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Hey ari we miss you please post we miss your yap sessions:)

Hey Ari, I subscribed last weekend!!! Looking forward to as many story times and info as you can provide. I have a legitimate question thou about body count: what is your opinion of prostitution(women) & sexually transmitted disease ? STDs are basically achieved through the continuous act of unprotected s**. Does that worry you, or have you developed some part of immunity?

It sounds like you're trying to justify your high body count. Just listening to you speak, I can see the pain from your decisions and the lack of true self confidence. You're "smiling" but it's masked pain. You've given out so much of your energy through sex, I'd suggest that you try and remain sex free for at least a year. A lot of girls like you use sex almost as a drug and you need the separation from the act to clear your head and sort out what are appropriate boundaries. The "high" is not worth the low girl. These guys don't care about you at all which adds to the low self esteem. I think you have a lot of personal issues to sort out and the meaningless sex is causing you a lot of hurt, heartbreak and more mental confusion. You seem like a very lovely girl and I wish you the best xx

i am a sigma silence before you get exiled woman

First of all, I’m from Scotland in the UK. Most videos I watch are political satire, tech news, log cabin builds, Family Guy clips, but every time you post a new video it’s right at the top of my feed! 🤷🏻‍♂️ I don’t know why either! However, I enjoy listening to you talking about your life growing up, despite it being really tough. Your story is one I’ve heard before from a few people with step mothers. Walking a fine line every single day just to stop them from flipping out - it’s exhausting! I’ve told you this before but you’re an intelligent, articulate young woman with your head screwed on. You have the power to steer the course of your life in any direction you want, and I know you’re capable of making the smart choices you need to carve out the future you hope for! I’m proud of you. 😊

Please greet me on every video as well. Thank you.

That is really not good!!! I'm sorry you had to deal with all of that!!! I'm also sorry you can't sleep. Just always know that you are super awesome and amazing and beautiful, and I am super proud of you!!!!

Hey ari human of the male variety here i just wanted to leave this comment to tell you that despite what your life experiences might tell you that there are great men out there who will love you for the character of your soul not the shape of your body or how fast you can bring them sexual pleasure. Trust the process keep fighting to be the best version of yourself everyday peace and love ✌🏿🖤

It's Awesome and Brave of you for being Open and Vulnerable. Its definitely not easy to do. Sorry you had to experience so much. Life and it curve balls to test our strength! Stay Blessed Beautiful. Have a blessed day/night.

I feel that s*x is something that should be special; when a woman climaxes, she releases oxytocin, which is the "cuddle" hormone or "love" hormone. Just like any other hormone/endorphin your body will build up a resistance to it and that can cause physiological/psych issues. Guys have a very similar endorphin/hormone release as well and have the same issue. I personally feel that s*x should be reserved for being an act of love performed out of love, not to gain love. Would you be willing to share a "personal massager" with anyone or even just a group of friends and continue using it? If not, why would you do the same with a guy? I am super proud of you and hope you are having an amazing day!!!!!

I remember Bop being used a lot back in my freshmen year in high school in 03. Everybody definitely going to have a different perspective on the use of the word. And as we get older it will change. I understand and appreciate your openness!

Love your videos so much thank you for being so open and vulnerable wish you peace and love ✌🏿🫶🏿

