Choice of happiness: 1. Spend a lot of quality time with family and friends 2. Getting a good night sleep 3. Moving at least 4 times a week. Do not exercise to look good but to be happier 4. Do work that you like, enjoy doing...change career, volunteering, spend time in nature, helping others
Yes! And meditate/pray/spirituality, reading, music, dancing, living wit awe and gratitude, learning and growing, etc. There are SO many happiness choices based on the science of happiness.
I am 46 years old and my experience has taught me that happiness starts by creating a positive and welcoming environment for happiness. That is by getting read of toxic people, getting read of guilt, getting rid of trauma, getting rid of bad memories, improving self worth, loving ourselves, learning ourselves and understanding we only have one life 🤔..
Thank you for watching my talk and sharing your perspective and experience! Your advice is fantastic and I agree with all of it. I regularly say to myself, you are alive and healthy - what a massive gift!
Agree. And a lot of that has also been known before, since the ancient philosopher's time, or even how brain process the reality and various experiences (sort of following modern Eduardo Kastrup or Donald Hoffman and more, not going into ancient philosophers). It is just almost like we have mostly forgotten about it, or simply don't have time to think about it in the modern world, especially with constant day to day issues, cost of living, worrying, work/job, health issues, or even nobody to talk to when we need to, and so on (a very simple basic approach here, as the issues are much more deeper than it). But yeah, at the end... most of it is in your mind, how you react, how you are seeing everything and... in a way how to create your own environment for happiness. And you are right about toxic people, no matter if this is a private life, friends, or family or co-workers. Get rid of people like that. Guilt and trauma? The same but that is a tough one to crack in a lot of cases. Especially guilt (and psychology is full of examples of it). I guess what I'm saying is that I agree 100%, and also I love the presentation from Tia. You can feel the experience in the voice, and also somebody who wants to share her own life experience with us.
I’ve always found It’s about a little bit of selfishness (spending ME time), dropping bad friends and family, fresh air, sunshine, good healthy food, and most of all don’t dwell on the past and certainly not on the bad times. This vid is great advice and once you’re happy a lot of the health issues can dissipate too😊
We believe and perceive that being selfish is not a positive thing - it is! When we take care of ourselves, we can take better care of the people that we love. Our social circle is SO important and yes to focusing more on the future. We can all be more self-compassionate about the past and practice forgiveness. Thank you for sharing your comment.
What a great talk! I'm already doing many of the things she mentioned, but I often feel guilty about the time I spend hiking, sleeping, petting my cats and hugging my wife. It's good to hear the research showing that these things can not only make you happier, but more productive as well. I'm glad Tia gave me some confirmation. Also, her dad sounds really cool!
It's truly the little things that are most important. Try not to feel guilty, but when you do think of me. I would have committed suicide years ago if I didn't have my cats to pet.
On bahalf of my ancestors, the living dead, the unborn, my family members, all manchester united fans, my wicked landlord, and the wicked kenyan president, I recommend this presentation to all Kenyans and Gazans in their most difficult time........ Choose happiness all the time!
"Spend time doing things you really enjoy doing." Easier said than done in a world where the cost of living is so high, wages are so stagnant, and the amount of free time is so limited.
Thank you for taking the time to watch my talk and share your perspective. Our life circumstances and genetics do contribute to how happy we are and it is also our choices. People are happier and have higher levels of well-being in countries like Finland and Denmark, where the citizens are supported with social services such as inexpensive childcare and college, etc. With limited free time, here are a few happiness habits that are based on research: meditating, exercise, helping other people or animals, reading, dancing, listening to music, listening to motivating podcasts, NOT watching the news on TV, not spending very much time on social media, yoga, etc.
Mmmmm so if i do all that would ill be happy then who helps my kids w their homework or if something breaks in the house or you have an emergency focusing a lot on myself and leaving aside the problems of my family and said i dont care is me time then i dont think i will be able to fix all the rest and responsabilities that i do have
Love this talk and could not agree more that happiness comes from creating our own with the choices we make! Choosing "Happy" and then aligning our actions and behaviors with this choice helps us all cultivate our own happiness, show up better for our own lives and everyone in it! Bravo Tia!
Thank you so much Shelley! Meeting and connecting with you makes me feel grateful and happy. Yes to choosing actions and behaviors that align with happiness.
This was so wonderful and really caught me off guard from an emotional standpoint. What wonderful wisdom to share, over the moon grateful for Tia Graham for having the courage to share her lived experiences.
Oh my goodness, I am so grateful. I am sending you so much hope. Hope is about belief in a better future, having a plan to create that future, and taking small actions everyday to move forward. I am on the journey with you.
Absolutely! It's eye-opening how happiness is a choice we can actively pursue. I remember feeling lost in my early twenties, but embracing what I love, like connecting with friends, truly transformed my outlook. I’ve noticed that sometimes, we overthink our attempts at humor-worrying if our jokes will land-and we forget that laughter often comes from shared experiences, not just punchlines. I found that participating in the Sense of Humor Improvement Program by Habit10x really helped me appreciate the lighter side of life. So keep finding joy in the little moments; they make the biggest difference!
Love that and thank you for sharing! Humor is so great. I LOVE stand-up comedy and funny movies and am so appreciative of people who make me laugh. My kids laugh so many times a day vs. adults.
This is so simplistic. When trauma after trauma puts you in a bad place, there is no happiness for you to choose. When depression hits you badly, happiness is not within your reach.
