It does that by initiating a perception of impotence... being a victim is hard to nullify cos it's 'been done to you' from an external source, but being a fuk up can be improved upon dramatically without anyone else, cos it's up to you. That's how I think of it anyway, psychological judo - taking back power over the situation.
some folks spend far too much time rolling around on the floor wailing and crying as loud as they can to get everyone's attention that it never occurs to them to just get up, dust off, and keep going.
@@groglorb8980 Some ppl need help to get up, especially if they've been hurt in the fall. We as strong men (and women) in a supportive community should provide that help to those who need and want it. That's what's important, is that someone wants to do better with/for themselves and their lives. Nothing wrong with needing support, asking for help, or giving it. In fact, quite the contrary, it shows strength.
@@bvdek definitely, asking for help and relying on others is no weakness. It's when the point of it becomes the spectacle and the complaining it's an issue. And sadly those that just want to cause a rukus drown out the genuine calls for aid. But yeah I totally agree with your point, perhaps I worded that a little badly.
An important distinction should be made between "fault" and "responsibility." There are many things in our life that are not our "fault" but are 100% our "responsibility."
i like to say there is a difference between "accountable" and "responsible". Sometimes you must accept both, sometimes one or the other. Maturity kind of helps. These times today, these kids are neither, which is why they are miserable.
I tend to take a more radical approach. Everything, literally everything in the world is YOUR fault. Not necessarily your responcibility, but definitely your fault. Think about it: the first thing you learn in economics 101 is the idea of "Opportunity Cost" essentially meaning that the cost of any given decission isn't simply the cost of doing it, but also the sum benifit of every other possible decission, and all its myriad downstream and knockon effects. So after you reach a certain age, the number of things that theoretically you could have given your life to in order to solve it multiplies infinately, and the absense of action is in itself an action, choosing to do something else is in some ways equal to doing nothing. So in choosing to do whatever you are doing in some sense you are choosing to not do the things necessary to create positive change elseware, and are therefore neglegent to that thing, and if it decays and falls apart, you are at fault for that neglegence. The thing is you are only one person, so you get to choose what you are at fault for, by chosing what you aren't going to give your time, attention, and energy to. And that thing that you choose to give those things to, it better be the best possible thing you can do given your circumstances, and being at fault for something so positive it outweighs the guilt from your neglegence towards all others things.
Man, I didn't have a dad. I mean, I did, but he wasn't there. Here I am 35 years old and I feel like a kid again getting a genuine dad-son heart to heart. Fathers are powerful. I've been re-fathering myself for years and I hope I can be half the dad this guy is. He could make content just of this and have a huge following.
I'm a retired machinist and mechanical engineer. One thing I learned from my father as I apprenticed under him, was accepting the right responsibility. When the company has a problem, it's the company's problem, not yours. It's YOUR JOB to fix the problem. That instilled attitude always kept me calm during company "disasters" and I was able to stay focused on the job at hand. Even if you help your neighbor fix his car. Help him but don't take the problem on your self.
I'm a 25y/o guy from India living here in the states and I've lost every sense of security I had growing up. This means that I overly emotional and scared all the time. But your videos help to ground me and make me feel warm. Tysm my good sir.
I don't agree that all the problems are on both side, Many are promoted for political reason and are dishonest . being a farm kid when I grew up my Dad taught me to be Honest and have integrity. If I lied I was in real trouble. I just watched a guy who for 6 years lied continiesly and is supported by his party. I like my Dad can't stand a liar or would ever vote for one. I believe in democracy not party. We need top portect it.
Went through like 30 comments and 29 were saying “you’re right, this is what I’ve always done!” and only one was saying “you’re right, I’ve failed in this area and want to learn to take responsibility more.” Let me make that 2. This was a kick in the pants I needed.
The problem is that most of the people claiming they have always taken responsibility for their situation have never actually have done it. Well, except in a UA-cam comment section. Overwhelming amount of people I meet always blame an outside force for why their life isn’t going the way it should and get irate if you imply that maybe it’s their fault.
This is the kind of advice that taught me how to overcome my depression, take responsibility for my life, and learn how to place myself in better positions. I would not be where I am today and probably wouldn’t be alive today if it wasn’t for people like you giving out this kind of “difficult” wisdom. Thank you so much for sharing.
Growing up, my father would always tell me to "stop acting like a victim" when I complained or got irrationally upset. I used to hate hearing that more than anything else. Only now do I look back and am grateful I had a father who taught me personal responsibility and perspective. The real victims of the world would laugh at the 90 some odd percent of us in first world countries that live such beautiful and blessed lives.
@@Malumbrus Not that I know anything about such situations, but it may help to go to therapy, talk out whatever experience has traumatized you and find a way to cut ties with that experience and/or that person. I'm sorry to hear about that and I wish you all the best and take care of yourself 🙏
As a youth counselor I found too many cases where the parents treat punishment as responsibility, so the kids grow up to treat responsibility as a punishment. This has blinded many people to the truth that responsibility is a gift that nobody can take away from you. It is part of your fundamental autonomy and intrinsically it can never be lost, stolen, or broken. Whatever you choose it is your ability to respond. Embracing responsibility as a gift is integral to healing and discovering your autonomy. Thank you for this relaxed and peaceful video that fits the simplicity of the message well.
I grew up in foster care, and I was punished in this manner. They drilled it in me when I was a young kid around 9 years old, that I needed to take responsibility. And honestly, I had no clue what they were talking about. All I knew is I missed my family, foster care was a nightmare for me, and I wanted an exit...and I couldn't find it. While trapped in a helpless state of existence, all I heard was "stop feeling sorry for yourself and take responsibility". All the while, my environment was extremely rigid, so I didn't really understand what take responsibility meant. What choice did I have in anything? I guess for me it meant suffer quietly and do as your told. I teeter tottered between self destructive behaviors and outright rebellion. I'm doing better today, I know better now, but it was a long treacherous road to healing.
I started rolling my own cigarettes and now I can afford gasoline. I started reloading and now I can afford to target shoot. I moved into a teepee and now I can afford my rent. I started fishing & hunting and now I can afford to eat. Well actually I started doing all those things about 50 years ago and never really stopped. It's not easy being native but it makes hardship easier to deal with. We are used to it. Hoping the brown, red, yellow, black and white all wake up, stand up and fire the so called leaders as they are truly a special kind of stupid. Nice video, thanks
thanks man I needed to hear this. I recently found out I'm going to be a dad, me and my girl were fighting a lot when we found out and we were going to break up but when we found out we decided to make it work. I was frustrated at my situation because I didn't want a baby yet, and especially with someone I was about to break up with so I was walking around with a bad attitude towards everyone, including her. But I'M the one who had unprotected sex and I knew full and well the risks of what I was doing, and I'M the one responsible for my situation. I have a newfound love for my girl after realizing I need to man the f up and take charge of the situation.
even if things don’t work out in the future you still have the choice to be a good father to that child throughout their life, remember any man can be a father but it takes someone special to be a dad
You're not alone in this fight, you've shown a lot of strength I can tell also from you researching how to be a better person (watching this video) we're right there with you brother
I absolutely agree. Everything is the result of your own actions. But do not forget that it works both ways. Not only your fails but also your wins are the results of your own actions. So give yourself credit where credit is due!
Right on brother. I'm a welder and a machinist as a day trade. When gas went up I started taking weekend gigs setting up and tearing down events. When food went up I started fixing vehicles and reselling them. If it gets even tougher I'll start doing home repair on the two nights I have left. My family will not starve. I am not stupid and refuse to live like it.
Very respectable handling of the situation. I found myself being similar in my approach. Gas went up and all the fingerpointing began. Biden and Putin this. Biden stickers pointing at the price gauge saying “I did this!” Okay. And what are YOU doing to fix your situation? People started bellyaching and using Biden as reason to just mentally give up. How weak is that? All it took was a politician to break your constitution? Come on man.
@@thecapone45 exactly bro. I refuse to rely on any government to feed my family. All finger pointing and not a solution in sight. Well guess some of us are built differently. I'll make my own solutions. Earn my self respect, as well as the admiration of my children and family. I don't have the time to complain, and the energy to waste whining. I'll keep working.
Get it brother, for you and anyone else who wakes up everyday and lives with integrity and grit, I hope the light at the end of the tunnel starts gettin a lil brighter. Until then, stay strong and I know you will 💪🙏
Good on you for working hard, but wouldn’t this be the perfect opportunity for a program to step in and give you some back of what you’ve paid in? There would be no shame at all in receiving benefits of what you’ve funded through taxes to give working families a leg up… doesn’t it seem like a parent shouldn’t have to work so hard in the wealthiest country in the history of the world just to survive?
