he's absolutely right on this stuff... especially the "dont have a sniper mentality" point; everyone is an opportunity for us to practice outgoingness and "flirting" with the world.
"flirting with the world" is how I live my life. (except on here) Especially with women I don't even find attractive in my day to day. It just helps you get ahead and leave a good impression. Along with the benefits he described.
If one is then hopefully you would've had plenty of practice. Sometimes if they're very attractive, it could be easier to talk to them, because there's not much ambiguity as to why you're speaking with them. Even you can be more genuine because she is genuinely attractive to you.🤣 and she would appreciate the spontaneous authenticity as opposed to a dude presenting a script, which you would more likely be doing if she was average looking. But anyway, practice, practice. My girl broke up with me a week ago, after two years, I'm back in these cold cold streets🤣
I devloped this kind of personality when i started to work as a cashier in Tesco, talked in a a fun way to a lot of woman. And this sticked with me and i don't have any problem approaching even the most beautiful females way above my league. Life is too depressing, we should make fun conversations whenever possible.
1. Be interesting 2. Genuine standards 3. Hold and enjoy sexual tension - Setting a vibe and sharing your values - be curious - Vibe and be outgoing with everyone, don't snipe
Found these points most enlightening 1. Flirtation is world building. 2. A good flirt is capable of creating a pleasant "world" through communication. 3. Flirt with the world. Everyone wants to inhabit a pleasant world!
Even though I’m married, this is still great advice. People in long-term committed relationships still need to take their significant others on dates where the two can just vibe and have fun and charm each other.
With ‘flirting with the world’ he just means to interact with other people even if there’s no sexual/relational interest. So no, I wouldn’t mind it. In fact my partner does that (way better than me). If you’re a more introverted person that’s a really hard thing to do, which is kind of my problem with these tips.
@@herb1563 It is pretty much clear he suggests you do this when you're single. So dunno how you got the conclusion you do this also when you're in a relationship
Ok, here are some practical tips from a straight woman. Feel free to add/disagree.0 1. He's absolutely right about breaking the touch barrier early. My "move" is to walk up to a bloke I like (and usually already know but want to let him know I like him) and give him a shove and walk off. Works every time. If you're going to do that though, be gentle. We're smaller than you lol. A hand touch is nice but I would find someone grabbing my arm way too much. If she's wearing a ring, gently taking her hand to look closely at it works. 2. If it's raining and neither of you have an umbrella, shelter her under your jacket. It's gentlemanly, gets you nice and close to each other and makes for lots of laughs. 3. Other old school gentlemanly stuff is nice like opening doors or even offering an elbow as you walk. We get to serrupticiously feel up your biceps and is another good way of breaking the touch barrier. 4. This one works well at a bar: If you're approaching someone for the first time, standing side-on is much less threatening than face to face (especially if it's crowded) and personally I love a bloke looking down at me out of the corner of his eye. Dunno why. Try a lop sided smile too. 5. The most charismatic people often are the ones who have developed genuine interests and persuits. Go try a quirky hobby. It gets you in the habit of striking up a good rapport with new people and there might even be some good looking women there :) Good luck.
@@Toleich the fish don’t want to get caught if they had a choice they would escape the nets for their lives. Comparing women who do want to be in relationships to fish is apples to oranges.
This is actually genuinely good advice... shame these wannabe 'alphas' are too busy trying to inflate their fragile little egos to take it... more 'fish' for me I guess 🤷😂🙏
Absolutely love the "flirt with the world" idea. I've always thought of flirtation as being strictly sexual, but it's really the foundation of pleasant interaction. Whenever you find yourself in a pleasant social situation, you're usually flirting with a person or a concept. It's a creative process 🤔.
This is absolutely not true, and really a very odd way to view social interactions. Unless, of course, we are going to completely change the definition of the word flirt, which is understood to mean behaving in a way to signal to another person that you are interested in them and you wish to attract them. Flirting is understood to be a precursor to a more intimate relationship. If on vacation I sit down next to a gentleman by the hotel pool and I strike up a conversation about the resort, where I’m from, what I do for a living.. I am not flirting with him in any way shape or form. Am I being friendly? Yes Am I being outgoing? Sure Is there a chance I just popped a Percocet? Of course Am I flirting with him? No, Not even a tiny bit.. And again, unless we are just redefining the word, I find it to be a very bizarre, and somewhat gross way to describe that interaction.
I currently work in customer service. I try to talk and engage in playful conversation with everyone at all times. its been over a month now and it comes so naturally to just flirt with more attractive young ladies now because being flirtatious with everyone makes it as easy as breathing. Not having a sniper mentality is probably the number one key in my opinion. Hes absolutely right
@ralphfurley4217You really think the origin of it is 20 years ago. Everything has been done in human history in some form. Everything is just built on prior knowledge.
I used to get nerves around attractive women, and then i would think to myself "supposing things went well, 6 months in there's things i would start to despise, and things i would take for granted. Why wait six months when i can start now?" The point wasn't to have a bad attitude, but to not absurdly overvalue some stranger because lizard brain and to counter it in a way my brain would genuinely accept. You too can imagine genuinely hating anyone! lol
Or you could just focus on having a good conversation with them, and make that your goal, instead of bringing a negative vibe from imagining you'll hate them eventually.
@@JoseDiaz-rd9fh That is a very stupid dehuman Ising thing to do. Look up Joseph Stalin that is the exact visualization. technique he used to justify murdering millions of people.
Love the idea of “flirting with the world”. I’m 21, and used to be so nervous talking to women. Recently working in a busy restaurant as a host really really helped me with this concept! I’d recommend it to anyone who’s young and looking for a job, and to build their social confidence at the same time. You’re constantly interacting with people from all walks of life, while walking them to their table you can practice your conversational abilities. Great advice.
"Flirting with the world" just makes your day better - and often the other people too (hopefully) chatting to an old lady walking her dog etc. Helps the world go round.
My buddies and I used to start discussing whether 50 trained fighting midgets could beat a tiger in a pit fight. We would then ask nearby women to settle the debate. It generally started a long conversation that broke the ice, and made asking personal questions less uncomfortable. Don't try to drive 55 in first gear. You've got to use all the gears to drive highway speed.
That last piece of advice is GOLD. Don't become someone for the top girls. Become someone for anyone, or rather any situation worth of your time. It comes down to your values. Don't value only sex. Value your time being around others and by yourself. So much more than pleasure only, it's so a tiny glimpse of the spectrum, which unfortunaly tend to obscure the whole set.
