the amount of parents and professionals who would not have listened to this child tell them what she needs is astounding. thank everyone in that room for listening and respecting this young girl's wishes and not traumatizing her more and making it a rough appointment 👏👏
@@swankyangelojust because it's what they're SUPPOSED to do doesn't mean that they will in fact listen to a child when they try to vocalize their needs. I have quite a few bad memories from going to the doctors wherein the nurses (and doctors too) would ignore me and only talk to my mother when I was younger. It's good to point out good bedside manners and to always listen to your child, they know a lot more than you think, and if you give them the space to vocalize their issues or wants, they'll let you know.
Yep! Can confirm as someone who was a child/teen with good physical boundaries and communication skills that shitty doctors who treat children who are good at communicating their needs like animals sets everybody up for failure. I cannot go into any sort of medical facility except a dentist's office without constantly being on the verge of a panic attack and feeling deep, seething anger anymore because of the way medical professionals refused to listen to me when I asked for things like this.
Exactly me. When I’m stressed I cry, have a mental breakdown and then sleep. I am stressed a lot, so it’s a lot of crying and sleeping which is not healthy because then I stay up way to long which makes me even more tired in the morning. It’s definitely not healthy but recently I have been trying more techniques like breathing exercises and they sometimes work. I try my hardest to break the cycle but it’s really hard.
I don't know why but half the stories you tell give me the reaction of "I love you" . The amount of patience you have and to be able to raise kids who're able to speak for themselves is truly amazing to me
Your parenting techniques help my inner child heal from past trauma. So thank you so much for being such an amazing mother to your kids, and also in advertently my inner child.
From your videos I would think you're the best parent on the planet, and I know you'll say "no I sometimes mess up" every parent does. I'm not saying you're perfect. I'm saying you are the best. And it's showing in your childrens behaviour. They're so young and they deal with their emotions better then probably like 75% of adults
Yea, and for some reason adult feel embarrassed to express themselves, and it’s ridiculously. It just shows a how society has bad us, and also I agree she’s a wonderful parent, but in reality this is how all parent should be ❤
This makes me feel so hopeful, like emotional intelligence is possible and it can be taught and people can be raised in a way that doesn't make them have massive anxiety about tiny little things. You are such a great example and I love that you're sharing all this!
That is absolutely incredible and I’m so beyond proud of her too. I hope she’s proud of herself, a lot of adults wouldn’t be able to do that in her situation. Phenomenal job from both her and you as her parent.
And what is just as important is that you as a parent advocate for her autonomy. There are people out there that would ignore her boundaries and push on regardless of her feelings leading to a potentially traumatising experience. Making sure people know that your daughter is the boss of herself and you are 100% behind her is just as important as her being able to advocate her own needs.
As an adult that now knows she was misdiagnosed with ADHD instead of severe severe anxiety as a child you are doing an amazing job as a parent I wish I had had someone in my life when I was young to teach me all of the things you were teaching your children
"You don't have to like it but you can do it" is such a powerful statement and is so different from the normal "you don't have to like it but you have to do it" that a lot of us were raised with. It completely changes the message from being forceful and therefore backs up and adds to the anxiety into something you CAN do because you're capable of it. Due to this, and it's clearly shown in the fact that their child is able to speak to an adult they don't know and communicate what they need in the moment and is able to self soothe, that you are a brilliant parent who is creating an adult that will be confident, trusting in their own abilities, and self reliant whilst ALSO being kind and communicative. Absolutely amazing to see! So proud of you as one adult to another (even though I'm not a parent) that you are able to help your child(ren) grow in this way and I'm also proud of your child for being all of these things and being so capable and emotionally mature!
I am a rando but I am also so deeply proud of how they handled the situation. I have a lot of medical phobia personally at 24y, and hearing this story really warms my heart.
I'm a pharmacy technician with both hemophobia and needle phobia, so getting shots is never a good time. Before the pandemic, I would never have believed I would become a vaccinating technician, but I felt compelled - not everyone could do something to help, but I could. I'm glad I did. Giving shots to other people who share my fears makes me happy. I tell nervous patients about the time I had a meltdown in the ER because the nurse told me I had to do a blood draw - sobbing so hard I could be heard in the waiting room. Shots always hurt as bad as I think they will, and I still hate them - giving them is a lot easier than getting them. Still, being able to comfort other people, being on their side when they're going through something stressful and anxiety inducing, is nice.
