Accepting Responsibility For The Conditions of Your Own Life
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- Опубліковано 6 чер 2022
- We have to stop blaming others for our life situation. Bad things happen, but it’s our reaction to it that makes the difference.
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Even IF you actually are a victim of unfavorable circumstances, looking at yourself as a victim will only anchor you to whatever situation you're in.
It does that by initiating a perception of impotence... being a victim is hard to nullify cos it's 'been done to you' from an external source, but being a fuk up can be improved upon dramatically without anyone else, cos it's up to you. That's how I think of it anyway, psychological judo - taking back power over the situation.
Even if you die. You’ll go out with pride.
some folks spend far too much time rolling around on the floor wailing and crying as loud as they can to get everyone's attention that it never occurs to them to just get up, dust off, and keep going.
@@groglorb8980 Some ppl need help to get up, especially if they've been hurt in the fall.
We as strong men (and women) in a supportive community should provide that help to those who need and want it. That's what's important, is that someone wants to do better with/for themselves and their lives. Nothing wrong with needing support, asking for help, or giving it. In fact, quite the contrary, it shows strength.
@@bvdek definitely, asking for help and relying on others is no weakness. It's when the point of it becomes the spectacle and the complaining it's an issue. And sadly those that just want to cause a rukus drown out the genuine calls for aid. But yeah I totally agree with your point, perhaps I worded that a little badly.
An important distinction should be made between "fault" and "responsibility." There are many things in our life that are not our "fault" but are 100% our "responsibility."
i like to say there is a difference between "accountable" and "responsible". Sometimes you must accept both, sometimes one or the other. Maturity kind of helps. These times today, these kids are neither, which is why they are miserable.
@@carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679 and the fault for that lies with their parents, the responsibility for dealing lies with themselves.
Petty semantics.
I’m trying to fully understand this could you give me an example?
@@djcook if someone brings a bag of poop and drops it on your porch and lights it on fire. That bag of lit poop is not your fault, but it’s your responsibility to clean it up.
Man, I didn't have a dad. I mean, I did, but he wasn't there. Here I am 35 years old and I feel like a kid again getting a genuine dad-son heart to heart. Fathers are powerful. I've been re-fathering myself for years and I hope I can be half the dad this guy is. He could make content just of this and have a huge following.
@@FloresOrtodoxas It says a lot about you that you're looking for better examples and aiming to improve yourself. Way to go! Keep it up. :)
Nice phrase, refathering oneself, I will remember that one!
My friend, I am reading your comment to my beloved brother. THANK YOU for sharing that. "'Re-fathering' myself"...🙏🏽
@@edmondsmith4259 I'm glad this was a blessing. Praying for you and your journey.
Jordan Peterson was huge for me, read his books. They just might feel like the dad who wasn’t there for you too
I'm a retired machinist and mechanical engineer. One thing I learned from my father as I apprenticed under him, was accepting the right responsibility. When the company has a problem, it's the company's problem, not yours. It's YOUR JOB to fix the problem. That instilled attitude always kept me calm during company "disasters" and I was able to stay focused on the job at hand.
Even if you help your neighbor fix his car. Help him but don't take the problem on your self.
That really hits home especially that last bit you mention 👍 I've never had it explained to me like this. Thank you and your father for the wisdom.
@@holdthephoneblocker Most welcome.
As a 30 year old dad of 4 who is struggling a bit at the moment, I really needed to hear this. Thank you.
I don't agree that all the problems are on both side, Many are promoted for political reason and are dishonest . being a farm kid when I grew up my Dad taught me to be Honest and have integrity. If I lied I was in real trouble. I just watched a guy who for 6 years lied continiesly and is supported by his party. I like my Dad can't stand a liar or would ever vote for one. I believe in democracy not party. We need top portect it.
Prayers yoru way from San Antonio, Tyler.
@@o.d.jemtrud1554 portect
@@o.d.jemtrud1554 freedom over anything
Keep Moving.
As someone who never had a dad I thank you for the dad advice.
Same here brother.
Glad you're getting it, no matter what the source, i can relate. Wish you well.
I'm glad you found this man. As someone who was fortunate to have a good dad, these videos are a great assurance that he taught me well.
Same bro, my father passed when i was 13, he liked to be in his farm (now mine) and smoked cigars sometimes. Dwayne reminds me of him
Same here
The greatest battle is not with others but within.
Well said sir 💯
I’m currently in college, and I did quite bad on my last physics test. I don’t always, but this time I blamed the teacher for the hard problems. But, even though most of the class got low scores, that doesn’t mean I couldn’t have done better if I took some more responsibility and studied more. It’s not her fault for giving us a challenge, and I should always expect one.
Thank you for the video
People with this kind of mindset are rare nowadays. Good thing you turned the situation into your favour.
we're going to absolutely kill ourselves with all this overworking. And when you've worked your youth away, you'll regret it all.
for me, i ALWAYS remember the tests i did bad on, the questions i got wrong, and sure enough, ull see that question/ problem again, and youll ace it, bc we only grow from the areas we were challenged in, and the problems we got wrong...
keep that accountability, it will take you far my friend!
