I went to weight watchers because of my binge eating to help me loose weight I lost 56 pounds but I got into restricting and feeling so guilty for not loosing enough. They don't teach healthy eating, they teach counting points which is not 'real' food qualities. It doesn't educate you about food at all. I got so ill, and as Katie said it didn't fix the mental issues so I gained it all back again. The only thing that has helped me is thinking about food as fuel for my body only and then dealing with my emotions through therapy and education breaking that link in my mind that is keeping me ill. It's a process!
I have tried so many diets throughout my life, most of them out of these womans magazines moms read. None of them worked and all of them made me unhappy and moody. Then i found veganism and even tho im in it for ethical reasons its also so educating on what we are actually eating and what our body wants if we crave certain things etc. I also see food as fuel but i also like food xD
I have no anecdotal story to give you about how my "morally superior" diet saved me. What I do know is that when we lose weight, we lose the layers of "protection" that fueled us to gain weight in the first place. Suddenly, it takes only 5 seconds into a particular song or the first 10 minutes into a movie to send us into our pillow crying our eyes out. What I do recommend is furthering your education and finding a way to heal the past wounds. Otherwise we are only a slight nudge away from falling back into our past habits.
i am afraid to go to the hospital to get stitches. The people who work there is not so nice when it comes to selfharm. They do the stitches without any kind of numbing or make us wait a long time because we did it to ourself and therefore it is not as important. I live in Norway btw. But what should i do if i cant go to the hospital?
that is so horrible and disgusting. i'm so sorry you've gone through that. best thing would be to buy good wound treatment things. antiseptics, healing creams, tape etc. take care dear
I had some really bad experiences getting my self harm treated. They said some really rude things and refused to give me stitches at all even though I'd damaged some nerves. I was given some flimsy tape that couldn't hold them shut and now I have huge scars because of it.
Have you ever heard of steri-strips?? They’re a kind of self stitch thing that will hold a cut together. You need to use your best judgment as to when you truly need to go to hospital.
I am very sorry you had a bad experience. Has this happened multiple times? A doctor not numbing you properly? Because that does sound a little strange. Note, it is not that I don't believe you. Did you need several stitches? Sbout the wait. That is a real shame and I am sorry you had to wait. But a lot of people come to the ER. Doctors need to attend to the most serious injuries first, an open, bleeding fracture or an infected appendix will be looked at first, because it is more pressing than cuts. It is not because you did it to yourself, I guarantee you that. It is just a matter of dealing with the most urgent cases first. I am very sorry you had a bad experience and while I hope you don't have to go to the hospital again, if you do, I hope it goes better.
#KatiFAQ Hey Kati! Why is it that people get angry at me for not being able to control my suicidal thoughts, self harm, ED, etc? I don't want to do any of it and I guess they don't get that but people being mad at me makes me worse so I never talk about it or tell anyone.
You've already replied to your question. They don't get that. They simply don't understand how it feels to be in this situation. Unfortunately most people think that if something is easy for them it should be easy for everyone else.
What is wrong with you, exactly? I've had the most screwed-up life imaginable, but never has it even remotely occurred to me to cut myself. I've thought about cutting other people, but I want to know what kind of stupid it takes to cut yourself.
Kyle Maxwell (first things first triggor warning also i dont condone this behaviour as it is very self destructive i am merely explaining why ppl cut) comment shows clear ignorance on this subject. When you cut it releases endorphins and adrenaline this makes you feel better and that is only part of it. It can also be about control especially if you are in an abusive household; you are controlling when you are hurt and that can feel powerful Sometimes. The pain can also be a distraction if you sre focused on the pain then you arent thinking about all the other fucked up shit thats going on in ur head. The reasons are different for everyone but dont call it stupid please. ( if i didn’t explain well i’m very sleep deprived rn)
My mom lies to my therapist and told her I hadn’t done it in a long time when it was really recent because she thought social services would take us away if anyone knew. She was paranoid about that kinda stuff.
I have a question. When will the medical field, insurance companies, law enforcement, the judicial system, government and even the agencies that are supposed to protect the rights of psychiatric patients actually stop allowing us to be abused and assaulted? When will they start treating us like mature human beings that deserve respect and rights?
I Totally agree with your Statement. That Why I Will Not Accept Help again from outsiders. They hurt your Case because of their Statement against you ( me ) . It's all F up. I Don't Trust anyone.
A couple years ago I used to cut. By that time I told my mom I needed to see a therapist. After she's seen my cutting she just rambled for two hours and insisted on calling my mom and telling her that I was going to join a cult for cutting other peoples' arms and legs. Well, the therapy wasn't very useful but at least I had a laugh.
I love this video, Kati! I SH and hearing people explain different parts of it or talk about it is actually very helpful. I know deep down that I want to stop even when my mind is telling me otherwise and you've really helped me out mentally, these past couple days. Thank you for posting all of these videos and being so nice and helpful!
"if you need help, get it" still got a few thousand dollars in debt from going to the hospital years ago... I ain't about to go again and owe more money 😎
I've been depressed for 3 years, I don't want to tell the whole story but. ... my mom won't let me go to therapy. what should I do? I really want to go.
Hi it’s been two years since she left this comment and I just saw this and realised how much I related to this. I don’t know if you’ll read this or reply to this because I don’t think many people do this but I just want to know how you r. Like I said I know exactly what that feels like and I want to know if it got better and if it did if you have any advice for me or if it still isn’t better than Ill be happy to talk to you. Again sorry if this is creepy but I’m just curious!
