7 Ways a Narcissist Ends Up Losing
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- Опубліковано 11 чер 2024
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00:00 introduction
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01:10 1.They do not find peace at all
03:00 2.A Narcissist becomes boring when you realize there is no authentic self to them
04:33 3.They destroy relationships with people who care about them
05:23 4.They pretend to be full of life
06:14 5.Their shame drives them in everything they do
08:17 6.They end up losing everybody who care for them
10:01 7.Their false self fails them
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I do not know, if you see this, but is it normals, that when you left a narcissist (my mother), that you sometimes think, that you were the narcissist? I guess it is weird. Because I was raised like that, I was so "used to it" and also realised how "nice" my so called friends are. I started to have now new communications with others, which I know longer now and they sometimes give me compliments. I feel totally embarrassed, when they say, I do something good. But I think, that the narcissist is then more like: "yes baby, I am the greatest" and do not have the feeling of hiding, when they get compliments. I know, I sound weird I guess. 🙈
I also had to think of Amber Heard, who I heard, that she wants to change her name. I guess, she thinks, that she can "fix it" with that.
I've just left my narcissist. I've blocked him and will never look back.
Good for you ! I dumped mine 15 yrs ago. Never look back okay?😁they are no good
@@rubyokosi6946 AMEN!
Don't look back ..else you will regret it
you're brave and powerful
I am so happy for you. It's the best thing you could ever do for yourself. I left my narcissist months ago. I think of him now and he makes me physically sick to even think about him. He is the grossest person I have ever met. ICK.
narcissists create their own pitfalls. they invite negativity, but don't want to own up to it… and when they try to sabotage others, they end up sabotaging themselves.
the narcissist will self-sabotage anything good out of greed, insecurity or jealousy. it's what they do best lol.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
Why they can t stop themself of the boring masks who wears all life?
These vids are comforting
Hear hear, definition of own worst enemy, wrecking all due to the fact that they can't get their heads around the fact that others don't see things as they do!
@@joseenoel8093 Narcs and flying monkeys are like the Borg from Star Trek. "You will be assimilated! Resistance is futile!" They do have a lot of those braindead NPC buzzwords and phrases that they believe makes them intelligent for parroting like a parrot. They use those buzzwords and phrases like spells, expecting to shut down any opposition to whatever they are up to. They assume you're a bad person when idiocy doesn't work on you.
Wish I would have known this. Got discarded over a month ago and have been battling mentally. But the more I educate myself, hit the gym, and pray, I feel myself detaching. I had know Idea people can hide who they truly are for years. Or maybe that spirit jumps on them and they go completely left…
The biggest loss for the narcissist is the fact that they are unable to feel love.........not even for themselves. They are dead inside, and what could possibly be worse that that?
It's very sad. I'll never understand why they refuse to change. They only get worse with age. They really are their own worst enemy. They self destruct themselves. Human Wrecking Balls...
Killing someone who actually loved life and have alot of people who love them. But them not getting the fame for doing it and still getting demoted back to hell.
Insightful priceless and true
Sick 🤢
When they get older they're worse more possessive,more jealous,more envious of everyone,,,
And more paranoid..... because they project all their bad behaviors on everyone else.... It's crazy-making. Elderly narcissists are hell.
My narcissistic parent got worse with age.
Sincerely. You are right
I lived in an apartment, this older woman will leave the tap on just to ruin our properties. Very evil vile empty woman. The water ruined my passport and stuff not just me alone but others as well.
Amen 🙏
Someday in the future - The Narcissists will be flagged and abandoned by the society. Narcs will be left with no friends or family other than each other.
Nah, narcs will buy servobots like hotcakes in the not so near future.
Amen to that.
Yeah hope so
But more people are aware of them. More people know the red flags.
And more and more Narcicissts expose themselves over the rejection.
They can't get their supply.
Snd hopefully without a partner they won't procreate and abuse children.
Unfortunately, I'm afraid you're wrong. New people are born all the time, narcissists along with victims. New people still won't learn for a while how to spot a narcissist and how to walk away, especially when it's family.
These people are multiplying like rabbits now. 2 Timothy 3:2 "For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred."
Ironically, a large number of "them" are religious fanatics.
My experience exactly! Collectively, their false self takes on an air of religiosity! Like the Pharisees in Jesus' time, they check all the boxes in pretending to be religious but their fruits are poison: deceit, lies, pride, lack of empathy, lack of remorse, arrogance, self entitlement, grandiosity, gossipers, slanderers, and gaslighters.. their eyes reveal a darkness in their souls from lying continuously. Truly they are scary people. I am still trying to break free, with my children, after decades of abuse in a familial narc system. May God grant freedom to all good people trying to live in peace🙏
They aren't fanatics, they are using the Word of God to glorify themselves and look wise or look upped to by using scripture for the power to maintain their facade. They do things to be destructive and having this facade is a great cover up.
