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I couldn't care less if a woman (Filipina or otherwise) has an issue with me being nice to her. If she doesn't appreciate my kindness, I can find a girl who does. I am not playing into worldly dating games claiming that I have to be a certain level jerk to attract a woman.
It does not matter what country the women are from. If you are nice and they are not appreciative....RUN...RUN...RUN...it's a signal there are serious character flaws you will be enduring ongoing...as you are nice along the way you will meet a sincere loving women and find happiness...if not get a loving dog...they have no agendas. ❤❤...good luck to all!
It just makes a stronger case to "rent" them by the hour or evening. give to much = your a simp, give to little = your cheap. frustration and time wasted, either way.
You’re absolutely rationally correct: I live by the motto: “ if it flies, floats or fucks , rent it. And yes , I am now a wise , older and happily divorced white man. Life’s great 👍
And FOR THE RECORD, never go to a WOMAN for dating or relationship advice. Women dont know what they want, other than to manipulate men into their way of thinking and feeling. Men and women are DIFFERENT. If a woman can handle these differences or doesnt EMBRACE these difference that walk away gentleman. We as MEN need to STAND UP and take LEADERDSHIP RESPONSABILITY in knowing more about relationships than women. We need to take these women by the hand and LEAD THEM into the promised land. Look them in the eye and lay down the rules of the relationship right from the start and stop pussyfooting around and looking towards a woman use her psychology on you to make you into a feminized man. If a woman BALKS at your leadership and will NOT FOLLOW you, and kicks and screams at your relationship vision, then simply WALK AWAY and stop wasting your time on trying to impress them or convince them you are worthy of their attention. YOU ARE ALREADY the PRIZE gentleman. You have what she NEEDS even if she doesnt understand it. If she doesnt want to take the time to SEWE you, then she NEVER will be made to SEE you ever. Always remember this when perusing a woman. Always keep yourself in this mindset and framework. Its far more HEALTHY to be alone and functional than to be with a dysfunctional woman!
Morals of the this story: 1. Stay single. 2. Stay single until you find a woman who treats you right IN YOUR CULTURE. 3. Maybe reconsider having a filipina partner.
I am the same. Not in my nature ... but ... I found that being stoic and only saying/doing kind things 50% of the time (or less, never more) when I feel like it can temper things a lot.
Set boundaries, tell her if you see behavior you don't like. You don't have to be mean or an a$$. Just say no to things you don't want to do or like, that's the best thing about the Philippines. You don't have to settle. I was asked to buy one a new phone and I told her I wouldn't buy a new girlfriend in the U.S. a phone so I'm not going to buy her one. Respect is earned in a relationship. Telling a Filipina no as early as you can in a relationship will give you a good idea what you're dealing with.
Thanks! Great information and insight. I wish I would’ve known about this before I got married the first time and then the second time. I see myself creating that huge gap that cannot be over come in those relationships.
A wise man once said, "for men, a woman is an accessory to your life; they can improve it but they don't automatically make it good." I forget who I said that too. 😂 Be honest and respectful with women, but make it perfectly clear that you're living your own life and they can either join it or not. They're additions, not prizes. Be confident and casual; don't be a jerk about it but don't sound unsure of yourself. If she knows that you're going to carry on like normal, with or without her, she'll be less inclined to treat you like her meal ticket. That typically weeds out the weak ones and then you can focus on the worthwhile women. This is typically what people mean by not being a "nice guy." It's a shame most people can't properly articulate this.
Kindness, generosity, compassion, deliberate and calculated effort and contribution to an improved standard of living isn't for everybody. Some need to lose it, once exposed to genuine, unconditional love, to understand it.
I watched this whole video. I hope my comment gets pinned cuz i can simply this concept for you. If she doesn't appreciate your gestures or gifts its likely cuz she just didn't like you in the first place. That's really all there is to it. That's like dating a girl and she wants to sleep with you often but you're just not into it... It's not hard to see why... money is to women what sex is to men. There you have it. Having said that dont become a recluse get back out there. many women there that will more than appreciate you. Also i agree with holding back on the generosity in general. In the Philippines a little is a lot and a lot is too much. Even in the states most millionaires don't drive Bentleys... They drive Camrys. And for the very same reason. Cheers
"money is to women what sex is to men." I´m from Sweden. Why don´t You come here and say that to almost any woman here ? I would love to see that !! I had a friend for many years and I was often out with him in all types of clubs and so on starting when he as about 50 y.o. He had a lot of money. In fact in 2012 he was one of Sweden´s 10 largest taxpayers. But who got the attention by women in the clubs in Sweden? I did, although I am poor and 2 years older then him. But I´m fit and good looking. He´s not. Imo SEX is to women what SEX is to men. At least that´s my experience.
@@staffanlundberg lol this is actually very funny to me and I know it's true for you so I'm not trying to start anything being attractive and fit always helps but for most women they'd choose security over hotness 9 times out of ten
@@staffanlundberg Women in clubs just want to "have fun". They don't choose the same men (or the same qualities) when it's time to "have fun" or to get married. Look it up by yourself, it's not hard to find.
