I love this video so much. I just discovered I have ADHD at 61 years old. I was a flight attendant for 33 years and recently was let go for an accident I had in training. It was very difficult for me, but now I understand from your videos and other coaches that my ADHD probably had a lot to do with it. It certainly had a lot to do with how I feel in that particular industry. 20 years at one airline was perfect. This one at 13 was challenging. Thanks for enlightening me and hopefully I will land in my next career that I love just as much, with your help.
I just started a new job and I already want to leave sooo bad. I JUST WANT SOME MONEY TO LIVE. I HATE pretending that I enjoy work. I just want to be free.
a confirmed diagnosis of adhd qualifies for disability insurance through social security, must provide medical proof, this at least provides some income, there are limitations though
I leave jobs when I have another job lined up. I can give companies more years if they allow me to learn new things. I normally leave companies when I’m bored. I love working in entertainment the people and the creativity
Hey, can you expound on this and your experience? 😊 More the industry part. It seems like it's rather an unstable environment? Or did you get yourself a skill, that you could stand on firmly, thereby knowing for sure you could transfer any time if you'd want to? Would be nice
2 months I am already bored , I am always asking what's New today, show me this New part of homede software even if not related what I have to do the same day!!
@ascension4444 I started my wn cleaning business. I advertised on Facebook and had my first customer within minutes. I haven't looked back amd employ other now. I have lasted 4 years which is a record.
AuDHD here - I’ve never been able to hold the same job for more than 3 years. It just never works for me regardless of the job. It always feels like I was born in the wrong body, world, and hell…universe most days. None of this makes any sense to me and never has. Now that I’m close to 40 I feel even more confused and alone.
24 year old here. I recently chose a good paying career path but am now not sure if I even like it. I love the freedom of being able to move around the country at a moments notice but I just signed a 1 year lease only three months ago. I feel trapped yo
I thought there was something truly wrong with me or just straight up evil about our day to day life... maybe thats debatable, but its nice to know that its not really either, Im just different and don't function well in a world built around a specific way of thinking.
my brain doesnt want to stay in a job more than a day or 2 lol❤... its not really the lack of novelty....but the increasing pressure, social tensions, expectations, demands and my decreasing confidence that I can handle any of it.... its the mounting of expectations and tasks...the hiring process is fine, cuz no expectations yet...
Yes and it’s almost like even when you are doing your job correctly, some supervisor finds some reason to criticize it, nitpick, and call it “positive feedback”. The constant review, feedback, commentary own how I’m doing my job, all of it becomes very silly to me and quickly! I’m not sure where that comes from, to constantly be critical of people, it’s almost like companies are pushing people away on purpose.
@Pax-j2x, responsibilities are often overrated and taken too seriously by those who practice blind conscientiousness, serving the interests of exploitative wage slavery. 🤷🏽 Oh well.
for me a really big one is when i start to feel like i'm getting overworked or taken advantage of. when my positive emotions about a job and the direction it's going are positive i'm 110%. but as soon as i start to feel taken advantage of or feel like you cant keep your side of the bargin i'm all out and miss alot of work
Same. Only this 💯applies in terms of my friendships. Lately have been evaluating how much other people drain my energy and add to my ever-present struggle to control the chaos that has taken over my life this year. Few days ago a friend and I agreed on the phone to meet for a coffee at a specific day, place and time. He ignored my messages. I called twice and then went on with my day. No big deal, but since then he has messaged me repeatedly and called. At those times, I was taking a day trip to the countryside, went to a career workshop and was otherwise occupied. Your comment makes me realize my positive emotions towards certain people are quite strained and not reciprocated.
✋️ Seasoned adult here lol. Diagnosed at 47 after I lost my dream job for chronic tardiness. FFwd 5 years and an autoimmune disorder later, I am struggling to define the career I can do physically and mentally that also keeps my squirrels happy. YOU Caren are the canteen in my desert! Tons of knowledge delivered succinctly with a sprinkle of humor and the girlfriend vibe that makes us all wanna go out for cocktails with you 😊 THANK YOU for all you are doing! ❤
My job too has issues with me being late and don't want to be flexible it's very frustrating because I work so hard and don't take my full breaks sometimes. I work the full hours im supposed to work and have worked late before and havent minded as long as i know im making work easier for everybody and helping people. Now theres coworkers saying I want to set my own hours and i do a bad job and it was heartbreaking for me even though i dont want to care so much about what the toxic coworkers have to say aboht me . so much workplace gossip They want to make everyone the same. Like clones of each other
@@britndayzjust some advice, get your doctor to sign an accomodations form... It's saved me so much, and they have to figure out a way to accommodate you. ADHD is a disability and is covered under the Americans with Disabilities Act
Yes, I'm trying to decide what career I want to pursue next and I'm already thinking of why I'll hate each one. I don't even want to commit to anything anymore because I know I can't stick with it when it becomes boring. I think I have to figure out how to start my own business.. so many good ideas but can't get any of them done
I'm on my 2nd business idea and while this one I actually took to production I'm now getting bored and have many other ideas I want to pursue but know fully well I'll never take anything to the point of being proud of it if I continue this way.
Moving jobs every 18 - 24 months is a valid career strategy to increase experience and salary. See how far loyalty gets you when the big headcount reduction comes around.
Fair point however only if you stay in the same career field. Otherwise you won't necessarily get a higher salary since you're a junior again. Also, you'll have to come up with a clear explanation at the interview to avoid looking like a habitual career hopper
When you're not overstaffed you don't have to worry near as much about headcount reduction. The small business I work for can easily (well, maybe not EASILY) replace me, but no way in heck can they eliminate the position. But I will say it's a lot more difficult to take days off as well. Can't have it all I guess.
I wish recruiters and employers understood this! I usually feel like quutting after two years. I hate monotony and being hamstrung from adding my creativity.
I just got fired today from retail store only. But this time I dont blamed myself that I am useless which I generally do. Dont loose hope. We all r this in together.
I was diagnosed ADHD in my 30s. I am now 48. A musician and a gig delivery worker and a husband and a father. Doing deliveries for gig apps has been my main money for over 5 years (especially during pandemic), which is an amazing amount of time for me to do any kind of job. Being able to use multiple platforms and make my own schedule with clear expectations and no manager is a big deal for me. I’m working on getting my musician momentum back & also would like to buy some land and start a gardening & composting business.
I've been Instacarting for coming on four years it's the longest thing for money I've done...ever..besides doing event gig like DJing and bartending which can feel stressful at times since I also struggle with PTSD. I don't always enjoy it the waiting and the random customers being all picky, buuuuut something about the way I am able to work just works. My friends and family want me to do something better. I'm trying to find that thing that is more reliable and so I don't have to drive all over but it's crazy how this is the thing that has stuck.
Same here, I'm 40 and gig work is the only thing I've been able to stick with. (Also 5-6 years). I joked that the reason I've stuck with it that long is because it's the only job I can quit every day and then still be able to come back to. It also works well with moving to new cities, which I do often and then can drive in New places which makes it more bearable. Unfortunately, now it's slowed down. So much that it's not sustainable anymore and I'm not making enough money so I'm going to try to start my own business.
I’m exactly like this but fight it, I do feel miserable at my job and I have a good one with good people. I also don’t understand how people can give decades of their life to a company that wouldn’t care if they never existed in the first place. I really don’t agree with the climb the corporate ladder to get yours philosophy. We’re just indentured servants with extra steps.
I just quit my job this past week. This really helps me understand more. It's not just me. It really was a toxic environment and narcissistic co workers.
I hated every single job I had and left because of burnout. I hate my current job, it's been 5 years and had 2 depressions one of which almost led to an*rexia. I can't imagine something different until I become old
There's people who deeply dislike ADHD people, perhaps people full of complexes or psychopats that like to bully others, but in every job I've been I've found at least one of those who have no issue in attacking you till you think about leaving the job not to bear with their abuse. There's something about adhd (innocence, perhaps) that triggers bullies and horrible persons.
I have my own basic service business as well and its honestly a lifesaver. I struggle to work under others but I am so motivated to work for myself. have been self employed for 7 years
I worked for a company for 25 years, at a job I really hated, because they keep pushing "we're a family." The pandemic started and they eliminated my position at every branch. I have been at my current job for over two years and my ADHD has told me it's time to bounce. The days of loyalty to jobs are over.
I'm glad my company never says that. Even though I've been there 17 years and my supervisor and I have seen each other's kids grow up. We got families at home. We don't need them at work. We can be friends though.
I had that too. Except before pandemic, and at my 5th year of working there. The "family" kicked me out because I and my manager were very different people. I have a PTSD from it, seriously. Since then I'm very cynical about any ideologies
I have the opposite problem, I over commit. I have the hardest time conceptualizing how to quit, transition, and the benefits of change. I hate disspointing people, or adding more work to others. I am a high performer and take on way to much.
the only way for me to put an end to my job-hopping which lasted a decade (from 1981 to 1990) was to consult a psychiatrist. I explained my situation to him and I asked him if he could prescribe me a sick leave that would allow me to get through the period of instability that I was going through then. that's what he did: after 15 days off I went back to work until I retired 27 years later.
@@kashifrana6798 I did nothing except let time pass (don't they say that time is a great healer): in this situation, I combined the fact of not losing my job by choosing the radical solution of resignation with the exciting prospect of returning to work after reaching the end of the tunnel. it was a way to limit the devastating effects of frustration - loss of individual freedom, pleasing others through false self-sacrifice, need for recognition from others, etc, etc, -. I thus learned not to constantly repeat the same mistakes: to make rash decisions whose consequences extended to people other than me and then to start all over again from the beginning in the quest for a new job. for 27 years I did not work at the same pace as the others but as my work was essentially framed by a calendar I always finished on time and I managed exceptions by establishing to-do lists. I would have liked to have an individualized workspace but as it was not possible and therefore I was distracted all the time, I accelerated the pace of work when I was alone.
