I am a firm believer in your work. No contact worked! Thankfully it was only a period of two weeks. I didn’t do any love spells or tried to push them back into my life. I focused on myself and we came back together we both have changed so much and realized we don’t want to live life without each other. Thank you so much for your advice. You don’t even know how much you’ve helped me.
Please email us at myexbackcoach@gmail.com. We would like to use your story to help others while also protecting your privacy of course. I'm thrilled for you!
@SLEEPLESSSSUN hey may i ask what you said to your partner before you began no contact? Because i am trying to decide if i should be nice and leave or point out that they are also in the wrong, apologise on my part and then leave
Nearly a year ago, my gf and I broke up. I was devestaded. After a month of pleading and at a very low point, I came accross Coach Lee's videos. They made great sense, even when the truths they brought forward were painful to hear at first. Taking a step back and focusing on rebuilding myself was the decision I made, and the results were great - I made a big step forward with my career, worked on underlying emotional issues I had and rebuilt my previously neglected social life. For the past six months, I have been in a new, happy and healthy relationship with an excepotional woman I had met thanks to these efforts, understandings and changes. For those of you who are in pain now, please KNOW that you are not alone, even if it feels that way, and perhaps most importantly - that the hard work does pay off. Much love to everyone, and thank you Coach Lee :)
I’m in so much pain . My boyfriend left without no reason . He broke my heart and I feel like I lost a huge part of myself . I loved him and respected him very much. I still love and miss him so much .
That is amazing, sounds like being dumped was the impulse you needed to improve in areas that enabled you to enter a healthy relationship. Feels very much the same here, but right now it's still hurting A LOT.
@@kokoskokso it is sad to be dumped… and you feel mistreated and taking Advantage of you .. life is beautiful I hope we pass this pain and god opens a better door for us. 🙏
Hey Coach Lee, just wanted to say that your videos have really helped my mental fortitude these past few weeks. Three weeks ago I was dumped and your videos really helped me get through this difficult time. I kept no contact the whole time after the breakup, and last night my ex reached out to me. Now we have a better understanding of each other's feelings and how we want to move forward together in life. Even though we aren't officially back together yet, last night we both declared how much we loved each other and I just wanted to say thank you so much. Keep up the great work!
Josh, be careful and stand your ground. Take it slow. Don't go rushing into anything regardless of how much you love each other. Remember what Coach Lee said about rushing into things. Not a good idea. Good luck to you..
I love this video. I love the "One day at a time" I love the encouragement to be your very best self! I love that he presses upon you to maintain COMPLETE Self Respect! ALL extremely valuable components even if you ARE NOT hearing from them?! If you are not somehow watching absorbing or internalizing the above messages he is trying to help you and I encourage you to listen to this video one more time and LISTEN. I listen to this one often and it has really equipped me and empowered me. I love respect admire and SOOO appreciate all of his videos. They have been a life saver for me when my life was shattered and a million pieces on the floor. I truly hope you latch onto these videos/messages as a lifeline. Some key videos I actually watch over and over just to bring me strength! Every single one is chock full of Incredible Insight to your situation love caring about the absolute best for you the very BEST advice you will find PERIOD even when no one else seems to even care, or "Get you" Coach Lee gets you.
Coach Lee is 100% right on. After a month of NC he came back. 1. I proved I was strong enough to stay away, which surprised him. When I saw him at the same event, I was happily cordial yet detached. I know he could feel my energy shift. He thought I'd be chasing after him, trying to get his attention so he could reject me (be in control). No, I was busy having fun. 2. There was clearly a shift in attractiveness. I was again the person he initially fell for- confident, sassy, detached and other men were vying for my attention (they picked up on my confident energy too). He noticed and mentioned that. 3. I'm not trying to maintain or fix anything with him. I'm moving forward and being happily elusive. If he wants to catch me, he can try.
@@aayushitakte6528 I forgot I wrote this lol. He came back, but fortunately what I wrote 7 months ago changed. I didn't see him for a while after that- I was very deep into resolving bigger issues in my own life (moving, selling my house, etc.) and even though I missed him, I felt it was better not to see him for a while. The initial NC was me trying to make him miss me, rather than me healing, so a month wasn't enough for me to emotionally detach and get myself grounded. To be honest, I was way way too attached to him (which he didn't like at all) due some very tragic circumstances in my life, and I know I wasn't emotionally healthy. So I went silent and stopped going to that event where he'd be. Meanwhile, I met a man who lived around the corner from me, and we started to casually hang out as friends. A mutual friend saw me with him and told my guy I had a boyfriend (not true but ok). More time passed, and eventually we started very light communication. I'd reach about maybe once every 3-4 weeks with a silly meme, and we'd exchange a few words. Finally, just a few weeks ago, we got together for the first time. And then again last week. It was like nothing had changed as far as our connection, but I'm in a much better place emotionally. The time apart, the thought of me moving on with someone else, my lack of "chase" and attachment has given him a new perspective on being with me. So we're taking things slow this time and if we re-commit, it's going to be a deeper relationship. Thanks for asking 🙂
“I’m not saying you deserve the best, I don’t know you.” I love this dude. He’s so real and genuine. His videos really helped me through this time of my life. I so appreciate Coach Lee.
Coach Lee is the best breakup and relationships coach ever. He always gives very insightful and realistic information. He always keeps it real unlike other breakup coaches who give false hopes and information to draw more views and subscribers. Coach Lee is great coach and man of integrity 👏
@@Soshi701 For over 5 years I listen to Coach Lee because not only did he help me years ago, but I love to hear the way he explains each situation. He is the BEST! 👍
NC really works. My ex came back twice after doing it. But the third time, I lost my patience and I will just move forward. Don’t fight for someone who doesn’t see your worth. Life is short to waste on ungrateful people. 😊
My biggest regret is reaching out to my ex severally she felt like I was the one needing her like she was doing me a favor and I regretted. I regretted breaking all my no contact. I'm now happy I have gone 4months without talking to her and I'm so happy why will someone promise to always be there for you and dump and you go and begging that person to be with you it's really not worth it. And I'm glad it happened before we married. And this no contact has made me far better in many ways. No only relationship but it has increased my patience if I say I don't still love her I'm lying but I rather die than contact her again, I go out and meet new people and it's fading gradually. I'm so happy with the no contact even if she comes back if she doesn't apologize she should find someone period!!!
Reached out a little after a month because I psyched myself out. She didn't reach out herself because she wasn't sure if I even wanted to talk with her. Nine days later she blocked me again because I questioned a red flag that popped up. Moral of the story: if they care (or fear losing you) enough they'll get the courage to reach out eventually.
After 16 months of no contact I've moved on. I just wish him the best. God has blessed me with way to much. I don't need or want him back. I just hope he returns to the sweet person he used to be.
Yoo I WAS NEVER HERE BUT I GOT MINE BACK THANKS COACH LEE. And with your vids I also took the time to reflect well ahead and decide it is worth it. Although more often than not you guys gotta let it go, if it comes back then it's yours. I brute forced it though. Js. All is fair and idk Lee videos were like having someone on your side saying ur not a creep for wanting her back or trying to make it work but also maybe just focus on yourself. Focusing on myself helped a lot as well self improvement and non stalker like persuit.
"In not saying you deserve the best. I don't know you and if your not a good person, then you don't deserve the best!" I fuckin love it bro. Your realness is why I trust your word so much and why i don't worry about anything being sugar-coated.
Damn Lee!! You are making me cry! You are giving me confidence! I am not beneath them! Only God defines my worth! I was always driving and going to his place, always thinking about him, trying to show I’m a good woman and I actually loved him. He used that. I brought it up to him and told him it felt unequal. He changed. He thought I thought I was beneath him but I was just trying to show him my love
Coach Lee is so forthcoming haha he is like, if you're not a good person you don't deserve the best. If that is not honesty to the point to make you reevaluate your character, then nothing else is. Be a good person, love yourself without vanity, be confident without the nasty ego, go no contact when you have to and work on yourself. You are not beneath anyone, like Coach said...some people will test you to see what they can get away with. Be strong! 💯
These videos this guy is doing are great for you as an individual to helps with self control. I used to think that i want my ex back but after a few months of no contact i was 100% sure that she wasn't the right one for me, a year later i'm dating another lady and my mental health is way better.
