263. EX slept with someone else!
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- Опубліковано 23 лип 2024
- My EX slept with another person!
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In this video Rory (The Love Chat) discusses what to do if your EX slept with someone else. We go through various emotions when we find out that the dumper has slept with another person. It is our job to put this into a more helpful context so that we can grow and improve ourselves!
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If you are looking to try mental health counseling but don't have insurance, or live in a part of the world where it is harder to do then this is your chance to get the help.
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I am sponsored by BetterHelp - seems like a win-win.
I can‘t change it..thats why I stopped using social media.. what I can‘t see and don‘t know can‘t hurt me.
Stalking your ex is masochism. STOP IT Y‘ALL!
♥️
It took me 5 months to stop but I stopped and feel so much better
I had to delete her off my social media because I would still stalk them. Next day she blocked me withouth a word, now what? lol
Ditto , I had to come off Social media
Yup. I deleted my social media immediately. Fuck all that bullshit
Thank god my ex wasn't on any social media... one little thing I loved about her! The thought of her being intimate with someone else still hurt like hell... but this video helped me big time with that (self)torture.
I mean you can use it as a personal boundary, a line that once crossed, cannot go back in time. To me, this would be the breaking point. We all have our own pride. Yes. We cant control others actions. But we need to make the decision that is best for us and our mental space.
its not that theyre “dirtyed” its the fact that act opened emotional doors ,
because if you get back together , that person will be in the background in some shape way or form .
As a guy you are absolutely right. The thought of some other guy having my ex in the same way I had her makes me sick to my fucking stomach. She does become “dirtied” in my eyes definitely and if I found out she did, then if I thought of her or hooked up with her again it would be all I probably would think about. That’s only if she did within the next 2-6 months. Later than that is understandable. The thought of her going out having fun with another guy, him making her smile and laugh, just genuinely having a good time with him and her not wishing it was me instead, then him entering inside her and her wanting it and enjoying it.. fucking makes me sick. We broke up 5 days ago though so it’s still fresh and in my mind she’s still “my girl” so that’s probably why and these feelings will die down like they have with exes in the past.. but yeah. Hate the thought of it and I’d never date her again. I would hook up with her though, fuck it.
Mine did it after 2 weeks. 🙃
this is exactly my situation. How do you feel now? I cannot move past this horrible sickness in my stomach feeling
True, the worse part is that i know that im good in bed and she will regret it anyway...but there will be no coming back to me after going to bed with some other guy.
How are you feeling bro?
@@JPression dating someone new, better, and hotter for almost a year now. I could give a fuck what my ex is up to these days lmfao
I realize now in retrospect, giving such a fuck was wasted energy; but at the time it made sense because I was heartbroken. Time heals; especially when you're working on yourself and improving your life and don't let heartbreak paralyze you. Meeting new people helped me out tons too.
Take advantage of your new free time and work on yourself. You didn't loose anything , you have learned something.
This was unbelievably spot on. Everything you mentioned was a mirror of my current feelings. Thank you for your insight
You are so welcome!
Rory thanks so much! When heart broken people looking for help when our self esteem and minds are a mess and we find someone like you is a LIFE SAVER. You have no idea how important you are. God bless you. I’m healed 😊 and you help a Lot.
Wow speaking as a guy you hit the nail on the head. Definitely more so when I was a younger man.
Why don’t ex take accountability or responsibility for their actions. Especially after the break up and make you look bad.
I have same question .. u know what such ex r extremely selfish .. they never loved us .. there is no reason behind cheating except their own decision
One of the reason is that they're in pain and your the casualty of war....this has nothing to do with you but more with them...in my opinion people that are in will cause pain. They never healed from something from there past.
Code BlacQ couldn’t agree more keep your head up brothers
Code BlacQ your right bro but I’m moving past it, I am accepting things for what they are you feel me
Rori, you're really good on picking topics that are exactly on our minds!
Glad you think so!
Beautifully put. We don't own anyone. Not even ourselves really. All we can do is be accountable. We are all human and deserve the respect to experience as we choose. All we can do is love the best way we know how. Keep learning and growing. I know ego and pride have to be two of the most powerful shackles we all need to break. I have been learning to let go. To stop worrying about anyone else and to concentrate on myself. If we all did more of this? We would quickly realize keeping busy with one self? Well it takes up most if not all of our energy and time. You won't be able to worry about what may or may not have transpired. Remember to love and most of all.... be fair. Most of all....with ourselves as individuals. Just keep trying to be that little bit better than you were yesterday. All will work itself out. One day at a time.