Yes, when you are affected by trauma, you must focus on healing your mind, body and spirit from that trauma. I highly recommend the book, The Body Keeps the Score. It is filled with research, stories, and proven strategies to heal from trauma. If and when people are depressed, I highly recommend partnering with professionals that you trust to support you. Exercise, meditation, healthy foods, doing meaningful work, volunteering, journaling when you are going through pain, and many other choices also support people who are depressed.
I really wish I could easily do what she says and I often feel so negative because nothing is enjoyable to me after my husband left. I used to love crafts. Now all of it sits untouched so I decided to sort through it and give it to others so it makes them happy. I can't sleep. I even go to bed early but I always wake up in the middle of the night and takes forever to fall asleep only when I do, it's time to get up and work. I keep trying though. Vitamins, exercises, spend the little time I do have with my son since my husband and I take turns with him but it's still hard. I pray that I get better but I do try to make the choice but it's like my body is so weak and I just feel so sad. I tell myself it takes time and I keep trying with everything said.
As someone who has also been though many traumas in the last few years and before, it takes time. I do not know what you have been through, and I am so sorry that those things have happened to you. But you do get there and it is worth it. Take care of yourself and lots of love to you ❤️
Thank you! Positive emotions come and go, so do the painful ones. A happy life is one where you have more positive than pain, have purpose and meaning, and have a variety of experiences that make you psychologically rich and wise.
she is talking about everything as a really experienced person. i appreciate it, even if I'm not a native speaker, i understand what she said, because she make me interested in this video!
Tia, this is such a great message. Dance, go outside, Do what you Like to DO, choose meaning and Create Your Happiness! Love this and Thank you so much!
I love how Tia frames the idea of happiness here...not so much a thing we can pursue but rather something that ensues as a result of our beliefs, feelings, thinking and actions. Very inspiring, actionable message here.
Thank you so much Nick. I am very grateful that we got connected. Yes, we can all increase our happiness and well-being with intention, our thoughts, and our behaviors.
It’s amazing how “simple” happiness is when we take the time to break it down. Yet, we so easily get caught up with the busyness of life that we go through the daily motions without realizing how we are spending our time - the most important commodity we have. We all struggle and we need time - taking a pause to listen to something like this - to examine whether we are on the right path to happiness. Thank you for the talk.
I absolutely agree. The "busyness" has become our new normal and we are always using technology and consuming content. With social media, we also compare ourselves to others and that makes us unhappy. TIME is our most precious resource, so spend time doing things that you TRULY enjoy doing. Pausing and reflecting is so crucial. Thank YOU
Tia, this is an epic Ted Talk. So very important for today. It speaks volumes to me and where I have been at for years. I am working hard on the very things you mention, to stop putting everyone’s happiness before my own in my “stay at home mom” world. Thank you for speaking up about this, I am inspired to use these tools to make my life happier. Way to go!
I cannot agree more with this Mrs. Thank you very much! I am convinced you helped many people, especially when the majority of us see things more negatively than positively.
Great talk Tia! I am so glad that I finally hear you speak. Everyone is searching for happiness and we often fail to realize that it’s right in front of us!
I loved this speech for so many reasons. I really had a wow moment when Tia explains how you can have a happy life without being happy all the time. That made me step back and affirm I have a happy life! I am also adopting the mantra that outsiders and the world can’t tell you what you should be doing … you need to know your own happy and so that which fills your bucket. Way to go Tia and thank you for the beautifully delivered gem. Hope your dad is doing well.🎉
Thank you SO much Bonnie! Yes!!! There is no such thing as being happy all the time. Yes! Listen to you. You know what is best for you. My Dad is doing great. :-) Have a wonderful new year.
I appreciate that you spoke very clearly. I think so many international forks listen to TED to improve their language skills. I do the same. This is one of the best ones. Good luck ma’am.
Yes! And do not listen to society, what other people say you SHOULD do, etc. Spend time getting quiet, journaling, and talking to trusted friends and family. You know what you need the best.
Captivating and inspiring talk, Tia! Your dad was on to something and it clearly made an impact on your life. And now we all get to be the beneficiaries of that wisdom!
Lots of people want to spread happiness. The reason I'm glad I invested time watching this particular talk is the powerful intro story about Tia's father, and the sincerity/credibility behind the suggestions. Well done!
Thank you Lee! Choosing happiness is one of the most powerful lessons that parents can teach and model for their children. I am so grateful to now be connected with you.
_GREAT_ talk 👏👏👏 Absolute primer and also a summary (depending on where in your happiness research you are). Peeps should watch this when they are like 8, not during their mid-life crisis. Plus she's _really_ cute, I'd love to see her do a standup comedy sketch!
I’ve always appreciated her talks and have actually taken her advice and it HAS made significant changes in my life! I’ve also had the pleasure and opportunity to work & create with her. And would do so again in a heartbeat ❤
Thank you SO much Jorge! I truly appreciate all of your support and am grateful that my advice has supported your life. Hope to see you in LA again soon!
Wonderful talk Tia!!!! Your message will help a lot more people to choose happiness! I love how your father's story sparked your desire to choose happy for your own life and others! Awesome to share the TEDx stage with you!
Thank you for watching my talk! Change is so hard for all of us. And we are always changing and the people in our lives are changing. Meditate and journal and keep re-discovering who you are. I am on the journey with you.
Amazing talk❤ Thanks Tia I really enjoyed your presentation and how great it is this really makes me to feel happy now I’ll like to share my family and friends ❤
Tia, you're such an inspiration - a true role model in happiness and positivity! Thank you for sharing your story with so much authenticity and vulnerability. It's these stories that we humans really connect to. This talk was just so good!
