“I have grown to love secrecy. It seems to be the one thing that can make modern life mysterious or marvelous to us. The commonest thing is delightful if one only hides it.” -Oscar Wilde
OMG That was so touching and beautiful. Haters and narcs and jealous people of this world try to pin one down, but they dont realize that its just a muscular training for the wings. Love you
presence in absence: ❤️ indifference is the cornerstone of seduction ❤️ self guided, self sufficienct, lives in their own world ❤️ showing 10% ❤️ they don't need earth ❤️ let the other person thinks it's their idea ❤ leave everything up to the person's imagination ❤️monument of ur best quailites ❤️ the brain will fill in the rest ❤️ether: higher parts of space ❤️elevate urself above reality ❤️ something that cant be pinned down
I’d rather be true than ethereal. I don’t have the urge to be adored by the world. If one person sees me for who I truly am, it’s success enough and if they don’t, I’ll know I was authentic during my lifetime.
i agree. if everyone is imagining the rest of you, won't there be inevitable dissapointment and dissiliusionment when they actually find out who you are?
I think that question gets flipped when you realize you’re never done finding out who you are hence you in this moment is not really you but the momentary you that in a year could be someone completely different. So I don’t feel authenticity is something static. Hence it is something rather playful and even secretive to yourself if you’re able to let go of the old facets of “you” when the other “you” calls for it.
@@DilnozaSpace this is hopeful and beautiful. thank you; i have been stuck trying to define myself and push down past versions of myself. this is a refreshing perspective.
@@DilnozaSpace but i have such a desire to be seen and understood. the people i value most see me and understand me but know i am not static. i don't think you have to hide yourself or your current self to allow your identity to be dynamic. you just have to find joy in surprising people with your changes, or letting them see past selves in your current self because they're still a part of you, and it only creates a deeper and more complex identity. i think i have had to hide aspects of myself to my family for too long to hide myself from others. i like being understood and known. human connection is vulnerable but beautiful. i think you can live with dynamic authenticity and share that authenticity with those around you. i don't want those around me to imagine the rest of me. i want them to know me in that moment.
@@evasofia07 i totally understand! I’ve had to fight to be seen in the past as well, especially to my family. However you have to realize that in order for you to “see” yourself, because this is honestly what it is all about, you learn to let go of the expectation that others even those closest to you can truly see you. Because it can be burdensome to also expect others to see you, the real you, if say you are in the process of redefining who you are. It can put almost a “heavy tape” on the process. So I think in some moments of course it is beautiful to connect and be yourself fully with people close to you, while in others you respect your own process of self so much that you don’t need to explain in attempt to reconnect to others. Hope it makes sense. You got this!
wow... this video. i feel transformed. i haven't felt content in who i am for the longest time but this video puts me at ease. this is the exact direction that i desire to go. thank you so much for this enlightened video! edit: i love your makeup and style in this video sm you look like a cool character from a great movie
If you and Erykah Badu ever had a conversation…it’s such a gift how you know the charm of seduction that less is more. As a male, I have trouble in accepting it as I believe it appears inauthentic but I am finding the utility in mystery. What’s people don’t know, they will make up to fill in the gaps. We can use this to our advantage to create a personal mythos about ourselves. I like that you are so clear about this because some people are good at this but cannot consciously communicate what they’re doing when they’re doing it but it’s intuitive to them. They can’t explain it but they understand when it’s happening. You seem to know a thing or two about it and teach it to others. It is a lost art. People need to relearn.
I just have to say I'm super excited for this series. I absolutely adore your channel! (I found you through your discussion on the Bimbo archetype.) Your videos are helping me with self expression and I'm learning so much from you. I just want to thank you!
This video has challenged and questioned the ways i share myslef with the world, truthly. However, i find indifference could prevent meaningfull and deep conection. How can we have mystique and secure and understanding relationships? Thank you!
Of course. Indifference can be done lightly with setting boundaries or “laws” for yourself that no one should be able to break. Or you can be more extreme and kind of distance yourself from others heavily. You decide how far you want to take it really.
