The woman I fell for the quickest and most deeply started off as a quiet, shy girl who shared most of my views. I felt like I’d met the female version of myself - except petite and beautiful. But over time, I began to notice the cracks. If I forced her to speak first - she didn’t seem to have any real opinions of her own. She had simply mirrored me until she thought I was hooked. Once she believed I was in love, her true self emerged-a vicious and hurtful person like none I’d ever encountered. One day, I found myself staring at her, wondering what it was that I had liked about her in the first place. I couldn’t think of a single thing. I skipped many the checks and balances and let my guard down because everything felt perfect. I am a lot harder to fool now.
Many (most) are very gifted at playing the chameleon role. They're observant at the embryonic stage of the relationship and mould themselves around the man they wish to hook. We all fall for it. "She's the perfect girl" ......until we start to see the glitches and snap out of our trance. It's like a spell. For some guys they get so deeply entrenched it's too late.
Where I live I often see guys pushing a baby stroller with one hand and dog on a leash with the other....while the wife walks behind glued to her smart phone. Sad isn't it.
I grew up with 5 sisters. What an eye opener that was. Education is never free. These older men who are wise to women paid dearly for this knowledge. They did not take a class in high school called female nature 101. Many had a much tougher instructor, the divorce court judge who cleaned them out.
I grew up with 2 older sisters, so I was forced to confront the reality of female nature from a very young age. The black pill for me was seeing how my sisters could conceal their true personalities well enough for guys to actually fall for them and eventually marry them. They are both divorced now.
Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want. Experience is the hardest teacher because it gives you the test first and the lesson after.
Take them hiking and camping for a week or two (without phones ! borrow someone else along the way if needed) . Stress test their tolerance for adversity , peal off the skin of niceness.
To the young man who wrote in, I can assure you that everything JOHN said is correct. Especially once you marry them because the woman you marry is not the same woman you divorce. They are two different women. They are in the same body, but completely different people.
Young men will view this and still believe the woman he has is not like that. He believes she is loyal, honest, loving and good. After he signs and becomes leagally responsible, she changes to her true self. She is not loyal, she is not loving....... she was looking for a better deal from day one. He is now homeless due to divorce court.
Feel truly sorry for that 21 year old and all other young men like him. I never realized the true level of vindictiveness and cruelty women can demonstrate until 3 years into my own marriage.
John….been listening to your content after the algorithm brought me here…my knee jerk sayin by default to most is “you have NO idea” …but my God…you my friend …you clearly, unapologetically do, and it’s f#%ckn refreshing. Thx man, keep up the good word
John, you are absolutely right. We are all getting married for love with a belief that she is the one, but in 10, 15 years, a woman becomes a totally different person. I personally couldn’t recognize my ex during the divorce trial, she was vicious, even though the property was a marital, she demanded to take it all. Thanks to judge who awarded everything 50/50.
To day its been announced that Richard Hammond of the top gear show is getting divorce after 27 or 28 years ??? Pure madness but hopefully his two daughters will remain on good terms with him
They can change in less than 1 year..mine changed the 2nd day after the church wedding...some say that sounds like a bad dream...it was more like a nightmare 😅
@@georgesontag2192 Unbelievable. I walked into a courtroom by myself as a Pro Se and represented myself against the judge who favored my ex, guardian and my ex attorney. My retirement was a public fund, she couldn’t touch it. So far I am with her on the same property because judge ordered to sell and split the money 50/50. I am in state Missouri, if you have been married more than 20 years, everything is 50/50. She wanted a spouse support, but I showed to the judge she had a Master’s degree in physics and could earn a lot of money. She got nothing.
Saw some of the comments below. Just divorced a covert narcissist a few years ago after over 10 years of marriage. ANYTHING goes... If you are in that situation, simply get as far away as you can as quickly as you can. Damage only intensifies with time not to mention what happens to your children. Seek help out when you decide to do this as men have no clue what women are capable of. Like false police reports to have you arrested. Be careful.
My mom told me if you ask a man boss the same question he will give you the same answer but if you ask a woman 👠 boss the same question she will give you a different answer every day.
I am going through a very hard situation with a very mean girl. We broke up 6 months ago, however she keeps harassing me. I do not wish this to anyone and even that blue pill guy. Everything will be fine at the end. Thank you for your videos.
I had morning duty at school and a woman teacher said the kids dont give men teachers problems. And i said those men teachers are fired at the end of the year.
Female teacher s are jealous of male teacher s.......like male lions aren't afraid of bad baby lions male teacher s as well ..don't have issues with bad kids ..it's normal ..but women get bored at teaching....... distracted by stupidity of kids
That poor 21yo kid who wrote in. I think many of us used to be him, lol. I genuinely *HOPE* he finds a unicorn, and lives happily ever after. But I doubt it.