I honestly wish this was how the nurses handled m it when I was little. I have bad stress, and anxiety. I've had it since I was young. I would be held down by 2-3 nurses while another did the strep test. To where my anxiety would skyrocket, and start crying. I am so happy to see the amount of respect, and patience you have for your children. I hope that when I have kids one day I can look back to your's and Mommacusses videos. And raise them to be responsible, and respectful people.
Mother and daughter of the Year award!!!! I'm so impressed by your parenting techniques, patience and understanding! You are creating stable, smart and creative children... I've gotta step it up!
It's a great too that the nurse took her seriously. As a kid of a mom that was in the medical field along with many other family members, and being a sickly kid who was in and out of doctors offices regularly, I grew up in the hospital and have seen a lot of medical personnel that would've handled that situation very poorly. On the other hand I have seen personnel that would've handled it beautifully. Sadly the good ones can be few and far between though.
You are raising very emotionally intelligent children and I think the world will be better for their presence in it. Also, I'm autistic and have an anxiety disorder and listening to how you and your kids cope with everyday situations is extremely helpful. Thank you! ❤️
Your daughter handled that situation so much better than I would have up until the past nearly two years and I am 40. I am proud of her for being able to express herself so well in that situation.
This made me cry. I wish I had a mom like you growing up, teaching me these coping techniques! I'm trying to teach it to my children now, and am so grateful all of human knowledge and best practices is available for me to learn how to teach them! Because you only know what you know, until you know better.
Lmao I love how shocked the nurse was. I feel like the nurse was half expecting the mom to slap the kid for being "rude" enough to tell adults to be quiet. I bet seeing that interaction made the nurse's day.
Girl, you and these breathing techniques have pulled me and my (this month) 6 year old out of some serious moments we needed to “ reset” for. Love you and Gwenna. Feel like y’all are my bff’s!❤
That's awesome communication and recognition of feelings on your daughter's part! Sorry to hear she had strep though, I hope she had a quick, full recovery!
Hey, thank you for what you do and what you post. I've experienced a somewhat horrendous home life during childhood. These uploads remind me other people are actually taken care of, it helps to see.
Hey, I just want you to know I’m proud of you too. Not everyone is an advocate for their children, especially in doctor/hospital settings and it can set them up for mistreatment if they believe their boundaries in that situation shouldn’t be respected. I know it’s a completely different situation but it just reminds me on something I witnessed years ago at some spring event. A vendor happened to give a young girl - maybe 3 years old? - something for free, she was uncomfortable because this was a stranger and her mother shamed her for not being grateful that someone wanted to give her something unprompted. After the girl finally accepted it, the mom continued reprimanding her as they walked away with some very concerning language, especially when it concerns boundaries and consent.
I’m 18 years old. And you are teaching me things I should have learned when I was 6. Breathing techniques, I learned in middle school, but none really worked for me, and your example of your daughters with the fingers actually helped a lot
I remember needing to get a shot or bloodwork done as a 12 YO & freaking TF out and having to spend about half an hour with my mom and the nurse trying to get me to comply was just awful, especially when no one was listening to me was just awful and led to me having an anxiety-ridden issue with needles until decades later after having to develop a system for myself to get through it due to having a number of health problems that required me to have blood work and injections on a regular basis. It’s incredibly refreshing to know that some children are being given the respect and space to have their autonomy and prepare for things that affect them when they’re in a medical setting because it will help them as they grow older and impact them throughout their lives. So refreshing. Well done.
The first time I saw this video taught me the trace your finger breathing thing and let me tell you that has spared me from a few panic attacks at work since. Thank you Tori!😊
As a child who has medical trauma from doctors and nurses treating me poorly for not taking my fear seriously, thank you. There is nothing that is more helpful than being able to handle the doctor at your own pace.
