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Said it before, will say it again: it is better to be alone than with someone who treats you like garbage. Bradley deserved so much better. And those poor children!
I think all victims of toxic relationship also know they better alone, but all the manipulation shit by the other one makes them feels trapped and with no choice but to stay until it is too late..
@@TheDramacist True. It's not being single, it's the default state and there's nothing weird about it. Romantic relationships sound exhausting, I prefer my family and friends.
I was one of those abused men. And I remember distinctly to this day that when I had finally had enough of her physical abuse I told her if she ever hit me again I would call the police. To which she replied “go ahead, who do you think they are going to believe? You, a big strong man or me, a frail scared woman that you know I’ll show them” I left that night and never looked back. Unfortunately there are many men that can’t.
I've been abused more times than I can count. There's a stigma unfortunately that no matter what as a man, you are weaker for the situation. Regardless of how you react, you either fight back and get labeled abusive or you don't and your less of a man for it. Lose/lose scenario.
patriarchy f*cks everyone, we feminists keep saying it but no one listens :/ hopefully that changes in the near future and everyone can be heard and believed
she checked all the boxes of an abusive partner , manipulative, controlling , narcissistic , physical violence and people saw it and didn't take it seriously because he was a man . He wanted out of the relationship and got killed for it. May his soul rest in peace .
I've been in an abusive relationship with my ex, we have a kid but I had to end that relationship while still being in his life. It sucks that noone steps in like "hey you can't treat him that way." Breaking up and living separately is the best choice when kids are involved.
@@thedesensitizedsympathizer5307 Video covers her past, mental state and abuse of drugs. So there is no wonder, she became what she is. Either selfinsecurity, or will to control somebody, or maybe inabillity to trust and create bond with people, whatever it was
@@thedesensitizedsympathizer5307 narcissistic, egotistical, entitled... Not having a normal job probably fed into it a bit. She never had to go out and interact with bosses or answer to employers, so not a lot of accountability or responsibility. Her hitting and spitting on men in the bar, speaks volumes about her thinking she could get away with unacceptable behavior. Adding alcohol and drugs to an already volatile person, rarely improves the situation (sometimes people become calmer, but not often). She should have gotten a murder charge at the very least.
I'm showing my 16yr old son this. I think mum's need to tell their sons that they could become a victim of these types of women. As well as being taught that they should be good men
That's what you get when you end up with a slutty woman, she was a sex freak and he loved it. He chose to keep going back to her, he chose that toxic relationship. You can only protect them for so long, when they become men they make their own choices
@@mario-qi3yw Warn him. You may not ever see him again because of the Dunning Kruger effect. That's the reason a lot of these men get capped in the streets. Trust me.
It cracks me up that she went and slapped some random guy at the bar thinking she’d get away with it and he smacked the shit out of her, but it also frustrates me that she went and took her frustration out on Bradley cause he didn’t “stand up for her”. Sounds like an absolute psychopath
He didn't not tell the doc because he was "a gentle soul" (although I'm sure he was); he didnt tell the doc because he was an abused partner and that makes you isolated, ashamed, too scared to reach out, etc.
Do you know the case of Alex Skeel? He only barely survived because a police officer angel did his job for once and actually saw through the BS to what was going on. Doctor said he was days away from death. Women absolutely can be abusers and from what I've seen, some of the most calculating and cruel. Male abusers are often rage motivated, but a calculating female narcissist is a terror.
where I live in Canada, there was a walk to "stop domestic abuse" ... well... how... what is the solution? It is sad and unfortunate that people feel shame, but, how then? We must not be afraid to say, my partner is abusive, see the red flags, and get the fk out!!!
@@chaoswitch1974 Women are actually more inclined to be the abusers than men. Thays why lesbian couples have the highest DV rates compared to straight and gay couples.
@@missandry2669 I don't think you realize how abusive relationships are formed. They all start out as good and normal then slowly start going downhill.
Wow the second only fans boyfriend murderer… and in Bristol?! Damn. The parallels between Courtney Clenny and this is insane. Both were stabbed in the chest 😔People really need to take domestic violence against men more seriously 😐
Honestly, I feel we're gonna see more, only fans by its nature attracts alot of one certain type of person, attention hungry, troubled ,emotionally volatile, the attention they crave is what onlyfans feeds
This is eerily similar to the Courtney Clenney case in almost every single way. A woman with serious anger issues, two people who obviously should break up but don't, constant warning signs of them not being compatible, and the awareness of the killer that their anger could get out of control and lead to them taking the life of their partner and it actually happening.
It’s so easy to break up in most cases when you think about it, it will hurt initially and may be complicated, but most of these cases wouldn’t even be a thing if the one being abused just walked away from their evil partners earlier
As someone born and bred in Bristol I'm horrified that this story wasn't pushed in front of us and this is the first I'm hearing of it. Thank you for covering and sharing with us.
doesnt fit the media's narrative of "bad man bad patriarchy men bad men violent woman good woman smart woman angel" so that courts can keep leeching off of divorce cases and throwing random men in jail and taking their money without anyone questioning it. duh.
My son was killed this way by the girl he married, she was toxic and everyone warned him about her before they even got engaged. He loved her so much and she was constantly abusing him , he would show up with bruises and scrapes from their fights. We all begged him to leave but he was so intent on making it work. I remember crying at their wedding because in my gut i knew that it wouldnt end well. Every one told me i was being a karen, but he died and i blame myself for not doing more.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I will not pretend to know what you're going through. I pray that "person" will never know another moment of peace or comfort because they stole your comfort and peace.❤️
I'm so sorry this happened to your son and yourself. You did everything you could, no matter what you tried, unless you're ready to leave a bad relationship, you're stuck there. Best wishes❤💐
I have BPD and have endured trauma (part of BPD). I can tell you you are always in control, you may FEEL irrational rage but BPD is not insanity or a defense for violence or abuse. It makes communicating harder, emotions more volatile sometimes, but I'm so sick of BPD being associated with criminality... A famous therapist has BPD and used it to create Dialectal Behavioral Therapy
Good on you nor are antidepressants the cause of this behaviour. It infuriates me that mental health conditions & AD are somehow relevant in a persons actions & choices
Me too! The amount of true crime cases I see where the perpetrator has BPD and the speaker explains it's from BPD is very frustrating. I've been very angry and emotional, and I have NEVER EVER thought of hurting someone, even unmedicated. It's nauseating and honestly when I'm in a bad headspace and try to distract myself with some true crime, it makes it much worse :(
Hmmm. While you might be right, this is a pattern I've observed in so many true crime cases. I don't think BPD is what causes them to do commit such crimes, but BPD might be what triggers their intentions to do it. Like i think they already have a sick ideation of wanting to kill but it flares up and makes them act out due to BPD.
I have bpd and believe me it’s horrible I have been e extremely abusve to my grandma but i always regretted my actions she always forgave me Then i abandoned her bcoz i hated myself She died only waiting to see me one last time I m suffering with immense pain and guilt A mental illness and yrs off childhood abuse made me a horrible human
Not just BPD, but bipolar and even autism. They're all blamed for violence, when in reality, people with disabilities and mental illness are much more likely to be the victim or to harm themselves. Thank you describing what BPD is really like.
@Otto smh I’m sad and sorry for Bradley, his family, you and all those who are missing him. Just from this video, Bradley seems a wonderful soul. Well wishes and peace from Minneapolis, Minnesota, USA.
❤️ sad. RIP... I love how you Brits all get together and drink beer with your neighbors. We need more of that in the US. Our bar culture is closer to Bukowski's Barfly, which is pretty gross. We need more neighborhood pubs... and it's not that we don't have them, but there's just not the same cultural relevance. You guys still have the strong sense of community that in the US you only see in churches or activities surrounding children, which isn't everybody's thing.
@chaos witch Right?! I live in a small town, blink and you miss it. And yet, even here, I don't even know half my neighbors, and I have been here for quite a few years. There is a neighborhood bar, but only the drunks and old men go there. I know because I stopped by for a drink, and that's all I saw on a Saturday night.
Please, the next time you see them tell them "assalamu alaykum/peace be unto them" and let them know they are in our prayers (from the USA). May Allah ease their pain and raise Bradley's kids as an honor to him, the family and society. Ameen
Wow. So you know his family. This was a real tragedy. During the whole video I wouldn't look at that nasty woman's face and only focused on Bradley. Poor guy, sounded like he was as sweet as he looked. RIP Bradley. So tragic. How devistating for everyone in his life.
As a fellow Bradley who was in a relationship with a toxic, manipulative woman, my heart breaks for Brad and his family. He seemed like such a great man who really tried to be the best partner and father he could be.
@@ninaowusu8157 Indeed. Brad's don't tend to be the most perceptive. Just look at this guy, Brad from the vid, Brad Pitt, Brad from Eastenders.... need I go on?
He was afraid to leave because they shared children, but now, the children are all alone, bearing an unfathomable pain for the rest of their lives. The lesson: don't stay with an abusive partner because of children. Rest in peace... :(
She got pregnant and had the children out of insecurity and also as a way to trap him in the relationship...then years later she regretted the decision and wished to be free of it but still attached because now shes tied in with the kids and the anger and resentment grew from there which added fuel to her manic and anxiety. I can relate to this because i used to be just like this..,.really a sad sick mentality
He could have sectioned her after the first time she stabbed him and he didn’t. She’s a pernicious narcissistic sociopath who I doubt could be helped by any amount of mental health treatment but at least he’d of had time to come up with a strategy to get away from her. Those kids needed to be protected from her too! Female family annihilators a rare but I think she was evil enough to do something that heinous to hurt him. Adrian doesn’t talk much about the kids but it seems they had a horrific front row seat to their parents toxic relationship. I hope they are together in a loving home and getting lots of professional counseling. It will compound this tragedy if they bring that cycle of violence into adulthood either as victims or abusers; sadly this happens too often.
Ok...i just want to say that im pleased and somewhat surprised to see how many ladies are supportive and empathetic toward the men that are victims of domestic abuse. Thats amazing, THANK YOU.
I was stabbed by an ex, and as the officers removed her from our apartment, she was screaming that I'd stabbed myself because she cheated on me. It was creepy hearing that in this context as well.
This story is almost identical to Courtney Clenny , look it up…it’s actually scary how similar they are. She was an only fans model too with millions of followers. She killed her boyfriend with one stab and it hit an artery. It’s such a sick story. She’s currently waiting in jail for the trial to begin
I almost thought this was the case he was covering on today video. Eerily too similar, especially since they are so alike. Pretty blonde, only fans and pretty much batshit crazy.
Ain't it weird how women who believe they should be given a free ride simply for showing their buttholes on the internet also believe that the world is their toilet? It's almost like there's some sort of correlation there.
@@miahhunter4010 I thought the same thing. It’s legitimately crazy how similar the stories are. When I saw this was a different couple I couldn’t believe my ears and eyes! CrZy world dude!
