I really needed to hear what you had to say in this video. I'm currently in that burnout phase and have lost all ability to appear/function as a neurotypical person. It's like I've been reverted back to when I was a child, just before my diagnosis and functioning at all is exponentially harder and requires vastly more energy. I'm floundering while trying to manage this full-blown ADHD and I know it. I currently feel like a pilot dropped into a machine that they've barely been taught how to use, yet is expected to operate said machine to the same degree as someone well-trained & fully experienced in operating it; all the pilot can do is sit there staring at the controls as panic, fear and a sense of overwhelm builds as they try to figure out what to do and how to do the task. During this period of burnout it's like I'm looking through someone else's eyes because I'm in someone else's body.
Diagnosed at 46. Corporate job changed to remote after Covid, got stuck in FL, all belongings still in storage up north. Living solo, my 2 pups passed backed to back, and so much more.. become completely paralyzed, physically unable to work complete tasks, walked away. Year later today, I found my pond. I’m in motion of creating a clay earring business and look forward everyday to create beautiful jewelry and attend vendor markets. Thank you for today’s and all your content. It has really helped me understand me and why and how to own it and best navigate my life despite the hard criticism I’ve recently received.
What was the main thing that helped you? I'm currently in pretty much the same problem as you were. Working remotely in new job and I feel completly paralyzed by tasks. While working from office I was super productive.
I used to have so much confidence to be my own person… but my current burnout cycle has caused me to completely 180 😢. The swan story spoke to me in a very profound way, so thank you!!!!
Great video! The story you read brought tears to my eyes, it resonated so much. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 38 and it suddenly explained why I had been struggling my whole life just to function, and why I kept falling into burnout cycles. I would see so many of my friends who could just power through hard tasks or crappy jobs and I couldn't figure out why I wasn't able do the same. My body would literally rebel and I would either become sick or get steamrolled by crippling fatigue. I think my biggest challenge now is to feel ok about being as picky and as particular as I need to be to make sure I'm creating that very specific environment that I require in order to thrive. Often I feel like I'm excessively inconveniencing others or risking being labeled as "too needy" when I have to self advocate. This feels very scary, especially in the context of my profession and professional relationships where my livelihood could be at risk if people decide I'm too much of a hassle to work with. Working through that fear is definitely a journey. Anyway, thanks again for this video, it was my "ping" from the universe today (I'm also a woo and a half. 😉😄). Have a great New Year!
Ditto for me. How r u managing now.. did u read some books or videos to help reduce burnout and improve professional life. Ditto around me people have progressed in their jobs but for me heart or mind or body give up… like I think I need to be totally detached to the feelings that come from the job but that’s not possible it’s like a life system change.
I was diagnosed at 50 and as I learned more about ADHD I had quite a few ah ha moments, five years later I still do. I changed my profession because the one I was in was not sustainable for me. I am lucky that I have landed in a field where I am able to help others with disabilities/differences and where I am also supported. I have had to learn to say no to people and be protective of the rest I need in order to maintain good health. If you share with people why you are making requests and they learn it is to keep your health in check, I think people will be understanding and will do what they can to meet you at least half way. Stay well.
I was a teacher for 22 years because I felt joy being around kids but I wasn’t happy because being a classroom teacher was restrictive, demanding and hard with undiagnosed ADD. I left and started working for myself and I LOVE it! I am doing fun things to make money with several streams of income. I teach kids who are outside the box like me in evenings and during the day I go into schools with my hula hoop program and plan rests and days off when I need it. Find your passion and turn it into your job and you will thrive!
I loved when you said, ‘we are built for the water’. Yes, absolutely. I love being near water whether it’s the sea, river, lake, stream, pond or big puddle. It’s calming and refreshing and there are times when I crave being near water. Thank you.
I would have never guessed you were wearing a wig. You are a gorgeous person inside and out! Thank you for making this content for all of us with ADHD, or with someone in our lives who has ADHD.
I was touched by the story of the swan. I am truly an orchid, and I need "my people", and without the right water and the right people, I do not thrive. Thank you for sharing your own story and before you said anything, I thought to myself, her hair is beautiful.
Love your video. I'm 70 and have been so sad I spent most my life not knowing what you have educated us on. I'm a survivor so will get through this. I take pain medication for pain , was diagnosed years ago but not one doctor, and I have many, ever pay any attention to it you are the only one who has opened my eyes. Thank you and god bless.
Awesome! I have ADHD and I live on water, on a boat! I also believe I may well be living the half-life told in the story. I live in a cycle of survive crash survive crash. I need to find my path to thrive but it’s scary stepping off a familiar path even if it’s harming you. Thank you, a brilliant video. ❤
Wholeheartedness - OMG that made me all emotional here! That makes so much sense for me now!! I'm discovering some new hobbies very fulfilling and that is what describes the best what I feel when in those moments.
I’m only discovering like within the last couple weeks really and it hit me like a bombshell yesterday that I most likely have ADHD. I struggle with basic life management so hard and everybody thinks I’m just a hot mess but really I’m trying so hard. I found your channel last night and already I’m finding such insight I didn’t know about me. I look forward to watching more of your videos. Thank you for being so open and honest and real for people like me who need this reality.
💯!!! My wife has indicated on numerous times that I have ADHD bad! I’m 54 and never have been diagnosed, but I resonate with all of the signs and everything you have discussed. You popped up on my feeds and I’m so thankful for you! I never knew why I was the way I am my whole life! Thank you!
The ENTIRE time I was listening to this, I was thinking, “easy for her to say all of these encouraging things when she has hair, that looks like that!” As I sit here, at 52, trying to get ready for work, and using all of my products to regrow hair that has been shedding since menopause started. 😢. You just made my whole day, and I need to find that person you were following, to normalize wearing a wig.
I Valdés from severe anemia - ferritin low dr missed it and thyroid issues. I’m not a doctor - maybe you can find one to check. I’m also post menopausal. Good luck my friend ❤
Just found your channel tonight - absolutely loving your content. I only discovered this year (at 59) that I may have ADHD after talking to some other women who have been diagnosed over 50. I loved the message of getting into the water - I really relate to this.
Great story to share. There’s a relief to back out of the sense of hyper-responsibility (sometimes my over-thinking self puts me in a false power spot), then I make sure I don’t descend into an equally unbalanced sense of shame or depression (also overthinking?)--bottom line--recover my sense of gratitude and devotion. Not just once a day, but kinda constantly! It’s hard!
🙋♀️🙋♀️ fully happened to me last week where I literally got to work and sat in my car crying for 30 minutes because I just couldn’t even fathom going in. ( I genuinely love my job but every so often I just get tired of everything)
I am so inspired by the way that you own your neurodivergence! Thank you for sharing your experiences and gifts with all of us! I’m going through the ADHD burnout cycle, as is my ADHD spectrum daughter. It’s a lot, for sure! But, your content, as well as a few others are really helping me validate how I am feeling, rather than pushing myself to the point of shingles. Btw- I L💜VE that you mentioned the number synch’s, straight away! As I watch, there are 6,633 views and I am the 444th like! Namaste 🙏 💜✨. 4:40
WOAH this is possibly the most impactful video I have seen on UA-cam! Thank you for sharing the story (going to look it up) and your transparency about your hair journey. All the best!