Bro, it wasn't that long ago that an entire family could survive off one honest paycheck, especially in a qualified trade like a boilermaker or machinist. That's how they could manage housewives/hubbys, cos one honest job would feed a family. Greed is outta control, the distribution of capital is way outta whack. Our culture sells us this image of ourselves as hard working honorable ppl, which u clearly are, but it's used as a rose tint on the reality... that is, we are being milked fuking dry in this late stage capitalism bs, because the cats with the resources and capital see the volatility and inevitable change coming - they tryna milk it for as much n as long as they can. No man, especially not in the wealthiest country in the world (Aus has highest avg wage per capita btw) should have to work multiple jobs, ontop of already highly skilled, physical and dangerous work like you do, just to feed his family. It's fukn disgusting, and no amount of hollywood fairytale ego-stroking & self-perception washing changes that. Sorry bro, you should be living very comfortably, and it's absolutely NOT a matter of lack of resources, or lack of input on your part. The system is failing ppl like you, and ya buy into it with pride. I get self pride is better than self pity, but don't delude yourself dude. Having said that, good on you for still doing what u gotta to make ends meet, I do respect that. I understand you don't have the luxury to complain. I just don't think it's right, and certainly doesn't needa be this way. I don't like to think of myself as a victim, but I also can't willingly turn a blind eye while I, you and others are being bent over and fukd by ppl who don't feel ANY of the negative consequences of this system.
But they won't. Only people who are inclined toward personal responsibility would listen to this and take the advice to heart. Meanwhile, we are surrounded by knaves, dunces, and would-be felons, and there will always be a plentiful supply of those.
@@tshandy1 the people who have a concept of personal responsibility control the masses by manipulating them and feed their victim mentality. So personal responsibility isn’t always a good thing because you can be aware and have personal responsibility and still fan the flames of division for your own personal gain. Chew on that
Sir, this is the first video of yours that I've watched. It was on my feed. And I don't smoke cigars or drink or anything but I am a 21 year old tig welder, I'm Christian, I've got a house, I'm getting married this year, no debt, and I believe it's all because of those values you talked about in this video. I had three part-time jobs at any given time all through high school, and I believe that work ethic and my values are the reasons why I am at where I am today. Great video, and you've gained another subscriber. Thank you.
I couldn’t agree more, Duane. Just told a young relative the hard truth about spending more than you can afford. Choices you make, consequences then suffered. Also reminded him, it’s just temporary. Get smarter about money, saving, impulse buying, patience.
I'm a pipe welder in the oil patch and this year will mark the point where I have been welding over half my life. Inflation is out of control and it's not hard to find the reason for it but I'm still expecting this year to be my best year ever. People always see success and say how nice it must be but they don't talk about the 10 or 15 years of suffering in the trenches they were not willing to do to get there. Lots of people have great ambitions but no one is ready to take responsibility for the failures. You always lose more than you win, most people just can't bare to sit at the table long enough to come out on top.
Derp it's gubbement spendin and nobody wants to werk. Derp. The main thing driving inflation is supply chain issues and price gouging. Things are in demand and hard to get, so companies charge more and blame inflation. Of course, you won't consider that because it doesn't fit your narrative.
@@Soundsaboutright42 can’t do anything about it though. In football if the ref makes a bad call, you can’t do anything about it. You have to keep playing. Same in life.
I'm a 35 year old man who was raised by a father born in 1950, and a mother born in 63. They raised me to be an honest, trustworthy man who admits when he's wrong and man enough to shake someone else's hand when things go right. And I'd like to see my boys grow up to be the men my own father raised me to be
I almost wanna have a cigar and sit down and just listen to you. I love your demeanor, you’re well spoken commonsense approach. Makes a lot of sense to me. Thanks for the videos.
Many years ago I used to hang out at an old dive bar out in the middle of nowhere. It was a quiet place to have a drink and there was a few old guys in there. Mostly farmers,most ex military,and just good company to keep. The one guy told me “I choose to be beholden to no one for anything”. I was 21-22 y/o at the time and that stuck with me. If you put yourself in the position of being reliant upon anyone other than yourself you’ll always be disappointed and get the short end of everything.
I'm 24 and I personally live in one of the more expensive places in the US at the moment and I'm working and paying my way through school. It's easy to want to feel sorry for yourself and feel like you're at the bottom of the food chain here. Thank you for reminding me that its on me and that I have the freedom and ability to make a difference in my life and how my future is forged. Thank you for reminding me of the common sense and wisdom that I was taught as a young man. I needed this; you are a very inspiring man.
Keep your head up..Make yourself a sou d plan..And work it..Don't do any dumb stuff..That includes women. Keep your wick dry..Do your thing..Take care of you..The women situation will always be there..Believe me..Build yourself a stable base. Time rolls quick..
I’m currently in college, and I did quite bad on my last physics test. I don’t always, but this time I blamed the teacher for the hard problems. But, even though most of the class got low scores, that doesn’t mean I couldn’t have done better if I took some more responsibility and studied more. It’s not her fault for giving us a challenge, and I should always expect one. Thank you for the video
for me, i ALWAYS remember the tests i did bad on, the questions i got wrong, and sure enough, ull see that question/ problem again, and youll ace it, bc we only grow from the areas we were challenged in, and the problems we got wrong... keep that accountability, it will take you far my friend!
Please don’t stop making these types of videos. I know it takes time to make them and I think we can all appreciate your input and philosophy based off your experiences. Deep down we all want to hear what a man like you has to say, no matter if we are city folk, country folk or somewhere in a different part of the world, your voice speaks volumes. I can personally say I never had someone like you to talk to in my life, I always wished I did but I can say that it’s really great listening to your videos. I know there are many other men and women who never had someone like you to listen to, please keep making videos. Thank you 🙏
I'm over 30 and still need big man advice like this sometimes, thanks for sharing this and thanks for the wisdom that you bring man, we all need this from time to time. Thanks so much.
Listening in from Nairobi, Kenya. UA-cam recommended this and its very insightful. Actually everyone in this planet is blaming someone or something outside themselves. Accepting responsibility for everything is the only way to happiness. Thank you.
Thank you for using your voice, your platform, to help others! Your wisdom is what my dad, a true cowboy, taught me. I'm happy to find your channel because you word the messages just as well as he did, maybe better. When he passed he had finally achieved his lifelong dream of becoming an auctioneer. Thank you!
You are so right sir. It’s refreshing to hear someone say EVERYONE does this. Conservatives blame liberals, liberals blame Trump. Shut up and handle your business. People claiming to be “alpha males” whining about Biden or Trump all day on social media. Im only 40 but I remember people taking responsibility for their own lives and not crying about everything. Not playing into the government’s hands and fighting with your fellow American. Even after 9/11, we came together. If that was today, we would be at each others throats. It’s sad
Agreed. But I do see more conservatives taking responsibility because they’re the ones who have kept their abilities to be hands on in their life, so they experience what it is to have responsibilities. Just what I’ve noticed.
@@abumzbum1869 Correct. Conservatives have created a world before us, a civilization that’s been already established. Liberals want to ruin that by regressing.
YOUR words are the most truthful I have heard on TV for some time. Give it several more times this week and next. All that don't like them, we don't need. My father said somewhat the same to me, just before he took his shoe off and swatted my butt for not hearing him the first time. I followed suit with my kids. We all got the message. God bless.
Been waking up before work lately with nothing but dread and confusion in my heart. I’ve been mustering along and am grateful to have a few minutes in the morning to put your videos on. Your wisdom and honestly gives me a little hope that there is a light at the end of this period of my life. Thanks very much.
If you’re reading the comments for this video, and feeling a tinge of guilt for agreeing with a lot of what he’s saying, but understanding you can’t just “work 2-3 jobs” and mentally withstand it because that’s a dying, ignorant prospect of our country, you’re not alone. His philosophy applies to a lot of people in many honest ways, but not necessarily all of them apply to you ❤
I agree. It is killing me physically and mentally as well as spiritually to work 2 jobs. I am on month 7 of 2 jobs 1 full time, 1 part time to support my family. It is exhausting and I hardly have time for family let alone chores or "free time". I have had 4 days off total in the last 4 months. I don't think 2-3 jobs is a great plan long-term for anyone to remain in sync physically/mentally/socially.
Responsibility should be something good, positive, and necessary. But it should not be abused, nor should it be punishment. And I do believe that sometimes, even when people try to be responsible, it might not even be possible to be that way because the circumstances are just too much.
Duane - I am not a horseman, cowboy, cigar smoker (well, occasionally I am,) or even an outdoorsman for that matter. What I am, however, is a 25 year old philosophy student and lifelong learner, which is why I believe I find myself drawn to your videos. The ones about horses, fencing, and cigars still manage to entertain me but content like this is what I love most about your channel. Thanks for doing what you do.