@@mokie7421 Spoken like someone who doesn’t do much work. :)
@@unknownuser3.33 my ass bro. You have an anime pfp.
Went through like 30 comments and 29 were saying “you’re right, this is what I’ve always done!” and only one was saying “you’re right, I’ve failed in this area and want to learn to take responsibility more.” Let me make that 2. This was a kick in the pants I needed.
Make it 3. I've failed and I'm going to be better.
The problem is that most of the people claiming they have always taken responsibility for their situation have never actually have done it. Well, except in a UA-cam comment section. Overwhelming amount of people I meet always blame an outside force for why their life isn’t going the way it should and get irate if you imply that maybe it’s their fault.
Take acid
Failure is nothing more than a stepping stone to greatness just as long as you NEVER quit.
@@evanfurn920 Failure is nothing more than a stepping stone to greatness just as long as you NEVER quit.
Growing up, my father would always tell me to "stop acting like a victim" when I complained or got irrationally upset. I used to hate hearing that more than anything else. Only now do I look back and am grateful I had a father who taught me personal responsibility and perspective. The real victims of the world would laugh at the 90 some odd percent of us in first world countries that live such beautiful and blessed lives.
Yeah. Life ain’t perfect. But I’ve been dealt a very decent hand. I need to be more thankful !
What do you do when your father teaches you nothing and victimizes you from the earliest time you can remember until you're 18 and free of him?
@@Malumbrus Not that I know anything about such situations, but it may help to go to therapy, talk out whatever experience has traumatized you and find a way to cut ties with that experience and/or that person. I'm sorry to hear about that and I wish you all the best and take care of yourself 🙏
@@dayra-koon5298 It's too late, I'm too old for it to make life worth living. Damage is already done.
The first world is becoming the third world because silent-gen/boomers just like this one in the video have allowed them to come pouring in.
thanks man I needed to hear this. I recently found out I'm going to be a dad, me and my girl were fighting a lot when we found out and we were going to break up but when we found out we decided to make it work. I was frustrated at my situation because I didn't want a baby yet, and especially with someone I was about to break up with so I was walking around with a bad attitude towards everyone, including her. But I'M the one who had unprotected sex and I knew full and well the risks of what I was doing, and I'M the one responsible for my situation. I have a newfound love for my girl after realizing I need to man the f up and take charge of the situation.
You can do this!!
even if things don’t work out in the future you still have the choice to be a good father to that child throughout their life, remember any man can be a father but it takes someone special to be a dad
Good job brother. Not too many people have the courage to do what you're doing. You're going to be a fantastic Dad.
You're not alone in this fight, you've shown a lot of strength I can tell also from you researching how to be a better person (watching this video) we're right there with you brother
Hey, how's that baby? How's the gf? And how are you?
Many years ago I used to hang out at an old dive bar out in the middle of nowhere. It was a quiet place to have a drink and there was a few old guys in there. Mostly farmers,most ex military,and just good company to keep. The one guy told me “I choose to be beholden to no one for anything”. I was 21-22 y/o at the time and that stuck with me. If you put yourself in the position of being reliant upon anyone other than yourself you’ll always be disappointed and get the short end of everything.
As a youth counselor I found too many cases where the parents treat punishment as responsibility, so the kids grow up to treat responsibility as a punishment. This has blinded many people to the truth that responsibility is a gift that nobody can take away from you. It is part of your fundamental autonomy and intrinsically it can never be lost, stolen, or broken. Whatever you choose it is your ability to respond. Embracing responsibility as a gift is integral to healing and discovering your autonomy. Thank you for this relaxed and peaceful video that fits the simplicity of the message well.
I grew up in foster care, and I was punished in this manner. They drilled it in me when I was a young kid around 9 years old, that I needed to take responsibility. And honestly, I had no clue what they were talking about. All I knew is I missed my family, foster care was a nightmare for me, and I wanted an exit...and I couldn't find it. While trapped in a helpless state of existence, all I heard was "stop feeling sorry for yourself and take responsibility". All the while, my environment was extremely rigid, so I didn't really understand what take responsibility meant. What choice did I have in anything? I guess for me it meant suffer quietly and do as your told. I teeter tottered between self destructive behaviors and outright rebellion. I'm doing better today, I know better now, but it was a long treacherous road to healing.
@@amyrenee1361 thank you for sharing this ❤️🙏
Damn that is so true
This is so true. Worded beautifully.
@@amyrenee1361 I hear you. I went through something similar. Look up Patrick Tehan. He is a wonderful trauma therapist.
I started rolling my own cigarettes and now I can afford gasoline. I started reloading and now I can afford to target shoot. I moved into a teepee and now I can afford my rent. I started fishing & hunting and now I can afford to eat. Well actually I started doing all those things about 50 years ago and never really stopped. It's not easy being native but it makes hardship easier to deal with. We are used to it. Hoping the brown, red, yellow, black and white all wake up, stand up and fire the so called leaders as they are truly a special kind of stupid. Nice video, thanks
Teepee Jackson is from Atlanta
Good onya mate from native NZ
Deep man.👍thanks for posting
@@notfromromepope5109 Chur bro, good to see some kiwis in here. Kia kaha.
a rollie is a delight.
