How To Become A Beast In Your 20's & 30's
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- Опубліковано 1 жов 2024
- Scott Galloway breaks down his best advice for people entering their 30’s. How important is choosing your partner? Why does Scott Galloway think everyone should train hard? Should you earn as much money as possible in your 30’s?
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What an uncharismatic speaker!!
the best video i saw on the internet in a longtime. subscribed
@joyfuldays596 safest to just never speak to a woman ever: problem solved. Anger and loneliness is the best protection
I'm 32 and rejection is the keyword that took me forever to embrace. In my 20s I didn't take risks because I was too afraid to fail
Same buddy same
im still learning it lol
Wayne Gretzky, the God of hockey, took a total of 5088 shots on net, he scored 894 times. The man missed over 4000 times! But you can't score if you don't try.
@@darex0827but your confidence takes a hit everytime you fail, you just feel mortified....
@@MasterofPlay7 Think politicians, you need to develop thick skin. It can be done psychologically speaking. I had the same problem, now I just have the opinion that it doesn't matter.
I worked for an 85 year old guy in college. He pulled out an old photo of himself and said "I used to think I was ugly, and I was so shy because of it. If I had known how handsome I really was my life would be completely different."
Wow... 🤯
If I don't change myself in 3 years I'm definitely going to end it. I don't want to end up like this
Wow
@@Dave_of_Mordor Please don't do that.
@@Dave_of_Mordor shut up and go do dam sports, gym, and so on. that is not an option, i know what i am talkin. its not an option.
#1 tip for all of us. Stop watching these videos and do the things we know we should be doing.
Knowledge.
Facts.
Solid advice 😂
Exactly. I go for periods without watching anything like this. At some point I put David Goggins on the back burner and live this stuff. 🤘🏾
Can do both
1) Develop grit in mental & physical strengh.
2) Be great in a big city, rather than a small city.
3) Develop skills in establishing relationships. Force yourself to talk with strangers, whever you are. Be comfortable with rejection.
4) Find a great partner for life.
5) Reach out to people you admire, take risks in rejection.
Thanks for writing it out so succinctly and in brief.
Edit: 2) be good in a big city rather than great in a small city
Saw the video again as a whole. Was with him until he stated men should just go and talk to women at work. Then he tried to flip it's men who don't know the difference hence run into problems.
Not sure if he's aware but there's literally numerous cases of men being accused of harassing even when doing literally nothing.
Your approaches are only going to work if women are interested in you beforehand whether it's by appearance, status or wealth. One accusation could ruin men's whole life. Take risks but calculated ones.
@@gabbar51ngh That's why you don't mess with co-workers or customers period.
This is the most generic oligarchy hogwash you could hear. If all men go there own way "mr. Professor" might have to get his hands dirty and get a real job. Let's keep up the status quo as the ship is sinking so he can keep his useless job, he and self help people like him are the band on titanic.
Im 35.... This guy is making some great points. I work with teenagers and I look at them and realize... they have the capacity to crush it and they don't even know it. Then I realize the 50 year olds I work with might look at me with that same mindset.
I had the exact same thought the other day. Perspective drives performance. As a 30 yeard old, I've never been so motivated to stay on top of my shit, educate myself in new areas and stay on top of my fitness.
Honestly the problem is how school is set up. Every student should have an independent education plan. I had an IEP and I still fucked up in a rich county. Can’t imagine dumb people in a poor town. That’s how we get trump
@@sirdiealot53 For some reason this comment cracked me up
20 year olds will think you're old at 35 because they're dumb, but you're a kid still at 35
@@sirdiealot53 You think Hillary Clinton & Joe Biden are better options than Trump?
As someone in a trend of further isolation, this was a godsend. I really needed to hear this.
My biggest moment of the last ten years was discovering it's really possible to become good at things I'm bad at, through allowing myself to be a beginner and actually learning. I'm going to do exactly that with this excellent advice. Day one, here we go.
Love it!
How did day 2 go?
@@AdoringAdmirerThe weather was getting me down, so I didn't allow myself to get stuck inside while it rained with heavy wind. I got on my bike, went to town, and soaking wet met a few people in a bookshop and an art store. Turned out to be fun conversations.
I pushed through obstacles this morning to get to an appointment on time instead of making excuses, and started conversations on the train.
Honestly, I can't say how helpful this tiny clip has been. Thank you Chris & Scott!
@@Schwaaaang Keep going, you got this!
Are you willing to wear the white belt?
Thats the only question to consider when you want to learn any new skill.
It feels weird watching tips about thriving in your 30s while being in your 20s because I know that many people around my age don’t really gaf about the outcome of the future
Being in my 30s after not gaf in my 20s: do, care about it.
You'll thank yourself for it later and you won't feel like playing catch-up with your own life all the time, like I do now.
People in their 20s don’t seem to realize that everyone over 30 has been in their 20s. However, in some ways you should live to your fullest (responsibly) because there’s a lot you can do in your 20s that that gets super cringe when you’re in your 30s.
You’re not special… people just like to show results, not effort.