As a woman, I'm disgusted men's abuse case's don't get taken seriously. I've witnessed first hand women abusing men just out in public, hitting, spitting, throwing anything they can get a hold of..absolutely disgusting, that no one cared and just watched on as he sheltered himself. Now just imagine if rolls were reversed
Don't forget verbal and emotional abuse, relational aggression and manipulative measures. We need to treat abuse as a non-gendered issue but actually as a human issue.
Hi and thank you for another excellent video. I am 73 years old and come from a gentler generation where so little importance was placed on ‘beauty of self’. Family and values of respect were evident in those times. Obviously, there were the few exceptions, but throughout my formative years, this was the status quo. I watch in absolute horror as one after another entitled ‘influencer’ with so much to offer the youngsters of today, instead revert to showing how entitled and crude they are and how, in most instances, these attributes have brought them not only boundless amounts of money, but millions of followers. These are now the role models that their millions of followers are emulating and are held to be popular. Having 4 grandchildren in their late teens, and seeing and listening to them, I know that they are being affected by these TikTok videos etc. This case in particular as well as the Only Fans model, Courtney Clenney case I watched the other day are perfect examples. How sad that both these entitled non entities were allowed to behave in this manner for so long. Where were the people who raised them when they were younger? Why were they not taught basic humility… love of others? I end off here as I feel I have lost the world that I grew up in… However, thank you for your excellent videos that are always well presented and thought provoking. Off to get my cup of coffee so that I can cool down..❤
It’s true, today’s influences are strong, but so are you! You also have tremendous power to influence these next generations- tell your stories to them- research shows that kids are most resilient when they have been told family stories where those who came before them also struggled and overcame and lost and were real. You matter too 💜⚡️
I would worry more if that's who they follow. There's content across every spectrum, this dark niche is just that, a niche. Everything is also on display now, but even history tells a different tale. wish you well.
Now that I think of it, I kind of always wished I grew up in your time instead of this one. I tend to consider myself kindhearted and respectful, and the basis of our modern culture is being self absorbed and cruel to get by. My grandfather was born during the Second World War, and I’ll always remember my dad’s story of how his parents met. Nana was engaged to another man who was probably better off than Grandpa, and he won her over just by how good of a man he was. Now everyone is just entirely drawn inward. Nobody wants to be good or do things for other people anymore.
@thefilmwatcher1302 I agree. If NY mom was still alive, she would have hated what the youngsters are like today. She died 6 years ago at the age of 94. Thank you for your story. I enjoyed it. Kind regards
I can’t believe she claimed he stabbed himself, that’s something I hadn’t heard along with a lot of other information in this video. I’m from Bristol and there was barely any coverage on this at all, I only found out about it because someone I went to school with knew him personally and shared an article about it on Facebook. Thank you for doing this case!
God rest his soul I guess I now understand what jesus meant when he said it is finished on his cross he meant I've died n nailed all this evil to the cross yet so many do not believe
Something lesser happened to me. It sucks because you feel trapped like you cant tell anyone or else you will be shamed. You cant fix someone, they have to fix themselves.
I had an abusive girlfriend. You know what people thought? That I was the abusive one. No one believed me, not even some family members. Because I'm a man. No one cares. During an argument one night, she was hitting me, throwing items at me and I finally snapped and raised my voice at her, for the first time. Neighbours called the police, funny how they never called when her voice was raised. Anyways, I had a good talk with the police and told them my situation. Showed the scratches on me and and all the items she'd thrown. On her there wasn't even a mark. So the police recommended she leave for the night which she did. And the police told me to control MYSELF. I'm the frikken victim! Anyways, the early the next morning, I went to the local hardware and bought new locks for every door and window in the house and the local locksmith came to help me change them all. I also disabled the electric garage door. She wasn't getting in. Later that day she came to the house expecting to get in with her keys. She couldn't. She tried the windows, they were locked. The garage door? Her remote wouldn't work. Once she calmed down from all the screeching, I told her that she had 24 hours to get all her things or they'll go in the rubbish or on marketplace. She got her things and left. After a couple of months, I put the house up for sale and moved. She never found out where. I'm a happy man now but I'm still pissed that most people didn't take me seriously when I was abused by her. I got "you're a big guy, how could that little woman be hurting you?". Ever had a knife thrown at you? DV isn't ever right, but unfortunately women are far more protected than me men are.
Well said, glad you got out. Women also abuse other women.. that also doesnt get talked about. We all have to watch out for narc red flags and improve our self esteem so we have boundaries
Female here: Good on you to see what was happening to you and take appropriate action! You don't have to put up with that crap! Women can be toxic and lethal. And you are correct - still in 2022, people think a man cannot be subject to female abuse.BUT they can falsely accuse a male and male charged. I hate it.
What's more concerning is that her kids grew up thinking that its all normal, and there's an entire generation of mothers exactly like her raising even more illegitimate kids from multiple partners in broken homes. They are actively reproducing this behavior.
I’ve never been completely shocked before (because I watch true crime and horror a lot) by a case. “I have no limit when I’m angry.” Completely chilling.
Man this one gave me chills, i dated a girl that was very very similar to this girl, it was such a toxic relationship but i grew up surrounded by horrible relationships and toxic people so it kinda felt normal i guess. She was tier 100 crazy and then we had a kid so i was determined to make it work so my kid had both parents, long story short it took almost 7 years and tons of bullshit before i finally left. She got with another guy not long after and got in trouble for shooting at him, i literally dodged a bullet.
Interesting.. I can't stand crazy woman even for a day. I know nice and smart guys that have bipolar wives, and i can't figure out how they cope, but than you look at their parents and at least one has a similar disorder, so they already had to deal with crazy since they were kids.
jezus. thank god you got out. you never know if her shooting at you woulda been a hit. sometimes the missed are random. i worry about my brother. idk what it would take to make him get out. he LOVES his little son so much. but i know the wife, she's exactly like my ex. BPD. just like the chick in this video. not all are stabby shooty level. but............. fkk. sometimes you just never know. each person is an individual. some have better control than others, and understand consequences even in the moment. but all it takes is one good explosion, new, whatever event, and even they might not anticipate their reaction. i think threats of violence should always be taken seriously. and just *leave* the relationship. if kids, fight for custody. save the threats on your phone for evidence. good luck everybody.
Not really. If you look around you, you get a better idea of what people really look like than looking online. The problem is that image editing and filters are the norm, so most people think that's what women should look like. I live in Los Angeles, and there are a lot of gorgeous women, but honestly, most don't look like the ones on the internet. Also, isn't there something bewitching about viewing someone photogenic in a still image? You get an impression of something without experiencing their voice, stature, gait, height, weight, and personality which ALL contribute to attraction. I learned early on that people were not what they seemed online, for better or worse. I'd much rather be more attractive in person.
I love how she thinks he's just as guilty as she is because he cheated on her, as if she values herself so extremely that merely offending or being disloyal to her is on the same level of importance as her removing him from life
The only toxin in this relationship was Abigail. Funny how she was able to control her rage and did not retaliate again when the guy she slapped, slapped her back and knocked her to the floor BUT without hesitation, she took her entitled frustration and cruelty out on her usual soft target, by ending the life of pliable and non-confrontational Bradley.
@@butterflybe2230 Ew your bitterness is showing. A man lost his life here, parents lost their son and the kids have lost both parents and here you are blaming him because youre a legbeard, I can smell your catpiss house from here.
And there it is. Every violent female I've ever had to deal with doesn't like chaos and violence thrown back in their face once employing the tactic. They start in on being violent because they think they can. WHEN they find the balls to do something if you don't then and there fight fire with fire expect more smoke
Toxic relationships are such a big issue and they are so tricky to deal with. Society also seems to have a hard time confronting the issue of violent women. I had a 5 yr relationship that had this experience apart of it and trust me, it's a very difficult thing for people to understand how to deal with. (I hope everyone can find a better, more peaceful way of living rather than feeling stuck in a toxic situation) we all deserve to be able to get a chance to live our life's by living in the moment, free, without overthinking, just genuinely living in the moment. Have a great day everyone.
here here! and might i add, being SINGLE is way better than being in an abuse situation. listen to your gut, don't ignore red flags, stay safe out there!
I live mere seconds from the horseshoe pub where Bradley was last seen alive. Minutes from where he lived and was killed. Its so strange when it hits close to home. He was a pure soul, RIP Bradley.
@@ironicly__iconic Could be because the father's dead and the killer is in jail. They want to protect the children who may be in school from more abuse and bullying. All 4 of them.
@@cuccicucci4480 no its because she's a woman. If it had been a man it would have been plastered all over with the usual DV documentaries and warnings etc.
There was a murder in my state about 4 years ago involving a couple of 7 years since high school. That might be worth covering on your Channel. The killers name is Mary Katherine Higdon and the victim was Stephen Freeman. Love your videos, @Coffeehouse Crime
What did he see in her? He must have enjoyed humping that lumpy uggo a lot to get her pregnant multiple times. He didnt do anything to protect himself. And pls, dont breed with nutcases! The poor kids will be messed up. They likely inherited her BPD mental problem
There's got to be a baseline mental issue across the board of all the girls that degrade themselves on only fans. Normal, healthy people don't do things like that. This notion amongst that whole generation of porn creators that it's not a big deal is proving very quickly to be false.
I was in a bad toxic relationship when I was younger and I put up with so much shit... I've come to the realization that I tried to make things work out as if she was the only person in the world for me not realizing that there's 8 billion people in this world and staying obsessed over one person who physically hurts you, belittles & mocks you isn't the person you should be fighting for.
My very best friend, whom I've known for 20+ years, was physically and emotionally abused by his ex girlfriend for 6 long years, I was petrified he'd end up dead ... Thankfully he left her, but he was in denial for so long, it is so sad, he thought he deserved it, and unfortunately, leaving a toxic relationship is easier said than done. Glad you left that behind you, there is no changing some people and mental abuse leave deep scars as well. Take care ❤
Not only do you put a huge effort into your research, scripting, and editing, but you even do a marvelous job at the background details! Your "set" has such warm and cozy vibes. And you even animated the cat breathing (or are my eyes playing tricks on me?)! So impressive! I'm so glad I ran across your channel a few months back. I've loved every upload of yours.
Brad was a great dad and his sons especially miss him so much plus one of them witnessed the incident. They clinged to him as their mother was only interested in their daughter
he seems like a evil enabling narcissist, he was with her forever since 15 years of age they were together while she had children to other men... this boy brad is not a lovely awesome person he knew she needed help and decided to ignore and enable her.
"nauseatingly egotistical" is the phrase that I most associate with OnlyFans girls, self-professed "Influencers", etc. I don't understand why anyone would want to be in a romantic relationship with them, when they're way too in love with themselves to reciprocate.
She said she knew she was capable of killing him yet she never sought treatment for her anger issues and other things? If even she was aware how bad it had gotten but she didn't do anything about it then that says alot about her character. This chick should have gotten help decades ago when she was in school and she should have sought treatment herself as an adult.
@@Veruska75 how is it not easy? She was unemployed and her kids were taken away and lives in a country with free / very inexpensive health care. She had the time, and resources to get help. She knew she had issues and was capable of acting on them. Sounds like it cant get much easier to get help then that.
