The Antidote to ADHD Exhaustion | Burnout Intervention
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- Опубліковано 4 жов 2024
- Feeling exhausted? Got ADHD? In this video I explore why ADHDers tend to run into burnout and exhaustion a lot more often then neurotypicals and what we can do about it. I share a snippet of my own experience with the onset of burnout and what I'm doing to intervene!
If you're feeling tired, burnout or just not yourself, I hope this video gives you some food for thought.
Story Excerpt on Exhaustion is from David Whyte's, Crossing the Unknown Sea. The excerpt has been edited for brevity.
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"I'm not a woo-woo person, I'm a woo and a half" This is an excellent phrase :3 x
Great video! The story you read brought tears to my eyes, it resonated so much. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 38 and it suddenly explained why I had been struggling my whole life just to function, and why I kept falling into burnout cycles. I would see so many of my friends who could just power through hard tasks or crappy jobs and I couldn't figure out why I wasn't able do the same. My body would literally rebel and I would either become sick or get steamrolled by crippling fatigue. I think my biggest challenge now is to feel ok about being as picky and as particular as I need to be to make sure I'm creating that very specific environment that I require in order to thrive. Often I feel like I'm excessively inconveniencing others or risking being labeled as "too needy" when I have to self advocate. This feels very scary, especially in the context of my profession and professional relationships where my livelihood could be at risk if people decide I'm too much of a hassle to work with. Working through that fear is definitely a journey. Anyway, thanks again for this video, it was my "ping" from the universe today (I'm also a woo and a half. 😉😄). Have a great New Year!
Happy new year to you, too! Think of this as a journey of tiny steps. Every decision is a chance to create a better environment for youself.
Painfully relatable!
Ditto for me. How r u managing now.. did u read some books or videos to help reduce burnout and improve professional life. Ditto around me people have progressed in their jobs but for me heart or mind or body give up… like I think I need to be totally detached to the feelings that come from the job but that’s not possible it’s like a life system change.
Karen please tell me where u got ur superb wig ?? I totally identify with your stress x
I was diagnosed at 50 and as I learned more about ADHD I had quite a few ah ha moments, five years later I still do. I changed my profession because the one I was in was not sustainable for me. I am lucky that I have landed in a field where I am able to help others with disabilities/differences and where I am also supported. I have had to learn to say no to people and be protective of the rest I need in order to maintain good health. If you share with people why you are making requests and they learn it is to keep your health in check, I think people will be understanding and will do what they can to meet you at least half way. Stay well.
I got diagnosed with ADHD last week at 54. Your channel gave me the hope that I need.
Dear You still have hope
Hey! I was diagnosed in August - at the age of 54!
I'm 58 and I just got diagnosed
me 2 at 54 -- lol
Welcome to the fold! Congratulations!
I was a teacher for 22 years because I felt joy being around kids but I wasn’t happy because being a classroom teacher was restrictive, demanding and hard with undiagnosed ADD. I left and started working for myself and I LOVE it! I am doing fun things to make money with several streams of income. I teach kids who are outside the box like me in evenings and during the day I go into schools with my hula hoop program and plan rests and days off when I need it. Find your passion and turn it into your job and you will thrive!
Diagnosed at 46. Corporate job changed to remote after Covid, got stuck in FL, all belongings still in storage up north. Living solo, my 2 pups passed backed to back, and so much more.. become completely paralyzed, physically unable to work complete tasks, walked away.
Year later today, I found my pond. I’m in motion of creating a clay earring business and look forward everyday to create beautiful jewelry and attend vendor markets.
Thank you for today’s and all your content. It has really helped me understand me and why and how to own it and best navigate my life despite the hard criticism I’ve recently received.
You are so awesome. Thanks for all these ideas. My daughter in law is so good at clay earrings. They are beautiful ❤️
„IF YOU'RE TIRED, YOU DON'T NEED REST, YOU NEED STUFF YOU'RE EXCITED ABOUT.“
Definitely to recharge batteries problem is when the activities that recharge you are taken away from you
@@Dancestar1981 how are they taken away from you? Just curious.
YES!!!