I've had some ppl have some expectations of me that are greater than my own and I do want to be ethereal but sometimes that attention and expectations dont make me feel good at all
Eveb if it is a good assumption. If you cant achieve that good assumption, or you dont have the good assumption it makes me feel negatively bc I dont truly have what they want from me
What matters if what you want and your goals. Just make sure you are accountable to yourself above everything else and then the others can be discarded.
There’s nothing wrong with that at all. Nothing is a one size fits all. When you start to work against yourself that’s the bummer. I have just found “that less is more” works. There’s a freedom in being open and happy and friendly that a lot of people can’t achieve, so good on you.
What if you just look like a typical girl? I don't mean being ugly but I mean I give off "girl next door" vibes apparently. I'd be typecast as the person who's always there, familiar and easily understood, that people slowly find interesting ONLY after they've gotten bored of the hard to reach ethereals and show stoppers. I don't have an ethereal unusual look to me, so what do people like me do?
How can you say that you not care about what they think when you are making all the effort to look good? There is a clear dissonance there, how do you manage that?
“I have grown to love secrecy. It seems to be the one thing that can make modern life mysterious or marvelous to us. The commonest thing is delightful if one only hides it.” -Oscar Wilde
I'm going to be doing a video on Oscar Wilde soon!!
@@HeavenSentHoney did you ever make the video?
This content is like a secret little cave in the forest. Mystery is one of the best sensations in the human experience.
OMG That was so touching and beautiful. Haters and narcs and jealous people of this world try to pin one down, but they dont realize that its just a muscular training for the wings. Love you
presence in absence:
❤️ indifference is the cornerstone of seduction
❤️ self guided, self sufficienct, lives in their own world
❤️ showing 10%
❤️ they don't need earth
❤️ let the other person thinks it's their idea
❤ leave everything up to the person's imagination
❤️monument of ur best quailites
❤️ the brain will fill in the rest
❤️ether: higher parts of space
❤️elevate urself above reality
❤️ something that cant be pinned down
I’d rather be true than ethereal. I don’t have the urge to be adored by the world. If one person sees me for who I truly am, it’s success enough and if they don’t, I’ll know I was authentic during my lifetime.
i agree. if everyone is imagining the rest of you, won't there be inevitable dissapointment and dissiliusionment when they actually find out who you are?
I think that question gets flipped when you realize you’re never done finding out who you are hence you in this moment is not really you but the momentary you that in a year could be someone completely different. So I don’t feel authenticity is something static. Hence it is something rather playful and even secretive to yourself if you’re able to let go of the old facets of “you” when the other “you” calls for it.
@@DilnozaSpace this is hopeful and beautiful. thank you; i have been stuck trying to define myself and push down past versions of myself. this is a refreshing perspective.
@@DilnozaSpace but i have such a desire to be seen and understood. the people i value most see me and understand me but know i am not static. i don't think you have to hide yourself or your current self to allow your identity to be dynamic. you just have to find joy in surprising people with your changes, or letting them see past selves in your current self because they're still a part of you, and it only creates a deeper and more complex identity.
i think i have had to hide aspects of myself to my family for too long to hide myself from others. i like being understood and known. human connection is vulnerable but beautiful.
i think you can live with dynamic authenticity and share that authenticity with those around you. i don't want those around me to imagine the rest of me. i want them to know me in that moment.
@@evasofia07 i totally understand! I’ve had to fight to be seen in the past as well, especially to my family. However you have to realize that in order for you to “see” yourself, because this is honestly what it is all about, you learn to let go of the expectation that others even those closest to you can truly see you. Because it can be burdensome to also expect others to see you, the real you, if say you are in the process of redefining who you are. It can put almost a “heavy tape” on the process. So I think in some moments of course it is beautiful to connect and be yourself fully with people close to you, while in others you respect your own process of self so much that you don’t need to explain in attempt to reconnect to others.
Hope it makes sense. You got this!
wow... this video. i feel transformed. i haven't felt content in who i am for the longest time but this video puts me at ease. this is the exact direction that i desire to go. thank you so much for this enlightened video!
edit: i love your makeup and style in this video sm you look like a cool character from a great movie
I'm so happy my videos were able to do that for you, youre welcome. Also thank you I am a character.
