This guy has more knowledge than any therapist I have met or worked with. He knowledge is incredible. Feels like he has a spy cam on all complex trauma kids lol 😂❤
‘Complex Trauma doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve had an awful life’ What a strong start!! I spent 30+ years not unpacking my CPTSD because I assumed I couldn’t have it as someone who had a ‘blessed childhood’ and ‘stable, loving family’. Now that people like Tim Fletcher are out here explaining CPTSD in detail I can finally start healing ❤
@alexxx4434 that reminds me that, for example, there's a lot less casual animal cruelty these days, because far fewer people are traumatised. E.g. traditions of throwing cats off churches across Europe
I've been listening to soany of these talks and they're so helpful thank you. I have to say, it's so much better when you can hear the audience response. To hear their laughter at times, that we can see the humour and ridiculousness in the sad situations/self sabotaging behaviours😅😢 mitigates the heaviness of the subject matter
These video's have been an amazing blissing for me. I now have a big picture of my Trauma and life, and he puts it language i can understand.. This helps greatly in my on going healing. I now can see how ridiculous my thinking pattern and behavior has been in the past. And how i have hurt people. Lots of tears after these realization set in. Witch i so needed to release my pain. Not sure why people we're laughing in the audience. maybe they see themselves in what he is saying, like i did. For if i knew better then, i would have been able to do better. It's now horribly sad that i have lived that way most if my life. I Believe Trauma is a annihilation, of ones mind, will, and emotions. The Soul. My Soul was in bondage to my childhood programing now, learning, knowing the truth really is sitting me free one day at time. Thank you for the free video. And my Christ bliss you in your continued work setting people free of mental Bondage...
So true! Wish I had learned all of this when I was young enough to have done something about it. I guess having the knowledge now is still a sort of blessing in that I can let go of some of the blame/guilt. ❤
Tim They are going to mention your name in the same conversation as Sigmund, Freud and Carl Jung. I honestly think you blow them away, but without them, you might not know what you know now.
Omg, God Bless You! You have helped me so much in realizing what it is that is wrong with me all thess years. I've been so confused, conflicted, empty, alone. 😪
It is really eye opening. Very curious about something. I hope you won’t mind me asking you the following question. A year on, have you been able to make a difference in your life where relationships are concerned ?
So... When my parents divorced at age 7, I didn't see either one of my parents for a year. Went to live with relatives, shuffled around. Didn't see my mom and brother for 5 years. Never had that intimate bond with either parent. I'm 46 now, and I've never had a girlfriend longer than a few months
If only you would help people to understand that when you say "danger", "hurt" and "safety" you don't just mean from physical/sexual harm. All of my trauma is from psychological and emotional abuse and many people like me readily dismiss CPTSD because their trauma was not physical/emotional. I believe every time you use the terms, danger, hurt, and safety you should mention "from all types of trauma". I have shared you videos with people who dismiss them because of this.
Neglect and emotional pain is often even worse in it's impact. The brain processes both physical and nonphysical pain in the same area. Pete Walker talks about this issue in his book. Something else: When you start your healing journey do not expect ANY support by your family. Do it for yourself. Because you can really boycott yourself on your journey and be re- traumatized by their reactions.
Thanks for the series. I only have an issue with 12 step meetings. It's proven to be bad for PTSD in some. I found it awfull and tried it many many times over 3 decades. I was very relieved when the article came out that it could be bad for the malady. In my experience many that "make it" turn into narcissistic control freaks. The steps themselves triggered me. Making amends to my father who was neglectful and domineering sent me into a 2 month emotional flashback. I got another sponsor and she told me I had to redo that amends.the last meeting I went to the lady I met there MADE me sit with her female click people and looked pissed off if I smiled or laughed. I will NEVER EVER GO BACK TO QUACKAHOLICS ANONYMOUS. And those are just a few stories I experienced. There are dozens more. Hanging out with dysfunctional sober people is NO ANSWER.