I really can't thank you enough. Those ego-driven emotions have definitely been strongly present.
That's the main issue with my ex now, when she left and hopped on another men. For me as a man it's personal, the feeling is like someone has banged me. I loved her and miss her but not sure if I would take her back after she has crossed that line. She went all the way down in my eyes and lost all my respect by doing that. I don't know if healthy relationship is possible after this
When did the breakup happen? How are you doing now?
@@164motor it's been a year now. First months were terrible when my brain played all the tricks on me. Right now so much better. Took my red pill, have learned so much I didn't know back then. Building my dream body in the gym. Getting better every day and enjoying it. It's her stupid loss. Oh well, glad to give her the gift of missing me and suffering the consequences
VermontV8 stay strong man
@@VermontV8 hey man i just heard that my ex might have slept with someone it’s been over a year but we’re both young and she was never the hookup type and it’s a rumour that my friend heard and he doesn’t even believe it so it might not be true, but anyways regardless if it’s true or not how do I over come obsessing over it
I think a healthy relationship is almost impossible after this, trust and respect is completely gone for me but unfortunately thoughts and feelings for her haven't disappeared so this shit is fucking weird and annoying
Rory, another great video. So relevant for so many if not most ppl at some point in their life. Hard pill to swallow but the reality is exactly what you said: most ppl want to explore..it's human nature. And chances are, this person slept with others before they met you. But..no one wants to be someone's second choice or feel like they weren't enough. But we have to try and stop taking things so personally. Super hard to do! I'm in my early 30s and find it so hard to date. I was in a long term relationship through most of my 20s and now I just find most ppl just want sex. Cuz either they just broke up with someone, are still hung up on someone, alrdy have a kid/s or they are just in the exploration stage again. I thought ppl in their 30s would be more likely to know what they want but a lot of them don't and are in a crisis. And with social media and the perception that there's so many options at our fingertips, ppl don't wanna put in the work it takes to build a real bond/connection with someone. Very frustrating. Maybe i'll have more luck in my 40s 😅
Insanely helpful and very well spoken. Thank you.
This is what happened to me and my ex.. While im still in my grieving process he is in a new relationship and sleep with another woman already 2 weeks after the tribulation.. Really devastating
Update
its been 5 months since the break up and i already have someone new..
Rory your channel is the most helpful lovechannel of all time. No one can't compare on how you make godly contents
That is very nice of you to say - thank you!
Thank you Rory... the timing is incredible LOL
Thanks Rory, really needed to hear this!
Rory you have no idea how Long I’ve been wanting for this thank you so much.
Glad I could help!
Crazy thing is I have this urge to know all of the details with those men. I know the details for most of them now and it plays in my head like a movie. I kind of begged for the details up till a month plus after the breakup. It pissed her off bad and she said “I don’t want to share details of my sex life with you”. Ultimately blocked me :( LDR is so damn rough man.
The grass is greener where you water it.. Brilliant! !!!
Of course we can debate whether our ex is just satisfying their human needs. But to me there is a big difference if they ran off and started sleeping with other people right away or if they were mature enough to first face their inner emotional turmoil. Either way, I'd feel repelled and would lose interest immediately. I haven't been dating after our break up simply because I set my focus on my studies, found a job, made new friends, picked new hobbies and started to work out at the gym. My life became better without the need of sleeping around. My ex is a total different story though and posted more on Instagram than usual just to show they were fine. Showing off the people they were hanging out with every weekend. I think it's totally fine with being not okay with your ex's "new" sex life and being hurt by that. For many it's nothing but a coping mechanism to justify their own actions anyway. But as Rory said, you won't find happiness in other people's beds unless you are willing to make it work yourself!
I keep listening to this video to keep my emotions in control about the same situation, my ex slept with someone first week of meeting them, she was a virgin when we first got together and she has never been with anyone else but me so I can’t get mad at her. I feel betrayed due to the fact of the imagining of him and her getting intimate. But I cannot let that bother me and just move forward. Your saving my life rn
A lying cheat will always be a lying cheat. Honestly in every instance this has ever happened to me- they return only for me to turn them away.
-to the contrary sir I stand apart because in all honesty I've only sincerely ever wanted to sleep with 1 person usually in a relationship.
