Popular relationship advice that’s actually toxic if you want a healthy love life (part 3)

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  • Опубліковано 6 вер 2024

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  • @theguynextdoor4978
    @theguynextdoor4978 4 місяці тому +3

    I love your perspective. I also believe it's healthy to NOT have everything in common. A healthy relationship requires individual time and togetherness. Having some differences also enables people to learn from each other. Instant chemistry does not automatically mean long-term compatibility. I came out of an 11-year-long relationship with a female narcissist. This relationship taught me a valuable lesson to step on the brakes. Let things develop organically, and I'm allergic to love-bombing.
    "Narcissist" has become a popular buzzword that is often used casually. However, it's important to note that unless someone consistently exhibits clear and strong traits associated with the disorder and a lack of empathy, we shouldn't diagnose them from afar. In my personal experience, I decided to leave my ex after consulting with three different qualified therapists, who all came to the same conclusion about her behavior.

    • @toolboxforlove
      @toolboxforlove  4 місяці тому +1

      🙌🙌 yesss, and I agree with what you mentioned about labeling someone a narcissist. I’m glad you got the support you needed!

  • @MarHeredia-vm4yl
    @MarHeredia-vm4yl 4 місяці тому +1

    In the second point........depends on the partner if they will endure the time to "go through it" an even it could may not work.....so is risky for a partner to deal with someone who has "something to work"

    • @toolboxforlove
      @toolboxforlove  4 місяці тому

      I get what you mean. It definitely depends on the situation & both partners ♥️ at the same time, where there’s uncertainty, there is risk - and being in a relationship is risky by default bc we can’t control the future.
      What I generally recommend is that when you’re working on improving something, have a timeline & a clear idea of what you’ll be doing before deciding if it’s working or not eg. give yourself 3-6 months to see if there are any improvements & check-in with each other along the way.

  • @jennalavena
    @jennalavena 4 місяці тому +1

    you’re very good at giving advice!

    • @toolboxforlove
      @toolboxforlove  4 місяці тому +1

      🥹🥹 thank youuu & thanks for being here ♥️

  • @melikedemir4440
    @melikedemir4440 4 місяці тому +2

    Merhaba altyazı seçeneklerine Türkçe’yi ekleyebilir misiniz?❤

    • @toolboxforlove
      @toolboxforlove  4 місяці тому

      Iyi fikir, farklı dillerde altyazı eklemeyi düşüneceğim - bu arada, transkripti burada bulabilirsiniz (Türkçe konuşmuyorum, umarım bu doğru bir transkripsiyondur) / Good idea, I'll consider adding subtitles in different languages ​​- by the way, you can find the transcript here (I don't speak Turkish, I hope this is an accurate transcription): docs.google.com/document/d/1P5YD33RIxg2yFdpGZw3FIKhw1POcYcHfPL9QHxf9VSk/ 😘

  • @kathy-iz9cx
    @kathy-iz9cx 4 місяці тому

    Needed to hear some of this today! Thank you for these videos!

    • @toolboxforlove
      @toolboxforlove  4 місяці тому

      Makes me happy that this came at the right time for you ♥️

  • @andrew-isac
    @andrew-isac 4 місяці тому +2

    Thank you great advice