Literally. I eat a lot of small meals throughout the day- adult portions at restaurants are a lot for me. Her and I often share meals at restaurants because neither of us could finish an “adult portion” on our own and we don’t like leftovers
I find it crazy how at a lot of places you cannot have anything off the children's menu as an adult, my friend has a much smaller appetite and prefers to eat off the kids menu but some places are so strict!
I wish my mom did this, instead whenever she caught me lying she would always call me a liar, and how she can't trust me, and how I was just a horrible, bad person for lying.
We were at a reptile exhibit one time and our dad took me, my twin sister and our older brother. And I think 13 and below got in for like half of what it would have been….. my dad said me and my twin were 13. We were 17 🤣. I mean I worked so 🤷🏻♀️.
The way you put that eyeliner on while talking is epic!!! My daughter was 5"7' at 10 she was also a c cup. I was always doubted when telling her honest age from 7 on up. She's now 18.
The hurt look on my kid's face when someone paying for us knew she had just turned 3 lied and said she was 2 was enough to change my thinking. They really should have a much smaller price difference in my opinion though.
I'm pretty sure we were 16 before my parents paid full price for us at Granny's Buffet! So true. You are keeping money from the restaurant but I don't think we ate more than kids younger. The main difference is that we cleaned our plates of what we took.
This literally happened with my daughter with audhd yesterday. We didn't explain it to her the same way, but I appreciate another way to explain lies and discuss this. Thanks. 😊
i'm off the stance that it's always okay to lie in the face of companies and businesses who, realistically, won't be that affected by it a hotel with a buffet (i can imagine it's a chain hotel) can afford to lose out on 10 dollars more than me
I didn't even try to lie about my kid's age 1 week after her 6th birthday - she was too proud and would have called me out imediately. Cost me € 6,50... (kids under 6 were free) 🤷♀️
My mom would lie about the last digit of the house number when we went shopping because she didn't want telemarketers back then and I would always say something about how she must've forgotten or no mommy that's just wrong. I can still feel the fear in my body from the looks she gave me, I could never tell if it was intentional or not so I took a little too long to just shut up 😂😂😂
Wow. This is so good. And honestly how do you explain to a kid that they aren't gonna eat even the under 12 price worth of that hotel food anyway. But I get it, honesty and values like that are totally worth the extras ten bucks for helping kids stay with. I still find I'm much happier when I notice a whte lie and then correct it, rather than letting it nag at me and then numbing it, and everything else with it.
"From a certain point of view" - when telling the _truth_ causes harm, _shouldn't_ you then lie? We went thru a similar thing when i was 12 - except, had my dad paid the 12yo price for me, someone else _could not have eaten_ - so we lied so we all could eat. And yeah, it didn't feel great (though, looking back from 35 years later, was it the _lying_ at fault, or the fact that if we didn't lie/ we caught lying, we couldn't afford for everyone to eat because i was _too old?_ at the time i thought it was the lying, but I'm not sure now...)
Little: "How could you lie like that?🤨" Mom: "Honestly, it was pretty easy.😉" Little: [silently judges you] =_= Mom: "...I'll ask them to correct it.😓" My mom: "Are they paying? No. Sit down and enjoy your food." 😂😂😂
I’ve been that kid, and I hurt. Why lie about me to the world? Why deny the truth about my existence. And do my parents even remember how old I am? Were thoughts going through my head. I was so anxious and upset I didn’t eat much. And honestly made the meal uncomfortable for others by how upset I was. But for the small price of that meal, I lost some trust in my parents. And to a kid you’re stealing, and the social nuance of it is hard for them to understand.
Thank you so much for not dismissing your kid's stress about her values. I was a really opinionated kid with an intense moral code that my parents just constantly denigrated. I think it really undermined my sense of myself and warped me by the time I got to adulthood in ways I still am unpacking. Being willing to take a financial hit is extra, but it's so important to treat kids with respect around their beliefs *somehow* and it's too easy to dismiss that vehemence. Also, a useful framework for me that a writer I like set out is, 'is this essential information that allows someone to make decisions and affects their judgment'- this might be really easy to get weird when set as the immovable object in the unstoppable force of kid logic, because kids don't know yet why caretakers might need or be owed specific information, but it feels like the thing that has moral force. Other kids don't need to know if you still sleep with the light on, there are no decisions they could make differently knowing that; they do need to know if you finished your part of the group assignment.