Not a relationship but a friendship. I was friends with someone crazy like her, I had to end it once and for all, cut off all ties because I thought she would kill me.This was 15 years ago. Toxic people aren’t worth sticking around.
Similar situation here. My friend began dating a woman and we, too, became friends. Turns out she had BPD and by the time he realized how unhinged she was, he was already financially and emotionally trapped. I wanted him to be safe, but he seriously had nowhere to go because I couldn't take him in (I rented a place and my roommates weren't comfortable having a guy sleep on the couch). When she finally hit him so bad he had to call the cops on her, he called me and asked me to pick him up while she was in jail because he might not get another chance. I was genuinely afraid she was going to murder us both once she got out. She did show up at my place looking for him, parking behind my car and trapping me in the house, but the threat of calling the police scared her away. The threat of a restraining order kept her away too, apparently, since I haven't heard from her since they issued her the papers. She still has most of his belongings because the cops won't show up to mediate their interactions so he can get his stuff. He was trapped in that relationship for something like 12 years because either the cops believed her story over his or if she did suffer any consequences, she'd take it out on him after she'd inevitably be let off the hook. I keep our doors double locked just in case she decides to track down our new address since my friend and I live together now. I worry about my ex-roommates in case she shows up there again on a rampage wanting to get revenge. I constantly kick myself, wishing I had done something to help sooner, but I was (and am) genuinely afraid she would and will kill us both.
@ Jasmine Lidia. You are absolutely correct. None of us need that toxicity, I also had a very toxic. ' friend' for two years. Finally I cut ties. What a relief! 😎
Between the past abuse and the narcissistic behavior it is not hard to see how this happened. Also the fact the she was lived off her looks and they were fading. Thanks for the interesting video. Also for highlighting a case of domestic abuse, where the abuser was the woman. Happy belated birthday
An abusive upbringing and personality disorders like narcissism and border line personality disorder disproportionately go together. I went out with someone with borderline personality disorder (though obviously I didn't know it and didn't have much of a clue about human psychology - learned that in counselling trying to put the pieces together afterwards!) for 3½ years and it was positively insane but thankfully never physical - though psychological abuse is bad enough. You don't realise how bad it was until after it's over and you start to talk about it to others. At the time your in the relationship you just take each armageddon as it comes and try and avoid the next one happening. Incidentally she had a cold, judgemental, angry and controlling mother and told me stuff about her childhood that rang true from my own experience of her mother, and how her mother treated her grandchildren.
And it's also NOT YOUR PROBLEM. If you think they're serious, you can contact their family, friends, or even the police for help. But you should still leave.
@@hannahp1108a boy did that to me once and I phoned the police and blocked him. Not my problem but the police can help. Strangely enough the police found him just chilling 🤔
Can we stop calling these kind of relationships toxic? It’s abusive. Toxic implies both are bad. HE didn’t have 3 kids by 3 other women. Social services didn’t kick HIM out. She was abusive. She was controlling. She was a monster.
She's far too dangerous to ever be let out of jail and nothing bar a miracle is ever going to change her into a decent human being. RIP Bradley. My deepest condolences to his family and friends. Those poor babies lost two parents that day.
As someone who was born and bred in Bristol and a big fan of true crime I have never heard of this case. Fascinating. Thanks Adrian for continuing your great work.
If you are in a toxic relationship, walk away asap. I was in 2 toxic relationships before, and it's more than a nightmare. Doesn't matter how much you pity or love the person, if they treat you like trash, best is to end it and let the time eases the pain of breaking up rather than losing your happiness for the whole life.
You can't change these people either, they may say "oh I'll change, oh I'll stop this or that etc" but it's all fake. They will act "better" to either get what they want, keep control or be manipulative. **GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL CAN** Don't be ashamed to ask for help, men or women. Please think of your life, safety and happiness before theirs. They want nothing more than to control, gaslight and destroy you. Their "love" may seem exciting and intense at first but I promise you this will not last or be reality. Usually something called "lovebombing", a tactic that abusive/narcissist people use to lure you in. If this is new to you or you're wondering if you're being abused take some time to research narcissists and abusive patterns. Pay close attention to what they say, how they react and their actions (because we all know actions speak louder than words). If something doesn't feel right, don't ignore that. I just hope that this was able to help someone out there, it's a horrific situation to be in. Stay safe x
@@tomflavel7312 she was a victim once, though... Hurt people hurt people. It wasn't her fault she wasn't show how to behave as an adult, all she knew was manipulation and violence. Yes it's her responsibility to seek help and heal from that and make a better life for herself, but if you're not shown how to do that either it becomes extremely difficult. She needed someone to stand up to her and show her that her behaviour was not acceptable from the very start.
I used to go to school with Brad when I first seen this in the news I felt so shocked and disgusted I still can't quite believe it now he did not deserve any of what he was put through Rest in peace Brad💙
I've heard it several times across the years when criminals say: "Sorry for what 'happened." Or someone saying after an affair: "It just 'happened'." It's like using the word "Happened" absolves them from responsibility, like it was a meteorite that fell from the sky and I just "happened to be standing there."
She obviously was very aware of her issues. She simply chose evil over love. She did a lot to hurt him and knew it all. Therefore, danger should never be let back out on the streets. She deserves to be locked up forever.😊
he seems like a evil enabling narcissist, he was with her forever since 15 years of age they were together while she had children to other men... this boy brad is not a lovely awesome person he knew she needed help and decided to ignore and enable her. until she had enough of this life.
@@cazzabe6747 Where did you get that information? Nothing about this video points out that he was an aggressor at all. She was very aggressive and evil. If she was not evil and was being controlled and abused, she would have reported him but that is not the case here.
@@cazzabe6747 No, that is incorrect and I don't really believe that you mean it. However, if you do, please take time to familiarise yourself with the information given and you will see that you sir have erred. 😎
I remember reading about this and thinking of what a horrible position the man was in. Yet I find a bit of warmth in the fact that his family supported him until the end and continue to do so beyond his death. Men's mental health and well being is so often overlooked. And Happy Birthday man!!
The fake appearance is a dead giveaway of how shallow she is, using a mask all her life until this very situation then the true appearance is revealed.
Adrian, thank you for honouring the victims in these cases. I've watched too many crime documentaries where they justify the killer, especially when it's a woman, but you are very impartial to the perpetrators. Thank you for honouring Bradley and even though I didn't know him, the way you present the victims helps us see a glimpse of who they were. All the best and happy birthday you beautiful bastard 🥰
If your partner say a threat even just once, be prepared, plan in advance, be calm & silent when he or she around. Don't take time, leave as soon as soon as possible bec. your life is in danger!
Wow. Just wow. This is a sobering and tragic case, the level of pain and fear this man probably felt on a regular basis is just staggering. With hope that the children take after their father, and are cared for going forward with the love and dedication he clearly had for them.
@@azazello1784 uh yeah basically. so.. lets say you want to leave her, she pretty much automatically wins in the court so she gets a ton of money from you and also your children so youll just end up homeless realistically, or in jail. uhhh.. or lets say you call the police - they will automatically believe anything she says basically, especially if you say shes abusing you, so you could also just end up in jail and also nothing will happen except she will get angry. uhhh.. you could try literally vanishing into thin air, but again, she gets the kids and she knows who you are so she can just sue you or falsely accuse you in court (she literally made a tiktok saying she calls the cops on him if he doesn't do what she wants). uh so yeah. i mean. yes. you're basically completely trapped. you cant leave, you cant really do anything at all basically because the courts are entirely rigged in her favor so uh yeah basically you lose in every single situation unless you want to just kill yourself or become a zombie and pretend the world doesnt exist. oh yeah and thats not including all the mind games and manipulation where she's saying that she loves you this whole time and all kinds of other stuff, like no one else will ever love you blah blah. so uh yeah. lmao. idk man. essentially trapped in every sense of the word tbh tldr: yes
As someone with BPD, I knew immediately that she also had BPD before the diagnosis was mentioned at the end. I feel bad for Bradley’s family and friends, losing a loved one so young is hard :(
I'm diagnosed with Borderline, and I've not once ever tried to manipulate anyone. I might have done so unintentionally, but every time it was explicitly brought up, I stopped, and/or I accepted the fact the other person needed to leave the situation. The absolute never though; I've never once wanted to physically harm anyone. Cases like this make me very upset that people like this make neurotypicals think we're all like this. It's not the case at all.
I have BPD and i left my former husband because i didn't want something this to happen. I stayed single ever since and finished 18 months of intensive MBT treatment. There is help out there but you have to sacrifice everything to get the help. I loved my ex but love wasn't enough.
if it makes you feel better alot of people misdiagnose bipolar disorder for narcissist personality disorder. Big time. Similar attributes but narsisstic people can't control their need for control. Hense killing in alot of these circumstances.
This I can relate to. I realised early enough that she was an undiagnosed mental health patient and used this knowledge to gauge my responses to her outbursts. Until we parted ways.
I know you are always very respectful with cases, but I really appreciate your kindness towards everyone in each case and how you handle the information. I don't know if this is just me but outside of maybe one or two other things I've watched over the years, I feel like some true crime youtubers don't handle things as respectfully as they should, like it's a dramatic story. Also, happy birthday!
Thank you, Adrian! These cases need to be highlighted and publicised. Historically, this type of abuse has never been addressed correctly. But things appear to be changing. There was a case in 2018 in the UK of Alex Skeel, who was abused in a very similar manner by his girlfriend Jordan Worth, with whom he had 2 children. She abused, starved and assaulted him (yes, with knives!) to the point where doctors said he was about 10 days away from death. Jordan Worth, who looks the total opposite of Abigail White, became the first female in the UK to be charged for criminal abuse of her partner. She was sentenced to 7.5 years imprisonment but was "released in January 2022 after serving half her sentence, something which occurs automatically in the UK and in 90% of cases of imprisonment." [Wikipedia]. She has a new victim...I mean, boyfriend...now. Would be great if you could feature this case. There's a YT vid about Alex's story at REALWOMEN/REALSTORIES.
Coffee in hand. Love the festive background. Thank you for all the research and care you put into these horrible cases. Kisses to Nero and I hope you have a fantastic birthday 🎂
So many warning signs were missed. This poor guy..it was so clear that they were codependent and he needed help leaving.. Happy birthday, Adrian! thanks for making amazing content. I listen to your videos while I work. You are an amazing soryteller and its been amazing to see your style develop when I look back at your older videos.
My heart breaks for Bradley Lewis’ loved ones. I’m so very sorry for their loss. I hope they can find some peace and purpose in taking care of those 4 babies. Nothing ‘good’ could inherently come from this, except that, God willing, those children may never be under their Mothers clutches,and they will be raised in a good and nurturing home.
I am married for 22 years and have had BPD for longer than that. The fear of abandonment is a huge thing and it makes me lash out verbally, but I attempt to be conscious of what I say and it usually turns into suicidal idiation on my part... but never have I EVER felt it was right to resort to violence or slander him online, nor have I ever done it. While BPD is hard as heck to deal with, it never makes it an excuse to do anything to another human. Period.