To each his/her own.
I know who I am & not what society tells me to be, I understand what I deserve & my intrinsic value as a Man.
If a "Woman" decides to throw me away & then decides to return- no no stay out there, you're from the streets so stay out there.
Congratulations on the 41K subscribers brother Rory! Can you make a video about the dumper who turns to religion after a break up.
Interesting. I'll look into this!
The Love Chat Thank you kindly my friend!
hey Rori, I'm a few months into no contact and still headstrong, I've noticed that my ex checks all my IG stories which is something she never did post-breakup, this has been going on for a few weeks now, sometimes she'll only check 2 out of the 3 that I uploaded together and watch the last one a little later, my friends also told me that she's been acting really odd like uploading ALOT of posts to her story compared to back when she'd only post one or two in an entire week,.I've also muted her so I won't be able to see any of her stories or posts.
Awesome video. Thanks rory.
I just wanted to thank you so much right now, this video really helped me process everything.
Glad it helped!
Perfect time for this video Rory, I've recently found out my ex is on Tinder, it hurt me so much (even though I'm there too and he's single so he's totally fine). I'm almost sure he's sleeping with other girls now, the overall reason for the breakup was that 'we're too young' and he 'wants to experience more on his own'. We all know what that really means. What is quite disturbing to me is that I keep imagining him being intimate with other girls, does anyone have any tips how to get rid of those images? During the day I distract myself, but it's so difficult when I'm trying to fall asleep and all I can think of is him with someone else
Get rid of the noise in your head. The power is in the now! Stay focused on the now and what you are doing right now..
How are you now?
@@MrM4X0N3 oh hi, I forgot about this comment :D well I fell out of love with him as we haven't spoken in years now. He never reached out. I still miss the relationship as I haven't found anyone I would want to commit to yet. But life is good and I'm happy and hopeful
Awesome video!
Hi Rory, first of all thanks for you amazing channel, I really love listening to you. I was wondering if you could make video about what is best to do if you bumb into your ex in a store or on the streets.
Great suggestion! Thank you!
I have been apart from my ex for almost three months. Because we have a history together it would make it difficult for me to move passed it if she hooked up with some other guy while she is not in a relationship with me. If she decides she wants me back I don’t think I would want her back because of that. It’s my personal preference and standard. She can explore all she wants. It’s not going to be something I want back In My life. That’s my boundary. I don’t feel bad about having a personal preference. If the thought is she can explore because she’s human and has needs, then as a human I know what I would want to deal with in my life and what I don’t want to deal with.
I totally agree, there’s no way a person is wrong if they decide they won’t take someone back once they’ve moved on
July 10th will be my month 4 since last me and my ex were even in the same room. I have been on the pendulum of being completely glad that he is gone and wanting to talk to him/see him/hug him..etc...
I do not know if he has slept with anyone else, I have not myself...however me being a human, one or two guys that I have met has caught my eye (for some reason I had not acted out on it, like not gave my number to either or even expressed my mental interest out loud verbally). Because I still have feelings for my ex...me and him have gone through this before. The break up make up deal, me go no contact and him call when emotionally I let go and we go through the tear and live again. I, like many of us go through the emotional rollercoaster of wanting them back and being happy to be free to focus on other things. Like self improvement. There is fear...but not the scared kind of fear, the anxiety kind of fear. Like if he reaches out after I move on, I will feel guilty for moving on. But I can't wait forever, even though I am not the type to be with a lot of men. My ex is my 3rd sexual/romantic/loving relationship in my 33yrs of life. But...ugh...just want to be 100% sure...but I have been getting better and self improving (losing weight, quit smoking cigarettes, obtaining a degree in the medical field and working hard being essential worker). I just want a sense of normalcy, and it is easier said than done. Thank you for the videos and thank everyone for sharing their stories too. Encouraging, motivating and real talk is helpful. God bless🙏
I feel exactly then like a man, used goods, I adored him and he tossed this all away and walked. I cared about our intimacy and sexual relationship greatly 😔
About a year ago after me and my Ex had argued we weren't talking to each other for about 3wks. During this time unknown to me he'd been chatting up another woman and had obtained her contact details. When I found out about this I was very hurt at the fact that he'd waited just three weeks after nearly a two year relationship with me, to be with someone else. It felt like I was being devalued and I never meant anything. I saw this as cheating. Since then we have been on\off and when ever her topic arises we argue then split. I can't get past this or forgive and forget and it's always in the back of my mind that he can be doing this with someone else even when we've gone about our own business and haven't spoke naturally for a couple of days when we're together. Can someone please tell me how to cope with something like this as most days I just block it from my mind then it comes back to haunt me. This broke my trust in him. 🍒
I personally believe a person never loved you if they broke up with you.
