I'd get jealous too if my boyfriend was chatting one-on-one with another girl for hours and watching shows with her, and she'd try to smuggle him away to a private discord call whenever I'd hop in to chat. The LAST thing I'd do is write her an apology. OP is trash talking the pettiest stuff to make the BF seem like a bad person - marshmallow IRL, edgy au'ra dark knight, flirts with his own gf, gets mad over games. OP even nitpicks the BF's personality and criticizes his masculinity by calling him the 'girl' in the relationship who says stuff 'grown men' wouldn't/shouldn't. Why does any of that matter??
This. And if people are taking the couple's side - there must be a reason why LOL (im 17min in but I am not on the OP side at all :'D - unless the rest of the video convinces me otherwise but if there is no edit from me, yeah it probably didn't change lol)
wanting to be alone with another dude's gf and getting angry when the bf would join is such a red flag, "she was just a friend!" followed by hating her bf is so strange
Believe half of what you see and none of what you hear. It is through OP's lens and we have no idea who this person is. They sound as much drama as the people they're b1tching about.
some of yall, truly, truly do not understand that partners need social space. the val guy is just a little too clingy, which really is a majority of people’s ick. it just doesnt feel good to be smothered by that. in my eyes, having the ability to be fiery and speak ur mind is better than to beat around a bush. with that being said, the op did do some things wrong, but i dont think they’re entirely wrong
OP sounds like someone who used to be in my fc. Hung out with a bunch of the taken women, would throw punches at their partners when they were around, and took zero responsibility for anything. He also claimed he had “done so much for the fc” and asked for everything back when he got called out finally. This story seems heavily tilted towards the OP with zero reflection on the part they played. Those people are toxic as hell.
OP sounds like a Nice Guy™. The type that wants people to think and know they're friendly but actually not so. Why even get mad if bf joins the chat channel? Nyx was also wrong for talking behind Val's back and venting to people. She needed to talk to Val if she were mad at him, no one else. They're dating and that's between the couple, not a group session smh...
TRUE! I was thinking the same. OP even tells it in a way that makes him sus af. Val has every right to be in that call if it's public and personally, I wouldn't just watch anime with another person and tell my partner they can't join and then proceed to talk shit about them...
@@diannebrookes6109 Deff nice guy gotta crush vibes from this story. You can tell Val knew it with the way he would always be floating around during their voice chats. I also agree with Dianne, Nyx is a terrible partner for doing that. If you find yourself having to have private calls with people to stop your partner from showing up in your public calls just so you can bitch about said partner then it's probably time to let go instead of dangling all these people around like puppets.
just got to the bit where he quoted his friend like "women always think they're right" the slimy nice guy vibes are off the fuckin charts we entering full blown incel territory here
I’m not even all the way through the video and the OP sounds like the issue here. That comment about the RP community was the first hint. Then the comment about women in general…and then the comment about that other guy being less of a man. Jeez
OP definitely had feelings for her. Why would he care if her bf joined in the voice chat? Shouldn't matter if they were just friends, but it irritated him since he wanted to be alone with her. Sounded like he couldn't stand that Val was with her and not him.
did you even listen to the story? op said he would come in and talk during them watching shows and the guys behavior was just annoying. have you never had a mutual discord with an annoying person that you don't like? touch grass.
@@slimfastsubaru2043 yea probably annoying but over my 35 years of living the op has feelings 100%. If he didn't than he wouldn't care and would just move on. Not make a big drama over 1 girl
@@Tailionis over one girl? It's one friend and a friend they valued by the sound of it. I've had this exact situation happen with a guy friend where his girl did this same shit too the point I started to hate her. I'm not gay so belive it or not people do have friends and find their bf or gf annoying without feelings lol.
sorry but OP sounded entitled and rude and like one of those guys who completely buy into the whole "Alpha male" stuff. How he talks about the Nyx(?) boyfriend that a 'real man would never say such things' what things? He never gave an example so I wonder if her boyfriend was... well mb a bit awkward in how he says things, but actually supportive of her? but you know. real men don't support women, they say BS like "women always think they are right!!" ( only to proceed to insist he is / always / right ).
Wow there is a lot to unpack here. First off, I would /love/ to hear Nix's POV on this, cause I have a feeling if asked she'd have a totally different story to tell. Second, OP is hella toxic masculinity personified. The way he talked about women had me rolling my eyes.
The OP sounds really arrogant at some times and really judging, im not all too sure if i can trust every little detail :D good drama story nevertheless!
This one was super hard to listen to. It could just be how the OP came off, but it definitely felt like OP wasn’t being 100% honest. Hard to sympathize for or try to relate, when most of this story was just blatantly trash talking everyone else. While at the same time, stroking their own ego.
Why is SlimFastSubaru so mad in like every comment thread? Is he the op? Lmao anyways, the OP was sus too. Every single person in this story was acting weird
This is total PTSD to me. Years ago I was sort of in Nix's shoes (and slightly in the OP's shoes). When I began playing FFXIV around 2.0 era, one of my first friends was a guy that I leveled up with. We were total besties It felt. I was already in an rl relationship, but unlike this story, my husband who was my fiance at the time never really gave a crap about who I played with, thank god (We had that agreement years ago). My friend and I leveled up through the main story and even bought houses near each other when the first subdivisions were released. But, the FC we were in, kind of 'shipped' us. I loved them all like family, but they always assumed my friend and I were a couple due to the fact that we hung out a lot. My friend knew I was engaged, My fc knew that, it really didn't matter to them or they always forgot and assumed my friend was my fiance lol. When the wedding update came, the talk of it went rampant. My friend and I talked about it based on the benefits the system had rather than the symbolism. As leveling buddies, the instant travel rings and double Chocobo just seemed like a plus. So we agreed to do it. As time went on, I got fairly busy in life (I was also pregnant) and it was tough to slow down and make time for the game, along with rl personal drama. By the time I got back on the game (like 4 months after) my friend told me he wanted to 'divorce', which was perfectly fair. I always told him if he found someone to marry for an actual relationship, he should go for it. What should have been the end of the story..wasn't. Due to conflicting schedules and differences in levels, we weren't able to play the same (he was doing bigger raids than me) and I honestly just wanted a level buddy but understood that he needed time with his gf. But what made this situation awkward is that the FC tried to play matchmaker for me as if we literally broke up and apparently, my friend didn't like that. As a matter of fact..after that moment every little thing pissed him off somehow. The FC's 'matchmaking', my new level buddy, me considering leaving the world to help a few friends. Even when I was asked about why I wasn't leaving, I said it would suck for my level buddy because I knew how it feels to not have anyone to play with. So while everyone was happy I wasn't leaving, he was the only one mad that I was staying due to someone else. Wasn't long before the explosive chats on skype, and private linkshells happened. He told me I was 'forbidden' to marry my level buddy, and It just became months and months of bashing and insults. But similar to what the OP said of Nix's bf, it was an 'on and off' situation. One moment he'd explode over little things that I couldn't even fathom to understand (and tried to..believe me), the next he'd sit in the front yard of my in-game house saying he was torn between me and his gf. I told him, so many times that I could never give him what he wanted and that his gf was definitely the better choice. As strange as it may sound, in this whole situation of being insulted and bashed on, the friend in me wanted to help him. So, for the most part, I just chucked it up to "he's going through something, he doesn't mean that" and talk him through it all and help him with his relationship. It never helped and the issue persisted. Constantly saying "I like her, but I have feelings for you.", which okay fine, but he's in a good relationship and I tried to help him see that. My FC was blind to it because it all took place on skype and private linkshells. There was only one person who knew about this and he was a mutual friend and he was so torn about it. Some weeks were easier then others and I really loved my FC, but I never thought someone i'd call a bestie would harass me in such an out-of-character way. It got to the point where he'd harass my level buddy as well and even his friends. That's when I realized this was out of my control. The thing is, at that point, i knew the fc wouldn't believe me in this. My friend was a high rank of the fc, active, dependable, well-needed, and honestly, if someone were even to tell me that he was capable of what he was did, I probably would have called them liars too. I did try to tell a FC member about it who also knew him well, and she apparently was semi-aware but said "don't worry it'll get better." and that was that. Mind you, I'm still pregnant after all this and the stress was getting to me, even logging in was a pain. No longer was it a safe space. Sometime later, he and his gf randomly broke up and the interactions became even worse. One day, he chose to be really mean in a mutual friend's linkshell, and literally, I just snapped. They were so shocked because I'm never liked that. I also just left the FC without a thought...that's how bad it got for me. Everyone instantly demanded answers from me, because they knew I wouldn't leave randomly and for nothing. I honestly didn't want to say it because I knew it was going to cause problems, but I did end up telling the upper officers. They were all divided, some who were my friends did call me a liar as I expected. I kept some of the skype chats and had a few screenshots. But it wasn't enough for everyone. I just wanted peace of mind after all of that honestly. For some reason, he painted the picture that I was crazy or jealous of his gf? Also he tried to say that my level buddy 'brain-washed' me and took me away from the FC, and due to that half of the FC hated my level-buddy. But obviously the chats I saved said otherwise. What really really hit the nail on this coffin of friendship was that he admitted that he never saw us as good friends and that he always wanted to date me from day one. After that, I blocked him and never heard from him again. Would you believe all of that happened before Heavensward was even released? And ironically I haven't been married in-game after that. But since then whenever there's an issue in an FC for harassment or anything of the like, I'm always willing to listen and getting to the bottom of what happened. I wouldn't wish that feeling on anyone and It's something I make sure members address before it becomes too much.
