The most difficult part for me is the fear that you could have tried more or harder, and the fear of maybe regretting it and making a mistake for not waiting for more time
What about when you know you've done more things for her than anyone else she’s ever been with…and only to be left alone just 4 days before your wedding…all you can ask yourself is what did I do wrong? After You gave her everything have…your time…your money…your attention or was it all those things you gave up for your partner the things I shouldn't have done…But the sad thing is you know your in love when you do all those things…and still wasn't enough…but still can't breakup with her and still want to make things right even with all the signs on her forehead…hehehe sorry don't mind me I just got dumped tonight…I’ve been saving myself to find the one for 30 years and I really thought she was the one…
@@ariari7189 I really feel for you. That must've been hard to go through. I've experienced those feeling when you give your all to someone and would've done anything for them, only for them to fall out of love and lose feeling for you.
Today I broke up with someone who loved me very much and was one of the sweetest people. Unfortunately for the last few months we have been constantly arguing and disagreeing with each other. I felt so bad that I wanted to end this, I was so angry with myself. But I think we both worked out that the longer we carry it on the worse it will be.
I wanna be friends with this dude. He looks like he is the chill guy but when you really need it, he is there to advise you and really just doesn’t judge. Crazy.
So random but YEEAARRSS ago, Joey, I heard you say “live to be happy and be happy to live.” Last year I got my first tattoo and that’s what it says. It’s been my life’s motto-a line I have never forgotten since the day I first heard you say it.
Thank you, that came straight from the wisdom of your open, sincere heart. It's giving me the strength to take the leap, no matter how hard, knowing we both tried our very best.
I just got broken up with last night by my gf of 3 years. I’m still battling with my emotions but this definitely helped. We both loved each other but unfortunately we weren’t in love with each other anymore
I hate being a young soul talking to someone about things like these, because they always brush it off (ESPECIALLY when they're 5+ years older) as some sort of invalidated experience just because it's happened to them before, as if it didn't hurt then, as if their feelings didn't matter then. This video, however, helped me a lot. I knew from the BEGINNING she wasn't the one for me, the contrast is too far, the spark was never there besides the affection. You made me realize my behavior of "I don't wanna breakup with her because i'll feel horrible afterwards" is pretty damn selfish. I know now that it's always gonna hurt, there's no going back and there's no way to soften the blow and that I should just be honest rather then making an at least halfway "understandable" excuse. Thank you, this is one of the only (sorta) self-help videos that genuinely fixed a huge problem i've been having for these past few months. You've saved me a lot.
I’m in my car in the parking lot in the mall, I’ve been in a complicated relationship where we definitely love each other, but our difference in values and just the fact that we are fundamentally different has hurt us a lot. There has been a lot of insincerity, lies and manipulation from her end. That has caused me to bash out and be hurtful and judge. We started dating last October and in reality I don’t think things have gotten worse, but I don’t know if they’ve gotten better. I’m at a 50-50 where I’m literally split, but if I’m being honest, I’m leaning more towards the fact that I will break up with her eventually. It hurts me. She’s my first relationship, she has had multiple relationships before me, but it is a couple years younger, and just simply lack the experience ironically because this is her first SERIOUS relationship. The cognitive dissonance is what eats me up the most, I can’t afford a therapist so I just come to videos like this seeking help.
Further more... I had a friend I was seeing. We in my head were going strong. But I could feel it, the inconsistency... Him exploring other options. He didn't show or tell. Then one day he laid it on me, but I still didn't get it. He wasn't very clear about it. But then it was like every moment after that was like he was trying to get rid of me. I kept expressing that and it still felt like there was something he wasn't saying. It took months for me to process it. And the feelings still linger. But because of how slow of a burn it was, I forgive the moment. But I can never see myself having any kind of relationship with him at all. He wanted to continue being casual friends, but now there are so many unresolved feelings that unless we're BOTH willing to say the unspoken words. We just have to go our own ways.
