it fucking sucks, because you had imagined everything together. and suddenly its gone. i don’t know what to think or how im gonna through it. i thought i was doing well but recently it’s been so difficult to handle this
I feel you I think the best is to allow yourself to FEEL the feelings you try to avoid. Accept them all: accept you miss them, accept you loved them so so much, accept you was ready to give them everything but keep moving forward. It's okay to want to unhear their name, to want to unsee them, it's alright. But you have to keep moving forward. Accept all the feelings you're feeling right now but never stop doing things you love because the more you refuse to feel, the more it's going to be difficult to go through the fact they left you out in the cold. NB: My english is pretty..meh but I hope you get it and you feel better !
8. Focus on the potential. Meet new people and friends you wouldn't have met, take in valuable experiences you couldn't have had, and create unique memories and connections that only a breakup could've given you access to. Though it's painful, these things help you assign the breakup a positive value; you'll see it more for all it gave you rather than just for what was lost.
thank you for writing this, looking back over the past couple of years i don’t think i’d have anywhere near the same amount of experiences if i didn’t go through a breakup, and i definitely wouldn’t trade them away.
Been with my ex for 8 years almost close to 9…just allow yourself to heal with time. Just take your time, don’t rush things. Just treat yourself as same as if you are sick. You don’t try to force to be normal when you are sick. You just wait till you feel better. Time heals and let your emotions go and be with the pain. it’ll make sense one day.
Nice Video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can't stop thinking about him, l've tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I'm frustrated, I don't see my life as anyone else. I've done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can't, I don't know why I'm saying this here, I really miss him and just can't stop thinking about him.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about two years ago, but I could not let him go, so I had to do all I could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back, now we are back together, and I must say I am enjoying every moment...
I broke up with my ex of 5 years. And for 1 and a half year he has tried to win me back. This isnt healthy and in our case has not helped and would never help either so try to know when it's time to let go.
I’ve been single going on 3 years, I’m past old relationships but self exploration is so important. Learn your boundaries, change the toxic traits you may feel you have and embrace who you are. You should be your strongest relationship, so no matter how many no’s come your way, when you finally get a yes, you don’t push all that trauma onto someone else. ❤ Your doing great and your an amazing person, I know it’s hard right now but I promise you the reward is worth the pain ❤
@@nikkitillery1393 Don't be cruel to yourself Hun, you are worthy of love from yourself and others ❤️ I hope whatever storm that's been raging it's way into your mind and soul passes soon. I hope you find you find your peace, sending you love and positive vibes 💕
I left a relationship because I felt like I didn't have my peace in it. 4 months later, however, it doesn't feel like I'm getting the peace I wanted by leaving the relationship. I can't stop thinking about what I lost when I left the relationship because it doesn't feel like I had even gained anything by leaving it. Every day, I live with doubt and regret even though I know that I made the right decision to leave. I'm terribly lost and confused. You say time will heal this wound Joey, but each day feels worse than the last. I hope things will turn around soon enough.
Same here. He was so draining and negative and critical judgemental of me intentionally saying things to hurt me and then pretending to be sorry it got so disgusting. I still recall how disgusted and drained I used to feel and still cry about what did I do to deserve such treatments. It's not like I want him back but more like why did he do all of that how can I not attract someone like this again and overthinking every detail going thru every hurtful memory again and again
Same. I got dumped cuz i didnt put a ring on it after many years. I just didnt have peace about it i guess. But now shes gone i feel like i coulda made wrong decision
I wanted to end mine cuz it was with a woman and i wasn't even bi. I liked her energy and aura more than like you like a friend. We broke up and got back together for 3 times and i've drained her so much. I always blame myself. I don't regret putting an end to it but at the same time i do. Actually she ended things and we didn't have a closure at all. She just started acting super cold and got a girlfriend. And when i look at the picture i'm in such a shitty situation still thinking about her and stalking them. I don't know what to do. It's been a year. And time didn't heal shit
It’s been 5 months after my break up, the woman I loved wasn’t in love with me anyone. I’m going through hell and hope to get over it soon. I really like the idea of ‘create your own closure’ cause I think that’s what I need to finally move on. Thank you for this video.
Know exactly what you talking about dude. It’s like 10 months for me and there are great days and super shit ones. What hurt for me the most was how she checked out ages before the break up and just used me, once she was done manipulating me and just kicked me to the curb. She also hid me from the world and now she has a bf and it’s posted everywhere. Never have I hoped Karma exists this much so that she can feel the pain she caused me.
@@karlzilz9004 I'm sorry to hear that! Cheer up and all the best dude. Go your own way and have faith in yourself. I think this shit has only made me stronger
My gf of over a decade broke it off for good recently. Already got a new guy and said its taking a turn for the serious. Im 43. Life feels weird af now.
I feel for you man. I dated my high school sweet heart for 7yrs, she broke up with me after college and then I met my last ex. We dated for 4.5 years and she just broke it off. I've had two long term relationships and I've never had to live for myself it's a scary feeling but it'll get better. Stay strong man
May fiancé ended our relationship just over a year ago. I still burst into tears thinking about her all the time. I love her so much. I'm starting therapy tomorrow
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
its always difficult to let go of you love, i was in a similar situation my husband for 12 years left me.i couldnt just let him go, so i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back
My gf just broke up with me 2 ago after a really short but amazing 1 year and 2 months, I know it was really short but it was just incredible. The thing is we wanted different things and I was really fine with doing things she liked like living in many countries in the future but I also wanted to have a house together in one place have a family and get old together. But she thought I wanted to do it only for her which kind of was but I wanted it because it made me happy being with her. When she was breaking up with me I asked her that if we love each other we can go through this together… but she said sometime love is not enough, it just broke me. I respect her decision but still… it hurts a lot and I know this is all going to be better but still it hurts really bad.
That is the same thing she said to me sometimes love isn’t enough that was hard I feel like she was the one and I ruined it because I had all these problems going on and she finally got tired of it. I’m trying so hard right now.
It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.
I'm facing significant relationship problems and can't stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I'm ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.
I just searched for Father Akunna online indeed he is a very generous man and the most powerful spell caster that I have ever seen he brought my husband back to me with so much love ❤
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
“You don’t want every date to lead to something, then it won’t be special” damn that hit hard because I’ve always thought that a date that went well would lead to something good. I really needed to hear that man!!!! Thank you
I didn’t go to my favorite spot in the mountains behind my house for so long because I shared it with her but I remembered it was my favorite because that’s where I go on my bad days and I started going again
Thank you brother, I almost killed myself. thanks to your video I started to rethink about life and try to have a happy family. (sorry my english not good)
Don't do it.. thoughts do come.. but remember it's just a phase.. only thing which helped me was. .. sit with your thoughts watch them.. just don't act on them
i did the right thing, keeping her as a friend is always been a bad idea, idk whats her intention but in order to make myself healed, i have to let her go fully
I think that’s a personal question for you, but in my experience the feelings have always been there even if they aren’t at the front. I would still let go.