This is the kind of advice that taught me how to overcome my depression, take responsibility for my life, and learn how to place myself in better positions. I would not be where I am today and probably wouldn’t be alive today if it wasn’t for people like you giving out this kind of “difficult” wisdom. Thank you so much for sharing.
Listening in from Nairobi, Kenya. UA-cam recommended this and its very insightful. Actually everyone in this planet is blaming someone or something outside themselves. Accepting responsibility for everything is the only way to happiness. Thank you.
Here with you bro
Kenyans are here, wisdom galore 🎉🎉🎉
Amen. I wish more “influencers” would talk like this before it is too late for our country. Thank you.
Ditto
Living within your means and planning for future hardships is something lost in today's society. "Do you need a lot of what you've got to survive?"
@@polarizedoutdoors Nice Modest Mouse reference
@@Adam_Stuart isaac brock speaks the gospel
Not just your Country, it's the same in the Rest of our World.
Right on brother. I'm a welder and a machinist as a day trade. When gas went up I started taking weekend gigs setting up and tearing down events. When food went up I started fixing vehicles and reselling them. If it gets even tougher I'll start doing home repair on the two nights I have left. My family will not starve. I am not stupid and refuse to live like it.
Very respectable handling of the situation. I found myself being similar in my approach. Gas went up and all the fingerpointing began. Biden and Putin this. Biden stickers pointing at the price gauge saying “I did this!” Okay. And what are YOU doing to fix your situation? People started bellyaching and using Biden as reason to just mentally give up. How weak is that? All it took was a politician to break your constitution? Come on man.
@@thecapone45 exactly bro. I refuse to rely on any government to feed my family. All finger pointing and not a solution in sight. Well guess some of us are built differently. I'll make my own solutions. Earn my self respect, as well as the admiration of my children and family. I don't have the time to complain, and the energy to waste whining. I'll keep working.
Get it brother, for you and anyone else who wakes up everyday and lives with integrity and grit, I hope the light at the end of the tunnel starts gettin a lil brighter. Until then, stay strong and I know you will 💪🙏
Good on you for working hard, but wouldn’t this be the perfect opportunity for a program to step in and give you some back of what you’ve paid in? There would be no shame at all in receiving benefits of what you’ve funded through taxes to give working families a leg up… doesn’t it seem like a parent shouldn’t have to work so hard in the wealthiest country in the history of the world just to survive?
Bro, it wasn't that long ago that an entire family could survive off one honest paycheck, especially in a qualified trade like a boilermaker or machinist. That's how they could manage housewives/hubbys, cos one honest job would feed a family. Greed is outta control, the distribution of capital is way outta whack. Our culture sells us this image of ourselves as hard working honorable ppl, which u clearly are, but it's used as a rose tint on the reality... that is, we are being milked fuking dry in this late stage capitalism bs, because the cats with the resources and capital see the volatility and inevitable change coming - they tryna milk it for as much n as long as they can.
No man, especially not in the wealthiest country in the world (Aus has highest avg wage per capita btw) should have to work multiple jobs, ontop of already highly skilled, physical and dangerous work like you do, just to feed his family. It's fukn disgusting, and no amount of hollywood fairytale ego-stroking & self-perception washing changes that. Sorry bro, you should be living very comfortably, and it's absolutely NOT a matter of lack of resources, or lack of input on your part. The system is failing ppl like you, and ya buy into it with pride. I get self pride is better than self pity, but don't delude yourself dude.
Having said that, good on you for still doing what u gotta to make ends meet, I do respect that. I understand you don't have the luxury to complain. I just don't think it's right, and certainly doesn't needa be this way. I don't like to think of myself as a victim, but I also can't willingly turn a blind eye while I, you and others are being bent over and fukd by ppl who don't feel ANY of the negative consequences of this system.
Was just discussing this last night. Love these videos. As a 26 year old living in the city, it's very hard to find good influences anymore.
I absolutely agree. Everything is the result of your own actions. But do not forget that it works both ways. Not only your fails but also your wins are the results of your own actions. So give yourself credit where credit is due!
I'm a 35 year old man who was raised by a father born in 1950, and a mother born in 63. They raised me to be an honest, trustworthy man who admits when he's wrong and man enough to shake someone else's hand when things go right. And I'd like to see my boys grow up to be the men my own father raised me to be
Sir, this whole damn country needs to hear this! Thank you, you are spot on.
But they won't. Only people who are inclined toward personal responsibility would listen to this and take the advice to heart. Meanwhile, we are surrounded by knaves, dunces, and would-be felons, and there will always be a plentiful supply of those.
@@tshandy1 the people who have a concept of personal responsibility control the masses by manipulating them and feed their victim mentality. So personal responsibility isn’t always a good thing because you can be aware and have personal responsibility and still fan the flames of division for your own personal gain. Chew on that
The whole western world needs to hear this. Hi, from Australia.