My girlfriend of a year and a half broke up with me a month ago. She said she was mentally falling out of love with me cause of our rights and issues for weeks already and so when she finally did it , it was like she was way more cold and distant than I ever expected. I was moving my stuff out, moving storage bins up and down the hallway of her apartment crying my eyes out in silence while she just didn't acknowledge it and she's told me she felt bad but the way she acted made it more traumatic. I had to grieve and process it all by myself and she was not available for me to lean on whatsoever during it and everytime I hit a breaking point and had to message her just to feel something or just talk to me like a normal human being and not be so distant whe would just say she still need space and that me pushing was only asking her less attracted to me and want less to do with me. The whole "I need space" thing is a whole other can of worms and I know it's bad to violate that when they ask you for space but it could've been handled so much better.... She made me go through the worst heartbreak of my life this last few weeks just laying alone in my room numb and unable to enjoy anything all the while getting made to feel like I'm the bad guy each time I tried to reach out to her. I'm literally going to therapy next week because of it lol and I've never been to a therapist nor did I think I'd ever need to. Me and her finally resolved things maturely and agreed to just let one another go free and not be in the others life at all. We agreed that we both fucked each other up mentally and now I need to heal and so does she. We may still reunite in January if things have healed and we are still single and she's done with her school which ends this week but I mean... Idk lol
I’m a high school teenage girl , i’ve been in a relationship with someone that i feel that he truly loves me nd takes care of me nd my feelings for 2 months, and now I’m watching this video trynna not to hurt him or make him feels depressed. I think that I’m doing the right decision ;(
I liked a girl 2 years back, she’s had 3 boyfriends in those 2 years. Now we’re together, and I’ve come to realise.. she was too late, I wanted to believe so much I loved her. But I don’t feel anything when we’re together anymore. Had a relationship for 8 months with her. I don’t know how to.. break up with her.
I’m so scared to break up with my boyfriend .. we have been dating about 1 yr and it just doesn’t feel the same. I lost feelings but I don’t want to be fake so I need to. He has always struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts and I just don’t want him to be hurt. I’m not happy but he is and ik he loves me but I don’t 😭 I’m going to ill update soon Update- I did it everything is fine so far ❤
Do you think it's okay my ex broke up with me even though we treated each other well and it seemed healthy, cause of an incompatibility they knew about from date 1, after 40 dates and sleep overs and meeting family? And she said she wanted to be with me and initiated sex moments before ending it. She'd never communicated any concerns before the discard. But at least she did it in person and didn't give many details... It didn't feel like closure. Actually it was the most painful thing I've ever experienced.
I have decided to break up. It's just one side love since four year. He don't know who am I. .may be he knows me and my past. I am not sure. But he didn't try to speak to me. Some time I feel like he is insulting me and he knows the truth that I am love in with him. God knows the truth. But I am not able to take my depression anymore. It's very painful for me. I am getting sick. Heath issues are increasing. I scare my family will suffer only because of me and my stupidity. So I have decided to end this one side love.
Please can someone give me some guidance. I really don’t know how to do things but me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 year I feel like there so love anymore even if I have tried to give all of mine to the relationship. She had a really abusive person in her life and she always told me I’m gonna leave her and I always said I’m gonna stay forever and I feel like it’s going to break her and I don’t think I can deal with myself if I break her I still love her I just feel like it’s not working we have been trying to fix things things but the last 3 months I have had almost no good times and I feel unloved and it’s tearing me up
Oh man this one is tough bro, especially since you promised to be with her forever. But tbh it's gonna be worse if you ignore your and her feelings and the issues that may present themselves in the relationship. If deep down you know you don't love her and aren't willing to the fight for the long haul, then end it. I'm sort of in the same situation myself, minus the abuse, and it's really hard man, but I know it'll be better in the grand scheme of things
There's this boy who had a crush on me for 2 years and he asked me out. I said yes and we've been dating for like 3 days. The thing is that he's super awkward and disgusting, but he's a nice guy and I don't want to hurt his feelings😭 pls send advice
I’m in an after break up situation right now. She broke up with me but now she wants to be friends again. I don’t know if I can be friends anymore after everything though. It’s been quite a while since the break up and I’m a way happier person but I’m scared if I try to go back to her as a friend that I’m going to hurt again. Anyone have any advice
My best piece of advice is do not do it. That finished for a reason, now you are in a better place. Do not destroy all the work you have done on yourself
yeah... leave it in the past. It'll hurt and you'll always think that there's a way to make it "work". But she'll get a boyfriend or partner... She'll go off to do something. And you'll be left there, just you again... And it'll hurt again. Save yourself the trouble. Don't settle.
it's understandable that either of you wants the other in their life, you were a solid source of comfort for each other for a long time. and maybe you can turn this into a genuine friendship one day but if you hesitate, it's not the time. I think reuniting and being friends require totally different protocols, so if you feel in between and don't know which one you want to be in, don't do it.