When I have moments of depression, I find it helpful to go to the Bible for comfort. I encourage you to check out www.jw.org. In the search bar you can type in 'depression ' and a variety of articles come up about how you can be comforted. Please check it out
I gotta say; ive seen a LOT of therapists. And Im trying to think of how to word this... Through my years of learning about psychology as a patient 23 years, as an unofficial student (both through self help, and actual course material, documentaries, studies etc), and a general awareness of common sense.... I gotta say. You... Know your stuff. Ive said that 2x since I was 13. But you, you have a true awarness that A LOT of professionals seem to lack. Ive had so many book therapists. People who find the best category in the dsm, or best dual diagnosis, plop you in that box, and that becomes you. No.... I'm not a box, im a human... And although the box is a great guideline, because each individual is different, your cannot treat them all the same way, with the same box. You dont do that.... Thats SO IMPORTANT, at least from a clients perspective.... Helps me to trust the process better and just get started and get er done.
Hi Katy, I want to know how to stop cutting myself, punching walls etc. I feel this anger inside of me, and while I am self harming the anger, pain goes for a while. I feel lost and alone.
Bonnie1a hello! I am not a professional but I am dealing with the same issue... My advice is try to find a hobby or something that you like to do instead of harming yourself. Maybe drawing(even on skin with a marker) or listening to music. Stay strong
I’m not a professional either but my advice would be to get occupied with something. Try running or biking, some kind of exercise to channel the energy from anger. If it comes down to you’re about to cut yourself hold ice.
I have the same anger issues and investing in a punching bag and a boxing glove is what has helped me the most. People always suggest finding a hobby but that doesn't help the fact that you need some immediate way to release your energy.
#KatiFAQ I struggle with BED, so when I focus on weight it makes the bingeing worse. I go through periods where I eat fairly normally and don't focus on weight, but the issue is still there. I am still overweight and still not happy about that and inevitably the illness comes back. When things are ok I'm maybe not gaining, but I'm also not losing, which I need to, even just for health reasons. Am I destined to always be this way? Will I never be healthy? How do I deal with this?
I would say it all depends on why you are doing it, or the mindset you're in. Self-harm is done purposefully, with the intention to inflict harm. So, if you are doing any of these things for that reason, then absolutely yes. However, if its more like a habit, that isn't linked to negative emotions/thoughts, then I would say no. I've often asked myself this same question, because I've always had a bad habit of picking my lip, even until it bleeds. But I've never done it on purpose to hurt myself, its just a habitual behaviour I've had my whole life; whereas, when I struggled with self-harm, it was a coping mechanism, not a habit. Ofcourse, it can become a habit, but it doesn't start off that way. Sorry for the long reply, I hope it portrayed the message I wanted to get across clearly and understandably 😊 and I hope it helps ❤
in some cases, yes. there is an anxiety disorder called Trichotillomania, which is different from self punishment or coping with depression. what you’re describing could be a self soothing device. but if you’re intentionally harming yourself then yes its self harm.
Weight watchers causes me great anxiety and shame at being judged at weekly weigh in and having to justify any gain. I never heard anyone say to the leader the gain was due to a binge
What do you think about the show Supersize vs Superskinny? Its so triggering, I think its the worst idea ever for a show and that it should be banned..
Stellalpina for someone struggling with an eating disorder seeing people that are overweight, seeing how much they eat, and seeing the effects of being overweight can be triggering and basically be motivation for them to continue with their disordered eating habits.
Lili I don't understand: it's not like you become overweight overnight. O.o You have to eat that way for years to become that big. Plus they say that's not the right amount to eat, how can that encourage to eat unhealthyly? 😐
The show itself doesn't encourage the behaviour, the person with the eating disorder uses it to motivate themselves not to eat. People with eating disorders aren't really capable of thinking rationally, they genuinely believe that if they eat they're going to end up like the people on that show. even though it talks about the dangers of eating disorders and not getting enough nutrients, a person with an eating disorder is going to see that and ignore it completely because their illness has made it so they don't really care, they just know they don't want to be fat. For someone who isn't struggling with disordered eating habits, the show is probably fine to watch.
hey kati i’m 14 and have been watching some of your videos lately and have been wondering how do you ask you parents for professional help/ how do you tell them you’re struggling and want help?
Well firstly, you are 14 and can recognise that you need/want help. That's a big deal! Have you asked them now for help? If so how did it go? If not if you struggle to verbalize it, write a message or as someone else mentioned a letter. Or maybe speak to a relative that you are close to that can help you tell them. Wish you all the best.
I personally dislike sharing any sexual information about myself to anyone. Other people might be perfectly comfortable, but I’m a really private person and don’t see why sharing it with everyone is what’s pushed.
do it on my thighs so people couldn't tell... started with my arms and the look of people was the stuff of nightmares. It was worse than looking a bone poking out of my arm or close to.. So I learned (AND PLEASE DON'T HIDE THEM; YOU NEED & DESERVE HELP GETTING A SPOT WHERE NOBODY CAN SEE IS SABOTAGING YOURSELF, PLEASE DON'T LEARN THIS! I TELL IT AS MY EXPERIENCE) to do it in a place nobody would be bothering. Now my family knows and my husband too so is easy for them to spot them.
I have a filthy, raunchy sense of humor at times, but when it comes to actually having sex I freeze up, and I feel like I can't breathe. I tend to just lie there and wait for it to be over, after I feel hollow and empty inside, and it's hard not to cut. I've managed to stay clean for about 3 years though
It sound like you have some kind of problem with sex,maybe some kind of trauma you're not really aware of? I don't know,you should talk to someone about it.
I’m 41 stop cutting twenty years ago and stop now I’m cutting again so scared to talk to someone about my secret I do no I don’t want to live anymore...
