For women, it's Down Syndrome and for men, it is Autism. I would do a genetic analysis before making babies after the age of 40. Good luck out there.
Why do you think I am over 40? Did you respond to this comment by mistake?
Are you a young man or are you old? Because the only reason a woman would date you if you are old is either because you have money or because you are her age. Otherwise, it's hard. Good luck out there I guess.
@@LadyCoyKoi People who aren't genetically superior to most who want kids are also selfish.
Love it how you lot just attack the yute for havin standards. Kmt goin bout mans age and money. Just bare wass just cah the man has some standards
Yo how's Skippy doing these days?
She can get her senior citizens discount but Choses not to. She should’ve cashed in her chips early but gotten greedy and lost her bet.
For real! I tell my mom. I can't wait till I get to 65 to get those discounts, Medicare and other benefits for being old... OMG especially them discounts for utility bills and property taxes. YAAAYYY!!! 👍😎👍
"Just grow old and embrace it"...YES! And just take care of yourself while you are growing old. I'm in my 40s and don't look or feel like it because I take care of myself. I actually looked forward to turning 40.
Okay here's the thing...
She WON..
Got married at 19...
Was married for over 30 years
Only reason she still isn't married is because husband died...
She's even technically never dated in her adult life if she got married at 19...
She made all the RIGHT decisions in her younger years but I feel her pain so wish her all the best
I do think Abba and Preach are missing some important points.
Married AT 19yo with a 40+ older men is more a risky choice than a right decision, she married a dumb rockstar who cheated on her multiple Times and spend her money..
Why would a 40 yo man go for a 19 yo girl..it's problematic as hell!
She displays the same kind of thirst for attention akin to a washed up athlete: begging and pining for relevance after the sun has set on their career. Her plight is incredibly superficial at best. Blame social media for this problem of narcissism and over-inflated egos--especially for women like this.
Lol right just like when you see these old ass boxers try to come out of retirement
She still looks great. She can get with men her age, the problem is the men she wants are not your average Joe's.
Though she has a fair point - she's beautiful and has money and is famous. She's not going to date a janitor. Someone with money and in those circles will likely match her better.
Lmaoo we can’t expect anyone to date someone they don’t want
The older you get the harder dating is unfortunately.
That applies to everyone.
I'm 31 and been in a relationship for 13 if I was single again I'd be lost as fuck
Men age like wine, as long as you are grinding and looking after yourself.
At 31 You should still look on point unless you aged badly
@@redscorpion9325 I put on a little weight, I had children so dad bod 😂😂
@@commanderrg101 I try to look after myself with what I eat but I don't really have time to work out and stuff
About 3 years ago, I was dumped by someone whom has bipolar disorder(recently diagnosed, and in short, glad I am out of that abusive relationship).
With that said, I am 32, and still single. It sucks. I can confirm that dating is terrible as you age. Especially with this hookup culture going on too. Never was my thing.
As a 19-year-old girl, I'm gonna respond to the question, "Is Ageism a problem?"- devoid of the context put forward. Short answer-yes. In dating, in work, in social groups, in life- ageism is a problem for older AND younger people regardless of sex. People are more likely to invest in younger people, but they are also more likely to take advantage of them coupled with their extreme opposite (the elderly). People treat you like you are useless based on specific ages, also as you get older it's harder to get jobs or go back into the workforce. There is a whole lot of invalidating the opinions and decisions of younger people- and stigmatizing the elderly or middle age demographic for their "traditional beliefs".
If we wanna talk about dating, I could say men have it easier, but its based on the metric by which men consider "easier" to be (they can decipher that for themselves tbh). Outside of it, grandmothers, mothers and elderly women, in general, are treated with more compassion than elderly males (sexism). Blatantly discriminating against someone because of their age, race, sex or face in any aspect of life is truly your choice. A preference is a preference, or so you would call it- whether you are an employer, looking for a partner, etc., but making someone out to be lesser than in general is ABSOLUTELY UNACCEPTABLE (to me). Nonetheless, keep it pushing - it is a privilege to age or be young, age gracefully (in thought, physical, spiritual, etc.). Don't take to heart the opinions of people you don't know.
you are so right! I love this comment, women are told their only value is in their looks and sex appeal from their youth, young people are NOT valued for anything beyond that and it continues on and on, when your an "ugly," "average" or simply pretty girl, you have to work on your personality, goals and inner self esteem etc. to find value in yourself cause you can't lean on your "beauty," Beautiful girls often don't do that cause they get an instant leg up in their youth and then Once their beauty fades they start to panic cause they didn't do any inner work, for when the time would come for their beauty to fade they would find themselves ok with who they were.