It's a source of power if they don't have a position over others in their job or by money. You don't have to have anything or put anything in to it. They can sit and learn about how the best way to act and also to justify their actions by twisting scripture. People seek spiritual guides and that is their hook. They are in a room full of people who will be nice for just showing up. They are in an atmosphere of trusting , forgiving, supportive people. It's also a pool to catch some broken souls who are vulnerable. If they learn then they can try to be admired for spouting of scripture or telling stories which brings them admiration. Becoming active is a source of power and influence that they do not have to put much effort in to have unlike power from being highly educated or wealthy. They are fanatics for as long as they get fuel . When trouble starts brewing and they are then being scolded or shunned for their deceit or chaos then they find another church . I think their zeal is not for God or to be a better person. The only thing they are fanatics about are themselves. Narcicissts are the wolves in sheepskin clothing. They aren't there because they believe in a higher power, they are there because others do and they hang on the coattails of the image . They don't ask for forgiveness , they are never wrong. They aren't giving of themselves, they are takers, users, manipulators of anything they can. Everything is a game or a tool to be used . As soon as they are out of church and are near people they have abused , they let down the facade and the horrible monster comes out. They are fanatics of power sources they can manipulate not God or Christ or Christians. There is no low they won't go, nothing is sacred or off limits to abuse. That's the narcicisst passing for a follower of a religious organization.
@DullahChadarmod lol, No I have not. The quote above that started this thread was from the Bible . I'm referring to that .
Yes, it is a 3D illusion. Their lives are a facade; a Shakesperean play full of drama.
They absolutely destroy relationships with those of us genuine and loving people.
In the beginning stages of love bombing and luring us in, they seem so intriguing, kind, and joyful. Not long after, we realize how incredibly shallow, boring, cruel and selfish they are.
It is mind blowing and takes a lot of strength to get out of and heal from.
You can't help those who won't help themselves! They LOVE the chaos, and because they do they lose out on so much without them even realizing it.
Adrenaline junkies caring less what carnage it causes!
As a victim of narcissistic abuse, thank you for this. I guess it's a self defense mechanism from childhood trauma?
What happens if a narc has a $100,000 life insurance policy and his son is the full beneficiary? He is holding it over his only narc sons head, like a carrot? His son is all he has. His son has a lot of animosity towards his dad. His dad almost always invites himself over his son's house. Are there exceptions where the son will still help his dad when he is sick and dying because of the money? My narc didn't even put 1% on his plan for me. he mentioned he is going to put me on it. Maybe after he dies his son and I may fight amongst each other ( he turned his son against me). He can still control his son and I . . . . . in his grave.
@@lindaschultz7900 in my opinion it is a coping mechanism since childhood, if you think about it, the people who were narcissistic to us, were people who were older than us but yet still acting in a childish manner. Now if you're born into the family system like I was this was indoctrinated from day one. I always had to help out EVERYONE else that YOUR NEEDS are the LAST priority you ever think of. I hope this helps. Does this make sense?
@@lindaschultz7900 well if your dad raised his other son to be exactly like him when your dad is dying he won't be able to hold his narcissistic mask forever the financial abuse that the narcissistic people put you through is just revolting. I remember when I was in my family system the amount of money I paid for a lot of things, and I thought that would have some leverage when I dealt with the family system again, turns out that was worth nothing. The amount of money i spent on them and what i got in return was so minimal on their part it was ridiculous.
Let Karma simply takes their course.
Oh yes, I agree. It's downright ODD how they destroy every opportunity for security, housing, companionship! They end up with some really low characters, don't they?
@@rubyparchment5523 yes.
Yes, it needs patience
It’s not karma. If you go through life being petty and abusive you will alienate yourself. That is the equal and opposite reaction.
@@dicerevo 'Karma' goes both ways whether it's good or bad.
And why care for someone who cannot and will not ever in their life be able to care about you and do not like to waste my time on such evil people, who try to pretend to be good.
It's always nice to hear how karma and justice coming to the oppressor
I have stop acting and reacting the way they want me to so they can feed off of me. They have realised this and ofcourse they are gaslighting me saying I am heartless for disregarding them and for the first time in more than 15 years I didn't react and did not cry. I am so proud of myself and ofcourse my biggest thanks to you for enlightening me with the knowledge of narcissist. I will keep working hard
How you are able to keep up with this for so long 😮.??
