I got bullied at my work place at the age of 30 years old for the first time and I had no idea how to deal with it. I can’t imagine what a child would go through.
Omg! Thats so wrong and stupid i cant believe people at their 20s and 30s are prone to bully and participate in mobbing others. I hope ur doing good now and that it never happens to you or anyone else!
Hanna Mahfuzah MK thanks hanna. Yes, I’m doing well now. I was in a very bad place, isolated etc but I’ve left that work place altogether and moved on.
So impressed by your compassion even as a child and so impressed with the person you have become. I have a twin sister and I realise watching this how much I take her for granted. There were times when we didn’t have any other friends but we always had each other.
@@bel1338 I'm a Jojo fan and an ARMY. When people go "Is that a Jojo reference?!" or "*Laughs in ARMY*" I find it relatable and understandable. I see breathing as a Jojo reference (Hamon) and I enjoy making references because when I find Jojo references, I get it and it's funny. It's like making friends through jokes only ones that are in the same community as you understand. You see, once you really like something, you see everything related to it. For example, if you ever have a crush, you'd know that you find everything related to that person. Imagine walking down a road and you notice a leaf on your foot- you may think "The leaf is green... and John likes green."
you probably dont give a damn but does any of you know a method to get back into an Instagram account?? I stupidly forgot the account password. I love any assistance you can give me.
i’ve been reading through the comments and i’ve seen so many people saying ‘i was bullied’ and it’s actually horrible how many people have been through it and how many nasty people there are, bullying effects you not at time of the situation but even years after, makes me sick that people can treat others so awfully
I never went through bullying so much in primary school, I had lots of quite good friends and such. But that changed when I went into secondary school, and I was bullied basically from year 7-11. It was awful, but it was never anything that could really be reported. Just people calling me names, running away from me when I tried to talk to them, laughing at me and talking about me behind my back. It left me with a seriously low sense of self-worth and a really low self-esteem. Until in literally in year 12 I just decided that I actually no longer cared at all what people thought or what they were saying about me, I mean I still got hurt about it sometimes but I just didn't care. Uni is so different from school, if people have a problem with you you can just stay away from them which is so nice. People also tend to be more mature and willing to accept others might be different from them. Seriously uni is so good. Things really do get better but always report whatever happens if people are treating you badly.
me too! in primary school i was genuinly quite popular, especially for the last few years, but now im actually currently in year seven but no one likes me. people run away from me. it’s such a hard change! i don’t know what i do wrong! thanks for this comment! it really helps me just to be myself and not care about what people think:)
@@nina-ph7mw I promise that you're going to find your people. Sometimes it just takes a little longer, but there are people out there who are going to be the right people for you! Just keep your head up high and always stay true to yourself. You're probably not doing doing anything wrong at all, honestly, people especially in Year 7 just tend to be like that; really quick to judge and then bully people. I know it sounds really stupid to say that it gets better when you're older but it does! It really does! Even in year 10 or 11 it was getting better for me, and I promise it will for you too. Just never ever change who you are.
Same here!! I've been literally bullied my entire life and when I did have friends, they were just fake and toxic friends which would bully me and were clearly not my friends but enemies in disguise.I was bullied in yr 4 and 5 outside of school,yr 6 inside school and from yr 7-11. It honestly sucks and has a massive detrimental impact on one's self worth , and leads to serious mental issues in the long run.
I get it , my worst year was year six , by some strange coincidence I was in the same class as all the people I'd never got along with in the previous years and really wished to forget , but high school wasn't that bad , yes I got into a few conflicts but I had friends and a lot of fun so it didnt matter .
Same! In year five my “friend” was bulling me and I didn’t realize and I was really like depressed because I didn’t understand and should’ve reacted differently other than just avoiding talking with anyone 😅I’m all good now! 🥰
Omg this video was so incredibly touching!! Although you must feel so vulnerable Ruby for reading your diaries, especially concerning bullying, it shows just how much you’ve grown as a person! Thank you so much for sharing this with us all - I’m sure myself and others very much hope to see more diary-related content!
I love how self-reflective you are. :) I never actually got bullied, though my school relationships usually weren't great and it still hurts to think about some of them. I admire you so much for learning from the difficult past and being passionate about supporting others. Stay awesome, Ruby!
When I was 10 the boy sitting next to me in class used to intentionally spit on me when talking. I put it off as an accident but overtime I realized it wasn't. I told my father and once he spoke to boy he never spat on me again and the teacher moved him away from me.
This is so important to talk about. I was bullied from the age of 6 until 13 because of being overweight. I had noone to talk to because I was never close to my mom, I honestly have no idea how I handled all of it, haha. It resulted in severe social anxiety which I struggle with every day, it's very difficult to leave the house, or even leave my room. I also never make any friends because of it. Luckily I managed to find someone a few years ago who helped me get over a bunch of things from the past. But I just wanted to say I really appreciate it that you talk about this issue.
I was bullied too and I never had many friends (sometimes I had none). Right now I have like 2 friends but I kinda feel like they don't really like me and we live in different worlds. I wish I could be friends with you Ruby ❤️
i had to stop watching this halfway through... it’s bringing up memories i’d repressed that i didn’t even realise still had an impact on me... thank you for helping me realise that i need to deal with these emotions rather than just bottle them up for years...
How you decided to always comfort those who aren't happy & ask them what's wrong was very precious for a kid, and it shows what a wonderful person you always are. You're worth amazing friendship and I'm happy that you now do : )
I always think that I'm the only one who don't have any friends it's difficult to talk to others and be friends with others because of introverted behaviour thanks for sharing your experience Ruby you really motivated me because I had no friends in my class 10 to class 12 (higher secondary in Indian education system) which really affected my mental health and of course my grades.🙂Now have passed school and now I'm in first year of university.🙂 EDIT ☺️😊THANKS GUYS I HAVE NEVER GOT THIS AMOUNT OF LIKES AND I DON'T USUALLY COMMENT ON VIDEOS .AND NOW I'M IN COLLEGE AND JUST HAVE WATCHED RUBY'S NEW VIDEO"WHAT IT'S LIKE TO HAVE NO FRIENDS".AND LEARNT A LESSON OF TRYING TO TALK WITH OTHER PEOPLE IN ORDER TO MAKE FRIENDS.
