I feel like I am having a "How to become a man" speech, even at 34 years old I am still all ears, cause even I still have my daily struggles. Have a good day, sir!
"There's no such thing as a self-made man. People cross our paths and change our stars" Is the most important counterpoint to take away in this video. Yes, we need to recognize that it is up to each of us individually to be our best selves - *but also* to always remain cognizant that we didn't get to the top only by being better than everyone else. Someone is always helping, and the luck of the draw remains a major primary contributor to individual success. So work hard, be competent, ask questions - but also build bridges, because if you're not starting out wealthy, the path from here to there is almost always a hopscotch involving other people.
I've felt the truth of this. I know I could have made more responsible choices in life for sure, but I've always put in the effort, tried to be forward thinking, and pursued my passions, but still find myself, once again, a novice at a new field of work, at 41. Deep down, it's embarrassing to ask for assistance from a 21 year old, who is 3 years my senior in experience, but it's the path I'm on, and I hope I'm all the better for it. But I do believe success is what you said, and I hope this time, I laid my bets down better than before.
Started tearing up a quarter of the way through. I'm a separated mother of four adult sons. Lost my wonderful Popop early in my teens, my unemployed dad cant even remember my kids names. Married a man who never spent a second teaching his sons anything of value. Videos like these are the values my sons needed to hear from a man when they were growing up. I'm adopting you as my imaginary dad. Thank you for such insightful, truthful, and earnest videos. They warm the heart and enlighten the mind.
@@HalfQuickFarmer Hey! I called dibs! Just kidding. Have at er. He's a wonderful role model. I decided upon watching this video that I'm going to have a family night with a great dinner, snacks, and games. I'm going to feature all of the videos I feel my sons could use watching. This video is the main feature.
Me first. I need a grandpa stroke mentor. Shame work doesn't do this for you anymore as they don't like the competition or want to give you progression as will cost them money.
My moment was when my Mother died when I was 17. It was at that point my childhood was over and I knew I would have to start taking care of myself. My dad was still around but he took my mother's death heard being married for 20 years and kind of stopped being a father for a few years and was gone a lot. I had to look out for my little brother who was about 9 years younger than me and start worrying about paying bills and doing all the things my mother use to do. It was a rough time for me, but I am grateful for the experience and would not change anything besides maybe having my mother around longer. My dad eventually got better and our family healed. That said he passed away last month too, but had a good run. I am 39 now.
Many years ago, I knew a young woman who was a legal secretary in my law firm. She said to me "Successful people do the things unsuccessful people won't." She's a judge now.
Robots respond, having no responsibility regardless of that response. Fortunately, people can learn that autonomy which bring the long days on earth. Good parents make great grand parents. It's much harder, though Hercules himself, to look upon that dependent obedience so often, so readily, sacrificed to a burning deck. God knows.
I’ve had some really difficult times raising my kids, but I can say two things - we have a good relationship, and each of them takes responsibility for their lives. I’m proud of them.
The thing I love most about this channel is that it's half craftsmanship, half philosophy. Both are truly timeless. I can't help but think of "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance" when I listen to videos like this. Hopefully everyone who watches will take this advice to heart.
The organization needed for good carpentry leads to good organization of thought in general. The Christian Church invented the person of Joseph as a carpenter because it became plausible that his son would be a thinking man. Solidity is an outcome of propitious angularity.
I've had the pleasure of being a quasi mentor to a few youths in my time as a construction site superintendent. In that time I would use my position to impart a few words of wisdom to hopefully help this younger generation grow and mature. My number one piece of advice would be you need to show everyone you care. I believe this overlaps your video quite well. If you never show the world you care, how could you ever expect the reverse to be true? This has been how I guide my life and it's done me great favors with little harm.
I absolutely LOVE 💕 how this channel and EC2 have evolved into the greatest channels on earth. Every time I watched an early video on this channel I would say and sometimes even comment how Scott’s and now also Nate’s words have changed me and how I do some things in my life. I really enjoy all you two put out as evidenced by my being the first to comment on many videos. Thank you so very much, a have a great day.
I just woke up and this video happened to pop up. I have watched😢 your videos in the past but life took an unexpected turn and I haven't really watched much of anything for the last 3 months. Listening to your advice was exactly what I needed, so thank you ! Starting life completely over at 54 is not what I envisioned for myself, but it is possible and your encouragement and positivity reminds me of that! 😊 So thank you!
I never had a mentor and I have a bit of resentment towards that fact. I feel with proper guidance I could have been so much more than I am today. I now how to figure out how to lead my boys in the way I was never lead. My parents wanted to give me freedom because they never had it. I got way to much freedom to the point my siblings and I wish our parents were more strict and pushed us harder is school.