Unless you did something extremely hurtful like cheat or abuse etc.
i agree. love its work and commitment. not a feeling
@@kawaiisrs07 my ex said love is "giving attention". Well, I guess the dude who pumped and dumped her did a good job with "attention"
@@cipryan96 the sooner everybody realize love isn't real the better off they'll be
This is indeed a fact
@@kawaiisrs07 this is also a fact
thought this would be an interesting topic:
my ex dumped me and i went into no contact involving not viewing her social media stories or liking her posts. she must have noticed this because she has removed me from her stories completely now and must have been wondering why I'm not viewing them. now I think she might be either reflecting my behavior. or shes also doing no contact. that could be interesting to talk about. (what if my ex has started no contacting me?)
My ex told me today that she’s been hooking up and told me that none of them have been like me. Is that supposed to make me feel better like wtf?
In regards of mens reaction, it could be linked towards a basic biological level if the woman gets pregnant from another man. You had little chance to proof that the child is yours, if she comes quickly back after some action.
Interesting. My now ex only had one boyfriend (whose gay and way out of state and she's been with for years) other than me and just turned 21 last month. The whole covid thing didn't help. It wouldn't surprise me if she thinks the grass is greener on the other side This has been on my mind a lot and what to think about it. She's honestly the most down to earth girl I've ever met for me.
We're compatible and it's sort of long distance (1Hr). I see us back together sometime because there's still so much we have to do together. I don't count on being back together and waiting for her. She just needs to grow up.
Last year my brother died, grandparent died, my other ex got into a horrible car accident and then cheated on me in 3 months and that changed me forever. I think that we all need to experience life and find what's important FOR YOU.
Hooking up after the break up is a borderline for me since she's young and inexperienced and I know her past to a degree. So I knew to make sure it was great while it lasted 😉 but if it was some mid 20 something something with a bunch of past boyfriends I wouldn't tolerate that, but everything's different.
Thoughts anyone? Also found this channel today and it's a great perspective!
I don’t stalk but my friends still tell me what my ex is up to on social media! Can’t get away from him
How can you be sure that they won't want to find out whether the grass is greener again somewhere down the line ? You can't.
Taking them back afterwards is a personal choice but I can't help but think that a doubt has been sown that will not be recoverable from.
You know when did giving up on a partner and sleeping with other people become a thing? My grandparents were married 56 yrs! They went thru tough times and great times. Ups and downs and you know What? The only heart break my Grandma ever felt was the day my Grandpa died. We make UA-cam videos and how to give up on someone... wtf? Where is the videos on, Hey this is how you work with not giving up? smh
Here's one: ua-cam.com/video/faZ8AnGUH6c/v-deo.html
Thank you for your work. I have a question that may make a good topic. Leaving the door open without standing there waiting.
My ex ended things 2 months ago. I didn’t fight it. Didn’t chase. 1 month later she was already with someone new. It hurt but I didn’t let it kill me. I messaged her saying do not respond to this message. I’m moving on with my life now. I’m grateful you came into my life and I wish you well. Forward to a couple days ago. Out of nowhere. I get a friend request on Facebook. A site she rarely uses. I was conflicted. I didn’t want to delete the request out of spite. Also I didn’t want to accept and feel compelled to stalk her page. So I compromised. I accepted her request and immediately unfollowed her. I want to leave the door open without letting the wait consume me. I’m still moving on. Doing a ton of self improvement and like where I’m going. Did I do the right thing?
I just found out that my ex now has a baby with a new guy. Apparently they slept just 2 months after our breakup. Not sure why i would care at all but man this thing really hit me hard :/ I wanted her to hold my child in the future
Fuck man.
Virgen santísima! ._.
I'm sure she would be unhappy with that decision for the rest of her life. One does not simply have a baby with someone they know for such a short time. Either it was unplanned or they were blinded by limerence... which fades after a few months and they will start to see the other person's flaws and start to be unhappy.
Unless that person isn't really a new guy, but rather an ex...
