How to Recover From a Sexual Fall

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  • @carryyourcross923
    @carryyourcross923 2 роки тому +141

    Always run to confession as soon as possible. Spending time in adoration. Giving myself a break from the duties of the day and listening to God's voice. Maybe take a ride, have a up of coffee and reflect. Usually I'll hear God say something like, "I love you. I love you so much that I want MORE for you and from you. I have such great plans for you and It hurts me to see sin in the way of that. Start again, I've given you the grace you need. I am with you, always."

  • @tjames6427
    @tjames6427 Рік тому +19

    I hate falling to temptation. I make good progress them boom late in the night I fall. I'm tired and it truly does wage a war on my soul. I need to hold myself accountable more. I forget that God is watching my every move but always come back out of my daze and sober up after the act and feel major grief. Sometimes I wish I didn't have internet or even a sex drive. I love Jesus with all my heart so the pain of falling is immense. I hope to achieve victory soon.

  • @sodaandfountainpenwriting7028
    @sodaandfountainpenwriting7028 2 роки тому +59

    I will say, even as a Protestant, I’m finding this channel immensely helpful. It’s good to read from real people with real stories. People who still struggle. God bless.

    • @abbykittle5058
      @abbykittle5058 2 роки тому

      Same!

    • @timcrna2980
      @timcrna2980 Рік тому +1

      I agree too. I am a conservative Presbyterian. This guy is the coolest Catholic I have ever heard. He really helps me! Are more Catholics talking about salvation by grace like this? I got his book called Deliverance. I highly recommend it. I am on my second read of it. The stories remind me of the stories in the AA book. Thank God and Jesus for you Matt!

    • @christophersalinas2722
      @christophersalinas2722 9 місяців тому

      @@marktodd1911Not sola fide at all. But we are saved by grace and you need faith for that

  • @CalebTheCatholicDoctor
    @CalebTheCatholicDoctor 2 роки тому +53

    What I do after I lapse with pornography is make myself sit down and prayerfully read the Mass readings for that day. I often find myself too ashamed initially to pray in my own words, and allowing myself to take in the words of Our Lord through Scripture cracks open that stony shell that has formed around my heart and conscience. I make an act of contrition and place my hand over my heart as I envision myself being embraced by Christ. I spend a few minutes talking honestly with Him about my thoughts and feelings, make a plan to go to Confession as soon as possible, ask Our Lady and St. Joseph to be with me, get something to eat, wash my face, and text my best friend or my spiritual director. Getting counseling, going to the gym regularly, journaling, making myself talk to the people around me, and setting aside time to cultivate my hobbies have also helped immensely.

  • @logankrecic496
    @logankrecic496 2 роки тому +57

    I literally am right back to we’re i started, I had confession Saturday, a wonder advent mass today, yet I still fell this evening.
    I’m struggling with pornography of a maternal nature, I was neglected by my addict mother.
    Please pray for me

    • @exerciserelax8719
      @exerciserelax8719 2 роки тому +16

      I'm in a similar situation. Just went to confession less than a week ago, tried to fight the battle this week but I gave in to the images that were assaulting my imagination. It's hard not to lose hope. I'm praying for you, would be grateful for your prayers too.

    • @childofgod6706
      @childofgod6706 Рік тому +3

      I have to go to confession asap I've been clean for almost 4 months and have just half fallen it feels so horrible in the midst of the shame I don't want to be writing this I just want to isolate myself from everything .

    • @abbykittle5058
      @abbykittle5058 Рік тому +1

      Wow. I'm praying for all of you. It's so hard as someone else who has struggled with it and still not quite out of the fight yet myself. All of you are so very loved by Jesus and He is patient with us. I'm praying that His grace be very evident and felt by you all today.

