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Plenty of us have failed in relationships, that’s not a BPD thing. I imagine you’re in relationships with narcissists which never works

You could be a model very good looking man

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You’re too pretty to be straight

Excellent

You’re talented

I agree that narcissistic parents create narcissists or empaths (both are damaged). The empath can overcome childhood trauma. The empath has CPSTD & often becomes a pleaser. It’s interesting narcissists call everybody else narcissists. Projection is interesting. Narcissists are successful with traumatised people who overlook red flags. Narcissists will deliberately inflict pain by withdrawal of affection & the BPD empath will blame themselves. A narcissist I encountered told me he’d never connected to any other human even his children. You’ll never get closure from a narcissist they don’t have a limbic system.

You’re lovable, intelligent & sweet

We all evolve, that’s normal. In that regard you’re the same as your peers who you’ll grow with or grow apart. You are your friends, what are they like ? Most people are bland & have a blind spot around being self aware. You’re conscious of who you are. You have unwarranted low self esteem.

These are brilliant I’m going be watching all of your podcasts

Underrated channel, very intelligent

You should have massive self worth, what a brave young man. Thank you

Know that you are sadly not alone. What helps in my journey is to regard myself today (at 60 years old) as a CSA survivor; I was a victim then but not now. Hope this kernel of wisdom may help you. Astonishingly, one of my therapists foreshadowed that some of my family would blame me. I dismissed this at the time as “impossible” but it actually happened. I was devastated that anyone could blame the victim but it does happen. Please know that my heart pours out to you and I’m sending you my best healing wishes. ❤

We all gotta call out the good in each other,there’s too much focus on the bad now

Lucky you understand it at such a young age... 45yr and just now understanding the carnage I have created. Hope you are still growing.. vid is old.

I’ve always struggled with mental illness and was always able to function highly. Turned out I have bpd and use work and money goals to fuel that passion. It’s a double edged sword.

Very brave of you to talk about it here. I believe it’s an inspiration and it will help others.

You need to work on yourself and get therapy so you don’t abuse anyone

I hope this finds you well. I went through the same situations you survived (although mine was not a relative and I was 8). Thank you! You are loved in our community ❤️! 😊

My gosh, i wouldn't have courage to expose myself on internet with any topic, let alone with this if it happened to me. Videos like this help other survivors. Much love and health from Slovenia <3

Thank you so much. Not only can I relate and empathise with you but you have made me realise that I'm also hypersexual.

Here's another super power I learned recently: Alter Ego Hyperdrive. Because of our shattered selves, Alter Ego Hyperdrive or AGH (or acting for the fools!!! lol), allows us to take on so many personalities when we need it. I created Blank - an alter ego - and my mental health has improved greatly. I know what I want and know what I need. I also created Full, she's creative and open and also good for my mental health. Both have flaws, strengths, weaknesses, beliefs, values, and outlooks on life! Ordered comment (using Blank): I created/named a method to heal my mental health through the use of alter-egos. It's a form of acting that I use in order to approach various problems in day to day life. Ordered comment (using Full): I created this awesome method. I can be whoever I want, whenever I want, however I want, and no one can tell me otherwise. It's really great!

Thank you for sharing your story, as a fellow male with BPD I’ve had sexual abuse in my life at a young age and it’s so important to talk about this

Thank you and there is nothing to apologise just to apraise. You are very very brave and it is important for people to hear , understand these experiences and improve our system's reactions.

I am a survivor and I stand with your story. Thanks for sharing I know how hard it is.

Thank you for speaking out it’s brutal

Hello! I am so glad I found this channel, so few men talk about their BPD diagnosis. This video is also amazing and brave. I hope you start posting again! :)

Hey it's nice to find a pro BPD channel

Thought I'd be the only person commenting as this vlog is a few years old. I'm 57 - related to every experience you shared. So brave of you & I really thank you for talking about what it was like to be a child with mental health issues no one picked up on. A lot to think about now with me. I can come back to this vlog & others to help. Not read the comments yet - but glanced over. There are more like you, like me & I really need to thank you again.