@@matthewcote5198 Greetings! I enjoy analytical philosophy - logic, epistemology, etc.. One of my favorite philosophers to study is Wittgenstein. Thanks for asking
Why are yall paying thousands of dollars to get a degree in knowing how other men think? You could read library books on these guys for free in your spare time and have a rewarding career in something else you enjoy and can live off of. You could try forming your own thoughts and opinions instead of what someone else influences you to think. Freedom! Imagine that.
Mom here. This is exactly why I chose to homeschool my kids & moved us away from the city. I didn’t like what was happening to my children or what they were learning in that environment, so I changed our circumstances to one that I wanted for my kids. To one where they will know how to feed themselves, protect themselves, grow food for themselves, respect themselves & others, and so much more. Our children are our sole responsibility & I wouldn’t trust any government entity to care for my child in any capacity. Such a good video & reminder. So many people need to hear this. Thank you❤️
I Agree100% i. Homeschooled my daughter and son at home school..i taught them. All the needed. To Survive in this world! I never sugar coated it either!!😊
Exactly, my son doing excellent, working, purchased his brand new car, credit score way up, and only 19. I'm now 51 and very proud of him. Schools now are 100% garbage even colleges shootings and corrupted teachers
I lost my dad at 16. Now 37, your words are really nice to hear. What my dad did leave me with, was the advice to be very leery of my own ego. All of your videos are well worded with wisdom
There are and innumerable number of news articles, economic articles out there, and one can find an article that will say whatever one wants to hear. The trick is to read the articles from both sides, and interpret that through one’s own experience and personal knowledge and observations. Anyone who simply forms her opinions based on articles written by an anonymous person is not being wise. To say that I am unread, misinformed, biased and ignorant because I come to a different conclusion based on the evidence that I see than you have come to is not helpful. That is a major difference between the two sides of the aisle. I feel fairly confident that my credibility is still intact, especially seeing that Biden and his administration has publicly, blatantly clearly stated that it is their intention from the start to raise fuel prices in order to drive there green agenda. It’s not Dwayne that has determined that it’s “Bidens fault”. It is Biden who has said “I’m going to do that”.
@Logan Liszt no disrespect but wanted to point out that the only thing you actually *added* to the discussion was being a grammar Nazi you last resort to "win" an argument. Just gonna put it bluntly not because I dislike you just couldn't find a better way to phrase it.
Life will fuck you over in a couple of years believe it or not. Being aware of yourself and what's happening around you while being delt horrible cards is a painful experience. Enjoy being 17 for as long as you can, bro.
I’m 27 and I agree with what dude said. The economy is in free fall and it’s becoming so hard to maintain. I have no motivation because my goals seem impossible. I’ll probably never own a house with inflation as bad as it is
@@Globus601 I’m 19 and my life is completely different than it was when I was 17. So much better nowadays. I’m completely self sufficient, make great money, live on my own, no debt, and work my ass off. If life crushed you in your late teens/early twenties I’m sorry but that’s not everyone. Hope things get better for you.
No doubt. Accountability should still exist!! Remember everyone, red and blue make purple!!! We are the pawns and they are royalty. Stand together as living beings, not some political group.
Another reason why I never joined a political party, I personally believe in Truth, Freedom, and Justice, and sadly there is no large group in America that represents those values, only people on an individual basis.
I grew up in a very toxic environment. Family and friends were all masters of working the welfare system. Family alcoholism was rampant. Maybe 1 out of 6 people I knew while growing up even had jobs. In my late teens, I developed the attitude that this upbringing was going to be my reason to succeed, not my excuse. I was going to break the cycle. Today, I'm not wealthy, but I hold my own. I became the first in many generations to own my home. At one point I owned 3. My Children were the first in many generations to go to college. My kids barely know what alcoholism is. They had loving parents to raise them. I broke the cycle for the next generations. Today when I hear someone complaining about how their situation prevents them from doing something, the advice I give them: Great excuse, but that also makes for a great reason, give it a try. (My kids hated that phrase when they were young.😂) Your wisdom is awesome. I am so glad I came across your channel!
YOU ARE 110% WIGHT! AMEN ! I AM A 70 YEAR OLD VIETNAM COMBAT VET. , AND I SEE THE WORLD THE SAME WAY YOU DO. MUCH LOVE TO YOU AND MAMA, ALONG WITH ALL YOUR FOUR LEGGED CHILDREN. THEY ARE FAMILY TOO. 😉
Good for you. It's important to note that wages and cost of living have changed at different rates over the past 45 years. Want to guess which has grown faster?
The next Bretton woods is coming. I hope many are working towards being more self sufficient. Some cash and physical gold and junk silver for its barterability are a probably a safe bet for most. I think gold might pivot around 1600 #elliotwavetheory
This actually helped a lot! I’ve been doing 16 and 17 hour days between work and school. Haven’t really get much joy and started comparing my situation to others which was only making me bitter. I really appreciate people like you sir. You have no idea the impact your videos have!
I've watched many of your videos but still new. 25 or so. 3 today and this one is exactly what I've been needing to hear. Tough love at it finest. Thank You💚
I had an uncle who I adored. He was the best role model I could ever ask for. He was taken way too soon and I have been gutted ever since. You remind me a lot of him and I’m so glad I found your channel. Thanks for all you do. Your advice is golden. Best wishes.
Though you are not close to my grandfather's age. You remind me a lot of him. I was raised by a cowboy. He had values that many never had. I was blessed to have been educated by a man like that. Many of your stories line up with his way, and ultimately, my lifestyle. Thank you for your time in making content with teachings that have been lost.
They need to take your videos and make them a class in a university. Call it “common sense ain’t common” amazing material all throughout this channel ❤
I appreciate this video sir! I’m a young man living in London UK, and I totally agree with the fact that a lot of us need to man up and take full responsibility for our actions and the choices/decisions we make… Two thumbs up for this message, and I’ll be sharing this with a lot of people that need to hear it Thank you 👍🏽👍🏽
These are my favorite videos and I agree with you 100% . My bills get paid first then food and gas and a little in the savings then the rest is play money. God bless you and keep doing more of these videos
I had seen a couple of your videos a couple months back and would occasionally see one pop up and suggestions it would always take mental note to go to it. Suddenly I stopped seeing your videos and I've been looking for you for about a week and finally remembered last night that you're a Wrangler and that's how I finally found you. I am now subscribed and will be watching your stuff regularly. Thank you for the grown up words that too many soft people hide from these days.
Said with grace, love and truth. You're a gentleman and a scholar. Thank you for your grace and grace will continue to be within you. Words well spoken and forgotten. Love
You nailed another one Mr. Duane! You crack me up. In a good way. You sound like my Grandpas, Dad, brothers, cousins,or uncles. We all would agree. People need to nut up. Pardon me. Have some backbone. Have some "Bark" one em. I can relate. I got into some big trouble 22 years ago and to get through it I had to take responsibility for my actions, accept the consequences and quit BLAMING everyone else. Takes a big person to be real with themselves. To learn from your mistakes is far more difficult than making the mistake. It's a heck of a lot easier to get into trouble than to get out of it. I did so I know it's possible. I had to learn the hard way, ya know? Thanks for the thoughts. I needed that. I quit a lot of bad habits . It wasn't easy, but the hardest thing I ever did in my life was to be true to myself and being honest and logical with myself and reasonable. I did it thanks to one big thing. I WAS NOT ALONE. GOD CARRIED ME THROUGHT IT EVERY STEP OF THE WAY !!!!! AMEN TO THAT! God bless, Duane!
That's what the world / Country needs hear. I was brought up that same way. We make the choice to be where we are at. Keep it up. May The Lord bless you.
Love how these kind of videos are getting more and popular. Over the past couple years I’ve seen many videos that talk to men and inspire them to be better. I’m learning from them and trying to do better because I’m not perfect.
Man I love these sit down chat videos! Love your honesty. The world needs more people like. One problem.... These types of videos are never long enough. Have a blessed day!
I have never clicked the notification bell until now. This talk makes me want to hear the content even more. Your words are powerful...thank you for issuing them. It is obvious God has blessed y'all. I pray that he continues to do so. More so as you bless everyone on your channel.
I grew up basically watching my father let himself go. Unaware of his severe addiction because he manipulated me into thinking he was okay. I've always longed for a proper father son relationship and with him passing when i was 17 I'll now never have it. So many things i was never taught and so much time wasted that i can never get back with him. I used to blame myself even if it didn't make sense but i now realize he didn't love himself to change and take responsibility for his own life. It's been the hardest pill to swallow but i can't let what happened destroy me into letting myself go when i have my whole life ahead of me. Now I'm striving to be the man he should've been so i can be there for my future kids and be the best dad i can be. I can't tell you how much these videos help people like me please never stop.
