Secrets Your Ex Does Not Want You To Know

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  • @apartmanin8145
    @apartmanin8145 3 роки тому +836

    What coach Lee saying is 100% correct. I am saying this as a psychologist. People listen to this man.

    • @MegaBrandon3
      @MegaBrandon3 3 роки тому +3

      So your proof is?

    • @mosskrypt3d768
      @mosskrypt3d768 2 роки тому +27

      @@MegaBrandon3 Trust me bro

    • @Kingalex0120
      @Kingalex0120 Рік тому +3

      @@MegaBrandon3Are u the police or sum💀

    • @Gbb93
      @Gbb93 8 місяців тому +1

      @@MegaBrandon3 Proof that he is a psychologist? Either way, you can do a simple google search and psychology will confirm that not contacting someone will cause them to miss you if you were significant to them in any way. It also is pretty obvious that chasing them indicates that you need them instead of it being mutual.

  • @manayermussaed145
    @manayermussaed145 4 роки тому +3615

    I no longer listen to coach lee to get my ex back. I listen to him because his words give me extra strength on the days I feel down. ❤️

    • @MUTAONAIR
      @MUTAONAIR 4 роки тому +59

      Coach Lee is the boss! 💯

    • @mochamonie8726
      @mochamonie8726 4 роки тому +60

      Manayer Mussaed I’m on the same page , I’ve accepted what’s best for me but every once in awhile I do get down , and he helps :)

    • @jeremybaker7959
      @jeremybaker7959 4 роки тому +55

      I feel the same way. I gave up after a year and she has been through 6 boyfriends later

    • @SamuraiSam001
      @SamuraiSam001 4 роки тому +6

      Agreed.

    • @volvoripr9980
      @volvoripr9980 4 роки тому +7

      Lol me too

  • @Bayizy
    @Bayizy 4 роки тому +1993

    It really sucks when someone you gave your heart to becomes a stranger to you all of a sudden.
    - - - - - - -
    2023 Update: I found Jesus..and everything fell into place. And after that He gave me a God fearing man, I love him so much and he loves me so much. I'll be forever thankful. And we're getting married next year. Praise God 🙏❤️

  • @rosserscott4376
    @rosserscott4376 4 роки тому +866

    I'm no one's back up plan. The more of these videos I watch, the more I realize I'm going to be OK 👌.

    • @jahalo2038
      @jahalo2038 4 роки тому +5

      Rosser Scott preachhhhh

    • @MsThebeMoon
      @MsThebeMoon 4 роки тому +9

      That's right! You are the prize to win over.

    • @margomazzeo1680
      @margomazzeo1680 4 роки тому

      @@MsThebeMoon Yes!!

    • @stephaniemax9333
      @stephaniemax9333 4 роки тому

      I know a strong and spiritual one who can help you with a love spell

    • @thedarkestowl4224
      @thedarkestowl4224 4 роки тому +9

      Never ever ever settle to be a backup plan! You are amazing, unique and you deserve your right match

  • @joshuafoster9945
    @joshuafoster9945 4 роки тому +901

    Yes losing someone you love is hard!! But in all honesty mine did me a favor I was 350 pounds and on a road to self destruction!! We have been broken up for almost a year now! No contact at all! Yes I still have my bad days missing her thinking of her but I started working on myself I’m down to 269 pounds! To everyone who is new to this you got this I promise it does get easier! Hang in there! And thank you coach Lee!!

    • @IvanGeorgiev---
      @IvanGeorgiev--- 4 роки тому +9

      Keep going!

    • @johnd7034
      @johnd7034 4 роки тому +13

      Keep up the good work! I too have lost weight, 270 to down to 240 and counting. Focusing the energy on yourself is way to go. 6 months of breakup and staying strong at NC.

    • @DennisNowland
      @DennisNowland 4 роки тому +2

      Great. Keep going 😊

    • @uknownmcdick337
      @uknownmcdick337 4 роки тому +5

      proud of you bro!!! keep grinding, each hard day is just another lesson that you can apply in the future

    • @mindtheprivacy
      @mindtheprivacy 4 роки тому +4

      Keep at it!💯

  • @rimshaabir9988
    @rimshaabir9988 4 роки тому +912

    You're the only one keeping me from texting my ex right now. We recently broke up and I feel so lost

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  4 роки тому +319

      Stay strong. Give your ex the opportunity to miss you.

    • @toronto416.
      @toronto416. 4 роки тому +4

      Cool beans how old are you?

    • @yogihaughton
      @yogihaughton 4 роки тому +30

      Coach Lee knows his shit inside out. Watch as many vids as possible, they are all full of wise words

    • @rimshaabir9988
      @rimshaabir9988 4 роки тому

      @Trenton Doggett thank you

    • @rimshaabir9988
      @rimshaabir9988 4 роки тому +2

      @@benjunior1678 thank you. I appreciate you sharing your story. I hope things work out for the best for the two of you 😊💕

  • @SpectorHaze
    @SpectorHaze 4 роки тому +433

    Most important secret that they don't want to know: you moved on and not giving a crap about it anymore.

    • @picachicaasmr260
      @picachicaasmr260 4 роки тому +12

      Then the are on you like white on rice!

    • @paolanatalia2000
      @paolanatalia2000 4 роки тому +5

      Vandella Charles Right? When it’s just a little too late.

    • @picachicaasmr260
      @picachicaasmr260 4 роки тому +22

      @@paolanatalia2000 ....I'm at the point where, I don't gave a damn if he comes back or not. Since I got to that mindset, NOW he's calling!....lol...smh

    • @IrishCassidy
      @IrishCassidy 4 роки тому +1

      @@picachicaasmr260 That's the way it always is, like they feel the pull of your energy is missing. My ex, will wind up crying to me, when his life is so destitute and he is broke, then I will have to figure out what to do. Should I be mean to him?