I’m in awe at how you’re able to look back on such a hard time in your life and laugh about it, it’s so impressive. Look how far you’ve come!! you should be so proud of yourself x
aww ruby you're doing amazing work here!! i can't even express how grateful i am that someone with your influence is talking about this stuff and putting out such a powerful message. i personally went through a lot of difficult times at school too so i really think this sort of content is good for people who are feeling helpless but also for people who want to see attitudes change and tackle bullying. thank you so so much for sharing, i know it can't have been easy x
I was also bullied when I was 9 years old! 😭 It was horrible but luckily, 10 years later I feel a lot better and I've been healing from it but it had a big impact on my life and caused depression and social anxiety mainly. High school was tough because of the social anxiety. Hopefully I can get into anti-bullying activism in the future. Thanks for raising awareness about this topic! Lots of love 💓🌹
I was bullied too when I was 7 until 9 years old, then in high school for 2 years..I don't have any bestfriend until I made a couple of people to my circle in university, and I think I love connections with less amount of people to keep me not feeling very alone, and I'm very bad to make some friends (I was messed up the relation with 2 friends last year and that was made me trauma to connect with new people) since last month I made productivity which concern to self-healing and self-development and nobody knows this, specially my parents and family (now I lost communication with my sister and father but I don't take that too seriously) sorry for long writing, I just don't know to who I should tell my feeling, cause I don't wanna get hurt again. sorry for grammar I'm not english speaker.
I went through something similar when I was younger, where I had a very small class and still didn't have many friends. It's nice to hear someone to relate to about past experiences.
I find that we often are VERY dramatic when we're young! That's actually something I love about Anne of Green Gables because she's so dramatic and it reminds me of when I was like that. I'm very happy to know that you're in a much better place now Ruby! 💖
I love watching diary reaction videos too! I keep a diary and it just makes me feel nice to know I have something so personal in common with other people
You’re such a strong person. I can’t believe people are that cruel just because someone is different. You are totally different than I am but I wouldn’t be mean to you because of that! Diversity is so beautiful and important. I am so glad you didn’t change for anyone!
(Super late, BUT) I’m surprised by how much I relate to these feelings and thoughts. Not because I’ve been bullied, but because I’ve often felt that version of loneliness; it’s a more active version. As I got older I realized it was more of an insecurity issue, as well. I had to learn how to be kinder to myself and not expect the world of everyone. Just because I know I’d react differently to a person in my situation doesn’t mean I should’ve expected others to react the same way. I also had to remember that not everyone is thinking about me as often as I thought they were, and that was okay. There was a fine line between feeling lonely and overthinking (almost to the point of selfishness). On a happier note, I truly love and appreciate your videos ! You’re so positive and productive and I appreciate your transparency even with tougher subjects!
The worst part of bullying is not the actions of the bully, it's seeing everyone else take the bully's side instead of yours, and feeling like the whole world is against you.
You are so inspirational Ruby!! I think that kindness is the most important attribute to have, it is so necessary in every stage of life and everyone deserves and absolutely needs to be treated with kindness. I hope your videos reach lots of people as there is no limit to how kind someone can be.
I can really relate to the feeling of being lonely.When you have the feeling that you have to deal with everything on your own when others can go through hard stuff with their school friendship group. It is so nice to see that you kept going and doing what you loved the most, thank you Ruby : ) And I don't think that this video is embarrassing, this video shows how much you grow into the lovely person that you are today : ) And if you feel Ready for it someday...I would love to hear your other stories on your personal experience with bullying and feeling lonely due to bullying. I hope you have a great day : ) (btw... I'm German, so I'm so sorry for my bad English.)
gosh i love this video. your nine year old sounds similar to me at that age, actually. i was bullied a little bit in school - it took until recently to even start calling it bullying, but i think it was. it certainly affected me more than i realised at the time. i read through my diaries from age 8-16 (i'm 22, still keeping a diary/journal now) and found that actually i really did feel lonely - looking past the overdramatic writing it was clear that my friends were very changeable. my entries would switch constantly from "i had a really great day with [names]!" to "[same people] told me my interests are stupid and i'm boring and weird." i wrote nearly every day and it alternated like that for a long time. i had similarly small situations, like you hurting your finger, which seem so silly but actually to a kid are really significant. anyway, it's really brave of you to talk about this and share your diary. i truly think school can be a traumatising time for a lot of kids - some many of us come out of it insecure perfectionists, people-pleasers, with either no motivation at all or a ridiculous demanding work ethic. we come out afraid to upset people in authority, expecting everyone to treat us the way our teachers and bullies did - and then people DO treat us that way, because it was drilled into them that this is how authority figures out.
I’m so happy that you were so comfortable talking about you’re bullying story , especially as I’ve suffered with bullying it’s such a touchy subject for some people but it shouldn’t be that way I’m so happy that there’s people like you out there that are willing to tell you’re story . Especially for the younger generation to make them aware that there is people out there to talk to xx
I would be so happy to be friends with ruby, i love her whole lifestyle, outlook on life and motivation, i’m always inspired to be positive and productive after watching her videos
Aw, you were a kid and you made the best choices given what you knew and what your safety needs were at the time. I appreciate that you went ahead and shares something so personal and honest. Thank you!
Please! Do share with us whenever you feel like, love. I actually didn't realize, until I started seeing your videos on anti-bullying, what I'd done with a few of my friends in school years could be tagged as bullying, thinking they'll take it as my moody domineering phase and would forgive and forget. I decide to be careful and empathetic, albeit I registered it behindhand. Thank you
Well, I was a bully, through age 9-12 and your right it comes from a place of lacking coping functions. I'm deeply ashamed and disgusted in my bullying ways.
This is so interesting - I also felt quite isolated and struggled a lot in year 5. I also had friendship problems at the end of year 4. I wish I had a diary from that age!
I keept diarys from the age of 17 to 25 (I'am 30 now) and I just started to type them down on my computer. Here and there I leave comments and do reflect. I do remember nearly all the events and I understand all my past feelings but mostly it feels like those belong to a different person. So many times I just want to hug my younger self and I want to say: Keep going, you will become stronger and it will get better.
There is a great diary "one line a day - a 5 year memory book" You can keep writing on that for 5 years and each day you can do an entry and go back that day each year to see how much you have evolved ! 😀
I was bullied too, throughout school, but I almost feel I deserved it because I too was mean to others. I am so annoyed with my younger self for hurting others and not considering their feelings :c
You were really cute in childhood.. And of course your work for bully's is really appreciating. You're an Idol for everyone 😁 Really nice video and you were very cheerful person in childhood..