A big AMEN to that message Dwayne! It is all of our own responsibilities to care for ourselves and our families. I have made choices in the past that laid the path for where I’m at today, both good and not so good. But I know that put myself where I am. It is my own fault and responsibility.
Yep what you said is what my Dad taught me. You are responsible for the life you build and the choices you make. Take care of your family, fear God and live a moral life. Thank you for putting the reminder out there.
Videos and channels like yours once again prove to me that the Internet is capable of doing what it was build to do - to share wisdom and knowledge among the whole humanity. Thank you!
This man has deep wisdom and i enjoy listening to what he has to say. God bless you and your family. I look forward to watching more of your chats. 👍🏼🇺🇸
I've learned a lot in my life and I've gotta say, I'm glad I pushed through. I told myself a long time ago I'd never have a child if I didn't understand what made me so blind. I had to learn through the blindness my family left me with (lack of discipline and guidance). It also put my libido on short chains, never to blindly seek pleasure for the sake of simple gratification. I knew life was good, but I wasn't about to make the mistake of repeating my families history. Moving back to my hometown really caught me by surprise, where the common social structure is nothing more than a high school mentality snake pit. That was a mentality I never had, but seeing it really caused me to think, what caused it. I'd say social media and the internet. It's level of influence over a child should never be overlooked. It can cultivate destructive habits, behaviors and mentalities so fast the parent couldn't predict. I believe being grounded is the key, knowing your place, having a positive effect and not projecting out emotional issues onto the backs of others; especially to people you've never met. Nor should the fix be sought socially, through acceptance or social power. We're corrupted and we can change. Self-awareness is painful but once you know, you can learn from it and stop the repetition. Really like the video!
Self awareness can be painfull. But is more damaging and painfull going through life blind and hurting yourself and others .. I think a lot of young generation is missing self reflection and self awareness...and life is more fast . Most of also do not have patience.. to slow down and reflect. As you say also on the stuff that is not so healthy ..
Thank you Sir. I appreciate the time you took to make this video, the wisdom shared and eloquence you are able to relay these truths. People need to hear it and you are being heard. God bless to you and yours
Might have to listen to this every day when I wake up. I'm 24 and just finished college lol I shared a lot of similar thoughts while completing my degree. Thank you for this video!
I’m a single full time dad at 24 and the amount of bs pushed through to people these days is unbelievable ,you being honest struck a lot of my own insecurities I know I could better myself with. Bold truth to others leaves less room to lie to yourself and I admire that .
To those who HAVE been watching Dry Creek Wrangler school, I know your loving this rn! Thank you for the wisdom & support with you own time and effort. Your The GOAT Dwyane. I said it! -w/love from The Islands of the Pacific
Responsibility and freedom are intrinsically intertwined. I understand many people are dependent on others due to disability or illness. My aunt struggles with downsyndrome and has been dependent on others her whole life. We who are fully able bodied and minded must take full responsibility for ourselves so that we can support those who cannot. There are far too many who expect others to take responsibility for them when they are fully capable. Our common shared efforts of supporting those in need are then wasted on those who don't truly need it. Ultimately our purpose in life is to develop a secure and stable environment for our children to develop into functional and free thinking members of society. Those who follow this new rebellion against responsibility are frankly just sticking the finger up at all succeeding generations to come. I greatly appreciate the message you promote on your channel.
Wow, you are very spot on Dwayne. Thank you for your honesty. It seems that many people are too afraid to make criticisms these days. I'm a blue collar worker myself, in my 20s. I remember when I was applying for post-secondary institutions (state, private, community and city colleges), I was well aware of the programs and employment aspects that followed (very picky). I don't know why so many people confuse this or that while applying for colleges; especially with their financial futures at stake. I've got no regrets for choosing an Associate of Applied Science program, and then doing trade school afterwards. Been very rewarding with many job opportunities.
I uploaded your UA-cam of this to Twitter all the folks who feel like you and us will definitely agree. Carry on Sir... you make more sense than the followers who don’t like truth or to use their God given common sense. ☦️🙏🏻♥️
Great video and messages as it's so true! The only point I would make about college degrees, which are often misunderstood, is you go to college to learn how to think (especially critical thinking), how to communicate, how to commit and how to push through to achieve the said commitment. It's a lot less about the specific subject you learn and more about what you become as a result of the process and journey. It's therefore still a very worthwhile thing to do if it's affordable.
You are an elder with wisdom I have been seeking in my adulthood. The day I took responsibility is the day I felt lighter. Thanks for the video's and please do keep them coming.
Nice job! It's great to hear folks like yourself are out there. My family and I have always followed your exact words. Where I'm from families still have pride, self-reliance, and God in our lives.
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Even IF you actually are a victim of unfavorable circumstances, looking at yourself as a victim will only anchor you to whatever situation you're in.
It does that by initiating a perception of impotence... being a victim is hard to nullify cos it's 'been done to you' from an external source, but being a fuk up can be improved upon dramatically without anyone else, cos it's up to you. That's how I think of it anyway, psychological judo - taking back power over the situation.
Even if you die. You’ll go out with pride.
some folks spend far too much time rolling around on the floor wailing and crying as loud as they can to get everyone's attention that it never occurs to them to just get up, dust off, and keep going.
@@groglorb8980 Some ppl need help to get up, especially if they've been hurt in the fall.
We as strong men (and women) in a supportive community should provide that help to those who need and want it. That's what's important, is that someone wants to do better with/for themselves and their lives. Nothing wrong with needing support, asking for help, or giving it. In fact, quite the contrary, it shows strength.
@@bvdek definitely, asking for help and relying on others is no weakness. It's when the point of it becomes the spectacle and the complaining it's an issue. And sadly those that just want to cause a rukus drown out the genuine calls for aid. But yeah I totally agree with your point, perhaps I worded that a little badly.
An important distinction should be made between "fault" and "responsibility." There are many things in our life that are not our "fault" but are 100% our "responsibility."
i like to say there is a difference between "accountable" and "responsible". Sometimes you must accept both, sometimes one or the other. Maturity kind of helps. These times today, these kids are neither, which is why they are miserable.
@@carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679 and the fault for that lies with their parents, the responsibility for dealing lies with themselves.
Petty semantics.
I’m trying to fully understand this could you give me an example?
I tend to take a more radical approach. Everything, literally everything in the world is YOUR fault. Not necessarily your responcibility, but definitely your fault. Think about it: the first thing you learn in economics 101 is the idea of "Opportunity Cost" essentially meaning that the cost of any given decission isn't simply the cost of doing it, but also the sum benifit of every other possible decission, and all its myriad downstream and knockon effects. So after you reach a certain age, the number of things that theoretically you could have given your life to in order to solve it multiplies infinately, and the absense of action is in itself an action, choosing to do something else is in some ways equal to doing nothing. So in choosing to do whatever you are doing in some sense you are choosing to not do the things necessary to create positive change elseware, and are therefore neglegent to that thing, and if it decays and falls apart, you are at fault for that neglegence.
The thing is you are only one person, so you get to choose what you are at fault for, by chosing what you aren't going to give your time, attention, and energy to. And that thing that you choose to give those things to, it better be the best possible thing you can do given your circumstances, and being at fault for something so positive it outweighs the guilt from your neglegence towards all others things.
Man, I didn't have a dad. I mean, I did, but he wasn't there. Here I am 35 years old and I feel like a kid again getting a genuine dad-son heart to heart. Fathers are powerful. I've been re-fathering myself for years and I hope I can be half the dad this guy is. He could make content just of this and have a huge following.
@@FloresOrtodoxas It says a lot about you that you're looking for better examples and aiming to improve yourself. Way to go! Keep it up. :)
Nice phrase, refathering oneself, I will remember that one!
My friend, I am reading your comment to my beloved brother. THANK YOU for sharing that. "'Re-fathering' myself"...🙏🏽
@@edmondsmith4259 I'm glad this was a blessing. Praying for you and your journey.
Jordan Peterson was huge for me, read his books. They just might feel like the dad who wasn’t there for you too
I'm a retired machinist and mechanical engineer. One thing I learned from my father as I apprenticed under him, was accepting the right responsibility. When the company has a problem, it's the company's problem, not yours. It's YOUR JOB to fix the problem. That instilled attitude always kept me calm during company "disasters" and I was able to stay focused on the job at hand.
Even if you help your neighbor fix his car. Help him but don't take the problem on your self.
That really hits home especially that last bit you mention 👍 I've never had it explained to me like this. Thank you and your father for the wisdom.
@@holdthephoneblocker Most welcome.
I'm a 25y/o guy from India living here in the states and I've lost every sense of security I had growing up. This means that I overly emotional and scared all the time. But your videos help to ground me and make me feel warm. Tysm my good sir.
As someone who never had a dad I thank you for the dad advice.