And once more, you did it again John! I resonnate fully with your video. I have seen women tell me “we found each other “ and i was the one she was looking for, to change mind and not want to go out anymore, a week after. And nothing happened to cause that. I have seen women change mind like the weather change from one morning to the afternoon. Stunning. Why would i build something , a relationship, on such a shaky ground. I am in real estate and i build appartment building on solid ground, to have a solid futur for me and my son. Trying to build something with these modern women is like building a sand castle. Its beautiful for a minute and then it all falls apart. The women i dated since the breakup with my sons mother, 8 years ago, have one thing in common. They are all profoundly unhappy and look outward for validation or attention. I realised recently that i do not miss women in my life. I have peace, wealth and health, with great relationships with my friends and my associates. I love my life. Thanks John!
Coming to terms with spending a decade with a covert narcissist. Feel like i got a crash course in the ultimate mean-girl. The dangers really can really be massive for a young ignorant guy. Wish i had someone to tell me how it is like this
Truth hard learned in my case. My wife put on a sweet and loving mask when we met, but over time the facade started to crack. At her core she's an immature, selfish and mean spirited person who takes everything in life for granted...including her own health and well being. I didn't see the mask fully come off until several years in. Looking forward to putting her and her BS in the rear view mirror.
I've met very few women who don't rate this movie in their top 5. The Notebook is also ubiquitous. What does that teach us of the feminine psyche?..... (apart from women appreciating shit movies.)
I have seen this behavior throughout my life. From grade school to my senior years. Ever notice that a woman when she is angry that she can bring up something from the long forgotten past that a man forgot about or it was an insignificant event to him. Ever notice that, with this destructive attitude a woman can totally crush a mans confidence , especially a young, withdrawn man, where he will lose his strength to pursue a female relationships. This can possibly turn him into a mean, vengeful person towards women later in life. I just watched a clip of a woman asked by a male interviewer, is your husband happy. She could not answer that but her expression said that he was not. Great question.
You are 💯on the spot. It's not just the woman in relationship with man or wife. Even most of families internal fights are between family woman mother in law, daughter in law, sister in law, sisters. 90% of time they dont get along. Most men are capable of managing these relationships.
You consistently provide great content. I learned all of these the hard way, but at least the young generation will be better prepared watching videos like this one.
Much love from England 🏴. I love you videos. You are 100 percent on the money keep up the great work . I love every video you do mate. All the best .
Excellent! You’ve said it all. Clearly the person you reference hasn’t had enough experience to weigh in on this conversation. But we will who have mature years understand that conversation is not going to alter anyone direction, he’s gonna have to experience some discomfort. So we’ll move out his way, and let him taste the bitter sweet sting of a woman.
I'm almost 57 and 14 years divorced. Your insights are always welcome and adept. And you're exactly right, one day you wake up to an entirely different woman than the one you thought you married. It happened to me too after 13 years.
You described my neighbour. I avoid that witch at every point and how I knew she was a cruel mean girl was how she tried turning other neighbours against me. I saw right through her and she tried to see if ill flip and when i didn't she left me alone but keeps wanting my attention which i dont give to her. I distance myself and never talk to her. She tried one time to invite my son to come play in her home mind you as an Empath I notice everything and watch body language and her coldness said everything and I didn't allow my son go have a playdate with her son because not only did I notice that kid was avoidant but he was always needing his mother and didn't know how to socialise with another child. I told her no thank you maybe next time and I never looked back . Her children are nasty like her. Toxic women are becoming a pandemic just like toxic men. I choose my peace
You have some very interesting information to share. I have seen a lot of what you say. I have been told by a woman, "women think their shit don't stink" so l know you are spot on.
Totally agree .Good ones learn from there mistakes ,Great ones learn from others mistakes but the wise one will avoid the mistake .Really appreciate your work John 🎉
Exactly. You never know what she will do. She may decide to follow her friends and live you. She may not find you attractive anymore and desire to live an adventure with another man. She may build resentment for being attached to you. She may feel she is aging with you and she needs to get out. She may start to hate your voice. Your hair. She may want to go back to her mother. She may decide to help women to divorce men. She may get violent against masculinity. So many things.
I worked 30 years as an engineer in two different State DOTs, and I have to share two points: 1) One of my supervisors thought it would be a great idea to put together an all girl team to run a road construction project for the State. Within weeks, the three women were at eachother's throats, and my supervisor had to split the team up and put a couple guys underneath the girl who was running the project. 2) I worked under a good female engineer on a road construction project, and she volunteered that she much preferred supervising and/or working with men than women. She said women were much too catty to each other.
I am currently distancing myself to a friend who happens to be a woman who push me around and cancel things last minute or simply ghost me if she's the one who set up to meet up. If they don't value your time and effort, they're not worth it!
The old movie All About Eve with Bette Davis is a wonderful depiction of the underhanded schemes of "seemingly" nice, shy, quiet women. Very well written
Hey John, I will be 58 in 11 days and I have to say, your videos are getting better and better. I have literally learned something new from this video that I never really gave a lot of thought to before. In fact, probably the most important thing I tried to remember is that women are fiercly loyal to their own feelings before anything else, at least most of the time. I see a couple of women here and there for the last couple of years and what you shared in this video has reinforced that understanding. I would never share this info with them, I just have to logically think through this and remember it.