    • @lols5851
      @lols5851 4 роки тому

      @@picachicaasmr260 after how long your ex reached out?

  • @nitishkumarbarick7228
    @nitishkumarbarick7228 4 роки тому +480

    You gave me more advice than my parents have in the 21 years of my life..

  • @thekingslayer2431
    @thekingslayer2431 4 роки тому +140

    I miss her a lot. But I am worthy of love. I am a catch. I am good looking. I am compassionate. I want her. But I don’t need her to be happy.

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  4 роки тому +29

      Well said! Believe it and stay strong!

    • @donmeyers2631
      @donmeyers2631 3 роки тому +7

      Damn right you are!

    • @MaiyaJade
      @MaiyaJade 3 роки тому +4

      Yes you are!!!

    • @RobertNelson87
      @RobertNelson87 8 місяців тому +5

      I am too... After 2 month in grief and sadness I now realize I have different options. In the darkest hours you just don't see all the cards on your hand. After what she did to me I don't see a way of getting back together. It's still kinda sad but I learnt to accept - it was so tough. She made me feel that way. Whenever I look back I now see her making me feel faulty, less attractive and most of all: insecure! How could I ever want that back? She never took over any responsibility for what she sad or did. Best is to move on quick! I sometimes cry, yes, but these are now tears for having wasted so much time trying to understand and love someone who simply didn't want me in her life anymore. Goodbye Ex!

  • @huntercoleman4302
    @huntercoleman4302 2 роки тому +115

    “when you stay away they have to re create you to feel your company” this is a really hard hitting one. and with the effect of time discarding all negative thoughts of you it’s genius.

  • @jayk4500
    @jayk4500 4 роки тому +234

    Don’t ever be someone else’s back up plan.
    Great video Coach

  • @jenisabelle8785
    @jenisabelle8785 4 роки тому +566

    5 months no contact. Checked his social media last week and he already moved on to another girl. Bye forever to him now. Once I see they have a connection to another woman I cry one full day and then get super turned off. Wouldn't take him back now even if they paid me.

    • @fernandamarchio802
      @fernandamarchio802 4 роки тому +40

      Be strong. You'll get someone better.

    • @jenisabelle8785
      @jenisabelle8785 4 роки тому +5

      Igor Oliveira Thank you!!

    • @kevinrally7119
      @kevinrally7119 4 роки тому +49

      He his actually hurt himself because he will know your value after loosing you

    • @jenisabelle8785
      @jenisabelle8785 4 роки тому +9

      Kevin Rally I hope he does see that one day. Thank you🙏🏼

    • @jenisabelle8785
      @jenisabelle8785 4 роки тому +2

      Manayer Mussaed that's right! haha

  • @samihasonar5610
    @samihasonar5610 4 роки тому +359

    "And if you could stay away, you could move on. What a wonderful message for your ex to get from you instead of a text message." This got me cracking.
    😂

  • @rachaeladeline
    @rachaeladeline 4 роки тому +205

    Your silence is powerful! That to me is the biggest one and speaks volumes to me. How can someone miss you if you don't let it be silent?

    • @troyesivan7069
      @troyesivan7069 4 роки тому

      what’s your story? did he reach out?

    • @rachaeladeline
      @rachaeladeline 4 роки тому

      My situation is weird and complicated. He is being forced to stay away from me by his father (hes almost 18, still living at home) and I can't really talk to him. His dad is controlling his feelings for him right now, he's not allowed to text or call me. I am still in NC and it's been a month and I decided I'll reach out another month from now since our situation is a bit unique and we were forced apart by a third party. I also need something back from him that belongs to me. I'm keeping it casual and doing the best I can not to pounce and bother him because silence is power! I've actually been working on myself a lot and doing better without him, but I still love and want to be with him.

    • @dnap2526
      @dnap2526 3 роки тому +3

      @@rachaeladeline how old are you

  • @ericavalentine387
    @ericavalentine387 4 роки тому +261

    I've been in NC for about a month and I'm doing much better. I have my moments but these videos and a lot a prayer have really helped me. I have a daily routine of listening to gospel music, praying for my ex and praying for MY strength! Thanks Coach Lee!!

    • @ifyify6073
      @ifyify6073 4 роки тому +11

      I have been on NC since January 1 but yet to hear from her...I don't think I need her anymore...have healed from the break up

    • @AminataD26
      @AminataD26 3 роки тому +3

      Erica update ?

    • @ericavalentine387
      @ericavalentine387 3 роки тому +18

      @@AminataD26 we haven't gotten back together but I'm dating someone else now... it's for the best. I found out alot of disturbing things he was doing while we were together

    • @arthuromondi9123
      @arthuromondi9123 3 роки тому +3

      Stay strong

  • @lourdesandzachary13
    @lourdesandzachary13 4 роки тому +250

    Listen to him. I followed his advice and got my ex back September of last year and we are still together.

    • @lols5851
      @lols5851 4 роки тому +6

      After how long you both get together?

    • @Coleslaw97
      @Coleslaw97 4 роки тому

      Was wondering the same thing

    • @lourdesandzachary13
      @lourdesandzachary13 4 роки тому +38

      Lola G we were no contact for around 2 months . But like Coach Lee says, this is what makes them miss you . So it’s worth it .

    • @lourdesandzachary13
      @lourdesandzachary13 4 роки тому +38

      And within 2 weeks of reconnecting, I acted like I did when we first started dating so I wasn’t rushing into anything and then the talk came about getting back together. I was sooo happy .