Coach Lee plz let me be 100% honest with you. I’m in love with my ex, but this time I’m choosing me. I purchased your breakup kit and I’m confident that the mistakes I did with my ex won’t happen again. Just wait until my ex’s rebound fails and he comes running back…I’ll send him BACK TO THE STREETS!!! You my Brother Lee, have obtained FAVOR from our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ
My man left due to my behaviour that was caused by childhood trauma. He couldnt take it anymore. It's been almost 4 months. He keep Saying he want to stay in touch and always speaks to me when I reach out. We meet for drink a month ago and I pushed him even more away expecting us to start again from there and getting all emotional. No contact is my last chance with him but omg is hard! It's only day 4. Your videos helping me big time. Thank you!
I was in a 14 year relationship. She left 5 months ago. I tried to reach out a few times after (not begging or crying) but , she rejected my advances to talk as civil human beings. After I stopped trying to talk to her at all , she reached out to me February 11th and 20th. I did not answer either call . Her birthday was March 5th. I did not wish her happy birthday either. I feel ignoring her calls and especially not wishing her happy birthday all the power is in my hands now. I hope she is happy with her decision in throwing away 14 years because I will likely never answer her again. Moral of the story is , yes , they usually come back. When they come back IGNORE THEM. They have to PROVE TO YOU they are worth your time. DO NOT kiss their ass especially if they were cold in the break up. RESPECT AND LOVE YOURSELF. They expect you to drop everything you're doing and answer them when they reach out. It will piss them off when you no longer care and that is their fault!
@Tambrose0405 laugh out loud. Good. She ignored me multiple times as well after the break up when I tied to reach out. Wouldn't she expect the same treatment in return ? She has audacity for reaching out to me. Granted the situation sucks , she created it and now she'll have to live with it.
@cherryt1790 Tell that to her too. I don't want her back. Hell , as a matter of fact , i don't want anybody except for mysef ! This relationship left a bitter taste in my mouth . I will be alone for a while. At least I'm self improving and bettering myself.
@Rob P Z lol, well that's good, that you are working on self-improvement. I can definitely understand the bitter taste. I've been alone for a year now also after a 14 yr relationship. But I feel soooo much better today than I did just a few months ago. Keep going...you got this!
Wow... all that I am hearing from yoy Coach Lee is opposite of what I have done for almost 2 decades!! My God, how many mistakes??!! Well it's abt time I wake up... yesss! I am willing to show strength, dignity.. he should see someone as strong as he is.. that I can walk away.. that I am not beneath him.. rhat I have my own value... He broke up with me 3 times in the past and I deserve better. I didn't know howvto behave. Thanks to you I know now what I should and shouldn't do!! I can always reach out.. but I will only do it when I am stronger.. not weak. When I respect myself likexI should have a long.. long time ago.. Bless you coach Lee!!
I know what you mean. It's pretty crazy that our instinct to chase and pursue is the action that leads to the worst outcome. Been there-I know how confusing it can be. Just wanted to give you the heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. Oh, and get this: you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need!
I commented on another post. I'm in the UK and my husband suddenly up and left 2 months ago, immediately filing for divorce. I had a full on mental breakdown and acted like a crazy person, doing all the wrong things etc. With professional help I no longer even want to speak to him but I'm just working on myself. I probably did ruin my chances but I'm at peace with divorce even though I didn't want it. Doing what is best for me now, I'm done with him.
It’s been 3 weeks since the end of my 10 year relationship. The separation was very cordial.. Haven’t contacted since then. I realized I left my laptop charger in our old apartment where she still stays, I went out and bought a new one instead trying to go pick it up.. It’s been easy tbh. I know about this NC rule so I’m just taking it easy. I moved to my parents house so I always have company and good little support system… I’ll be honest the dreams is what is the real killer. I’ll be fine throughout the day and night. It’s when I wake up im like “ouch”. Lol. We got this boys, even if we never get them back. It’s all good 😇
Mine was 10 years as well. It’s been a rough 4 months of separation for me. I tried for 3 and a half months to fix things but three weeks ago I finally dipped off the face of the earth. Doing my best to not look back. I wasn’t the one that threw ten years down the drain, she was. Getting myself prepared to sign the papers now.
I reached out too many times and did everything wrong! Wish I listened to coach Lee from the beginning. It was my first break up so I have learned a lot and will never allow myself to be so humiliated and indignant again. I’m getting stronger now and never want to see her again! Took time people, I’m at 13 weeks now.
I’m 25 and my ex is 21. We dated for a year, and she dumped me over text. She called me for like 5 mins and then hung up on me. After about 3 days of me just texting her, she blocked me on everything and threatened that if I kept trying to reach out to her or anyone she knows, that she would get “others” involved. I’m pretty sure she’s done for good. Keep in mind, my texts were all expressing my love, not mean in any way. I think she’s out for good. Idk
It's funny How life is... I still watch coach Lee even that i don't want to see my ex anymore. It's like a teacher teaching important stuff to student. Because everything he spook actually happened After i moved on from my ex, she reached me and Said she missed me... I was over her after 4 months of nc.
Kryptoniana, that's exactly how I feel. I met Coach Lee (on line) over 5 years ago when I was hurting badly! Not only am I over my ex, but I listen to Lee every day just to hear his advice to all these broken hearts.
She broke on Day 60 and texted me!! Of course she went hard still. As the coach says... don't give it all back. Give only what your partner gives you ...nothing more.
@@dm904 She's a narcissist and avoidant. She once said... let's get married and have a baby...only to say let's forget all that was said earlier. I am back in No Contact now...and she is going crazy. She knows what I want for us....but because she's an avoidant, she will not tell me. I will risk losing her forever if she doesn't want me to live with her. I have found out through YT videos that she's a narcissist and I'm an empath. Look up those videos and see what those two types are. For now, she doesn't get to have me. I wait in radio silence for her to see the light.
My ex broke up with me and I didn’t talk to her for close to 45 days. She blocked me. One night after a little too much alcohol, I texted her and she Amazingly responded. She had unblocked me. We had a short conversation, but I then professed my unrequited love and she said she didn’t feel the same way. I then got personal and she reblocked me. I left her a voicemail to apologize the next day. I didn’t think she’d get it because I was blocked. I then emailed her an apology for being a drunken mess and I wished her well. She responded saying she received my voicemail also and thanked me for the apology. She wished me the best but said please don’t contact me anymore. That was like a knife to the heart. I am respecting her wishes and focusing on me now. The worst part is I feel like I really messed up and my communication skills suck and I just get angry and don’t convey it properly. That’s something else I am working on. I have to regain my dignity and self respect
We broke up almost 3 ms now . I finally did something different than before. It has been so hard. However, i feel like i have overcome the most difficult stage. Nowbits his turn to start the "tough" phase. Meanwhile, somedays i have cried myb❤️ out.. others i have focused on personal growth and enrolled into financial gains courses. 🙏 It feels good.
I reached out too soon and immediately regretted it. Now, I send myself the text message first. Then i decide if i want to send it. 99/100 that message remains in my own inbox and i live a life i never regret.
I am only a few days into no contact after a year long relationship. The problem that she stated with our relationship is that I didn’t take her out on dates enough. She ended it then I came back and asked her if we could go out on a date. She told me no and that it wouldn’t be the best idea. She is a social media influencer and a professional powerlifter so there is no shortage of guys who are hitting her up. We also have a small group of friends that we all hang out with and all of them have decided to leave me and go with her. I’m trying my best to not let it look like I phases me, but I’m dying inside. To make matters worse I’m pretty sure she is starting to see one of our mutual friends from that friend group. I find myself brought to tears all the time, but I’m going to keep my resolve. Thank you coach Lee for making this a little bit easier!
Powe_Geek, I wish I could give a response that could help but I think you need something more professional and specific that allows enough time for all your specific details to be addressed. For that, I suggest a coaching session with Coach Lee or one of his staff coaches. You can book that with this link: myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/
I am not going to degrade myself.. I have done enougb to save our relationship but now it's me I have to save.. I will take your advice dear coach because it speaks to me like no other words have ever before... He left me 2 months ago and regretfully I have done so many mistakes but hearing you today have made me realize that it is me I must save.. before I crash.. it's been so hard for too long.. thank you so much..
@@RealCoachLee Exactly, I feel it's unfair that the dumped sort of have to do a huge amount of work just to please the dumper so they get back together. I know it's not like that but that initial power dynamic + the decisionmaking being solely in their hands leaves me resentful and unsure whether I even want to get back with somebody who didn't treat me as a priority. I'd appreciate if you had any videos on that subject.