Fuck man, been broken up for a month im sure she's with another guy also
She definitely hates the baby bro dont worry
My problem is that i am still desperately in love with my ex even when she has slept with someone else... fuck
Well said!!!
This video helps a lot.. I'm male and I wouldn't lie, a part of me would think that my ex would be "tainted" if she sleeps with someone else. But if she does, I'm really willing to overlook that and just forget about it if ever she comes back to me. My biggest worry is that she sleeps with a much hotter, better looking guy, and that it could lessen the chances of her going back to me..
Great video thank you
How do I get over the jealousy and anxiety provoking thoughts of knowing that my ex is sleeping with someone else?!
same question
Listen up!! Being here you’re in the right path to healing. Just let God and time work it’s MAGIC. Believe me it gets better. Just focus on yourself even if you don’t want to. Your brain will get use to it. Good luck 👍🏼
Can you make a video about ex’s parents and them not supporting the relationship? My ex’s parents played a role in her breaking up with me since they resented her for being with me.
Tommy C 💯💯
I had it too friend, my ex's parents hated me during our 3 year relationship because I wasn't born here where I'm from (even though I've lived here like 20 years lol)
In my experience it won't work. Sooner or later it will fail. So why concern yourself with it? It wasn't her parents that made her dump you. It was her own decision. And if she is willing to throw you away because her parents say so, what does that say about her? Do you want to be with someone like that? Or do you want to be with someone who not only will defend you against anyone even her parents, but also with someone who's family values and loves you because they know you are a good person and accept you?
Be gald you dont have to deal with them or her anymore, I know I am :)
Stay strong pal :)
x x Gosh man it’s pretty cool to know people have been thru the same. Honestly. My ex told me she has felt some resentment towards me since her parents treated her so poorly because of the fact that she was with me. It’s hard to believe she will ever come back. I know I had my flaws too but I always tried to get through them and always apologized whenever I acted a bad way. She’s broken up with me several times but she’s always come back. Now I wonder if she will ever return since this time she even mentioned that she’s tired of her parents treating her like crap.
cabroni peppperonie it’s hard man. I’m trying very hard
@@victorcatano6286 well at the end of the day my friend she's her own woman and will have to make decisions for herself. Whether those include you will speak volumes about her.
It may sound harsh, but lose any hope of her ever coming back. This is the hardest part. You have to live your life accepting the fact she may never text you or call you again. This is the only way to move forward.
Work on yourself. Take care of yourself. Listen to Rory for specifics on how to do that. Live your life to the fullest, we only get one. Learn from this relationship. The good, the bad. What you liked and what you didn't like.
Go absolute no contact. And leave it up to her. Whether you let the door open for her or not is up to you and maybe it will change with time, but for now dont even acknowledge that possibility.
Realise this: if this person wants to be with you, she will find a fucking way. No excuses. Just like you would for her. But if she doesn't, why be with her? Why cry for her? Why spend your time being sad about her when she doesn't care enough to fight for you? You have to realise that other people themselves decide the value they have in your life. And don't blame yourself for nothing because we all make mistakes in a relationship (unless you cheated or abused her, but I guess you didn't). It was equally her fault too. That's why I said learn from it.
But most importantly, don't give up on love. Don't give up on something that can be so beautiful just because you had a bad experience. It sucks, but it's part of life. Think of how many people aren't with us anymore that never got to experience and learn from this like you did. Feel fortunate that you got to share your life with that person. And know that love is out there.
How do you know if an ex wants you or comfort. Whenever she reaches out she always names some specific reason other than actually wanting to talk to me. (She’s drunk alone, sees me at work coincidentally and wanted to say hi, sees my dating profile and wonders if we’re “on good terms”, sees that it’s my moms birthday and tells me to tell her she wishes her a happy birthday, and wants to return an item of mine after washing it herself.) I would like to rekindle but I doubt t that she really wants me for me, because if she did, things wouldn’t be how they are now. Thoughts Rory?
@@prod.tsuave i mean,,, you could just ask her if she wants to date you n give her time and space to think about it
My ex did this when we were married with one of my groomsmen. So I was very angry when she left. I didn’t know if she ended up with them as he was married too. I was best man in his wedding and The Godfather to their daughters. They were getting together when he and his now ex wife when they were getting married. So it’s hard to really get past that. I then instigated the divorce.