It is simple AND a lot of work. In one of my keynote talks I say, "Happiness is a choice. It is one that you must continuously choose." Prioritize your well-being for your family, friends, colleagues, community, and the world. We can all choose to spread more light.
Tia, great job!! I enjoyed the main message of how "happiness is a choice, and it's something you do." The small moments you captured of how your dad was dancing, listening to music, making pancakes, and saying he decided, "to not have another bad year." (Bonus points for the dance moves lol) "Psychologically rich" was a great unique term you should expand on for another TED talk-perhaps a part 2 of happiness in a post pandemic world. I'm happy to be happy leads to a long life 🙂 Overall, I'm impressed. Keep up the great work! -Mike V.
I said it once and I'll say it again! What a fantastic Ted talk. Tia is all about being happy and how you, as a leader can be happy too. Loved it! Love her!
Thank you for sharing this! Noticing that there is always light after the grey and darkness. A happy life is not about feeling happy all of the time, but knowing there are peaks and valleys, feeling purpose and meaning, and spreading happiness to others.
I could not agree more! Her talk really motivates me and makes me excited! Happiness is a choice! This is where I stand at this point in my life! Really inspiring talk!!!!
Thank you so much! We have to be intentional to be positive and have a healthy relationship with our painful emotions and suffering. I truly appreciate that you took the time to watch it.
Thank you for sharing your story with us because it is the right way to choose happiness, I used to find my happiness by doing certain things like shopping, posting pictures on Instagram and relying on others.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. You can increase your happiness and well-being with your behaviors and your thoughts - we all have agency over these.
I enjoy reading manga, watching anime, listening to music, and reading books. Even though sometimes I feel guilty about it and think that it's a waste of time, these activities make me happier than ever and give me a reason to keep going. ;)
It helps me a lot! I remind myself that the habits and rituals that support my spiritual, physical, intellectual, relational, and emotional well-being ARE the path to happiness and contentment.
@@mitch5222 Yes! Friends and family are #1. For the people that are doing work that they do not like, I highly recommend the book - How to BE Happy at Work.
"Prioritize your happiness"...this is so great Tia! I love the 4 simple and actionable steps you lay out here on how to "do" happiness. Thank you for you vulnerability and willingness to share your story. Everyone needs to hear this message!
That's a nice one.Happiness is on our mindset.If we do find out positivity at every adverse situation of life we all can be happy in life.On the other hand,at good time we don't have to mske us happy by finding out positivism at all time.Because,time will naturally make us please.If we do keep our soul happy the productivity rate of us will be increased and life will be successful for sure.
Great life-wisdom from a woman who obviously lives as she preaches, i.e. follows her own feelings of delight, doing what she herself enjoys. She is not a pleaser, kudos for that! I can't imagine her trying to please a grumpy old man or craving play-boy or tricky cheater. She has a hubby who brings the same qualities to the partnership, that she does, in a mutually loving relationship. Both equally as happy and lucky. All the best wishes, Tia, and huge thanks for sharing! It made my day!
Yes! When you and I are 92-years old (hopefully :), and reflecting back on our lives, the goal is to have more positive overall. If we didn't feel pain and experience pain, we would not be human. It is privilege to be able to focus on happiness, as it means that our needs are being met (food, shelter, safety, etc.). Thank you so much for watching my talk.
My definition of happiness is hiking surrounded by mountains. I relocated out-of-state 6 months ago. And I’m struggling to find my happiness as the state we’ve relocated to doesn’t have mountains. I’ve tried to hike here but the elevation is low. I began to bake more to feel happier. This helps. I’ve chosen to complete my MHA program (1 class remaining before completion). I’ll soon re-enter the workforce part-time to travel more. I also think that helping people overcome what I had to will elevate my quality of life once more per patient advocacy. And I’d love to visit Beautiful Canada. Canada has the most gorgeous mountains. (P.S. The United States has the highest depression rates internationally. I never follow “trends” in society in this country; I much prefer sustaining my strong moral compass and remaining in-alignment w/ my faith). Thank you for your insight. 😇
Hiking in the mountains is a source of happiness and peace for me as well! My Mom would always say, "This is God", when we were skiing in the mountains. What about making a list of all of the activities and things that bring you joy? In addition to hiking, what other activities can you do in nature? Congratulations on completing your program and for choosing to work to travel. Travel is a huge source of happiness and purpose for many. Thank you so much for your comments. Tia
Thank you! I loved this video, I agree with all! When we spen our time doings things that really matter to us we feel more productive, more happier and always try to deliver our better.
I am SO grateful that you loved the idea and message. Our time is so valuable and let's spend it on what brings us purpose, joy, and makes us more wise and compassionate with all humans.
Dear Bill, I am so sorry for your loss. I have been with my husband for 15-years and I cannot imagine how hard losing a spouse to cancel would be. Sending you healing and inner strength. Have you found people to support you?
If it was THAT easy, and that simple so many wouldn't struggle being happy. Many don't know what brings them joy to even be able to do "the things they enjoy".
Thank you for sharing your perspective and for taking the time to watch my talk. I agree that many people do not know what brings them joy and research shows that humans often choose things thinking it will make them happy (Ex. promotion and more money/work), and it ends up making them less happy. It takes intention, focus, self-awareness, and self-reflection to find out what you REALLY want.