I broke up with her because she lied to me, she was very narcissistic and manipulative. I feel stupid for even missing her. I try to remind myself of how I felt during the majority of our relationship and I was always unhappy. I was doubtful of us even getting married, although she was all for it. The term “find somebody that loves you more than you love them” isn’t always the move. They will place you on this pedestal that you know you don’t deserve. She will suffocate you with love and you start to realize that it’s more of an obsession than love. It almost makes me feel like I was never really loved. It was an infatuation, you don’t lie to the people you love. You don’t sneak things behind their back and try to gaslight them when they figure it out. People are crazy, never try to fix someone that it is broken. They will cling onto you and drain you for all that you have. You will lose yourself and ultimately your soul. Your sanity will be questioned, anyone reading this. Look out for people with BPD or NPD, they are master manipulators of the mind and will lie just to keep you around. I may be wrong but this is the problem I’ve ran into twice, just keep your guard up💯
It happened to me, my ex girlfriend was extremely clingy and emotional unhinged. I loved her a lot and that relationship took me down a dark path. The crazy thing about it is that at the end of the relationship she cheated on me, blamed me for everything, then magically became the sane individual. While I ended up the psychological wreck. Crazy people will make you crazy. I learned my lesson and never again will I go down that path.
@@thestrengthreport7517 I’m so sorry that you had to go through that man. I know it must’ve been hard for the person you loved and cared about to switch just like that in front of you. I understand exactly where you are coming from, it hurts deeper than words can explain. Dealing with these kinds of people will leave you questioning your own sanity, your own morals, and your naivety. It is common for people to believe that they can fix, heal, or deal with a mentally unhinged person but ultimately you will be damaged beyond repair in the end. The mind games that they play will leave you spinning in circles questioning your every move. Ultimately to have you second guessing everything in your life afterwards. It truly isn’t worth the mental damage these individuals bring, and I’m happy you were able to step away and acknowledge that this was not for you. Many people run back to toxic relationships so it is wise for you to run away from it. You tried your hardest to help this person, so despite what she has tried to blame on you it was not your fault. You gave her love as authentically as you could form it, she made the mistake of taking it for granted and using you for it. That was someone who was not worth it, a poor investment. Continue to run and watch out for similar signs, rebuild this love in yourself first. You deserve someone in your likeness with pureness in their heart and sanity. I pray you are able to find this one day my friend🙏🏽 God Bless
Honestly one thing that's always helped me short term was some simple material upgrades. Relationship ended and you cancelled a big expensive date? Take that money and get better bedsheets for yourself, some better-fitting shirts, a plant or wall picture you've been eyeing for a while. Guys are more object-oriented than women so making little changes around your house and apartment can help, or plan a trip, give yourself something to look forward to while you have to put a lot of mental energy into planning something. All these other steps are great too, this is just one other thing that's helped me.
“It's sad when someone you know becomes someone you knew.” :( Just blocked her on everything since I found out shes dating someone. Im glad shes happy but, it just hurts.
Blocking is important. Cuz you can’t be friends right after you break up. Specially if that person hurted you a lot. Time heals…. We will all be fine one day…😊
6 Months have passed, she has a new boyfriend within a month, Dumped me through text. Im okay tho, just craving love and validation. Joined a basketball team which was good for me. But still got so much questions. Almost have no friends, just looking for them but scared to go out and meet new people, and dont know how. Time will heal, Also 'just date' no one wants to go on a date, im not meeting people that want to. and dating apps don't work for me. But i will be okay. Just give it time💝💝
I'm so sorry about .... My 5yrs relationship just ended...my ex boyfriend left me for his ex girlfriend after finding she's Rich It hurts so much.😭😭😭😭 Sending ❤❤ from Nigeria
I personally used dating apps (for example 'boo') to find new friends. And two people I've met there actually changed my whole life within 1-2 months and helped me to change my environment and be surrounded by new people. Don't give up, I believe you'll definitely find the place you are destined to be in ❤️ just keep trying. I wish you all the best!!!
This is my first break up from my first real realtionship. Ive already watched 4 of your videos and while its not anything that i havent already heard it is said in a way that makes a lot of sense. My biggest problem right now is that i see her everywhere in everything i do. Not literally, but the radio, my alarm clock, my bed, my couch, the painting she made on my wall, the necklace she gave me. And thats all before leaving my apartment. Im currently staying at my parents' because i just dont want to be home right now. She has the same job as me too, so even work makes me think of her. Now im laying in an unfilmaliar bed and the last bed i slept in that wasnt mine was her's. I thought a change of scenery would help, but my mind still correlates everything to her. We like a lot of the same stuff so everything i enjoy reminds me of her in some way. Granted we only broke up 2 days ago so i wouldnt expect to get over her so soon, i just didnt realize it hurts this much. She was a lot of firsts for me and i never thought heartbreak would be on that list.
I have been dating her for almost an year, i loved her with all my heart and even came to a point were we planned our future ahead and 2 weeks before we hit our one year mark she broke up with me. The reason being she was scared that what if her parents do not approve of us and she was scared to take our relationship ahead, she said its better to end now than in the next 5 years, now i kept fighting for her and i was even ready to talk to her parents regarding this but not at the moment as we still have time as i am currently 22 and she being 21 but she never listened and replied saying "I know that it can't continue, i do not want you to keep hopes". This really broke me into pieces thinking how can someone change that quickly and everything was completely normal a day prior. ------- I have never loved anyone like how i loved her.
I felt like my ex was my life and we did everything together. Recently going on dates and hanging out sucks because I know that with them would be so much better and I could imagine what we would be doing different. But I am convincing myself of that. Because if it was so good we wouldn’t be broken up. The mindset is the most important
Bruh, my ex left me after 9 years, I’m 35 now, and there is no dating. Every woman on apps are looking for a “provider”. It’s all a financial transaction. It’s awful.
Thank you so much for this video. I left my ex yesterday because he treated me poorly during the whole relationship. I know I deserve better but it still hurts so much. Your video and your calm voice made me feel at peace for a moment
Personally I can’t go on date with another person because my mind is telling me that I basically cheat on her ( even tho she broke up with me ) and also, I have promised from the beginning to let her down no matter how hard it will be.. and here I am, watching the video after crying my eyes out for hours because I really cared and loved her and I still do it.. but now it’s to late..
This is hard. I broke up with my ex cos he ghosted me for months till I reached out to him. His only reason being the distance and he couldn't communicate. I think about him from time to time and wonder what's he's up to, hopefully, he's better wherever he is but still can't get him off my mind and I feel traumatized by the experience to the point where I'm looking for him in the guys I talk to, hence, my reason for staying single.
@@jessiefianu6881i hope you're feeling better and everything is going better now, I feel the exact same and I've been through it before but I feel like everytime gets harder and harder for me and its just so hard to accept things but I know that I'll find someone that wants to grow with me rather than separately
Broke up about a month ago. Stopped contact going on two weeks and I feel like shit. She had changed prior to the break up, more distant and less affectionate. I tried to keep things going but then saw one day she was leaving comments on other men's pictures and that was the final straw for me. I still miss her and think about if what I did was right.