Agreed. But, this video is geared towards guys who think that "being kind, nice, and generous" is the secret to making a woman like you. Quite often it has the opposite effect. So, yes...be kind. But, don't be too kind.
Another great video by SGP! Yes, I understand what you mean. Also, in general you loose a girl when she thinks you will stay with her no matter what. She will take it for granted. My Filipina is very sweet, but she knows I have no trouble finding another girl, because she sees the girls watching me and suddenly she hold my hand. I was surprised, but I already know that if a Filipina is serious with you she will go trough great lengths to make sure everyone knows you are a couple. She also asked me in the first days if I ever will go to the Philippines if our relationship don't work out. "Yes!" i said without hesitation and explained later that I would find a Filipina who really want to be on my side. She knows I am to old for games and I will walk away. She knows what things I will never except and she is aware of it. As a guy it's very important to have boundaries. Never forget that " Chad and Tyrone" - the top 1-5% men - don't care and also have an abundance mindset when it comes to women. She was upset because she asked me if I would cry if we broke up. I told her not even one tear. If you don't want me anymore, it's okay. Don't waste my time. I want to give you the world, if it's not good enough , it's not my problem. I would cry for the time I lost being in the relationship with you, because the time I never get back. Don't be a simp, you do your best, but it has to be proportionate. The problem with Western (minded) girls is that they think they are princesses, having body counts like Jeff Dahmer, want to do whatever they want, post pictures on social media for guys to like and talk about. Nope, not me. My girl is my girl, if you don't like , find someone else. All of those girls I knew with this mindset are now literal home alone with at least one cat and some of them single mothers. They always knew better, they always did whatever they wanted or feel like. Wanted to be a lady when it suits them!
This is very true in essence. To let them know we can move on. And if they dont want play ball with a good guys feelings. I feel marriage is a good remedy to balance out this phenomenom. Anything less is a distructive Game that ends in Hurt, especially in the Philipines.
Bottom line, you can't buy love. I think the message here is that any girl doesn't appreciate feeling bought. Good message. I learned something. I'm one of those guys she mentioned that tips big. So my question is "how do you leave a nice tip without any strings attached?" I just like tipping because I've worked the industry before.
You can buy love, you just don't know where to shop. Another thing, why would anybody leave a tip with strings attached? Your question doesn't make any sense.
@@oahuguy3918 That's irrelevant. Let's focus here, Jim. But I'm glad that you agree that love can be bought. Now, could you please answer my question, Jimmy? 🤔Why would anybody leave a tip with strings attached? Don't you dare run away from me, Jim, or I'll lose hope in humanity. Explain yourself. Thanks.
😅😅 I see I’m not the only one listening to Dr. Orion Taraban. But also understand that most of his advice is very much geared towards western women. Great video sis. 🐼🔥🐼🌴
It makes sense. A leader is supposed to be the adored, and the adorer is supposed to be the follower. The man is supposed to be the leader, and the woman the follower. The man is the buyer, the woman is the seller. The man is the employer, and the woman is the employee. So, a man, being all of these, should only reciprocate when he is given what he expects to be given. It's not about being a jerk or a bad guy, its about being dominant and showing dominance. If you're a kiss-ass, you're not dominant. If you're a sellout, you're not dominant. If you're an employer letting your employees run the show, you're not dominant. If you're a shitty leader, you're not dominant. If you adore a woman, you're putting her on a pedastal, you're asserting that she has dominance, and of course a woman who wants to be the lesser vessel because she wants a man who will lead her and protect her and show dominance in a relationship with her will become very uncomfortable being put in the position of a leader.
Buying them a house is definitely weird. But… if I want to take a trip to Boracay (or wherever), and I have a girlfriend… NOT taking her with me so we can enjoy it together, seems a little weird to me 😂
You're right. I've seen it time and time again in my 63 years. Good men are predictable thus boring. Women require a level of excitement and will seek it. But they want you to create it. Many settle many more don't and begin looking for toxicity.
I was raised to treat everyone with kindness and respect. If they do not respond to me in a similar way, then I move on to people that do. Worked well for me for 68 years so far. Btw, I have been happily married to a Cebuano girl for 18 yrs. After she accepted my proposal, I asked her why she said yes. She responded that I was so good to her (and her family). I just treat her and all other people like I want to be treated. BTW, what exactly do you mean when you say treating her good? What it means to her and I is being honest (huge), respectful, merciful, kind, complimentary, patient, affectionate and loving. I know many filipino women now and they have their pride and dignity. I think those two qualities enter into the realm of the point you are trying to establish. You`re such an intelligent girl IMO.
Here's a news flash, it's basically the same here in the U.S. regarding the jerk gets the girl over the nice guy. It seems a little crazy because it is. The American girl does this a little differently than her Filipina counterpart but the results are the same. A long list of one night stands, short & long term break ups and the most common are the 2-3 divorces and a bad habit that ends either an online dating app in your +50s or a lap dog.
It happens everyday in the Philippines. Guys show up and empty their wallets thinking that it's going to make a Filipina like them. It usually has the opposite effect.