I've been married to an narcissist for 5 years and we have 3 children together.. He is an secret Alcoholic and it was a nightmare over the years .
Now I am sitting here with an restraining order and finally can leave for good.
He still try to Hover but I do not care ....I was always hoping he could change and was blaming the alcohol for this cause but no it is a lie it is as you were dealing with demons.
And to all the ladies out there , you can make it have faith in yourself God will help you and see you through stop blaming yourself for all...I know it is so hard and it is like a constant cycle but God can break the yoke.
I felt death so near but now I feel kind of healing and have inner peace.
Do not give up.🙏🙏
I am proud of you friend. Not reacting really works. But they will try to test your limit. You have to stay strong.
That’s what hurts them the most…You not reacting. They then have nothing to feed off.
You did great! Keep no contact and enjoy life.
A life without Narcicissts is so much better!
I’m a survivor thank you God! That was all truth you spoke! Even though I left the narcissist 2 months ago after on and off 7 years, I feel great now!I’m still healing and learning! I still listen to different videos and podcasts to stay educated! Again thank you for all you do!
I know how it feels ...u are brave
How do they lose when they are already lost? If you can leave, just leave. The "it's not you it's me" is the best way, I am finding. Unless you want to hear "but YOU, and then YOU did, and YOU are the one who..." And when you are leaving, who even cares. They don't, they're just practicing all the evil crap they will say about you anyway after you leave. They would blame you for ruining their life if you fell into a sinkhole and died because you weren't there to listen to them whine about how inconvenient it was for them that you died.
Also, leave with the clothes on your back, if necessary. The dangers are too great.
Everything you've said has been my life with my Narcissist! My divorce and freedom was finally in Feb 2024 but has continued to be carrying on to change the Judges decision. He made alot of money at his trucking company and last Court date we found out he lied about being laid off and took a much lower paying job to show he couldn't give me what the Judge ordered. I'm really getting nothing at all. I'm just in debt! He abandoned me leaving me with no money, took my dad's inheritance money, left me with all the rent,, medical bills and a credit card bill, in a new home which he got abusive in just 3wks of being home, went to jail, has 2 more years probation left that he can't see me or call me. He wouldn't let me work for 3 yrs. He only loves money so giving up a high paying job at 70 yrs old to make much less is surprising yet also not! Your right about the older he gets the worse he is. He has only his brother which at this time I'm not sure they are talking. He might be getting Alzheimers now so he'll have no one to take care of him. He doesn't deserve it anyway. Your thoughts of death with a Narcissist do you think they'll go to Hell? From what I know in the Bible and listening to a Preacher in a Narcissist video discussing what the Bible says is that they do. Says they are afraid to die because they don't want to face God.
This is so true! When I first met him, I thought that he was the MOST AMAZING person in this whole world. I admired everything about him. But now that I know who and what he really is (A Phony), he is disgusting to me. Just the thought of him makes me nauseous. I actually despise him now.
Did you ever have the feeling like something is off here but on the other hand it felt nice but you still thought something is not really okay in this situation situation? I should’ve listened to my gut.
@@dZeNa. Yes... But, I kept convincing myself that it was just my silly imagination. There were so many red flags. But, I was so young, and dumb.
The damage they cause lasts so long and runs so deep that I am striving for healing every single day
Everything is on-point! I laughed so hard when you said THEY ARE BORING PEOPLE! Omg!! I remember my narc ex and his family - they only eat in ONE place all their lives! Regardless of what day or what the occasion is.. they will only choose that same damn place ; ordering same damn food over and over again. Even if it’s my birthday or Mother’s Day or kids’ birthday - they didn’t care! 🤦♀️ These are sick people!!!
They are so boring.....don't read books, keep up with the news. I gave my ex (then divorced 20 yrs, haha) a list of 5 great American novels that would get him interested in reading, as he'd stated. I found the list on the bottom of a tv dinner package that he brought me from a food bank. Have poor vocabularies, can't evaluate situations. Zero self-awareness. So interesting about the restaurant and the same menu items! Me, I love to try Ethiopian food, Thai, anything to tempt the taste buds. And I crave international literature (right now, am on German - never fear, Danish, my fave is INDIAN), from Australian to Zimbabwean. How can people live inside a tiny box?
How right you are!! Every get together was the same, exactly the same venue...mummy's place, the exact same food, the exact same people, the exact same periods of uncomfortable silence. Almost zero laughter or frivolity. Boring as fuck people. There was absolutely no family atmosphere.