I know time is the best medicine, but she left me at such a period where I have little to no time left to face one of the biggest challenges of my life. Where I should be preparing, being ready for it, she made my colorful life pointless suddenly with huge deals of betrayal.
Not only my girlfriend My whole world is collapsing 3 years away from my family A war happening in my country Lost most of my friends before seeing them when i get back because they're died during the conflict Living alone After all that had a breakup 💔 I truly feel dieing while im still breathing i can't even cry!
but i still love him more than anything. the worst part is that im scared ill forget. im scared that things wont remind me of him anymore. i never want to forget him but at the same time i know its over. half of me wants to text him, call him or anything but i know that i cant, hes trying to move on too. everything in my room reminds me of him. everywhere i go hes on my mind. hes the person i thought i was going to spend the rest of my life with and even now i still dont want anyone else.
One day, you're going to realise ''I haven't thought about them in a while'' and then and only then, will you have truly moved on. I saw my ex in a station waiting for her train (she didn't see me) and honestly...I didn't feel a single thing, nor care. I realised I successfully moved on.
Nearly a year together. The relationship was very healthy. We called everyday, we both listened, I took her out on dates. Great emotional and physical chemistry and same core values. Good open communication and conflict resolution, I loved her parents and they loved me. We broke up because I wasn't sure I was going to stay in the US long term and she didn't want to risk getting even more hurt later down the road. Even though I had a job and was planning on staying a several years, it's wasn't enough for her. (I'm Canadian) 3 months goes by and I make the decision to stay long term, only to find out she already moved on to someone else - Going on international trips and making new memories together. It made me feel so cheap. Like I was easy to get over, like our time together meant nothing... It feels like a betrayal. One second your best friend is there talking to you till 2am and the next she's gone, doing all those things with someone else...
I have BPD, which sometimes causes me to lose my temper and say terrible things. While it's no excuse, I completely lose control when my abandonment issues are triggered, leading to verbal outbursts. The anger consumes me, and I often don't remember what I said. I could accept being left if they cheated or under other circumstances, but losing two amazing people due to my temper is devastating. It's making me doubt if I'll ever be able to maintain a healthy relationship. Growing up with an abusive childhood and an absent, alcoholic father has shaped my people-pleasing tendencies, low self-worth, and unclear boundaries. I don't know how to move on. I've never been a player, but if love hurts this much, maybe low-commitment situationships make more sense. I'm doing therapy, cold showers, meditation - the whole gamut - but when I'm triggered, nothing seems to help. When I lose control, I really lose control. I don't know if I can go through this again. What's the point of life if you can't love?
Thank you Joey! I really needed this, last Monday I cut off the contact with a boy. He didn’t seemed interested in me and was acting weird. I found out he was seeing another girl… I’m heartbroken, i hope this helps ❤️
It's been 3 weeks, and there's so much news I'm being told about how she wanted us to be a secret, how she's gotten back with her ex that treats her less than human...and them sneaking around in the office. It just hurts, thinking about them together when I don't want to just makes me angry and sad that they're people like that. I know I'll be okay, but going to work and sensing her presence has been hard.
I really liked my best friend and my love for him was so gradual and pure. There was a week where we crossed the line of platonic friends, and now he’s on his own path and doesn’t want to hang out like we used to. It feels like a friendship breakup because it just seems like we don’t vibe at all anymore. He liked me at one point too, but I got friend zoned, and now it feels like I don’t even have a friend left. Honestly feels just as bad as a breakup.
That's what I do. I avoid my ex at all costs. I'm over him, but I met this other guy just as a friend. However, we didn't get along within 2 weeks our friendship had taken a turn. I don't even go to the gym at the same time that he does. I even changed my number. That's how much I don't want to hear from him.
Thanks for this. I don't mind being with new friends but what I would not want to do is start dating. I have tried this. I know I don't want that new man in that way, they catch feelings and it becomes a big mess. I am so tired of pushing men away and then having to heal myself through over time which leads to months and years of turmoil for me. Every man I have tried to get to know is different and I don't know what to do or how to approach dating. Where are the videos on how to date and keep a man. I know how to get over exes basically focus on yourself and leave the ex alone. I never get it right. It hurts bad now
In 13 and just got broken up with I thought about our future all the time I had our 1. Month anniversary marked in my calendar next thing I know I’m single and I haven’t been myself since but your videos really help me to cope and get over it thank you Joey.
Great video man! The way she broke up with me definitely blindsided me and she made me feel so guilty about mistakes, making me feel I was responsible for it, while she never took any actions and accountability for her mental health problems. Within two weeks of breaking up, she hooked up with a guy, and her bedroom still had the things I gave her, like the card I wrote for her was right next to her bed, the condom wrapper was on top of it, she lied to me about not seeing people and cried on my shoulder that she's very sad . The way I found this out was, I had her keys, went into her apartment when she wasn't there, and found all this out, I was again devastated, but that was closure for me
It’s so frustrating because I originally ended my relationship because I simply had come back home from the country I went to for a year abroad and where she lives and realized I wasn’t going back in the foreseeable future. But then I started to notice all these things about our relationship that would have been a roadblock regardless if it wouldn’t have been distance that ended it. It’s still so difficult tho, I struggle so much even trying to listen to the bands and artists we both loved, or even remembering the conversations and memories we had together without getting sentimental. I also know that im not anywhere near a position yet physically let alone emotionally just quite yet to start dating again, and im really unsure if i’ll be able to connect with anyone like i was able to with her. I kind of just wish I could stop worrying about the past or finding love in the future, and just focus on myself and getting my life back together. I wish I could just let go of love for a while and not try- just let it happen naturally again when it does, but I’m so worried it won’t unless I actively get on apps or social media again, which I really don’t want to do.
I’ve been separated for 6 years and it’s still not any easier. My husband says he doesn’t want a divorce but he’s to afraid to disappoint his family to be with me. His family is awful. I know I should probably go ahead with the divorce but I keep holding out for …nothing. It’s truly a nightmare.
I don't think the "No Contact" rule always should be followed. Me and my ex broke up last december, but we never broke contact, because we still wanted to be good friends, and that's what we are now, tho we don't talk as much anymore. It is also very hard to follow this rule when you have the same classes...
My ex on the other hand didn't want friendship when I requested for it and didn't even fight for a second chance even though I brought it up. For someone who claimed I was his best for 3 years, this really scarred and traumatized me. It's been over 10months and I still feel the pain. I tried reaching out to him via email, whatsapp and countless phone calls all to no avail and I've not gotten any closure. Love sucks
@@jessiefianu6881I had to cut communication with my ex because she was just using me as someone to sleep with while she was out talking to other men. It hurt me to do that but I had to realize my worth and the pain of being used like that outside of a relationship. Sometimes men cut contact because it’s easier for us to get over the pain and move on.
The first real love of my life cheated with a friend and left me after i moved to another country for her six months ago and two years together, we just got a new apartment togehter and one week later she is gone. She said she cant be in a relationship with just me and she felt everything is too much for her and she just came to accept that, so she did what she had to do. I have no idea how to deal with all this, every person i know in this City i know because of her, every Place i love is her Place and i cant go there anymore, same goes for the People i called Friends here. I feel like i am all alone. Last night i was close to end my life cause i saw no other way out, i am so afraid that i can never recover from this and trust another person this much for the rest of my life. I guess only time can tell..