I know a "recovered alcoholic" of 19 years who uses his (questionable) sobriety at AA and on dating sites etc. to exploit, use and take advantage of vulnerable women and men. I say questionable b/c sobriety is suppose to be based on truth/honesty and he uses hydrocodone (a narcotic) for pain medication on an old foot injury from many years ago. Turns out, he was diagnosed clinically as a sex addict. He intentionally causes pain, suffering and harm to others unbeknownst to his victims of supply until it is eventually discovered and only what is discovered is eventually partially disclosed and owned, if ever. He's in his 60's and a complete fraud. He traded one addiction for another. He shows no remorse, empathy or change. The way he does this is he always comes up with a way to bring up how long he's been sober, that that he's a sponsor etc. He's really unsafe and in no position to sponsor others. There is no leadership or protection from the countless predators and wolves dressed in sheeps clothing within these 12 step groups that many of the vulnerable attend to get help or are forced to attend via court order. Look at character and behavior. Never have blind trust. Don't ignore red flags. Protect your health and safety. Enforce boundaries. Justice matters.
I’m so sorry you had such a negative experience. I’ve been an Al-Anon member for 15 years and visited many different meetings. Some meetings do not have healthy people attending and they can create more problems as they are not truly following the program as it was intended.
I am raped I am tortured I am tormented I am haunted I am terrorized and terrified and desperately panicked. I can't breathe I don't breathe I am paralyzed with trauma. I want to die. I pray to die. I'm in hell with no escape. my soul is raped. I AM DYING OF EMOTIONAL PAIN. THE GRIEF AND TERROR ARE ALL-CONSUMING. the darkness. the despair. the rage. THE PANIC. OH. MY. GOD. THE. PANIC!!! the person whom I thought was my best friend discarded me like garbage. replaced me with another. I desperately want to escape the pain that I'm in: debilitating paralyzing all-consuming hyperventilating panic and grief... the guy I called my best friend, ended up raping me. he violently brutally viciously maliciously raped my soul. abandoned and betrayed me. and now I don't breathe. CAN'T BREATHE. I'M IN HELL. last year (2022) he ruined christmas-time for me, and now he's ruined my winter and spring, and now we're headed into summer... and I'm dying inside. I'm desperately trying to remember this: ✨💖✨ I was created from all light, for I am light, I fear no darkness. for being light, I can see beyond darkness 💫
You need to talk about the victims that are entangled is this web of deceit. Their motive is sex and like a hampster on a wheel they continue too hurt people who want true love.
Have you covered complex Trauma of abandoned babies? Much of your content can be applied, but I'm finding it's just not hitting all the points. I was abandoned, thus my knowledge on this topic. In this scenario, to also include sibling and parent who think of the child as less than, due to they weren't wanted by their birth parents. Top it off by being raped by a sibling and thus my emotional age is 8, when I'm 62. A lifetime of compartmentalizing emotions has been exhausting. Thnx
SM and texting. Something very strange has happened there. People are getting into these long-distance "relationships" too fast, too easy. You know i was nearing TWO years with a man i fell in love with online. TWO YEARS IN!!!!!! When surprise surprise i caught him lieing about where he lived!!!! He was lieing about what State he was in! Why? Pfft...Who knows. That was just one of a quite a few lies he had told/was telling that came ro my attention. These social apps are crawling with some VERY unscrupulous characters. I still cant believe how fooled i was by him! Smh at my own stupidity. Sigh.... Live n Learn right?
My mum used shaming religious judgemental of identity, emotions and needs terror by shaming condemnation and say love and sex and even joy and relationship and pleasure was a road to hell to intrude overwhelm me w cptds when I was very small. invaded my space and lot of emotional incest w religious judgemental shaming punish and abandon , not allow free choice, freedom of personal boundaries or personal experience. I am 46 and seek therapy for ptds ,cptds is not understood really - fight this emotional intimacy - seen a deacon for lot of renewed abuse from church and f**** up people connected to Spiritual trauma. Im grateful to God and a deacon specialized w cults . The biggest attack on free will, trust , need of nurture and intimacy was stolen, killed and destroyed in name of God. I hope lot of people w religious trauma is getting out. As narcissistic abuse w God is corrupt lot of children and peoples sexuality from betray peoples free choice w subtle mixed message on needs and emotional needs exchanged w psuedo intimacy and Spiritual addiction/ Cptds.
I’ve listened to so many videos on complex trauma, and they all mentioned childhood as where it originated. Do you think it’s possible to develop complex trauma in your early 20s? I asked that because I feel like that’s where my complex trauma started. And I have not found a video that explains that it can happen later in life.
The audience is laughing at times but this isn't funny. These are real things affecting people everyday. This talk is great other than the laughter and unnecessary prayer at the end.
I’ve listened to so many videos on complex trauma, and they all mentioned childhood as where it originated. Do you think it’s possible to develop complex trauma in your early 20s? I asked that because I feel like that’s where my complex trauma started. And I have not found a video that explains that it can happen later in life.
this is such important information, so many therapists seemed to of missed this memo.