I'm glad you're so self-aware and conscious of your issues. BPD is absolutely not fun, but it can lead to a lot of abusive relationships. One of my ex-friends has BPD and abused her ex-boyfriend the same way Abigail did to Bradley, but luckily her ex got away from her before she could murder him. Comments like yours remind us that BPD doesn't equal murderer and we should hold off passing judgment based on diagnoses. I hope you can find adequate ways to cope. It really isn't fun not being able to control your intense moods.
I think more awareness and understanding of BPD is needed. It’s vastly misunderstood and under diagnosed. There are several types of therapy treatments that have been effective at helping individuals retrain their thinking and behaviors. It’s not easy, at all. But there is help available. The hardest part is getting those who need it, to take it.
This happens a lot. My last true relationship was with an abusive woman and her mom had incidents of abuse towards her dad. I had to come up with an elaborate lie to get out of that relationship, but I’m very glad that I don’t have to worry about her anymore. I’m even more glad that I never got her pregnant accidentally. I’ll just say it’s not easy pushing someone away that you truly care about.
@@SqueaksUofA Yet current feminism will defend the behaviour as everything is men's fault. I went to counselling years ago to discuss the abuse my brother and I suffered from my mother, and I found out later the counsellor was an avid feminist who laid all the blame on my brother and me. I'm glad you got out man, I had a similar experience with my first GF, glad I got out without too many negative consequences, although she did save like 20k as I paid for everything and cheated on me with one of my close friends. I feel sorry for him because they got married, divorced him, took all his shit, got him fired, and won 100% custody of their two boys, all while being celebrated by social media while claiming to be a Christian. That could have been me.
Her “parents” should not have been allowed to breed. Nor should she. Gotta have a license to catch a fish. We’ll be seeing her offspring featured here eventually.
I live in the same area this took place and lots of my friends were in the same schools as them. I've heard that Bradley was such a kind person even in Primary school. The outpouring of love on social media for him was huge amongst the local FB page for the area.
When someone tells you who they are, believe them. Also, theres always drug abuse behind these stories stay away from recreational drug use. You never know the effects further down the line. Great narration.
Happy birthday! Thank u for continuing to cover these stories with thoughtfulness and tact, without sensationalizing and providing respect to the victims and their families.
As a female Domestic Violence survivor, I feel terribly sad for all the men that go through this and don’t get the proper justice for the simple fact they are men. Hope y’all heal and please do not lose your hope in love.
The depth of analysis in this video is truly commendable. The intricate details surrounding the case of Abigail White and Bradley Lewis are dissected with clarity and sensitivity. It's not just a recounting of events but a thoughtful exploration of the psychological and social factors at play. The video manages to strike a balance between providing factual information and delving into the complexities of human behavior. Kudos to Coffee House Crime for yet another thought-provoking piece
@@annabelle3510 Happens every time there’s a case like this. They care less about male victims and men’s issues, and more about just sticking it to women. Brad was a human being and a victim of an evil narcissistic psychopath. He had a life to live that was taken away by scum. He’s not just a statistic to use for people’s anti-feminist agenda.
man as someone with bpd I had a sinking feeling when describing her early life + the anger issues already alluded to that she would have it 🙃 please don’t think we’re all murderers
We all have a choice, whether or not she had mental illness, she chose to do what she did. Her mental illness was not responsible, she is. So no, people with the same mental health issues who choose NOT to do such vile evil things are not bad people, nor would you all resort to such heinous acts.
Escaped a girl exactly like this, also with BPD which was only found out during the relationship. If someone has unmedicated BPD, do not pursue anything with them, you will suffer and suffer badly.
@@thisisbillgatesumm no. She is objectively unattractive. But males will take anything with bleached hay on their head and tons of plastic and fakeup as “beautiful” 😂😂😂😂😂
Such a sad case but I appreciate you bringing these things to our attention. It allows us in our own way to honor them, reflecting on their lives and those of their loved ones. So thank you, and happy birthday!
I dont know why, but crime stories that occurred recently always make me feel extra sad. Maybe it’s because I was alive doing my own thing while someone, somewhere is being murdered. Idk…
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Happy belated!
Happy birthday 🥳 keep being your sweet self
Belated Adrian🙂more blessings for you😉please keep safe always😊😊
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MAN!! 🎊 🎉🥳
Happy Cake Day Adrian :)
Said it before, will say it again: it is better to be alone than with someone who treats you like garbage. Bradley deserved so much better. And those poor children!
I think all victims of toxic relationship also know they better alone, but all the manipulation shit by the other one makes them feels trapped and with no choice but to stay until it is too late..
Amen. The poor children are effectively orphaned now. 😢
This why I choose not to do relationships. Im so safe and happy by myself. Id rather be crazy dog lady tyvm
He probably had a trauma bond, it's very hard to leave a violent partner
@@TheDramacist True. It's not being single, it's the default state and there's nothing weird about it. Romantic relationships sound exhausting, I prefer my family and friends.
as a woman, i feel incredibly sad that many men that get abused dont get taken seriously. rip bradley.
I was one of those abused men. And I remember distinctly to this day that when I had finally had enough of her physical abuse I told her if she ever hit me again I would call the police. To which she replied “go ahead, who do you think they are going to believe? You, a big strong man or me, a frail scared woman that you know I’ll show them” I left that night and never looked back. Unfortunately there are many men that can’t.
I've been abused more times than I can count. There's a stigma unfortunately that no matter what as a man, you are weaker for the situation. Regardless of how you react, you either fight back and get labeled abusive or you don't and your less of a man for it. Lose/lose scenario.
patriarchy f*cks everyone, we feminists keep saying it but no one listens :/ hopefully that changes in the near future and everyone can be heard and believed
I know, women talk about gender equality yet some say a man can never be abused by a woman
@@louise7083 agreed.
she checked all the boxes of an abusive partner , manipulative, controlling , narcissistic , physical violence and people saw it and didn't take it seriously because he was a man . He wanted out of the relationship and got killed for it. May his soul rest in peace .
I've been in an abusive relationship with my ex, we have a kid but I had to end that relationship while still being in his life. It sucks that noone steps in like "hey you can't treat him that way." Breaking up and living separately is the best choice when kids are involved.
Yeah, But WHY???? WHAT CAUSED HER TO DELELOP THOSE TRAITS?! I NEED TO KNOW!!!
@@thedesensitizedsympathizer5307 Video covers her past, mental state and abuse of drugs. So there is no wonder, she became what she is. Either selfinsecurity, or will to control somebody, or maybe inabillity to trust and create bond with people, whatever it was
Male victims of intimate partner violence/domestic abuse deserve just as better as female ones
@@thedesensitizedsympathizer5307 narcissistic, egotistical, entitled... Not having a normal job probably fed into it a bit. She never had to go out and interact with bosses or answer to employers, so not a lot of accountability or responsibility. Her hitting and spitting on men in the bar, speaks volumes about her thinking she could get away with unacceptable behavior. Adding alcohol and drugs to an already volatile person, rarely improves the situation (sometimes people become calmer, but not often). She should have gotten a murder charge at the very least.
I'm showing my 16yr old son this. I think mum's need to tell their sons that they could become a victim of these types of women. As well as being taught that they should be good men
tell ur son.. any one hits you,, hold ur ground & defend ur self by hitting that thing back with same force
That's what you get when you end up with a slutty woman, she was a sex freak and he loved it. He chose to keep going back to her, he chose that toxic relationship. You can only protect them for so long, when they become men they make their own choices
Your very smart to do that. I never warned my son about this. He’s 38, I taught him to be a gentleman. It’s not enough.
@@mario-qi3yw
Warn him. You may not ever see him again because of the Dunning Kruger effect. That's the reason a lot of these men get capped in the streets. Trust me.
The boys need to choose wisely. That’s the best lesson you can teach him. Good luck👍🏻
It cracks me up that she went and slapped some random guy at the bar thinking she’d get away with it and he smacked the shit out of her, but it also frustrates me that she went and took her frustration out on Bradley cause he didn’t “stand up for her”. Sounds like an absolute psychopath
lol yeah I was laughing at the scene of her getting smashed 😂😂😂 the look on her face hahaha
Shitty that you find that funny. I get that it's absurd of her, but to find that funny is gross
@@larsvonrinpoche1229 Not "haha" funny. They find it funny because it's so absurd. Like a "wtf" laugh.
She couldn't have expected her man to back her up when she instigated the altercation.
Uhg I thought the same thing
He didn't not tell the doc because he was "a gentle soul" (although I'm sure he was); he didnt tell the doc because he was an abused partner and that makes you isolated, ashamed, too scared to reach out, etc.
Especially since she was so manipulative around him and controlling…
Do you know the case of Alex Skeel? He only barely survived because a police officer angel did his job for once and actually saw through the BS to what was going on. Doctor said he was days away from death. Women absolutely can be abusers and from what I've seen, some of the most calculating and cruel. Male abusers are often rage motivated, but a calculating female narcissist is a terror.
where I live in Canada, there was a walk to "stop domestic abuse" ... well... how... what is the solution? It is sad and unfortunate that people feel shame, but, how then? We must not be afraid to say, my partner is abusive, see the red flags, and get the fk out!!!
@@chaoswitch1974 Women are actually more inclined to be the abusers than men. Thays why lesbian couples have the highest DV rates compared to straight and gay couples.
@@wintermoon7003 I'm not aware. Were there studies done on this? Do you have data to back that up?
Men in abusive relationships should be taken more seriously. Rest in Peace Bradley.💙
and also women v women DV too
Men should choose better next time
@@missandry2669 I don't think you realize how abusive relationships are formed. They all start out as good and normal then slowly start going downhill.
@@RandomSwiftie13 Tell that to men who constantly tell women to pick better when they get abused!
@@missandry2669 I love your name lol
Wow the second only fans boyfriend murderer… and in Bristol?! Damn. The parallels between Courtney Clenny and this is insane. Both were stabbed in the chest 😔People really need to take domestic violence against men more seriously 😐
Honestly, I feel we're gonna see more, only fans by its nature attracts alot of one certain type of person, attention hungry, troubled ,emotionally volatile, the attention they crave is what onlyfans feeds
They don't until there is a body. That's on both sides.
and in both cases the women had taken drugs.
@@Lena-so2lq Sad but true. It shouldn't get that far in the first place.
men need to not let themselves be domestically violated. that easy.
This is eerily similar to the Courtney Clenney case in almost every single way. A woman with serious anger issues, two people who obviously should break up but don't, constant warning signs of them not being compatible, and the awareness of the killer that their anger could get out of control and lead to them taking the life of their partner and it actually happening.
That’s what case I thought it was at first
It's almost play for play, even to the fact both men had already been stabbed before.
@@uncutgem7903 Me too :)
Yes I that it was the same case the woman looked similar 😩
It’s so easy to break up in most cases when you think about it, it will hurt initially and may be complicated, but most of these cases wouldn’t even be a thing if the one being abused just walked away from their evil partners earlier
As someone born and bred in Bristol I'm horrified that this story wasn't pushed in front of us and this is the first I'm hearing of it. Thank you for covering and sharing with us.
