so i clicked on this video mostly because i saw a pretty girl, then i saw the title and watched the video and now i feel like a bad person. but you gave me a lot of introspective so thank you for that
I cannot tell you how many young women I know that were bullied through school and picked on. Then all of a sudden when they glow up they’re getting hit on by guys, and sliding into their DM’s. It’s definitely a thing. You look a lot like a friend of mine and she was picked on a lot, went to university and men threw themselves at her. You’re incredibly self aware and clearly a very reflective person.
I think the average guy is already treated more or less like he's ugly compared to how the average woman is treated. I got to experience what it's like to be attractive a few times when I went abroad and was the exotic outsider. I loved it. I loved the attention and I loved being able to catch the eye of people who would ignore me in my home country. Sleeping with somebody new felt like a mix of validation and imposter syndrome, but the validation part was addicting. I think it helped me work through some insecurities and the feeling of being less than average. Of course I don't have to worry about being slut-shamed the way that a woman would. I think the double-standard is stupid and it's pathetic of men to feel insecure if their partner has more experience / higher body count -- it doesn't necessarily mean anything, especially if they were seeking validation and working through self-esteem issues. As long as you know what you're doing, you aren't expecting true love, and you understand that people are finding you attractive just because of your body and don't really know who you are as a person, then you're not being taken advantage of.
I grew up ‘ugly’ I suppose. I had bad acne, and was picked on at school a lot too. I remember looking in the mirror in the morning and thinking “you don’t look that bad.” I always contemplated the hand that was dealt to me. One frustration was any time I got close to a girl they’d always be more interested in one of my friends. Now, fast forward a lot of years… I see women actively checking me out. Whether it’s grocery shopping, walking down the street, out for the evening. And as a fully grown adult I am almost completely baffled when women flirt with me. I almost don’t know what to do because it’s only a recent phenomenon! So I guess to the younger, teenage me that looked in the mirror… I guess he would be glad to hear that he wasn’t so bad looking after all.
lol i totally understand what you mean. i feel like im oblivious to men flirting with me. but im glad you can love your former self and you feel comfortable in your skin.
@ Life’s not so bad, but everyone has their cross to bare. I have no idea why the UA-cam algorithm sent you my way (especially since it’s been very politically driven lately - can’t think why!) But you were refreshing to have on my screen and I’m going to take the time to watch your other stuff! You’ve made a new fan and a friend!
It makes you un-social. Idk, I've been told I look attractive once but I didn't believe her. [EDIT] It has to do with confidence or something...I know single people are found to be more attractive for some reason.
You don’t have body dysmorphia you have a little room for improvement by leaning a little more (I speak objectively even if you don’t want to you look good enough) and also never botch yourself with botox and lip filler - a cheap way to imitate bone structure. The only way to actually change the appearance of bone structure without botching yourself is osteotomy and implants
A woman once told me, "Isn't that how it's usually done?" and isn't it always about experiencing pleasure and validation? People need to think outside of the box of their brainwashing.
@ I did watched the whole video actually you’re welcome. The thing is, your story is not uncommon from western women. You going for douchebags with bling blings loud mouths men is not the rest of us men’s fault.
@@alfZbarkada Is she really going out with him? Is she really gonna take him home tonight? Is she really going out with him? 'Cause if my eyes don't deceive me There's something going wrong around here
@@alfZbarkada i understand what your saying i did say it’s not the men’s fault. although the „douchbags“ as u said present themselves as nice and then you don’t realize your being abused. i don’t think all men are the problem i think some men are and men like you ignoring that are part of the problem.
@@ariannaanna1 Many feel ugly when they are not. People can also be super cruel and spread things that are not true and many end up believing it about themselves.
I completely understand where you are coming from with this, but it is just not true; the way to make a guy stay or love you is to be open and honest and be a soft place to land(emotionally). Most guys want peace and a partner. But you have to wait for them to mature a bit before they actually want that, otherwise they are just dating for fun and there's nothing you can do to make him stay or love you or really want anything more than just a "fun time".
Thank you for your insight! If you have seen any of my of my previous videos i kind of talk about the people I have dated and i wouldn’t really categorize them as normal lol. Im in college and a lot of the guys here are immature that is just the case! But this yt channel was created to get me more comfortable with expressing my feelings and everything so that is something I’m actively working on!
@@ariannaanna1 I am super proud of you for creating this youtube channel!!!! Never stop working on your self, no matter what!!!! Hope you are having an amazing day!!!!
You are very well spoken, kind, sensitive and insightful.✨🌛✨
Thank you so much!
so i clicked on this video mostly because i saw a pretty girl, then i saw the title and watched the video and now i feel like a bad person. but you gave me a lot of introspective so thank you for that
that’s literally so awesome that you are self aware enough to reflect. thank you for taking the time to listen lol
I cannot tell you how many young women I know that were bullied through school and picked on. Then all of a sudden when they glow up they’re getting hit on by guys, and sliding into their DM’s. It’s definitely a thing. You look a lot like a friend of mine and she was picked on a lot, went to university and men threw themselves at her. You’re incredibly self aware and clearly a very reflective person.
thank you for your kind words! and yeah guys from highschool who bullied me texted me when i went to college.. crazy turn of events.