I ended up making excuses not to attend 1 more xmas with them.
I'm glad it's all over!
P.S..Thankfully none of them bred. All the family are too old to have children. 2 out of 3 still live at home, both are nearly 60. I'm sure they hate each other but have to tolerate their pathetic situation. He tells me it's a 'cultural' thing. Yep sure it is...😂
I’m like you 😊 .. I love trying different foods and restaurants, go various places, try new hobby.. Narcs don’t want to spend a $1 to try new things 🤦♀️
Kudos to us! We’re so done with these people! 💪🏼 👍
@@rubyparchment5523 So true. They are very boring people. I will never forget the night my narcissist ex husband asked me why I had put his fried eggs on a different side of his plate. I had to cook him the SAME MEAL every evening. Eggs, bacon, mushrooms, beans and tomatoes, and he actually wanted to know why the eggs were on a different part of the plate. I just stood and stared at him, and I said, "what difference does it make?" and he said, "I just want to know why the eggs are not where they usually are". This is one of the THOUSANDS of reasons why he is now my ex. It was a 10 year nightmare.
The narcissist left because I refused to meet with him, share intimacy with him, and refused to allow him to text me by not giving him my unlisted phone number. I realized he was not for me in the first place and I wanted out. I have no ill will toward him. My happiness is my responsibility and connecting with people with whom I am compatible is necessary. It is just a matter of personal growth.
The Wicked envy and hate.
It's their way of Admiring.
(Victor Hugo)
Thank you again Danish. I needed to hear this today. Whatever it takes for me to survive his abuse until I am free. My narc abuser is 73 years old and is built like a tank. I think he found a new girlfriend. He leaves subtle signs of an affair to make me react. He gets off on pushing my buttons. I'm glad that eventually he will hit a wall. He has been so cruel to me. There is a dangerous storm a- brewing in Florida right now. I live in a mobile home and he doesn't care whether I get stuck in a tornado or whatever is going to happen. I hope he blows away . . . . wherever he's at!
Yeah, they never care if we live or die. I'm out 2 wonderful years! His last wife just sent me a video of him (age 59) getting arrested in his bedroom, where he slept with no mattress, on the floor.
I need to know more!
@@heatherfeathersHeather with the feathers . . .
What do you need to know?
@lindaschultz7900 lol, Linda! I meant Ruby's x. Why did he get arrested? Why is he sleeping on floor? How is she so close with xwife that she would tell her all that?
@@heatherfeathersOoops sorry! 😊 lol
This is a serious pandemic!! Wisdom is key
I loooove the way u speak about them 😂😂😂😂
Hello, Danish! I totally agree with you on everything. My grandmother died when I was 12 and I cried so much, because I loved her more than I loved my mother! But when my grandfather died 4 years later, I did not even go to his funeral, because he was a narcissist that tortured my grandmother!
I feel the presence of my grandmother after 23 years from her death and I love her for taking care of me from heaven! She was an amazing person and I will love her until I die ❤
And yes, I'm disgusted every time I remember my ex partner, but I love my daughter more because she does not have a father.
You are amazing ❤❤
My grandmothers were both narcissists. Mom and sisters and aunts too. Never liked any of them.
I always battled with my daughter not having to have her father before me deciding to leave him... He ended up leaving us because he felt sex is more important than his family and kid.. for him his narc supply is more necessary to live eveñ.😅 Such pathetic people they are,
@@MM-ql5ji At least he left you alone. I pray to God he leaves me alone too! Being a single mother is better than being tortured whilst parenting. Kiss and hug 🤗
I m agree with this commments
Being single mother is best for children than being tortured
Yes all TRUE,💯they criticize other couples and turn one against the other,,I witnessed this,,,they come between people ,it's evil,,,
I’m divorcing one right now. It’s hell in a bad mood.😞
The best revenge against a narcissist is to give them your complete and total absence and silence and then live well and happy.
You may find yourself thinking of them here and there but never talk to them or see them ever again. Just like quitting and recovering from a bad habit, you must avoid anything and everything to do with it.
A narcasstic father said to his son on his death bed before dying days later, "I never knew myself".
you are so right. I have left my narcistic husband and made up my own life. I knew beforehand that he was not able to survive in life. He became a messi and his only true friends who still believed in him left him and were very disappointed to see his real personality.
Yes he destroyed our relationship.
Shape shifter
Makes me feel so bad.
Scheming manipulates-he seems to not be able to be taught
My family and I recently served my alcoholic and narcissistic mother, a section 35. She's been gone for 3 weeks and it's been absolute heaven. I'm trying to learn how I should respond to her when she's back. Thanks for the videos.
