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Is the only answer physical violence in an unrecorded area? Reasoning with them is not possible as they don’t understand that mode of communication

It's interesting how colleagues say you should speak up but i can see them being bullied too.

It's none of my business what others think of me. I love my life and what I do. I love other people. If they have issues that is their concern. I mind my own business. I'm ok, they are probably ok too. Self acceptance helps me accept others.

I’ve learned that keeping my Mouth shut is the best advise. I tried to speak out and now I’m targeted… I can’t move anywhere in the company because this person badmouth me to all managers and apparently she’s trustworthy because she works here ok her than me. I’ve decided to let it go and work on my education and better myself.

Great content, thank you!

Tammy - excellent advice! I’m in a no-win situation at work and worry about leaving. I’m older, but the organization is making me nuts.

Why is all the responsibility here being put on the one being bullied? Sometimes, bullies bully just because they can, and the only thing the target has done to contribute to it is to exist in the bully's sphere.

I was harassed, I complained, didn’t hear back for 3 month and asked about it & it got worse and I left. When there is poor leadership, poor HR, no caring except for themselves then you have to do the best thing for you so it does not harm you and you keep a positive mindset. Close to 37 people left and they did nothing. They Mgmt was getting paid a lot of money and kept the bully there.

This just happened to me big-time at a mental health and addiction training organization. After five years in this field I am heading back into adult literacy. So toxic and they should know better and be more brave to listen and respond. Especially when you have less power. That is why people end up with addictions and mental health issues.mind blowing ironic

Sadly all the woman at work are like this which is why nobody has gotten fired.I need a new job

Thanks for such vital information. I like having diversity in the workplace. Most of all if that person from a far different family background than mine likes diversity in both his workplace and among his family members too. A leader like that is so hard to find. Not someone whom we should be ever taking for granted; Nor should we be taking his family for granted as well.

It all comes down to numbers. If there are a lot of complaints against one person, then management will act. Even if people are ganging up on that person and they are the victim not the perpetrator. Management don't like problems, period. Also, people might not have another job to go to. Unemployment, poverty, homelessness isn't a good alternative.

I tried to stand up for myself but it backfired, and ultimately, I lost my job. They turned it all around on me.

Any advice that panders to or facilitates the bully is a red flag. Any advice that's poses some deterrent to the bully is valuable!

I’ve been a target for about a month now, can’t speak, eat, drink or anything at work without it being used against me.

I'm 55 years old and I can guarantee you one thing this lady only empowers the bullies. Most of the Gen Y & Z "victims" actually do reverse bullying. I was told I was a bully because someone didn't listen to me. I didn't have time to stand there and watch them every minute of the day. I'm not a supervisor. They claim I let them intentionally mess up a whole unit of product. No, I gave them clear directions and they chose not to listen. You're a victim of your own device. Then what really pissed them off was when they said I was a toxic employee. I'm like well I guess what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

All my life, I was always told to ignore bullies and harassers and I hate it. I just want these idiots to leave me alone because they're the ones with the problem.

Thank you

Adult bullying is in HR departments between woman

All bullies were woman leaders at work in HR departments!

I didn’t have any part in the situation. Nice victim blaming. I set boundaries and that made the bullies come at me more. They were supported by management. Sorry that you’re too weak to understand that there’s just evil things in the world and people can’t do anything to change it.

Be mindful, know your value, and never accept a position where you are over qualified ever again.

Most HRs in large companies are not there to even represent the employees, they are their to protect the corporation.

Yes! Keeps happening! What do i do???? I want it to stop

filing the complaint is a shit, and not use, only way is to stand up for yourself and fight back!

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Her sole purpose is to ruin my life and make me lose my job. The last job she refused to work with. I was more than willing to have a conversation she kept talking to other employees and management about me. I thought I was done when I left the first job now she is at my new job.

💡 Brilliant thanks

That's all nice on the paper, most people that I know that gossip are immature and would never be honest. They gossip because it's their habit and they love to humiliate others, if faced or asked, they would jsut create another web of lies and gossip. I find the best way is to avod them and just keep converations very short, brief, walk away once they get into the " gossip and shitting on others" mood.

This cognitive reframing is a good strategy. Another one is to find virtuous wins. If you can keep your cool in the middle of a conflict and the opposing side breaks down in frustration, then you know you've landed checkmate without ever needing to land a blow. It reminds me of Star Wars when Obi-Wan warns Anakin that he has the high ground... find that high ground and plant yourself in that truth. Learning to keep cool in the face of mobbing and maintain the high ground is the number one way to overcome the victim mentality from my own personal experience.

Of course they do.

Which books would help in assertiveness with boss and self advocacy at workplace with strong communication skills...

Could you elaborate on how as an employee/engineer i can get more project/clients for my company ie bring more money and save their time to ensure a fruitful outcome for my own career growth at faster pace..which books would help in this scenario and implementing the change in workplace environment effectively on individual level...