Sir, this is the first video of yours that I've watched. It was on my feed. And I don't smoke cigars or drink or anything but I am a 21 year old tig welder, I'm Christian, I've got a house, I'm getting married this year, no debt, and I believe it's all because of those values you talked about in this video. I had three part-time jobs at any given time all through high school, and I believe that work ethic and my values are the reasons why I am at where I am today. Great video, and you've gained another subscriber. Thank you.
If your 21 don't smoke or drink or anything and your a welder. Your going places bro
God bless you brother
Every young person needs someone like you in their life, Sir. Peace and Blessings ☮️🙏🏿
I couldn’t agree more, Duane. Just told a young relative the hard truth about spending more than you can afford. Choices you make, consequences then suffered. Also reminded him, it’s just temporary. Get smarter about money, saving, impulse buying, patience.
I'm a pipe welder in the oil patch and this year will mark the point where I have been welding over half my life. Inflation is out of control and it's not hard to find the reason for it but I'm still expecting this year to be my best year ever. People always see success and say how nice it must be but they don't talk about the 10 or 15 years of suffering in the trenches they were not willing to do to get there. Lots of people have great ambitions but no one is ready to take responsibility for the failures. You always lose more than you win, most people just can't bare to sit at the table long enough to come out on top.
Derp it's gubbement spendin and nobody wants to werk. Derp. The main thing driving inflation is supply chain issues and price gouging. Things are in demand and hard to get, so companies charge more and blame inflation. Of course, you won't consider that because it doesn't fit your narrative.
Facts!
Some people own the table you're sitting at and they've never had to suffer. But that's not most of us, glad you're at a great place stranger.
@@Soundsaboutright42 can’t do anything about it though. In football if the ref makes a bad call, you can’t do anything about it. You have to keep playing. Same in life.
They need to take your videos and make them a class in a university. Call it “common sense ain’t common” amazing material all throughout this channel ❤
This man has saved so many young man's lives without him even knowing it God bless this man
I'm 24 and I personally live in one of the more expensive places in the US at the moment and I'm working and paying my way through school. It's easy to want to feel sorry for yourself and feel like you're at the bottom of the food chain here. Thank you for reminding me that its on me and that I have the freedom and ability to make a difference in my life and how my future is forged. Thank you for reminding me of the common sense and wisdom that I was taught as a young man. I needed this; you are a very inspiring man.
Seattle?
Keep your head up..Make yourself a sou d plan..And work it..Don't do any dumb stuff..That includes women. Keep your wick dry..Do your thing..Take care of you..The women situation will always be there..Believe me..Build yourself a stable base. Time rolls quick..
If you’re reading the comments for this video, and feeling a tinge of guilt for agreeing with a lot of what he’s saying, but understanding you can’t just “work 2-3 jobs” and mentally withstand it because that’s a dying, ignorant prospect of our country, you’re not alone. His philosophy applies to a lot of people in many honest ways, but not necessarily all of them apply to you ❤
I agree. It is killing me physically and mentally as well as spiritually to work 2 jobs. I am on month 7 of 2 jobs 1 full time, 1 part time to support my family. It is exhausting and I hardly have time for family let alone chores or "free time". I have had 4 days off total in the last 4 months. I don't think 2-3 jobs is a great plan long-term for anyone to remain in sync physically/mentally/socially.
Responsibility should be something good, positive, and necessary. But it should not be abused, nor should it be punishment. And I do believe that sometimes, even when people try to be responsible, it might not even be possible to be that way because the circumstances are just too much.
@@generalvanman8270 Are you able to downsize where you live?
@@generalvanman8270Dang...we are a family of 5 with half your income and somehow make it work (with no debt besides an auto loan). Good luck :-/
I appreciate this video sir!
I’m a young man living in London UK, and I totally agree with the fact that a lot of us need to man up and take full responsibility for our actions and the choices/decisions we make…
Two thumbs up for this message, and I’ll be sharing this with a lot of people that need to hear it
Thank you 👍🏽👍🏽
Been waking up before work lately with nothing but dread and confusion in my heart. I’ve been mustering along and am grateful to have a few minutes in the morning to put your videos on. Your wisdom and honestly gives me a little hope that there is a light at the end of this period of my life. Thanks very much.
Hope you're feeling better now
You are so right sir. It’s refreshing to hear someone say EVERYONE does this. Conservatives blame liberals, liberals blame Trump. Shut up and handle your business. People claiming to be “alpha males” whining about Biden or Trump all day on social media. Im only 40 but I remember people taking responsibility for their own lives and not crying about everything. Not playing into the government’s hands and fighting with your fellow American. Even after 9/11, we came together. If that was today, we would be at each others throats. It’s sad
Thanks for all your content and for being a man who grabbed himself by his balls and got his life together, creating a better outcome for everyone.
Agreed. But I do see more conservatives taking responsibility because they’re the ones who have kept their abilities to be hands on in their life, so they experience what it is to have responsibilities. Just what I’ve noticed.
It’s cause us conservatives are the ones taking the responsibility of trying to save this country from tyranny. How don’t you see this?
@@abumzbum1869 Correct. Conservatives have created a world before us, a civilization that’s been already established. Liberals want to ruin that by regressing.
