@@ghariiscool since when does a person who goes out to intentionally hurt others deserve to have a good man or woman in their life? What entitles someone like her to a *good* person?
This is facts. People are on their best behavior in the beginning. If they're already acting up and pushing boundaries that early, it ain't getting better down the line. Just block them everywhere and thank God you dodged another one
@@GymN3D f all that. If you need to wait for people to "learn and grow" to be decent people, you're dealing with the wrong people. No back and forth is necessary with this at all. This is point blank period.
I have a story to share, I dated a girl like this once. I took her out to dinner and a movie. I was very respectful the entire date I picked her up, opened the doors for her and paid for everything. At the beginning of the night she was rude but I noticed her behavior slowly changing as the night went on and I couldn’t really pin point what exactly it was. When the night was finally over I walked her to her door. As I walked back to my car I heard her begin to cry. When I asked what was wrong she broke down apologizing to me. It turns out she only went on a date with me to try and “break my heart” based on what she’d heard from her friend about me. After going on a date with me she slowly realized that what she heard wasn’t true at all and she really enjoyed the night. Because she acted this way I let her know we wouldn’t be going on another date. In hindsight she went out to break someone’s heart without realizing she was breaking her own. There’s going to be a time when the girl in this video goes through the exact same scenario. She will try to humble someone that actually may have been a great partner in her life. Everything comes full circle.
@@Eman14128 she used to message me often to check up on me. Especially after I got into a serious relationship. She’d often say “You two look so happy.” So I know it’s something that still sits with her. It’s quite ironic to say the least.
@@chronicfrequency4677 the fact that she still msgs you from time to time, shows she also views you as either a catch, or another potential sucker to use. Even after breaking down, she could have put up that whole front to get to you emotionally. Good thing you let her go by saying no for a 2nd date. These types have to learn that not all men are the same.
The worst part about this is after she hurts (or so called “humbles” them) the cycles gonna continue. Guy hurts her feelings->She hurts other guys feels->they lose there trust in women and start hurting other women. So rather then end the cycle, she actually ends up hurting her own gender.
She see's these things everyday, it's not just "oh man broke my heart, mad doesn't want me, time to get revenge." On an everyday basis she deals with weirdos, men cheating on their wives, men SA'ing workers, men saying crazy things, and women who work similar jobs also do. She figures most are like this.
@@claff4573 yeah but that's her job enviorment, not to mention getting mad at a percentage of men for that type of behavior at a seedy job you work at is a YOU problem. I work at customer service don't mean I see any of that stuff also doesn't mean the doesn't happen but I also understand thats what it means to work in a good work enviorment my mental health isn't severely impacted by such behaviors nor does it give me the right to be jaded towards men simply because I know grody men exist. She works a job based on sexual desire its going to be filled with grody things using that as an excuse to hurt men who aren't there doing those things is just an excuse to be toxic yourself. Men see their own fair sh*t of same behaviors done by women and we don't let that be an excuse to hurt women so her working a certain enviorment doesn't give her the right to do the same to men. Omg she probably figures all men are the same cause where she works... She a grown adult woman she knows how to understand work environment vs life enviorment and differs each enviorment. She hates toxic men but I bet she picks the same men with qualities she had when she was used just so she can do the same thing the man in her life did to her and when those men go into enviorments doing the same thing to other women she did. The first thing people do is blame him for his own actions with no empathy for how he's been hurt but the moment a woman does it we get excuses up and down like what you posted.
@@claff4573 “She deal with men cheating on their wives ?” What’s she got to do with anyone over anything . If a man does it it’s bad , same with woman , what she’s doing is bad , just like if men do it , it’s bad too. No double standard . Being a self-proclaimed victim doesn’t mean you can do bad things to others , doesn’t mean you can spread your victimhood like a disease . She’s no more a victim , she became part of the problem .
@@claff4573 Doesn’t she also see men build governments,empires, technologies, innovation? So what is she doing for that? Y’all love blaming crimes on all men but then forget about the accomplishments too.
The absolute irony of how shes a whole stripper that NEEDS mens funds to survive, but on her past time she has a desire to “humble” them 🌚. “You cant make this sh*t up”- Kevin Samuels
She doesn’t *need* men’s funds to survive…she can just get another job in a different field. Women don’t stay strippers forever…also, plenty of dancers & SWers use their income to get thru school & get a degree, in order to have a long term career outside of dancing.
The reason she’s a whole stripper is because there’s a huge demand for them. Many dumb dudes willingly go in there to get played. I dont feel sorry for you if you go to a strip club. You are supporting this lifestyle.
This woman has a skewed perception of what humble means. To show humility is a positive personality trait. It is to be confident but not arrogant. To know your own weaknesses and embrace them. To not over inflate your self importance. She's not out to teach men a positive trait. She's out to hurt people. To humiliate them. Plain and simple.
i think i agree with your premise that she isnt really humbling them, but this is a very bad definition of humility. humility is to recognize your faults, it has nothing to do with confidence. sometimes being humbled can be a negative experience in the moment for that person, doesnt mean its not humbling. however like i said i agree that she isnt humbling these men, shes just hurting them.
I absolutely LOVE how aba & preach challenges each other's perspectives and literally further their intelligence together instead of agreeing brainlessly with one another. What a duo!
I really appreciate your perspective on this. At the beginning I was like ‘’damn.. Aba is kinda stepping on Preach’s toes, why is he trying to impose his views on Preach so much?’’ But at the end of the day, their engagement with each other is only going to help them become more articulate and watching them defend their claim makes for an interesting video! It really is all about perspective huh :)
@@ksantos0511 Exactly! I have trouble with confrontation and arguments and such, so I typically find myself gravitating towards videos where there's only one perspective being focused on, but people who aren't afraid to disagree kindly, and then reasonably explain where the disagreement is, have my infinite respect. At least compared to the modern day, social media type debates going on.
Challenge* (sorry can’t help it) lol but yessss. I love and appreciate them for this among many reasons! They feel like the only big moderate channel on here, moderate to me just meaning like doesn’t label yourself left wing or right wing and go gung ho hating everyone different; but someone who takes the facts of each situation and forms an opinion based on that, not on peer pressure or the past, or what everyone else is doing… Nowadays I think a lot more people are becoming more moderate (sane, as I see it..) after the height of binary politics, and the absolute idiocy it breeds on both sides (seeing the “other side” as absolutely, immediately, and irrevocably wrong/fascist/homophobic/snowflake/communist, no matter WHAT, without being willing to actually even speak to individuals; touting an open mind while simultaneously labeling people as racist without even ever having spoken to them, just all that bs.. ) They are just truly real, tend to have the same opinions as me and that in itself isn’t the main reason I respect them, but the way they reach those opinions
@@kiki164 I wish people , myself included, would try to spend more time looking through the eyes of their adversaries. perspective is everything. we don't & can't, because we are different. and alike. just different tactics... I will say this, men and women are equal in their attempts to control the each other. for the same reasons
“Monster?” A bit much. I’m pretty sure there’s a dude (statistically a father, uncle, brother or cousin) that contributed to this. She’s gotta sort through that. “Mental Health.”
Even the other WOMEN in that room were like “NANI?! 🥴”. These type of women typically aren’t so open about the carnage they hope to impose. Men need to stay clear of them at all costs
Hurt people hurt people. "humbling modern men, or humbling modern women" comes from hurt people simple. For me it's either you love me or you leave me alone🥂.
@@TheObeyMayhem doesnt contradict what op sad. In marvel comiics, according to stan lee, villains are hurt people that want others to feel similar pain, while heroes are people that felt pain in their life and make it their mission to protect others from the same type of pain
"I like humbling men" As if every man is arrogant. She definitely doesn't do it to "humble" them. Its a form of entertainment for her and her broken mind.
Its a power fetish. I partially blame simpy fucking idiot men that gave her this ego. But that girl makes me viscerally want to punch her when i listen to her, ngl.
Regardless if she's cluster A or B personality disorder, letting a woman like that into your life will inevitably deteriorate your well being. Whether she is born like this or made this way is irrelevant because you will still lose every time
Exactly! So the attitude she presents to others will attract her social and romantic relationships, which will only be those that reflect her (toxic) personality back to her because everyone else will end up disassociating with her and it will just create a feedback loop of confirmation bias to continue to her toxic thinking/personality.
@@mac1bc people like this will tell you they are living their best life and know it all, they will dismiss anything constructive you say to them. So fuck 'em, let her "be happy" wither her 6 cats.
Wow dudes as a psychologist I'm really impressed by how knowledgeable you are. Differentiating between behavior in context and pervasive mental disorders is key and you guys nailed it. In therapy someone who behaves sociopathic out of being hurt in the past, I would focus more on the hurt and how to cope with that and develop healthier behavior. If someone doesn't have empathy then I would focus more on rewarding behavior for that person that doesn't hurt other people. How can that person reach their goals without committing crime or damage others.
Yes this right here. You need a goal for a psychopath to be good citizen. You need to give proper mental health care to sociopaths to help them become the good citizen they are supposed to be. Most humans are born good, sociopaths get that good beat out of them by trauma, psychopaths are the few not born good they are neutral to the world and can become good or bad depending on whether or not they get the help they need early on. I am not a psychologist I'm a sociopath that wants to be a good person again. And hopefully I can.
@@thecoedbutcher52 Having empathy etc. is horrible - all it does is make you a target. The better a person you are, the more you become a victim. Humanity doesn't warrant anything but sociopathy in 99% of cases.
@@thecoedbutcher52 Psychopaths are God's example as to why we shouldn't create an AI and then allow human beings to interact with it. AI on its own is gonna be fine. It's the emotionlessly, logically dealing with other human beings that's going to break it and make it turn viciously genocidal. Psychopaths often are the same way, they don't truly respond to punishment well, they're unfazed by guilt clearly, they don't respond to any of our systems that are designed for emotional, empathic beings and so everything to them just feels like a game of power and control. And really, it's hard to distinguish that sometimes even for the people that do it and end up power tripping, so for someone who just doesn't have those brakes or emotions, you're only making them worse by teaching them more about power and control. Instead give them an out, and a way of not being bothered by people, or other people bothering them when all they're doing is something pretty benign. Like I can imagine the outrage of being told you can't take cocaine, when you don't have empathy or emotion, and everything is dull and lifeless and it's like "why the fuck can't I smoke weed and see a stripper?" I think that it's rather ironic that most people don't bother trying to see things from the psychopath's shoes, and the majority of them aren't violent, the problem is, they literally have no compunction against violence if sufficiently pushed, so you need to create an outlet and path for them. Hence, lots of more psychopathic types gravitate toward fields where it can work well, like black ops, judges, surgeons, things where being cold and logical can be useful. I wonder what'd happen if we put them in different schools.
I love when you see profiles of some of these thots on dating apps with "if you can't handle me than don't bother messaging me and swipe left" or "I am crazy hehe I need someone who can handle me" I mean I like that they are letting smart guys know they are to be avoided and dismissed right away but its shocking how shameless and toxic people are.
I knew a girl like this, she was so utterly anti-man and worked in sex-work type shit. She was always so baffled that she couldn’t form strong healthy connections with men and even when she didn’t think she wanted it, she was upset when she didn’t get it. Her main bottleneck? Not beginning to understand the ways in which men suffer or that it’s even possible, and assuming men are shitty almost every time. HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE.
Their is mostly a correlation with sex workers and being anti-male which is honestly sad that is why me personally I wouldn't go for a woman that dress like a ho3 or has wh0re tendencies
A lot of the females that talk like this, (female because they definitely aren’t _women!_ They’re little girls in grown bodies!) For some reason don’t believe or accept that men go through things and have feelings too! They genuinely believe you all are like robots or something! And then there are the ones that know but don’t give a damn because “you’re a strong man, you’ll get over it!” The amount of female friends I’ve gotten rid of because of that bull thinking and mentality is wild!
@@SpikeRazzor 🎯🎯🎯🎯!! They will _never_ talk about that though! It would be funny if they weren’t fkn over men just for their joy, entertainment, brokenness, etc
Several years ago I found out I was cheated on by this girl that I loved. We were planning married and I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I met her while traveling and I moved to another country for her. After I found out that she cheated, I was broken. I turned extremely toxic towards her and the several girls I dated after her. I cheated on and broke several women; just like how I was cheated on and broken. I regret my actions and I'm ashamed of the person I was.
There is a novel that describes this called great expectations. Ive met a lot miss havershams in my life, both male and female. I went through something similar to you i had to make a conscious decision to just party and go to festivals rather than go out getting revenge. I came that close to turning to the dark side.
I understand feeling shame for mistreating the subsequent partners, but how exactly did you turn toxic to the fiancee that cheated on you? Were you abusive in some way? Because if you acted with animosity that was probably justified (to a degree, that's why I'm curious).
I have personally seen quiet nice guys (real good guys) have women like this turn them into monsters that do this to other women. I mean like these men were in love and really thought they were going to spend the rest of their life with these women, and have their soul ripped out of them. It's brutal, and worse is they start running through women and breaking hearts themselves. No care, just a vicious cycle.
No one turns you into anything. You are responsible for your own actions. Blaming your bad behavior on how someone treated you is pathetic. The only thing you can control is your own responses in life. To choose to perpetuate the vicious cycle falls on you and you alone.
She's gonna be the posterchild for, "Fuck around, find out." Someday she's gonna get "humbled" when she's trying to hurt a guy, but it'll backfire on her badly.