Yes. Definitely happened to me. And recently. Explains a lot. It’s just hard to not give a girl items that she has never had when she is showing you so much attention and love. All you want to do is take care of her. Example tennis shoes. Says she has never had any before. So I buy her Nike’s. 5500php. Then she uses starting a new job. So I buy her another set for work. Then on and on and on. Then she started getting cold. And on my trip out (on the plane) texts ‘I’m unsure of this…’. Lol. Ok girl.
I remember in my US Navy days when we would pull into Subic Bay (Yes, I’m that old). The bar girls in Olongapo would say, “I love you no shit, buy me a new car” and then of course have the Filipina girls giggle. There might’ve been one or two sailors, who bought a new car, but then they lost the girl.
Thank You SGP 🙏🏼❤😎 for showing the truth in this video. Many guys don't realize the thing's that you mentioned in your video are the truth. My personal opinion is simply this, if a Filipina doesn't show a love attraction or sincere interest in me, I will move on to find a woman that will. The most important thing is I never act or feel needy. I am totally fine to be alone. And I let her know that I don't play games.
Here's my perspective on it. Women who want to be in a relationship don't want to be bought, they want a partner. So if you're going to spend money on a woman, do it on things you can do together that will grow your bond. Or spend money on things that will empower her or develop her own interests, so she can start on the path of becoming the person she wants to be. If she's worth your time, she will appreciate what you've done. If she ghosts you, then at least you've helped another human being, and helped yourself get out of a toxic relationship in the process.
Me and my Filipina have been together 6 yrs and I think I only told her maybe once I think... that she was beautiful. Ours works because we actually find each other interesting, attractive and funny. Make sure she likes YOU more than you like her. Men will stay for less a like than a woman will. Some guys do not want to think at all, that is their choice, just know it will take much longer to find someone that fits what you want. I was willing to wait 8 yrs to find mine so nothing wrong with waiting.
The man who does this feels she is out of his league....A ridiculous approach to anything in life. His actions tell her that He is not worthy and that He is far from the prized man she has dreamed of her entire life. A king will never bow to any woman for affection, rather he CARRIES HIMSELF LIKE a KING in her presence, is playful and flirtatious with her while keeping the slightest of emotional distance, creates MYSTERY with her(what will he do next??!!, when will he reach out/see me again?), sends discrete notes (maybe a slowly spoken deep voice note with " I had a wonderful time last night", then silence!) , he is constantly giving her tiny touches and kisses simply laughing and unreactive when she tells him to stop, and plays the game of love like the KING she always dreamed of. Only when she is going out of her mind with desire and need for more of his time and touch does he relent slightly, then only allowing a playful glimpse into his feelings for her. This is seduction gentlemen. This is what she wants. You either are her king or you are not worthy. Despite what you think or have been told, the choice is yours.
My uncle married a Philippina. She boxed up everything from my grandparents house, cleaned out the place, and shipped it all back home to her relatives in the Phillipines, who literally had no claim on any of the stuff whatsoever. Blows my mind away. Like marrying a thief, who starts listing off all your furniture and items in your house one by one on the down low on ebay... to make a quick buck. You start missing things gone... and start to wonder. When you ask her about it, she makes some excuse why she "threw it out", or that she has no idea, or you didn't need that old thing anyway, buy a new one.
I haven't lived in the Philippines yet, so maybe the "nice guys finish last" dynamic is taken to a whole new level there. That being said, I attempt to treat every woman like a lady until proven different. There's a real difference between being nice and being a simp. If common courtesy and thoughtfulness keeps me single and alone, I'll get a dog.
great advice. would be confusing to be ghosted after being nice. have to be careful because the economies are so very different; it would be easy to over-tip, etc.
Let them know when they breach your boundaries , tell them to leave and go home as you need time to think , Make her realise she has done wrong and she will respect you for it , They need guidance all the time & look to you for decision making , Your the financial backbone and leader and she deep down is wanting this from you .
To find a Good Filipina. Live in the Philippines and do not date for two years to four years until you can understand the culture in Philippines. Make sure you take care of yourself and fix any defects of character. Work on your own character and set healthy boundaries. Then when you’re very stable emotionally physically educate with good skills and be spiritually balanced then you attract a healthy relationship with a good woman.
You don't have to be a jerk. Just be calibrated. Give time for a bond to grow rather than love bombing her. Women are different to men. Being overly generous to someone you barely know is inauthentic if there is a hidden expectation. Also it is the analogous in male-female social dynamics to premature ejaculation in sex. Also if take things slowly that will give you time to see if she is someone who is 'worthy' of your love.
I will go through life doing the best that I can at everything that I try. Including my relationships. I will always be a nice person in life no matter what some dumb ass in another country thinks about it!
Exactly! Reward her good behavior a little at a time. Treat her like she's famous and she'll treat you like a fan. Too many simps in the comments don't understand women's nature...putting her on a pedestal only makes her look down on you.