Boy did I need this video today! After 8 months NC my ex came back. It really was a case of he blocked me & forgot so he thought in the past 8 months I wasn't speaking or reaching out to him, which I had several times. So he reaches out via FB & I was slow to respond but I finally did. He said he was so thankful to be back in my life that he had missed me so much! I told him we could work things out but it would require communicating as in if there were issues we needed to talk to each other about them for which he agreed. 3 weeks back in & one evening I was texting him & he just wasn't replying. I got really upset but waited til the next day to call him & see what had happened? He didn't say anything. I was supposed to go to his house that day. I decided...No...if he isn't going to do the one thing I ask then I wasn't going to see him. He hasn't communicated since I told him no & I so want to reach out but I know I have to stay strong & keep my boundaries. 3 times now I've tried with this man & every break up has been because of poor communication.
Totally feel you. I did NC and he came back and only last 1.5 weeks and blocked me again. I feel humiliated all over again. I have tried so many times with this man. They just don’t learn their lessons.
He is playing with you. If he really wanted to be with you he would. He wants ego bust of you chasing him and being on the shelf. Move on. He is probably a narcissist.
Coach lee is right ,i was no contact 2 weeks and she texted me. I thought she wanted to be back together so i answered her and start texting with her again ...next day she became cold..and i realized she went cold because she felt i was there again for her, so all progress deetroyed .Now im in new no contact
I am not worried there are too many factors against for her to come back. Then I there is only a 15% that I want her to come back. These videos still help with me moving forward!
Almost 2 years since our breakup… shes been with someone else for awhile now. Although i haven’t checked in months. For some reason tonight i am hurting. I miss her and sometimes hope to hear from her again. Tomorrow morning i’ll be like wtf was that about? Life goes on I guess…
You are awesome coach Lee, my ex called me baby and sent kisses after 8 days no contact. When I responded, she replied very coldy. Thus, I didn't respond to her cold response and put her back in no contact. She used the sweet texts as bait and I stood my ground by not responding to colc text coach Lee, thanks to your advice.
I just started talking to my ex after not talking to her for a while gone out and she initiated all the moves grabbing kissing me … so I’m hoping it goes well this time n works 🤷🏾♂️🤞🏾
That's great news. I hope I have as much luck with my ex. We broke up 2 weeks ago and I'm 1 week into No Contact. She's such a sweetheart and a very caring person, so she deserves the best. I just don't want another guy hurting her like her ex before me. He cheated on her multiple times and I promised her I would treat her like the princess she is.
@@professor0reo700 I messed it up 😔 went out in a group I drank more than I should and not sure what I told her or got into my feelings 🤦🏽♂️ wish you all good luck with your relationship mines done for.
@@Trueblue03 Try no contact again and see if it does any better. There's always hope to grab onto. I know there's a good chance that I can win my ex back if I improve myself enough. I've done so much for her, I have a feeling that she'll definitely reach out in the future. I love her so much.
I like this one! Good, clear and emphatic. And correct whether they circle back or not. I find myself plugging into its forceful masculine logic every day in order to keep my spirit strong.
1 year of NC aaaand she's not comming back 😅 for some reason I feel that I miss her in some way, some times is hard to get her out of my mind. I guess she's happy with the person that replaced me, she's never loved me and don't missed me.
Need a video on when ur ex leaves u when there parents influence them....ummm like she firstly told me she will try to convince her parents even after break up she said and after a month of no contact she said i wont convince them they will hurt and then she left
3 months she isn't coming back. She's moved on. I've moved on. Way hotter and better quality women out there. It was a rough 3 months but I got my dream career started dating a lot of other women. I have value her value is what I gave to her. Never again
Just want to say a big thank you for your videos you have gotten me through a rough couple of weeks, i broke no contact a few times but now im 2 weeks of real no contact my heart still aches sometimes but youve motivated me to be strong
Cindy Nyala , I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which is excellent and it will help you. Also the kit is popular. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
A week into NC after 5 months of limited contact. Me and my wife separated and she told me she loves me but not in love. She also doesn’t want a divorce when I asked her. I really don’t know if NC will work because I feel like she made her decision to split a long time ago. Hurts so bad.
She came back in 11 days She told : can we talk again? And then she also used the magic word "please". She never told me please, but nc made it possible. I m truly greatful for all ur nc videos. I wish I knew it 2 years earlier as there was a girl who played so bad with my feelings. But that's past now. Feeling great to take over the relationship lead in future.
Ty coach Lee .without you i would have given in already for doing n c . Ty your so helpfull its been one month and still doing n c .it hurts .wecwere togeather for overc3 years.ty
After 4 weeks of no contact, my ex messaged me. She was very upset, because I didn't contact her. I started getting optimistic, then 2 days later she says she doesn't want to be in a relationship. 😢 Did I screw it up, coz I'm back to feeling like poo!
I recently (as of 2 days ago) let my ex back into my life after she repeatedly broke NC by texting me, calling me, etc over 30 times in one day on like Day 3 of NC. I told her she needed to earn this back and do whatever she feels necessary to show me she cares for me and to show me how much she wants this. As of a few minutes ago she complained and said it feels weird not having me talk to her like I normally would, and that it felt off by the casual responses I give her, I’m doing my best to not give her too much, because I do want her to work for it. Any advice? I know I’m not supposed to just jump back out and start being lovey. But it does feel kinda rough by holding myself back a lot.
As someone who is going through the exact same thing. Do not forget how you felt when you first broke up. Ask yourself if they have changed and if so is still worth it? You have to make it clear that you will not get walked on.
It's just been a year now. Nothing you said worked in anyway at all.. It just got harder and harder for me. I still don't know what happened or why we split up. I'm completely lost and confused on our life.
@@dongy762Im still struggling with the loss... I feel like I don't want tomorrow to come. Living with out her by my side is killing me. I still don't know why she gave up on me and believed she did love me... I'm so confused why she left. If I believe everything she said for 15 years over what she says after she quit on me then she must have been lieing one way or another. The thing is I don't know which is real and lies anymore. I thought we was best friends and lovers.. The best kind of relationship you can get. To me she was perfect, I even loved her faults and still loved her regardless as a whole. I miss her every second. 😔😔😔 I feel like i will never love anyone like I loved her... And if I can't then what's the point. I don't want to love any less than I did her. I only ever wanted to love her. She walk away from someone who loved her forever and I would pick her every time. Good luck on finding that again.
@@StE_sufc_1889 Women just don't up and leave for no reason, stop playing the victim. If you look back on your relationship I can bet it was warning signs. Best of luck in your next relationship
@@Halifax839 Well, Nobody is playing victim here.... I came to coach Lees videos on hopes for help and to just tell people my situation. It did not help with any of coach lees advice in my case, so just giving my experience with his information and to the people that are hurting such as myself. You say women don't just up an leave, Well they do obviously. It's a high percentage of women that want divorces\break ups and are leaving and wanting to separate. Are you going to say people don't cheat with out good reason next? A person must have done something to deserve it? I guess you would say look back at what you did to make some one cheat on you next? Again, they do. Point is you don't know me and my life so don't go out of your way to say someone is playing a victim when you have no idea about my life. Thank you for wishing me well in my future relationship its very much appreciated.
I want you to know that your experience is as valid as those whom had their exes coming back. In fact, you probably fought harder for your relationship than anyone else you know. You did everything in your power to make her happy and you endured pain and sadness for sake of better days to come. You did all that you could under the circumstances that were, yet, she still felt like it was time to move on. Coach Lee talks a lot about attraction and the fact that in a relationship when attraction fades, reasons for wanting the breakup expands and one start to take the partner for granted in many ways. This is where self worth comes in and an opportunity to detach oneself from their decision. It’s a long process and one of the goal is to eventually stop seeing yourself through the perspective of their decision and their breakup. You never wanted this. You did everything you could. Guess what… she knew that. She knew even that you would take her back as soon as she reached out. She knew where she had you. She never suffered the consequences of the breakup because she got to eat the cake but keep it too.. the breakup kept being valid and true but with the understanding on her end that the moment she comes back you will take her back. This is an understanding you need to reflect on.. why would she leave someone who loved her, respect her and never hurt her? Most likely, very much so, that she took you for granted. I am sorry to say this and for causing more pain. But I speak from experience. My ex broke up with me 3 times. On the night of a special day for me he reached out and told me that he just needed to gather himself and wanted us to eventually meet up but all on his premises. I fell for that but soon my instincts took over, my self worth started to cry, because I never hurt this soul, not even for a bit. I was even told by him that he had never experienced the love I had given him. But it still came down to him just today telling me that he couldn’t go through with this. So he once again broke up with me even though calling it a breakup doesn’t fully define the mess he put me through… I am an extreme empath and I sense that you are too… it’s not easy, I even blamed myself for things I hadn’t done.. I couldn’t understand why he had done this to me either.. why so much pain over and over again? Let’s go through this together and let’s just handed over to the universe and trust that god will help us through this pain. You will do this. Step by step. Minute by minute if so. You didn’t do anything wrong. She just took you for granted most likely and I am not just saying this. But as a girl, having a guy who has loved me unconditionally and then throwing that away, is something a girl will regret for years to come. That girl just needs to feel the loss like Lee talks about. Let her now be and let her live in accordance with her decisions. That doesn’t define you. Her choice of breaking you both doesn’t define you. She broke what was most holy to you. Let her have it that way. Trust the process even of its slow today.
