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- There is a prevalent philosophy today that says for a man to succeed he has to live without regret. There are inherent dangers in this approach to life, and we discussed those dangers in this particular video.
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When you're literally just sitting and talking-no editing, no special effects, no clowning
around to entertain, no talking fast to keep people engaged - and people attentively
listen, watch, and subscribe, that is what happens when someone actually has something
of true value to say. This guy is the real deal. I'm not fan boying; it's simply refreshing to
see this still exists.
The fast talking edited clowns have the exact opposite effect on me 😅😅 I get bored or irritated, and don’t really here what they are saying , not that I probably miss anything 😏
100% with you
Amen.
It’s a God given gift !!
Amen
I don't even know how I found this guy. I'm in massachusetts and I work in tech. I don't own a gun. I don't ride a horse. I'm a guy in a city, clean shaven, works in an office and I have to think how many years I haven't seen a horse. Me and this guy couldn't be the more opposite type of people. Something about this guy I thought wasn't still real, is still a lifestyle that people in my country can live, stirs something in me as human being and as an american. I love this guy's philosophy on life. I can totally get why so many people like him. I'm guilty of a lot of this arrogance. Dwayne, I heard you. I'm going to try to apply some of this, in my own way. As much as I can. Thank you.
I’m in Massachusetts too and it’s worth it, I’ve been listening for a while.
Interesting
Look up the autobiography Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇
I grew up with men and women like this. Been outside of the Midwest on occasion I can count on one hand. I'm happy he's still around and expressing his experiences and opinions. I'm glad people are hearing him who hasn't experienced a person like him and can listen to and appreciate his stories. I also have no idea how I found his channel... Other than that he's wise and people appreciate his videos. Every time I watch a new video I feel like I've learned something important. I'm glad other people experience something too. I also don't own any guns, I have lived near a big city for decades. I don't smoke. None of that matters because he wouldn't judge you for any of that. In my opinion. People like him deserve to be in government... But Businessmen pushed them out. I'm going to try battling my unbalanced regret a little harder thanks to this man.
Amen! 🙏🕊🌅
"Balanced regret is what helps you become a better person. Unbalanced guilt is what destroys you."
This is probably one of the most powerful things I have ever heard said. This is a wonderful quote.
VERY powerful indeed!
Dang. That hits the heart square.
One of the reasons I would pay to have a book with his wisdom on my hands. Very, very powerful words to those who truly understand.
"more mature you are, less self-centered you get, more things you will see in the past that you will regret" great one.
key word; mature. As I have gotten older, I have noticed that those I know in my age group have not matured in any way. Or said another way, they have aged like milk. As they get older they get more bitter, more angry, more selfish, more entitled, and less happy. Funny how entitlement, anger, and unhappiness go together.
@@CB-vt3mx as someone of having a crisis turning 29 this year, that's one of my biggest fear. I don't want getting jaded and bittered as I get older. any tips I can learn to be a better person like yours?
"Regret is not about us" 25 years old and still so much to learn. That was a powerful statement
Agree. I was honestly on the other side of the topic until he broke it down that way
Always so much to learn sibling.
You are ahead of the curve from my campfire view. That is a good thing, and I'm glad you will reap those rewards on the count of it.
You know..I am in Kenya , African descent..and I dunno how, but something made me click one of his videos and I just keep on coming back. Some great wisdom shared. Am humbled sir.
These videos are one of the best things to ever happen to youtube
❤
I’m so happy you’re still making these sir.
I am a young man (30) who grew up without either parents, and no real male role models in my life.
I look at you as such, and I I’m sure I am not the only one.
Thank you for everything.
Look up the autobiography Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇
Dude I've been in the same boat as you. I never grew up with my parents but with my grandparents. I had no real male role model in my life either, even though my grandfather helped raise me but he wasn't a father figure because he never took the time to be a man and teach me the things to become a man. I've made many bad decisions and I regret all of them but this man here has been lifting me up of my knees to become the man I need to be. BTW I'm 30 as well. 😅 This man is a God send.