Honestly this is a much better way to explain it than what I was taught. I got the religious flavor of "all lying is bad full stop no exceptions". But then when I wanted no part of the religion and didn’t believe it, that was COMPLETELY unacceptable. And so as a 9yo I was forced to constantly lie - which I had been told was wrong - to placate the adults around me. What kind of message does THAT send? (Hint: a REALLY unhealthy one!)
Catholicism taught me the value of lying, especially in the name of protecting myself from the religious adults around me. The lesson I took away was that no one cared if I was lying as long as the story was believable and not malicious, as in it aligned with their worldview, but as soon as you’re able you should put as much distance between yourself and those who force you to lie a lot as you can because it’s still very exhausting and smothering to do around others all the time
Omg im going through emotional turmoil about a lie i was forced to go through with and seeing this feels like everything is okay. I'm with the kiddo, but tori has a point there with the system. And sometimes its evening the playing field with silly standards. But wow you really came through at the right time😢❤
I did this once. I was so proud to be considered part of the “adults” at Luby’s, that I just announced I was 13, and that meant I wasn’t considered a kid, so I didn’t get the kid discount anymore. I was so naive back then… my parents then had to explain that I cost them more money by openly saying that I wasn’t considered a kid anymore… we kind of stopped going after that…
I had a very similar experience when we went to the fair. Kids 5 and under got in free, while kids 6 and up to adults were all charged the same amount for general admission. My kiddo had just turned 6, so I told them my kid was 5. They were so mad at me and we talked about it. At the end of the night, I talked to a security guard and told them I had lied, and my kid was actually 6, and offered to pay for their entry fee. He just laughed and said it was nice to know some people still had integrity, but that the ticket booths were closed. He shook his finger at me and said, "but don't you ever do that again", with a wink at me on the side of his face that my child couldn't see. My kid was happy, and I was happy, but I learned a valuable lesson on how observant our children are and what kind of example do we want to set!?! People who eat little at a buffet balance out the Giants like my husband who can eat quite a bit.
I remember my mom claiming that I was under 7 to get me into a fair for free when I definitely WAS 7 and blurting out "no I'm not!" so she had to pay to get me a bracelet lmfao.
BOTH my kids are that way. We went to see the first Sonic at the theaters and I was not about to pay for them both to have a soda, so we smuggled them in. Both my kids flat out refused to allow me to put a can in their pockets to take in. "That's cheating, Mom".
She’s not going to eat $10 more of food. They have to draw the line somewhere but if you said she just turned 12 last week they probably would’ve been fine with it. Unless it was a chain restaurant. Or if your 12 year old is really big/tall. But yeah, next time just say it’s too far away from her b-day now lol
It's really cool you're explaining that to them though, that there are situations in life when it may be okay or even needed to lie. The world is not always a fair or even safe place so it is good for them to know that, the overall understanding of this being a complex issue may help them in not being taken advantage of in the future.
Look i dont want to have to do this because it will ruin it but when i am seeing this video it has 11k likes, 11 dislikes, and 111comments. So sorry to be the 112th!
I don’t think you’d have to do all that I remember when I was a kid I got mad at my mom for something similar (it was at hometown buffet) but all she had to say was if you have the $38 to pay for that meal on your own then by all means you go ahead and tell them your age 😂 suffice to say I settled down
I can't believe that you doesn't under stant that you were saveing money. Let me tell you i would not have cared that my parents lied because money don't grow on trees
“Everyone lies” is not true. STOP telling your children this. If you want to lie, fine. But stop telling your children that everyone does, just to make you feel better about yourself.
@@TiredAeris At some point is different than insinuating that everyone else lies on a regular basis. It’s just not true. I’m so sorry for you if that’s your life, but some people find the truth important, no matter the situation.