I love your videos. But would you please make a video from the dumper’s perspective. What if you really didn’t want to break up but your ex forced your hands and you had other choice but to walk away. I broke up with my ex because I felt I sacrificed so much and he was selfish so it was time for me to let go. But I miss him so much.
Hi there. This video has been covered several times. Check it out in the description!
Came back to this video because it's hard to stop thinking and feeling bad about it. I don't have any confirmation if my ex of 7 years that dumped me already slept with someone else, but it's been 3 months since we broke up, and the last time we spoke was 2 months ago when I made a mistake of stalking her social media (this was before I found this channel) and found out that she's been seeing another guy, who, I can't lie is really hot. I mean he's an athlete and got abs and everything. So of course I panicked and got really fearful and contacted her and asked her if she met that guy before we broke up and she said no. I asked if she already spent the night with him and she said no. Then that was our last contact. It's been two months since then. I would be naive to think that she hasn't slept with that guy or anyone else, because she did say the last time that that guy isn't even her bf and she just wants to stay single for the moment but she didn't deny that she's seeing him and she said that she's just trying to meet as many people as she can now. Which means if she didn't sleep with that guy, then she could have slept with someone else already. which honestly is really painful to me and as man yeah I would be honest, it would feel like she's been "dirtied", but honestly if she comes back to me I would still be willing to try to work things out again. At least I didn't have any kind of confirmation that she has slept with somebody, only my assumption, even though its highly likely. But as long as she doesn't talk about it, then I can at least have the benefit of the doubt, and try to erase that on my mind. But first things first, she has to come back. And I hope she will. Not really because I put her in a pedestal , but because she was a really great girlfriend and I neglected her it's a big part of the reason why she left. And I really wanna make it up to her and if I get another chance, I'd wanna give her my best this time around.
How to know when there is no hope? I havent heard from her and she is dating someone else now but I still think of her everyday totally unprovoked, it makes me angry, thanks for the vids (it’s been a year I should add)
Same! It's hard
Bro, it’s like you see through me 👀
Crazy we are one month out and she asked me to hook up yesterday 😂 and today she hooked up with someone else. Crazyyyy
Should you delete pictures with your ex on Instagram if you still want them back?
Hi Rory can you make a video of your Ex is still looking to date other but still contact you please I can’t seem to find any information around it
I emotionally reached out/broke NC to my ex when she confirmed via social media that she was sleeping with someone new. Regret it.
What happened
@@MichaelSmith-ls8fb She was defensive and angry towards me. Now that its been 2 months, I wonder if I made her feel too guilty to reach out as those rebounds have appeared to fallen apart.
After my ex and I broke up. Well he did (he left ) I spent many months not wanted or having anything with anyone. I realized that we weren’t going get back together since he was very toxic. He would talk to me sometimes though and ask me if I slept with men. I got to the point that I did and told him bc he kept asking. He went down on me and insulting me saying I will regret it and now he will sleep with other women. I did it because I thought he already did and we had a long time broken up. He made me feel guilty like if I cheated on him or something. I felt bad for the way he made me feel he made me feel as if I did something wrong or as if he was trying to tell me “you lost me now”. What do you think?
Yeah you’re literally my past relationship. Just found out she slept with somebody last week. I told her she missed the biggest beat of her life and left it at that. She always assumed I cheated and basically became her worse nightmare. Literally had 2 men in the same bed I lay my head. She played herself cuz I was genuine and had a LOT to offer.
Hey rory, i just wondering why i cant purchase your book on amazon? Is it because it is not available in my country?? This is my first time using amazon.
Hi there! I'm not entirely sure. Try buying it through the Kindle smartphone app rather than through Amazon.
@@TheLoveChat i couldn't find it on kindle too.
When my ex broke up with me I (stupidly) asked her, if we could still be friends she agreed and we shook hands and laughed a bit. But now, I don't want to be seen as a friend anymore. I just said it, because I felt like it at that moment. I haven't contacted her since then (it's been 3 weeks). Do you think she sees me as a "friend"?
Hope u left
This shit is so good, thank you
It feels as though NC has made my ex bitter/angry. She contacted me after 1 month NC and I responded a couple times in regards to what she said. She had the last message, I liked her message, left it at that. It was a friendly exchange. 1 week later, she is talking negatively on social media about our
relationship and saying that she is over me. Normal? Is this because I didn’t validate her?