    • @Coleslaw97
      @Coleslaw97 4 роки тому +13

      @@lourdesandzachary13 that's great to hear, I'm happy for you two. I'm just about at 2 months myself, one day at a time.

  • @MrUltimatenrg
    @MrUltimatenrg 3 роки тому +75

    I absolutely love this ! Turned all my emotions into myself! Got my dream job/career, moved into an amazing new place, bought a new car, working out helps a ton(boosts confidence), learned to cook, saving a ton, and going back to school to acquire additional certificates/degrees. Best thing you can do is give it time, and in that time love yourself and work on yourself, you will eventually get to a point where it does not bother you!!! P.S. Coming back after over 8 months, just know I was in that dark hole with no idea of what to do for a month straight. I Cried myself to sleep every night for the first month, but after 8 months of working on myself I can promise you it does get better!!

  • @adetilda5486
    @adetilda5486 4 роки тому +93

    He contacted me after two weeks to ask if we could be friends, and I said we are not enemies, but I am not interested in friendship with you either. Thank you.

    • @1Andrea
      @1Andrea 4 роки тому +2

      was that it? did you say you want romance? So is it over?

    • @1Andrea
      @1Andrea 4 роки тому

      @@lovefamily8227 You are in a far away country? All those digits...

    • @MrTheomighty1
      @MrTheomighty1 4 роки тому +3

      My current ex said to me in her previous message which I’ve added this a few times, she said we could remain friends but for now she wants to be single for a bit to look after her elderly dad who has pressure sores and her mum is becoming poorly, I told her in my final communication that I couldn’t just remain friends as I only want a relationship with you as I know my worth, my value and I’m irreplaceable, and when we get back into work that I’ll just be professional around you so there will be no kissing or cuddling. Her final communication with me was , it’s my loss that you cannot remain friends and it’s a decision that i’m going to have to live with for the rest of my life, I read what she had to say and I went straight into NC which was 9 days ago , not sure how it’s going to be when we finally get back into work and we get to see each other again..

    • @adetilda5486
      @adetilda5486 4 роки тому +1

      @@1Andrea yes its over, better to move ahead, I feel so better right now.

    • @1Andrea
      @1Andrea 4 роки тому +1

      @@adetilda5486 💞💞💞💞💞🕊

  • @AdirajNigam
    @AdirajNigam 4 роки тому +126

    Coach Lee is the most positive person in my life. If my ex was even 1 percent of Coach Lee, I would chase her forever.

    • @acemany1126
      @acemany1126 3 роки тому +5

      Coach Lee was the dude that your girl left you for!!!

  • @williambr88
    @williambr88 4 роки тому +210

    Your hair is on point coach lee.

  • @sunnydaze5674
    @sunnydaze5674 4 роки тому +18

    My ex told me that he wanted me to move on, that I “deserve better”. I asked him if he really wanted me to be with another man, he said he wouldn’t like to see me with someone else but if I’m happy then he’ll be happy for me. That’s how I knew it was over for good. An ex wanting you with someone else is a huge sign that they’ll never try to get you back.

    • @mangastache
      @mangastache 7 місяців тому +3

      That isn’t true at all. I want my ex back, it’s been four years, and yet what I want more than my own selfish desire for her to be in my life is for her to have what she wants in her life, even if that’s someone else, of course it would hurt but I would support it if it meant she was happy and felt loved. I’d like it to be me because I can see and trust my love and intentions, but as uncomfortable as it makes me to imagine her with someone else that’s only because I want her to be loved properly. I’d accept the life of misery, I already have.

  • @115Jordan
    @115Jordan 4 роки тому +143

    I still watch your videos even though I’m back with my girlfriend

    • @benjunior1678
      @benjunior1678 4 роки тому +6

      Congrats bro

    • @priyadharsani8117
      @priyadharsani8117 4 роки тому

      Congrats

    • @77BLAZER77
      @77BLAZER77 4 роки тому +1

      advice us what you did?

    • @bonixgaming8324
      @bonixgaming8324 4 роки тому +5

      You have the same name as my ex gf which is kind of what psychology drew me to this comment. Maybe it a a sign that I’ll get back with my Jordan (sure fucking hope). But Jesus man what did you to make it happen?

    • @mindtheprivacy
      @mindtheprivacy 4 роки тому +2

      He's got this calming reassuring way about him.

  • @arsjth
    @arsjth 4 роки тому +11

    No contact is the way to do it regardless of whether they come back or not.
    You finish with dignity or you reconnect. Either way you win

  • @amityjd844
    @amityjd844 2 роки тому +23

    45 days no contact after being with her for four years. Christmas will be a tough day as I was going to ask her to marry me. my heart is crushed but thanks to coach Lee maybe just maybe I will be okay not today or tomorrow but one day stay strong everyone

  • @joshichauhan040
    @joshichauhan040 4 роки тому +88

    I swear to my mom Coach Lee is a life saver I’ve listen to his videos over and over or I can say I’m addicted , fall in sleep I’ve to listen his videos and I’m gone. There is 100 of videos out there but Coach Lee has a very different style very genuine he is so talented for his professional, his speech give us so much strength, confidence, hopes and positive energy❤️ I highly recommended his advice also who ever listen to his new videos let’s make some contributions if we put $1.00 and there’s good amounts of people for him so beneficial and for us is only a $1.00.. God bless you coach... Josh...(how we can donate please advise)🙏

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  4 роки тому +5

      Well my tip jar is at myexbackcoach.com/tip-jar/ or you could buy the Emergency Breakup Kit. Thanks for your kind words.

  • @oneblack9130
    @oneblack9130 4 роки тому +92

    Thank you so much for sharing your ideas with us, I finally get a call from my ex after 3 months of no contact, and I fallows exactly your advices tnx, I finally get her back.

