Gotta love it! Supposed to be working on my biz tasks starting three days ago. Have yet to do one task. Frustrating because I want to do it so badly. 🤦🏻♂️ working on resolving the undercurrent of emotional baggage that is causing this.
I've been standing in my kitchen for the past 10 minutes deciding whether or not I wanted to listen to music or watch an ADHD video while I was unloading the dishwasher. I could have actually unloaded and loaded the dishwasher and probably started thawing the chicken I need for dinner and the time it took me just to find this video.
Thankyou so much - every person who has retired from the workforce and has trouble filling in their day should watch this video before they waste the next two decades of their life.
@@johnsaunders781 I retired a few yrs ago and still struggle to finish one job before starting another - it's an ongoing battle with your mind, especially when you have no deadline to meet- all the best.
For the doubters, you can be frozen when a complex task, or as she says, a project, will bring you money, not make you pay money. In my case, lots and lots of money. As in, dealing with my mother's estate, so I can close out probate. I'm so frozen, not even a body double helps, and knowing I will get access to literally hundreds of thousands of dollars motivates me not at all. I'm hoping getting medication will help. It's been three years, sigh.
@@lisabloedel539 There's absolutely some of that, yeah. The weird part is it was easier earlier, when it was all newer. It's gotten much harder as time's gone on. But my adhd got worse, too, possibly hormone-related, so maybe it's not that weird.
@@3dchick What's forced me into doing that stuff is have a coach or someone who can reflect back what I'm doing. Then I'm able to see how nonsensical it it is. Writing it down also forces me to confront it. Maybe that's worked for you?
Yeah, I was going to say, "is it something you have to do by yourself?" I know I couldn't do it, especially after losing my mom. My AdHD is alway worse under stress. I think I would barely be able to initiate getting myself the help I need. Maybe ask GBT to help with the steps?
I am currently starting my ADHD diagnostic process and at the same time I am working on my Master's Thesis, which is not an easy situation, but getting advice from people with ADHD has helped me a lot already.
@@krnvvv I think you read 1 month as one year, I am still working on my thesis and just had my ADHD test done which I am sure is going to come back with a diagnosis, as I could say yes to most of the questions about the symptoms. My thesis is coming along slowly but consistently, which I am very happy about. I wish you the best of luck! I am sure you will do great, but do not neglect your mental health for education.
Good on ya. I did a Master's of Science and the only way I finished writing my thesis was by taking Ritalin. It was BRUTAL. But I'm the furthest thing from the poster child for good ADHD coping mechanisms so take what I said with a grain of salt. GOOD luck, I wish you the very best and congrats on working to get a diagnosis and hopefully treatment.
i wonder if i have adhd since i wrote my bachelor thesis which was hell and gave me depression. now i am like rabbit hole'ing down the ADHD youtube stuff because its interesting to compare myself to all those things
Maybe I have found something new which will help (for a while). When you say "Okay Google, goodmorning", than your can set the latest news to be read to you. When I say this, I walk with my phone to the kitchen and am distracted by the news and clear out the dishwasher. In the evening while folding (I hang everything 😉) laundry, I watch the news on my tablet/iPad. When I have to empty the kitchen tablet, I play my favorite music. When I (try to) declutter I say Okay Google, talk to Santa. Connect tasks to an audible. Be creative. Hope this helps you too. But write down what to hear where, because you are going to forget!
This is hands down the best advice I've seen for Task Initialization (which is what I struggle with horribly). Thank you!! AI is such a game changer for us! I feel like I have popcorn brain and linearity thinking is almost impossible to envision, so thank you again for these tips.
I’m a teacher and now I’m wondering how I can function doing projects constantly. Teaching is my passion but I am always overwhelmed by all the “projects” of planning mixed with a big task of grading and communication especially with families.
I would like to start more cardio/ sports so I can exhaust that itch I feel when I get bored or want to walk around the room whilst completing tasks. It’s become a real issue for me.
this is so helpful! i need constant reminders like this lol. i've started listening to focus music when i'm studying, specific YT creators or podcasts when i workout/ do chores, etc so i'm starting to train myself into doing things when certain music/ videos are playing. breaking big projects down is so important + often overlooked!