I need a solution please help. He belongs to a family where his parents won't allow a love marriage he is 25 I'm 21. His parents do not know about us. Somehow yesterday his parents got a glimpse of us texting. His mother called me and said some brutal shits onto my face with a warning that if you ever talk to my son again I'll call the police. Okay I'm scared. I'm scared to death. To me nothing matters more than my father's pride. His parents aren't allowing him to touch his phone or go anywhere. And they are forcing him to marry this another woman. It's okay I'll move on I'm a strong person. But he isn't. When I asked him that we should breakup he denied it saying that he will die. Okay he loves me with all his heart and that's what I have always asked for but the fact that his parents warning me about police and all those stuffs has scared me to death. He even said that he will die without me. At this point I was like dude if you do something to youself your parents will come for me. I'm a selfish person I know I'm. What should I do? I need some advise
@@joeykidney Part of me wishes that we argued instead. Because I feel like it's so much harder this way. But thank you for bringing me that perspective.
3 month rule, still have feelings for her, but she doesn’t even bother trying to speak to me anymore. I’m sick of seeing her once a week and then being ignored. I feel embarrassed and scared, but I think I know what I have to do.
The most difficult part for me is the fear that you could have tried more or harder, and the fear of maybe regretting it and making a mistake for not waiting for more time
This! 💯
What about when you know you've done more things for her than anyone else she’s ever been with…and only to be left alone just 4 days before your wedding…all you can ask yourself is what did I do wrong? After You gave her everything have…your time…your money…your attention or was it all those things you gave up for your partner the things I shouldn't have done…But the sad thing is you know your in love when you do all those things…and still wasn't enough…but still can't breakup with her and still want to make things right even with all the signs on her forehead…hehehe sorry don't mind me I just got dumped tonight…I’ve been saving myself to find the one for 30 years and I really thought she was the one…
This is me!!! How do we know?
@@ariari7189 I really feel for you. That must've been hard to go through. I've experienced those feeling when you give your all to someone and would've done anything for them, only for them to fall out of love and lose feeling for you.
@@ariari7189 It may be she didn't feel she was doing enough for you and she felt like you deserved more.
delayed conflict is conflict multiplied
You said it better than I did
Today I broke up with someone who loved me very much and was one of the sweetest people. Unfortunately for the last few months we have been constantly arguing and disagreeing with each other. I felt so bad that I wanted to end this, I was so angry with myself. But I think we both worked out that the longer we carry it on the worse it will be.
This video came right at the right time ❤
It's not going to be easy, but it's a step in the right direction
You got this - sending love your way
I wanna be friends with this dude. He looks like he is the chill guy but when you really need it, he is there to advise you and really just doesn’t judge. Crazy.
damn dude your were helping me in highschool on tik tok now helping me as an adult, honestly man you do more than you think you do. I appreciate you.
So random but YEEAARRSS ago, Joey, I heard you say “live to be happy and be happy to live.” Last year I got my first tattoo and that’s what it says. It’s been my life’s motto-a line I have never forgotten since the day I first heard you say it.
that’s my favourite saying ever! That is so amazing that it’s on your body - I love it
Thank you, that came straight from the wisdom of your open, sincere heart. It's giving me the strength to take the leap, no matter how hard, knowing we both tried our very best.
So much compassion in your advice. Thanks.
I just got broken up with last night by my gf of 3 years. I’m still battling with my emotions but this definitely helped. We both loved each other but unfortunately we weren’t in love with each other anymore
False hope only delay their healing. That hit me hard mr joey ❤
I hate being a young soul talking to someone about things like these, because they always brush it off (ESPECIALLY when they're 5+ years older) as some sort of invalidated experience just because it's happened to them before, as if it didn't hurt then, as if their feelings didn't matter then. This video, however, helped me a lot. I knew from the BEGINNING she wasn't the one for me, the contrast is too far, the spark was never there besides the affection. You made me realize my behavior of "I don't wanna breakup with her because i'll feel horrible afterwards" is pretty damn selfish. I know now that it's always gonna hurt, there's no going back and there's no way to soften the blow and that I should just be honest rather then making an at least halfway "understandable" excuse. Thank you, this is one of the only (sorta) self-help videos that genuinely fixed a huge problem i've been having for these past few months. You've saved me a lot.
so thankfull for all the warmth you spread. Thank you Joey.
Glad you enjoyed it
Doin the right thing never comes with reason cause the right thing is the ultimate reason💙💙
Keep going joey!!!!!
the right thing is the ultimate reason - i love that
Can I order your book "what's the rush" from india ?