Yeah, no I don’t see twenty-somethings doing much about any thing. So no one cares about you gaffing or not. You’re sort of lost.
I'm 31. At 22 I thought I would be young forever. I did not stay young, and I absolutely needed to accept that.
At 32 years old (37 now) I moved downtown in a major city, shifted from a marketing position into sales which got me speaking with strangers daily, and I started running marathons. The amount my life has improved in the last 5 years is staggering. Every bit of advice in this video is tangible and incredibly effective. If the idea of executing anything he says here scares you, that's how you know it needs to be done!
Well put sir
I needed to hear this comment. Thank you
Im a big runner and have ran competitively up to the college level. I will never get into marathons and i wouldn't recommend it to anybody else. Your body will regret that when you're older bro. Running is one of the hardest sports on the body.
@@AlexRuns98 I hear that a lot. I’ll tell you my body feels a lot better running marathons at 38 than it did being a dedicated power lifter at 28.
His advice is good advice for extroverts. I'm a pretty big introvert and I've tried in the past to go out a lot but it just irritates me and I start being rude to people and pretty unpleasant. I can't stand people uggghhh! Once and a while is ok.
I’m almost 30 now and I truly believe my 30s are gonna be amazing.
❤
Same
Hell yeah man. Future's bright! @@jb894
I am 35, and can tell you that your 30s can easily be your golden years!
Oh for sure, big-time.@@csabakeresztes3057
I’m 37 and thus clicked me when I was 30. I remember being on a plane, not happy with myself and having that moment where I decided I was gonna be different.
After 2 years of never missing a workout, becoming a voracious reader and focusing on self development I looked in the mirror and saw an absolute beast. I’ve never looked back since.
It doesn’t take as long as you think and it’s so worth it fellas
Love this! Thank you.
I am 34, psychotherapist, I have another piece of advice - learn how to forgive, it will be the best weapon you got in interpersonal relationships. 😉😉😉
So they cheat on you again?
@@Ximme no, you forgive, but still dump them. The point is that holding grudges is very bad for the holder. Don't let the person who wronged you have enough power over you that you hold on to that anger for a long period of time. The best revenge is moving on.
This is how I maintain my happiness. I’m quick to forgive. Why? Because my sanity and general happiness depends on.
@@bjensen Yes that makes sense. I think I misinterpreted the term 'forgive'.
That is better advice than the lad in the video, anger and hate tend to eat a person up. Forgiveness is a release, but it is tough to master.
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I'm almost certain every one of these people in this comment thread are fucking bots
“Nothing wonderful will happen to you if you don’t take an uncomfortable risk.” I LOVE THAT! That should be posted in every high school and college!
True
just when you think you can't take anymore, that means you're about a third of your way to your limits as a human, learning that as a man in your 20s and 30s is a blessing
Apparently not to his knees though. Stress is a good teacher but there are definitely lessons in knowing how much stress to apply and when.
Don't get me wrong, I know the economy is in shambles and in order to break even and make profit, we have to ride it out until stock recovery, but how are some folks in the same stock market as me still able to pull off substantial profits of as much as 650K within months, what am I doing wrong?
You're not doing anything wrong, you just don't have the required skillset to profit off a down market, folks that are making profit in this market are pros and experts with in-depth knowledge and skillset
@@edelineguillet2121 Exactly why i enjoy my day to day market decisions being guided by a portfolio-coach, seeing that their entire skillset is built around going long and short at the same time both employing risk for its asymmetrical upside and laying off risk as a hedge against the inevitable downward turns, coupled with the exclusive information/analysis they have, it's near impossible to not outperform, been using a portfolio-coach for over 2years+ and I've netted over $800k.
@@fresnaygermain8180 please who is the F/A guiding you
@@belobelonce35 I am guided by "JEFFREY HAROLD STARR". I found him on a CNBC interview where he was featured and reached out to him. he has since provided entry and exit points on the securities I focus on. You can look him up online if you care for supervision
@@fresnaygermain8180 why does your professional financial consultant with 18 years of experience have multiple typos and generic font on his website??
so I listened to this
I went out and told my crush
I got rejected
and f**k it doesn't feel that bad
Let's goooooo!
Now you know you can move on. Start of a new chapter. Go for it.
Amen bro! Keep going.
G!
Everybody talks about 20s, january I am turning 30 and decided move to city.
Currently bank balance is low, hesitant interacting people, an introvert.
It's time to turn the table.
Most needed video at the right time of my life.
Thanks ❤
Come on Satyam you got this!!💪
Go for it, nothing to lose! I moved to Australia with a few thousand bucks 8 years ago, no skills or idea about the world. Everythings changed by surrounding myself with high quality people - this was the biggest factor, best of luck to you
@@davidpurdie5455 kudos to you for deciding to make such a bold move🙏🏽
Plenty of time!! 30 is nothing, go get it soldier
Go make it happen Satyam! Go be your best self! As a mentor would tell me, “Just go make a mess.” Who cares what people think!