Did you begged her to stay with you , called her n shit ? Or did you went directly no contact after the breakup without reaching out ? And did you worked on yourself or just waiting for her to reach out to you ?
I am doing NC. My ex reached out a day after the break up. Asked me how I was doing. Said I am fine and asked her the same. Told me she misses me and I take care. Told her thank you and take care too. After a day, I was left on READ and she deleted the I miss you message. After that, silence for 3 days and counting. I saw her watching my stories though. Did I blow it when I didn't say I miss you too? Thoughts? reason for break up: we both love and care for each other. the reason for our break us is her parents being against us and she is hurt and exhausted as they torment her over and over again. said they'll never approve us no matter what she says to them. We are in a gay rship.
Ira Jessica, I'm sorry her parents feel that way. When you both love each other, it's hard to be apart. All I can say is to try to talk to your/her parents and the heartbreak it's causing you. Try to sit them down and have a meeting with them. If your love is genuinely true, tell your parents they will be destroying you in the long term. LOVE IS LOVE, and you two belong together. Best of luck.🌈❤⚘️
@@jannlewandowski5540 she did already. before the break up she told me she and her parents are going to talk. haven't heard from her yet. i kept offering her before to let me help her, let me figure this out with her. i am willing to meet and talk to any family. my intentions are clean and pure. i know they have talked and i haven't heard from her yet/anymore. wouldn't be surprised if they scared her so that may just solidify her decision to end us. i know she might contact me for my stuff. she told me that already during the break up after I return from my work trip. returning my stuff feels like there is no hope for us but I have to just let that be. I think about what Coach said the the reason for break up is a factor too. I just think this is the rare case where the reason may not outweigh the love. I am still doing NC and I don't know if I should apply it here. thank you so much for answering and giving your opinion about my situation. you are the only one who responded and it gives me encouragement as i read them again and again. it feels nice to be heard. thank you. 🙏
I’m 24 and my ex is 18 years old, we’ve been together for 8 months. I know we loved each other, the connection is there. Can a 18 year old girl regret the break up? will she experience the stages of no contact? I am her first boyfriend, first love, first in everything, etc.
After sometime of no contact she came back saying that she loves and wants to get back together (writing a long text). I responded calm and respectfully - “I appreciate that but I’m good and I hope you’re okey” - she hasn’t tried contacting about the relationship ever since (4day & on going). I didn’t want to jump the gun and say “yes! Let’s get back together” I hope I responded correctly.
No you should have not said I'm good that's basically rejecting her. Coach lee said you should not reject them if they comeback. You should have said something like, "yeah i'd like to try again but in a slow pace" or you could say, " i'll consider". Do not straight up reject them.
@@minyoongichonjaejjangjjang5507 that was my intention because I initially thought she asked how I was doing so in response I said “im good” - as for that im leave it at that, I believe she’ll be back soon and even then I’ll tell her “not now, maybe in the near future”
Sometimes it’s best to go no contact just so that you can figure out whether or not that they were good enough for you. I did not realize after no contact with my last boyfriend was I going to see that he was toxic. Because he sure is, and Wass. I did not deserve the treatment he gave me. I am with the love of my life now.
relationships suck.... I have been recently crushed when my girl left me after a year to want to date others, and already doing so. Stupid me wants her back... I am so in love with her, I am heartbroken
LAURENCE, whatever you do, DON'T TAKE HER BACK! Stay in NC. It's obvious that she doesn't love you, and I feel bad for you. Go out with your friends, pick up a hobby, but don't contact her at all. She's not worth it, especially of she's dating other guys.
Could you do more videos about how NC psychology works if you have been blocked? Like they have blocked you so how do you do NC on them if they sorta have the upper hand by blocking you? Also could you do more videos on how to regain confidence as a dumpee and to put ourselves out there again? And how to deal with separation anxiety? I want to move forward but I am feeling so scared and anxious as many dumpees do.
They gifted you no contact since you are blocked everywhere. There's not much you can do right. They are trying to move on from you w/out social media reminding them of you. It's not that they hate you or anything like that, probably. There is no "upper hand". Give them what they are wanting and thats break up and not to talk to you. If I came to you and spit in your face and left, would you still try to talk to me, would you still feel scared and anxious? Fck no you wouldnt. Thats what they are doing when they leave like this and do these things. Take some time for yourself, improve on some things, let some time pass by. Never go shopping when you are hungry, you might grab the wrong thing. You'll feel when you are ready again. If you have to ask ...it means you are not. Good luck.
@@jannlewandowski5540 I don't contact him. I changed settings so he and his family and friends don't see the few social media items I actually post. He ended it by ghosting me. 4 weeks later the reason I contacted him was to give him his key back and get mine. It's HIM that's making this difficult.
Don't let the same person tell you twice that they don't want you.
I needed to hear that. Thank you.
@@allymimi8789 welcome. stay strong.
Good point
nailed it! thanks
3 weeks ago she left for the 2nd time.
I am a firm believer in your work. No contact worked! Thankfully it was only a period of two weeks. I didn’t do any love spells or tried to push them back into my life. I focused on myself and we came back together we both have changed so much and realized we don’t want to live life without each other. Thank you so much for your advice. You don’t even know how much you’ve helped me.
Please email us at myexbackcoach@gmail.com. We would like to use your story to help others while also protecting your privacy of course. I'm thrilled for you!
@SLEEPLESSSSUN hey may i ask what you said to your partner before you began no contact? Because i am trying to decide if i should be nice and leave or point out that they are also in the wrong, apologise on my part and then leave
@@aayushitakte6528if the other person broke up u say ok and leave never contact again.Thats the highest chance of getting them back
Nearly a year ago, my gf and I broke up. I was devestaded. After a month of pleading and at a very low point, I came accross Coach Lee's videos. They made great sense, even when the truths they brought forward were painful to hear at first. Taking a step back and focusing on rebuilding myself was the decision I made, and the results were great - I made a big step forward with my career, worked on underlying emotional issues I had and rebuilt my previously neglected social life. For the past six months, I have been in a new, happy and healthy relationship with an excepotional woman I had met thanks to these efforts, understandings and changes.
For those of you who are in pain now, please KNOW that you are not alone, even if it feels that way, and perhaps most importantly - that the hard work does pay off.
Much love to everyone, and thank you Coach Lee :)
JD, GOOD FOR YOU. I'M HAPPY FOR YOU! (I'm sure Coach Lee will be happy for you also).
Happy for you ..
One question: did your ex ever showed up in the proces?
Love from Amsterdam
I’m in so much pain . My boyfriend left without no reason . He broke my heart and I feel like I lost a huge part of myself . I loved him and respected him very much. I still love and miss him so much .
That is amazing, sounds like being dumped was the impulse you needed to improve in areas that enabled you to enter a healthy relationship. Feels very much the same here, but right now it's still hurting A LOT.
@@kokoskokso it is sad to be dumped… and you feel mistreated and taking Advantage of you .. life is beautiful I hope we pass this pain and god opens a better door for us. 🙏
I don't want him to come back. It's been 6 months of no contact. It's just better this way for both of us
They need to know that you're focusing on yourself and your goals. It's not your wrong to right if they've excused themselves 🤗
Hey Coach Lee, just wanted to say that your videos have really helped my mental fortitude these past few weeks. Three weeks ago I was dumped and your videos really helped me get through this difficult time. I kept no contact the whole time after the breakup, and last night my ex reached out to me. Now we have a better understanding of each other's feelings and how we want to move forward together in life. Even though we aren't officially back together yet, last night we both declared how much we loved each other and I just wanted to say thank you so much. Keep up the great work!
Be careful if he does not show up. That means he wants you to chase him ( narcissist).
Josh, be careful and stand your ground. Take it slow. Don't go rushing into anything regardless of how much you love each other. Remember what Coach Lee said about rushing into things. Not a good idea. Good luck to you..
