I cry almost every night. Tonight it is because of the hopeful message here... Tears often tell me now, that things will be ok despite myself and my brokenness. God bless us all and this world 💜✝️👑🔥🇻🇦
Another excellent video! I've dealt with porn since middle school, and it has continued to plague me to this day. It was a way to get through stress and my growing phases. Now, it's a constant struggle with shame. Especially as I feel called to the priesthood and have gone to seminary - counseling has helped, but I know I must work as if it relied on me, and pray knowing it relies on God. Thank you, Matt, for your detox and for these videos. Extremely helpful.
Brother I very much connect and relate to you as well. Feel like I have a calling to the Priesthood but at least for me, I am not able to more actively and wholeheartedly pursue the application process and concrete discernment in this way because of my addiction to porn and related struggles. Shame, my beliefs in the many lies+half truths of the enemy, wounds, and more would be in addition to the previous sentence I shared. May Jesus, Mary, and Joseph bless us and be with us always in our journeys back home to Heaven where they are awaiting us.
6 days in to abstinence and I'm finding it challenging. I'm quite isolated and stressed due to having exams but I both feel good and bad. I'm finding i need to go out in public to prevent my self being triggered. I've found some behaviour modification has helped. The saying trigger outloud trick seems to work. I find that I also find myself needing to pray a bit more for God's help. Studying in the library as a pose to my own room also is helpful. I thank God for my fortune and for helping me.
@@thephotoandthestory I've been struggling myself as of late. I have good weeks and bad weeks, but at this time last year, I was straight up addicted. So, God is working!
@@abbykittle5058 Good for you. Let God work, I suppose. This particular issue was never a big cross for me - although I suppose it could have been. Substance abuse and compulsive behavior have been. But with this particular issue, asides from asking God's help, which is of course most important, on a practical level, I would suggest walking. Even if it is just up the block for a few minutes. Observe each moment, the feeling of movement. It has an effect of reorienting the mind. The mind and brain are dependent upon each other and changing a pattern of behaviors often involves a few little steps that short circuit the old and maladaptive pathways. Anyway, I hope that makes sense and helps. Will light a candle for you, sinful person that I am.
@@thephotoandthestory Thank you. Yeah, the weather has been pretty crappy lately here, so I haven't been able to walk for like the past two weeks. It's supposed to be getting better and I could probably walk today. But, being stuck inside has not been helpful. I also need community and I'm hoping to be involved in a group soon as talking in person with people is very helpful as well. Thanks again for the comment!
@@abbykittle5058 tell me about it! I live in the northeast. My wife and I were asking ourselves why we feel so down lately and she was looking out the window at the trash cans I'd placed on the curb. there's icy rain coming down. Just then we remembered...it's freaking January! Uggh. Good luck. Take care.
That is all very well but for most of my life I heard from the church that I am flawed from the beginning, that I am a sinner, that I am prideful, that I am destined for hell that I am being chastised. I am an alcoholic and have bipolar and have not had a great deal of support from the church. For that reason I left the Church over twenty years ago
Thank you for these helpful and encouraging videos. I feel constantly under attack by temptation whenever I'm out in public. It's exhausting to constantly be averting my gaze and policing my thoughts. When I'm already fatigued it's even harder. The lust builds up throughout the day and becomes so hard to resist when I get home.
Remember when Christ was sacrificing Himself on the Cross for our sins, He was meriting all we needed for Salvation, but it wasn’t enough, He desired to give us something more, though less in comparison to that Infinite Sacrifice; He gave us His Mother as well to be our Mother, Advocate and Mediatrix of His Grace, God truly desire our Salvation and seeks every excuse possible to Save us.
Poor Aesop Rock and his obstinacy “Our kind can not be redeemed I'm a cancer on the glamor, I can't with the me me me No anesthesia, surgeon with the signal jammer scrambling the feed Distributing the panacea free, all day There is no amount of our fathers That could remedy the black dog breathing down his collar”
This kind of stuff I just actually find totally unuseful. None of the problems (Self hate, etc.) apply to me at all. Am I the only one who struggles with this because it just feels good? Like am I the only one struggling against the flesh and not some sort of deep seating psychological or spiritual issue?
You are not the only one. I did it since I was 13, almost 14. I'm 28 now. Confessed to my wife last year after a whole night of sleeplessness due to being frightened of judgement day. Anyhows, I can confirm that even if there were times I used it to de-stress, in the main I did it because I am a red blooded male who likes curves and everything else. This last year of repentance I have found most materials, Christian or not focus a lot on this kind of "pain" in ones life, and it doesn't connect with me at all. I know that I did this for pure pleasure, and that therefore God is especially merciful to allow me a second chance.
@@roryhand6650 thanks for commenting. Its nice to have a comrade of sorts. My experience is the same except 11/32. While there are instances where I do it for one or another reason, like stress etc, overwhelmingly its pleasure and boredom. Thats it. And theres not really been anything actually helpful for dealing with that so far.
@@vasilias2230 well ive gotten up to several weeks, like 6 on average now. As for good habits the issue is whenever I have literally 5 minutes when I'm not doing something. Aside from keeping endlessly busy... Even then when I pray I often struggle hard core often to the point of fialure. As for feeling ashamed? My malformed conscience says no. I only feel ashamed because the Church says I should.
I cry almost every night. Tonight it is because of the hopeful message here... Tears often tell me now, that things will be ok despite myself and my brokenness.
God bless us all and this world
💜✝️👑🔥🇻🇦
Lord Jesus, remove me from me and let it be Thee that they see...
Take courage. Remember that you are the son of the King
0:02 The Paraclete
3:33 Humility - Acknowledgement
7:27 Don't Be Imprisoned By HALF-Truths
Another excellent video!