I think I need to make a video on this topic myself. The sexiest thing a man ever did for me was come up and introduce himself and shake my hand. Now I'm the type of woman who values old fashionedness, so maybe not every woman will be so appreciative of this type of introduction. But for me, it represented manners, confidence, and sincerity. Three things I deeply value and admire. He had a humility about him too, and he completely captured my attention. I often compare his way to what I'm mostly used to. Men approaching me who immediately launch into a barrage of information about themselves, boasting and bragging, trying to force a good impression and agreeing with everything I say. A combination of arrogance and insincerity that will turn me off the most and quickest.
Many women talk about how much they hate approaches and try to encourage men not to do it at all, and I think the reason is because most men approach badly. A good approach is always at least pleasant for both parties, even if the woman isn’t interested in anything more.
You've never been a man approaching a woman. If you had, you'd know that it has practically nothing to do with what you do or say and everything to do with how you look.
This is a great format: you have the full podcast which you can watch in its completion, or pick a topic from the podcast in separate videos that have specific titles in 10 minute chunks. Perfect for UA-cam’s taste, and for the viewers who like either long or short form content, or perhaps someone who wants to hammer in a topic into their daily mantra.
That last advise is so on point! I know because it's naturally how I am with anyone. And women especially always mention "the vibe". If it's how you normally roll, it's never a stretch!
I have noticed the days i have more conversations with normal people, it warms me up. And so moving forward i am already in the right mindset to talk to people I might otherwise be too cold for. For work, as a delivery guy, i had headphones in a lot and hardly took them out thinking the music helped overcome nerves but it did the opposite. Taking them out and engaging has helped me go from transactional to full attention. So now i warm up and give my attention and it does numbers. This flirting with the world idea is exactly what I experienced in the process.
“2:45” the way he’s broken down sexual tension is really intuitive and interesting. I’ve experienced this a lot but didn’t know how to describe it. Such a great topic to touch on 🎉
I found its actually a lot easier, to pick up women, working in a liquor store than going to bars. It's quieter, so easier to have conversation, the women are are less defensive, plus, you get to meet the introverted bookish nerd girls who spend their weekend at home with video games and a bottle of wine, instead of going to bars.
I've flirted with the world in the past, as an introvert it is absolutely exhausting. The type of girl that attracts would have me exhausted for the rest of my life. The best advice is actually "be yourself", specifically be the best version of yourself. The rich, ripped, interesting worldly version.
It’s easy for him to say: flirt with the world, talk to people, etc. because he has an extroverted personality type, that’s who he is. It’s not who we are.
It doesn’t matter what u do if u don’t believe in yourself. Try something what’s the worse than no is the regret of not knowing if. I learned two years ago the hard way now I must use that regret as motivation. Best of luck to everyone.
Works even better when you have some stong flashlights into their face during that interrogation. Also, waterboarding works well to find out if they are really not interested.
I'll flirt with any man who flirts with me. It's good practice for both of us. I always let them know ASAP that I'm not single, but there are so many nice, confidence building (for the guy) ways to decline his approach... I dunno why women can be so rude or offended if a guy flirts with them. Take the compliment! There will come a time/age when you WISH that someone would flirt with you... or even see you at all. Enjoy life ❤
I knew it! Definitely it's not just the girls that I'm attracted to, but one must be able to be vulnerable. How I like to view people are just as life-forms roaming the Earth, with all their different flavours and spices about them. This way, I've been able to see people just as they are, and not judging them at face value. I just like to also look as tough experiences, not limited to dating, as something that will make me stronger and a better man.
Having standards, sharing your values, your why - these are all great things to apply in business too. Be silly, share values-your why, qualify clients so they sense you might reject them if they aren't a fit for you. Not sure how to translate sexual tension. But being curious in them of course is great.
I remember someone saying men think in yes and no. Women think in maybe. Getting into the maybe playful type of conversation and just having fun is preferable for both the women and you :D
Just enjoy the evening...or what ever you are doing is a good start.... Just ignoring those moment of "empasse" , being comfortable in most of the situations... Being classy, not overdoing it... Being mysterious enough....
I love Charisma On Command! I found it from when he made the 3 vids on Russel Brand and spontaneously being witty. The advice he gives on his channel is dead-on!
Really great tips for spicing up a boring work meeting or gathering of family or friends too. Even just striking up a conversation at the bus stop with the right energy can be an awesome part of your day and others'
Who ever said “1st base is kissing” got it wrong and I think a lot of people have been mislead by this growing up and taking into adult hood.. first base is eye contact/talking, second base is touching, kissing is at least 3rd. Every time I’ve ever hooked up at a club there was plenty of touching before kissing I’ve always found this to be so much more comfortable
At this point it’s a carrot on a stick. Tinder throttles your searches and how much you’re seen based on how much money you give them it’s like yo, mother fucker this is my community stop telling me who I can date lol
Wow he provided a tonne of tangible examples and explained himself in a concise fashion, this was very informative ! At the end he brought up "sniper" type men, which I strongly identify with as I'm an introvert that is really productive. I have no inclination to flirt with the world, and to have it turned on all the time would be exhausting. My question is if being/acting extroverted is the only way to get women and their attention ? Talking and flirting with women comes very easy to me, my biggest difficulty is being able to do this with total strangers. If it's a girl in my class or at work it's easy, but talking to the cute barista or girl in the library seems so daunting.
As someone who "identified as an introvert" for years, I can say you just need to do it more. Try to chat up your cashier, waiter/ess, the random retail store worker. It is a muscle, the more you do it, the less effort it takes. You aren't stuck being "socially exhausted" after every conversation; you can and should change that.
I’m the same way, it comes easy with people I know but doing it with strangers is difficult sometimes. But the best way to get better at it is to do it. You don’t get better at something without practicing. It’s like being a comedian. Bill burr talks about how when he first started he’d go on stage and completely bomb and get booed off. But once you start getting those laughs and cheers you build confidence. Same thing with talking to strangers. Once you have some positive interactions then you start to get confident, and people notice. After that it’s easy
I hope someone sees this but when it was talked about flirting with everyone a) I figured out this on my own (I'm just trying to be a more charismatic person as a whole) b) once I came to this conclusion I found it's just fun. I honestly look forward to talking to the cashier because it makes my day better. One thing I do what to point out is, It really helps to not be afraid of people and I am not. Since childhood I have had little problems interacting with people (the times I had problems I wasn't being sincere/self confidence was low).