How do I replace my school or the way where I go home or my tuition where I see her a lot of times... It's impossible for me to forget her... Trust me... She plays into my mind when I close my eyes... Open my eyes... Do whatever... Everything I did was for her and now... I can't do anything... The only thing that's in my mind is death... I want her back... But she said she has lost her feelings... I'm dead bro...
My boyfriend left me just 2or 3 days ago ....he was cheating on me with his ex for 3 months "he was not over with".....he said he was the one who started thing and that he is the one ending it ......even after forgiving him for all his mistakes.....never blaming him fir anything....he still left me ....just because of his ex ....i gave up my self respect for my love ....but he didn't seemed to care about it at all.....and i dont know what to do now .....
Feels like a pain that will never go. I can't sleep, hardly eating, I'm trying, spending alot of money eating out so I'm surounded by people and I'm not in my tiny flat alone. I have no desire to cook for myself, which is something I love to do. I have to force myself to shower, eveything feels so pointless. I keep battling every day trying to survive it, sometimes it feels like I just can't live anymore without that person. They were everything to me, why do I do this to myself? I want love and family and a person, a partner, but each time this happens I have to ask myself is it worth the pain if it's gone oneday? I know I'm not alone but it sure feels like it.
you're not alone, it's been two months since the breakup and it's still not good..many memories. it's even worse because the ex lives right next door.. we're neighbors
The one person who made me believe in love gave up on me, ghosted me and couldn't tell me he was tired. I had to find out the hard way and I haven't been the same since then. And it's funny how I can't share with anyone other than a platform where no one knows me. I believe you will get better with time. Sending you lots of love and hugs.
How do i give my girlfriend space i screwed up and she wanted a brake to fix myself but how do i stop myseld of thinking about her worrying about her cuz i was to text her but shes ghosting me
I wanted to date someone for long time and then get married..we were in relationship for 3 years everything was going well until one day he decided he can't fight for our relationship..its been 2.5 years since we separted..i went through depression nd suicidal thoughts..i m doing fine now though..but i find it hard to take anything seriously now.. I don't want to date anyone the thought of marrying someone else haunts me because love will never feel same to me......the fact that I won't be in long term relationship and then marry someone hurts the most.. probably i might not marry anyone. ..for reference i m from India nd we hsve arranged marriages here..idk how that works though..how can you fall for someone like that.
i feel like i regret breaking up with her, but i know it was the right think to do because i was loosing myself nearing the end of our relationship but it hurts a lot knowing or assuming that she got with the guy she was "playing" with. I'll add to the wound by saying we were in an ldr hahaha i want to move on, so bad, but she was the first and possibly the greatest, and the worst, all the the same time :(
This is so hard, bcs I feel like such a loser. We weren't even really together. I had a crush on him, he had a crush on me, but I have a boyfriend whom I love so intensly, but he isn't ready to open our relationship and be polyamorous with me, so I had to say that to my crush and he blocked me. He's also after a break up with his gf of 2 years and not handling it well. And I can't stop thinking about him. I'm just heartbroken bcs I know that if I stop obsessing over him, it'll be over. I will never see him again. And it makes me want to cry just thinking about how true that is.
2 more months it will be our 1st anniversary i cant even understand my self just bcs of love but we both keep argue for bad reason i just wish i dont have any jealousy type and a guy who overthinks alot no one could even treat me like she did to me i miss her 😥😥
Do you think, I can be friends with my ex just after we broke up? She alredy found someone else and I dont like this guy. I feel like she is a good person and we broke up in a good way and now she is dating someone who is like far worse than me and I hate the reality.
How would you best heal when the love of your life (and fiancé, dating for 3 years) starts binge drinking (as a result of grief) which leads to physical abuse towards me. So much so, that the relationship has to end, and she could still not take responsibility. It's so hard to lose a best friend and partner because they transform into somebody you don't recognize. You still see their heart and love and trust them. And yet, they are unable to comprehend the severity of their behavior? It's been 5 months and i still miss her so much
it fucking sucks, because you had imagined everything together. and suddenly its gone. i don’t know what to think or how im gonna through it. i thought i was doing well but recently it’s been so difficult to handle this
same bro/sis happened to me less than a day ago, youre not alone 🙏🏽
Same
I am going through the same thing. Imagined my whole life with him. And now I don't know what to do without him.
Same here
I feel you
I think the best is to allow yourself to FEEL the feelings you try to avoid.
Accept them all: accept you miss them, accept you loved them so so much, accept you was ready to give them everything but keep moving forward.
It's okay to want to unhear their name, to want to unsee them, it's alright.
But you have to keep moving forward. Accept all the feelings you're feeling right now but never stop doing things you love because the more you refuse to feel, the more it's going to be difficult to go through the fact they left you out in the cold.
NB: My english is pretty..meh but I hope you get it and you feel better !
8. Focus on the potential. Meet new people and friends you wouldn't have met, take in valuable experiences you couldn't have had, and create unique memories and connections that only a breakup could've given you access to. Though it's painful, these things help you assign the breakup a positive value; you'll see it more for all it gave you rather than just for what was lost.
Absolutely love that
thank you for writing this, looking back over the past couple of years i don’t think i’d have anywhere near the same amount of experiences if i didn’t go through a breakup, and i definitely wouldn’t trade them away.
Been with my ex for 8 years almost close to 9…just allow yourself to heal with time. Just take your time, don’t rush things. Just treat yourself as same as if you are sick. You don’t try to force to be normal when you are sick. You just wait till you feel better. Time heals and let your emotions go and be with the pain. it’ll make sense one day.
Damn this must be hard that long sorry man
So, just take drugs and drink until losing memory.
Time just does not heal. It is an illusion, not reality.
@@marguskiis7711are you still healing from your first ever relationship? Probably not, because time did its thing
Nice Video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can't stop thinking about him, l've tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I'm frustrated, I don't see my life as anyone else. I've done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can't, I don't know why I'm saying this here, I really miss him and just can't stop thinking about him.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about two years ago, but I could not let him go, so I had to do all I could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back, now we are back together, and I must say I am enjoying every moment...
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do I reach one.?
His name is fatherabulu, and him is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex...
Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked him up online. impressive.
I broke up with my ex of 5 years. And for 1 and a half year he has tried to win me back. This isnt healthy and in our case has not helped and would never help either so try to know when it's time to let go.
I’ve been single going on 3 years, I’m past old relationships but self exploration is so important. Learn your boundaries, change the toxic traits you may feel you have and embrace who you are. You should be your strongest relationship, so no matter how many no’s come your way, when you finally get a yes, you don’t push all that trauma onto someone else. ❤ Your doing great and your an amazing person, I know it’s hard right now but I promise you the reward is worth the pain ❤
Needed this message
@@nikkitillery1393 Don't be cruel to yourself Hun, you are worthy of love from yourself and others ❤️ I hope whatever storm that's been raging it's way into your mind and soul passes soon. I hope you find you find your peace, sending you love and positive vibes 💕
I left a relationship because I felt like I didn't have my peace in it. 4 months later, however, it doesn't feel like I'm getting the peace I wanted by leaving the relationship. I can't stop thinking about what I lost when I left the relationship because it doesn't feel like I had even gained anything by leaving it. Every day, I live with doubt and regret even though I know that I made the right decision to leave. I'm terribly lost and confused. You say time will heal this wound Joey, but each day feels worse than the last. I hope things will turn around soon enough.