Actually, while it is nice of you to wish that for her, it probably will not backfire. People go there whole lives hurting people and they never get a payback. The universe does not work like that.
@@veronicaana my friend anyone who how goes around picking fights will eventually find someone whos gonna fights back. she probably wont get emotionally abused the way she is, but i can absolutely see her praying on what seems likea week man only to break him and find out hes not sane and now she has a man whos hurt and is looking to hurt her back, and u can imagine what would happen next
@@scottthegeneticfreaksteine393 I'm a member of their Patreon where they give early access to several videos sometimes weeks before they post it on UA-cam
One of my biggest pet peeves is when people throw around the word narcissist around like nothing, we all have tendencies but it’s harmful to label everyone who was mean to you a full on narcissist.
Actual narcissists are kinda rare I don't think people who throw that word know what it actually means they just label anybody that's disagrees with them as one just saying shit really
Yes! Most people who are deemed "narcissists" have narcissistic tendencies, they don't have the true full blown disorder. Only a trained professional has the knowledge and criteria to truly title somebody with the disorder. It bothers me as well that uneducated people act like they are a trained professional psycologists. Calling everyone under the sun a narcissist blurs the public's actual understanding of dark-triad personality disorders and the experiences of those who have dealt with true a NPD individual.
I was this person before and I justified this behavior using my past with women. To this day I'm disgusted of how I used to be. I hope she realizes she is wrong and becomes better
@@tobiaslawrence8928 Yeah, they lost me at the ran through part. Kinda discredited themselves a little there with that statement. She is obviously unhappy with her life though, agreed.
This does not mean she should be treated differently. When men do this they get punished. No sympathy what so ever! No excuses. The world & men do not owe women like this anything.. men who do these things get called names and rightfully so, these types women are never shamed by "non broken women". They get sympathy.
People break up, relationships end but a soul that goes out of it's way to hurt people for that reason can't experience the happiness they're really looking for. I seriously hope she gets some help.
All I’m hearing from this woman is words of wisdom- absolute blessing to be able to hear what’s coming out of her mouth. Life saving words she has. She’s inadvertently helping men stay the f*ck away from this girl in a 10 mile radius. 🗿
Nah, there’d be dudes licking her feet if she ask for it I don’t know how but these type of folks, regardless of gender, just attracts schmucks by the dozen
There is a saying I will probably butcher... The difference between a hero and a villain is how they react to trauma. The villain will want others to feel the same hurt they got, the hero will help others to make sure nobody else experiences the pain they felt.
This is great! It's why I've always had a problem with the whole, "hurt people hurt people," blanket saying. Because hurt people who have insight and empathy DON'T want to hurt others! Thank you for this! 🤗💛
Love that and it's so true. That being said, even the heros sometimes accidently hurt others when they're hurting themselves. It's only human. But as Preach pointed out; the intention is different,the outcome occassionally the same 😅 Which is why while I love that saying and agree whole heartedly (I even like to consider myself the hero in this context ), the saying "hurt people hurt people" still rings true..even if it's unintentional in cases of heros
Here's one for ya... My Ex-Wife, after cheating on me and asking for a divorce, decides she's gonna show me a text thread of her and her mom where they're discussing how important it is for women to have a trial marriage. No cap 🙏
Your ex must be related to my ex…2 years after we broke up, he sent me a letter “apologizing” for all his cheating and decided to put in every detail of his cheating and ended the letter asking me to subscribe to his UA-cam channel. The audacity was legendary 😂
Who are all these men who's "hearts" she is breaking. Personally I think she's full of it and is just speaking from a place of being hurt over and over. I mean *LOOK* at her, who's going to fall in love with THAT? let's be real here like she's barely the girl you want to get a lap dance with. She's not exactly the girl you get hurt or cry over. Chick is the quintessential hit it and quit it girl. If you catch feelings for this dumb bird you literally have a mental issue.
Only a stripper that doesn’t want to be one would enjoy doing this. Her being a stripper and doing sexual things for money is the humbling experience for her, and she hates it. Her way of getting even is to humble men on her spare time. It’s her way of getting even. Stay Focused!
Men HAVE TO start understanding how important it is to focus on themselves and not give to much attention to everything else around them. If you do not focus on yourself and make your life better, then people like these will take advantage of you!
@@champ7139 to avoid stray bullets you shouldn’t be around when shots are fired, men who are obsessed with being around women are always getting into trouble especially men who desire to save broken women
Straight up, frfr men need to start having standards and controlling that biology that turns us into cavemen. Focus on yourselves and stop chasing clout plus bottom barrel bishes.
You can’t just ask “All Men” to abstain from women or sex….like….no man in his right mind would EVER waste his time trying 😂😂 I legit feel bad for us dudes, like….we really did get handed from a shit deck….all these modern trappings ain’t worth the freedom my grand dads had….. We got played
Thank you so much for pointing out how normal it is nowadays to diagnose people with mental disorders just because they appear to have some tendencies. Tendencies are nothing compare to an actual disorder. I have a borderline personality disorder and just as you said, there is a difference in motivation for behaviours. Some of the behaviours may appear as narcisistic or sociopathic, but the driving factors are completely different from an actual lack of empathy. Most people are painfuly unaware of how personality disorders really work and feel the need to label you based on their opinion, not facts that often have to be confirmed by a mental health professional. Reading a list of symptoms on Google does not make you one. Stop using narcisist, sociopath and borderline as a way to label people who hurt you to make it easier for you to demonize them.
The moments when you discuss something, then turns out maybe you disagree and then you allow each other to carefully choose the right words and construct a viable argument, and then when you understand each other's points and move on and keep on joking as if nothing happened, always brings me a little happiness knowing there are still people who can communicate efficiently
Women that do Porn/ strip/ etc are extremely broken women. 80% have experienced sexual abuse as children and 90% have experienced broken homes ( Dad) not in their lives. I really respect Abba and Preach. They are intelligent, down to earth, and genuinely seem like honest people. Of all the “channels “ on UA-cam, these two seem the most balanced and honest. ❤
Yep, these mothers need to stop breaking up homes and becoming single mothers, been degenerating society since the 1940s. Imagine being the men who let those societal changes happen, yikes.
@@earthtozaya468 In general girls who grow up without fathers are more likely to experience problems with relationships than girls who grow up with a father. "Adolescent girls raised in fatherless households are far more likely to engage in promiscuous sexual activity before marriage, to cohabit, to get pregnant out of wedlock and to have an abortion" (Krohn& Bogan, 599). The father is helpful in developing a daughter's femininity and in their sexual development (Williamson, 208). Women who had absent fathers growing up tend to have idealized relationships with men, as a hope to get their lost father back, but then comes to the realization that the relationship is flawed and end up disappointed, only to start the cycle over again (Gill, 225). In some interesting statistics, 60% of strippers come from an absent father (Adams, Milner, Schrepf, 171). Females in single parent homes as opposed to intact ones are 53% more likely to marry as teenagers, 111% more likely to have children as teenagers and 92% more likely to divorce if they marry (Krohn& Bogan, 599). The mother is not completely left out of this scenario though. When there is an absent father, the response of the mother is an important one in helping the child cope more easily. (Copied from Bartleby after google searching stripper father statistics) You probably won’t read it
@@DTreatz Funny how cats like you LOVE to say it’s women who break up households yet NEVER acknowledge what the men in those situations did to contribute to the divide, if not being the outright cause of it.
Aba is 100% correct on this. She has been hurt so badly it’s her attempt to force empathy from someone. She wants someone to feel the same pain she felt therefore she intentionally inflicts pain so that she doesn’t feel alone in her negative emotions. Being in pain alone is one of the worst things for a human to experience.
Or she's just and a narcissistic sociopath that deserves all her misfortunes.. we all go hurt and worked hard on moving on and being better like an adult should do, there's no excuses for her behavior..
She wanted the easy money and then started to cope with the consequences of the job in a wired way. She did it to herself. Compassion to this kind of woman is overrated. Societies all over the world know how to deal with that.
I appreciate the differentiation between postpartum mood disorders and bipolar disorder. I had severe PPMDs during a couple of my pregnancies, and it was so hard to deal with and talk about. Correctly diagnosing the problem is essential to correcting the problem.
Definitely. And it's always an ongoing process and that diagnosis should be flexible and never the end-all be-all. Just a starting point... Well. And a label to give the insurance. 🙄 NOT gonna enjoy that headache once I get in the field. If college doesn't kill me first.
For the life of me I will never understand the success of strip clubs. I’ve never had the desire to be in that situation. You pay women money to give you blue balls, knowing you’re the upteenth dude to walk in there. None of the women in there are going to have genuine respect for you because you’re already IN THERE. You’re equating yourself with the type of men that need to pay for this kind of attention, and the truth of it really is comparable to eating off of dirty dishes. It’s just all around gross to me. It’s no surprise that these kind of depraved mindsets come out of places like that.
Exactly. That's why I don't go to them, all it does is inflate their egos, and all those simps in there give men a bad name, and make them think less of us, and if one actually wants to be your girlfriend, leave and never go back. Stripclubs are a waste of money, but it's a bigger waste when one wants to "date" you.
@@HypocritesExposd I tell dudes straight up, if they ask me if I go to strip clubs; "I'm not paying women for sex, why would I pay for less," verbatim. My nephew used to try and give me shit about it, but he saw the light.
As effed up as this is and as common as people like her may be, don't give up on one gender because of people like her. No matter how many it may seem like, because the other side probably feels similar, and they might have the same personality as you. Be careful out there, but don't become bitter against of one gender entirely. Be well everyone EDIT: Please make sure to read my whole comment also
She's the girl version of red pilled men, always trying to take the opposite sex down a few notches. I grew up with a bunch of brothers and I have a great father so I always knew that men were human beings with the same basic needs I have. We aren't a whole different species from each other, we all just want to love and be loved, respect and be respected at the end of the day. These people who have no idea what the other gender is like are the ones out here starting these gender wars
@@PlayshotKalo Mmhm. They get too lost on what they see online, or they judge 50% of an entire planet filled with a species that has existed for thousands of years and think they are all irredeemable. That would be mathematically impossible let alone for one person to make this generalization. It sucks to see from either side
I was diagnosed with bipolar 1 and OCD a few years ago. From a quick google search, bipolar 1 makes up 2.3% of the US population. OCD makes up 1.2% of the US population. What bugs me is when teenagers and other young adults use these mental health conditions as a personality trait…. Or a joke (even worse)… i was diagnosed in my mid-20s…. a teenage brain is not developed enough typically for such diagnoses to be valid. I wouldn’t wish bipolar depression or OCD on anyone. These conditions are very difficult to cope with at their worst. What helps minimize the symptoms of bipolar 1 significantly for me is eating healthy foods and listening to my body. I’m learning how to manage my stress mainly to help with the OCD, also breathing exercises have helped, along with meditation. I dunno if these suggestions may help anyone else. Thank you Aba N Preach for sharing your discussions, you both raise some very good points and your humor is electric. Take care ✌️😌
@@aaronmy really that's it? That's even toxic. Past is best predictor. I mean you probably would make assumptions about someone who has been in prison as well or a girl that was promiscuous past
@@theStyrn he said based on 'their' experiences, not his. Meaning he probably was getting flak about stuff that previous boyfriends did to those girls. "If you don't answer your phone, you cheatin'. That's the only reason men don't answer" that kinda dumb shit.
She's not an anomaly either, there's plenty of women young and old who think the same same way. But society is deadset on telling men that it's solely us that have things to work on.
As a young woman I also treated men like a disposable resource. I was removed from my family as a young girl and became sexualized by men at a very young age. This had me thinking that sex was all I had to offer in a relationship and therefore I used it as a weapon. I went through a long line of men, settling for POS dudes because that was the only type of man that was interested in having a relationship with me, although plenty of men were interested in sex with me. After many abusive relationships I decided to take a step back from dating but I still didnt understand my role in the abuse cycle. It took me leaving my home town and doing intensive work on myself to realize that the common denominator was me. I was responsible for the string of horrible relationships I was in. I did a lot of work and self exploration to get over my borderline personality and become a woman that a decent man would be interested in. I'm happy to say that I am now married to a wonderful man and we share a child together. These women have personality disorders on top of trauma that started at a young age. Until you take responsibility for your part you are doomed to relive the same cycle of abuse over and over.
If I wasn't an only child, I would swear you are my sister. My early life is so similar to yours. I too was sexualized by men, including family men, at a very young age. I was also removed from the home young where the sexualization continued. I too thought the only thing I had to offer men was sex, I was so damaged and my self esteem was so bad that I didn't think I had anything better to offer them. As a side note, men (and women) judge women who have sex with a lot of men, but they fail to realize how damaged these poor lost souls are. You truly feel like that's all you have to give and no better qualities. Anyway, I also went from POS man to POS man, wondering why I could not find a good one like my friends had. However, when I did meet a good man, I would treat him so poorly. Not because I wanted to hurt him. I did not want to, I actually wanted him to love me and me to love him. It was that he treated me so nice that I thought he had ulterior motives. I was not used to being treated like that and didn't know how to handle it. So I would ghost the nice guy and go back to what I knew, the POS. It took my physically abusive exhusband to make me realize my bad childhood caused this. I got help and like you, I am now married to the greatest man in the world and have 6 wonderful kids. I can teach my daughters and my sons how to act and what to watch out for. I would not have been ready for my wonderful husband if I met him 15 years ago. I hope the woman in the video gets help and the men she hurt can heal. Those who have been hurt, please do not take it out on everyone else. And I'm so happy for you that your life is now peaceful. I hope you and your family always have happiness.