I recently got a routine checkup at my doctor, and she told my mom that I was very well spoken and helpful throughout the appointment. My mom couldn’t stop smiling, even though she’s the one who taught me to be open and clear about my health ❤
this made me want to cry, due to my autism im quite self aware but other than my parents me communicating my needs just had adults look at me dumb like im the child im supposed to listen to adults (adults who know nothing about me ) . your raising such smart amazing kids
I keep on getting strep seriously like every fall, (I somehow managed to dodge it this year) but those throat swabs are NOT fun. I always gagged during it, so this story hit hard. I’m so impressed by your daughter and her communication skills. Not a lot of people would be able to stand up for themselves like that, and that tells me that you’re doing an amazing job. I don’t plan on having kids any time soon, but if/when I do I hope I can be even a sliver as much of a good parent as you are! Keep it up!
Omg the last time I panicked at the doctor’s for a shot I was held down by three nurses and it was the scariest time in my life, thank you for teaching your kids that’s it’s ok to regulate and ask for space. You probably get this every day, but you’re a hero.
Hearing stuff like this makes my inner child so happy. I always had panic attacks at the doctor when needles were involved, but there was never any patience. Even now (as an adult) I have panic attacks when I'm faced w needles in a medical setting. I had to get an IV in April last year & I literally cried through my mask in front of the ER tech who got really annoyed w me. I literally couldn't speak. Kind of embarrassing, but I was already having medical emergency so I was SOL. I was already scared out of my mind, but then dude's like "gimme your arm, IV time" & I'm like 👁👄👁 *hard blink* (I thought my dad took me to UC, not the ER) Keep doing what you're doing ❤️❤️❤️
Good job kiddo! Growing up, my pediatrician’s nurse was the queen of throat swabs and shots, but I still hated it, and I had strep a lot as a kid! Now I find that giving myself something to do with my hands, exactly like you did with that breathing technique, is super helpful! I bring my knitting or crochet to any appointment!
As an adult who used to be a kid with complex medical issues and no self-regulation skills, I'm crying about this. Good crying. This is awesome - all the adults in my life did their best but I'm learning these techniques as an adult. This is amazing
I taught my kids to "smell the flower and blow out the candle". I taught them so well, during a panic attack, my 3yo will guide ME through MY breathing 😆
She's so mature for her young age, you're doing a great job! The fact she could calmly express what she needed despite bring stressed out and sick (Strep, poor baby) is a testament to your work ^.^
Im currently dealing with a sinus infection so I know full well how she feels. Going to the doctor sucks but Im so happy youre teaching her techniques to make her comfortable with it. Wish I had that growing up.
I wish so much I had had someone like you to teach me how to handle stress I am older than you and I can not do what your kid did You are an excellent human being
This is amazing! I wish I had someone in my life to teach me the things you're teaching your kids. When I was afraid of the strep test, instead of giving me time, they just held me down it was extremely stressful. The next time I got a strep test, I was bribed with a movie if I was good.
Yeah, I'm proud of her, too. She can respectfully speak her mind and make her intentions clear. And handle a tough situation. You taught her really well. That's awesome.
I love this!! Great job daughter and momma. My daughter just turned 5 her breathing technique of choice is blowing into a pinwheel toy. Any kind will do but if it’s rainbow or sparkly that’s a super win. It’s so incredible to see her self calm in a way I’m still learning how to do. Healing has been slow but steady for me, I’m just so thankful that she and my son are learning self regulation and conflict resolution so young.
My oldest had a doctors appointment for vaccination, an already scary time for a kid and instead of listening to either of us they went ahead and gave her two shots back to back and held her down for them, it happened so fast I wasn’t able to step in and comfort her. We never went back to the office but now she has extreme anxiety at any doctors offices to the point they thought she had high blood pressure because she would be so worked up. I wish we had more doctors and nurses like the one your little one had ❤
I am having some struggles with my parents since I came out to them a week ago but watching your videos makes me happy and hopefully that one day we will all become happy and respecting to eachother, thank you
I remember situations where I needed eye drops or a shot and instead of teaching me how to calm down and handle my fear and stress my parents and doctor would force me down and make me do it. Your kids are going to be amazing adults
oof I remember being a kid and hating needles. there was one time I was trying to calm myself down and mentally prep myself for the shot but both my mom and my doc got impatient with me continuously asking for them to wait and decided to hold me down while I cried and begged them to stop. it was honestly kind of traumatizing so I'm so happy that you gave your kid the time she needed and taught her to self regulate so well
Wow! That is REALLY impressive! Well done teaching your daughter about not only boundaries but how to express them respectfully and assertively under stress. "Grace under fire" is not an easily learned trait and she's well underway to mastering it! :D #BeProud
I love everything about that. I'm so glad she knows herself so well and spoke up for herself. What I would give to have had a supportive parents like you.