@@CarenMagill in fact, it was a kind of tactic: when I left my job I was in a kind of euphoric state for 2 or 3 days because I had the gripping sensation of having regained my freedom but on the fourth day the reality and common sense kicked in and I found myself on the starting line with a blocked perspective and I had to admit that I had made a very bad decision. I had made the same mistake 4 or 5 times in a row in 10 years. so I said to myself that I had to find a happy medium: neither resignation nor depression but a median situation in which I would limit the anguish of the loss of work and all the consequences of a socio-economic order and the solution was the sickness leave issued by a psychiatrist (sick leave issued by a psychiatrist was generally not subject to medical supervision by the social insurance fund).
The longest jobs I’ve had are places that I quit and returned to several times! Also, I’m a nurse so I was able to work two jobs at a time also, one part time and one per diem, at the same time so I could have flexibility. Idk what it is but taking time off from each job made me more focused when I came back. Weird huh? My resume is ridiculous after 40 years of nursing.
This resonated so deeply! I’m an astrologer and I recently have taken a special interest in studying the charts of neurodivergent individuals (I have ADHD myself…). I feel that neurodivergent brains are hugely supporting/ leading the big shifts that are happening in our world right now. We are not people who can just “tough it out” doing things that we hate/ are not aligned with us, and so we are pushing the shift towards lives that are less focused on the social pyramid, and more focused on personal values/ love/ resonance. Thanks for everything that you’re sharing here, it’s so helpful to get advice from someone who is a little further on their journey ❤
Caren, I love you. Thanks for being you. Wow, you are describing me. I am 63, undiagnosed with ADHD. I never stayed at a job more than 2 years. I just got fed up with Management, co-workers, the surroundings and lousy pay. I did finish college, but not in 4 years. I chose not to have children and I have never married. I have moved all over the country out of the need for change and in search of a better job. I do better in jobs where the boss gives specific things to accomplish, but with minimal management. I hated that we are a team BS at work. I always got unsatisfactory marks in school as a child for "Listens well and follows directions." I am often so super focused on some things that the day can go by, and I wonder where it went. I always felt so stressed out and impulsive in my youth and never fit in with people. As I am older and look at people in society, I wonder WTF.
41, Chronically late job hopping rage quitter here. When you said consciously didn’t have children I cried that’s me, not because I don’t want but because my brain is broken 😂. I just started watching these videos. I just always felt I couldn’t manage myself and have kids. Anyway, I work in an industry that’s horrible for ADHD, advertising. I’ve been trying to get out for years. Thanks for these videos I’m going to beat this and be a millionaire before I die!
@@aliciabodington3272 I assume there are some creative roles that work for some people but to answer your question: staying organized, tight deadlines, constant multiple competing priorities, my poor ability to set boundaries and saying yes to everything, taking vacations is a death sentence so I just work until I’m burned out, certain entities within the industry are unreasonable because they control the purse strings so there is a lot of valueless busy data entry type work that could be better organized but there is no standardization across the industry where it matters, and after going hard for a year or so I struggle to get my mojo back and end up depressed and questioning the purpose of life.
for the last couple of months I've been thinking I have ADHD, but when I think of myself as a kid, I remember myself being introverted, shy and maybe too quiet (I don't really remember tbh), but then I find videos like this one and it resonates a lot. I've quit all my jobs, I'm impulsive (not as much as before), I find it impossible to do basic chores and I don't know why, my mind is working 24/7 like crazy, I get bored easily, I find it difficult to concentrate, indeed I find it crazy that I need to work in busy places like Starbucks in order to be productive, etc...
Same! What is it about the buzz around us that makes us work better? Is it that we retreat within because the chaos around us makes us zone out? There must be a scientific answer to this. I work alone at home and always put on a walking tour of some busy city to hear all the noise.
I’ve been like that too when I was a kid and I am more than 100 % sure I have adhd, now on my last part of my diagnosis. For women it shows a bit different, our adhd is more internalized. Basic chores are the worst, I fully agree with everything you said!
My problem is that it's the actual work I hate. Not the company or the people I work with. I'm on the phone all day talking to angry people about their rising car insurance, and I just can't do it anymore. It's simply the paycheck that's keeping me there. It pays better than a lot of jobs and I can't afford to quit. I'm nearing the point where I'm going to totally sieze up. I have no idea what to do at this point.
I think we should start stuff and stop fighting to fit someone else world.Maybe we actually start stuff and others finish it! Sell the business, hire a manager, close the experience with a sense of accomplishment and move on to the next thing.
I’ve been saying something similar. I feel like I would love to help people set up small businesses and once they are up. I move on, to a new one. It allows me to work hard for a period of time, then take a break when the project is over.
I took meds and worked in a slaughterhouse cleaning it. It was the only job I could get as a ADHD/dyslexic high school dropout...but after a while even on meds I couldn't do that job anymore before it started driving me crazy. The school system really fucked me over
Thank you for this! I have a lot of guilt and shame around my job history and my longest job was one I could decide the day of if I felt like working 😂.
I've spent so much time feeling depressed because I feel shamed for struggling with being on time, or staying at jobs. I always have the strong urge to quit 3 months in and I feel terrible for quitting or walking out because I get overwhelmed.
I just applied for a job, and I'm wondering, if I get called to an interview, how to explain the fact that I've had so many different jobs in my career. Most employers interpret it as being unreliable, but I've been appreciated as a valuable and trustworthy employee in each of my employments, and they were sad to see me go. Now, after being diagnosed, I finally understand why I had this pattern. This video was very helpful.
I know it's been 3 months and nobody's replied to your comment but I just wanted to say in case you didn't know: You don't have to put every job you've ever had on your resume! Put the ones you think will help reflect the best version of you that they want for the job if you can (:
@@colinseguin9651 thanks for your comment. I dunno why that wasn't obvious to me. I changed my resume so it only mentions the longer employments that were relevant to the current job application.
This is one of the only adhd traits that I hear on a lot of videos / podcasts that I don’t have in my bag. I’ve stayed at the last two places for a combined 22 years so far. My issue is I over analyze where I would go and if it would be a good move. Fear keeps me from trying something different. I’m in sales and I’m very good at it because I can adapt quickly to whoever I’m talking to. Mimicking is easy. Getting over the fear of learning a new job is what keeps me back. Anyone else deal with that?
After about a year a job tends to feel like I am in prison. It leads to some kind of burnout. It took me a long time to realise that this was ADHD. I've stuck in jobs a pretty long time despite this and been absolutely miserable. I'm afraid of having a long CV. I think I'm going into burnout and it's time to get out but I'm struggling to even get an interview that is in something unrelated to my current job. I do not want to be in the industry I am in anymore. I just don't want to work because I always end up feeling this way. I want to work for myself but nothing has ever worked out.
I have 2 completely sleepless nights due to anxiety over this job I'm 3 months in to. I'm ready to run because of the crazy work loads we're given (EVEN AS NEWCOMERS), and I already have serious PTSD when I pushed myself into total burnout 3 years ago and it took me a year and a half to bounce back. I'm not putting myself in that situation again. I thought I was making a good decision because the one job I stayed at for 5 years also had to do with cars but I feel so stupid for getting suckered into another well paying position that didn't require a 4 year degree. I feel like society hates me and wants to starve me out of any future.
It's important to note job fields can have the same types of personalities. Pointing fingers and saying people with ADHD may play victim if their bosses sucked isn't helpful. People with ADHD do get bullied and picked on in the workplace, as anyone with a disability can. The better question to ask is this: Are you choosing the same types of jobs which in turn will have the same types of personalities running the department? I.e. narcissists, energy vampires, or other toxic traits that can drain the joy from the job! I stayed in places I loved, with the worst bosses and gave myself chronic illness from abuse. Know when to leave, know why you keep picking the same jobs, understand what your triggers are, make different choices if/when possible.
Totally agree 💯, I have ADHD and always meet bosses that are narcissistic or plain cruel. My last ex boss was a manipulator and a bully. He gave me a medication I was allergic to without asking if I had any & when I told him about it after I swallowed the pill he said it was in my head, but I had to rush to the ER. He was super ambiguous, a poor communicator, giving me task without specific instructions. Once he made me push 10 heavy boxes down a steep slope backwards without helping(I’m a petite girl) with a heart condition. When I told him I felt chest pain he said that is normal. After my heart surgery I was entitled to 14 days hospitalisation leave but I never took, he force me to go down to a client site to do strenuous activity. I didn’t dare to take a single medical leave because he threaten me not to take any AL for 6 months, even after I pass my 3 months probation. I can hardly keep a job for more than a year. My 2nd previous boss was a boomer who refuse to listen to my ideas, and made my life harder at the work place hence I became more assertive. The last 2 places I worked at didn’t have anyone in the office, I felt super bored as I prefer to work with people, so I can talk to them. It sucks to work alone. I’m an 100% extrovert. I had like 12 jobs over the past few years, I’m 26. My boyfriend calls me a job hopper which I’m not.
Teaching! That's the niche specifically suited for ADHD/ADD. Were bad at studying things that don't interest us directly. Teaching is the thing that works very well for ADHD, since we are easily prone to dopamine through teaching others, it's one of the few sustainable dopamine rushes apparantly that ADHD brains don't get bored of. So if u have a hyper obsession of focus for topics that u might not even realize, note that down, make a list, find skills that people can use, teach it to others, the more skills u can combine together in a course or profession the better, finding something that directly hits ur interest is important, but its almost necessary, to people with ADHD/ADD.
At one point in my life I worked for several temp agencies at one time. I loved it. I got to choose which jobs I wanted which ones I didn't. If it was a job I didn't really like but the pay was good it was often a short-term job so I only had to endure it for a while. When I finally landed in a job I really liked, I was able to get hired by the company full time. I stayed with them for several years.
I was diagnosed at 53. A buddy once asked how many jobs I’ve had. I was shocked to realize I’ve had 44 jobs! The longest job I had was 12 & a half years. I would have stayed if the company hadn’t gone belly up.