"Honestly it was pretty easy" sent me cuz I felt that when it comes to food pricing
Real, doubling the price for a 12 year old is crazy ngl
Kids are great at calling us out for questionable behavior!
Yes! And it’s important to have the conversations because kids have to learn nuance and build their values- we’re a big part of that!
@Tori.Phantom I love your videos ❤
Honestly anyone should be able to get stuff off the kids menu- It's just a smaller portion
It was a buffet
Literally. I eat a lot of small meals throughout the day- adult portions at restaurants are a lot for me. Her and I often share meals at restaurants because neither of us could finish an “adult portion” on our own and we don’t like leftovers
I find it crazy how at a lot of places you cannot have anything off the children's menu as an adult, my friend has a much smaller appetite and prefers to eat off the kids menu but some places are so strict!
There are places around here that let you order off the kids menu but they add $2-$3 for adults. Which I guess is helpful to people.
@@MariahWatkins2007:
Same amount of food should cost the same amount of money.
Love that you’re not a hypocrite and you stood by your decision to lie. My parents would have told me not to do it ever and to stop questioning themZ
I wish my mom did this, instead whenever she caught me lying she would always call me a liar, and how she can't trust me, and how I was just a horrible, bad person for lying.
There is never a bigger snitch in the world than a child asked their age at a restaurant 😂
Which is why a lot of them ask the kid directly.
Man, I wish I had you as a parent growing up! You're such a great parent!❤❤
I really wish this kind of parenting existed for me
The sorrow but also definite joy of that is that *you* get to be that for you now. I'm right there with you on that.
We were at a reptile exhibit one time and our dad took me, my twin sister and our older brother. And I think 13 and below got in for like half of what it would have been….. my dad said me and my twin were 13. We were 17 🤣. I mean I worked so 🤷🏻♀️.
The way you put that eyeliner on while talking is epic!!! My daughter was 5"7' at 10 she was also a c cup. I was always doubted when telling her honest age from 7 on up. She's now 18.
The hurt look on my kid's face when someone paying for us knew she had just turned 3 lied and said she was 2 was enough to change my thinking. They really should have a much smaller price difference in my opinion though.
I'm pretty sure we were 16 before my parents paid full price for us at Granny's Buffet!
So true. You are keeping money from the restaurant but I don't think we ate more than kids younger. The main difference is that we cleaned our plates of what we took.
This literally happened with my daughter with audhd yesterday. We didn't explain it to her the same way, but I appreciate another way to explain lies and discuss this. Thanks. 😊
I love how you parent your kids!
i'm off the stance that it's always okay to lie in the face of companies and businesses who, realistically, won't be that affected by it
a hotel with a buffet (i can imagine it's a chain hotel) can afford to lose out on 10 dollars more than me
Awww your such an awesome mom
I remember being "11/12" for like 3-4 years when I was a kid. It'd always confuse me why my mom would lie but I'd just go with it, lol
One time my grandpa tried to tell the people at the ski hill that i was 10... I had just turned 12 and was very offended and almost ruined it 😂
I lie a lot but I only did it when I want to but ik it's wrong
I went through this exact scenario recently
I didn't even try to lie about my kid's age 1 week after her 6th birthday - she was too proud and would have called me out imediately. Cost me € 6,50... (kids under 6 were free) 🤷♀️
Thank you for sharing!!
Awwwwww I know damn well not everyone will agree with this but I love this!!
My mom would lie about the last digit of the house number when we went shopping because she didn't want telemarketers back then and I would always say something about how she must've forgotten or no mommy that's just wrong. I can still feel the fear in my body from the looks she gave me, I could never tell if it was intentional or not so I took a little too long to just shut up 😂😂😂
Eyes look GREAT! ive beeen following over a yr!
This happened to my mom with my brother. Lol
I have always looked young for my age, and I was “Under 11” at buffets until about 14 when I started to definitely not look like that. 😅
Wow. This is so good. And honestly how do you explain to a kid that they aren't gonna eat even the under 12 price worth of that hotel food anyway. But I get it, honesty and values like that are totally worth the extras ten bucks for helping kids stay with. I still find I'm much happier when I notice a whte lie and then correct it, rather than letting it nag at me and then numbing it, and everything else with it.