@@carpentryfirst3048 IMO that is all we can do. Try to be the best parent, mentor or leader. The fact that you are aware of your past etc tells me that you are doing the best job you can. We all make mistakes but if we are too harsh with ourselves that's not good.
when I was 11I went to work helping my neigbor with logging and being a tail sawyer for his sawmill. so many great lessons not just about work but about being a man and life in general. I owe so much to his wisdom and the patience he had to teach me as a young lad. 32 now and have a small business doing tree work and some logging. also now have children and cant wait to pass his wisdom down
I loved every bit of this video. I’m a 23 year old future contractor/concrete subcontractor. My dad is my boss/mentor at the moment but I have been in the construction industry since I graduated high school. I have quickly seen myself growing away from the like of my generation for the same reasons this video was made. There sadly isn’t enough people like Mr. Wadsworth here or my father with the ability to be a knowledgeable mentor to people my age. I am blessed and lucky to have my father that has a lot of the same knowledge and thought processes that E.C. has. Often times I laugh at how much they remind me of eachother while watching these videos because of the attention to detail they both have. In short order, what I’m trying to say is this sort of person is a dying breed and the future generation needs to hear this. This is pure guidance from somebody who knows what they are talking about and it is very valuable. It doesn’t matter if you’re in the trades, medicine, tech or customer service. This is a very valuable and real message that could flip the switch for a young person like me and open their eyes to the real world. As a young person I beg you to share or show this with a young person like myself because it’s my generation that needs to hear this. It’s often difficult to put this message into your own words but this is all truth and it’s easy to send a link nowadays. P.S. our Instagram profile is @sbensonconstuction and we are a patriotic, quality driven company in Southern Utah. Have a fantastic day E.C. And keep up with the great work!
I am 15 years old, and I have always desired self-reliance. I am fortunate to have a great support system with my family and a small church, and through that have gained the opportunity to learn lots about different trades from being willing to help out on fixer-uppers. A couple of months ago I started my first job doing tile, and your channel has been a great resource for knowledge, wisdom, and encouragement. Thank you for making great content, God bless.
This came right when I needed to have this conversation with my teenage son. Thankful for the timing and your thoughtfulness to share your thoughts on this. Best to you from the hill country of Texas!
Great Scott! You nailed it!! I can't say I've exactly been a mentor to anyone, or had a mentor for that matter, but there are people who have helped me along to become who I am, and I've helped others in turn. Always voluntarily, never out of a sense of entitlement. I've had people tell me they're better at what we do because they worked with me, and that's a great feeling. I've also told others what a positive impact they had on me, and seen the joy on their faces. Unfortunately, I left it too late on a couple of those. Being self-reliant, being able to take care of myself and my family from an early age, has been a great benefit to me, made me feel better. I've encouraged younger people to do the same, though not always successfully. Those who are always reliant on others to make their lives "work" remain forever children. They cannot know the satisfaction and joy of true accomplishment. Thank you for this video, and may it reach the minds of those who need it most.
Great advice. Everyone should have that moment, unfortunately I know people in there 50's that haven't had that moment. Thank you for all the videos you all do on life lessons.
@@neilestenson6595 please don't bring your take on what my views as a democrat are to this channel. I have, and will continue to bust my butt every single day of my life, yet I acknowledge all the help that mentors and society has given me in order to be able to do so, with as much fortune as I have had. I think others should get this opportunity, not be given handouts, but be given the same opportunities I have had. How is getting sick and becoming bankrupt as a result of it, a failure of a person?
@@user-de4jk8vj4c hi there. I don't get the straw man reference, but to your question I don't think anyone is responsible for the situation I depicted. I simply think if we have the means to help the less fortunate then we should choose to.
@@neilestenson6595 I understand what your getting at, I understand the purpose of how taxes was supposed to be used, I think that certain people like always took control and advantage of the system and misused it incorrectly and use it to fund over fund programs and wrecked it, now its almost a punishment not a service you pay for that you feel satisfied of paying Most ofvthose programs don't benefit the majority and alot of them have consequences tag onto them if you don't follow the crowd
A profoundly valuable and universal message for people of all ages - the importance of respect, self-reliance and proper boundaries. Thank you for that Scott.
"Train up a child the way he should go, when he is old, he will not depart from it" ( Proverbs 22:6 ). You are not only a skilled craftsman but a role model that your fellow Americans should emulate. It reminds me of the days of Jimmy Stewart was alive when you can find honesty, decency and integrity. Good pep talk.
I’m 63 years old & I needed this , Thankyou for sharing this astronomical piece of advice , very well received by me & I have great respect for you , may God continue to richly bless you and your family and also your you tube family
Lost my Dad at 20 and with it all the agreements we had between us (he was paying for my trade school). Told Mom and she said, "he never told me any of that, you're on your own." Probably the single most shaping moment in my life and it took several years to sink in. Hurt at the time but I'm grateful to my mom now.
Thank you sir! I watch not only for your knowledge of all things construction but for these pearls of wisdom. You are very smart but also incredibly wise! Thank you God Bless
My dear Scott, I truly feel that we are brothers from different mothers. There are so many parallels in our lives and even our philosophies seem to be the same. These words are very similar to those I have spoken to our son and daughter and now to our grandchildren. Self sufficiency is something you give yourself that nobody else can take from you. Once you learn it, it never leaves you. As you said, becoming a resource for others (as a friend, mentor, someone who listens etc.) is itself very rewarding. Keep up the good work. Thank you. Originally from California, now retired in Portugal and loving a simpler life.