This is so true. It takes lots of-uncomfortable-practice. Women love real charm (and no you don’t have to look perfect). The least attractive thing is unfortunately self-pity…
@@juliawinsa4260 How about stop being so condescending and disrespectful to him. He's just expressing his opinion, and he's right. Women have it so easy when it comes to dating and sex. They do nothing, have all the action come to them, and never get rejected. Men have to do everything, only to get shot down by all you ENTITLED women. We don't want to hear how you women all want equality with men, yet continue to passively behave as if you all are living in the Victorian era. You want equality? Then start approaching men and asking us out, instead of using shaming language and ridiculing men by calling us bitter. After you've been rejected a few dozen times in your life then we'll talk and see how empathetic you are towards men.
@@paulgiarmo3628 but BUT, it's exactly this attitude that makes women not want to approach you RIIIGHTTT? No, it's how you look. Being a suave charmer is hella important above a (pretty high) appearance threshold, but saying the exact same shit in the exact same manner as a guy who doesn't have a Hollywood-like smile and body, like both of the guys in the podcast do, will net a far less enthusiastic response. If online threads have thought me anything, it's that women are fucking X-men who can read self pity and low confidence "a mile away", yet they can't read that the chad she's grinding on doesn't give a single fuck about a relationship or commitment. That part always comes as a surprise it seems.
Be yourself and actively listen. As long as it’s real life that’s pretty much it. This isn’t how to get any woman. But if there’s chemistry. This is your best chance.
As a guy who was 10 years out and gaming girls as a sport and is now in a relationship this man is 100% right with everything he said. And also thank you for this reminder that I should flirt more with my girl and not allow the everyday work to beat me down.
I used to be a "sniper" ...obv without the "snipe effect" and about 9 month ago i started forcing myself to have converstions (and trying to enjoy them) with literally everybody. Made awesome new friends since them, got a few dating opportunities from real life AND when i think about engaging into a conversation with a cute girl on the street or whereever... not that scary any more...In general, people really dont mind being talked to.
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I know tons of average guys who SLAY because they're charismatic and I've got good looking mates who don't do anywhere near as well because they can't communicate
@@ChrisWillx it’s true but we shouldn’t be out there ‘slaying’ because it’s degrading to both men and women. I k ow you’re not promoting this way of life but I feel like it needs to be said anyway
@@timofaust1315 I believe the most attractive height is really about 6 to 6'1. It starts to drop already at about 6'2½, not to below average extends but pushing the 2 meter mark makes men look lanky skinny, fragile, especially if they don't work out, even if they do but aren't super serious about it. Other than that attractiveness is just first impressions. If you're a boring or non sympathetic, unconfident person looks won't matter much once you get to know one another, at least not when it comes to building meaningful long-term relationships. ALSO I'm getting very sick of all these doomer type people pretending that looks are all genetic when you can always look more attractive and it's not even hard. The best reason to improve your physical appearance is for self confidence boosts. Can't deny that finances aren't important. It goes back to female nature wanting a man that can care for her and her offspring. More important than being rich is being active though, female nature despises inactivity in men and being unemployed usually doesn't come with a lot of activity and initiative
We need to get back to commitment. Love and sex should not be frivolous. Back to enforced monogamy and no sex before marriage. Broken families destabilize society
There’s more creative ways to promote stronger family based communities. You gotta have sex with people to know if you still like them after 3 months - wtf?
Easiest way is to just start trying with the mindset of reality that for most men its a numbers game. If yiu reflect some you will be able to learn as you go.
im naturally a good talker, i love telling stories and even other people stories. I'll have some beers with my friends and I end up having conversations with waitresses or hair dressers and my friends look at me like why didnt you ask her number she totally is into you. I tend to flirt without even realizing it and i cant get a clue if shes into me or not.
Life changing about those sniper guys and flirting with the world I was like that too, you have to be able to talk to anyone and make a lasting conversation out of anything and to do that you have to be a certain type of person
“The mystery method” is the book where he probably got this from. The author Eric is a genius n will teach you all that and much more in an interesting and fun way
I never knew how to hook up with women until I was facing a 5 to life for Robbery. I'd tell them too. It's easy to know what you want when everything is taken from you. My lady and I date each other every day. Been 3 years now and I still feel giggity everyday. Everyone deserves love.
When I was in a "flirt with the world" mood at a party I got a date from a hot girl (unfortunately when we were by ourselves I was not able to be in the same mood, neither was she, so it did not lead anywhere) and the second time the interest from another one - It was like the first times I was behaving like that in years, so I would say that's very good advice.
Chad's don't flirt, that's a woman's game. Also, attraction should be genuine, not rehearsed. Any situation in which a potential relationship depends entirely on your first and only interaction is worthless and momentary. Remember boys, stay focused and the right lady will come along.
My friend and i a few years back were asked to drink with two guys, one immediately sat close to me on a booth and the other sat closer to my friend (the booths were separate but next to each other). The one that sat opposite me looked like a male model with a tight shirt admiring his pecs and his rolex and smiling at me. Very American Psycho but with zero conversation. He said absolutely nothing as I tried to engage in any conversation but just smiled at me. I tried everything I could think of to spark conversation but i thought leading with his rolex or his muscles was frankly a bit tacky. My friend whispered that she really liked him (the one sitting opposite me) but as I overheard their conversation, i wanted to talk to the chap who was talking to her (this guy's friend), a shorter, funnier, less muscley and just appeared more interesting. After about 20 mins I smiled and said, I think I'm going to go, have a nice evening and went over to tell my friend. She was absolutely stunned and said "How could you, he looked like a young Ricky Martin". I replied, " yes, he's good looking but I had absolutely no conversation with him and I didn't know what else to do". I don't think this chap was crushed but he also a bit taken aback that I wasn't just falling over him. He just wasn't my type.
@@tinamenon1593 I'm a guy who fit into that mold for a long time... been working out for 10 years, make over $100k for as long as I can remember with all the trappings. I thought girls would just fall all over me. Boy, was I wrong. I actually had better success when I was broke and in college! Luckily I realized in time to just be a regular person and try to make others around me comfortable. All the extra things are just a plus/cement the deal.
@@MrTwoFox good for you, and im sure both physical attractiveness with an aggreable personality has and will continue to draw many people to you. There was always a part of me that felt a bit rude for just leaving him but I felt uncomfortable at the whole situation. Some women, more introverted & intelligent, simply hate the whole businesses of being hit on or picked up. We might like going with our friends but with absolutely no interest in meeting men for the sake of it. It feels like a forced transaction and you can't hold a good conversation in a nightclub or bar. Even dating now is enjoyable but slightly cringeworthy if the whole business of looks is brought up. I always fell in love with men who were patient and empathetic enough to be my friend first with absolutely no pressure of sex. The entire Manosphere would erupt in rage at that and yes I always loved both the idea of family and a good analytical career.
look for Mystery's old videos from the early 2000's, i think. Mystery was a true pioneer and made the very same points with far more cogency, charisma, and thrust. His technique was known as the Mystery Method.