I feel you ruby! I felt similar at school. My primary was a small class and at high school I struggled to make solid friends. It got easier when I was older when we chose our subjects. Now I'm at uni and have loads of friends. I've changed so much and for the better
People say it’s bad to be lonely, you should get out there and socialize but then they judge you for socializing. If you’re interested or not would they believe is cool, the five or six interests everyone is pretty well into that are known as OK, then you known as weird. You can’t socialize but still be different, appreciate and enjoy different things. You have to fit into the exact cookie cutter, colour exactly in the lines of the colouring sheet, to be accepted and that is not OK. Having similar interests with someone and developing a friendship honour is great, nothing to criticize, but judging someone and bullying someone because they are different, because they enjoy different things is not right. Imagine what would happen to this world if we all enjoy the same things? Imagine how uniqueness, originality, discussion, and so many other things that come with people being different and bringing something new and interesting to the table disappear. People do not realize that, these ideas before it becomes too late. Before they have this friendship that’s nothing, that’s made up of small talk and for some people that is great, if that is what you want out of a friendship and you find someone who wants the same then congratulations. Although, there are people out there who want more intelligent, intellectual conversations because that is what they want out of a friendship. Both perspectives bring different views to the table and help different people find friends and that is what is important about uniqueness. Hopefully it was not interpreted as a rant, also I am legally blind
I was bullied constantly in Primary and Secondary School just because I'm a redhead. I even dyed my hair dark brown in like Year 10 because I wanted more people to like me. It worked for a bit but in the end when the red hair started coming through again people would go back to not being my friend. So in the end I didn't care and stayed true to myself by being ME, and I'm glad I did because now I love my hair and don't care about the people who bullied me. I have some nice true friends and that's all that matters. :)
When I was like 9, I too had a journal, except I just put in lies so it would sound "secret" - for example I remember writing "I think Justin Bieber is cute" because I was outrageously known for hating him, so I thought it would sooo mysterious and secretive if I wrote this down
Ruby you are so cute and thank you for feeling comfortable enough to make and share this video. If you're embarrassed by yourself just remember that that means you've grown. I really enjoyed watching this video and could actually relate to some of this. Also, hen you're talking about tenses and third person, etc... You are literally saying "oh Ruby ...." Which is kind of funny!!
It’s fine to use your own descriptive grammar/dialect and not solely prescriptive grammar in YOUR diaries. ✨Music and poetry over the years would have been very boring if we only used prescriptive grammar!
I went through bullying most of my school years. Of course I had great moments and I did have friends but when those friends turned their backs on me never in my life had I ever felt so lonely. In fact, the result of all my friends leaving me in my life from a very young age made me develop social anxiety and a general anxiety disorder. You need to be kind to people and you need to treat them with love, you never what lasting effect you can have on someone with just a few words. And Ruby may be laughing at herself here but she probably still feels the pain reading and remembering. Every time I look back at my old journals I become incredibly sad. Even though I’m so much happier now just thinking back on it makes me realize how sad and heartbroken I was by the smallest things.
Oh Ruby, of course you don't have to explain what you've been through if you're not comfortable with it... The fact that it belongs to the past doesn't make it easy to tell! I personally am 21 and I've been bullied in my 11 to 14s, and I still struggle THINKING about it without having tears in my eyes ; you're so brave making your experience public to help other people, but you have no obligation to tell the details or whatever people want to know! By the way, I'm currently reading Simone de Beauvoir's Mémoires (in French of course, but you can find a translation) and it helps me a lot ontologically as a woman and as a student, as a human and a person constantly thinking, and philosophically because of everything she explains about her writings ; you said you were interested in the connection between the different personnalities in the same person, and reading this I kind of understand how we become adults and how the concept of identity can be explained (she analizes herself from her early childhood to her late adulthood); I really recommend it for its literary and philosophical qualities! And as always, excuse my poor english writing, I'm trying my best!
I did completely the opposite when I was bullied 😂 I was so unconcerned at the time I didn’t realize how much it was affecting me, and then I apologized to my bully when she got in trouble... 🤨
I was also bullied in elementary school. It ended when my mom and I went to the police...it was so bad that we had to report it. I'm 20 and sometimes when I think back of those days I still feel anxious . It is a pity that we were not in the same school (and country) at that time, I feel like we could be friends and stand together against bullies. Anyway Thank You for the video :) Can't wait for the next one P.S I also feel embarrassed when I read my old diaries 😂
Oh, dear god 😀❤ Today I've been reading my 9-11-year-old diaries and was embarassed sitting alone in the room (even more dramatic, about intrigues between friends and heartakes about loved oneS (🤦♀️), but listening to you, seems so cute 🥰
I was bullied in primary school and it was so full circle. People just decided in like reception that they didn't want to be my friend and this lack of friendship in the following years made me kinda of "annoying" in others eyes. I would I always want to play with people and they didn't want me there, which then caused more of me being ignored. I escaped all those people at a new secondary school and am so much of a better person now then I was then.
Lol this is so similar to my diary during 5th and 6th year. I blamed people why I didn't have friends even the fault was me being too prejudice. Actually I didn't have friends or enjoy friendship till year 9th which is now, quite sad but I'm really glad to finally try to open up my mind and welcome more people into my life!
Here in Australia we have education around bullying. Have you heard about Dolly? She wrote Speak Even If Your Voice Shakes. She suffered cyber bullying and ended her life.
I went through primary school without any proper friends. I had to go up to people to talk, no one ever came up to me. I also hate break time because you can't do anything- you have to socialise (I'm not good at socialising). Lunchtimes aren't bad because I can do my own thing. I end up just going to class half an hour early. Only two years left then I'm at college.
Hii ruby, I was putting away watching this video for a while but today I decided to watch it anyway, we are the same age, back in 2012, I was in year 7 and our class was shuffled I remember thinking I don’t know have any friends in this class, that year I dealt with bullying, it sucked, I lost all my confidence for 3 succeeding years and you know no one noticed and it was so hard to get back on track and because of it I suffer form anxiety now. I m not venting here just wanted to share that I too strongly feel that bullying should be taken care about in school and it usually happens after 10 to 13 and that such a tender age you are growing mentally and physically Nss it true of affect while your life because you don’t understand what is happening to you.