The Antidote to ADHD Exhaustion | Burnout Intervention. 16.7.24. I'm like..like really tired and your angelic good luck has not altered this.......good luck. I need to think of something profound before I can rest?
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I loved when you said, ‘we are built for the water’. Yes, absolutely. I love being near water whether it’s the sea, river, lake, stream, pond or big puddle. It’s calming and refreshing and there are times when I crave being near water.
Thank you.
It is!
💯!! Plan to finally move close to ocean!
The ENTIRE time I was listening to this, I was thinking, “easy for her to say all of these encouraging things when she has hair, that looks like that!” As I sit here, at 52, trying to get ready for work, and using all of my products to regrow hair that has been shedding since menopause started. 😢. You just made my whole day, and I need to find that person you were following, to normalize wearing a wig.
I Valdés from severe anemia - ferritin low dr missed it and thyroid issues. I’m not a doctor - maybe you can find one to check. I’m also post menopausal. Good luck my friend ❤
As I’m lying on the couch at 9am crying because I don’t want to go to work anymore 🥹
You’re not along friend. I’m driving to work in near tears for the same reason! I just want to keep driving…
Just pulled in to work trying to stop before having to actually go inside
Move to a small Town in México 🇲🇽😂🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳... It's so Nice , to go and work Only when yo what to work 😅..
Rent in a small Town. Like we're a love is about 200 dólar usa ..
🙋♀️🙋♀️ fully happened to me last week where I literally got to work and sat in my car crying for 30 minutes because I just couldn’t even fathom going in. ( I genuinely love my job but every so often I just get tired of everything)
Awesome! I have ADHD and I live on water, on a boat! I also believe I may well be living the half-life told in the story. I live in a cycle of survive crash survive crash. I need to find my path to thrive but it’s scary stepping off a familiar path even if it’s harming you. Thank you, a brilliant video. ❤
I hope you can find a sustainable cycle, Anna! It's possible. Thanks for being here.
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I was touched by the story of the swan. I am truly an orchid, and I need "my people", and without the right water and the right people, I do not thrive. Thank you for sharing your own story and before you said anything, I thought to myself, her hair is beautiful.
I used to have so much confidence to be my own person… but my current burnout cycle has caused me to completely 180 😢. The swan story spoke to me in a very profound way, so thank you!!!!
I would have never guessed you were wearing a wig. You are a gorgeous person inside and out! Thank you for making this content for all of us with ADHD, or with someone in our lives who has ADHD.
Love your video. I'm 70 and have been so sad I spent most my life not knowing what you have educated us on. I'm a survivor so will get through this. I take pain medication for pain , was diagnosed years ago but not one doctor, and I have many, ever pay any attention to it you are the only one who has opened my eyes. Thank you and god bless.
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I’m only discovering like within the last couple weeks really and it hit me like a bombshell yesterday that I most likely have ADHD. I struggle with basic life management so hard and everybody thinks I’m just a hot mess but really I’m trying so hard. I found your channel last night and already I’m finding such insight I didn’t know about me. I look forward to watching more of your videos. Thank you for being so open and honest and real for people like me who need this reality.
Actually you would be 1/2 woo or a wee woo vs 1.5 woo which is more super woo 🤪💗
💯!!! My wife has indicated on numerous times that I have ADHD bad! I’m 54 and never have been diagnosed, but I resonate with all of the signs and everything you have discussed. You popped up on my feeds and I’m so thankful for you! I never knew why I was the way I am my whole life! Thank you!
Coming to this one late and it hits hard. I KNOW what my pond is & if I didn't have bills to pay I would play in it all day - but it's nearly impossible to make a career so I always feel divided between what pays the bills & what I really want to be doing. And what pays the bills (freelance writing) is as close to what I want to be doing (novel writing) as I can get until a miracle happens - because in publishing you pretty much need a miracle to be successful.
I've felt this way for the last three years & it has me dancing in and out of burnout & short of winning the lottery so I can just focus on my books, it feels like nothing will ever get me the rest of the way into my passion.
Just found your channel tonight - absolutely loving your content. I only discovered this year (at 59) that I may have ADHD after talking to some other women who have been diagnosed over 50. I loved the message of getting into the water - I really relate to this.