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  4 роки тому +13

      Awesome One Black! Happy for you!

  • @kimberly6021
    @kimberly6021 3 роки тому +36

    It's been 3 weeks no contact. And I'm slowly regretting this relationship

  • @growthrulove
    @growthrulove 3 роки тому +8

    I don't want ny ex back, but these videos help me gain clarity for creating closure for myself without him.

  • @m.frances965
    @m.frances965 4 роки тому +40

    Wow... after a year of no contact , he reached me out and saying how much he misses me.... I immediately thought of you Coach Lee.. haha 😅😍 Thanks for your amazing advises..🖒

    • @JojoIvan531
      @JojoIvan531 4 роки тому +1

      What happened?

    • @naiko6700
      @naiko6700 3 роки тому

      A year? Did you guys get back together?

    • @iad.s.8256
      @iad.s.8256 9 місяців тому

      Update

  • @DennisNowland
    @DennisNowland 4 роки тому +85

    Great advice. I am in a different position. I was obsessed because of trauma bonding with a narcissist who had gone no contact on me longer ago than I am prepared to say. I was the one that was messaging but watching your videos and losing a colleague to coronavirus helped me to come to the conclusion that today is a good day for a fresh start. No more messaging. Stay safe and all the best.

    • @lizxu322
      @lizxu322 4 роки тому +3

      Damn! Stay safe. Not just from the coronavirus but the narcissist. Its a worse way to die than covid unfortunately

    • @egates2008
      @egates2008 3 роки тому

      Stay away don't waste anymore energy and time. This doesn't apply to them. They are not even real.

    • @nayelidiaz876
      @nayelidiaz876 2 роки тому +1

      Just got away from a similar situation it’s for the best, very traumatizing. I hope you find the love you need within yourself and through someone that will give you the love you deserve

  • @jannlewandowski5540
    @jannlewandowski5540 2 роки тому +4

    Hi Lee. I had to remark on this video because it does remind me of my ex, however, I no longer miss him. I was under the impression that I was engaged to a healthy, normal human being. I believe he was cheating, lying, and using me, but I found out too late. I was in love with him and I did want to get married. I listened to your videos non stop after I left him, then I found out he rebounded and married her 2 weeks later. WOW! After listening to two of your videos on Narcissism, I put 2 and 2 together. The FUTURE FAKING, the lies, and you know the rest about that topic. It took me 2 years to get over him. I listen to Dr Ramani a lot, and I ALWAYS listen to you, regardless of the topic. YOU HELPED ME! Love you...❤

  • @annelily1883
    @annelily1883 3 роки тому +20

    This hurts so much. But he left because I had a temper tantrum that led to horrendous consequences. It’s harder knowing it’s my fault. But it still hurts so damn much. Thank you for these videos. 🙏🏻

  • @gabbymontoya2085
    @gabbymontoya2085 4 роки тому +20

    Almost 3 months of NC . Im doing my best concentrating on career and health.. Thank you for all you do.

  • @muhammadhassan9498
    @muhammadhassan9498 4 роки тому +52

    i have been watching your videos almost all the time during my no contact period and it gives strength, God bless you

  • @astridrios1155
    @astridrios1155 Рік тому +16

    I go to sleep with you in my ear. You're the only comfort when I'm about to give up.

  • @Rebecca-rf7po
    @Rebecca-rf7po 4 роки тому +45

    Pretty sure I’ve watched all your videos through my breakup and this one is definitely my new favorite. Thank you for continuing to remind people of their inner strength and helping us through some of our darkest days.. Your a blessing Coach Lee 🙏🏼🇺🇸

  • @TheMedici23
    @TheMedici23 4 роки тому +28

    Coach you blew it up with this video so much passion! You should know your giving me and many others the strength to stick to the no contact rule in an effort to get our X back....Thank you Coach!!

  • @hodanbille
    @hodanbille 8 місяців тому +2

    "If you stay away they have to recreate you in order to experience some of your company." -Coach Lee
    This is how the dynamic changes. I appreciate how you thought it through.

  • @rawankamel2745
    @rawankamel2745 4 роки тому +12

    I know that he won’t forget me right away. But the real question is what do they feel when they remember me? Do they feel nothing? Feel nostalgic?if yes, after a significant time has passed since the breakup, do they still feel desperate and nostalgic towards me? This is the question I’m dying to find an answer for.

  • @eunicemwangi4142
    @eunicemwangi4142 2 роки тому +4

    coach Lee, you are a rare GEM. you are simply heaven-sent. You may never in a thousand years know what your videos do to bring balance to many broken souls out here and especially some of us that are silent followers. may eternity judge you ever graciously.

  • @trap_lord_johnnytrap_lord956
    @trap_lord_johnnytrap_lord956 4 роки тому +95

    Your loyalty is being used as a license 😩

  • @Joyfullybusy
    @Joyfullybusy 4 місяці тому +2

    He’s speaking TRUTH!!! My ex reached out and I’m NOT going to make any mistakes. The tables have turned ❤

  • @chi_guy25
    @chi_guy25 4 роки тому +15

    Coach Lee, you are on another level when it ones to relationships. I've searched all over UA-cam for similar videos and so called relationship or dating coaches. They simply do not compare with their advice and knowledge that you have. And I still come back to your videos for guidance. You are a constant voice of reason for many of us. Keep up the great work and I look forward to your next video.