@@PhukTrump2024 Wasn’t that just proven to be a set up?
as a 17 year old seeing what is going on i appreciate what your doing on this channel.. i agree with everything you said.
Life will fuck you over in a couple of years believe it or not. Being aware of yourself and what's happening around you while being delt horrible cards is a painful experience. Enjoy being 17 for as long as you can, bro.
@@Globus601 Why even Comment? The young man is 17. If your life is that miserable I’m sorry but don’t make it miserable for everyone around you.
@@Globus601 I’m sorry to hear that about you.
I’m 27 and I agree with what dude said. The economy is in free fall and it’s becoming so hard to maintain. I have no motivation because my goals seem impossible. I’ll probably never own a house with inflation as bad as it is
@@Globus601 I’m 19 and my life is completely different than it was when I was 17. So much better nowadays. I’m completely self sufficient, make great money, live on my own, no debt, and work my ass off. If life crushed you in your late teens/early twenties I’m sorry but that’s not everyone. Hope things get better for you.
I almost wanna have a cigar and sit down and just listen to you. I love your demeanor, you’re well spoken commonsense approach. Makes a lot of sense to me. Thanks for the videos.
As a 22-year-old unemployed with no skills, I needed to hear this.
Update: I'm employed now
@@theknight4317 congratulations!!
Great that you’re employed. Now go get some marketable skills.
@@mariekatherine5238 I'm unemployed again. Semi-employed by another place though.
@@theknight4317 what are your dreams?
Mom here. This is exactly why I chose to homeschool my kids & moved us away from the city. I didn’t like what was happening to my children or what they were learning in that environment, so I changed our circumstances to one that I wanted for my kids. To one where they will know how to feed themselves, protect themselves, grow food for themselves, respect themselves & others, and so much more. Our children are our sole responsibility & I wouldn’t trust any government entity to care for my child in any capacity. Such a good video & reminder. So many people need to hear this. Thank you❤️
i agree so much. government should just cease to exist, we cant expect them to care for our welfare. they are so useless
I Agree100% i. Homeschooled my daughter and son at home school..i taught them. All the needed. To Survive in this world! I never sugar coated it either!!😊
Exactly, my son doing excellent, working, purchased his brand new car, credit score way up, and only 19. I'm now 51 and very proud of him. Schools now are 100% garbage even colleges shootings and corrupted teachers
Duane - I am not a horseman, cowboy, cigar smoker (well, occasionally I am,) or even an outdoorsman for that matter. What I am, however, is a 25 year old philosophy student and lifelong learner, which is why I believe I find myself drawn to your videos. The ones about horses, fencing, and cigars still manage to entertain me but content like this is what I love most about your channel. Thanks for doing what you do.
You appear to be a truth seeker and we need more young people to be one too.
Nice to meet another philosophy student here. What kind of philosophy do you like?
@@matthewcote5198 Greetings! I enjoy analytical philosophy - logic, epistemology, etc.. One of my favorite philosophers to study is Wittgenstein. Thanks for asking
I have a degree in Philosophy and find this little song very inspiring:
ua-cam.com/video/l9SqQNgDrgg/v-deo.html
Why are yall paying thousands of dollars to get a degree in knowing how other men think? You could read library books on these guys for free in your spare time and have a rewarding career in something else you enjoy and can live off of. You could try forming your own thoughts and opinions instead of what someone else influences you to think. Freedom! Imagine that.
So glad I discovered this channel. This past year has been the most challenging of my life and these videos are definitely helping.
Thank you for using your voice, your platform, to help others! Your wisdom is what my dad, a true cowboy, taught me. I'm happy to find your channel because you word the messages just as well as he did, maybe better. When he passed he had finally achieved his lifelong dream of becoming an auctioneer. Thank you!
No doubt. Accountability should still exist!!
Remember everyone, red and blue make purple!!! We are the pawns and they are royalty. Stand together as living beings, not some political group.
Another reason why I never joined a political party, I personally believe in Truth, Freedom, and Justice, and sadly there is no large group in America that represents those values, only people on an individual basis.
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I feel the same way, I worked hard for 45 years and retired with everything worked for and paid for by me. Thanks for speaking the hard cold facts.
Good for you. It's important to note that wages and cost of living have changed at different rates over the past 45 years. Want to guess which has grown faster?
@@Tom-kl5lg I'm failing to see why you would blame this random older fellow for that
@@Rookiereece I didn't blame anyone. I simply pointed out that conditions today aren't the same as 45 years ago.
The next Bretton woods is coming. I hope many are working towards being more self sufficient. Some cash and physical gold and junk silver for its barterability are a probably a safe bet for most. I think gold might pivot around 1600 #elliotwavetheory
@@Tom-kl5lg yeah, everything changes all the time. What's your point? People always trying to shoot other people down that work hard, so weird.
Thanks Dwayne! I’m 58 and you helped me off the fence in a problem I had.peace and merry Christmas to you and your family!
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I lost my dad at 16. Now 37, your words are really nice to hear. What my dad did leave me with, was the advice to be very leery of my own ego. All of your videos are well worded with wisdom
As much as I love the horsemanship and cigar videos the philosophical videos are invaluable.