Thank you. This speaks to me. I spent 12 years pursuing my architecture license (school and apprenticeship plus testing) expecting to feel like I made it when I crossed an arbitrary line. In some ways I did have that feeling. In other ways nothing changed with the stamp. So I became a contractor and have had immense joy in daily accomplishments and craftsmanship that was lacking in MY design experience. That career move catapulted me into adulthood and the ripple effects have swarmed the rest of my life. Suddenly the buck stops with me and my abilities to complete the project. It became much clearer during this video just how much that process affected me. Keep up the great content.
I was wondering when Jordan Peterson was going to come into this. I love the balance of everyone taking responsibility for themselves and the myth of the self made man. We all have a responsibility for ourselves and an obligation to pass on help to others. Thank you for this video.
Well put. Humility can take you a long, long way in life. It allows a lot of other things to happen - learning, failing, mentoring to name a few. All the best!
I just can’t express enough how impressed I am with your work here on UA-cam. The precise easy to understand details delivered in a timely and entertaining manner is unparalleled. Thank you so much for sharing. Sharing is caring. You are impacting my life and the lives of many. You can be proud of that. This is the video I will be sending, and have already, when suggesting your channel to all my friends. I’m not much younger then you yet it’s so refreshing to have someone to look up to. You inspire me to be a better man. You are appreciated. Thank you keep up the good work.
Thank you for this, I’m 26 and I’ve been working landscaping for 2 years on and off, but after COVID hit I started construction and it’s my first year and your videos are all I watch to learn and be able to find tricks and tips in my new journey through construction. This video really hits home, with little to no guidance, I had to really mold myself into who I am today and honestly I appreciate everything you’re doing from the podcasts to the videos I’ve learned a lot in the past year on your channel and I appreciate everything you do Thank you!
Just wanted to say “Right on Bro”to you. Stay with it, you will be fine. Persistence pays off. “No Pain,No Gain” Right? I still remind myself of that old school slogan all the time. Hope your doing well in life!
So many parents don't get it but our number one job is not to be our kids friend or fulfill all of their desires it is in fact to teach them how to be independent adults.
Good morning from Michigan... watch you guys weekly look forward to your videos... and I could not agree more I was 14 yrs old when my dad passed and struggled throughout high school my junior and senior year I I buckled down and graduated with honors I know I made him proud at 23 i bought my own home I'm now 33 fixing this house up keep it up EC
Such a complex, nuanced, deep subject. Hours of conversation, impossible to cover adequately in a short, one-sided video. Takes courage to make the attempt ;) Takes being responsible for yourself ;)
Amen and bravo brother Scott. As a biologic (3), foster /adopt (2), and step dad (2) to 7 with 5 other foster kids in the past I am blessed to have / had 12 kids call me dad. With me nearing 60 and my gang range from 36- 8 your profound words of insight, experience, wisdom and LOVE will resonate with many. I am # 5 of 7 myself and my dad went on permanent disability when I was 8 due to adult complications he experienced from contracting polio as a young man. I started working shoveling snow, raking leaves, and delivered newspapers ( remember that) 7 days a week. We don't know when our time here in earth ends, and while I am a devout lifelong CHRISTian I am not threatened by heaven, just not in a rush to get there. I just had this discussion with my 30 year old yesterday. He needs to step up, quit the excuses, and man forward. To my younger kids without putting too much fear into them , they need to pay attention, learn and prosper. As a young boomer, having a Gen X wife, both millenial, and Gen Z kids the common lesson is ACCOUNTABILITY, and. becoming self reliant. Peace, to All
We had a huge windstorm overnight Saturday just gone. Sunday morning, there were branches all over our acre property. All I had to do was ask 2 of my kids, and in spite of the heat, they spent almost an hour bringing all of the branches to me, I cut the larger ones down and they all went on the pile. I found myself smiling as I watched them head back inside, after I thanked them for their efforts. It's these simple little things that make me proud of my kids. And the backstory here - these 2 boys are my foster sons, they are both on the ASD spectrum, and neither of them like the feeling of getting sweaty or dirty. Yet, without complaint they accepted that they had a responsibility to help, and we worked together to do the work. One proud dad.
I’m 23 and my old man left when I was 11. I was my own dad and I did a damn fair job. I own my own renovation company. I had this realization at 13 and I’ve never had anyone explain it like you have. God Bles Tou
It’s far too easy to go either way on this. We all laugh at the people who are so unprepared for life that they dial 911 when a restaurant messes up their burger order, but at the same time we can’t fall for the myth of the self-made man. (Unless you’re one of those crazy survivalists living off the land in the Alaskan wilderness with no outside contact or something). Maybe you say you hung out your shingle and built your business from nothing, but beyond just the mentors and guidance of your upbringing, you build that business by relying on customers and suppliers, on your own skills and labor and on the skills and labor of those you employ, you rely on a stable social order, the rule of law, a reasonably steady economy, access to capital, and too many other things to list. Living in a society means living with obligations, both the obligations society demands of you, and the obligations you depend on from society. Taking responsibility means not just seizing the reins of self-determination, it means bearing the weight of your obligations too.