But ageism is an issue in soo many ways like you said, not just in the realm of sex appeal and beauty! I am thirty now but look like I'm in my early twenties, when I was in my twenties I looked Like a teenager and was constantly disrespected cause I simply looked younger, when I told people my age I would notice their perception would change immediately cause suddenly they didn't assume I was some young kid that "didn't know anything." I feel your pain girl, I was there lol
if you actually live to get older and are healthy enough to worry about dating you are blessed , privilledged and above ground. Be greatful , thankful , and humble
She was lazy, let me explain myself. At a young age she didn’t want to meet a man her age because she didn’t want to build up with him. Dating older men that are established is lazy, but you have to remember that an established man has many WAY more options. She aged and the same men who would have picked her up at 20 no longer want her because she’s old. In her 20’s she could have picked a great looking man with a promising future whom she could have built a life with and aged with.
This is probably true of her and many women who are still young.
and this is very much true, she monetized her looks with the older dude but what the video ain't saying is that that very older dude cut her out of his will . women should be smarter.
They were together for 30 years so I wouldn't say it's just laziness. She probably genuinely loved him if they were together that long. Still there are consequences for her now though.
No, you are just projecting she didn't Care about status, cuz she was Richer than her husband...she just prefered older men and it wasn't about money, future or being established..
I mean she was one of the most successful models in the world in her youth so I don't think she really fits what you're talking about. She was also married to her husband for a very long time and talks about how her insecurities grew as she aged because he seemed less attracted to her as she aged. She genuinely loved him and was heartbroken by this.
I’m sick of this woman wingeing… Every minute it’s, “this is unfair”, or “I should have this” blah blah, seems to me like she’s the type of person who’s never really struggled in life and now at her old age she’s gotta date the rest of us at the bottom lmao… We’re not at the bottom but I guess to her we must be because clearly she doesn’t want to date average people… There’s plenty of us out here… She wants to date the rich semi young Dan Bilzerians who are spending their money and wealth on young girls who SHE used to look like whilst also getting money spent on her due to her beauty. Life is all of a sudden “hard” for her now that she’s at the bottom of the barrel like everyone else, big whoop give it a rest lady! 🙄 It’s as if nothing is enough for this woman… She’s been a bombshell model, looked good her entire darn life, probably has major riches herself by now and she’s still not satisfied?
She needs that attention to validate herself
Facts now all of sudden she wants to change beauty standards
I think dating should still be a thing for old single women, bcuz there are old single men. But most old single men go after young women to feel like they themselves are young. And half, give or take, old men are lonely but refuse to look at the women their age. So they end up becoming simps, as in paying younger women for things as simple as time with no sex. This can make women not want to age, and men are already trying to find ways through women and things to not feel as old as they are. Thats what i gathered from observing things.
In the book Art Of Seduction, these people are the easiest to seduce or manipulate. The Dandys, the Siren, the Charmer when they lose their audience they will do anything to get it back. And that’s when the seducer becomes the seduced. Poor woman.
Holy shit aba explained it Spring : puberty ,when sexuality and relationship wants blossom, then summer: when relationships are hot, carefree, many long days of fun. Fall : when things change, relationships , marriage, kids, sometimes divorce, body's, or looks. Then winter: things get colder, maybe a bit harsh and kinda somber then freezing cold death lol.
When women like he refused short, broke, or ugly men, no one asked it heightism, brokeism, or lookism was a problem
This woman didn't refuse those kind of men she married at 18 & to an ugly guy at that.
Difference is that one of them can’t be changed. You can not be broke with effort and some brain power. You can be decently looking by working on your self and your image. You can’t change your height no matter what you do. Maybe you can wear boots, but it’s not going to make a difference because girls will either view you as tall or short already and an inch isn’t going to do jack.
@@TacticalDimples I mean you can’t really control your looks either. I’m a stocky guy and I always clean my face and brush my teeth but my baby face has plagued me (I’m 24 btw) if I could afford plastic surgery I would do it to make me look more manly
Who can remember this statement by these guys better than I?