Hate to admit it but i definitely fall into that sniper category.. lol. Im always overthinking and shy and feel entitled to a good woman for no logical reason. Im going to really start working on breaking out of this and learn to make pleasant conversations with anyone i can. Thanks for the good advice
I was a little straightforward with my conversation style usually and that resulted in a lot of quiet moments where I ran out of things to say. Once I switched it up to have more easygoing/flirty filler stuff it became a bit easy
When he explains it all it sounds a lot like grooming behavior. Lots of little steps moving towards getting closer. He's right though and good points about creating tension and not escaping it with humor.
That's probably because grooming is founded on the same principles of engaging someone and gently eroding the walls and boundaries between the two of you, except where with flirting it serves the purpose of organically leading the exchange into sex once both people are actually engaged and interested in one another, grooming is super predatory because you're concealing your intent until you've got the other person hooked in and once there are no boundaries between you, everything is permissible. It's a relationship founded on false grounds where you hold all the agency because you're controlling the other person through guilt and shame and other shitty mind games, and make sure they can't escape by getting them dependant on you, usually by getting them cut off from their friends until you're the only one.
I don't ever flirt, I don't see a utility for it. Rather just have fun, make jokes, ask interesting questions to hear someone's genuine opinion and invite them to be authentic with me. Literally attracting a human being is not that much different than attracting a cat. Once an opportunity arises I'll ask a woman on a date who I am already friends with.
@@yo_its_devo Makes sense, I think I just don't focus on flirting or trying to get a date at all, it's a distraction that makes the situation unnatural. Unfortunately women are sensitive to this and see it as an ulterior motive like men are predators rather than as an innocent thing that is perfectly normal. I think this is reinforced by the way some men have this goal in mind of trying to play the right moves to get a date. If the woman senses it as a game or strategy, it "ruins the magic", it "reveals the magician's tricks". Me not caring whatsoever doesn't send the ulterior motive signal, and simultaneously shows the woman I'm confident, rather than walking on eggshells around her. It works particularly well with women who are ready to treat any man with suspicion; I won't give any attention to that sour attitude. But will treat her well still.
@@anewagora very true. However just like any skill, in order to improve you have to go through a period where you deliberately make an effort. Only after lots of practice do things become natural. For some people who didn't develop good social skills when they were younger, it's worth going through the awkward unnatural phase.
Cats like calm, grounded people who are kind and know how to approach them without touching them or invading their space too early. In that context, your strategy applied to women is accurate
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he's absolutely right on this stuff... especially the "dont have a sniper mentality" point; everyone is an opportunity for us to practice outgoingness and "flirting" with the world.
"flirting with the world" is how I live my life. (except on here) Especially with women I don't even find attractive in my day to day. It just helps you get ahead and leave a good impression. Along with the benefits he described.
....well...I would tend to agree....
😏...but what if one is?🤔
If one is then hopefully you would've had plenty of practice. Sometimes if they're very attractive, it could be easier to talk to them, because there's not much ambiguity as to why you're speaking with them. Even you can be more genuine because she is genuinely attractive to you.🤣 and she would appreciate the spontaneous authenticity as opposed to a dude presenting a script, which you would more likely be doing if she was average looking. But anyway, practice, practice. My girl broke up with me a week ago, after two years, I'm back in these cold cold streets🤣
@@Sakattack2023 bruh.....please don’t flirt with me......
Plz 😂
I devloped this kind of personality when i started to work as a cashier in Tesco, talked in a a fun way to a lot of woman. And this sticked with me and i don't have any problem approaching even the most beautiful females way above my league. Life is too depressing, we should make fun conversations whenever possible.
1. Be interesting
2. Genuine standards
3. Hold and enjoy sexual tension
- Setting a vibe and sharing your values
- be curious
- Vibe and be outgoing with everyone, don't snipe
If anyone is struggling to be interesting: Be interested in a topic you enjoy, and others will empathize with you.
@@ainzooalgown1364 What if i enjoy like 50 different topics?
@@jerkkub choose those, that will probably interest her most
@@ainzooalgown1364 What if I enjoy electric cars and biotech?
@@thewaysh Go to electric car and biotech seminars and conferences...
Found these points most enlightening
1. Flirtation is world building.
2. A good flirt is capable of creating a pleasant "world" through communication.
3. Flirt with the world. Everyone wants to inhabit a pleasant world!
Stupid conversation from a stupid man that was born wealthy, never had to fight for anything. isnt short. isnt ugly. and a completely fake persona
Even though I’m married, this is still great advice. People in long-term committed relationships still need to take their significant others on dates where the two can just vibe and have fun and charm each other.
If your partner were ‘flirting with the world’ would you be fine with that or would it be cause for concern?
With ‘flirting with the world’ he just means to interact with other people even if there’s no sexual/relational interest. So no, I wouldn’t mind it. In fact my partner does that (way better than me). If you’re a more introverted person that’s a really hard thing to do, which is kind of my problem with these tips.
Married and watching a video on how to rizz
@@herb1563 It is pretty much clear he suggests you do this when you're single. So dunno how you got the conclusion you do this also when you're in a relationship
What does vibe mean?
Ok, here are some practical tips from a straight woman. Feel free to add/disagree.0
1. He's absolutely right about breaking the touch barrier early. My "move" is to walk up to a bloke I like (and usually already know but want to let him know I like him) and give him a shove and walk off. Works every time. If you're going to do that though, be gentle. We're smaller than you lol. A hand touch is nice but I would find someone grabbing my arm way too much. If she's wearing a ring, gently taking her hand to look closely at it works.
2. If it's raining and neither of you have an umbrella, shelter her under your jacket. It's gentlemanly, gets you nice and close to each other and makes for lots of laughs.
3. Other old school gentlemanly stuff is nice like opening doors or even offering an elbow as you walk. We get to serrupticiously feel up your biceps and is another good way of breaking the touch barrier.
4. This one works well at a bar: If you're approaching someone for the first time, standing side-on is much less threatening than face to face (especially if it's crowded) and personally I love a bloke looking down at me out of the corner of his eye. Dunno why. Try a lop sided smile too.
5. The most charismatic people often are the ones who have developed genuine interests and persuits. Go try a quirky hobby. It gets you in the habit of striking up a good rapport with new people and there might even be some good looking women there :)
Good luck.
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If you want to catch more fish, don't take advice from a fish. Talk to the fisherman.
I disagree.......