Kind of weird when OP just described himself around 23mins in the vid whem he was generalising ffxiv players lol I find it weird that OP was hitting on Nyx despite him saying they're just friends. If you're trying to be exclusive with someone's SO is already a red flag in itself.
I wrote a big whole long thing, but it's TL;DR. I don't think OP was a real friend. I think OP was a wolf in sheep's clothing. OP fostered division between two people and was mad that a 28 year old bum with no car could get a girl, but OP couldn't. Classic fake good guy syndrome. OP is big time drama.
The moment I heard OP start talking about how 'dumb' it was that their friend was upset, how much they've been there for Nix, and how they deserve so much respect, it really made me feel uneasy. Especially the women-are-always-right and the way the OP laid into Val. If OP has felt this way since day one and it was THAT BAD that the OP completely went off like that, it screams nice guy. The whole thing made me feel like OP was trying to say that Nix owed them sooooo much for all the times they were there for them. I understand feeling as if the other person whom calls themselves your friend isn't there for you as much but, it seems that wasn't the case. It seems as if Nix was there for OP as much as OP was there for them BUT, the difference being OP gained feelings. It also seems like OP never actually confronted those feelings of possibly liking Nix more than a friend which led to this spiral from the moment OP got upset at Nix for being severely upset at not getting to see their BF. In all honesty, OP was in the wrong for seemingly trying to get Nix to brush her feelings off like that. To go to someone and trying to gently cheer them up is one thing but, to repeatedly approach someone who is clearly REALLY upset and try over and over to get them to just brush it off would honestly make anyone angry. Since OP went nuclear towards the end and unfriended everyone, why didn't they move servers? It also seems like OP blew this up completely. It seemed like it went from a level 2 drama to a level 10 so quickly. It also sounds like they were kinda putting words/assuming things about others in the FC and could've been getting what others said misconstrued. All in all, OP seems like a red flag. I'm not saying Nix and Val are innocent or anything but, the way OP was talking through out the whole thing was kinda toxic. I think everyone in the story is in the wrong but, OP reminds me of a manipulative friend who would make webs of lies to put friends against each other just so said friend could have them for themselves. All in all, this was just all around bad and I hope I never meet this player.
At the "women are always right" line, I was like oh.... This guy sounds like a Nice Guy/Incel. And then the story continued and I just had major bad vibes all the way through.
Yeah I'm in the camp of people who don't really trust the OP. The story seemed so spotty like they left out a whole bunch of infos that would have made them look bad. They don't seem to be able to self-reflect either. And what they said about Nyx's boyfriend sounded arrogant at best imo, especially after the BF even apologized. Not saying that it's all on OP, but the way the story was told was very telling.
I've seen this too many times to count. I've even been a apart of a few of these sorts of things but I dip out the second I see the rocks start to fall in a relationship. Person A: in relationship is self conscious and recognizes they're not good enough for their partner, doesn't know how to improve and is worried about losing partner. Person B: is in relationship with Person A, doesn't care about their faults, but because of growing insecurities the two become distant and Person B starts looking for support. Person C: Outsider who supports Person B through rough patch and because they're able to communicate and listen to their friend and spend a lot of time emotionally vulnerable around each other creates a deeper relationship on the surface when in reality there's usually no other grounds to say they'd be a good romantic pairing, but one always gets a crush and because Person A is growing more and more insecure and distant and is unable to properly communicate and Person B is unwillingly to understand that Person C is making Person A become worse everything goes downhill. It's a mess of miscommunications, bad moments, fake feelings, and bullshit. If you find yourself in any of these situations, whether you be A, B, or C. The most important thing you can do, As Person A or B, speak to your partner. No one else. Your relationship problems should be solved between the two of you. If things go south because of it, so be it. Better that way than getting a third party involved. As Person C, LEAVE. GO. SHOO. Yes you wanna support your friend but OH MY GOD YOU ARE DOING NO ONE ANY FAVORS. Tell them to go speak to their partner when they have an issue. If they say they can't, then it's not your problem. If they bring up relationship shit, I don't care how much you wanna help SHUT IT DOWN. It's not good. Cease. LEAVE. RUN AWAY. You're gonna make things worse even if they seem to get better.
"when me and nix wanted to do things together just the two of us, we went into private server" im sorry but acting like the bf had NO reason for acting jealous is mind boggling to me. zero self reflection from OP
idk why every couple in ff14 99% are endup with these drama, its like a trait. And all these OP had similar trait, like to write "I help everyone in fc grow", "Im a good person", "People jealous of me", they know her bf dont like them twirling around their gf, yet still 24/7 only play with the psycho gf 1 on 1.
"He was like the girl in the relationship" dam OP, I think you just have weird ideas about what relationships are like. Poor Val. Edit: Oh jesus hes one of those guys huh. Lol. Sarah, run
Not gonna lie, all parties in this story sounded like they were acting innapropriately. Like the post writer, the OP, was also immature in and of themselves. Saying things like "They were complaining about playing FF7 remake on easy" Yeah and? It's really none of their business to judge XD the OP seemed to have this aura of "well this is right and this is wrong" when it was pertaining to business not involved with them at all. And yes....if my partner was watching anime with another person intently I would feel upset. Very upset.
It's kind of crazy that the OP has so little self-awareness that they can't realize they're the drama llama / bad guy of the story. A 'friend' of theirs wants to hang out with their boyfriend, who just wants to do casual content and relax with them. The boyfriend won't even interfere with them watching anime and hanging out, just wants to be included and play games in the channel with them. They're actively angry that the two of them are nice to each other and speak romantically. Then, they pressured their friend to sympathize with them to shut them up and took it as gospel. Finally, it all ends when they aggravates rhe friend while she's hurt that a pandemic won't let her visit her partner, and apparently says some stuff so bad that it ruins their friendship and makes the boyfriend (who remember, the OP is claiming is spineless) come to talk to them and go "What the hell is wrong with you!?" just to then blow up on the boyfriend and make themselves a pariah among the friend group. After all that, they are exiled out and hedged from the social circle. Even after all this, they *still* haven't figured out they're the garbage drama llama. Truly amazing.
the bf is 28??? how old is op omg this sounds like highschool drama dude i cant imagine being grown and typing this shit out 😭and thats bc theyre probably older than me too
As someone whose seen these things happen so often even in my server of Famfrit, Honestly both the OP and the clingy boyfriend both sound pretty terrible. I've seen terrible situations where best friends started harassing eachother simply because one honestly wanted to date the other(like c'mon,no means no! Respect it and move on). Then there were fcs broken up due to an overly clingy lovers that never really wanted to be there or got caught cheating etc. But in the same light, does anyone believe in platonic relationships anymore?! frienships of all kinds exist. Maybe it's just due to me having friends of both genders or being an ace woman, but two people of opposite genders watching something doesn't really seem like a big deal, unless the partner is deeply insecure and that's a red flag within itself. If I play FF and my partner plays COD, i'm not going to freak out because they have a friendly circle there, and they wouldn't do the same to me. Just because hobbies differ doesn't mean you can't both do something ya like together later. We all need me time every now and then, I think more relationships (platonic and romantic) need to realise this.
You sound like my friend, lol. He got me into the game, then quit and most of his complaints were about how weird people are in game. I see what you guys mean now!