I love this video.
I love the
"One day at a time"
I love the encouragement to be your very best self!
I love that he presses upon you to maintain COMPLETE Self Respect!
ALL extremely valuable components even if you ARE NOT hearing from them?! If you are not somehow watching absorbing or internalizing the above messages he is trying to help you and I encourage you to listen to this video one more time and LISTEN.
I listen to this one often and it has really equipped me and empowered me. I love respect admire and SOOO appreciate all of his videos. They have been a life saver for me when my life was shattered and a million pieces on the floor.
I truly hope you latch onto these videos/messages as a lifeline. Some key videos I actually watch over and over just to bring me strength! Every single one is chock full of Incredible Insight to your situation love caring about the absolute best for you the very BEST advice you will find PERIOD even when no one else seems to even care, or "Get you"
Coach Lee gets you.
I’m sure your ex is space gone by now Josh cuz you’re too weak 😂
@@l.franfort6340 still together 😂😂but think whatever you want 😂
My ex needs to know this; Thank you for doing what I would have never done. Enjoy your life because you can NEVER have this back!
Coach Lee is 100% right on. After a month of NC he came back. 1. I proved I was strong enough to stay away, which surprised him. When I saw him at the same event, I was happily cordial yet detached. I know he could feel my energy shift. He thought I'd be chasing after him, trying to get his attention so he could reject me (be in control). No, I was busy having fun. 2. There was clearly a shift in attractiveness. I was again the person he initially fell for- confident, sassy, detached and other men were vying for my attention (they picked up on my confident energy too). He noticed and mentioned that. 3. I'm not trying to maintain or fix anything with him. I'm moving forward and being happily elusive. If he wants to catch me, he can try.
Your attitude is perfection!
Well did he?! 😂
@@aayushitakte6528 I forgot I wrote this lol. He came back, but fortunately what I wrote 7 months ago changed. I didn't see him for a while after that- I was very deep into resolving bigger issues in my own life (moving, selling my house, etc.) and even though I missed him, I felt it was better not to see him for a while. The initial NC was me trying to make him miss me, rather than me healing, so a month wasn't enough for me to emotionally detach and get myself grounded. To be honest, I was way way too attached to him (which he didn't like at all) due some very tragic circumstances in my life, and I know I wasn't emotionally healthy. So I went silent and stopped going to that event where he'd be. Meanwhile, I met a man who lived around the corner from me, and we started to casually hang out as friends. A mutual friend saw me with him and told my guy I had a boyfriend (not true but ok). More time passed, and eventually we started very light communication. I'd reach about maybe once every 3-4 weeks with a silly meme, and we'd exchange a few words. Finally, just a few weeks ago, we got together for the first time. And then again last week. It was like nothing had changed as far as our connection, but I'm in a much better place emotionally. The time apart, the thought of me moving on with someone else, my lack of "chase" and attachment has given him a new perspective on being with me. So we're taking things slow this time and if we re-commit, it's going to be a deeper relationship. Thanks for asking 🙂
“I’m not saying you deserve the best, I don’t know you.” I love this dude. He’s so real and genuine. His videos really helped me through this time of my life. I so appreciate Coach Lee.
Thank you for such a kind comment. I appreciate your words! Happy 2025!
“I don’t know you…if you’re not a good person, then you don’t deserve the best.” 😂😂😂😂😂
Hahahaha THANK YOU!!!
Coach Lee is the best breakup and relationships coach ever. He always gives very insightful and realistic information. He always keeps it real unlike other breakup coaches who give false hopes and information to draw more views and subscribers. Coach Lee is great coach and man of integrity 👏
Thank you for such kind words!
He's absolutely the best. Smart, empathetic, knowledgeable and has a good heart.
@@Soshi701 For over 5 years I listen to Coach Lee because not only did he help me years ago, but I love to hear the way he explains each situation. He is the BEST! 👍
Yes he is , honest man , god bless him
NC really works. My ex came back twice after doing it. But the third time, I lost my patience and I will just move forward. Don’t fight for someone who doesn’t see your worth. Life is short to waste on ungrateful people. 😊
How long were the break ups?
Same! 3rd time he left, I know better now.
@@Liz-dragon-street. first one was 19 days. Second was 35 days.
@@YogiMDWanders self love honey. I loved my ex dearly and still love him but i have to love myself too. 😊
@@Venerdi12 Yes thank you ☺️ I'm choosing myself now. Hope youre doing a lot better now too 🤗
My biggest regret is reaching out to my ex severally she felt like I was the one needing her like she was doing me a favor and I regretted. I regretted breaking all my no contact. I'm now happy I have gone 4months without talking to her and I'm so happy why will someone promise to always be there for you and dump and you go and begging that person to be with you it's really not worth it. And I'm glad it happened before we married. And this no contact has made me far better in many ways. No only relationship but it has increased my patience if I say I don't still love her I'm lying but I rather die than contact her again, I go out and meet new people and it's fading gradually. I'm so happy with the no contact even if she comes back if she doesn't apologize she should find someone period!!!
Reached out a little after a month because I psyched myself out. She didn't reach out herself because she wasn't sure if I even wanted to talk with her. Nine days later she blocked me again because I questioned a red flag that popped up. Moral of the story: if they care (or fear losing you) enough they'll get the courage to reach out eventually.
After 16 months of no contact I've moved on. I just wish him the best. God has blessed me with way to much. I don't need or want him back. I just hope he returns to the sweet person he used to be.
Amen 🙏 totally get you! Congratulations for putting YOU first!
Yoo I WAS NEVER HERE BUT I GOT MINE BACK THANKS COACH LEE. And with your vids I also took the time to reflect well ahead and decide it is worth it. Although more often than not you guys gotta let it go, if it comes back then it's yours. I brute forced it though. Js. All is fair and idk Lee videos were like having someone on your side saying ur not a creep for wanting her back or trying to make it work but also maybe just focus on yourself. Focusing on myself helped a lot as well self improvement and non stalker like persuit.
Everyone listen to Coach Lee!! This Legend knows what he's talking about💯👍😀
"In not saying you deserve the best. I don't know you and if your not a good person, then you don't deserve the best!" I fuckin love it bro. Your realness is why I trust your word so much and why i don't worry about anything being sugar-coated.
Damn Lee!! You are making me cry! You are giving me confidence! I am not beneath them! Only God defines my worth! I was always driving and going to his place, always thinking about him, trying to show I’m a good woman and I actually loved him. He used that. I brought it up to him and told him it felt unequal. He changed. He thought I thought I was beneath him but I was just trying to show him my love
Coach Lee is so forthcoming haha he is like, if you're not a good person you don't deserve the best. If that is not honesty to the point to make you reevaluate your character, then nothing else is. Be a good person, love yourself without vanity, be confident without the nasty ego, go no contact when you have to and work on yourself. You are not beneath anyone, like Coach said...some people will test you to see what they can get away with. Be strong! 💯
These videos this guy is doing are great for you as an individual to helps with self control. I used to think that i want my ex back but after a few months of no contact i was 100% sure that she wasn't the right one for me, a year later i'm dating another lady and my mental health is way better.
Made by Yass, that's exactly why NC is also for YOUR benefit. It gives you time to think. Good luck to you.
Sorry is just words. Actions are needed to fix the mistrust
How to fix the mistrust issue?
@@philipjoaquin2270 it’s not between you and me
Now Im just learning because you helped me when I was down but I dont need my ex anymore.🙏🏾🙏🏾
Coach Lee plz let me be 100% honest with you. I’m in love with my ex, but this time I’m choosing me. I purchased your breakup kit and I’m confident that the mistakes I did with my ex won’t happen again. Just wait until my ex’s rebound fails and he comes running back…I’ll send him BACK TO THE STREETS!!! You my Brother Lee, have obtained FAVOR from our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ
My man left due to my behaviour that was caused by childhood trauma. He couldnt take it anymore. It's been almost 4 months. He keep Saying he want to stay in touch and always speaks to me when I reach out. We meet for drink a month ago and I pushed him even more away expecting us to start again from there and getting all emotional.
No contact is my last chance with him but omg is hard!
It's only day 4. Your videos helping me big time. Thank you!