You inspired me to read my old diary which I was scared of reading because of the whole bullying thing. I too started writing I think back when I was 10 when I read about Anne frank in school.
Ruby, I just found your channel, and I can't thank you enough for your inspiration! I find your videos so neat and inspiring. I still have my diary from when I was in the third grade. A lot of the entries were written after going through a day full of bullying at school. It still takes me back to those days when I read it, but at the same time, it makes me want to fight for all of the kids who go through bullying as well. If anyone out there is going through bullying, I know from personal experience that your bully is only a single person in this world. They have their own struggles, and they don't always know how to deal with them. Don't let their opinions define or change who you are. You being you is a thousand times better than conforming to anyone's expectations.
I don’t agree with saying it wasn’t very productive to feel sorry for yourself when you were bullied at 9. To place blame on yourself over the situation is to say that even though you were excluded you had the opportunity to get friends. The one thing students who are bullied wish for is to have friends, and when met with a constant exclusion and yet again to be the one left out it is unfair to place blame on the bullied student because had they just tried harder those reasons behind the bullying would go away. Bullying is more often than not connected to something that has nothing to do with the student it’s directed at. For a student to feel hurt while being bullied is a very valid emotion because lonliness is tough to deal with even for adults so a child will struggle even more considering it’s part of their identity so much given it happens during their formative years. And then add what it does psychologically to someone who is constantly in different ways being told they are not good enough. Had a student acted like that to a teacher it would have been corrected, but when students do it to each other all of the sudden it is this thing that people say the student have to fix on their own or they’re ignored by adults who view it as a ”kids will be kids” thing that isn’t truly of importance. Or they have 1-2 conversations and if it’s not solved after that it’s not dealt with anymore. I feel very strong about bullying since I see what it has done to some of my friends and they are adults now, and that feeling of being worthless that bullying can give someone is horrendous. To say it isn’t productive to take in the hurt from bullying and the student shouod have just made friends instead is to say ”suit yourself” but when time over time someone have been shown they do not get to be a part of the social things and to make friends how can it be ok to not place blame where it belongs...at those who exclude. 7:46 💛 It’s not your fault, Ruby! And it’s ok that it’s still painful! Hopefully you have someone to share these things in your life because holding it in will only make the mending process longer.
I was bullied throughout school and even into high school. Then I was unfortunately with some of the same people in community college. In university I was again the target of random people ganging up on me, and conveniently got a rape threat when I stood up to one of my bullies. I was later mobbed at workplace. Needless to say, I came out of everything severely crippled and with c-PTSD. Unfortunately I have no financial means to seek therapy, and have been unemployed for almost two years because being around people really traumatizes me.
Oh I love these types of videos! I kept a diary throughout secondary school but Do wish I’d done so in primary school! I think it could have helped me a lot do deal with things emotionally - year 5 was also difficult for me in terms of friends, largely due to my diabetes and it was also the first time I really began to struggle with eating (no one realised it at the time and weight loss was put down to my diabetes.) I hope this is okay to say and please Ignore if not. I only say it because of something you mentioned toward the end, about reading books related to experiences. I noticed on your goodreads that you’ve put down a few books regarding anorexia. I admit that it did make me worry about you and if you’ve experienced anything similar. I also know that, while eating disorders absolutely do not discriminate, they can be particularly prevalent for people who struggle with perfectionism and I just wouldn’t forgive myself if I didn’t say something. Not wanting to assume anything, but simply say that you are a strong and beautiful soul inside and out - if you do struggle with any aspects of your mental health while at Uni please teach out. I speak as someone who had to suspend their Exeter English literature degree for two years to receive treatment for anorexia. The student health centre have some amazing people for all mental health support xx
I got bullied at my work place at the age of 30 years old for the first time and I had no idea how to deal with it. I can’t imagine what a child would go through.
wow. imagine being a grown ass adult who thinks its ok to bully a coworker. some people never grow up
Omg! Thats so wrong and stupid i cant believe people at their 20s and 30s are prone to bully and participate in mobbing others. I hope ur doing good now and that it never happens to you or anyone else!
Hope you are doing well!
Hanna Mahfuzah MK thanks hanna. Yes, I’m doing well now. I was in a very bad place, isolated etc but I’ve left that work place altogether and moved on.
adults can be soooooooo stupid
Well, just shows what happens when you stick true to yourself, who cares about haters!!
Wish I had this in mind when I was younger.
So impressed by your compassion even as a child and so impressed with the person you have become. I have a twin sister and I realise watching this how much I take her for granted. There were times when we didn’t have any other friends but we always had each other.
Alice Linton same!
It’s so terrible that the only years she wasn’t bullied was years 6 and 7.
And sixth form :) I was super happy in sixth form!
But yes, very sad :(x
I started getting bullied when I was in pre k 😌✌️
Young Ruby was a cute lil bean awwww
yess unlike me lol
awwww this coming from Hermione is even cuter
Please more personal content!! :) If you’re comfortable of course :)
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@Aurum yes my bias is jimin and my bias wrecker is namjoon and yours?
I’m sorry if this sounds rude but why does the army always turn everything into bts related again not trying to be rude I just want to know ✌️😌
@@bel1338 I'm a Jojo fan and an ARMY. When people go "Is that a Jojo reference?!" or "*Laughs in ARMY*" I find it relatable and understandable. I see breathing as a Jojo reference (Hamon) and I enjoy making references because when I find Jojo references, I get it and it's funny. It's like making friends through jokes only ones that are in the same community as you understand. You see, once you really like something, you see everything related to it. For example, if you ever have a crush, you'd know that you find everything related to that person. Imagine walking down a road and you notice a leaf on your foot- you may think "The leaf is green... and John likes green."
you probably dont give a damn but does any of you know a method to get back into an Instagram account??
I stupidly forgot the account password. I love any assistance you can give me.