You are truly appreciated Tia😊 I totally enjoyed your session a lot, how you mentioned that happiness is the sweetest pleasure which can create a stress less boundary around ourselves, it was a wonderful way to make us understand. 😌💕
Choice of happiness:
1. Spend a lot of quality time with family and friends
2. Getting a good night sleep
3. Moving at least 4 times a week. Do not exercise to look good but to be happier
4. Do work that you like, enjoy doing...change career, volunteering, spend time in nature, helping others
Yes! And meditate/pray/spirituality, reading, music, dancing, living wit awe and gratitude, learning and growing, etc. There are SO many happiness choices based on the science of happiness.
Thanks!
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If you believe that will be all of them
Thanks! You saved me 15 mins of my life 👍👍
I am 46 years old and my experience has taught me that happiness starts by creating a positive and welcoming environment for happiness. That is by getting read of toxic people, getting read of guilt, getting rid of trauma, getting rid of bad memories, improving self worth, loving ourselves, learning ourselves and understanding we only have one life 🤔..
Thank you for watching my talk and sharing your perspective and experience! Your advice is fantastic and I agree with all of it. I regularly say to myself, you are alive and healthy - what a massive gift!
Agree. And a lot of that has also been known before, since the ancient philosopher's time, or even how brain process the reality and various experiences (sort of following modern Eduardo Kastrup or Donald Hoffman and more, not going into ancient philosophers).
It is just almost like we have mostly forgotten about it, or simply don't have time to think about it in the modern world, especially with constant day to day issues, cost of living, worrying, work/job, health issues, or even nobody to talk to when we need to, and so on (a very simple basic approach here, as the issues are much more deeper than it).
But yeah, at the end... most of it is in your mind, how you react, how you are seeing everything and... in a way how to create your own environment for happiness. And you are right about toxic people, no matter if this is a private life, friends, or family or co-workers. Get rid of people like that. Guilt and trauma? The same but that is a tough one to crack in a lot of cases. Especially guilt (and psychology is full of examples of it).
I guess what I'm saying is that I agree 100%, and also I love the presentation from Tia. You can feel the experience in the voice, and also somebody who wants to share her own life experience with us.
Thank you ❤❤❤
The speaker is so energetic and lovely that urge me to feel like more happier
Thank you so much! Choose happiness for yourself and use the science of happiness to increase and sustain it.
I’ve always found It’s about a little bit of selfishness (spending ME time), dropping bad friends and family, fresh air, sunshine, good healthy food, and most of all don’t dwell on the past and certainly not on the bad times. This vid is great advice and once you’re happy a lot of the health issues can dissipate too😊
We believe and perceive that being selfish is not a positive thing - it is! When we take care of ourselves, we can take better care of the people that we love. Our social circle is SO important and yes to focusing more on the future. We can all be more self-compassionate about the past and practice forgiveness. Thank you for sharing your comment.
Message for Tia's Dad: Way to CHOOSE HAPPY Dad! Thanks for your great example and helping shape Tia so she can share this inspiration with the world!
Grieving is important. Coming out of it / or through it is too ...
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Wonderful n inspirational talking!!!
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What a great talk! I'm already doing many of the things she mentioned, but I often feel guilty about the time I spend hiking, sleeping, petting my cats and hugging my wife. It's good to hear the research showing that these things can not only make you happier, but more productive as well. I'm glad Tia gave me some confirmation. Also, her dad sounds really cool!
It's truly the little things that are most important. Try not to feel guilty, but when you do think of me. I would have committed suicide years ago if I didn't have my cats to pet.
I'm glad you mention the guilt of doing something else. I feel it too. It's not just me. 😌
I totally agree with you
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Things like hugging the wife cn even make you more reproductive as well.
On bahalf of my ancestors, the living dead, the unborn, my family members, all manchester united fans, my wicked landlord, and the wicked kenyan president, I recommend this presentation to all Kenyans and Gazans in their most difficult time........ Choose happiness all the time!
Thank you SO much for watching my TEDx talk and sharing your comments. Have a wonderful December.
"Spend time doing things you really enjoy doing."
Easier said than done in a world where the cost of living is so high, wages are so stagnant, and the amount of free time is so limited.
Thank you for taking the time to watch my talk and share your perspective. Our life circumstances and genetics do contribute to how happy we are and it is also our choices. People are happier and have higher levels of well-being in countries like Finland and Denmark, where the citizens are supported with social services such as inexpensive childcare and college, etc. With limited free time, here are a few happiness habits that are based on research: meditating, exercise, helping other people or animals, reading, dancing, listening to music, listening to motivating podcasts, NOT watching the news on TV, not spending very much time on social media, yoga, etc.
Mmmmm so if i do all that would ill be happy then who helps my kids w their homework or if something breaks in the house or you have an emergency focusing a lot on myself and leaving aside the problems of my family and said i dont care is me time then i dont think i will be able to fix all the rest and responsabilities that i do have
@@israelgutierrez7892 Think of the positives in life not the things that could go wrong. Life is going to be what we make it.
Love this talk and could not agree more that happiness comes from creating our own with the choices we make! Choosing "Happy" and then aligning our actions and behaviors with this choice helps us all cultivate our own happiness, show up better for our own lives and everyone in it! Bravo Tia!
Thank you so much Shelley! Meeting and connecting with you makes me feel grateful and happy. Yes to choosing actions and behaviors that align with happiness.
This was so wonderful and really caught me off guard from an emotional standpoint. What wonderful wisdom to share, over the moon grateful for Tia Graham for having the courage to share her lived experiences.