Wow, this video was made for me. LOL I saw you move the tax to do on calendar and thought oh my…she saw me do this! Then you turn around and mention writing a book! What!? I have been procrastinating on my third book. As it is the finale of the first two. Also bought a house last year and remodeled it. Now trying to get back in the swing after taking two years off…and I get overwhelmed right away. I will be watching this video again. I just found your channel today as UA-cam knew I needed to hear your words of wisdom. Thank you ❤
I got deja vu with the reader's question 9 minutes in, because it sounds just like me (but I can't remember if I left that comment, and I searched in my comment history and couldn't find it!). My procrastination for my writing is both emotional blocks and mental blocks: emotional blocks because I want the book to be SO GOOD and the perfectionism has me afraid of failure, and mental blocks because my brain is so tired at the end of the day after work (a lot of analyzing text and writing text). Love the description of author as an identity and your breakdown of writing in terms of "mini books" and bread crumbs. I get really excited about the outlining process and then drafting out the scenes I've planned gets blocked by the emotional limiting beliefs. When I was writing more consistently, I would finish my writing sessions with a brief description of where I was stuck, what I want to happen next, or any details to help me get started on the next part. I don't use AI in my writing process because so much AI has been trained on stolen, non-consensual material (and it's impossible to know what generative AI is ethically trained-currently, no public generative AI has been ethically trained), but writing out those outlines and reminders is something a writer can do. Books, podcasts, websites, and courses on craft are really helpful if the writer is interested in learning.
WOW, I feel so seen! This was such a great video Caren. Thank you for breaking that all down so easily for us. I have been struggling for awhile trying to get all of these passion projects that I have off the ground, because I do the thing where I stop and start and then it's always so challenging to restart again, but this is a great roadmap that I can't wait to practice implementing this week! Thank you! I always love your videos 💛
I believe the framework you described for writing your book is called a rough draft. I found very useful advice for breaking out of stuck from Adam Savage. He described the way he goes about starting a new project. He called it first order of accessability. Get everything necessary together first, before even trying to start. This works for me because I'm not actually doing it, just getting ready for it. But, now thst i have everything in order & have committed mental energy to planning it, the project is partly done. This applies whether you're making dinner, doing yardwork, or even doing computer stuff. Any tools & supplies you need, a drink or snack, etc. Especially, securing the time you need by - picking the best time with no interruptions, walking the dog first, and handling anything that could distract you from the job. Food is definitely important, because your brain runs on glucose. When your blood sugar runs low, your brain stalls and progress with it. Simple fix. It's a challenge for me because my metabolism runs like a wood chipper. Don't be jealous, you don't have to feed it all day
This was soo helpful. I knew this subconsciously, but it made me realize that I’ve been so emotionally blocked relating to certain things and that’s why I made no real move on them for years…
My problem was social media and getting my daily routine started let alone completed. I have digital planner I look over and check off my completed task and having proud feelings that for getting daily task completed. And being kind to myself and less comparing myself and taking accountability and also stop doing stuff I don’t wanna do. I also love my timer on phone. I’m listening to book on this and women. Thank you. I’m work in progress I’m spiritual and feel they are helping me get back in control and not my disorders. ❤❤
This was incredibly helpful. I'm currently struggling to study for my qualifying exam in my graduate program and tend to procrastinate when doing the bigger tasks first. I'll definitely keep what you said to heart when I start studying again today. Thank you so much for this video.
Thank you so incredibly much for this. I've been doing my typical Saturday freeze and nap and beat myself up mentally until just before my husband gets home when i finally have enough energy to do 5% of what i had wanted to do. Uggghhhhh!!! I'm going to try the ai idea, that sounds brilliant. 🎉
This was so good. Thank you, Caren. I'm sure I'll be returning to this one more often! "Emotional blocks" • Perfect! It seems I reached a point where I have emotional blocks against... every little task or... "task" (as a reply to a UA-cam comment, or to something more important like an ad I posted somewhere...). So - context - I already know what it is to live completely free of emotional blocks (for a whole 15-day period), but now... I can't do anything. I have been postponing 3 of those "tasks" for more than a week, but yesterday something weird happened. I was already walking towards the kitchen, to have my dinner (after procrastinating during the whole afternoon) but before leaving the living room I somehow turned around to my vicious laptop - without thinking much - and almost without noticing I was turning it back on with the purpose in mind to really open those god-damned ad-replies I got. And I did... without doing something else again during the process. I opened them, replied to all of them in whatever necessary time (because the problem is always to begin), and then... the rewarding dinner time that I wasn't even envisioning it at the finishing live, but just hyperfocusing on the task. Somehow, it was as if I tricked my mind while going for dinner... caught it off guard... without letting it create our mental content. Weird! Have to try that more often.
