You Got This Beautiful! Taking It Day By Day With A Positive Mindset. Life Always Likes Throwing Bumps In The Road. As They Say The Only Constant In Life Is Change. Stay Blessed Beautiful!
Never EVER forget you are an amazing, beautiful, amazing, and awesome person!!!!! I am super proud of you!!!! YOU DID NOTHING WRONG!!!! It's NOT YOU, sometimes people just realize what they think they want is not what they really want, and you NEVER know what person you want to date until you truly get to know them.
I have no clue how I found this video and watched the whole thing I just want to tell you that you are beautiful and I hope one day you will realise how loveable you are. I don't want to sound preachy but can you give Jesus a try and pray tell him all that you worry about he knows you more than you know it. it helped me.
I am so very sorry that you are dealing with this and had your childhood. I wish there was some way I could just make everything all better for you. Also, try to always avoid dating anyone named Jason lol
It’s a self esteem issue, really. You would probably find it easier to move on from negative behaviours and break cycles you’re trapped if you felt a greater sense of self worth. Making bad choices is very common though, and you’re on the right path. I think talking about the issues you face is an important first step. You’re definitely very intelligent and articulate, so that’s going to carry you a long way in the long term.
I’m writing these messages as I watch along hour videos, so I apologise if they seem disjointed! It sounds like you’ve had a life time of rejection piled on after rejection and piled on again. So it’s no surprise to me at all that when you’re excited about a person it’s really disheartening when it all falls apart. I think this goes back to what I said earlier about cycles. There will come a time you meet the right person. It’s not particularly helpful to say this now, as it’s almost like a rhetorical question. You just want to know the answer. But when the time comes you might not know what it is that you want, but you’ll be as clear as day about the things you don’t want. And that’s where you’ll find the truth about so many things, in your head, in your heart and in your gut. Keep on externalising this conversation, it’s good for your day to day mental health, and some external perspective will validate the good things about how you feel and hopefully cast aside any of the negativity.
Your friend wasn’t ready. It wasn’t you. He wasn’t ready for a relationship. That’s why he turned away from you. It happens, miss! Chin up and steer clear of those cycles! 🚲
Predators prey upon the weak animals. Your bad relationship with your father normalized abusive behavior in your life. Insecure and abusive men are always just floating around out there, bumping into women until they stick. A strong woman won't put up with their crap but abused and insecure women will, because the abuse is familiar. So I'm not blaming you but you need to be the one to change -- to adjust your filter to identify and reject bad guys before you fall too hard for them, and to pay more attention to the red flags so that you may see them through the love blinders. Think for a while about the idea of "loving with an open hand." Someone who wants to hold onto you tightly and keep you on a leash is not really loving, they are controlling. Real love has trust and security, and you would be free to make your own choices independently, without fear of his reaction. The other life lesson is that people change and we're all on an individual journey of growth, and sometimes breaking up and being rejected is part of the journey, but remember that we don't wait in a relationship for the other person to mature, change, or become ready. We break up and we find a better matched person. This is hard sometimes but it is the way. Staying with someone who isn't ready yet just stunts the growth of you and them. Being alone is scary but being locked into a long-term relationship with the wrong person just because you fear solitude is even worse. You are in the prime years of having men line up at your door -- you really don't have to worry about being alone. You're on a journey to discover how to find the right person for future you. You don't have to find Mr. Right tomorrow, you just need to prepare yourself for the right opportunity that will eventually come your way, and that involves fine-tuning your filter as well as working on yourself. You're not off course yet, you're doing just fine. Sometimes people betray or ignore us when we open up. That's their problem, not yours. Acknowledge the red flag and find a more empathetic person.
You Got This Beautiful! Taking It Day By Day With A Positive Mindset. Life Always Likes Throwing Bumps In The Road. As They Say The Only Constant In Life Is Change. Stay Blessed Beautiful!
Never EVER forget you are an amazing, beautiful, amazing, and awesome person!!!!! I am super proud of you!!!! YOU DID NOTHING WRONG!!!! It's NOT YOU, sometimes people just realize what they think they want is not what they really want, and you NEVER know what person you want to date until you truly get to know them.
That’s true thank you so much for your comments they really do help!
I have no clue how I found this video and watched the whole thing I just want to tell you that you are beautiful and I hope one day you will realise how loveable you are. I don't want to sound preachy but can you give Jesus a try and pray tell him all that you worry about he knows you more than you know it. it helped me.
I have been trying to reconnect with my spiritual side and it has helped! Thank you for your comment!
I am so very sorry that you are dealing with this and had your childhood. I wish there was some way I could just make everything all better for you.
Also, try to always avoid dating anyone named Jason lol
Haven’t met a Jason yet but I will steer clear!
It’s a self esteem issue, really. You would probably find it easier to move on from negative behaviours and break cycles you’re trapped if you felt a greater sense of self worth. Making bad choices is very common though, and you’re on the right path. I think talking about the issues you face is an important first step. You’re definitely very intelligent and articulate, so that’s going to carry you a long way in the long term.
I’m writing these messages as I watch along hour videos, so I apologise if they seem disjointed! It sounds like you’ve had a life time of rejection piled on after rejection and piled on again. So it’s no surprise to me at all that when you’re excited about a person it’s really disheartening when it all falls apart.
I think this goes back to what I said earlier about cycles. There will come a time you meet the right person. It’s not particularly helpful to say this now, as it’s almost like a rhetorical question. You just want to know the answer. But when the time comes you might not know what it is that you want, but you’ll be as clear as day about the things you don’t want. And that’s where you’ll find the truth about so many things, in your head, in your heart and in your gut. Keep on externalising this conversation, it’s good for your day to day mental health, and some external perspective will validate the good things about how you feel and hopefully cast aside any of the negativity.
Your friend wasn’t ready. It wasn’t you. He wasn’t ready for a relationship. That’s why he turned away from you. It happens, miss! Chin up and steer clear of those cycles! 🚲
Predators prey upon the weak animals. Your bad relationship with your father normalized abusive behavior in your life. Insecure and abusive men are always just floating around out there, bumping into women until they stick. A strong woman won't put up with their crap but abused and insecure women will, because the abuse is familiar. So I'm not blaming you but you need to be the one to change -- to adjust your filter to identify and reject bad guys before you fall too hard for them, and to pay more attention to the red flags so that you may see them through the love blinders.
Think for a while about the idea of "loving with an open hand." Someone who wants to hold onto you tightly and keep you on a leash is not really loving, they are controlling. Real love has trust and security, and you would be free to make your own choices independently, without fear of his reaction.
The other life lesson is that people change and we're all on an individual journey of growth, and sometimes breaking up and being rejected is part of the journey, but remember that we don't wait in a relationship for the other person to mature, change, or become ready. We break up and we find a better matched person. This is hard sometimes but it is the way. Staying with someone who isn't ready yet just stunts the growth of you and them.
Being alone is scary but being locked into a long-term relationship with the wrong person just because you fear solitude is even worse. You are in the prime years of having men line up at your door -- you really don't have to worry about being alone. You're on a journey to discover how to find the right person for future you. You don't have to find Mr. Right tomorrow, you just need to prepare yourself for the right opportunity that will eventually come your way, and that involves fine-tuning your filter as well as working on yourself. You're not off course yet, you're doing just fine.
Sometimes people betray or ignore us when we open up. That's their problem, not yours. Acknowledge the red flag and find a more empathetic person.