I'm 34, as I did the exercise in your video, I realised, I am at my 16th job right now and thinking about quitting again... almost each of them is in a different field... unrelated to my 2 academic degrees. With age my imposter syndrome got stronger and stronger also.... not to mention my habbit of burnout... I just wanna to finally feel fullfilled with a job and settle, start a family and have kids ;(
I’m an art teacher. I have such a difficult time teaching because I miss things going on in my classroom because of my hyper focus issues. Some students act up blatantly and I don’t catch it because I am focused helping another student. It’s embarrassing when a principal has to be called or a parent gets involved and I have to rely on students for information. I feel like a failure and other teachers are so condescending to me. I work so hard planning fun lessons that are relevant but there are so many students are not at school to learn and consequences no longer exist. I am so stressed at my work and at home because its hard to let it all go. I can’t type and my focus makes me feel like I cant focus anything that involves multitasking…I don’t know what I could do that would make enough for me to pay the bills.
Thank you for this video and advice. I graduated with my Bachelors in psychology and have been feeling lost and overwhelmed with what I want career wise. I have ADHD and I'm constantly jumping around from Job to Job. I Recently got a job offer but realized it was not a good fit. I am currently exploring and learning about myself, in hopes to find a good career fit.
If only gathering random facts and knowledge were a job… (Not talking about researching a specific field, I’m talking totally unrelated rabbit holes throughout the day) That would be absolute bliss
man, it took my loooonnnnngggggggg time to realize this. I realized i can't change who I am so no book or meditation, etc. is gonna "cure me" I just accepted it's who I am and no longer worry about starting and stopping jobs/hobbies. I do it until I don't like it anymore and as long as it doesn't hurt myself or my family, I move on. Live is about experiencing everything we can imo in these few trips we have around the sun
I lose interest in my job (I'm a self-employed graphic designer) when I don't get as much projects to do as I wanted... I tried to design my own products, but they never sold. I tried new things like book binding, baking, but with no success. I keep on failing, and I just don't know what to do to get out of that rut. I've been recently diagnosed with ADD, I'm 34... now everything makes sense to me.
I feel much less alone now, seeing how this resonates with so many others. Thank you, Caren, for opening up and normalizing talking about this. And thank you to everyone who chimed in in the comments to express your perspectives on navigating these challenges.
It makes me cry 😢 Im a barber and we pay booth rent and sometimes I dont go to the shop several days because I get bored and I end up just making the booth rent money or a little extra.I hate this but I swear Im not lazy just wake up with different vibes everyday 😢
Undiagnosed ADHD, the longest job Ive ever had was driving a bus for 2 years and that was because I wasn't working closely with people at the job. My second job was front desk and I lost that one when I start interacting with the coworkers. It's my behaviors and my attitude. I don't think with the right side of my brain. I tried to get diagnosed but they always diagnose me with depression but they never asked me why Im depressed. I had to figure everything out on my own and Im sure it's ADHD cause they symptoms are relatable. I'm now more aware of myself and have found that meditation, exercise, breathing techniques and shadow working has helped but Im still feeling lost as far as finding my passion as far as job and entrepreneur interests. This has been a painful and isolated journey for sure.
I did Walmart 6 years many roles my favorite was the 3 years as asset protection manager- I got adrenaline rush when I got to catch thieves and work derailed cctv cases but also could change task if I got bored with cctv I could work on data analysis or a creative class I wanted to teach associate or make a cute safety board etc everyday was different and in retail you plan to have your plans interrupted. Currently doing transportation logistics- each order is different/needs etc so I tend to hyper focus and time flies
You’re right! 💯% I’m at a place where my ADHD coach is trying to teach me to find a realistic solution because I refused to do a job that I know I will quit again. Knowing my values now, the capacity I’m able to do after a burnout and chronic illness is a challenge itself. So, I’m slowing things down, being present in my body, do the things that brings me joy and trust the process. Thank you for sharing this information. ❤
I think my imposter syndrome is very strong. It makes it really hard for me to feel like I’m doing a good job. And for some that sound interesting, you just have to be confident. I’m struggling with that a bit. It’s somehow inside me but covered in anxiety.
I'm one of those who did stay at jobs due to fear of homelessness. I don't know what I am good at doing....I worked for the USPS for 24 years and now I drive delivery for an auto parts company. I try to change things up by taking different routes back to the store.
I have this brain structure but the recession made me unemployed and then pandemic I lost my job. Hence, why I have been anxious to leave but I ended up saving so that I can have a backup since I have been traumatized from the unemployment and underemployment. However, the jobs I have had up to today have allowed me to travel between work locations and I was never stuck in the same place, so in a sense I was able to have a change of scenery for my ADHD brain. Though I do desire to leave but I do need a challenge because I am not learning anymore.
I wish so hard that I had a diagnosis and realised I was auDHD before having a child, because having to manage parenting plus a tendency to job hop, financial responsibilities and living in a foreign country ie. always having to worry about visas and residential status is entirely unmanageable. I do not know how I am going to do this for the next, 30+ years or so…. I want to job hop to give myself more time for parenting, but my current job is now tied to visa status / custody. For those on the edge about having kids and already knowing you’re neurodivergent, I strongly suggest against it. Parenting plus adulting is a disaster on a good day!
Carreer is a bad word these days. Nothing seems to last more than 3 to 5 years ! I don’t even want to have to do the same thing everyday , how mundane and unmotivating ! My dream would be to have multiple Jobs each week , all that are based on my passions and have a partner or assistant to help grow each of the businesses ! 😊
I’m going through this now. I’ve had so many jobs over my lifetime. Right now I’m at a job that I just started about a month ago and I already ready to quit.
I’m turning 50 this year and am in the process of getting diagnosed. And just yesterday I was literally having this exact conversation with myself and figuring g out what my strengths were and how I want to spend my efforts and with what projects. I’m an entrepreneur at heart and I’m have been working on the same project for 6 years now. I’ve decided that I want to focus my attention on building it up so I can sell it so I can focus on my next project which is to build a local community gym. And then I see myself helping other startup entrepreneurs build their businesses. This has spurred me into deadline mode and it’s helped a lot. Thanks for sharing. This helps solidify and put into words the ideas that I could not. ❤❤
I switched careers more times than I can count. However, I noticed that I was always the most successful when I just jumped into long-term commitments. The military was a pretty impulsive move, but it locked me in for years, obviating the risk of job-hopping. I meandered about adulthood until deciding to go to medical school. The massive student loan debt again kept me from job-hopping because I had no choice. Honestly the best move I've ever made. Of course I'm a lot older getting out of residency than most folks, but I love what I do and it's a stimulating career that's locked me in. I now just use my hobbies to puddle-hop through life, leaving behind myriad abandoned endeavors. lol
Im 32, diagnosed at 5, ive had over 30 jobs since i was 20 and the last thing i want to do is go back to ritalin. I hate this, i wish i was like everyone else so it wasn’t so difficult to make a living.
That’s me and for a long time I’ve wondering why! Now I know and I understand myself more when I’ve learn about woman with ADHD. I am now starting my new business and I will fight with my brain to keep this sustainable. 😊
The word "career" sends a cold shiver up my spine. At every job I've been on, I've never been able to see myself making a career out of it. I can't even wrap my head around the concept of someone even being in the same job field for 10+ years. Let alone being at a single company that long. That being said, reality is a hefty over-sized roadblock. Meaning, that what it would take to do the things I love doing as a job is just not feasible. Wasn't when I had kids at home and isn't now. The latter requiring a long explanation and I won't do here.
Im so thankful you put the questions in a file. I am 30 years old and literally 3 days ago realised i have adhd. I live in a country were i can not get this diagnosis if i was not diagnosed as a kid. Now, does adhd only comes since you were born? It feels i was fine as a kid, but i actually grew up in messy disorganaised home and i was crazy active since i remember. Right now my worst problems is - time management. learning to use timers, clock and notes everywhere i go.... I believe in Jesus and what the Bible says. there is a book of PSALMS and a book of PROVERBS -full of wisdom in peace. It makes my mind so calm and focus when i study that. I highly suggest to study book of Psalms and Proverbs - wisdom, foolishness, rich, poor, ALL THE EMOTIONS in a poetic way. thank you for your chnael, you are great. And looking at you reminds me im fine. ADHD people look alike a lot, am i wrong?
Here because I feel like a failure at my job. Inattentive medicated me can't move as fast as the unmedicated hyperactive folks that seem to be the most valued where I work. Coupled that with working in retail pharmacy where I am constantly overstimulated (no time for bathroom, no breaks, and it can take hours of non stop ringing up folks before I can drink a sip of water) and so brain fried I haven't showered in weeks It's like any time I find a job I feel strongly about, I end up feeling like I'm not enough anymore.... I've only ever quit jobs due to moving away, though, cause I can't let myself quit no matter how toxic.. I don't even know what to do cause I feel so beat down by not living up to my expectations and the expectations I feel like others have for me....
@@ElinWinblad Not sure how I never saw the notification for this. Was at a major retailer, but the job was very very structured so it didn't allow for that variety. It is something I am looking for in next job, though 🥰
I haven't been able keep a job for more than 3 months without having a mental and body breakdown. I feel so bad. Even if I really like the job, I always come to a point in which I started to get depressed. I quited my job again. I got very sick and depressed. I feel so immature for a 40 yo woman with a kid. 😢😢. It's so confusing. I applying for a teaching job. I love teaching kids, I love people. I just hope my body won't collapse again.
I haven’t yet done an apprenticeship, let alone studied something. I’m glad I got through school. But that makes the job choices I have not the best. I want to better myself but I’m so scared whatever I start again I’ll fail.
My dream job fell out of the sky when i wasnt looking. A job as Fabricator Welder on the prototype line at Koenigsegg Automotive. I passed my interview with flying colors and am now booked for a two day work test. I am 62 i am just having my first ever bout of Shingles ( vericella zoster ) and i have also been notified by my doctor that i need a hip replacement as i have Osteonecrosis. What a bummer...😭
This is the best video I've seen on this! I have recently come to terms with the fact that i probably have adhd, still seeking diagnosis as I'm out of work currently. I quit my retail management job about 6 months ago because I finally burned out and I've been trying and for the most part failing to get my "freelance design business" going. I have been paralyzed by doubt over what direction to go in and bot sure why i cant figure out how to get started when i have all the skills and tools i need. This video has made things SO clear to me. I quit things a lot when theyre about 80% through and i am scared that I'll do the same once i get going on this too. But your tips have been SO insightful. I'm going to apply this and follow you forEVER! Thank you so much for your advice!