  • @chimeyantandajunji9812
    @chimeyantandajunji9812 2 роки тому +2

    I have decided to break up with my fiancee. He has been good but now he has really changed.
    He has been harassing and accusing me for mistakes I didn't know.
    Then he immediately stopped contacting me.
    I went through pain and loneliness.
    I was sending messages to him pleading with him not to leave me but he gave me a deaf ear
    He even blocked my number, then unblocked my number.
    I thank you.
    You are my coach.
    I am now in no contact mode.
    I wake up in the morning and work up every day. I am strong and I am not gonna call him.
    I take your advice serious and I know that one day he will contact me to apologize to me.
    I have learnt that we are many who are broken hearts here.
    Thank you coach.

  • @lfenton2120
    @lfenton2120 4 роки тому +118

    These videos motivate me to stay positive on my situation thank you

  • @abdifitahadenahmed6113
    @abdifitahadenahmed6113 4 роки тому +27

    Coach Lee, You're my best and favourite coach. Your videos really helped me a lot and played a vital role in my breakup and tough periods. Now my ex reached me out while pleading her faults. Even though we haven't yet met face to face.

  • @jeffaungier5379
    @jeffaungier5379 4 роки тому +7

    By far the best video on the net for the dumpee regarding a break up... when you are going stir crazy come back and watch this over and over !

  • @laucortes6813
    @laucortes6813 4 роки тому +17

    I don't know if you would be able to read this coach lee but I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all these super helpful advices that helped me get back from my feet after my ex broke up with me the last few months and I cannot be thankful enough that I stumbled upon you to know all these things. You are literally the best thing that could ever exist for all the people going through a rough patch after a breakup coach lee!! Thank you so much for all of these!! Much love from a heartbroken fella from the Philippines!

  • @aliray1165
    @aliray1165 4 роки тому +47

    Damn this dude looks so fly, best hair ever! I gotta up my game a few levels just in case my ex sees him in this video x-D

  • @MsMihai92
    @MsMihai92 4 роки тому +10

    With each day that passes you really start to not care abt them anymore!👌
    Trust the NC, you’ll feel better very quick!💪

  • @adamnorthwood1673
    @adamnorthwood1673 4 роки тому +5

    I honestly no longer have a need for my ex anymore, i only watch your videos because they really help me out and put everything into perspective. And the need for her has only dissipated more due to realizing that she went back to her ex before me.

  • @PhactorPhiction
    @PhactorPhiction 3 роки тому +3

    Shocked he Coach Lee doesn’t have more subscribers. I could listen to these videos along with taking my daily vitamins.

  • @larrysdrivein
    @larrysdrivein 4 роки тому +15

    I like Coach Lee's no bullshit style of saying things. "They broke up with you because they've lost an emotional attraction to you, they feel they are better than you and can do better than you." I was like, shit, Lee isn't sugar coating this stuff. Lee said your ex had been thinking or may have been even planning this break up a long time. Today I spent the day just thinking back and realized it was 8 months ago my ex began to pull away from me. We lost our intimacy, we began to lose our connection. I realized I have taken my ex for granted and forgot to develop our love. Hard to think about. I am angry she didn't sit me down and tell me, "Hey, you need to change or I am walking out" Rather, she just up and walked out. Its been 5 days and I have been doing the NC and listening to Lee tell it like it is. I feel stronger already. We both took each other for granted. Don't do it if you still have that person in your life.

  • @evekingstone3434
    @evekingstone3434 2 роки тому +8

    Its amazing how we're all from different parts of the world but feel so connected by heartbreaks,thenks coach Lee

  • @debbiehepler2007
    @debbiehepler2007 3 роки тому +7

    Thanks for giving me the right mind set to keep the no contact going. You made me realize that if he doesn’t come back he never loved me so I have to wait for him to come back. He had already been taking me for granted and contacting him again would only reinforce that.

  • @randyv6056
    @randyv6056 4 роки тому +118

    Hey Coach! 9 days of NC and she broke down! Now we are seeing each other with different feelings then when we saw eachother before I gave NC a chance! Our dynamic is different knowing I can walk away! Coach we talked about our future with our child in mind. We even kissed last night! Huge thanks to you I will keep following you for a long time because the fight isn’t over! - Cheers Randy

    • @johnhatton730
      @johnhatton730 4 роки тому +4

      good for you man!

    • @suplex57
      @suplex57 4 роки тому +3

      my boi. happy for the progress

    • @Jw-pg8ue
      @Jw-pg8ue 4 роки тому +7

      Awesome! My ex broke it off after getting a home and two dogs then just lost feelings? So Im trying to be positive and work on me

  • @benwanada
    @benwanada 4 роки тому +57

    How can I miss you if you won’t go away...?!

  • @Officeropposible
    @Officeropposible 4 роки тому +8

    Coach Lee i don't know the adjectives to qualify you rather than to say you are a genius far better than any other relationship coaches i have ever watched on UA-cam,thank you so much for your hard work

  • @coreybullard4441
    @coreybullard4441 4 роки тому +43

    Yay another video you’re the best coach lee! 11 days into nc and she keeps talking to me and that she likes how we are no label nice and slow.she keeps complimenting me and saying how much she misses me. I never reach out and make her initiate I’m excited for us working back to be a couple !

    • @randyv6056
      @randyv6056 4 роки тому +3

      Nice Corey! I had to go into NC knowing she would call and text non stop but sometimes putting your foot down when you aren’t seeing changes is for the best! I know it’s not practical to ignore your ex but no contact really works if it’s applied with the “giving us space to work on ourselves” talk before ignoring them for the specific time!

    • @coreybullard4441
      @coreybullard4441 4 роки тому

      Update : I was scrolling through ig and accidentally called her and she made a joke about it like are you stalking my ig😂 but we went on and it seems like she’s being a little hot and cold. Should I be worried ?reach out to her? Or just chill give it time and continue no contact ?

    • @Wifeyytalks
      @Wifeyytalks 4 роки тому

      @@coreybullard4441 did she come back?