Thanks for answering the cutting question. My wife, who had not cut in more than 15 years (according to her mother), is in a bipolar depression and is doing it again. It worked me at first but the cuts are barely scratches and she says she's doing it because she's in a really dark place in her head and can't get out. She also says the cutting distracts her from that. Is there something I can do to help?
Yes, i agree , talk about coming out in highschool, i'm actually in the process of that sorta, but i still don't know if i'm bi or lesbian fully i'm inbetween it's weird but i def know i like girls
waaaiiit... So it's not normal that I just can't talk about sex with my therapist?? Like, I can think of reasons for it in my past, but I just assumed that everyone was uncomfortable talking about it
Hey how are you doing I have been watching your videos I really enjoyed watching your videos I hear you're a therapist I have been battling a anxiety depression ever since I was a young adult and now I am 36 I grew up in a family environment to where you didn't go to get help you just prayed about it and turn to God and you tried to work it out yourself but but I know that God has given us otherwise to get help to just like I have to take meds for my eyes but anyways my family is really really supportive of me getting help I have been looking for a counselor so I really enjoy watching your videos
My therapist just continued on as if it was a normal appointment, but she did ask why and how they got there first. Other than that it was normal for the first time she saw some of my fresh cuts.
I know you address the younger population on self harm. So being an older adult in their 50’s is that abnormal? I was cutting free for 20 years. Now due to a poor relationship choice I am cutting again
Hi, I know this is an old video, but I just had to say something... when therapists tell your parents about your self harm I find it more triggering, because I don't want my parents to know when I do it or how deep etc....I don't know if this made any sense but, this is at least how I feel about it... But if your patient(or idk what its called) are over the age of 16, can you tell their parents about it or do you need permission from your "patient"? Btw just wanted to say that your videos helps a lot, even though its trough screen, keep on going, and thank you❤️
I was so confused why I cut and rip my skin open.... you explain it it in a way I understand . Can you please explain how to keep me from doing it again ?
Just wanna ask: If you self-harm twice, like cutting yourself and eating excessive amounts of pills WITHOUT the intention of suicide but intentionally eating those in order to self-harm, is it still be considered as self- harm though?
I cut deep enough to get stitches but didn't go to the hospital bc my parents didn't know so I put toilet paper over it bc it kept bleeding.. I did use tape to get it back together
I wish I could see you but I know you live too far so I have been looking at and chicken on different counselors but I really enjoy watching your videos you really do inspire me these UA-cam videos make my day
A1DS C0CK they are allowed to discuss what they talk about with a patient with someone else if they believe that you are in danger or could possibly be in danger. For example if I tell my therapist that I want to die and I have a plan to kill myself she is actually legally obligated to intervene and talk to whoever necessary to ensure my safety. However if I tell my therapist that I hate my sister and she calls up my sister and tells my sister I hate her then that’s illegal because I didn’t give her permission and we are not in any real danger.
They can disclose to other people if they believe someone is at risk to themselves or others. Additionally, they can disclose to other professionals for continuity of care if needed.
Kati my question is: It's very hard for me to open up, due to past childhood stuff. So when I'm at my therapists I want to say so much and get it out but I bury it deep down, and when I do try to open up I feel like I dont make it sound as serious as it really is and that she thinks it's something not serious ? Lately I've been so down at school, alot of kids hate school but for me it's not that its the school I'm at the environment everything I've been feeling suicidal because of it lately.
So Kati if someone has a therapist and is getting help with the mental part of the ED then would weight watchers be ok or are you saying that you don't think those programs are good at all?? I ask because I go to a ED clinic and a few months ago i talked about maybe starting medifast and my therapist thought it might be helpful for me as I don't eat at reg times and this program would be helpful that. I am not getting on it as I have other health issues happening right now.....
I’ve been hospitalized 8 times for self harm and suicide attempts homocidal plans and trying to choke people(past) and instability.. all they did was mess me up more.
#KatiFAQ Hey Kati! My question is: I have had troubles with heart palpitations along with chest pain. Am I worrying too much? or should I get it looked at? I worry its just nothing and will look silly. I would love if you answered my question thanks! Your vids helps so much!!!!
#katifaq Hi Kati, is there such a thing as too much EMDR? Can you do it multiple sessions a day, or is there a limit? How does this work with repressed memories?
kati, i cut as a kid but the reason was a long story. if i told the therapist my foster mom was abusing me (which she did badly), would u tell her if u didnt believe me. this is hypothetical, cause i never told my therapist. cause the ppl who could change things didnt belive me n the other pll didnt do anything. anywho in this sitution would u tell the parents if you didnt beleive me
So can a person have anorexia nervosa without being really underweight? If the criteria says you have to be underweight, they would deny your help? I never understood this :(
#KatiFAQ HI Kati! I was wondering how Bipolar Disorder and BPD co-occur. With BPD my moods are all over the place changing many times a day, sometimes a bit less frequently. But from what I think I understand, Bipolar has longer periods of time of either high or low mood...I have described feeling like my mood stabilizer is helping and I am calm with less fluctuating mood, but overall very depressed...if that makes sense. My therapist always looks at me strangely when I try to explain that.
That would be an interesting video, for sure; however, I don't know that a straight person fully understands the pain and dynamics of coming out. I am gay woman and my friends and family tried to be supportive, but they never fully understood what it was like. I had to reach out to lgbt friends to help me. Coming out was painful and horrifying and I had people turn on me. It gets better. Good luck. Stay strong and NEVER be ashamed of who you are, because you are a beautiful person.