I've known since I was 7 years old that women are jealous of each other. My mum had a friend named Karen. Karen had the hots for a guy in his late 30's but this guy didn’t like her, he liked my mum. Karen was aware of this and always told my mum bs stories about how some random guy would buy toys for her son when they were at the store. I knew it was BS and told her she was a liar!
Best films (other than the one John mentioned) to understand the "mean girl" phenomenon: The DUFF (2015) Romy and Michele’s High School Reunion (1997) Heathers (1988) Election (1999) Carrie (1976) (remember Christine Hargesen, who tormented Carrie?) Best quote from the very quotable Heathers film: Veronica Sawyer: Heather, why can't you just be a friend? Why do you have to be such a mega-bitch? Heather Duke: Because I can be.
It does not take stress to see what people are made of. It just takes time and observation. How they interpret the world comes out in the obvious ways- humor, entertainment and profession, but also in Relationship Turnover. Those who 'flip' relationships have serious issues.
I never noticed or at least paid attention to the mean girl idea... until I had a daughter and I had to take notice. It seemed that all her female friendships always had arguing and some kind of drama from the time she was a little girl..till even now. If she played with little boys there just never seemed to be an issue.
When I heard Donald Trump recite the story of the "snake," I thought of my former second wife .A snake may bite and kill you, so you always avoid them. Every woman has a snake inside them, and they will bite when the time is right,moving on to the next victim without looking back.
I found with one female boss that they felt they need to compete (with men) so she was more cutthroat. Another I worked for envisioned herself as "Boss Girl" and held many feminist/liberal ideals she freely shared ("mansplaining", disparaging Christians, TDS, etc...). Because of my past experience, I kept my mouth shut, performed well and took direction with minimal pushback. I did notice she kept testing me over the years to see my political leanings, and I proclaimed myself Independent. If I really wanted to, I could have compiled a solid record of comments that could be considered unprofessional enough to get her rebuked or even dismissed. I'm not like that, but there were times with her.....Now I will say both were extremely competent, top performers and walking encyclopedias of knowledge. I walked the tightrope with experience knowing how women operate. I'm now retired, thank God. Be well.
My mom told me if you ask a man boss the same question every day he will give you the same answer but if you ask a woman 👠 boss the same question ❓ you will get a different answer every day.
There's one thing I never understood about women is if they don't like each other why do they think we should as men!... If a woman tells me she doesn't deal with women because they are not to be trusted that's a red flag for me lol!
I'm a father of 3 (2 girls 1 boy). At our church the boys all play together as long as you give them a ball. The girls can't hangout together, they have little clicks and can't stand if one friend hangs out with another. They want loyalty, if they find out that one girl did a sleep over or go shopping with another one , oh...they get pissed.
Setting with my mean wife right now while it is snowing like crazy today here in North East Texas, No worries though she is in a good mood today I guess its the snow. Maybe she is snow blind when I walk into the room today. Great video, Thanks
I have read the Art of War I have read the Prince I have read the 48 Laws of Power But they pale in comparison to the art of deception, backstabbing, and double cross
My last relationship was with a covert narcissist. She completely baffled me when she had her explosion and left. I never knew that there was covert narcissists out there and I never suspected that she was one. It's been a year now and it's only recently that I accepted that she's one. Of course she gaslighting me telling me that I was a narcissist. I've taken a few tests. I'm not a narcissist. Narcissists are attracted to me. So I decided to do the hail Mary with finding a partner and I am now seeking a woman overseas. Done with American women
@Anton43218 I'm still discerning everything it's still new to me, but so far it's empathy that I posses is the main reason and one of my parents had narcissist tendencies. There are videos that have a list of traits that narcissists are attracted to.
@@mathewerven9 narcissistic are attracted to people they can get emotional supply from. So if you’re kind, trusting, have overall good qualities, they will be attracted to you because they love the emotional turmoil and mental torment they can cause by being two-faced and gaslighting. Also, when they come across people they don’t believe will call out their bs and nip it in the bud asap are people narcissists attract.
This is not hard to ascertain...women prefer a man as a boss because a woman will not simp, or feel guilty for holding her accountable....there's also the HR protection women have, and fear for the male boss that the subbordinate woman will turn him in for bullshit.
John, great content! I think you should mention that its not necessarily that we don't want a woman in power, but the "type" of woman matters a lot. Ms. Harris struggled to complete basic sentences and thoughts, let alone explain what she would do as a President. However, I believe that Americans would elect a "Margaret Thatcher" type of woman.
I was hit by a truck at seven and I had a major brain injury. Luckily, thanks to neuroplasticity, my brain grew back faster than my body. I learned quickly that girls are very superficial and guys sacrifice themselves for them even though they bring nothing to the table. I feel bad for you guys, but at the same time you make your own bed. Jack, you are in love with your mother. I can clearly see that. You should just date her and leave me alone. I'll find a guy eventually who will support me. You can't anyway. You'll just drain me.