    • @jordansauer1678
      @jordansauer1678 12 днів тому

      You’re not alone homie

  • @gavinadams4572
    @gavinadams4572 Рік тому +14

    I was under continual temptation yesterday where i would go to click on the site then pull back and repent,this happened 3 times throughout the day,at the end of the night i eventually gave in,now im under Gods chastening and have an empty squirming feeling in my stomach,but then i looked out the window and there was a rainbow.

    • @armontimuzic6785
      @armontimuzic6785 5 місяців тому +2

      I started the act but then closed the app and didn’t finish I thank the lord for his grace

    • @JohnathonRoberts-py8nq
      @JohnathonRoberts-py8nq 2 місяці тому

      ​@@armontimuzic6785I have done that

  • @robertdelgadocapetillo8684
    @robertdelgadocapetillo8684 2 роки тому +18

    I was introduced to porn at the early age 6, from an x "friend", he's dead now. But because of him I got exposed to porn. At first I had quit porn for a while, but during my teen years it came back. Now I'm trying to let go of this vice at the age of 33.

    • @WindyBritches
      @WindyBritches 4 місяці тому

      I would guess you’re not going to be able to let the vice go until you start taking responsibility. “Though my fault, through my fault, through my most grievous fault” not anyone else’s.

  • @timmichael7982
    @timmichael7982 2 роки тому +23

    I'm here at 1am bc I just fell and keep falling. Yet I want to follow Christ.

    • @logankrecic496
      @logankrecic496 2 роки тому +4

      I’ll pray for you I fell recently too, read Joshua 1:9

    • @sethball1319
      @sethball1319 Рік тому +1

      I will pray for you as well. If you feel tempted, try praying. It has helped me immensely. But it may take time and it will still be a challenge. God bless you Tim.

  • @sacredheart7965
    @sacredheart7965 2 роки тому +7

    In my teens and early 20's, I'd be indulging over 30x a week!
    Now in my early 40's and tend to slip up once or twice a month.
    Still not happy with that, but thank God that it has lost so much of its power over me.

  • @nolancavanaugh406
    @nolancavanaugh406 Рік тому +5

    I’ve been battling this vial stuff for years. I’m weak & I always seem to drop in the first or second round. I always find ways to cheat & to cover it up with it’s okay I got confession. Please pray for me brothers & sisters of Christ

  • @jonahsorensen9009
    @jonahsorensen9009 2 роки тому +13

    This is by far my favorite video you’ve done. So truthful and loving, thank you! By the grace of God I have been free from viewing pornography for nearly five years. Recently, I have felt difficult temptation to fall back in. It just reminds me that as far as ive gone, the Lord is the only reason I could be okay now. And I think it’s extremely important not to be too hard on yourself as you walk with this temptation in your life. Look at yourself and say “you’ve got this! It’s okay.” I also love to replace the bad energy that accumulates from sexual sin with something that I love, like drawing. Physically get up and walk away from these thoughts, and go do something that brings you honest joy. My prayers are with anyone who struggles with this, it’s a horrible burden that we all bare. But the function of a Christian is to be arduous, to never give in. And I think that makes us pretty badass. God bless.

  • @Dupstan
    @Dupstan 2 роки тому +8

    Something that restores me after a fall is really just forgiveness. I had a bad habit of sulking in my own despair after a fall and that would lead me to more falls inevitably. Eventually i realized that i cant be so hard on male and to really just tell mussels that it's okay to fall but it isn't okay to never get back up. How many times did Jesus stumble, only to be crucified for our sins. It really puts it im perspective after that thought. Jesus was brutally beaten and tortured, only to be killed and im over here crying about masturbation that I did to myself. The key here is that Jesus resurrected, and likewise I will recover and hopefully not fall again if not for another long while.
    Another tip i keep in mind is that your brain is mostly restored from the chemical dump in your brain from porn and masturbation after three days. So if its really bad, I give myself three days before doing it again, but by the third day I have no interest in doing it again.
    Again its okay yo fall, it isn't okay to never get back up. Yall got this.