And I love how you always mention anti bullying week when it comes around, It’s so important that we recognize bullying xx
Thank you for commenting this! I agree it's so so key that we talk about it :) x
i’ve been reading through the comments and i’ve seen so many people saying ‘i was bullied’ and it’s actually horrible how many people have been through it and how many nasty people there are, bullying effects you not at time of the situation but even years after, makes me sick that people can treat others so awfully
Maddy Smith off topic but: i read your name as Maggie Smith and i was like iburwejnjgrwbjomg
you're growing into a wonderful, lovely, beautiful human being. just so proud of you and i hope you are too x
This is such an important video - everyone needs to see this. Thank you for making us feel less alone and doing so much anti-bullying work 💕💕
I never went through bullying so much in primary school, I had lots of quite good friends and such. But that changed when I went into secondary school, and I was bullied basically from year 7-11. It was awful, but it was never anything that could really be reported. Just people calling me names, running away from me when I tried to talk to them, laughing at me and talking about me behind my back. It left me with a seriously low sense of self-worth and a really low self-esteem. Until in literally in year 12 I just decided that I actually no longer cared at all what people thought or what they were saying about me, I mean I still got hurt about it sometimes but I just didn't care.
Uni is so different from school, if people have a problem with you you can just stay away from them which is so nice. People also tend to be more mature and willing to accept others might be different from them. Seriously uni is so good. Things really do get better but always report whatever happens if people are treating you badly.
me too! in primary school i was genuinly quite popular, especially for the last few years, but now im actually currently in year seven but no one likes me. people run away from me. it’s such a hard change! i don’t know what i do wrong! thanks for this comment! it really helps me just to be myself and not care about what people think:)
@@nina-ph7mw I promise that you're going to find your people. Sometimes it just takes a little longer, but there are people out there who are going to be the right people for you! Just keep your head up high and always stay true to yourself. You're probably not doing doing anything wrong at all, honestly, people especially in Year 7 just tend to be like that; really quick to judge and then bully people. I know it sounds really stupid to say that it gets better when you're older but it does! It really does! Even in year 10 or 11 it was getting better for me, and I promise it will for you too. Just never ever change who you are.
Same here!! I've been literally bullied my entire life and when I did have friends, they were just fake and toxic friends which would bully me and were clearly not my friends but enemies in disguise.I was bullied in yr 4 and 5 outside of school,yr 6 inside school and from yr 7-11. It honestly sucks and has a massive detrimental impact on one's self worth , and leads to serious mental issues in the long run.
I know exactly how that feels It is really awful
I get it , my worst year was year six , by some strange coincidence I was in the same class as all the people I'd never got along with in the previous years and really wished to forget , but high school wasn't that bad , yes I got into a few conflicts but I had friends and a lot of fun so it didnt matter .
Ruby - you've been a thinker all the way through your childhood.
It hurts my heart that someone with such a kind, beautiful soul was bullied for so long 😩 look whose winning now though! 🧡
Same! In year five my “friend” was bulling me and I didn’t realize and I was really like depressed because I didn’t understand and should’ve reacted differently other than just avoiding talking with anyone 😅I’m all good now! 🥰
Takes such big guts to share something so personal and deeply confessional. Twice the person any bully is. Big props!!
Omg this video was so incredibly touching!! Although you must feel so vulnerable Ruby for reading your diaries, especially concerning bullying, it shows just how much you’ve grown as a person! Thank you so much for sharing this with us all - I’m sure myself and others very much hope to see more diary-related content!
I love how self-reflective you are. :) I never actually got bullied, though my school relationships usually weren't great and it still hurts to think about some of them. I admire you so much for learning from the difficult past and being passionate about supporting others. Stay awesome, Ruby!
So thankful your appreciation is so high for anti-bullying week
When I was 10 the boy sitting next to me in class used to intentionally spit on me when talking. I put it off as an accident but overtime I realized it wasn't. I told my father and once he spoke to boy he never spat on me again and the teacher moved him away from me.
This is so important to talk about. I was bullied from the age of 6 until 13 because of being overweight. I had noone to talk to because I was never close to my mom, I honestly have no idea how I handled all of it, haha. It resulted in severe social anxiety which I struggle with every day, it's very difficult to leave the house, or even leave my room. I also never make any friends because of it. Luckily I managed to find someone a few years ago who helped me get over a bunch of things from the past. But I just wanted to say I really appreciate it that you talk about this issue.
Even i love writing in my diary. It assures us that even if no one cares for us, we are always there for ourselves. Cheers Ruby❤
I was bullied too and I never had many friends (sometimes I had none). Right now I have like 2 friends but I kinda feel like they don't really like me and we live in different worlds. I wish I could be friends with you Ruby ❤️
You're awesome, don't forget this ❤️
You should try to get into new circles signing up to activities that you like
i had to stop watching this halfway through... it’s bringing up memories i’d repressed that i didn’t even realise still had an impact on me... thank you for helping me realise that i need to deal with these emotions rather than just bottle them up for years...
How you decided to always comfort those who aren't happy & ask them what's wrong was very precious for a kid, and it shows what a wonderful person you always are. You're worth amazing friendship and I'm happy that you now do : )
I always think that I'm the only one who don't have any friends it's difficult to talk to others and be friends with others because of introverted behaviour thanks for sharing your experience Ruby you really motivated me because I had no friends in my class 10 to class 12 (higher secondary in Indian education system) which really affected my mental health and of course my grades.🙂Now have passed school and now I'm in first year of university.🙂
EDIT ☺️😊THANKS GUYS I HAVE NEVER GOT THIS AMOUNT OF LIKES AND I DON'T USUALLY COMMENT ON VIDEOS .AND NOW I'M IN COLLEGE AND JUST HAVE WATCHED RUBY'S NEW VIDEO"WHAT IT'S LIKE TO HAVE NO FRIENDS".AND LEARNT A LESSON OF TRYING TO TALK WITH OTHER PEOPLE IN ORDER TO MAKE FRIENDS.
I’m in awe at how you’re able to look back on such a hard time in your life and laugh about it, it’s so impressive. Look how far you’ve come!! you should be so proud of yourself x
I'm so sorry you have to pass through that! I hope now you feel loved by all of your subscripers; You are such an inspirational person!
aww ruby you're doing amazing work here!! i can't even express how grateful i am that someone with your influence is talking about this stuff and putting out such a powerful message. i personally went through a lot of difficult times at school too so i really think this sort of content is good for people who are feeling helpless but also for people who want to see attitudes change and tackle bullying. thank you so so much for sharing, i know it can't have been easy x
I was also bullied when I was 9 years old! 😭 It was horrible but luckily, 10 years later I feel a lot better and I've been healing from it but it had a big impact on my life and caused depression and social anxiety mainly. High school was tough because of the social anxiety. Hopefully I can get into anti-bullying activism in the future.