Great video. Thank you for sharing that story about the swan and your own story about cycling burn out in your life. I was never diagnosed with ADHD, but from first grade on the teachers always reported that I was creative but would daydream and not pay attention in class. My grandmother who raised me was an ER nurse, and her friends would say that I needed to be put on Riddlin and meds to make me less hyper. My grandmother didn't believe in using meds unless absolutely necessary, so she gave me tools to help. The night before school she would lay my clothes out to wear, so that I was not overwhelmed in the morning with choices. I would make my bed, so that I finished a task. She would have a daily planner for me and encourage me to finish homework or projects by settling a time limit on how long I would have to focus. She always encouraged fresh air and exercise. So Caren thank you for suggesting more tools that can help us be better.
Coming to this one late and it hits hard. I KNOW what my pond is & if I didn't have bills to pay I would play in it all day - but it's nearly impossible to make a career so I always feel divided between what pays the bills & what I really want to be doing. And what pays the bills (freelance writing) is as close to what I want to be doing (novel writing) as I can get until a miracle happens - because in publishing you pretty much need a miracle to be successful. I've felt this way for the last three years & it has me dancing in and out of burnout & short of winning the lottery so I can just focus on my books, it feels like nothing will ever get me the rest of the way into my passion.
Great video, wonderful analogy. Regarding your hair: when a person is drowning, and somebody throws them a lifeline, the drowning person is not focused on the shoes of the person saving them. Or their hair. Or anything else. They are focused on the lifeline. Thank you for throwing the lifeline. ❤
Your smile radiates such positivity and warmth-it's truly uplifting. Thank you for sharing such a unique and insightful perspective; it encourages all of us to pause and reflect deeply. The poem, the incidents and the ping thing... I really appreciate the effort you put into preparing and curating such meaningful content. Thanks for doing what you love the most- Creating Podcasts to inform and inspire all of us. Imagine if you put all of your energy into who you are... just lovely.
Hi Caren, thank you so much for sharing this poem. I completely relate and feel like the man in this story. I work a 9-5 and it feels worthless to me, especially lately. It’s not something I’m excited about or can easily feel like giving my wholeheartedness to. I feel like im burning out not from overdoing it, but from not thriving. However, I also have no idea what else to do which is the biggest struggle for me. I hope I figure it out! 😊
I just discovered this channel and just loving it. I love how authentic you are. I resonated with so much in this video. Sincerely. Thank you for being just a beautiful soul and sharing your light.
Hi Caren, I just wanted to say a huge thank you for your work. I am going through a hugely transitional time, with some big decisions. I have been diagnosed for a few years, but never been able to access any ADHD specific help. Your videos have resonated with me so deeply and helped me so much. This one in particular brought me to tears and really helped me see my dilemma in a clear light. We do need specific environments to thrive and that’s something worth fighting for. It’s ok to own that and let the water take us rather than beating ourselves up. I have a strong connection to water and have also been seeing 11:11 a lot. I’ve also been losing hair after COVID and struggle a lot with this when trying to motivate to show up in life (something that brings me joy), so all of the examples you used here were spot on for my life. Thank you for the guidance and encouragement.
Thank you so much for this video. I was looking into ADHD burnout for a while now but I never found anything more helpful than what you just said. I'm currently setting up my own UA-cam channel but keep procrastinating for the exact reasons you just talked about. Thank you again for the information.
Wow! I’m glad you acknowledged the superficial barriers like appearance and going through all the steps to show up in the world as beautiful. I feel like I’m not showing up as myself in videos when my appearance isn’t aligned with my highest beauty. It’s not even about other people’s opinion as much as it is me feeling inauthentic, misaligned , and cringe on camera when I don’t fully have myself together… yet ALL THE STEPS to get myself together 😵💫 I will have to find a middle ground! Thank you so much! 💡🙂🙌🏾
You have such a calming, clear voice. Thank you for sharing your hair story & your solution! I don’t have the same problem, but empathize 100%, making me think about pinpointing and confronting my own barriers.
Late LATE diagnosis, in my 60s. You are the most relevant ADHD guide that I have found, and I have been seeking info everywhere!! Orchid analogy is beautiful. Thank you so much. And I LOVE that you went for a wig - a practical way to push past insecurity. So cool.
Great video, your transparency is so refreshing I can sadly totally relate to this, especially the burnout cycle. I realised a while ago, I have number if items I can manage in my life. When somthing new is added to the list, something else needs to go, if that makes sense. I keep my life as simple as I can; it's not a simple thing to do for a working Mammy & it's still very much work in progress . How you are embracing your ADHD strengths and weaknesses is really inspiring keep up your great work Sister . Love your hair. 💚 🦢🦢🦢💚
i suppose this video popping up in my feed is my own 11:11 moment - exactly what i needed at this moment in time. thank you for your courage to continue sharing with us!
Ugh, all of this. Love it. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. I wish I could voice note because I feel SO MUCH resonance around the insecurity with my hair after covid. It’s fried & has thinned out…like, the whole piece you talked about in regards to prepping for video content. I feel you, sister!
Thank you for your honestly and vulnerability. I have found a lot of strength in your message today (both seeing your strength and glimpsing my own), and I am truly grateful to you for that. 🙏
WOW Caren, you have shocked me once again. I know this is a year old, but it just came into my feed. The level of vulnerability, intimacy and integrity you just showed is astounding, seriously. I believe it takes true courage to talk the way you do, especially in this video. You're a truly inspiring person, thank you for your honesty.
The Antidote to ADHD Exhaustion | Burnout Intervention. 16.7.24. I'm like..like really tired and your angelic good luck has not altered this.......good luck. I need to think of something profound before I can rest?
I have just recently come across your videos and I wanted to thank you. Your messages are so thought provoking, meaningful and really help me to put my life and how I function into perspective. I’ve spent the majority of my life beating myself up for the way I am-often feeling I have to apologize or make up for it somehow. I know you were talking about your hair when you said you almost needed permission to use a wig to overcome the barrier holding you back from showing up fully. Obstacles definitely slow our progress forward as ADHDers. You may have been talking about a wig, but it made me think about my own barriers to doing the work I’ve been called to do and ask myself what “wig” can I put on to overcome my own barriers? My point really, is that the work you’re doing has been a blessing to me, so thank you for the effort and time you put into it so it’s accessible. We all need encouragement and to be seen and understood. And you have been that for me. Thank you 😊
Boy! This is exactly right on time information for me, thank you so much Caren! Reframing my to-do tasks by approaching those barriers to entry instead of calling myself lazy and unmotivated is gold!!!! It's the self-care things that have me waddling awkwardly on the ground. Gotta find my pond and ease into the flow! Much needed, bless you!
burst into tears. thank you. im a musician working a part time job as a janitor. got diagnosed with adhd last week. I was questioning myself thinking "oh i should just go into AI and learn to code." being half OUT of music. but i want to go all in.!!! We might as well do what we love because they say "everything will kill you, might as well choose something fun."
I just recently found your channel and I have to say: I am absolutely loving every aspect of you, the way you're showing up in the world, and your message. Thank you ♥
Love you and your content so much!! You really are an inspirational person and make me and I am sure so many others not feel so alone with our ADHD. It can really feel debilitating at times, and you truly have shone this light on it that I couldn’t see before, so thank you so much 😊
I'd commented earlier before sering the end section. Your hair dilemma and solution is so inspiring - thank you for being so open and honest about this. And thank you for finding your way to continue giving us this fantastic content ❤
Thank you for the work you put out! I’ve struggled a lot in my early adult years and your content gives me hope and encouragement to keep growing and discovering myself.