I'm from Radstock and didn't have a clue.. how did this not make the local news!?
doesnt fit the media's narrative of "bad man bad patriarchy men bad men violent woman good woman smart woman angel" so that courts can keep leeching off of divorce cases and throwing random men in jail and taking their money without anyone questioning it. duh.
@@tomcharlton1606 because is a man and the Uk is crazy woke place right now. Nobody cares about guys abuse, is a sad world.
Im from uk and im just now hearing this. How?
@Cordelia Thompson links ?
My son was killed this way by the girl he married, she was toxic and everyone warned him about her before they even got engaged. He loved her so much and she was constantly abusing him , he would show up with bruises and scrapes from their fights. We all begged him to leave but he was so intent on making it work. I remember crying at their wedding because in my gut i knew that it wouldnt end well. Every one told me i was being a karen, but he died and i blame myself for not doing more.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I will not pretend to know what you're going through. I pray that "person" will never know another moment of peace or comfort because they stole your comfort and peace.❤️
You did what you could mamma💖 wishing you love and light
So sorry for your loss❤️
I'm so sorry this happened to your son and yourself. You did everything you could, no matter what you tried, unless you're ready to leave a bad relationship, you're stuck there. Best wishes❤💐
There wasn’t anything you could of done, he was an adult
I have BPD and have endured trauma (part of BPD). I can tell you you are always in control, you may FEEL irrational rage but BPD is not insanity or a defense for violence or abuse. It makes communicating harder, emotions more volatile sometimes, but I'm so sick of BPD being associated with criminality... A famous therapist has BPD and used it to create Dialectal Behavioral Therapy
Good on you nor are antidepressants the cause of this behaviour. It infuriates me that mental health conditions & AD are somehow relevant in a persons actions & choices
Me too! The amount of true crime cases I see where the perpetrator has BPD and the speaker explains it's from BPD is very frustrating. I've been very angry and emotional, and I have NEVER EVER thought of hurting someone, even unmedicated. It's nauseating and honestly when I'm in a bad headspace and try to distract myself with some true crime, it makes it much worse :(
Hmmm. While you might be right, this is a pattern I've observed in so many true crime cases.
I don't think BPD is what causes them to do commit such crimes, but BPD might be what triggers their intentions to do it. Like i think they already have a sick ideation of wanting to kill but it flares up and makes them act out due to BPD.
I have bpd and believe me it’s horrible
I have been e extremely abusve to my grandma but i always regretted my actions she always forgave me
Then i abandoned her bcoz i hated myself
She died only waiting to see me one last time
I m suffering with immense pain and guilt
A mental illness and yrs off childhood abuse made me a horrible human
Not just BPD, but bipolar and even autism. They're all blamed for violence, when in reality, people with disabilities and mental illness are much more likely to be the victim or to harm themselves.
Thank you describing what BPD is really like.
This hit so close to home. Bradley’s family still come to the pub I work at regularly. He is so missed.
@Otto smh
I’m sad and sorry for Bradley, his family, you and all those who are missing him.
Just from this video, Bradley seems a wonderful soul.
Well wishes and peace from Minneapolis, Minnesota, USA.
❤️ sad. RIP... I love how you Brits all get together and drink beer with your neighbors. We need more of that in the US. Our bar culture is closer to Bukowski's Barfly, which is pretty gross. We need more neighborhood pubs... and it's not that we don't have them, but there's just not the same cultural relevance. You guys still have the strong sense of community that in the US you only see in churches or activities surrounding children, which isn't everybody's thing.
@chaos witch Right?! I live in a small town, blink and you miss it. And yet, even here, I don't even know half my neighbors, and I have been here for quite a few years. There is a neighborhood bar, but only the drunks and old men go there. I know because I stopped by for a drink, and that's all I saw on a Saturday night.
Please, the next time you see them tell them "assalamu alaykum/peace be unto them" and let them know they are in our prayers (from the USA). May Allah ease their pain and raise Bradley's kids as an honor to him, the family and society. Ameen
Wow. So you know his family. This was a real tragedy. During the whole video I wouldn't look at that nasty woman's face and only focused on Bradley. Poor guy, sounded like he was as sweet as he looked. RIP Bradley. So tragic. How devistating for everyone in his life.
As a fellow Bradley who was in a relationship with a toxic, manipulative woman, my heart breaks for Brad and his family. He seemed like such a great man who really tried to be the best partner and father he could be.
He seemed like he was desperate to have a nice warm place for mr. happy.
Glad you got out
you brads surely know how to pick your women
Why did you put up with it? I genuinely wonder and want to understand.
@@ninaowusu8157 Indeed. Brad's don't tend to be the most perceptive. Just look at this guy, Brad from the vid, Brad Pitt, Brad from Eastenders.... need I go on?
He was afraid to leave because they shared children, but now, the children are all alone, bearing an unfathomable pain for the rest of their lives. The lesson: don't stay with an abusive partner because of children. Rest in peace... :(
Yes leave and TAKE the children with you.
It's better for the children to be alone than with a psychotic mother. He should've taken them and ran.
i think he didn't want to leave because she had great tits, arse and legs.
She got pregnant and had the children out of insecurity and also as a way to trap him in the relationship...then years later she regretted the decision and wished to be free of it but still attached because now shes tied in with the kids and the anger and resentment grew from there which added fuel to her manic and anxiety. I can relate to this because i used to be just like this..,.really a sad sick mentality
He could have sectioned her after the first time she stabbed him and he didn’t. She’s a pernicious narcissistic sociopath who I doubt could be helped by any amount of mental health treatment but at least he’d of had time to come up with a strategy to get away from her. Those kids needed to be protected from her too! Female family annihilators a rare but I think she was evil enough to do something that heinous to hurt him. Adrian doesn’t talk much about the kids but it seems they had a horrific front row seat to their parents toxic relationship. I hope they are together in a loving home and getting lots of professional counseling. It will compound this tragedy if they bring that cycle of violence into adulthood either as victims or abusers; sadly this happens too often.
Ok...i just want to say that im pleased and somewhat surprised to see how many ladies are supportive and empathetic toward the men that are victims of domestic abuse. Thats amazing, THANK YOU.
of course we are. if anyone could and should understand being victimized, its women
Gender is irrelevant
@@melissamoonchild9216exactly…😢
No one should feel unsafe in their partnership.
@@melissamoonchild9216stop acting like woman are, by default, victims. You’re not.
I was stabbed by an ex, and as the officers removed her from our apartment, she was screaming that I'd stabbed myself because she cheated on me. It was creepy hearing that in this context as well.
this stuff is so much more common than anybody will ever accept in our current society due to the way men and women are portrayed in the media.
Very disturbing behavior hope you’re doing ok! 🙏🏽
Mate literally same. As men we never get believed either.
How many seconds of probation did she get?
@@aq1184 however long it took to diddy ride her lawyer....gluk gluk gluk lol
This story is almost identical to Courtney Clenny , look it up…it’s actually scary how similar they are. She was an only fans model too with millions of followers. She killed her boyfriend with one stab and it hit an artery. It’s such a sick story. She’s currently waiting in jail for the trial to begin
I almost thought this was the case he was covering on today video. Eerily too similar, especially since they are so alike. Pretty blonde, only fans and pretty much batshit crazy.
Ain't it weird how women who believe they should be given a free ride simply for showing their buttholes on the internet also believe that the world is their toilet? It's almost like there's some sort of correlation there.
@@miahhunter4010 I thought the same thing. It’s legitimately crazy how similar the stories are. When I saw this was a different couple I couldn’t believe my ears and eyes! CrZy world dude!
I thought the same!
I watched that a few days ago, and was shocked. Cortney said she threw a knife at her boyfriend, she didn’t stab him.
As a woman, I'm disgusted men's abuse case's don't get taken seriously. I've witnessed first hand women abusing men just out in public, hitting, spitting, throwing anything they can get a hold of..absolutely disgusting, that no one cared and just watched on as he sheltered himself. Now just imagine if rolls were reversed
Don't forget verbal and emotional abuse, relational aggression and manipulative measures. We need to treat abuse as a non-gendered issue but actually as a human issue.
and many women abuse other women too.. and this isn't talked about either
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Hhhaha he should have chose better 🤡🤡
@@beaulieuc8910 Yet males still show up on the news constantly
Hi and thank you for another excellent video. I am 73 years old and come from a gentler generation where so little importance was placed on ‘beauty of self’.
Family and values of respect were evident in those times. Obviously, there were the few exceptions, but throughout my formative years, this was the status quo.
I watch in absolute horror as one after another entitled ‘influencer’ with so much to offer the youngsters of today, instead revert to showing how entitled and crude they are and how, in most instances, these attributes have brought them not only boundless amounts of money, but millions of followers.
These are now the role models that their millions of followers are emulating and are held to be popular.
Having 4 grandchildren in their late teens, and seeing and listening to them, I know that they are being affected by these TikTok videos etc.
This case in particular as well as the Only Fans model, Courtney Clenney case I watched the other day are perfect examples.
How sad that both these entitled non entities were allowed to behave in this manner for so long. Where were the people who raised them when they were younger? Why were they not taught basic humility… love of others?
I end off here as I feel I have lost the world that I grew up in…
However, thank you for your excellent videos that are always well presented and thought provoking. Off to get my cup of coffee so that I can cool down..❤
It’s true, today’s influences are strong, but so are you! You also have tremendous power to influence these next generations- tell your stories to them- research shows that kids are most resilient when they have been told family stories where those who came before them also struggled and overcame and lost and were real. You matter too 💜⚡️
I would worry more if that's who they follow. There's content across every spectrum, this dark niche is just that, a niche. Everything is also on display now, but even history tells a different tale. wish you well.
@@sarahissersohn5495this is a beautiful comment ❤
Now that I think of it, I kind of always wished I grew up in your time instead of this one.
I tend to consider myself kindhearted and respectful, and the basis of our modern culture is being self absorbed and cruel to get by. My grandfather was born during the Second World War, and I’ll always remember my dad’s story of how his parents met. Nana was engaged to another man who was probably better off than Grandpa, and he won her over just by how good of a man he was.
Now everyone is just entirely drawn inward. Nobody wants to be good or do things for other people anymore.
@thefilmwatcher1302 I agree. If NY mom was still alive, she would have hated what the youngsters are like today.
She died 6 years ago at the age of 94.
Thank you for your story. I enjoyed it.
Kind regards
I can’t believe she claimed he stabbed himself, that’s something I hadn’t heard along with a lot of other information in this video. I’m from Bristol and there was barely any coverage on this at all, I only found out about it because someone I went to school with knew him personally and shared an article about it on Facebook. Thank you for doing this case!
I really appreciate how you treated the victim, mentioning that he's not here to defend himself. Thank you.
He should have been taught to defend himself in life.
@@theeclectic2919 And sadly more men will suffer his fate because that's the society we live in.
@@noizusagi6901 And that’s their own fault. They should choose better.