My narcissist has broken down because he has taken everything from everyone and now he is bored. He has now dumped friends and children unbelievable they feel nothing except for themselves. They love dictating others but never look at themselves.
👏 absolutely! They are fantastic at being critical of others but never look at themselves. My Ex Narc recently told me to go work on myself (best thing he has ever said to me), but I doubt he would ever take his own advice.
This video is not matched for covert narcissist person.This can be opposite,they always manipulate many people and all the people are believed his/her so blindly including friends,family.Danish please speak about covert narcissist also.They are live with peace because revealing the covert narcissist is very difficult.Others are supported the covert narcissist and losing the victim.
I found out yesterday while at a funeral that my narcistic ex husband is still bad mouthing me to ex friends. We've been divorced 22 years and yet he is still calling me names and running me down everywhere he goes. What sort of person acts like that. My poor son who's 38, was also at the funeral and heard the so called friends say bad things about the 3 of us and it left him traumatised from seeing these so called friends. I was upset and angry too. But after 22 years of never seeing him in any way, still name calls his children and me, his ex wife. I will never understand why he still does it. I'm pleased that you explained this today in your video
My ex hates drama but can't see how he creates it...devaluing someone you profess to love creates neediness and anxiety. I became a beggar
It's so sad i know exactly how u feel my husband is a narcissist does nothing wrong, always telling me he don't care and rages constantly he is a freaking toddler. It has gotten to the point I let him think he's right bc when I talk to him he's draining and hurts my chest. I pray daily. My prayers are with you.
@tdayy31 thank you. Best to you. I'm becoming convinced this is an addiction. I'm no longer with him...now it's up to me to work on the toxic obsession. Hoping you get the resolution and help you need as well.
@@dianeclayton4936 thank you I'm working on it
the flying monkeys are sure to say a lot of "nice things" on a passing of a narc
I sometimes wonder if they ever think for all the people they've hurt, destroyed and driven away.....who would make an effort to come to their funeral or stand up and give a eulogy. It must be a very lonely existence deep down in their heart and soul, but am not sure if they would ever think about it. They just faded away due to lack of oxygen.
No, they most likely do not reflect on their past at all. The female narc that I dated had to keep herself constantly entertained & distracted b/c she was running from her past. She's a cancer patient, and When I ended the relationship with her, I already knew I would not waste a moment even thinking about her whenever she passes away.
Yes, I understand and agree with what you are saying. My ex had absolutely no clue about the concept of self-reflection. Doubt he ever will. He had similar patterns as your ex as he was all over the map. Like playing 'Where's Waldo'. It's kind of sad though. For me, when I left him, it was like changing channels but couldn't dwell on him, and yet should anything ever happen to him, I would take a moment, but wouldn't go out of my way. Thanks for your insight.
@@user-df3eo9qx9p Exactly! You read her like a book without ever meeting her! Everytime I spoke with her, I never knew who I was going to be dealing with! What saved me a lot of guilt & shame during the early stages of my healing, was being told from multiple experts that I was never responsible for regulating her emotions. esp. her sense of contentment, or happiness. I should've known that a long time ago, but I felt free when I heard that vital truth
Thanks Danish they lash out when they see you are done with them and they loose control you see right through their insecurities loss of power over others causing arguments and drama! 😕😊💖🙏.
You reap what you sow 🙌🏽💯
Everything you say I see happening to my ex. His lies, the money taken from his friends ( he has none now) his family and me haunt him. The deceit, the shame is all biting him from every direction. The sour face, the non existent humour in his life while he is banished to live with his parents at almost 60. The enablers can have him. He made his bed...😂
Same here!!!!
I moved across many States and a plane trip to be with my Narc… young son in tow. He wasn’t even there at the airport to meet us. Was out doing one of his hobbies… hadn’t even cleared out closets for our things even though he’d had months …. very dysfunctional family too… the proverbial
apple didn’t fall far. Have gone total NC. Finally feel that I can exhale and no longer have stomach pains/issues.
We are only here once. This isn’t a dress rehearsal.
Onward & upward for us all ❤
My ex BF 61 is a NARC
he told me he feels empty doesn’t want to be alone
But he rarely reciprocates in our short lived relationship
Shoot’s himself in the foot,
It’s sooo sad.
He can’t give and take
You are very wise and exposed these pathetic living dead!
I was feeling awful today I was wondering why my life is going downward while his is upward to glory. I am waiting for his karma in life and I wish it come sooner not until he is old to get exposed and punished by universe in order to get justice and balance.