  • @cf_1204
    @cf_1204 5 місяців тому +1

    I was tempted for the most of today and I gave in. Just got out of confession, thanks be to God, and I know the Lord’s love is stronger than any temptation. Thank you, Matt for this channel. You and Christopher West have both given me many insights. When I’m weak, I am made strong.

  • @jonpaul4787
    @jonpaul4787 2 роки тому +8

    Thank you Matt. Understanding Grace and Mercy as it is in the Bible has helped me when I beat myself up over sin. God bless you and your family.

  • @racheljames7
    @racheljames7 2 роки тому +5

    What beautiful words of wisdom. Matt, you are like a big brother to us all.

  • @leoromero2330
    @leoromero2330 2 роки тому +7

    What has been helpful for me after falling to a shameful sin: Praying the Chaplet of Divine Mercy. Doing so with sincere contrition and a firm desire to become better has really been a game changer. I am always left with a deep sense of inner peace and renewed sense of confidence and trust in God’s readiness to heal us and transform us after praying it. Remember, Jesus is closer than we think in times of temptation, in the battles where I have successfully said no to temptation it was only after invoking the name of Jesus with something along the lines of “Jesus, I wish to love you as much as you love me, so help me use this temptation to demonstrate my love for you by saying no”.

    • @emmalager289
      @emmalager289 2 роки тому

      Ooo! Divine Mercy Chaplet, great idea!!!

  • @Jcoch_27
    @Jcoch_27 Рік тому +1

    The greatest times of restoration have constantly been marked by God's word and fellowship with His people. Essentially, anything that re-opens my eyes to his goodness and grace in the gospel.

  • @candelario4288
    @candelario4288 2 роки тому +1

    What helps me is weeping from the heart and a sacramental confession.

  • @thesweuteen
    @thesweuteen Рік тому

    I'm a recent convert to the Catholic Church, and my RCIA director at my parish is also a newly ordained deacon (and also a convert himself). We had an instant connection because of our evangelical past and our conversion to the true Church of our Lord. When I revealed to him that I struggle with masturbation, he lived out Galatians 6. He told me he wouldn't condemn me, that he loves me, and he found a way for me to go to confession. He's done that twice now, and he consistently reminds me that he loves me as our Lord loves us. It's just beautiful.

  • @claripino1878
    @claripino1878 2 роки тому +3

    I really love this-thanks Matt! I’m pretty good about not beating myself up too harshly after falling… and I usually run to confession ASAP. I started some accountability groups and will definitely be sharing this with all of them.

  • @emmalager289
    @emmalager289 2 роки тому +2

    Recently I learned that after a fall, praying with the story of St. Mary Magdalene is a great place to start! Then, if you can, find a few people who can pray over you for the love of the Father to be apparent to you ❤

  • @KnowledgeDiver
    @KnowledgeDiver 2 роки тому +5

    Thank you very much for sharing Matt. God bless you

  • @marniacoyo556
    @marniacoyo556 7 місяців тому

    Watching Matt’s videos and blessed is she helps me a lot when I fall and can’t speak words of hope to myself, they encourage me to come back to God, reminding me of His goodness

  • @chrisperez1685
    @chrisperez1685 2 роки тому +2

    Needed this. Perfect timing. Bendiciones

  • @marceloson
    @marceloson 2 роки тому +1

    I needed this channel

  • @danielnovak4284
    @danielnovak4284 7 місяців тому

    Thanks so much for sharing this! I'll try to apply what you've said here. God bless you! Peace be with you!