As an 18-year-old Puerto Rican girl, I never thought I'd have much in common with you, but since discovering this channel I have come to greatly appreciate your wisdom and perspective. Though we each see the world in different ways, I find myself resonating with much of what you have to say. Scrolling through the comments section I see so many people from all age groups, genders, backgrounds and experiences, and I think there's something beautiful about how we're all brought together by this man talking about horses and life. Thank you for your content!
Sex. Genders is for words. And there's only 2.
As for the rest, good on you
as a puerto rican girl turning 18 soon myself, it was comforting to see this comment. ❤
Regret is one of the most important elements in healthy growth. As you point out, without regret there is no growth - simply death. At 74 I have many regrets, but I am more humble, more empathetic, more aware of my place in life and empowered to be a better human being - a kinder, less selfish person. I enjoy life. Thank you Dwane for your insight
Look up Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇
Its right up there with Resentment. 2 very powerful aspects of the human mind.
that's actually an AMAZING perspective on the matter, no regrets= no reflection and accountability= no growth= no empathy= narcissism
That's a sick person not learning and all about themself.
@@InTexasMatt correct and refusing to because they don't acknowledge their own shortcomings. To them it tends to be everyone's fault on every matter possible. Its truly a sad reality.
The world around you gets better after you win the war against yourself
As a man with no father, thank you. Your advice and calm demeanor is so comforting.
I grew up without a dad but my best friend had some actual old Texas Cowboy uncles who taught me some common sense and responsibility just by example. The basically said "boy you got some tough breaks but you're gonna have to learn to be a man anyway". Dwayne reminds me of those guys so much.
The older I get, the more regrets I have. I have so many regrets it can overwhelm me sometimes
I've been thinking about regrets all day. This was strange timing. I appreciate you Dwayne for helping others struggling.
Look up Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇
If a person has a conscience, regret will be a valuable teacher throughout life.
Amazing how God directed me to this video. God protect and bless you Sir!
I agree. We can't live completely without regret and to my mind people who claim to do so are lying to themselves. The trick is just not to let your regrets haunt you and make you a worse man. Move past them in productive ways and use them to become a better man. And most importantly don't dwell on them too often. But living without regret fully is for most people dishonest to themselves and to some promotes a mindset that they've made no mistakes in life so they go on making mistakes.
The truth is we can never fully say if not making a choice we regret would've actually made our lives better. I can't say mistakes I've made in my past haven't led to a better future for me because I can't see into a crystal ball. But I know damn well when I've made a mistake, done something I know I shouldn't've or acted in a way that makes me ashamed of who I was. And that's what I think my true regrets are. I try not to dwell on them because I know I'm a better man now, but I still regret them and use that regret to fuel me to act differently in the present.
i did the best i could. i made the decision i thought was best in the moment, and now i know. i will be better. its ok to be foolish. its not ok to stay foolish. theres no need to bully yourself into making you feel guilty over and over again over something that is now in the past. allow yourself foregiveness and allow yourself to move on.
There are some who live in the present who can utterly sidestep regret when they trust it is all a given. Even hurting someone could easily be, and with an honest person as a result of, karmic debt... all necessary experience from life to life to ultimately exhaust all experience in this kindergarten.
We can all say I aught not to have said, thought or done such and such but really, what do we know? Lol
Look up Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇
I have no problems with having regrets and thinking about things I could have done differently. But I never let that consume my soul and stop me from living. And I don’t let that ruin my future.
I'm 53 and you're right on about this. I've worked on myself all along the way as I learned. If you recognize it you're a decent human being.
Enjoy that coffee and good cigar! Well said!
Regret is our guideline! If you did something you regret, don't do it again. Every time you regret something you did, you know that you can't do it again; it's wrong, your conscience is telling you, you just need to listen!