I do understand and agree that guys can get out of hand with gifts; but at the same time, the Filipina can still become an adorer...in the end, it's all about communication. When each one puts the needs of the other first, they both become the adorer and the adored. The problem is, guys go too far in giving gifts and the Filipina assigns too much value to the gift. For example, if a guy is rich, giving an iPhone doesn't really mean that much as when he is poor. It's all about perspective and maturity. If the lady is going to get cold and distant after receiving a gift, she can reject it and simply tell the guy...hey buddy, I appreciate the sentiment, but its too much. Lets just enjoy each others at a personal level for now. The guy will appreciate this kind of honesty and he will learn how to give good gifts. So, the problem is really about communication in the end, which is a matter related to maturity. Maturity in life affects both the giving and receiving of gifts. If I met a Filipina lady and she doesn't know how to communicate, that's a huge red flag...time to move on. I don't have time to manage others at such a rudimentary level.
Her coworker or possibly her friend, has observed her folly and will welcome the man's attention. He should ignore the woman who ignores him and spoil the welcoming coworker. It works on many levels. A poor woman rejects a man's extravagance to communicate that she's immune to his power. The man can say, "I respect that I'm not your type. Could you introduce me to your friend, maybe I'm her type. She'll be grateful to you if we hit it off". If you do take up with the coworker or friend be sure she has a fabulous time, that she returns to work ranting about her trip to boracay. If you're forced to drop down to her level,, play hard. Remember, vengeance is a dish best served,, generously. I have to go now, the dark lord calls.
ALSO IF YOU'RE SERIOUS ABOUT HER , look into her ex's and see if she is still in contact with him and ask how she feels about her ex's . If she still loves any of them or is Emotionally Close to any of them , you may need to let her go because she may still be sleeping with them and if you are moving her to your Country . Get a Blood Test Done on her for STD's . YOUR HEALTH IS PRICELESS !!!!!
I think it's more like that the Filipina (or other nationalities) feel like they are being bought and paid for (rather than they are being shown love, by the many gifts), and that they are a valuable commodity and they dislike that, and respond with insults and disrespect. It happened to me with my own Malaysian wife. I was so thoughtful and cared for her in every way, always appreciated and complimented her...she felt superior to me, she left me, and now is trying to take what money and property she can from me.
The reason is simple: once the woman no longer respects you, it’s over..She will take whatever possessions from u and move on or even being by herself is better than living with a man she no longer respects…sad but true..
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If they are a christian and they do not honour you for your actions then they are denying Christ. I leave it at that.
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I couldn't care less if a woman (Filipina or otherwise) has an issue with me being nice to her. If she doesn't appreciate my kindness, I can find a girl who does. I am not playing into worldly dating games claiming that I have to be a certain level jerk to attract a woman.
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Yep what a bunch of crap this advice is.
Chump…
You miss the entire Point of education here.
It does not matter what country the women are from. If you are nice and they are not appreciative....RUN...RUN...RUN...it's a signal there are serious character flaws you will be enduring ongoing...as you are nice along the way you will meet a sincere loving women and find happiness...if not get a loving dog...they have no agendas. ❤❤...good luck to all!
That's true for many women, not just the Philippines.
i was gona post this. but ya most women dig CnF(cocky n funny), but not everyone can pull that off tho.
YES
Treat her like a queen and she will treat you like a pawn
almost like people are people wherever they're from...
Exactly!
@portlandGTR very true
Another Fuc**in feminist...
@@portlandGTR so damn true.
A good saying is "the person who cares the least controls the relationship".
It just makes a stronger case to "rent" them by the hour or evening. give to much = your a simp, give to little = your cheap. frustration and time wasted, either way.
Pros are the best.
You’re absolutely rationally correct:
I live by the motto:
“ if it flies, floats or fucks , rent it. And yes , I am now a wise , older and happily divorced white man.
Life’s great 👍
Yep agreed
😂😂😂😂😂
And FOR THE RECORD, never go to a WOMAN for dating or relationship advice. Women dont know what they want, other than to manipulate men into their way of thinking and feeling. Men and women are DIFFERENT. If a woman can handle these differences or doesnt EMBRACE these difference that walk away gentleman. We as MEN need to STAND UP and take LEADERDSHIP RESPONSABILITY in knowing more about relationships than women. We need to take these women by the hand and LEAD THEM into the promised land. Look them in the eye and lay down the rules of the relationship right from the start and stop pussyfooting around and looking towards a woman use her psychology on you to make you into a feminized man.
If a woman BALKS at your leadership and will NOT FOLLOW you, and kicks and screams at your relationship vision, then simply WALK AWAY and stop wasting your time on trying to impress them or convince them you are worthy of their attention. YOU ARE ALREADY the PRIZE gentleman. You have what she NEEDS even if she doesnt understand it. If she doesnt want to take the time to SEWE you, then she NEVER will be made to SEE you ever. Always remember this when perusing a woman. Always keep yourself in this mindset and framework. Its far more HEALTHY to be alone and functional than to be with a dysfunctional woman!
Good advice.
Its selfish to expect someone to reciprocate your generosity
Wise words
Being too nice is a sign of weakness and desperation I'm the prize if she's lucky!😅
Morals of the this story:
1. Stay single.
2. Stay single until you find a woman who treats you right IN YOUR CULTURE.
3. Maybe reconsider having a filipina partner.
Are those judo moves?