Late seeing your video because we went to the gym and shopping 🛒 in the snow. Back home, cooking and eating at home, all organic ingredients. Yes mean girls are out there. I read the book a decade ago about mean girls......stay healthy guys and choose wisely women to marry, 23 degrees and snow
You are the guru! Love the videos! I love your sign-off at the end of every video, but perhaps you could make a video exploring why it is so hard for us men to follow that advice and indeed stay single!
This is really ironic this being posted today. I just got dumped the other day by a woman who flipped on me over one little tiny thing I said, she related and compared it to her past & I'm not anything like that guy from her past. It hurt, I'm over it now I think. I was pissed this morning. Now I'm hitting up hookups with a improved profile, screw relationships I'm done.
Gossip
Innuendo
Reputation destruction
Legal entanglement
G.I.R.L
That’s perfect
Nice.
Shame, Insults, Guilt, and the Need to be right. SIGN language. RIP Kevin Samuels
Yin and Yang - the black and the white - the sages called the black feminine for a very good reason. Women are very very dark.
Noice
Conniving. Gas lighting. Duplicitous. Fake sincerity. Schadenfreude. Selfishness/greedy.
There's an epidemic of toxic women these days
They’ve always been toxic- look at History.
It’s just that we’re talking about it finally.
@@FERALDOG4 You're right!
Because they don’t face any real consequences. Men understand the reality of potential physical consequences and tend to act accordingly …
@@hugoluz1382 truthbomb
Yes it’s in the bible adams first wife was Lilith look into that it’s all there
The woman I fell for the quickest and most deeply started off as a quiet, shy girl who shared most of my views. I felt like I’d met the female version of myself - except petite and beautiful. But over time, I began to notice the cracks. If I forced her to speak first - she didn’t seem to have any real opinions of her own. She had simply mirrored me until she thought I was hooked. Once she believed I was in love, her true self emerged-a vicious and hurtful person like none I’d ever encountered. One day, I found myself staring at her, wondering what it was that I had liked about her in the first place. I couldn’t think of a single thing. I skipped many the checks and balances and let my guard down because everything felt perfect. I am a lot harder to fool now.
Boy.... That sounds exactly like my wife.... Wow... Scary
@@boakyebb It is a common tactic they use.
Sound like a past girlfriend that I had.
Many (most) are very gifted at playing the chameleon role. They're observant at the embryonic stage of the relationship and mould themselves around the man they wish to hook. We all fall for it. "She's the perfect girl"
......until we start to see the glitches and snap out of our trance. It's like a spell. For some guys they get so deeply entrenched it's too late.
The same situation happened with me and my x fiancée.
Where I live I often see guys pushing a baby stroller with one hand and dog on a leash with the other....while the wife walks behind glued to her smart phone.
Sad isn't it.
@James-dt7ky_true. I dont usually see the woman at all
I used to walk my girlfriends dog in the woods and he started ignoring her and it upset her. He would cry when I would leave.
Those Beta$ have zero self respect, and should be pitied, never respected … 🤡
On her smart phone texting with her boyfriend 😮 while the baby is crying
I've seen that in Australia too. Those men are well trained performing seals. They are lap dogs!
I can't help noticing how much overlap there is between every woman I've ever met, and covert narcissism.
I thought I had unique experiences until the internet.
collective N
seeWP
I grew up with 5 sisters. What an eye opener that was. Education is never free. These older men who are wise to women paid dearly for this knowledge. They did not take a class in high school called female nature 101. Many had a much tougher instructor, the divorce court judge who cleaned them out.
I grew up with three Sisters. You Must have been exposed to female nature even more then me? How did it influence you?
Yet some refuse to learn and shame men to stay blue pilled.
I grew up with 2 older sisters, so I was forced to confront the reality of female nature from a very young age. The black pill for me was seeing how my sisters could conceal their true personalities well enough for guys to actually fall for them and eventually marry them. They are both divorced now.
Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.
Experience is the hardest teacher because it gives you the test first and the lesson after.
Like a toofer...2 to for the price of 1
Don’t learn things from movies learn things from experience. Learn things from real men like this guy that’s gone through it.
Yes, I agree!
Learn things from the Bible.
Take them hiking and camping for a week or two (without phones ! borrow someone else along the way if needed) . Stress test their tolerance for adversity , peal off the skin of niceness.
@ the Bible is the best book ever written and probably always will be. I just wish I could understand it.
To the young man who wrote in, I can assure you that everything JOHN said is correct. Especially once you marry them because the woman you marry is not the same woman you divorce. They are two different women. They are in the same body, but completely different people.
Jekyll & Hyde
And then you get the clowns who write “ you should’ve chosen better “
@ exactly 👍🏾
reminds me of the seed of the serpent and the seed of the woman, 2 opposites in 1 body.
@ interesting. Good point
Young men will view this and still believe the woman he has is not like that. He believes she is loyal, honest, loving and good. After he signs and becomes leagally responsible, she changes to her true self. She is not loyal, she is not loving....... she was looking for a better deal from day one. He is now homeless due to divorce court.
I “dated” a mean girl for about 3 years. Very pretty. She drew me in. Exactly as you describe. Pathological.
What made you stay for 3 years?