Good for you for healing yourself because some women don't even think to do the self work because they don't see themselves as the problem. It takes a really strong person to look deep and admit "man, im terrible" and then choose to change
Just gonna throw this out there, but I enjoy how you do both question one another. It really does broaden the level understanding that others can glean from the conversation, as well as shows that you’re both willing to clarify what you can’t understand amongst one another.
Most of my female friends do this. Me as a men i've been heartbroken very bad and done dirty and I still move like gentlemen, but now I know the characteristic that this type of woman have. Be aware brothers
Yo I remember back in college, there was this girl that told us group of guys that she would buy psychology books to intentionally manipulate the minds of men and get what she wanted. She was definitely broken, but she laughed it off like the woman in this video. It’s crazy and disgusting
Yeah it’ll work on some men who are desperate for sex or don’t have other options. But men who have multiple options will pick up on the bs quickly, and move on.
@@adarkwind4712 You say that as if it is some arcane knowledge too dark to let loose upon the realms. A childish buffoon like her won't do anything except look like a wannabe Disney villain. How many losers buy "Get rich quick" or "Get any woman/man you want" books and only embarrass themselves? That's her. Real, dangerous manipulators didn't learn from reading.
You'd be surprised how many people think like this, I've come across quite a few myself. Had a girl try to do me like this and when I peeped it, I was gone. How about that same girl start whining that I left. Saying she's sorry and that she thought I'd be like other men, still to this day she hasn't gone away and calls me crying that she can't find anyone like me.
Had a girl try this on me, yea she hurt me a little and left me a little confused what I had done to deserve intentional harm. Fortunately for me it was made known to me by a friend of hers the same day, so I hooked up with the friend just for good times sake. Needless to say the girl lost her damn mind
@@torachan23 It's not that I did it on purpose, I legit wish she would be alright but the kinder I am to her, the more she clings. She told me once that she wish I'd be an a$$hole to her so she can get over me, but that's not me, it's a strange situation because she tried to hurt me, and she hurt herself even more. Didn't think she'd fall in love with a guy she intended to destroy, she even admitted that she intentionally hurt men because she felt someone needed to punish them.
The saddest part about all of this from my perspective is how defiantly confident and outright proud she is to admit this sort of thing in public. No matter what people do to you it is never okay to transfer that pain to other people but it becomes something far more sinister when people rationalize and try to morally justify it like this. If this woman is actually telling the truth, and is redeemable, then I hope she can find peace and stop perpetuating a cycle of emotional damage.
Same with the red pill men. But she actively seen these things each and everyday, not just "oh girl broke up with me, girl rejected me", things like men cheating on their wives, saying really dark things, SA'ing other workers. It makes sense why she feels the way she does, despite how people would gaslit her.
@@claff4573 She works at a strip club. What did she expect to see? A Disney movie with cotton candy? I never go to strip clubs and I am probably a decade older than her.
@@Efalonda Anyone who talks about their ex still is a red flag in general if you're out on the dating market. It shows that there's gonna be some wounds, and am I capable of dealing with someone that still has their ex on their mind when I'm trying to date them? y'know unless in conversation it comes up naturally and it's not just a conversation piece that he/she brings up for no reason.
I too hate it when people throw around labels to describe their exes. This coming from someone who dated two different guys with diagnosed bipolar. The first one was not diagnosed until after the relationship ended when he had to be institutionalized. The second was already diagnosed and medicated when we met. That's when I realized that perhaps something was going on with me for me to go two for two with the same mental health diagnosis. 😅
Why would ANYONE sound attractive if they have bipolar? Mood swings are NOT attractive, AT ALL. 💀 Yes, there’s probably seriously something wrong with your choosing of a partner.
What traits do you go for? That should be the biggest question you ask for yourself. Most guys just get whatever is available to them. That's why a man dating a bunch of bipolar women or whatnot doesn't say much it's just a random selection of whoever is single. You have choosing power.
Preach is 100% correct and I agree with Aba saying that these labels are over used. It’s similar with OCD. Everyone has OCD is some way shape or form. But there are some who are actually diagnosed OCD and this disorder can control and ruin their lives. On another note, I feel incredibly bad for this woman. She is very clearly a sad and broken person. And I hope she finds help or someone who will actually support her the way she needs, and she is strong enough to accept it. Truly sad.
"in order for a diagnosis of OCD to be made, this cycle of obsessions and compulsions must be so extreme that it consumes a lot of time (more than an hour every day), causes intense distress, or gets in the way of important activities that the person values" so you can't say that everyone has OCD... It's like comparing a little bit of a headache to a migraine: they might both involve a headache but the first one goes away quickly after you take some paracetamol while the second can last for days and is so severe that it makes it impossible to do anything but stay in bed in a dark room vomiting and paracetamol is not going to make any difference... Same thing with narcissistic behaviour: a person doesn't have to be diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder to have narcissistic traits, because a lot of the time those toxic behaviours are a psychological defence in response to excessive levels of parental criticism, abuse or neglect in early life and are only there because that person's parents never taught them healthy ways of dealing with their emotions. In those cases the person doesn't actually have NPD but still displays narcissistic behaviours. I feel bad for this woman too, she's clearly acting like this because someone taught her that emotional manipulation is the only weapon a woman has, but her narcissistic behaviour should be called out just as much as narcissistic behaviours of men, so instead of complaining that labels are overused I think people should just educate themselves on what they actually mean and how to use them properly: focusing on calling out the behaviour is a lot more productive than trying to just put a label on the person.
Dude. I have diagnosed OCD and I've had it since I was 6. OCD is not universal and I've literally only met maybe 3 people in my life who actually share symptoms lmao
@@Bea359 yeah… that’s what I said. I said everyone has OCD which is a factual statement. But not everyone has diagnosed OCD, which is life consuming. I’m saying there is a difference between the two. There is a distinction, much like your example of a migraine vs a headache.
@@valtiel6306 yes… that’s the point of my statement… read what I said again. “But there are some who are actually diagnosed OCD and this disorder can control and ruin their lives.” The point I am making is that people throw around that term, much like narcissistic. Misusing it because they don’t know what diagnosis of these disorders actually mean. People have a trait of something is not the same, not even close in fact, to being diagnosed with them.
@@MrMossMan7272 By definition "disorder" means something that disrupts your life significantly. If it's not a life consuming thing then it's not actually OCD, it's just experiencing one of the symptoms that people with OCD experience, do you really not understand the difference...? Just like a headache isn't "a little bit of a migraine" - those are two very different things, despite having some similarities between them...
Instead, think about what you can do for yourself. No amount of humility will ever impress a woman who sees you as less than human for it. Find some hobbies, and slowly rebuild your confidence and ego... Women like this hate men who have their head on straight, because they cant control men like that. The result is they weed themselves out of your dating pool.
Humbled implies that you are grateful for the things you do have. There is hope for you brother, but first consider what you do have (health, family, education etc.) I’m sure you will get better.
@@hatman4818 Thank you for the thoughtful response. My comment was more of a joke but of course there was truth to it. And confidence takes a while to rebuild man. When I think I’m getting there, something happens and my confidence goes down again. No matter how much progress I make in the gym, my mind is still the same.
Preach is right, when you take a dsm5 examination, you can score close enough to be diagnosed with tendencies or traits without scoring high enough to be diagnosed as the behavioral condition. And it's important because having tendencies requires specific treatments that can be different from the actual condition.
Man i feel sorry for her, I felt my self going down that path after my previous GF lied about having cancer for 2 years so I would take care of her. I felt myself being jaded and angery against women in general but I am lucky i have friends that are good people, both men and women around me that reminded me that people are good. I feel bad for her because I can understand how easy it is to get lost like this, not excusing her actions but man, Girl is lost and I hope she finds her way out.
I’m sorry you dealt with someone so horrible. But your better than me because if that happened to me and someone I loved wasted two years of my life like that then tbh I probably wouldn’t be as forgiving.
So sorry that happened to you, but that giving spirit will serve you well in a marriage IF you find a woman worthy of such love and devotion. I’m saying a prayer for you to not let the world harden your heart, just make you wiser and stronger.
Nah... It helps but you can't always tell what lingers underneath until you have been able to get a sense of their character and behaviors. Ive been with plenty of cute and innocent looking girls who played up the whole act VERY well and turned out to be as bad if not worst than your typical hoodrat who is more blatant off the bat. The good news is if you don't lie to yourself and have a spine you can see the red flags and dump the garbage like the trash trucks turning the street for pick up
The biggest tell is how she presents herself. If she is walking around half naked then she has very little to offer. Never forget women express themselves by how they dress they know that their biggest selling point is their beauty.
Thank you so much for discussing how people tend to throw around psychological diagnosis without understanding the "diagnosis" part. We certainly need to be careful with our words and "tendencies" are not synonymous with the actual label.
Thank you for bringing up the armchair psychologists who take it upon themselves to diagnose people with all sorts of mental health conditions, especially calling everyone a narcissist. The funniest part of that is that often the accusers show those traits in themselves.
the main issue with the first part of what you said is that you, Aba and Preach don't understand that a person doesn't have to be diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder to have narcissistic traits: a lot of the time those toxic behaviours are a psychological defence in response to excessive levels of parental criticism, abuse or neglect in early life and are only there because that person's parents never taught them healthy ways of dealing with their emotions. In those cases the person doesn't actually have NPD but still displays narcissistic behaviours, so while I definitely agree that armchair psychologists should stop trying to diagnose people, I also think that narcissistic behaviours should be called exactly that, instead of trying to diminish how bad they are by saying that the person doesn't actually have NPD. If someone is acting like an ass then they should be called an ass, no matter what their mental health diagnosis is ;)
@Bea NPD is also a result of what you described. A coping mechanism to growing up abused or neglected and not being taught the right things. Narcissistic traits are the same exact medical list, it's just that you don't check enough to qualify for the disorder, but it's still a mental diagnosis that has to be evaluated by a professional. I do agree that someone with Narcissistic traits will probably act like an ass 😅 but the intent is hard to guess by even the victim. So imo if someone is an ass, call them an ass and keep the diagnosis to the professionals.
@@YesJellyfish I don't need to consult a psychiatrist to call out someone's narcissistic behaviour, just like I don't need to consult a psychiatrist to tell when someone's anxious or has a panic attack: I'm not diagnosing the disorder they might be dealing with, I'm just pointing out a behaviour and every single one of us can display narcissistic behaviour, even if we don't have NPD. It's actually really easy to tell whether or not a behaviour is narcissistic or not: it's all about the intent! Is it malicious, controlling or destructive, is the person making excuses for their behaviour because "this bad thing happened to me 20 years ago and I'll just use it as an excuse for my shitty behaviour for the rest of my life" instead of taking accountability for their actions and trying to work on being better? Or does the person care very deeply but simply doesn't realize they might be doing something that hurts your feelings, for example because they're autistic, but when you call them out they actually apologise and do whatever they can to learn from that mistake? And if you're not sure what the person's intent was then just point out how their behaviour hurt you and listen to how they react. If you want to call someone an ass because you can't tell which behaviours are narcissistic and which aren't then you do you boo, but I've dated and been abused by enough men like that and they all act and think exactly the same, so I'll continue listening to my therapist on that instead of listening to people like you and expecting a narcissistic person to go see a psychiatrist. People like that are not interested in getting diagnosed and becoming a better person because it's a lot easier to blame everyone else for their problems...
Hurt people hurt people that is why no one should date a broken person. If they don’t have the discernment to go get help for themselves, what will they do to you? ?? Case in point, look at how she’s dressed. She doesn’t think too highly of herself
I think when men act this way, there are social norms on dealing with it. But women, it's viewed as a anti-woman thing to do to criticize. Men are still in that Disney view of women. Most parents don't correct this behavior in girls early on, they just go with it. Because let's be honest they are little emotional terrorists. But if you have a strong parent with boundaries and expectations this does not happen. This is the result of parent lack, and personal character issues. There is no fixing a liberal blue mindset having women.
It’s literally the definition of psychopathy. Viewing people as disposable tools who are to be used or to be played with to see how they respond emotionally.
@@realone2020 wrong. A sociopath does immoral acts as a means to an end not because they inherently derive joy from doing things that harm other people. Psychopaths actually ENJOY causing destruction and harming people. Sociopaths can have a range of normal emotional responses and feel remorse or guilt. A psychopath is devoid of normal emotional responses and any concept of guilt. Too many people here who don't know what they are talking about.
Absolutely agree about Narcissism. Narcissism is correctly used as a adjective ie, "he's very narcissistic" pointing out a bad character trait. But Narcissism is a personality disorder that has to be diagnosed and needs treatment, and is also on the rare side of the population. People are just mashing up the categories and labelling people as a narcissist because they might be self-centered.
Her: “I like humbling men. It’s my pastime.” Guy: “you work at a strip club, do you humble men there?” Her: “no I take their money.” Me: aight, fair enough I guess, honesty is the way.
Jokes on her. Any man that would be "humbled" or heartbroken in any way, any man that would catch feelings for a *stripper* is already not a high value man. So she's just breaking the hearts of Peasants. So who's time is she wasting and what is she proving? Anyone worthwhile would never care about her.
@Mac Trilogy how does she humble them exactly if those men choose to go to the club and spend their money there? So if I pay a street walking stripper $300 for a Lapdance and a hand job she's humbled me? Are we using the word "humbled" instead of "ejaculated"?