Much love from Brazil 🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷
I love putting your videos on in the background & listening to your wisdom
Dwayne exactly. If someone doesn’t have any regrets in life, I wouldn’t want to be part of them either. You can’t go back and fix what you didn’t do right yesterday, but you can move on forward today and not make those bad choices🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Regrets seed humility and compassion 🌻
“Be Humble”. Humility is the virtue of virtues. Thank you for sharing from your heart. God bless you and all the Dry Creek Wrangler team!
I am almost 20 years, your senior, and I figured this out many years ago, but thank you for putting it out there! You preach it man you preach it!
Look up Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇
Amen. Great teaching. I agree. I know I'm a 64 year old woman that has regrets. But I've moved on, I must say, with the help of Jesus. But everyone can make the choice to acknowledge or ignore the things purposely or not purposely done in our lives. And it's always the best to confess them and move on with a clean slate so to speak.
God bless you and momma, Dwayne.
Look up Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇
@@JC-du6sn Is that a book?
Iv got more regrets than I can remember. I regret that I stopped taking my family to church when my service business took off. That’s one of many.
Did you all turn into heathens when you stopped going to church?
its been almost 2 years since i discovered this channel and I come back to it every now and then because of the way it causes me to think through the things that are always on my mind so when the load gets to be particularly heavy Its wonderful to be able to have access to the knowledge of someone who has lived more life than I have FOR FREE
Thank you Mr Dwayne. I needed to hear that today. Im going thru a lot of regrets and hard times right now. And i really needed to hear that its ok to have regrets but dont let them beat me down into the miserable person i was. Being that person cost me SO MUCH. it cost me more than just respect and my dignity. It cost me my wife and my children. It cost me EVERYTHING when i was living with the " NO REGRET" attitude. Whatever i did I did and i didnt think of anyone but me. And now I'm all i have. And its a struggle to just not give in and end it all. Everyday. The only thing that keeps me going is that if i give in i have NO CHANCE to ever fix it or get them back. But if I fight and turn it to god and he puts videos like yours on here the moment i was failing this fight. I know that a slim chance is a lifetime better than no chance. Thank you sir, for everything. You are im my prayers. Thank you for being there when i truly did need it ❤
Regrets can feel like a cancer eating your soul. I love your perspective on this Dewayne
That pain can be a refining fire
as a 16 year old with a lot of regret already, there is nothing better then hearing what i need to hear from an logical, and wise man
Regret opens the door to repentance 🙏
Thanks Dwayne, God bless
Regret is the extreme of making mistakes.
Mistakes are lessons.
Regrets are lessons we study more than simple mistakes.
To enforce them, to be better people.
Keep them close to your heart, for as soon as they are far, you will be serving the self.
We battle not with flesh and blood.
Amen
Taking Accountability make you a better person trust me ❤
Thank you!
I live off grid and am building a cabin with my soon to be wife. We are getting married In 3 weeks. I am heeding the advice of the Bible and am “seeking wise counsel.” Thank you for the consistent good advice
I'll admit that at first I was disagreeing with your take on having no regrets. In today's world, we're told it's good to have no regrets, like you pointed out, and I've probably bought into that a bit. Today I'm grateful to my God for the suffering of my past, because it's made me who I am today. Then you clarified about how regret can be about how we've affected others and that's where I understood and agreed.
In regards to my own self destruction of the past, I find it beneficial - personally - to not keep on dragging that baggage and having regrets, but I definitely do regret the things I've said and done that brought others down with me. Those things I'd take back and change it I could, but none of us can go back, what we can do is make amends - not just a simple Sorry - and behave in a new, better manner that isn't conducive to harming others anymore.
There is someone who I miss beyond words!!!! I regret my immature ways when I was younger, how a medicine I was prescribed made me act really awful for many years. I was aware of it but didn't have much control over it. In addition to having lived a really hard life in the foster care system and adopted by a family who didn't accept me, made life harder for me. I deeply regret how I acted because it wasn't fair or right to him. He knew me after that though too thankfully, the real me!!!! I hope he can think more and more of the good. I'm still here. I will forever be here. I love you ErBear!