She is 100 percent right no matter how many times I go there I find that is so true sucks because it isn't in me to be that way
I am the same. Not in my nature ... but ... I found that being stoic and only saying/doing kind things 50% of the time (or less, never more) when I feel like it can temper things a lot.
Thanks!
Thanks so much Steve! I'm ordering Jollibee tomorrow from you for the girls. We appreciate you so much. -Irish xoxo
Set boundaries, tell her if you see behavior you don't like. You don't have to be mean or an a$$. Just say no to things you don't want to do or like, that's the best thing about the Philippines. You don't have to settle. I was asked to buy one a new phone and I told her I wouldn't buy a new girlfriend in the U.S. a phone so I'm not going to buy her one. Respect is earned in a relationship. Telling a Filipina no as early as you can in a relationship will give you a good idea what you're dealing with.
Thanks! Great information and insight. I wish I would’ve known about this before I got married the first time and then the second time. I see myself creating that huge gap that cannot be over come in those relationships.
Thank you so much!
WOW!!!! I could never grasp that notion.
Be an a**hole to be loved sounds like such a contradiction in terms for the insecure.
Incredibly good advice, not just for Filipinas. Every man should listen to this.
The moment you prioritise her, is the moment she makes you an option. Dili lang yo.
A wise man once said, "for men, a woman is an accessory to your life; they can improve it but they don't automatically make it good." I forget who I said that too. 😂 Be honest and respectful with women, but make it perfectly clear that you're living your own life and they can either join it or not. They're additions, not prizes. Be confident and casual; don't be a jerk about it but don't sound unsure of yourself. If she knows that you're going to carry on like normal, with or without her, she'll be less inclined to treat you like her meal ticket. That typically weeds out the weak ones and then you can focus on the worthwhile women. This is typically what people mean by not being a "nice guy." It's a shame most people can't properly articulate this.
You are absolutely spot on with this statement!
This is the truth 💯 and should be pinned to the top!
I would rather be nice, than being a jerk.
Kindnesses goes both ways.
A great deal of wisdom from such a young woman . Well done.
Kindness, generosity, compassion, deliberate and calculated effort and contribution to an improved standard of living isn't for everybody. Some need to lose it, once exposed to genuine, unconditional love, to understand it.
I watched this whole video. I hope my comment gets pinned cuz i can simply this concept for you. If she doesn't appreciate your gestures or gifts its likely cuz she just didn't like you in the first place. That's really all there is to it. That's like dating a girl and she wants to sleep with you often but you're just not into it... It's not hard to see why... money is to women what sex is to men. There you have it. Having said that dont become a recluse get back out there. many women there that will more than appreciate you. Also i agree with holding back on the generosity in general. In the Philippines a little is a lot and a lot is too much. Even in the states most millionaires don't drive Bentleys... They drive Camrys. And for the very same reason. Cheers
"money is to women what sex is to men." I´m from Sweden. Why don´t You come here and say that to almost any woman here ? I would love to see that !!
I had a friend for many years and I was often out with him in all types of clubs and so on starting when he as about 50 y.o. He had a lot of money. In fact in 2012 he was one of Sweden´s 10 largest taxpayers.
But who got the attention by women in the clubs in Sweden? I did, although I am poor and 2 years older then him.
But I´m fit and good looking. He´s not. Imo SEX is to women what SEX is to men. At least that´s my experience.
@@staffanlundberg lol this is actually very funny to me and I know it's true for you so I'm not trying to start anything being attractive and fit always helps but for most women they'd choose security over hotness 9 times out of ten
@@staffanlundberg Women in clubs just want to "have fun".
They don't choose the same men (or the same qualities) when it's time to "have fun" or to get married.
Look it up by yourself, it's not hard to find.
You are a smart girl if you watch Orion Taraban. That's some high level information and his advice is golden.
It is good to be genuinely kind to others.
Agreed. But, this video is geared towards guys who think that "being kind, nice, and generous" is the secret to making a woman like you. Quite often it has the opposite effect. So, yes...be kind. But, don't be too kind.
@@bannertraveller5879 I got confused and thought she was saying I was a woman. Lol.
My parents adored each other. They had an amazing relationship, married 46 years until my father passed. Stop being selfish. Adore, be adored.
Cheats on a hard working man and faithful to a guy in jail..😅
Very Smart insight! Thanks for video. You are sincere!
Another great video by SGP!
Yes, I understand what you mean.
Also, in general you loose a girl when she thinks you will stay with her no matter what. She will take it for granted.
My Filipina is very sweet, but she knows I have no trouble finding another girl, because she sees the girls watching me and suddenly she hold my hand. I was surprised, but I already know that if a Filipina is serious with you she will go trough great lengths to make sure everyone knows you are a couple. She also asked me in the first days if I ever will go to the Philippines if our relationship don't work out. "Yes!" i said without hesitation and explained later that I would find a Filipina who really want to be on my side. She knows I am to old for games and I will walk away. She knows what things I will never except and she is aware of it. As a guy it's very important to have boundaries.