With the idea that us men NEED a woman’s advice 😂✌️🇺🇸
@@Toleich the fish don’t want to get caught if they had a choice they would escape the nets for their lives. Comparing women who do want to be in relationships to fish is apples to oranges.
This is actually genuinely good advice... shame these wannabe 'alphas' are too busy trying to inflate their fragile little egos to take it... more 'fish' for me I guess 🤷😂🙏
Absolutely love the "flirt with the world" idea. I've always thought of flirtation as being strictly sexual, but it's really the foundation of pleasant interaction. Whenever you find yourself in a pleasant social situation, you're usually flirting with a person or a concept. It's a creative process 🤔.
This is absolutely not true, and really a very odd way to view social interactions. Unless, of course, we are going to completely change the definition of the word flirt, which is understood to mean behaving in a way to signal to another person that you are interested in them and you wish to attract them. Flirting is understood to be a precursor to a more intimate relationship.
If on vacation I sit down next to a gentleman by the hotel pool and I strike up a conversation about the resort, where I’m from, what I do for a living.. I am not flirting with him in any way shape or form.
Am I being friendly? Yes
Am I being outgoing? Sure
Is there a chance I just popped a Percocet? Of course
Am I flirting with him? No, Not even a tiny bit..
And again, unless we are just redefining the word, I find it to be a very bizarre, and somewhat gross way to describe that interaction.
Read the way of the superior men, if this concept interests you
@@zerodarkthirty703 I'm sorry what you said was bs
@@jamesmarsden7111 yeah.. why is that? What did say that is false or misleading?
@@zerodarkthirty703 sounds like you have no desire to come off as a charismatic person.
Charisma On Command has legitimately changed my life for the better. I owe so much to this dude.
I currently work in customer service. I try to talk and engage in playful conversation with everyone at all times. its been over a month now and it comes so naturally to just flirt with more attractive young ladies now because being flirtatious with everyone makes it as easy as breathing. Not having a sniper mentality is probably the number one key in my opinion. Hes absolutely right
"Flirt with the world." So true. Definitely makes you more attractive to anyone witnessing it as well. Masterclass. Thank you!
@Ralph Furley and?
@ralphfurley4217Well most people still don't do it so a reminder is probably warranted.
@ralphfurley4217You really think the origin of it is 20 years ago. Everything has been done in human history in some form. Everything is just built on prior knowledge.
I used to get nerves around attractive women, and then i would think to myself "supposing things went well, 6 months in there's things i would start to despise, and things i would take for granted. Why wait six months when i can start now?"
The point wasn't to have a bad attitude, but to not absurdly overvalue some stranger because lizard brain and to counter it in a way my brain would genuinely accept. You too can imagine genuinely hating anyone! lol
I feel like I need to continue letting this soak in. All these 10s walking around out here with perfect lives and perfect souls lol
@@danfontaine8179 Imagine them taking a dump. Yes it stinks too
Or you could just focus on having a good conversation with them, and make that your goal, instead of bringing a negative vibe from imagining you'll hate them eventually.
@@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559 cool
@@JoseDiaz-rd9fh That is a very stupid dehuman Ising thing to do. Look up Joseph Stalin that is the exact visualization. technique he used to justify murdering millions of people.
Love the idea of “flirting with the world”. I’m 21, and used to be so nervous talking to women. Recently working in a busy restaurant as a host really really helped me with this concept! I’d recommend it to anyone who’s young and looking for a job, and to build their social confidence at the same time. You’re constantly interacting with people from all walks of life, while walking them to their table you can practice your conversational abilities. Great advice.
"Flirting with the world" just makes your day better - and often the other people too (hopefully) chatting to an old lady walking her dog etc. Helps the world go round.
Flirt with the world. What a powerful message put so succinctly. I'mma embody this.
How’s it been so far?
I'm not sure that's such a good idea.
@@ebsss100clearly not very well.
My buddies and I used to start discussing whether 50 trained fighting midgets could beat a tiger in a pit fight. We would then ask nearby women to settle the debate. It generally started a long conversation that broke the ice, and made asking personal questions less uncomfortable. Don't try to drive 55 in first gear. You've got to use all the gears to drive highway speed.
That last piece of advice is GOLD. Don't become someone for the top girls. Become someone for anyone, or rather any situation worth of your time. It comes down to your values. Don't value only sex. Value your time being around others and by yourself. So much more than pleasure only, it's so a tiny glimpse of the spectrum, which unfortunaly tend to obscure the whole set.
I think I need to make a video on this topic myself. The sexiest thing a man ever did for me was come up and introduce himself and shake my hand. Now I'm the type of woman who values old fashionedness, so maybe not every woman will be so appreciative of this type of introduction. But for me, it represented manners, confidence, and sincerity. Three things I deeply value and admire. He had a humility about him too, and he completely captured my attention.
I often compare his way to what I'm mostly used to. Men approaching me who immediately launch into a barrage of information about themselves, boasting and bragging, trying to force a good impression and agreeing with everything I say. A combination of arrogance and insincerity that will turn me off the most and quickest.
Many women talk about how much they hate approaches and try to encourage men not to do it at all, and I think the reason is because most men approach badly. A good approach is always at least pleasant for both parties, even if the woman isn’t interested in anything more.
You've never been a man approaching a woman. If you had, you'd know that it has practically nothing to do with what you do or say and everything to do with how you look.
You shoupd make that video, really good topic.
@@ultrafly100u mean being unattractive?
@@kaim8115No. He means not approaching like he sees this potential lover as a blow up doll instead of a fellow human being.
I genuinely like this guest.
You could say he's pretty charismatic
@@lookinforhumanz7640 the fact he’s a sexy guy means nothing?
🥴🤢🤮
This is a great format: you have the full podcast which you can watch in its completion, or pick a topic from the podcast in separate videos that have specific titles in 10 minute chunks. Perfect for UA-cam’s taste, and for the viewers who like either long or short form content, or perhaps someone who wants to hammer in a topic into their daily mantra.
Yes, the format that every UA-cam podcast employs.
That last advise is so on point! I know because it's naturally how I am with anyone. And women especially always mention "the vibe". If it's how you normally roll, it's never a stretch!
I have noticed the days i have more conversations with normal people, it warms me up. And so moving forward i am already in the right mindset to talk to people I might otherwise be too cold for. For work, as a delivery guy, i had headphones in a lot and hardly took them out thinking the music helped overcome nerves but it did the opposite. Taking them out and engaging has helped me go from transactional to full attention. So now i warm up and give my attention and it does numbers. This flirting with the world idea is exactly what I experienced in the process.