Not to nosy, but was that Clonazepam that you were on?
No I had been on Adderall and straterra at different points. I decided one day I hated how it made me feel so I quit taking it. I remember almost passing out from tiredness when I quit taking it, but eventually everything went back to normal. Well at least I think, who is to say what the lasting effects where. Don't think I even needed to be on them in the first place, but like every kid in the 90s seems like they where prescribed that stuff.
@@ThatAnimalChannel Thanks for your response. That's ironic, because my doctor wanted to put me on Adderall if my Guafacine didn't work. It sounds like you went through hell with that medicine. I asked if you were taking Klon*pin because that medicine will put you through hell too.
I remember when y'all had 200 subs. Y'all really took off here lately. Y'all are such good people and I wish y'all all the love and happiness and success that life can bring.
@4:33 - yes 💯I think about a former friend of mine when you mention this. He's well into his 40's and has spent MOST of his life Disappointing others including his own Parents. He consistently says "I have no Regrets and/or what the Fu%! do I care?"
I do believe he's a Sociopath by definition.
I'm glad he's not part of my life any longer. You are incredibly wise sir, another great video. This is a BIG LESSON for our Youth!!
You are not alone. Someone has brought this wise man into your life. I will pray for you.
Thank you for helping me get my head clear on that, as a born-again Christian I was feeling like I'm being called to no longer look backward and have regrets, and just try to focus on the lessons learned. But I'm realizing that regrets and memories of failure can help me to be a better man moving forward, in that regard they are a blessing from above.
That person sitting around the fire that says "I have no regrets because everything that happened made me who I am today" may be expressing similar thoughts as you, but perhaps are using different words. It's that "because everything that happened made me who I am today" part, right? They seem to recognize that mistakes can be learned from.
Exactly i think it could be very similar thoughts. Because if you didn't do it you would just do it to someone else, but ofcourse you should regret it still. that's the whole reason you learned from it
You remind me so much of my grandpa, just the way you talk, is the way he tells hunting stories and fishing stories and it is a great feeling.
52 years old woman and single mom. I am a nurse I lost my job a year ago. Was a blessing as I was able to care for my oldest daughter after emergency spinal surgery left her nearly paralyzed from the waist down. Also caring for grandson and my other daughter who has a severe seizure disorder. My oldest daughter has gotten miraculously back to nearly full mobility. Issue is she is verbally and physically abusive to me. This has brought on the most severe depression of my life. I can hardly function. Am close to being evicted. I royally messed up a job interview I miss read the time and was 7 minutes late. This took out all jobs for our local hospital and any associated clinics. I feel like a worthless piece of crap. I am the only one who can do anything from cooking and laundry to mowing the grass and working. I am overwhelmed and at the end of my rope. Any support or encouragement is appreciated.
‘Y’varekh’kha Adonai v’yishmerekha.
[May Adonai bless you and keep you.]
Ya’er Adonai panav eleikha vichunekka.
[May Adonai make his face shine on you and show you his favor.]
Yissa Adonai panav eleikha v’yasem l’kha shalom.
[May Adonai lift up his face toward you and give you peace.]’
Man you have no idea how much I needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing.
I am from Turkey, watching a horse trainer for his wisdom. I only rode horse 2 times in my life, still watching horse training videos. because even when this man talks about horses in his videos, he says things that one can be inspired of. You're letting me face my own problems that I am afraid of. Your look to this world is more different than what they pumping us from social media. They take one away from real world. A good man is a good man everywhere in the world, and the rules are more or less clear. You're making me remember this rules or learn this rules. Thank you for reminding us the most important thing in the world: being a good man. Modern world makes you forget how to be.
Look up Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer.😇 Page 64 😇
I appreciate your videos. Reminds me of my father who recently passed away. He was my biggest supporter and I sure miss his guidance. I’m in the army and don’t get to go home much but when I did we would sit by the fire, drink some beer and talk about what I’ve seen, what I’ve done and the future. He really made me feel important .