@Chinboss Chinboss Are you stoopid? She's saying she humbles them when she's dating them, taking advantage of them when she's not. She literally said NO when asked, "Do you humble men there," meaning the strip club. So are you confusing the word no with yes? This women is gutter trash, but you're a step or 9 behind here.
@@chinbosschinboss2484 it's a coping mechanism. That's how she justifies what she does in her head. She does that instead of facing reality because that would mean that she beeds to acknowledge that she's the lowest form of trash
You are so right Aba, she is broken. This girl is only going to continue to destroy herself until she gets counseling, she is masking trauma,pain, and bad decisions as "humbling men". The faces she even makes is like a forced smile struggling to hold back her pain, she wants to spread the hurt she feels inside thinking it might make her feel better; but she will not get better without help (insert Betterhelp commercial).
She is just saying stuff to seem cool and not hurt but she really comes of as the person who got dumped and passed on by some people 😂 even when she says it the smile and all just screams “I wanna cry” face 😂😂
honestly, as long as this "disagreement" of yours went on, it's very amicable how self aware you both are about comminicating, listening, and recognising your own faults. being able to disagree/agree and not go at eachothers throats on a single topic. very well done. most civil argument/not argument/discussion i've seen in a while. it's nice that you can actually talk like adults should.
This is a coping mechanism. In reality, a dude pumped and dumped her but she has to somehow make herself the "strong, independent" hero of the story. Inside she's completely broken. The only defense against humiliation is humility.
“I was just trying to see if I could break his heart, it was fun, I hope I did a little damage.” Preach said it best: “You’re a piece of sh*t Nothing more to it
Who are all these men who's "hearts" she is breaking. Personally I think she's full of it and is just speaking from a place of being hurt over and over. I mean *LOOK* at her, who's going to fall in love with THAT? let's be real here like she's barely the girl you want to get a lap dance with. She's not exactly the girl you get hurt or cry over. Chick is the quintessential hit it and quit it girl. If you catch feelings for this dumb bird you literally have a mental issue.
I was with a woman a long time ago who told me something to this effect. I think maybe 14 years after we were done she tried to befriend me and "wanted to makeup for it all". I just told her I wasn't interested in whatever new shit test she was conducting and blocked her.
"Poorly treated" its called personal accountability sir. She dies bad shit sleeps with men and plays mind games... SHE CHOSE to do that. Men don't get excuses when we do the same. Why should we be make excuses for women ? We don't is the only answer you should need.
She spends her time learning to break someone.. she'll never learn to love someone without actually spending time loving. when she finally finds someone who she wants to love, she won't know what to do to earn it.
Who are all these men who's "hearts" she is breaking. Personally I think she's full of it and is just speaking from a place of being hurt over and over. I mean *LOOK* at her, who's going to fall in love with THAT? let's be real here like she's barely the girl you want to get a lap dance with. She's not exactly the girl you get hurt or cry over. Chick is the quintessential hit it and quit it girl. If you catch feelings for this dumb bird you literally have a mental issue.
Your synergy and playful but tolerant exploration together is refreshing; thanks for the energy! The word I'm missing in this bit is 'responsibility'. If she know or knew better (on an emotional level) and ain't just not "born with those circuits" she is even more responsible for the shit she puts in the world. Doesn't make her worse or better, because her actions are still exactly the same. It does make her better or worse off in the sense of being able to judge and correct her own behavior. My point is, the diagnosis is a 'her problem', her actions is an 'our problem', which is why people need to chill with the throwing of diagnosis at each other; leave that shit to the professionals and their patients.
My mom told me she didn't like me and I didn't realize what was going on at the time she was trying to destroy me as a kid mentally so i moved away and stayed away I'm never going around the people that she knows ever
She thinks she's being edgy and intimidating. She wouldn't last a day messing with real ones. She'll eventually f*ck with the wrong one and end up on the 6 o'clock news.
"What are the traits of sociopathy? The list of common traits you might see in someone who has antisocial personality disorder: Not understanding the difference between right and wrong. Not respecting the feelings and emotions of others. Constant lying or deception. Being callous. Difficulty recognizing emotion. Manipulation. Arrogance. Violating the rights of others through dishonest actions. Impulsiveness. Risk-taking. Difficulty appreciating the negative aspects of their behavior."
Exactly. People who have been severely hurt can exhibit these traits. So I disagree with Aba, people can absolutely become sociopathic from being hurt so much.
@@LethalByChoice Like Preach said, being a sociopath and having tendencies is not the same. Although, the second part is actually scarily common, specially among highly succesful people. Most high-earning or powerful career paths with difficult, cutthroat environments, from surgeons to politicians to journalists, attract the most sociopath-like people.
This post made me become alarmingly aware of the possibility that my dad might have this. Omg I’ll probably never know for sure but god he fits the description.
@@publiusventidiusbassus1232 A very strict, austere drill sergeant that trains his troops is also cutthroat because fighting in a war requires it. One wrong move from a single soldier can endanger the lives of your whole army, if not lead to mass deaths. Ordering a 'code red' in a Few Good Men crosses that line.
Lack of a loving & solid father will have women like her walking around thinking her hurt behavior is ok. Guarantee she has little to no respect for her own father with how she treats other men like a fiddle to toy with
Yeah nowadays it's not even an absent father. The society is pushing this type of woman to be normalized so even if you raise your daughter right, there's so much constant outside influence to say otherwise that it has to purely be her choice to notice that this way of thinking isn't fruitful
@@wPleasur3 - If you don’t have a good relationship with your father, you won’t understand what it means to love a man. Men become transactional. That’s not something you can just learn. It has to be experienced as a child. The women I know who aren’t crazy love their dads. All the women who I know who are psycho have no fathers or hate their dads. Having stable male relationships matter to both sons and daughters.
3:05 I was 17 and had no family when I moved to canada, and had no options for work that would benefit me. Selling myself was a past time, only looks no touching, but it still felt so dehumanizing. Once i felt comfortable financially, I got a car and expanded that to getting the job I love today.
I'm so thankful to you guys to make this video, I've been misunderstood, so many times and therapy has helped me a lot, but I have understood that there is no point in explaining this to anybody either, as some people are not ready to see this point... love this video. Labels have become intense nowadays
@Shol'va you proved the point why this video was made, ignorance is brutally painful, and I can underhand when some homo sapiens sapiens are still not evolved and can't use the gray matter cells that resides in their skull cavity , just like yourself 🤣😂🙃
I'm not even mad, I'm just glad she made herself public.
in 10-15 years she'll be saying "why can't I find a good man"
Yeah this is great. It's like in nature. Some animals that can F you up are kind to let you know. 😂
Been saying this for a minute now. Let these women keep exposing themselves via the Internet.
@@ghariiscool i expect bathtub toast, but sure sir
@@ghariiscool since when does a person who goes out to intentionally hurt others deserve to have a good man or woman in their life? What entitles someone like her to a *good* person?
The looks on the faces of everyone else in the room is telling.
W girl
I’m relieved everyone in the room found that off putting
indeed
@@ihop1571 Did a girl dm you? Did you get that sweet 0F 50% deal?
Hm.
If someone treats you poorly at the beginning of a relationship just run. This is the most civil they will ever be. Run.
This. I hope i was this smart 7 years ago, but never again
This is facts. People are on their best behavior in the beginning. If they're already acting up and pushing boundaries that early, it ain't getting better down the line. Just block them everywhere and thank God you dodged another one
I get your point, but do you realise people change, learn and grow if you communicate with them, ofc there are still bad people but people change
@@GymN3D tried that, got divorced. I'll pass.
@@GymN3D f all that. If you need to wait for people to "learn and grow" to be decent people, you're dealing with the wrong people. No back and forth is necessary with this at all. This is point blank period.
I have a story to share, I dated a girl like this once. I took her out to dinner and a movie. I was very respectful the entire date I picked her up, opened the doors for her and paid for everything. At the beginning of the night she was rude but I noticed her behavior slowly changing as the night went on and I couldn’t really pin point what exactly it was. When the night was finally over I walked her to her door. As I walked back to my car I heard her begin to cry. When I asked what was wrong she broke down apologizing to me. It turns out she only went on a date with me to try and “break my heart” based on what she’d heard from her friend about me. After going on a date with me she slowly realized that what she heard wasn’t true at all and she really enjoyed the night. Because she acted this way I let her know we wouldn’t be going on another date. In hindsight she went out to break someone’s heart without realizing she was breaking her own. There’s going to be a time when the girl in this video goes through the exact same scenario. She will try to humble someone that actually may have been a great partner in her life. Everything comes full circle.
she has to live with that , that will eat her up .
@@Eman14128 she used to message me often to check up on me. Especially after I got into a serious relationship. She’d often say “You two look so happy.” So I know it’s something that still sits with her. It’s quite ironic to say the least.
@@chronicfrequency4677 the fact that she still msgs you from time to time, shows she also views you as either a catch, or another potential sucker to use. Even after breaking down, she could have put up that whole front to get to you emotionally. Good thing you let her go by saying no for a 2nd date. These types have to learn that not all men are the same.
She definitely has regrets and knows she missed out
@@newmnsilver I think those are a lot of assumptions that she was acting. However don't ever risk it. Don't date people would ever do that
The worst part about this is after she hurts (or so called “humbles” them) the cycles gonna continue. Guy hurts her feelings->She hurts other guys feels->they lose there trust in women and start hurting other women. So rather then end the cycle, she actually ends up hurting her own gender.
Yup you just created another monster.
She see's these things everyday, it's not just "oh man broke my heart, mad doesn't want me, time to get revenge." On an everyday basis she deals with weirdos, men cheating on their wives, men SA'ing workers, men saying crazy things, and women who work similar jobs also do. She figures most are like this.
@@claff4573 yeah but that's her job enviorment, not to mention getting mad at a percentage of men for that type of behavior at a seedy job you work at is a YOU problem.
I work at customer service don't mean I see any of that stuff also doesn't mean the doesn't happen but I also understand thats what it means to work in a good work enviorment my mental health isn't severely impacted by such behaviors nor does it give me the right to be jaded towards men simply because I know grody men exist.
She works a job based on sexual desire its going to be filled with grody things using that as an excuse to hurt men who aren't there doing those things is just an excuse to be toxic yourself.
Men see their own fair sh*t of same behaviors done by women and we don't let that be an excuse to hurt women so her working a certain enviorment doesn't give her the right to do the same to men.
Omg she probably figures all men are the same cause where she works...
She a grown adult woman she knows how to understand work environment vs life enviorment and differs each enviorment.
She hates toxic men but I bet she picks the same men with qualities she had when she was used just so she can do the same thing the man in her life did to her and when those men go into enviorments doing the same thing to other women she did.
The first thing people do is blame him for his own actions with no empathy for how he's been hurt but the moment a woman does it we get excuses up and down like what you posted.
@@claff4573 “She deal with men cheating on their wives ?” What’s she got to do with anyone over anything . If a man does it it’s bad , same with woman , what she’s doing is bad , just like if men do it , it’s bad too. No double standard . Being a self-proclaimed victim doesn’t mean you can do bad things to others , doesn’t mean you can spread your victimhood like a disease . She’s no more a victim , she became part of the problem .
@@claff4573
Doesn’t she also see men build governments,empires, technologies, innovation? So what is she doing for that? Y’all love blaming crimes on all men but then forget about the accomplishments too.
The absolute irony of how shes a whole stripper that NEEDS mens funds to survive, but on her past time she has a desire to “humble” them 🌚. “You cant make this sh*t up”- Kevin Samuels
LOL
She does not need it there’s thousands of jobs she can get
She doesn’t *need* men’s funds to survive…she can just get another job in a different field. Women don’t stay strippers forever…also, plenty of dancers & SWers use their income to get thru school & get a degree, in order to have a long term career outside of dancing.
The reason she’s a whole stripper is because there’s a huge demand for them. Many dumb dudes willingly go in there to get played. I dont feel sorry for you if you go to a strip club. You are supporting this lifestyle.
@@ihop1571 pea brain
This woman has a skewed perception of what humble means. To show humility is a positive personality trait. It is to be confident but not arrogant. To know your own weaknesses and embrace them. To not over inflate your self importance. She's not out to teach men a positive trait. She's out to hurt people. To humiliate them. Plain and simple.
Damn straight.
Great breakdown
@@DrakusLuthos this sound like incel ideology
Agreed. She's getting off on hurting people, what's wrong with her? Sheesh.
i think i agree with your premise that she isnt really humbling them, but this is a very bad definition of humility. humility is to recognize your faults, it has nothing to do with confidence. sometimes being humbled can be a negative experience in the moment for that person, doesnt mean its not humbling. however like i said i agree that she isnt humbling these men, shes just hurting them.
I absolutely LOVE how aba & preach challenges each other's perspectives and literally further their intelligence together instead of agreeing brainlessly with one another. What a duo!
Exactly! These two were meant to create videos like these together. I love this channel.
I really appreciate your perspective on this. At the beginning I was like ‘’damn.. Aba is kinda stepping on Preach’s toes, why is he trying to impose his views on Preach so much?’’ But at the end of the day, their engagement with each other is only going to help them become more articulate and watching them defend their claim makes for an interesting video! It really is all about perspective huh :)
It’s dope!
@@ksantos0511 Exactly! I have trouble with confrontation and arguments and such, so I typically find myself gravitating towards videos where there's only one perspective being focused on, but people who aren't afraid to disagree kindly, and then reasonably explain where the disagreement is, have my infinite respect. At least compared to the modern day, social media type debates going on.