I would think Weight Watchers would be extremely triggering for someone with ed, wether it`s binge eating or anything else. Like you said, ed is not really about weight but a lot of other things that need to be taken care of at least before doing that if you at some point think it could be helpful and can be sure it`s not going to trigger you if you want to try that.
As I get older, I've become more uncomfortable with my own sexuality. Even thinking about sex makes me nervous. I think this is a result of me remembering past traumas/abuse. My husband is *so* supportive, but I still feel extreme guilt for not being able to be sexually active with him at this point.
Hey Kati, I think that I might have anxiety. I am in middle school and I don’t really know how to handle this situation. Should I talk to my parents, my school counselor? thx
#KatiFAQ my therapist never asks my questions and always waits for me to talk on. Is that normal ? I haven’t been there for a long time but still I don’t know if that is good for the procedure.
carlotta D. That's normal. The less questions they ask the better. My therapist also does it and its kind of awkward when no one is talking for 15 seconds lol.
4:40 my question I guess then is...would it be legal to make me go to hospital? Another wise if I walked in your office. We are chatting laughing talking ect. You see fresh marks on my arms..no blood...but obvious marks. How can legally make me go to the hospital or even 302 me if at that time im completely mentally stable...
i’m 207 days clean as of today, but recently life has really been shitty and i keep wanting to start again. but the thing is i only stopped because i cut too deep and never said anything so now i have a huge scar and i’m terrified to cut that deep again because i honestly can’t remember how to cut small anymore...
I like being supportive and talking to friends but I hate spending time with people. Is that normal or a problem. I would rather relax at home with my husband. He seems to be the only person I can stand.
I miss therapy... I moved states away from everyone and everything I know because I was homeless and my bf had a place here and now I can't afford it ): I need help but I can't get insurance.
But I always felt a little weird that my therapist and dietitian at this program had thought a program like medifast would be a good thing for me to try. Like I said I am not at that place where I can do that right now but are you saying all weight programs are bad or it just depends on what each person is trying to do?
KATI SOS HELP.FAQ I'm not sure what to do I think I was sexually assulted about a month ago. I really trusted him and I acted out recently and all of a sudden it's all gone. The pain is gone it's almost one it Hasnt happened. Is this normal? This happened a month ago and I acted out but now it's like gone? And I feel close to him again! HELP I hate the cycle
I can't tell my councilor about my cutting because she'll tell my parents and being vulnerable in front of my parents make me sick and want to crawl out of my skin. I dont know why, mostly dont know why, I hate being vulnerable to them so much. Is that normal
One of the most terrifying things when I was committed...my biggest question in my mind was...omg am I gonna lose my job? Granted just three hours prior I took pills to kill myself...but when I got 302d...I signed a voluntary 201 but my biggest worry was am I gonna lose my job. Its weird because even though I wanted to kill myself I failed and now I had to worry about my job...
4 years self harm free!! Woot woot!! Its possible Y'all!!
So proud of you! :)
Alli G. :))))))) that isn’t easy at all, hooray for you :)
congrats!!!!
Alli G. Yay good job
Congratulations on 4 years!!! That is an amazing accomplishment, well done 👏🏻🎉😊
Who else talks about depression and suicide jokingly around friends but it’s not really a joke? Just wondering.
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I went to weight watchers because of my binge eating to help me loose weight I lost 56 pounds but I got into restricting and feeling so guilty for not loosing enough. They don't teach healthy eating, they teach counting points which is not 'real' food qualities. It doesn't educate you about food at all. I got so ill, and as Katie said it didn't fix the mental issues so I gained it all back again. The only thing that has helped me is thinking about food as fuel for my body only and then dealing with my emotions through therapy and education breaking that link in my mind that is keeping me ill. It's a process!
MyImaginationsUK i do agree. my mom had the same issue. she gained all of her weight back. weight watchers doesnt work.
I have tried so many diets throughout my life, most of them out of these womans magazines moms read.
None of them worked and all of them made me unhappy and moody.
Then i found veganism and even tho im in it for ethical reasons its also so educating on what we are actually eating and what our body wants if we crave certain things etc.
I also see food as fuel but i also like food xD
I have no anecdotal story to give you about how my "morally superior" diet saved me. What I do know is that when we lose weight, we lose the layers of "protection" that fueled us to gain weight in the first place. Suddenly, it takes only 5 seconds into a particular song or the first 10 minutes into a movie to send us into our pillow crying our eyes out. What I do recommend is furthering your education and finding a way to heal the past wounds. Otherwise we are only a slight nudge away from falling back into our past habits.
Well done!
I really wish you were my therapist. your videos have helped me overcome so much
I agree. Weight Watchers is not a good idea at all if you struggle with binge eating.
i am afraid to go to the hospital to get stitches. The people who work there is not so nice when it comes to selfharm. They do the stitches without any kind of numbing or make us wait a long time because we did it to ourself and therefore it is not as important. I live in Norway btw. But what should i do if i cant go to the hospital?
that is so horrible and disgusting. i'm so sorry you've gone through that. best thing would be to buy good wound treatment things. antiseptics, healing creams, tape etc. take care dear
I had some really bad experiences getting my self harm treated. They said some really rude things and refused to give me stitches at all even though I'd damaged some nerves. I was given some flimsy tape that couldn't hold them shut and now I have huge scars because of it.
Have you ever heard of steri-strips?? They’re a kind of self stitch thing that will hold a cut together. You need to use your best judgment as to when you truly need to go to hospital.
I am very sorry you had a bad experience.
Has this happened multiple times? A doctor not numbing you properly? Because that does sound a little strange. Note, it is not that I don't believe you. Did you need several stitches?