@Logan Liszt While I disagree that is your opinions and at the very least I respect it.
There are and innumerable number of news articles, economic articles out there, and one can find an article that will say whatever one wants to hear. The trick is to read the articles from both sides, and interpret that through one’s own experience and personal knowledge and observations. Anyone who simply forms her opinions based on articles written by an anonymous person is not being wise. To say that I am unread, misinformed, biased and ignorant because I come to a different conclusion based on the evidence that I see than you have come to is not helpful. That is a major difference between the two sides of the aisle. I feel fairly confident that my credibility is still intact, especially seeing that Biden and his administration has publicly, blatantly clearly stated that it is their intention from the start to raise fuel prices in order to drive there green agenda. It’s not Dwayne that has determined that it’s “Bidens fault”. It is Biden who has said “I’m going to do that”.
@Logan Liszt no disrespect but wanted to point out that the only thing you actually *added* to the discussion was being a grammar Nazi you last resort to "win" an argument. Just gonna put it bluntly not because I dislike you just couldn't find a better way to phrase it.
A great common sense message,
I don’t know what draws me in more , your uplifting words and spirit or the fact that I literally feel like Sam Elliot is sitting me down and talking to me ..
Yes, he is very like Sam Elliott!
"Honey poured over thunder" lol
This actually helped a lot! I’ve been doing 16 and 17 hour days between work and school. Haven’t really get much joy and started comparing my situation to others which was only making me bitter. I really appreciate people like you sir. You have no idea the impact your videos have!
YOU ARE 110% WIGHT! AMEN ! I AM A 70 YEAR OLD VIETNAM COMBAT VET. , AND I SEE THE WORLD THE SAME WAY YOU DO. MUCH LOVE TO YOU AND MAMA, ALONG WITH ALL YOUR FOUR LEGGED CHILDREN. THEY ARE FAMILY TOO. 😉
Exactly what I needed when I’m feeling sorry for myself as a caregiver. I have the ability and the responsibility to do what needs to be done.
As someone with autism and adhd who is fighting depression and panic attacks I cant help but agree with you. I fight to go to work every day but I need to put food on the table and create a safe space for my family. Even though we dont plan to have kids its still a responsibility I feel I need to adhere to.
Thank you Sir, youre an inspiration!
The level of wisdom this man has is electrifying. I can’t click off a video one it starts playing it’s like a one on one therapy session type thing
Please don’t stop making these types of videos. I know it takes time to make them and I think we can all appreciate your input and philosophy based off your experiences. Deep down we all want to hear what a man like you has to say, no matter if we are city folk, country folk or somewhere in a different part of the world, your voice speaks volumes. I can personally say I never had someone like you to talk to in my life, I always wished I did but I can say that it’s really great listening to your videos. I know there are many other men and women who never had someone like you to listen to, please keep making videos. Thank you 🙏
Amen Brother! My wife heard me listening to this and said, "Jeez, he sounds just like you!" - I take that as a high compliment.
Thank you for your videos. Not all of us have someone to guide us in life. Your words and wisdom mean a lot to me.
Thank you very much. A part of me knows all this, but it hits home when it is spoken out loud. Everyone needs to hear this.
More sense spoken in 10 minutes by this guy than a full semester of 'professors' running their mouths at a college.
usually the case and is I’d rather have this cat on my side then all them put towgether
Ugh wrong, he's teaching us great things don't get me wrong I love this video and his personality but you don't go to college to learn how to take responsibility... you optimally go to college because your interested/are passionate about the topic you want to work in
@@frostice6255 young adults get lost in the experience that college offers. They feel that if they put in their four years that it’s guaranteed success they’re entitled to. If they’re not rich the first day out of college they give up and blame the system. Many children are more mature and behaved than most adults these days and that comes from home. Charity starts at home and home only stands from hard work and good decisions. Everything we need to know to have a good life for ourselves and fellow man has been long written. Some people take faith to an extreme just like everything else, I clean my house daily and it’s easy because it’s routine. Start a good routine. Make today good. By doing that tomorrow and yesterday will be good by default. There’s rainy days and they remind us of how much we like the sun and if every day was 72° and sunny we wouldn’t know how to bundle up when we need to nor would we have the gear to do so. Learn something everyday to better your life. Point yourself in a direction and eventually you’ll get there but be careful of the direction. Have a tentative map and plan to reach your destination because it’s not going to happen on its own. A fox rarely sees how bushy it’s own tail is.
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@@jamescoplen9309 very good! I’m surprised that you can recognize that real life tried and true subjects are different than adult preschool brainwashing with false expectations for guaranteed success. They are apples and oranges and you get a gold star for today!
YOUR words are the most truthful I have heard on TV for some time. Give it several more times this week and next. All that don't like them, we don't need. My father said somewhat
the same to me, just before he took his shoe off and swatted my butt for not hearing him the first time. I followed suit with my kids. We all got the message. God bless.
God bless America
Love how these kind of videos are getting more and popular. Over the past couple years I’ve seen many videos that talk to men and inspire them to be better. I’m learning from them and trying to do better because I’m not perfect.