  • @Fatwaz1
    @Fatwaz1 2 роки тому +10

    Coach Lee's videos are on point. My 22 year relationship is over, I just wished I was armed with this information at the beginning.
    I made mistakes like bargaining telling her I love Her etc it doesn't work.
    Going into NC for my own sanity.

    • @jacqui8392
      @jacqui8392 2 роки тому

      How you getting on now? Xx

    • @PSJ2102
      @PSJ2102 2 роки тому

      Update?

  • @slate5490
    @slate5490 4 роки тому +24

    I feel like coach lee is that one friend I can talk to and is always there for me thx coach lee😊

  • @KarlitosWay4463
    @KarlitosWay4463 4 роки тому +10

    Been watching your videos Coach since last year after she left me. Been doing 100 push ups a day since April 3 2020 til now. Thank you Coach Lee, You have answered all my questions. More power to You.

  • @waynesalisbury
    @waynesalisbury 3 роки тому +10

    Absolutely love this guy! when I think about calling my Ex I just click on one video, dont matter which one and it just motivates me

  • @reemsoliman2099
    @reemsoliman2099 4 роки тому +15

    Coach Lee, I can't even begin to describe how watching your videos when I'm crying before I sleep help give me that piece of understanding or comfort, that's just enough to help me get through another day of pain. Thank you so so much.

  • @Gbb93
    @Gbb93 8 місяців тому +4

    The more I watch these videos the more repulsed I am that I have to literally vanish for someone to value me.

  • @ashleysnyder3501
    @ashleysnyder3501 2 роки тому +4

    I've watched tons of breakup coaches and got decent advice but coach Lee actually is more on the nail. i don't know if it's just me but he seems more specific and has touched way more that is like my current situation than anyone else. I feel like with his information I can navigate it all more appropriately.

  • @Cosmicmegan77
    @Cosmicmegan77 4 роки тому +25

    Thanks Coach Lee! I'm on day 33 of no contact and feeling discouraged lately, this video is just what I needed to hear!

    • @jayk4500
      @jayk4500 4 роки тому +9

      Chelsea Lucas.....day 42 here, she dropped a how are you? message yesterday, I just said fine. I was amazed but as coach says around day 45. Enjoy the silence!

    • @pvz0484
      @pvz0484 2 роки тому

      @@Nj-yu5md how'd it goo

    • @junevanstaden7288
      @junevanstaden7288 Рік тому

      Day 38

  • @LorieThornton72
    @LorieThornton72 3 роки тому +5

    I am so so so happy I ran across coach Lee! I was in a relationship for 2.5 years, my bf said we needed to take a break. Of course I was blindsided by this but I just said ok and left. BTW, we lived separately I would stay with him on weekends because of work. Anyway, I immediately listen to you speak of No Contact Rule and put it in motion. By the end of the first week he was texting asking about my family. I replied nicely but that's it back to no contact until he let's me know he wants back in the relationship. Thank u Coach Lee.

  • @Lxaninja1006
    @Lxaninja1006 4 роки тому +25

    hey coach lee, i appreciate you more than you’ll ever know. you give me strength and reassurance when i need it most. keep going for all of us ❤️

  • @AzhelaBay
    @AzhelaBay 3 роки тому +4

    I am in on and off relationship and seriously this man has helped me so much..I don't even bother anymore I just go straight to no contact and follow all the advices he gives, instead of overthinking and worrying. Thank you for saving my nerves!

    • @michealrichard7477
      @michealrichard7477 3 роки тому

      Hi I know of a good and a very powerful woman who can help you to manifest back your ex within 2 days . I got my ex back through her love manifestations and it works effectively

  • @arisu8184
    @arisu8184 4 роки тому +12

    It's been a week and i'm not even sure if i want him back or not, he used to tell me that I'm love of his life. Now it sounds like i'm being fooled 🤷 idk if he will ever come back or not, if not then he had gone for good, if somebody love you they will never leave you guys!

  • @jamesmebane3121
    @jamesmebane3121 4 роки тому +6

    James
    Stay in no contact and let it run it's course . Don't set a date . You won't want them back !

  • @juliangarza8382
    @juliangarza8382 3 роки тому +6

    You’re the man Coach Lee! You’re helping me in the most darkest time of my life.

  • @DatMusicGuyZ
    @DatMusicGuyZ 4 роки тому +101

    Ex still asks my friends about me while she's in a rebound relationship
    maybe the grass wasn't greener huh? ;)

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  4 роки тому +45

      Sounds like that grass might be less tasty than what they had. Just keep doing what you're doing and that should be no contact.

    • @WiseTheSecretOne
      @WiseTheSecretOne 3 роки тому

      been 7months. How's it goes?

    • @DatMusicGuyZ
      @DatMusicGuyZ 3 роки тому +19

      @@WiseTheSecretOne Well basically a few weeks ago she told me that she regrets everything and now we´ve been talking here and there.
      My life is good though, and she´s the one chasing me now ;)