Your videos are providing me so much insight. Showing me which coping techniques I have been using already. Not even knowing they were coping techniques. Also, understanding why I find functioning in certain situations extremely difficult. Thank you for your work making the videos.🙏🙏🙏
This is great! I'm almost 38 and we have 3 (also neurospicy) kids (6,9 and 10) and I feel like I'm treading water and I'm exhausted. Your video put into words what I've been desiring but can't quite achieve. I keep telling myself I'm almost to the tipping point of finally "arriving" but I just have to keep pushing a bit longer. Well, it's been about 11 years, and I am mentally exhausted. I'm going to focus on steering towards my ideal environment and life and pushing harder than ever. I need to find my pond (no clue where or what that is going to be) but I can cut out what I know I want less of in life for now ❤
I love this so much. I recently went through some physical, mental, and emotional traumas and have been shortcutting my way through life lately to remove barriers and get out of the burnout cycle. I love how this was an outside of the box kind of solution. Thank you for sharing!
This was so useful to me! I've been promoted at my job and it is taking up extra large amounts of time for various reasons. I enjoy it but it isn't my passion. My passion has been on the back burner while I try and learn how to do my new position at work. I need to spend more time on my passion, even for 5 minutes a day, and then I know that'll help me feel less burned out.
Wowwww! You definitely pinged me! 🥰 I love this part: Falling in awkwardly and gracefully receiving those waters! (I was definitely burnt out at my day job so awkward and felt out of place. But since that gig has ended I can focus on my YT channel! I also just learned I have adhd sooo it feels really awkward getting in the water but also it feels right! 😅✨
I so needed this today. I see 11:11 all the time and wonder the meaning for myself. I feel so all over the place all the time. This was very grounding and I look forward to unpacking these questions! Thanks for what you do! I am so happy to have found you! 💕
Just found your channel. I was diagnosed three years ago at the age of 50. There have been many ups and downs since that time. Just when I think I have a handle on it, it wreaks havoc wiith me and I end up back in counsleling because I get so frustrated that I just don't know what to do. Seeing your content, along with others, has helped me realize why I am they way that I am. It gives me hope and I really feel like I am on another upswing. Thank you for making me feel like I am not as broken as I feel sometimes. It's a daily fight with myself. Recognizing this and finding new tools really helps though. ❤
This is just soooo profound. I have a full time job and a side hustle and been lately procrastinating... The barrier was getting ready or getting started.
I needed this ping. I've felt burnout as a SAHM when i know my calling is to create in business. I can't be good in all the areas. Add to it, my systems or lack thereof don't support anything I want. I find myself wishing to makeover everything in my life to support my brain. OAN: I found myself admiring your hair and overall beauty, thinking how your hair really suits you prior to you detailing how you needed an alternate solution. This really resonated with me too.
Love your work, thank you - diagnosed my 50s, I always wondered why it was so hard to do things even things i love but your short point about the barriers has made a big difference to me. Thank you
Thanks Caren! So refreshing to watch your video and be able to relate instead of the feeling we can usually have of being an outcast. Beautiful poem and analogy.
This is a fantastic video. It felt like a synchronicity for me. I'm a HS teacher and I LOVE parts of my job and I hate other parts of my job. And I'm exhausted when I get home. So I need to prepare to shift into something where I have more control if how I use my energy... and I foresee public bureaucracies (like public schools) will become increasingly frustrating as the country and world change. I'm 20 years in and I'm 45yo. With that in mind, I'm starting to put the intention out to the Universe that I need to find an alternative trajectory. This video helped me clarify what I'm looking for. In some ways teaching checks the boxes. I just don't know that I was designed for the grind.
Caren I have to say to you that’s the first time I cried listening to a complete stranger on UA-cam, as your whole video touched me so deeply, and I need to thank you, I will be reaching out to you as I feel like I’m entering into that burn out phase and I need to find some solutions. Anyway, your realness and transparency gives permission for us watching, to appreciate ourselves no matter what…and to be open to alternative ways to getting us closer to our goals❤ I love your hair!!!!
Wigs are such a life saver! I have been wearing them for years now, but only the last 2 years for work. And while I do have long hair, my executive dysfunction sometimes makes it impossible for me to bleach, dye, and style my hair. It's honestly such a time saver you pretty much always have perfect hair! I have usually 2 pretty exact wigs I rotate through at a time, helps in between cleanings, in case of emergency. Highly recommend! Great ADHD/executive dysfunction/depression hack.
I just yesterday signed up for your emails and was considering buying some of your products but this whole symbolism, angels, magical thinking, universe thing is making me rethink that. I really hope it's a joke!!!
I could not tell it was a wig! I've wanted to get one. Love it. Great video, it hit home on many levels. Thank you. Your authenticity is your gift. We are listening.
Just watching your channel and can see the energy you put out. Living with ADHD/OCD my whole life. I can feel the other side when it all stops. On/Off Zero middle ground. Keep up the good work ❤👍🏾
You are definitely a beautiful orchid. Listening to this story really resonated with me. I'm in a vicious weight cycle. I'm in so much pain most days, which detours me from exercise. I need to exercise to do what I used to love, rehab dogs. I know it's small steps but and that's where procrastination comes in. I need to take the time to schedule schedule my small steps. Thank you
Been watching your videos im like look at her hair she doesn’t have any problems. Im glad you told us its a wig. i was like i really need to do something with my hair ughh her hair looks perfect . God bless
This really spoke to me. I often get pressured into using talents that I have that don't work for me at all. My personality is not geared that way. I am always driven to one direction and feel guilty for it because others think I should be doing something else but it always burns me out.
You are awesome!! I love your authenticity. I am a content creator and can REALLY relate to so much that you are saying here. I am also 51, going through menopause, just found out I have ADHD so it's been a bit crazy! Thanks for being such an inspiration! I just bought your course from Distraction to Action and look forward to diving into it!
Great video. I'm 63 and adhd makes us interest and novelty driven so we get burnt out by boredom and pressures to be what others want. Your hair looks so cute and natural.