Such sage advice. Thank you! I haven't been diagnosed but tick all the boxes and your advice is really helping me. I am also in my 50's now and suddenly finding better ways to cope with my busy mind and the myriad of things I want get started.
This is great info! Thank you! I’ve found your videos because I’m always trying to help my 19 yr old son get through his classes - first HS, now college. But of course I would say he gets it from me. Most likely I have ADHD too. So this definitely helps me too!
You'll have to encourage your son to take charge of his own self-help. When I was a teacher, this (agency/ autonomy) was a huge part of special education services. A great first step would be for him to subscribe to ADHD content on social media!
I just started watching your videos I find them incredibly helpful by the way that was a nice sick burn on all the people who think that ADHD doesn't exist
It would be soooo helpful if by the summation of steps you would attach a little list of those steps written. Of course I can do it also alone… but maybe it would be a good idea for your content. I appreciate your work, you are helping me! I admire and thank you from the bottom of my heart 🌞
Thank you. Don't assume what you see is all there is. I have my struggles, but I'm also dedicated to this process of building an ADHD-supportive life so that I can share it with this community.
I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD but I have a terrible time moving forward when it's time to make a change requiring to let go of something I have an emotional attachment to 😢 Wow it's hard
I have put off hanging my curtain rod. I finally did it but now I need to put the tools back and it just seems like too much. I am on my couch feeling slumped and low energy I may even sleep. BUT I have been sleeping since yesterday noon because I work night shift at a hospital. I slept through the night till the morning today.
Or do what i did! Marry a accountant lol Actually we met in 2003, i was 20. I didn’t even know i had adhd. Ive always struggled with it, but didn’t know what it was… honestly im 41 now, and i just realized a couple years ago, that this is what I’ve always had.
I got married about 3 months ago and have done nothing to get my last name changed and I would even get more monthly income if /when -but hard to get started can get this taken care of and yet still….
maybe take the tip she mentioned about starting with a planning session. make that a task.. to research and/or list out everything that's needed so u can have a realistic plan. try to stick to the facts and keep emotion out of it if u can. (preaching to myself here too) 🙌 and create an incentive that motivates u enough just to get started.. good luck to u
this is something I dreaded doing too, but I signed up for newlynamed and it broke down everything I needed to do in much more manageable steps so it wasn't so daunting. The good news is is once it's done, it's done! Good luck friend
11:46 Do you have a list of limiting beliefs that you get from your clients It would be a big help for me if you had a list like that that I can get access to :-)
How did you start your coaching business A-Z? What credentials do you have - how did you overcome the uncertainty and feeling like you’re not good enough? How did you go about getting clients and marketing yourself & your services?
Is this aimed at people running their own business or freelancing? I've never had to file a tax return my whole life, as the tax is just deducted from my wages automatically.
I watch all UA-cam videos on 1.5x speed instead of the normal speed. Somehow it is easier for me to keep focus if the video is played faster. It's just a tip. Maybe it works for you too or maybe it won't.
Doing taxes is a great example that you picked. Funny part is that the IRS already knows how much we owe or how much they owe us. They are just making our lives miserable by asking us to do our taxes.