I was a child of a narcissist parent, I came from a very difficult life with him, and was homeless with him for a very long time in the past and never had a good home life growing up. I managed to escape him, and had to go great lengths to get away from him. I was lucky to have known the people that had helped me and allowed me to stay with them. I went to go be with my extended family that had found me on the internet. They flew me in first class to go be with them, and I genuinely felt that I would belong with them because they’re my family. At first there was this honeymoon period, they thought of me as a gift from grandma that passed away. But what seemed like a gift from the universe, only turned into something that had psychologically wounded me. I was only with them for 3 months because of how difficult they seemed to have been to live with, and how strict and conditional their love and regard was towards me. I felt like I couldn’t really be loved or accepted for just the way I am, or that I had to constantly fit in to their idea of how I should live my life and be like to them. I felt like I was some kind of flawed and inadequate kid. I would hear them say things like “but he wasn’t raised that way!” “oh it’s just gonna take time”, “I just think he just wasn’t raised properly” …and it felt like I had to constantly jump through hoops in order to be loved, and if I don’t, then it’s basically ‘bye peace out can’t live with your family’. To this day I feel this deep, inner wound of rejection and unworthiness that I carry each and every day. My aunt would ask this weird question “what are the advantages that you think you have of being here?” but in my mind I’m like ‘I didn’t come here just so I can gain some kind of material advantages, I came to have a life here with my family just like any other kid would with their families, not a quid pro quo’. But I just told her “I don’t know” , and she replied “then why did you come live with us honey?” and she didn’t even have any idea why I went to go be with them, even though she invited me and said “why not come stay here?” I had unfortunately received some invalidating comments from others that I’ve tried to speak to about my trauma, they’ve said things like “why should they love you” and “who are you and why should you be loved and cared for” and another person said “you don’t seem to realize that you’re wanting a warped and distorted image of your family” “you are not your brother you’re not their kid” and I’ve basically been labeled as having some kind of “sense of entitlement”. So for a kid or young person to have an innate desire and need to have a family home or to simply live with his or hers own family they would have a “sense of entitlement”? What kind of cold world do we live in? Isn’t every kid or young person deserving of what I believe to be the most basic, simplest thing that any young person could have, which is a family home, or to simply live with one’s own blood relational family, in a home? With parents, caregivers, siblings, etc? Shouldn’t it be like the norm and standard for every kid or young person? But for some reason, I’m being considered by some people as like bad, evil or reprehensible for trying to have that with my own family? I tend to think if my friends can live with their families, why can’t I live with mine? I once had a former friend who I thought would always be validating of my trauma, but he one time went against me and invalidated me and said; “Well they raised your brother! They raised him and not you so he’s their kid!” and he laughed at me. So whose kid am I? Where does that leave me then? and so after some years later I came to figure out, that perhaps the reason why I was treated the way I was treated by my family, was all because they raised my sibling and they never raised me. I can’t believe that, I went through that whole process, of getting away from my father, and finally got to be with my extended family and my brother that I never got to grow up with since we were born, and after going through such a nightmarish life with a narcissist father, only for it to, pretty much, backfire on me? all because ‘they raised him and not me’. So in order for a kid or young person to live with his or hers own family they have to be born and raised into it? And it’s unfair to me how my brother got to have what they called a “privileged life” while my life and upbringing got robbed by a toxic father. I have had someone that recognized the validity of my feelings though, and that person said ‘how in the world can you not be allowed just the same if not more’. I remember I stayed with a friend of mine and his family because his mom couldn’t sleep at night knowing that I was sleeping in a car in a parking lot somewhere with my father. They treated me as equally as their two boys, I wanted that with my family and my brother. It’s incredibly sad and disheartening to me that, I go to my family expecting all the love and care in the world, only to seemingly be met with sort of the opposite, I just don’t understand that if they can love and care for one kid all of his life why can’t they do just the same for the other? I believe every kid and young person deserves a good home life with their families. But I guess I can’t have that with my own family all because they raised him and not me. I used to envy other kids that had normal family homes, I stayed with some of them, but couldn’t actually live with them or claim it as my home all because I just, ‘wasn’t their kid’. They bought a condo and now my brother is living in it for free… I was told that there was only one baby on the table… We never chose our parents. and I never chose this life…

Thank you for sharing your story I know it wasn't easy. One thing that might help you is to remember that you're not alone countless people who are now happily married had a relationship in the past that ended in extreme heartbreak. If anything look on the positive side you were able to discover this when you were young and not after you guys had been married for 20 years. Just remember everything happens for a reason that the toughest battles are given to the toughest soldiers. Learn from this and use these past experiences to help you grow into the best version of your self