    • @Justin-xi6ue
      @Justin-xi6ue 3 роки тому +2

      ​@@DatMusicGuyZ Thank goodness. So there really is hope.. My ex and I have been in a serious long-term, long distance relationship for around 2 years. We were friends for 1 year before that. But unfortunately I think the distance, and her mental health finally got to her. It's a long story but basically she left me for another guy, and I didn't really know about it. Two months later he broke up with her, they made up, had more sex, then he broke up with her again a week later (oddly enough for the same reason she gave me, in which he said he needs to "work on himself.") I thought it was all basically over and she was going to work on "us" again, her mental health, and to stay single to focus on herself, but I found out again (this time by pure accident) that she is with another guy only two weeks later. I don't really blame her because I'm also dating again, but it still caught me off guard. Especially because the guy (and even the guy previously) are nothing really like me, so I suspect it is definitely a rebound.
      With that all said though I started no contact a week before Christmas, and so far she's sent me some mixed signals (a Christmas greeting, and asking me if I still wanted to watch an anime we planned to watch together when it comes out). I found out after I said yes, so I ended up asking her if she was dating anyone (cause I don't wanna watch it with her if she's with someone, but also to see what she would say). But I was met with no response, and a block on Facebook. She still seems to follow me on everywhere else though. Not sure if my number is blocked because I didn't say anything else after that, but I'm definitely not looking to find out..
      Anyway, I'm just hoping she will one day realize what she let go of. I gave her my world, and I was genuinely ready to marry this girl eventually. We had plans to move in together, once we could close the distance. October was supposed to be the month we were going to meet for the first time, but sadly covid ruined those plans and we ultimately ended up in this situation.. I lost my best friend. She hurt me tons over what she did, but I still want her back. Our relationship was always really good before all of this, and it was never toxic. We genuinely had a good relationship.. It seemed like a huge waste that she would throw that all away, but I guess I do understand it. We'll need to have a talk, maybe therapy, and for her to give me a genuine apology. But until then, I guess I need to do my best to move on and keep up this no contact thing..
      I just wonder how much longer it'll be before I hear from her again, or if our relationship/friendship is even repairable again. I can't imagine my life without her.. Even if we do happen to end up with different people. It's been since the end of September that this all started (when she met the first guy), and this honestly still feels like a dream. I honestly never thought I'd be in this situation. Hopefully over time I could at least get more closure, by seeing her in person one of these days. Probably won't be for awhile, but it's something I'd definitely like to do eventually.
      Sorry that was longer than intended, but I'm glad to see that you're hearing back from them. No contact has worked for me in the past, but there's still so much uncertainty.. I don't wanna lose such a good thing permanently. I believe my ex is just confused, and hurting a lot mentally. I don't believe she hurt me intentionally. The stress of school, graduation, careers, family, financial concerns, getting her hopes up about seeing me/me in general, and her mental health are all likely what's been on her mind. I could say that I hate her for everything that happened, but truthfully I could probably always forgive her. She just needs to fix this, and I hope she does. I guess I'll see what happens.

    • @Nickbronline
      @Nickbronline 3 роки тому +1

      Wow over 7 months after? That’s wild

  • @sadiahussain8184
    @sadiahussain8184 4 роки тому +10

    Thank GOD, you are saved from corona virus..we wanna hear alot more from you.please bring some other topics as well in your videos other than breaks up or no- contact..you have great convincing power coach lee

  • @connorcampbell2586
    @connorcampbell2586 4 роки тому +3

    Been broke up with my ex for 9 months and i still watch these just great info for the future

  • @lesliedunne9916
    @lesliedunne9916 4 роки тому +5

    Your videos are so helpful. Just listening to your voice helps. My husband of 21 years walked out at the beginning of the month. He's out of state for work right now and won't be back until the end of the month. I haven't contacted him and it's been so hard. I know I'm going to have to see him when he gets back to sort through the business of this separation and I just hope I can keep it together.

  • @acquabablair5524
    @acquabablair5524 2 роки тому +10

    Coach Lee you’re such a remarkable man. Listening to you and how much care you put into your craft takes your effort to a whole other (level) aspect of respect!⭐️💯

  • @damianooi8261
    @damianooi8261 4 роки тому +23

    Secret No.1 = When they broke up with you, they will most likely not 100% sure. (Confused)
    Secret No.2 = They want you to hang on or hold on to them
    Secret No.3 = They will probably test the water
    Secret No.4 = You reaching out, helps them
    Secret No.5 = They still thinks about you
    Secret No.6 =
    Secret No.7 = They still miss you
    I dont know about the 6th secret tho.....

  • @narayannikhil
    @narayannikhil Рік тому +3

    Coach Lee, I have been binge watching all your videos for months, honestly you are the best coach on UA-cam. Listening to your videos has a genuine calming effect and enables me to see things from a better perspective. Thanks for your efforts and the time to put out these knowledge and info out there. Wish you a long and happy life 😊

  • @drexelking8792
    @drexelking8792 4 роки тому +4

    Once again great information. I have no doubt I would have gotten my ex had I access to this knowledge. I literally did everything wrong and made an utter fool of myself. Live and learn. Coach Lee is the man, love his honest and logical approach.

  • @PeaceKindnessHealing
    @PeaceKindnessHealing 4 роки тому +13

    Another great video from Coach Lee, although my no contact is way past 4months I am choosing to stay in no contact as Coach Lee suggests. Awesome to see you.

  • @kartikeybhardwaj492
    @kartikeybhardwaj492 4 роки тому +11

    There are Some days i really feel like giving up on my ex . Its been 2 moths now and she has stopped contacting me from 2 weeks. And deep inside i know there is still some hope left. But as i look back i see those positive and happy memories we shared together since last 5+ years and all that boosts my hopes and makes me aware of not giving up on her.
    Whenever i feel low this channel is the one i reach out. 😇😇. You are doing a great work.

  • @DDcastil27
    @DDcastil27 2 роки тому +6

    Since I stared to listen to these videos it really helped me understand 😌 my break up, separation with my ex. Even though he's moved on with a new relationship I'm still going through it yet my mind now has really changed me and the effort I was doing to get him back I've put it towards myself love. ❤ Thank you Coach Lee

  • @nicolasrodriguez3499
    @nicolasrodriguez3499 4 роки тому +21

    Thank you Coach Lee. Your vids are always helpful. I miss her and her kids like crazy. But I'm working on me. It's been 3 months. I still hurt like it was yesterday.