@@butterflybe2230 Since you're reply was ignorant, I'ma just leave it there. Keep the same energy for the women.
I went to both primary & secondary school with Bradley and can confirm he was a lovely soul. RIP ❤
rip
Did you know Abigail? What was she like
Condolence to you all
So sad god rest his soul
God rest his soul I guess I now understand what jesus meant when he said it is finished on his cross he meant I've died n nailed all this evil to the cross yet so many do not believe
Something lesser happened to me. It sucks because you feel trapped like you cant tell anyone or else you will be shamed. You cant fix someone, they have to fix themselves.
I had an abusive girlfriend. You know what people thought? That I was the abusive one. No one believed me, not even some family members. Because I'm a man. No one cares.
During an argument one night, she was hitting me, throwing items at me and I finally snapped and raised my voice at her, for the first time. Neighbours called the police, funny how they never called when her voice was raised.
Anyways, I had a good talk with the police and told them my situation. Showed the scratches on me and and all the items she'd thrown. On her there wasn't even a mark. So the police recommended she leave for the night which she did. And the police told me to control MYSELF. I'm the frikken victim!
Anyways, the early the next morning, I went to the local hardware and bought new locks for every door and window in the house and the local locksmith came to help me change them all. I also disabled the electric garage door. She wasn't getting in.
Later that day she came to the house expecting to get in with her keys. She couldn't. She tried the windows, they were locked. The garage door? Her remote wouldn't work.
Once she calmed down from all the screeching, I told her that she had 24 hours to get all her things or they'll go in the rubbish or on marketplace.
She got her things and left. After a couple of months, I put the house up for sale and moved. She never found out where. I'm a happy man now but I'm still pissed that most people didn't take me seriously when I was abused by her. I got "you're a big guy, how could that little woman be hurting you?". Ever had a knife thrown at you?
DV isn't ever right, but unfortunately women are far more protected than me men are.
Well said, glad you got out. Women also abuse other women.. that also doesnt get talked about. We all have to watch out for narc red flags and improve our self esteem so we have boundaries
Female here: Good on you to see what was happening to you and take appropriate action! You don't have to put up with that crap! Women can be toxic and lethal. And you are correct - still in 2022, people think a man cannot be subject to female abuse.BUT they can falsely accuse a male and male charged. I hate it.
@@beaulieuc8910 The sad thing? I have seen a case of a woman abusing another woman get celebrated.
Well said. Disgusting how ppl say the victim should of done this or that but have never been in a DV situation themselves. Glad you got out alive.
I’m so sorry you went through this. Glad you are safe now ❤
Scary how she thinks beating up your partner and stabbing them is normal. Wonder how she treats her own kids. Smh
Yup smh
What's more concerning is that her kids grew up thinking that its all normal, and there's an entire generation of mothers exactly like her raising even more illegitimate kids from multiple partners in broken homes. They are actively reproducing this behavior.
She has such a vacant look on her face, it's hard to believe she's capable of thinking
Weird that no one around her called her out on the behavior
But she's a woman so it's allowed. Men have no protection or rights.
I’ve never been completely shocked before (because I watch true crime and horror a lot) by a case. “I have no limit when I’m angry.” Completely chilling.
Yeah really. "Then grow up. Get one."
if only he didn’t tell her before leaving and just quickly and quietly left 😕 , breaks my heart how much DV towards men isn’t taken as seriously..💔
He couldn’t quietly leave because they had babes together. They have to look after babies together even after break up / separation !
Man this one gave me chills, i dated a girl that was very very similar to this girl, it was such a toxic relationship but i grew up surrounded by horrible relationships and toxic people so it kinda felt normal i guess. She was tier 100 crazy and then we had a kid so i was determined to make it work so my kid had both parents, long story short it took almost 7 years and tons of bullshit before i finally left. She got with another guy not long after and got in trouble for shooting at him, i literally dodged a bullet.
Interesting.. I can't stand crazy woman even for a day. I know nice and smart guys that have bipolar wives, and i can't figure out how they cope, but than you look at their parents and at least one has a similar disorder, so they already had to deal with crazy since they were kids.
so sorry to hear that man. What happened to your kid?
jezus. thank god you got out. you never know if her shooting at you woulda been a hit. sometimes the missed are random. i worry about my brother. idk what it would take to make him get out. he LOVES his little son so much. but i know the wife, she's exactly like my ex. BPD. just like the chick in this video.
not all are stabby shooty level. but............. fkk. sometimes you just never know. each person is an individual. some have better control than others, and understand consequences even in the moment. but all it takes is one good explosion, new, whatever event, and even they might not anticipate their reaction.
i think threats of violence should always be taken seriously. and just *leave* the relationship. if kids, fight for custody. save the threats on your phone for evidence. good luck everybody.
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@@julm7744 lol...if you try to slap this girl, she will amputate your hand. Just for trying to slap her 😂
It's crazy how normal they look without filters and makeup
Abagail doesn't really look much like her filtered photos in her mug shot does she. I thought the same thing as you.
She looked like a mom trying too hard without the filters
This girl looks nothing like a normal person. U can see the crazy in their eyes.
She looks the same what are you talking about? Dont be such a sexist bigits!
Not really. If you look around you, you get a better idea of what people really look like than looking online. The problem is that image editing and filters are the norm, so most people think that's what women should look like. I live in Los Angeles, and there are a lot of gorgeous women, but honestly, most don't look like the ones on the internet. Also, isn't there something bewitching about viewing someone photogenic in a still image? You get an impression of something without experiencing their voice, stature, gait, height, weight, and personality which ALL contribute to attraction. I learned early on that people were not what they seemed online, for better or worse. I'd much rather be more attractive in person.
I love how she thinks he's just as guilty as she is because he cheated on her, as if she values herself so extremely that merely offending or being disloyal to her is on the same level of importance as her removing him from life
@Monique Rosewood that's not really cheating though tbf
@LockGrinder never said that, said that being on only fans or other sex work isn't cheating if your partner is okay with it.
An abusive and bad start in life is a poor excuse, so many in life have had it tough, just so sad someone else suffered because of her narcissism 😞
The only toxin in this relationship was Abigail. Funny how she was able to control her rage and did not retaliate again when the guy she slapped, slapped her back and knocked her to the floor BUT without hesitation, she took her entitled frustration and cruelty out on her usual soft target, by ending the life of pliable and non-confrontational Bradley.
This! 👆
@@butterflybe2230 Ew your bitterness is showing. A man lost his life here, parents lost their son and the kids have lost both parents and here you are blaming him because youre a legbeard, I can smell your catpiss house from here.
And there it is. Every violent female I've ever had to deal with doesn't like chaos and violence thrown back in their face once employing the tactic. They start in on being violent because they think they can. WHEN they find the balls to do something if you don't then and there fight fire with fire expect more smoke
Yep, a woman slaps you hard, you slap her back harder...
Facts
Toxic relationships are such a big issue and they are so tricky to deal with. Society also seems to have a hard time confronting the issue of violent women. I had a 5 yr relationship that had this experience apart of it and trust me, it's a very difficult thing for people to understand how to deal with. (I hope everyone can find a better, more peaceful way of living rather than feeling stuck in a toxic situation) we all deserve to be able to get a chance to live our life's by living in the moment, free, without overthinking, just genuinely living in the moment. Have a great day everyone.
here here! and might i add, being SINGLE is way better than being in an abuse situation. listen to your gut, don't ignore red flags, stay safe out there!
Because men don't act like men anymore. They'll stay and get beat up by a girl.
You can talk until blue in the face, but you can't make someone leave an abusive relationship. Unfortunately, many get out only in a body bag.
Hello how are you doing
Wow that’s true …..
@cece so where can I look for a woman
@@davideaston8081 go outside. Talk to people.
Those who dont leave a abusive relationship are indirect looking to be abused
I live mere seconds from the horseshoe pub where Bradley was last seen alive. Minutes from where he lived and was killed. Its so strange when it hits close to home. He was a pure soul, RIP Bradley.
Thank you for covering this, I’m from Bristol and there was almost no coverage on this case. RIP Bradley, so sad.
Yes Concur completely Never heard of this cse whtsoever God bless you yours
Because it was a woman.
@@ironicly__iconic Could be because the father's dead and the killer is in jail. They want to protect the children who may be in school from more abuse and bullying. All 4 of them.
@@cuccicucci4480 no its because she's a woman. If it had been a man it would have been plastered all over with the usual DV documentaries and warnings etc.
Definitely not as much coverage in bristol as there should have been. But it definitely didn't go unnoticed around hillfields and kingswood
There was a murder in my state about 4 years ago involving a couple of 7 years since high school. That might be worth covering on your Channel. The killers name is Mary Katherine Higdon and the victim was Stephen Freeman.
Love your videos, @Coffeehouse Crime
Who killed who?
I just looked that up. Poor dude.
@@9somethingorother837 Mary Katherine killed Stephen Freeman. Said it was an accident but the whole case was messy.
It’s confusing watching Abigail with filter and without filter it’s like watching two different individuals 😢
And yet men will spend all their money on a fantasy ...
Haha I was thinking the same. So many people are fake
It's funny because most clowns stop looking like clowns after they take the makeup off.
she is very fake & shallow on many levels. He should have been smart enough not to knock her up 4 or 5 times and not stay with her eh?
What did he see in her?
He must have enjoyed humping that lumpy uggo a lot to get her pregnant multiple times. He didnt do anything to protect himself. And pls, dont breed with nutcases! The poor kids will be messed up.
They likely inherited her BPD mental problem
The similarities between this and Courtney Clenney case are crazy!!
Controlling issues, DV, stabbing, OnlyFans and mental disorder, infidelity…
It is almost the same case, minus the children.
There's got to be a baseline mental issue across the board of all the girls that degrade themselves on only fans. Normal, healthy people don't do things like that. This notion amongst that whole generation of porn creators that it's not a big deal is proving very quickly to be false.
I was in a bad toxic relationship when I was younger and I put up with so much shit... I've come to the realization that I tried to make things work out as if she was the only person in the world for me not realizing that there's 8 billion people in this world and staying obsessed over one person who physically hurts you, belittles & mocks you isn't the person you should be fighting for.
More strength to you
100 million percent!
If I had stayed in my toxic relationship I’d have been killed
My very best friend, whom I've known for 20+ years, was physically and emotionally abused by his ex girlfriend for 6 long years, I was petrified he'd end up dead ...
Thankfully he left her, but he was in denial for so long, it is so sad, he thought he deserved it, and unfortunately, leaving a toxic relationship is easier said than done.
Glad you left that behind you, there is no changing some people and mental abuse leave deep scars as well. Take care ❤
Not only do you put a huge effort into your research, scripting, and editing, but you even do a marvelous job at the background details! Your "set" has such warm and cozy vibes. And you even animated the cat breathing (or are my eyes playing tricks on me?)! So impressive! I'm so glad I ran across your channel a few months back. I've loved every upload of yours.
Did u se the kettle steam ? So cute all of it
I feel so sad for the children. I think Bradley would have been a great dad and they’ll miss him deeply.
