I learned and started loving myself only a few years ago, after a really big crisis, which almost cost me me life. I have a background of growing up in a narcissistic family setting, where I was forced into the role of scapegoat. Learning how to love myself has been the most important thing in my life so far. Depression and anxiety totally gone. I am at peace with myself now, and really enjoy my own company. This also makes me a really good friend, as I no longer feel the need to take much from others. I'm not needy anymore. When you love yourself, it is also not that difficult anymore to be a human being. Just being, with myself and with others, becomes a joy. The Beatles were right when they sang 'All you need is love'. And dear professor Sam, this was excellent, as always. Thanks so much for what you've brought to my live. Your insights are really priceless.
"Trying to convert others", I really like the use of the word "convert" because I feel like people who believe in the greatness or goodness of the narcissist are often believers in spite of the lack of evidence.
Being in the self love , 👇 " And while you may not be everyone's cup of tea , you don't have to be . Tea has never apologized for not being coffee , it simply gravitated towards those who chose it . Unknown . 🔱 🙏 .
This is explains my friends and father. I spent 4.5 years with this one and years later when we talked, every time I brought something up , she didn’t remember. It is cool to know their playbook now and of course I wish I had it before so I could have outplayed them. I’m emotional so that also explains why I do remember. That 4.5 years with this one friend was so special for me.
I'm writing a personal essay. When I was a kid I somehow ended up in a lady's house and she abused me by scaring the hell out of me. I can't remember what she was saying or how she got me inside her house. She was extremely terrifying. She let me leave and somehow got me to return the next day(s) after school. I was bone-chilling scared of her. Here's the question: What was she saying to me? In my essay I have her say things like: "No one loves you." Or "Everyone's laughing at you." Or "Your mom's going to abandon you." Or "the police are after you." And "If you don't come back tomorrow, you will be punished." I'm 59 and this happened when I was 7 or 8. I can't remember what she said. But it most have been something insanely scary to get me to go back. I'm trying to figure out what she was saying? I can't understand why I would've gone back. Somehow I must have believed her. What would she say to freeze me in my tracks like that? Thanks. I'm trying to make my essay visceral for the readers. I work hard on my writing, hoping to get published. BTW, if you're wondering, I had no one to tell about her, and I'm sure she quickly picked up on that.
Sie war einsam. Sehr einsam. Und Du warst zur falschen Zeit am falschen Ort. Es ist Zeit loszulassen. Da keine Bedeutung hat. Wie gesagt die Frau war einsam und alleine und das womöglich über sehr viele Jahre.
Professor, could you explain please, as we all have narcissistic traits, albeit considered "healthy narcissism", what is the difference between the "self-efficacious" part of self-love, where you extract positive outcomes from the environment and psychopath extracting positive outcomes from the environment and is it then considered "healthy psychopathy"? Thank you!
@@samvaknin Psychopaths and narcissists being ego-syntonic, is it the meta-cognition, disregard for others and the toolbox for "bending" of reality of others the criteria by which the self-efficatiousness , ambition and industriousness differ from the pathological as a modus operandi?
Amazing- after video about " How to Recognize Covert/collapsed personality disorders " I finaly unerstood much more about " cluster B " Is it possible that You could make video about another Clusters ? To explain the core of each - thank You i advance
I learned and started loving myself only a few years ago, after a really big crisis, which almost cost me me life. I have a background of growing up in a narcissistic family setting, where I was forced into the role of scapegoat. Learning how to love myself has been the most important thing in my life so far. Depression and anxiety totally gone. I am at peace with myself now, and really enjoy my own company. This also makes me a really good friend, as I no longer feel the need to take much from others. I'm not needy anymore. When you love yourself, it is also not that difficult anymore to be a human being. Just being, with myself and with others, becomes a joy. The Beatles were right when they sang 'All you need is love'.
And dear professor Sam, this was excellent, as always. Thanks so much for what you've brought to my live. Your insights are really priceless.
"Trying to convert others", I really like the use of the word "convert" because I feel like people who believe in the greatness or goodness of the narcissist are often believers in spite of the lack of evidence.
That was profound. Thank u
Being in the self love ,
👇
" And while you may not be
everyone's cup of tea ,
you don't have to be .
Tea has never apologized for not
being coffee ,
it simply gravitated towards those
who chose it .
Unknown .
🔱
🙏 .
Wow. That was really good.. 💯 👍
This is explains my friends and father. I spent 4.5 years with this one and years later when we talked, every time I brought something up , she didn’t remember.
It is cool to know their playbook now and of course I wish I had it before so I could have outplayed them.
I’m emotional so that also explains why I do remember. That 4.5 years with this one friend was so special for me.
You are amazing Professor!!!
Amazing, profound, truthful. Thank you
Thank you for this!
Love the humour
I'm writing a personal essay. When I was a kid I somehow ended up in a lady's house and she abused me by scaring the hell out of me. I can't remember what she was saying or how she got me inside her house. She was extremely terrifying. She let me leave and somehow got me to return the next day(s) after school.
I was bone-chilling scared of her.
Here's the question: What was she saying to me? In my essay I have her say things like: "No one loves you." Or "Everyone's laughing at you." Or "Your mom's going to abandon you." Or "the police are after you." And "If you don't come back tomorrow, you will be punished."
I'm 59 and this happened when I was 7 or 8. I can't remember what she said. But it most have been something insanely scary to get me to go back.
I'm trying to figure out what she was saying? I can't understand why I would've gone back. Somehow I must have believed her. What would she say to freeze me in my tracks like that? Thanks.
I'm trying to make my essay visceral for the readers. I work hard on my writing, hoping to get published.
BTW, if you're wondering, I had no one to tell about her, and I'm sure she quickly picked up on that.
Sie war einsam. Sehr einsam. Und Du warst zur falschen Zeit am falschen Ort. Es ist Zeit loszulassen. Da keine Bedeutung hat. Wie gesagt die Frau war einsam und alleine und das womöglich über sehr viele Jahre.
Amazing insights from the great Professor
Thanks.
Sam! You are just amazing ❤
He said this perfectly!! 😮💨👏🏾
He's so right
Thanks again ❤
Professor, could you explain please, as we all have narcissistic traits, albeit considered "healthy narcissism", what is the difference between the "self-efficacious" part of self-love, where you extract positive outcomes from the environment and psychopath extracting positive outcomes from the environment and is it then considered "healthy psychopathy"? Thank you!
Psychopaths extract positive outcomes at the expense of others.
@@samvaknin Psychopaths and narcissists being ego-syntonic, is it the meta-cognition, disregard for others and the toolbox for "bending" of reality of others the criteria by which the self-efficatiousness , ambition and industriousness differ from the pathological as a modus operandi?
that funny wee laugh of Sam's... ^_^
Amazing- after video about " How to Recognize Covert/collapsed personality disorders " I finaly unerstood much more about " cluster B " Is it possible that You could make video about another Clusters ? To explain the core of each - thank You i advance
Search the comorbidities playlist.
Professor would you wish me a happy birthday please 🙏 and thank you
Sam doesn’t do birthdays not even his. Go back to his older videos. 😅
in the title of the video you wrote Brandon Carr but his name on the screen is Brad Carr.....hmmm.