Challenge* (sorry can’t help it) lol but yessss. I love and appreciate them for this among many reasons! They feel like the only big moderate channel on here, moderate to me just meaning like doesn’t label yourself left wing or right wing and go gung ho hating everyone different; but someone who takes the facts of each situation and forms an opinion based on that, not on peer pressure or the past, or what everyone else is doing…
Nowadays I think a lot more people are becoming more moderate (sane, as I see it..) after the height of binary politics, and the absolute idiocy it breeds on both sides (seeing the “other side” as absolutely, immediately, and irrevocably wrong/fascist/homophobic/snowflake/communist, no matter WHAT, without being willing to actually even speak to individuals; touting an open mind while simultaneously labeling people as racist without even ever having spoken to them, just all that bs.. )
They are just truly real, tend to have the same opinions as me and that in itself isn’t the main reason I respect them, but the way they reach those opinions
The chemistry between you two is crazy. The in sync shrug at 5:42 is crazy
True😂🤣
I caught that too! Lmfao that looked rehearsed 😂
You stole my comment mfethu! 😂🤣
They're still not friends tho btw XD
@@doubleedge2814 I remember they said that. Their forcing non friendship
Thank goodness for her honesty. We need more monsters like her to be honest.
they are ubiquitous.
its about power. always has been.
@@kiki164 I wish people , myself included, would try to spend more time looking through the eyes of their adversaries. perspective is everything.
we don't & can't, because we are different.
and alike. just different tactics...
I will say this, men and women are equal in their attempts to control the each other.
for the same reasons
Do you think assassins say “this wasn’t personal” for their victims sake?
A human succubus like her will struggle to build a stable family
“Monster?” A bit much. I’m pretty sure there’s a dude (statistically a father, uncle, brother or cousin) that contributed to this. She’s gotta sort through that. “Mental Health.”
Even the other WOMEN in that room were like “NANI?! 🥴”. These type of women typically aren’t so open about the carnage they hope to impose. Men need to stay clear of them at all costs
There’s Bodies behind the scenes
Well at least she let the world know what type of crazy they gonna get into. For messing with that.
right, theyre not shocked that she does this, theyre shocked that she said the quiet part out loud
Nani 😂😂
Those faces were like republican politicians when Trump said he was invading Syria for the oil.
Hurt people hurt people. "humbling modern men, or humbling modern women" comes from hurt people simple. For me it's either you love me or you leave me alone🥂.
No, good people want better for others than they had for themselves, shit people give it back to random people.
@@TheObeyMayhem I agree ..
@@TheObeyMayhem doesnt contradict what op sad.
In marvel comiics, according to stan lee, villains are hurt people that want others to feel similar pain, while heroes are people that felt pain in their life and make it their mission to protect others from the same type of pain
"I like humbling men" As if every man is arrogant. She definitely doesn't do it to "humble" them. Its a form of entertainment for her and her broken mind.
In order for someone to be humble.They have to be embarrassed or humiliated.Humble isn't a good thing
Its a power fetish. I partially blame simpy fucking idiot men that gave her this ego. But that girl makes me viscerally want to punch her when i listen to her, ngl.
@@beyondeverythingspidermanm4491 not really.
She gets a high from it.
@@beyondeverythingspidermanm4491 that’s wrong it’s not overestimating your own importance
Regardless if she's cluster A or B personality disorder, letting a woman like that into your life will inevitably deteriorate your well being. Whether she is born like this or made this way is irrelevant because you will still lose every time
Exactly! So the attitude she presents to others will attract her social and romantic relationships, which will only be those that reflect her (toxic) personality back to her because everyone else will end up disassociating with her and it will just create a feedback loop of confirmation bias to continue to her toxic thinking/personality.
@@scalp340 we can only hope she gets her humbling moment sooner rather than later. She is playing a dangerous game though
she's just a straight up sociopath, that's it.
@@mac1bc people like this will tell you they are living their best life and know it all, they will dismiss anything constructive you say to them.
So fuck 'em, let her "be happy" wither her 6 cats.
With that way of life, It is inevitable she faces karma.
Breaking Men's hearts to be clear doesn't humble them in the slightest, it does however make them bitter, resentful and unstable.
Then people wonder, fuuck why is this guy like this again? That’s why..
And perpetuates the cycle of abuse!
adding more brokeness to the see smh
And even thinking about it, some men may not take it lightly in which it could turn them to someone they try to avoid becoming.
It does humble you if you’re not an egomaniac trying to fight the truth. Heartbreak isn’t the issue. Entitlement is.
Wow dudes as a psychologist I'm really impressed by how knowledgeable you are. Differentiating between behavior in context and pervasive mental disorders is key and you guys nailed it. In therapy someone who behaves sociopathic out of being hurt in the past, I would focus more on the hurt and how to cope with that and develop healthier behavior. If someone doesn't have empathy then I would focus more on rewarding behavior for that person that doesn't hurt other people. How can that person reach their goals without committing crime or damage others.
Yes this right here. You need a goal for a psychopath to be good citizen. You need to give proper mental health care to sociopaths to help them become the good citizen they are supposed to be. Most humans are born good, sociopaths get that good beat out of them by trauma, psychopaths are the few not born good they are neutral to the world and can become good or bad depending on whether or not they get the help they need early on.
I am not a psychologist I'm a sociopath that wants to be a good person again. And hopefully I can.
@@thecoedbutcher52 If your working on becoming a good person I think its very possible
@@thecoedbutcher52 Having empathy etc. is horrible - all it does is make you a target. The better a person you are, the more you become a victim. Humanity doesn't warrant anything but sociopathy in 99% of cases.
How do people tend to behave sociopathic? Could you elaborate?
@@thecoedbutcher52 Psychopaths are God's example as to why we shouldn't create an AI and then allow human beings to interact with it. AI on its own is gonna be fine. It's the emotionlessly, logically dealing with other human beings that's going to break it and make it turn viciously genocidal. Psychopaths often are the same way, they don't truly respond to punishment well, they're unfazed by guilt clearly, they don't respond to any of our systems that are designed for emotional, empathic beings and so everything to them just feels like a game of power and control. And really, it's hard to distinguish that sometimes even for the people that do it and end up power tripping, so for someone who just doesn't have those brakes or emotions, you're only making them worse by teaching them more about power and control. Instead give them an out, and a way of not being bothered by people, or other people bothering them when all they're doing is something pretty benign. Like I can imagine the outrage of being told you can't take cocaine, when you don't have empathy or emotion, and everything is dull and lifeless and it's like "why the fuck can't I smoke weed and see a stripper?" I think that it's rather ironic that most people don't bother trying to see things from the psychopath's shoes, and the majority of them aren't violent, the problem is, they literally have no compunction against violence if sufficiently pushed, so you need to create an outlet and path for them. Hence, lots of more psychopathic types gravitate toward fields where it can work well, like black ops, judges, surgeons, things where being cold and logical can be useful. I wonder what'd happen if we put them in different schools.
I cannot CANNOT stand adults who glorify their negative personality traits. Walking around talking about "I'm toxic lol" grow tf up.
Yes!!! Like the whole “petty” thing that people brag about.
Yeah, you are spot on there. The world is a much better place if people at least try to me moral towards each other.
I love when you see profiles of some of these thots on dating apps with "if you can't handle me than don't bother messaging me and swipe left" or "I am crazy hehe I need someone who can handle me"
I mean I like that they are letting smart guys know they are to be avoided and dismissed right away but its shocking how shameless and toxic people are.
"I'm such a hot mess LOL" okay please don't fucking talk to me bitch
“I’m toxic”
“I’m high maintenance”
They always such a W-e
I knew a girl like this, she was so utterly anti-man and worked in sex-work type shit. She was always so baffled that she couldn’t form strong healthy connections with men and even when she didn’t think she wanted it, she was upset when she didn’t get it. Her main bottleneck? Not beginning to understand the ways in which men suffer or that it’s even possible, and assuming men are shitty almost every time. HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE.
Their is mostly a correlation with sex workers and being anti-male which is honestly sad that is why me personally I wouldn't go for a woman that dress like a ho3 or has wh0re tendencies
Kendrick Lamar said it best hurt people hurt people
A lot of the females that talk like this, (female because they definitely aren’t _women!_ They’re little girls in grown bodies!) For some reason don’t believe or accept that men go through things and have feelings too! They genuinely believe you all are like robots or something! And then there are the ones that know but don’t give a damn because “you’re a strong man, you’ll get over it!”
The amount of female friends I’ve gotten rid of because of that bull thinking and mentality is wild!
Crazy how someone could be 'anti-man', yet the best they can do survival wise is lay on their back (stomach, kneel) for random men...
@@SpikeRazzor 🎯🎯🎯🎯!! They will _never_ talk about that though! It would be funny if they weren’t fkn over men just for their joy, entertainment, brokenness, etc
Several years ago I found out I was cheated on by this girl that I loved. We were planning married and I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I met her while traveling and I moved to another country for her. After I found out that she cheated, I was broken. I turned extremely toxic towards her and the several girls I dated after her. I cheated on and broke several women; just like how I was cheated on and broken. I regret my actions and I'm ashamed of the person I was.
Thanks you for sharing
You might try to reach out an apologize, let them know why? It may help them and you.
@@dlodge4966 That’s the absolute last thing I’d want to hear if I was a woman in that situation
There is a novel that describes this called great expectations. Ive met a lot miss havershams in my life, both male and female. I went through something similar to you i had to make a conscious decision to just party and go to festivals rather than go out getting revenge. I came that close to turning to the dark side.
I understand feeling shame for mistreating the subsequent partners, but how exactly did you turn toxic to the fiancee that cheated on you? Were you abusive in some way? Because if you acted with animosity that was probably justified (to a degree, that's why I'm curious).
I have personally seen quiet nice guys (real good guys) have women like this turn them into monsters that do this to other women. I mean like these men were in love and really thought they were going to spend the rest of their life with these women, and have their soul ripped out of them. It's brutal, and worse is they start running through women and breaking hearts themselves. No care, just a vicious cycle.
No one turns you into anything. You are responsible for your own actions. Blaming your bad behavior on how someone treated you is pathetic. The only thing you can control is your own responses in life. To choose to perpetuate the vicious cycle falls on you and you alone.
She's gonna be the posterchild for, "Fuck around, find out." Someday she's gonna get "humbled" when she's trying to hurt a guy, but it'll backfire on her badly.
She's a sad statistic waiting to happen.
I mean it has already begun! I'm certain all the men on the comments will run far and fast away from her on first sight! No one will date her!
Actually, while it is nice of you to wish that for her, it probably will not backfire. People go there whole lives hurting people and they never get a payback. The universe does not work like that.
@@veronicaana oh karma works for everyone, sometimes it just takes very long
@@veronicaana my friend anyone who how goes around picking fights will eventually find someone whos gonna fights back. she probably wont get emotionally abused the way she is, but i can absolutely see her praying on what seems likea week man only to break him and find out hes not sane and now she has a man whos hurt and is looking to hurt her back, and u can imagine what would happen next
Preach said it best..."mental health"
Probably his best line
Preach had a few great takes in this one.
DA SICKNNEEEEEESSS
Wait a second why is your comment 3 weeks ago when this video was just put up? I’m so confused is UA-cam taking down videos or something
@@scottthegeneticfreaksteine393 I'm a member of their Patreon where they give early access to several videos sometimes weeks before they post it on UA-cam
I remember when my mom called my brother a narcissist just because he disagreed with her on a topic.
Is she still like that?
@@chimchim-tata9181 shes probably doing fine at the nursing home 🏡
I need to know what they were talking about
Depending on the topic maybe he is.
Lol
One of my biggest pet peeves is when people throw around the word narcissist around like nothing, we all have tendencies but it’s harmful to label everyone who was mean to you a full on narcissist.
only a narcissist would say that... :3
Actual narcissists are kinda rare I don't think people who throw that word know what it actually means they just label anybody that's disagrees with them as one just saying shit really
Yes! Most people who are deemed "narcissists" have narcissistic tendencies, they don't have the true full blown disorder. Only a trained professional has the knowledge and criteria to truly title somebody with the disorder. It bothers me as well that uneducated people act like they are a trained professional psycologists. Calling everyone under the sun a narcissist blurs the public's actual understanding of dark-triad personality disorders and the experiences of those who have dealt with true a NPD individual.
She's a narcissist.
@@doctormalleycat We all have narcissistic tendencies and a certain degree of narcissism
I was this person before and I justified this behavior using my past with women.
To this day I'm disgusted of how I used to be. I hope she realizes she is wrong and becomes better
Good that you've learned
I can’t imagine how you’ve realized this about yourself or who pointed it out but I’m glad you decided to do something about it, all the power to u!
What made u learn/change
We all fuck up, sometimes really bad. The important thing is to learn from those mistakes. Glad to see you did that and I hope she does too
this is *real* growth. good on you, my dude
She's coping. Nothing but misery behind that smile. Happy people don't do sh!t like this. She's been ran through, and this is a revenge tour.
I don't know about the rain through part, but she is hurting.
@@tobiaslawrence8928 you can be sure of it
@@tobiaslawrence8928 Yeah, they lost me at the ran through part. Kinda discredited themselves a little there with that statement. She is obviously unhappy with her life though, agreed.