The way you said this actually bought a tear to my eye, mate. And I’m a crusty rusty 56yo 🙂. I sent this to all 4 of my kids, just to reinforce the progress they’ve made. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, skills, family and friends with us, it’s a wonderful thing.
Amazing timing in MY life. I will share this with certain family members that although I've done my best to show them this, I just can't say it in words as you just did in this video. Thank you and keep up the good work.
He'd make an excellent shop teacher, reminds a little of my freshman woodshop teacher "Boss" a guy who found as much value in life lessons as he lessons in the shop.
This is probably the best piece I've seen from you (and I've seen most all of them.) I've asked my 13-year-old daughter to watch it and we'll discuss it when she's done. Thank you for being a positive part of our lives.
Wow! that was a little off topic for your channel but strangely right on the money, Great delivery as always. I am struck by how many people out there are looking for somebody to blame for everything that besets them. The fact that something is not your fault doesn't automatically make it somebody else's. Like you say 'Take Responsibility'
This video has made me want to reach out to a few people who early on were great mentors and thank them. They may not even know they had an impact in my life. I think this is probably the best complement you can give. I'm going to start working on that right now.
I'm not so sure financial independence promotes maturity, if anything young men who are given everything get stuck. If you want to see a trail of misery, look at what happens to lottery winners, or rich kids. Everybody needs a job, a challenge, an occupation.
@@spelunkerdfor sure. Financial independence means you do not have the responsibility to go out and earn your keep. This is a recipe for disaster. Its not just humans who have this problem. Most pet dogs do not earn their keep in that they do not serve and function besides being a pet. Thus they become useless.
@@spelunkerd Not talking about a gift here. I'm talking about working hard and having an entrepreneurial mindset. I started with nothing, retired from the military and invested in real estate. #noboss
Young guys, I urge you all to grow up as fast as possible to avoid the regrets I'm having now after wasting many years of my life. I'm 35 years old now and that light bulb went on just a year ago. Pretty late... I grew up in a family that only tought me depended on my parents for everything. Now through people like Scott I learned to take responsibility and my life is getting so much more satisfying. Not being a big child anymore but becoming an adult, building up my own thing. And guess how happy my wife is about it. Thank you Scott for the good influence on my life!
Agreed, with a couple of additions. First, when you are in a situation where you need to be reliant on someone, express your gratitude and communicate your progress towards not being dependent on them. Second, don't confuse self-reliance with total autonomy. We live in a society that works best when people contribute into the system. I don't just mean paying your taxes. Share your time, knowledge, wisdom with those that are in need. Don't just hope societal problems will go away. You have no right to complain about society coming apart if you have done nothing to hold it together. It's also okay to reach out to people that have the skills or abilities that you don't. But be willing to learn if they're willing to teach you. Once again, communicate your gratitude, but don't make them regret their time and effort. Get involved in the bigger picture and not just yourself. And allow the good of the many to outweigh your wants for a while. It feels really good to volunteer for a good cause. You have to learn to connect the dots between where you're at and where you were, as well as where you want to be. I have a good friend who makes an easy $300k per year sitting at a desk. His job is very simple, even he'll admit to that. But he doesn't show any gratitude. Even though he lives in the only country in the world where his job pays well, and he works for the government, yet has no respect for this great country. He doesn't give back in any way back to society. He cashes his paychecks and believes he deserves every cent and more. He complains about things like fuel prices even though he works from home, while people commuting for hours can barely scrape by. He cannot connect the dots between the opportunities in this country, the position and salary that he has, his education being paid for by his family, or anything else. In his proud mind, he did everything by himself. Years ago, I was jealous of the easy life he had. But then I realized that he is stuck. He can't move forward because he doesn't think he needs to. Whereas I've been blessed with so many challenges that have brought me closer to an understanding of society, of people, of struggles, of relationships, and how everything is entwined and connected. Don't be selfish with your talents. God gave you those talents to be shared with others.
Oh my!! My son who is a Eagle Scout is calling together a group of other Eagles (all YOUNG adults now) to camp at a local ag museum and perform service to that organization during their stay. My son who is a Eagle Scout will also find a way to present this video to this group of young adults at the Saturday night bonfire. I've watched you build a house and I've watched you take responsibility for mistakes (something about that stair run being problematic). Your wisdom is a blessing! God bless you and yours.
Ha that crosses my mind, but no matter what leader is in place they're always surrounded by snakes and they're own nefarious agendas. He's good where he is at.
Great talk...it all begins at home...80% caught...20% taught. Finding good people that influence you in the right path are rare...keep looking. This guy is one of them.
I rarely make comments the videos you produce are very informative. But the wisdom and ethics are what keeps me watching. This one of the best messages I have seen in so long and presented in a way I believe everyone can understand. Keep up the good work!!
Thank you sir. Do appreciate all you do. Proud to say this how my mother raised me. Originally from Chicago moved out and become a wildland firefighter in southern Oregon. Greatest decision of my life. 21 years old in the prime of my life and Im working hard for my future family.
I agree and respect everything you just said, and I hope you don't loose viewers for telling the truth and telling it how it is I dont believe people these days want to take responsibility
I am so lucky to have father figures like you. I would be a lesser man if I didn't have advice like yours to live by. I am beginning to hear your wisdom in my head. You are influencing young men in positive and meaning way. Keep being an role model to all us who need you.