I'm in tears.. you have empowered her to be her and that's such a beautiful thing. I know it could sound silly to some but as a child I was never allowed to be empowered for myself.
My kids learnt that particular breathing technique at school last year, it's very meditative for them and Mr 5 uses it a lot. Miss 8 is good at guiding him through it verbally (in te reo maori). I love to see it.
I visited my country a few month ago . I went to a blood test there . A little girl around 8 or 9 came to the station beside me and she was scared. And both the nurse and the mom were horrible with her . She was crying and didn't want to do the blood test . They started by hyping her up with " you can do this " but very quickly it turn in to nurse threatening " I'm going go and will not do your test anymore " and mom started pressuring her to give her hand for the blood drawn. And she was getting more and more disregulated . I felt so bad for her . Like she was so scared and the mom and the nurse did nothing to calm her down or allow her have her very normal emotions . Thank you for giving your daughter a tool to calm herself down and allowing her to feel scared and uncomfortable.
I wish so badly my mother was more like you, there are Traumas left that I don’t think will fully heal and just being supportive during me being in fear probably would’ve changed a lot in my life. I know if I become a parent which two I’m learning from, you and your cardboard Gwenna (and of course real gwenna and also one of her porch geese) you’re awesome okie bye ❤
I wish someone would have taught me to breath before shots. I genuinely worked myself up into panic attacks until I was 17, but recently I've started rambling through shots and now I can even tolerate a blood draw with only mild panic lol. I always feel awkward asking if I can talk while someone gives me a shot but if it works it works.
I’ve never seen that finger breathing technique, just tried it (and I’m not even stressed rn) it really helps!❤️❤️ also thank you for respecting her boundaries and waiting until she was ready❤️
the amount of parents and professionals who would not have listened to this child tell them what she needs is astounding. thank everyone in that room for listening and respecting this young girl's wishes and not traumatizing her more and making it a rough appointment 👏👏
It’s kind of the Nurses entire job to pay attention to patient response. She did what she was SUPPOSED to do.
@@swankyangelojust because it's what they're SUPPOSED to do doesn't mean that they will in fact listen to a child when they try to vocalize their needs.
I have quite a few bad memories from going to the doctors wherein the nurses (and doctors too) would ignore me and only talk to my mother when I was younger.
It's good to point out good bedside manners and to always listen to your child, they know a lot more than you think, and if you give them the space to vocalize their issues or wants, they'll let you know.
@Mady_Cat this is how I was miss diagnosed FOUR TIMES. Guess what, got it right the first time I tried to tell them what *I* thought was wrong.
Yep! Can confirm as someone who was a child/teen with good physical boundaries and communication skills that shitty doctors who treat children who are good at communicating their needs like animals sets everybody up for failure. I cannot go into any sort of medical facility except a dentist's office without constantly being on the verge of a panic attack and feeling deep, seething anger anymore because of the way medical professionals refused to listen to me when I asked for things like this.
So much good for the kid in this scenario. Speaks to having great parenting! keep it up.
Dang your kid is better at handling stress than I am shows how good of a mom you are
Came here to comment exactly that
I was coming to comment the same thing!
XDD samee go noles
Exactly me. When I’m stressed I cry, have a mental breakdown and then sleep. I am stressed a lot, so it’s a lot of crying and sleeping which is not healthy because then I stay up way to long which makes me even more tired in the morning. It’s definitely not healthy but recently I have been trying more techniques like breathing exercises and they sometimes work. I try my hardest to break the cycle but it’s really hard.
Can I learn some breathing techniques from their daughter? Pretty please?
I don't know why but half the stories you tell give me the reaction of "I love you" . The amount of patience you have and to be able to raise kids who're able to speak for themselves is truly amazing to me
Your parenting techniques help my inner child heal from past trauma. So thank you so much for being such an amazing mother to your kids, and also in advertently my inner child.