Sbout the wait. That is a real shame and I am sorry you had to wait. But a lot of people come to the ER. Doctors need to attend to the most serious injuries first, an open, bleeding fracture or an infected appendix will be looked at first, because it is more pressing than cuts. It is not because you did it to yourself, I guarantee you that. It is just a matter of dealing with the most urgent cases first. I am very sorry you had a bad experience and while I hope you don't have to go to the hospital again, if you do, I hope it goes better.
Emma Marion that is horrible I am Norwegian to They Are not all good
#KatiFAQ Hey Kati! Why is it that people get angry at me for not being able to control my suicidal thoughts, self harm, ED, etc? I don't want to do any of it and I guess they don't get that but people being mad at me makes me worse so I never talk about it or tell anyone.
You've already replied to your question. They don't get that. They simply don't understand how it feels to be in this situation. Unfortunately most people think that if something is easy for them it should be easy for everyone else.
Jeez, not just a bit of an unhealthy environment youre in ay?
As a cutter that's scarrrry
What is wrong with you, exactly? I've had the most screwed-up life imaginable, but never has it even remotely occurred to me to cut myself. I've thought about cutting other people, but I want to know what kind of stupid it takes to cut yourself.
bro- i- there’s loads of reasons that people do it. don’t call them stupid for it.
Kyle Maxwell (first things first triggor warning also i dont condone this behaviour as it is very self destructive i am merely explaining why ppl cut) comment shows clear ignorance on this subject. When you cut it releases endorphins and adrenaline this makes you feel better and that is only part of it. It can also be about control especially if you are in an abusive household; you are controlling when you are hurt and that can feel powerful Sometimes. The pain can also be a distraction if you sre focused on the pain then you arent thinking about all the other fucked up shit thats going on in ur head. The reasons are different for everyone but dont call it stupid please. ( if i didn’t explain well i’m very sleep deprived rn)
I hate calling yourself a “cutter”. That makes me feel gross. Don’t identify with your struggles that’s a great way to overcome it
Kyle Maxwell what is wrong with you
My mom lies to my therapist and told her I hadn’t done it in a long time when it was really recent because she thought social services would take us away if anyone knew. She was paranoid about that kinda stuff.
I have been watching your videos since yesterday. You are truly amazing. Thank you for taking the time to share those with us. It helps a lot.
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I have a question.
When will the medical field, insurance companies, law enforcement, the judicial system, government and even the agencies that are supposed to protect the rights of psychiatric patients actually stop allowing us to be abused and assaulted?
When will they start treating us like mature human beings that deserve respect and rights?
Exactly
I Totally agree with your Statement.
That Why I Will Not Accept Help again from outsiders. They hurt your Case because of their Statement against you ( me ) . It's all F up.
I Don't Trust anyone.
A couple years ago I used to cut. By that time I told my mom I needed to see a therapist. After she's seen my cutting she just rambled for two hours and insisted on calling my mom and telling her that I was going to join a cult for cutting other peoples' arms and legs. Well, the therapy wasn't very useful but at least I had a laugh.
Oh my gosh!!!! How can that person be a therapist?! At least you could have a laugh about it lol. Hope you're doing better now.
That explains a lot........I have a binge eating problem and failed miserably at weight watchers
I love this video, Kati! I SH and hearing people explain different parts of it or talk about it is actually very helpful. I know deep down that I want to stop even when my mind is telling me otherwise and you've really helped me out mentally, these past couple days. Thank you for posting all of these videos and being so nice and helpful!
"if you need help, get it" still got a few thousand dollars in debt from going to the hospital years ago... I ain't about to go again and owe more money 😎
@@Epicgamrdude literally told my mom that i wanted to move to canada if i become an adult because of this, canada seems nice. :)
I just found you and I love the way your so gentle about everything it’s very nice
almost 8 months cut free ! 3 weeks drug free ! 1week alcohol free ! I've never been more proud of myself :)
Desi That’s amazing! I hope that you are still doing well!
5:09 i started crying
Same
I've been depressed for 3 years, I don't want to tell the whole story but. ... my mom won't let me go to therapy. what should I do? I really want to go.
maybe try online counseling
Hi it’s been two years since she left this comment and I just saw this and realised how much I related to this. I don’t know if you’ll read this or reply to this because I don’t think many people do this but I just want to know how you r. Like I said I know exactly what that feels like and I want to know if it got better and if it did if you have any advice for me or if it still isn’t better than Ill be happy to talk to you. Again sorry if this is creepy but I’m just curious!
When I have moments of depression, I find it helpful to go to the Bible for comfort. I encourage you to check out www.jw.org. In the search bar you can type in 'depression ' and a variety of articles come up about how you can be comforted. Please check it out
First of all: DON'T TELL TO UR PARENTS. Don't tell them that u wanna go to a therapist, just try to save some money or find a counselor! :)
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I gotta say; ive seen a LOT of therapists. And Im trying to think of how to word this... Through my years of learning about psychology as a patient 23 years, as an unofficial student (both through self help, and actual course material, documentaries, studies etc), and a general awareness of common sense.... I gotta say. You... Know your stuff. Ive said that 2x since I was 13. But you, you have a true awarness that A LOT of professionals seem to lack.
Ive had so many book therapists. People who find the best category in the dsm, or best dual diagnosis, plop you in that box, and that becomes you. No.... I'm not a box, im a human... And although the box is a great guideline, because each individual is different, your cannot treat them all the same way, with the same box. You dont do that.... Thats SO IMPORTANT, at least from a clients perspective.... Helps me to trust the process better and just get started and get er done.
Hi Katy, I want to know how to stop cutting myself, punching walls etc. I feel this anger inside of me, and while I am self harming the anger, pain goes for a while. I feel lost and alone.