Regrets have haunted me a lot these last couple of years, so this hits home. I feel a lot of regret towards life decisions I made for myself though, like going to university, not joining the army when I was younger. I regret loving someone who did not love me back. I regret bending over backwards for a job that fired me because the man on the top got greedy. I guess I blame myself. In a way, I suppose many of my regrets actually is about me, maybe that makes me selfish and may be contradicting to what your wise words are about, I don't even know why I'm writing this publicly. I guess I, well... well said sir. To anyone else reading, remember there is always a tomorrow. Be brave and be bold.
Thank you for these thoughts. I so enjoy your videos. Wayne you are a modern day Marcus Aurelius'. I love reading his meditations, and I love watching your videos for the same reasons. Wisdom! I wish to be better and wiser man than I was yesterday and you help. Thanks again and keep these coming.
My father killed a man. He went to prison. After prison, he told me several times that he did not regret what he done---to killed an innocent person. My dad died a few years ago. He went to his grave without a clear conscience. No regret = no clear conscience. God bless.
I hope you become better than him
Dwayne, thanks for addressing regret so thoroughly as both a strength and a potential downfall. I strongly dislike when someone says "It is what it is" to dismiss themselves from owning a problem or mistake. I tell them "no, it is what you/we/i made it". Its a huge piece of having responsibility.
I love to listen to this gentleman while listening to ambient music from Red Dead Redemption in the background. It is calming and feels like an older Arthur Morgan is giving me sage advice. Thank you sir for all that you do!
That was strong and hit me like a brick. Thank you for that to-the-point and important message. I took it like a lesson and realized that regret is not to be avoided but realized and learnt from.
Regret , and Repent . We are ALL human . We ALL make mistakes . And we learn and grow from them . Ask forgiveness or apologize when possible , and never do it again . If we do this and not allow regret ro destroy us , it becomes our future salvation from self destruction . Or the destruction of others . The Blood of the Lamb , if you accept Him ; covers our sins .🍀
Nick Perdomo is one of the most principled men in the cigar world.
His family members were political prisoners in cuba for going against socialism/communism.
Hes turned down some big opportunities in the cigar world due to him refusing to work with people who have praised castro. thats all ill say because i dont know if what im saying is public knowledge. Hes a great man in an industry where many have sold out.
I have MANY regrets from choices I made when I was younger. Because of that, I now have a beautiful life and great relationships with my kids and grandchildren. Never be too proud to admit you’ve made mistakes, but don’t carry them around like a badge of shame. Move on and get on with the amazing life God has in store for you!
Sir as you grow into an adult and began to reflect you quickly realize the more knowledge the more sorrow
That's not an even remotely helpful way of looking at things.
Regret is different from guilt. Any person who is honest has regret.
Regret is guilt. It's wanting to change the past. It's a sin
@@betht7591 Disagree. Regret is sorrow for a past mistake that was not intentional. Guilt is sorrow for knowingly hurting another. Regret is for decisions that had bad outcomes when you had no reason to expect them. Guilt is for decisions that resulted in bad outcomes when you did expect them
@@GentlemanJack295 Why feel sorrow in the case of regret about something we can never change? To me, regret is useless energy. I can accept lessons learned, but the word regret doesn't help. I learned this from experience. I am one of the most caring person. I feel regret when I sin but I come to Jesus for forgiveness and he takes my guilt and regret away. So I do not regret anymore
@@GentlemanJack295why regret when we can't change our pasts? I'm an honest person. I don't regret because I confess my sins to Jesus. I believe in lessons learned, by not regret.
@@betht7591 You can be forgiven but still feel bad about it forever. That is part of the price of sin. You can forgive hurt but you don’t forget it.
I am grateful to God that I found your channel. You just addressed, clarified and put into details something I was thinking about for a long time. I am 27 and have so much more to learn, this was a very good lesson. Thank you!