OMG I've always thought of myself as a Mermaid 🧜♀️ and absolutely love the swan story ( & analogy!) Its so true - we will feel clumsy when not in our true element...finding grace in how we get back to that is a learned art for sure! Then to hear your beautiful - thought provoking flower metaphor.!?! Girl you are speaking my language! 🏵🌸 I am a Tulip 🌷and knowing how to live in a world of dandelions hasn't always been easy - especially with ADHD- feeling exhausted was almost becoming an everyday pattern for me...I love how you encourage amongst it all to simply be your authentic self! Be an orchid, Lily or a Tulip in a world of dandelions or even weeds! Anyway thank you! I just stumbled upon you and absolutely love you! While I'm not a follower by nature- Consider me your newest subscriber!! ❤😉🥰🫶
I was really moved by the excerpt you read about the swan, that David Whyte wrote in his piece. Never heard it before & I didn’t expect to, but I cried while listening to it. It gave me an understanding of why sometimes I feel I make myself be so much more to everyone around me, which is also a good inner feeling, but also I feel so exhausted in doing so, at times. I am a nurse in a busy emergency room, a wife to a wonderful man and a mother of three wonderful children. I’ve struggled with feeling exhausted, adhd & also just the raw feeling of whether I am enough. One thing I pulled from Mr Whyte’s message, for myself was that the swan has an ease about it, a poise and purpose. Something I resonated with in this passage was that while the swan is effortlessly being carried on still or occasionally turbulent waters, it’s focus is always true. Some say a swan is a symbol of purity, some could argue she’s more a symbol of strength and perseverance. While exhausted, it still cares for its babies, still endures whatever waters are present. I loved the excerpt you read & just wanted to say thank you for giving this beautiful adjunct to your content. It definitely resonated with me and profoundly
omg thank you so much for being so vulnerable about your hair and how that makes it hard for you to want to record videos. i have unwieldly kinky hair, an extremely high forehead and have struggled all my life with trying to make my hair “work” or be socially acceptable. after covid i have also started losing my hair and my hairline has receded even further naking me feel like an elizabethian queen lol. i really hate wearing wigs because i get overheated so quickly and they itch me like crazy. glad you have found one that looks so natural and is comfortable for you!!
Wish i could like this vid more than once :) If only more of youtube could be as genuine, profound yet simple, positive and inspiring like this, thank you :)
Great Content Caren!!! I am about turning 51 on Friday and made the decision to finally address my ADHD. I'm curious how others addressed it. Medications? Diet? I need to do something..
So many good and healing analogies here. ❤ Thank you, very relevant to the ADHD experience… I would’ve never known that was a wig, looks totally natural and beautiful
I'm in a position where I'm working full-time while also attending classes at a local community college. That stuff really wears me down, and with my day job being in retail, I've realized for a while now that my circumstances really aren't satisfying me at my core. Slowing down the process to where I can relish the small moments helps to an extent, but I'd say that my professional perspective has shifted away from what's currently in front of me. Some may say that the path towards creating a more fulfilling life for me has taken too long; why should I care about that? Why do I still get annoyed when people say that? I can't help the fact that things move slower simply because I have ADHD; I have to be able to accommodate myself in all factors of life. Thank you for sharing this powerful video! ❤
I woke up as I do unfortunately oftentimes recently, filled with dread and guilt. I’ve been binging videos on how to get out of this including a few of your own but the only one that’s made me feel lighter is this one. I am a vibrant, energized, extremely productive person when it’s something I care about. But lately life has been pretty hard to get through because nothing is sparking my interest. Thank you for this and the bit about the wig. I’m considering getting one because I struggle with my hair so much and it does effect my entire mood
Wow, this video was right on time for me! ADHD can sometimes be demoralizing; I chronically feel like I'm supposed to be doing more no matter how hard I try. I really liked the swan story. Now I just need to find the pond that's right for me and glide! Thanks for sharing your ADHD experience. By the way, you look great. With or without makeup, and with or without a wig. Please don't feel self-conscious. I have rosacea (chronic inflammatory skin condition) on my cheeks, which basically makes me look like I'm blushing. It makes feel a little self-conscious sometimes, but I'm learning to roll with it. I wear a rosy shade of lipstick and hope cheeks look like I have blush on them! lol
I relate 100% to so much of your content. I've been watching your videos periodically over the last few weeks, and you have been able to translate (into words) exactly how I feel, my struggles, my ideas, etc. I'm 44-years old, divorced, no children, and a healthcare provider who ironically "treats" ADHD, yet have never been diagnosed myself. I'm 100% positive of my diagnosis, but for some reason I have allowed shame or imposter syndrome or embarrassment prevent me from seeking help from another provider. I'm working on that... not quite there, have a lot of inner work to do. Anyways.... I never comment on videos, but just had to let you know how inspiring and relatable you have been for me. And a side note... I too am recently having issues with my hair, thinning, not growing, brittle, easily damaged. The stress of aging is beginning to affect me in ways I never expected. It takes me so long to get ready, I over analyze, and sometimes I'd just rather not get ready at all. I have considered wigs as a potential "assistant" when my ugly hair has me paralyzed, but I have no clue where to buy them and what to look for. Do you have recommendations on a website or store? Or educational resources about how to choose a wig? I don't have instagram or any social media, just watch utube from time to time. Thank you so much for everything you do, you are a true blessing.
Thank you so much for the kind words! I bought my wig and a few toppers from wigs.com and another place - can't remember the name. Search for wig reviews here on youtube! There are lots. I am LOVING wearing a wig! I hope you are able to get yourself diagnosed. You deserve the clarity you give your patients :)
Your videos are helping me so much! I've been having great difficulty finding practical tools/information to use in my everyday life so I can thrive when accomplishing my goals and your channel is like a one stop shop. Thanks for taking the time to create content that we can use to fulfill our visions and live out our life purpose. 😍
Great solution with the wig! Your beauty comes from within. Regardless of the hair and makeup. The swan analogy elucidated the issue well. Wish it was simpler to work out what you loved and what spins your wheels.
I’ve just found you a few days ago and I swear you have looked into my life/mind and have described it to a T! Such an aha! I am now going to get tested, just for confirmation. I really don’t want to take anything for it so thank you for sharing your stories and systems.
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I really needed to hear what you had to say in this video. I'm currently in that burnout phase and have lost all ability to appear/function as a neurotypical person. It's like I've been reverted back to when I was a child, just before my diagnosis and functioning at all is exponentially harder and requires vastly more energy.
I'm floundering while trying to manage this full-blown ADHD and I know it. I currently feel like a pilot dropped into a machine that they've barely been taught how to use, yet is expected to operate said machine to the same degree as someone well-trained & fully experienced in operating it; all the pilot can do is sit there staring at the controls as panic, fear and a sense of overwhelm builds as they try to figure out what to do and how to do the task. During this period of burnout it's like I'm looking through someone else's eyes because I'm in someone else's body.
I’m so sorry. Also this is such description of what it’s like. Hope we both feel better soon and get the right help xx
Diagnosed at 46. Corporate job changed to remote after Covid, got stuck in FL, all belongings still in storage up north. Living solo, my 2 pups passed backed to back, and so much more.. become completely paralyzed, physically unable to work complete tasks, walked away.
Year later today, I found my pond. I’m in motion of creating a clay earring business and look forward everyday to create beautiful jewelry and attend vendor markets.
Thank you for today’s and all your content. It has really helped me understand me and why and how to own it and best navigate my life despite the hard criticism I’ve recently received.
You are so awesome. Thanks for all these ideas. My daughter in law is so good at clay earrings. They are beautiful ❤️
What was the main thing that helped you? I'm currently in pretty much the same problem as you were. Working remotely in new job and I feel completly paralyzed by tasks. While working from office I was super productive.
I used to have so much confidence to be my own person… but my current burnout cycle has caused me to completely 180 😢. The swan story spoke to me in a very profound way, so thank you!!!!
I got diagnosed with ADHD last week at 54. Your channel gave me the hope that I need.
Dear You still have hope
Hey! I was diagnosed in August - at the age of 54!
I'm 58 and I just got diagnosed
me 2 at 54 -- lol
Welcome to the fold! Congratulations!