Bonnie1a hello! I am not a professional but I am dealing with the same issue... My advice is try to find a hobby or something that you like to do instead of harming yourself. Maybe drawing(even on skin with a marker) or listening to music. Stay strong
I’m not a professional either but my advice would be to get occupied with something. Try running or biking, some kind of exercise to channel the energy from anger. If it comes down to you’re about to cut yourself hold ice.
I have the same anger issues and investing in a punching bag and a boxing glove is what has helped me the most. People always suggest finding a hobby but that doesn't help the fact that you need some immediate way to release your energy.
#KatiFAQ I struggle with BED, so when I focus on weight it makes the bingeing worse. I go through periods where I eat fairly normally and don't focus on weight, but the issue is still there. I am still overweight and still not happy about that and inevitably the illness comes back. When things are ok I'm maybe not gaining, but I'm also not losing, which I need to, even just for health reasons. Am I destined to always be this way? Will I never be healthy? How do I deal with this?
Kati that color on you really makes your blue eyes pop. You should wear it more 😊
Does picking at your lip, face, or pulling out your hair count as self harm?
Yeah, it does actually
kati-morton fan yes
I would say it all depends on why you are doing it, or the mindset you're in. Self-harm is done purposefully, with the intention to inflict harm. So, if you are doing any of these things for that reason, then absolutely yes. However, if its more like a habit, that isn't linked to negative emotions/thoughts, then I would say no. I've often asked myself this same question, because I've always had a bad habit of picking my lip, even until it bleeds. But I've never done it on purpose to hurt myself, its just a habitual behaviour I've had my whole life; whereas, when I struggled with self-harm, it was a coping mechanism, not a habit. Ofcourse, it can become a habit, but it doesn't start off that way. Sorry for the long reply, I hope it portrayed the message I wanted to get across clearly and understandably 😊 and I hope it helps ❤
in some cases, yes. there is an anxiety disorder called Trichotillomania, which is different from self punishment or coping with depression. what you’re describing could be a self soothing device. but if you’re intentionally harming yourself then yes its self harm.
Weight watchers causes me great anxiety and shame at being judged at weekly weigh in and having to justify any gain. I never heard anyone say to the leader the gain was due to a binge
Thank you 🙏🏻 I learned so much...
What do you think about the show Supersize vs Superskinny? Its so triggering, I think its the worst idea ever for a show and that it should be banned..
xrysthol I’m addicted to that show, which is terrible but it’s so addicting to watch
I've been watching it randomly, what makes it so bad? 😮
Stellalpina for someone struggling with an eating disorder seeing people that are overweight, seeing how much they eat, and seeing the effects of being overweight can be triggering and basically be motivation for them to continue with their disordered eating habits.
Lili I don't understand: it's not like you become overweight overnight. O.o You have to eat that way for years to become that big. Plus they say that's not the right amount to eat, how can that encourage to eat unhealthyly? 😐
The show itself doesn't encourage the behaviour, the person with the eating disorder uses it to motivate themselves not to eat. People with eating disorders aren't really capable of thinking rationally, they genuinely believe that if they eat they're going to end up like the people on that show. even though it talks about the dangers of eating disorders and not getting enough nutrients, a person with an eating disorder is going to see that and ignore it completely because their illness has made it so they don't really care, they just know they don't want to be fat. For someone who isn't struggling with disordered eating habits, the show is probably fine to watch.
hey kati i’m 14 and have been watching some of your videos lately and have been wondering how do you ask you parents for professional help/ how do you tell them you’re struggling and want help?
Addy Sul maybe try writing a letter where they’ll find it
Well firstly, you are 14 and can recognise that you need/want help. That's a big deal! Have you asked them now for help? If so how did it go? If not if you struggle to verbalize it, write a message or as someone else mentioned a letter. Or maybe speak to a relative that you are close to that can help you tell them. Wish you all the best.
I talk so openly about my self harm and stuff with my therapist.
I personally dislike sharing any sexual information about myself to anyone. Other people might be perfectly comfortable, but I’m a really private person and don’t see why sharing it with everyone is what’s pushed.
it would be great if you did a video on homosexuality in high school and coming out to homophobic people that are an important part of your life
Hey kati! I was just wondering if they put self harm scars on your track records
Please address the topic of involuntarily committed to a mental health ward.
Takes 3 immediate family members to commit you. Boom.
Love you, Kati!!!!! You are gorgeous, both inside and out!!!
I’ve missed several therapists, at least 3. It’s really difficult. I have had self harm urges recently but I haven’t caved in.
This was published on my birthday! Ps you are awesome Kati
do it on my thighs so people couldn't tell... started with my arms and the look of people was the stuff of nightmares. It was worse than looking a bone poking out of my arm or close to.. So I learned (AND PLEASE DON'T HIDE THEM; YOU NEED & DESERVE HELP GETTING A SPOT WHERE NOBODY CAN SEE IS SABOTAGING YOURSELF, PLEASE DON'T LEARN THIS! I TELL IT AS MY EXPERIENCE) to do it in a place nobody would be bothering. Now my family knows and my husband too so is easy for them to spot them.
You're really inspirational! Thank you!
I have a filthy, raunchy sense of humor at times, but when it comes to actually having sex I freeze up, and I feel like I can't breathe. I tend to just lie there and wait for it to be over, after I feel hollow and empty inside, and it's hard not to cut. I've managed to stay clean for about 3 years though
Chipotle Mayo have you considered the idea that you’re asexual maybe?
It sound like you have some kind of problem with sex,maybe some kind of trauma you're not really aware of? I don't know,you should talk to someone about it.