  • @cornfedtuber
    @cornfedtuber 2 роки тому +1

    I love the words of St Maximilian Kolbes one of the ultimate marian promoters: day 5 of St. Maximilian Kolbe’s Nine-Day Preparation for Total Consecration to the
    Blessed Mother The Words of St. Maximilian
    (Journal reflection: “The Immaculate is Yours-You are Hers,” August 1940)
    You are hers, so let yourself be guided by the Immaculata.
    1. Feel sure that she permits whatever does not depend on your will for your own good, even if
    it arises from another evil will. She is the one who wants this to happen to you.
    2. Meet a difficulty: a) by not paying attention to it as long as it neither helps nor hinders you in
    achieving your aim of drawing closer to her, of loving her, Jesus, and the Father, b) by making
    use of this circumstance-going along with it-if it can help you, or c) by opposing it, if it is an
    impediment to you. She wants you to act in this way.
    3. In what religious obedience prescribes, her will, that of her Son, and that of the Father is
    obvious. Hence it must be infinitely wise, prudent, powerful and good, even if by the light of
    your reason you are not able to realize this, since your mind is limited and fallible.
    4. By putting her will into practice you show genuine, substantial love for her, for Jesus and for
    the Father. You become holy.
    5. Whatever the Father wills, the Son and the Holy Spirit will likewise. Jesus and the
    Immaculata will it, too; their wills never contradict each other.
    6. In those matters where neither necessity nor obedience decides, act as you wish, seeking to
    please her. “Love, and do what you will,” as St. Augustine said.
    7. Keep your conscience pure; be careful not to fall. But if you do fall, hasten to rise again.
    8. She will keep you from falling if you place your trust in her, not relying at all on yourself-if
    you do on your part what you can, not to fall, with her help.
    9. The reason for a fall is over-confidence in one’s own strength. The truth is that by ourselves
    we are nothing and can do nothing. Without her, the Mediatrix of Grace, we cannot keep from
    falling.
    10. If you do fall, offer yourself to her right away, with the whole sorry business of your fall,
    and beg for pardon. “Dearest ‘Mom,’ pardon me, and ask Jesus to pardon me, too.” Try to
    perform your next action in such a way as to give the greatest possible joy to her and to Jesus.
    Be sure that this act of love will completely wipe out your fault. In your next confession accuse
    yourself of that fault-but she, Jesus and the Father will already have forgotten it.
    11. Love with your whole being, your whole will, your whole heart. But if you feel yourself dry
    and cannot elicit feelings of love, do not be concerned; this does not belong to the essence of
    love. If your will desires only to accomplish her will, be at peace, for you truly love her, Jesus
    and the Father. Number 10 especially gives me hope referring to her as ''dearest mom'' wow powerful there is a prayer you can say if you fall into sin that is short and sweet .This is from a 1941 armed forces missal I found in a antique store : Crusade for purity: By Thine Immaculate Conception O Mary, make my body pure and my soul holy. Three times followed each by a Hail Mary 300 days Indulgence

  • @TraditionalHippie
    @TraditionalHippie 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you Matt. My x-wife caught me. Needless say say she wasn’t and still is not gentle. Dr. Doug Weiss is helping me understand why

  • @thepaxtribe6942
    @thepaxtribe6942 Рік тому

    Your going to a whole new level bro. Thank you so much.

  • @ElCubanoBlanco-s5u
    @ElCubanoBlanco-s5u 3 місяці тому

    We need to start thinking of our kids instead of ourselves. Do we want our children to be exposed to the evil stuff we were exposed to in the early days of the internet? Imagining my 5 year old stumbling upon porn or violent or demonic content in a few years sends chills up my spine. Most of our parents had no idea what was on the internet. We do. We HAVE to do better.

  • @nicoleyoshihara4011
    @nicoleyoshihara4011 Рік тому +1

    Matt God Bless you your ministries!You're doing amazing works! ^_^🙏💯❤

  • @markahearne3280
    @markahearne3280 4 місяці тому

    I need the right people to be around. I wish I could bluntly talk to my dad and brother about this stuff

  • @JesseRickett
    @JesseRickett Рік тому

    This is so helpful. Thank you and God bless you!

  • @2J9992
    @2J9992 6 місяців тому

    And it's true that humans are like sheep we wander off when we sin in darkness, the temptations are struggles of our flesh and spirit.