Great video! The story you read brought tears to my eyes, it resonated so much. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 38 and it suddenly explained why I had been struggling my whole life just to function, and why I kept falling into burnout cycles. I would see so many of my friends who could just power through hard tasks or crappy jobs and I couldn't figure out why I wasn't able do the same. My body would literally rebel and I would either become sick or get steamrolled by crippling fatigue. I think my biggest challenge now is to feel ok about being as picky and as particular as I need to be to make sure I'm creating that very specific environment that I require in order to thrive. Often I feel like I'm excessively inconveniencing others or risking being labeled as "too needy" when I have to self advocate. This feels very scary, especially in the context of my profession and professional relationships where my livelihood could be at risk if people decide I'm too much of a hassle to work with. Working through that fear is definitely a journey. Anyway, thanks again for this video, it was my "ping" from the universe today (I'm also a woo and a half. 😉😄). Have a great New Year!
Happy new year to you, too! Think of this as a journey of tiny steps. Every decision is a chance to create a better environment for youself.
Painfully relatable!
Ditto for me. How r u managing now.. did u read some books or videos to help reduce burnout and improve professional life. Ditto around me people have progressed in their jobs but for me heart or mind or body give up… like I think I need to be totally detached to the feelings that come from the job but that’s not possible it’s like a life system change.
Karen please tell me where u got ur superb wig ?? I totally identify with your stress x
I was diagnosed at 50 and as I learned more about ADHD I had quite a few ah ha moments, five years later I still do. I changed my profession because the one I was in was not sustainable for me. I am lucky that I have landed in a field where I am able to help others with disabilities/differences and where I am also supported. I have had to learn to say no to people and be protective of the rest I need in order to maintain good health. If you share with people why you are making requests and they learn it is to keep your health in check, I think people will be understanding and will do what they can to meet you at least half way. Stay well.
I was a teacher for 22 years because I felt joy being around kids but I wasn’t happy because being a classroom teacher was restrictive, demanding and hard with undiagnosed ADD. I left and started working for myself and I LOVE it! I am doing fun things to make money with several streams of income. I teach kids who are outside the box like me in evenings and during the day I go into schools with my hula hoop program and plan rests and days off when I need it. Find your passion and turn it into your job and you will thrive!
I loved when you said, ‘we are built for the water’. Yes, absolutely. I love being near water whether it’s the sea, river, lake, stream, pond or big puddle. It’s calming and refreshing and there are times when I crave being near water.
Thank you.
It is!
💯!! Plan to finally move close to ocean!
I would have never guessed you were wearing a wig. You are a gorgeous person inside and out! Thank you for making this content for all of us with ADHD, or with someone in our lives who has ADHD.
I was touched by the story of the swan. I am truly an orchid, and I need "my people", and without the right water and the right people, I do not thrive. Thank you for sharing your own story and before you said anything, I thought to myself, her hair is beautiful.
Love your video. I'm 70 and have been so sad I spent most my life not knowing what you have educated us on. I'm a survivor so will get through this. I take pain medication for pain , was diagnosed years ago but not one doctor, and I have many, ever pay any attention to it you are the only one who has opened my eyes. Thank you and god bless.
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Awesome! I have ADHD and I live on water, on a boat! I also believe I may well be living the half-life told in the story. I live in a cycle of survive crash survive crash. I need to find my path to thrive but it’s scary stepping off a familiar path even if it’s harming you. Thank you, a brilliant video. ❤
I hope you can find a sustainable cycle, Anna! It's possible. Thanks for being here.
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Wholeheartedness - OMG that made me all emotional here! That makes so much sense for me now!! I'm discovering some new hobbies very fulfilling and that is what describes the best what I feel when in those moments.
I’m only discovering like within the last couple weeks really and it hit me like a bombshell yesterday that I most likely have ADHD. I struggle with basic life management so hard and everybody thinks I’m just a hot mess but really I’m trying so hard. I found your channel last night and already I’m finding such insight I didn’t know about me. I look forward to watching more of your videos. Thank you for being so open and honest and real for people like me who need this reality.
Actually you would be 1/2 woo or a wee woo vs 1.5 woo which is more super woo 🤪💗
💯!!! My wife has indicated on numerous times that I have ADHD bad! I’m 54 and never have been diagnosed, but I resonate with all of the signs and everything you have discussed. You popped up on my feeds and I’m so thankful for you! I never knew why I was the way I am my whole life! Thank you!
The ENTIRE time I was listening to this, I was thinking, “easy for her to say all of these encouraging things when she has hair, that looks like that!” As I sit here, at 52, trying to get ready for work, and using all of my products to regrow hair that has been shedding since menopause started. 😢. You just made my whole day, and I need to find that person you were following, to normalize wearing a wig.
I Valdés from severe anemia - ferritin low dr missed it and thyroid issues. I’m not a doctor - maybe you can find one to check. I’m also post menopausal. Good luck my friend ❤
Her IG handle is @realwigfun ❤
"I'm not a woo-woo person, I'm a woo and a half" This is an excellent phrase :3 x
I just discovered your videos the other day they are beyond helpful and giving me what I need to get my ADHD under control
Just found your channel tonight - absolutely loving your content. I only discovered this year (at 59) that I may have ADHD after talking to some other women who have been diagnosed over 50. I loved the message of getting into the water - I really relate to this.
Great story to share. There’s a relief to back out of the sense of hyper-responsibility (sometimes my over-thinking self puts me in a false power spot), then I make sure I don’t descend into an equally unbalanced sense of shame or depression (also overthinking?)--bottom line--recover my sense of gratitude and devotion. Not just once a day, but kinda constantly! It’s hard!
As I’m lying on the couch at 9am crying because I don’t want to go to work anymore 🥹
You’re not along friend. I’m driving to work in near tears for the same reason! I just want to keep driving…
Just pulled in to work trying to stop before having to actually go inside
Move to a small Town in México 🇲🇽😂🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳... It's so Nice , to go and work Only when yo what to work 😅..
Rent in a small Town. Like we're a love is about 200 dólar usa ..
🙋♀️🙋♀️ fully happened to me last week where I literally got to work and sat in my car crying for 30 minutes because I just couldn’t even fathom going in. ( I genuinely love my job but every so often I just get tired of everything)
That's a beautiful poem, and amazing story. Lovely way to express the idea.
I am so inspired by the way that you own your neurodivergence! Thank you for sharing your experiences and gifts with all of us! I’m going through the ADHD burnout cycle, as is my ADHD spectrum daughter. It’s a lot, for sure! But, your content, as well as a few others are really helping me validate how I am feeling, rather than pushing myself to the point of shingles. Btw- I L💜VE that you mentioned the number synch’s, straight away! As I watch, there are 6,633 views and I am the 444th like! Namaste 🙏 💜✨. 4:40
thank you!!! that is so cool!
WOAH this is possibly the most impactful video I have seen on UA-cam! Thank you for sharing the story (going to look it up) and your transparency about your hair journey. All the best!
Great video. Thank you for sharing that story about the swan and your own story about cycling burn out in your life. I was never diagnosed with ADHD, but from first grade on the teachers always reported that I was creative but would daydream and not pay attention in class. My grandmother who raised me was an ER nurse, and her friends would say that I needed to be put on Riddlin and meds to make me less hyper. My grandmother didn't believe in using meds unless absolutely necessary, so she gave me tools to help. The night before school she would lay my clothes out to wear, so that I was not overwhelmed in the morning with choices. I would make my bed, so that I finished a task. She would have a daily planner for me and encourage me to finish homework or projects by settling a time limit on how long I would have to focus. She always encouraged fresh air and exercise. So Caren thank you for suggesting more tools that can help us be better.