As a 6 years old. This really resonates with me. This story reminds my of the long hours I made in the sandbox selling sandcakes to strangers. So glad I did that. Because it all paid of in the long end. Now i have time to drive my Ferrari with to girls I just picked up at the milk store.
This is an underrated comment
You're 6??
Lol 😂
I love this comment 😆
damn good grammar for a 6 year old man
I’m taking a risk. Chris do you want to grab a coffee?
Didn't have advice like this when I was in that age group. Today's generation should be very appreciative that stuff like this is at their fingertips now.
Yes, they should, but most don't even know about stuff like this, never mind them actually clicking it, and watching it 'till the end.
Yeah, but why watch a 9 minute video that could spark change in your life when you can watch 9 second tik tok dances and develop mental illnesses? /s
true im 19 and this helps me a lott
This really resonates with me. My father made me sell magazine subscriptions door to door when I was 16 for 3 summers in a row. And For this he paid my car insurance. I owe these very fiber of my being to that horrible experience.
You were 16 for 3 summers in a row? 😉
@@KaneM It's an ageless tale of a timeless time when everything changed so fast even while time stood still.
@@KaneMno the last summer he became a year younger. 15
Guys after 10 years of being single. I think i found the one :) im so thankful :) she supports me she encourages me she is with me during tough times she makes me laugh we have simular values. Its amazing when you talk to stranger its the best advice 🎉
Congrats! But 10 years single is so crazy. I've been single for over a year now and I really hope it doesn't last 10 years. But I don't want to be with the wrong person either, I would much rather be single and happy than with the wrong person and miserable.
Just make sure you’re the best man she lays her hands on. Or she will choose better
Don’t do it brother!
More rejection means less waiting. It’s trial and error. This is advice I believe in, but something I don’t live by yet.
congrats @tigsik3128 love to hear that
I really needed to hear this. I’m 29 but feel like I’m in a bit of a rut right now. I ran a marathon earlier this year and was living with my friend in a city and now I barely exercise and I’m back at my parents 😂😂 I grew to dislike the city I lived in but now being back in a town I hardly see anyone while walking the dog etc. I was gonna buy a place in a town but now I’m thinking that I should only do this when I’ve found a partner and want to settle down.
I decided yesterday I’m gonna move back to a city. I like walking past lots of different people and seeing people smiling etc. living here feels like a ghost town.
Good for you, good luck!
@@cameronblack7984 thanks mate :)
Feeling in a rut as well, Man. Working corporate sucks the life out of you. Pretty depressing.
Huh
Suburban lifestyle is fucking shit but have no wife because I'm never getting married and have no kids
I’m 26 and I feel him on the partner thing. I’m so grateful for the partner I chose it has made my life amazing.
Congratulations bro, you’re already wealthy
Shes probably cheated on you a thousand times
@@moviesynopsis001 I hope you find peace.
@@moviesynopsis001bruh 🤣
@@moviesynopsis001 based
I'm 47 years old now. I wish I had someone offering me wise advice back in my 30s and 20s. I was on my own to figure it all out
Can relate. Still trying to figure it out.
@@Daycros yep 🙂
Im at least 40 but feel 30 and want to run thru brick wall listening to this rt now lol, thx for motivation guys!
Someone was always there giving me this type of advice. BUT I HAD TO SEEK THEM OUT. GO FIND YOUR MENTOR.
It’s part of the journey
I’m 35 and feels like I’m just starting but hey, you gotta start somewhere! Gl to you all!
That’s the way man!
Same, 33
Same, 33
I hear. I'm 36. Wasn't financially stable until I was 33-34. Now it's figuring out the social stuff
ditto. 35 in May but feel like im just getting started. late bloomer maybe
I am 30 years old, turning 31 this year and this is one of the best advices I've heard in a long time.
Maybe he gave you the wrong advices.
Damn I needed to hear this. As a video editor who mainly makes a living from working on projects in the comfort of my own place, I find myself isolating more and more. Thanks for sharing your wisdom, Scott and Chris.
Man I bring my work or journals out to a pub and just sit at the bar and have a beer or two and chat with the servers and regulars. It gets me out and around people. It's healthy.
I really resonated with pushing yourself.
I'm getting my masters, have a full-time job, a 4 year old and 7 month old. I'm always doing something, i'm very busy and I feel maxed out. However, whenever I do have a break, I don't feel lazy, but I've realized how much I'm actually capable of doing.
Remember to treat yourself like someone you care deeply for.
Sit & take a break, look at nature, breathe deeply, read a book or just BE...
Namaste 🙏
@@calista1280 100%. In fact, this is built into my weekly rhythm
Doing more doesn't mean one is more efficient. A masters degree is incredibly expensive. The U.S. is obsessed with going into debt for credentials I find people rarely take advantage of.
@@SurpriseMeJT Right, i'm just talking about the ability to take on extra. If you're smart, by taking on more, you'll rearrange what you're currently doing to make it work. Often cutting out the things that don't matter that you don't need to spend so much time on (social media). And yeah, I was asked by my work to get a masters and they're paying for it, but in general, I agree.