Thanks for raising awareness about this topic! Lots of love 💓🌹
I was bullied too when I was 7 until 9 years old, then in high school for 2 years..I don't have any bestfriend until I made a couple of people to my circle in university, and I think I love connections with less amount of people to keep me not feeling very alone, and I'm very bad to make some friends (I was messed up the relation with 2 friends last year and that was made me trauma to connect with new people)
since last month I made productivity which concern to self-healing and self-development and nobody knows this, specially my parents and family (now I lost communication with my sister and father but I don't take that too seriously)
sorry for long writing, I just don't know to who I should tell my feeling, cause I don't wanna get hurt again.
sorry for grammar I'm not english speaker.
U are amazing and worth of every amazing things in this world..... be positive and lotts of hugs☺️☺️☺️☺️🤘
@@oyster_with_mystery1804 thank you mate, thanks for spread positives vibe
@@zuko803 wlcm buddy
I went through something similar when I was younger, where I had a very small class and still didn't have many friends. It's nice to hear someone to relate to about past experiences.
I find that we often are VERY dramatic when we're young! That's actually something I love about Anne of Green Gables because she's so dramatic and it reminds me of when I was like that. I'm very happy to know that you're in a much better place now Ruby! 💖
This is so so true! I relate with Anne so much haha!
How old is she?
Thank you for this, it was super helpful in the sense of letting me know that other people experienced this as well. Thank you for the perspective!
I love watching diary reaction videos too! I keep a diary and it just makes me feel nice to know I have something so personal in common with other people
It was such a lovely video ! Please upload more of these, like not only bullying, short diary reading sessions...
You’re such a strong person. I can’t believe people are that cruel just because someone is different. You are totally different than I am but I wouldn’t be mean to you because of that! Diversity is so beautiful and important. I am so glad you didn’t change for anyone!
(Super late, BUT) I’m surprised by how much I relate to these feelings and thoughts. Not because I’ve been bullied, but because I’ve often felt that version of loneliness; it’s a more active version. As I got older I realized it was more of an insecurity issue, as well. I had to learn how to be kinder to myself and not expect the world of everyone. Just because I know I’d react differently to a person in my situation doesn’t mean I should’ve expected others to react the same way. I also had to remember that not everyone is thinking about me as often as I thought they were, and that was okay. There was a fine line between feeling lonely and overthinking (almost to the point of selfishness). On a happier note, I truly love and appreciate your videos ! You’re so positive and productive and I appreciate your transparency even with tougher subjects!
The worst part of bullying is not the actions of the bully, it's seeing everyone else take the bully's side instead of yours, and feeling like the whole world is against you.
You are so inspirational Ruby!! I think that kindness is the most important attribute to have, it is so necessary in every stage of life and everyone deserves and absolutely needs to be treated with kindness. I hope your videos reach lots of people as there is no limit to how kind someone can be.
I can really relate to the feeling of being lonely.When you have the feeling that you have to deal with everything on your own when others can go through hard stuff with their school friendship group. It is so nice to see that you kept going and doing what you loved the most, thank you Ruby : ) And I don't think that this video is embarrassing, this video shows how much you grow into the lovely person that you are today : )
And if you feel Ready for it someday...I would love to hear your other stories on your personal experience with bullying and feeling lonely due to bullying.
I hope you have a great day : )
(btw... I'm German, so I'm so sorry for my bad English.)
gosh i love this video. your nine year old sounds similar to me at that age, actually. i was bullied a little bit in school - it took until recently to even start calling it bullying, but i think it was. it certainly affected me more than i realised at the time. i read through my diaries from age 8-16 (i'm 22, still keeping a diary/journal now) and found that actually i really did feel lonely - looking past the overdramatic writing it was clear that my friends were very changeable. my entries would switch constantly from "i had a really great day with [names]!" to "[same people] told me my interests are stupid and i'm boring and weird." i wrote nearly every day and it alternated like that for a long time. i had similarly small situations, like you hurting your finger, which seem so silly but actually to a kid are really significant.
anyway, it's really brave of you to talk about this and share your diary. i truly think school can be a traumatising time for a lot of kids - some many of us come out of it insecure perfectionists, people-pleasers, with either no motivation at all or a ridiculous demanding work ethic. we come out afraid to upset people in authority, expecting everyone to treat us the way our teachers and bullies did - and then people DO treat us that way, because it was drilled into them that this is how authority figures out.
I’m so happy that you were so comfortable talking about you’re bullying story , especially as I’ve suffered with bullying it’s such a touchy subject for some people but it shouldn’t be that way I’m so happy that there’s people like you out there that are willing to tell you’re story . Especially for the younger generation to make them aware that there is people out there to talk to xx
I would be so happy to be friends with ruby, i love her whole lifestyle, outlook on
life and motivation, i’m always inspired to be positive and productive after watching her
videos
This was actually so inspiring!
You’ve grown so much as a person :)
Aw, you were a kid and you made the best choices given what you knew and what your safety needs were at the time. I appreciate that you went ahead and shares something so personal and honest. Thank you!
I was bullied in primary school, you handled the topic eloquently and with great maturity xx
I'm actually really impressed how good you were with words at that age already! You are one of the most intelligent Person I know
Please! Do share with us whenever you feel like, love.
I actually didn't realize, until I started seeing your videos on anti-bullying, what I'd done with a few of my friends in school years could be tagged as bullying, thinking they'll take it as my moody domineering phase and would forgive and forget.
I decide to be careful and empathetic, albeit I registered it behindhand.
Thank you
Ruby, I don't think your English was terrible, but what you wrote is actually painfully beautiful. Your words touched my heart.
This is so brave and very helpful for me as a future teacher! Thank you for opening up.
Haha I was really dramatic in my younger diaries too! Really enjoyed this video 💖
Ruby you are such an amazing and inspirational person! Thank you for sharing this personal piece with us!
I love your content - and the diversity of your content
Well, I was a bully, through age 9-12 and your right it comes from a place of lacking coping functions. I'm deeply ashamed and disgusted in my bullying ways.
You should send the kindness journal to the people who bullied you so they learn you are my favorite youtuber
This is so interesting - I also felt quite isolated and struggled a lot in year 5. I also had friendship problems at the end of year 4. I wish I had a diary from that age!