Feel truly sorry for that 21 year old and all other young men like him. I never realized the true level of vindictiveness and cruelty women can demonstrate until 3 years into my own marriage.
In the midst of the bevy of beauties with good character, you chose that type ?
@dorisalfred2760 they can easily hide their true selves for a long time, so most likely the OP didn't know about her true self.
@@dorisalfred2760as if healthy women of value were not a rarity and the disordered were easily spotted without content like this to show men the way .
This man talks truth regarding all females.
@@PaulWegerich yes he speaks the truth. But it's unfair to generalise . Do not paint every one with the same brush.
John….been listening to your content after the algorithm brought me here…my knee jerk sayin by default to most is “you have NO idea” …but my God…you my friend …you clearly, unapologetically do, and it’s f#%ckn refreshing. Thx man, keep up the good word
“Women understand women, and they hate each other.” ~ Al Bundy
"Peg! My drivers license expired. Why can't a marriage license do that?"
Al Bundy
Sun/Moon
Masculine/Feminine
Reason/Emotion
Order/Chaos
John, you are absolutely right. We are all getting married for love with a belief that she is the one, but in 10, 15 years, a woman becomes a totally different person. I personally couldn’t recognize my ex during the divorce trial, she was vicious, even though the property was a marital, she demanded to take it all. Thanks to judge who awarded everything 50/50.
To day its been announced that Richard Hammond of the top gear show is getting divorce after 27 or 28 years ??? Pure madness but hopefully his two daughters will remain on good terms with him
Me too
My ex wife wanted 100% of everything. House, savings, pensions, alimony, furniture..... the judge gave me. 25%.
They can change in less than 1 year..mine changed the 2nd day after the church wedding...some say that sounds like a bad dream...it was more like a nightmare 😅
@@georgesontag2192 Unbelievable. I walked into a courtroom by myself as a Pro Se and represented myself against the judge who favored my ex, guardian and my ex attorney. My retirement was a public fund, she couldn’t touch it. So far I am with her on the same property because judge ordered to sell and split the money 50/50. I am in state Missouri, if you have been married more than 20 years, everything is 50/50. She wanted a spouse support, but I showed to the judge she had a Master’s degree in physics and could earn a lot of money. She got nothing.
As for that kid who wrote you, I only have this to say. Life is the best teacher.
Life gives the test first then you learn the lesson. John gives you the lesson first hopefully before you have the test.
I had a female co-worker that had a large poster on her cubicle wall that said "Women could do so much more, if they stopped tearing each other down."
It's easier to destroy than to create.
And when they work together, they tear men down instead. Chaos
Saw some of the comments below. Just divorced a covert narcissist a few years ago after over 10 years of marriage. ANYTHING goes... If you are in that situation, simply get as far away as you can as quickly as you can. Damage only intensifies with time not to mention what happens to your children. Seek help out when you decide to do this as men have no clue what women are capable of. Like false police reports to have you arrested. Be careful.
My covert narcissist just filed for divorce after I found her cheating with the church ⛪️ deacon, who is also married.
@@ricvanwinkle1665 did you expose the church deacon?
@@ricvanwinkle1665not an uncommon occurrence. The church seems to protect this type of woman
yup...false police report-she did it to me & I was taken away in handcuffs. No subsequent prosecution because I hadn't actually done anything
@ferney2936 I bet that ruined you reputation, yes?
I've met more than one woman who expressed their distrust of other women. I was that
young man who didn't know half of what they meant.
My mom told me if you ask a man boss the same question he will give you the same answer but if you ask a woman 👠 boss the same question she will give you a different answer every day.
I've come across this as well. I've known women who didn't like or trust other women and only want to deal with men.
“Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” was not said for no reason
actually, it wasn't said at all. That's a made up quote but one that's commonly repeated. Regardless, its message is correct
I am going through a very hard situation with a very mean girl. We broke up 6 months ago, however she keeps harassing me. I do not wish this to anyone and even that blue pill guy. Everything will be fine at the end. Thank you for your videos.
When a guy gets married he seems to loss most of his friends. But the woman seem to keep most of theres .sometimes i think thats done deliberately
Absolutely
Abusers like to isolate their victims. When a man restricts a woman from seeing her friends, it’s seen more clearly for what it is.
*lose / theirs
@ma3stro681 opps
Not only that, she took my friends with her when she left. Friends that I introduced her to.
Great insights into female psychology
Thanks
I had morning duty at school and a woman teacher said the kids dont give men teachers problems. And i said those men teachers are fired at the end of the year.
Female teacher s are jealous of male teacher s.......like male lions aren't afraid of bad baby lions male teacher s as well ..don't have issues with bad kids ..it's normal ..but women get bored at teaching....... distracted by stupidity of kids
That poor 21yo kid who wrote in. I think many of us used to be him, lol. I genuinely *HOPE* he finds a unicorn, and lives happily ever after.
But I doubt it.
And once more, you did it again John! I resonnate fully with your video.
I have seen women tell me “we found each other “ and i was the one she was looking for, to change mind and not want to go out anymore, a week after. And nothing happened to cause that.