I hope you both feel better soon❤, may you find happiness soon
Same here. He was so draining and negative and critical judgemental of me intentionally saying things to hurt me and then pretending to be sorry it got so disgusting. I still recall how disgusted and drained I used to feel and still cry about what did I do to deserve such treatments. It's not like I want him back but more like why did he do all of that how can I not attract someone like this again and overthinking every detail going thru every hurtful memory again and again
Same. I got dumped cuz i didnt put a ring on it after many years. I just didnt have peace about it i guess. But now shes gone i feel like i coulda made wrong decision
I wanted to end mine cuz it was with a woman and i wasn't even bi. I liked her energy and aura more than like you like a friend. We broke up and got back together for 3 times and i've drained her so much. I always blame myself. I don't regret putting an end to it but at the same time i do. Actually she ended things and we didn't have a closure at all. She just started acting super cold and got a girlfriend. And when i look at the picture i'm in such a shitty situation still thinking about her and stalking them. I don't know what to do. It's been a year. And time didn't heal shit
Hi friend, I’m in the exact same boat, going on 4 months and I’m still crying over him. Please give me hope and tell me it got better for you 😢
It’s been 5 months after my break up, the woman I loved wasn’t in love with me anyone. I’m going through hell and hope to get over it soon. I really like the idea of ‘create your own closure’ cause I think that’s what I need to finally move on. Thank you for this video.
4 months from me... was hoping I'd be farther along by now, guess not... chin up, rooting for you brother
U feeling better?
Same story here dude but It's been a month for me, I thought I would get over it, I never had the closure I wanted
Know exactly what you talking about dude. It’s like 10 months for me and there are great days and super shit ones. What hurt for me the most was how she checked out ages before the break up and just used me, once she was done manipulating me and just kicked me to the curb. She also hid me from the world and now she has a bf and it’s posted everywhere. Never have I hoped Karma exists this much so that she can feel the pain she caused me.
@@karlzilz9004 I'm sorry to hear that! Cheer up and all the best dude. Go your own way and have faith in yourself. I think this shit has only made me stronger
My gf of over a decade broke it off for good recently. Already got a new guy and said its taking a turn for the serious. Im 43. Life feels weird af now.
I feel for you man. I dated my high school sweet heart for 7yrs, she broke up with me after college and then I met my last ex. We dated for 4.5 years and she just broke it off. I've had two long term relationships and I've never had to live for myself it's a scary feeling but it'll get better. Stay strong man
@@dgannon4 im way better now man. Even went on a date i was hopeful about last weekend. Blew up in my face tho. Got friendzoned.
6 yrs we where together 3 weeks she bk with and ex he has always been there
Things will get better! Stay strong!
May fiancé ended our relationship just over a year ago. I still burst into tears thinking about her all the time. I love her so much. I'm starting therapy tomorrow
Are you feeling a bit better now ?
It’s hard! But it’ll get easier. You will be in love again❤
People told me : wrote the bad things when you start fantasizing..but i just feel drained thinking about the hurt i put up with...
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
its always difficult to let go of you love, i was in a similar situation my husband for 12 years left me.i couldnt just let him go, so i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back
wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
I'm going on over 3 years, I'm screwed
My gf just broke up with me 2 ago after a really short but amazing 1 year and 2 months, I know it was really short but it was just incredible. The thing is we wanted different things and I was really fine with doing things she liked like living in many countries in the future but I also wanted to have a house together in one place have a family and get old together. But she thought I wanted to do it only for her which kind of was but I wanted it because it made me happy being with her. When she was breaking up with me I asked her that if we love each other we can go through this together… but she said sometime love is not enough, it just broke me. I respect her decision but still… it hurts a lot and I know this is all going to be better but still it hurts really bad.
That is the same thing she said to me sometimes love isn’t enough that was hard I feel like she was the one and I ruined it because I had all these problems going on and she finally got tired of it. I’m trying so hard right now.
It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.
I'm facing significant relationship problems and can't stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I'm ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.
I'II quickly search for him online. Thank you.
I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; his absence is keenly felt.
I promise you will not regret it.
I just searched for Father Akunna online indeed he is a very generous man and the most powerful spell caster that I have ever seen he brought my husband back to me with so much love ❤
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@@Jose-lz6cwthat’s basically witchcraft magic
“You don’t want every date to lead to something, then it won’t be special” damn that hit hard because I’ve always thought that a date that went well would lead to something good. I really needed to hear that man!!!! Thank you
True!!
I didn’t go to my favorite spot in the mountains behind my house for so long because I shared it with her but I remembered it was my favorite because that’s where I go on my bad days and I started going again
When I thought I'm not alone anymore, and now I'm here because she left me
I hope you heal
I just needed someone to talk to me that friendly, as the nights get lonlier
Can I be your friend
@@ChinazaLydia yeah sure why not
me too, you play video games?
Let's be friends
I don't cry anymore... the pain is easier now.
I do nails, hair, massages. I stay very, very busy!
Yes! True! Being busy helps forget our exes definetly!! 😊
Thank you brother, I almost killed myself. thanks to your video I started to rethink about life and try to have a happy family. (sorry my english not good)
Don't do it.. thoughts do come.. but remember it's just a phase.. only thing which helped me was. .. sit with your thoughts watch them.. just don't act on them
You’re so smart and beautiful. You go through so much, yet you’re here for us.
I’m going through it all alongside with you:)
@@joeykidney I wish you peace of mind.
i did the right thing, keeping her as a friend is always been a bad idea, idk whats her intention but in order to make myself healed, i have to let her go fully
She broke it off and tried to friend zone me but I just wanted to move. She ended the relationship, I ended the friendship.
Broke up. We weren't compatible. Everything was amicable. I wonder if it's wise to still keep contact?
I think that’s a personal question for you, but in my experience the feelings have always been there even if they aren’t at the front. I would still let go.
I see. I still have those extensive conversations saved on WhatsApp and Telegram, I'm having a dispute whether to keep or delete them.@@joeykidney
I broke up with her because she lied to me, she was very narcissistic and manipulative. I feel stupid for even missing her. I try to remind myself of how I felt during the majority of our relationship and I was always unhappy. I was doubtful of us even getting married, although she was all for it. The term “find somebody that loves you more than you love them” isn’t always the move. They will place you on this pedestal that you know you don’t deserve. She will suffocate you with love and you start to realize that it’s more of an obsession than love. It almost makes me feel like I was never really loved. It was an infatuation, you don’t lie to the people you love. You don’t sneak things behind their back and try to gaslight them when they figure it out. People are crazy, never try to fix someone that it is broken. They will cling onto you and drain you for all that you have. You will lose yourself and ultimately your soul. Your sanity will be questioned, anyone reading this. Look out for people with BPD or NPD, they are master manipulators of the mind and will lie just to keep you around. I may be wrong but this is the problem I’ve ran into twice, just keep your guard up💯
It happened to me, my ex girlfriend was extremely clingy and emotional unhinged. I loved her a lot and that relationship took me down a dark path. The crazy thing about it is that at the end of the relationship she cheated on me, blamed me for everything, then magically became the sane individual. While I ended up the psychological wreck. Crazy people will make you crazy. I learned my lesson and never again will I go down that path.