Werent somewhere a case exactly like this? Help me. Seen: courtney clenney
The kids should have been removed by social services
@@maramarxx2431 it’s a very similar story.
Brad was a great dad and his sons especially miss him so much plus one of them witnessed the incident. They clinged to him as their mother was only interested in their daughter
he seems like a evil enabling narcissist, he was with her forever since 15 years of age they were together while she had children to other men... this boy brad is not a lovely awesome person he knew she needed help and decided to ignore and enable her.
"nauseatingly egotistical" is the phrase that I most associate with OnlyFans girls, self-professed "Influencers", etc. I don't understand why anyone would want to be in a romantic relationship with them, when they're way too in love with themselves to reciprocate.
The men only want hot body with no substance they get what they deserve for picking low value women
Not to mention self degrading garden tools
Actually they don't truly love themselves nor anyone.They may lust also obsession of self or another but not actual love.
Onlyfans is literally destroying our society. Simping should be illegal 😤
If they actually loved themselves, they wouldn't be selling their dignity online for a few fast dollars...
She said she knew she was capable of killing him yet she never sought treatment for her anger issues and other things? If even she was aware how bad it had gotten but she didn't do anything about it then that says alot about her character. This chick should have gotten help decades ago when she was in school and she should have sought treatment herself as an adult.
While I agree, it's not so easy to get help.
That'd be hard work tho.
@@Veruska75 how is it not easy? She was unemployed and her kids were taken away and lives in a country with free / very inexpensive health care. She had the time, and resources to get help. She knew she had issues and was capable of acting on them. Sounds like it cant get much easier to get help then that.
Borderlines rarely seek treatment. (it's a lot like Narcissists, though they pretty much never seek treatment).
@@nickyblue4866 PreMeditated.
Not a relationship but a friendship. I was friends with someone crazy like her, I had to end it once and for all, cut off all ties because I thought she would kill me.This was 15 years ago.
Toxic people aren’t worth sticking around.
Similar situation here. My friend began dating a woman and we, too, became friends. Turns out she had BPD and by the time he realized how unhinged she was, he was already financially and emotionally trapped. I wanted him to be safe, but he seriously had nowhere to go because I couldn't take him in (I rented a place and my roommates weren't comfortable having a guy sleep on the couch). When she finally hit him so bad he had to call the cops on her, he called me and asked me to pick him up while she was in jail because he might not get another chance. I was genuinely afraid she was going to murder us both once she got out. She did show up at my place looking for him, parking behind my car and trapping me in the house, but the threat of calling the police scared her away. The threat of a restraining order kept her away too, apparently, since I haven't heard from her since they issued her the papers.
She still has most of his belongings because the cops won't show up to mediate their interactions so he can get his stuff. He was trapped in that relationship for something like 12 years because either the cops believed her story over his or if she did suffer any consequences, she'd take it out on him after she'd inevitably be let off the hook.
I keep our doors double locked just in case she decides to track down our new address since my friend and I live together now. I worry about my ex-roommates in case she shows up there again on a rampage wanting to get revenge. I constantly kick myself, wishing I had done something to help sooner, but I was (and am) genuinely afraid she would and will kill us both.
Well done for spotted the red flags, it is OK to quit
@ Jasmine Lidia. You are absolutely correct. None of us need that toxicity, I also had a very toxic. ' friend' for two years. Finally I cut ties. What a relief! 😎
Poor Bradley. May he rest in peace. 🙏
It's far far better to stay single or unmarried than being in a toxic relationship.
Between the past abuse and the narcissistic behavior it is not hard to see how this happened. Also the fact the she was lived off her looks and they were fading. Thanks for the interesting video. Also for highlighting a case of domestic abuse, where the abuser was the woman. Happy belated birthday
An abusive upbringing and personality disorders like narcissism and border line personality disorder disproportionately go together.
I went out with someone with borderline personality disorder (though obviously I didn't know it and didn't have much of a clue about human psychology - learned that in counselling trying to put the pieces together afterwards!) for 3½ years and it was positively insane but thankfully never physical - though psychological abuse is bad enough. You don't realise how bad it was until after it's over and you start to talk about it to others. At the time your in the relationship you just take each armageddon as it comes and try and avoid the next one happening.
Incidentally she had a cold, judgemental, angry and controlling mother and told me stuff about her childhood that rang true from my own experience of her mother, and how her mother treated her grandchildren.
Agreed, she had little self esteem
She should never get out....period. Thank you for your coverage. Much love and light. God's speed for this fine young man, Amen. G Ma
She will get out ridiculously early on good behavior, just wait
If a partner threatens to kill themselves if you leave them, they will most likely end up killing you if you stay around long enough.
And it's also NOT YOUR PROBLEM. If you think they're serious, you can contact their family, friends, or even the police for help. But you should still leave.
This is such a good quote everyone needs to hear it
@@hannahp1108a boy did that to me once and I phoned the police and blocked him. Not my problem but the police can help. Strangely enough the police found him just chilling 🤔
This is so true!
Can we stop calling these kind of relationships toxic? It’s abusive. Toxic implies both are bad. HE didn’t have 3 kids by 3 other women. Social services didn’t kick HIM out. She was abusive. She was controlling. She was a monster.
Rip to him 🙏 🕊 Mens abuse is still so uncovered. The information and awareness needs to be vastly increased Happy birthday 🎂 🥳
It’s terrifying to think how she must treat her kids as well!
Fathers day would be confusing.
Right, putting them in such a volatile situation is already abuse.
She's far too dangerous to ever be let out of jail and nothing bar a miracle is ever going to change her into a decent human being. RIP Bradley. My deepest condolences to his family and friends. Those poor babies lost two parents that day.
Promise you that crazy acts gone now she's around real crazy women
She's a pretty white woman she will get away with it.
I don't like the idea of her ever walking the streets again. As it stands now she's sheer poison.
@harrysalt5277 absolutely 💯 and give it 20 years..she be a whole different person..
With a temper like this, I doubt she survives prison.
That is why I can't stand barbie influencers or onlyfansers..I would never date something like this
As a mom, listening to her is both sad and infuriating but mostly just heart breaking.
As someone who was born and bred in Bristol and a big fan of true crime I have never heard of this case. Fascinating. Thanks Adrian for continuing your great work.
Bred🤨
@@mozzjones6943 They watch too much porn where they can’t read common phrases without it being weird.
@@mozzjones6943 “Sexual inu” ain’t completing that shit, you sound sped asf💀💀💀
This story didnt become big news in your area? Weird, did they choose to ignore it
@@ronnie5329 It didn't fit the narrative !
If you are in a toxic relationship, walk away asap. I was in 2 toxic relationships before, and it's more than a nightmare. Doesn't matter how much you pity or love the person, if they treat you like trash, best is to end it and let the time eases the pain of breaking up rather than losing your happiness for the whole life.
Correct 👍🏾 end it asap before any children are brought into the world.
Sounds like you suck at picking partners
Easier said than done. Part of being abused is having your power taken from you. Took me 2 years to leave.
You can't change these people either, they may say "oh I'll change, oh I'll stop this or that etc" but it's all fake. They will act "better" to either get what they want, keep control or be manipulative.
**GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL CAN**
Don't be ashamed to ask for help, men or women. Please think of your life, safety and happiness before theirs. They want nothing more than to control, gaslight and destroy you.
Their "love" may seem exciting and intense at first but I promise you this will not last or be reality. Usually something called "lovebombing", a tactic that abusive/narcissist people use to lure you in. If this is new to you or you're wondering if you're being abused take some time to research narcissists and abusive patterns. Pay close attention to what they say, how they react and their actions (because we all know actions speak louder than words).
If something doesn't feel right, don't ignore that.
I just hope that this was able to help someone out there, it's a horrific situation to be in. Stay safe x
@@socialmoon I never left.... ..........-.-'
I can only imagine how messed up that would've been to experience as a child.
Can you imagine being a child and having this woman as your mother?
And imagine being Abigail as a child and having who she did for parents, the damage that was caused is horrific as you can see
@@melinmove and the beat goes on....
@@melinmove yet she was well aware of her behaviours and did nothing to improve it, she continued the cycle, she is not the victim
@@tomflavel7312 she was a victim once, though... Hurt people hurt people. It wasn't her fault she wasn't show how to behave as an adult, all she knew was manipulation and violence. Yes it's her responsibility to seek help and heal from that and make a better life for herself, but if you're not shown how to do that either it becomes extremely difficult. She needed someone to stand up to her and show her that her behaviour was not acceptable from the very start.
Feminine woman.
Such a tragic case. Poor Bradley and those poor kids.
Happy Birthday Adrian!
I used to go to school with Brad when I first seen this in the news I felt so shocked and disgusted I still can't quite believe it now he did not deserve any of what he was put through Rest in peace Brad💙
you can never be sure of what is happening behind the carefully doctored lense of superficial happiness
I've heard it several times across the years when criminals say: "Sorry for what 'happened." Or someone saying after an affair: "It just 'happened'." It's like using the word "Happened" absolves them from responsibility, like it was a meteorite that fell from the sky and I just "happened to be standing there."
I agree! I call it a non-apology: "I'm sorry for what happened to your son." What happened is that you murdered him. Say it.
Makes you wonder how many times it happened in their minds beforehand.
She obviously was very aware of her issues. She simply chose evil over love. She did a lot to hurt him and knew it all. Therefore, danger should never be let back out on the streets. She deserves to be locked up forever.😊
he seems like a evil enabling narcissist, he was with her forever since 15 years of age they were together while she had children to other men... this boy brad is not a lovely awesome person he knew she needed help and decided to ignore and enable her. until she had enough of this life.
@@cazzabe6747 Where did you get that information? Nothing about this video points out that he was an aggressor at all. She was very aggressive and evil. If she was not evil and was being controlled and abused, she would have reported him but that is not the case here.
@@cazzabe6747 wtf
It was completely the other way around. This woman is just pure evil.
Amen!
@@cazzabe6747 No, that is incorrect and I don't really believe that you mean it. However, if you do, please take time to familiarise yourself with the information given and you will see that you sir have erred. 😎
I remember reading about this and thinking of what a horrible position the man was in. Yet I find a bit of warmth in the fact that his family supported him until the end and continue to do so beyond his death. Men's mental health and well being is so often overlooked.
And Happy Birthday man!!
The fake appearance is a dead giveaway of how shallow she is, using a mask all her life until this very situation then the true appearance is revealed.
Adrian, thank you for honouring the victims in these cases. I've watched too many crime documentaries where they justify the killer, especially when it's a woman, but you are very impartial to the perpetrators. Thank you for honouring Bradley and even though I didn't know him, the way you present the victims helps us see a glimpse of who they were. All the best and happy birthday you beautiful bastard 🥰
Learning their history is not justifying. It's an explanation as to what created the monster in the effort to try and understand hat happened
If your partner say a threat even just once, be prepared, plan in advance, be calm & silent when he or she around. Don't take time, leave as soon as soon as possible bec. your life is in danger!
What's crazy is I thought this was a story about the other Only Fans model that killed her boyfriend.