Same here brother.
Glad you're getting it, no matter what the source, i can relate. Wish you well.
I'm glad you found this man. As someone who was fortunate to have a good dad, these videos are a great assurance that he taught me well.
Same bro, my father passed when i was 13, he liked to be in his farm (now mine) and smoked cigars sometimes. Dwayne reminds me of him
Same here
As a 30 year old dad of 4 who is struggling a bit at the moment, I really needed to hear this. Thank you.
I don't agree that all the problems are on both side, Many are promoted for political reason and are dishonest . being a farm kid when I grew up my Dad taught me to be Honest and have integrity. If I lied I was in real trouble. I just watched a guy who for 6 years lied continiesly and is supported by his party. I like my Dad can't stand a liar or would ever vote for one. I believe in democracy not party. We need top portect it.
Prayers yoru way from San Antonio, Tyler.
@@o.d.jemtrud1554 portect
@@o.d.jemtrud1554 freedom over anything
Keep Moving.
Went through like 30 comments and 29 were saying “you’re right, this is what I’ve always done!” and only one was saying “you’re right, I’ve failed in this area and want to learn to take responsibility more.” Let me make that 2. This was a kick in the pants I needed.
Make it 3. I've failed and I'm going to be better.
The problem is that most of the people claiming they have always taken responsibility for their situation have never actually have done it. Well, except in a UA-cam comment section. Overwhelming amount of people I meet always blame an outside force for why their life isn’t going the way it should and get irate if you imply that maybe it’s their fault.
Take acid
Failure is nothing more than a stepping stone to greatness just as long as you NEVER quit.
@@evanfurn920 Failure is nothing more than a stepping stone to greatness just as long as you NEVER quit.
The greatest battle is not with others but within.
Well said sir 💯
This is the kind of advice that taught me how to overcome my depression, take responsibility for my life, and learn how to place myself in better positions. I would not be where I am today and probably wouldn’t be alive today if it wasn’t for people like you giving out this kind of “difficult” wisdom. Thank you so much for sharing.
Growing up, my father would always tell me to "stop acting like a victim" when I complained or got irrationally upset. I used to hate hearing that more than anything else. Only now do I look back and am grateful I had a father who taught me personal responsibility and perspective. The real victims of the world would laugh at the 90 some odd percent of us in first world countries that live such beautiful and blessed lives.
Yeah. Life ain’t perfect. But I’ve been dealt a very decent hand. I need to be more thankful !
What do you do when your father teaches you nothing and victimizes you from the earliest time you can remember until you're 18 and free of him?
@@Malumbrus Not that I know anything about such situations, but it may help to go to therapy, talk out whatever experience has traumatized you and find a way to cut ties with that experience and/or that person. I'm sorry to hear about that and I wish you all the best and take care of yourself 🙏
@@denisr7710 It's too late, I'm too old for it to make life worth living. Damage is already done.
The first world is becoming the third world because silent-gen/boomers just like this one in the video have allowed them to come pouring in.
As a youth counselor I found too many cases where the parents treat punishment as responsibility, so the kids grow up to treat responsibility as a punishment. This has blinded many people to the truth that responsibility is a gift that nobody can take away from you. It is part of your fundamental autonomy and intrinsically it can never be lost, stolen, or broken. Whatever you choose it is your ability to respond. Embracing responsibility as a gift is integral to healing and discovering your autonomy. Thank you for this relaxed and peaceful video that fits the simplicity of the message well.
I grew up in foster care, and I was punished in this manner. They drilled it in me when I was a young kid around 9 years old, that I needed to take responsibility. And honestly, I had no clue what they were talking about. All I knew is I missed my family, foster care was a nightmare for me, and I wanted an exit...and I couldn't find it. While trapped in a helpless state of existence, all I heard was "stop feeling sorry for yourself and take responsibility". All the while, my environment was extremely rigid, so I didn't really understand what take responsibility meant. What choice did I have in anything? I guess for me it meant suffer quietly and do as your told. I teeter tottered between self destructive behaviors and outright rebellion. I'm doing better today, I know better now, but it was a long treacherous road to healing.
@@amyrenee1361 thank you for sharing this ❤️🙏
Damn that is so true
This is so true. Worded beautifully.
@@amyrenee1361 I hear you. I went through something similar. Look up Patrick Tehan. He is a wonderful trauma therapist.
I started rolling my own cigarettes and now I can afford gasoline. I started reloading and now I can afford to target shoot. I moved into a teepee and now I can afford my rent. I started fishing & hunting and now I can afford to eat. Well actually I started doing all those things about 50 years ago and never really stopped. It's not easy being native but it makes hardship easier to deal with. We are used to it. Hoping the brown, red, yellow, black and white all wake up, stand up and fire the so called leaders as they are truly a special kind of stupid. Nice video, thanks
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Good onya mate from native NZ
Deep man.👍thanks for posting
@@notfromromepope5109 Chur bro, good to see some kiwis in here. Kia kaha.
a rollie is a delight.
thanks man I needed to hear this. I recently found out I'm going to be a dad, me and my girl were fighting a lot when we found out and we were going to break up but when we found out we decided to make it work. I was frustrated at my situation because I didn't want a baby yet, and especially with someone I was about to break up with so I was walking around with a bad attitude towards everyone, including her. But I'M the one who had unprotected sex and I knew full and well the risks of what I was doing, and I'M the one responsible for my situation. I have a newfound love for my girl after realizing I need to man the f up and take charge of the situation.
You can do this!!
even if things don’t work out in the future you still have the choice to be a good father to that child throughout their life, remember any man can be a father but it takes someone special to be a dad
Good job brother. Not too many people have the courage to do what you're doing. You're going to be a fantastic Dad.
You're not alone in this fight, you've shown a lot of strength I can tell also from you researching how to be a better person (watching this video) we're right there with you brother
Hey, how's that baby? How's the gf? And how are you?
I absolutely agree. Everything is the result of your own actions. But do not forget that it works both ways. Not only your fails but also your wins are the results of your own actions. So give yourself credit where credit is due!
Amen. I wish more “influencers” would talk like this before it is too late for our country. Thank you.
Ditto
Living within your means and planning for future hardships is something lost in today's society. "Do you need a lot of what you've got to survive?"
@@polarizedoutdoors Nice Modest Mouse reference
@@Adam_Stuart isaac brock speaks the gospel
Not just your Country, it's the same in the Rest of our World.
Right on brother. I'm a welder and a machinist as a day trade. When gas went up I started taking weekend gigs setting up and tearing down events. When food went up I started fixing vehicles and reselling them. If it gets even tougher I'll start doing home repair on the two nights I have left. My family will not starve. I am not stupid and refuse to live like it.
Very respectable handling of the situation. I found myself being similar in my approach. Gas went up and all the fingerpointing began. Biden and Putin this. Biden stickers pointing at the price gauge saying “I did this!” Okay. And what are YOU doing to fix your situation? People started bellyaching and using Biden as reason to just mentally give up. How weak is that? All it took was a politician to break your constitution? Come on man.
@@thecapone45 exactly bro. I refuse to rely on any government to feed my family. All finger pointing and not a solution in sight. Well guess some of us are built differently. I'll make my own solutions. Earn my self respect, as well as the admiration of my children and family. I don't have the time to complain, and the energy to waste whining. I'll keep working.
Get it brother, for you and anyone else who wakes up everyday and lives with integrity and grit, I hope the light at the end of the tunnel starts gettin a lil brighter. Until then, stay strong and I know you will 💪🙏
Good on you for working hard, but wouldn’t this be the perfect opportunity for a program to step in and give you some back of what you’ve paid in? There would be no shame at all in receiving benefits of what you’ve funded through taxes to give working families a leg up… doesn’t it seem like a parent shouldn’t have to work so hard in the wealthiest country in the history of the world just to survive?
Bro, it wasn't that long ago that an entire family could survive off one honest paycheck, especially in a qualified trade like a boilermaker or machinist. That's how they could manage housewives/hubbys, cos one honest job would feed a family. Greed is outta control, the distribution of capital is way outta whack. Our culture sells us this image of ourselves as hard working honorable ppl, which u clearly are, but it's used as a rose tint on the reality... that is, we are being milked fuking dry in this late stage capitalism bs, because the cats with the resources and capital see the volatility and inevitable change coming - they tryna milk it for as much n as long as they can.
No man, especially not in the wealthiest country in the world (Aus has highest avg wage per capita btw) should have to work multiple jobs, ontop of already highly skilled, physical and dangerous work like you do, just to feed his family. It's fukn disgusting, and no amount of hollywood fairytale ego-stroking & self-perception washing changes that. Sorry bro, you should be living very comfortably, and it's absolutely NOT a matter of lack of resources, or lack of input on your part. The system is failing ppl like you, and ya buy into it with pride. I get self pride is better than self pity, but don't delude yourself dude.