I was in a 14 year relationship. She left 5 months ago. I tried to reach out a few times after (not begging or crying) but , she rejected my advances to talk as civil human beings. After I stopped trying to talk to her at all , she reached out to me February 11th and 20th. I did not answer either call . Her birthday was March 5th. I did not wish her happy birthday either. I feel ignoring her calls and especially not wishing her happy birthday all the power is in my hands now. I hope she is happy with her decision in throwing away 14 years because I will likely never answer her again. Moral of the story is , yes , they usually come back. When they come back IGNORE THEM. They have to PROVE TO YOU they are worth your time. DO NOT kiss their ass especially if they were cold in the break up. RESPECT AND LOVE YOURSELF. They expect you to drop everything you're doing and answer them when they reach out. It will piss them off when you no longer care and that is their fault!
You ignored her 3 times, you won't hear from her again....
@Tambrose0405 laugh out loud. Good. She ignored me multiple times as well after the break up when I tied to reach out. Wouldn't she expect the same treatment in return ? She has audacity for reaching out to me. Granted the situation sucks , she created it and now she'll have to live with it.
NEVER ignore them if you want them back
@cherryt1790 Tell that to her too. I don't want her back. Hell , as a matter of fact , i don't want anybody except for mysef ! This relationship left a bitter taste in my mouth . I will be alone for a while. At least I'm self improving and bettering myself.
@Rob P Z lol, well that's good, that you are working on self-improvement. I can definitely understand the bitter taste. I've been alone for a year now also after a 14 yr relationship. But I feel soooo much better today than I did just a few months ago. Keep going...you got this!
Wow... all that I am hearing from yoy Coach Lee is opposite of what I have done for almost 2 decades!! My God, how many mistakes??!! Well it's abt time I wake up... yesss! I am willing to show strength, dignity.. he should see someone as strong as he is.. that I can walk away.. that I am not beneath him.. rhat I have my own value... He broke up with me 3 times in the past and I deserve better. I didn't know howvto behave. Thanks to you I know now what I should and shouldn't do!! I can always reach out.. but I will only do it when I am stronger.. not weak. When I respect myself likexI should have a long.. long time ago.. Bless you coach Lee!!
I know what you mean. It's pretty crazy that our instinct to chase and pursue is the action that leads to the worst outcome. Been there-I know how confusing it can be. Just wanted to give you the heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. Oh, and get this: you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need!
I commented on another post. I'm in the UK and my husband suddenly up and left 2 months ago, immediately filing for divorce. I had a full on mental breakdown and acted like a crazy person, doing all the wrong things etc. With professional help I no longer even want to speak to him but I'm just working on myself. I probably did ruin my chances but I'm at peace with divorce even though I didn't want it. Doing what is best for me now, I'm done with him.
It’s been 3 weeks since the end of my 10 year relationship. The separation was very cordial.. Haven’t contacted since then. I realized I left my laptop charger in our old apartment where she still stays, I went out and bought a new one instead trying to go pick it up.. It’s been easy tbh. I know about this NC rule so I’m just taking it easy. I moved to my parents house so I always have company and good little support system… I’ll be honest the dreams is what is the real killer. I’ll be fine throughout the day and night. It’s when I wake up im like “ouch”. Lol. We got this boys, even if we never get them back. It’s all good 😇
Nice man. Did she reach out yet?
updates?
Mine was 10 years as well. It’s been a rough 4 months of separation for me. I tried for 3 and a half months to fix things but three weeks ago I finally dipped off the face of the earth. Doing my best to not look back. I wasn’t the one that threw ten years down the drain, she was. Getting myself prepared to sign the papers now.
Stay strong and positive to everyone going through this.
There is more to discover than your ex.
This is one of the most important videos
Pay attention and be strong
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I reached out too many times and did everything wrong! Wish I listened to coach Lee from the beginning. It was my first break up so I have learned a lot and will never allow myself to be so humiliated and indignant again. I’m getting stronger now and never want to see her again! Took time people, I’m at 13 weeks now.
I've dated a lot of women over the last 15 years, 99% of them came back after I applied no contact! It works for most people. Great advice Coach.
I’m 25 and my ex is 21. We dated for a year, and she dumped me over text. She called me for like 5 mins and then hung up on me. After about 3 days of me just texting her, she blocked me on everything and threatened that if I kept trying to reach out to her or anyone she knows, that she would get “others” involved. I’m pretty sure she’s done for good. Keep in mind, my texts were all expressing my love, not mean in any way. I think she’s out for good. Idk
It's funny How life is... I still watch coach Lee even that i don't want to see my ex anymore. It's like a teacher teaching important stuff to student.
Because everything he spook actually happened
After i moved on from my ex, she reached me and Said she missed me...
I was over her after 4 months of nc.
Kryptoniana, that's exactly how I feel. I met Coach Lee (on line) over 5 years ago when I was hurting badly! Not only am I over my ex, but I listen to Lee every day just to hear his advice to all these broken hearts.
One of his best videos....I'm on Day 58 and watched this video 10+ times!! Keep watching this video and listen good.
She broke on Day 60 and texted me!! Of course she went hard still. As the coach says... don't give it all back. Give only what your partner gives you ...nothing more.
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Happy for you ! Update ?
@@dm904 She's a narcissist and avoidant. She once said... let's get married and have a baby...only to say let's forget all that was said earlier. I am back in No Contact now...and she is going crazy. She knows what I want for us....but because she's an avoidant, she will not tell me. I will risk losing her forever if she doesn't want me to live with her. I have found out through YT videos that she's a narcissist and I'm an empath. Look up those videos and see what those two types are. For now, she doesn't get to have me. I wait in radio silence for her to see the light.
@@losbanos999amazing news how are you both now?
This is coaches Lee’s most powerful UA-cam message listen to this one really listen to this one.
My ex broke up with me and I didn’t talk to her for close to 45 days. She blocked me. One night after a little too much alcohol, I texted her and she Amazingly responded. She had unblocked me. We had a short conversation, but I then professed my unrequited love and she said she didn’t feel the same way. I then got personal and she reblocked me. I left her a voicemail to apologize the next day. I didn’t think she’d get it because I was blocked. I then emailed her an apology for being a drunken mess and I wished her well. She responded saying she received my voicemail also and thanked me for the apology. She wished me the best but said please don’t contact me anymore. That was like a knife to the heart. I am respecting her wishes and focusing on me now. The worst part is I feel like I really messed up and my communication skills suck and I just get angry and don’t convey it properly. That’s something else I am working on. I have to regain my dignity and self respect
I really do not know what I'd do without your encouragement. Thank you coach 😢
We broke up almost 3 ms now . I finally did something different than before. It has been so hard. However, i feel like i have overcome the most difficult stage. Nowbits his turn to start the "tough" phase. Meanwhile, somedays i have cried myb❤️ out.. others i have focused on personal growth and enrolled into financial gains courses. 🙏 It feels good.
I reached out too soon and immediately regretted it. Now, I send myself the text message first. Then i decide if i want to send it. 99/100 that message remains in my own inbox and i live a life i never regret.
Thank you, i have veey low self esteem and your video made me realise that at least im worth it , i deserve someone who at least wants to be with me ,
I am only a few days into no contact after a year long relationship. The problem that she stated with our relationship is that I didn’t take her out on dates enough. She ended it then I came back and asked her if we could go out on a date. She told me no and that it wouldn’t be the best idea.
She is a social media influencer and a professional powerlifter so there is no shortage of guys who are hitting her up. We also have a small group of friends that we all hang out with and all of them have decided to leave me and go with her. I’m trying my best to not let it look like I phases me, but I’m dying inside. To make matters worse I’m pretty sure she is starting to see one of our mutual friends from that friend group.
I find myself brought to tears all the time, but I’m going to keep my resolve. Thank you coach Lee for making this a little bit easier!
Powe_Geek,
I wish I could give a response that could help but I think you need something more professional and specific that allows enough time for all your specific details to be addressed. For that, I suggest a coaching session with Coach Lee or one of his staff coaches. You can book that with this link: myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/
I am not going to degrade myself.. I have done enougb to save our relationship but now it's me I have to save.. I will take your advice dear coach because it speaks to me like no other words have ever before... He left me 2 months ago and regretfully I have done so many mistakes but hearing you today have made me realize that it is me I must save.. before I crash.. it's been so hard for too long.. thank you so much..
You’re welcome.
@@RealCoachLee Exactly, I feel it's unfair that the dumped sort of have to do a huge amount of work just to please the dumper so they get back together. I know it's not like that but that initial power dynamic + the decisionmaking being solely in their hands leaves me resentful and unsure whether I even want to get back with somebody who didn't treat me as a priority. I'd appreciate if you had any videos on that subject.