I'm the kind of person that hates being part of drama but get can't help be fascinated reading/hearing about them from a stranger's perspective. 😂 Keep it up Pathra! I enjoy seeing what dance "backgrounds" you will pick each time and the stories!😊
This is why some guys would not let their gfs have male friends. There are often times when it may seem like harmless but when the other guy his gf is friend with is hanging out with her more and more, it gives off that sus vibe that the guy will develope feelings towards her and give her the ideas that he is better than her bf. I have seen this way too often in relationship. To me in this story, I kind of see the OP developing feelings towards his friend (even if he doesn't realize it or deny it) and pretty much lost his chance at the girl especially if he tell that vale person of "how he is amazed to get a gf" which kind of speak to me that he wasn't able to get his feelings out before that guy does to nyx. Some guys gotta learn to go for the chase and not let the prey get away especially when you know you been around that girl for X amount of time. And I agree with you on the part when you mention when a guy friend tells his female friend that he don't like her bf cause of reasons, in a female eyes that is definitely jealous whether the guy friend emit or not, he was definitely pushing some feelings out without realizing it. But yeaa I know if my bf caught me watching movies or anime with another guy, I wouldn't be surpised if he gets protective. When op and nyx decided to watch anime, I'm not surpised vale decided to jump in, that's like number one bf protective mode especially when he cares for the girl he is with. Op and the rest of the mentioned were just not in their right heads and some stuff were just not mixing well. Maybe it was for the best and op learns from this and just go after the next girl and not just wait until his feelings gets hurt again.
I bet people werent siding with anyone. They just tried to get away from their drama and didnt care. People play games to relax not to get involved in guilds dramas 😅
OP seems really sus and reminds me of someone (whom I also met through FFXIV, kind of) who always played the victim. They would say these wise-sounding things but completely lacked the self awareness to realize that they, in fact, were in the wrong. Like how OP kept saying that the other two wouldn't own up to what they did... But OP never specified when he did in the situation, either.
Tbh we don't know the boundaries the GF/BF put up. Platonic or not, at times it does feel kinda iffy if you see your significant other with the opposite/attracted gender alone in VC when you know the person might be attracted to your SO. Though, my opinion overall: Should've just made a discord VC where everyone is forced muted to watch if you really were just gonna watch anime together in a discord server and don't want others to talk and disturb the watching experience and communicate in a mute VCtext channel or something. The gf being disrespectful to the bf if they have set boundaries beforehand by being alone a lot with OP. The bf being a dick for not talking it out with like an adult to the OP if he does feel insecure or want OP to back off and respect him as the girl's BF/their relationship. The OP seems self righteous and pretentious a f and the "what was everything I did for?" makes it sound like they weren't genuinely being a friend but wanted more from the girl. You don't say that kind of thing if you're genuinely being there for someone as a friend without wanting something in return imo ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
You know, I saw some video a few days ago about someone talking about why people would play a MMO alone. THIS is one of the reasons why I choose to play alone. Of course I do join groups for Raids or Dungeons and I am in a FC. I help when someone needs help but other than that I do my thing. I don't join Voice Chats and I rarely every write something in the FC's Discord. I just want to play FF14 without Drama and without having to deal with someone elses problems or dramas because that would probably ruin the game for me and since I love this game I won't let that happen.
Yeah. Being in a chat 'alone' with another guy or girl when your taken is a ligit first step into knowing that one of them isnt interested in their partner anymore and are wanting something else.
Who would blame Val??? This girl isn't giving him attention it seems ....... The OP must consider this situation when his gf would be watch videos and private calls with other men......... 12:37 yes what WAS it you all did for? So apparently there is unspoken motive, I think he had eyes on nyx What I also do not understand: It was first FC stalking the OP....but when later Nyx spotted him she was scared he was going to bother. He seem to hold off many info ...?
Yeh...the op sound like they're in the wrong. They should've just talked it out instead of getting mad that dude wanted to be around his girlfriend. The op sounds super toxic
In my opinion, OP is sus, you don't go talking down on someone's partner, you can let the person vent, but you should never be the one bringing them down. For example, I had a friend who was married, and she was going through a rough patch. I would try to put her husband's viewpoint into perspective for her to try to get them to work things out. In the end, they got divorced, but I would never speak down on him. I've had people speak down on my girlfriend and I immediately chew them out for it or cut contact with them, I don't care how bad things get between me and her, our problems are exactly that, our problems, no one else's, no one else fully understands the situation and they don't have a voice in the matter. They can try to get me to see from her perspective, but I won't put up with putting her down.
watching movies or anime together so much with someone you know is taken is hella sus edit: also op painting himself in such a good light like he literally never did anything wrong just rubs me the wrong way
LOL how the fk is that sus? you kids are ridiculous. her bf doesn't like anime but op did and as op said the guy talked over the show so ofc she hated him joining during them watching shows.
@@UnknownArchivo yes I am gonna take it at face value as I've had a very similar experience except it was my guy friend and his annoying ass gf. I'm not gay either. She was clingy, jealous we hang out a lot, got upset if we did anything and I mean literally anything without her, started spreading rumors about me after he bf got mad at her for the behavior and so on. I've met people like the guy in this story so I sympathize.
I have no idea how people let online game drama bother them so much . I can understand if in real life you have coworkers , school mates or someone who’s always in your life bullying you . But block lists exist online . Seems sus. I think he had a crush on her . Who cares about respect in a game where pvp doesn’t exist like RuneScape and wow where pvp is a whole area ingame or a whole world
Yea I feel the same way as you lol I think these people just do the same routine everyday, all day and got bored so they need some drama to make their gaming life interesting.
the way op talks screams "nice guy". val was being mildly annoying and clingy at worst. his comments about val's masculinity and how "women are always right even when they are wrong" are the biggest red flags a self proclaimed hardcore mmo gamer can have. egocentric and gross
Watching shows with another person's girl. Maybe some of yall are cool with that but there are prolly some boundaries that Val didn't like and the op possibly could've respected that as they are in a relationship. Iono op kinda also sounded like he liked nyx. He was stepping into some shit he should have just bowed out
I kinda feel bad for Val in this situation he just wanted to hang out with his gf of course he would be wary when OP very clearly has feelings for Nyx Nyx was wrong to go to op about all her relationship issues
This is very off. There's multiple sides to a story. I recently had this issue with a friend. She would constantly complain to me and another friend. Eventually me and this other friend put our convos together and she was giving different stories to us about everything. And over the tiniest thing. Anything to make her a victim in every situation, no matter how small. For example, I hosted hide and seek (all names hidden) for my FC for a while. We were hiding in Crystarium and she was seeking. It was going fine, she struggled a bit. At one point she stood at a high point and just tab targeted until she found one of our friends behind a box, where she couldn't see. We decided right then that no one should be allowed to do that, I didn't realize you could target someone behind items. After that her mood down spiraled, I kept apologizing and told her it was all okay. We could hear her sister in the background, and she blamed her mood on her sister. Even though we clearly hear her sister and brother in law laughing and talking about something unrelated. She later vented to me that they were laughing at her and making fun of her. All this to say, I no longer trust a story from one perspective. No matter how small. There was so much more drama with her, but I ended up blocking her. She isn't active in the FC or the FC discord anymore, and didn't talk to me much anyways. But this OP reminded me of this lol. Our FC was built off of a previous FC and their drama. Long story short, the leader made players pay 10k a month to stay in the FC, she left the game and took everything from the FC house and chest, including 60 million gil for herself. She didn't play, only logging in to keep her house out of petty reasons. The core members of our FC (including the girl I talked about above) were from that FC originally. I wasn't around at that time, my brother was the one who broke away from the toxic FC and made the one we have now. I have many stories also lol drama and creeps - new girl saying she wanted to fist me to my older brother, and continued to joke when I said I was uncomfortable. :)
This has got to be one of the worst stories I’ve heard writing wise for a long time. We all know people like OP who just take years getting to whatever point they’re trying to make and constantly just give out multiple old man “in my opinion” takes during the story.
My ex had a friend like OP; it worked out for him because 6 months after we split up due to COVID he managed to ingratiate himself into her life. I mean, he was a lucky crypto-rich & retired guy in his 20s but I was locked away from her after 6 years due to COVID borders. So it damaged our relationship. But the thing is. I left this guy alone, they played tons of games, watched anime, did lots together. I never cared or got controlling. But when he tried to damage our relationship I had to speak up. He visited/stayed over at her place. I trusted her that much. Nothing happened but he got drunk and confessed his love, then flew home and left an apology "thousands of dollars worth of money" envelope on the table. I was upset he did that and said he couldn't visit RL unless we were together as a group but I still dismissed it. But I told him, I was greatly disappointed with him. He started giving her an ultimatum that their friendship was over so long as I stayed. Still after a year of that, I tolerated that nonsense but the well was poisoned and since we were on lockdown the RL bond that overrode that wore away between us until we split up. He then paid for all our friends to have a meet-up in NYC, so yeah, nice guy syndrome. I'm sorry but sometimes opposite gender bestfriends are an escape that let you emotionally cheat instead of working on your bond with your partner. Its a complicated mess.