Keep getting it brotha! I’m getting my masters, work full-time, have a 5-year-old and I work out religiously. My intuition says our futures are looking bright.
damn, i was hoping his advice would be to stay in your room playing video games all day...
His best advice IMO is "choose wisely who you marry and have children with". A bad spouse can tear you down, a good spouse will build you up.
Just went through a bad breakup with a girl I thought I would marry. This reversed the way I have been thinking for the past several months. Thank you so much for this, I want to be better at the things I am bad at. I really want to connect to more people and hearing this man say learn how to approach strangers is very comforting. Particularly in an age where people are so standoffish.
Keep working on yourself brother and you’ll eventually meet someone who is on your wave length. This is the perfect time to do the things that only you want to do; travel, meeting new people, do something that is uncomfortable. You got this
Women 'seem' to able to connect easier with others.
Wow, I often cringe at videos with these kind of titles but.... wow
That was really great advice. No arrogance, no overstating the importance of money over everything else, just an incredibly well balanced answer....
Pay attention young men. In a world of immature masculine icons this dude is spitting some wisdom.
I’m 28 this year and this is something I definitely needed to hear.
I look back on myself couple years ago regretting not taking even the smallest initiation conversation with someone and telling myself now even if I embarrassed myself then I could have used that experience to do better today.
My issue is my sometimes poor sleep schedule that ruin my mood to have a conversation.
What ifs can pop up in your head for many years to come.
Live a little and take risks. Something I need to do too😅
I'm a fellow recovering night owl. Get a little ritual and some books and light a candle, do some nighttime tea, "look forward" to getting in bed at 10pm and having wind-down reading time. Sleep makes all the difference in each day. Best of luck!
Best thing for sleep is to have a few kids. They keep the house so calm at night it's wonderful😊
I moved to a big city and never felt so alone
As a single 24 yr old trying to establish myself and figure out life, this couldn’t have come at a better time! I was already considering a lot of his points but the practicality he ties into them are invaluable. Best practical advice I’ve heard in a long time!
Watch Kevin Samuels for a reminder that you're competing against everyone on everything. From your bedroom, to your aftershave, to washing "yo nuts".
Don't listen to Galloway, he's wrong more than Cramer.
You’re right. I’m 48 and I can tell you right now if you listen to this advice, YOU WILL have a successful, happy life !
Especially the party about stepping out of your comfort zone. SOOOOO crucial.
Thank you for the advice Mr. Galloway. I just turned 30 and I have the ambition to work hard this year and get out of my comfort zone. I want to see progression in my life this year!
Pushing yourself to your limits also has to be balanced with longevity in mind. My brother was a beast, in the military, combat diver and went so far as to try out for special forces . He's now in the navy in his late 30's and his knees, elbows, and lower back are messed up. The doctors told him they don't know how he isn't on more constant pain. He has to be very diligent in how he trains so not to agitate his injuries.
that part -- work hard and think long term from the outset. only get one body.
Man, incredible. I’m turning 37 next month, and I followed all of these since my late 20s, despite never having heard it from anybody. On the contrary, I kept hearing I was crazy. I have no regrets, it paid off big time in all senses.
you said you was crazy?
Pushing yourself to your physical limit will give you a sense of self-respect later on. I did this over a couple of years of cycling and going up mountains on a heavy ass bike will give you nightmares but reaching a goal is so fulfilling.
Best advice : Move far far away and cut all ties from jealous envious people who compare you and dictate your way of life. Many are jealous and envious of the childfree, of the fit, of the happy.
00:13 💪 Push yourself physically and mentally in your 20s and 30s, as it builds resilience and confidence for future challenges.
02:28 🌆 Living in a big city provides opportunities for personal and professional growth by exposing you to diverse experiences and individuals.
03:49 💑 Finding a great partner is crucial for a fulfilling life; increase your chances by actively engaging in social interactions and taking risks.
05:38 💼 Building economic security is important, but finding a great partner is paramount for long-term happiness and success.
06:58 🗣 Overcome isolation and discomfort by actively engaging with strangers, as it fosters personal and professional opportunities.
Eh, its all worded well but it's not for me. Taking care of your health is definitely number one but that doesn't have anything do with lifting heavy or running long, you can lift moderately and run a few times a week your entire life not just in your 20s and 30s. Longevity and sustainability are key. Pretty generic corporate America advice imo. I do fine out in rural Tennessee making 70k on an acre of land, more working towards that homesteading life than achieving some meaningless sum of money and numerous low quality relationships.
Lol that's the goal. Lived in a handful of cities before I turned 26 a couple months ago and now I'm in Knoxville. My career trajectory here is pretty nice too
Far left? Nothing about this guy sounds contemporary far left.
This is golden
Just turned 27 and found this. I’ve been on a big journey with my health, confidence, fitness and weight loss. Glad to know that I have really working on a lot of the things mentioned in this video, including my career, sobriety, and getting better at talking to women!
The irony of this guy saying people in their 30s should run long distances and now his knees are wrecked is lost on this audience?
Gym 4 days a week
Fasting 2 days a week
Look for a wife in other countries.