Getting back to work, and I needed to revisit this just to cope around my very boring colleagues.
If you and Erykah Badu ever had a conversation…it’s such a gift how you know the charm of seduction that less is more. As a male, I have trouble in accepting it as I believe it appears inauthentic but I am finding the utility in mystery.
What’s people don’t know, they will make up to fill in the gaps. We can use this to our advantage to create a personal mythos about ourselves.
I like that you are so clear about this because some people are good at this but cannot consciously communicate what they’re doing when they’re doing it but it’s intuitive to them. They can’t explain it but they understand when it’s happening.
You seem to know a thing or two about it and teach it to others.
It is a lost art. People need to relearn.
The new rage rap movement is great study of this mystique. For example Playboi Carti and Yeat.
thank you. I was this way years ago, and I have forgotten , it was natural, but now beaten down, I see it can be easy again
I just have to say I'm super excited for this series. I absolutely adore your channel! (I found you through your discussion on the Bimbo archetype.) Your videos are helping me with self expression and I'm learning so much from you. I just want to thank you!
that makes me so happy! you are very welcome!
Omg.. you look stunning. This dark hair, dark lash, pale brow dark lip combination?!?! ETHEREAL!! All I can say about this look is oh my god.
I needed this I searched so hard to get here.
Hahahaha glad you made it!
This channel is gold!
I loved this and the way you explained the concept! I'm going to have to look out for this series
Omg! This is EXACTLY the type of content I've been looking for!❤
Love your videos! You’re so knowledgeable and intellectual 💕 not to mention beautiful and ethereal ✨
Oh goodness thank you!!
Looking forward to the series. Love this video! 💖
thanks love!
I am so lucky that I found your channel! Your approach is truly unique and captivating. I cannot wait for more vidoes of that type ❤
glad to have you aboard :) thank you so much
Looks similar to the old hollywood concept of Charm.
Ooh. This is beautiful. You just popped up on my feed.
This video has challenged and questioned the ways i share myslef with the world, truthly. However, i find indifference could prevent meaningfull and deep conection. How can we have mystique and secure and understanding relationships? Thank you!
Of course. Indifference can be done lightly with setting boundaries or “laws” for yourself that no one should be able to break. Or you can be more extreme and kind of distance yourself from others heavily. You decide how far you want to take it really.
Love your content 💖😇
Would love more video on in difference!
A lot of this actually resonated ♥️
period. loved it
How am I just finding your channel!!! ❤
I've had some ppl have some expectations of me that are greater than my own and I do want to be ethereal but sometimes that attention and expectations dont make me feel good at all
Eveb if it is a good assumption. If you cant achieve that good assumption, or you dont have the good assumption it makes me feel negatively bc I dont truly have what they want from me
What matters if what you want and your goals. Just make sure you are accountable to yourself above everything else and then the others can be discarded.
This video is really useful thanks 💘💘
A big part of who I am is bubbly and friendly so this part feels hard to do
There’s nothing wrong with that at all. Nothing is a one size fits all. When you start to work against yourself that’s the bummer. I have just found “that less is more” works. There’s a freedom in being open and happy and friendly that a lot of people can’t achieve, so good on you.
So glad I found ur channel
What if you just look like a typical girl? I don't mean being ugly but I mean I give off "girl next door" vibes apparently. I'd be typecast as the person who's always there, familiar and easily understood, that people slowly find interesting ONLY after they've gotten bored of the hard to reach ethereals and show stoppers.
I don't have an ethereal unusual look to me, so what do people like me do?
duude dw about it lool its less about your looks and more ab like yr vibes
whers the top from? love it
From clearance at dolls kill months ago!
A masterclass in covert narcissism and their superpowers.
I’ve been looking for someone who can share their secrets.
Stolen.
Thank you.
how do you get you hair so shiny?? love your account btw :)
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How can you say that you not care about what they think when you are making all the effort to look good? There is a clear dissonance there, how do you manage that?
get ready without MEN on ya mind xo
8:52 I love you
Bpd girlie finding her purpose