Yeah, this is one of my fears... I try to be a nice partner and let my significant other have friends of the opposite gender because I don't want to come off as controlling or whatever. However, recently, my partner admitted that one of his girl friends offered her couch to him since he has a long commute from work (she lives in the city where he works). I was obviously upset and made it clear it would make me uncomfortable; thankfully he was very understanding, but it still made my mind wander.
My sense is OP was the problem. If they actually did experience harassment that really sucks and no one deserves that. But at the same time, I don't trust them. OP is the classic unreliable narrator. So who knows what really happened; were we to hear it from a neutral perspective.
Lmao I'm a firm believer of the "just hit the bricks" meme. If people start acting suspicious, if I'm excluded from things or ignored, I just leave. FC's dead? *Hit the bricks.* People excluding you from content? *Just hit the bricks!* Uncomfortable "e-couple" shenanigans? *Just hit the bricks!* Because if you say anything to these people, you're immediately the the enemy and you'll be drawn in to some long drawn out mess.
"Is it weird for a guy and a girl to watch shows together when one of them is taken?" Absolutely not! I'm firmly taken, both in game and IRL. My best mate of 20 years is a bloke and we watch wrestling and other stuff without my man there. When my mate was married and I was single, he'd come over to my house to watch the above. His ex-wife wasn't into wrestling and my man isn't, either. My mate and I also game together, both with and without my man being present. It's perfectly healthy to have friends of the opposite sex so long as both parties are on the same page about being platonic.
Had some drama over the weekend, a tank wanted 50k gill, and they decided to slow pull everything. I wanted to kill them like I did another tank last year but the final boss didn't have the proper attacks to facilitate it. as for last year, an entitled tank was complaining about how new players were destroying the game by buying boost books. we couldn't boot the guy because they refused to roll for loot. but the final boss had line aoes that targeted each player. I simply ran behind the tank and watched them get destroyed. we wiped but it also gave us the opportunity to boot the tank to get a better one.
So as someone who is married and has a hubby who doesn't mind that I have guy friends, he lets me privately talk to my friends all the time when we're just chatting. However if I were to watch a movie with any of them I certainly wouldn't mind my hubby joining us because he's my partner and I love doing anything that he's involved in because I love him. He has friends who are girls but I definitely would feel some kind of way if he wanted to be in a private discord call with her and I wasn't invited or not allowed. Your significant other should always come first before friends as long as boundaries are set and respected. If boundaries are being pushed and strained then the two shouldn't be together if they can't respect each other's wishes. Plain and simple as that. I personally wouldn't mind my hubby watching a movie with friends who are girls as long as I'm there in the call with him. lol Cuz it's not him I don't trust, it's everyone else I don't trust and some people will try and make moves on people whether they are taken or not so I just like to be there just in case such a thing happens and I can defuse the situation by reminding them that I'm his partner.
This has tempted me to post a similar story about my ex and her projecting jealousy onto me, but I think its been too long. Kicking up the dust would not be worth. They, and that group, would instantly recognise who I was. (And Im genuinely shocked they didnt submit the story.) Because to them, I was in the wrong, but they lacked so much context. might delete this later...
ik this is a very unpopular opinion, but for me personally its always a huge red flag when people complain about a couple in their group...acting like a couple. like I understand being annoyed if it interferes with the gameplay and having fun with friends but like, if you are friends with people, who are dating, don't act surprised when they act like they're dating???? my gf and I play ffxiv together, and have our own fc with a group of friends. everyone knows we are dating. we like to call eachother babe and say nice things to one another because we've been together for 5 years, and, I love her?? lmao. sometimes we even, god forbid, emote at eachother in game, because its fun and silly. however we also chat with our friends, actively participate in activities, and nothing about me and my girlfriend being a couple hinders that. yall are just salty, or if the couples you hang out with are actually toxic, you are just bad at picking friends. get new ones, dont be miserable, jesus christ.
OP sounds in love with Nyx, but is expecting Nyx to leave Val for him, without saying that. OP sounds like a "nice guy" What they said that was a red flag for me was, "What was it all for?" When talking about being there for their friend. You get the friendship, duh lol Respect your friend's autonomy. You might not like their partner, but that's not your choice to make. You either choose to be a friend, or you don't. That's on you. Laying into your friend's boyfriend is pretty shitty when they're confiding in you. That was Nyx's info to share and mend with her boyfriend, not yours. Friends listen, they comfort. They don't get a god complex and choose for their friends. They support. Not control. OP is a bad friend.
Been binging your vids, I'm SO glad my first FC has been great. I'm still with them ever since 2019 when I first started playing. What an annoying story, though. I don't blame OP for feeling the way he did.
OP is the problem here. Do not even need to hear Nix's side or Val's side. OP caught feelings and thought he was hiding it well and he wasn't. OP was hoping Nix would ditch Val and fall right into his waiting Nice Guy TM arms. The comment about women always lie or whatever it was ... yeah, he was the problem. Glad Nix and Val don't have to deal with him anymore.
OP is the type that would try taking another guy's girlfriend and tbh if he got Nyx as he wanted he'd be just as bad as he claims Val is. Not only because he is possessive but because Nyx is a bad partner. You don't talk trash about your partner like that, but I feel she was just stringing op along, he just needed justification for the BS he was pulling. The best one in the situation was Val, he might be Clingy but I mean this is dude's GF who wants to see a part of their day get taken by someone else, he was a good guy hope he can find a brod with some sense. xD
i think watching movies or anime together is really strange. i guess its some thing close friends can do sometimes but whenever i got into that situation everytime i felt strongly for them but it seems the other didn't got that feeling, yet i was still the only person they wanted to watch stuff together with. and joining the discords voice happens alot. i got a couple friends who just get on hoping we play the game they play whilst we were already on. and whilst that's fine sometimes it does get really annoying, ppl talking about different games through eachother. and you don't want to tell a friend off.
12:20 Women don't apologize though. Even if they're wrong. It's always the man that has to be the adult. To the point that it's become a bit of a meme/cliche. That was what they meant.
I'd get jealous too if my boyfriend was chatting one-on-one with another girl for hours and watching shows with her, and she'd try to smuggle him away to a private discord call whenever I'd hop in to chat. The LAST thing I'd do is write her an apology.
OP is trash talking the pettiest stuff to make the BF seem like a bad person - marshmallow IRL, edgy au'ra dark knight, flirts with his own gf, gets mad over games. OP even nitpicks the BF's personality and criticizes his masculinity by calling him the 'girl' in the relationship who says stuff 'grown men' wouldn't/shouldn't. Why does any of that matter??
Agreed
This. And if people are taking the couple's side - there must be a reason why LOL (im 17min in but I am not on the OP side at all :'D - unless the rest of the video convinces me otherwise but if there is no edit from me, yeah it probably didn't change lol)
wanting to be alone with another dude's gf and getting angry when the bf would join is such a red flag, "she was just a friend!" followed by hating her bf is so strange
Op sounds suspicious as hell... This story feels off and heavily curated.. There seems to be 0 self reflection from the op which is a huge red flag.
Believe half of what you see and none of what you hear. It is through OP's lens and we have no idea who this person is. They sound as much drama as the people they're b1tching about.
i feel like op would cause me too much trouble for how perfect they are lol
some of yall, truly, truly do not understand that partners need social space. the val guy is just a little too clingy, which really is a majority of people’s ick. it just doesnt feel good to be smothered by that. in my eyes, having the ability to be fiery and speak ur mind is better than to beat around a bush. with that being said, the op did do some things wrong, but i dont think they’re entirely wrong
i had my eyebrows raised for this entire story, clearly this guy had a crush on the girl.
OP sounds like someone who used to be in my fc. Hung out with a bunch of the taken women, would throw punches at their partners when they were around, and took zero responsibility for anything. He also claimed he had “done so much for the fc” and asked for everything back when he got called out finally. This story seems heavily tilted towards the OP with zero reflection on the part they played. Those people are toxic as hell.
OP sounds like a Nice Guy™. The type that wants people to think and know they're friendly but actually not so. Why even get mad if bf joins the chat channel? Nyx was also wrong for talking behind Val's back and venting to people. She needed to talk to Val if she were mad at him, no one else. They're dating and that's between the couple, not a group session smh...
TRUE! I was thinking the same. OP even tells it in a way that makes him sus af. Val has every right to be in that call if it's public and personally, I wouldn't just watch anime with another person and tell my partner they can't join and then proceed to talk shit about them...