When you speak up they fire you.

Just left my job due to bullying from my boss. I’m really needing help to find out what I did to be the target. I start a new job in another week and I’m already terrified of this happening again. What can I do to avoid this? I just want to do my job and have peace with coworkers and managers.

Thank social media for this behavior

Going through this as we speak. Trying to stick it out till this company closes but I'm having a hard time.

My situation is a bit more covert. My immediate supervisor and lead are great on paper. The last two years they made me feel empowered and valued. Once I expressed how wanted to work in different function to further my career growth, and signed up for a temporary detail, everything changed. First it was praise and how proud they are. Now I’m denied access to applications to learn the new duties, my request are delayed and now now answered, they even paired up the colleagues in two man team leaving me out. But their argument can be based on I’m away on detail. They’re purposely making me feel like I’m missing out and I should regret from wanting to leave the team. My supervisor is using non verbal cues and stonewalling to make me fall in line. His words and action does not match. Now if I expose him, the covert narcissist side will come out and they’lll turn up the heat. Being ignored might be the best thing in my situation. My resume is updated and I’m looking to move on. Just waiting for the call.

It is my immediate supervisor that is bullying me. I’ve been at the position about two months. I’ll be with the company over two years. All of my previous supervisors and evaluations have been great but this one doesn’t want to train me. This one doesn’t want to answer questions this one has made me feel unsafe scared I cry could work sick every day, I really don’t know how to handle this, but I have to learn my job and I have to ask her ask him questions and they don’t wanna answer the questions when I ask if you sent a format that I can make my corrections to scan the paper and show to me he refused to do so when I needed to make corrections to documentI’m definitely working fear and I’m making more mistakes. What do I do?

I always liked a passive aggresive approach. If somebody is plagerizing your work to say it's their own I sabotage my work. If asked I point to the name on it, read the document, then pull up the correct documy saying he stole draft version. They should ask me directly next time directly, because he obviously doesn't understand my job. Another was a fellow supervisor who was absurdly unkind and to his staff. He wasn't getting good results. I did lateral counseling, it didn't work. I ended up watching his projects, alerted the directors, and poaching his projects and his staff. Another I had a direct supervisory layer added between me and the CEO and BOD. A couple of young men who wanted their own people in most positions. It didn't affect me or my work so I did my job and ignored it. Then they decided my disregard for new rules wasn't acceptable. I was a licensed professional. I decided whether work was done to my standards or I wouldn't sign off. They threatened me one day. If I didn't do their bidding I could just leave. I acknowledged the conversation, thanked them for their time and left. I had a million bucks worth of projects on my desk. I was the authorizing licensee for my discipline. I called the state Bosrd to inform them I was resigning from the board of directors and the company was no longer under my direction. They were notified that day to cease those services. I dropped off copies of my resignation and a description of the lines the new guys crossed. And I walked off.

Have tried to speak up and hold a conversation to resolve the conflict/stop the bullying thats happening against me in my workplace Sorry to say, the bullies are not genuine enough to understand their bad behaviour or to stop They just do it and like to crush other people, they feel happy about it and no conversation can become an eye opener for that kind of people Leaving is better but I personally had myself cyberbullied even after leaving, thats how some bullies can be Hurting others from across a screen especially has become an addiction and kind of fun for people who perform this heinous act How do we even get away

I was told to, stay positive

I have a job to do...thats it..umnacceptable behavior, lies, etc, are not part of my job requirements..I will confront it, and or end it..and will not go quietly. I have reached a mountain top of indifference and intolerance to most all abuse.

Hey tammy i came across yoir video and was wonding how to deal with this situation cause it line up to well with having a horribke management team. A company with no HR rep and. A staff ive caught red hand in the cookie jar associated with telling employees to just be silent. Have the email to. Also long time ago had a situations full blown out of the hat when i was called a mall shooter due to rumours being spread.

None of that is going to work. It’s more damaging to try to gain their respect. The saying, “kill them with kindness…” is bs. The nicer you are to those that mistreat you, the more powerful they feel. It has never worked. I just leave and go somewhere else. The damage to my health, mental health, and wellbeing is more important.

Dan has saved my life in so many instances in multiple work situations. It's worth paying for the VIP membership. There are so many resources.

Several things has happened since I last communicated with you. First, another colleague has come out with her experience of being bullied by the same group of women. Should I get together and get her feedback on how we can go together to the Head of the School since our director is not doing a good job to end the bullying? Second, my boss wrote me a long retaliation email about me. He stated several things that are not true. Should I answer the email? He is using manipulation to make it like I am the cause. I hope the recent bullying situation will help me since it's two people being bullied by the same group of women.

If people deliberately sabotage your workspace then that is called toxic behaviour. You can ask them for all the clarity in the world, communicate healthy all ypu want, but if the other person jas NPD (usually covert) then all will fall on deaf ears and no sincere or truthful communication is possible.

Great advice, better than others i seen on this topic.