Said everything I said in my video a couple weeks ago on similar topics. Big respect too Dwayne.💯
I just finished saying the same thing regret is a tool you use that tool so that you don’t make the same mistakes birds of a feather
I’m 28 years old… no Job, no friends, no wife, got abused 2-3 years ago from narcissism who was my second girlfriend
lost it all my health, rob me of my peace, and my future to be a worthy man towards anyone…
I’ve been single majority of my life I’m afraid it will be that way no one loving me back I only got Jesus….
Your not alone both genders are poisoned by Hollywood and some music styles.Rap has been teaching smash and split while feminism songs bolster a If you do not have cash and hold me on a pedestal your nothing.This is so untrue.As a young man all I ever wanted was to undo some of the wrongs I lived thru in my childhood and watched my parents suffer over. In order to do that i needed a wife and kids to take the journey with.After 2 divorce attempts with the same wife over the same divorce issues my parents had We have succeeded survived rather.I was jailed twice spent countless thousands and traversed many dark years I have seen the truth.The trials and the money wasted were well worth it to see our children together under one roof and not allow the same trauma we endured passed on to them.June 1 will be our 23 anniversary and we love one another more for taking the issue's Duane speaks of seriously.Point being I needed to travel the path of my parents to see the demons and challenges they faced and remember the bad times as a kid to help me through them putting bad memories to good use. Not for the sake of myself but for the sake of our children for if I do not conquer the demons of my past in this life that they will be passed on to the kids.I am a stone mason and have a passion for the hard work it makes it easier to get out of bed in the morning. I give room and allow the work and passion of effort take a front seat first and the money a byproduct otherwise it leaves us feeling poor bitter becoming materialistic and greedy.Remember we all end up the same it is the experience and journey and how you see it that you have full control over.I hope you can find some one remember there is a woman out there who has experienced the same neglect you have find her and help each other correct the wrongs you both endured It will be the strongest promise you both could make to one another.Time must be shared responsibilities shared and social biases that society has placed on our genders discussed.Your young yet you have time I wish you the best. 45 father of 2 A girl and a boy.
This is the kind of content that made people so attracted to youtube in the first place, just people talking to a camera giving advice or talking about life. We're surrounded by so much fakery in our lives this stuff is not only refreshing but frankly necessary talk that people need to hear because they're not going to hear it anywhere else.
I like the analogy of a safety mechanism for others. Regret is the twin of shame. If one feels no shame for their shameful actions, they can never feel regret. But regret is more than a safety system for society and family--it is also the key to actual learning in life. In my own life, I have done things out of ignorance that shamed me once I knew better. The regret that brought always led me to seek knowledge so that I could improve and mature.
This video is hitting me at the perfect time. I am at a big turning point in my life. It's like I was talking to myself through you once more, because I have started to become more self-reflecting and started facing my problems instead of drowning them out with alcohol. I haven't felt as good as this with myself in years. I am turning 25 in July.
When this man speaks, people listen ✌️
I am 86 and I do have regrets but I also believe through them I became a better person.
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I always interpreted "No regrets" as not living with the pain of not doing things out of fear and missing out on good experiences because of it. Like not asking the girl you liked out because you thought she wouldn't like you. "I have no regrets because everything has made me who i am today." Is a very poor way to say "I do not regret the fact that i regret the things that i have done wrong. That regret makes me who i am today." I think very very very few people who say that actually think "I dont regret any of my actions."
Your take is the best way to say it.
Dwayne is the example people need to be looking too these days, he’s solid gold.
Regrets are a constant reminder that we are all humans..Mere mortals.
Appreciate the hell out of this channel man. Always seems to show up at the right times and resonate with me. Thank you.
I needed this one. Sometimes it’s like the bad old days are tied around my neck.