This is great 😂
"From a certain point of view" - when telling the _truth_ causes harm, _shouldn't_ you then lie?
We went thru a similar thing when i was 12 - except, had my dad paid the 12yo price for me, someone else _could not have eaten_ - so we lied so we all could eat. And yeah, it didn't feel great (though, looking back from 35 years later, was it the _lying_ at fault, or the fact that if we didn't lie/ we caught lying, we couldn't afford for everyone to eat because i was _too old?_ at the time i thought it was the lying, but I'm not sure now...)
When I was a kid they called that a "little white lie". So lies come in a color spectrum.
Little: "How could you lie like that?🤨"
Mom: "Honestly, it was pretty easy.😉"
Little: [silently judges you] =_=
Mom: "...I'll ask them to correct it.😓"
My mom: "Are they paying? No. Sit down and enjoy your food."
😂😂😂
You're raising great kids! But sorry Tori, she was right to call you out. Lucky for you I suppose that she didn't do it in front of the cashier 🙂
My mom pulled this for a place that lets kids 10 under eat for free i was 12!
Tho up till 14 i did look younger then i was. So didn't Suprise me.
$22 for a 12 yr old to eat, ridiculous. Too expensive.
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While i respect your kiddo i still lie about being a teenager to get into museums for free. God made me short i might as well take advantage!
Oh no no your lie hurt a large corporation out of 10 dollars they REALLY needed tsk tsk
I’ve been that kid, and I hurt. Why lie about me to the world? Why deny the truth about my existence. And do my parents even remember how old I am? Were thoughts going through my head. I was so anxious and upset I didn’t eat much. And honestly made the meal uncomfortable for others by how upset I was. But for the small price of that meal, I lost some trust in my parents. And to a kid you’re stealing, and the social nuance of it is hard for them to understand.
I would have fessed up when you paid the bill.
I would’ve told her to mind her damn business or she can pay for herself.
Where is your piercing studio? Bath?
How do you know it didnt hurt anyone?
and your really also identify with your age as a child.
ALL lies are wrong
Alright let's see you raise a kid and never lie. Or let's see you tell a coworker you hate their shirt because that's the truth when they asked you.
Thank you so much for not dismissing your kid's stress about her values. I was a really opinionated kid with an intense moral code that my parents just constantly denigrated. I think it really undermined my sense of myself and warped me by the time I got to adulthood in ways I still am unpacking. Being willing to take a financial hit is extra, but it's so important to treat kids with respect around their beliefs *somehow* and it's too easy to dismiss that vehemence.
Also, a useful framework for me that a writer I like set out is, 'is this essential information that allows someone to make decisions and affects their judgment'- this might be really easy to get weird when set as the immovable object in the unstoppable force of kid logic, because kids don't know yet why caretakers might need or be owed specific information, but it feels like the thing that has moral force.
Other kids don't need to know if you still sleep with the light on, there are no decisions they could make differently knowing that; they do need to know if you finished your part of the group assignment.
Honestly this is a much better way to explain it than what I was taught. I got the religious flavor of "all lying is bad full stop no exceptions". But then when I wanted no part of the religion and didn’t believe it, that was COMPLETELY unacceptable. And so as a 9yo I was forced to constantly lie - which I had been told was wrong - to placate the adults around me. What kind of message does THAT send? (Hint: a REALLY unhealthy one!)
Catholicism taught me the value of lying, especially in the name of protecting myself from the religious adults around me.
The lesson I took away was that no one cared if I was lying as long as the story was believable and not malicious, as in it aligned with their worldview, but as soon as you’re able you should put as much distance between yourself and those who force you to lie a lot as you can because it’s still very exhausting and smothering to do around others all the time
smh. I also grew up like that, its just one of the few things that comes with a strict parent.
That $10 morality fee gets ya ❤
Omg im going through emotional turmoil about a lie i was forced to go through with and seeing this feels like everything is okay.
I'm with the kiddo, but tori has a point there with the system. And sometimes its evening the playing field with silly standards.