“2:45” the way he’s broken down sexual tension is really intuitive and interesting. I’ve experienced this a lot but didn’t know how to describe it. Such a great topic to touch on 🎉
Those last lines from the video are gold💯👏 flirt with the world, and have patterns of communication that are habituated in that way
I found its actually a lot easier, to pick up women, working in a liquor store than going to bars. It's quieter, so easier to have conversation, the women are are less defensive, plus, you get to meet the introverted bookish nerd girls who spend their weekend at home with video games and a bottle of wine, instead of going to bars.
Plus you get paid
Ah the alchoes
giga chad move
Don't go to bars. Be the Barman. They come to you.
Location matters a lot lol
The world-building thing is SO on the nose. Perfect.
not having to always crack a joke when there is sexual tension is really hard to achieve, but is a really good point
I've flirted with the world in the past, as an introvert it is absolutely exhausting. The type of girl that attracts would have me exhausted for the rest of my life.
The best advice is actually "be yourself", specifically be the best version of yourself. The rich, ripped, interesting worldly version.
It’s easy for him to say: flirt with the world, talk to people, etc. because he has an extroverted personality type, that’s who he is. It’s not who we are.
It doesn’t matter what u do if u don’t believe in yourself. Try something what’s the worse than no is the regret of not knowing if. I learned two years ago the hard way now I must use that regret as motivation. Best of luck to everyone.
My two cents:
1) Be comfortable in your own skin
2) Have something interesting to say
3) Be interested in what she has to say
4) Enjoy the interaction
Constantly asking “why”? after a simple question is a good way to keep a conversation going and to better connect with someone as well I’ve learned
Works even better when you have some stong flashlights into their face during that interrogation. Also, waterboarding works well to find out if they are really not interested.
‘Why’ makes us defensive. It’s way better to ask ‘what about that is x y z to you?’ Use the words they chose
Why?
I'll flirt with any man who flirts with me.
It's good practice for both of us. I always let them know ASAP that I'm not single, but there are so many nice, confidence building (for the guy) ways to decline his approach... I dunno why women can be so rude or offended if a guy flirts with them. Take the compliment! There will come a time/age when you WISH that someone would flirt with you... or even see you at all. Enjoy life ❤
Sorry, this life thing is being replaced
Why do you need the practice if you're not single?
@@mike4179 the ability to interact with people is an important skill.
Life isn't black and white.
You shouldn't do that.
Not if you have a fucking boyfriend.
You should politely let them know you're taken.
@@mike4179 she's a woman. Most women need attention from men to build their self esteem
I knew it! Definitely it's not just the girls that I'm attracted to, but one must be able to be vulnerable.
How I like to view people are just as life-forms roaming the Earth, with all their different flavours and spices about them. This way, I've been able to see people just as they are, and not judging them at face value. I just like to also look as tough experiences, not limited to dating, as something that will make me stronger and a better man.
Having standards, sharing your values, your why - these are all great things to apply in business too. Be silly, share values-your why,
qualify clients so they sense you might reject them if they aren't a fit for you. Not sure how to translate sexual tension. But being curious in them of course is great.
I remember someone saying men think in yes and no. Women think in maybe. Getting into the maybe playful type of conversation and just having fun is preferable for both the women and you :D
Just enjoy the evening...or what ever you are doing is a good start....
Just ignoring those moment of "empasse" , being comfortable in most of the situations...
Being classy, not overdoing it...
Being mysterious enough....
Bruh just whip it out.....
Worst case she says no 😂
@@Macheako ...brooo.🤣🤣🤣...
Well this is after the proposal of a "coffee "...and the traditional..." I am not doing it normally..."
...and why not?
@@robgoodsight6216 hahaha 😂 hell yea
I love Charisma On Command! I found it from when he made the 3 vids on Russel Brand and spontaneously being witty.
The advice he gives on his channel is dead-on!
Their podcast is even better
Really great tips for spicing up a boring work meeting or gathering of family or friends too. Even just striking up a conversation at the bus stop with the right energy can be an awesome part of your day and others'
Who ever said “1st base is kissing” got it wrong and I think a lot of people have been mislead by this growing up and taking into adult hood.. first base is eye contact/talking, second base is touching, kissing is at least 3rd. Every time I’ve ever hooked up at a club there was plenty of touching before kissing I’ve always found this to be so much more comfortable
He gives an example of two people dating if they match online… most men can’t even get a quality match.
At this point it’s a carrot on a stick. Tinder throttles your searches and how much you’re seen based on how much money you give them it’s like yo, mother fucker this is my community stop telling me who I can date lol
Facts
This was the best video I have seen on this topic. Useful, practical and relevant advice.
Bro on the left was FOCUSED at 5:12
Wow he provided a tonne of tangible examples and explained himself in a concise fashion, this was very informative ! At the end he brought up "sniper" type men, which I strongly identify with as I'm an introvert that is really productive. I have no inclination to flirt with the world, and to have it turned on all the time would be exhausting.
My question is if being/acting extroverted is the only way to get women and their attention ?
Talking and flirting with women comes very easy to me, my biggest difficulty is being able to do this with total strangers. If it's a girl in my class or at work it's easy, but talking to the cute barista or girl in the library seems so daunting.
As someone who "identified as an introvert" for years, I can say you just need to do it more. Try to chat up your cashier, waiter/ess, the random retail store worker.
It is a muscle, the more you do it, the less effort it takes. You aren't stuck being "socially exhausted" after every conversation; you can and should change that.
I’m the same way, it comes easy with people I know but doing it with strangers is difficult sometimes. But the best way to get better at it is to do it. You don’t get better at something without practicing. It’s like being a comedian. Bill burr talks about how when he first started he’d go on stage and completely bomb and get booed off. But once you start getting those laughs and cheers you build confidence. Same thing with talking to strangers. Once you have some positive interactions then you start to get confident, and people notice. After that it’s easy
I hope someone sees this but when it was talked about flirting with everyone a) I figured out this on my own (I'm just trying to be a more charismatic person as a whole) b) once I came to this conclusion I found it's just fun. I honestly look forward to talking to the cashier because it makes my day better. One thing I do what to point out is, It really helps to not be afraid of people and I am not. Since childhood I have had little problems interacting with people (the times I had problems I wasn't being sincere/self confidence was low).
"flirt with the world" is a good legit advice
This is so true. It takes lots of-uncomfortable-practice. Women love real charm (and no you don’t have to look perfect).
The least attractive thing is unfortunately self-pity…
😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑 I never listen to women....cause y’all say things like this 😂
@@Macheako is there bitterness behind those distrustful and crying happy smileys?
Putting all women in one box will sure do that to you.
@@juliawinsa4260 nah.....I just legit don’t think I NEED y’alls advice to live my life.....