Guys, please stay common-law, and sign a common law contract with your partner!! Protect your money,
Im not sure if i want him back. It freaks me out that he was planning this while i was totally emotionally naked in front of him. How skilled!😮
Boy did I need this video today! After 8 months NC my ex came back. It really was a case of he blocked me & forgot so he thought in the past 8 months I wasn't speaking or reaching out to him, which I had several times. So he reaches out via FB & I was slow to respond but I finally did. He said he was so thankful to be back in my life that he had missed me so much! I told him we could work things out but it would require communicating as in if there were issues we needed to talk to each other about them for which he agreed. 3 weeks back in & one evening I was texting him & he just wasn't replying. I got really upset but waited til the next day to call him & see what had happened? He didn't say anything. I was supposed to go to his house that day. I decided...No...if he isn't going to do the one thing I ask then I wasn't going to see him. He hasn't communicated since I told him no & I so want to reach out but I know I have to stay strong & keep my boundaries. 3 times now I've tried with this man & every break up has been because of poor communication.
Totally feel you. I did NC and he came back and only last 1.5 weeks and blocked me again. I feel humiliated all over again. I have tried so many times with this man. They just don’t learn their lessons.
He is playing with you. If he really wanted to be with you he would. He wants ego bust of you chasing him and being on the shelf. Move on. He is probably a narcissist.
Coach lee is right ,i was no contact 2 weeks and she texted me. I thought she wanted to be back together so i answered her and start texting with her again ...next day she became cold..and i realized she went cold because she felt i was there again for her, so all progress deetroyed .Now im in new no contact
My brother in christ Lee coming with more support and insight for those who are heartbroken
It’s been 5 months 😢 I still cry till this very day
Your not alone 30yr relationship 3months nc,its hard but we need faith
It’s been a year… nothing still
@@maryalbania897 are u in no contact buddy ? Can u explain ehy he/she left u
any update@@maryalbania897
I am not worried there are too many factors against for her to come back. Then I there is only a 15% that I want her to come back.
These videos still help with me moving forward!
Almost 2 years since our breakup… shes been with someone else for awhile now. Although i haven’t checked in months. For some reason tonight i am hurting. I miss her and sometimes hope to hear from her again. Tomorrow morning i’ll be like wtf was that about? Life goes on I guess…
Os3, HI, I've been there, and I'm sorry you're going thru that. It gets better in TIME. My relationship was 5 yrs. You'll be fine. Hugs..⚘️⚘️
You are awesome coach Lee, my ex called me baby and sent kisses after 8 days no contact. When I responded, she replied very coldy. Thus, I didn't respond to her cold response and put her back in no contact. She used the sweet texts as bait and I stood my ground by not responding to colc text coach Lee, thanks to your advice.
I just started talking to my ex after not talking to her for a while gone out and she initiated all the moves grabbing kissing me … so I’m hoping it goes well this time n works 🤷🏾♂️🤞🏾
That's great news. I hope I have as much luck with my ex. We broke up 2 weeks ago and I'm 1 week into No Contact. She's such a sweetheart and a very caring person, so she deserves the best. I just don't want another guy hurting her like her ex before me. He cheated on her multiple times and I promised her I would treat her like the princess she is.
@@professor0reo700 I messed it up 😔 went out in a group I drank more than I should and not sure what I told her or got into my feelings 🤦🏽♂️ wish you all good luck with your relationship mines done for.
@@Trueblue03 Try no contact again and see if it does any better. There's always hope to grab onto. I know there's a good chance that I can win my ex back if I improve myself enough. I've done so much for her, I have a feeling that she'll definitely reach out in the future. I love her so much.
I like this one! Good, clear and emphatic. And correct whether they circle back or not. I find myself plugging into its forceful masculine logic every day in order to keep my spirit strong.
Beard looks great on you, thanks for another great video !
I have not begged or pleaded.
Thanks for these videos Coach Lee! They're keeping me strong. God bless you.
Mr. Lee clear this point ,he is between two lady and little girl.I have no mind.But I want to know about this,
I sent her a paragraph about how I felt and she unfriended me on everything. She also told me she’s with someone new.
coach lee is the best.. legit
Emergency brak up kit is amazing!
1 year of NC aaaand she's not comming back 😅 for some reason I feel that I miss her in some way, some times is hard to get her out of my mind.
I guess she's happy with the person that replaced me, she's never loved me and don't missed me.
Thank you Coach Lee ❤
I walk away with dignity
Need a video on when ur ex leaves u when there parents influence them....ummm like she firstly told me she will try to convince her parents even after break up she said and after a month of no contact she said i wont convince them they will hurt and then she left
Excellent, Thank you Coach Lee…
Without Self love you cannot love anyone else
3 months she isn't coming back. She's moved on. I've moved on. Way hotter and better quality women out there. It was a rough 3 months but I got my dream career started dating a lot of other women. I have value her value is what I gave to her. Never again
Added this one to my Favorites list!
Just want to say a big thank you for your videos you have gotten me through a rough couple of weeks, i broke no contact a few times but now im 2 weeks of real no contact my heart still aches sometimes but youve motivated me to be strong
Cindy Nyala , I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which is excellent and it will help you. Also the kit is popular.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
A week into NC after 5 months of limited contact. Me and my wife separated and she told me she loves me but not in love. She also doesn’t want a divorce when I asked her. I really don’t know if NC will work because I feel like she made her decision to split a long time ago. Hurts so bad.
Hey, how are u doin?
She came back in 11 days
She told : can we talk again?
And then she also used the magic word "please".
She never told me please, but nc made it possible.
I m truly greatful for all ur nc videos.
I wish I knew it 2 years earlier as there was a girl who played so bad with my feelings.
But that's past now.
Feeling great to take over the relationship lead in future.
fantastic advice mate. absolutely 💯 dead right on the money. really appreciate ur videos 👍
Amazing Man !
Ty coach Lee .without you i would have given in already for doing n c . Ty your so helpfull its been one month and still doing n c .it hurts .wecwere togeather for overc3 years.ty
After 4 weeks of no contact, my ex messaged me. She was very upset, because I didn't contact her. I started getting optimistic, then 2 days later she says she doesn't want to be in a relationship. 😢 Did I screw it up, coz I'm back to feeling like poo!
guilllumearno, she is either very confused, or she played you. Stay away from her bcse you can do much better. ❤
Thank you so much everything you say Coach lee makes so much sense 😊
I recently (as of 2 days ago) let my ex back into my life after she repeatedly broke NC by texting me, calling me, etc over 30 times in one day on like Day 3 of NC.
I told her she needed to earn this back and do whatever she feels necessary to show me she cares for me and to show me how much she wants this.
As of a few minutes ago she complained and said it feels weird not having me talk to her like I normally would, and that it felt off by the casual responses I give her, I’m doing my best to not give her too much, because I do want her to work for it.
Any advice? I know I’m not supposed to just jump back out and start being lovey. But it does feel kinda rough by holding myself back a lot.
As someone who is going through the exact same thing. Do not forget how you felt when you first broke up. Ask yourself if they have changed and if so is still worth it? You have to make it clear that you will not get walked on.
Thank you coach Lee you are empowering women
Much needed
It's just been a year now. Nothing you said worked in anyway at all.. It just got harder and harder for me. I still don't know what happened or why we split up. I'm completely lost and confused on our life.
Same, 1y of NC 😔
@@dongy762Im still struggling with the loss... I feel like I don't want tomorrow to come. Living with out her by my side is killing me. I still don't know why she gave up on me and believed she did love me... I'm so confused why she left. If I believe everything she said for 15 years over what she says after she quit on me then she must have been lieing one way or another. The thing is I don't know which is real and lies anymore. I thought we was best friends and lovers.. The best kind of relationship you can get. To me she was perfect, I even loved her faults and still loved her regardless as a whole. I miss her every second. 😔😔😔 I feel like i will never love anyone like I loved her... And if I can't then what's the point. I don't want to love any less than I did her. I only ever wanted to love her. She walk away from someone who loved her forever and I would pick her every time. Good luck on finding that again.
@@StE_sufc_1889 Women just don't up and leave for no reason, stop playing the victim. If you look back on your relationship I can bet it was warning signs. Best of luck in your next relationship
@@Halifax839 Well, Nobody is playing victim here....
I came to coach Lees videos on hopes for help and to just tell people my situation. It did not help with any of coach lees advice in my case, so just giving my experience with his information and to the people that are hurting such as myself. You say women don't just up an leave, Well they do obviously. It's a high percentage of women that want divorces\break ups and are leaving and wanting to separate. Are you going to say people don't cheat with out good reason next? A person must have done something to deserve it? I guess you would say look back at what you did to make some one cheat on you next? Again, they do. Point is you don't know me and my life so don't go out of your way to say someone is playing a victim when you have no idea about my life. Thank you for wishing me well in my future relationship its very much appreciated.