REASONS FOR TASK INITIATION STRUGGLE 2:40 NON-URGENCY IS ROADBLOCK 3:20 PROJECT VS TASK TIPS FOR TASK INITIATION : WHEN YOU DONT KNOW WHERE TO START BREAKDOWN TO SMALL TASK 3:45 AWARE THAT IT'S PROJECT ; DONT SET YOURSELF UP DOR FAILRE 4:15 THINK ALL THINGS INVOLVED IN X (THE PROJECT'S) PREPARATION >IDENTIFY TASKS BEFORE YOU GET TO THE POINT OF DOING THE PROJECT ITSELF >TASK 1: SET UP A PHYSICAL {SO YOU KNOW WHERE} >TASK 2 : SET UP DIGITAL FOLDER FOR ALL >TASK 3 :PUTTING TIME ON YOUR CALENDAR > 5:15 : ASK IS THIS NECESSARY? IS IT ACTUALLY ESSENTIAL 5:45 BEWARE OF COGNITIVE LOAD THAT YOU DO NOT NEED 6:15 SUPPORT AND INFRASTURE YOU NEED IN PLACE TO GET IT DONE >IS THERE SOFTWARE I CAN USE TO HELP ME >SOMEONE THAT CAN DO IT FOR ME > 6:45 BODY DOUBLING BE REALLY HONEST WITH YOURSELF WHETHER OR NOT THIS IS STH YOU CAN DO BY YOURSELF 7:00 REWARD AND PENALTY ; CELEBRATE WINS 7:50 CREATE CHECKLIST EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO DO ; AND MAKE SURE YOUR PUT THAT LIST IN YOUR DIGITAL CALENDAR ; DONT ASSUME YOU WILL REMEMBER YOU WONT 8:02 RECAP 9:00 EMOTIONAL BLOCK : REALIZE IT (JOURNALING/ COACH/THERAPIST/ TRUSTED FRIEND) 11:05 APPLICATION 1_IS THIS STH YOU NEED TO DO 2_ GET REALLY CLEAR BEFORE YOU START {SELF LIMITING BELIEF VS DESIRE] __ DESIRE>FEAR __IDENTITY__STRUCTURE 3_STRUCTURE . OUTLINE ACTUAL STRUCTURE : BREAKDOWN INTO SMALLER PART 14:00 CREATE TEMPLATE FOR EVERY CHAPTER -- TO MAKE IT EASY TO PICK UP 14:40 BREAD CRUMB : ASK AI {NOTION AI FEATURE] DO QUICK SUMMARY YOU'VE WRITTEN SO FAR 15:45 NEUROTYPICAL BUDDY CHATGPT> FRAMEWORK FOR US ; HELP YOU START/ORGANISE YOUR MIND 17:14 START WITH THE EASIEST ;LOW HANGING FIRST : START AND THE REST WILL FOLLOW: MOMENTUM IS MAGIC 17:43 >GET YOUR TOOLS, MINDSET , ENVIRONMENT, ENERGY READY WILL GIVE YOU DOPAMINE
Pretty soon the government will have all the info on what we made and spent that year and will deduct their portion automatically from our account with digital currency. And then none of us will have to do our taxes. lol
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This is so me…I’m watching this video instead of writing on my work self-evaluation that is due before close of business today!
Hey besty! Same😂
Aannndddd same EXACTLY 😅
Gotta love it! Supposed to be working on my biz tasks starting three days ago. Have yet to do one task. Frustrating because I want to do it so badly. 🤦🏻♂️ working on resolving the undercurrent of emotional baggage that is causing this.
Yep I have to write a concept map for school in the next 4 hours and I’m paralyzed 😭🩷 ADHD has benefits, but there is such a dark side…
Me cleaning and listening to this instead of studying .😀
I've been standing in my kitchen for the past 10 minutes deciding whether or not I wanted to listen to music or watch an ADHD video while I was unloading the dishwasher. I could have actually unloaded and loaded the dishwasher and probably started thawing the chicken I need for dinner and the time it took me just to find this video.
Thankyou so much - every person who has retired from the workforce and has trouble filling in their day should watch this video before they waste the next two decades of their life.
Thanks. I am about to "retire", and have considerable anxiety about it.
@@johnsaunders781 I retired a few yrs ago and still struggle to finish one job before starting another - it's an ongoing battle with your mind, especially when you have no deadline to meet- all the best.
I have an assignment due and am playing your videos to help reduce my anxiety and feel less alone. Such helpful advice and thoughtful reflections.
For the doubters, you can be frozen when a complex task, or as she says, a project, will bring you money, not make you pay money. In my case, lots and lots of money. As in, dealing with my mother's estate, so I can close out probate. I'm so frozen, not even a body double helps, and knowing I will get access to literally hundreds of thousands of dollars motivates me not at all. I'm hoping getting medication will help. It's been three years, sigh.
Maybe there’s an emotional block? I think it would be hard to work on a task, that deals with a loved one’s passing.
@@lisabloedel539 There's absolutely some of that, yeah. The weird part is it was easier earlier, when it was all newer. It's gotten much harder as time's gone on. But my adhd got worse, too, possibly hormone-related, so maybe it's not that weird.
@@3dchick What's forced me into doing that stuff is have a coach or someone who can reflect back what I'm doing. Then I'm able to see how nonsensical it it is. Writing it down also forces me to confront it. Maybe that's worked for you?
the paralegal for your case would be happy to help you any way they can-- just ask. good luck
Yeah, I was going to say, "is it something you have to do by yourself?" I know I couldn't do it, especially after losing my mom. My AdHD is alway worse under stress. I think I would barely be able to initiate getting myself the help I need. Maybe ask GBT to help with the steps?