Hi Caren, thank you so much for sharing this poem. I completely relate and feel like the man in this story. I work a 9-5 and it feels worthless to me, especially lately. It’s not something I’m excited about or can easily feel like giving my wholeheartedness to. I feel like im burning out not from overdoing it, but from not thriving. However, I also have no idea what else to do which is the biggest struggle for me. I hope I figure it out! 😊
Great story to share. There’s a relief to back out of the sense of hyper-responsibility (sometimes my over-thinking self puts me in a false power spot), then I make sure I don’t descend into an equally unbalanced sense of shame or depression (also overthinking?)--bottom line--recover my sense of gratitude and devotion. Not just once a day, but kinda constantly! It’s hard!
I feel like I may have lost my whole heartedness and it's definitely contributing my exhaustion. Wow 😲 needed this so much. Thx
Great video, your transparency is so refreshing I can sadly totally relate to this, especially the burnout cycle. I realised a while ago, I have number if items I can manage in my life. When somthing new is added to the list, something else needs to go, if that makes sense. I keep my life as simple as I can; it's not a simple thing to do for a working Mammy & it's still very much work in progress . How you are embracing your ADHD strengths and weaknesses is really inspiring keep up your great work Sister . Love your hair.
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Thank you so much!!!
This resonated immediately with me and I burst into loud tears. Thank you for sharing this.
You are so welcome
I am so inspired by the way that you own your neurodivergence! Thank you for sharing your experiences and gifts with all of us! I’m going through the ADHD burnout cycle, as is my ADHD spectrum daughter. It’s a lot, for sure! But, your content, as well as a few others are really helping me validate how I am feeling, rather than pushing myself to the point of shingles. Btw- I L💜VE that you mentioned the number synch’s, straight away! As I watch, there are 6,633 views and I am the 444th like! Namaste 🙏 💜✨. 4:40
thank you!!! that is so cool!
Wow! I’m glad you acknowledged the superficial barriers like appearance and going through all the steps to show up in the world as beautiful. I feel like I’m not showing up as myself in videos when my appearance isn’t aligned with my highest beauty. It’s not even about other people’s opinion as much as it is me feeling inauthentic, misaligned , and cringe on camera when I don’t fully have myself together… yet ALL THE STEPS to get myself together 😵💫 I will have to find a middle ground! Thank you so much! 💡🙂🙌🏾
Great video. Thank you for sharing that story about the swan and your own story about cycling burn out in your life. I was never diagnosed with ADHD, but from first grade on the teachers always reported that I was creative but would daydream and not pay attention in class. My grandmother who raised me was an ER nurse, and her friends would say that I needed to be put on Riddlin and meds to make me less hyper. My grandmother didn't believe in using meds unless absolutely necessary, so she gave me tools to help. The night before school she would lay my clothes out to wear, so that I was not overwhelmed in the morning with choices. I would make my bed, so that I finished a task. She would have a daily planner for me and encourage me to finish homework or projects by settling a time limit on how long I would have to focus. She always encouraged fresh air and exercise. So Caren thank you for suggesting more tools that can help us be better.
When I was a child I was very hyperactive, mom would just tie me to the bed to stop me from charging through the house. 😳
Late LATE diagnosis, in my 60s. You are the most relevant ADHD guide that I have found, and I have been seeking info everywhere!! Orchid analogy is beautiful. Thank you so much. And I LOVE that you went for a wig - a practical way to push past insecurity. So cool.
I really needed to hear what you had to say in this video. I'm currently in that burnout phase and have lost all ability to appear/function as a neurotypical person. It's like I've been reverted back to when I was a child, just before my diagnosis and functioning at all is exponentially harder and requires vastly more energy.
I'm floundering while trying to manage this full-blown ADHD and I know it. I currently feel like a pilot dropped into a machine that they've barely been taught how to use, yet is expected to operate said machine to the same degree as someone well-trained & fully experienced in operating it; all the pilot can do is sit there staring at the controls as panic, fear and a sense of overwhelm builds as they try to figure out what to do and how to do the task. During this period of burnout it's like I'm looking through someone else's eyes because I'm in someone else's body.