  • @Tvoj_Prijatelj_Vili
    @Tvoj_Prijatelj_Vili 2 роки тому +1

    Amazing video Matt! Thank you so much for it, really found it insightful and helpful! It was a pick-me-up video.
    What is the "thing" that helps me after a relapse, a fall?
    It is admiting that I shouldn't have done this and asking God forgivness and repenting out of true meaning and heart (ofcourse confession!).
    What is usually a problem with me, is that I would always and mostly judge myself. I would start getting into the loop of legalism and condemning myself with despair of the evil and sinful deed I have done. Just like you explained it in the video.
    I often imagine how does that constant loop of legalism looks like and it's something like this:
    When we fall into mortal sin, sexual in this topic, we (as Paul says are like the pigs in the mud or a dog eating his own vomit) are throwing ourselves into the mud and we stain our own white robes that Jesus gave us on the day of our baptism. We stain and brake every link we had with Him. We spit on the very goodness of Christ, His sacrifice etc. That is the result of the deed we have done. That is the mud that we have fallen into and got ourselves dirty.
    However when we "spit" like that on Jesus, when we do such horrible and despicable sins He is not far away! Just on the contrary, He is ALWAYS there, right next to us with an open palm and a stretched hand, leaned over so we can grab that hand so He can pick us up, dust/clean us of and continue with Him this time, more closely than before. However when we are only condemning and judging ourselves we are doing nothing, but letting the devil, still, holding his stretched hand on top of us and making us stay in the mud, making us think how we no longer can't receive Christ's love and how we stopped being His children. The devil is the one who, by holding us in the mud, is pulling our focus and eyes from Jesus. That is how the devil keeps us in the pit of despair, in the vomit of sin and depression. That is how the devil makes you return to sinning even more because when you get on the path of despair, eventually, you lose hope and when there is no hope there is no reason to fight (or flee in this case) from any sin. That is how I imagine it when I put myself before Christ and fall into legalism. That is what was happening with me.
    Today things are different because by listening to your videos (this channel and PWA), by reading the Bible (specially Psalms (34, 51 etc.) and the Gospel of John), praying to God, confession and Holy Mass is how I open myself to God, His grace, mercy and most importantly (in the case of legalism, for me) joy and love. By doing this stuff I receive Him and He restores me (reminds me) as His child. That way I can put the armor of God (Eph 6, 10-18) and cloth myslef with the power from on High (Lk 24, 49). I strongly belive from my experience that it is the Joy of the Lord, the Joy of Salvation and Redemption, the Joy of knowing that you are a child of God is what will keep us away from porn and specially out of despair and any other sin for that matter. (John 10, 10; 15, 11)
    God bless everyone, sorry for the long read.

  • @aogposton
    @aogposton 2 роки тому

    Thank you Matt. God Bless.

  • @LJPB7146
    @LJPB7146 3 місяці тому

    A friend who restores in gentleness is difficult to find - even in the church. An accountability partner is invaluable to a Christian.

  • @exerciserelax8719
    @exerciserelax8719 2 роки тому +2

    I struggle with believing I have anything to look forward to. I'm not attracted to women so I'll never have a wife or kids. I struggle with mental/physical health problems. The world often looks dark. I try to keep in mind that God promises us a future in heaven better than anything this world can provide but that can seem very far off. The sexual acting out can seem like at least a little comfort or escape, even though I know it doesn't last. I pray that God can give me hope for this life as well as the next and free me from these chains of sexual addiction.

    • @Peter.4
      @Peter.4 2 роки тому +4

      God bless you.. I'll keep you in my prayers. Its not easy but keep fighting. You're not alone.