You described my life. I've had more jobs than Carter has liver pills. I worked for MOTOROLA 13 years, only because I had a different role every two years. I'm 66 with 4 years to go. I decided to teach school. Money is secondary.
Mine didn't match that at all. The jobs I quit were where I worked 12 hours a day 6 days a week doing things such as " thread checking " using a bolt to check threads in a part. The job I kept the longest was a work from home position in a call center. I was a csr for Medicare and Retirement. I was also promoted twice in almost 3 yeas. The last promotion was Remote csr trainer. I loved this job
I'm so glad and thankful I found your channel. I'm a stay at home mom struggling with ADHD and 2 autistic ADHD boys. I needed a direction but kept running into walls😂. This helps a lot. Your awesome 😊
I feel you on this one! I was diagnosed with ADHD a few years back at 35, I’m a single mom to 2 teen boys who both also have ADHD, and my youngest has Tourette’s on top of it - I thankfully work from home & run my own creative jewelry design business, so I’ve been able to be a stay at home mom despite it just being us 3, but the chaos keeps mounting. I constantly feel like I’m letting them down because they need structure & routine, but that’s my struggle as well! My gemstone “project piles” have taken over the kitchen table so we’ve been eating dinner at the coffee table this week 😬 I’ve often thought my oldest is also on the spectrum - I can imagine it gets to be pretty overwhelming for you! May I ask if you’ve been diagnosed or are doing any treatment?
@@ktwhimsy6946 Hi! Wow you also seem to experience a lot of my same issues, but you seem like your still holding on. Yes I have been diagnosed, I'm 40, but didn't get diagnosed till a year ago. I was wrongly diagnosed as bipolar. I know your feelings when you say that you feel like you're letting them down, and no structure. I personally could not bare those emotions as well. I'm an artist/writer/unschooling mom. I started living by my own rules, and now I'm making small changes to get through the day to day. I had to be drastic because I actually have 4 kids all together 2 girls whom are on the spectrum one is 19 and the other is 16 and my 2 boys aged 6 and 4 both on the spectrum, 1 with ADHD. I understand the feeling but, you are awesome for being an honest mom who needs support. That is why I found this channel. What is the name of your jewelry line? Do you know of any online support groups for moms like us?
Girl... I have been just awash in ADHD info... #irony for weeks... "treated" but life/stress/grief/little support kicking my ass escalated symptoms worse than ever... Yours is FIRST place I have just been able to listen, assimilate, go to next... Much I KNOW, but something about your vibes really helps... Especially this one. We are of the same Gen X... Hardcore, I should have my shit together feels this week... What happened to Most Likely to Succeed? Have accomplished a lot in my life, but now "a mess, " but just for today... Meditated, reconnecting with Dispenza, synchronistically affirmed by you, journaled, did SOME effective cleaning, Omega-3 bfast, walk w/HITT and strength stuff, connected with potential coach, checked on library books (last time $63 fines, not this time! ) scheduled med check, got good brain food groceries... All above while on coworking Zoom group (many neuro divergent), then listening to you. Now because of your reminder and making it okay... BREAK! THANK YOU. GREAT STUFF. PS figured out that career thing ages ago... Now at a PT job that I am ready to leave... Low paying, connecting with people fun, but know I make 1 - 2k a day for a billion dollar company when I could make that for me and elevate humanity kind of kills my soul... Jobs like this I go in, barely listen to the "rules," win the contests, don't use their ridiculous "tactics" just help people... So when I get all ADHD... which is embarrassing... that let it slide, because I make the money and no one comes back and returns when they are my client. Because MOSTLY ADHD's are ALSO HSPs and empaths . Manipulation hurts our hearts. My best day job, schedule changed, I had a goal of explaining things creatively, got to be goofy, help with understanding, while entertaining, short bursts of energy then rest, better pay... Good, but not insurmountable challenges... Autonomy. I am at my best leading with cracker jack team that is truly down for collaboration, believes in me and gets I am not Devil Wears Prada, but I DO need them to have my back and I do have final say... And when they get that, what they get in return pays high dividends. Many past collaborators thriving... But not me. A bit lost... Am sure some ADHD blind spot. Unconsciously burned bridges... No bombs dropped, just... alone. 🤷🏻♀️ Scary... Not hopeless, though. Thanks for listening. Oh my... ADHD commenting. Yes, a thing of mine. 😳🙄
I'm 23, not diagnosed yet because of the price, but I will take an appointment, because I need to be sure. I already knew that I need constant changes, so I already planned to not have children and live in a van or a camper, so that I can move easily. I'm still a student, in a professional degree that I question every two weeks, but I stay because I love meeting and helping people who are abandoned by society, and I love what I learn. But I also love being alone and working on my art, because being with people all day is exhausting. Even though I hate my current internship right now. I love my previous one and want to go back. I love that you are here to tell us advice, because it's hard to know. I will have your video multiple times. Thank you so much for this
I'm adhd (late diagnosed) and have many jobs. However... My first career lasted 23 years (I was a radio producer which provided a decent amount of stimulus) even though I worked at quite a few stations within that career. In 2012, I left radio to work at a small web development company. I've been doing that since then (12 years... I bought the company in 2015) I was diagnosed with ADHD in 2020 at age 49, which answered SO many questions as to why I got so bored at my jobs. The only reason I didn't just quit all the jobs I got bored with, was the need for money and a lack of opportunity moving forward. I have moved around, and I've been laid off a few times (company layoffs) but I have never been fired. I wasn't medicated during the bulk of my work years and that was a challenge, but it was the pressure to HAVE a job that kept me there. (When I wasn't forced to leave) I would never move on until I had something to move on to.
I never stayed more than 18months in a position or job. I did work for a company for 15 years and 7 positions within it. Ever since, I've never stayed in a job for more than 18 months. I've never been fired. I've always worked hard and often praised, until, I'm (or my brain) is not interested anymore. Now that I discovered I have ADHD, it's some sort of relief because now I can at least do something about it.
I am 37 years old in my whole life I never had hold a job more 3 month max I quit because of boredom.I never finished college and even my school life when I was 10 i didn't want to go to school never complete my homework but interested in video games and I can dedicate my attention for 12 hours long sessions.I recently found out something about me that I have dissociation disorder as well my disassociation was keeping me to find about myself.Its recent that I found out I have problems since childhood.
I’ll draft this resignation letter - only to see what it looks like/get the thoughts out of my head, obvs…. did I just press send?! It’s such a relief to realise other people have this going on - and the issues of shame around it. Thanks for sharing your expertise. I’ve only recently started to wonder about ADHD (or low needs autism). In the past I’ve had observations from family members who’ve noted that I can’t hold down jobs or relationships - and put it down to childhood bullying. I’ve personally put it down to depression (or just bad choices in the case of relationships) - but now probably too late in life I wonder if something else is going on.
You actually gave me an idea of what kind of job would interest me and make me happy and fulfilled. Like it's important and a mission. Now I hope the way to get it is not too messy, so I don't give up.
It's my favourite part of any job - leaving
I love this video so much. I just discovered I have ADHD at 61 years old. I was a flight attendant for 33 years and recently was let go for an accident I had in training. It was very difficult for me, but now I understand from your videos and other coaches that my ADHD probably had a lot to do with it. It certainly had a lot to do with how I feel in that particular industry. 20 years at one airline was perfect. This one at 13 was challenging. Thanks for enlightening me and hopefully I will land in my next career that I love just as much, with your help.
Saaaaaaameeeee
Yes... lunch time and clocking out...lol
loooool
oh my god you exposed me.
I just started a new job and I already want to leave sooo bad. I JUST WANT SOME MONEY TO LIVE. I HATE pretending that I enjoy work. I just want to be free.
Omg this comment sums up what im feeling good to know im not alone
I'm happy that I'm not the only one!!
a confirmed diagnosis of adhd qualifies for disability insurance through social security, must provide medical proof, this at least provides some income, there are limitations though
@@knitsnloopswhat country are you in?
My life in a comment
I leave jobs when I have another job lined up. I can give companies more years if they allow me to learn new things. I normally leave companies when I’m bored. I love working in entertainment the people and the creativity
Hey, can you expound on this and your experience? 😊
More the industry part. It seems like it's rather an unstable environment? Or did you get yourself a skill, that you could stand on firmly, thereby knowing for sure you could transfer any time if you'd want to?
Would be nice
Also, nice postition you have gotten yourself into, where you yourself have the choice and can see whether they're up to par.
Kudos 👌😉
My brain gets bored once it’s figured out the job once it becomes repetitive I quit.
2 months I am already bored , I am always asking what's New today, show me this New part of homede software even if not related what I have to do the same day!!
So how do you coup?
What then do you do?
I've lasted maybe 7 months at most before I left.. My Life's such a mess. I need my own business or something but no way to make that happen
@ascension4444 I started my wn cleaning business. I advertised on Facebook and had my first customer within minutes. I haven't looked back amd employ other now. I have lasted 4 years which is a record.
It’s literally hard for me to watch a full UA-cam video let alone do the same job for the rest of my life😂 thank you for this!!
Especially the adhd videos!! Bc I AM so interested but it takes so much effort to get the meat of the video 🫠
I have to watch most videos at 1.5 speed otherwise I get annoyed and impatient.
they shud make videos for max 1 mnt
Took me 3 attempts to get through this entire video.
@@katec9893Same! 😂
AuDHD here - I’ve never been able to hold the same job for more than 3 years. It just never works for me regardless of the job. It always feels like I was born in the wrong body, world, and hell…universe most days. None of this makes any sense to me and never has. Now that I’m close to 40 I feel even more confused and alone.
Me too
3 years is also my cut off 😂
24 year old here. I recently chose a good paying career path but am now not sure if I even like it. I love the freedom of being able to move around the country at a moments notice but I just signed a 1 year lease only three months ago. I feel trapped yo
3yrs???😮 I cant even last for 3mos
I thought there was something truly wrong with me or just straight up evil about our day to day life... maybe thats debatable, but its nice to know that its not really either, Im just different and don't function well in a world built around a specific way of thinking.
my brain doesnt want to stay in a job more than a day or 2 lol❤... its not really the lack of novelty....but the increasing pressure, social tensions, expectations, demands and my decreasing confidence that I can handle any of it.... its the mounting of expectations and tasks...the hiring process is fine, cuz no expectations yet...