I wouldn't say that. Good parents start out useful and die much less useful. If you die being highly used, then you either died young or didn't teach your kid fast enough. If you die being lightly used, then you either have a very bright hard working child or you did something right, or you have a dumb kid who won't take instruction but is independent. (edit: and if you die obsolete(not used anymore) then you have a know it all independent kid or you yourself didn't learn enough to still be bestowing new information.) In short never stride to be obsolete, just less useful and almost not useful at all by the time they are 18 or 21.
Love your life lessons EC, I've watched you 'build that ramp' video for you mom, about a dozen times, always something good to take. stay healthy my friend.
This is great advise, I was blessed to have had a father that taught me from a young age the meaning if responsibility. This world would be a much better place if the entitlement attitude was not so strong in the minds of some.
Scott, you tipped your hand! I finally realized why I like this channel so much and your general approach to work/craftsmanship. Watching this video I found myself (70 years old now, retired but active) agreeing with everything you were saying. Then you make the reference to Jordan Peterson and carrying a heavy load - the light went on! Everyone should read Peterson’s 12 Rules for Life. Scott, you have obviously incorporated those rules into your own life and it shows in your work and your caring approach to sharing your knowledge and craftsmanship. I’m sure you followed those rules instinctively before you read or listened to Peterson, but he does a great job of clarifying those principles and why they matter. Self reliance, hard work, and caring for others will make your life and the lives of others better.
I had some amazing examples of this growing up but no one ever sat me down and explained it to me. It was supposed to be common sense, and to verbalize it was redundant. Talking about these concepts were akin to talking about feelings and when they were talked about the phrasing was definitely not as thoughtful or kind . While I watched this I think about how much of an impact this might of had on me. As a 50 year old father of two boys I also see the reality of having this conversation and their reaction to the message, the “I know Dad” that always comes. Seeing this video today has strengthened my resolve to continue my important journey as a Father to my boys and the leader of my family. I needed this today, thank you.
I have to say, I recently happened upon your channel while getting into blacksmithing and I love it. This video is a mentality that I adopted at a very young age and really wish more people my age could wrap their heads around it. I'm 32, I own a home and have a wife and two beautiful young daughters. I'm the sole income and work 3 jobs, and still work on my own projects and hobbies. At 3.5 years old I'm already trying to instill the self reliance and you can do anything attitude in my oldest. We built a lemonade stand together yesterday because I was talking about building a "stand" for my new anvil. But this message is so important, I have people I went to school with who are under employed and have no skill set. They just keep working that dead end job and hope some one else will solve their problems, mooching off parents or the government. I'll never understand how people can live like that or even think that way. It's ok to ask for help, as long as you are asking others to help you, help yourself.
Totally agree!!! You're comments reflect a measure of integrity immediately apparent when I've watched some of your 'hands on' episodes. That quality comes across very clearly and is what draws me to your channel. I am a physician by profession, but pride myself in being a pretty fair handyman and woodworker around the house - which has been the source of many important life lessons. So pleased as well to hesr that you are an admirer of Jordan Peterson, which is not surprising given your views on living a 'good life'. Warm regards!
A good life lesson chat. I'm 70 and you handed off some good information. I hope there is a long list of people that will stop and give it a listen. Thank you for your videos! good stuff.
My Dad told me "remember son, any time you need a helping hand just look right down to the end of your arm and there you'll find it".
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Great one.
Wow, your dad has infinite wisdom. One of the best quote I've read in years. Thanks for sharing.
I love that! I had to learn just that the hard way when i was just a teenager out on my own.
Tell that to James Franco in 127 hours. Really though, this is a great piece of advice
I feel like I am having a "How to become a man" speech, even at 34 years old I am still all ears, cause even I still have my daily struggles. Have a good day, sir!
I’m in the same boat.. Also 34 btw
@@dannycorona8524 Same here.
Same here bro we can do it in the name of Jesús
Same Brother, I just turned 35 a week ago.
35 here 👍🏻
"There's no such thing as a self-made man. People cross our paths and change our stars" Is the most important counterpoint to take away in this video. Yes, we need to recognize that it is up to each of us individually to be our best selves - *but also* to always remain cognizant that we didn't get to the top only by being better than everyone else. Someone is always helping, and the luck of the draw remains a major primary contributor to individual success. So work hard, be competent, ask questions - but also build bridges, because if you're not starting out wealthy, the path from here to there is almost always a hopscotch involving other people.
Wise words
@@jeremytine hi can you please share the video. thank you!
“Don’t step on your friends as you climb to renown, for they are the ones you may need coming down.”
I've felt the truth of this. I know I could have made more responsible choices in life for sure, but I've always put in the effort, tried to be forward thinking, and pursued my passions, but still find myself, once again, a novice at a new field of work, at 41. Deep down, it's embarrassing to ask for assistance from a 21 year old, who is 3 years my senior in experience, but it's the path I'm on, and I hope I'm all the better for it. But I do believe success is what you said, and I hope this time, I laid my bets down better than before.