Its a theme! You get skanks that cant do anything else and there you go!
That's what I thought, too. But that case is from Florida.
Wow. Just wow. This is a sobering and tragic case, the level of pain and fear this man probably felt on a regular basis is just staggering. With hope that the children take after their father, and are cared for going forward with the love and dedication he clearly had for them.
This one broke me a bit
Poor guy... Did she held him hostage?
@@azazello1784 uh yeah basically. so.. lets say you want to leave her, she pretty much automatically wins in the court so she gets a ton of money from you and also your children so youll just end up homeless realistically, or in jail. uhhh.. or lets say you call the police - they will automatically believe anything she says basically, especially if you say shes abusing you, so you could also just end up in jail and also nothing will happen except she will get angry. uhhh.. you could try literally vanishing into thin air, but again, she gets the kids and she knows who you are so she can just sue you or falsely accuse you in court (she literally made a tiktok saying she calls the cops on him if he doesn't do what she wants). uh so yeah. i mean. yes. you're basically completely trapped. you cant leave, you cant really do anything at all basically because the courts are entirely rigged in her favor so uh yeah basically you lose in every single situation unless you want to just kill yourself or become a zombie and pretend the world doesnt exist. oh yeah and thats not including all the mind games and manipulation where she's saying that she loves you this whole time and all kinds of other stuff, like no one else will ever love you blah blah. so uh yeah. lmao. idk man. essentially trapped in every sense of the word tbh
tldr: yes
As someone with BPD, I knew immediately that she also had BPD before the diagnosis was mentioned at the end. I feel bad for Bradley’s family and friends, losing a loved one so young is hard :(
She has narcissistic personality disorder. She’s a somatic narcissist
How did you know?
I'm diagnosed with Borderline, and I've not once ever tried to manipulate anyone. I might have done so unintentionally, but every time it was explicitly brought up, I stopped, and/or I accepted the fact the other person needed to leave the situation. The absolute never though; I've never once wanted to physically harm anyone. Cases like this make me very upset that people like this make neurotypicals think we're all like this. It's not the case at all.
I have BPD and i left my former husband because i didn't want something this to happen. I stayed single ever since and finished 18 months of intensive MBT treatment. There is help out there but you have to sacrifice everything to get the help. I loved my ex but love wasn't enough.
Same
if it makes you feel better alot of people misdiagnose bipolar disorder for narcissist personality disorder. Big time. Similar attributes but narsisstic people can't control their need for control. Hense killing in alot of these circumstances.
This I can relate to. I realised early enough that she was an undiagnosed mental health patient and used this knowledge to gauge my responses to her outbursts. Until we parted ways.
I know you are always very respectful with cases, but I really appreciate your kindness towards everyone in each case and how you handle the information. I don't know if this is just me but outside of maybe one or two other things I've watched over the years, I feel like some true crime youtubers don't handle things as respectfully as they should, like it's a dramatic story. Also, happy birthday!
Thank you, Adrian! These cases need to be highlighted and publicised. Historically, this type of abuse has never been addressed correctly. But things appear to be changing.
There was a case in 2018 in the UK of Alex Skeel, who was abused in a very similar manner by his girlfriend Jordan Worth, with whom he had 2 children. She abused, starved and assaulted him (yes, with knives!) to the point where doctors said he was about 10 days away from death. Jordan Worth, who looks the total opposite of Abigail White, became the first female in the UK to be charged for criminal abuse of her partner. She was sentenced to 7.5 years imprisonment but was "released in January 2022 after serving half her sentence, something which occurs automatically in the UK and in 90% of cases of imprisonment." [Wikipedia]. She has a new victim...I mean, boyfriend...now.
Would be great if you could feature this case. There's a YT vid about Alex's story at REALWOMEN/REALSTORIES.
Coffee in hand. Love the festive background. Thank you for all the research and care you put into these horrible cases. Kisses to Nero and I hope you have a fantastic birthday 🎂
@Eternally Profound thank you
So many warning signs were missed. This poor guy..it was so clear that they were codependent and he needed help leaving..
Happy birthday, Adrian! thanks for making amazing content. I listen to your videos while I work. You are an amazing soryteller and its been amazing to see your style develop when I look back at your older videos.
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My heart breaks for Bradley Lewis’ loved ones. I’m so very sorry for their loss. I hope they can find some peace and purpose in taking care of those 4 babies. Nothing ‘good’ could inherently come from this, except that, God willing, those children may never be under their Mothers clutches,and they will be raised in a good and nurturing home.
I come here to watch adrienne slaughter the English language - never disappoints. Nothing like watching a smug Brit butcher his own language.
Such a heartbreaking story.. RIP to the young Bradley.
I am married for 22 years and have had BPD for longer than that. The fear of abandonment is a huge thing and it makes me lash out verbally, but I attempt to be conscious of what I say and it usually turns into suicidal idiation on my part... but never have I EVER felt it was right to resort to violence or slander him online, nor have I ever done it. While BPD is hard as heck to deal with, it never makes it an excuse to do anything to another human. Period.
I'm glad you're so self-aware and conscious of your issues. BPD is absolutely not fun, but it can lead to a lot of abusive relationships. One of my ex-friends has BPD and abused her ex-boyfriend the same way Abigail did to Bradley, but luckily her ex got away from her before she could murder him. Comments like yours remind us that BPD doesn't equal murderer and we should hold off passing judgment based on diagnoses. I hope you can find adequate ways to cope. It really isn't fun not being able to control your intense moods.
I think more awareness and understanding of BPD is needed. It’s vastly misunderstood and under diagnosed. There are several types of therapy treatments that have been effective at helping individuals retrain their thinking and behaviors. It’s not easy, at all. But there is help available. The hardest part is getting those who need it, to take it.
Abigail grew up watching her dad abuse her mom, and ended up abusing her own boyfriend. The cycle of abuse is real, man.
This happens a lot. My last true relationship was with an abusive woman and her mom had incidents of abuse towards her dad.
I had to come up with an elaborate lie to get out of that relationship, but I’m very glad that I don’t have to worry about her anymore. I’m even more glad that I never got her pregnant accidentally.
I’ll just say it’s not easy pushing someone away that you truly care about.
@@SqueaksUofA Yet current feminism will defend the behaviour as everything is men's fault. I went to counselling years ago to discuss the abuse my brother and I suffered from my mother, and I found out later the counsellor was an avid feminist who laid all the blame on my brother and me. I'm glad you got out man, I had a similar experience with my first GF, glad I got out without too many negative consequences, although she did save like 20k as I paid for everything and cheated on me with one of my close friends. I feel sorry for him because they got married, divorced him, took all his shit, got him fired, and won 100% custody of their two boys, all while being celebrated by social media while claiming to be a Christian. That could have been me.
Ends up stabbing her boyfriend
Her “parents” should not have been allowed to breed.
Nor should she.
Gotta have a license to catch a fish.
We’ll be seeing her offspring featured here eventually.
Just an excuse
I live in the same area this took place and lots of my friends were in the same schools as them. I've heard that Bradley was such a kind person even in Primary school. The outpouring of love on social media for him was huge amongst the local FB page for the area.
When someone tells you who they are, believe them.
Also, theres always drug abuse behind these stories stay away from recreational drug use. You never know the effects further down the line.
Great narration.
I like how CoffeeHouseCrime always puts more emphasis on the victim. Really drives home the depravity of the offenders
Happy birthday! Thank u for continuing to cover these stories with thoughtfulness and tact, without sensationalizing and providing respect to the victims and their families.
As a female Domestic Violence survivor, I feel terribly sad for all the men that go through this and don’t get the proper justice for the simple fact they are men. Hope y’all heal and please do not lose your hope in love.
The depth of analysis in this video is truly commendable. The intricate details surrounding the case of Abigail White and Bradley Lewis are dissected with clarity and sensitivity. It's not just a recounting of events but a thoughtful exploration of the psychological and social factors at play. The video manages to strike a balance between providing factual information and delving into the complexities of human behavior. Kudos to Coffee House Crime for yet another thought-provoking piece
She reminds me of someone I was once involved with. I'm sure glad I had the sense to get out of that relationship before anything tragic happened.
RIP Bradley. His story shows that women are not the only victims of spousal abuse. Thanks for posting, and happy belated birthday!
As a woman,
I can say that women who abuse and gaslight/manipulate men are just as dangerous and horrifying as male abusers who abuse others
You don't seem to emathize with the victim but rather gloat in the idea that it can happen to men too. This is not a competition, it's a tragedy.
@@annabelle3510 Happens every time there’s a case like this.
They care less about male victims and men’s issues, and more about just sticking it to women.
Brad was a human being and a victim of an evil narcissistic psychopath. He had a life to live that was taken away by scum. He’s not just a statistic to use for people’s anti-feminist agenda.
She and her mother was also subject to male violence. What messed up parents too
Bradley should have chose better and choose a good girl and not bad girl
man as someone with bpd I had a sinking feeling when describing her early life + the anger issues already alluded to that she would have it 🙃 please don’t think we’re all murderers
To late we already do
Same here, I hope her violent father and step father went to jail.
She was using BPD she's a physco narcacisitic person who enjoyed hurting and attacking . Others don't behave like this
yesss I agree
We all have a choice, whether or not she had mental illness, she chose to do what she did. Her mental illness was not responsible, she is. So no, people with the same mental health issues who choose NOT to do such vile evil things are not bad people, nor would you all resort to such heinous acts.
Escaped a girl exactly like this, also with BPD which was only found out during the relationship. If someone has unmedicated BPD, do not pursue anything with them, you will suffer and suffer badly.
Amen!!! Finally got rid of my BPD ex a year ago (after 3 years of hell)!
This is such a heartbreaking story. Adrian, you always show the utmost respect for the victims and families in the cases you cover. Happy birthday!!
I really struggle to imagine how could anyone even think she was attractive in ANY WAY at all at any given point...
Because beauty is subjective. You find people attractive that aren't attractive to others too.
Yeah obviously she make over 60K just men looking her on only fans. Most men fall for anything with blond hair😆
@@thisisbillgates one mans trash is another man’s treasure
@@thisisbillgatesumm no. She is objectively unattractive. But males will take anything with bleached hay on their head and tons of plastic and fakeup as “beautiful” 😂😂😂😂😂
@@Smolpantherbeby jealousy makes you ugly Emma
Thanks, Adrian.
Such a sad story.
Thoughts and prayers are with Bradley's
family.
RIP Bradley.
Anyone can be an abuser. Anyone can be a victim. Cruelty and sadism do not know the bounds of gender or creed, only by means.
You have got to be one of my favourite crime UA-camrs. Your lovely voice, delivery and respect in every case. Keep on keeping on x
Such a sad case but I appreciate you bringing these things to our attention. It allows us in our own way to honor them, reflecting on their lives and those of their loved ones. So thank you, and happy birthday!
I dont know why, but crime stories that occurred recently always make me feel extra sad. Maybe it’s because I was alive doing my own thing while someone, somewhere is being murdered. Idk…
18 years ain't life. What an insult to Bradley, his family and children.