This is me
Same Problem
Yes and it’s almost like even when you are doing your job correctly, some supervisor finds some reason to criticize it, nitpick, and call it “positive feedback”. The constant review, feedback, commentary own how I’m doing my job, all of it becomes very silly to me and quickly! I’m not sure where that comes from, to constantly be critical of people, it’s almost like companies are pushing people away on purpose.
Minimalism and reducing responsibilities is key for ADHDers.
Yes! 💯
GOOD FOR ANYONE, THANKS.
@Pax-j2x, responsibilities are often overrated and taken too seriously by those who practice blind conscientiousness, serving the interests of exploitative wage slavery. 🤷🏽 Oh well.
for me a really big one is when i start to feel like i'm getting overworked or taken advantage of. when my positive emotions about a job and the direction it's going are positive i'm 110%. but as soon as i start to feel taken advantage of or feel like you cant keep your side of the bargin i'm all out and miss alot of work
My current situation
Same. Only this 💯applies in terms of my friendships. Lately have been evaluating how much other people drain my energy and add to my ever-present struggle to control the chaos that has taken over my life this year. Few days ago a friend and I agreed on the phone to meet for a coffee at a specific day, place and time. He ignored my messages. I called twice and then went on with my day. No big deal, but since then he has messaged me repeatedly and called. At those times, I was taking a day trip to the countryside, went to a career workshop and was otherwise occupied. Your comment makes me realize my positive emotions towards certain people are quite strained and not reciprocated.
✋️ Seasoned adult here lol. Diagnosed at 47 after I lost my dream job for chronic tardiness. FFwd 5 years and an autoimmune disorder later, I am struggling to define the career I can do physically and mentally that also keeps my squirrels happy. YOU Caren are the canteen in my desert! Tons of knowledge delivered succinctly with a sprinkle of humor and the girlfriend vibe that makes us all wanna go out for cocktails with you 😊 THANK YOU for all you are doing! ❤
aw, thank you so much!!
@@CarenMagill just discovered your channel and thank you for what you do - you probably have no idea how many people you’re helping!
My job too has issues with me being late and don't want to be flexible it's very frustrating because I work so hard and don't take my full breaks sometimes. I work the full hours im supposed to work and have worked late before and havent minded as long as i know im making work easier for everybody and helping people. Now theres coworkers saying I want to set my own hours and i do a bad job and it was heartbreaking for me even though i dont want to care so much about what the toxic coworkers have to say aboht me . so much workplace gossip They want to make everyone the same. Like clones of each other
@@britndayzjust some advice, get your doctor to sign an accomodations form... It's saved me so much, and they have to figure out a way to accommodate you. ADHD is a disability and is covered under the Americans with Disabilities Act
Hello! (I see you, comrade.)
I'm 46 and have had 80 !!!!! JOBS!!!!
You definitely have a lot of experience in getting a job and life experience in starting in a new workplace.
Become a job coach? 😂
Time to start writing about them XD
Im 24 and have had 50! Buddies haha
@@Kyle-ew4he what's up bestie?
Yes, I'm trying to decide what career I want to pursue next and I'm already thinking of why I'll hate each one. I don't even want to commit to anything anymore because I know I can't stick with it when it becomes boring. I think I have to figure out how to start my own business.. so many good ideas but can't get any of them done
I'm on my 2nd business idea and while this one I actually took to production I'm now getting bored and have many other ideas I want to pursue but know fully well I'll never take anything to the point of being proud of it if I continue this way.
I really wanna find out how to “stack” myself as an entrepreneur instead of ruining every sandcastle I build after I’m over it….
Exactly 💯
True story 👏😂 I’m the same
Same here I'm very sad
Moving jobs every 18 - 24 months is a valid career strategy to increase experience and salary. See how far loyalty gets you when the big headcount reduction comes around.
Fair point however only if you stay in the same career field. Otherwise you won't necessarily get a higher salary since you're a junior again. Also, you'll have to come up with a clear explanation at the interview to avoid looking like a habitual career hopper
Strategy is the key word there - as in intentional moves with a specific goal and path mapped out and even a plan B in place. Huge difference
When you're not overstaffed you don't have to worry near as much about headcount reduction. The small business I work for can easily (well, maybe not EASILY) replace me, but no way in heck can they eliminate the position. But I will say it's a lot more difficult to take days off as well. Can't have it all I guess.
I wish recruiters and employers understood this! I usually feel like quutting after two years. I hate monotony and being hamstrung from adding my creativity.
Same attention span for me. I got about two years in a job and I'm ready to fly
For me I left some after 3 month when there was something I just could accept, I also cannot just keep going. It’s done then.🤷🏼♀️
Unfortunately they don't care. They just want to find the cheapest person who can do the job well enough
They Will NEVER understand this...
I just do creative stuff at home. It helps me keep up the boring stuff at work.
I never had a job that I liked, just jobs that I disliked more than others.
I’ve been through 3 jobs in 4 months, all retail jobs, can’t stand working with people.
What job can you do that doesn't involve working with others?
I just got fired today from retail store only. But this time I dont blamed myself that I am useless which I generally do. Dont loose hope. We all r this in together.
Not hard to understand working in retail. 😆
I work in bookkeeping. It can be dull, but I don't have to work with customers near as much.
@@theboombodyohhh I could try this. Do you need a degree or cert. Do you work in a store or an office what sort of companies hire book keepers?
I was diagnosed ADHD in my 30s. I am now 48. A musician and a gig delivery worker and a husband and a father. Doing deliveries for gig apps has been my main money for over 5 years (especially during pandemic), which is an amazing amount of time for me to do any kind of job. Being able to use multiple platforms and make my own schedule with clear expectations and no manager is a big deal for me. I’m working on getting my musician momentum back & also would like to buy some land and start a gardening & composting business.
I've been Instacarting for coming on four years it's the longest thing for money I've done...ever..besides doing event gig like DJing and bartending which can feel stressful at times since I also struggle with PTSD. I don't always enjoy it the waiting and the random customers being all picky, buuuuut something about the way I am able to work just works. My friends and family want me to do something better. I'm trying to find that thing that is more reliable and so I don't have to drive all over but it's crazy how this is the thing that has stuck.
Same here, I'm 40 and gig work is the only thing I've been able to stick with. (Also 5-6 years). I joked that the reason I've stuck with it that long is because it's the only job I can quit every day and then still be able to come back to. It also works well with moving to new cities, which I do often and then can drive in New places which makes it more bearable. Unfortunately, now it's slowed down. So much that it's not sustainable anymore and I'm not making enough money so I'm going to try to start my own business.
I’m exactly like this but fight it, I do feel miserable at my job and I have a good one with good people. I also don’t understand how people can give decades of their life to a company that wouldn’t care if they never existed in the first place. I really don’t agree with the climb the corporate ladder to get yours philosophy. We’re just indentured servants with extra steps.
I just quit my job this past week. This really helps me understand more. It's not just me. It really was a toxic environment and narcissistic co workers.
Mine is 3 weeks to 3 months... A Year would be an achievment.
I hated every single job I had and left because of burnout. I hate my current job, it's been 5 years and had 2 depressions one of which almost led to an*rexia. I can't imagine something different until I become old
There's people who deeply dislike ADHD people, perhaps people full of complexes or psychopats that like to bully others, but in every job I've been I've found at least one of those who have no issue in attacking you till you think about leaving the job not to bear with their abuse. There's something about adhd (innocence, perhaps) that triggers bullies and horrible persons.
I have my own business working with dogs and it helps massively
I have my own basic service business as well and its honestly a lifesaver. I struggle to work under others but I am so motivated to work for myself. have been self employed for 7 years
I have had numerous immediate walkout jobs😢
Much to my chagrin.
I’d love to have a forever job tbh.
I've told people to take their jobs and stick it!
I worked for a company for 25 years, at a job I really hated, because they keep pushing "we're a family." The pandemic started and they eliminated my position at every branch. I have been at my current job for over two years and my ADHD has told me it's time to bounce. The days of loyalty to jobs are over.
I hate that "were a family" shit too. I have never received a Xmas or B Day card from my former employers.
I'm glad my company never says that. Even though I've been there 17 years and my supervisor and I have seen each other's kids grow up. We got families at home. We don't need them at work. We can be friends though.
I had that too. Except before pandemic, and at my 5th year of working there. The "family" kicked me out because I and my manager were very different people. I have a PTSD from it, seriously. Since then I'm very cynical about any ideologies
I have the opposite problem, I over commit. I have the hardest time conceptualizing how to quit, transition, and the benefits of change. I hate disspointing people, or adding more work to others. I am a high performer and take on way to much.
the only way for me to put an end to my job-hopping which lasted a decade (from 1981 to 1990) was to consult a psychiatrist.
I explained my situation to him and I asked him if he could prescribe me a sick leave that would allow me to get through the period of instability that I was going through then.
that's what he did: after 15 days off I went back to work until I retired 27 years later.
What you did in 15 days? And how it ended the problem
@@kashifrana6798 I did nothing except let time pass (don't they say that time is a great healer): in this situation, I combined the fact of not losing my job by choosing the radical solution of resignation with the exciting prospect of returning to work after reaching the end of the tunnel.
it was a way to limit the devastating effects of frustration - loss of individual freedom, pleasing others through false self-sacrifice, need for recognition from others, etc, etc, -.
I thus learned not to constantly repeat the same mistakes: to make rash decisions whose consequences extended to people other than me and then to start all over again from the beginning in the quest for a new job.
for 27 years I did not work at the same pace as the others but as my work was essentially framed by a calendar I always finished on time and I managed exceptions by establishing to-do lists.
I would have liked to have an individualized workspace but as it was not possible and therefore I was distracted all the time, I accelerated the pace of work when I was alone.
I'd love to hear more about that as well. Was it just time off that you needed all along?