I am so grateful that you found it valuable! Thank you
Such a wonderful talk, and an important reminder to pursue those things that bring joy to our soul! Thank you, Tia.
Thank you so much Nadine! I truly appreciate it.
I have listened this talk many times. When I felt depressed, this talk gave me hope. Thank you.
Oh my goodness, I am so grateful. I am sending you so much hope. Hope is about belief in a better future, having a plan to create that future, and taking small actions everyday to move forward. I am on the journey with you.
She’s down to earth, passionate and positive. Excellent talk, thank you!
Thank you so much Dino. I truly appreciate it.
@@TiaGraham you’re welcome!
All true;) thank you too
The way she talk is so calm and easy to understand for a person has beginer level English like me. Love her so much ❤
Thank you SO much!
What a life-long gift your dad gave you that day he chose to be happy while making pancakes on his birthday!
Yes! A beautiful gift. I hope to teach my daughters the same lesson and choice. It was so great to meet you at NSA THRIVE!
A great reminder of what really matters, and that it’s never too late to reset priorities in life. Thank you for delivering a great talk! 🙏🏻
Thank you so much! It is never too late.
Happiness is a choice, that's the key point Tia just impacted me with. Thank you.
Thank you Joseph! It is a choice AND hard work! But, keep choosing it over and over again.
Absolutely! It's eye-opening how happiness is a choice we can actively pursue. I remember feeling lost in my early twenties, but embracing what I love, like connecting with friends, truly transformed my outlook.
I’ve noticed that sometimes, we overthink our attempts at humor-worrying if our jokes will land-and we forget that laughter often comes from shared experiences, not just punchlines. I found that participating in the Sense of Humor Improvement Program by Habit10x really helped me appreciate the lighter side of life.
So keep finding joy in the little moments; they make the biggest difference!
Love that and thank you for sharing! Humor is so great. I LOVE stand-up comedy and funny movies and am so appreciative of people who make me laugh. My kids laugh so many times a day vs. adults.
This is so simplistic. When trauma after trauma puts you in a bad place,
there is no happiness for you to choose.
When depression hits you badly, happiness is not within your reach.
Yes, when you are affected by trauma, you must focus on healing your mind, body and spirit from that trauma. I highly recommend the book, The Body Keeps the Score. It is filled with research, stories, and proven strategies to heal from trauma. If and when people are depressed, I highly recommend partnering with professionals that you trust to support you. Exercise, meditation, healthy foods, doing meaningful work, volunteering, journaling when you are going through pain, and many other choices also support people who are depressed.
I really wish I could easily do what she says and I often feel so negative because nothing is enjoyable to me after my husband left. I used to love crafts. Now all of it sits untouched so I decided to sort through it and give it to others so it makes them happy. I can't sleep. I even go to bed early but I always wake up in the middle of the night and takes forever to fall asleep only when I do, it's time to get up and work. I keep trying though. Vitamins, exercises, spend the little time I do have with my son since my husband and I take turns with him but it's still hard. I pray that I get better but I do try to make the choice but it's like my body is so weak and I just feel so sad. I tell myself it takes time and I keep trying with everything said.
Sending love and light to you ✨️ 💛
As someone who has also been though many traumas in the last few years and before, it takes time. I do not know what you have been through, and I am so sorry that those things have happened to you. But you do get there and it is worth it. Take care of yourself and lots of love to you ❤️
@@laurencampbell7139 I am sorry for you too.
I’ve found it best to focus on living a fulfilling life and just being aware that happiness comes and goes.
Thank you! Positive emotions come and go, so do the painful ones. A happy life is one where you have more positive than pain, have purpose and meaning, and have a variety of experiences that make you psychologically rich and wise.
Tia, thank you for being real, sharing your story and showing up to do this work! We need more people like you, keep up the great work!
Thank you so much Kati!
Thanks so much, very informative,am going to learn to practice this and more❤
It is that simple, choose to do the things you love, always.
Yes and keep choosing you.
This talk is a great reminder that we all have the choice in life to be happy. Thank you Tia for the inspiration! I got goosebumps listening to you!
Thank you so much! Yes, it is a choice AND hard work. We all need to keep making the choice over and over again.
she is talking about everything as a really experienced person. i appreciate it, even if I'm not a native speaker, i understand what she said, because she make me interested in this video!
I am so grateful! Thank you so much for watching my TEDx talk.
Tia, this is such a great message. Dance, go outside, Do what you Like to DO, choose meaning and Create Your Happiness! Love this and Thank you so much!
Yeah! Happiness is something that we DO.
I love how Tia frames the idea of happiness here...not so much a thing we can pursue but rather something that ensues as a result of our beliefs, feelings, thinking and actions. Very inspiring, actionable message here.
Thank you so much Nick. I am very grateful that we got connected. Yes, we can all increase our happiness and well-being with intention, our thoughts, and our behaviors.
I am here just to increase listening skill..
Hi Abu, I hope that my TEDx talk supported you.
Does it help to you?
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Cool dude @@GurpreetSingh-qn5ep
So do i 😂
Good for your dad!!! And so glad he set this example for you!!! Totally agree with your conclusions!😊😊😊😊
Thanks! :-)
Amazing, Tia. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the world.
Thank you so much for watching my talk!
It’s amazing how “simple” happiness is when we take the time to break it down. Yet, we so easily get caught up with the busyness of life that we go through the daily motions without realizing how we are spending our time - the most important commodity we have.
We all struggle and we need time - taking a pause to listen to something like this - to examine whether we are on the right path to happiness.
Thank you for the talk.