ME TOO! I might feel completely fine and calm before it but asap as it starts I just get a wave of anxiety and idk. I feel really uncomfortable.
Kati the paradigma of beauty
I’m 41 stop cutting twenty years ago and stop now I’m cutting again so scared to talk to someone about my secret I do no I don’t want to live anymore...
Jodi Brinks stay strong you can do it
Jodi Brinks Christ is the Lord
oh god,, i wish i could help you
please try to stay alive, question yourself why are u feeling that way
Stay strong
I believe in you
Thank you!
When exploring the client-clinician relationship, do you examine possible attachment issues and esrmtablish boundaries?
Im 27 and still don't like talking about sex.
Thanks for answering the cutting question. My wife, who had not cut in more than 15 years (according to her mother), is in a bipolar depression and is doing it again. It worked me at first but the cuts are barely scratches and she says she's doing it because she's in a really dark place in her head and can't get out. She also says the cutting distracts her from that. Is there something I can do to help?
Yes, i agree , talk about coming out in highschool, i'm actually in the process of that sorta, but i still don't know if i'm bi or lesbian fully i'm inbetween it's weird but i def know i like girls
waaaiiit... So it's not normal that I just can't talk about sex with my therapist?? Like, I can think of reasons for it in my past, but I just assumed that everyone was uncomfortable talking about it
i mean i’m uncomfortable with it, and not from any trauma. *me replying late*
Kati you’re so amazing, I wish to were my therapist or friend 😂
Hi kati ! First thx for posting mu question :) u helped me alot through everything actually you helped alot of girls
Hey how are you doing I have been watching your videos I really enjoyed watching your videos I hear you're a therapist I have been battling a anxiety depression ever since I was a young adult and now I am 36 I grew up in a family environment to where you didn't go to get help you just prayed about it and turn to God and you tried to work it out yourself but but I know that God has given us otherwise to get help to just like I have to take meds for my eyes but anyways my family is really really supportive of me getting help I have been looking for a counselor so I really enjoy watching your videos
Omg you should collab with Doctor Mike! You're like the healthy mind part and he's the healthy body part
My therapist just continued on as if it was a normal appointment, but she did ask why and how they got there first. Other than that it was normal for the first time she saw some of my fresh cuts.
I know you address the younger population on self harm. So being an older adult in their 50’s is that abnormal? I was cutting free for 20 years. Now due to a poor relationship choice I am cutting again
Hi, I know this is an old video, but I just had to say something... when therapists tell your parents about your self harm I find it more triggering, because I don't want my parents to know when I do it or how deep etc....I don't know if this made any sense but, this is at least how I feel about it... But if your patient(or idk what its called) are over the age of 16, can you tell their parents about it or do you need permission from your "patient"?
Btw just wanted to say that your videos helps a lot, even though its trough screen, keep on going, and thank you❤️
I was so confused why I cut and rip my skin open.... you explain it it in a way I understand . Can you please explain how to keep me from doing it again ?
It's not that simple
Just wanna ask: If you self-harm twice, like cutting yourself and eating excessive amounts of pills WITHOUT the intention of suicide but intentionally eating those in order to self-harm, is it still be considered as self- harm though?
Yes
As someone who struggles with self harming, this is absolutely terrifying
I cut deep enough to get stitches but didn't go to the hospital bc my parents didn't know so I put toilet paper over it bc it kept bleeding.. I did use tape to get it back together
I wish I could see you but I know you live too far so I have been looking at and chicken on different counselors but I really enjoy watching your videos you really do inspire me these UA-cam videos make my day
I thought it was illegal for therapists to discuss what they talk about with a patient with anyone except for the patient.
She doesn't give any identifying information of the client.
A1DS C0CK they are allowed to discuss what they talk about with a patient with someone else if they believe that you are in danger or could possibly be in danger. For example if I tell my therapist that I want to die and I have a plan to kill myself she is actually legally obligated to intervene and talk to whoever necessary to ensure my safety. However if I tell my therapist that I hate my sister and she calls up my sister and tells my sister I hate her then that’s illegal because I didn’t give her permission and we are not in any real danger.
They can disclose to other people if they believe someone is at risk to themselves or others. Additionally, they can disclose to other professionals for continuity of care if needed.
What? No? It’s illegal for them not to tell that parent of the patient if it is a child
I think that's because it's a common issues for most people. It would hardly be identifiable
Kati my question is:
It's very hard for me to open up, due to past childhood stuff. So when I'm at my therapists I want to say so much and get it out but I bury it deep down, and when I do try to open up I feel like I dont make it sound as serious as it really is and that she thinks it's something not serious ? Lately I've been so down at school, alot of kids hate school but for me it's not that its the school I'm at the environment everything I've been feeling suicidal because of it lately.
So Kati if someone has a therapist and is getting help with the mental part of the ED then would weight watchers be ok or are you saying that you don't think those programs are good at all?? I ask because I go to a ED clinic and a few months ago i talked about maybe starting medifast and my therapist thought it might be helpful for me as I don't eat at reg times and this program would be helpful that. I am not getting on it as I have other health issues happening right now.....
I was clean of cuts, but yesterday I did it again 😢 and the thing is I don't know exactly whyy 😐
I’ve been hospitalized 8 times for self harm and suicide attempts homocidal plans and trying to choke people(past) and instability.. all they did was mess me up more.
#KatiFAQ Hey Kati! My question is: I have had troubles with heart palpitations along with chest pain. Am I worrying too much? or should I get it looked at? I worry its just nothing and will look silly.
I would love if you answered my question thanks! Your vids helps so much!!!!