@@CarenMagill in fact, it was a kind of tactic: when I left my job I was in a kind of euphoric state for 2 or 3 days because I had the gripping sensation of having regained my freedom but on the fourth day the reality and common sense kicked in and I found myself on the starting line with a blocked perspective and I had to admit that I had made a very bad decision.
I had made the same mistake 4 or 5 times in a row in 10 years.
so I said to myself that I had to find a happy medium: neither resignation nor depression but a median situation in which I would limit the anguish of the loss of work and all the consequences of a socio-economic order and the solution was the sickness leave issued by a psychiatrist (sick leave issued by a psychiatrist was generally not subject to medical supervision by the social insurance fund).
The longest jobs I’ve had are places that I quit and returned to several times! Also, I’m a nurse so I was able to work two jobs at a time also, one part time and one per diem, at the same time so I could have flexibility. Idk what it is but taking time off from each job made me more focused when I came back. Weird huh? My resume is ridiculous after 40 years of nursing.
This resonated so deeply! I’m an astrologer and I recently have taken a special interest in studying the charts of neurodivergent individuals (I have ADHD myself…). I feel that neurodivergent brains are hugely supporting/ leading the big shifts that are happening in our world right now. We are not people who can just “tough it out” doing things that we hate/ are not aligned with us, and so we are pushing the shift towards lives that are less focused on the social pyramid, and more focused on personal values/ love/ resonance.
Thanks for everything that you’re sharing here, it’s so helpful to get advice from someone who is a little further on their journey ❤
Caren, I love you. Thanks for being you. Wow, you are describing me. I am 63, undiagnosed with ADHD. I never stayed at a job more than 2 years. I just got fed up with Management, co-workers, the surroundings and lousy pay. I did finish college, but not in 4 years. I chose not to have children and I have never married. I have moved all over the country out of the need for change and in search of a better job. I do better in jobs where the boss gives specific things to accomplish, but with minimal management. I hated that we are a team BS at work. I always got unsatisfactory marks in school as a child for "Listens well and follows directions." I am often so super focused on some things that the day can go by, and I wonder where it went. I always felt so stressed out and impulsive in my youth and never fit in with people. As I am older and look at people in society, I wonder WTF.
So relatable
41, Chronically late job hopping rage quitter here. When you said consciously didn’t have children I cried that’s me, not because I don’t want but because my brain is broken 😂. I just started watching these videos. I just always felt I couldn’t manage myself and have kids. Anyway, I work in an industry that’s horrible for ADHD, advertising. I’ve been trying to get out for years. Thanks for these videos I’m going to beat this and be a millionaire before I die!
Why is advertising not good for ADHD?
@@aliciabodington3272 I assume there are some creative roles that work for some people but to answer your question: staying organized, tight deadlines, constant multiple competing priorities, my poor ability to set boundaries and saying yes to everything, taking vacations is a death sentence so I just work until I’m burned out, certain entities within the industry are unreasonable because they control the purse strings so there is a lot of valueless busy data entry type work that could be better organized but there is no standardization across the industry where it matters, and after going hard for a year or so I struggle to get my mojo back and end up depressed and questioning the purpose of life.
I'm 40 and chronically late job hopping rage quitter describes me perfectly as well! 😆
I have to start my own businesses. Just can't stick with anything and have messed up my life so much I have to get out of that first somehow
for the last couple of months I've been thinking I have ADHD, but when I think of myself as a kid, I remember myself being introverted, shy and maybe too quiet (I don't really remember tbh), but then I find videos like this one and it resonates a lot. I've quit all my jobs, I'm impulsive (not as much as before), I find it impossible to do basic chores and I don't know why, my mind is working 24/7 like crazy, I get bored easily, I find it difficult to concentrate, indeed I find it crazy that I need to work in busy places like Starbucks in order to be productive, etc...
you may be both autistic and ADHD
Same! What is it about the buzz around us that makes us work better? Is it that we retreat within because the chaos around us makes us zone out? There must be a scientific answer to this. I work alone at home and always put on a walking tour of some busy city to hear all the noise.
I’ve been like that too when I was a kid and I am more than 100 % sure I have adhd, now on my last part of my diagnosis.
For women it shows a bit different, our adhd is more internalized.
Basic chores are the worst, I fully agree with everything you said!
My problem is that it's the actual work I hate. Not the company or the people I work with. I'm on the phone all day talking to angry people about their rising car insurance, and I just can't do it anymore. It's simply the paycheck that's keeping me there. It pays better than a lot of jobs and I can't afford to quit. I'm nearing the point where I'm going to totally sieze up. I have no idea what to do at this point.
At times its like im in my own car but stuck in the passenger seat forced to watch wreckless driving happening WTH
I think we should start stuff and stop fighting to fit someone else world.Maybe we actually start stuff and others finish it! Sell the business, hire a manager, close the experience with a sense of accomplishment and move on to the next thing.
I’ve been saying something similar. I feel like I would love to help people set up small businesses and once they are up. I move on, to a new one. It allows me to work hard for a period of time, then take a break when the project is over.
I just get very overwhelmed and I just don’t want to go anymore. Like on the spot, I know this is going to ruin my career 😢
I took meds and worked in a slaughterhouse cleaning it. It was the only job I could get as a ADHD/dyslexic high school dropout...but after a while even on meds I couldn't do that job anymore before it started driving me crazy. The school system really fucked me over
Thank you for this! I have a lot of guilt and shame around my job history and my longest job was one I could decide the day of if I felt like working 😂.
You are not alone.
I've spent so much time feeling depressed because I feel shamed for struggling with being on time, or staying at jobs. I always have the strong urge to quit 3 months in and I feel terrible for quitting or walking out because I get overwhelmed.
I just applied for a job, and I'm wondering, if I get called to an interview, how to explain the fact that I've had so many different jobs in my career. Most employers interpret it as being unreliable, but I've been appreciated as a valuable and trustworthy employee in each of my employments, and they were sad to see me go. Now, after being diagnosed, I finally understand why I had this pattern. This video was very helpful.
I know it's been 3 months and nobody's replied to your comment but I just wanted to say in case you didn't know: You don't have to put every job you've ever had on your resume! Put the ones you think will help reflect the best version of you that they want for the job if you can (:
@@colinseguin9651 Thanks, good advice
@@colinseguin9651 thanks for your comment. I dunno why that wasn't obvious to me. I changed my resume so it only mentions the longer employments that were relevant to the current job application.
@@JessieThorne886i have the same issue with my resume.. How do you explain the gap between the jobs if you only choose to show few of them?
This is one of the only adhd traits that I hear on a lot of videos / podcasts that I don’t have in my bag. I’ve stayed at the last two places for a combined 22 years so far. My issue is I over analyze where I would go and if it would be a good move. Fear keeps me from trying something different. I’m in sales and I’m very good at it because I can adapt quickly to whoever I’m talking to. Mimicking is easy. Getting over the fear of learning a new job is what keeps me back. Anyone else deal with that?
After about a year a job tends to feel like I am in prison. It leads to some kind of burnout. It took me a long time to realise that this was ADHD. I've stuck in jobs a pretty long time despite this and been absolutely miserable. I'm afraid of having a long CV. I think I'm going into burnout and it's time to get out but I'm struggling to even get an interview that is in something unrelated to my current job. I do not want to be in the industry I am in anymore. I just don't want to work because I always end up feeling this way. I want to work for myself but nothing has ever worked out.
I literally quit my job 2 days ago😅 I picked up a seasonal job so I won't feel stuck since I'll be done in September hahaha
I have 2 completely sleepless nights due to anxiety over this job I'm 3 months in to. I'm ready to run because of the crazy work loads we're given (EVEN AS NEWCOMERS), and I already have serious PTSD when I pushed myself into total burnout 3 years ago and it took me a year and a half to bounce back. I'm not putting myself in that situation again. I thought I was making a good decision because the one job I stayed at for 5 years also had to do with cars but I feel so stupid for getting suckered into another well paying position that didn't require a 4 year degree. I feel like society hates me and wants to starve me out of any future.
I don’t even make it 6 months at any job I get now , since I quit a job I was at for 8 years
I have ADHD and I have quit a lot of jobs. It sucks.
It's important to note job fields can have the same types of personalities. Pointing fingers and saying people with ADHD may play victim if their bosses sucked isn't helpful. People with ADHD do get bullied and picked on in the workplace, as anyone with a disability can. The better question to ask is this: Are you choosing the same types of jobs which in turn will have the same types of personalities running the department? I.e. narcissists, energy vampires, or other toxic traits that can drain the joy from the job! I stayed in places I loved, with the worst bosses and gave myself chronic illness from abuse.
Know when to leave, know why you keep picking the same jobs, understand what your triggers are, make different choices if/when possible.
Totally agree 💯, I have ADHD and always meet bosses that are narcissistic or plain cruel. My last ex boss was a manipulator and a bully. He gave me a medication I was allergic to without asking if I had any & when I told him about it after I swallowed the pill he said it was in my head, but I had to rush to the ER. He was super ambiguous, a poor communicator, giving me task without specific instructions. Once he made me push 10 heavy boxes down a steep slope backwards without helping(I’m a petite girl) with a heart condition. When I told him I felt chest pain he said that is normal. After my heart surgery I was entitled to 14 days hospitalisation leave but I never took, he force me to go down to a client site to do strenuous activity. I didn’t dare to take a single medical leave because he threaten me not to take any AL for 6 months, even after I pass my 3 months probation. I can hardly keep a job for more than a year. My 2nd previous boss was a boomer who refuse to listen to my ideas, and made my life harder at the work place hence I became more assertive. The last 2 places I worked at didn’t have anyone in the office, I felt super bored as I prefer to work with people, so I can talk to them. It sucks to work alone. I’m an 100% extrovert. I had like 12 jobs over the past few years, I’m 26. My boyfriend calls me a job hopper which I’m not.
Teaching! That's the niche specifically suited for ADHD/ADD. Were bad at studying things that don't interest us directly. Teaching is the thing that works very well for ADHD, since we are easily prone to dopamine through teaching others, it's one of the few sustainable dopamine rushes apparantly that ADHD brains don't get bored of. So if u have a hyper obsession of focus for topics that u might not even realize, note that down, make a list, find skills that people can use, teach it to others, the more skills u can combine together in a course or profession the better, finding something that directly hits ur interest is important, but its almost necessary, to people with ADHD/ADD.