I have seen women change mind like the weather change from one morning to the afternoon. Stunning.
Why would i build something , a relationship, on such a shaky ground.
I am in real estate and i build appartment building on solid ground, to have a solid futur for me and my son. Trying to build something with these modern women is like building a sand castle. Its beautiful for a minute and then it all falls apart.
The women i dated since the breakup with my sons mother, 8 years ago, have one thing in common. They are all profoundly unhappy and look outward for validation or attention.
I realised recently that i do not miss women in my life. I have peace, wealth and health, with great relationships with my friends and my associates. I love my life. Thanks John!
One of your best ! Thanks John 🙂
100% true, there is nothing they will not do to bring you down.
Coming to terms with spending a decade with a covert narcissist. Feel like i got a crash course in the ultimate mean-girl. The dangers really can really be massive for a young ignorant guy. Wish i had someone to tell me how it is like this
Even an older guy at 50 who didn't know what a covert narc was. Very expensive way to find out. Never happen again.
Same. 7 years into recovery. No woman ever again for this kid (I’m 45 now).
We are survivors 💪
Truth hard learned in my case. My wife put on a sweet and loving mask when we met, but over time the facade started to crack. At her core she's an immature, selfish and mean spirited person who takes everything in life for granted...including her own health and well being. I didn't see the mask fully come off until several years in. Looking forward to putting her and her BS in the rear view mirror.
John I applaud this content, Thank you! For all the other men commenting and offering these gems of wisdom I applaud you as well
"Mean Girls" is a great movie if you want to learn how some women operate when they get "Squeezed."
It is a classic.
Thanks for the recommendation, folks
mean girls 2004 or 2024?
Cruel Intentions is another one that displays female machiavellianism.
I've met very few women who don't rate this movie in their top 5. The Notebook is also ubiquitous. What does that teach us of the feminine psyche?..... (apart from women appreciating shit movies.)
I have seen this behavior throughout my life. From grade school to my senior years. Ever notice that a woman when she is angry that she can bring up something from the long forgotten past that a man forgot about or it was an insignificant event to him. Ever notice that, with this destructive attitude a woman can totally crush a mans confidence , especially a young, withdrawn man, where he will lose his strength to pursue a female relationships. This can possibly turn him into a mean, vengeful person towards women later in life. I just watched a clip of a woman asked by a male interviewer, is your husband happy. She could not answer that but her expression said that he was not. Great question.
@lawrencelawrence3920-but what she remembers is her twisted version of events.
They will open up old wounds!
@genekloszewski5484 or make new ones
In ten years you look at them and see a absolute stranger. It is a mind bending process.
You are 💯on the spot.
It's not just the woman in relationship with man or wife.
Even most of families internal fights are between family woman mother in law, daughter in law, sister in law, sisters. 90% of time they dont get along.
Most men are capable of managing these relationships.
You put 2 women in a room that don't like each other? You can feel the evil in the air.
😂😂😂😂😂
Yes Ive witnessed that
No remorse no repent they don't care what it meant.
Totally, except it's the cannibal corpse cover, extra nasty and brutal.
You consistently provide great content. I learned all of these the hard way, but at least the young generation will be better prepared watching videos like this one.
Much love from England 🏴. I love you videos. You are 100 percent on the money keep up the great work . I love every video you do mate. All the best .
what's with the black flag in your comment, Ross?
Good grief ! So glad I am single !
Excellent! You’ve said it all. Clearly the person you reference hasn’t had enough experience to weigh in on this conversation. But we will who have mature years understand that conversation is not going to alter anyone direction, he’s gonna have to experience some discomfort. So we’ll move out his way, and let him taste the bitter sweet sting of a woman.
I'm almost 57 and 14 years divorced. Your insights are always welcome and adept. And you're exactly right, one day you wake up to an entirely different woman than the one you thought you married. It happened to me too after 13 years.
You described my neighbour. I avoid that witch at every point and how I knew she was a cruel mean girl was how she tried turning other neighbours against me. I saw right through her and she tried to see if ill flip and when i didn't she left me alone but keeps wanting my attention which i dont give to her. I distance myself and never talk to her. She tried one time to invite my son to come play in her home mind you as an Empath I notice everything and watch body language and her coldness said everything and I didn't allow my son go have a playdate with her son because not only did I notice that kid was avoidant but he was always needing his mother and didn't know how to socialise with another child. I told her no thank you maybe next time and I never looked back . Her children are nasty like her. Toxic women are becoming a pandemic just like toxic men. I choose my peace
God,i can't believe how much I learn from your wisdom....your examples are always memorable too....ty so much
You have some very interesting information to share. I have seen a lot of what you say. I have been told by a woman, "women think their shit don't stink" so l know you are spot on.
Totally agree .Good ones learn from there mistakes ,Great ones learn from others mistakes but the wise one will avoid the mistake .Really appreciate your work John 🎉
Exactly. You never know what she will do. She may decide to follow her friends and live you. She may not find you attractive anymore and desire to live an adventure with another man. She may build resentment for being attached to you. She may feel she is aging with you and she needs to get out.