@@diannebrookes6109 Deff nice guy gotta crush vibes from this story. You can tell Val knew it with the way he would always be floating around during their voice chats. I also agree with Dianne, Nyx is a terrible partner for doing that. If you find yourself having to have private calls with people to stop your partner from showing up in your public calls just so you can bitch about said partner then it's probably time to let go instead of dangling all these people around like puppets.
just got to the bit where he quoted his friend like "women always think they're right" the slimy nice guy vibes are off the fuckin charts we entering full blown incel territory here
I’m not even all the way through the video and the OP sounds like the issue here. That comment about the RP community was the first hint. Then the comment about women in general…and then the comment about that other guy being less of a man. Jeez
Borderline emerging incel behavior, tbh
OP definitely had feelings for her. Why would he care if her bf joined in the voice chat? Shouldn't matter if they were just friends, but it irritated him since he wanted to be alone with her. Sounded like he couldn't stand that Val was with her and not him.
did you even listen to the story? op said he would come in and talk during them watching shows and the guys behavior was just annoying. have you never had a mutual discord with an annoying person that you don't like? touch grass.
@@slimfastsubaru2043 Sheeeeee someone is mad! 😆 are you the OP? Way to go exposing yourself buddy!
@@slimfastsubaru2043 yea probably annoying but over my 35 years of living the op has feelings 100%. If he didn't than he wouldn't care and would just move on. Not make a big drama over 1 girl
@@Tailionis over one girl? It's one friend and a friend they valued by the sound of it. I've had this exact situation happen with a guy friend where his girl did this same shit too the point I started to hate her. I'm not gay so belive it or not people do have friends and find their bf or gf annoying without feelings lol.
@@slimfastsubaru2043 don't date another guy's girlfriend if u ain't a girl or u ain't gay. Simple as that my dude. Leave her be.
sorry but OP sounded entitled and rude and like one of those guys who completely buy into the whole "Alpha male" stuff. How he talks about the Nyx(?) boyfriend that a 'real man would never say such things' what things? He never gave an example so I wonder if her boyfriend was... well mb a bit awkward in how he says things, but actually supportive of her? but you know. real men don't support women, they say BS like "women always think they are right!!" ( only to proceed to insist he is / always / right ).
The funny thing is the op sounded the most beta being friend zoned and overly caring
Wow there is a lot to unpack here. First off, I would /love/ to hear Nix's POV on this, cause I have a feeling if asked she'd have a totally different story to tell. Second, OP is hella toxic masculinity personified. The way he talked about women had me rolling my eyes.
The OP sounds really arrogant at some times and really judging, im not all too sure if i can trust every little detail :D good drama story nevertheless!
This one was super hard to listen to. It could just be how the OP came off, but it definitely felt like OP wasn’t being 100% honest.
Hard to sympathize for or try to relate, when most of this story was just blatantly trash talking everyone else. While at the same time, stroking their own ego.
Why is SlimFastSubaru so mad in like every comment thread? Is he the op? Lmao anyways, the OP was sus too. Every single person in this story was acting weird
This is total PTSD to me. Years ago I was sort of in Nix's shoes (and slightly in the OP's shoes). When I began playing FFXIV around 2.0 era, one of my first friends was a guy that I leveled up with. We were total besties It felt. I was already in an rl relationship, but unlike this story, my husband who was my fiance at the time never really gave a crap about who I played with, thank god (We had that agreement years ago). My friend and I leveled up through the main story and even bought houses near each other when the first subdivisions were released. But, the FC we were in, kind of 'shipped' us. I loved them all like family, but they always assumed my friend and I were a couple due to the fact that we hung out a lot. My friend knew I was engaged, My fc knew that, it really didn't matter to them or they always forgot and assumed my friend was my fiance lol. When the wedding update came, the talk of it went rampant. My friend and I talked about it based on the benefits the system had rather than the symbolism. As leveling buddies, the instant travel rings and double Chocobo just seemed like a plus. So we agreed to do it. As time went on, I got fairly busy in life (I was also pregnant) and it was tough to slow down and make time for the game, along with rl personal drama.
By the time I got back on the game (like 4 months after) my friend told me he wanted to 'divorce', which was perfectly fair. I always told him if he found someone to marry for an actual relationship, he should go for it. What should have been the end of the story..wasn't. Due to conflicting schedules and differences in levels, we weren't able to play the same (he was doing bigger raids than me) and I honestly just wanted a level buddy but understood that he needed time with his gf. But what made this situation awkward is that the FC tried to play matchmaker for me as if we literally broke up and apparently, my friend didn't like that. As a matter of fact..after that moment every little thing pissed him off somehow. The FC's 'matchmaking', my new level buddy, me considering leaving the world to help a few friends. Even when I was asked about why I wasn't leaving, I said it would suck for my level buddy because I knew how it feels to not have anyone to play with. So while everyone was happy I wasn't leaving, he was the only one mad that I was staying due to someone else. Wasn't long before the explosive chats on skype, and private linkshells happened. He told me I was 'forbidden' to marry my level buddy, and It just became months and months of bashing and insults. But similar to what the OP said of Nix's bf, it was an 'on and off' situation. One moment he'd explode over little things that I couldn't even fathom to understand (and tried to..believe me), the next he'd sit in the front yard of my in-game house saying he was torn between me and his gf. I told him, so many times that I could never give him what he wanted and that his gf was definitely the better choice. As strange as it may sound, in this whole situation of being insulted and bashed on, the friend in me wanted to help him. So, for the most part, I just chucked it up to "he's going through something, he doesn't mean that" and talk him through it all and help him with his relationship. It never helped and the issue persisted. Constantly saying "I like her, but I have feelings for you.", which okay fine, but he's in a good relationship and I tried to help him see that. My FC was blind to it because it all took place on skype and private linkshells. There was only one person who knew about this and he was a mutual friend and he was so torn about it. Some weeks were easier then others and I really loved my FC, but I never thought someone i'd call a bestie would harass me in such an out-of-character way. It got to the point where he'd harass my level buddy as well and even his friends. That's when I realized this was out of my control. The thing is, at that point, i knew the fc wouldn't believe me in this.
My friend was a high rank of the fc, active, dependable, well-needed, and honestly, if someone were even to tell me that he was capable of what he was did, I probably would have called them liars too. I did try to tell a FC member about it who also knew him well, and she apparently was semi-aware but said "don't worry it'll get better." and that was that. Mind you, I'm still pregnant after all this and the stress was getting to me, even logging in was a pain. No longer was it a safe space. Sometime later, he and his gf randomly broke up and the interactions became even worse. One day, he chose to be really mean in a mutual friend's linkshell, and literally, I just snapped. They were so shocked because I'm never liked that. I also just left the FC without a thought...that's how bad it got for me. Everyone instantly demanded answers from me, because they knew I wouldn't leave randomly and for nothing. I honestly didn't want to say it because I knew it was going to cause problems, but I did end up telling the upper officers. They were all divided, some who were my friends did call me a liar as I expected. I kept some of the skype chats and had a few screenshots. But it wasn't enough for everyone. I just wanted peace of mind after all of that honestly. For some reason, he painted the picture that I was crazy or jealous of his gf? Also he tried to say that my level buddy 'brain-washed' me and took me away from the FC, and due to that half of the FC hated my level-buddy. But obviously the chats I saved said otherwise. What really really hit the nail on this coffin of friendship was that he admitted that he never saw us as good friends and that he always wanted to date me from day one. After that, I blocked him and never heard from him again. Would you believe all of that happened before Heavensward was even released? And ironically I haven't been married in-game after that. But since then whenever there's an issue in an FC for harassment or anything of the like, I'm always willing to listen and getting to the bottom of what happened. I wouldn't wish that feeling on anyone and It's something I make sure members address before it becomes too much.
You should have just submitted a drama story!!! xD
@@pathra Sorry about that lol. This video came up on my feed and reminded me of a moment in my FFXIV days that I almost forgot about.
@@pathra I mean... She still can? 😅
OP sounds like Eorzea's most unreliable narrator.
Kind of weird when OP just described himself around 23mins in the vid whem he was generalising ffxiv players lol I find it weird that OP was hitting on Nyx despite him saying they're just friends. If you're trying to be exclusive with someone's SO is already a red flag in itself.
I wrote a big whole long thing, but it's TL;DR. I don't think OP was a real friend. I think OP was a wolf in sheep's clothing. OP fostered division between two people and was mad that a 28 year old bum with no car could get a girl, but OP couldn't. Classic fake good guy syndrome. OP is big time drama.