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Amen ❤
SAME
Oh my god it does for me too!!!
Same
From your videos I would think you're the best parent on the planet, and I know you'll say "no I sometimes mess up" every parent does. I'm not saying you're perfect. I'm saying you are the best. And it's showing in your childrens behaviour. They're so young and they deal with their emotions better then probably like 75% of adults
Yea, and for some reason adult feel embarrassed to express themselves, and it’s ridiculously. It just shows a how society has bad us, and also I agree she’s a wonderful parent, but in reality this is how all parent should be ❤
@@yourneighborsbedbug Tori's pronouns are they/them
@@autumnbreeze_official oh okay- thank you but tbh I’m probably not gonna remember but that is for telling me 😊❤️
She's getting to an age where you really get to see your parenting choices work the way they were suppose to. Love this for your daughter.
This makes me feel so hopeful, like emotional intelligence is possible and it can be taught and people can be raised in a way that doesn't make them have massive anxiety about tiny little things. You are such a great example and I love that you're sharing all this!
That is absolutely incredible and I’m so beyond proud of her too. I hope she’s proud of herself, a lot of adults wouldn’t be able to do that in her situation. Phenomenal job from both her and you as her parent.
And what is just as important is that you as a parent advocate for her autonomy. There are people out there that would ignore her boundaries and push on regardless of her feelings leading to a potentially traumatising experience.
Making sure people know that your daughter is the boss of herself and you are 100% behind her is just as important as her being able to advocate her own needs.
As an adult that now knows she was misdiagnosed with ADHD instead of severe severe anxiety as a child you are doing an amazing job as a parent I wish I had had someone in my life when I was young to teach me all of the things you were teaching your children
"You don't have to like it but you can do it" is such a powerful statement and is so different from the normal "you don't have to like it but you have to do it" that a lot of us were raised with. It completely changes the message from being forceful and therefore backs up and adds to the anxiety into something you CAN do because you're capable of it.
Due to this, and it's clearly shown in the fact that their child is able to speak to an adult they don't know and communicate what they need in the moment and is able to self soothe, that you are a brilliant parent who is creating an adult that will be confident, trusting in their own abilities, and self reliant whilst ALSO being kind and communicative.
Absolutely amazing to see! So proud of you as one adult to another (even though I'm not a parent) that you are able to help your child(ren) grow in this way and I'm also proud of your child for being all of these things and being so capable and emotionally mature!
Hope you don’t have it too, but I love that your daughter was able to meet her needs! ❤❤❤ Way to go!
What a trooper! I'm so glad you have given her the coping tools she needed/needs to get through the hard stuff.
Thank you for showing this breathing technique! I have anxiety and it's very helpful!
I am a rando but I am also so deeply proud of how they handled the situation. I have a lot of medical phobia personally at 24y, and hearing this story really warms my heart.
That's great. You're doing a great job. Way to teach her effective communicating
I'm a pharmacy technician with both hemophobia and needle phobia, so getting shots is never a good time. Before the pandemic, I would never have believed I would become a vaccinating technician, but I felt compelled - not everyone could do something to help, but I could. I'm glad I did. Giving shots to other people who share my fears makes me happy. I tell nervous patients about the time I had a meltdown in the ER because the nurse told me I had to do a blood draw - sobbing so hard I could be heard in the waiting room. Shots always hurt as bad as I think they will, and I still hate them - giving them is a lot easier than getting them. Still, being able to comfort other people, being on their side when they're going through something stressful and anxiety inducing, is nice.
I honestly wish this was how the nurses handled m it when I was little. I have bad stress, and anxiety. I've had it since I was young. I would be held down by 2-3 nurses while another did the strep test. To where my anxiety would skyrocket, and start crying.
I am so happy to see the amount of respect, and patience you have for your children.
I hope that when I have kids one day I can look back to your's and Mommacusses videos. And raise them to be responsible, and respectful people.
Mother and daughter of the Year award!!!! I'm so impressed by your parenting techniques, patience and understanding! You are creating stable, smart and creative children... I've gotta step it up!
that is incredibly impressive you’re raising really emotionally intelligent kiddos
It's a great too that the nurse took her seriously. As a kid of a mom that was in the medical field along with many other family members, and being a sickly kid who was in and out of doctors offices regularly, I grew up in the hospital and have seen a lot of medical personnel that would've handled that situation very poorly. On the other hand I have seen personnel that would've handled it beautifully. Sadly the good ones can be few and far between though.