She may start to hate your voice. Your hair. She may want to go back to her mother. She may decide to help women to divorce men. She may get violent against masculinity. So many things.
I worked 30 years as an engineer in two different State DOTs, and I have to share two points:
1) One of my supervisors thought it would be a great idea to put together an all girl team to run a road construction project for the State. Within weeks, the three women were at eachother's throats, and my supervisor had to split the team up and put a couple guys underneath the girl who was running the project.
2) I worked under a good female engineer on a road construction project, and she volunteered that she much preferred supervising and/or working with men than women. She said women were much too catty to each other.
Thanks, John.
Glad you enjoyed the video
I am currently distancing myself to a friend who happens to be a woman who push me around and cancel things last minute or simply ghost me if she's the one who set up to meet up.
If they don't value your time and effort, they're not worth it!
Agree, emotional torment is worse than getting punched in the nose
The old movie All About Eve with Bette Davis is a wonderful depiction of the underhanded schemes of "seemingly" nice, shy, quiet women. Very well written
Add Anne Baxter, George Sanders, Celeste Holm, and Marilyn Monroe. The latter secured a 20TH Century Fox contract with her performance.
LOL the "naive commenter": Yeah, I've always found that women really care about how many books I've read. 🤣🤣🤣
They will change on a dime. It is unsettling.
Hey John, I will be 58 in 11 days and I have to say, your videos are getting better and better. I have literally learned something new from this video that I never really gave a lot of thought to before. In fact, probably the most important thing I tried to remember is that women are fiercly loyal to their own feelings before anything else, at least most of the time. I see a couple of women here and there for the last couple of years and what you shared in this video has reinforced that understanding. I would never share this info with them, I just have to logically think through this and remember it.
Appreciate the wisdom you're sharing.
I'm glad you're finding it useful.
I've known since I was 7 years old that women are jealous of each other.
My mum had a friend named Karen.
Karen had the hots for a guy in his late 30's but this guy didn’t like her, he liked my mum.
Karen was aware of this and always told my mum bs stories about how some random guy would buy toys for her son when they were at the store.
I knew it was BS and told her she was a liar!
Best films (other than the one John mentioned) to understand the "mean girl" phenomenon:
The DUFF (2015)
Romy and Michele’s High School Reunion (1997)
Heathers (1988)
Election (1999)
Carrie (1976) (remember Christine Hargesen, who tormented Carrie?)
Best quote from the very quotable Heathers film:
Veronica Sawyer: Heather, why can't you just be a friend? Why do you have to be such a mega-bitch?
Heather Duke: Because I can be.
Great recommendations
need to watch Carrie
Heathers is so good
Beautiful snowy landscape
Throughout my working life I've predominantly worked with females. This Video today is so correct and accurate in many ways.
It does not take stress to see what people are made of. It just takes time and observation. How they interpret the world comes out in the obvious ways- humor, entertainment and profession, but also in Relationship Turnover. Those who 'flip' relationships have serious issues.
Great work John.
Thanks
Hollywood has taught the world so much.
It's worth a thought... 😮.
Don’t learn things from movies. Learn things from real experience and older guys like this one.
Yep definitely well said
A true evil one from my past used to use her "fake smile" at other females at times. I got all the other evil stuff.
I never noticed or at least paid attention to the mean girl idea... until I had a daughter and I had to take notice. It seemed that all her female friendships always had arguing and some kind of drama from the time she was a little girl..till even now. If she played with little boys there just never seemed to be an issue.
I know what you mean
When I heard Donald Trump recite the story of the "snake," I thought of my former second wife .A snake may bite and kill you, so you always avoid them. Every woman has a snake inside them, and they will bite when the time is right,moving on to the next victim without looking back.
Thank you for helping me derive insights from my experiences with women
I wouldn’t want to work for a woman boss either.
I found with one female boss that they felt they need to compete (with men) so she was more cutthroat. Another I worked for envisioned herself as "Boss Girl" and held many feminist/liberal ideals she freely shared ("mansplaining", disparaging Christians, TDS, etc...). Because of my past experience, I kept my mouth shut, performed well and took direction with minimal pushback. I did notice she kept testing me over the years to see my political leanings, and I proclaimed myself Independent. If I really wanted to, I could have compiled a solid record of comments that could be considered unprofessional enough to get her rebuked or even dismissed. I'm not like that, but there were times with her.....Now I will say both were extremely competent, top performers and walking encyclopedias of knowledge. I walked the tightrope with experience knowing how women operate. I'm now retired, thank God. Be well.
My mom told me if you ask a man boss the same question every day he will give you the same answer but if you ask a woman 👠 boss the same question ❓ you will get a different answer every day.
The smart ones are fine .
There's one thing I never understood about women is if they don't like each other why do they think we should as men!... If a woman tells me she doesn't deal with women because they are not to be trusted that's a red flag for me lol!
I'm a father of 3 (2 girls 1 boy). At our church the boys all play together as long as you give them a ball. The girls can't hangout together, they have little clicks and can't stand if one friend hangs out with another. They want loyalty, if they find out that one girl did a sleep over or go shopping with another one , oh...they get pissed.