Be gone bot!
Sorry but what’s the point of going to the gym if you’re gonna fast for 2 days a week? You won’t gain mass or muscle doing that
Rejection is what resonated with me in this video. I’ve never been in a serious relationship before, but I have shot my shot and had a chance to be with some amazing attractive women. I wouldn’t trade it despite none of them becoming my partner and I’m going to continue to push forward and get rejected no matter how many times it is. 27 by the way
What a sound and grounded advice. Amazing clip, I'm 32 and I definitely can take a lot from it
If you're close to blacking out, how can you only be 1/3 at your limits? Are you gonna continue running while unconscious?
Immean......
REJECTION AND TAKING RISKS is your friend and the recipe for massive success! Love you prof! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I am an entrepreneur and can confirm that I eat a big spoon of shit every day 🙌
Rejection City, Babbbyyyyy
Yup as a 22 year old guy who takes care of himself, and looks somewhat decent. i can say that the idea of randomly approaching a woman is alien to me. I've also noticed that it's not just the younger people who struggle with this.
A lot of this is because the quality of A LOT of women these days is garbage.
I'm 31 and have wasted my entire life so far. I didn't even have morals or a sense of what a direction is until I was 27. Since then it feels like it's taken everything out of me to completely rewire my brain, and I struggle with it to this day. I feel like my life is over because I've wasted most of my best years doing nothing, building nothing, and having no skills. Now it feels like I'm stuck paying bills in a dead end job with no spare money, time, or energy to make headway into anything that can transform my life.
I'm desperate for change. I'm alone, and I can't imagine a better future for myself. I know people say it's in my mind, but how can I get out of my head when all I see is failure and wasted time in my past? I don't even know what success looks like from my position. I read and watch podcasts hoping to find an answer and transform my thinking, but all I see are young men in their 20s figuring life out, and men in their 30s who have followed a path, acquired skills, and leverage it to do something better. It took my too long to even care about my life, and I have little to show for it. It feels like I have to much to catch up on and little time left to do so.
I guess I'm just a bitch. Every day I think about ending it all, and it takes physical energy for me to fight those thoughts. There is no one around me that I can lean on because I'm surrounded by selfish and toxic people who are just looking for their next fix. I want something more for my life, but I'm not sure I have what it takes to get it. I feel hopeless and alone, and I hate that I'm so weak.
I just had to vent.
I fight back tears daily. I feel like this a lot of the time and I'm sorry you do too. It is not easy. But trying to remember that there's no manual for life helps calm me sometimes. Life isn't over and there's plenty to do. Don't give up on the person you are becoming. You're not alone is this painful situation some of us have found ourselves in.
Same boat
How are you thing now? Any changes?
@ashishbhatta5839 yes and no. Still stuck, but some things are looking better. Only time will tell.
Thinking/ruminating about the past is not going to do anything but hurt you more. The last is don! Forget it! What’s valuable is what you’ve apparently learned! We’re all actually in the same situation. We just all arrived there by different paths. Good luck!
What a load of shit the first advice was, spoken like a true natural born alpha male. Pushing yourself past your limit like working two days non-stop or running till you want to pass out then saying you could have done 200% more can definitely be bad for you. Some people just don't have the god given genetics to do that and burn out is a real problem these days. Now if you were to say that you were using some sort of meditation or epigenetics technique to achieve that then I'm interested.
Second advice about finding a partner is solid stuff though!
Scott is such a classic kook! Love his grumpy takes on modern life... Wish I had nothing but time so I could follow up on them but say la vie. Keep dreaming for the rest of us Scott you'll get there one day!
GET AROUND A LOT OF PEOPLE
Most of this is helpful but the bit about being around people all the time and the necessity of extroversion is such a sad take on modern society and disheartening for an introvert like myself. Most great things in this world are built by introverts. Einstein, Da Vinci, even Elon Musk - all introverts who built their legacies mostly alone. Connections are important but this is clearly the grumblings of a failed Wall Street banker
Any young person watching this, one day you’ll be thinking like I was you had so much time. The next day you’ll wake up and be 30. Life doesn’t give you a break, especially if you are involved in many things. Plan ahead
What the FUCK is so wrong with being 30
20’s people have no faith in the future getting any better because things are so shit for them right now. Income is low, home prices are high, dating is a mess, college debt among other financial issues both due to lack of financial education and self inflicted wounds. A group of people with no hope is going to not be as productive.
So glad I did wrestling in high school. I never really liked it, and I was never very good at it, but I stuck with it. Definitely the hardest thing I did, especially considering I was the only person on the team who also got good grades so I would actually have to go home and do homework after a 3 hour grueling workout.
Wish I wrestled man. Y’all are some bad ass dudes.
He looks like your father probably more than your father looks like your father.
i played safe all my life, barely took any risks. got safe engineering degree, got safe, stable engineering job. now im 40+ years old, making 200K, networth 1 mil+. one of my friends is a risk taker, he got business degree, started several businesses and failed. he is my age, early 40s, his networth is close to zero. i played safe all my life, never took risk, always been w2 employee. i can retire right now if i want to. my risk taking friend cant retire. my life may be boring, but i would do it all over again if i had to start over. risk taking is overrated.