You are raising very emotionally intelligent children and I think the world will be better for their presence in it. Also, I'm autistic and have an anxiety disorder and listening to how you and your kids cope with everyday situations is extremely helpful. Thank you! ❤️
Your daughter handled that situation so much better than I would have up until the past nearly two years and I am 40. I am proud of her for being able to express herself so well in that situation.
This made me cry. I wish I had a mom like you growing up, teaching me these coping techniques! I'm trying to teach it to my children now, and am so grateful all of human knowledge and best practices is available for me to learn how to teach them! Because you only know what you know, until you know better.
Great parenting right there Tori... It's no surprise she behaves like this... You taught her, her coping mechanisms xxx❤❤❤
That's incredible of her genuinely! I don't know if I could handle that situation so well. Hope she's feeling better!
Mad respect for those parenting skills
Lmao I love how shocked the nurse was. I feel like the nurse was half expecting the mom to slap the kid for being "rude" enough to tell adults to be quiet. I bet seeing that interaction made the nurse's day.
Girl, you and these breathing techniques have pulled me and my (this month) 6 year old out of some serious moments we needed to “ reset” for. Love you and Gwenna. Feel like y’all are my bff’s!❤
Well that was more productive information than I'd ever previously been taught about a breathing technique for anxiety. Thanks, Tori's kid!
Listening to how you parent makes me cry because it's actually sweet and precious and so very needed. You make me want to be a better mom💚
That's awesome communication and recognition of feelings on your daughter's part! Sorry to hear she had strep though, I hope she had a quick, full recovery!
As someone with a very overreactive gag reflex, I'd be freaking out about getting my throat swabbed too.
Hope you both feel better soon.
Hey, thank you for what you do and what you post. I've experienced a somewhat horrendous home life during childhood. These uploads remind me other people are actually taken care of, it helps to see.
Hey, I just want you to know I’m proud of you too. Not everyone is an advocate for their children, especially in doctor/hospital settings and it can set them up for mistreatment if they believe their boundaries in that situation shouldn’t be respected.
I know it’s a completely different situation but it just reminds me on something I witnessed years ago at some spring event. A vendor happened to give a young girl - maybe 3 years old? - something for free, she was uncomfortable because this was a stranger and her mother shamed her for not being grateful that someone wanted to give her something unprompted. After the girl finally accepted it, the mom continued reprimanding her as they walked away with some very concerning language, especially when it concerns boundaries and consent.
You rock mama!
Hope you all feel better soon!!
Not even adults can always do that. I have social anxiety and a people pleaser complex. So good on her and you for teaching her this
I’m 18 years old. And you are teaching me things I should have learned when I was 6. Breathing techniques, I learned in middle school, but none really worked for me, and your example of your daughters with the fingers actually helped a lot
I remember needing to get a shot or bloodwork done as a 12 YO & freaking TF out and having to spend about half an hour with my mom and the nurse trying to get me to comply was just awful, especially when no one was listening to me was just awful and led to me having an anxiety-ridden issue with needles until decades later after having to develop a system for myself to get through it due to having a number of health problems that required me to have blood work and injections on a regular basis. It’s incredibly refreshing to know that some children are being given the respect and space to have their autonomy and prepare for things that affect them when they’re in a medical setting because it will help them as they grow older and impact them throughout their lives. So refreshing. Well done.
The first time I saw this video taught me the trace your finger breathing thing and let me tell you that has spared me from a few panic attacks at work since. Thank you Tori!😊
As a child who has medical trauma from doctors and nurses treating me poorly for not taking my fear seriously, thank you. There is nothing that is more helpful than being able to handle the doctor at your own pace.
I recently got a routine checkup at my doctor, and she told my mom that I was very well spoken and helpful throughout the appointment. My mom couldn’t stop smiling, even though she’s the one who taught me to be open and clear about my health ❤
this made me want to cry, due to my autism im quite self aware but other than my parents me communicating my needs just had adults look at me dumb like im the child im supposed to listen to adults (adults who know nothing about me ) . your raising such smart amazing kids
You've taught them so well, I'm glad the nurse listened, so many would not, hell they don't listen to adults.