When I was a child I was very hyperactive, mom would just tie me to the bed to stop me from charging through the house. 😳
Coming to this one late and it hits hard. I KNOW what my pond is & if I didn't have bills to pay I would play in it all day - but it's nearly impossible to make a career so I always feel divided between what pays the bills & what I really want to be doing. And what pays the bills (freelance writing) is as close to what I want to be doing (novel writing) as I can get until a miracle happens - because in publishing you pretty much need a miracle to be successful.
I've felt this way for the last three years & it has me dancing in and out of burnout & short of winning the lottery so I can just focus on my books, it feels like nothing will ever get me the rest of the way into my passion.
I love that you came up with a creative solution to your barrier and totally owned it. BRAVO!. I'll try and take a leaf out of your book.
Great video, wonderful analogy.
Regarding your hair: when a person is drowning, and somebody throws them a lifeline, the drowning person is not focused on the shoes of the person saving them. Or their hair. Or anything else. They are focused on the lifeline.
Thank you for throwing the lifeline. ❤
I feel like I may have lost my whole heartedness and it's definitely contributing my exhaustion. Wow 😲 needed this so much. Thx
Your smile radiates such positivity and warmth-it's truly uplifting. Thank you for sharing such a unique and insightful perspective; it encourages all of us to pause and reflect deeply. The poem, the incidents and the ping thing... I really appreciate the effort you put into preparing and curating such meaningful content.
Thanks for doing what you love the most- Creating Podcasts to inform and inspire all of us.
Imagine if you put all of your energy into who you are... just lovely.
Hi Caren, thank you so much for sharing this poem. I completely relate and feel like the man in this story. I work a 9-5 and it feels worthless to me, especially lately. It’s not something I’m excited about or can easily feel like giving my wholeheartedness to. I feel like im burning out not from overdoing it, but from not thriving. However, I also have no idea what else to do which is the biggest struggle for me. I hope I figure it out! 😊
That one hit me in the chest! Wow. “You must do something heartfelt, and you must do it soon.”
Yes, I must.
I just discovered this channel and just loving it. I love how authentic you are. I resonated with so much in this video. Sincerely. Thank you for being just a beautiful soul and sharing your light.
Hi Caren, I just wanted to say a huge thank you for your work. I am going through a hugely transitional time, with some big decisions. I have been diagnosed for a few years, but never been able to access any ADHD specific help. Your videos have resonated with me so deeply and helped me so much. This one in particular brought me to tears and really helped me see my dilemma in a clear light. We do need specific environments to thrive and that’s something worth fighting for. It’s ok to own that and let the water take us rather than beating ourselves up. I have a strong connection to water and have also been seeing 11:11 a lot. I’ve also been losing hair after COVID and struggle a lot with this when trying to motivate to show up in life (something that brings me joy), so all of the examples you used here were spot on for my life. Thank you for the guidance and encouragement.
You are so welcome.
This resonated immediately with me and I burst into loud tears. Thank you for sharing this.
You are so welcome
Thank you so much for this video. I was looking into ADHD burnout for a while now but I never found anything more helpful than what you just said. I'm currently setting up my own UA-cam channel but keep procrastinating for the exact reasons you just talked about. Thank you again for the information.
This hit me on the head too. I so relate - thank you. 🙂
Wow! I’m glad you acknowledged the superficial barriers like appearance and going through all the steps to show up in the world as beautiful. I feel like I’m not showing up as myself in videos when my appearance isn’t aligned with my highest beauty. It’s not even about other people’s opinion as much as it is me feeling inauthentic, misaligned , and cringe on camera when I don’t fully have myself together… yet ALL THE STEPS to get myself together 😵💫 I will have to find a middle ground! Thank you so much! 💡🙂🙌🏾
You have such a calming, clear voice. Thank you for sharing your hair story & your solution! I don’t have the same problem, but empathize 100%, making me think about pinpointing and confronting my own barriers.
Late LATE diagnosis, in my 60s. You are the most relevant ADHD guide that I have found, and I have been seeking info everywhere!! Orchid analogy is beautiful. Thank you so much. And I LOVE that you went for a wig - a practical way to push past insecurity. So cool.
Great video, your transparency is so refreshing I can sadly totally relate to this, especially the burnout cycle. I realised a while ago, I have number if items I can manage in my life. When somthing new is added to the list, something else needs to go, if that makes sense. I keep my life as simple as I can; it's not a simple thing to do for a working Mammy & it's still very much work in progress . How you are embracing your ADHD strengths and weaknesses is really inspiring keep up your great work Sister . Love your hair.
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Thank you so much!!!
i suppose this video popping up in my feed is my own 11:11 moment - exactly what i needed at this moment in time. thank you for your courage to continue sharing with us!
I am so grateful I've found your channel. You're so relatable
Ugh, all of this. Love it. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. I wish I could voice note because I feel SO MUCH resonance around the insecurity with my hair after covid. It’s fried & has thinned out…like, the whole piece you talked about in regards to prepping for video content. I feel you, sister!
Thank you so much!
Thanks!
Thank you for your honestly and vulnerability. I have found a lot of strength in your message today (both seeing your strength and glimpsing my own), and I am truly grateful to you for that. 🙏
your hair looks amazing!
Thank you!!
WOW Caren, you have shocked me once again. I know this is a year old, but it just came into my feed.
The level of vulnerability, intimacy and integrity you just showed is astounding, seriously.
I believe it takes true courage to talk the way you do, especially in this video. You're a truly inspiring person, thank you for your honesty.
thank you so much!
„IF YOU'RE TIRED, YOU DON'T NEED REST, YOU NEED STUFF YOU'RE EXCITED ABOUT.“
Definitely to recharge batteries problem is when the activities that recharge you are taken away from you
@@Dancestar1981 how are they taken away from you? Just curious.
YES!!!
The Antidote to ADHD Exhaustion | Burnout Intervention. 16.7.24. I'm like..like really tired and your angelic good luck has not altered this.......good luck. I need to think of something profound before I can rest?
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I have just recently come across your videos and I wanted to thank you. Your messages are so thought provoking, meaningful and really help me to put my life and how I function into perspective. I’ve spent the majority of my life beating myself up for the way I am-often feeling I have to apologize or make up for it somehow. I know you were talking about your hair when you said you almost needed permission to use a wig to overcome the barrier holding you back from showing up fully. Obstacles definitely slow our progress forward as ADHDers. You may have been talking about a wig, but it made me think about my own barriers to doing the work I’ve been called to do and ask myself what “wig” can I put on to overcome my own barriers?
My point really, is that the work you’re doing has been a blessing to me, so thank you for the effort and time you put into it so it’s accessible. We all need encouragement and to be seen and understood. And you have been that for me. Thank you 😊
I'm too lazy/tired to type up everything I'm feeling
Just to say, this hits the spot
Boy! This is exactly right on time information for me, thank you so much Caren! Reframing my to-do tasks by approaching those barriers to entry instead of calling myself lazy and unmotivated is gold!!!! It's the self-care things that have me waddling awkwardly on the ground. Gotta find my pond and ease into the flow! Much needed, bless you!
burst into tears. thank you.
im a musician working a part time job as a janitor. got diagnosed with adhd last week. I was questioning myself thinking "oh i should just go into AI and learn to code." being half OUT of music. but i want to go all in.!!!