I've dealt with porn since middle school, and it has continued to plague me to this day. It was a way to get through stress and my growing phases. Now, it's a constant struggle with shame. Especially as I feel called to the priesthood and have gone to seminary - counseling has helped, but I know I must work as if it relied on me, and pray knowing it relies on God. Thank you, Matt, for your detox and for these videos. Extremely helpful.
Brother I very much connect and relate to you as well. Feel like I have a calling to the Priesthood but at least for me, I am not able to more actively and wholeheartedly pursue the application process and concrete discernment in this way because of my addiction to porn and related struggles. Shame, my beliefs in the many lies+half truths of the enemy, wounds, and more would be in addition to the previous sentence I shared.
May Jesus, Mary, and Joseph bless us and be with us always in our journeys back home to Heaven where they are awaiting us.
6 days in to abstinence and I'm finding it challenging. I'm quite isolated and stressed due to having exams but I both feel good and bad.
I'm finding i need to go out in public to prevent my self being triggered. I've found some behaviour modification has helped. The saying trigger outloud trick seems to work. I find that I also find myself needing to pray a bit more for God's help.
Studying in the library as a pose to my own room also is helpful.
I thank God for my fortune and for helping me.
Hope you are still hanging in. Its worth the fight to be free from this. Keep asking God for help. Even if you have stopped asking.
@@thephotoandthestory I've been struggling myself as of late. I have good weeks and bad weeks, but at this time last year, I was straight up addicted. So, God is working!
@@abbykittle5058 Good for you. Let God work, I suppose. This particular issue was never a big cross for me - although I suppose it could have been. Substance abuse and compulsive behavior have been. But with this particular issue, asides from asking God's help, which is of course most important, on a practical level, I would suggest walking. Even if it is just up the block for a few minutes. Observe each moment, the feeling of movement. It has an effect of reorienting the mind. The mind and brain are dependent upon each other and changing a pattern of behaviors often involves a few little steps that short circuit the old and maladaptive pathways. Anyway, I hope that makes sense and helps. Will light a candle for you, sinful person that I am.
@@thephotoandthestory Thank you. Yeah, the weather has been pretty crappy lately here, so I haven't been able to walk for like the past two weeks. It's supposed to be getting better and I could probably walk today. But, being stuck inside has not been helpful. I also need community and I'm hoping to be involved in a group soon as talking in person with people is very helpful as well. Thanks again for the comment!
@@abbykittle5058 tell me about it! I live in the northeast. My wife and I were asking ourselves why we feel so down lately and she was looking out the window at the trash cans I'd placed on the curb. there's icy rain coming down. Just then we remembered...it's freaking January! Uggh. Good luck. Take care.
struggling today, i ask for your prayers....I can't get around the web without falling
That is all very well but for most of my life I heard from the church that I am flawed from the beginning, that I am a sinner, that I am prideful, that I am destined for hell that I am being chastised. I am an alcoholic and have bipolar and have not had a great deal of support from the church. For that reason I left the Church over twenty years ago
Love Dr. Bob Schuchts!!!
Thank you Dr. Bob and Matt for this video.
Thank you for these helpful and encouraging videos. I feel constantly under attack by temptation whenever I'm out in public. It's exhausting to constantly be averting my gaze and policing my thoughts. When I'm already fatigued it's even harder. The lust builds up throughout the day and becomes so hard to resist when I get home.
Remember when Christ was sacrificing Himself on the Cross for our sins, He was meriting all we needed for Salvation, but it wasn’t enough, He desired to give us something more, though less in comparison to that Infinite Sacrifice; He gave us His Mother as well to be our Mother, Advocate and Mediatrix of His Grace, God truly desire our Salvation and seeks every excuse possible to Save us.
Poor Aesop Rock and his obstinacy
“Our kind can not be redeemed
I'm a cancer on the glamor, I can't with the me me me
No anesthesia, surgeon with the signal jammer scrambling the feed
Distributing the panacea free, all day
There is no amount of our fathers
That could remedy the black dog breathing down his collar”
This kind of stuff I just actually find totally unuseful. None of the problems (Self hate, etc.) apply to me at all. Am I the only one who struggles with this because it just feels good? Like am I the only one struggling against the flesh and not some sort of deep seating psychological or spiritual issue?
You are not the only one. I did it since I was 13, almost 14. I'm 28 now. Confessed to my wife last year after a whole night of sleeplessness due to being frightened of judgement day. Anyhows, I can confirm that even if there were times I used it to de-stress, in the main I did it because I am a red blooded male who likes curves and everything else. This last year of repentance I have found most materials, Christian or not focus a lot on this kind of "pain" in ones life, and it doesn't connect with me at all. I know that I did this for pure pleasure, and that therefore God is especially merciful to allow me a second chance.
@@roryhand6650 thanks for commenting. Its nice to have a comrade of sorts.
My experience is the same except 11/32. While there are instances where I do it for one or another reason, like stress etc, overwhelmingly its pleasure and boredom. Thats it. And theres not really been anything actually helpful for dealing with that so far.
How often do you fall? Also do you never feep ashamed/hate yourself after you fall?
Sounds like a basic lack of self-control.
You need to be growing your will power with good habits essentially. Do you have discord?
@@vasilias2230 well ive gotten up to several weeks, like 6 on average now.
As for good habits the issue is whenever I have literally 5 minutes when I'm not doing something.
Aside from keeping endlessly busy...
Even then when I pray I often struggle hard core often to the point of fialure.
As for feeling ashamed? My malformed conscience says no. I only feel ashamed because the Church says I should.