I’m so sorry. Also this is such description of what it’s like. Hope we both feel better soon and get the right help xx
Ugh, all of this. Love it. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. I wish I could voice note because I feel SO MUCH resonance around the insecurity with my hair after covid. It’s fried & has thinned out…like, the whole piece you talked about in regards to prepping for video content. I feel you, sister!
Thank you so much!
I just discovered your videos the other day they are beyond helpful and giving me what I need to get my ADHD under control
Thank you my life finally makes sense ❤
WOAH this is possibly the most impactful video I have seen on UA-cam! Thank you for sharing the story (going to look it up) and your transparency about your hair journey. All the best!
I love that you came up with a creative solution to your barrier and totally owned it. BRAVO!. I'll try and take a leaf out of your book.
your hair looks amazing!
Thank you!!
Your videos are providing me so much insight. Showing me which coping techniques I have been using already. Not even knowing they were coping techniques. Also, understanding why I find functioning in certain situations extremely difficult. Thank you for your work making the videos.🙏🙏🙏
Wholeheartedness - OMG that made me all emotional here! That makes so much sense for me now!! I'm discovering some new hobbies very fulfilling and that is what describes the best what I feel when in those moments.
You have such a calming, clear voice. Thank you for sharing your hair story & your solution! I don’t have the same problem, but empathize 100%, making me think about pinpointing and confronting my own barriers.
OMG the wig … I would never have guessed! As a thin hair person this is great. Lovely story. As a singer songwriter thanks for showing me where I’m being held up! The preparation… all the stuff I have to do to write , record… and then the overwhelm… 💞
Thank you for the work you put out! I’ve struggled a lot in my early adult years and your content gives me hope and encouragement to keep growing and discovering myself.
Wowwww! You definitely pinged me! 🥰
I love this part: Falling in awkwardly and gracefully receiving those waters!
(I was definitely burnt out at my day job so awkward and felt out of place. But since that gig has ended I can focus on my YT channel! I also just learned I have adhd sooo it feels really awkward getting in the water but also it feels right! 😅✨
This is great!
I'm almost 38 and we have 3 (also neurospicy) kids (6,9 and 10) and I feel like I'm treading water and I'm exhausted. Your video put into words what I've been desiring but can't quite achieve. I keep telling myself I'm almost to the tipping point of finally "arriving" but I just have to keep pushing a bit longer. Well, it's been about 11 years, and I am mentally exhausted. I'm going to focus on steering towards my ideal environment and life and pushing harder than ever. I need to find my pond (no clue where or what that is going to be) but I can cut out what I know I want less of in life for now ❤
Caren I have to say to you that’s the first time I cried listening to a complete stranger on UA-cam, as your whole video touched me so deeply, and I need to thank you, I will be reaching out to you as I feel like I’m entering into that burn out phase and I need to find some solutions. Anyway, your realness and transparency gives permission for us watching, to appreciate ourselves no matter what…and to be open to alternative ways to getting us closer to our goals❤ I love your hair!!!!
thank you!! It's a wig btw :)
i love watching this vid because this is exactly how my brain processes and how i speak outloud
That's a beautiful poem, and amazing story. Lovely way to express the idea.
This is just soooo profound. I have a full time job and a side hustle and been lately procrastinating... The barrier was getting ready or getting started.
Thank you for your honestly and vulnerability. I have found a lot of strength in your message today (both seeing your strength and glimpsing my own), and I am truly grateful to you for that. 🙏
Thank you so much for this video. I was looking into ADHD burnout for a while now but I never found anything more helpful than what you just said. I'm currently setting up my own UA-cam channel but keep procrastinating for the exact reasons you just talked about. Thank you again for the information.
Love this video! I’ve been feeling this message for a while. I’m still trying to figure out “my thing.” Thank you!
You're so welcome!
I just discovered this channel and just loving it. I love how authentic you are. I resonated with so much in this video. Sincerely. Thank you for being just a beautiful soul and sharing your light.
I'm too lazy/tired to type up everything I'm feeling
Just to say, this hits the spot
You are definitely a beautiful orchid. Listening to this story really resonated with me. I'm in a vicious weight cycle. I'm in so much pain most days, which detours me from exercise. I need to exercise to do what I used to love, rehab dogs. I know it's small steps but and that's where procrastination comes in. I need to take the time to schedule schedule my small steps.