I know I don’t owe her validation, but I care about her and feel bad if our interaction left her feeling hurt.
They can’t take accountability... they are just hurt and have narsastic traits. If they ever loved you they shouldn’t talk bad on your name but they are prob still hurt about the relationship
May be She isn't over you. May be she wants to make sure you feel that it's your mistake so she doesnt have to feel guilty. Either ways. . You will heal better when you stay away from her and stop getting any updated from her..
Tind Plus Rory’s words keep ringing in my ears from a previous podcast... something like “any man who must say “I am king” is no true king.”
@@lepec117 True!!
I was timid to click on this video. I just didn’t want to think about it...Two days ago, my ex tried to call several times playing on diff phones at her work. She can’t even act decent enough to call me on her phone and try to have a real convo. The way she allowed her fam to interfere & how she left it, I didn’t think I’d hear from her. Thanks for the tip! “The grass is greener where you water it.”
What if your ex slept with someone you knew? My ex slept with a guy in our friend circle while we were apart for a few weeks. The guy in question also slept with her bestie at the time prior to her and she KNEW about it. She claimed she was hurt over our breakup and he was "her friend" in that moment. Needless to say he ghosted her after the fact smh.
my ex broke up with me and started a friends with benefits relationship with her "guy best friend" 2 days after the break up. A month later they are still at it....
Rory, your ex is crazy if she slept with someone else! ☺️
😂😂
☺️ x
So how exactly do I move past this horrible sickness in my stomach?
Time.
My Ex Husband of 20 yrs went straight to a work colleague + has been there 2 half years, apparently he seems very in love.
Once again Rory you are spot on , yes they do become dirty To a sense
Girls feel this way too
In my situation it's that I was having problems with Ed towards the end of our relationship when she was already sleeping with some else , so I'm really betting on she won't have much to compare , that said I was always very tender with her and sex was really good before I started having performance issues . So yes not looking at it from a I'm a man they touched my property more a less I wasn't at my prime that she will have to compare to the stud of a man she's with now 😅 any ideas
Click ure heels, straighten that crown n strut down that road with your head high, dignity on one shoulder n self respect on the other. If u were an option n they went else where - their body, thoughts n how they value u is tainted n not worth ure time or thoughts .... Thas how I think today, tomorrow will be different lol x
Me and my ex broke up for 2 months, one of the main reasons was because she didn't want sex as much she was never in the mood and when I asked she got more pissed off, spoke to her face to face lastnight she slept with a random on tinder off course I went off the rails the absolute disrespect to make me feel like I wasn't worth it to letting someone random have his fun feel sick
Isn't it different because men don't expect a relationship just because sex happened? That the relationship only happened in the first place because the woman's sex was supposed to be so valuable and a hurt to them if we didn't stay?
My ex gf of 6 month together after 1 month break almost reach 2 month. She starting dating someone new, I don’t know it a rebound or she doest want me back? After I found out I didt contact her or nothing after finding out I just remain true to no contact..I don’t know if I’m doing things correctly.
same thing for me. Let me tell you because mine also is seeing someone new go NC. Its hard especially if u connected to her emotionally and everything was going great. I was struggling for months then i decided to delete all photos , mute them on IG and Facebook and have 0 relics from her. If it helps because we are in the same boat , while she is out there having fun you are home giving your self (me also and im trying to move on ) false hope of she coming back. Good luck brother
Relationships and all the effort and drama and stupid, silly situations are all sooo draining. Life is hard enough being single let alone dealing with someone else's bullshit on top off all that! Even if they are a good partner, they still fuck up somewhere some how later down the track. Is it really all worth it? I've been there done that with 3 serious relationships in my life and now I'm 100% positive that I just haven't got another relationship in me. At 35 I'd just rather a FWB now. 😏
Move on and get a dog!!
Okay but what if its litterally the next day after we breakup. Then he continues to do it...
Same thing happened to me. Would love advice...
She is your Ex.... who she bangs now doesnt matter - Ex is past and not future. Hard disconnect and block.
If an ex's ex is the rebound, is that considered rebounding?
I’d say if your ex goes back with an ex that makes you the rebound and she/he got back with their ex. This is what my ex has done! I was the rebound 😳
@@jaymean44 we were together for a substantial amount of time, though. About 9 months.