@@thestrengthreport7517 I’m so sorry that you had to go through that man. I know it must’ve been hard for the person you loved and cared about to switch just like that in front of you. I understand exactly where you are coming from, it hurts deeper than words can explain.
Dealing with these kinds of people will leave you questioning your own sanity, your own morals, and your naivety. It is common for people to believe that they can fix, heal, or deal with a mentally unhinged person but ultimately you will be damaged beyond repair in the end. The mind games that they play will leave you spinning in circles questioning your every move. Ultimately to have you second guessing everything in your life afterwards. It truly isn’t worth the mental damage these individuals bring, and I’m happy you were able to step away and acknowledge that this was not for you. Many people run back to toxic relationships so it is wise for you to run away from it. You tried your hardest to help this person, so despite what she has tried to blame on you it was not your fault. You gave her love as authentically as you could form it, she made the mistake of taking it for granted and using you for it. That was someone who was not worth it, a poor investment. Continue to run and watch out for similar signs, rebuild this love in yourself first. You deserve someone in your likeness with pureness in their heart and sanity. I pray you are able to find this one day my friend🙏🏽 God Bless
Honestly one thing that's always helped me short term was some simple material upgrades. Relationship ended and you cancelled a big expensive date? Take that money and get better bedsheets for yourself, some better-fitting shirts, a plant or wall picture you've been eyeing for a while. Guys are more object-oriented than women so making little changes around your house and apartment can help, or plan a trip, give yourself something to look forward to while you have to put a lot of mental energy into planning something. All these other steps are great too, this is just one other thing that's helped me.
“It's sad when someone you know becomes someone you knew.” :(
Just blocked her on everything since I found out shes dating someone. Im glad shes happy but, it just hurts.
Blocking is important. Cuz you can’t be friends right after you break up. Specially if that person hurted you a lot. Time heals…. We will all be fine one day…😊
She blocked me the day I got out of the mental hospital and I will never forgive her for that. Ever.
there's no thought popping UP, it's just literally there the whole time,playing like some kinda bg music
time will help. Which is such an annoying answer but it truly does
Totally relate brother, we will survive that
6 Months have passed, she has a new boyfriend within a month, Dumped me through text.
Im okay tho, just craving love and validation.
Joined a basketball team which was good for me.
But still got so much questions.
Almost have no friends, just looking for them but scared to go out and meet new people, and dont know how.
Time will heal,
Also 'just date' no one wants to go on a date, im not meeting people that want to. and dating apps don't work for me.
But i will be okay.
Just give it time💝💝
I'm so sorry about ....
My 5yrs relationship just ended...my ex boyfriend left me for his ex girlfriend after finding she's Rich
It hurts so much.😭😭😭😭
Sending ❤❤ from Nigeria
Do you wanna become friends? I can use a good friend too!
@@summericecoffee sure, you got discord?
I personally used dating apps (for example 'boo') to find new friends. And two people I've met there actually changed my whole life within 1-2 months and helped me to change my environment and be surrounded by new people. Don't give up, I believe you'll definitely find the place you are destined to be in ❤️ just keep trying. I wish you all the best!!!
This is my first break up from my first real realtionship. Ive already watched 4 of your videos and while its not anything that i havent already heard it is said in a way that makes a lot of sense. My biggest problem right now is that i see her everywhere in everything i do. Not literally, but the radio, my alarm clock, my bed, my couch, the painting she made on my wall, the necklace she gave me. And thats all before leaving my apartment. Im currently staying at my parents' because i just dont want to be home right now. She has the same job as me too, so even work makes me think of her. Now im laying in an unfilmaliar bed and the last bed i slept in that wasnt mine was her's. I thought a change of scenery would help, but my mind still correlates everything to her. We like a lot of the same stuff so everything i enjoy reminds me of her in some way. Granted we only broke up 2 days ago so i wouldnt expect to get over her so soon, i just didnt realize it hurts this much. She was a lot of firsts for me and i never thought heartbreak would be on that list.
I have been dating her for almost an year, i loved her with all my heart and even came to a point were we planned our future ahead and 2 weeks before we hit our one year mark she broke up with me. The reason being she was scared that what if her parents do not approve of us and she was scared to take our relationship ahead, she said its better to end now than in the next 5 years, now i kept fighting for her and i was even ready to talk to her parents regarding this but not at the moment as we still have time as i am currently 22 and she being 21 but she never listened and replied saying "I know that it can't continue, i do not want you to keep hopes". This really broke me into pieces thinking how can someone change that quickly and everything was completely normal a day prior. ------- I have never loved anyone like how i loved her.
How are you brother? Went through the same thing, she broke up right after our one year anniversary.
What helped me is, just get mad, I got angry at her over messages and it feels so refreshing afterwards
Joey thank you, specifically, for the last part. We don’t change the flower, we change the environment it’s in.
I just love the music behind this.... the instrumentals just touch a part of my soul .
Wonderful advice! It was healing watching this video. Thanks!
Thanks so much!
I felt like my ex was my life and we did everything together. Recently going on dates and hanging out sucks because I know that with them would be so much better and I could imagine what we would be doing different. But I am convincing myself of that. Because if it was so good we wouldn’t be broken up. The mindset is the most important
Stay you crew ❤ thank you for this
love this crew
Bruh, my ex left me after 9 years, I’m 35 now, and there is no dating. Every woman on apps are looking for a “provider”. It’s all a financial transaction. It’s awful.
Thank you so much for this video. I left my ex yesterday because he treated me poorly during the whole relationship. I know I deserve better but it still hurts so much. Your video and your calm voice made me feel at peace for a moment
I’m sat lying awake at night, just broke up with my first love of 11 years, I’m really struggling to see the future 😢
Maybe don’t look into the future
Look at right now
Personally I can’t go on date with another person because my mind is telling me that I basically cheat on her ( even tho she broke up with me ) and also, I have promised from the beginning to let her down no matter how hard it will be.. and here I am, watching the video after crying my eyes out for hours because I really cared and loved her and I still do it.. but now it’s to late..
How to get over an ex?
OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND!
You are welcome!
Haha that’s one way to look at it… or not look at it 😂
This is hard. I broke up with my ex cos he ghosted me for months till I reached out to him. His only reason being the distance and he couldn't communicate. I think about him from time to time and wonder what's he's up to, hopefully, he's better wherever he is but still can't get him off my mind and I feel traumatized by the experience to the point where I'm looking for him in the guys I talk to, hence, my reason for staying single.