If someone got upset by this video, they're the exact people that needed to eat some humble pie and watch it a second time. Very well put. Can't feel sorry for our own situations when we're the only ones that can change it. And often times we're the reason we're in those situations.
You hit the bullseye - finally someone else who thinks like me - keep them coming sir Dwayne and God bless you and yours
I needed MEN like this in my life when I was growing up…😢 I am learning as I go tho…grateful for all the father figures I’ve had in my journeys…
You’re right!! Stop passing the blame on and be accountable!!
I grew up basically watching my father let himself go. Unaware of his severe addiction because he manipulated me into thinking he was okay. I've always longed for a proper father son relationship and with him passing when i was 17 I'll now never have it. So many things i was never taught and so much time wasted that i can never get back with him. I used to blame myself even if it didn't make sense but i now realize he didn't love himself to change and take responsibility for his own life.
It's been the hardest pill to swallow but i can't let what happened destroy me into letting myself go when i have my whole life ahead of me. Now I'm striving to be the man he should've been so i can be there for my future kids and be the best dad i can be.
I can't tell you how much these videos help people like me please never stop.
Great talk, that's exactly how I was raised and how I raised my children!
I had an uncle who I adored. He was the best role model I could ever ask for. He was taken way too soon and I have been gutted ever since.
You remind me a lot of him and I’m so glad I found your channel. Thanks for all you do. Your advice is golden.
Best wishes.
Videos and channels like yours once again prove to me that the Internet is capable of doing what it was build to do - to share wisdom and knowledge among the whole humanity. Thank you!
I randomly stumbled upon this video & kept feeling the urge to watch. I saved it and am now watching. This is exactly what I needed. To take accountability for where I am, or where I am not. Thank you!
These are my favorite videos and I agree with you 100% . My bills get paid first then food and gas and a little in the savings then the rest is play money. God bless you and keep doing more of these videos
Here's the thing. We seen this coming. Evertime parent said they all get blue ribbon, sick don't go to school ,teacher can't tell you what to do. My parents said want a ribbon try harder, you're sick stay in bed all day, When you're in school do as your told and we'll talk about when you get home. It's was ever rare that grand parents raised their grandkids full time now it is all most common sense. We need change ! I see other countries and they don't have nothing but they have each other. That's were you start in your own home.
This is what our grandfathers and fathers used to be like. When they spoke we all sat down and listened intently. The best education came from a few chairs on the porch. It breaks my heart that so many never got a chance to experience that. I was so blessed to have strong grandpas, dad, uncles. Full of wisdom. When they all got together and talked on the front porch us kids went silent and just soaked it up. That is something that’s been totally lost today. Mine are all dead and gone now and it’s my turn to pass their wisdom down. But nobody wants to listen
I had seen a couple of your videos a couple months back and would occasionally see one pop up and suggestions it would always take mental note to go to it. Suddenly I stopped seeing your videos and I've been looking for you for about a week and finally remembered last night that you're a Wrangler and that's how I finally found you. I am now subscribed and will be watching your stuff regularly. Thank you for the grown up words that too many soft people hide from these days.
Now THIS is a message I can rock with. Anything people blame outside of one’s own accountability is all banter at this point. Like I always say, “my life is my fault”.
Exactly and be glad we all failed multiple times, those that laugh and point 👉 fingers have failed as well. No need to get into arguments with nobody cuz they are not innocent either
Thank you for these much needed words. I hope everyone going through a hard time right now hears this and take strength from it. Thank you again
I love this, I 100% agree with you. I am so tired of people blaming everyone for there problems.
I found your channel just a few days ago, and we're bound to disagree on something (6:20-7:09). Accountability is all good and well and we need more of it in our day-to-day lives. It's true. We need to save up money for when situations go awry in our life or in our society. We need to make sure we have the means to protect and nourish our loved ones. Accountability is a skill set. It's not simply an issue of our time, it's something people past had to learn and people to come will have to learn. Some die never having learned it. Yet, it's something else to have it be a parent's fault if something happened to their children at school. Taking mere accountability isn't going to change this unnatural phenomenon that has become common in America. If God forbid, my child died at school my sitting there and blaming myself for trusting the school system to at the least keep them from death's door isn't helping anything. Hell, that would drive me crazy. There is currently no "civilized" peaceful country that has this same issue we do. It's mind-boggling to the world that such a powerful country has this issue and it isn't something victims should blame themselves for. I'm sure a lot of parents try their best to ensure their children are in a good school, but it's becoming harder and harder to predict which school will fall prey to the next attack. Some consider homeschooling, but not everyone has the luxury to pursue that. I've even thought of moving countries entirely, and that may just happen in the future. There are so many countries to consider.
We fully understand and empathize with this satanic school shootings happening in your nation.
But why this rarest of rate menace only in US of A ? Even though many will not agree with my point, but let me put it bluntly. America has become the worst nation to be in as of today, because of its own evil karma of meddling into all of the world's affairs without any need to only for its own selfish greed of arms sale, creating bases, looting oil etc etc. USA has since ages been creating conflicts between nations, siding with half the world to destroy the other half, using its powerful CIA, FBI and other agencies to destabilize and topple genuinely good rulers and govts of several nations. And all these evil acts only to exploit and snatch whatever your nation could get from others.