Never forget that " Chad and Tyrone" - the top 1-5% men - don't care and also have an abundance mindset when it comes to women. She was upset because she asked me if I would cry if we broke up. I told her not even one tear. If you don't want me anymore, it's okay. Don't waste my time. I want to give you the world, if it's not good enough , it's not my problem. I would cry for the time I lost being in the relationship with you, because the time I never get back. Don't be a simp, you do your best, but it has to be proportionate. The problem with Western (minded) girls is that they think they are princesses, having body counts like Jeff Dahmer, want to do whatever they want, post pictures on social media for guys to like and talk about. Nope, not me. My girl is my girl, if you don't like , find someone else. All of those girls I knew with this mindset are now literal home alone with at least one cat and some of them single mothers. They always knew better, they always did whatever they wanted or feel like. Wanted to be a lady when it suits them!
This is very true in essence. To let them know we can move on. And if they dont want play ball with a good guys feelings. I feel marriage is a good remedy to balance out this phenomenom.
Anything less is a distructive Game that ends in Hurt, especially in the Philipines.
Marriage? Run! Run for your life!
Bottom line, you can't buy love. I think the message here is that any girl doesn't appreciate feeling bought. Good message. I learned something. I'm one of those guys she mentioned that tips big. So my question is "how do you leave a nice tip without any strings attached?" I just like tipping because I've worked the industry before.
You can buy love, you just don't know where to shop. Another thing, why would anybody leave a tip with strings attached? Your question doesn't make any sense.
You’re right. Women can be bought, but how’s that going for you?
@@oahuguy3918 That's irrelevant. Let's focus here, Jim. But I'm glad that you agree that love can be bought. Now, could you please answer my question, Jimmy? 🤔Why would anybody leave a tip with strings attached? Don't you dare run away from me, Jim, or I'll lose hope in humanity. Explain yourself. Thanks.
Do. NOT be a simp
This girl spoke facts
Too many western men just act stupid. “More is not better”. The worst compliment a man can receive by a woman is you’re so nice!!!
😅😅 I see I’m not the only one listening to Dr. Orion Taraban. But also understand that most of his advice is very much geared towards western women. Great video sis. 🐼🔥🐼🌴
Absolutely right women are same no matter if she is from earth or mars treat her like celebrity and she will treat you like a fan
Life and relationships are more complicated than that.
It makes sense.
A leader is supposed to be the adored, and the adorer is supposed to be the follower. The man is supposed to be the leader, and the woman the follower. The man is the buyer, the woman is the seller. The man is the employer, and the woman is the employee. So, a man, being all of these, should only reciprocate when he is given what he expects to be given. It's not about being a jerk or a bad guy, its about being dominant and showing dominance. If you're a kiss-ass, you're not dominant. If you're a sellout, you're not dominant. If you're an employer letting your employees run the show, you're not dominant. If you're a shitty leader, you're not dominant. If you adore a woman, you're putting her on a pedastal, you're asserting that she has dominance, and of course a woman who wants to be the lesser vessel because she wants a man who will lead her and protect her and show dominance in a relationship with her will become very uncomfortable being put in the position of a leader.
Thank you so much, what a nice explanation of what's going on.
don't be nice to people here or else they will just take advantage of you as much as they can...stop being a good guy is a good advice😊
It's complicated. It's a case by case deal. Life and relationships are more complicated than that.
There's a difference between being nice and not having the spine to say no
@@ross9580Exactly
@@ross9580
Exactly!
This is true. They like strong, smart men. Use this knowledge. It will work.
Same with USA Women. They see you as an ATM who is supposed to be "generous."
Great content. I never thought of my generosity or niceness as a turn off.
Buying someone you just met a house isn't "nice". Think about how weird that actually is.
there are a lot of weird people everywhere.
That is weird.
That is ultra weird
Buying them a house is definitely weird.
But… if I want to take a trip to Boracay (or wherever), and I have a girlfriend… NOT taking her with me so we can enjoy it together, seems a little weird to me 😂
This is a very important topic done fabulously.
Appreciated your input. Merci
ALL women dump nice guys and hang out with bad guys
I can tell you've never had a chick in your life. Stop buying day-ting courses, man, stop generalizing women, and get yourself a chick.
@@ChochiT0-ddd7fd let him think what he wants. I don't want him to get a good girl. He doesn't deserve one.
You're right. I've seen it time and time again in my 63 years. Good men are predictable thus boring. Women require a level of excitement and will seek it. But they want you to create it. Many settle many more don't and begin looking for toxicity.
Nice guys finish last
Yeah treat them mean and keep them keen 😂
Every time.
I don't need to go to PI to be treated that way, I get that for free in the West.
Or not at all
@@evcass69 same here midwest
EXCELLENT synopsis of dynamic relationships! and backed up by science. Well said
science? I heard some psychology. but where's the science? I didn't hear any talk about hormones.
Hi you sound like a nice girl and smart too I think mentality of the ladies vari depending on the culture : nationality and so on
The same is true for women all over the world.