@@jessiefianu6881i hope you're feeling better and everything is going better now, I feel the exact same and I've been through it before but I feel like everytime gets harder and harder for me and its just so hard to accept things but I know that I'll find someone that wants to grow with me rather than separately
Broke up about a month ago. Stopped contact going on two weeks and I feel like shit. She had changed prior to the break up, more distant and less affectionate. I tried to keep things going but then saw one day she was leaving comments on other men's pictures and that was the final straw for me. I still miss her and think about if what I did was right.
I know time is the best medicine, but she left me at such a period where I have little to no time left to face one of the biggest challenges of my life. Where I should be preparing, being ready for it, she made my colorful life pointless suddenly with huge deals of betrayal.
Thank you so much… really needed this right now
I’m glad it found you
Not only my girlfriend
My whole world is collapsing
3 years away from my family
A war happening in my country
Lost most of my friends before seeing them when i get back because they're died during the conflict
Living alone
After all that had a breakup 💔
I truly feel dieing while im still breathing i can't even cry!
Did everything for a year. Nothing changed. Sucks so bad because I don't like the early stages of dating except I already have a crush on that person.
My ex broke up with me yesterday because he lost feelings but that video really helped me thank u sm
It’s been a year & half since we broke up but those pics on social media brings back all the memories. I’m messed up about this girl
but i still love him more than anything. the worst part is that im scared ill forget. im scared that things wont remind me of him anymore. i never want to forget him but at the same time i know its over. half of me wants to text him, call him or anything but i know that i cant, hes trying to move on too. everything in my room reminds me of him. everywhere i go hes on my mind. hes the person i thought i was going to spend the rest of my life with and even now i still dont want anyone else.
I feel you, I really do…hurts like hell :(
I'm suprised how much I needed to hear this and I had NO idea. Thank you
One day, you're going to realise ''I haven't thought about them in a while'' and then and only then, will you have truly moved on. I saw my ex in a station waiting for her train (she didn't see me) and honestly...I didn't feel a single thing, nor care. I realised I successfully moved on.
You really have a way of connecting to people and helped me let some of my emotions out. Im thankful
Nearly a year together. The relationship was very healthy. We called everyday, we both listened, I took her out on dates. Great emotional and physical chemistry and same core values. Good open communication and conflict resolution, I loved her parents and they loved me. We broke up because I wasn't sure I was going to stay in the US long term and she didn't want to risk getting even more hurt later down the road. Even though I had a job and was planning on staying a several years, it's wasn't enough for her. (I'm Canadian) 3 months goes by and I make the decision to stay long term, only to find out she already moved on to someone else - Going on international trips and making new memories together.
It made me feel so cheap. Like I was easy to get over, like our time together meant nothing... It feels like a betrayal. One second your best friend is there talking to you till 2am and the next she's gone, doing all those things with someone else...
Love this .... Joey thank u so much for all ur advices .... it really help me ... Continue and I wish u more success in ur life 💫💫
I have BPD, which sometimes causes me to lose my temper and say terrible things. While it's no excuse, I completely lose control when my abandonment issues are triggered, leading to verbal outbursts. The anger consumes me, and I often don't remember what I said.
I could accept being left if they cheated or under other circumstances, but losing two amazing people due to my temper is devastating. It's making me doubt if I'll ever be able to maintain a healthy relationship.
Growing up with an abusive childhood and an absent, alcoholic father has shaped my people-pleasing tendencies, low self-worth, and unclear boundaries.
I don't know how to move on. I've never been a player, but if love hurts this much, maybe low-commitment situationships make more sense.
I'm doing therapy, cold showers, meditation - the whole gamut - but when I'm triggered, nothing seems to help. When I lose control, I really lose control.
I don't know if I can go through this again. What's the point of life if you can't love?
Thank you Joey! I really needed this, last Monday I cut off the contact with a boy. He didn’t seemed interested in me and was acting weird. I found out he was seeing another girl… I’m heartbroken, i hope this helps ❤️
I’m glad you took that step for yourself
It's been 3 weeks, and there's so much news I'm being told about how she wanted us to be a secret, how she's gotten back with her ex that treats her less than human...and them sneaking around in the office. It just hurts, thinking about them together when I don't want to just makes me angry and sad that they're people like that. I know I'll be okay, but going to work and sensing her presence has been hard.
I really liked my best friend and my love for him was so gradual and pure. There was a week where we crossed the line of platonic friends, and now he’s on his own path and doesn’t want to hang out like we used to. It feels like a friendship breakup because it just seems like we don’t vibe at all anymore. He liked me at one point too, but I got friend zoned, and now it feels like I don’t even have a friend left. Honestly feels just as bad as a breakup.
That's what I do. I avoid my ex at all costs. I'm over him, but I met this other guy just as a friend. However, we didn't get along within 2 weeks our friendship had taken a turn. I don't even go to the gym at the same time that he does. I even changed my number. That's how much I don't want to hear from him.
Thanks for this. I don't mind being with new friends but what I would not want to do is start dating. I have tried this. I know I don't want that new man in that way, they catch feelings and it becomes a big mess. I am so tired of pushing men away and then having to heal myself through over time which leads to months and years of turmoil for me. Every man I have tried to get to know is different and I don't know what to do or how to approach dating. Where are the videos on how to date and keep a man. I know how to get over exes basically focus on yourself and leave the ex alone. I never get it right. It hurts bad now
In 13 and just got broken up with I thought about our future all the time I had our 1. Month anniversary marked in my calendar next thing I know I’m single and I haven’t been myself since but your videos really help me to cope and get over it thank you Joey.
Great video man! The way she broke up with me definitely blindsided me and she made me feel so guilty about mistakes, making me feel I was responsible for it, while she never took any actions and accountability for her mental health problems. Within two weeks of breaking up, she hooked up with a guy, and her bedroom still had the things I gave her, like the card I wrote for her was right next to her bed, the condom wrapper was on top of it, she lied to me about not seeing people and cried on my shoulder that she's very sad . The way I found this out was, I had her keys, went into her apartment when she wasn't there, and found all this out, I was again devastated, but that was closure for me
It’s so frustrating because I originally ended my relationship because I simply had come back home from the country I went to for a year abroad and where she lives and realized I wasn’t going back in the foreseeable future. But then I started to notice all these things about our relationship that would have been a roadblock regardless if it wouldn’t have been distance that ended it. It’s still so difficult tho, I struggle so much even trying to listen to the bands and artists we both loved, or even remembering the conversations and memories we had together without getting sentimental. I also know that im not anywhere near a position yet physically let alone emotionally just quite yet to start dating again, and im really unsure if i’ll be able to connect with anyone like i was able to with her. I kind of just wish I could stop worrying about the past or finding love in the future, and just focus on myself and getting my life back together. I wish I could just let go of love for a while and not try- just let it happen naturally again when it does, but I’m so worried it won’t unless I actively get on apps or social media again, which I really don’t want to do.
I still miss my ex I obsess over the attributes I want out of a partner.
What's a heart? 😅 I've learnt, if you don't let anyone in. You can't get hurt again 😅
Then you’ll just end up hurting yourself
im 15 its been 4 years and i still cant get over it ..