I am currently starting my ADHD diagnostic process and at the same time I am working on my Master's Thesis, which is not an easy situation, but getting advice from people with ADHD has helped me a lot already.
Wow doing a thesis...And navigating your diagnosis ...you are Amazing
bruh same. how are you a year later? I'm 8 months away from my thesis presentation and kinda scared cause I didn't finish the essays yet
@@krnvvv I think you read 1 month as one year, I am still working on my thesis and just had my ADHD test done which I am sure is going to come back with a diagnosis, as I could say yes to most of the questions about the symptoms. My thesis is coming along slowly but consistently, which I am very happy about. I wish you the best of luck! I am sure you will do great, but do not neglect your mental health for education.
Good on ya. I did a Master's of Science and the only way I finished writing my thesis was by taking Ritalin. It was BRUTAL. But I'm the furthest thing from the poster child for good ADHD coping mechanisms so take what I said with a grain of salt. GOOD luck, I wish you the very best and congrats on working to get a diagnosis and hopefully treatment.
i wonder if i have adhd since i wrote my bachelor thesis which was hell and gave me depression. now i am like rabbit hole'ing down the ADHD youtube stuff because its interesting to compare myself to all those things
Maybe I have found something new which will help (for a while). When you say "Okay Google, goodmorning", than your can set the latest news to be read to you. When I say this, I walk with my phone to the kitchen and am distracted by the news and clear out the dishwasher.
In the evening while folding (I hang everything 😉) laundry, I watch the news on my tablet/iPad.
When I have to empty the kitchen tablet, I play my favorite music.
When I (try to) declutter I say Okay Google, talk to Santa.
Connect tasks to an audible.
Be creative. Hope this helps you too.
But write down what to hear where, because you are going to forget!
She said taxes. Obviously my mind went to my cats, mandalas, writing articles, playing at the park with my kids, etc. 😂
Thank you for the public service of the free videos. You know, a lot of people might hold on to their strategies for a paying client.
This is hands down the best advice I've seen for Task Initialization (which is what I struggle with horribly). Thank you!! AI is such a game changer for us! I feel like I have popcorn brain and linearity thinking is almost impossible to envision, so thank you again for these tips.
I’m a teacher and now I’m wondering how I can function doing projects constantly. Teaching is my passion but I am always overwhelmed by all the “projects” of planning mixed with a big task of grading and communication especially with families.
Same I am a special education teacher and I have a mental list of everything I want to do and activities/projects but I keep putting it off.
I would like to start more cardio/ sports so I can exhaust that itch I feel when I get bored or want to walk around the room whilst completing tasks. It’s become a real issue for me.
this is so helpful! i need constant reminders like this lol. i've started listening to focus music when i'm studying, specific YT creators or podcasts when i workout/ do chores, etc so i'm starting to train myself into doing things when certain music/ videos are playing. breaking big projects down is so important + often overlooked!
That was very helpful. It’s very cool that you mentioned almost every issue and mentioned a solution to it. It was a life changing video. Thank you
Lol 😂 I do my taxes the last 45 minutes before midnight on the final tax day 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
😂
Wow dont laugh at me but i never finished before deadline, i get there in may june and sometimes pay penalty 😂
I envy you!!!
Wow, this video was made for me. LOL I saw you move the tax to do on calendar and thought oh my…she saw me do this! Then you turn around and mention writing a book! What!? I have been procrastinating on my third book. As it is the finale of the first two. Also bought a house last year and remodeled it. Now trying to get back in the swing after taking two years off…and I get overwhelmed right away. I will be watching this video again. I just found your channel today as UA-cam knew I needed to hear your words of wisdom. Thank you ❤
I got deja vu with the reader's question 9 minutes in, because it sounds just like me (but I can't remember if I left that comment, and I searched in my comment history and couldn't find it!). My procrastination for my writing is both emotional blocks and mental blocks: emotional blocks because I want the book to be SO GOOD and the perfectionism has me afraid of failure, and mental blocks because my brain is so tired at the end of the day after work (a lot of analyzing text and writing text). Love the description of author as an identity and your breakdown of writing in terms of "mini books" and bread crumbs. I get really excited about the outlining process and then drafting out the scenes I've planned gets blocked by the emotional limiting beliefs. When I was writing more consistently, I would finish my writing sessions with a brief description of where I was stuck, what I want to happen next, or any details to help me get started on the next part. I don't use AI in my writing process because so much AI has been trained on stolen, non-consensual material (and it's impossible to know what generative AI is ethically trained-currently, no public generative AI has been ethically trained), but writing out those outlines and reminders is something a writer can do. Books, podcasts, websites, and courses on craft are really helpful if the writer is interested in learning.