Thank you
Wish i could like this vid more than once :) If only more of youtube could be as genuine, profound yet simple, positive and inspiring like this, thank you :)
You're the best! Thank you!
I am so grateful I've found your channel. You're so relatable
So many good and healing analogies here. ❤ Thank you, very relevant to the ADHD experience… I would’ve never known that was a wig, looks totally natural and beautiful
You are so correct. I know that I am doing what makes me happy. I need to focus and work to find my path
This was so useful to me! I've been promoted at my job and it is taking up extra large amounts of time for various reasons. I enjoy it but it isn't my passion. My passion has been on the back burner while I try and learn how to do my new position at work. I need to spend more time on my passion, even for 5 minutes a day, and then I know that'll help me feel less burned out.
OMG I've always thought of myself as a Mermaid 🧜♀️ and absolutely love the swan story ( & analogy!) Its so true - we will feel clumsy when not in our true element...finding grace in how we get back to that is a learned art for sure!
Then to hear your beautiful - thought provoking flower metaphor.!?! Girl you are speaking my language! 🏵🌸 I am a Tulip 🌷and knowing how to live in a world of dandelions hasn't always been easy - especially with ADHD- feeling exhausted was almost becoming an everyday pattern for me...I love how you encourage amongst it all to simply be your authentic self! Be an orchid, Lily or a Tulip in a world of dandelions or even weeds! Anyway thank you! I just stumbled upon you and absolutely love you! While I'm not a follower by nature- Consider me your newest subscriber!! ❤😉🥰🫶
I'd commented earlier before sering the end section. Your hair dilemma and solution is so inspiring - thank you for being so open and honest about this. And thank you for finding your way to continue giving us this fantastic content ❤
Hi Caren, I just wanted to say a huge thank you for your work. I am going through a hugely transitional time, with some big decisions. I have been diagnosed for a few years, but never been able to access any ADHD specific help. Your videos have resonated with me so deeply and helped me so much. This one in particular brought me to tears and really helped me see my dilemma in a clear light. We do need specific environments to thrive and that’s something worth fighting for. It’s ok to own that and let the water take us rather than beating ourselves up. I have a strong connection to water and have also been seeing 11:11 a lot. I’ve also been losing hair after COVID and struggle a lot with this when trying to motivate to show up in life (something that brings me joy), so all of the examples you used here were spot on for my life. Thank you for the guidance and encouragement.
You are so welcome.
That was my barrier when I created FB lives and created jewelry as well. The work it took to get it all ready was my reason for ending the thing I loved to do most. I loved your transparency I am not alone, I am going to rethink how to get my groove back. Thank you.
I relate 100% to so much of your content. I've been watching your videos periodically over the last few weeks, and you have been able to translate (into words) exactly how I feel, my struggles, my ideas, etc. I'm 44-years old, divorced, no children, and a healthcare provider who ironically "treats" ADHD, yet have never been diagnosed myself. I'm 100% positive of my diagnosis, but for some reason I have allowed shame or imposter syndrome or embarrassment prevent me from seeking help from another provider. I'm working on that... not quite there, have a lot of inner work to do. Anyways.... I never comment on videos, but just had to let you know how inspiring and relatable you have been for me. And a side note... I too am recently having issues with my hair, thinning, not growing, brittle, easily damaged. The stress of aging is beginning to affect me in ways I never expected. It takes me so long to get ready, I over analyze, and sometimes I'd just rather not get ready at all. I have considered wigs as a potential "assistant" when my ugly hair has me paralyzed, but I have no clue where to buy them and what to look for. Do you have recommendations on a website or store? Or educational resources about how to choose a wig? I don't have instagram or any social media, just watch utube from time to time. Thank you so much for everything you do, you are a true blessing.
Thank you so much for the kind words! I bought my wig and a few toppers from wigs.com and another place - can't remember the name. Search for wig reviews here on youtube! There are lots. I am LOVING wearing a wig!