I’ve been separated for 6 years and it’s still not any easier. My husband says he doesn’t want a divorce but he’s to afraid to disappoint his family to be with me. His family is awful. I know I should probably go ahead with the divorce but I keep holding out for …nothing. It’s truly a nightmare.
my stroy is so fucking wierd that i think i am gonna make a movie on it
11:19 Thank you for this, genuinely helped me so much
Thank you for sharing this video, I believe I will heal .
I hope you can find someone love you too joey. Thanks for this videos 🙏 ❤
I don't think the "No Contact" rule always should be followed. Me and my ex broke up last december, but we never broke contact, because we still wanted to be good friends, and that's what we are now, tho we don't talk as much anymore. It is also very hard to follow this rule when you have the same classes...
My ex on the other hand didn't want friendship when I requested for it and didn't even fight for a second chance even though I brought it up. For someone who claimed I was his best for 3 years, this really scarred and traumatized me. It's been over 10months and I still feel the pain. I tried reaching out to him via email, whatsapp and countless phone calls all to no avail and I've not gotten any closure. Love sucks
@@jessiefianu6881I had to cut communication with my ex because she was just using me as someone to sleep with while she was out talking to other men. It hurt me to do that but I had to realize my worth and the pain of being used like that outside of a relationship. Sometimes men cut contact because it’s easier for us to get over the pain and move on.
My life right now… 2,5 years down the line. Supposed to get engaged this summer. Life happens
it sucks because you imagine everything in your life with them then you lose yourself
The first real love of my life cheated with a friend and left me after i moved to another country for her six months ago and two years together, we just got a new apartment togehter and one week later she is gone. She said she cant be in a relationship with just me and she felt everything is too much for her and she just came to accept that, so she did what she had to do. I have no idea how to deal with all this, every person i know in this City i know because of her, every Place i love is her Place and i cant go there anymore, same goes for the People i called Friends here. I feel like i am all alone. Last night i was close to end my life cause i saw no other way out, i am so afraid that i can never recover from this and trust another person this much for the rest of my life. I guess only time can tell..
How do I replace my school or the way where I go home or my tuition where I see her a lot of times...
It's impossible for me to forget her...
Trust me... She plays into my mind when I close my eyes... Open my eyes... Do whatever...
Everything I did was for her and now... I can't do anything...
The only thing that's in my mind is death... I want her back... But she said she has lost her feelings...
I'm dead bro...
Hey, thanks for the amazing video! Please, tell me, what are the name of these tv shows that you are using as clips in the video? 😅
Thanks for the videos man. you don't understand how much you're helping. ❤
We were just together for a month but it still hits me, cause she was my first relationship.
That’s why I’m tryna make friends to to play games with too avoid the pain. Yet that’s a problem she doesn’t understand.
My boyfriend left me just 2or 3 days ago ....he was cheating on me with his ex for 3 months "he was not over with".....he said he was the one who started thing and that he is the one ending it ......even after forgiving him for all his mistakes.....never blaming him fir anything....he still left me ....just because of his ex ....i gave up my self respect for my love ....but he didn't seemed to care about it at all.....and i dont know what to do now .....
Thank you for this video💙
I have to say sorry even though she cheated. Now I gave up and dumped her too.
Feels like a pain that will never go. I can't sleep, hardly eating, I'm trying, spending alot of money eating out so I'm surounded by people and I'm not in my tiny flat alone. I have no desire to cook for myself, which is something I love to do. I have to force myself to shower, eveything feels so pointless. I keep battling every day trying to survive it, sometimes it feels like I just can't live anymore without that person. They were everything to me, why do I do this to myself? I want love and family and a person, a partner, but each time this happens I have to ask myself is it worth the pain if it's gone oneday? I know I'm not alone but it sure feels like it.
you're not alone, it's been two months since the breakup and it's still not good..many memories. it's even worse because the ex lives right next door.. we're neighbors
The one person who made me believe in love gave up on me, ghosted me and couldn't tell me he was tired. I had to find out the hard way and I haven't been the same since then. And it's funny how I can't share with anyone other than a platform where no one knows me. I believe you will get better with time. Sending you lots of love and hugs.
How do i give my girlfriend space i screwed up and she wanted a brake to fix myself but how do i stop myseld of thinking about her worrying about her cuz i was to text her but shes ghosting me
I wanted to date someone for long time and then get married..we were in relationship for 3 years everything was going well until one day he decided he can't fight for our relationship..its been 2.5 years since we separted..i went through depression nd suicidal thoughts..i m doing fine now though..but i find it hard to take anything seriously now.. I don't want to date anyone the thought of marrying someone else haunts me because love will never feel same to me......the fact that I won't be in long term relationship and then marry someone hurts the most.. probably i might not marry anyone. ..for reference i m from India nd we hsve arranged marriages here..idk how that works though..how can you fall for someone like that.
I have been single for 2 years and I just can't seem to move on...I feel lost and unwanted...
But how am I supposed to get closure if I don't talk to my ex
i feel like i regret breaking up with her, but i know it was the right think to do because i was loosing myself nearing the end of our relationship but it hurts a lot knowing or assuming that she got with the guy she was "playing" with. I'll add to the wound by saying we were in an ldr hahaha i want to move on, so bad, but she was the first and possibly the greatest, and the worst, all the the same time :(
It’s been 6 and a half months and I just can’t get it out of my head. It has affected me tremendously. I just wanna not care anymore
This is so hard, bcs I feel like such a loser. We weren't even really together. I had a crush on him, he had a crush on me, but I have a boyfriend whom I love so intensly, but he isn't ready to open our relationship and be polyamorous with me, so I had to say that to my crush and he blocked me. He's also after a break up with his gf of 2 years and not handling it well. And I can't stop thinking about him. I'm just heartbroken bcs I know that if I stop obsessing over him, it'll be over. I will never see him again. And it makes me want to cry just thinking about how true that is.
I was watching amazing spiderman on tv and i suddenly remember this guy😅
we should create a gc for all heart broken ones
2 more months it will be our 1st anniversary i cant even understand my self just bcs of love but we both keep argue for bad reason i just wish i dont have any jealousy type and a guy who overthinks alot no one could even treat me like she did to me i miss her 😥😥
The thoughts of her being sexual with anyone else is what kills me every. Single. Time.
How do I stop thinking of it??
Do you think, I can be friends with my ex just after we broke up? She alredy found someone else and I dont like this guy. I feel like she is a good person and we broke up in a good way and now she is dating someone who is like far worse than me and I hate the reality.
How would you best heal when the love of your life (and fiancé, dating for 3 years) starts binge drinking (as a result of grief) which leads to physical abuse towards me. So much so, that the relationship has to end, and she could still not take responsibility. It's so hard to lose a best friend and partner because they transform into somebody you don't recognize. You still see their heart and love and trust them. And yet, they are unable to comprehend the severity of their behavior? It's been 5 months and i still miss her so much
The problem is that I'm in his friend group, and if I Go through no contact then I won't have any friends that I can talk to everyday.
Thank you, just thank you