So freaking true. We need to use these finds to create a whole new system of healing.
yes, they are.
Money stops them from healing clients maybe
Most therapists are emotionally retarded narcissists that have no idea what they are doing they just get off on the power trip and 🤑.
This guy has more knowledge than any therapist I have met or worked with. He knowledge is incredible. Feels like he has a spy cam on all complex trauma kids lol 😂❤
These lectures are spot on. I've learned so much.
Me too! I don't know how this guy isn't well known? He should be awarded for his work, he's brilliant!
@@maryc4463 angel is angel, he helps from God, obviously, don't need awards or titles.
Who is this guy & why doesn't he have a name? 😕
HES BRILLIANT
His name is Tim Fletcher
Love this guy. He’s putting an explanation to all my trauma
Is this u
I need help
@@TimFletcher you are so humble.
You are a life changer. Thank you again, Sir.
Brilliant. Thank you very much for recording and sharing these lectures on complex trauma online.
Bro how u r now I am abused I dont know what to do
Yes, I'm in therapy now with a new therapist while trying to self educate and Tim Fletcher has changed my life
Just wanted to comment that you are amazing! God bless you.
‘Complex Trauma doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve had an awful life’
What a strong start!! I spent 30+ years not unpacking my CPTSD because I assumed I couldn’t have it as someone who had a ‘blessed childhood’ and ‘stable, loving family’. Now that people like Tim Fletcher are out here explaining CPTSD in detail I can finally start healing ❤
Doesn't help that the 'common wisdom' is that you can mistreat children here and there and it will go unnoticed, because 'children are resilient'.
@alexxx4434 that reminds me that, for example, there's a lot less casual animal cruelty these days, because far fewer people are traumatised. E.g. traditions of throwing cats off churches across Europe
I just love how much depth and detail Tim goes into. This information is life changing for me. Thank you Tim!!!
I've been listening to soany of these talks and they're so helpful thank you. I have to say, it's so much better when you can hear the audience response. To hear their laughter at times, that we can see the humour and ridiculousness in the sad situations/self sabotaging behaviours😅😢 mitigates the heaviness of the subject matter
The problem is that nobody is interested in who you are. Only into what they can get from you.
😔
This is so spot on, I’m so glad I found this
10:54 is IMPERATIVE in our UNDERSTANDING
These video's have been an amazing blissing for me. I now have a big picture of my Trauma and life, and he puts it language i can understand..
This helps greatly in my on going healing. I now can see how ridiculous my thinking pattern and behavior has been in the past. And how i have hurt people. Lots of tears after these realization set in. Witch i so needed
to release my pain.
Not sure why people we're laughing in the audience. maybe they see themselves in what he is saying, like i did.
For if i knew better then, i would have been able to do better. It's now horribly sad that i have lived that way most if my life.
I Believe Trauma is a annihilation, of ones mind, will, and emotions. The Soul.
My Soul was in bondage to my childhood programing now, learning, knowing the truth really is sitting me free one day at time. Thank you for the free video. And my Christ bliss you in your continued work setting people free of mental Bondage...
me too , extremely Painful and SADNESS
Beautifully said ❤
So true! Wish I had learned all of this when I was young enough to have done something about it. I guess having the knowledge now is still a sort of blessing in that I can let go of some of the blame/guilt. ❤
Tim They are going to mention your name in the same conversation as Sigmund, Freud and Carl Jung. I honestly think you blow them away, but without them, you might not know what you know now.
No thought is new. We just recycle them. 💖 It's depth psychology. Cptsd was called many names bfore.
These videos really unpack the invidious nature of complex trauma.
I get triggered by these but I'm glad he put this info out because so many people now are dealing with these issues.
Omg, God Bless You! You have helped me so much in realizing what it is that is wrong with me all thess years. I've been so confused, conflicted, empty, alone. 😪
It is really eye opening. Very curious about something. I hope you won’t mind me asking you the following question. A year on, have you been able to make a difference in your life where relationships are concerned ?
You are not alone, Angie. Same here.
Ditto
Appreciate these talks.
My parents are very abusive
My teacher abused me
And no one believes me
So... When my parents divorced at age 7, I didn't see either one of my parents for a year. Went to live with relatives, shuffled around. Didn't see my mom and brother for 5 years. Never had that intimate bond with either parent. I'm 46 now, and I've never had a girlfriend longer than a few months
Love & acceptt yourself. You have value, & gifts to share. Bless YOU
Darth Phaser Im sorry to hear that. Have you ever sought therapy? PM me if you’d like to chat.