I was raised to treat everyone with kindness and respect. If they do not respond to me in a similar way, then I move on to people that do. Worked well for me for 68 years so far. Btw, I have been happily married to a Cebuano girl for 18 yrs. After she accepted my proposal, I asked her why she said yes. She responded that I was so good to her (and her family). I just treat her and all other people like I want to be treated. BTW, what exactly do you mean when you say treating her good? What it means to her and I is being honest (huge), respectful, merciful, kind, complimentary, patient, affectionate and loving. I know many filipino women now and they have their pride and dignity. I think those two qualities enter into the realm of the point you are trying to establish. You`re such an intelligent girl IMO.
THE ADORED VERSE THE NOT ADORED >>> THE BALANCE CAN SCREW UP A RELATIONSHIP
Thanks Ellie, I adore you.
This applies to all women
Here's a news flash, it's basically the same here in the U.S. regarding the jerk gets the girl over the nice guy. It seems a little crazy because it is. The American girl does this a little differently than her Filipina counterpart but the results are the same. A long list of one night stands, short & long term break ups and the most common are the 2-3 divorces and a bad habit that ends either an online dating app in your +50s or a lap dog.
Very Good Video Because you tell the Truth.
Excellent advice.
Wow that's amazing
Buy her an iphone? take her to boracay? are you joking? 😅😂😂
My reaction too 🤣🤣
It happens everyday in the Philippines. Guys show up and empty their wallets thinking that it's going to make a Filipina like them. It usually has the opposite effect.
@@SmartGirlPhilippinesprobably Americans are the biggest culprits in the overspend to impress department......
@@SmartGirlPhilippines TRUE
@@SmartGirlPhilippines That's usually because no one likes the feeling of being bought.
Yes. Definitely happened to me. And recently. Explains a lot.
It’s just hard to not give a girl items that she has never had when she is showing you so much attention and love. All you want to do is take care of her.
Example tennis shoes. Says she has never had any before. So I buy her Nike’s. 5500php. Then she uses starting a new job. So I buy her another set for work. Then on and on and on. Then she started getting cold. And on my trip out (on the plane) texts ‘I’m unsure of this…’.
Lol. Ok girl.
Treat them mean, keep them keen. It’s textbook 👌
Thanks for the advice ❤
I remember in my US Navy days when we would pull into Subic Bay (Yes, I’m that old). The bar girls in Olongapo would say, “I love you no shit, buy me a new car” and then of course have the Filipina girls giggle. There might’ve been one or two sailors, who bought a new car, but then they lost the girl.
intreistings informations and you preaty girl..salamat po
creepy
This was a quality video. Like it or not, you are adored.
creepy
This true for most ANY Women
Thank You SGP 🙏🏼❤😎
for showing the truth in this video. Many guys don't realize the thing's that you mentioned in your video are the truth.
My personal opinion is simply this, if a Filipina doesn't show a love attraction or sincere interest in me, I will move on to find a woman that will. The most important thing is I never act or feel needy. I am totally fine to be alone. And I let her know that I don't play games.
Very interesting!
Here's my perspective on it. Women who want to be in a relationship don't want to be bought, they want a partner. So if you're going to spend money on a woman, do it on things you can do together that will grow your bond. Or spend money on things that will empower her or develop her own interests, so she can start on the path of becoming the person she wants to be. If she's worth your time, she will appreciate what you've done. If she ghosts you, then at least you've helped another human being, and helped yourself get out of a toxic relationship in the process.
This is true when it comes to women in general regardless of were you go.
Me and my Filipina have been together 6 yrs and I think I only told her maybe once I think... that she was beautiful. Ours works because we actually find each other interesting, attractive and funny. Make sure she likes YOU more than you like her. Men will stay for less a like than a woman will. Some guys do not want to think at all, that is their choice, just know it will take much longer to find someone that fits what you want. I was willing to wait 8 yrs to find mine so nothing wrong with waiting.
Your amazing
Thank u
The man who does this feels she is out of his league....A ridiculous approach to anything in life. His actions tell her that He is not worthy and that He is far from the prized man she has dreamed of her entire life.
A king will never bow to any woman for affection, rather he CARRIES HIMSELF LIKE a KING in her presence, is playful and flirtatious with her while keeping the slightest of emotional distance, creates MYSTERY with her(what will he do next??!!, when will he reach out/see me again?), sends discrete notes (maybe a slowly spoken deep voice note with " I had a wonderful time last night", then silence!) , he is constantly giving her tiny touches and kisses simply laughing and unreactive when she tells him to stop, and plays the game of love like the KING she always dreamed of. Only when she is going out of her mind with desire and need for more of his time and touch does he relent slightly, then only allowing a playful glimpse into his feelings for her.
This is seduction gentlemen. This is what she wants. You either are her king or you are not worthy. Despite what you think or have been told, the choice is yours.
No wonder most of us men who are gentleman but also not a gentle men.
Have just checked out on dating modern wo to man!
Honestly, if that is the mindset of the woman you end up gettin, good luck.
My uncle married a Philippina. She boxed up everything from my grandparents house, cleaned out the place, and shipped it all back home to her relatives in the Phillipines, who literally had no claim on any of the stuff whatsoever. Blows my mind away. Like marrying a thief, who starts listing off all your furniture and items in your house one by one on the down low on ebay... to make a quick buck. You start missing things gone... and start to wonder. When you ask her about it, she makes some excuse why she "threw it out", or that she has no idea, or you didn't need that old thing anyway, buy a new one.