    • @exerciserelax8719
      @exerciserelax8719 2 роки тому

      @@Peter.4 Thank you 🙏

  • @extemevally665
    @extemevally665 2 роки тому +1

    Amen brother

  • @mikebrooks9683
    @mikebrooks9683 Рік тому +1

    What has been the only answer for me is confession! A good Priest, and most importantly the daily Rosary!🙏🙏

  • @Baraodojaguary
    @Baraodojaguary Рік тому

    I ve just fallen 4 times that week i need to go to confession i have my last week was exausting i had 9 teatre plays in 4 days than after that was immaculate conception day wich is also my birthday then the preparations for my birthday party and after the party i had insomnia and fell becase of lack of prayer and insomnia

  • @cristinavetsch3468
    @cristinavetsch3468 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you for your candidness, Matt. We must love God more

  • @Hadrianus01
    @Hadrianus01 2 роки тому +1

    After falling, should we go to Confession before receiving Holy Communion? Given our particular weakness, are all sexual falls considered mortal sins? I've asked around and I get mixed answers.

  • @luanderson.ferreira
    @luanderson.ferreira 6 місяців тому

    I've been falling constantly after 8 months of sobriety

  • @thomasnewton7353
    @thomasnewton7353 3 місяці тому

    Sheesh, this video was #1 in my UA-cam recommendations right after I just busted one. Kinda scary the algorithm knows me so well, but praise Jesus

  • @Huck110
    @Huck110 Рік тому +2

    Psalm 23 is an amazing verse and its one I want to start reading everyday, Seeking the Lords forgiveness and his Grace. Reading the Bible everyday has helped me stay away from it, but recently I stumbled and it sucks but God is showing me that I still have a long way to go on this journey, I just need to trust in Jesus!

  • @Thebirdword82
    @Thebirdword82 10 місяців тому

    even though when we are first tempted and we dont give in the first time ive been able to endure it the first time i like to think of them as waves i endure the first wave but i give in during the second what could you say to that

  • @melodykubiak5850
    @melodykubiak5850 2 роки тому +1

    I am looking for an answer to the question of whether sex addiction can be cured or just managed.

    • @josephbrandenburg4373
      @josephbrandenburg4373 2 роки тому +1

      You will find the answer over at Theology of the Body Institute's channel
      Listening to Dr. Christopher West talk about what the Bible has to say about our bodies will change your life. God bless.

  • @jackieparker6297
    @jackieparker6297 Рік тому

    Y’all are absolutely crushing the hearts and souls of your wives. I’ve been going through hell for a year because if this childish weak crap. It’s not a joke. Stop!

  • @Thedude4723...
    @Thedude4723... Рік тому

    If im bisexual can faith make me straight?

    • @Motivational_Media.
      @Motivational_Media. 4 місяці тому

      Yes you are made in God’s image and surely u weren’t born bisexual ask God to help you because those who are engaging in homosexuality acts are really just confused

    • @amyschlegel1180
      @amyschlegel1180 4 місяці тому

      I don’t know if Faith can or needs to make you straight, but Faith can definitely help you remain chaste, and you need to practice chastity in accordance with your state in life in order to be saved!

  • @papadan3
    @papadan3 Рік тому

    I find it difficult

  • @candelario4288
    @candelario4288 2 роки тому +1

    Maybe you should have Ye on Pints with Aquinas….

  • @mosescola4174
    @mosescola4174 Рік тому

    Escape the Matrix for it isn’t real.

  • @grunt12394
    @grunt12394 6 місяців тому

    Go to SA and stop listening to chastity talks that give generic and stupid advice.

  • @frederickanderson1860
    @frederickanderson1860 2 роки тому

    Is this for the unregenerated man which is obvious,or so called ordained priests in the holy orders and the child who learns to trust their priests whom they call father. And the church authorities cover it up and pay out compensation out of court. You not thinking like a human being, many have their own reasons for their actions. Jesus knew why,the Pharisees not so.

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    @ThanksHermione 2 роки тому +1

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  • @shayleedarwin6559
    @shayleedarwin6559 2 роки тому

    Great share!!! Promotion that works = "promosm"!