I keept diarys from the age of 17 to 25 (I'am 30 now) and I just started to type them down on my computer. Here and there I leave comments and do reflect. I do remember nearly all the events and I understand all my past feelings but mostly it feels like those belong to a different person.
So many times I just want to hug my younger self and I want to say: Keep going, you will become stronger and it will get better.
There is a great diary "one line a day - a 5 year memory book"
You can keep writing on that for 5 years and each day you can do an entry and go back that day each year to see how much you have evolved ! 😀
I was bullied too, throughout school, but I almost feel I deserved it because I too was mean to others. I am so annoyed with my younger self for hurting others and not considering their feelings :c
You were really cute in childhood..
And of course your work for bully's is really appreciating.
You're an Idol for everyone 😁
Really nice video and you were very cheerful person in childhood..
Thanks for the heart..
This is my honor...
Love you
I was just watching an older video of yours when this came up! ❤❤
I feel you ruby! I felt similar at school. My primary was a small class and at high school I struggled to make solid friends. It got easier when I was older when we chose our subjects. Now I'm at uni and have loads of friends. I've changed so much and for the better
I had the shite kicked out of me at school on a regular basis, Missy, merely for being quiet and studious …
People say it’s bad to be lonely, you should get out there and socialize but then they judge you for socializing. If you’re interested or not would they believe is cool, the five or six interests everyone is pretty well into that are known as OK, then you known as weird. You can’t socialize but still be different, appreciate and enjoy different things. You have to fit into the exact cookie cutter, colour exactly in the lines of the colouring sheet, to be accepted and that is not OK. Having similar interests with someone and developing a friendship honour is great, nothing to criticize, but judging someone and bullying someone because they are different, because they enjoy different things is not right. Imagine what would happen to this world if we all enjoy the same things? Imagine how uniqueness, originality, discussion, and so many other things that come with people being different and bringing something new and interesting to the table disappear. People do not realize that, these ideas before it becomes too late. Before they have this friendship that’s nothing, that’s made up of small talk and for some people that is great, if that is what you want out of a friendship and you find someone who wants the same then congratulations. Although, there are people out there who want more intelligent, intellectual conversations because that is what they want out of a friendship. Both perspectives bring different views to the table and help different people find friends and that is what is important about uniqueness. Hopefully it was not interpreted as a rant, also I am legally blind
Tbh I've been bullied more by teachers than peers. I don't think I've ever been bullied by peers
same 😭
i loved this. i also journal and it is just such an amzing tool to reflect
i was bullied year 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 i know now you feel and you’re so brave for posting this xx
I was bullied constantly in Primary and Secondary School just because I'm a redhead. I even dyed my hair dark brown in like Year 10 because I wanted more people to like me. It worked for a bit but in the end when the red hair started coming through again people would go back to not being my friend. So in the end I didn't care and stayed true to myself by being ME, and I'm glad I did because now I love my hair and don't care about the people who bullied me. I have some nice true friends and that's all that matters. :)
When I was like 9, I too had a journal, except I just put in lies so it would sound "secret" - for example I remember writing "I think Justin Bieber is cute" because I was outrageously known for hating him, so I thought it would sooo mysterious and secretive if I wrote this down
Ruby you are so cute and thank you for feeling comfortable enough to make and share this video. If you're embarrassed by yourself just remember that that means you've grown.
I really enjoyed watching this video and could actually relate to some of this.
Also, hen you're talking about tenses and third person, etc... You are literally saying "oh Ruby ...." Which is kind of funny!!
Bullying is on the increase in jobs.
It’s fine to use your own descriptive grammar/dialect and not solely prescriptive grammar in YOUR diaries. ✨Music and poetry over the years would have been very boring if we only used prescriptive grammar!
I went through bullying most of my school years. Of course I had great moments and I did have friends but when those friends turned their backs on me never in my life had I ever felt so lonely. In fact, the result of all my friends leaving me in my life from a very young age made me develop social anxiety and a general anxiety disorder. You need to be kind to people and you need to treat them with love, you never what lasting effect you can have on someone with just a few words. And Ruby may be laughing at herself here but she probably still feels the pain reading and remembering. Every time I look back at my old journals I become incredibly sad. Even though I’m so much happier now just thinking back on it makes me realize how sad and heartbroken I was by the smallest things.
Tbf i get why you were bullied, people like to hate on the people who stick out. Keep on shining bright xx
Wow that diary was full of surprises!
Oh Ruby, of course you don't have to explain what you've been through if you're not comfortable with it... The fact that it belongs to the past doesn't make it easy to tell! I personally am 21 and I've been bullied in my 11 to 14s, and I still struggle THINKING about it without having tears in my eyes ; you're so brave making your experience public to help other people, but you have no obligation to tell the details or whatever people want to know!
By the way, I'm currently reading Simone de Beauvoir's Mémoires (in French of course, but you can find a translation) and it helps me a lot ontologically as a woman and as a student, as a human and a person constantly thinking, and philosophically because of everything she explains about her writings ; you said you were interested in the connection between the different personnalities in the same person, and reading this I kind of understand how we become adults and how the concept of identity can be explained (she analizes herself from her early childhood to her late adulthood); I really recommend it for its literary and philosophical qualities!
And as always, excuse my poor english writing, I'm trying my best!
Loved this video and how you made it so much more meaningful than a standard reaction video! 💛
I did completely the opposite when I was bullied 😂 I was so unconcerned at the time I didn’t realize how much it was affecting me, and then I apologized to my bully when she got in trouble... 🤨
I was also bullied in elementary school. It ended when my mom and I went to the police...it was so bad that we had to report it.
I'm 20 and sometimes when I think back of those days I still feel anxious . It is a pity that we were not in the same school (and country) at that time, I feel like we could be friends and stand together against bullies.
Anyway Thank You for the video :) Can't wait for the next one
P.S I also feel embarrassed when I read my old diaries 😂
Oh, dear god 😀❤
Today I've been reading my 9-11-year-old diaries and was embarassed sitting alone in the room (even more dramatic, about intrigues between friends and heartakes about loved oneS (🤦♀️), but listening to you, seems so cute 🥰
I hope you asked your daughter for consent before reading it. It's terrible to read someone's personal stuff (ofc unless they let you :))
@@_sadgirl_8730 I read my own diaries, that was written when I was little )))
I was bullied in primary school and it was so full circle. People just decided in like reception that they didn't want to be my friend and this lack of friendship in the following years made me kinda of "annoying" in others eyes. I would I always want to play with people and they didn't want me there, which then caused more of me being ignored. I escaped all those people at a new secondary school and am so much of a better person now then I was then.