A high character quality of humanity indeed. A supreme opportunity for reflection, thoughtfulness and redirection of one’s path forward. Any man who does not show or honor regret in this way is an empty man. We don’t need anymore such empty men especially those who claim to lead.
your steady disposition is comforting. this is so well timed as i just had something really world changing ( or world ending honestly ) in my life where i accidentally pushed away someone i loved, where they loved me as well. it felt so good, i couldve had a more involved life with them but now i have to dart around them for now because of the pain, even though they mean so much for me. overtime i got numbed by the awful things of the world, the bad news, more importantly the distance of the internet, and eventually they found someone else and i accidentally wasted time. i sort of didnt do anything, i didnt know how to live. i am an extremely feeling and yearning person beyond words so about for 6 months the anguish steadily rose until a breaking point, yesterday.
i usually dont have a lot of good role models in my life but having good role models are SEVERELY underrated and its what youth needs, even me being 22 (god i dont like how older im getting). i have a tendency to turn to videogame characters with suffering + comeback arcs a lot to turn me into a better person and it works a lot! theres a lot of values and morals ive learned that ive integrated into myself, but expanding my horizon by having more well , real role models like you (not to imply characters like this can't exist in real life), is important. i dont have a lot of them present in my life enough and i will never forget your wisdom
there was so many things that ringed true that i needed to hear as its getting me out of my depression. here's to a road of healing and smiling through regret and suffering. to those suffering as well and are especially despairing, dont think of smiling through pain is not a bad thing; its a testament to your willpower to live and grow. theres nothing stronger in the world than human willpower. even though you know you best YOU are stronger than you think. trust me .
Dwayne,
People without regrets cannot be trusted as they are either lying to themselves or lack compassion.
Keep telling the trutb as many young adults need a "role model" of a real man/woman.
God bless you ❤️ 🙏
Thank you for this as always DeWayne, I needed to hear this.
I love all of your video's, but this one is one of the best! I couldn't agree more, so many people disregard how they treat others. This is a powerful message that is really needed today!
I found this channel about a year ago and this video alone helps on a day like today. Thank you Dwayne
Always great to check in you here, mate. Thank you for this talk, regret is something I have been wrestling with for decades. Ex-user so I carry around a lot of that stuff.
i have no words to express how thankful i am for having stumbled over your channel a couple months ago. Wish you and your family all the best ❤
Sir, you have no idea how much I needed this video today. After a rough weekend that was mainly brought on by my own poor choices, I snapped at my dog for trying to run me through a telephone pole while holding my other dog. In that moment, all I could feel was anger & resentment. But later, all I felt was regret & self-loathing. Your speech on regret and it's intended purpose, while also not letting it overstay it's welcome, was exactly what I needed. God bless you, Dewayne!
I'll be turning 27 this year but I still don't know what to do with my life, career-wise I'm lost, still living with my parents, started giving up on love a few months back, have no kids, and have so many regrets in my life at this point but I won't give up on learning from my mistakes. At this point I'm not praying for a better life, I'm praying that I can endure everything that comes my way. Thanks for motivating me, Sir.
I agree. We all have things we wish or know we should have done differently. But as along as we own up to it, learn from it and go forward doing the best we can to be better that’s all that matters. You can’t beat yourself up forever, so long as you take accountability for your mistakes and don’t keep making the same mistakes over and over again. It’s only a mistake if you don’t learn from it.
the inanimate object comment is amazing. aristotle says "they produce effects, as fire burns, without knowing what they are doing." and that the difference comes in having reasoning & explanations for why you do what you do- cant do that without reflecting. so amazing as usual
It's validating to hear you talking about this topic, I fully agree with your view. I have had a bunch of discussions with my parents in the past, who I love and respect, when I told them about things I regret in my life and they always treated it as if it was a bad thing. No, regret is a sign that you have grown as a human being, it is a thing that hurts but is to be treasured at the same time. Unfortunately, modern society is urging us to push away uncomfortable truths and hurtful feelings instead of dealing with them and integrating them into our character to improve ourselves. A good day to you, sir.