Now your own young innocent children are shooting their own brothers and sisters because your nation destroyed too many good people all around the world. Vietnam, Iraq, afganisthan and now bleeding Ukraine by pitching them against the deadly Russians only to push your weapons into Ukraine.
Karma hits back no matter howsoever you try to run away from your bad deeds.
I’m a home schooling mama of 7 kids with 6 of them being boys. My youngest sent me this to listen to and said he thought I’d like it and I’m giving them extra school points when they send me a current topic related to the things we are learning in history and government. Well done sir. Good for my boys to hear this from someone else besides me.
Dang. Good for home schooling your kids.
I got four boys and three girls momma, you are not alone. And I concur the same for mine, but all would be better for hearin a role model like this bc some may have not either had one or they had ones that weren't the best role model themselves sadly. I didn't always but am homeschoolin mine as well. Everyone needs to learn that there are consequences for being slothful, as well as the other deadly sins and beatitudes etc, but a lot don't even 'know' Father much less knowing morals other than 'laws'. Too bad they aren't following the laws they should be following. It's a shame satan has infiltrated the lives of so many... :( I worry most about the children...being amongst these time and money changers, twisters of words, emasculating monsters.
Here is a different perspective . I like these videos too. But as they say “shit happen’s”. See My comment. As a home schooler You are or should be aware that Biden and Ilk have a hard-on so to speak for independent minded people. A study of Aldous Huxley and His works especially Brave New World and those of George Orwell should be part of every school’s curriculum. Another little known Gem is The Vigilantes of Montana. Q and A discussion’s on these topics are not only thought provoking but food for thought and contemplation.
@Preston Hunt yea because the socialization that happens at school is so beneficial nowadays 😂😂
@Preston Hunt Yeah I bet they're all Jesus Freak weirdos with zero social acuity.
I applied to over 500 jobs, my resume has several successful management positions, clean record, a degree, and I just got denied a job at target, and home depot.
I agree with everything you said... But I'm just confused.
At this point, I'm beyond trying to even come up with excuses. All I know is I don't know.
Keep trying..don't give up, keep digging your heels in , it will pay off I guarantee you
It’s bullshit, but keep on going. It’s all that we can do.
try getting something from someone you know. you need a way in.
We are all responsible for our own luck in this world, well said!
Not true
Thank you Sir. I appreciate the time you took to make this video, the wisdom shared and eloquence you are able to relay these truths. People need to hear it and you are being heard. God bless to you and yours
I’m a single full time dad at 24 and the amount of bs pushed through to people these days is unbelievable ,you being honest struck a lot of my own insecurities I know I could better myself with. Bold truth to others leaves less room to lie to yourself and I admire that .
I was born with a mental illness that regularly messes with my day-to-day life. That’s 100% NOT my fault, but it is also 100% MY problem.
Much needed, thank you! 🙏🏼
May God bless you and your family!
Said with grace, love and truth. You're a gentleman and a scholar. Thank you for your grace and grace will continue to be within you. Words well spoken and forgotten. Love
As a 38 yr old momma. Im beyond grateful for your content.
This needed to be said!! Thank you.
Accepting guilt & responsibility is very difficult for most ppl!
Time to man up.
Personal accountability.
Rights AND responsibilities.
All really good stuff Dewayne - God Bless you and your family 👍
Though you are not close to my grandfather's age. You remind me a lot of him. I was raised by a cowboy. He had values that many never had. I was blessed to have been educated by a man like that. Many of your stories line up with his way, and ultimately, my lifestyle. Thank you for your time in making content with teachings that have been lost.
Same as my dad
A big AMEN to that message Dwayne! It is all of our own responsibilities to care for ourselves and our families. I have made choices in the past that laid the path for where I’m at today, both good and not so good. But I know that put myself where I am. It is my own fault and responsibility.
Nice job! It's great to hear folks like yourself are out there. My family and I have always followed your exact words. Where I'm from families still have pride, self-reliance, and God in our lives.
That's what the world / Country needs hear. I was brought up that same way. We make the choice to be where we are at. Keep it up. May The Lord bless you.
Thank you, sir. My daddy taught me to cowboy up and I taught my kids the same way. No public schools for my family and I paid for my own college education. No victims in my family.
I come here to get the Dad wisdom that I never got as a child😂.
I LOVE this man❤
You are such a lovely person. When i felt the loneliest i've ever felt, you had my back. Sir, i will never forget you.
Man I love these sit down chat videos! Love your honesty. The world needs more people like. One problem.... These types of videos are never long enough. Have a blessed day!
30 year old here. This is so important and something I am trying to spread myself where I can. It is a huge problem right now. Lack of ownership of your own situation.
I just want to say thank you. You helped me in a time I really needed but didn't know or want to accept. God bless you gramps
I needed to hear this today.
Dude!! You’re right!! I’ve failed in all these areas… you’re speech was truly inspirational. For real!! Thank you for putting this out there.