At one point in my life I worked for several temp agencies at one time. I loved it. I got to choose which jobs I wanted which ones I didn't. If it was a job I didn't really like but the pay was good it was often a short-term job so I only had to endure it for a while. When I finally landed in a job I really liked, I was able to get hired by the company full time. I stayed with them for several years.
I was diagnosed at 53. A buddy once asked how many jobs I’ve had. I was shocked to realize I’ve had 44 jobs! The longest job I had was 12 & a half years. I would have stayed if the company hadn’t gone belly up.
I'm 34, as I did the exercise in your video, I realised, I am at my 16th job right now and thinking about quitting again... almost each of them is in a different field... unrelated to my 2 academic degrees.
With age my imposter syndrome got stronger and stronger also.... not to mention my habbit of burnout...
I just wanna to finally feel fullfilled with a job and settle, start a family and have kids ;(
I’m an art teacher. I have such a difficult time teaching because I miss things going on in my classroom because of my hyper focus issues. Some students act up blatantly and I don’t catch it because I am focused helping another student. It’s embarrassing when a principal has to be called or a parent gets involved and I have to rely on students for information. I feel like a failure and other teachers are so condescending to me. I work so hard planning fun lessons that are relevant but there are so many students are not at school to learn and consequences no longer exist. I am so stressed at my work and at home because its hard to let it all go. I can’t type and my focus makes me feel like I cant focus anything that involves multitasking…I don’t know what I could do that would make enough for me to pay the bills.
can you put those skills to teaching more relaxed art workshops (teens/kids/adults) via a local art centre in your town or city?
Thank you for this video and advice. I graduated with my Bachelors in psychology and have been feeling lost and overwhelmed with what I want career wise. I have ADHD and I'm constantly jumping around from Job to Job. I Recently got a job offer but realized it was not a good fit. I am currently exploring and learning about myself, in hopes to find a good career fit.
Just found you and I want to cry. I feel at home here. Thank you
Welcome home👋
Welcome home! I'm right there with you.
When you said “or does it make you want to take a nap?” I chuckled so hard 😂 the accuracy wow
Got fired after trying so hard
:( haha. Life is hard but we are resilient us adhders!
If only gathering random facts and knowledge were a job… (Not talking about researching a specific field, I’m talking totally unrelated rabbit holes throughout the day) That would be absolute bliss
man, it took my loooonnnnngggggggg time to realize this. I realized i can't change who I am so no book or meditation, etc. is gonna "cure me" I just accepted it's who I am and no longer worry about starting and stopping jobs/hobbies. I do it until I don't like it anymore and as long as it doesn't hurt myself or my family, I move on. Live is about experiencing everything we can imo in these few trips we have around the sun
I lose interest in my job (I'm a self-employed graphic designer) when I don't get as much projects to do as I wanted... I tried to design my own products, but they never sold. I tried new things like book binding, baking, but with no success. I keep on failing, and I just don't know what to do to get out of that rut.
I've been recently diagnosed with ADD, I'm 34... now everything makes sense to me.
I feel much less alone now, seeing how this resonates with so many others. Thank you, Caren, for opening up and normalizing talking about this. And thank you to everyone who chimed in in the comments to express your perspectives on navigating these challenges.
It makes me cry 😢 Im a barber and we pay booth rent and sometimes I dont go to the shop several days because I get bored and I end up just making the booth rent money or a little extra.I hate this but I swear Im not lazy just wake up with different vibes everyday 😢
Undiagnosed ADHD, the longest job Ive ever had was driving a bus for 2 years and that was because I wasn't working closely with people at the job. My second job was front desk and I lost that one when I start interacting with the coworkers. It's my behaviors and my attitude. I don't think with the right side of my brain. I tried to get diagnosed but they always diagnose me with depression but they never asked me why Im depressed. I had to figure everything out on my own and Im sure it's ADHD cause they symptoms are relatable. I'm now more aware of myself and have found that meditation, exercise, breathing techniques and shadow working has helped but Im still feeling lost as far as finding my passion as far as job and entrepreneur interests. This has been a painful and isolated journey for sure.
I’m already looking for job #5 in less than two years. It’s embarrassing but I can’t help it. Friends & family don’t get it.
I have a boss who has ADHD. Rather than being understanding, he targets me.
I did Walmart 6 years many roles my favorite was the 3 years as asset protection manager- I got adrenaline rush when I got to catch thieves and work derailed cctv cases but also could change task if I got bored with cctv I could work on data analysis or a creative class I wanted to teach associate or make a cute safety board etc everyday was different and in retail you plan to have your plans interrupted. Currently doing transportation logistics- each order is different/needs etc so I tend to hyper focus and time flies
Both of those jobs sound very adhd-friendly.
I worked at walmart for 10 years and had adhd but what kept me going was that they would send me to different departments everyday
@@javierjaime9386what was your role at Walmart?
I have never been diagnosed with ADHD but I sure have left many good careers and jobs.
Same!!
You’re right! 💯%
I’m at a place where my ADHD coach is trying to teach me to find a realistic solution because I refused to do a job that I know I will quit again. Knowing my values now, the capacity I’m able to do after a burnout and chronic illness is a challenge itself. So, I’m slowing things down, being present in my body, do the things that brings me joy and trust the process.
Thank you for sharing this information. ❤
Oh wow there are ADHD coaches? I need that!
I think my imposter syndrome is very strong. It makes it really hard for me to feel like I’m doing a good job. And for some that sound interesting, you just have to be confident. I’m struggling with that a bit. It’s somehow inside me but covered in anxiety.
I'm one of those who did stay at jobs due to fear of homelessness. I don't know what I am good at doing....I worked for the USPS for 24 years and now I drive delivery for an auto parts company. I try to change things up by taking different routes back to the store.
My longest job was just about 4 months
Normal, working is absolutely boring for most jobs
I have this brain structure but the recession made me unemployed and then pandemic I lost my job. Hence, why I have been anxious to leave but I ended up saving so that I can have a backup since I have been traumatized from the unemployment and underemployment. However, the jobs I have had up to today have allowed me to travel between work locations and I was never stuck in the same place, so in a sense I was able to have a change of scenery for my ADHD brain. Though I do desire to leave but I do need a challenge because I am not learning anymore.
I wish so hard that I had a diagnosis and realised I was auDHD before having a child, because having to manage parenting plus a tendency to job hop, financial responsibilities and living in a foreign country ie. always having to worry about visas and residential status is entirely unmanageable. I do not know how I am going to do this for the next, 30+ years or so…. I want to job hop to give myself more time for parenting, but my current job is now tied to visa status / custody.
For those on the edge about having kids and already knowing you’re neurodivergent, I strongly suggest against it. Parenting plus adulting is a disaster on a good day!
Carreer is a bad word these days. Nothing seems to last more than 3 to 5 years ! I don’t even want to have to do the same thing everyday , how mundane and unmotivating ! My dream would be to have multiple Jobs each week , all that are based on my passions and have a partner or assistant to help grow each of the businesses ! 😊
I’m going through this now. I’ve had so many jobs over my lifetime. Right now I’m at a job that I just started about a month ago and I already ready to quit.
I’m turning 50 this year and am in the process of getting diagnosed. And just yesterday I was literally having this exact conversation with myself and figuring g out what my strengths were and how I want to spend my efforts and with what projects. I’m an entrepreneur at heart and I’m have been working on the same project for 6 years now. I’ve decided that I want to focus my attention on building it up so I can sell it so I can focus on my next project which is to build a local community gym. And then I see myself helping other startup entrepreneurs build their businesses. This has spurred me into deadline mode and it’s helped a lot. Thanks for sharing. This helps solidify and put into words the ideas that I could not. ❤❤
I'm glad it helped!
I switched careers more times than I can count. However, I noticed that I was always the most successful when I just jumped into long-term commitments. The military was a pretty impulsive move, but it locked me in for years, obviating the risk of job-hopping. I meandered about adulthood until deciding to go to medical school. The massive student loan debt again kept me from job-hopping because I had no choice. Honestly the best move I've ever made. Of course I'm a lot older getting out of residency than most folks, but I love what I do and it's a stimulating career that's locked me in. I now just use my hobbies to puddle-hop through life, leaving behind myriad abandoned endeavors. lol
Im 32, diagnosed at 5, ive had over 30 jobs since i was 20 and the last thing i want to do is go back to ritalin. I hate this, i wish i was like everyone else so it wasn’t so difficult to make a living.
That’s me and for a long time I’ve wondering why! Now I know and I understand myself more when I’ve learn about woman with ADHD.
I am now starting my new business and I will fight with my brain to keep this sustainable. 😊
The word "career" sends a cold shiver up my spine. At every job I've been on, I've never been able to see myself making a career out of it. I can't even wrap my head around the concept of someone even being in the same job field for 10+ years. Let alone being at a single company that long. That being said, reality is a hefty over-sized roadblock. Meaning, that what it would take to do the things I love doing as a job is just not feasible. Wasn't when I had kids at home and isn't now. The latter requiring a long explanation and I won't do here.
Im so thankful you put the questions in a file.
I am 30 years old and literally 3 days ago realised i have adhd. I live in a country were i can not get this diagnosis if i was not diagnosed as a kid. Now, does adhd only comes since you were born? It feels i was fine as a kid, but i actually grew up in messy disorganaised home and i was crazy active since i remember. Right now my worst problems is - time management. learning to use timers, clock and notes everywhere i go....
I believe in Jesus and what the Bible says. there is a book of PSALMS and a book of PROVERBS -full of wisdom in peace. It makes my mind so calm and focus when i study that. I highly suggest to study book of Psalms and Proverbs - wisdom, foolishness, rich, poor, ALL THE EMOTIONS in a poetic way.
thank you for your chnael, you are great. And looking at you reminds me im fine. ADHD people look alike a lot, am i wrong?
they do look alike I agree
Here because I feel like a failure at my job.
Inattentive medicated me can't move as fast as the unmedicated hyperactive folks that seem to be the most valued where I work.