Hey, you're on the right path. No need to feel awful. God is in control of this world, and it will happen.Then the tables will be turned!
Please know this to be a FACT..You will survive the pain . Healing takes time & at some point you will find peace. Karma has no experation date. Right foot, left foot .... Breathe
The tables will turn and karma is after him. Just a matter of time . I know how you are feeling. I have been fooled by a NARC n lost so much money I pulled out blocked him reported to the police . Waiting for justice. But my personal life is a standstill and I am not living yet .. still not realising fully what I had to go through. I feel for u . Courage and strength is what we need right now
You are on the wrong path- you hoped for the best for him while you were with him- continue to do so- don't let the experience change who YOU are trying to be. All we need is our blessing- not to see their downfall, though we all understand how you feel. My narcs are very lucky that my mercy is greater than my vengeance- very lucky indeed
Resonated with all of the things mentioned above.... What worries me is the malignant narc that is stalking me is turning 54 this year (it's a female) and their 2 most loyal flying monkeys are turning 54 and 52 this year...... I met the people a while ago through that "party lifestyle" (I'm 38, I feel sorry for 98% of the parties I went to since I was 28)..... I stopped drinking and the only addictive habits I have left is smoking cigarettes, too much coffee :) and the occasional binge eating (I'm probably gonna stop those 3 as well eventually,)....... They 3 narcissists led by the malignant narcissist female still quite literally want to party like they're 19 (and they probably aren't fully aware of their age to say the least) and it feels like they won't survive until they're 60 in any number of scenarios and they want to take down as many people as they possibly can together with them :(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((
Ya they're party animals, I'd graduated from college and didn't party much then but was up for it later, didn't know it was a way of life, once past 50 you've got to cool it, watch your diet too or your body will torture you back, up to you, healthy is the new wealthy, narcs have the devil 😈 to pay and he keeps them around a long time, I ran with the pack got shit on anyway so now it's fvck 'em, I even cancelled a vacay to Italy cuz I know I'll have a healthier lifestyle here in Québec it wouldn't have cost me anything, they're going through a drought,.no thanks I'd rather have snow! Good luck, ditch those losers!
It sounds like she's still in your life. There are laws against stalking, so why ru allowing this? Is it by telephone, or what? Use your OFF switch. So all three partiers have passed age 50. That's the year (statistically speaking) when people find it hard to find a job, due to insurance risks. The health can take a nosedive. Then life is a whole different ballgame; don't get trapped into being "on call," providing rides, housing (!) and such. The government will provide all that. "Eventually" is here!
@@rubyparchment5523 I'm currently in Canada, she's in Serbia and Montenegro (all of us have property in those 2 countries) and stalking laws are practically non-existent in those countries. I still have property there, I love going there, and I will need to spend a few months per year there for at least 1-2 more years due to the property. Maybe she'll disengage but we'll see....
@@rubyparchment5523 BTW thank you so much for replying to me!!! The situation is complicated enough that I could probably write a small book about it (hopefully by the time I'm in my 60s-70s there will be better things to write a book about :) ). Right now I'm reading "Slay The Bully" by Rebecca Zung and I almost finished reading "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin De Becker
Successful narcissist will always have people in their lives. Successful narcissist have people they are extremely nice to balance it their social groups out. Successful narcissist, always have plenty of people more than happy to believe and do whatever they want. I actually have law enforcement targeting me because of my uncle. He said to me, "I'm going to put you in jail one way or the other." I replied, "I have to do something illegal first." He laughed and said, "You really think you have to do something illegal for me to put away?" He's not a cop but he loves having people arrested. Not very long after that conversation. Sheriff's started harassing me in the middle of nowhere, way out in the countryside.
Started recording everything affialiate with both of them . Stated them clearly " i do not feel safe for legal purposes i will be recording any conversations and any communication will be used as evidence. I do not take your harrassment lightly.. this is includes the officer . And if they say you dont have a right under your first amendment you do. Use all evidence. Build your case against them.
Remember, the hole he digs for you, he will eventually fall in himself. All the best 🙏🏻
My ex knows he is getting older ! like losing his looks and health issues that comes with getting older but he says that he doesn't want to hear anybof that. He just rather pretend it's not true ! If I don't believe it it will not happen !
Young girls and women these days are so savvy, and are busy with their educations. They're not going to be swayed by the pitiful old Narc.
You are doing a amazing job spreading awareness. I never miss your videos. I have come out of such relationship with my ex, my mother in law and his family.
I love you Danish
you have helped me tremendously get through my healing as I'm sure you've helped so many others
I check out your videos every day and give you a thumbs up and I've subscribed
I look forward to your therapy and you're wise and kind words everyday.