Men of this generation do not take care of themselves physically? Il have to disagree and say they actually spend too much time on their physical these days and not enough time on their financial or social skills. 😂😴
Some of this I can appreciate: get comfortable with rejection, meet as many people as you can, marvel at your strength. There are some aspects I have pause with: push yourself to your brink, get as ahead as you can in your career field, generally the notion that in your 30’s you should build big. I think its about temperance, planning for your happiness in a long-term way, which opposes the notion that you’ve got to risk a ton. “What you do now is who you’ll be then.” If thats true, pushing your limits leaves you at the end of a rope.
I thought the same, not every guy has to be the top dog going 1000% percent, and if you think you do then maybe something is missing, or some childhood trauma that makes you feel like you're never good enough... or not everyone is different.
I also used to take issue with such narratives but now I'm finding that I didn't really have a great understanding of my own limits. In fact, my self-limiting beliefs were holding me back. It might make more sense to consistently push your boundaries and test your limits so you can expand your capacity over time.
Get to a city is the worst advice ive ever heard lmao
I love this guy, he doesn't mince words- lmao he can kill or outrun them, that's exactly how I feel.
Your twenties and 30s are apparently to overwork your body and overwork yourself. I think that people that focus on their bodies fail to realize how important having good mental health is because people with good mental health don't do a 36-hour shift just to show up to compete at work
I would argue that this video is the exact same advice as every other “self help” video and book etc. It’s not bad advice it’s just generic.
Cue:
- Work harder at your career than all your peers.
- Spend all your free time networking.
- Spend all your free time working out.
- Spend all your free time studying.
- Learn to take risks / hustle.
- Master a skill & make money etc.
- Find a great partner.
- Be in a city.
*And what if you found a great partner, bought a big house and then she just left because she didn’t want that life anymore? Do you get rid of the house in the suburbs to go and live back in an apartment in the city for a huge economic loss? What about the literal meme of thousands of gym guys who hate it and are miserable but continue to go because they’ve put their faith in it being a solution to their problems? What about dating in the city - notorious for no one “settling” so perpetual dating and few (or short) relationships? What if you work in one of the main industries banking/law/accounting but you can’t get a break no matter how much you deliver and outperform and network? What if by circumstance not of your choosing you’ve ended up with a child or pet or both etc?
The problem with this generic advice is that it works on paper and really only there. Chance, luck, and circumstance (elements that no one can control) are more important. I have followed and so have all my friends this generic advice to the letter for year - everyone we know is unfulfilled and miserable.
I think he's just saying you should test your limits because you're capable of a lot, especially at that age range. I don't think mental health, physical health and career success are mutually exclusive. From my experience they're connected, if I'm not physically exerting myself my mental health goes to pot.
Amazingly true. Being able to talk to strangers and handle rejection exponentially increases your dating and business opportunities. I know it from personal experience. I have 10x more dating options than my friends and I do great at my job because I am able to do those two things well.
When has Scott faced rejection? He's been silver spooned his whole live, convinced rich Uni's that he's the guru, of what?
Damn dude you're so much cooler than your friends 🔥
The biggest thing I’d add to this list is to realize that ANY of this (aside from getting as big and strong as possible), can be done at ANY age! Not just your 20s and 30s
I don't remember where I heard it, but the person stated that life is lived in chapters, specifically decades. Every chapter has a purpose that will be utilized in the next chapter. For anyone entering their 30's and feeling like they haven't accomplished anything yet, just remember, in your 20's you figured out all the things that you're doing wrong and (hopefully) learned what skills will be necessary to succeed. You have 10 years until this chapter closes and the next opens, so work your ass off and don't close this chapter without truly finding what you're made of. Your 30's are the most wonderful time in life, you made it 30 years, through every hard time life threw at you early. Life was trying to mold you into a person that can attack the day the day with confidence and discipline. Don't be afraid to fail, don't be afraid to say no, and don't be afraid of feeling uncomfortable because with comfort comes complacency and becoming complacent will silently kill your dreams. You'll do just fine and welcome to the best chapter of your life.
this is advice for straight young frustrated males
im 25 and have zero of these problems because im gay and do whatever I want
I started Brazilian ju jitsu this year, just hit my 30s. Rolling on the ground with sweaty strangers (majority men) really forces you out of your comfort zone as a woman. Haven’t found a mate yet, but I’m appreciative of the skills and difficult, yet rewarding challenges it has brought me thus far.
I started at 32 (now 37) after a break up. Best thing to ever happen to me. Made new friends, became physically more fit, made me more disciplined at work (so I could get to train more). Just had my first born to a great partner and next month and getting my purple belt. Good luck on your BJJ journey
He's 100% correct on all of this...except-and here's the caveat-men need to learn how to function at peak efficiency without the presence of a life partner in their lives, nor should they ever expect to find a life partner in this day and age. Men need to learn how be an island; how to stand alone, forever, if necessary, on their own two feet. But if they are determined to find a "life partner" and to have a family at some point, they must also learn, in detail, how to carefully vet any potential mate. Same goes for women, frankly. But for men in this current social era, there are very specific dangers to their emotional, vocational and financial well being if they choose poorly, and they *must* understand this up front.
