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I thought the problem with screentime was that its bad for your eye sight and it 'fries you brain' Whatever that means. Everytthing I do online is either entertainment or educational. None of it I feel is wasting my time as I find it productive. But common knowledge is that its bad for brain and eyes and I have been a little un comfortable with that thought as sometimes I spend the enire day just in front of the screen. No social media at all, it is 100% youtube videos, but as mentioned, its all stuff that helps me grow and learn. Does this mean there is nothing wrong in screen time so long as yr not just distracting from meaningful tasks?

2 or 3 years of this? Might as well just kill myself. I can't do this

I have a question about who a Limerance gets attached to. What kind of people does a Limerance get attached to. And how does it all start? For example, I get attached to not very attractive women. And not from the first day or two, it takes 1 week or even two until I start to get attached emotionally and start to have strong emotions. To imprint it in my mind. Can those people realize that we Limerances like them. I don't know, we somehow give ourselves away through some gestures that escape us without us realizing it but they see. I don't know. I recently got attached to a colleague. I can't say that she's my type, being a lesbian. But sometimes I feel like she's following me with her eyes at work. Many times I've had very strong eye contact. But somewhere deep in my soul I don't feel attracted to her. But every time I see her at work I have emotions that overwhelm me very much. I actually tremble. I can't look her in the eyes because of emotion. What's wrong with me, often those around me don't know. I can't get her out of my mind 😔😔😔

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Makes sense… also makes it more challenging to figure out too eh?

This was really useful and insightful. Thank you 🙏🏾

Yeah too much screen time because of my LO. People should go to The Theatre, im going tonight, the park, shopping, travel, etc!

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Thank you for this video reviewing your course. I am really interested in this course and would like to know if it also provides other therapy approaches, such as DBT, ACT, EFT, Schema Therapy, and others.

When ever I get sad or feel lonely I just write. Stories sometimes I forget I'm a human and get so deep in it

If you're the man I'll take on a hot date, I'll never use the phone again

Will be doing my masters in 2025 in psychology. Sooo excited and nervous😅

I fell for a Mormon missionary. He made me feel like i mattered, was worthy. He reached out to me and checked in with me daily. Invited me to visit (and live with him and his family) next year. Of course, a while after he changed his area, the communication completely died down and he had been l saving my last message on unread for ten days now. I feel so pathetic.

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Im not really in limerence but when feeling low I get back to my LO. She blocked me on everyhing and wants no contact. But my (social media) stalk tendecies are growing. I feel resentment towards her. Shes creeping back in to my mind but I know it is coming back from broken parts of me.

The best thing to cure this which has helped me is to create the future, be very certain on what you want and go get it. Dont think about anything else or anyone who’s not in your future. Also take a few minutes to remember you are daydreaming and snap out of it

I hate being limerent its so all consuming. For me there is no fixing it i have to remove myself from having any contact. Ill go years with out limersnce then while im not looking it happens again. It never works out in reality because my fantasy has totally distorted every thing beyond repair. So i have to go no contact to maintain my sanity.

Hi! I see this video is a few years old, but I have a couple follow-up q's. I was just offered a place in this same program, and because I am an international student I'm planning to attend full time (since the visa for the part time course does not allow any employment whatsoever). I took a ton of psych courses after earning an English degree, since I knew I wanted to pursue psych. It became clear to me that I was most interested in social psychology, however, most specialized masters require a psych bachelors. This is all to say I am hoping I can do my research project with the Social Psychologist on staff. I was informed by the head of the program that they cannot guarantee that I will be able to work with her. I'm curious how difficult (or easy) it was for your cohort to work with the supervisor they preferred. TIA for any insight!

my LO is undeniably out of my league. He's beautiful like a male model and has a harem of women chasing him. Lately he has become distant after being friendly with me for so long. It hurts so much. I now see he's quite arrogant and vain. I overlooked this red flag before. Thank you Marios for your insightful and helpful commentary. It has helped me cope with this limerence which has been so devastating.

Makes total sense. Objectively my LO is nothing special (job, looks, financial means etc) but my limerence (my subjectivity) has idealised him in every way because he is married which creates a barrier and makes him unobtainable. Its painful and Objectively ludicrous.

I fell into this hell again a couple of months ago. I hope it doesn't last. When I met him, I didn't have any weird feelings, I just thought that he was a nice person. I can't break all contact because we are work colleagues, and he is a family friend. All I can do is hope this will pass soon and won't linger as long as past LEs did. No, I don't feel like he's out of my league or anything like that. I can't understand why my brain has decided to put me through this again.