"You have more I common with people in your same financial bracket than you do w your own race".
Anybody remember the exact wording.? It's too good not to know.
I dont want to quote Fresh n fit here but women always think attraction is asymetrical when its really not. Men dont like the same things in women they like in men
With that being said...
I feel like " Merch" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂
Like you said in one of your other videos "I'm not my type's type". She like rich older men who want younger women. That's not the type that wants her anymore. It's kind of sad.
She hasn't been in the dating game since the late 80s. To be married, that long the dating world has changed from when she was 26 when she got married and now are in her late 50s.
She complains about life…
The guy that finds a natural de-ageing treatment will make so much money!
Every man would have killed themselves to even breathe the same air as Paulina when she was 18 I don't feel badly for her because since she's made her bed let her lay in it she could have had any millionaire billionaire in her prime instead chose a D list rock star who was probably earning less than she was I never got ir
@@Model_Roe this is just revealing the multiverse in which the elite lives in...
Older men w money are taking bodybuilding PEDs. I think older women are taking estrogen.
@@Model_Roe
Lmao she got married at 19, I doubt she even remembers these 18 yr old men
@@hipponew3820 to a D list bass guitarist of all people smh I am sure se regrets it her model peers are all married to millionaires and billionaires and she married a nobody
It took me till recently (I'm 29) that the kind of men I want don't want me and it was a harsh reality check. Ever since I've been working to change myself to be what, what I want wants.
What?
Who will not want you? You are in a perfect age still not to young, but still young so younger people will not have problem and old enough to older people to not view you as a little kid
you only want chad lmao. took you long enough to realize. the men you want treat you like an object because they are much more attractive than you, while you ignore the guys who are equally as attractive as you because you think they aren't good enough
I’m already what, what? What I want! Wants!?
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Hold on so she's complaining about men not finding her attractive but she's also bragging about getting lots of dates? Huh?
Dates but not commitments 😆
@@newcrew1210 maybe she just rejects the ones who would commit bc they're not good enough for some reason. She did say that she's dating "just for fun" so god knows.
She complains that the men SHE wants aren't very interested ;-) It's a classic. When women complain they don't get attention from guys they ignore 500 guys and complain about the one they want.
@@Ariovistus50 I bet if she just lowered her standards she could find someone a lot more easily.
@@R_S747 Ex Supermodel who was married to a Rock Star for 30 some years. How many clicks of the dial is that?
My dad's last wife before he died was just 4 years older than me. It worked for a while because he didn't fool himself, when I tried to warn him (I'm a lawyer), he flat out said: "she wants my money, I want a young woman son". That was it. And she did try to rob him at the end, but by that point he already had secured his kids' part in a trust and I filed suit against her. She lost the pension and went on the run. You gotta know what you want, because these women do
When beauty is your best attribute and the way you make a living, what happens when beauty fades?! Education would have suited her better and helped her through these hard times she’s facing now. But, I could be wrong! 🤣🤣🤣
I personally have no issue with her not wanting to date someone her sons age. It's like everything in life; people don't realize things until the shoe is on their foot.
Yeah but then hes a hypocrite.
The irony in that, is that she was probably dating someone her dad’s age.
@@legalnut7518 yup 👍🏼
"i used to love dating older men"
shit gets real in your 50s and those older men are moving on from viagra to depends.
Literally EVERY age is approaching your son's age if your son is alive. Lol 😂😂😂
This coming from an average/below average dude (according to most, not me) I learned the hard way in my early 30s now that it’s best to work on you for you when you’re starting out, rather than trying to impress people on superficial shit they want, only to be screwed and have nothing. Wasted my entire 20s doing that, and I refuse to do that ever again. There’s an old saying: “having a nice face and a nice ass won’t get you around your whole life. When you turn 30, you better have a personality. Beauty fades, dumb is forever.” I’ve never rly had a chance for a summer, but I don’t worry about that anymore, I have much more important things to deal with. Just be you and work on yourself for you, not others.
I do think that there are many communities e.g. latin americans, Caribbeans, asians and africans that value and protect their elders regardless of what they look like. The problem is this women and others that subscribe to her narrative have gotten by easily on the sheer basis of their looks. Now that those looks are fading they are realizing that there isn't much below the surface for them to be respected or wanted for. That's how you become invisible. Young men won't fix her problem because they don't have the stability she is accustomed to.