I absolutely agree. The "busyness" has become our new normal and we are always using technology and consuming content. With social media, we also compare ourselves to others and that makes us unhappy. TIME is our most precious resource, so spend time doing things that you TRULY enjoy doing. Pausing and reflecting is so crucial. Thank YOU
Tia, this is an epic Ted Talk. So very important for today. It speaks volumes to me and where I have been at for years. I am working hard on the very things you mention, to stop putting everyone’s happiness before my own in my “stay at home mom” world.
Thank you for speaking up about this, I am inspired to use these tools to make my life happier. Way to go!
Thank you so much! When you put yourself first, you can then take care of everyone around you even better.
I cannot agree more with this Mrs. Thank you very much! I am convinced you helped many people, especially when the majority of us see things more negatively than positively.
Thank you so much! There are days where I see things negatively too, we are human. It is a daily practice and focus to be positive and optimistic.
Thank you Tia for all your valuable insight and for helping so many people. We are so lucky and happy each time we can hear you !
Thank you Christophe! I hope to see you soon!
Thank you for reminding us that happiness is, above all, a choice.
My sincere pleasure! Thank YOU for watching.
Great talk Tia! I am so glad that I finally hear you speak. Everyone is searching for happiness and we often fail to realize that it’s right in front of us!
Yes! It takes intention and effort every single day.
I loved this speech for so many reasons. I really had a wow moment when Tia explains how you can have a happy life without being happy all the time. That made me step back and affirm I have a happy life! I am also adopting the mantra that outsiders and the world can’t tell you what you should be doing … you need to know your own happy and so that which fills your bucket. Way to go Tia and thank you for the beautifully delivered gem. Hope your dad is doing well.🎉
Thank you SO much Bonnie! Yes!!! There is no such thing as being happy all the time. Yes! Listen to you. You know what is best for you. My Dad is doing great. :-) Have a wonderful new year.
I appreciate that you spoke very clearly. I think so many international forks listen to TED to improve their language skills. I do the same. This is one of the best ones. Good luck ma’am.
Thank you!
I love the story about dad; divorce can be so hard on both men and women and everyone involved. Thank you for sharing your story and wisdom.
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch my TED. Divorce is hard and can turn out OK in the end.
Love this talk! Keep it simple - do what you love to do.
Thank you so much Nicole! It made me feel really happy to connect with you and share this week.
Spend time doing things you like. Couldn’t be more straight forward ! ❤
Yes! And do not listen to society, what other people say you SHOULD do, etc. Spend time getting quiet, journaling, and talking to trusted friends and family. You know what you need the best.
Captivating and inspiring talk, Tia! Your dad was on to something and it clearly made an impact on your life. And now we all get to be the beneficiaries of that wisdom!
Thank you so much! I am grateful for my Dad's choice and knowing that we have the ability to make choices around our thoughts and behaviors.
Lots of people want to spread happiness. The reason I'm glad I invested time watching this particular talk is the powerful intro story about Tia's father, and the sincerity/credibility behind the suggestions. Well done!
Thank you Lee! Choosing happiness is one of the most powerful lessons that parents can teach and model for their children. I am so grateful to now be connected with you.
_GREAT_ talk 👏👏👏 Absolute primer and also a summary (depending on where in your happiness research you are). Peeps should watch this when they are like 8, not during their mid-life crisis.
Plus she's _really_ cute, I'd love to see her do a standup comedy sketch!
Thank you so much! I have never thought about doing standup ;)
Imagine all parents prioritize their happiness
Imagine what that would do to all of the children...
I’ve always appreciated her talks and have actually taken her advice and it HAS made significant changes in my life! I’ve also had the pleasure and opportunity to work & create with her. And would do so again in a heartbeat ❤
Thank you SO much Jorge! I truly appreciate all of your support and am grateful that my advice has supported your life. Hope to see you in LA again soon!
The compassionate and informative approach in your videos is commendable. Keep up the good work in the mental health community!
Thank you so much! I truly appreciate it.
Wonderful talk Tia!!!! Your message will help a lot more people to choose happiness! I love how your father's story sparked your desire to choose happy for your own life and others! Awesome to share the TEDx stage with you!
Thank you!!! You too!!!
Wow! What you like doing may change over time 😢 this is just me right now being confuse over what i really like. Thanks so much for this piece ❤
Thank you for watching my talk! Change is so hard for all of us. And we are always changing and the people in our lives are changing. Meditate and journal and keep re-discovering who you are. I am on the journey with you.
Amazing talk❤
Thanks Tia I really enjoyed your presentation and how great it is
this really makes me to feel happy now I’ll like to share my family and friends ❤
Thank you so much Azhaar! I hope that your friends and family enjoy the message and ideas.
Excellent. The little girl from a log cabin is now blazing the happiness trail. I hope to hear more from her, even though she said it all right here!
Tia, you're such an inspiration - a true role model in happiness and positivity! Thank you for sharing your story with so much authenticity and vulnerability. It's these stories that we humans really connect to. This talk was just so good!
Thank you Serena! Yes, we all connect with vulnerable and real stories.
It's so simple about how to be happy! Thank you! Prioritize your happiness and the world around you will change for the better❤
It is simple AND a lot of work. In one of my keynote talks I say, "Happiness is a choice. It is one that you must continuously choose." Prioritize your well-being for your family, friends, colleagues, community, and the world. We can all choose to spread more light.
Tia, great job!! I enjoyed the main message of how "happiness is a choice, and it's something you do."