It's really good advice. You got things you're good at, and you need those. But the biggest improvements come from taking something you're bad at (or just afraid of) and becoming somewhat decent at it, or even good at it eventually. You focus on one at a time, but it compounds and makes everything else easier in the long run. And it doesn't take decades! You can see results in weeks. It's uncomfortable, and you have to be ok with starting small and failing often, but that momentum makes you invincible.
I wish we had skill based matchmaking irl. Eff this social bs, just lemme match with my equals and lemme climb up on pure merit please.
Really appreciate this video. Thank god this showed up on my feed. I wish I can give a meaningful and challenging advice when I am older. As an introvert, I definitely won’t surround myself with strangers everyday but his advice is spot on. Let’s get out there!
He says "advice for people in their 30s" but sounds more like advice for men in their 30s
“Force yourself to go out there” (to socialise). Funny to think people used to meet their future partners in their spare time. Now, people just have three jobs: Their dayjob, the gym, and dating. With the “pay(off)” declining from the former to the latter.
I think these self help videos are really missing the crisis in young people. They all boil down to “exercise more” banal advice. Young people are more and more disconnected from each other and society - this is a time bomb that won’t be solved with this tired old advice
Scott's analysis is 100% right. There are more opportunities in life to be had when running with the pack as opposed to running isolated, as a young person.
I grew up in a rural beach town, left home to go away to college in city of 90,000+, moved to NYC at 24, moved to DC at 27. I still live in DC now. Early on in my time in DC, I remember telling my dad - a retired police chief - that I would rather be living gritty and bar-tending on a Friday night on U Street than running to be the mayor of my home town.
I'm an introvert. Everywhere that I have ever lived, I started small in order to get established. I would go out to bars alone and attempt to strike up conversation with strangers. Sometimes it worked, most times it didn't. I joined organizations which allowed me to meet people, find out my interests, develop new skills, and make great relationships. Doing this opened doors for work; I went from working in a bar, to working in government, to working for a university, to doing contracting, to having my own practice.
Even we introverts need to rub shoulders. It doesn't pay to sit inside all the time, and the pandemic did nothing to help us with that.
What do you do for work?
OK Agreed. Men need to do something. Battle for the things they want. But this boomer just doesn't get it. Economies may not be a zero sum game in the sense of standards of living (e.g. modern poor men live better than rich men of past centuries) but human relations are most definitely a zero sum game. Rich and poor remain in the same percentage precisely because it is a zero sum game. Same for human relations, whether sexual or professional : they are a zero sun game. If some men get far more than their mathematical share, other men remain with nothing. This man thinks that in a rapidly de-industrialised, automated western society men will achieve their goals through hard work and... flrting 1950s style! This is not the 1950s old man! This is the 2020s and we play with different rules.
I won't even get into the professional side of the equation, I will just opt to comment on the flirting side just to prove this old man woefully wrong, proven wrong by the following :
1) Average/median age of first sexual encounter for females (also compared to that of males....)
2) Average/median number of past lovers for women at 20, 25 and 30 years old (also compared to that of males....)
3) STD types and propagation rates for women at 20, 25 and 30 years old (also compared to that of males...)
4) Abortion rates per age range (juxtaposed to rate at which specific men are responsible for abortions)
5) Average age of marriage for women
6) Average age of partner selection-for-marriage by women
The above metrics are totally measurable so we would not even need to get into other behavioural patterns such as the type of mate selection opted by women. A simple look over these basic metrics will show that the majority of women are already destroyed by 18 before they are hitting adulthood. And no, "destroyed" does not refer to losing their virginity as his leftist idiot would rush to complain. If only it was that good! "Destroyed" means literally destroyed, body and mind. When one adds up the statistics it is nearly 3/4s of women who are inherently incapable of entering in a healthy loving monogamous relationship that can lead to a family formation. And for all the talk of propagandists that will try to tell you that "it was always like that", no it wasn't, otherwise there would not exist civilisation. In the past, the inverse was the case, about 3/4s of women were just fine for marriage and 1/4 the unsuitable. Today it is precisely the inverse. Hard word indeed paid off in the past as you had indeed good chances of being rewarded with a faithful loving wife. Not guaranteed but your chances were "good enough" to be worth the effort. Today it all comes down to the "juice not worth the squeeze", thus a favorite phrase of black-pillers. Why? Because even if all men worked hard less than 10% will be eventually rewarded with a decent-enough wife. Not a personal opinion : statistics speak for themselves.
