Why we must talk to our Boys the way we talk to our Girls | Cara Natterson | TEDxCrossroadsSchool

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  • Опубліковано 14 лис 2024

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  • @Felix-td2tm
    @Felix-td2tm 3 роки тому +31

    How is this not a big thing on yt? This is what people need to hear...men and Women alike, but nobody seems to be interested

  • @obcl8569
    @obcl8569 3 роки тому +44

    How does this video not have a million views and likes?!
    This was eye opening, informing, validating & so very important for me as a parent to hear.
    This pediatrician/author has an incredibly crucial idea about revolutionizing how we parent our boys. I'm here for it 100%.

    • @martinevans7090
      @martinevans7090 3 роки тому +6

      The answer to that is pretty obvious - because it's about boys, and in general as a society we don't really care about boys very much. Girls are viewed as being more valued than boys - just take a look at the Wikipedia page for "boy" and compare it to the page for "girl" - the page for "girl" is at least five times longer and goes into all manner of detail, whereas by comparison the "boy" page doesn't say much beyond "a boy is a young human male - here's a picture of one".

    • @UrLocalDorottya
      @UrLocalDorottya Рік тому

      yeah

  • @vaish_diarys
    @vaish_diarys 3 роки тому +19

    It's sad how, when the topic comes to boys' health or related, we don't have that much satisfactory views or likes

  • @maximatheultima5741
    @maximatheultima5741 3 роки тому +20

    people need to watch more ted talks and less tik toks more often because this eye-opening video and others should have more views

  • @saratea7993
    @saratea7993 4 роки тому +19

    I really like what she says in this video clip. It's very insightful and articulated well.

    • @aparajitasingh3376
      @aparajitasingh3376 3 роки тому

      No

    • @saratea7993
      @saratea7993 3 роки тому +2

      @@aparajitasingh3376 that's fair, im sure it's not for everyone. What parts do you disagree with?

    • @T.016
      @T.016 Рік тому

      @@saratea7993 not getting an answer is also an answer.....

  • @natashajoyy4223
    @natashajoyy4223 3 роки тому +11

    The funny thing is I have that book!

  • @Phaedrus-th7bi
    @Phaedrus-th7bi Рік тому

    There is a resource, Cara. It's call 'Boys of Few Words' - Dr. Adam Cox, PhD.

  • @erikjarandson5458
    @erikjarandson5458 3 роки тому +35

    Talk, but don't expect the same words to mean the same things. Boys and girls have different languages when it comes to emotions, and different approaches to the same problems -- even when the emotions and problems are identical. That difference is OK, and should be respected and understood, as long as communication happens. Trying to change their way of talking and approaching will only create more confusion. Figure out how your kid communicates about and approaches the issues, before you draw any conclusions, and before you start "lecturing". Ask wide, non-prying questions, and listen to the answers.
    Also remember, many boys are fact driven and concrete. If you tell them something like "follow your feelings", that might mean absolutely nothing to them, not because they don't have feelings, but because they don't know how to translate them into actions. That's a result in another failing in how we deal with boys, but that's another issue.

  • @BeerSougion
    @BeerSougion Рік тому +1

    Boys should go to school a year later so that their later puberty is not giving them the feeling they ar enad at homework and studying. Let them develop their frontal fortexes when they are ready. No so often they feel like the girls are the perfect pupils and they are not. Make it possible for boys to win tland you can engage them.

  • @Nobody-o3p9g
    @Nobody-o3p9g Рік тому

    ❤❤ one of the best ted talk

  • @abcdef8915
    @abcdef8915 4 роки тому +7

    Good video

  • @JS-nw4hm
    @JS-nw4hm 3 роки тому +2

    Good luck.

  • @leon987
    @leon987 3 роки тому +2

    我要分享出去。

  • @witherskull9394
    @witherskull9394 3 роки тому +1

    Good one

  • @arnol75yearsago24
    @arnol75yearsago24 3 роки тому +1

    Me on age 8

  • @parkerbradley2457
    @parkerbradley2457 Рік тому +1

    No, you should _not_ talk to your boys the way you talk to girls. That's just idiotic & is part of the reason for the evolving man/boy crisis today. Yes, communication is important -- don't ignore your son, but don't treat or talk to him like you would a girl either. If you're gonna talk to him like you would a girl, then it would be better to just ignore him as that would cause less damage.

    • @skillet7805
      @skillet7805 Рік тому +1

      She's not saying talk to a boy like he's a girl
      She's saying Society should provide a support system for boys the way Society provides a support system for girls

  • @aos2086
    @aos2086 2 роки тому

    No just no