I hope you are able to get yourself diagnosed. You deserve the clarity you give your patients :)
Wow never would have known it was a wig
Love you and your content so much!! You really are an inspirational person and make me and I am sure so many others not feel so alone with our ADHD. It can really feel debilitating at times, and you truly have shone this light on it that I couldn’t see before, so thank you so much 😊
Learning out loud - love it. And the swan/water, wholeheartedness vs rot on the vine - amazing beautiful imagery and advice. Thank you for sharing ❤
This really spoke to me. I often get pressured into using talents that I have that don't work for me at all. My personality is not geared that way. I am always driven to one direction and feel guilty for it because others think I should be doing something else but it always burns me out.
I was really moved by the excerpt you read about the swan, that David Whyte wrote in his piece. Never heard it before & I didn’t expect to, but I cried while listening to it. It gave me an understanding of why sometimes I feel I make myself be so much more to everyone around me, which is also a good inner feeling, but also I feel so exhausted in doing so, at times. I am a nurse in a busy emergency room, a wife to a wonderful man and a mother of three wonderful children. I’ve struggled with feeling exhausted, adhd & also just the raw feeling of whether I am enough. One thing I pulled from Mr Whyte’s message, for myself was that the swan has an ease about it, a poise and purpose. Something I resonated with in this passage was that while the swan is effortlessly being carried on still or occasionally turbulent waters, it’s focus is always true. Some say a swan is a symbol of purity, some could argue she’s more a symbol of strength and perseverance. While exhausted, it still cares for its babies, still endures whatever waters are present. I loved the excerpt you read & just wanted to say thank you for giving this beautiful adjunct to your content. It definitely resonated with me and profoundly
I was moved when I first heard it too. It really touches a cord, doesn't it?
WOW Caren, you have shocked me once again. I know this is a year old, but it just came into my feed.
The level of vulnerability, intimacy and integrity you just showed is astounding, seriously.
I believe it takes true courage to talk the way you do, especially in this video. You're a truly inspiring person, thank you for your honesty.
thank you so much!
Just found your channel. I was diagnosed three years ago at the age of 50. There have been many ups and downs since that time. Just when I think I have a handle on it, it wreaks havoc wiith me and I end up back in counsleling because I get so frustrated that I just don't know what to do. Seeing your content, along with others, has helped me realize why I am they way that I am. It gives me hope and I really feel like I am on another upswing. Thank you for making me feel like I am not as broken as I feel sometimes. It's a daily fight with myself. Recognizing this and finding new tools really helps though. ❤
This hit me on the head too. I so relate - thank you. 🙂
Thank you so much for this video. As always i could really relate to this. Your hair is beautiful- wig or not! ❤️ -Priya
Thank you so much, Pryia!
Been watching your videos im like look at her hair she doesn’t have any problems. Im glad you told us its a wig. i was like i really need to do something with my hair ughh her hair looks perfect . God bless
I so needed this today. I see 11:11 all the time and wonder the meaning for myself. I feel so all over the place all the time. This was very grounding and I look forward to unpacking these questions! Thanks for what you do! I am so happy to have found you! 💕
11:11 = Pray for Israel 🙏
Great video. I'm 63 and adhd makes us interest and novelty driven so we get burnt out by boredom and pressures to be what others want. Your hair looks so cute and natural.
I’ve just found you a few days ago and I swear you have looked into my life/mind and have described it to a T! Such an aha! I am now going to get tested, just for confirmation. I really don’t want to take anything for it so thank you for sharing your stories and systems.
Boy! This is exactly right on time information for me, thank you so much Caren! Reframing my to-do tasks by approaching those barriers to entry instead of calling myself lazy and unmotivated is gold!!!! It's the self-care things that have me waddling awkwardly on the ground. Gotta find my pond and ease into the flow! Much needed, bless you!
Love your work, thank you - diagnosed my 50s, I always wondered why it was so hard to do things even things i love but your short point about the barriers has made a big difference to me. Thank you
I have just recently come across your videos and I wanted to thank you. Your messages are so thought provoking, meaningful and really help me to put my life and how I function into perspective. I’ve spent the majority of my life beating myself up for the way I am-often feeling I have to apologize or make up for it somehow. I know you were talking about your hair when you said you almost needed permission to use a wig to overcome the barrier holding you back from showing up fully. Obstacles definitely slow our progress forward as ADHDers. You may have been talking about a wig, but it made me think about my own barriers to doing the work I’ve been called to do and ask myself what “wig” can I put on to overcome my own barriers?