And is it available as e book ?@@joeykidney
Heey
Can I order ur book " what's the rush" from India?
And is it available as ebook online ?
if only i'd had this a month ago.
i'm kidding. I love the timing of your videos- they all hit just right. thank you for making your content
i wish that i could like this over and over again he is so helpful
I love your videos ❤❤❤ thank you so much they help me view this differently, I really needed this video, this came at the right time
I’m in my car in the parking lot in the mall, I’ve been in a complicated relationship where we definitely love each other, but our difference in values and just the fact that we are fundamentally different has hurt us a lot. There has been a lot of insincerity, lies and manipulation from her end. That has caused me to bash out and be hurtful and judge. We started dating last October and in reality I don’t think things have gotten worse, but I don’t know if they’ve gotten better. I’m at a 50-50 where I’m literally split, but if I’m being honest, I’m leaning more towards the fact that I will break up with her eventually. It hurts me. She’s my first relationship, she has had multiple relationships before me, but it is a couple years younger, and just simply lack the experience ironically because this is her first SERIOUS relationship. The cognitive dissonance is what eats me up the most, I can’t afford a therapist so I just come to videos like this seeking help.
Further more... I had a friend I was seeing. We in my head were going strong. But I could feel it, the inconsistency... Him exploring other options. He didn't show or tell. Then one day he laid it on me, but I still didn't get it. He wasn't very clear about it. But then it was like every moment after that was like he was trying to get rid of me. I kept expressing that and it still felt like there was something he wasn't saying. It took months for me to process it. And the feelings still linger. But because of how slow of a burn it was, I forgive the moment. But I can never see myself having any kind of relationship with him at all. He wanted to continue being casual friends, but now there are so many unresolved feelings that unless we're BOTH willing to say the unspoken words. We just have to go our own ways.
My girlfriend of a year and a half broke up with me a month ago. She said she was mentally falling out of love with me cause of our rights and issues for weeks already and so when she finally did it , it was like she was way more cold and distant than I ever expected. I was moving my stuff out, moving storage bins up and down the hallway of her apartment crying my eyes out in silence while she just didn't acknowledge it and she's told me she felt bad but the way she acted made it more traumatic. I had to grieve and process it all by myself and she was not available for me to lean on whatsoever during it and everytime I hit a breaking point and had to message her just to feel something or just talk to me like a normal human being and not be so distant whe would just say she still need space and that me pushing was only asking her less attracted to me and want less to do with me. The whole "I need space" thing is a whole other can of worms and I know it's bad to violate that when they ask you for space but it could've been handled so much better.... She made me go through the worst heartbreak of my life this last few weeks just laying alone in my room numb and unable to enjoy anything all the while getting made to feel like I'm the bad guy each time I tried to reach out to her. I'm literally going to therapy next week because of it lol and I've never been to a therapist nor did I think I'd ever need to. Me and her finally resolved things maturely and agreed to just let one another go free and not be in the others life at all. We agreed that we both fucked each other up mentally and now I need to heal and so does she. We may still reunite in January if things have healed and we are still single and she's done with her school which ends this week but I mean... Idk lol
I’m a high school teenage girl , i’ve been in a relationship with someone that i feel that he truly loves me nd takes care of me nd my feelings for 2 months, and now I’m watching this video trynna not to hurt him or make him feels depressed. I think that I’m doing the right decision ;(
I liked a girl 2 years back, she’s had 3 boyfriends in those 2 years. Now we’re together, and I’ve come to realise.. she was too late, I wanted to believe so much I loved her. But I don’t feel anything when we’re together anymore. Had a relationship for 8 months with her. I don’t know how to.. break up with her.
Thank you for that front bit needed that
Or to save time, say you want to show him something on google and "accidentally" leave this page up when you open your PC.
Unfortunately it happened over a fight over text and there will no more be in person.
thank you so much it feels like you're an older brother giving me advice haha
I’m so scared to break up with my boyfriend ..
we have been dating about 1 yr and it just doesn’t feel the same. I lost feelings but I don’t want to be fake so I need to. He has always struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts and I just don’t want him to be hurt. I’m not happy but he is and ik he loves me but I don’t 😭 I’m going to ill update soon
Update- I did it everything is fine so far ❤
Do you think it's okay my ex broke up with me even though we treated each other well and it seemed healthy, cause of an incompatibility they knew about from date 1, after 40 dates and sleep overs and meeting family? And she said she wanted to be with me and initiated sex moments before ending it. She'd never communicated any concerns before the discard. But at least she did it in person and didn't give many details... It didn't feel like closure. Actually it was the most painful thing I've ever experienced.