Cute video have had bpd since adolecents and have sat on both ends of the spectrum and yeah some of what you said is absolutely positive for us ... we do love fearcely ... one thing I don't agree with is will fight as a way to protect you .... sinceni have large rejection sensitivity coupled with that ability to empathize and sympathize with people intend to be the devils associate alot and even to my partner will want to express and show the possibilities of the interaction that might have been seen as rude .... I also have alot of avodent traits as a bpd even at my worse so I dont like violence and tends to add tk my selfsame issues .... i tried tk kill my sisters during a disasoseation episode and got locked up for 4 years so now I try to avoid violent behavior no matter who its for.... still found love as I still will cater and take care of you as much as I can .... I think bpd also have that as a super power .... we can cater to the ones we love ...

You can be very proud of yourself for Having the courage to make this video. Thank you.

This was such a powerful video. You’re an amazing person.

I'm borderline. It's been a terrible life.

.....how you are today

Stephen! Thank you for this courageous disclosure. All your videos go back 3 or 4 years. I'm dying to know you are today. Co- survivor here

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I have bpd and I feel the same way about cocaine. And relationships. Mom tried to kill me at 4 and I was molestef in foster care. I Blame that

I hope you are in and continue with therapy. Your experience w/ your friend who was a psych student tells me you had a somewhat positive experience there. I found a therapist who specializes in Internal Family Systems. I have made more progress with him in the years we’ve worked together than previously. Life gets better. You’re in my thoughts.

Hey Stephen; Thank you sharing. I know this is very hard. I was sexually abused at the same ages in similar ways. Healing has been possible for me but required lots of grace, curiosity, self love, tolerance. I judge this to be a very beautiful video about a very painful subject. What happened to you should never have happened. I have 4 children and 4 grandchildren. They all need to be protected during the tween years. They do NOT KNOW nor come anywhere close to understanding human sexuality as tweens. You are and were valuable and good - just as you are and were at that time. Mark.

It’s unfortunate the music is much too loud, competing with what you are saying and making it incredibly difficult to focus on what you are saying. Enjoyed what u were saying, uniquely insightful and articulate. Gosh, can the music if you really want to have an impact and gain more subscribers.

You even split the idea that everyone has the relationship stuff all sorted except for you…….trust me. That’s not true. Everything’s on a spectrum. Everything and everyone.

did it make you gay or did he know you where gay.your very brave to talk about this but it is the best thing to do. your a victim not the rapist. x

I love that you're wearing an Ask A Mortician t-shirt. I like that channel too. : ) It amazes me how gay guys find other gay guys to date when it's so hard to find someone, even when you're straight! But I had a very similar experience in high school. I fell "in love" with my boyfriend's best friend. Totally obsessed over him. The happiest I've ever felt was when I boarded a bus as an 18 year old, thinking he loved me back. I literally floated down the aisle. Unfortunately it was all in my mind. He didn't love me, and he never dated me out of loyalty to his best mate, who abused me. After high school I never saw him again, but I continued to draw him and cry about him, and honour his birthdays, and maintain hope for years afterward. Even wrote a romantic story about getting together, 20 years later, hoping to see him at the high school reunion. When he didn't attend, I finally gave up the fantasy. I think your choice of music for this clip is really clever. Engaging, and balancing out quite a serious topic. I totally understand about making a consistent version of yourself. I'm not sure about myself either. It's very frustrating. I enjoyed your video. Thanks for sharing your story.

My heart breaks for you. I know how hard this was. This was not your fault. You are worth being loved and cherished for who you are. Just by making this video shows you are trying to get control back of your life. It will never be easy nut I am praying for you to get your self worth back and to find peace in your heart

Stephen, I just found you and subbed. I think it is a human trait for people to try and ignore and pretend immoral things didn't happen especially if it is within the family...This is a very dangerous and destructive tendency. Of course you did the correct thing and I applaud you for it. Thank you.......Ray

Dear Stephen. You are very brave to share your story here. Thank you. I grew up without ever being told I was loved, or hugged by my mom and dad. So, I understand somewhat how you feel. I can tell that you are a very good and sensitive individual. I wish the best for you in your life. God bless.

I can identify alot with thesepoints God bless u. Bob

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Sorry but get over it some of us have had similar,but don’t keep going on poor me poor me be a winner and show them your bigger than them ,good lock to you 26:38

Hi you are very brave and i see you finally acknowledge and took responsibility for your life and wanting to better it. Your on the right path my friend. The man I love i truly believe had no clue he possibly suffers from bpd. I hope after i told him to seek help he heals and comes to acceptance. From your relashionship experiences once you feel better and ready would you ever attempt to re ignite a relashionship with someone you always knew you did trully love or would you never even dare to try?