Having said that, good on you for still doing what u gotta to make ends meet, I do respect that. I understand you don't have the luxury to complain. I just don't think it's right, and certainly doesn't needa be this way. I don't like to think of myself as a victim, but I also can't willingly turn a blind eye while I, you and others are being bent over and fukd by ppl who don't feel ANY of the negative consequences of this system.
Sir, this whole damn country needs to hear this! Thank you, you are spot on.
But they won't. Only people who are inclined toward personal responsibility would listen to this and take the advice to heart. Meanwhile, we are surrounded by knaves, dunces, and would-be felons, and there will always be a plentiful supply of those.
@@tshandy1 the people who have a concept of personal responsibility control the masses by manipulating them and feed their victim mentality. So personal responsibility isn’t always a good thing because you can be aware and have personal responsibility and still fan the flames of division for your own personal gain. Chew on that
The whole western world needs to hear this. Hi, from Australia.
Sir, this is the first video of yours that I've watched. It was on my feed. And I don't smoke cigars or drink or anything but I am a 21 year old tig welder, I'm Christian, I've got a house, I'm getting married this year, no debt, and I believe it's all because of those values you talked about in this video. I had three part-time jobs at any given time all through high school, and I believe that work ethic and my values are the reasons why I am at where I am today. Great video, and you've gained another subscriber. Thank you.
If your 21 don't smoke or drink or anything and your a welder. Your going places bro
God bless you brother
Was just discussing this last night. Love these videos. As a 26 year old living in the city, it's very hard to find good influences anymore.
I couldn’t agree more, Duane. Just told a young relative the hard truth about spending more than you can afford. Choices you make, consequences then suffered. Also reminded him, it’s just temporary. Get smarter about money, saving, impulse buying, patience.
I'm a pipe welder in the oil patch and this year will mark the point where I have been welding over half my life. Inflation is out of control and it's not hard to find the reason for it but I'm still expecting this year to be my best year ever. People always see success and say how nice it must be but they don't talk about the 10 or 15 years of suffering in the trenches they were not willing to do to get there. Lots of people have great ambitions but no one is ready to take responsibility for the failures. You always lose more than you win, most people just can't bare to sit at the table long enough to come out on top.
Derp it's gubbement spendin and nobody wants to werk. Derp. The main thing driving inflation is supply chain issues and price gouging. Things are in demand and hard to get, so companies charge more and blame inflation. Of course, you won't consider that because it doesn't fit your narrative.
Facts!
Some people own the table you're sitting at and they've never had to suffer. But that's not most of us, glad you're at a great place stranger.
@@Soundsaboutright42 can’t do anything about it though. In football if the ref makes a bad call, you can’t do anything about it. You have to keep playing. Same in life.
I'm a 35 year old man who was raised by a father born in 1950, and a mother born in 63. They raised me to be an honest, trustworthy man who admits when he's wrong and man enough to shake someone else's hand when things go right. And I'd like to see my boys grow up to be the men my own father raised me to be
I almost wanna have a cigar and sit down and just listen to you. I love your demeanor, you’re well spoken commonsense approach. Makes a lot of sense to me. Thanks for the videos.
Many years ago I used to hang out at an old dive bar out in the middle of nowhere. It was a quiet place to have a drink and there was a few old guys in there. Mostly farmers,most ex military,and just good company to keep. The one guy told me “I choose to be beholden to no one for anything”. I was 21-22 y/o at the time and that stuck with me. If you put yourself in the position of being reliant upon anyone other than yourself you’ll always be disappointed and get the short end of everything.
I'm 24 and I personally live in one of the more expensive places in the US at the moment and I'm working and paying my way through school. It's easy to want to feel sorry for yourself and feel like you're at the bottom of the food chain here. Thank you for reminding me that its on me and that I have the freedom and ability to make a difference in my life and how my future is forged. Thank you for reminding me of the common sense and wisdom that I was taught as a young man. I needed this; you are a very inspiring man.
Seattle?
Keep your head up..Make yourself a sou d plan..And work it..Don't do any dumb stuff..That includes women. Keep your wick dry..Do your thing..Take care of you..The women situation will always be there..Believe me..Build yourself a stable base. Time rolls quick..
I’m currently in college, and I did quite bad on my last physics test. I don’t always, but this time I blamed the teacher for the hard problems. But, even though most of the class got low scores, that doesn’t mean I couldn’t have done better if I took some more responsibility and studied more. It’s not her fault for giving us a challenge, and I should always expect one.
Thank you for the video
People with this kind of mindset are rare nowadays. Good thing you turned the situation into your favour.
we're going to absolutely kill ourselves with all this overworking. And when you've worked your youth away, you'll regret it all.
for me, i ALWAYS remember the tests i did bad on, the questions i got wrong, and sure enough, ull see that question/ problem again, and youll ace it, bc we only grow from the areas we were challenged in, and the problems we got wrong...
keep that accountability, it will take you far my friend!
@@mokie7421 Spoken like someone who doesn’t do much work. :)
@@unknownuser3.33 my ass bro. You have an anime pfp.
Please don’t stop making these types of videos. I know it takes time to make them and I think we can all appreciate your input and philosophy based off your experiences. Deep down we all want to hear what a man like you has to say, no matter if we are city folk, country folk or somewhere in a different part of the world, your voice speaks volumes. I can personally say I never had someone like you to talk to in my life, I always wished I did but I can say that it’s really great listening to your videos. I know there are many other men and women who never had someone like you to listen to, please keep making videos. Thank you 🙏
I'm over 30 and still need big man advice like this sometimes, thanks for sharing this and thanks for the wisdom that you bring man, we all need this from time to time. Thanks so much.
Listening in from Nairobi, Kenya. UA-cam recommended this and its very insightful. Actually everyone in this planet is blaming someone or something outside themselves. Accepting responsibility for everything is the only way to happiness. Thank you.
Here with you bro
Kenyans are here, wisdom galore 🎉🎉🎉
Thank you for using your voice, your platform, to help others! Your wisdom is what my dad, a true cowboy, taught me. I'm happy to find your channel because you word the messages just as well as he did, maybe better. When he passed he had finally achieved his lifelong dream of becoming an auctioneer. Thank you!
You are so right sir. It’s refreshing to hear someone say EVERYONE does this. Conservatives blame liberals, liberals blame Trump. Shut up and handle your business. People claiming to be “alpha males” whining about Biden or Trump all day on social media. Im only 40 but I remember people taking responsibility for their own lives and not crying about everything. Not playing into the government’s hands and fighting with your fellow American. Even after 9/11, we came together. If that was today, we would be at each others throats. It’s sad
Thanks for all your content and for being a man who grabbed himself by his balls and got his life together, creating a better outcome for everyone.
Agreed. But I do see more conservatives taking responsibility because they’re the ones who have kept their abilities to be hands on in their life, so they experience what it is to have responsibilities. Just what I’ve noticed.
It’s cause us conservatives are the ones taking the responsibility of trying to save this country from tyranny. How don’t you see this?
@@abumzbum1869 Correct. Conservatives have created a world before us, a civilization that’s been already established. Liberals want to ruin that by regressing.
@Greg Jones Wasn’t that just proven to be a set up?
YOUR words are the most truthful I have heard on TV for some time. Give it several more times this week and next. All that don't like them, we don't need. My father said somewhat
the same to me, just before he took his shoe off and swatted my butt for not hearing him the first time. I followed suit with my kids. We all got the message. God bless.
God bless America
Been waking up before work lately with nothing but dread and confusion in my heart. I’ve been mustering along and am grateful to have a few minutes in the morning to put your videos on. Your wisdom and honestly gives me a little hope that there is a light at the end of this period of my life. Thanks very much.
Hope you're feeling better now
You’re right!! Stop passing the blame on and be accountable!!
If you’re reading the comments for this video, and feeling a tinge of guilt for agreeing with a lot of what he’s saying, but understanding you can’t just “work 2-3 jobs” and mentally withstand it because that’s a dying, ignorant prospect of our country, you’re not alone. His philosophy applies to a lot of people in many honest ways, but not necessarily all of them apply to you ❤
I agree. It is killing me physically and mentally as well as spiritually to work 2 jobs. I am on month 7 of 2 jobs 1 full time, 1 part time to support my family. It is exhausting and I hardly have time for family let alone chores or "free time". I have had 4 days off total in the last 4 months. I don't think 2-3 jobs is a great plan long-term for anyone to remain in sync physically/mentally/socially.
Responsibility should be something good, positive, and necessary. But it should not be abused, nor should it be punishment. And I do believe that sometimes, even when people try to be responsible, it might not even be possible to be that way because the circumstances are just too much.