Started tearing up a quarter of the way through. I'm a separated mother of four adult sons. Lost my wonderful Popop early in my teens, my unemployed dad cant even remember my kids names. Married a man who never spent a second teaching his sons anything of value. Videos like these are the values my sons needed to hear from a man when they were growing up. I'm adopting you as my imaginary dad. Thank you for such insightful, truthful, and earnest videos. They warm the heart and enlighten the mind.
Thank you...
I’m adopting him also
@@HalfQuickFarmer Hey! I called dibs! Just kidding. Have at er. He's a wonderful role model. I decided upon watching this video that I'm going to have a family night with a great dinner, snacks, and games. I'm going to feature all of the videos I feel my sons could use watching. This video is the main feature.
Me first. I need a grandpa stroke mentor. Shame work doesn't do this for you anymore as they don't like the competition or want to give you progression as will cost them money.
@@essentialcraftsman she obviously doesn't have a great track record with men. Not sure you got enough knowledge to help.
My moment was when my Mother died when I was 17. It was at that point my childhood was over and I knew I would have to start taking care of myself. My dad was still around but he took my mother's death heard being married for 20 years and kind of stopped being a father for a few years and was gone a lot. I had to look out for my little brother who was about 9 years younger than me and start worrying about paying bills and doing all the things my mother use to do. It was a rough time for me, but I am grateful for the experience and would not change anything besides maybe having my mother around longer. My dad eventually got better and our family healed. That said he passed away last month too, but had a good run. I am 39 now.
This has to be one of the most “bang for your buck” most value for the minute videos on UA-cam. Great work, I’d love to see more videos like this 👍
Responsibility = An ability to respond!
"Even if you are on the right track you'll get run over if you just sit there"
Many years ago, I knew a young woman who was a legal secretary in my law firm. She said to me "Successful people do the things unsuccessful people won't." She's a judge now.
Robots respond, having no responsibility regardless of that response.
Fortunately, people can learn that autonomy which bring the long days on earth. Good parents make great grand parents.
It's much harder, though Hercules himself, to look upon that dependent obedience so often, so readily, sacrificed to a burning deck. God knows.
More likely to be related to responding as in being answerable for something.
My Dad said "This house is the only fair place you'll ever live."
thats a GOOD one
Wow, I love that. I'm going to use that one.
He was right about that.
My dad tried to give me the same message. If only I a paid more attention.
@@AbulHussain-hh9rg Most people are in that boat.
I’ve had some really difficult times raising my kids, but I can say two things - we have a good relationship, and each of them takes responsibility for their lives. I’m proud of them.
this man has a wealth of knowledge under that silver hair!! May you be richly blessed and thank you sir!!!
The thing I love most about this channel is that it's half craftsmanship, half philosophy. Both are truly timeless. I can't help but think of "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance" when I listen to videos like this. Hopefully everyone who watches will take this advice to heart.
The organization needed for good carpentry leads to good organization of thought in general. The Christian Church invented the person of Joseph as a carpenter because it became plausible that his son would be a thinking man. Solidity is an outcome of propitious angularity.
@@jeanmorin3247 It's just possible that Joseph, Jesus Christ, and the "Christian Church" were more than mere inventions.
It took me 43 years to realize this.
Thank you for this kind of life lessons Essential Craftsman, and Jordan Peterson.
The more I watch you, the more I respect you. Thanks for all the goodness shared.
I've had the pleasure of being a quasi mentor to a few youths in my time as a construction site superintendent. In that time I would use my position to impart a few words of wisdom to hopefully help this younger generation grow and mature.
My number one piece of advice would be you need to show everyone you care. I believe this overlaps your video quite well. If you never show the world you care, how could you ever expect the reverse to be true?
This has been how I guide my life and it's done me great favors with little harm.
I absolutely LOVE 💕 how this channel and EC2 have evolved into the greatest channels on earth. Every time I watched an early video on this channel I would say and sometimes even comment how Scott’s and now also Nate’s words have changed me and how I do some things in my life. I really enjoy all you two put out as evidenced by my being the first to comment on many videos. Thank you so very much, a have a great day.
Thank you Robert!
I just woke up and this video happened to pop up. I have watched😢 your videos in the past but life took an unexpected turn and I haven't really watched much of anything for the last 3 months. Listening to your advice was exactly what I needed, so thank you ! Starting life completely over at 54 is not what I envisioned for myself, but it is possible and your encouragement and positivity reminds me of that! 😊 So thank you!
I love how you also stress the importants of mentors. We need more mentors in this world. Too many broken homes for various reasons.
I never had a mentor and I have a bit of resentment towards that fact. I feel with proper guidance I could have been so much more than I am today.
I now how to figure out how to lead my boys in the way I was never lead.
My parents wanted to give me freedom because they never had it. I got way to much freedom to the point my siblings and I wish our parents were more strict and pushed us harder is school.
@@carpentryfirst3048 "I now how to figure out how to lead my boys in the way I was never lead." Not sure how to read this correctly?