You and my wife have a similar story. She was not that popular with men in high school but was in college.

i'm definitely just like Patrick Bateman, just without all the money & psychopathy. Otherwise i'm HIM 😎

Probably worth mentioning that if men live on a diet of PS5 and Joe Rogan podcasts concerned with women’s body counts, then they’re basically still children. I don’t want this to come over wrong, but given the trauma you’ve experienced growing up it sounds like you may just be gravitating towards all the wrong guys. You seem to be way more mature than your actual age, so maybe when it comes to forming last relationships grown up behaviour is the best place to start looking.

some talking to most guys not me im a man. like hop off fortnite lil bro and start putting chips in the bag

Women are evil

It makes you un-social. Idk, I've been told I look attractive once but I didn't believe her. [EDIT] It has to do with confidence or something...I know single people are found to be more attractive for some reason.

You are very well spoken, kind, sensitive and insightful.✨🌛✨

Like some others on this thread , I am not sure why your videos were recommended to me but so glad , you have a wonderful persona , my videos are kind of serious and boring but it’s the subjects they are about , I f you lever want to chat with someone let me know , just drop me a message or comment . I’d leave you my what’s app but don’t want to give it out.

You have a very appealing personality and appearance , thanks for sharing your story , I think dealing with rejection is one of the hardest things dealing with people , I had divorced parents and a lot of neglect and rejection accommodates that situation , then I worked in sales it was a challenge to learn to overcome rejection just to earn a living , I went thru a ministry at age 19 Christianity helped me overcome rejection . However at the same time the world rejects Christ so it is always something we have to overcome.

I don’t know what it is about the step parents , my step mom was so wicked , a 180 iq , fantasy novel , sorcery , fanatic, ex biker hippie turned jehovah witness , she worked with my dad while he was changing jobs after an injury that caused him to lose his good job, she got robbed in her neighborhood and asked to move in with him, so after 6 yrs they were common law married and had a wedding in Reno. It was a nightmare , she finally overdosed on medication pain pills in her 70s .My dad was opposite was narcissistic to an extreme , however he was a jealous angry man all the time , after my mom left him. So it was really difficult to deal with.

Your ex has a lot of growing up to do! When you shoot your shot, make sure the next guy is at your level of maturity! 😊 As the old saying goes… actions speak louder than words.

Dua Lipa New Rules is the song for you. Count your rules and don't keep a fresh ex as a friend.

Predators prey upon the weak animals. Your bad relationship with your father normalized abusive behavior in your life. Insecure and abusive men are always just floating around out there, bumping into women until they stick. A strong woman won't put up with their crap but abused and insecure women will, because the abuse is familiar. So I'm not blaming you but you need to be the one to change -- to adjust your filter to identify and reject bad guys before you fall too hard for them, and to pay more attention to the red flags so that you may see them through the love blinders. Think for a while about the idea of "loving with an open hand." Someone who wants to hold onto you tightly and keep you on a leash is not really loving, they are controlling. Real love has trust and security, and you would be free to make your own choices independently, without fear of his reaction. The other life lesson is that people change and we're all on an individual journey of growth, and sometimes breaking up and being rejected is part of the journey, but remember that we don't wait in a relationship for the other person to mature, change, or become ready. We break up and we find a better matched person. This is hard sometimes but it is the way. Staying with someone who isn't ready yet just stunts the growth of you and them. Being alone is scary but being locked into a long-term relationship with the wrong person just because you fear solitude is even worse. You are in the prime years of having men line up at your door -- you really don't have to worry about being alone. You're on a journey to discover how to find the right person for future you. You don't have to find Mr. Right tomorrow, you just need to prepare yourself for the right opportunity that will eventually come your way, and that involves fine-tuning your filter as well as working on yourself. You're not off course yet, you're doing just fine. Sometimes people betray or ignore us when we open up. That's their problem, not yours. Acknowledge the red flag and find a more empathetic person.