The small moments you captured of how your dad was dancing, listening to music, making pancakes, and saying he decided, "to not have another bad year." (Bonus points for the dance moves lol)
"Psychologically rich" was a great unique term you should expand on for another TED talk-perhaps a part 2 of happiness in a post pandemic world.
I'm happy to be happy leads to a long life 🙂
Overall, I'm impressed. Keep up the great work!
-Mike V.
I said it once and I'll say it again! What a fantastic Ted talk. Tia is all about being happy and how you, as a leader can be happy too. Loved it! Love her!
Thank you so much Deborah! I hope that we can share a stage soon in the near future.
So many thought provoking opportunities in this talk. Thanks for sharing with us!
Thank you Karla!
100% agree. I choose to be happy ( most of the time). 😊. Ups and downs. Part of life. Thank you Tia.
Thank you Luis!
Your story is very similar to my own, from the divorce to working in hospitality! I knew from the age of 8 that my happiness was my own 🥰
Love it!
happiness is from magic rays of sunshine that come down when you feelin' blue.
Thank you for sharing this! Noticing that there is always light after the grey and darkness. A happy life is not about feeling happy all of the time, but knowing there are peaks and valleys, feeling purpose and meaning, and spreading happiness to others.
Such good timing to see your talk again. Thank you for the work you are doing. I am so excited for others to receive this message!
Thank you for all of your support! We need to keep this idea alive all year.
Dear Tia,
Your speech has been indeed wonderfully motivating to do more the avenues of. Happiness that matter to us the most.
Thank you!
Thank you so very much for taking the time to watch my TEDx talk! I am so grateful that it was motivating and valuable.
So inspiring!! I loved every second. Thank you Tia for sharing your stories and for using your platform to share so much positivity and happiness. ❤
It is my sincere pleasure Lisa.
Thank you so much for this steady, reassuring and impactful video…just loved it!
Thank YOU so much! I am so grateful that it is so valuable to you.
Such great concepts to implement for a happier life! It was so great to get to see you speak Tia!
Thank YOU for coming to see it live!
I could not agree more! Her talk really motivates me and makes me excited! Happiness is a choice! This is where I stand at this point in my life! Really inspiring talk!!!!
Thank YOU so much! Your comment is motivating to me. :)
Thank you for your insights into happiness. Great stories and lessons about how we all can be much more happier. Keep sharing your bright light.
Thank you Greg! Hope to see you soon and brainstorm more ways to bring more happy to the 8 BIL people on earth!!!
What an incredible and inspirational reminder of how important being HAPPY is!
Thank you Tia.
Thank you Barb! So excited to meet you.
Wonderful message, Tia! Thanks so much for making a difference for me.
Thank you for all of your inspiration! You CHOOSE happiness.
Totally agree! Priorities are the ones that should be taken into consideration 😊
Yes! We must prioritize what makes us feel well and what makes us feel more positive and optimistic.
Tia!! Thank you for sharing your story to inspire so many!
Thank you for all of your support!
I've always said that and also happiness isn't always huge things. Its sometimes lot if little things that add up.
I agree. When we savor and appreciate the little daily moments and have gratitude for what we have, our well-being increases.
great video! love how you put it in perspective to look for the positives in life
Thank you so much! We have to be intentional to be positive and have a healthy relationship with our painful emotions and suffering. I truly appreciate that you took the time to watch it.
@@TiaGraham thanks so much. Going to see if you have more videos to watch
Thank you for sharing your story with us because it is the right way to choose happiness, I used to find my happiness by doing certain things like shopping, posting pictures on Instagram and relying on others.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. You can increase your happiness and well-being with your behaviors and your thoughts - we all have agency over these.
Great message Tia!! Thanks so much for sharing....we need more of this!
Thank you Joe!
I enjoy reading manga, watching anime, listening to music, and reading books. Even though sometimes I feel guilty about it and think that it's a waste of time, these activities make me happier than ever and give me a reason to keep going. ;)
Thank you for sharing that! Spend time doing things that YOU enjoy doing.
Such an inspiration and role model to my every day life! I truly find happiness in what I do when working with your family ☺️
Thank you so much Kaylie! You bring our family so much joy and giggles.
Thank you for this. “Happiness is what you do.” I like that.
It helps me a lot! I remind myself that the habits and rituals that support my spiritual, physical, intellectual, relational, and emotional well-being ARE the path to happiness and contentment.
Be Happy: FINDING A WORM IN YOUR APPLE IS BETTER THAN FINDING 1/2 WORM IN APPLE ! ?
Not sure about that :-) What do you mean exactly?
Yes.
I guess, a lot of people that are clicking on the video are stayed already informed about this issue, thank you for reminding us. lol
Thank you so much for watching the video! We must choose happiness over and over for ourselves.
- quality time
- sleep 7 to 9 hours
- exercise
- do work that you like
What about family? And lots of ppl cannot do work that they like.
@@mitch5222 Yes! Friends and family are #1. For the people that are doing work that they do not like, I highly recommend the book - How to BE Happy at Work.
Yes AND volunteering, learning, gratitude, self-compassion, reading, music, nature, acceptance, meditation....
@@mitch5222family is included under - quality time
What a great talk. This talk is a great reminder that we all have the choice in life to be happy
Thank you so very much. I need this reminder over and over again. We can keep making the choice together.
You have no idea! You haven’t struggled!
That’s right!
"Prioritize your happiness"...this is so great Tia! I love the 4 simple and actionable steps you lay out here on how to "do" happiness. Thank you for you vulnerability and willingness to share your story. Everyone needs to hear this message!