@@FromRight2Left Are you able to downsize where you live?
@@FromRight2LeftDang...we are a family of 5 with half your income and somehow make it work (with no debt besides an auto loan). Good luck :-/
Duane - I am not a horseman, cowboy, cigar smoker (well, occasionally I am,) or even an outdoorsman for that matter. What I am, however, is a 25 year old philosophy student and lifelong learner, which is why I believe I find myself drawn to your videos. The ones about horses, fencing, and cigars still manage to entertain me but content like this is what I love most about your channel. Thanks for doing what you do.
You appear to be a truth seeker and we need more young people to be one too.
Nice to meet another philosophy student here. What kind of philosophy do you like?
@@matthewcote5198 Greetings! I enjoy analytical philosophy - logic, epistemology, etc.. One of my favorite philosophers to study is Wittgenstein. Thanks for asking
I have a degree in Philosophy and find this little song very inspiring:
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Why are yall paying thousands of dollars to get a degree in knowing how other men think? You could read library books on these guys for free in your spare time and have a rewarding career in something else you enjoy and can live off of. You could try forming your own thoughts and opinions instead of what someone else influences you to think. Freedom! Imagine that.
Mom here. This is exactly why I chose to homeschool my kids & moved us away from the city. I didn’t like what was happening to my children or what they were learning in that environment, so I changed our circumstances to one that I wanted for my kids. To one where they will know how to feed themselves, protect themselves, grow food for themselves, respect themselves & others, and so much more. Our children are our sole responsibility & I wouldn’t trust any government entity to care for my child in any capacity. Such a good video & reminder. So many people need to hear this. Thank you❤️
i agree so much. government should just cease to exist, we cant expect them to care for our welfare. they are so useless
I Agree100% i. Homeschooled my daughter and son at home school..i taught them. All the needed. To Survive in this world! I never sugar coated it either!!😊
Exactly, my son doing excellent, working, purchased his brand new car, credit score way up, and only 19. I'm now 51 and very proud of him. Schools now are 100% garbage even colleges shootings and corrupted teachers
This man has saved so many young man's lives without him even knowing it God bless this man
I lost my dad at 16. Now 37, your words are really nice to hear. What my dad did leave me with, was the advice to be very leery of my own ego. All of your videos are well worded with wisdom
As much as I love the horsemanship and cigar videos the philosophical videos are invaluable.
@Logan Liszt While I disagree that is your opinions and at the very least I respect it.
There are and innumerable number of news articles, economic articles out there, and one can find an article that will say whatever one wants to hear. The trick is to read the articles from both sides, and interpret that through one’s own experience and personal knowledge and observations. Anyone who simply forms her opinions based on articles written by an anonymous person is not being wise. To say that I am unread, misinformed, biased and ignorant because I come to a different conclusion based on the evidence that I see than you have come to is not helpful. That is a major difference between the two sides of the aisle. I feel fairly confident that my credibility is still intact, especially seeing that Biden and his administration has publicly, blatantly clearly stated that it is their intention from the start to raise fuel prices in order to drive there green agenda. It’s not Dwayne that has determined that it’s “Bidens fault”. It is Biden who has said “I’m going to do that”.
@Logan Liszt no disrespect but wanted to point out that the only thing you actually *added* to the discussion was being a grammar Nazi you last resort to "win" an argument. Just gonna put it bluntly not because I dislike you just couldn't find a better way to phrase it.
as a 17 year old seeing what is going on i appreciate what your doing on this channel.. i agree with everything you said.
Life will fuck you over in a couple of years believe it or not. Being aware of yourself and what's happening around you while being delt horrible cards is a painful experience. Enjoy being 17 for as long as you can, bro.
@@Globus601 Why even Comment? The young man is 17. If your life is that miserable I’m sorry but don’t make it miserable for everyone around you.
@@Globus601 I’m sorry to hear that about you.
I’m 27 and I agree with what dude said. The economy is in free fall and it’s becoming so hard to maintain. I have no motivation because my goals seem impossible. I’ll probably never own a house with inflation as bad as it is
@@Globus601 I’m 19 and my life is completely different than it was when I was 17. So much better nowadays. I’m completely self sufficient, make great money, live on my own, no debt, and work my ass off. If life crushed you in your late teens/early twenties I’m sorry but that’s not everyone. Hope things get better for you.
No doubt. Accountability should still exist!!
Remember everyone, red and blue make purple!!! We are the pawns and they are royalty. Stand together as living beings, not some political group.
Another reason why I never joined a political party, I personally believe in Truth, Freedom, and Justice, and sadly there is no large group in America that represents those values, only people on an individual basis.
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I grew up in a very toxic environment. Family and friends were all masters of working the welfare system. Family alcoholism was rampant. Maybe 1 out of 6 people I knew while growing up even had jobs.
In my late teens, I developed the attitude that this upbringing was going to be my reason to succeed, not my excuse. I was going to break the cycle.
Today, I'm not wealthy, but I hold my own. I became the first in many generations to own my home. At one point I owned 3. My Children were the first in many generations to go to college. My kids barely know what alcoholism is. They had loving parents to raise them. I broke the cycle for the next generations.
Today when I hear someone complaining about how their situation prevents them from doing something, the advice I give them: Great excuse, but that also makes for a great reason, give it a try. (My kids hated that phrase when they were young.😂)
Your wisdom is awesome. I am so glad I came across your channel!
Listening from the Caribbean. Stumbled upon your channel and I’m loving it here. Keep speaking the truth!
YOU ARE 110% WIGHT! AMEN ! I AM A 70 YEAR OLD VIETNAM COMBAT VET. , AND I SEE THE WORLD THE SAME WAY YOU DO. MUCH LOVE TO YOU AND MAMA, ALONG WITH ALL YOUR FOUR LEGGED CHILDREN. THEY ARE FAMILY TOO. 😉
Exactly what I needed when I’m feeling sorry for myself as a caregiver. I have the ability and the responsibility to do what needs to be done.
I feel the same way, I worked hard for 45 years and retired with everything worked for and paid for by me. Thanks for speaking the hard cold facts.
Good for you. It's important to note that wages and cost of living have changed at different rates over the past 45 years. Want to guess which has grown faster?
@@Tom-kl5lg I'm failing to see why you would blame this random older fellow for that
@@Rookiereece I didn't blame anyone. I simply pointed out that conditions today aren't the same as 45 years ago.
The next Bretton woods is coming. I hope many are working towards being more self sufficient. Some cash and physical gold and junk silver for its barterability are a probably a safe bet for most. I think gold might pivot around 1600 #elliotwavetheory
@@Tom-kl5lg yeah, everything changes all the time. What's your point? People always trying to shoot other people down that work hard, so weird.
This actually helped a lot! I’ve been doing 16 and 17 hour days between work and school. Haven’t really get much joy and started comparing my situation to others which was only making me bitter. I really appreciate people like you sir. You have no idea the impact your videos have!
I've watched many of your videos but still new. 25 or so. 3 today and this one is exactly what I've been needing to hear. Tough love at it finest. Thank You💚
Amen Brother! My wife heard me listening to this and said, "Jeez, he sounds just like you!" - I take that as a high compliment.
I had an uncle who I adored. He was the best role model I could ever ask for. He was taken way too soon and I have been gutted ever since.
You remind me a lot of him and I’m so glad I found your channel. Thanks for all you do. Your advice is golden.
Best wishes.
So glad I discovered this channel. This past year has been the most challenging of my life and these videos are definitely helping.
Time to man up.
Personal accountability.
Rights AND responsibilities.
All really good stuff Dewayne - God Bless you and your family 👍
Thanks Dwayne! I’m 58 and you helped me off the fence in a problem I had.peace and merry Christmas to you and your family!
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You hit the bullseye - finally someone else who thinks like me - keep them coming sir Dwayne and God bless you and yours
Though you are not close to my grandfather's age. You remind me a lot of him. I was raised by a cowboy. He had values that many never had. I was blessed to have been educated by a man like that. Many of your stories line up with his way, and ultimately, my lifestyle. Thank you for your time in making content with teachings that have been lost.
Same as my dad
Every young person needs someone like you in their life, Sir. Peace and Blessings ☮️🙏🏿
They need to take your videos and make them a class in a university. Call it “common sense ain’t common” amazing material all throughout this channel ❤
I appreciate this video sir!
I’m a young man living in London UK, and I totally agree with the fact that a lot of us need to man up and take full responsibility for our actions and the choices/decisions we make…
Two thumbs up for this message, and I’ll be sharing this with a lot of people that need to hear it
Thank you 👍🏽👍🏽
These are my favorite videos and I agree with you 100% . My bills get paid first then food and gas and a little in the savings then the rest is play money. God bless you and keep doing more of these videos
Dude!! You’re right!! I’ve failed in all these areas… you’re speech was truly inspirational. For real!! Thank you for putting this out there.