Who told you that you were ugly.?

I think the average guy is already treated more or less like he's ugly compared to how the average woman is treated. I got to experience what it's like to be attractive a few times when I went abroad and was the exotic outsider. I loved it. I loved the attention and I loved being able to catch the eye of people who would ignore me in my home country. Sleeping with somebody new felt like a mix of validation and imposter syndrome, but the validation part was addicting. I think it helped me work through some insecurities and the feeling of being less than average. Of course I don't have to worry about being slut-shamed the way that a woman would. I think the double-standard is stupid and it's pathetic of men to feel insecure if their partner has more experience / higher body count -- it doesn't necessarily mean anything, especially if they were seeking validation and working through self-esteem issues. As long as you know what you're doing, you aren't expecting true love, and you understand that people are finding you attractive just because of your body and don't really know who you are as a person, then you're not being taken advantage of.

Being psychologically manipulated into doing something you don't really want to do does suck, bad, but to come even close to comparing it to the r word is actually crazy, dangerous and belittling of what the r word really is. Men and women manipulate each other all the time to get what they want. In fact, people in general manipulate other people all the time to get what they want. It does suck, but at some point you have to have agency and the strength to say no and separate yourself from people like that. The r word is about actual force and completely removing your agency by force, not by trying to convince you to do something with words.

You don’t have body dysmorphia you have a little room for improvement by leaning a little more (I speak objectively even if you don’t want to you look good enough) and also never botch yourself with botox and lip filler - a cheap way to imitate bone structure. The only way to actually change the appearance of bone structure without botching yourself is osteotomy and implants

lol yeah, odd I got recommended. have fun with your vids for kira!

It’s a self esteem issue, really. You would probably find it easier to move on from negative behaviours and break cycles you’re trapped if you felt a greater sense of self worth. Making bad choices is very common though, and you’re on the right path. I think talking about the issues you face is an important first step. You’re definitely very intelligent and articulate, so that’s going to carry you a long way in the long term.

Watch this video a song by Janis Ian, "At Seventeen."

I grew up ‘ugly’ I suppose. I had bad acne, and was picked on at school a lot too. I remember looking in the mirror in the morning and thinking “you don’t look that bad.” I always contemplated the hand that was dealt to me. One frustration was any time I got close to a girl they’d always be more interested in one of my friends. Now, fast forward a lot of years… I see women actively checking me out. Whether it’s grocery shopping, walking down the street, out for the evening. And as a fully grown adult I am almost completely baffled when women flirt with me. I almost don’t know what to do because it’s only a recent phenomenon! So I guess to the younger, teenage me that looked in the mirror… I guess he would be glad to hear that he wasn’t so bad looking after all.

I cannot tell you how many young women I know that were bullied through school and picked on. Then all of a sudden when they glow up they’re getting hit on by guys, and sliding into their DM’s. It’s definitely a thing. You look a lot like a friend of mine and she was picked on a lot, went to university and men threw themselves at her. You’re incredibly self aware and clearly a very reflective person.

You Got This Beautiful! Taking It Day By Day With A Positive Mindset. Life Always Likes Throwing Bumps In The Road. As They Say The Only Constant In Life Is Change. Stay Blessed Beautiful!

I just found your channel and I relate to you alot. I have made videos about my experiences growimg up. I had an absent father but a narcissistic mother. I cant wait to listen and get to know you more. You are amazing! Take care.

Hello Queen, you're a gorgeous woman

You're not ugly.

Interesting video! 👍

so i clicked on this video mostly because i saw a pretty girl, then i saw the title and watched the video and now i feel like a bad person. but you gave me a lot of introspective so thank you for that

lol you are a woman... even if you are really ugly.. go to the gym or make a new face.... woman live in ez mode... they dont do anything to improve... always man problem etc, etc