We might as well do what we love because
they say
"everything will kill you, might as well choose something fun."
I just recently found your channel and I have to say: I am absolutely loving every aspect of you, the way you're showing up in the world, and your message. Thank you ♥
Love you and your content so much!! You really are an inspirational person and make me and I am sure so many others not feel so alone with our ADHD. It can really feel debilitating at times, and you truly have shone this light on it that I couldn’t see before, so thank you so much 😊
I'd commented earlier before sering the end section. Your hair dilemma and solution is so inspiring - thank you for being so open and honest about this. And thank you for finding your way to continue giving us this fantastic content ❤
Thank you for the work you put out! I’ve struggled a lot in my early adult years and your content gives me hope and encouragement to keep growing and discovering myself.
Your videos are providing me so much insight. Showing me which coping techniques I have been using already. Not even knowing they were coping techniques. Also, understanding why I find functioning in certain situations extremely difficult. Thank you for your work making the videos.🙏🙏🙏
This is great!
I'm almost 38 and we have 3 (also neurospicy) kids (6,9 and 10) and I feel like I'm treading water and I'm exhausted. Your video put into words what I've been desiring but can't quite achieve. I keep telling myself I'm almost to the tipping point of finally "arriving" but I just have to keep pushing a bit longer. Well, it's been about 11 years, and I am mentally exhausted. I'm going to focus on steering towards my ideal environment and life and pushing harder than ever. I need to find my pond (no clue where or what that is going to be) but I can cut out what I know I want less of in life for now ❤
I love this so much. I recently went through some physical, mental, and emotional traumas and have been shortcutting my way through life lately to remove barriers and get out of the burnout cycle. I love how this was an outside of the box kind of solution. Thank you for sharing!
This was so useful to me! I've been promoted at my job and it is taking up extra large amounts of time for various reasons. I enjoy it but it isn't my passion. My passion has been on the back burner while I try and learn how to do my new position at work. I need to spend more time on my passion, even for 5 minutes a day, and then I know that'll help me feel less burned out.
Wowwww! You definitely pinged me! 🥰
I love this part: Falling in awkwardly and gracefully receiving those waters!
(I was definitely burnt out at my day job so awkward and felt out of place. But since that gig has ended I can focus on my YT channel! I also just learned I have adhd sooo it feels really awkward getting in the water but also it feels right! 😅✨
I so needed this today. I see 11:11 all the time and wonder the meaning for myself. I feel so all over the place all the time. This was very grounding and I look forward to unpacking these questions! Thanks for what you do! I am so happy to have found you! 💕
11:11 = Pray for Israel 🙏
Love this video! I’ve been feeling this message for a while. I’m still trying to figure out “my thing.” Thank you!
You're so welcome!
Thank you my life finally makes sense ❤
Just found your channel. I was diagnosed three years ago at the age of 50. There have been many ups and downs since that time. Just when I think I have a handle on it, it wreaks havoc wiith me and I end up back in counsleling because I get so frustrated that I just don't know what to do. Seeing your content, along with others, has helped me realize why I am they way that I am. It gives me hope and I really feel like I am on another upswing. Thank you for making me feel like I am not as broken as I feel sometimes. It's a daily fight with myself. Recognizing this and finding new tools really helps though. ❤
This is just soooo profound. I have a full time job and a side hustle and been lately procrastinating... The barrier was getting ready or getting started.
I needed this ping. I've felt burnout as a SAHM when i know my calling is to create in business. I can't be good in all the areas. Add to it, my systems or lack thereof don't support anything I want. I find myself wishing to makeover everything in my life to support my brain. OAN: I found myself admiring your hair and overall beauty, thinking how your hair really suits you prior to you detailing how you needed an alternate solution. This really resonated with me too.
Love your work, thank you - diagnosed my 50s, I always wondered why it was so hard to do things even things i love but your short point about the barriers has made a big difference to me. Thank you
Learning out loud - love it. And the swan/water, wholeheartedness vs rot on the vine - amazing beautiful imagery and advice. Thank you for sharing ❤
Thanks Caren! So refreshing to watch your video and be able to relate instead of the feeling we can usually have of being an outcast. Beautiful poem and analogy.
This is a fantastic video. It felt like a synchronicity for me. I'm a HS teacher and I LOVE parts of my job and I hate other parts of my job. And I'm exhausted when I get home. So I need to prepare to shift into something where I have more control if how I use my energy... and I foresee public bureaucracies (like public schools) will become increasingly frustrating as the country and world change. I'm 20 years in and I'm 45yo. With that in mind, I'm starting to put the intention out to the Universe that I need to find an alternative trajectory. This video helped me clarify what I'm looking for. In some ways teaching checks the boxes. I just don't know that I was designed for the grind.
Caren I have to say to you that’s the first time I cried listening to a complete stranger on UA-cam, as your whole video touched me so deeply, and I need to thank you, I will be reaching out to you as I feel like I’m entering into that burn out phase and I need to find some solutions. Anyway, your realness and transparency gives permission for us watching, to appreciate ourselves no matter what…and to be open to alternative ways to getting us closer to our goals❤ I love your hair!!!!
thank you!! It's a wig btw :)
Wigs are such a life saver! I have been wearing them for years now, but only the last 2 years for work. And while I do have long hair, my executive dysfunction sometimes makes it impossible for me to bleach, dye, and style my hair. It's honestly such a time saver you pretty much always have perfect hair! I have usually 2 pretty exact wigs I rotate through at a time, helps in between cleanings, in case of emergency. Highly recommend! Great ADHD/executive dysfunction/depression hack.
I just yesterday signed up for your emails and was considering buying some of your products but this whole symbolism, angels, magical thinking, universe thing is making me rethink that. I really hope it's a joke!!!
Nope, not a joke.
I could not tell it was a wig! I've wanted to get one. Love it. Great video, it hit home on many levels. Thank you. Your authenticity is your gift. We are listening.
Just watching your channel and can see the energy you put out. Living with ADHD/OCD my whole life. I can feel the other side when it all stops.
On/Off Zero middle ground. Keep up the good work ❤👍🏾
You are definitely a beautiful orchid. Listening to this story really resonated with me. I'm in a vicious weight cycle. I'm in so much pain most days, which detours me from exercise. I need to exercise to do what I used to love, rehab dogs. I know it's small steps but and that's where procrastination comes in. I need to take the time to schedule schedule my small steps.
Thank you
Been watching your videos im like look at her hair she doesn’t have any problems. Im glad you told us its a wig. i was like i really need to do something with my hair ughh her hair looks perfect . God bless
This really spoke to me. I often get pressured into using talents that I have that don't work for me at all. My personality is not geared that way. I am always driven to one direction and feel guilty for it because others think I should be doing something else but it always burns me out.
You are awesome!! I love your authenticity. I am a content creator and can REALLY relate to so much that you are saying here. I am also 51, going through menopause, just found out I have ADHD so it's been a bit crazy! Thanks for being such an inspiration! I just bought your course from Distraction to Action and look forward to diving into it!
Thank you so much for the support and kind words!