So far.....I been right 🤣
@@juliawinsa4260 How about stop being so condescending and disrespectful to him. He's just expressing his opinion, and he's right.
Women have it so easy when it comes to dating and sex. They do nothing, have all the action come to them, and never get rejected. Men have to do everything, only to get shot down by all you ENTITLED women.
We don't want to hear how you women all want equality with men, yet continue to passively behave as if you all are living in the Victorian era. You want equality? Then start approaching men and asking us out, instead of using shaming language and ridiculing men by calling us bitter. After you've been rejected a few dozen times in your life then we'll talk and see how empathetic you are towards men.
@@paulgiarmo3628 but BUT, it's exactly this attitude that makes women not want to approach you RIIIGHTTT? No, it's how you look.
Being a suave charmer is hella important above a (pretty high) appearance threshold, but saying the exact same shit in the exact same manner as a guy who doesn't have a Hollywood-like smile and body, like both of the guys in the podcast do, will net a far less enthusiastic response.
If online threads have thought me anything, it's that women are fucking X-men who can read self pity and low confidence "a mile away", yet they can't read that the chad she's grinding on doesn't give a single fuck about a relationship or commitment. That part always comes as a surprise it seems.
That eye contact is what made me lean in for the first kiss. My man gave me that approval with his eyes. It was magical 😌
Be yourself and actively listen. As long as it’s real life that’s pretty much it. This isn’t how to get any woman. But if there’s chemistry. This is your best chance.
As a guy who was 10 years out and gaming girls as a sport and is now in a relationship this man is 100% right with everything he said. And also thank you for this reminder that I should flirt more with my girl and not allow the everyday work to beat me down.
I used to be a "sniper" ...obv without the "snipe effect" and about 9 month ago i started forcing myself to have converstions (and trying to enjoy them) with literally everybody.
Made awesome new friends since them, got a few dating opportunities from real life AND when i think about engaging into a conversation with a cute girl on the street or whereever... not that scary any more...In general, people really dont mind being talked to.
Astonishing! Just WOW to your videos! Definitely will share this video with my friends. Also, I’ll share a product Spanish Fly natural aphrodisiacs with them because my sex experience was unbelievable! I’m really excited about all the effects 🔥.
my boyfriend jack wanted me to be better in bed. haha jack and how? and out. of the blue your comment. thx to it he didn't break up with me luckily
flirting with the world is the best way i can think of to put it, bravo
Some good advice in here… Coming from two beautifully symmetrical people.
1 - Be handsome
2 - Don’t be Ugly
3 - Avoid to do 1 and 2
Ty for the lol
You missed the point of the video
Instructions unclear. Should one avoid being handsome and avoid not being ugly?
How to confidently flirt with women? Answer: be good looking.
I know tons of average guys who SLAY because they're charismatic and I've got good looking mates who don't do anywhere near as well because they can't communicate
@@ChrisWillx it’s true but we shouldn’t be out there ‘slaying’ because it’s degrading to both men and women. I k ow you’re not promoting this way of life but I feel like it needs to be said anyway
@@ChrisWillx Maybe have these "magical average looking guys" on the podcast?
Well, I don't think it works. Sometimes might be bad to be too good looking. Just you know
My boss is a great communicator, good shape, intelligent and makes tons of money but can’t get a woman because he’s a short Asian.
Good job female that joke was great! Here's a hug 😂
1. Be handsome
2. Don't be unattractive
3. All of the above
😂
Bonuspoints for being higher than 6`6 and having a six figure income ;)
@@timofaust1315 I believe the most attractive height is really about 6 to 6'1. It starts to drop already at about 6'2½, not to below average extends but pushing the 2 meter mark makes men look lanky skinny, fragile, especially if they don't work out, even if they do but aren't super serious about it.
Other than that attractiveness is just first impressions. If you're a boring or non sympathetic, unconfident person looks won't matter much once you get to know one another, at least not when it comes to building meaningful long-term relationships. ALSO I'm getting very sick of all these doomer type people pretending that looks are all genetic when you can always look more attractive and it's not even hard. The best reason to improve your physical appearance is for self confidence boosts.
Can't deny that finances aren't important. It goes back to female nature wanting a man that can care for her and her offspring. More important than being rich is being active though, female nature despises inactivity in men and being unemployed usually doesn't come with a lot of activity and initiative
We need to get back to commitment. Love and sex should not be frivolous. Back to enforced monogamy and no sex before marriage. Broken families destabilize society
@@easter_sunday it will happen. Everything will have to fall apart first, but I am raising my kids this way because it’s the right way to live
@@easter_sunday unfortunately so
Even if we do, this is still good advice to take to heart. You don't have to end up in a committed relationship that is also boring and loveless.
@@easter_sunday soyciety lmao
There’s more creative ways to promote stronger family based communities. You gotta have sex with people to know if you still like them after 3 months - wtf?
This is exactly what ive had to learn over the last decade.. best advice ever!
Easiest way is to just start trying with the mindset of reality that for most men its a numbers game. If yiu reflect some you will be able to learn as you go.
You get confident when you look like these guys 😂
Firstly and most importantly, be attractive to them. Everything after that is practice.
Sounds like an excuse to never try ngl
@@Bozowomp Nope. Just try in the right direction, and it'll get a lot easier.
im naturally a good talker, i love telling stories and even other people stories. I'll have some beers with my friends and I end up having conversations with waitresses or hair dressers and my friends look at me like why didnt you ask her number she totally is into you. I tend to flirt without even realizing it and i cant get a clue if shes into me or not.
Life changing about those sniper guys and flirting with the world I was like that too, you have to be able to talk to anyone and make a lasting conversation out of anything and to do that you have to be a certain type of person
“The mystery method” is the book where he probably got this from. The author Eric is a genius n will teach you all that and much more in an interesting and fun way
Fellow northener. Haway the lads! Proud of you for doing what you do
I never knew how to hook up with women until I was facing a 5 to life for Robbery. I'd tell them too. It's easy to know what you want when everything is taken from you. My lady and I date each other every day. Been 3 years now and I still feel giggity everyday. Everyone deserves love.
I have never once heard #3 on that list. That's simple yet clever thinking.
Step 1: Be good looking.
Step 2: See Step 1.
When I was in a "flirt with the world" mood at a party I got a date from a hot girl (unfortunately when we were by ourselves I was not able to be in the same mood, neither was she, so it did not lead anywhere) and the second time the interest from another one - It was like the first times I was behaving like that in years, so I would say that's very good advice.
This is the most attractive I’ve seen Charlie
One principe. It's money. 100%
LMAO so hard "By the power of GraySkull ..." 😂 !!