Setting with my mean wife right now while it is snowing like crazy today here in North East Texas, No worries though she is in a good mood today I guess its the snow. Maybe she is snow blind when I walk into the room today. Great video, Thanks
Pray for snow each day even in the summer😮
I hope you have a security feature on your phone. A “comment history delete “@@RonGlasgow-s7l
Another thumbs up John (like).
More truths.
A belated Happy New Year from England.
I have read the Art of War
I have read the Prince
I have read the 48 Laws of Power
But they pale in comparison to the art of deception, backstabbing, and double cross
My last relationship was with a covert narcissist. She completely baffled me when she had her explosion and left. I never knew that there was covert narcissists out there and I never suspected that she was one. It's been a year now and it's only recently that I accepted that she's one. Of course she gaslighting me telling me that I was a narcissist. I've taken a few tests. I'm not a narcissist. Narcissists are attracted to me. So I decided to do the hail Mary with finding a partner and I am now seeking a woman overseas. Done with American women
Why are narcissists attracted to you?
@Anton43218 I'm still discerning everything it's still new to me, but so far it's empathy that I posses is the main reason and one of my parents had narcissist tendencies. There are videos that have a list of traits that narcissists are attracted to.
@@mathewerven9 narcissistic are attracted to people they can get emotional supply from. So if you’re kind, trusting, have overall good qualities, they will be attracted to you because they love the emotional turmoil and mental torment they can cause by being two-faced and gaslighting. Also, when they come across people they don’t believe will call out their bs and nip it in the bud asap are people narcissists attract.
Besides makeup literally being spell casting it also is an indication of how ruthlessly competitive women naturally are.
This is not hard to ascertain...women prefer a man as a boss because a woman will not simp, or feel guilty for holding her accountable....there's also the HR protection women have, and fear for the male boss that the subbordinate woman will turn him in for bullshit.
This rings so true to me with a work college trying to ruin my progress in my chosen career..
I've seen men with toxic behaviours similar to these , leaving untold lifelong damage in their wake.
Women always went to great lengths to make me believe it was just me. That all the other fellas were okay, but not me.
Great video! You said you live near DC, you’ve had more snow there than Ling Island. Very pretty scenery!👍👍
I just wish it wasn’t quite so cold!
How true Blessings brother thank You for you wisdom😊
John, great content! I think you should mention that its not necessarily that we don't want a woman in power, but the "type" of woman matters a lot. Ms. Harris struggled to complete basic sentences and thoughts, let alone explain what she would do as a President. However, I believe that Americans would elect a "Margaret Thatcher" type of woman.
We totally would.
yes, and we have several other potential modern versions coming up the political ranks.@@graveyardshift6691
Mean Girls was even made into a musical.
That is funny 😁
I was hit by a truck at seven and I had a major brain injury. Luckily, thanks to neuroplasticity, my brain grew back faster than my body. I learned quickly that girls are very superficial and guys sacrifice themselves for them even though they bring nothing to the table. I feel bad for you guys, but at the same time you make your own bed. Jack, you are in love with your mother. I can clearly see that. You should just date her and leave me alone. I'll find a guy eventually who will support me. You can't anyway. You'll just drain me.
What do you mean by the end of the comment? I don't understand the "Jack..." part.
I see a lot at my job a cold war btw old and young women...and a lot of manipulative tears.
Late seeing your video because we went to the gym and shopping 🛒 in the snow. Back home, cooking and eating at home, all organic ingredients. Yes mean girls are out there. I read the book a decade ago about mean girls......stay healthy guys and choose wisely women to marry, 23 degrees and snow
I tell my blue pill friends this same message. I might as well be talking about Bigfoot. In their eyes Bigfoot is more believable.
I knew a liberal guy who was a genius and had a girl boss so I asked if he was smarter than her he said yes and then stormed out the room.
You are the guru! Love the videos! I love your sign-off at the end of every video, but perhaps you could make a video exploring why it is so hard for us men to follow that advice and indeed stay single!
Great idea!
scarry😮 we are truely still living in the wild, eat or get eaten,
Patience Young Grasshopper - Master Po
"But Master, when will I know I have it right?" "Ahh Grasshopper. When your eyes are as white as mine"
Beautiful scenery today. Today's talk reminds me of al Bundy quote!!😂
So true!
"He who has ears, let him listen" Mark 4:9. This is about the only thing I would say to this poor young fellow.
John, I love you. Never take my comments negatively. Side note, how and why did you choose those dog breeds?
This is really ironic this being posted today. I just got dumped the other day by a woman who flipped on me over one little tiny thing I said, she related and compared it to her past & I'm not anything like that guy from her past. It hurt, I'm over it now I think. I was pissed this morning. Now I'm hitting up hookups with a improved profile, screw relationships I'm done.
Just don’t have anything thing to do with them. The best sex in the world is not worth the risk.
Been there, done that.
Enjoy watching your videos! Keep up the good work!
The mean girl in my life is my mother 😢
As a man I Also don't want to work under a woman! Cheers