Thank you for these much needed words. I hope everyone going through a hard time right now hears this and take strength from it. Thank you again
I had seen a couple of your videos a couple months back and would occasionally see one pop up and suggestions it would always take mental note to go to it. Suddenly I stopped seeing your videos and I've been looking for you for about a week and finally remembered last night that you're a Wrangler and that's how I finally found you. I am now subscribed and will be watching your stuff regularly. Thank you for the grown up words that too many soft people hide from these days.
Said with grace, love and truth. You're a gentleman and a scholar. Thank you for your grace and grace will continue to be within you. Words well spoken and forgotten. Love
You nailed another one Mr. Duane!
You crack me up.
In a good way. You sound like my Grandpas, Dad, brothers, cousins,or uncles. We all would agree.
People need to nut up. Pardon me.
Have some backbone. Have some "Bark" one em.
I can relate. I got into some big trouble 22 years ago and to get through it I had to take responsibility for my actions, accept the consequences and quit BLAMING everyone else.
Takes a big person to be real with themselves. To learn from your mistakes is far more difficult than making the mistake.
It's a heck of a lot easier to get into trouble than to get out of it.
I did so I know it's possible. I had to learn the hard way, ya know?
Thanks for the thoughts. I needed that.
I quit a lot of bad habits . It wasn't easy, but the hardest thing I ever did in my life was to be true to myself and being honest and logical with myself and reasonable.
I did it thanks to one big thing.
I WAS NOT ALONE.
GOD CARRIED ME THROUGHT IT EVERY STEP OF THE WAY !!!!!
AMEN TO THAT!
God bless, Duane!
Great talk, that's exactly how I was raised and how I raised my children!
That's what the world / Country needs hear. I was brought up that same way. We make the choice to be where we are at. Keep it up. May The Lord bless you.
Love how these kind of videos are getting more and popular. Over the past couple years I’ve seen many videos that talk to men and inspire them to be better. I’m learning from them and trying to do better because I’m not perfect.
There is one thing about it ,you are so true in every aspect,amen !
Man I love these sit down chat videos! Love your honesty. The world needs more people like. One problem.... These types of videos are never long enough. Have a blessed day!
I have never clicked the notification bell until now. This talk makes me want to hear the content even more. Your words are powerful...thank you for issuing them. It is obvious God has blessed y'all. I pray that he continues to do so. More so as you bless everyone on your channel.
As a 38 yr old momma. Im beyond grateful for your content.
Dwayne, I'm 67 years old. I found you channel yesterday 3/1/23. BRILLIANT
Thank you for your knowledge. Agree 100%
GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
I grew up basically watching my father let himself go. Unaware of his severe addiction because he manipulated me into thinking he was okay. I've always longed for a proper father son relationship and with him passing when i was 17 I'll now never have it. So many things i was never taught and so much time wasted that i can never get back with him. I used to blame myself even if it didn't make sense but i now realize he didn't love himself to change and take responsibility for his own life.
It's been the hardest pill to swallow but i can't let what happened destroy me into letting myself go when i have my whole life ahead of me. Now I'm striving to be the man he should've been so i can be there for my future kids and be the best dad i can be.
I can't tell you how much these videos help people like me please never stop.
A big AMEN to that message Dwayne! It is all of our own responsibilities to care for ourselves and our families. I have made choices in the past that laid the path for where I’m at today, both good and not so good. But I know that put myself where I am. It is my own fault and responsibility.
A great common sense message,
Yep what you said is what my Dad taught me. You are responsible for the life you build and the choices you make. Take care of your family, fear God and live a moral life.
Thank you for putting the reminder out there.
You are such a lovely person. When i felt the loneliest i've ever felt, you had my back. Sir, i will never forget you.
Thank you for your videos. Not all of us have someone to guide us in life. Your words and wisdom mean a lot to me.
Videos and channels like yours once again prove to me that the Internet is capable of doing what it was build to do - to share wisdom and knowledge among the whole humanity. Thank you!
This man has deep wisdom and i enjoy listening to what he has to say. God bless you and your family. I look forward to watching more of your chats. 👍🏼🇺🇸
I've learned a lot in my life and I've gotta say, I'm glad I pushed through. I told myself a long time ago I'd never have a child if I didn't understand what made me so blind. I had to learn through the blindness my family left me with (lack of discipline and guidance). It also put my libido on short chains, never to blindly seek pleasure for the sake of simple gratification. I knew life was good, but I wasn't about to make the mistake of repeating my families history.
Moving back to my hometown really caught me by surprise, where the common social structure is nothing more than a high school mentality snake pit. That was a mentality I never had, but seeing it really caused me to think, what caused it. I'd say social media and the internet. It's level of influence over a child should never be overlooked. It can cultivate destructive habits, behaviors and mentalities so fast the parent couldn't predict.
I believe being grounded is the key, knowing your place, having a positive effect and not projecting out emotional issues onto the backs of others; especially to people you've never met. Nor should the fix be sought socially, through acceptance or social power. We're corrupted and we can change. Self-awareness is painful but once you know, you can learn from it and stop the repetition.
Really like the video!
Self awareness can be painfull. But is more damaging and painfull going through life blind and hurting yourself and others .. I think a lot of young generation is missing self reflection and self awareness...and life is more fast . Most of also do not have patience.. to slow down and reflect. As you say also on the stuff that is not so healthy ..
Thank you Sir. I appreciate the time you took to make this video, the wisdom shared and eloquence you are able to relay these truths. People need to hear it and you are being heard. God bless to you and yours
Thank you very much. A part of me knows all this, but it hits home when it is spoken out loud. Everyone needs to hear this.
Might have to listen to this every day when I wake up. I'm 24 and just finished college lol I shared a lot of similar thoughts while completing my degree. Thank you for this video!
I’m a single full time dad at 24 and the amount of bs pushed through to people these days is unbelievable ,you being honest struck a lot of my own insecurities I know I could better myself with. Bold truth to others leaves less room to lie to yourself and I admire that .
Great video, Personal accountability and responsibility are values that have been lost to the newer generations. Thanks for the wise words.
To those who HAVE been watching Dry Creek Wrangler school, I know your loving this rn! Thank you for the wisdom & support with you own time and effort. Your The GOAT Dwyane. I said it!
-w/love from The Islands of the Pacific
Responsibility and freedom are intrinsically intertwined. I understand many people are dependent on others due to disability or illness. My aunt struggles with downsyndrome and has been dependent on others her whole life. We who are fully able bodied and minded must take full responsibility for ourselves so that we can support those who cannot. There are far too many who expect others to take responsibility for them when they are fully capable. Our common shared efforts of supporting those in need are then wasted on those who don't truly need it. Ultimately our purpose in life is to develop a secure and stable environment for our children to develop into functional and free thinking members of society. Those who follow this new rebellion against responsibility are frankly just sticking the finger up at all succeeding generations to come. I greatly appreciate the message you promote on your channel.
I needed MEN like this in my life when I was growing up…😢 I am learning as I go tho…grateful for all the father figures I’ve had in my journeys…
What a wonderful man. Respect. So well said. The world needs to hear this.
absolutely invaluable wisdom. more people need to be saying this, and more people need to be hearing this
Thank you! Wise words for years to come
Wow, you are very spot on Dwayne. Thank you for your honesty. It seems that many people are too afraid to make criticisms these days.
I'm a blue collar worker myself, in my 20s. I remember when I was applying for post-secondary institutions (state, private, community and city colleges), I was well aware of the programs and employment aspects that followed (very picky). I don't know why so many people confuse this or that while applying for colleges; especially with their financial futures at stake.
I've got no regrets for choosing an Associate of Applied Science program, and then doing trade school afterwards. Been very rewarding with many job opportunities.
I uploaded your UA-cam of this to Twitter all the folks who feel like you and us will definitely agree. Carry on Sir... you make more sense than the followers who don’t like truth or to use their God given common sense. ☦️🙏🏻♥️
Great video and messages as it's so true! The only point I would make about college degrees, which are often misunderstood, is you go to college to learn how to think (especially critical thinking), how to communicate, how to commit and how to push through to achieve the said commitment. It's a lot less about the specific subject you learn and more about what you become as a result of the process and journey. It's therefore still a very worthwhile thing to do if it's affordable.
excellent point
Just want to say that I enjoy, learn and get some peace from your content Sr., so thanks for that, and may God bless all of us.
You are an elder with wisdom I have been seeking in my adulthood. The day I took responsibility is the day I felt lighter. Thanks for the video's and please do keep them coming.
Nice job! It's great to hear folks like yourself are out there. My family and I have always followed your exact words. Where I'm from families still have pride, self-reliance, and God in our lives.