Great insight, guys!!! Thank you
This would have been great advice 10 years ago 😊
Any recommendations on women flirting with men? How do we approach men?
It does help to be stunningly beatiful, and have this guys voice.
1- be attractive 2- be attractive 3- be attractive … to not state that you’re looks dictate womens resposne to you’re advances is insane
Did u learn nothing?.lmao
"Just be handsome bro. It's easy bro"
Chad's don't flirt, that's a woman's game. Also, attraction should be genuine, not rehearsed. Any situation in which a potential relationship depends entirely on your first and only interaction is worthless and momentary. Remember boys, stay focused and the right lady will come along.
Spot on.
My friend and i a few years back were asked to drink with two guys, one immediately sat close to me on a booth and the other sat closer to my friend (the booths were separate but next to each other). The one that sat opposite me looked like a male model with a tight shirt admiring his pecs and his rolex and smiling at me. Very American Psycho but with zero conversation. He said absolutely nothing as I tried to engage in any conversation but just smiled at me. I tried everything I could think of to spark conversation but i thought leading with his rolex or his muscles was frankly a bit tacky. My friend whispered that she really liked him (the one sitting opposite me) but as I overheard their conversation, i wanted to talk to the chap who was talking to her (this guy's friend), a shorter, funnier, less muscley and just appeared more interesting. After about 20 mins I smiled and said, I think I'm going to go, have a nice evening and went over to tell my friend. She was absolutely stunned and said "How could you, he looked like a young Ricky Martin". I replied, " yes, he's good looking but I had absolutely no conversation with him and I didn't know what else to do". I don't think this chap was crushed but he also a bit taken aback that I wasn't just falling over him. He just wasn't my type.
@@tinamenon1593 I'm a guy who fit into that mold for a long time... been working out for 10 years, make over $100k for as long as I can remember with all the trappings. I thought girls would just fall all over me. Boy, was I wrong. I actually had better success when I was broke and in college! Luckily I realized in time to just be a regular person and try to make others around me comfortable. All the extra things are just a plus/cement the deal.
@@MrTwoFox good for you, and im sure both physical attractiveness with an aggreable personality has and will continue to draw many people to you. There was always a part of me that felt a bit rude for just leaving him but I felt uncomfortable at the whole situation. Some women, more introverted & intelligent, simply hate the whole businesses of being hit on or picked up. We might like going with our friends but with absolutely no interest in meeting men for the sake of it. It feels like a forced transaction and you can't hold a good conversation in a nightclub or bar. Even dating now is enjoyable but slightly cringeworthy if the whole business of looks is brought up. I always fell in love with men who were patient and empathetic enough to be my friend first with absolutely no pressure of sex. The entire Manosphere would erupt in rage at that and yes I always loved both the idea of family and a good analytical career.
Principle 1 - Be atractive
Principle 2 - Don't be unatractive
Principale 3 - Have money and/or status
Precisely
Someone who's flirting with the world... this really got me thinking 🤔
look for Mystery's old videos from the early 2000's, i think. Mystery was a true pioneer and made the very same points with far more cogency, charisma, and thrust. His technique was known as the Mystery Method.
This guy really gets it.
Hate to admit it but i definitely fall into that sniper category.. lol. Im always overthinking and shy and feel entitled to a good woman for no logical reason. Im going to really start working on breaking out of this and learn to make pleasant conversations with anyone i can. Thanks for the good advice
it is the core reason why approaching woman becomes hard 9:49 to10:39
I was a little straightforward with my conversation style usually and that resulted in a lot of quiet moments where I ran out of things to say. Once I switched it up to have more easygoing/flirty filler stuff it became a bit easy
Sounds good, no toxic red pill crap.
He is 100% correct
Fantastic interview
This is a collab I definitely did not see coming
For me the biggest takeaway is „flirt with the world“ :D ❤
Thanks Chris! Great video
I'm way too autistic to "flirt with the world", and I suspect quite a large proportion of men are as well.
You should try negging.
Tell her one ear is higher than another and make fun of that.
Chris you earned a new subscriber with his one, thanks a lot for what you do
7:27 Impressive, very nice...
When he explains it all it sounds a lot like grooming behavior. Lots of little steps moving towards getting closer. He's right though and good points about creating tension and not escaping it with humor.
That's probably because grooming is founded on the same principles of engaging someone and gently eroding the walls and boundaries between the two of you, except where with flirting it serves the purpose of organically leading the exchange into sex once both people are actually engaged and interested in one another, grooming is super predatory because you're concealing your intent until you've got the other person hooked in and once there are no boundaries between you, everything is permissible. It's a relationship founded on false grounds where you hold all the agency because you're controlling the other person through guilt and shame and other shitty mind games, and make sure they can't escape by getting them dependant on you, usually by getting them cut off from their friends until you're the only one.
Step 1. Be absurdly handsome
Step 2, be a comedian, they love comedians
Practice self grooming habits
Hardcore cope, there are so many things that come before that
Never talk about work with a new girl, make her be authentic herself and your authentic self without a price fucking tag!
I don't ever flirt, I don't see a utility for it. Rather just have fun, make jokes, ask interesting questions to hear someone's genuine opinion and invite them to be authentic with me. Literally attracting a human being is not that much different than attracting a cat. Once an opportunity arises I'll ask a woman on a date who I am already friends with.
What you described is just a way of flirting haha. Flirting doesn't have to be that over the top kind.
@@yo_its_devo Makes sense, I think I just don't focus on flirting or trying to get a date at all, it's a distraction that makes the situation unnatural. Unfortunately women are sensitive to this and see it as an ulterior motive like men are predators rather than as an innocent thing that is perfectly normal. I think this is reinforced by the way some men have this goal in mind of trying to play the right moves to get a date. If the woman senses it as a game or strategy, it "ruins the magic", it "reveals the magician's tricks". Me not caring whatsoever doesn't send the ulterior motive signal, and simultaneously shows the woman I'm confident, rather than walking on eggshells around her. It works particularly well with women who are ready to treat any man with suspicion; I won't give any attention to that sour attitude. But will treat her well still.
@@anewagora very true. However just like any skill, in order to improve you have to go through a period where you deliberately make an effort. Only after lots of practice do things become natural. For some people who didn't develop good social skills when they were younger, it's worth going through the awkward unnatural phase.
Cats like calm, grounded people who are kind and know how to approach them without touching them or invading their space too early. In that context, your strategy applied to women is accurate
@@yo_its_devo absolutely, as an improvising musician I approve this message 💪
The last part was eye opening, thanks
Most attractive quality to either sex: Knowing, bettering, then being yourself.