Man, you hit the nail on the head. I've been a snapping dog for nearly a decade...just finally coming out of it, your videos help a lot with that
Appreciate your content. There are not many channels I watch that actually grab my attention like yours. As said in previous comments, no filters, no jump cuts. It is refreshing to watch/listen too. Thanks 👍
There are so many regrets that I have had and still have to a certain degree. I am 75 years old, it would be nice to start again but that is not an optionl . My temperment has changed a large amount, I am not the same human being I used to be. To tell the truth I am at an age that I am quite comfortable with, and looking foreward to the years I have left. Thanks Dewayne
We are men of action, regret does not become us. But contentment in all circumstances, and situations, is a joy to learn and master.
You just helped so much of my process with this one.
Regret begets humility, and that’s always a good thing.
Dwayne,
This is perhaps, in my opinion, your most moving and important video. Thank you for addressing it.
Although I completely agree with what you are saying. I never viewed “having no regrets” to mean that I don’t care at all about the things I’ve done to others and how it might have affected them. I view “no regrets” in a different light. To me saying “I have zero regrets” means I that I accept the choices that I’ve made, poor or not, because those choices showed me how to become a better person, grow and heal. In the same light as having regrets because those regrets allowed you to reflect and see how your choices and actions affect others which in turn allow you to grow and heal yourself and future relationships is to me practically identical to having no regrets because those actions allowed me to come to the same conclusions. Why would I regret choices I made that helped me grow and become kinder? If I regretted those choices and wish I’d never have done them then I would have never learned of those choices were never made.
Have regrets = I accept and appreciate my choices and learned from my mistakes because of them.
No regrets = I accept and appreciate my choices and learned from my mistakes because of them.
I’m hoping you can see my perspective. I find it a little surprising that you would put someone in a box and not respect them because of them saying they have zero regrets. It’s a bit judgmental, especially when they either view the thing as the same light as you but get to that same view in a different way, or because they just never understood it from your perspective. Instead of casting them away and not saying anything to them about them having zero regrets maybe instead you should say something and ask them what they really mean behind it. You could risk loosing a life long friend that you in reality respect very deeply all because you judged and decided to bite your tongue and stay silent.
Many blessings to you.
This is so therapeutic, thank you 🙏🙏
Love that Dwayne's putting out great lessons like this.
I have a coffee mug with Ron Swanson on it and a quote “I regret nothing. The End.”
I bought this mug to help me remember there was nothing I could do to prevent two loved ones from perishing. Sometimes it helps.
I don’t mean to detract from the message. Medicine for one may be poison for another.
Thanks for making this video Dewayne. You nailed it. This is a lesson I've been really taking to heart now in my early 30s. My life is teaming with regrets. But we have to remember the arrow of time bends forever forward, and this necessitates letting our regrets flow forward in our personal lives as well if we are to make sense out of and grow from them. If we're always running up against them and cultivating barriers to the future out of past attachment to regret, this stymies our growth as much as denying them out of stubborn pride.
I needed to hear this so I could grow even further past what broke me and I got back up from. This helped me to be vulnerable again, so I could see my flaws and allow me to grow even more. Thank you. 🙏
I think this your best chat video so far, and that's saying something!
This has given me much to think on.
I often thought of regrets as things I wish I had done differently. And at the same time, I have made peace with the fact I didn't know any better or made a decision more for someone else rather than myself (and caused myself more harm).
To me regrets were something to make peace with and forgive myself for them, and where possible, apologise and seek forgiveness from the person i hurt. No longer having a regret doesnt mean i wont forget the pain i caused but i now see it as a lesson learned more so than keeping it as a regret. If that makes sense?
I have tried to work on many things and *not* have many regrets - (though still feel shame and guilt over pain caused) but this is based on my thinking above - now your words have me rethinking this and wondering. Thank you for your different insight. Interesting how we define regret, guilt and shame as different - yet all are nuanced in similarities.
Your videos have been extremely eye opening. I'm still rather young and unexperienced , and I've taken up the "no regrets" mentality and I have truly started regretting that. Thank you for these videos as they are really helpful and insightful.👍👍