Coupled that with working in retail pharmacy where I am constantly overstimulated (no time for bathroom, no breaks, and it can take hours of non stop ringing up folks before I can drink a sip of water) and so brain fried I haven't showered in weeks
It's like any time I find a job I feel strongly about, I end up feeling like I'm not enough anymore....
I've only ever quit jobs due to moving away, though, cause I can't let myself quit no matter how toxic..
I don't even know what to do cause I feel so beat down by not living up to my expectations and the expectations I feel like others have for me....
If you are in a big box store like Walmart I suggest switching role to one where daily tasks change to keep your attention ❤
Oh I see you also work at CVS 😅
@@coffeeinvasion Scarily accurate. Was a rx tech at the corner of anxiety and depression 😅
@@ElinWinblad Not sure how I never saw the notification for this. Was at a major retailer, but the job was very very structured so it didn't allow for that variety. It is something I am looking for in next job, though 🥰
"Trucking it out"... I'm a truck driver we quit jobs every two or three years to go to another company.
I haven't been able keep a job for more than 3 months without having a mental and body breakdown. I feel so bad. Even if I really like the job, I always come to a point in which I started to get depressed. I quited my job again. I got very sick and depressed. I feel so immature for a 40 yo woman with a kid. 😢😢. It's so confusing. I applying for a teaching job. I love teaching kids, I love people. I just hope my body won't collapse again.
I’ve worked 29 different jobs 😢 never happy
I haven’t yet done an apprenticeship, let alone studied something. I’m glad I got through school. But that makes the job choices I have not the best.
I want to better myself but I’m so scared whatever I start again I’ll fail.
Did she say a year or two? I wish. Try 3 months. The longest job I have had has been 6 months and I’m now 36 years old. Let that sink in 👀👀👀
My dream job fell out of the sky when i wasnt looking. A job as Fabricator Welder on the prototype line at Koenigsegg Automotive. I passed my interview with flying colors and am now booked for a two day work test. I am 62 i am just having my first ever bout of Shingles ( vericella zoster ) and i have also been notified by my doctor that i need a hip replacement as i have Osteonecrosis. What a bummer...😭
SOFI TUKKER song AWOO🎉 is my ADHD quitting anthem!!
I came
I conquered
And then
I QUIT
AWOO!❤🎉❤😂
This is the best video I've seen on this! I have recently come to terms with the fact that i probably have adhd, still seeking diagnosis as I'm out of work currently. I quit my retail management job about 6 months ago because I finally burned out and I've been trying and for the most part failing to get my "freelance design business" going. I have been paralyzed by doubt over what direction to go in and bot sure why i cant figure out how to get started when i have all the skills and tools i need. This video has made things SO clear to me. I quit things a lot when theyre about 80% through and i am scared that I'll do the same once i get going on this too. But your tips have been SO insightful. I'm going to apply this and follow you forEVER! Thank you so much for your advice!
glad it's helpful!
You described my life. I've had more jobs than Carter has liver pills. I worked for MOTOROLA 13 years, only because I had a different role every two years. I'm 66 with 4 years to go. I decided to teach school. Money is secondary.
Mine didn't match that at all. The jobs I quit were where I worked 12 hours a day 6 days a week doing things such as " thread checking " using a bolt to check threads in a part. The job I kept the longest was a work from home position in a call center. I was a csr for Medicare and Retirement. I was also promoted twice in almost 3 yeas. The last promotion was Remote csr trainer. I loved this job
I'm so glad and thankful I found your channel. I'm a stay at home mom struggling with ADHD and 2 autistic ADHD boys. I needed a direction but kept running into walls😂. This helps a lot. Your awesome 😊
I feel you on this one! I was diagnosed with ADHD a few years back at 35, I’m a single mom to 2 teen boys who both also have ADHD, and my youngest has Tourette’s on top of it - I thankfully work from home & run my own creative jewelry design business, so I’ve been able to be a stay at home mom despite it just being us 3, but the chaos keeps mounting. I constantly feel like I’m letting them down because they need structure & routine, but that’s my struggle as well! My gemstone “project piles” have taken over the kitchen table so we’ve been eating dinner at the coffee table this week 😬 I’ve often thought my oldest is also on the spectrum - I can imagine it gets to be pretty overwhelming for you! May I ask if you’ve been diagnosed or are doing any treatment?
@@ktwhimsy6946 Hi! Wow you also seem to experience a lot of my same issues, but you seem like your still holding on. Yes I have been diagnosed, I'm 40, but didn't get diagnosed till a year ago. I was wrongly diagnosed as bipolar. I know your feelings when you say that you feel like you're letting them down, and no structure. I personally could not bare those emotions as well. I'm an artist/writer/unschooling mom. I started living by my own rules, and now I'm making small changes to get through the day to day. I had to be drastic because I actually have 4 kids all together 2 girls whom are on the spectrum one is 19 and the other is 16 and my 2 boys aged 6 and 4 both on the spectrum, 1 with ADHD. I understand the feeling but, you are awesome for being an honest mom who needs support. That is why I found this channel. What is the name of your jewelry line? Do you know of any online support groups for moms like us?
I'm about to start a 3 month minimum maternity leave. I'm hoping to make a career change pretty soon. So tired of billing and AP jobs
Girl... I have been just awash in ADHD info... #irony for weeks... "treated" but life/stress/grief/little support kicking my ass escalated symptoms worse than ever... Yours is FIRST place I have just been able to listen, assimilate, go to next... Much I KNOW, but something about your vibes really helps... Especially this one. We are of the same Gen X... Hardcore, I should have my shit together feels this week... What happened to Most Likely to Succeed? Have accomplished a lot in my life, but now "a mess, " but just for today... Meditated, reconnecting with Dispenza, synchronistically affirmed by you, journaled, did SOME effective cleaning, Omega-3 bfast, walk w/HITT and strength stuff, connected with potential coach, checked on library books (last time $63 fines, not this time! ) scheduled med check, got good brain food groceries... All above while on coworking Zoom group (many neuro divergent), then listening to you.
Now because of your reminder and making it okay... BREAK!
THANK YOU.
GREAT STUFF.
PS figured out that career thing ages ago... Now at a PT job that I am ready to leave... Low paying, connecting with people fun, but know I make 1 - 2k a day for a billion dollar company when I could make that for me and elevate humanity kind of kills my soul... Jobs like this I go in, barely listen to the "rules," win the contests, don't use their ridiculous "tactics" just help people... So when I get all ADHD... which is embarrassing... that let it slide, because I make the money and no one comes back and returns when they are my client.
Because MOSTLY ADHD's are ALSO HSPs and empaths . Manipulation hurts our hearts.
My best day job, schedule changed, I had a goal of explaining things creatively, got to be goofy, help with understanding, while entertaining, short bursts of energy then rest, better pay... Good, but not insurmountable challenges... Autonomy.
I am at my best leading with cracker jack team that is truly down for collaboration, believes in me and gets I am not Devil Wears Prada, but I DO need them to have my back and I do have final say...
And when they get that, what they get in return pays high dividends.
Many past collaborators thriving... But not me.
A bit lost... Am sure some ADHD blind spot.
Unconsciously burned bridges... No bombs dropped, just... alone. 🤷🏻♀️
Scary... Not hopeless, though.
Thanks for listening.
Oh my... ADHD commenting.
Yes, a thing of mine.
😳🙄
I'm 23, not diagnosed yet because of the price, but I will take an appointment, because I need to be sure. I already knew that I need constant changes, so I already planned to not have children and live in a van or a camper, so that I can move easily. I'm still a student, in a professional degree that I question every two weeks, but I stay because I love meeting and helping people who are abandoned by society, and I love what I learn. But I also love being alone and working on my art, because being with people all day is exhausting. Even though I hate my current internship right now. I love my previous one and want to go back. I love that you are here to tell us advice, because it's hard to know. I will have your video multiple times. Thank you so much for this
Oh my lord!
A Caren worth listening to😮
I'm adhd (late diagnosed) and have many jobs. However... My first career lasted 23 years (I was a radio producer which provided a decent amount of stimulus) even though I worked at quite a few stations within that career.
In 2012, I left radio to work at a small web development company. I've been doing that since then (12 years... I bought the company in 2015)
I was diagnosed with ADHD in 2020 at age 49, which answered SO many questions as to why I got so bored at my jobs. The only reason I didn't just quit all the jobs I got bored with, was the need for money and a lack of opportunity moving forward.
I have moved around, and I've been laid off a few times (company layoffs) but I have never been fired.
I wasn't medicated during the bulk of my work years and that was a challenge, but it was the pressure to HAVE a job that kept me there. (When I wasn't forced to leave) I would never move on until I had something to move on to.
Pen to paper is so valuable for ADHDers. This is a great video!
Totally agree! and thank you!
What’s “pen to paper”?
I never stayed more than 18months in a position or job. I did work for a company for 15 years and 7 positions within it. Ever since, I've never stayed in a job for more than 18 months. I've never been fired. I've always worked hard and often praised, until, I'm (or my brain) is not interested anymore.
Now that I discovered I have ADHD, it's some sort of relief because now I can at least do something about it.
I am 37 years old in my whole life I never had hold a job more 3 month max I quit because of boredom.I never finished college and even my school life when I was 10 i didn't want to go to school never complete my homework but interested in video games and I can dedicate my attention for 12 hours long sessions.I recently found out something about me that I have dissociation disorder as well my disassociation was keeping me to find about myself.Its recent that I found out I have problems since childhood.
I’ll draft this resignation letter - only to see what it looks like/get the thoughts out of my head, obvs…. did I just press send?! It’s such a relief to realise other people have this going on - and the issues of shame around it.
Thanks for sharing your expertise. I’ve only recently started to wonder about ADHD (or low needs autism). In the past I’ve had observations from family members who’ve noted that I can’t hold down jobs or relationships - and put it down to childhood bullying. I’ve personally put it down to depression (or just bad choices in the case of relationships) - but now probably too late in life I wonder if something else is going on.
You actually gave me an idea of what kind of job would interest me and make me happy and fulfilled. Like it's important and a mission.
Now I hope the way to get it is not too messy, so I don't give up.