The moment I heard OP start talking about how 'dumb' it was that their friend was upset, how much they've been there for Nix, and how they deserve so much respect, it really made me feel uneasy. Especially the women-are-always-right and the way the OP laid into Val. If OP has felt this way since day one and it was THAT BAD that the OP completely went off like that, it screams nice guy. The whole thing made me feel like OP was trying to say that Nix owed them sooooo much for all the times they were there for them. I understand feeling as if the other person whom calls themselves your friend isn't there for you as much but, it seems that wasn't the case. It seems as if Nix was there for OP as much as OP was there for them BUT, the difference being OP gained feelings. It also seems like OP never actually confronted those feelings of possibly liking Nix more than a friend which led to this spiral from the moment OP got upset at Nix for being severely upset at not getting to see their BF. In all honesty, OP was in the wrong for seemingly trying to get Nix to brush her feelings off like that. To go to someone and trying to gently cheer them up is one thing but, to repeatedly approach someone who is clearly REALLY upset and try over and over to get them to just brush it off would honestly make anyone angry.
Since OP went nuclear towards the end and unfriended everyone, why didn't they move servers? It also seems like OP blew this up completely. It seemed like it went from a level 2 drama to a level 10 so quickly. It also sounds like they were kinda putting words/assuming things about others in the FC and could've been getting what others said misconstrued.
All in all, OP seems like a red flag. I'm not saying Nix and Val are innocent or anything but, the way OP was talking through out the whole thing was kinda toxic. I think everyone in the story is in the wrong but, OP reminds me of a manipulative friend who would make webs of lies to put friends against each other just so said friend could have them for themselves. All in all, this was just all around bad and I hope I never meet this player.
At the "women are always right" line, I was like oh.... This guy sounds like a Nice Guy/Incel. And then the story continued and I just had major bad vibes all the way through.
Lol OP is sus af 😂
To OP: You think you’re the only one who can see through the BS? 😅
Yeah I'm in the camp of people who don't really trust the OP. The story seemed so spotty like they left out a whole bunch of infos that would have made them look bad. They don't seem to be able to self-reflect either. And what they said about Nyx's boyfriend sounded arrogant at best imo, especially after the BF even apologized. Not saying that it's all on OP, but the way the story was told was very telling.
I've seen this too many times to count. I've even been a apart of a few of these sorts of things but I dip out the second I see the rocks start to fall in a relationship.
Person A: in relationship is self conscious and recognizes they're not good enough for their partner, doesn't know how to improve and is worried about losing partner.
Person B: is in relationship with Person A, doesn't care about their faults, but because of growing insecurities the two become distant and Person B starts looking for support.
Person C: Outsider who supports Person B through rough patch and because they're able to communicate and listen to their friend and spend a lot of time emotionally vulnerable around each other creates a deeper relationship on the surface when in reality there's usually no other grounds to say they'd be a good romantic pairing, but one always gets a crush and because Person A is growing more and more insecure and distant and is unable to properly communicate and Person B is unwillingly to understand that Person C is making Person A become worse everything goes downhill.
It's a mess of miscommunications, bad moments, fake feelings, and bullshit.
If you find yourself in any of these situations, whether you be A, B, or C. The most important thing you can do,
As Person A or B, speak to your partner. No one else. Your relationship problems should be solved between the two of you. If things go south because of it, so be it. Better that way than getting a third party involved.
As Person C, LEAVE. GO. SHOO. Yes you wanna support your friend but OH MY GOD YOU ARE DOING NO ONE ANY FAVORS. Tell them to go speak to their partner when they have an issue. If they say they can't, then it's not your problem. If they bring up relationship shit, I don't care how much you wanna help SHUT IT DOWN. It's not good. Cease. LEAVE. RUN AWAY. You're gonna make things worse even if they seem to get better.
"when me and nix wanted to do things together just the two of us, we went into private server" im sorry but acting like the bf had NO reason for acting jealous is mind boggling to me. zero self reflection from OP
idk why every couple in ff14 99% are endup with these drama, its like a trait. And all these OP had similar trait, like to write "I help everyone in fc grow", "Im a good person", "People jealous of me", they know her bf dont like them twirling around their gf, yet still 24/7 only play with the psycho gf 1 on 1.
if you have to say so many times youre a good person 99% chance youre actually not a good person
Ah yes, I TOO get angry when my friends boyfriend flirts with her.
Wtf is OP on?
"He was like the girl in the relationship" dam OP, I think you just have weird ideas about what relationships are like. Poor Val.
Edit: Oh jesus hes one of those guys huh. Lol.
Sarah, run
Not gonna lie, all parties in this story sounded like they were acting innapropriately. Like the post writer, the OP, was also immature in and of themselves. Saying things like "They were complaining about playing FF7 remake on easy" Yeah and? It's really none of their business to judge XD the OP seemed to have this aura of "well this is right and this is wrong" when it was pertaining to business not involved with them at all. And yes....if my partner was watching anime with another person intently I would feel upset. Very upset.
I felt personally offended. I never played ff7 but I prefer my games easy.
It's kind of crazy that the OP has so little self-awareness that they can't realize they're the drama llama / bad guy of the story.
A 'friend' of theirs wants to hang out with their boyfriend, who just wants to do casual content and relax with them. The boyfriend won't even interfere with them watching anime and hanging out, just wants to be included and play games in the channel with them. They're actively angry that the two of them are nice to each other and speak romantically. Then, they pressured their friend to sympathize with them to shut them up and took it as gospel.
Finally, it all ends when they aggravates rhe friend while she's hurt that a pandemic won't let her visit her partner, and apparently says some stuff so bad that it ruins their friendship and makes the boyfriend (who remember, the OP is claiming is spineless) come to talk to them and go "What the hell is wrong with you!?" just to then blow up on the boyfriend and make themselves a pariah among the friend group.
After all that, they are exiled out and hedged from the social circle. Even after all this, they *still* haven't figured out they're the garbage drama llama. Truly amazing.
I felt like I read the OP’s life story! 😂 Also, I added a funny clip 30:38
That was harsh Pathra... 🥲
the bf is 28??? how old is op omg this sounds like highschool drama dude i cant imagine being grown and typing this shit out 😭and thats bc theyre probably older than me too
As someone whose seen these things happen so often even in my server of Famfrit, Honestly both the OP and the clingy boyfriend both sound pretty terrible. I've seen terrible situations where best friends started harassing eachother simply because one honestly wanted to date the other(like c'mon,no means no! Respect it and move on). Then there were fcs broken up due to an overly clingy lovers that never really wanted to be there or got caught cheating etc. But in the same light, does anyone believe in platonic relationships anymore?! frienships of all kinds exist. Maybe it's just due to me having friends of both genders or being an ace woman, but two people of opposite genders watching something doesn't really seem like a big deal, unless the partner is deeply insecure and that's a red flag within itself. If I play FF and my partner plays COD, i'm not going to freak out because they have a friendly circle there, and they wouldn't do the same to me. Just because hobbies differ doesn't mean you can't both do something ya like together later. We all need me time every now and then, I think more relationships (platonic and romantic) need to realise this.
Find a normal mentally healthy ff14 player challenge impossible difficulty
You sound like my friend, lol. He got me into the game, then quit and most of his complaints were about how weird people are in game. I see what you guys mean now!
I feel like I'm listening to an old school audio tape about
Clifford the big red dog, except it's about FFXIV drama.
Op sounds like they had some feelings for Nyx originally. But all of them dealt with things badly, so none of them are really that great
I'm the kind of person that hates being part of drama but get can't help be fascinated reading/hearing about them from a stranger's perspective. 😂 Keep it up Pathra! I enjoy seeing what dance "backgrounds" you will pick each time and the stories!😊
I loooove featuring amazing homes, clubs, fcs when I do these also! So feel free for anyone to drop suggestions of amazing places!
This is why some guys would not let their gfs have male friends. There are often times when it may seem like harmless but when the other guy his gf is friend with is hanging out with her more and more, it gives off that sus vibe that the guy will develope feelings towards her and give her the ideas that he is better than her bf. I have seen this way too often in relationship. To me in this story, I kind of see the OP developing feelings towards his friend (even if he doesn't realize it or deny it) and pretty much lost his chance at the girl especially if he tell that vale person of "how he is amazed to get a gf" which kind of speak to me that he wasn't able to get his feelings out before that guy does to nyx. Some guys gotta learn to go for the chase and not let the prey get away especially when you know you been around that girl for X amount of time. And I agree with you on the part when you mention when a guy friend tells his female friend that he don't like her bf cause of reasons, in a female eyes that is definitely jealous whether the guy friend emit or not, he was definitely pushing some feelings out without realizing it. But yeaa I know if my bf caught me watching movies or anime with another guy, I wouldn't be surpised if he gets protective. When op and nyx decided to watch anime, I'm not surpised vale decided to jump in, that's like number one bf protective mode especially when he cares for the girl he is with. Op and the rest of the mentioned were just not in their right heads and some stuff were just not mixing well. Maybe it was for the best and op learns from this and just go after the next girl and not just wait until his feelings gets hurt again.