Arvie Janina Ty depends on the situation. Imo nine months isn’t that long so it could’ve still been a rebound. Sometimes people realize what they lost a while longer down the road
Gross
I just can't stand the thought of my ex having sex with another guy . I constantly keep thinking when she promised to never be with someone else. It's so painful to think the girl i've been with for 2 years could be enjoying someone else 😓
it only took my ex 30 hours………
Hey, I hope someone can respond and let me know what they think.
So my ex and I broke up, and we’ve been broken up for about 3 months now, and my ex made it very clear that we were never getting back together and that she didn’t want me to wait for her. So that’s is what I did. I moved on and expected to never hear from her again. Well, just last week I slept with someone (a new friend I made during these 3 months) and with my luck, literally the next day after sleeping with this new person, my ex sends me a whole long text saying she wants to try again and that we should work things out. I obviously want to, so I responded yes to her text, but I felt like I had to tell her the truth before she saw me, because I would also want the truth. Anyways I tell her, and now she seems standoffish about getting back together and now she says she doesn’t know how she feels. I regret sleeping with this other person now and I wish I never did it. All I had to do was wait another day. I genuinely never thought my ex would come back…. Am I in the wrong? Do you think my ex will forgive me or still want to work things out? What do I do?
No you not in the wrong because she made it clear she didn’t want you
@@djonekay5419exactly
What if your ex sleeps with someone else literally the next day? And then sleeps with the same girl for one whole week straight after that? And when you get back together with him after a few weeks, you find out that he is still in communication with her through messages? But he tells you he loves you and she means nothing to him? And you the dumbass accepts him back? Am I stupid? Did I lose all my respect to myself? 😥
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I need answers on this, too!!
Don't take her back, she was already that rearranged her internal organs, get over that, and start doing something useful in life!
I tapped someone a month after ex broke up with me.
If she cant keep her legs closed for a month, thats not someone you want to be with
"Slept with someone else"
Bye bye baby 😂
Yikes 🤢🤮
If she did, she won't come back to me. No way. Go enjoy it. bye :)
Facts
My ex is a guy and broke up with me then got mad that I slept with someone else a month later. Do you think guys ever get over this and want to get back together eventually?
you must be insecure asf to do that but no he will never get over it cuz nobody wants used up coochie
Mish o you realize that every person you meet has slept with other people, right?
how long were you with you’re ex?
depends on your ex, who cares if you sleep with someone else. You were broken up
G’z-COLD !!! A little over a year
“Now then”
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Whether my Ex is sleeping with someone or not, i'm confident that his OCD and how he took control of our relationship with sooner or later feck the new one(s) up like it did ours. Whether the new woman is the best feck in the world or not. Karma is a Bitch lol. 🍒
I was still waiting for her after 1year as she wanted me to stay friends and I stupidly did :/ , relapsed and then she told that she moved on slept with multiple guys and blocked me later, when she unblocked me again, I went into NC. I don't know if my sabotaged my chances with her or not, if there were any remaining.
Edit: I've moved on from her, I don't want her anymore. She was a bad person to be with. IDC anymore
After that why do you want her back?
@@Roadglide86 coz I feel I still have feelings for her and she is a bit depressed with her things so maybe she did those things only to make it feel good but didn't work out. Maybe I should have talked way before. But I still have feelings to work it out, if she is willing to. Otherwise I guess I'll just move on.
Your making excuses for someone who didn’t see you as the one, you want her to badly desire you and you make this illusion up that she’s hurt, she’s not she just realized she’s a shitty person
@@mcoc4823 you’re an idiot
@@oswaldofigueroa529haha chill before making judgements, I'm already moved on from her at that time I was just in a different headspace. Now I respect myself more and idc where she has been with, she can do whatever she wants but she is not part of my life anymore and I'm really happy about it
I donated $100 you shouldn’t censor my comments.
I'm not quite sure what you're referring to?
I've been in a toxic 8 month relationship which completely ruined my life. I lost myself. When recently she told me there was another guy in the picture that she liked, i started to take action and date another woman. I slept with the new woman 3 days ago, and she slept with the new guy yesterday out of revenge cause i told her. I went fully ape shit and started to ask all these sexual questions. She told me his dick was a little bigger and she enjoyed the sex a little more and told me details. I got sick in my stomach drank a whole bottle in 30mins. I became suicidal. I know i made the mistake first but the fact she got a better replacement for me so fast will haunt me forever. Anybody got a similar experience and what to do best now? I really wanna kill myself