You and my wife have a similar story. She was not that popular with men in high school but was in college.
I am very proud of you!!!! You really are an amazing and awesome person, and you are really pretty, too!!!!!!
Thank you so much for all of your comments and following me on this journey!
I think the average guy is already treated more or less like he's ugly compared to how the average woman is treated. I got to experience what it's like to be attractive a few times when I went abroad and was the exotic outsider. I loved it. I loved the attention and I loved being able to catch the eye of people who would ignore me in my home country. Sleeping with somebody new felt like a mix of validation and imposter syndrome, but the validation part was addicting. I think it helped me work through some insecurities and the feeling of being less than average. Of course I don't have to worry about being slut-shamed the way that a woman would. I think the double-standard is stupid and it's pathetic of men to feel insecure if their partner has more experience / higher body count -- it doesn't necessarily mean anything, especially if they were seeking validation and working through self-esteem issues. As long as you know what you're doing, you aren't expecting true love, and you understand that people are finding you attractive just because of your body and don't really know who you are as a person, then you're not being taken advantage of.
Interesting video! 👍
tysm!!
Who told you that you were ugly.?
we endure, we grow, we surpass.
lol yeah, odd I got recommended. have fun with your vids for kira!
thank you for taking the time to watch!
I grew up ‘ugly’ I suppose. I had bad acne, and was picked on at school a lot too. I remember looking in the mirror in the morning and thinking “you don’t look that bad.” I always contemplated the hand that was dealt to me. One frustration was any time I got close to a girl they’d always be more interested in one of my friends.
Now, fast forward a lot of years… I see women actively checking me out. Whether it’s grocery shopping, walking down the street, out for the evening. And as a fully grown adult I am almost completely baffled when women flirt with me. I almost don’t know what to do because it’s only a recent phenomenon!
So I guess to the younger, teenage me that looked in the mirror… I guess he would be glad to hear that he wasn’t so bad looking after all.
lol i totally understand what you mean. i feel like im oblivious to men flirting with me. but im glad you can love your former self and you feel comfortable in your skin.
@ Life’s not so bad, but everyone has their cross to bare. I have no idea why the UA-cam algorithm sent you my way (especially since it’s been very politically driven lately - can’t think why!) But you were refreshing to have on my screen and I’m going to take the time to watch your other stuff! You’ve made a new fan and a friend!
It makes you un-social. Idk, I've been told I look attractive once but I didn't believe her. [EDIT] It has to do with confidence or something...I know single people are found to be more attractive for some reason.
I agree im trying to work on my confidence and do some self growth!
Suddenly women found me attractive, they'd freeze, hyperventilate, forget to breathe... I was like a kid in a candy store.
lol
You don’t have body dysmorphia you have a little room for improvement by leaning a little more (I speak objectively even if you don’t want to you look good enough) and also never botch yourself with botox and lip filler - a cheap way to imitate bone structure. The only way to actually change the appearance of bone structure without botching yourself is osteotomy and implants
Ill take that
Watch this video a song by Janis Ian, "At Seventeen."
thank you i will listen!
Talking about getting pumped and dumped multiple times for validation is insane lol
A woman once told me, "Isn't that how it's usually done?" and isn't it always about experiencing pleasure and validation? People need to think outside of the box of their brainwashing.
i said i was often manipulated and coerced into having sex it’s like you didn’t watch the video
@ I did watched the whole video actually you’re welcome. The thing is, your story is not uncommon from western women. You going for douchebags with bling blings loud mouths men is not the rest of us men’s fault.
@@alfZbarkada Is she really going out with him?
Is she really gonna take him home tonight?
Is she really going out with him?
'Cause if my eyes don't deceive me
There's something going wrong around here
@@alfZbarkada i understand what your saying i did say it’s not the men’s fault. although the „douchbags“ as u said present themselves as nice and then you don’t realize your being abused. i don’t think all men are the problem i think some men are and men like you ignoring that are part of the problem.
Hello Queen, you're a gorgeous woman
thank you very much!
You're not ugly.
I understand what your saying. I was trying to convey that there is a feeling of insecurity that sticks with you when you grow up ugly.
@@ariannaanna1 Many feel ugly when they are not. People can also be super cruel and spread things that are not true and many end up believing it about themselves.
I completely understand where you are coming from with this, but it is just not true; the way to make a guy stay or love you is to be open and honest and be a soft place to land(emotionally). Most guys want peace and a partner. But you have to wait for them to mature a bit before they actually want that, otherwise they are just dating for fun and there's nothing you can do to make him stay or love you or really want anything more than just a "fun time".
Thank you for your insight! If you have seen any of my of my previous videos i kind of talk about the people I have dated and i wouldn’t really categorize them as normal lol. Im in college and a lot of the guys here are immature that is just the case! But this yt channel was created to get me more comfortable with expressing my feelings and everything so that is something I’m actively working on!
@@ariannaanna1 I am super proud of you for creating this youtube channel!!!! Never stop working on your self, no matter what!!!! Hope you are having an amazing day!!!!
Not ugly
I appreciate this comment. I was more so trying to convey a feeling of insecurity that sticks with you when you grow up ugly.