WOW, I feel so seen! This was such a great video Caren. Thank you for breaking that all down so easily for us.
I have been struggling for awhile trying to get all of these passion projects that I have off the ground, because I do the thing where I stop and start and then it's always so challenging to restart again, but this is a great roadmap that I can't wait to practice implementing this week!
Thank you! I always love your videos 💛
Your summary at the end was awesome - thank you for ending your video this way:)
For someone with ADHD, you have an awfully clean bedroom! :) Very impressive...
Spot on! I scroll thru YT all day long. Dopamine
I believe the framework you described for writing your book is called a rough draft.
I found very useful advice for breaking out of stuck from Adam Savage. He described the way he goes about starting a new project. He called it first order of accessability. Get everything necessary together first, before even trying to start. This works for me because I'm not actually doing it, just getting ready for it. But, now thst i have everything in order & have committed mental energy to planning it, the project is partly done. This applies whether you're making dinner, doing yardwork, or even doing computer stuff. Any tools & supplies you need, a drink or snack, etc. Especially, securing the time you need by - picking the best time with no interruptions, walking the dog first, and handling anything that could distract you from the job. Food is definitely important, because your brain runs on glucose. When your blood sugar runs low, your brain stalls and progress with it. Simple fix. It's a challenge for me because my metabolism runs like a wood chipper. Don't be jealous, you don't have to feed it all day
This was soo helpful. I knew this subconsciously, but it made me realize that I’ve been so emotionally blocked relating to certain things and that’s why I made no real move on them for years…
My problem was social media and getting my daily routine started let alone completed. I have digital planner I look over and check off my completed task and having proud feelings that for getting daily task completed. And being kind to myself and less comparing myself and taking accountability and also stop doing stuff I don’t wanna do. I also love my timer on phone. I’m listening to book on this and women. Thank you. I’m work in progress I’m spiritual and feel they are helping me get back in control and not my disorders. ❤❤
This was incredibly helpful. I'm currently struggling to study for my qualifying exam in my graduate program and tend to procrastinate when doing the bigger tasks first. I'll definitely keep what you said to heart when I start studying again today. Thank you so much for this video.
I hope all is well with you and that you are finding time for yourself and your well-being xoxo Thank you for you videos
Thank you so incredibly much for this. I've been doing my typical Saturday freeze and nap and beat myself up mentally until just before my husband gets home when i finally have enough energy to do 5% of what i had wanted to do. Uggghhhhh!!! I'm going to try the ai idea, that sounds brilliant. 🎉
This was so good. Thank you, Caren. I'm sure I'll be returning to this one more often!
"Emotional blocks" • Perfect! It seems I reached a point where I have emotional blocks against... every little task or... "task" (as a reply to a UA-cam comment, or to something more important like an ad I posted somewhere...).
So - context - I already know what it is to live completely free of emotional blocks (for a whole 15-day period), but now... I can't do anything. I have been postponing 3 of those "tasks" for more than a week, but yesterday something weird happened. I was already walking towards the kitchen, to have my dinner (after procrastinating during the whole afternoon) but before leaving the living room I somehow turned around to my vicious laptop - without thinking much - and almost without noticing I was turning it back on with the purpose in mind to really open those god-damned ad-replies I got. And I did... without doing something else again during the process. I opened them, replied to all of them in whatever necessary time (because the problem is always to begin), and then... the rewarding dinner time that I wasn't even envisioning it at the finishing live, but just hyperfocusing on the task.
Somehow, it was as if I tricked my mind while going for dinner... caught it off guard... without letting it create our mental content.
Weird! Have to try that more often.
You nailed it again. My wife and others at work do not believe in ADHD.
Such sage advice. Thank you! I haven't been diagnosed but tick all the boxes and your advice is really helping me. I am also in my 50's now and suddenly finding better ways to cope with my busy mind and the myriad of things I want get started.
This is great info! Thank you! I’ve found your videos because I’m always trying to help my 19 yr old son get through his classes - first HS, now college. But of course I would say he gets it from me. Most likely I have ADHD too. So this definitely helps me too!