This does not mean she should be treated differently. When men do this they get punished. No sympathy what so ever! No excuses. The world & men do not owe women like this anything.. men who do these things get called names and rightfully so, these types women are never shamed by "non broken women". They get sympathy.
@@drink.juice. ran through..she got more bodies then the predator man.
Even if she was a 10. Which she isn't. She is way too confident in her delusion. Life is going to humble her in an incredible way
Nah there still will be simps. Women no matter age will always have a queue of chumps
Yup, she’s above average bit that doesn’t mean a thing mate. She’ll get what she fckn deserves
In a few years there will always be some cats in need of a home 🏠
she gonnna have alot of kats when she hits the wall
Cant with till she is 60 without any kids and cant have any either. That'll teach her lol
People break up, relationships end but a soul that goes out of it's way to hurt people for that reason can't experience the happiness they're really looking for. I seriously hope she gets some help.
Wait until she is in her mid 30’s. Life has something special waiting for her.
She isn’t anything special now. She’s in for a BIG wake up call.
Even early 30s.
Bukakkalypse
She will just blame men
No Eggs
All I’m hearing from this woman is words of wisdom- absolute blessing to be able to hear what’s coming out of her mouth. Life saving words she has.
She’s inadvertently helping men stay the f*ck away from this girl in a 10 mile radius. 🗿
Nah, there’d be dudes licking her feet if she ask for it
I don’t know how but these type of folks, regardless of gender, just attracts schmucks by the dozen
*50* mile radius you mean
@@HeliosX28 yeah LMAO
@@HeliosX28 more like a world distance
"They had us in the first part not gonna lie"
There is a saying I will probably butcher... The difference between a hero and a villain is how they react to trauma. The villain will want others to feel the same hurt they got, the hero will help others to make sure nobody else experiences the pain they felt.
This is great! It's why I've always had a problem with the whole, "hurt people hurt people," blanket saying.
Because hurt people who have insight and empathy DON'T want to hurt others!
Thank you for this! 🤗💛
SPOT ON MY GUY
Love that and it's so true. That being said, even the heros sometimes accidently hurt others when they're hurting themselves. It's only human. But as Preach pointed out; the intention is different,the outcome occassionally the same 😅
Which is why while I love that saying and agree whole heartedly (I even like to consider myself the hero in this context ), the saying "hurt people hurt people" still rings true..even if it's unintentional in cases of heros
Damn, fool... I'm a villain 😔
aw man! By this accord I am a hero! Which is weird because I always love acting the villain! But anyway you made me feel great. Thank you!
Preach was explaining in this video he literally spent a good 25 minutes talking about is as as if what had happened was. Love this video.
Here's one for ya... My Ex-Wife, after cheating on me and asking for a divorce, decides she's gonna show me a text thread of her and her mom where they're discussing how important it is for women to have a trial marriage. No cap 🙏
Your ex must be related to my ex…2 years after we broke up, he sent me a letter “apologizing” for all his cheating and decided to put in every detail of his cheating and ended the letter asking me to subscribe to his UA-cam channel.
The audacity was legendary 😂
Jesus dude, stuff like that is why I don't rule out physical violence as a solution
"Decides she's gonna show me" why the fuck do you let her 😆
@@ahub87 🤣🤣
@@ahub87 there is no way he asked you to subscribe to his youtube channe
Exactly right, hurt people hurt people. Be the change. Break the cycle.
Well said.
Yeah, it's hella easy that's why 90% of people don't change. Thanks coach!
Who are all these men who's "hearts" she is breaking. Personally I think she's full of it and is just speaking from a place of being hurt over and over.
I mean *LOOK* at her, who's going to fall in love with THAT? let's be real here like she's barely the girl you want to get a lap dance with.
She's not exactly the girl you get hurt or cry over. Chick is the quintessential hit it and quit it girl.
If you catch feelings for this dumb bird you literally have a mental issue.
Only a stripper that doesn’t want to be one would enjoy doing this. Her being a stripper and doing sexual things for money is the humbling experience for her, and she hates it. Her way of getting even is to humble men on her spare time. It’s her way of getting even. Stay Focused!
We call these folks sociopaths.
Men HAVE TO start understanding how important it is to focus on themselves and not give to much attention to everything else around them. If you do not focus on yourself and make your life better, then people like these will take advantage of you!
Kind of hard to do when you’re always taking a stray bullet when a topic comes up. Also men are taken advantage of in a lot of ways already
@@champ7139 to avoid stray bullets you shouldn’t be around when shots are fired, men who are obsessed with being around women are always getting into trouble especially men who desire to save broken women
Straight up, frfr men need to start having standards and controlling that biology that turns us into cavemen.
Focus on yourselves and stop chasing clout plus bottom barrel bishes.
@@Fallensky17 💯🔥
You can’t just ask “All Men” to abstain from women or sex….like….no man in his right mind would EVER waste his time trying 😂😂
I legit feel bad for us dudes, like….we really did get handed from a shit deck….all these modern trappings ain’t worth the freedom my grand dads had…..
We got played
People like her make me laugh 😃
"imma punish men by giving them my time, energy, and body."
Her Highness has cracked the code of life 🙌🏽
And men be like... Yeah... Give us more of that punishment 😅😅
You're stupid if you don't think you absorb it
@@TheMwegasShow this girl is proud about being a pump and dump 😂
idiot what makes u think she gives the guy her body .that's kind of her point
I’m not religious but I started believing in Jesus after hearing her.
Got me goin back to the house of the cross reciting Latin
I was friends with Jesus...back before the Coochie Wars.
😂😂
Lmao.
If there is a hell, and this b*tch is from it, then there has got to be a heaven... There has got to be!
Thank you so much for pointing out how normal it is nowadays to diagnose people with mental disorders just because they appear to have some tendencies. Tendencies are nothing compare to an actual disorder. I have a borderline personality disorder and just as you said, there is a difference in motivation for behaviours. Some of the behaviours may appear as narcisistic or sociopathic, but the driving factors are completely different from an actual lack of empathy. Most people are painfuly unaware of how personality disorders really work and feel the need to label you based on their opinion, not facts that often have to be confirmed by a mental health professional. Reading a list of symptoms on Google does not make you one. Stop using narcisist, sociopath and borderline as a way to label people who hurt you to make it easier for you to demonize them.
I appreciate her honesty as it’s important to know what kinds of people you need to stay away from as you grow up
When people tell you the kind of person they are, BELIEVE THEM
The moments when you discuss something, then turns out maybe you disagree and then you allow each other to carefully choose the right words and construct a viable argument, and then when you understand each other's points and move on and keep on joking as if nothing happened, always brings me a little happiness knowing there are still people who can communicate efficiently
One of the reasons y I watch them 🎉
This is what therapy looks like for men. Just having and giving the space to work through an idea
Women that do Porn/ strip/ etc are extremely broken women. 80% have experienced sexual abuse as children and 90% have experienced broken homes ( Dad) not in their lives.
I really respect Abba and Preach. They are intelligent, down to earth, and genuinely seem like honest people.
Of all the “channels “ on UA-cam, these two seem the most balanced and honest. ❤
Yep, these mothers need to stop breaking up homes and becoming single mothers, been degenerating society since the 1940s.
Imagine being the men who let those societal changes happen, yikes.
Relationships are theatre...
@@earthtozaya468 his ass
@@earthtozaya468 In general girls who grow up without fathers are more likely to experience problems with relationships than girls who grow up with a father. "Adolescent girls raised in fatherless households are far more likely to engage in promiscuous sexual activity before marriage, to cohabit, to get pregnant out of wedlock and to have an abortion" (Krohn& Bogan, 599). The father is helpful in developing a daughter's femininity and in their sexual development (Williamson, 208). Women who had absent fathers growing up tend to have idealized relationships with men, as a hope to get their lost father back, but then comes to the realization that the relationship is flawed and end up disappointed, only to start the cycle over again (Gill, 225). In some interesting statistics, 60% of strippers come from an absent father (Adams, Milner, Schrepf, 171). Females in single parent homes as opposed to intact ones are 53% more likely to marry as teenagers, 111% more likely to have children as teenagers and 92% more likely to divorce if they marry (Krohn& Bogan, 599). The mother is not completely left out of this scenario though. When there is an absent father, the response of the mother is an important one in helping the child cope more easily. (Copied from Bartleby after google searching stripper father statistics)
You probably won’t read it
@@DTreatz Funny how cats like you LOVE to say it’s women who break up households yet NEVER acknowledge what the men in those situations did to contribute to the divide, if not being the outright cause of it.
Aba is 100% correct on this. She has been hurt so badly it’s her attempt to force empathy from someone. She wants someone to feel the same pain she felt therefore she intentionally inflicts pain so that she doesn’t feel alone in her negative emotions. Being in pain alone is one of the worst things for a human to experience.
So, it's a cope.. lol
Or she's just and a narcissistic sociopath that deserves all her misfortunes.. we all go hurt and worked hard on moving on and being better like an adult should do, there's no excuses for her behavior..
She just proves that she deserved it, and worse.
Who hasn’t been hurt?
She wanted the easy money and then started to cope with the consequences of the job in a wired way. She did it to herself. Compassion to this kind of woman is overrated. Societies all over the world know how to deal with that.
I appreciate the differentiation between postpartum mood disorders and bipolar disorder. I had severe PPMDs during a couple of my pregnancies, and it was so hard to deal with and talk about. Correctly diagnosing the problem is essential to correcting the problem.
Definitely. And it's always an ongoing process and that diagnosis should be flexible and never the end-all be-all. Just a starting point...
Well. And a label to give the insurance. 🙄 NOT gonna enjoy that headache once I get in the field. If college doesn't kill me first.
For the life of me I will never understand the success of strip clubs. I’ve never had the desire to be in that situation. You pay women money to give you blue balls, knowing you’re the upteenth dude to walk in there. None of the women in there are going to have genuine respect for you because you’re already IN THERE. You’re equating yourself with the type of men that need to pay for this kind of attention, and the truth of it really is comparable to eating off of dirty dishes. It’s just all around gross to me. It’s no surprise that these kind of depraved mindsets come out of places like that.
Exactly. That's why I don't go to them, all it does is inflate their egos, and all those simps in there give men a bad name, and make them think less of us, and if one actually wants to be your girlfriend, leave and never go back. Stripclubs are a waste of money, but it's a bigger waste when one wants to "date" you.
This. 💯. Another problem is other men will act like something is wrong YOU for feeling this way.
I'm the same way, never understood the appeal. If I just wanna get my rocks off, pronhub is free
@@HypocritesExposdbecause modern men DEFINE our masculinity around….guess who? 😂
The Girls ❤
@@HypocritesExposd I tell dudes straight up, if they ask me if I go to strip clubs; "I'm not paying women for sex, why would I pay for less," verbatim. My nephew used to try and give me shit about it, but he saw the light.
As effed up as this is and as common as people like her may be, don't give up on one gender because of people like her. No matter how many it may seem like, because the other side probably feels similar, and they might have the same personality as you. Be careful out there, but don't become bitter against of one gender entirely.
Be well everyone
EDIT: Please make sure to read my whole comment also
She's the girl version of red pilled men, always trying to take the opposite sex down a few notches. I grew up with a bunch of brothers and I have a great father so I always knew that men were human beings with the same basic needs I have. We aren't a whole different species from each other, we all just want to love and be loved, respect and be respected at the end of the day. These people who have no idea what the other gender is like are the ones out here starting these gender wars
@@PlayshotKalo Mmhm. They get too lost on what they see online, or they judge 50% of an entire planet filled with a species that has existed for thousands of years and think they are all irredeemable. That would be mathematically impossible let alone for one person to make this generalization. It sucks to see from either side
You're a foul person for lying like this.
@@YouProblyAHater cold blooded
@@PlayshotKalo disagree , rep piller have some points here and there
I was diagnosed with bipolar 1 and OCD a few years ago. From a quick google search, bipolar 1 makes up 2.3% of the US population. OCD makes up 1.2% of the US population. What bugs me is when teenagers and other young adults use these mental health conditions as a personality trait…. Or a joke (even worse)… i was diagnosed in my mid-20s…. a teenage brain is not developed enough typically for such diagnoses to be valid. I wouldn’t wish bipolar depression or OCD on anyone. These conditions are very difficult to cope with at their worst. What helps minimize the symptoms of bipolar 1 significantly for me is eating healthy foods and listening to my body. I’m learning how to manage my stress mainly to help with the OCD, also breathing exercises have helped, along with meditation. I dunno if these suggestions may help anyone else. Thank you Aba N Preach for sharing your discussions, you both raise some very good points and your humor is electric. Take care ✌️😌
I dated a two hurt women in my past and it taught me how to spot toxic traits of a person and to just avoid it. I had went through a lot with them.
How did you spot it
@@Slow.Smooth when assumptions are made of me based on their own past experiences.
@@aaronmy happens all the time
@@aaronmy really that's it? That's even toxic. Past is best predictor. I mean you probably would make assumptions about someone who has been in prison as well or a girl that was promiscuous past
@@theStyrn he said based on 'their' experiences, not his.
Meaning he probably was getting flak about stuff that previous boyfriends did to those girls.
"If you don't answer your phone, you cheatin'. That's the only reason men don't answer" that kinda dumb shit.
She's not an anomaly either, there's plenty of women young and old who think the same same way. But society is deadset on telling men that it's solely us that have things to work on.
You are psychotic
💯💯💯💎💎💎💎💎
The things we have to "work on" is accepting the shit behavior they exhibit. Hell nah, I'm good.