I haven't lived in the Philippines yet, so maybe the "nice guys finish last" dynamic is taken to a whole new level there. That being said, I attempt to treat every woman like a lady until proven different. There's a real difference between being nice and being a simp. If common courtesy and thoughtfulness keeps me single and alone, I'll get a dog.
great advice. would be confusing to be ghosted after being nice. have to be careful because the economies are so very different; it would be easy to over-tip, etc.
Aferim Sana l agree completely
The waitress example... I've been told most restaurants in PI have a shared tip arrangement. Tips are pooled and shared between all employees.
i haven't encountered the ones who have NOT accepted what was given.. i only get the ungrateful receivers who never give back
If you are not the number 1 priority in her life, then she 1000% is not the one. There will always be better options if you have the funds.
she's 10 times not the one? and better options only if you have the funds? Best to stay single.
Thank you
Let them know when they breach your boundaries , tell them to leave and go home as you need time to think , Make her realise she has done wrong and she will respect you for it , They need guidance all the time & look to you for decision making , Your the financial backbone and leader and she deep down is wanting this from you .
To find a Good Filipina. Live in the Philippines and do not date for two years to four years until you can understand the culture in Philippines.
Make sure you take care of yourself and fix any defects of character. Work on your own character and set healthy boundaries.
Then when you’re very stable emotionally physically educate with good skills and be spiritually balanced then you attract a healthy relationship with a good woman.
" Cant' buy me love" - BEATLES
You don't have to be a jerk. Just be calibrated. Give time for a bond to grow rather than love bombing her. Women are different to men. Being overly generous to someone you barely know is inauthentic if there is a hidden expectation. Also it is the analogous in male-female social dynamics to premature ejaculation in sex. Also if take things slowly that will give you time to see if she is someone who is 'worthy' of your love.
I will go through life doing the best that I can at everything that I try. Including my relationships. I will always be a nice person in life no matter what some dumb ass in another country thinks about it!
Dr. Robert Glover "No More Mister Nice Guy"
Exactly! Reward her good behavior a little at a time. Treat her like she's famous and she'll treat you like a fan. Too many simps in the comments don't understand women's nature...putting her on a pedestal only makes her look down on you.
I do understand and agree that guys can get out of hand with gifts; but at the same time, the Filipina can still become an adorer...in the end, it's all about communication. When each one puts the needs of the other first, they both become the adorer and the adored. The problem is, guys go too far in giving gifts and the Filipina assigns too much value to the gift. For example, if a guy is rich, giving an iPhone doesn't really mean that much as when he is poor. It's all about perspective and maturity. If the lady is going to get cold and distant after receiving a gift, she can reject it and simply tell the guy...hey buddy, I appreciate the sentiment, but its too much. Lets just enjoy each others at a personal level for now. The guy will appreciate this kind of honesty and he will learn how to give good gifts. So, the problem is really about communication in the end, which is a matter related to maturity. Maturity in life affects both the giving and receiving of gifts. If I met a Filipina lady and she doesn't know how to communicate, that's a huge red flag...time to move on. I don't have time to manage others at such a rudimentary level.
same old same old anywhere in the world!
She's taking me out.😂
Say adored again.😂
That's crazy!!
Treat em mean keep em kean
Her coworker or possibly her friend, has observed her folly and will welcome the man's attention. He should ignore the woman who ignores him and spoil the welcoming coworker. It works on many levels.
A poor woman rejects a man's extravagance to communicate that she's immune to his power. The man can say, "I respect that I'm not your type. Could you introduce me to your friend, maybe I'm her type. She'll be grateful to you if we hit it off". If you do take up with the coworker or friend be sure she has a fabulous time, that she returns to work ranting about her trip to boracay. If you're forced to drop down to her level,, play hard. Remember, vengeance is a dish best served,, generously.
I have to go now, the dark lord calls.
ALSO IF YOU'RE SERIOUS ABOUT HER , look into her ex's and see if she is still in contact with him and ask how she feels about her ex's . If she still loves any of them or is Emotionally Close to any of them , you may need to let her go because she may still be sleeping with them and if you are moving her to your Country . Get a Blood Test Done on her for STD's . YOUR HEALTH IS PRICELESS !!!!!
I wish I could have seen this video 30 years ago 😂😂
Interesting.
I am sure that is true everywhere.
People do not like being bought.
If they do then it is probably their business..
I think it's more like that the Filipina (or other nationalities) feel like they are being bought and paid for (rather than they are being shown love, by the many gifts), and that they are a valuable commodity and they dislike that, and respond with insults and disrespect. It happened to me with my own Malaysian wife. I was so thoughtful and cared for her in every way, always appreciated and complimented her...she felt superior to me, she left me, and now is trying to take what money and property she can from me.
The reason is simple: once the woman no longer respects you, it’s over..She will take whatever possessions from u and move on or even being by herself is better than living with a man she no longer respects…sad but true..
What all these horror-stories have in common is one single word: WIFE. Don´t get married. Don´t let her move in. Be smart. And be in the lead!