I appreciate the fact that you understand and feel an emotion and sadness for us as you went through that yourself during a healing process
It made us realize that we do matter and that this is a process we have to go through that a lot of people don't understand
thank you for that
Daniel
“Co-dependent cowards” 😂😂😂❤❤❤❤ I LOVE YOU @Danish and the alliteration in the validation. Thank you! Preach!!!
I never met this person so did not experience all you are speaking about. It just felt wrong, prolonged and empty. I appreciate your videos.
Is that why when I asked my mother why she had plastic surgery on her ears she said, "because I was bored". It puzzled me then, but now it seems hilarious! I told her her ears looks like DR. SPOCK!
When my narcissistic husband and I were in the process of divorcing (after a 45 year marriage), I asked him how he felt about all of it.
And he answered, “I don’t feel anything.”
If such a monster had ever manifested in my life as a parent, sibling, close friend, or romantic partner, I'd have been driven to suicide long ago, which makes me wonder how many suicides are due to narcissistic abuse of people who feel they have no escape. But my narc abusers have only manifested as "fake friends" not real friends, potential "literary collaborators" who undermine every collaboration and cause confusion and distress to everyone who tries to "help" them. When they say they want your help, they mean they want to hurt you. Such monsters never attain any literary success from their envious and jealous behavior towards accomplished authors whose "help" they solicited. But they inflict enormous damage in their path of self-destruction. Like tornadoes.
My ex used to blame all her misdeeds on me. She once told me “you are eating the very dish that you cooked.” She said if she was acting cold, it was all my fault.
typical narcDemon gasLighting. be grateful she's your Ex and not your wife. you dodged a nuclear bomb.
@@user-lu7np4cg1t I wanted to marry her. We even talked about kids. Thankfully I got away before any of the ties that could bind!
You know I don´t like the words winning or losing at all. In life you have ups and downs (that is just normal). A narcissist doesn´t win at all because he/she is doomed for life. (Mostly they had a horrific childhood - I know what that means - so with terrible parents you are just really doomed). Some people become empaths - some narcissists. For me it was never about winning or losing because I don´t see life like a check-board (narcissists seems to do that). For me life is about improvement day by day (and mistakes are necessary to improve ourselves - narcissists can´t and won´t never admit them - so they also can´t improve in their personalities).
Thank you Jesus for the truth! He removed the cataract from my vision and revealed the truth🙏 For our safety, children and I left their family on 12/27/23! I’m so thankful that the kids are older and see the truth of a narcissist! Our daughter was the one who knew his secrets and plans. She also asked me why I still with him, we need to get out, etc. I didn’t know back then and tried to keep peace in our marriage, his clans, etc. He blamed and belittled our daughter for showing and telling me the truth. He started to isolate me from the children when he claimed that it’s parents conversations when it was a true verbally abusing and scolding me when he didn’t get his way. Well, when God cleared my vision, enough is enough. We fled a narc prison. He abused me financially as well. I’m nothing but his paycheck, punching bag, a blame post, servant, etc. I don’t know how I got Danish and others videos about narcissistic people. I’m glad I did and learned a lot about who I married to for 16ish years. I don’t regret walking away from his dungeon! God empowers my children to be my strength as well❤
They owe it to those around them to encourage love and understanding, they'll do the opposite thinking it lifts them but in reality it's not good for them being that way, they do such a good job crushing us we dare not point it out that, it seems, just adds gas to the fire, the one they're always happy to re-light, run!
He lost the love and respect of his daughters, he lost me, he lost his family, he lost his self respect, he lost his dignity, he lost his family home, he lost his pride.
The ex-Narc has a legion of people he has hurt and discarded. He has so many enemies that are going to expose him that all I have to do now is lay back and watch his downfall. Karma is coming for him.
My long-ago ex's latest wife just sent me a video of him being arrested in his no-mattress bedroom. 59 and no mattress, let alone bed.
I like your sofa.
I simply ENJOY EVERY Time DANISH speaks WITHOUT Pulling His Punches🤗
The Raw Truth Is ONLY Way Towards Identification & HEALING!!!💜🖤✨
Yes he told me that
HE IS EMPTY
HES CRIED SEVERAL TIMES
Smiles a lot I caught onto his MO
When he mirrors a lot of the time
It’s so horrible to be around him only afterwards did I see it he’s dangerous to me my blood pressure was effected
He’s a Turn off he’s clingy and needy so much
Delt with this over 6 years we have a 4 yr old. And she uses all this against me before and finally said enough
The narcissists I knew near death , that realization must come AFTER death, not that I could see!