So, do I say the youth should be come black-pilled? LOL! No, not at all. Men should keep trying better their position. But they should do so on the basis of their surrounding environment : the 2020s is not the 1950s, not even the already dodgy 1980s. The game is played under different rules to the point that young men should be suspicious when someone tries to sell them things that were valid in 1950s conditions. "Go flirt with the girls, get yourself a nice girl from Kentucky or something". LOL! Has that old man gone around to see what circulates, yes, even in Kentucky? Does he have a daughter himself? Did he check on her? Was she a virgin at 18 - or at least has she had a normal sex life in ages where she should not be having any anyway? Most probably not. Too bad his own daughter is not going to worth the hassle... As a man he is not in position to give advise. He admits being a leftist, which literally means that he is personally co-responsible for all the problems he finds and highlights.
Im on that path right now. Realizing after couple careful steps that Im a lot of stronger than I thought at first. Slow progress but still progress. Thanks for those inspiring words Scott Galloway, and thank you Chris for piking great and interesting people for the show! +1+1+1+1+1
Im pretty succesful (earn more than aprox 98% ppl in germany) without ever taking huge risks i guess.
And im coming from a bad family background.
But im not happy. What to change?
Dating is indeed a numbers game. I'm always reminded of the King of the Hill episode where Boomhour teaches Bobby hot to get girls. That being said, it's a lot tougher now than it's ever been thanks to social media really messing up women's egos and cranking their hypergamy up to 1,000. It's entirely understandable and reasonable for a lot of guys to decide the juice isn't worth the squeeze. But... if you're maximizing your own attractiveness and doing the work, then you should eventually find someone.
Scott is a beta fish, he blames males for everything, watch his old vids, he hates capitalism.
I think hypergamy gets overrated as a cause in the difficulty of creating relationships. Lots of women are like men in being so paralyzed by fear in basic social interactions that they avoid them, will want to walk away first to avoid ever being rejected, and basically encase themselves in a comfortable prison of loneliness. They want a guy to do all the heavy lifting in a relationship so that their egos are never on the line.
It isn't just men who need to become accustomed to healthy levels of rejection in life!
The juice is indeed worth the squeeze, especially without a woman in their lives.
@@bjensen Reasonable in theory, but that's not reality.
Pushing yourself so hard is probably why you are bald
33 here, I have everything going for me except for the partner. After spending 2 years on dating apps, I have realized the only way I'm going to make a genuine connection is in a social setting, not on a phone. I feel my best after I leave the gym, I'm my most natural, confident and social state. So I will use that to go engage socially with women, in a bar or wherever I end up. My instincts have been urging me to do this for longer than I care to admit but I have just realized in the last month that if I want a mate worth having, then I have to work for it. And that work is pushing myself socially beyond my comfort zone.
This guy is absolutely right.
just wait for robots and AI to get better its not worth it
Lastly: *DON'T GET MARRIED*
There you go _fellas_ , I just saved you years of your life, financial ruin anxiety, depression and stress. 💊
7:54 - I just turned 59 and think like this! Love this line. I may have 25% in me, not everyone anymore. But you still have to think this way no matter how old! And train this way too!
Fast forward if you don't want to be known as that weird guy, never ever approach strangers. Instead, start looking for frequently occurring choosing signals at places you visit frequently, and start slowly. I don't want you to become depressed by the nonsense this guy is spreading.
Thanks fellahs need all the advice I can get working hard at not being crumby.
Like Roberto Bolle and Oksana Chusovitina who are still going strong in their 40s. Just the other day saw a 66 year old with metal in his leg from a motorcycle accident learning to do tucked aerial tumbling for the first time in his life and jumping on his restored leg! ✨
I've recently picked up triathlon and joined a few sports societies as part of that - that's a massive help! Having context around your conversation with strangers makes it so much easier. I join social rides with a cycling community and meat a ton of new people every weekend. Started running with another guy I met at the swimming pool, where I chat with triathletes almost every week. Honestly, as not the most social person, joining a COMMUNITY of some sort gives you the ability to socialise with new people pain-free. Walking up to strangers is definitely more intimidating if you lack context..my 5 cents. It doesn't have to be all that scary and painful.
I'm 33 and feel like i only just began figuring things out in the last 2 years. things are starting to take off in every aspect of my life.
here's a tip for those of you in niche interests where the gender ratio sucks: arrange cool events and invite people - and tell them to bring girlfriends, friends etc. if you take the lead and make things happen, people automatically come interact with you. you're automatically kinda 'the guy' at the event. make good friends with people's girlfriends and they will help you - i had 3 female friends tell me specifically that they wanted to set me up and I'm now dating one of their suggestions - women traditionally always did this and they make better choices than you will.
what I did: I'm a heavy metal fan. our scene had improved but it's still a bit of a sausage fest and the girls are usually all taken. metal people love vinyl records so i started running a house party where people bring records and we take turns playing our music. no smartphones allowed. people love it and it really boosted my social life. it's not even that hard to do but most people don't want to take that initiative
The partner thing is so real. Lots of great gems here overall.
This is was some of the most generic worthless advice anyone could hear. Tell us something we don't already know!
"Keep fit as you age" - Really??
Just turned 30. Good advice. Thank you very much.
I’m 19 and I’m learning all this after I graduated. What he’s saying should be taught in high school