#katifaq Hi Kati, is there such a thing as too much EMDR? Can you do it multiple sessions a day, or is there a limit? How does this work with repressed memories?
kati, i cut as a kid but the reason was a long story. if i told the therapist my foster mom was abusing me (which she did badly), would u tell her if u didnt believe me. this is hypothetical, cause i never told my therapist. cause the ppl who could change things didnt belive me n the other pll didnt do anything. anywho in this sitution would u tell the parents if you didnt beleive me
So can a person have anorexia nervosa without being really underweight? If the criteria says you have to be underweight, they would deny your help? I never understood this :(
I'm 22 yrs old and I feel like I'm trapped in my own body, I won't get any help because i know that no one can help me.
me too, sorta. I'm younger than you, however. Do you experience out of body experiences?
where you feel like you're not in touch with reality?
#KatiFAQ HI Kati! I was wondering how Bipolar Disorder and BPD co-occur. With BPD my moods are all over the place changing many times a day, sometimes a bit less frequently. But from what I think I understand, Bipolar has longer periods of time of either high or low mood...I have described feeling like my mood stabilizer is helping and I am calm with less fluctuating mood, but overall very depressed...if that makes sense. My therapist always looks at me strangely when I try to explain that.
That would be an interesting video, for sure; however, I don't know that a straight person fully understands the pain and dynamics of coming out. I am gay woman and my friends and family tried to be supportive, but they never fully understood what it was like. I had to reach out to lgbt friends to help me. Coming out was painful and horrifying and I had people turn on me. It gets better. Good luck. Stay strong and NEVER be ashamed of who you are, because you are a beautiful person.
Funny I saw this March 2020 and you know how I felt when she said she had a cold. 😂
I would think Weight Watchers would be extremely triggering for someone with ed, wether it`s binge eating or anything else. Like you said, ed is not really about weight but a lot of other things that need to be taken care of at least before doing that if you at some point think it could be helpful and can be sure it`s not going to trigger you if you want to try that.
As I get older, I've become more uncomfortable with my own sexuality. Even thinking about sex makes me nervous. I think this is a result of me remembering past traumas/abuse. My husband is *so* supportive, but I still feel extreme guilt for not being able to be sexually active with him at this point.
What if the first person was asexual?
im asexual and if i were in that situation i'd just say i'm not interested in sex
Hey Kati, I think that I might have anxiety. I am in middle school and I don’t really know how to handle this situation. Should I talk to my parents, my school counselor? thx
#KatiFAQ my therapist never asks my questions and always waits for me to talk on. Is that normal ? I haven’t been there for a long time but still I don’t know if that is good for the procedure.
carlotta D. That's normal. The less questions they ask the better. My therapist also does it and its kind of awkward when no one is talking for 15 seconds lol.
Same and it’s normal
4:40 my question I guess then is...would it be legal to make me go to hospital? Another wise if I walked in your office. We are chatting laughing talking ect. You see fresh marks on my arms..no blood...but obvious marks. How can legally make me go to the hospital or even 302 me if at that time im completely mentally stable...
Kati, do you ever do Teletheraphy?
I hate myself for self harm. I'm nearly 40 years old. Too old to do it, cos it's considered a teenage Symptom.
CBT's. Figure out why you have triggers and what are the emotions. Go to therapy.
I've been clean for a few years and very recently relapsed for no reason other than missing the feeling. Is this bad? :/
i’m 207 days clean as of today, but recently life has really been shitty and i keep wanting to start again. but the thing is i only stopped because i cut too deep and never said anything so now i have a huge scar and i’m terrified to cut that deep again because i honestly can’t remember how to cut small anymore...
Tell me why the blood makes me feel calm.
What's this Amen clinic always advertising on Kati's videos?
what happens if a deep cut gets infected and how do you tell?
3 minutes clean lol😸🤟🏻
I like being supportive and talking to friends but I hate spending time with people. Is that normal or a problem. I would rather relax at home with my husband. He seems to be the only person I can stand.
I feel the exact same. Want to be there for everyone without having to see then
What do u think of people who are ace (asexual)
I miss therapy... I moved states away from everyone and everything I know because I was homeless and my bf had a place here and now I can't afford it ): I need help but I can't get insurance.
I get it the cutting and self harm have scares because of it
But I always felt a little weird that my therapist and dietitian at this program had thought a program like medifast would be a good thing for me to try. Like I said I am not at that place where I can do that right now but are you saying all weight programs are bad or it just depends on what each person is trying to do?
Where can we watch the video with you and Rhianna
How about cutting due to stress issues
I love how everyone just assumes that everyone has people who love and support them. Must be a fancy fluffy world you live in.
KATI SOS HELP.FAQ I'm not sure what to do I think I was sexually assulted about a month ago. I really trusted him and I acted out recently and all of a sudden it's all gone. The pain is gone it's almost one it Hasnt happened. Is this normal? This happened a month ago and I acted out but now it's like gone? And I feel close to him again! HELP I hate the cycle
How's the cycle going?
I am so sorry
I can't tell my councilor about my cutting because she'll tell my parents and being vulnerable in front of my parents make me sick and want to crawl out of my skin. I dont know why, mostly dont know why, I hate being vulnerable to them so much. Is that normal
@Ariel Sandoval glad I'm not alone in this
Unfortunately i do not have a supportive network.
So I have a therapy appointment soon and my parents might bring up that I’ve been cutting I don’t know what to do
One of the most terrifying things when I was committed...my biggest question in my mind was...omg am I gonna lose my job? Granted just three hours prior I took pills to kill myself...but when I got 302d...I signed a voluntary 201 but my biggest worry was am I gonna lose my job. Its weird because even though I wanted to kill myself I failed and now I had to worry about my job...