I bet people werent siding with anyone. They just tried to get away from their drama and didnt care. People play games to relax not to get involved in guilds dramas 😅
OP seems really sus and reminds me of someone (whom I also met through FFXIV, kind of) who always played the victim. They would say these wise-sounding things but completely lacked the self awareness to realize that they, in fact, were in the wrong. Like how OP kept saying that the other two wouldn't own up to what they did... But OP never specified when he did in the situation, either.
bro was being really weird about it, aint no way this man thought he was in the right.
OP super sus. He wanted the girl for sure.
This story is wild! Keep up the stories
I felt personally attacked by OP's words to Val. Almost hitting too close to home lmao.
Then it must be true
Tbh we don't know the boundaries the GF/BF put up. Platonic or not, at times it does feel kinda iffy if you see your significant other with the opposite/attracted gender alone in VC when you know the person might be attracted to your SO.
Though, my opinion overall:
Should've just made a discord VC where everyone is forced muted to watch if you really were just gonna watch anime together in a discord server and don't want others to talk and disturb the watching experience and communicate in a mute VCtext channel or something.
The gf being disrespectful to the bf if they have set boundaries beforehand by being alone a lot with OP.
The bf being a dick for not talking it out with like an adult to the OP if he does feel insecure or want OP to back off and respect him as the girl's BF/their relationship.
The OP seems self righteous and pretentious a f and the "what was everything I did for?" makes it sound like they weren't genuinely being a friend but wanted more from the girl. You don't say that kind of thing if you're genuinely being there for someone as a friend without wanting something in return imo ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Good input and solutions!
You know, I saw some video a few days ago about someone talking about why people would play a MMO alone. THIS is one of the reasons why I choose to play alone. Of course I do join groups for Raids or Dungeons and I am in a FC. I help when someone needs help but other than that I do my thing. I don't join Voice Chats and I rarely every write something in the FC's Discord. I just want to play FF14 without Drama and without having to deal with someone elses problems or dramas because that would probably ruin the game for me and since I love this game I won't let that happen.
Yeah. Being in a chat 'alone' with another guy or girl when your taken is a ligit first step into knowing that one of them isnt interested in their partner anymore and are wanting something else.
Who would blame Val???
This girl isn't giving him attention it seems .......
The OP must consider this situation when his gf would be watch videos and private calls with other men.........
12:37 yes what WAS it you all did for? So apparently there is unspoken motive, I think he had eyes on nyx
What I also do not understand: It was first FC stalking the OP....but when later Nyx spotted him she was scared he was going to bother.
He seem to hold off many info ...?
Yeh...the op sound like they're in the wrong. They should've just talked it out instead of getting mad that dude wanted to be around his girlfriend. The op sounds super toxic
In my opinion, OP is sus, you don't go talking down on someone's partner, you can let the person vent, but you should never be the one bringing them down. For example, I had a friend who was married, and she was going through a rough patch. I would try to put her husband's viewpoint into perspective for her to try to get them to work things out. In the end, they got divorced, but I would never speak down on him. I've had people speak down on my girlfriend and I immediately chew them out for it or cut contact with them, I don't care how bad things get between me and her, our problems are exactly that, our problems, no one else's, no one else fully understands the situation and they don't have a voice in the matter. They can try to get me to see from her perspective, but I won't put up with putting her down.
watching movies or anime together so much with someone you know is taken is hella sus
edit: also op painting himself in such a good light like he literally never did anything wrong just rubs me the wrong way
LOL how the fk is that sus? you kids are ridiculous. her bf doesn't like anime but op did and as op said the guy talked over the show so ofc she hated him joining during them watching shows.
@@slimfastsubaru2043 and you gonna take what op said at face value, gj man
@@slimfastsubaru2043 the bf at most sounds lame af. on the other hand op sounds rude, egocentric, cringe and his entire story feels curated af
@@UnknownArchivo slimfast is the op. It's obvious now he's a nut. God this channel is gold 😆
@@UnknownArchivo yes I am gonna take it at face value as I've had a very similar experience except it was my guy friend and his annoying ass gf. I'm not gay either. She was clingy, jealous we hang out a lot, got upset if we did anything and I mean literally anything without her, started spreading rumors about me after he bf got mad at her for the behavior and so on. I've met people like the guy in this story so I sympathize.
I have no idea how people let online game drama bother them so much . I can understand if in real life you have coworkers , school mates or someone who’s always in your life bullying you . But block lists exist online .
Seems sus. I think he had a crush on her . Who cares about respect in a game where pvp doesn’t exist like RuneScape and wow where pvp is a whole area ingame or a whole world
Yea I feel the same way as you lol I think these people just do the same routine everyday, all day and got bored so they need some drama to make their gaming life interesting.
@qadri rulzdood it's not that. Just a bunch of socially inept individuals going through trial and error of social interactions
the way op talks screams "nice guy". val was being mildly annoying and clingy at worst. his comments about val's masculinity and how "women are always right even when they are wrong" are the biggest red flags a self proclaimed hardcore mmo gamer can have. egocentric and gross
OP has real nice guy vibes
Watching shows with another person's girl. Maybe some of yall are cool with that but there are prolly some boundaries that Val didn't like and the op possibly could've respected that as they are in a relationship.
Iono op kinda also sounded like he liked nyx. He was stepping into some shit he should have just bowed out
I kinda feel bad for Val in this situation
he just wanted to hang out with his gf
of course he would be wary when OP very clearly has feelings for Nyx
Nyx was wrong to go to op about all her relationship issues
Facts
op is def in denial he have feelings for her.. and defending his argument with "she's my best friend" come on boy..its very obvious.
This is very off. There's multiple sides to a story. I recently had this issue with a friend. She would constantly complain to me and another friend. Eventually me and this other friend put our convos together and she was giving different stories to us about everything. And over the tiniest thing. Anything to make her a victim in every situation, no matter how small. For example, I hosted hide and seek (all names hidden) for my FC for a while. We were hiding in Crystarium and she was seeking. It was going fine, she struggled a bit. At one point she stood at a high point and just tab targeted until she found one of our friends behind a box, where she couldn't see. We decided right then that no one should be allowed to do that, I didn't realize you could target someone behind items. After that her mood down spiraled, I kept apologizing and told her it was all okay. We could hear her sister in the background, and she blamed her mood on her sister. Even though we clearly hear her sister and brother in law laughing and talking about something unrelated. She later vented to me that they were laughing at her and making fun of her.
All this to say, I no longer trust a story from one perspective. No matter how small. There was so much more drama with her, but I ended up blocking her. She isn't active in the FC or the FC discord anymore, and didn't talk to me much anyways. But this OP reminded me of this lol.
Our FC was built off of a previous FC and their drama. Long story short, the leader made players pay 10k a month to stay in the FC, she left the game and took everything from the FC house and chest, including 60 million gil for herself. She didn't play, only logging in to keep her house out of petty reasons. The core members of our FC (including the girl I talked about above) were from that FC originally. I wasn't around at that time, my brother was the one who broke away from the toxic FC and made the one we have now. I have many stories also lol drama and creeps - new girl saying she wanted to fist me to my older brother, and continued to joke when I said I was uncomfortable. :)
WTF!? That's so insane and creepy! I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.
This has got to be one of the worst stories I’ve heard writing wise for a long time. We all know people like OP who just take years getting to whatever point they’re trying to make and constantly just give out multiple old man “in my opinion” takes during the story.
My ex had a friend like OP; it worked out for him because 6 months after we split up due to COVID he managed to ingratiate himself into her life. I mean, he was a lucky crypto-rich & retired guy in his 20s but I was locked away from her after 6 years due to COVID borders. So it damaged our relationship. But the thing is. I left this guy alone, they played tons of games, watched anime, did lots together. I never cared or got controlling. But when he tried to damage our relationship I had to speak up. He visited/stayed over at her place. I trusted her that much. Nothing happened but he got drunk and confessed his love, then flew home and left an apology "thousands of dollars worth of money" envelope on the table. I was upset he did that and said he couldn't visit RL unless we were together as a group but I still dismissed it. But I told him, I was greatly disappointed with him. He started giving her an ultimatum that their friendship was over so long as I stayed. Still after a year of that, I tolerated that nonsense but the well was poisoned and since we were on lockdown the RL bond that overrode that wore away between us until we split up. He then paid for all our friends to have a meet-up in NYC, so yeah, nice guy syndrome. I'm sorry but sometimes opposite gender bestfriends are an escape that let you emotionally cheat instead of working on your bond with your partner. Its a complicated mess.