My point really, is that the work you’re doing has been a blessing to me, so thank you for the effort and time you put into it so it’s accessible. We all need encouragement and to be seen and understood. And you have been that for me. Thank you 😊
SAME. OMG SAME. I was fortunate to have found my passion. However, I've still dealt with burnout. This week, I've been obsessively ruminating over whether my passion is what's burning me or if it's stuff in-general. And if it's the latter, then how I'd need to situate my life so that I can still thrive in times of burnout.
not sure what i can do wholeheartedly, but thank you for the vid!
Wigs are such a life saver! I have been wearing them for years now, but only the last 2 years for work. And while I do have long hair, my executive dysfunction sometimes makes it impossible for me to bleach, dye, and style my hair. It's honestly such a time saver you pretty much always have perfect hair! I have usually 2 pretty exact wigs I rotate through at a time, helps in between cleanings, in case of emergency. Highly recommend! Great ADHD/executive dysfunction/depression hack.
I never would have guessed it was a wig!! It looks so natural and compliments your natural beauty perfectly ❤
I could not tell it was a wig! I've wanted to get one. Love it. Great video, it hit home on many levels. Thank you. Your authenticity is your gift. We are listening.
burst into tears. thank you.
im a musician working a part time job as a janitor. got diagnosed with adhd last week. I was questioning myself thinking "oh i should just go into AI and learn to code." being half OUT of music. but i want to go all in.!!!
We might as well do what we love because
they say
"everything will kill you, might as well choose something fun."
I love this so much. I recently went through some physical, mental, and emotional traumas and have been shortcutting my way through life lately to remove barriers and get out of the burnout cycle. I love how this was an outside of the box kind of solution. Thank you for sharing!
Just watching your channel and can see the energy you put out. Living with ADHD/OCD my whole life. I can feel the other side when it all stops.
On/Off Zero middle ground. Keep up the good work ❤👍🏾
I woke up as I do unfortunately oftentimes recently, filled with dread and guilt. I’ve been binging videos on how to get out of this including a few of your own but the only one that’s made me feel lighter is this one. I am a vibrant, energized, extremely productive person when it’s something I care about. But lately life has been pretty hard to get through because nothing is sparking my interest. Thank you for this and the bit about the wig. I’m considering getting one because I struggle with my hair so much and it does effect my entire mood
I just recently found your channel and I have to say: I am absolutely loving every aspect of you, the way you're showing up in the world, and your message. Thank you ♥
Great video. I can completely relate to this as some one with suspected ADHD and ASD in the latter stages of life realising that there is still the possibility of finding that place to flourish. After 60 years of life I now see that there is no point in trying to make the Neuro typical world work for me
i suppose this video popping up in my feed is my own 11:11 moment - exactly what i needed at this moment in time. thank you for your courage to continue sharing with us!
Thanks Caren! So refreshing to watch your video and be able to relate instead of the feeling we can usually have of being an outcast. Beautiful poem and analogy.
Your videos are helping me so much! I've been having great difficulty finding practical tools/information to use in my everyday life so I can thrive when accomplishing my goals and your channel is like a one stop shop. Thanks for taking the time to create content that we can use to fulfill our visions and live out our life purpose. 😍
Thank you so much for sharing this!! It means the world to me.
Flip side of whole heartedness: I've never found work I enjoy. What makes it easier to stick with work for another hour/day/month, is two pieces of paper. The first is propped up where I can see it on the regular. "Happy, Motivated, Grateful for Work." Reading it helps my heart be more whole. The other is a list of every benefit of working this job. I read it when I think work is too much to suffer. Again, it helps flip the glass to half full.
❤ oh how I can relate. May you (and I) be blessed with peace and joy.
I just yesterday signed up for your emails and was considering buying some of your products but this whole symbolism, angels, magical thinking, universe thing is making me rethink that. I really hope it's a joke!!!
Nope, not a joke.