Oh I definitively thought my LO was out of my league and by society's standard he was...but when we were together in person I definitely didn't feel that intense romantic feeling and felt like he wasn't focusing on me at all. He also had low self confidence sort of, and looked for approval because of this and he talked a lot about himself, focusing less on the other person. I was warned by an other girl that she thinks he talks too much about himself and that he is not even good as a friend...ignored all the signs and red flags haha. When you were ignoring him he wanted to gain back your attention but when you gave him all the attention he grew visibly bothered and tired of it...then he started to ignore you or get rid of you. Nothing was good enough for him... I broke all contact after he said he never wanted to talk to me again, and that it was a fact. I still think of him every now and then but from a more analytical point of view, to validate how not that good of an experience it all was that intense feeling of wanting to reach out is gone by now...being in a limbo of unrequited crush (won't say love). Last spoke to him 25 February 2023 and it took a loot of time and pain and crying to get over it. I never EVER want an other stupid case of limerence...the only thing is that I think I swung to the other side and now I feel a bit distant, untrusting or repulsed by relationships as a concept. However I really feel the wish to be with someone and love each other, however I weirdly feel good on my own? Sorry for the rambling.

Less hours is not impressive. Less hours but still being able to go on your phone without having to go to tiktok yt shorts or instagram that is impressive.

I got over my LO in May now I have another LO. What do you think of that?

Living a life of lies means the truth is refreshing, keep being honest.

Wow great video. A little long full of one person talking for people who are prone to maladaptive people i guess but i jumped in the middle of the video and what i heard convinced me to stay. Many small and helpful notes from your side so thank you for this great content. I begin dreaming nearly constantly when i am not fully immersed into a task.

Thank you for all the effort you put into these - they’re enormously helpful and inspiring! Would be interested in a video on your placements/client work further along the line 🙂

8 Years ago i started to spin a stick shaped in a L form back and forth now its 2024 and I still do it , I imagine myself being a military commander and controlling my army, my academics aren't good but I'm also lazy but I do think that this has something to do with it, And also I have to be able to see my stick to be able to daydream, Ps.my family thinks that I am very weird.

Very helpful, thank you. I'm starting to wake up and realise limerence is not really about the other person, it's about my own issues. So I'm going to try really hard to work on the things I need to (my lack of confidence and anxiety) while trying to stay away from the object of my limerence (easier said than done!),

Very helpful video, thanks. I'm finding it tough because the person I am infatuated with runs a coffee shop just around the corner from my house. So the temptation to see her is always there. I don't feel strong enough to stay away. The best I can do is manage how often I see her, no more than twice a week, which at least makes me feel I'm in control of the situation.

The term limerence is used too much. People need to know the difference between limerence and normal fantasy. Even this concern of having limerence can mess with your head.

I find your perspective on the parallels or tensions between limerence and religion fascinating. Please make MANY more videos on this relationship.

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Thank you for these videos, they are helping me. One thing I do know is that limerence doesn't happen to me when I'm in a relationship. I do, however, self sabotage real relationships because of my possessiveness and insecurities. I have only seen this in the last couple of weeks since I started watching videos like this one. I am in my 60's and have been limerent since childhood. I know the cause, I know what's happening to me and now I'm going to deal with it.

Is it at all possible that two people who are limerent over each other come into contact with each other and all hell breaks loose? I don't want to fully explain my thoughts/experience here on a public forum but I feel this just happened to me and we have both ran away.

If the Lo is a co-worker, how can we form a no contact situation??

I literally sabotaged my otherwise functioning life many times over such obsessions.

I think this distracted idolization usually shows up in one's pre-teen, teenage years. I remember this from the age of 10 onwards and it massively distracted from finding one's own center and purpose in life. But no one talked about such things decades ago and frankly it was glorified in romantic literature and song. There was no language of centering in the heart and pure awareness and teaching of skillful means by which to go through the intense emotional dysregulation required to be felt and released.

A 100 foot pine falling towards you will wake you up quickly. Could this be a societal problem of idleness and softness?

If Satan can’t convince you to sin in real life, then this is the next best way to shorten your already short real world life. Consider that demons help you conjure images and bodily feelings. It is called “enchantment” in the Bible. I bet corn is a gateway to attach your senses to it!

when limerence starts in childhood you can't go back to before it

The problem with limerence there’s a trigger which sets it off - and it usually happens to emotionally vulnerable people. But the problem in today’s time is the new age spiritual community and all these garbage terms they use feeding into peoples BS strengthening their limerence and the problem like a drug addict - one more hit of hope. They need to stop and people need to rely on logic instead of this new age spiritual nonsense.

Because we continue to interact, the "no thank you" was NOT enough to stop limerence for me. I had to go NO CONTACT.

Wow I wish I learnt about limerence a decade ago. I could really have used the support. All I kept finding were things about crushes, infatuation or being in love, it was none of those

8:39 except that's the name of the game. Literally make that work for you. Cuz women have limerence for men they're aroused by all the time.

My cat is my limerant fantasy, he's the perfect thing in the whole world that will never leave me ever 🥲

Help, how are you guys living with this?

Thank you so very much for your help and support through your channel. You have really helped me understand why I’m feeling this way. Better late than never.

Bro, this is exactly what i was thinking about lately. You are legit