I want you to know that your experience is as valid as those whom had their exes coming back. In fact, you probably fought harder for your relationship than anyone else you know. You did everything in your power to make her happy and you endured pain and sadness for sake of better days to come. You did all that you could under the circumstances that were, yet, she still felt like it was time to move on. Coach Lee talks a lot about attraction and the fact that in a relationship when attraction fades, reasons for wanting the breakup expands and one start to take the partner for granted in many ways. This is where self worth comes in and an opportunity to detach oneself from their decision. It’s a long process and one of the goal is to eventually stop seeing yourself through the perspective of their decision and their breakup. You never wanted this. You did everything you could. Guess what… she knew that. She knew even that you would take her back as soon as she reached out. She knew where she had you. She never suffered the consequences of the breakup because she got to eat the cake but keep it too.. the breakup kept being valid and true but with the understanding on her end that the moment she comes back you will take her back. This is an understanding you need to reflect on.. why would she leave someone who loved her, respect her and never hurt her? Most likely, very much so, that she took you for granted. I am sorry to say this and for causing more pain. But I speak from experience. My ex broke up with me 3 times. On the night of a special day for me he reached out and told me that he just needed to gather himself and wanted us to eventually meet up but all on his premises. I fell for that but soon my instincts took over, my self worth started to cry, because I never hurt this soul, not even for a bit. I was even told by him that he had never experienced the love I had given him. But it still came down to him just today telling me that he couldn’t go through with this. So he once again broke up with me even though calling it a breakup doesn’t fully define the mess he put me through… I am an extreme empath and I sense that you are too… it’s not easy, I even blamed myself for things I hadn’t done.. I couldn’t understand why he had done this to me either.. why so much pain over and over again?
Let’s go through this together and let’s just handed over to the universe and trust that god will help us through this pain. You will do this. Step by step. Minute by minute if so. You didn’t do anything wrong. She just took you for granted most likely and I am not just saying this. But as a girl, having a guy who has loved me unconditionally and then throwing that away, is something a girl will regret for years to come. That girl just needs to feel the loss like Lee talks about. Let her now be and let her live in accordance with her decisions. That doesn’t define you. Her choice of breaking you both doesn’t define you. She broke what was most holy to you. Let her have it that way. Trust the process even of its slow today.
Always appreciate your advice.🙏
Sending u ❤ from Papua New Guinea 🇵🇬
Excellent 🎉❤
Thank you for helping. This has been so hard for me 😢
3 months of no contact and she’s already seeing someone else. I’ve lost hope
Sebastian, don't give up so easily. Give it more TIME. If you don't hear anything in the next 30 days, then I would let her go.
Did you begged her to stay with you , called her n shit ? Or did you went directly no contact after the breakup without reaching out ? And did you worked on yourself or just waiting for her to reach out to you ?
I am doing NC. My ex reached out a day after the break up. Asked me how I was doing. Said I am fine and asked her the same. Told me she misses me and I take care. Told her thank you and take care too. After a day, I was left on READ and she deleted the I miss you message. After that, silence for 3 days and counting. I saw her watching my stories though.
Did I blow it when I didn't say I miss you too? Thoughts?
reason for break up:
we both love and care for each other. the reason for our break us is her parents being against us and she is hurt and exhausted as they torment her over and over again. said they'll never approve us no matter what she says to them. We are in a gay rship.
Ira Jessica, I'm sorry her parents feel that way. When you both love each other, it's hard to be apart. All I can say is to try to talk to your/her parents and the heartbreak it's causing you. Try to sit them down and have a meeting with them. If your love is genuinely true, tell your parents they will be destroying you in the long term. LOVE IS LOVE, and you two belong together. Best of luck.🌈❤⚘️
@@jannlewandowski5540 she did already. before the break up she told me she and her parents are going to talk. haven't heard from her yet. i kept offering her before to let me help her, let me figure this out with her. i am willing to meet and talk to any family. my intentions are clean and pure. i know they have talked and i haven't heard from her yet/anymore. wouldn't be surprised if they scared her so that may just solidify her decision to end us. i know she might contact me for my stuff. she told me that already during the break up after I return from my work trip. returning my stuff feels like there is no hope for us but I have to just let that be. I think about what Coach said the the reason for break up is a factor too. I just think this is the rare case where the reason may not outweigh the love. I am still doing NC and I don't know if I should apply it here.
thank you so much for answering and giving your opinion about my situation. you are the only one who responded and it gives me encouragement as i read them again and again. it feels nice to be heard. thank you. 🙏
I’m 24 and my ex is 18 years old, we’ve been together for 8 months. I know we loved each other, the connection is there. Can a 18 year old girl regret the break up? will she experience the stages of no contact? I am her first boyfriend, first love, first in everything, etc.
Coach Lee, you’re the best. Your wise counsel is needed so much. Thank you ❤️
One day at a time.. ❤ thank you
Lee u are our precious. U need to be protected by all cost. And we still need more videos! :P
Even if they come back,long ,long way,and patience the healing.
After sometime of no contact she came back saying that she loves and wants to get back together (writing a long text). I responded calm and respectfully - “I appreciate that but I’m good and I hope you’re okey” - she hasn’t tried contacting about the relationship ever since (4day & on going). I didn’t want to jump the gun and say “yes! Let’s get back together” I hope I responded correctly.
Truly, yes, you did respond correctly. Don't sound like you're anxious or desperate to get back with her. Keep doing what you're doing.
@@jannlewandowski5540 wouldn’t you understand my response to her long apology letter as a way of me rejecting her offer to get back with me or what……?
No you should have not said I'm good that's basically rejecting her. Coach lee said you should not reject them if they comeback. You should have said something like, "yeah i'd like to try again but in a slow pace" or you could say, " i'll consider".
Do not straight up reject them.
@@minyoongichonjaejjangjjang5507 that was my intention because I initially thought she asked how I was doing so in response I said “im good” - as for that im leave it at that, I believe she’ll be back soon and even then I’ll tell her “not now, maybe in the near future”
If you DO want to get back together, then that was the wrong thing to say!
Thank you so much for your videos.
Sometimes it’s best to go no contact just so that you can figure out whether or not that they were good enough for you. I did not realize after no contact with my last boyfriend was I going to see that he was toxic. Because he sure is, and Wass. I did not deserve the treatment he gave me. I am with the love of my life now.
It also helps you figure out whether they really cared about you or not.
relationships suck.... I have been recently crushed when my girl left me after a year to want to date others, and already doing so. Stupid me wants her back... I am so in love with her, I am heartbroken
LAURENCE, whatever you do, DON'T TAKE HER BACK! Stay in NC. It's obvious that she doesn't love you, and I feel bad for you. Go out with your friends, pick up a hobby, but don't contact her at all. She's not worth it, especially of she's dating other guys.
I love this
Could you do more videos about how NC psychology works if you have been blocked? Like they have blocked you so how do you do NC on them if they sorta have the upper hand by blocking you?
Also could you do more videos on how to regain confidence as a dumpee and to put ourselves out there again? And how to deal with separation anxiety? I want to move forward but I am feeling so scared and anxious as many dumpees do.
They gifted you no contact since you are blocked everywhere. There's not much you can do right. They are trying to move on from you w/out social media reminding them of you. It's not that they hate you or anything like that, probably. There is no "upper hand". Give them what they are wanting and thats break up and not to talk to you. If I came to you and spit in your face and left, would you still try to talk to me, would you still feel scared and anxious? Fck no you wouldnt. Thats what they are doing when they leave like this and do these things. Take some time for yourself, improve on some things, let some time pass by. Never go shopping when you are hungry, you might grab the wrong thing. You'll feel when you are ready again. If you have to ask ...it means you are not. Good luck.
How do I get him to stop sending me breadcrumbs? Every holiday he sends a short text, and I'm polite and then that's it.
Judy K. Go NO CONTACT WITH HIM.
@@jannlewandowski5540 I don't contact him. I changed settings so he and his family and friends don't see the few social media items I actually post. He ended it by ghosting me. 4 weeks later the reason I contacted him was to give him his key back and get mine. It's HIM that's making this difficult.
I’ve watched all your videos and I have your break up kit you’re amazing
David, thank you for your kind words.
I'm sure my ex won't come back because he is going to block me as he said