You sound like an author. So professional!
Pretty sure 9 year old you would be way smarter than 16 year old me lol! So sorry you got bullied Ruby, you're awesome.
Hey can you do a study with me next/how I organize my notes on my computer, I really need motivation
I was just watching your old videos, when you quite young, it was all so fun..I miss the old Ruby when it was not all about studying
Lol this is so similar to my diary during 5th and 6th year. I blamed people why I didn't have friends even the fault was me being too prejudice. Actually I didn't have friends or enjoy friendship till year 9th which is now, quite sad but I'm really glad to finally try to open up my mind and welcome more people into my life!
One of the first people on this video!
Ruby you’re such an amazing person you inspire me every day. ❤️
Here in Australia we have education around bullying. Have you heard about Dolly? She wrote Speak Even If Your Voice Shakes. She suffered cyber bullying and ended her life.
It's horrible how people are made to feel. I think its truly unnecessary if only there were more people as kind as you.
I went through primary school without any proper friends. I had to go up to people to talk, no one ever came up to me. I also hate break time because you can't do anything- you have to socialise (I'm not good at socialising). Lunchtimes aren't bad because I can do my own thing. I end up just going to class half an hour early. Only two years left then I'm at college.
Hii ruby, I was putting away watching this video for a while but today I decided to watch it anyway, we are the same age, back in 2012, I was in year 7 and our class was shuffled I remember thinking I don’t know have any friends in this class, that year I dealt with bullying, it sucked, I lost all my confidence for 3 succeeding years and you know no one noticed and it was so hard to get back on track and because of it I suffer form anxiety now. I m not venting here just wanted to share that I too strongly feel that bullying should be taken care about in school and it usually happens after 10 to 13 and that such a tender age you are growing mentally and physically Nss it true of affect while your life because you don’t understand what is happening to you.
You inspired me to read my old diary which I was scared of reading because of the whole bullying thing. I too started writing I think back when I was 10 when I read about Anne frank in school.
Wow this is soo deep
You were going through soo much
At that age my biggest proplem was struggling to decide which barbie doll i want for Christmas 😐
This was such an amazing video ❤❤ I really appreciate you 🇺🇾🇺🇾
Ruby, I just found your channel, and I can't thank you enough for your inspiration! I find your videos so neat and inspiring.
I still have my diary from when I was in the third grade. A lot of the entries were written after going through a day full of bullying at school. It still takes me back to those days when I read it, but at the same time, it makes me want to fight for all of the kids who go through bullying as well. If anyone out there is going through bullying, I know from personal experience that your bully is only a single person in this world. They have their own struggles, and they don't always know how to deal with them. Don't let their opinions define or change who you are. You being you is a thousand times better than conforming to anyone's expectations.
I don’t agree with saying it wasn’t very productive to feel sorry for yourself when you were bullied at 9. To place blame on yourself over the situation is to say that even though you were excluded you had the opportunity to get friends. The one thing students who are bullied wish for is to have friends, and when met with a constant exclusion and yet again to be the one left out it is unfair to place blame on the bullied student because had they just tried harder those reasons behind the bullying would go away. Bullying is more often than not connected to something that has nothing to do with the student it’s directed at.
For a student to feel hurt while being bullied is a very valid emotion because lonliness is tough to deal with even for adults so a child will struggle even more considering it’s part of their identity so much given it happens during their formative years. And then add what it does psychologically to someone who is constantly in different ways being told they are not good enough.
Had a student acted like that to a teacher it would have been corrected, but when students do it to each other all of the sudden it is this thing that people say the student have to fix on their own or they’re ignored by adults who view it as a ”kids will be kids” thing that isn’t truly of importance. Or they have 1-2 conversations and if it’s not solved after that it’s not dealt with anymore.
I feel very strong about bullying since I see what it has done to some of my friends and they are adults now, and that feeling of being worthless that bullying can give someone is horrendous.
To say it isn’t productive to take in the hurt from bullying and the student shouod have just made friends instead is to say ”suit yourself” but when time over time someone have been shown they do not get to be a part of the social things and to make friends how can it be ok to not place blame where it belongs...at those who exclude.
7:46 💛 It’s not your fault, Ruby! And it’s ok that it’s still painful! Hopefully you have someone to share these things in your life because holding it in will only make the mending process longer.
I love your videos Ruby i got a pumpkin productivity planner for my birhtday and i love it 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗❤️❤️❤️❤️
coude31 Im so glad you do!! ☺️💛
You are surch a inspiration for me!❤
More diary videos! I loved this so much!! 💜💜
I was bullied throughout school and even into high school. Then I was unfortunately with some of the same people in community college. In university I was again the target of random people ganging up on me, and conveniently got a rape threat when I stood up to one of my bullies. I was later mobbed at workplace. Needless to say, I came out of everything severely crippled and with c-PTSD. Unfortunately I have no financial means to seek therapy, and have been unemployed for almost two years because being around people really traumatizes me.
Why didn't you attend university which is far away from your community just to reduce the chance of meeting the same people?
Oh I love these types of videos! I kept a diary throughout secondary school but Do wish I’d done so in primary school! I think it could have helped me a lot do deal with things emotionally - year 5 was also difficult for me in terms of friends, largely due to my diabetes and it was also the first time I really began to struggle with eating (no one realised it at the time and weight loss was put down to my diabetes.)
I hope this is okay to say and please Ignore if not. I only say it because of something you mentioned toward the end, about reading books related to experiences. I noticed on your goodreads that you’ve put down a few books regarding anorexia. I admit that it did make me worry about you and if you’ve experienced anything similar. I also know that, while eating disorders absolutely do not discriminate, they can be particularly prevalent for people who struggle with perfectionism and I just wouldn’t forgive myself if I didn’t say something. Not wanting to assume anything, but simply say that you are a strong and beautiful soul inside and out - if you do struggle with any aspects of your mental health while at Uni please teach out. I speak as someone who had to suspend their Exeter English literature degree for two years to receive treatment for anorexia. The student health centre have some amazing people for all mental health support xx
OMG This is the first week i became your fans haha and i m also a university student
im so excited after watching your video!