Thank you so much Andrew! I truly appreciate you watching my TEDx and spreading the message.
@@TiaGraham Absolute pleasure! Let's keep this going. The world needs your message!
@@andrewlanderson That is my plan! :-)
That's a nice one.Happiness is on our mindset.If we do find out positivity at every adverse situation of life we all can be happy in life.On the other hand,at good time we don't have to mske us happy by finding out positivism at all time.Because,time will naturally make us please.If we do keep our soul happy the productivity rate of us will be increased and life will be successful for sure.
Thank you for watching my talk and sharing your perspective and take-aways.
Great life-wisdom from a woman who obviously lives as she preaches, i.e. follows her own feelings of delight, doing what she herself enjoys. She is not a pleaser, kudos for that! I can't imagine her trying to please a grumpy old man or craving play-boy or tricky cheater. She has a hubby who brings the same qualities to the partnership, that she does, in a mutually loving relationship. Both equally as happy and lucky. All the best wishes, Tia, and huge thanks for sharing! It made my day!
Thank you! When we all share out wisdom, we realize how similar we all are.
I like this episode.appreciate!
I am so grateful!
Thank you so so much for this Ted Talk Tia. Talk about timing....I am grateful to you 🙏
Thank you so much Robbie! You can come back to it whenever you need it. I have more videos on my YT channel for you as well.
@@TiaGraham Wonderful! I will definitely go to your channel to watch them! I am from Montreal. So proud you are from our beautiful country ♥️🇨🇦✨
A happy life has more positive than pain ( true line).. adding to that happiness is really a choice ❤
Yes! When you and I are 92-years old (hopefully :), and reflecting back on our lives, the goal is to have more positive overall. If we didn't feel pain and experience pain, we would not be human. It is privilege to be able to focus on happiness, as it means that our needs are being met (food, shelter, safety, etc.). Thank you so much for watching my talk.
My definition of happiness is hiking surrounded by mountains.
I relocated out-of-state 6 months ago. And I’m struggling to find my happiness as the state we’ve relocated to doesn’t have mountains. I’ve tried to hike here but the elevation is low. I began to bake more to feel happier. This helps. I’ve chosen to complete my MHA program (1 class remaining before completion). I’ll soon re-enter the workforce part-time to travel more. I also think that helping people overcome what I had to will elevate my quality of life once more per patient advocacy.
And I’d love to visit Beautiful Canada. Canada has the most gorgeous mountains.
(P.S. The United States has the highest depression rates internationally. I never follow “trends” in society in this country; I much prefer sustaining my strong moral compass and remaining in-alignment w/ my faith).
Thank you for your insight. 😇
Hiking in the mountains is a source of happiness and peace for me as well! My Mom would always say, "This is God", when we were skiing in the mountains. What about making a list of all of the activities and things that bring you joy? In addition to hiking, what other activities can you do in nature? Congratulations on completing your program and for choosing to work to travel. Travel is a huge source of happiness and purpose for many. Thank you so much for your comments. Tia
Thank you! I loved this video, I agree with all! When we spen our time doings things that really matter to us we feel more productive, more happier and always try to deliver our better.
I am SO grateful that you loved the idea and message. Our time is so valuable and let's spend it on what brings us purpose, joy, and makes us more wise and compassionate with all humans.
Thank You Tia! I'm so happy I found you on UA-cam! This all makes perfect sense!
You have motivated me, to choose happiness! ❤😊
I am so glad!!! You have agency over your behaviors and thoughts and both can impact your well-being.
THANK YOU, TIA!!!! YOU HIT IT OUT OF THE PARK!!!!!!
WOW!!! Thank you so much!!! :) :) :)
I have one important piece of being happy, your spouse that you love dearly not die from cancer. That helps A LOT
Dear Bill, I am so sorry for your loss. I have been with my husband for 15-years and I cannot imagine how hard losing a spouse to cancel would be. Sending you healing and inner strength. Have you found people to support you?
Hapiness is enjoying watching and listening a gorgeous lady like you! Love the shiny hair! ❤
Hahaha thank you! It does not look like this everyday. Thank you for watching my talk.
TOTALLY AWSOME TEDX CANADA!!!!! I LOVE MY CANADIAN FAMILY!!!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH.
:) Thank you!
A most Excellent talk. So clear and simple. I’m now following your and Dad’s advice. ❤
Thank you John! It is clear, simple, and takes constant work and attention. I have to keep making the choice over and over again.
If it was THAT easy, and that simple so many wouldn't struggle being happy. Many don't know what brings them joy to even be able to do "the things they enjoy".
Thank you for sharing your perspective and for taking the time to watch my talk. I agree that many people do not know what brings them joy and research shows that humans often choose things thinking it will make them happy (Ex. promotion and more money/work), and it ends up making them less happy. It takes intention, focus, self-awareness, and self-reflection to find out what you REALLY want.
Thanks for all your help, you are Awesome 😊❤
My pleasure!
The key is enjoy the little things and except what you can't change, and change what you can't except.
Yes AND have a healthy relationship with the painful sides of life.
You are truly appreciated Tia😊
I totally enjoyed your session a lot, how you mentioned that happiness is the sweetest pleasure which can create a stress less boundary around ourselves, it was a wonderful way to make us understand. 😌💕
Thank you so much! I wish you a really great 2024!
A simple secret so beautifully presented. Thank you, Tia for the reminder that we need to choose happiness by doing what makes us happy!
Thank you Adam!