You'll have to encourage your son to take charge of his own self-help. When I was a teacher, this (agency/ autonomy) was a huge part of special education services.
A great first step would be for him to subscribe to ADHD content on social media!
Your videos have been a godsend for me❤
I just started watching your videos I find them incredibly helpful by the way that was a nice sick burn on all the people who think that ADHD doesn't exist
It would be soooo helpful if by the summation of steps you would attach a little list of those steps written. Of course I can do it also alone… but maybe it would be a good idea for your content. I appreciate your work, you are helping me! I admire and thank you from the bottom of my heart 🌞
I think I have adhd so bad, that all of this is very overwhelming 😮
Thank you for this video!!
Really, really, really great video! Can be applied to absolutely anything in life from washing the dishes to starting a business. Thank you Caren!
I like that your advice is very practical and concrete, thank you.
I'm so glad I found your channel Thank you so much, so helpful. Also, I have the exact same t-shirt as you!!😊
Thanks Caren ....really hitting the nail on the head....love ya stuff
Your channel is so helpful Caren. Thank you so much
How are you able to be so organized and self motivated with ADHD? You seem like the most well put together person.
Thank you. Don't assume what you see is all there is. I have my struggles, but I'm also dedicated to this process of building an ADHD-supportive life so that I can share it with this community.
Wow, this is SOOO HELPFUL!!! Just discovered you. But, will watch more and look into your products!!!
First time see you and can’t thank you enough!!
Love the idea of starting with the simple/small tasks and build momentum... And the breadcrumbs/summary idea to pick up projects ❤
This is perfect.
OMG this video was a dream!!!!!! Thank you so much!!!!
I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD but I have a terrible time moving forward when it's time to make a change requiring to let go of something I have an emotional attachment to 😢
Wow it's hard
Miss, I love you 😂❤ This is so helpful !
New sub. Heard you on your podcast . Good and helpful info. Thx
Super helpful, thank you!
Caren this help me so much! Thank you thank you. Hugs!
Thank you for those practical tips:)
I have put off hanging my curtain rod. I finally did it but now I need to put the tools back and it just seems like too much. I am on my couch feeling slumped and low energy I may even sleep. BUT I have been sleeping since yesterday noon because I work night shift at a hospital. I slept through the night till the morning today.
Love your videos.
I know I have issues when it takes me most of the day to watch one of your videos on procrastinating 🤣🤣🤣
I give myself rewards when getting things started but finishing them is another story
7:06 Is there some type of digital body double. Because of my ADHD it's hard to keep people around me as I lose interest in them quickly.
Watching this instead of preparing for a maths test that's in a day... when I had 6 days to prepare. I can't help but feel like I'm just being lazy
Or do what i did! Marry a accountant lol
Actually we met in 2003, i was 20. I didn’t even know i had adhd. Ive always struggled with it, but didn’t know what it was… honestly im 41 now, and i just realized a couple years ago, that this is what I’ve always had.
I got married about 3 months ago and have done nothing to get my last name changed and I would even get more monthly income if /when -but hard to get started can get this taken care of and yet still….
You get more money by changing your last name? What kind of mess?!
maybe take the tip she mentioned about starting with a planning session. make that a task.. to research and/or list out everything that's needed so u can have a realistic plan. try to stick to the facts and keep emotion out of it if u can. (preaching to myself here too) 🙌 and create an incentive that motivates u enough just to get started.. good luck to u
this is something I dreaded doing too, but I signed up for newlynamed and it broke down everything I needed to do in much more manageable steps so it wasn't so daunting. The good news is is once it's done, it's done! Good luck friend
11:46 Do you have a list of limiting beliefs that you get from your clients It would be a big help for me if you had a list like that that I can get access to :-)
I do, but it's not something I could share.
Thanks!
OMG, thanks!!!
How did you start your coaching business A-Z? What credentials do you have - how did you overcome the uncertainty and feeling like you’re not good enough? How did you go about getting clients and marketing yourself & your services?
i am literally a CPA and i struggle to do my taxes on time too 😂 (a CPA with ADHD, but still)
Is this aimed at people running their own business or freelancing? I've never had to file a tax return my whole life, as the tax is just deducted from my wages automatically.
You brought up taxes and I clicked off and went to a video on cryptids. Then I felt bad and here I am.
Hiring an accountant to do our taxes was the best $250 I’ve ever spent. Or do spend.
My biggest problem, real problem
I keep wondering how can a person with ADHD can watch long 20 min videos? I barely can focus for 3 mins tops.