I'm in a position where I'm working full-time while also attending classes at a local community college. That stuff really wears me down, and with my day job being in retail, I've realized for a while now that my circumstances really aren't satisfying me at my core. Slowing down the process to where I can relish the small moments helps to an extent, but I'd say that my professional perspective has shifted away from what's currently in front of me. Some may say that the path towards creating a more fulfilling life for me has taken too long; why should I care about that? Why do I still get annoyed when people say that? I can't help the fact that things move slower simply because I have ADHD; I have to be able to accommodate myself in all factors of life. Thank you for sharing this powerful video! ❤
Wow…this resonated so deeply. I am shocked that another separate brain could describe my internal battle so well. I have been so misaligned with my work environments and way of life for so many years and I am now at the point of rotting on the vine. I am in a place where I do not belong, dealing with so many people who are incapable of sharing my values and perspectives, in a system that I don’t believe in. I have been burned out for years and stuck in survival mode. Wholeheartedness. I have rarely experienced my power and I have so much knowledge with no outlet. Not being able to remember anything or keep track of anything makes me feel trapped in my own mind. Anyway…thank you for sharing. I need this story.
Thank you, Caren, this video is rather helpful, profound and interesting as it is. Self help to self regulating I find to always be an uphill battle, as is finding the exact culprits that trigger certain areas or defines more specific ADHD/ADD problem zones. To me the wholeheartedness of ones direction of life as well as spreading yourself too thin struck very deep as I have been having thoughts around this already. But your video simply nailed it! And thank you for giving so much of yourself to us out here :o) Best wishes, Felix
as someone who justed started on doing YT videos on ADHD while having the feeling to burn out i could really feel this! although its fun to me it too exhausting right now and i cant build up that YT energy that it takes. thanks for sharing :)
My pleasure! Go at your own pace, for sure.
Not estoteric at all. Beautiful and exactly what I needed, thank you so much for sharing.
Oh girl this was awesome! Today was the first day I started searching UA-cam for how to actually work with my adhd after being diagnosed in 2007 & only taking a prescription & thinking that’s it. I have just started scratching the surface of understanding it. You & I are so similar it seems. Background in psychology, worked in corporate & speaking & some other things but as you were talking during this video & the last I just watched (I’m binging lol) I wrote down the things that light me up that I’m great at that could be career potential & in a few minutes I already had 15 things! Awesome but terrifying right? 😂 Also, it’s actually a deep down secret of mine that I want to do UA-cam as well & have for years. My entire excuse is after recovering from sickness the last 3 years I’ve gained weight (not pretty imo like I used to believe I was, my hair thinned as well & bc I had kidney failure my teeth have weakened and I have a few small chips visible up close & it could be a while before I could repair them. I realize how crazy this sounds bc I have fav channels where the person wouldn’t be considered “attractive” at all by society’s screwed up standards! My fear is like you mentioned, I’m always great on the creative end. Terrible on technical stuff. Hate it. So I fear I could lack discipline. Photography is another. I have everything & am very talented but can’t bring myself to set up a license and figure out a business plan etc. How do you also chose what lights you up that also pairs up well with the backend that’s not adhd. And with the 16 other things, how do you narrow them down? Or do you try to blend? I’m so happy I found your channel tonight!
I had been wondering if you were wearing a wig, and I don’t say that to draw attention to the fact that you are. But just because I’ve been struggling with my own hair lately and really beating myself up about it.
I just turned 40, I’m medically in menopause because of endometriosis, and I’m on different medications that make me unusually sweaty, which makes my curly-ish hair frizz no matter how much I fight to smooth it out. The minute I leave the house, my scalp is sweating and I’m a poofball. When you shared that you’re wearing a hair piece, I found myself getting choked up because sometimes it takes someone outside ourselves to remind us that the shame we feel is completely unnecessary. All I feel for you is proud that you found a solution that works so well-and if I can feel so much goodness toward you, maybe I can stop giving myself a hard time with the effects of my own health and age related issues. Thank you for your vulnerability-I need it today.
I love your channel. Your videos are so incredibly valuable, keep it up!
Hugs to you. I know what you mean.
I appreciate yo vulnerability here. Especially about your hair. ❤You look beautiful but even more beauty shines from inside to out
Thank you for the wig permission!! I have so many that just sit there for fear of being judged…