Darth Phaser Im thinking to start a group where we can help each other. PM me of you’d like.
I am sorry Darth, I hope you get to have a healthy relationship with a woman ..Peace be with you
I am so sorry this happened to you, i lost my parents when i was 5 and i really understand how you feel.
This guy is a fucking genius
Do u have PTSD
This guy is giving precious info ... Thank you sir
If only you would help people to understand that when you say "danger", "hurt" and "safety" you don't just mean from physical/sexual harm. All of my trauma is from psychological and emotional abuse and many people like me readily dismiss CPTSD because their trauma was not physical/emotional. I believe every time you use the terms, danger, hurt, and safety you should mention "from all types of trauma". I have shared you videos with people who dismiss them because of this.
Neglect and emotional pain is often even worse in it's impact. The brain processes both physical and nonphysical pain in the same area.
Pete Walker talks about this issue in his book.
Something else: When you start your healing journey do not expect ANY support by your family. Do it for yourself. Because you can really boycott yourself on your journey and be re- traumatized by their reactions.
My god sir you need to write a book!!
Thanks for the series. I only have an issue with 12 step meetings. It's proven to be bad for PTSD in some. I found it awfull and tried it many many times over 3 decades. I was very relieved when the article came out that it could be bad for the malady. In my experience many that "make it" turn into narcissistic control freaks. The steps themselves triggered me. Making amends to my father who was neglectful and domineering sent me into a 2 month emotional flashback. I got another sponsor and she told me I had to redo that amends.the last meeting I went to the lady I met there MADE me sit with her female click people and looked pissed off if I smiled or laughed. I will NEVER EVER GO BACK TO QUACKAHOLICS ANONYMOUS. And those are just a few stories I experienced. There are dozens more. Hanging out with dysfunctional sober people is NO ANSWER.
right on, me too, I was destroyed by 12 steps evils
I know a "recovered alcoholic" of 19 years who uses his (questionable) sobriety at AA and on dating sites etc. to exploit, use and take advantage of vulnerable women and men. I say questionable b/c sobriety is suppose to be based on truth/honesty and he uses hydrocodone (a narcotic) for pain medication on an old foot injury from many years ago. Turns out, he was diagnosed clinically as a sex addict. He intentionally causes pain, suffering and harm to others unbeknownst to his victims of supply until it is eventually discovered and only what is discovered is eventually partially disclosed and owned, if ever. He's in his 60's and a complete fraud. He traded one addiction for another. He shows no remorse, empathy or change. The way he does this is he always comes up with a way to bring up how long he's been sober, that that he's a sponsor etc. He's really unsafe and in no position to sponsor others. There is no leadership or protection from the countless predators and wolves dressed in sheeps clothing within these 12 step groups that many of the vulnerable attend to get help or are forced to attend via court order. Look at character and behavior. Never have blind trust. Don't ignore red flags. Protect your health and safety. Enforce boundaries. Justice matters.
I’m so sorry you had such a negative experience. I’ve been an Al-Anon member for 15 years and visited many different meetings. Some meetings do not have healthy people attending and they can create more problems as they are not truly following the program as it was intended.
Thanks Anna for saving me from this , hope someone can help you
This articulation is AMAZING!
Not me watching all of these videos in a row.
Work, work and more work.
So insightful and helpful!
Thank you
14:18 social media …… majority of communication is non-verbal. Use it or loose it. 30:59 The rest was knife in heart Base layer reached and it hurts.
Thank you, Tim!
I am raped I am tortured I am tormented I am haunted
I am terrorized and terrified
and desperately panicked.
I can't breathe I don't breathe
I am paralyzed with trauma.
I want to die. I pray to die. I'm in hell with no escape.
my soul is raped.
I AM DYING OF EMOTIONAL PAIN.
THE GRIEF AND TERROR ARE ALL-CONSUMING.
the darkness. the despair. the rage. THE PANIC.
OH. MY. GOD. THE. PANIC!!!
the person whom I thought was my best friend
discarded me like garbage.
replaced me with another.
I desperately want to escape the pain that I'm in:
debilitating paralyzing all-consuming hyperventilating
panic and grief...
the guy I called my best friend,
ended up raping me.
he violently brutally viciously maliciously raped my soul.
abandoned and betrayed me.
and now I don't breathe. CAN'T BREATHE. I'M IN HELL.
last year (2022) he ruined christmas-time for me,
and now he's ruined my winter and spring,
and now we're headed into summer...
and I'm dying inside.