But wow you really came through at the right time😢❤
I did this once. I was so proud to be considered part of the “adults” at Luby’s, that I just announced I was 13, and that meant I wasn’t considered a kid, so I didn’t get the kid discount anymore. I was so naive back then… my parents then had to explain that I cost them more money by openly saying that I wasn’t considered a kid anymore… we kind of stopped going after that…
This brings back so many memories, I haven't been to or seen a Lubys since like 1996.
Ouch. What a ridiculous punishment. I hope you don't blame yourself 💞
Love the parenting but also wanted to say "scamming" big corporations in such ways don't hurt nobody
"Do you have 12 year old money?"
I had a very similar experience when we went to the fair. Kids 5 and under got in free, while kids 6 and up to adults were all charged the same amount for general admission. My kiddo had just turned 6, so I told them my kid was 5. They were so mad at me and we talked about it. At the end of the night, I talked to a security guard and told them I had lied, and my kid was actually 6, and offered to pay for their entry fee.
He just laughed and said it was nice to know some people still had integrity, but that the ticket booths were closed. He shook his finger at me and said, "but don't you ever do that again", with a wink at me on the side of his face that my child couldn't see. My kid was happy, and I was happy, but I learned a valuable lesson on how observant our children are and what kind of example do we want to set!?!
People who eat little at a buffet balance out the Giants like my husband who can eat quite a bit.
I remember my mom claiming that I was under 7 to get me into a fair for free when I definitely WAS 7 and blurting out "no I'm not!" so she had to pay to get me a bracelet lmfao.
BOTH my kids are that way. We went to see the first Sonic at the theaters and I was not about to pay for them both to have a soda, so we smuggled them in. Both my kids flat out refused to allow me to put a can in their pockets to take in. "That's cheating, Mom".
She’s not going to eat $10 more of food. They have to draw the line somewhere but if you said she just turned 12 last week they probably would’ve been fine with it. Unless it was a chain restaurant. Or if your 12 year old is really big/tall. But yeah, next time just say it’s too far away from her b-day now lol
It's really cool you're explaining that to them though, that there are situations in life when it may be okay or even needed to lie. The world is not always a fair or even safe place so it is good for them to know that, the overall understanding of this being a complex issue may help them in not being taken advantage of in the future.
Look i dont want to have to do this because it will ruin it but when i am seeing this video it has 11k likes, 11 dislikes, and 111comments. So sorry to be the 112th!
I’d walk in with my parents at 27 like “no I’m 11 I’m just exceedingly tall for 11”
I'm unable to lie and it's terrible.
Sometimes you need to lie.
Lying is an important skill.
It should be used for good, not for bad.
I wish my mom would have talked to me like this when I was younger maybe I wouldn't have been a pathological liar...😅
There is also a world of difference between saying your just turned 12 yr old is 11, than you 13+ yr old is 11.
I don’t think you’d have to do all that I remember when I was a kid I got mad at my mom for something similar (it was at hometown buffet) but all she had to say was if you have the $38 to pay for that meal on your own then by all means you go ahead and tell them your age 😂 suffice to say I settled down
I can't believe that you doesn't under stant that you were saveing money. Let me tell you i would not have cared that my parents lied because money don't grow on trees
Way too many of these stories would have been avoided if they'd just talked to their kiddo before going in. 😅
Thats a crazy price difference though smh
Tell her 'when she's 22 she will understand 100 percent why' 😂
They do keep you in check, don't they 😅
Wise choice, good job
Kid roasts mom!😅
I am always truly amazed by these. I dream to be this kind of parent
I don’t know why but I’ve never thought of the majority of things being a grey area… thank you
You cost the hotel money by lying
.. Just sayin
I promise you she ate $5 worth of food. They’re fine.
hows that boot taste, bucko
“Everyone lies” is not true. STOP telling your children this.
If you want to lie, fine. But stop telling your children that everyone does, just to make you feel better about yourself.
Everyone does at some point.
@@TiredAeris At some point is different than insinuating that everyone else lies on a regular basis. It’s just not true. I’m so sorry for you if that’s your life, but some people find the truth important, no matter the situation.