I keep on getting strep seriously like every fall, (I somehow managed to dodge it this year) but those throat swabs are NOT fun. I always gagged during it, so this story hit hard. I’m so impressed by your daughter and her communication skills. Not a lot of people would be able to stand up for themselves like that, and that tells me that you’re doing an amazing job.
I don’t plan on having kids any time soon, but if/when I do I hope I can be even a sliver as much of a good parent as you are! Keep it up!
Omg the last time I panicked at the doctor’s for a shot I was held down by three nurses and it was the scariest time in my life, thank you for teaching your kids that’s it’s ok to regulate and ask for space. You probably get this every day, but you’re a hero.
Hearing stuff like this makes my inner child so happy.
I always had panic attacks at the doctor when needles were involved, but there was never any patience. Even now (as an adult) I have panic attacks when I'm faced w needles in a medical setting. I had to get an IV in April last year & I literally cried through my mask in front of the ER tech who got really annoyed w me. I literally couldn't speak. Kind of embarrassing, but I was already having medical emergency so I was SOL.
I was already scared out of my mind, but then dude's like "gimme your arm, IV time" & I'm like 👁👄👁 *hard blink* (I thought my dad took me to UC, not the ER)
Keep doing what you're doing ❤️❤️❤️
Good job kiddo! Growing up, my pediatrician’s nurse was the queen of throat swabs and shots, but I still hated it, and I had strep a lot as a kid!
Now I find that giving myself something to do with my hands, exactly like you did with that breathing technique, is super helpful! I bring my knitting or crochet to any appointment!
Your videos make me cry way too often because I wish I had a mom like yoi
You let your children be themselves in the best way possible. Bravo!!❤
As an adult who used to be a kid with complex medical issues and no self-regulation skills, I'm crying about this. Good crying. This is awesome - all the adults in my life did their best but I'm learning these techniques as an adult. This is amazing
Being emotionally screwed, AND still being able to do things is something I've never had. Thank you.
I taught my kids to "smell the flower and blow out the candle". I taught them so well, during a panic attack, my 3yo will guide ME through MY breathing 😆
She's so mature for her young age, you're doing a great job!
The fact she could calmly express what she needed despite bring stressed out and sick (Strep, poor baby) is a testament to your work ^.^
Im currently dealing with a sinus infection so I know full well how she feels. Going to the doctor sucks but Im so happy youre teaching her techniques to make her comfortable with it. Wish I had that growing up.
Those throat swabs are awful. Good for her for handling it so well. And good for you for teaching her how to handle hard things
Praying for quick recovery
I wish so much I had had someone like you to teach me how to handle stress
I am older than you and I can not do what your kid did
You are an excellent human being
Way to go kiddo!! Love that five finger breathing! Hope you both feel better soon!
This is amazing! I wish I had someone in my life to teach me the things you're teaching your kids. When I was afraid of the strep test, instead of giving me time, they just held me down it was extremely stressful. The next time I got a strep test, I was bribed with a movie if I was good.
Yeah, I'm proud of her, too. She can respectfully speak her mind and make her intentions clear. And handle a tough situation. You taught her really well. That's awesome.
I need that childs calming technique
I love this!! Great job daughter and momma.
My daughter just turned 5 her breathing technique of choice is blowing into a pinwheel toy. Any kind will do but if it’s rainbow or sparkly that’s a super win.
It’s so incredible to see her self calm in a way I’m still learning how to do. Healing has been slow but steady for me, I’m just so thankful that she and my son are learning self regulation and conflict resolution so young.
I love that technique and will be using that for my grown self. Thank you for sharing.
Wow!! I even have a hard time doing this at my age. Kudos to her and to your lovely parenting!!
Go momma and little! And thank you to the kind nurse!
Amazing!! She did so good! Which means you did so good too! Love this!!! ❤
it helps when they feel like they have some kind of control in situations like this.