Plenty? She is the poster child for Gen Z women! That is how they are in general!!!
@@reiggier9211 Yes, I'm psychotic for saying a woman who says she purposely goes out of her way to break men isn't an anomaly.
I'm just glad everyone had the same reaction to what she said. Nobody was rewarding her, everyone was like "Ay yo, you're buggin"
Most strippers are broken; most ppl on planet Earth are broken.
As a young woman I also treated men like a disposable resource. I was removed from my family as a young girl and became sexualized by men at a very young age. This had me thinking that sex was all I had to offer in a relationship and therefore I used it as a weapon. I went through a long line of men, settling for POS dudes because that was the only type of man that was interested in having a relationship with me, although plenty of men were interested in sex with me. After many abusive relationships I decided to take a step back from dating but I still didnt understand my role in the abuse cycle.
It took me leaving my home town and doing intensive work on myself to realize that the common denominator was me. I was responsible for the string of horrible relationships I was in. I did a lot of work and self exploration to get over my borderline personality and become a woman that a decent man would be interested in. I'm happy to say that I am now married to a wonderful man and we share a child together.
These women have personality disorders on top of trauma that started at a young age. Until you take responsibility for your part you are doomed to relive the same cycle of abuse over and over.
If I wasn't an only child, I would swear you are my sister. My early life is so similar to yours. I too was sexualized by men, including family men, at a very young age. I was also removed from the home young where the sexualization continued. I too thought the only thing I had to offer men was sex, I was so damaged and my self esteem was so bad that I didn't think I had anything better to offer them. As a side note, men (and women) judge women who have sex with a lot of men, but they fail to realize how damaged these poor lost souls are. You truly feel like that's all you have to give and no better qualities.
Anyway, I also went from POS man to POS man, wondering why I could not find a good one like my friends had. However, when I did meet a good man, I would treat him so poorly. Not because I wanted to hurt him. I did not want to, I actually wanted him to love me and me to love him. It was that he treated me so nice that I thought he had ulterior motives. I was not used to being treated like that and didn't know how to handle it. So I would ghost the nice guy and go back to what I knew, the POS.
It took my physically abusive exhusband to make me realize my bad childhood caused this. I got help and like you, I am now married to the greatest man in the world and have 6 wonderful kids. I can teach my daughters and my sons how to act and what to watch out for. I would not have been ready for my wonderful husband if I met him 15 years ago.
I hope the woman in the video gets help and the men she hurt can heal. Those who have been hurt, please do not take it out on everyone else. And I'm so happy for you that your life is now peaceful. I hope you and your family always have happiness.
POS dudes? What does POS mean?
@@TheChariot99 piece of shit
@@TheChariot99 Piece of sh💩it (censored because youtube doesn't like naughty words)
Good for you for healing yourself because some women don't even think to do the self work because they don't see themselves as the problem. It takes a really strong person to look deep and admit "man, im terrible" and then choose to change
damn that synchronized shrug at 5:42 ... idk that perfectly encapsulated your thoughts on this person and I agree
Just gonna throw this out there, but I enjoy how you do both question one another. It really does broaden the level understanding that others can glean from the conversation, as well as shows that you’re both willing to clarify what you can’t understand amongst one another.
It definitely inspires me to try and adopt those ways of conversing
Most of my female friends do this. Me as a men i've been heartbroken very bad and done dirty and I still move like gentlemen, but now I know the characteristic that this type of woman have. Be aware brothers
Why were they your friends in the first place??
@@JT-bt6jy it was more for the access to other woman,it was easier cause mu female friends talk good about me.
@@lordtimothy3091 that’s not friends though, that’s acquaintances, if you don’t like spending time with them, aren’t they not?
@@kenos911 like i said, i use them for acces to woman
“You are an Incel creator. You are the woman they point to…” - Destiny 2023
Yo I remember back in college, there was this girl that told us group of guys that she would buy psychology books to intentionally manipulate the minds of men and get what she wanted. She was definitely broken, but she laughed it off like the woman in this video. It’s crazy and disgusting
Yeah it’ll work on some men who are desperate for sex or don’t have other options. But men who have multiple options will pick up on the bs quickly, and move on.
Psychology is a dangerous tool in the wrong hands. An understanding of the human psyche and charisma and confidence are deadly.
lol she's like every redpiller
@@adarkwind4712 You say that as if it is some arcane knowledge too dark to let loose upon the realms. A childish buffoon like her won't do anything except look like a wannabe Disney villain. How many losers buy "Get rich quick" or "Get any woman/man you want" books and only embarrass themselves? That's her. Real, dangerous manipulators didn't learn from reading.
@@publiusventidiusbassus1232 proper understanding of psychology with the ability to use it can be.
You'd be surprised how many people think like this, I've come across quite a few myself. Had a girl try to do me like this and when I peeped it, I was gone. How about that same girl start whining that I left. Saying she's sorry and that she thought I'd be like other men, still to this day she hasn't gone away and calls me crying that she can't find anyone like me.
Continue to make her suffer, because she would’ve done the same to you
This. . . you can see the signals pretty quickly and you should leave immediately. Also these people tend to be hardcore feminists as well.
Had a girl try this on me, yea she hurt me a little and left me a little confused what I had done to deserve intentional harm. Fortunately for me it was made known to me by a friend of hers the same day, so I hooked up with the friend just for good times sake. Needless to say the girl lost her damn mind
@@torachan23 It's not that I did it on purpose, I legit wish she would be alright but the kinder I am to her, the more she clings. She told me once that she wish I'd be an a$$hole to her so she can get over me, but that's not me, it's a strange situation because she tried to hurt me, and she hurt herself even more. Didn't think she'd fall in love with a guy she intended to destroy, she even admitted that she intentionally hurt men because she felt someone needed to punish them.
@@phoenixwatch2697 she needs a good shrink.
So true…I went through this phase when I was mean to women when I got hurt. This was back when I was a teenager!
The saddest part about all of this from my perspective is how defiantly confident and outright proud she is to admit this sort of thing in public. No matter what people do to you it is never okay to transfer that pain to other people but it becomes something far more sinister when people rationalize and try to morally justify it like this. If this woman is actually telling the truth, and is redeemable, then I hope she can find peace and stop perpetuating a cycle of emotional damage.
Same with the red pill men. But she actively seen these things each and everyday, not just "oh girl broke up with me, girl rejected me", things like men cheating on their wives, saying really dark things, SA'ing other workers. It makes sense why she feels the way she does, despite how people would gaslit her.
@@claff4573 She works at a strip club. What did she expect to see? A Disney movie with cotton candy? I never go to strip clubs and I am probably a decade older than her.
The very personification of schadenfreude. She ain't happy unless others are unhappy
and all this doesnt allow her to be happy at the end: Sadness theory
Whenever a girl says, "My ex was a narcissist," without explaining how, I tell myself, "yea, she's crazy."
I tell myself the same thing about men who label their ex as crazy or bpd.
@@Efalonda Anyone who talks about their ex still is a red flag in general if you're out on the dating market. It shows that there's gonna be some wounds, and am I capable of dealing with someone that still has their ex on their mind when I'm trying to date them?
y'know unless in conversation it comes up naturally and it's not just a conversation piece that he/she brings up for no reason.
@@Efalonda for the bpd part really? How many guys have told you that their ex has borderline personality disorder?
17:08 "Fresh is that you?" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I too hate it when people throw around labels to describe their exes. This coming from someone who dated two different guys with diagnosed bipolar. The first one was not diagnosed until after the relationship ended when he had to be institutionalized. The second was already diagnosed and medicated when we met. That's when I realized that perhaps something was going on with me for me to go two for two with the same mental health diagnosis. 😅
Why would ANYONE sound attractive if they have bipolar? Mood swings are NOT attractive, AT ALL. 💀
Yes, there’s probably seriously something wrong with your choosing of a partner.
What traits do you go for? That should be the biggest question you ask for yourself. Most guys just get whatever is available to them. That's why a man dating a bunch of bipolar women or whatnot doesn't say much it's just a random selection of whoever is single. You have choosing power.
Preach is 100% correct and I agree with Aba saying that these labels are over used. It’s similar with OCD. Everyone has OCD is some way shape or form. But there are some who are actually diagnosed OCD and this disorder can control and ruin their lives.
On another note, I feel incredibly bad for this woman. She is very clearly a sad and broken person. And I hope she finds help or someone who will actually support her the way she needs, and she is strong enough to accept it. Truly sad.
"in order for a diagnosis of OCD to be made, this cycle of obsessions and compulsions must be so extreme that it consumes a lot of time (more than an hour every day), causes intense distress, or gets in the way of important activities that the person values" so you can't say that everyone has OCD... It's like comparing a little bit of a headache to a migraine: they might both involve a headache but the first one goes away quickly after you take some paracetamol while the second can last for days and is so severe that it makes it impossible to do anything but stay in bed in a dark room vomiting and paracetamol is not going to make any difference...
Same thing with narcissistic behaviour: a person doesn't have to be diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder to have narcissistic traits, because a lot of the time those toxic behaviours are a psychological defence in response to excessive levels of parental criticism, abuse or neglect in early life and are only there because that person's parents never taught them healthy ways of dealing with their emotions. In those cases the person doesn't actually have NPD but still displays narcissistic behaviours.
I feel bad for this woman too, she's clearly acting like this because someone taught her that emotional manipulation is the only weapon a woman has, but her narcissistic behaviour should be called out just as much as narcissistic behaviours of men, so instead of complaining that labels are overused I think people should just educate themselves on what they actually mean and how to use them properly: focusing on calling out the behaviour is a lot more productive than trying to just put a label on the person.
Dude. I have diagnosed OCD and I've had it since I was 6. OCD is not universal and I've literally only met maybe 3 people in my life who actually share symptoms lmao
@@Bea359 yeah… that’s what I said. I said everyone has OCD which is a factual statement. But not everyone has diagnosed OCD, which is life consuming. I’m saying there is a difference between the two. There is a distinction, much like your example of a migraine vs a headache.
@@valtiel6306 yes… that’s the point of my statement… read what I said again.
“But there are some who are actually diagnosed OCD and this disorder can control and ruin their lives.”
The point I am making is that people throw around that term, much like narcissistic. Misusing it because they don’t know what diagnosis of these disorders actually mean. People have a trait of something is not the same, not even close in fact, to being diagnosed with them.
@@MrMossMan7272 By definition "disorder" means something that disrupts your life significantly. If it's not a life consuming thing then it's not actually OCD, it's just experiencing one of the symptoms that people with OCD experience, do you really not understand the difference...? Just like a headache isn't "a little bit of a migraine" - those are two very different things, despite having some similarities between them...
Idk how much more humbled I can be. I’m already at my lowest. What can a woman do to me at this point 🗿
Instead, think about what you can do for yourself. No amount of humility will ever impress a woman who sees you as less than human for it.
Find some hobbies, and slowly rebuild your confidence and ego... Women like this hate men who have their head on straight, because they cant control men like that. The result is they weed themselves out of your dating pool.
Humbled implies that you are grateful for the things you do have.
There is hope for you brother, but first consider what you do have (health, family, education etc.)
I’m sure you will get better.
@@hatman4818 Thank you for the thoughtful response. My comment was more of a joke but of course there was truth to it.
And confidence takes a while to rebuild man. When I think I’m getting there, something happens and my confidence goes down again. No matter how much progress I make in the gym, my mind is still the same.
A girl can send u to prison and take your freedom away.
Preach is right, when you take a dsm5 examination, you can score close enough to be diagnosed with tendencies or traits without scoring high enough to be diagnosed as the behavioral condition. And it's important because having tendencies requires specific treatments that can be different from the actual condition.
Man i feel sorry for her, I felt my self going down that path after my previous GF lied about having cancer for 2 years so I would take care of her. I felt myself being jaded and angery against women in general but I am lucky i have friends that are good people, both men and women around me that reminded me that people are good. I feel bad for her because I can understand how easy it is to get lost like this, not excusing her actions but man, Girl is lost and I hope she finds her way out.
Man I am so sorry you went through that....that ain't cool at all!
@@djmelo91 Not cool at all, BUT what doesn't kill you makes you stronger right?
@@Nectarbro I love that mentality man! Don't ever change it.
I’m sorry you dealt with someone so horrible. But your better than me because if that happened to me and someone I loved wasted two years of my life like that then tbh I probably wouldn’t be as forgiving.
So sorry that happened to you, but that giving spirit will serve you well in a marriage IF you find a woman worthy of such love and devotion. I’m saying a prayer for you to not let the world harden your heart, just make you wiser and stronger.
You can tell so much about a woman just from her eyes, mannerisms and body language.
Man, I say this all the time! 💯💯💯
People who have eyes too open for comfort 24/7 or with a completely dead stare while smiling/laughing make my primal brain tingle with caution.
Nah... It helps but you can't always tell what lingers underneath until you have been able to get a sense of their character and behaviors.
Ive been with plenty of cute and innocent looking girls who played up the whole act VERY well and turned out to be as bad if not worst than your typical hoodrat who is more blatant off the bat.
The good news is if you don't lie to yourself and have a spine you can see the red flags and dump the garbage like the trash trucks turning the street for pick up
Yup, she's broken and barely holding it all together.
The biggest tell is how she presents herself. If she is walking around half naked then she has very little to offer. Never forget women express themselves by how they dress they know that their biggest selling point is their beauty.
Thank you so much for discussing how people tend to throw around psychological diagnosis without understanding the "diagnosis" part. We certainly need to be careful with our words and "tendencies" are not synonymous with the actual label.