@@Minimalist1266 I try now*
@@carpentryfirst3048 IMO that is all we can do. Try to be the best parent, mentor or leader. The fact that you are aware of your past etc tells me that you are doing the best job you can. We all make mistakes but if we are too harsh with ourselves that's not good.
We call them Father oer here....thats what they are there for.
when I was 11I went to work helping my neigbor with logging and being a tail sawyer for his sawmill. so many great lessons not just about work but about being a man and life in general. I owe so much to his wisdom and the patience he had to teach me as a young lad. 32 now and have a small business doing tree work and some logging. also now have children and cant wait to pass his wisdom down
I loved every bit of this video. I’m a 23 year old future contractor/concrete subcontractor. My dad is my boss/mentor at the moment but I have been in the construction industry since I graduated high school. I have quickly seen myself growing away from the like of my generation for the same reasons this video was made. There sadly isn’t enough people like Mr. Wadsworth here or my father with the ability to be a knowledgeable mentor to people my age. I am blessed and lucky to have my father that has a lot of the same knowledge and thought processes that E.C. has. Often times I laugh at how much they remind me of eachother while watching these videos because of the attention to detail they both have. In short order, what I’m trying to say is this sort of person is a dying breed and the future generation needs to hear this. This is pure guidance from somebody who knows what they are talking about and it is very valuable. It doesn’t matter if you’re in the trades, medicine, tech or customer service. This is a very valuable and real message that could flip the switch for a young person like me and open their eyes to the real world. As a young person I beg you to share or show this with a young person like myself because it’s my generation that needs to hear this. It’s often difficult to put this message into your own words but this is all truth and it’s easy to send a link nowadays.
P.S. our Instagram profile is @sbensonconstuction and we are a patriotic, quality driven company in Southern Utah. Have a fantastic day E.C. And keep up with the great work!
Excellent commentary sir. I am 58 years young and needed to hear every word you spoke here.
Thank you.
I am 15 years old, and I have always desired self-reliance. I am fortunate to have a great support system with my family and a small church, and through that have gained the opportunity to learn lots about different trades from being willing to help out on fixer-uppers.
A couple of months ago I started my first job doing tile, and your channel has been a great resource for knowledge, wisdom, and encouragement. Thank you for making great content, God bless.
You are very honest and truthful person! I'm a self employed concrete guy and you are correct on what you talk about!!
AvE had sent me to this channel a long time ago.
It's cuz The Silver Fox knows his shit.
Thanks!
Even though i dont know you personally, you have been a huge mentor in my life in the short time ive watched your videos.
Through UA-cam you have become a mentor to a wider audience that you may never meet. Thank you and do keep up your own good work.
I know you mostly talk to young men, but my 17-year-old daughter loved this message.
You sir, have done a fine job as a father by the sounds of it.
Oh, that list brought tears to my eyes. How blessed we are to have known those folks who expected us to be responsible as early as possible. Thanks.
This came right when I needed to have this conversation with my teenage son. Thankful for the timing and your thoughtfulness to share your thoughts on this. Best to you from the hill country of Texas!
Great Scott! You nailed it!! I can't say I've exactly been a mentor to anyone, or had a mentor for that matter, but there are people who have helped me along to become who I am, and I've helped others in turn. Always voluntarily, never out of a sense of entitlement. I've had people tell me they're better at what we do because they worked with me, and that's a great feeling. I've also told others what a positive impact they had on me, and seen the joy on their faces. Unfortunately, I left it too late on a couple of those. Being self-reliant, being able to take care of myself and my family from an early age, has been a great benefit to me, made me feel better. I've encouraged younger people to do the same, though not always successfully. Those who are always reliant on others to make their lives "work" remain forever children. They cannot know the satisfaction and joy of true accomplishment. Thank you for this video, and may it reach the minds of those who need it most.
Great advice. Everyone should have that moment, unfortunately I know people in there 50's that haven't had that moment. Thank you for all the videos you all do on life lessons.
Democrats, not all but a significant percentage think tax payers are responsible for their well being.
@@neilestenson6595 please don't bring your take on what my views as a democrat are to this channel. I have, and will continue to bust my butt every single day of my life, yet I acknowledge all the help that mentors and society has given me in order to be able to do so, with as much fortune as I have had. I think others should get this opportunity, not be given handouts, but be given the same opportunities I have had. How is getting sick and becoming bankrupt as a result of it, a failure of a person?
@@user-de4jk8vj4c hi there. I don't get the straw man reference, but to your question I don't think anyone is responsible for the situation I depicted. I simply think if we have the means to help the less fortunate then we should choose to.
@@neilestenson6595 I understand what your getting at, I understand the purpose of how taxes was supposed to be used, I think that certain people like always took control and advantage of the system and misused it incorrectly and use it to fund over fund programs and wrecked it, now its almost a punishment not a service you pay for that you feel satisfied of paying
Most ofvthose programs don't benefit the majority and alot of them have consequences tag onto them if you don't follow the crowd
@@neilestenson6595 please don't go there.. this channel is wholesome and can do without the mess that is politics....
A profoundly valuable and universal message for people of all ages - the importance of respect, self-reliance and proper boundaries. Thank you for that Scott.