You speak for me.
I watch all UA-cam videos on 1.5x speed instead of the normal speed. Somehow it is easier for me to keep focus if the video is played faster. It's just a tip. Maybe it works for you too or maybe it won't.
I think your onto something. I will try this for a while@@naomit6166
Yes. This works for me too. Although the actual speed is determined by the "style" of speech.@naomit6166
Doing taxes is a great example that you picked. Funny part is that the IRS already knows how much we owe or how much they owe us. They are just making our lives miserable by asking us to do our taxes.
REASONS FOR TASK INITIATION STRUGGLE
2:40 NON-URGENCY IS ROADBLOCK
3:20 PROJECT VS TASK
TIPS FOR TASK INITIATION : WHEN YOU DONT KNOW WHERE TO START
BREAKDOWN TO SMALL TASK
3:45 AWARE THAT IT'S PROJECT ; DONT SET YOURSELF UP DOR FAILRE
4:15 THINK ALL THINGS INVOLVED IN X (THE PROJECT'S) PREPARATION
>IDENTIFY TASKS BEFORE YOU GET TO THE POINT OF DOING THE PROJECT ITSELF
>TASK 1: SET UP A PHYSICAL {SO YOU KNOW WHERE}
>TASK 2 : SET UP DIGITAL FOLDER FOR ALL
>TASK 3 :PUTTING TIME ON YOUR CALENDAR
>
5:15 : ASK IS THIS NECESSARY? IS IT ACTUALLY ESSENTIAL
5:45 BEWARE OF COGNITIVE LOAD THAT YOU DO NOT NEED
6:15 SUPPORT AND INFRASTURE YOU NEED IN PLACE TO GET IT DONE
>IS THERE SOFTWARE I CAN USE TO HELP ME
>SOMEONE THAT CAN DO IT FOR ME
>
6:45 BODY DOUBLING
BE REALLY HONEST WITH YOURSELF WHETHER OR NOT THIS IS STH YOU CAN DO BY YOURSELF
7:00 REWARD AND PENALTY ; CELEBRATE WINS
7:50 CREATE CHECKLIST EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO DO ; AND MAKE SURE YOUR PUT THAT LIST IN YOUR DIGITAL CALENDAR ; DONT ASSUME YOU WILL REMEMBER YOU WONT
8:02 RECAP
9:00 EMOTIONAL BLOCK : REALIZE IT (JOURNALING/ COACH/THERAPIST/ TRUSTED FRIEND)
11:05 APPLICATION
1_IS THIS STH YOU NEED TO DO
2_ GET REALLY CLEAR BEFORE YOU START {SELF LIMITING BELIEF VS DESIRE]
__ DESIRE>FEAR __IDENTITY__STRUCTURE
3_STRUCTURE . OUTLINE ACTUAL STRUCTURE : BREAKDOWN INTO SMALLER PART
14:00 CREATE TEMPLATE FOR EVERY CHAPTER -- TO MAKE IT EASY TO PICK UP
14:40 BREAD CRUMB : ASK AI {NOTION AI FEATURE] DO QUICK SUMMARY YOU'VE WRITTEN SO FAR
15:45 NEUROTYPICAL BUDDY CHATGPT> FRAMEWORK FOR US ; HELP YOU START/ORGANISE YOUR MIND
17:14 START WITH THE EASIEST ;LOW HANGING FIRST : START AND THE REST WILL FOLLOW: MOMENTUM IS MAGIC
17:43
>GET YOUR TOOLS, MINDSET , ENVIRONMENT, ENERGY READY WILL GIVE YOU DOPAMINE
Is your client the girl from 'How To ADHD'
Jessica? No.
Ya taxes put me into a meltdown
I pay a tax agent for mine 😂 in Australia its different the tax office already knows all your salary stuff its connected my gov system.
So long and too many ads pop up!
girl i've been struggling to get started for months now it's not even funny
I love listening but its more of the same too much mind overload.
Yeahhhhhh, I guess I don't really care about this degree program... not shocking tho
you had me until AI...
Pretty soon the government will have all the info on what we made and spent that year and will deduct their portion automatically from our account with digital currency. And then none of us will have to do our taxes. lol
Nice! Yes chat gpt already helped me a lot! It's indeed a good buddy to help us
That’s gold Jerry! Gold! 😂😂 Thank you so much, very helpful @carenmagill
Sloth? Watch 7 (Seven) its a great movie....