Damn that sucks. Hate to say it but long distance will always never work out. Hope everything’s okay with you and yourself now.
Yeah, this is one of my fears...
I try to be a nice partner and let my significant other have friends of the opposite gender because I don't want to come off as controlling or whatever. However, recently, my partner admitted that one of his girl friends offered her couch to him since he has a long commute from work (she lives in the city where he works). I was obviously upset and made it clear it would make me uncomfortable; thankfully he was very understanding, but it still made my mind wander.
OP lost me at 12:08 lol
This honestly reminds me of a certain couple on Balmung that did that same crap to me and my IRL husband. The stories I could tell you lol
👀 would you like to share any? haha
My sense is OP was the problem. If they actually did experience harassment that really sucks and no one deserves that. But at the same time, I don't trust them. OP is the classic unreliable narrator. So who knows what really happened; were we to hear it from a neutral perspective.
Lmao I'm a firm believer of the "just hit the bricks" meme. If people start acting suspicious, if I'm excluded from things or ignored, I just leave. FC's dead? *Hit the bricks.* People excluding you from content? *Just hit the bricks!* Uncomfortable "e-couple" shenanigans? *Just hit the bricks!* Because if you say anything to these people, you're immediately the the enemy and you'll be drawn in to some long drawn out mess.
Very true, and a good motto to live by!
It's best just to leave the drama behind and let it destroy itself in due time.
"Is it weird for a guy and a girl to watch shows together when one of them is taken?"
Absolutely not! I'm firmly taken, both in game and IRL. My best mate of 20 years is a bloke and we watch wrestling and other stuff without my man there. When my mate was married and I was single, he'd come over to my house to watch the above. His ex-wife wasn't into wrestling and my man isn't, either. My mate and I also game together, both with and without my man being present. It's perfectly healthy to have friends of the opposite sex so long as both parties are on the same page about being platonic.
Had some drama over the weekend, a tank wanted 50k gill, and they decided to slow pull everything. I wanted to kill them like I did another tank last year but the final boss didn't have the proper attacks to facilitate it.
as for last year, an entitled tank was complaining about how new players were destroying the game by buying boost books. we couldn't boot the guy because they refused to roll for loot. but the final boss had line aoes that targeted each player. I simply ran behind the tank and watched them get destroyed. we wiped but it also gave us the opportunity to boot the tank to get a better one.
LOL, wow! I've never seen a tank wanting gil so they'll pull more, and I pray I never do. So sorry you had to deal with such idiocy!
Man I wish I remember all my drama story lol u all love to hear it but I have poor memory ❤❤❤ good story lol a lot drama
Hahaha OP sounds like a highschooler
So as someone who is married and has a hubby who doesn't mind that I have guy friends, he lets me privately talk to my friends all the time when we're just chatting. However if I were to watch a movie with any of them I certainly wouldn't mind my hubby joining us because he's my partner and I love doing anything that he's involved in because I love him. He has friends who are girls but I definitely would feel some kind of way if he wanted to be in a private discord call with her and I wasn't invited or not allowed. Your significant other should always come first before friends as long as boundaries are set and respected. If boundaries are being pushed and strained then the two shouldn't be together if they can't respect each other's wishes. Plain and simple as that. I personally wouldn't mind my hubby watching a movie with friends who are girls as long as I'm there in the call with him. lol Cuz it's not him I don't trust, it's everyone else I don't trust and some people will try and make moves on people whether they are taken or not so I just like to be there just in case such a thing happens and I can defuse the situation by reminding them that I'm his partner.
Op is trash and became a nice guy from Reddit
Me who never talks to anyone in-game: Hmmm yes interesting..
*eats popcorn*
"Everyone chose their side. It's pathetic." "My friends asked me my side and I didn't respond"
Ok bud.
OP seems the one in the wrong in this story,,,
I wonder how many drama stories she reads before deciding on one lol. I would be worn out.
For real! It's not easy going through em all and proof reading! There's still a long line!!
This has tempted me to post a similar story about my ex and her projecting jealousy onto me, but I think its been too long. Kicking up the dust would not be worth. They, and that group, would instantly recognise who I was. (And Im genuinely shocked they didnt submit the story.) Because to them, I was in the wrong, but they lacked so much context.
might delete this later...
I do not think watching a movie or a show with someone that is taken is a problem at all.
I feel so bad for Val. He tried including himself in Nix's life more to get/keep her attention.. :(
ik this is a very unpopular opinion, but for me personally its always a huge red flag when people complain about a couple in their group...acting like a couple. like I understand being annoyed if it interferes with the gameplay and having fun with friends but like, if you are friends with people, who are dating, don't act surprised when they act like they're dating???? my gf and I play ffxiv together, and have our own fc with a group of friends. everyone knows we are dating. we like to call eachother babe and say nice things to one another because we've been together for 5 years, and, I love her?? lmao. sometimes we even, god forbid, emote at eachother in game, because its fun and silly. however we also chat with our friends, actively participate in activities, and nothing about me and my girlfriend being a couple hinders that. yall are just salty, or if the couples you hang out with are actually toxic, you are just bad at picking friends. get new ones, dont be miserable, jesus christ.
OP sounds in love with Nyx, but is expecting Nyx to leave Val for him, without saying that. OP sounds like a "nice guy"
What they said that was a red flag for me was, "What was it all for?" When talking about being there for their friend.
You get the friendship, duh lol
Respect your friend's autonomy. You might not like their partner, but that's not your choice to make. You either choose to be a friend, or you don't. That's on you. Laying into your friend's boyfriend is pretty shitty when they're confiding in you. That was Nyx's info to share and mend with her boyfriend, not yours.
Friends listen, they comfort. They don't get a god complex and choose for their friends. They support. Not control. OP is a bad friend.
These dramas are so hilarious, if you're not happy with something just leave. No need to say anything. Weak people smh.
Been binging your vids, I'm SO glad my first FC has been great. I'm still with them ever since 2019 when I first started playing.
What an annoying story, though. I don't blame OP for feeling the way he did.
I love these ff14 drama videos and I don't even play anymore 😭
OP is the problem here. Do not even need to hear Nix's side or Val's side. OP caught feelings and thought he was hiding it well and he wasn't. OP was hoping Nix would ditch Val and fall right into his waiting Nice Guy TM arms. The comment about women always lie or whatever it was ... yeah, he was the problem. Glad Nix and Val don't have to deal with him anymore.
OP is the type that would try taking another guy's girlfriend and tbh if he got Nyx as he wanted he'd be just as bad as he claims Val is. Not only because he is possessive but because Nyx is a bad partner. You don't talk trash about your partner like that, but I feel she was just stringing op along, he just needed justification for the BS he was pulling.
The best one in the situation was Val, he might be Clingy but I mean this is dude's GF who wants to see a part of their day get taken by someone else, he was a good guy hope he can find a brod with some sense. xD
Children being dramatic.
Holy shit, good thing I roll solo.
wtf, Op is the kind of person I never want near me.
I dont like this op. He is failing the vibe check.
i think watching movies or anime together is really strange.
i guess its some thing close friends can do sometimes but whenever i got into that situation everytime i felt strongly for them but it seems the other didn't got that feeling, yet i was still the only person they wanted to watch stuff together with.
and joining the discords voice happens alot. i got a couple friends who just get on hoping we play the game they play whilst we were already on. and whilst that's fine sometimes it does get really annoying, ppl talking about different games through eachother. and you don't want to tell a friend off.
In my opinion, this doesn't paint the OP in a good light.
OP's one of *those* 😂
OP was said then the comment about women cemented that he’s the toxic one
26:15 facts lol
Damn dude OP is so agro 😭
yeah.... op is the problem here 👀
12:20 Women don't apologize though.
Even if they're wrong.
It's always the man that has to be the adult.
To the point that it's become a bit of a meme/cliche.
That was what they meant.
op letting the incel out XD
this OP is full of BS
op been simping for someones gf and expects sympathy...sigh.
Just dont date online...
Just don't date. I ran into similar issues in real life.
or the BF was TRASH Asumeing that the Freind may have liked her just becuase the watch shows is kinda messed up
And this highschool BS, plus the story, is why I quit FFXIV
I'm grateful I've never encountered issues like this, but if I did-I'd 100% leave the FC and friend group and start anew lol.