My oldest had a doctors appointment for vaccination, an already scary time for a kid and instead of listening to either of us they went ahead and gave her two shots back to back and held her down for them, it happened so fast I wasn’t able to step in and comfort her. We never went back to the office but now she has extreme anxiety at any doctors offices to the point they thought she had high blood pressure because she would be so worked up. I wish we had more doctors and nurses like the one your little one had ❤
When I was little I was TERRIFIED of shots and the fact that she can communicate that is amazing
I am having some struggles with my parents since I came out to them a week ago but watching your videos makes me happy and hopefully that one day we will all become happy and respecting to eachother, thank you
You are an awesome parent. And I love your stuff!!
I used to be scared of pokes (like they were panic attack inducing) what really helped me was creating a poke plan or alternate sensory information.
I hope you both feel better. That is amazing she was able to do that.
We call that the "Take 5" works so well.
I remember situations where I needed eye drops or a shot and instead of teaching me how to calm down and handle my fear and stress my parents and doctor would force me down and make me do it. Your kids are going to be amazing adults
It's awesome that nurse understood and respected her and gave her the room !
You are a good parent. Hope you guys feel better
I needed this, you learn something new everyday ❤😊
Eek I hope you both get better soon! ❤️🩹
Woooowwwwww that is such an amazing little person! And stellar parenting, dang!!
oof I remember being a kid and hating needles. there was one time I was trying to calm myself down and mentally prep myself for the shot but both my mom and my doc got impatient with me continuously asking for them to wait and decided to hold me down while I cried and begged them to stop. it was honestly kind of traumatizing so I'm so happy that you gave your kid the time she needed and taught her to self regulate so well
That is awesome! What a smart respectful and matured kid she is to be able to handle the stressful situation with such control. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Wow! That is REALLY impressive! Well done teaching your daughter about not only boundaries but how to express them respectfully and assertively under stress. "Grace under fire" is not an easily learned trait and she's well underway to mastering it! :D #BeProud
Your daughter is absolutely amazing and now I look up to her ❤
I love everything about that. I'm so glad she knows herself so well and spoke up for herself. What I would give to have had a supportive parents like you.
I'm in tears.. you have empowered her to be her and that's such a beautiful thing. I know it could sound silly to some but as a child I was never allowed to be empowered for myself.
never seen that hand breathing exercise!!! super cool!!!
So proud of her!! Hope you guys feel better soon💜
This is so freaking cool. I wish I was as good at advocating for myself as your daughter is ❤
My kids learnt that particular breathing technique at school last year, it's very meditative for them and Mr 5 uses it a lot. Miss 8 is good at guiding him through it verbally (in te reo maori). I love to see it.
This is soo awesome I'm not a mom but this is amazing! You're such an inspiring mom.
I visited my country a few month ago . I went to a blood test there . A little girl around 8 or 9 came to the station beside me and she was scared. And both the nurse and the mom were horrible with her .
She was crying and didn't want to do the blood test . They started by hyping her up with " you can do this " but very quickly it turn in to nurse threatening " I'm going go and will not do your test anymore " and mom started pressuring her to give her hand for the blood drawn. And she was getting more and more disregulated . I felt so bad for her . Like she was so scared and the mom and the nurse did nothing to calm her down or allow her have her very normal emotions .
Thank you for giving your daughter a tool to calm herself down and allowing her to feel scared and uncomfortable.
You are awesome that nurse was awesome, and the little was awesome. Hope they feel better soon. Strep sucks. 😅❤❤❤
I wish so badly my mother was more like you, there are Traumas left that I don’t think will fully heal and just being supportive during me being in fear probably would’ve changed a lot in my life. I know if I become a parent which two I’m learning from, you and your cardboard Gwenna (and of course real gwenna and also one of her porch geese) you’re awesome okie bye ❤
I wish someone would have taught me to breath before shots. I genuinely worked myself up into panic attacks until I was 17, but recently I've started rambling through shots and now I can even tolerate a blood draw with only mild panic lol. I always feel awkward asking if I can talk while someone gives me a shot but if it works it works.
I’ve never seen that finger breathing technique, just tried it (and I’m not even stressed rn) it really helps!❤️❤️ also thank you for respecting her boundaries and waiting until she was ready❤️
mixed feelings! so sorry she (and possibly you...) is sick, but she's absolutely awesome handling it!
I love that good nurses and doctors exist bc when I had to get my throat swabbed they just told me not to cough🧍🏽♀️
you're an awesome mom!