The cycle of hate is stronger than we thought.
Thank you for bringing up the armchair psychologists who take it upon themselves to diagnose people with all sorts of mental health conditions, especially calling everyone a narcissist. The funniest part of that is that often the accusers show those traits in themselves.
the main issue with the first part of what you said is that you, Aba and Preach don't understand that a person doesn't have to be diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder to have narcissistic traits: a lot of the time those toxic behaviours are a psychological defence in response to excessive levels of parental criticism, abuse or neglect in early life and are only there because that person's parents never taught them healthy ways of dealing with their emotions. In those cases the person doesn't actually have NPD but still displays narcissistic behaviours, so while I definitely agree that armchair psychologists should stop trying to diagnose people, I also think that narcissistic behaviours should be called exactly that, instead of trying to diminish how bad they are by saying that the person doesn't actually have NPD. If someone is acting like an ass then they should be called an ass, no matter what their mental health diagnosis is ;)
@Bea NPD is also a result of what you described. A coping mechanism to growing up abused or neglected and not being taught the right things. Narcissistic traits are the same exact medical list, it's just that you don't check enough to qualify for the disorder, but it's still a mental diagnosis that has to be evaluated by a professional.
I do agree that someone with Narcissistic traits will probably act like an ass 😅 but the intent is hard to guess by even the victim. So imo if someone is an ass, call them an ass and keep the diagnosis to the professionals.
@@YesJellyfish I don't need to consult a psychiatrist to call out someone's narcissistic behaviour, just like I don't need to consult a psychiatrist to tell when someone's anxious or has a panic attack: I'm not diagnosing the disorder they might be dealing with, I'm just pointing out a behaviour and every single one of us can display narcissistic behaviour, even if we don't have NPD.
It's actually really easy to tell whether or not a behaviour is narcissistic or not: it's all about the intent! Is it malicious, controlling or destructive, is the person making excuses for their behaviour because "this bad thing happened to me 20 years ago and I'll just use it as an excuse for my shitty behaviour for the rest of my life" instead of taking accountability for their actions and trying to work on being better? Or does the person care very deeply but simply doesn't realize they might be doing something that hurts your feelings, for example because they're autistic, but when you call them out they actually apologise and do whatever they can to learn from that mistake? And if you're not sure what the person's intent was then just point out how their behaviour hurt you and listen to how they react.
If you want to call someone an ass because you can't tell which behaviours are narcissistic and which aren't then you do you boo, but I've dated and been abused by enough men like that and they all act and think exactly the same, so I'll continue listening to my therapist on that instead of listening to people like you and expecting a narcissistic person to go see a psychiatrist. People like that are not interested in getting diagnosed and becoming a better person because it's a lot easier to blame everyone else for their problems...
Hurt people hurt people that is why no one should date a broken person. If they don’t have the discernment to go get help for themselves, what will they do to you? ??
Case in point, look at how she’s dressed. She doesn’t think too highly of herself
I think when men act this way, there are social norms on dealing with it. But women, it's viewed as a anti-woman thing to do to criticize. Men are still in that Disney view of women. Most parents don't correct this behavior in girls early on, they just go with it. Because let's be honest they are little emotional terrorists. But if you have a strong parent with boundaries and expectations this does not happen. This is the result of parent lack, and personal character issues.
There is no fixing a liberal blue mindset having women.
It’s literally the definition of psychopathy. Viewing people as disposable tools who are to be used or to be played with to see how they respond emotionally.
No, it's not
@@blueberrybear3 yes. It is
@@metalheadjake3339 no that's closer to sociopathy
@@realone2020 wrong. A sociopath does immoral acts as a means to an end not because they inherently derive joy from doing things that harm other people.
Psychopaths actually ENJOY causing destruction and harming people. Sociopaths can have a range of normal emotional responses and feel remorse or guilt. A psychopath is devoid of normal emotional responses and any concept of guilt.
Too many people here who don't know what they are talking about.
@@ThatGuy-sc5rx
That last part sounds funny considering you are talking about sociopathy, which is not recognized as a real thing
"Fresh is that you!?" I LOST it!!! 😂😅😂
Absolutely agree about Narcissism. Narcissism is correctly used as a adjective ie, "he's very narcissistic" pointing out a bad character trait. But Narcissism is a personality disorder that has to be diagnosed and needs treatment, and is also on the rare side of the population. People are just mashing up the categories and labelling people as a narcissist because they might be self-centered.
Her: “I like humbling men. It’s my pastime.”
Guy: “you work at a strip club, do you humble men there?”
Her: “no I take their money.”
Me: aight, fair enough I guess, honesty is the way.
Jokes on her. Any man that would be "humbled" or heartbroken in any way, any man that would catch feelings for a *stripper* is already not a high value man.
So she's just breaking the hearts of Peasants. So who's time is she wasting and what is she proving?
Anyone worthwhile would never care about her.
@@chinbosschinboss2484 There’s no beating that. She checkmates this. Men give her money and she humbles them.
@Mac Trilogy how does she humble them exactly if those men choose to go to the club and spend their money there?
So if I pay a street walking stripper $300 for a Lapdance and a hand job she's humbled me?
Are we using the word "humbled" instead of "ejaculated"?
@Chinboss Chinboss Are you stoopid? She's saying she humbles them when she's dating them, taking advantage of them when she's not.
She literally said NO when asked, "Do you humble men there," meaning the strip club.
So are you confusing the word no with yes?
This women is gutter trash, but you're a step or 9 behind here.
@@chinbosschinboss2484 it's a coping mechanism. That's how she justifies what she does in her head. She does that instead of facing reality because that would mean that she beeds to acknowledge that she's the lowest form of trash
You are so right Aba, she is broken. This girl is only going to continue to destroy herself until she gets counseling, she is masking trauma,pain, and bad decisions as "humbling men". The faces she even makes is like a forced smile struggling to hold back her pain, she wants to spread the hurt she feels inside thinking it might make her feel better; but she will not get better without help (insert Betterhelp commercial).
She is just saying stuff to seem cool and not hurt but she really comes of as the person who got dumped and passed on by some people 😂 even when she says it the smile and all just screams “I wanna cry” face 😂😂
I was thinking the same thing lol
honestly, as long as this "disagreement" of yours went on, it's very amicable how self aware you both are about comminicating, listening, and recognising your own faults. being able to disagree/agree and not go at eachothers throats on a single topic. very well done. most civil argument/not argument/discussion i've seen in a while. it's nice that you can actually talk like adults should.
Manipulating someone who cares about you just to hurt them is wicked.
Every villain has an origin story
This is a coping mechanism. In reality, a dude pumped and dumped her but she has to somehow make herself the "strong, independent" hero of the story. Inside she's completely broken. The only defense against humiliation is humility.
This is a beautiful capturing of the condition. Thank you for being so empathatic.
The men she is interested in will continue to pump and dump her, and she is doing the same to the men she is not interesting, is that healing ?
Facts. Saying ''I don't care I was having fun'' doesn't work when you clearly salty
that’s purely evil. can’t act surprised when you end up alone and unwanted. such a shame smh
“I was just trying to see if I could break his heart, it was fun, I hope I did a little damage.”
Preach said it best: “You’re a piece of sh*t
Nothing more to it
Who are all these men who's "hearts" she is breaking. Personally I think she's full of it and is just speaking from a place of being hurt over and over.
I mean *LOOK* at her, who's going to fall in love with THAT? let's be real here like she's barely the girl you want to get a lap dance with.
She's not exactly the girl you get hurt or cry over. Chick is the quintessential hit it and quit it girl.
If you catch feelings for this dumb bird you literally have a mental issue.
That is what you call a Hot Mess.
I was with a woman a long time ago who told me something to this effect. I think maybe 14 years after we were done she tried to befriend me and "wanted to makeup for it all". I just told her I wasn't interested in whatever new shit test she was conducting and blocked her.
She does look very damaged. She doesn’t look like a born a psychopath, just a sad poorly treated woman who is utterly lost. I pray she finds her way.🙏
She don’t need your prayers. And you not praying for her. Stop the cp
"Poorly treated" its called personal accountability sir. She dies bad shit sleeps with men and plays mind games... SHE CHOSE to do that. Men don't get excuses when we do the same. Why should we be make excuses for women ? We don't is the only answer you should need.
The infantalization of a girl cause she's a girl. Find your way bro.
She doesn't deserve to find it, don't waste your prayers on that sorta person.
@@fellowasp6768 Men definitely make excuses for other men in this scenario smh.
She spends her time learning to break someone.. she'll never learn to love someone without actually spending time loving.
when she finally finds someone who she wants to love, she won't know what to do to earn it.
Who are all these men who's "hearts" she is breaking. Personally I think she's full of it and is just speaking from a place of being hurt over and over.
I mean *LOOK* at her, who's going to fall in love with THAT? let's be real here like she's barely the girl you want to get a lap dance with.
She's not exactly the girl you get hurt or cry over. Chick is the quintessential hit it and quit it girl.
If you catch feelings for this dumb bird you literally have a mental issue.
Your synergy and playful but tolerant exploration together is refreshing; thanks for the energy!
The word I'm missing in this bit is 'responsibility'. If she know or knew better (on an emotional level) and ain't just not "born with those circuits" she is even more responsible for the shit she puts in the world. Doesn't make her worse or better, because her actions are still exactly the same. It does make her better or worse off in the sense of being able to judge and correct her own behavior.
My point is, the diagnosis is a 'her problem', her actions is an 'our problem', which is why people need to chill with the throwing of diagnosis at each other; leave that shit to the professionals and their patients.
She exudes “Take that, daddy!” energy
Daddy dodged a bullet, because I sense, "well mom acted this way, why Can't I" attitude of liberal feminist.
My mom told me she didn't like me and I didn't realize what was going on at the time she was trying to destroy me as a kid mentally so i moved away and stayed away I'm never going around the people that she knows ever
same
Same here
It's so crazy how she is laughing and chuckling while everyone else is horrified...
Exactly, imagine if a guy did this.
She thinks she's being edgy and intimidating. She wouldn't last a day messing with real ones. She'll eventually f*ck with the wrong one and end up on the 6 o'clock news.
There is men who do this and are open about it, no need to imagine. Statistically it's more common in men to have and show lack of empty.
@@claudiarios2440 that sounds pretty sexist LMAO
and yes, Men are less in tune with their emotions.......surprise...
Whoever hurt her is living in her head rent free.
"What are the traits of sociopathy?
The list of common traits you might see in someone who has antisocial personality disorder:
Not understanding the difference between right and wrong.
Not respecting the feelings and emotions of others.
Constant lying or deception.
Being callous.
Difficulty recognizing emotion.
Manipulation.
Arrogance.
Violating the rights of others through dishonest actions.
Impulsiveness.
Risk-taking.
Difficulty appreciating the negative aspects of their behavior."
Exactly. People who have been severely hurt can exhibit these traits. So I disagree with Aba, people can absolutely become sociopathic from being hurt so much.
@@LethalByChoice Like Preach said, being a sociopath and having tendencies is not the same. Although, the second part is actually scarily common, specially among highly succesful people. Most high-earning or powerful career paths with difficult, cutthroat environments, from surgeons to politicians to journalists, attract the most sociopath-like people.
This post made me become alarmingly aware of the possibility that my dad might have this. Omg I’ll probably never know for sure but god he fits the description.
@@publiusventidiusbassus1232 A very strict, austere drill sergeant that trains his troops is also cutthroat because fighting in a war requires it. One wrong move from a single soldier can endanger the lives of your whole army, if not lead to mass deaths.
Ordering a 'code red' in a Few Good Men crosses that line.
Lack of a loving & solid father will have women like her walking around thinking her hurt behavior is ok. Guarantee she has little to no respect for her own father with how she treats other men like a fiddle to toy with
Irrelevant. This can happen to anyone regardless if their parents are involved or not. At the end of the day it’s your choice.
It could also be a society thing or an environmental thing. A lot of teachings can be undone the moment they step out of the house
@@champ7139 exactly. Who you decide to befriend will impact you more than your parents teachings.
Yeah nowadays it's not even an absent father. The society is pushing this type of woman to be normalized so even if you raise your daughter right, there's so much constant outside influence to say otherwise that it has to purely be her choice to notice that this way of thinking isn't fruitful
@@wPleasur3 - If you don’t have a good relationship with your father, you won’t understand what it means to love a man. Men become transactional. That’s not something you can just learn. It has to be experienced as a child.
The women I know who aren’t crazy love their dads. All the women who I know who are psycho have no fathers or hate their dads.
Having stable male relationships matter to both sons and daughters.
3:05 I was 17 and had no family when I moved to canada, and had no options for work that would benefit me.
Selling myself was a past time, only looks no touching, but it still felt so dehumanizing.
Once i felt comfortable financially, I got a car and expanded that to getting the job I love today.
I'm so thankful to you guys to make this video, I've been misunderstood, so many times and therapy has helped me a lot, but I have understood that there is no point in explaining this to anybody either, as some people are not ready to see this point... love this video. Labels have become intense nowadays
What does this stripper video have to do anything with you lol? Are you the stripper?
@Shol'va you proved the point why this video was made, ignorance is brutally painful, and I can underhand when some homo sapiens sapiens are still not evolved and can't use the gray matter cells that resides in their skull cavity , just like yourself 🤣😂🙃
Messing around with a stripper is like trying to tame a wild animal.
It's your own fault if you get bit