10 Facts That Will Make You Want to Quit P-rn FOREVER
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- Опубліковано 9 лют 2025
- Objectification and using others is always wrong. But sometimes it's also helpful to see the concrete negative effects p-rn can have on our lives and the lives of others. Matt shares ten quick facts about the real evil effects of pornography use.
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Matt Fradd, you have helped me build my armor with purity. I am so thankful for your ministry. I will take what you have taught and share it with those who are on that sad path. You inspired me to get a basic phone to protect against temptation, with all the perverse ads and access to filth in a smart phone. You also helped me confront the evil I became so comfortable with so many years ago. It's taken time but I am finally healing. Praise God and thank you for helping me open up to his grace. Mary and Joseph thank you for your intercession.
You keep plugging your book, "The Porn Myth", and for good reason: it is fantastic. A great wealth of information I will keep forever. It will be a great source when our children are older.
As a woman who's read erotica, I've struggled with wondering what's considered normal in the bedroom and what's expected of me in marriage. I'm single, but p orn has affected how I've thought of my potential wedding night.
Hey you, and me both.
Meh, "normal" is overrated. It's better to focus on making yourself a gift for your partner. Then it doesn't matter whether you're measuring up to an arbitrary standard.
As far as morality is concerned, you can make mistakes out of ignorance, but if you focus on making yourself a gift, you will be headed in the right direction. The little diversions from the straight-and-narrow path are easy to fix when you've got the main thing right.
@@josephbrandenburg4373 A woman who knows herself sexually, and who has an erotic imagination that she isn't afraid to entertain is a gift indeed.
@@josephbrandenburg4373 Or maybe don't make sex the focus of your relationship? You're not going to be "a gift" when you're 50 and sagging. Sex is an important part of a relationship but should never be the primary focus. Trying things other than what you implied is boring (normal) can easily be explored later in a relationship when the couple figures out what they like. Otherwise, the original comment should worry more about being able to sacrifice for their partner's needs and finding a partner who will do the same.
@@Eddy-ost you read a lot of stuff into my comment that wasn't there
Porn sucks. But holy crap is it ever addictive.
Thank you for being bold and shining a light on this scourge!
Please pray for me jason and for my godmother Diane and for all of our families and friends and neighbors for conversion and salvation and holiness and healing and for our journeys of faith...
Matt Fradd, what are your thoughts on these two mindsets: "I am quitting porn." vs. "I don't use porn."
This is used largely in smoking circles, especially a healthy mindset when confronted with friends that may be a temptation. Enter a group of smokers, and if they're not quite virtuous, they'll push a cigarette even if jokingly on someone "trying to quit". But they'll not push one on someone who doesn't smoke nearly as hard, if at all.
The mindset of being on a journey, "I'm quitting", or "I don't do it.", making the end goal the current situation, if just in desire.
We should do what makes us happy, fills our life with joy, and short term gratification with sex, drugs, and all manner of lawlessness is a great way to avoid that. If you want an empty life, make yourself numb by overstimulation, and drive people away by selfishness. If you want a full life, do the exact opposite. Deny yourself by discipline, and in selflessness draw people to you.
THANK YOU for this video!! 🙏 As a woman I'm more and more losing faith in men, just knowing how much sexual abuse they are watching and enjoying..... It makes me not feeling safe with men or even wanting to be with any man anymore.
Wow! What an amazing video!
Thank you very much!
0:55 hello- I am interested in this opinion, because it brushes against what I think is the number 1 problem in arguments against porn, that it's a very poorly defined term.
I don't know, from this statement, whether you think that only "hardcore" imagery is intrinsically evil, or if the imagery is only evil if the user intends to use it as pr0n (not, say, a scientist studying the mechanics of sexual function and disfunction). I don't know if you're saying it's intrinsically evil for people to make nude images or send them to each other, or if you draw the line at instagram modelling. I would assume you include certain artistic depictions but exclude others.
I would like for you to do a video about how you define the boundaries between "intrinsically evil" p3rn and stuff that isn't p₩rn at all. In particular, it's because i think that, without clear borders, it's hard to avoid it entirely.
I will anticipate and refute an objection: "you're just trying to find the line so you can get as close as possible" or "you're just making excuses so that you can exclude your favorite kind of softcore from the definition." That's not my goal, here, and even if it were, we still need a definition to work with, to find out which one of us is making excuses and which one is being a moral busybody. I'm not trying to stay on the other side of the line. I just want to know where it is so I can know when I've already crossed it or not!
-"You know when you've crossed it, you're in denial." Well, I don't know because the lines are all fuzzy and confusing. But even if I am, I'd like some clarity from someone who's not in denial. What harm is there in that?
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Hey Matt, could you please share your thoughts on the v0re fetish and whether it counts as p0rnography? I think it does count as a variant of p0rnography, even though it need not and often does not involve nudity or s3x.
I would say so. It is a very niche but radical expression of the submission/domination dichotomy. Depending on your tastes, it can very easily lead to nudity or even gore. Even if it is not explicitly about nudity, it is a wide open door to these things. Regardless, it is a sexual fantasy, and aesthetic differences do not exclude it from being pornography.
@@bruitbane2781 That's exactly what I was thinking! I was actually first exposed to v0re around the age of 11 on UA-cam during the early 2010s, and then to "normal" p0rn as a high school freshman during the SP2017 semester (specifically, it was sometime in the fourth quarter of the school year). Ironically, that was the same exact school year (2016-17) that I first got saved, after being bluntly told by my (third-party) driver, who was also a pastor at a local church, that (and I quote), "you can be as good as you want, but if you reject Jesus you're going to Hell."
I still occasionally look at p0rnography, but recently I have been earnestly praying against this sin in particular and against all sin in general. If you're a Brother in Christ, could you please pray for me? I don't have many friends, but they too are praying for me.
@@ChristianGunNut2001 Of course, and please pray likewise for me. My porn use has gone down immensely, but it's difficult to get through a month without a binge. Better than daily use, but it is still difficult. I've found St. Augustine's story and the Parable of the Prodigal Son being very good reads.
@@bruitbane2781 Thank you! I'll pray for you as well!
I think one thing people disregard is how it affects the self of who a person is and how they see themselves
I'm into BDSM type videos and I have really low self worth and I would like to be treated in that way
"Fight the new drug" unfortunately seems pretty woke on racial and "LGBT" matters.
So why can't you type in the word porn? Anyways; still fighting the struggle.
Some blocking apps block the word, like BlockerHero or BlockerX