Danish it's funny you mentioned boredom and I don't care that's exactly what my ex use to say he was always bored he told me I think it was just an excuse to get drunk the other thing when something went wrong with anybody or myself he said I don't care I use to say to him maybe you should care life will probably be better for you and of course everything was always my fault 😂 I discarded him 17 months ago and living a happy peaceful life now no contact any more I don't want to see or hear from this abusive alcoholic narcissist any more he's got a new supply now good luck to her this is his second one I wonder when the third one will be on the scene ❤😊
You are looking glowing and younger
Keep it Up 👍🏻
Very Insightful!🦋
Point 7 is amazing. Am waiting for that .
i wish I could see this. been in NC two years and no hoover. they have plenty of friends/family and new supply that are loyal to them.
Im still living with one such creature without any option to move on but danish videos help me to handle him easily...when danish is there why we have to fear🎉❤
#8 his grown kid got dissed and humiliated by him on Christmas Eve. Onlly one who would talk to him... He's retired and alone. Screwed up my life, body, career, brain, soul, any relationship he got wind of, social media, reputation, cars, windshields, home sale... You name it! The "Father's Rights" Clubs are team players. Who does not want their kid to have a dad? On-demand visitation should have been every other weekend. He told people he was a single dad. The kid was "a chick magnet". He lives alone in a house. Right now I'm homeless. Never paid a dime of child suppor, as promised.
"Nobody told me life was endless,
Full of these things we dare not speak.
I know the world's not cold and friendless.
It's more the company we keep."
Sang the Caterpillar to Alice in Wonderland
How do they lose people who love them? I've seen people dedicated to my x narc husband including parents, siblings and friends over 30 to 50+ years. They neither believe what's being told nor see it themselves as narc spends just few hours with them once in a while, putting up the best projection😂 so i dont see this happening. Same is my experience with other narcs. Their families don't understand. Of course I don't want anyone to be alone / lonely but just sharing
Thank U Sunshine 🌞 Another Ray Of Hope U Are 😘 ❤️🙏
In my opinion many narcissists develop dementia at the end of their life as a compensating mechanism. To prevent them from going crazy or even more traumatized when realizing that their ego will end and that everything until now was just fake apart from their negative and rotten emotions which then will come to the surface.
The percentages of narcissists getting dementia are high. All the stress and hormones effects the frontal and temporal lobe in the brain. Before I divorced my ex narc I thought he was experiencing early signs. Glad I left
They feel nothing! That helps them trick you in the beginning. Then, they know they can fake you out. Their look of surprise, while saying they don't know what they did to you, can easily fool.
It's actually hilarious if it wasn't so narcissisticly horrible im lost for words
I'm so glad I found your channel. You have helped me so much. ❤️
Thank you very much❤
Excellent video.
Your brave and advice is gripping .thanks
My X left me for a rebound guy. She will realize how much she has lost. Because there will no other supporting and caring partner like me to tollerate her BS. Their is no turning back.
Great truthfulness video❤
Thank you so much Danish
From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
You are amazing ❤
Thanks!
Spot on bro
Danish 🙂 this episode was so great I had to watch it twice , spot on 🙂
Hallelujah for number 7
Thank you🩷❤️💜
my narc told me a lot Oh Shell please don't ever leave me please.. I never answered him..
Time always revels true character. Eventually the mask always slips.
After many break up patch up I know the truth... So now after 11yrs i will never go back to him😅....
I WAS IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP W/ THE SON NARC. AT LEAST I THOUGHT SO. HIS NARC MOM WAS HOOKING HIM UP W/ WOMEN EVERYWHERE HE TOOK HER! EVEN THE CHURCH SHE WENT TO! FOUND OUT EVERYTHING! THE FATHER WAS A REAL BASTARD. HE'S DEAD NOW. THE OLD MOM NARC. IS IN A NURSING HOME NOW. BUT ELDEST SON(MY EX.) HAS TAKEN THE PLACE OF DEAD NARC. DAD. I AM GRATEFUL TO GOD FOR LETTING ME FIND OUT AND NOT MARRY INTO THIS SICK FAMILY! HE ABANDED HIS DAUGHTER IN A SPECIAL NEEDS HOME AND HARDLY SEES HER. SHE WAS MY DAUGHTER FOR A LONG TIME BUT NOW I AM MOURNING NEVER SEEING HER AGAIN.
Great ❤
I dated one... And still recovering
6:14 A depressed or masking autistic depressed person could feel that way
Ameen InShaAllah 🤲