Great video. I'm 63 and adhd makes us interest and novelty driven so we get burnt out by boredom and pressures to be what others want. Your hair looks so cute and natural.
OMG I've always thought of myself as a Mermaid 🧜♀️ and absolutely love the swan story ( & analogy!) Its so true - we will feel clumsy when not in our true element...finding grace in how we get back to that is a learned art for sure!
Then to hear your beautiful - thought provoking flower metaphor.!?! Girl you are speaking my language! 🏵🌸 I am a Tulip 🌷and knowing how to live in a world of dandelions hasn't always been easy - especially with ADHD- feeling exhausted was almost becoming an everyday pattern for me...I love how you encourage amongst it all to simply be your authentic self! Be an orchid, Lily or a Tulip in a world of dandelions or even weeds! Anyway thank you! I just stumbled upon you and absolutely love you! While I'm not a follower by nature- Consider me your newest subscriber!! ❤😉🥰🫶
I was really moved by the excerpt you read about the swan, that David Whyte wrote in his piece. Never heard it before & I didn’t expect to, but I cried while listening to it. It gave me an understanding of why sometimes I feel I make myself be so much more to everyone around me, which is also a good inner feeling, but also I feel so exhausted in doing so, at times. I am a nurse in a busy emergency room, a wife to a wonderful man and a mother of three wonderful children. I’ve struggled with feeling exhausted, adhd & also just the raw feeling of whether I am enough. One thing I pulled from Mr Whyte’s message, for myself was that the swan has an ease about it, a poise and purpose. Something I resonated with in this passage was that while the swan is effortlessly being carried on still or occasionally turbulent waters, it’s focus is always true. Some say a swan is a symbol of purity, some could argue she’s more a symbol of strength and perseverance. While exhausted, it still cares for its babies, still endures whatever waters are present. I loved the excerpt you read & just wanted to say thank you for giving this beautiful adjunct to your content. It definitely resonated with me and profoundly
I was moved when I first heard it too. It really touches a cord, doesn't it?
omg thank you so much for being so vulnerable about your hair and how that makes it hard for you to want to record videos. i have unwieldly kinky hair, an extremely high forehead and have struggled all my life with trying to make my hair “work” or be socially acceptable. after covid i have also started losing my hair and my hairline has receded even further naking me feel
like an elizabethian queen lol. i really hate wearing wigs because i get overheated so quickly and they itch me like crazy. glad you have found one that looks so natural and is comfortable for you!!
Wish i could like this vid more than once :) If only more of youtube could be as genuine, profound yet simple, positive and inspiring like this, thank you :)
You're the best! Thank you!
not sure what i can do wholeheartedly, but thank you for the vid!
Great Content Caren!!! I am about turning 51 on Friday and made the decision to finally address my ADHD. I'm curious how others addressed it. Medications? Diet? I need to do something..
I'm near your age and in the same boat.v hard to get a diagnosis here huge wait-lists. Best wishes ❤
Thank you so much for this video. As always i could really relate to this. Your hair is beautiful- wig or not! ❤️ -Priya
Thank you so much, Pryia!
So many good and healing analogies here. ❤ Thank you, very relevant to the ADHD experience… I would’ve never known that was a wig, looks totally natural and beautiful
I'm in a position where I'm working full-time while also attending classes at a local community college. That stuff really wears me down, and with my day job being in retail, I've realized for a while now that my circumstances really aren't satisfying me at my core. Slowing down the process to where I can relish the small moments helps to an extent, but I'd say that my professional perspective has shifted away from what's currently in front of me. Some may say that the path towards creating a more fulfilling life for me has taken too long; why should I care about that? Why do I still get annoyed when people say that? I can't help the fact that things move slower simply because I have ADHD; I have to be able to accommodate myself in all factors of life. Thank you for sharing this powerful video! ❤
I woke up as I do unfortunately oftentimes recently, filled with dread and guilt. I’ve been binging videos on how to get out of this including a few of your own but the only one that’s made me feel lighter is this one. I am a vibrant, energized, extremely productive person when it’s something I care about. But lately life has been pretty hard to get through because nothing is sparking my interest. Thank you for this and the bit about the wig. I’m considering getting one because I struggle with my hair so much and it does effect my entire mood
Years I've seen 11:11. I'm ADHD. I still don't know the meaning. I've read on it and very confused. I'm glad you helped clarify it.
My new best friend, right here. Thank you for popping up in my feed! Subscribed for sure now.😊
Wow, this video was right on time for me!
ADHD can sometimes be demoralizing; I chronically feel like I'm supposed to be doing more no matter how hard I try.
I really liked the swan story. Now I just need to find the pond that's right for me and glide!
Thanks for sharing your ADHD experience.
By the way, you look great. With or without makeup, and with or without a wig. Please don't feel self-conscious.
I have rosacea (chronic inflammatory skin condition) on my cheeks, which basically makes me look like I'm blushing. It makes feel a little self-conscious sometimes, but I'm learning to roll with it. I wear a rosy shade of lipstick and hope cheeks look like I have blush on them! lol
I relate 100% to so much of your content. I've been watching your videos periodically over the last few weeks, and you have been able to translate (into words) exactly how I feel, my struggles, my ideas, etc. I'm 44-years old, divorced, no children, and a healthcare provider who ironically "treats" ADHD, yet have never been diagnosed myself. I'm 100% positive of my diagnosis, but for some reason I have allowed shame or imposter syndrome or embarrassment prevent me from seeking help from another provider. I'm working on that... not quite there, have a lot of inner work to do. Anyways.... I never comment on videos, but just had to let you know how inspiring and relatable you have been for me. And a side note... I too am recently having issues with my hair, thinning, not growing, brittle, easily damaged. The stress of aging is beginning to affect me in ways I never expected. It takes me so long to get ready, I over analyze, and sometimes I'd just rather not get ready at all. I have considered wigs as a potential "assistant" when my ugly hair has me paralyzed, but I have no clue where to buy them and what to look for. Do you have recommendations on a website or store? Or educational resources about how to choose a wig? I don't have instagram or any social media, just watch utube from time to time. Thank you so much for everything you do, you are a true blessing.
Thank you so much for the kind words! I bought my wig and a few toppers from wigs.com and another place - can't remember the name. Search for wig reviews here on youtube! There are lots. I am LOVING wearing a wig!
I hope you are able to get yourself diagnosed. You deserve the clarity you give your patients :)
Wow never would have known it was a wig
Wow thank you for this video! Such a beautiful story and I so admire you for your honesty! Really really inspiring 💖
Your videos are helping me so much! I've been having great difficulty finding practical tools/information to use in my everyday life so I can thrive when accomplishing my goals and your channel is like a one stop shop. Thanks for taking the time to create content that we can use to fulfill our visions and live out our life purpose. 😍
Thank you so much for sharing this!! It means the world to me.
Great solution with the wig!
Your beauty comes from within. Regardless of the hair and makeup.
The swan analogy elucidated the issue well.
Wish it was simpler to work out what you loved and what spins your wheels.
You are so correct. I know that I am doing what makes me happy. I need to focus and work to find my path
I’ve just found you a few days ago and I swear you have looked into my life/mind and have described it to a T! Such an aha! I am now going to get tested, just for confirmation. I really don’t want to take anything for it so thank you for sharing your stories and systems.
Oh my goodness, this was so profound for me!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video today!!! ❤❤