    • @solidsix6766
      @solidsix6766 4 роки тому

      4 months for me and my kids miss him...

    • @nicolasrodriguez3499
      @nicolasrodriguez3499 4 роки тому

      @@solidsix6766 hang in there. I'll keep you in my prayers.

  • @jelovagora
    @jelovagora 2 роки тому +6

    Thanks for every video, they are all really helpful. I've been in NC for a month (and I don't have a problem with that) ever since the breakup. I haven't cried in three days(I used to cry every single day)and I feel much stronger. You wouldn't believe how far your words of wisom have travelled. Sending you a big hug from Serbia 😊🤗

  • @HonestTraveller
    @HonestTraveller 4 роки тому +9

    2 years no contact. New business and turned my real estate from 350k to 1.3m. Her loss my gain. I’m loving life she’s with a simp who works part time in a supermarket 🤣

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  4 роки тому +2

      I’m thrilled for you! Way to go! At the same time, you don’t want a woman who would want you for your money.

    • @HonestTraveller
      @HonestTraveller 4 роки тому +1

      Coach Lee we dated when I had nothing and she stuck by me. So I know she wasn’t there for the money. She left for another guy. Still don’t deserve me lol

  • @hollydrucker3011
    @hollydrucker3011 4 роки тому +1

    Guys put yourself first.. love and respect yourself.... and work on yourself. You are the star in your life.

  • @loispugh954
    @loispugh954 4 роки тому +5

    This is really coming from a straight up comforting point of view. Words are very comforting, and also humourous. You are very clear and precise and I know this is because you know what you are talking about and you are fair and say "in most cases" These videos are so helpful and I just wish everyone love and success because these videos are a tool for this.

  • @resurrection2983
    @resurrection2983 Рік тому +6

    When I started listening to coach Lee....I have completely gotten over the anxiety and mystery i was having due to my horrible break up....Thank you so very much Coach Lee💯❤️🙌👌

  • @msstarjames6668
    @msstarjames6668 4 роки тому +39

    Coach lee it worked he’s back 😙😙😙😙😙😙😙😙😙🥰🥰

  • @NomadUrpagi
    @NomadUrpagi 4 роки тому +2

    Dated for 1.5 years. 103 days in NC. I was about to break it this week but THIS video stopped me. I trust statistics, i trust coach Lee and these secrets made me smile like a villain and rejuvenated my hope. Well put friend

  • @russellg911
    @russellg911 4 роки тому +8

    I do try and take comfort in these videos but the one bottom line is: ‘if they want to be with you, they would’.

    • @marischlice3990
      @marischlice3990 3 роки тому +1

      I agree. I think it's not good to have a gambling chance hope.

  • @discoveringmyinnerme2023
    @discoveringmyinnerme2023 2 роки тому +9

    Thank you so much coach Lee. Just listening to you everyday keeps me encouraged. 🙏🏻 God bless you! Now on my 1 month NC.

  • @ApostleThe344
    @ApostleThe344 4 роки тому +13

    I followed this stuff learned i deserved better. Met someone within the lsst month after my ex ended it. I tried to get her back but no matter what your emotions tell you ask yourself:
    If they left then why would you let them back? They hurt you they chose that why waste your time with that? After i learned and went through the process i met this random person who i never would have guessed existed. Cares, understands, accepts what ive been through and is more than i could have ever asked for. My ex wasnt a bad person just not thee person and once i accepted it life got 10 times better. If they do crawling back they need to make it work they need to put the effort because apparently we werent worth it to begin with...

  • @angelicaharms7098
    @angelicaharms7098 4 роки тому +25

    Thank you so much for your constant reassurance! You’re straight to the point, but also elaborate to help us better understand the point being made. I’m 3 1/3 months into “no contact” and I feel better and better about my efforts every day. One question though, does mailing all of their stuff back to them/dropping it on their doorstep count as contacting them? I didn’t include a letter or message , I just simply didn’t want their stuff sitting around my place anymore.

  • @tommieoh2605
    @tommieoh2605 4 роки тому +5

    Worst thing to do is message your ex that broke up w you because honestly they just won’t care so you gotta stay strong and make them miss you by moving on. I know it’s hard because I have been in this position and I made the mistake of messaging and I wish I hadn’t because it made me realise how much she didn’t care after but a long three months after I can finally say I’m happy and I don’t want her back anymore.

    • @jenisabelle8785
      @jenisabelle8785 4 роки тому +1

      Tommie OH yessss!!!! Same. Keep it moving

  • @MrJames-dk3my
    @MrJames-dk3my 3 роки тому +6

    Great stuff ! You are helping me right now. Me and my wife are somewhat separated right now. In the beginning I was doing all the things you said not to do and now I see it would have been catastrophic to my marriage. I have watched all or almost all of your videos. My wife is doing some things that I do not understand and putting me in a unique situation not covered in the videos I have watched. But I am applying your advice the best I can with the cards I am being dealt. You are a blessing to me. So far you have saved me from myself.

    • @xcynicalreasonsx
      @xcynicalreasonsx 2 роки тому +3

      I hope things worked out for you!

    • @debmccafferty1007
      @debmccafferty1007 Рік тому

      I could tell he had something running in the background. Sketchy communication. Over and out.

  • @laurapoisel4282
    @laurapoisel4282 4 роки тому +3

    At any rate, this is the best coaching video ever made. Wow! The rubric of the dating game must implement this acumen at all costs. I love it, man!

  • @nono-zb8px
    @nono-zb8px Рік тому +1

    This is all true. Listen to Coach Lee. It hurts but you will get through it.❤