I can't break up in person because we love very far Apart and i have noen her sense i was 3
I have decided to break up. It's just one side love since four year. He don't know who am I. .may be he knows me and my past. I am not sure. But he didn't try to speak to me. Some time I feel like he is insulting me and he knows the truth that I am love in with him. God knows the truth. But I am not able to take my depression anymore. It's very painful for me. I am getting sick. Heath issues are increasing. I scare my family will suffer only because of me and my stupidity. So I have decided to end this one side love.
How did you do it?
Please can someone give me some guidance. I really don’t know how to do things but me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 year I feel like there so love anymore even if I have tried to give all of mine to the relationship. She had a really abusive person in her life and she always told me I’m gonna leave her and I always said I’m gonna stay forever and I feel like it’s going to break her and I don’t think I can deal with myself if I break her I still love her I just feel like it’s not working we have been trying to fix things things but the last 3 months I have had almost no good times and I feel unloved and it’s tearing me up
Oh man this one is tough bro, especially since you promised to be with her forever. But tbh it's gonna be worse if you ignore your and her feelings and the issues that may present themselves in the relationship. If deep down you know you don't love her and aren't willing to the fight for the long haul, then end it. I'm sort of in the same situation myself, minus the abuse, and it's really hard man, but I know it'll be better in the grand scheme of things
Thank you
Heey
Can i order ur book " what's the rush " from India?
And is it available as e book online????
Yes :) it is available on Amazon India (all three of my books are)
There's this boy who had a crush on me for 2 years and he asked me out. I said yes and we've been dating for like 3 days. The thing is that he's super awkward and disgusting, but he's a nice guy and I don't want to hurt his feelings😭 pls send advice
the earlier the better, the best time is now
good luck
The same thing is happening to me.. I fell for him but after 3 months I lost my feelings for him
I’m in an after break up situation right now. She broke up with me but now she wants to be friends again. I don’t know if I can be friends anymore after everything though. It’s been quite a while since the break up and I’m a way happier person but I’m scared if I try to go back to her as a friend that I’m going to hurt again. Anyone have any advice
My best piece of advice is do not do it. That finished for a reason, now you are in a better place. Do not destroy all the work you have done on yourself
yeah... leave it in the past. It'll hurt and you'll always think that there's a way to make it "work". But she'll get a boyfriend or partner... She'll go off to do something. And you'll be left there, just you again... And it'll hurt again. Save yourself the trouble. Don't settle.
it's understandable that either of you wants the other in their life, you were a solid source of comfort for each other for a long time. and maybe you can turn this into a genuine friendship one day but if you hesitate, it's not the time. I think reuniting and being friends require totally different protocols, so if you feel in between and don't know which one you want to be in, don't do it.
I need a solution please help. He belongs to a family where his parents won't allow a love marriage he is 25 I'm 21. His parents do not know about us. Somehow yesterday his parents got a glimpse of us texting. His mother called me and said some brutal shits onto my face with a warning that if you ever talk to my son again I'll call the police. Okay I'm scared. I'm scared to death. To me nothing matters more than my father's pride. His parents aren't allowing him to touch his phone or go anywhere. And they are forcing him to marry this another woman. It's okay I'll move on I'm a strong person. But he isn't. When I asked him that we should breakup he denied it saying that he will die. Okay he loves me with all his heart and that's what I have always asked for but the fact that his parents warning me about police and all those stuffs has scared me to death. He even said that he will die without me. At this point I was like dude if you do something to youself your parents will come for me. I'm a selfish person I know I'm. What should I do? I need some advise
She broke up with me while cuddling... A new level of getting blindsided 💀
The bright side is you were being held
@@joeykidney Part of me wishes that we argued instead. Because I feel like it's so much harder this way. But thank you for bringing me that perspective.
Oooh oooh oooooh. What if.. when they ask you to do something say "Sorry I can't. I was going to update my dating profile." But in a loving way.
I am thinking good? Should I end this one side love? Please comment me anyone.
3 month rule, still have feelings for her, but she doesn’t even bother trying to speak to me anymore. I’m sick of seeing her once a week and then being ignored. I feel embarrassed and scared, but I think I know what I have to do.