I'm desperately trying to remember this:
✨💖✨ I was created from all light, for I am light,
I fear no darkness. for being light, I can see beyond darkness 💫
Thanks
Can this looking for flaws in regard to abandonment, happen on an unconcious level?
You need to talk about the victims that are entangled is this web of deceit. Their motive is sex and like a hampster on a wheel they continue too hurt people who want true love.
Have you covered complex Trauma of abandoned babies? Much of your content can be applied, but I'm finding it's just not hitting all the points. I was abandoned, thus my knowledge on this topic. In this scenario, to also include sibling and parent who think of the child as less than, due to they weren't wanted by their birth parents. Top it off by being raped by a sibling and thus my emotional age is 8, when I'm 62. A lifetime of compartmentalizing emotions has been exhausting. Thnx
Can someone healing be done with parent and.adult child? What and how?
To be fair, Pepsi does meet some of my deepest needs
SM and texting.
Something very strange has happened there.
People are getting into these long-distance "relationships" too fast, too easy.
You know i was nearing TWO years with a man i fell in love with online.
TWO YEARS IN!!!!!!
When surprise surprise i caught him lieing about where he lived!!!!
He was lieing about what State he was in!
Why?
Pfft...Who knows.
That was just one of a quite a few lies he had told/was telling that came ro my attention.
These social apps are crawling with some VERY unscrupulous characters.
I still cant believe how fooled i was by him!
Smh at my own stupidity.
Sigh....
Live n Learn right?
No pill looks familiar except yellow looks gold transparent yes E I take
Complex trauma 5 video is mis-labeled as 6 and vice versa. Thanks!
you are bug in my stomach, because you know me everything. 😂😂😂😂
My mum used shaming religious judgemental of identity, emotions and needs terror by shaming condemnation and say love and sex and even joy and relationship and pleasure was a road to hell to intrude overwhelm me w cptds when I was very small. invaded my space and lot of emotional incest w religious judgemental shaming punish and abandon , not allow free choice, freedom of personal boundaries or personal experience. I am 46 and seek therapy for ptds ,cptds is not understood really - fight this emotional intimacy - seen a deacon for lot of renewed abuse from church and f**** up people connected to Spiritual trauma.
Im grateful to God and a deacon specialized w cults . The biggest attack on free will, trust , need of nurture and intimacy was stolen, killed and destroyed in name of God. I hope lot of people w religious trauma is getting out. As narcissistic abuse w God is corrupt lot of children and peoples sexuality from betray peoples free choice w subtle mixed message on needs and emotional needs exchanged w psuedo intimacy and Spiritual addiction/ Cptds.
See that’s our problem.. we call it a bottom when our butts only about half way down 😂
So many complications. Why even bother? The ones being able to find healthy relationships must be really lucky.
No such thing as luck honestly don't mean to offend maybe fortunate or blessed or one in a hundred or goodness is something available
I Need A DrPepper ❤
This video has been brought to you by Pepsi...jk, thanks for the video, really made me think
The sound on this one is awful. Wish they could go back and fix it. Sounds like an echo?
Perhaps you could just focus on the content. Why criticize someone who is trying to help?
I don't know why people are laughing...…. this is sad.....
Probably hit a nerve and they don't know what else to do
Laughing is the best thing for our immune system
Politics does everything to keep people traumatized.
These Pepsi commercials are getting really out of control these days...
I love this 😂
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
WHERE IS HIS MIC???
Why does it matter hun?
Seriously.
I’ve listened to so many videos on complex trauma, and they all mentioned childhood as where it originated. Do you think it’s possible to develop complex trauma in your early 20s? I asked that because I feel like that’s where my complex trauma started. And I have not found a video that explains that it can happen later in life.
Cut the .. i m dg F62 END wtf u have say bout. :MAN 4 ME SORRY IN MY CASE THIS FOR 2o ...
The audience is laughing at times but this isn't funny. These are real things affecting people everyday. This talk is great other than the laughter and unnecessary prayer at the end.
I’ve listened to so many videos on complex trauma, and they all mentioned childhood as where it originated. Do you think it’s possible to develop complex trauma in your early 20s? I asked that because I feel like that’s where my complex trauma started. And I have not found a video that explains that it can happen later in life.