"Train up a child the way he should go, when he is old, he will not depart from it" ( Proverbs 22:6 ). You are not only a skilled craftsman but a role model that your fellow Americans should emulate. It reminds me of the days of Jimmy Stewart was alive when you can find honesty, decency and integrity. Good pep talk.
Amen
I’m 63 years old & I needed this , Thankyou for sharing this astronomical piece of advice , very well received by me & I have great respect for you , may God continue to richly bless you and your family and also your you tube family
Excellent message! I feel like nowadays everybody wants to talk about their rights, but never a word of their responsibilities.
Lost my Dad at 20 and with it all the agreements we had between us (he was paying for my trade school). Told Mom and she said, "he never told me any of that, you're on your own." Probably the single most shaping moment in my life and it took several years to sink in. Hurt at the time but I'm grateful to my mom now.
As a teacher I found myself thinking of this as a great message for my students....and moments later realized he was speaking to me.
scott you have an unusual talent for philosiphy, even if i can't spell it i enjoy it.
keep up the good work.
Thank you sir! I watch not only for your knowledge of all things construction but for these pearls of wisdom. You are very smart but also incredibly wise! Thank you God Bless
My dear Scott, I truly feel that we are brothers from different mothers. There are so many parallels in our lives and even our philosophies seem to be the same. These words are very similar to those I have spoken to our son and daughter and now to our grandchildren.
Self sufficiency is something you give yourself that nobody else can take from you. Once you learn it, it never leaves you. As you said, becoming a resource for others (as a friend, mentor, someone who listens etc.) is itself very rewarding.
Keep up the good work. Thank you. Originally from California, now retired in Portugal and loving a simpler life.
Lord, grant me the patience and wisdom to help my 12 year old son learn this valuable lesson
12 years old is not old enough to learn this yet. Give him a few more years.
@BroadSide It's never too early to start teaching responsibility and self reliance.
I'm 28 and I'm just learning this.
Teach through your actions. No matter what. They're always watching. Good luck.
Teach through your actions. No matter what. They're always watching. Good luck.
Thank you. This speaks to me. I spent 12 years pursuing my architecture license (school and apprenticeship plus testing) expecting to feel like I made it when I crossed an arbitrary line. In some ways I did have that feeling. In other ways nothing changed with the stamp. So I became a contractor and have had immense joy in daily accomplishments and craftsmanship that was lacking in MY design experience. That career move catapulted me into adulthood and the ripple effects have swarmed the rest of my life. Suddenly the buck stops with me and my abilities to complete the project. It became much clearer during this video just how much that process affected me. Keep up the great content.
I was wondering when Jordan Peterson was going to come into this. I love the balance of everyone taking responsibility for themselves and the myth of the self made man. We all have a responsibility for ourselves and an obligation to pass on help to others. Thank you for this video.
These talks are excellent, sir. Your channel is multidimensional. I love it.
A great message that apparently I did not know that I needed today. Hit like a truck. Thank you sir.
Very nice and humble comment sir. Best wishes along your life's journey.
Same
Well put. Humility can take you a long, long way in life. It allows a lot of other things to happen - learning, failing, mentoring to name a few. All the best!
Get Jordan Peterson's book "12 rules for life". Listen to his videos.
I just can’t express enough how impressed I am with your work here on UA-cam. The precise easy to understand details delivered in a timely and entertaining manner is unparalleled. Thank you so much for sharing. Sharing is caring. You are impacting my life and the lives of many. You can be proud of that. This is the video I will be sending, and have already, when suggesting your channel to all my friends. I’m not much younger then you yet it’s so refreshing to have someone to look up to. You inspire me to be a better man. You are appreciated. Thank you keep up the good work.
I remember having this lesson in Sunday school. Thank you Sir
Thank you for this, I’m 26 and I’ve been working landscaping for 2 years on and off, but after COVID hit I started construction and it’s my first year and your videos are all I watch to learn and be able to find tricks and tips in my new journey through construction. This video really hits home, with little to no guidance, I had to really mold myself into who I am today and honestly I appreciate everything you’re doing from the podcasts to the videos
I’ve learned a lot in the past year on your channel and I appreciate everything you do
Thank you!
Just wanted to say “Right on Bro”to you. Stay with it, you will be fine. Persistence pays off. “No Pain,No Gain” Right? I still remind myself of that old school slogan all the time. Hope your doing well in life!
So many parents don't get it but our number one job is not to be our kids friend or fulfill all of their desires it is in fact to teach them how to be independent adults.
My favorite thing my wife and I often say; can’t remember where we heard it. ‘I’m not raising children, I’m raising adults’.
Kick them out at 18 and never talk to them again!
Good morning from Michigan... watch you guys weekly look forward to your videos... and I could not agree more I was 14 yrs old when my dad passed and struggled throughout high school my junior and senior year I I buckled down and graduated with honors I know I made him proud at 23 i bought my own home I'm now 33 fixing this house up keep it up EC
Such a complex, nuanced, deep subject. Hours of conversation, impossible to cover adequately in a short, one-sided video. Takes courage to make the attempt ;) Takes being responsible for yourself ;)
Amen and bravo brother Scott. As a biologic (3), foster /adopt (2), and step dad (2) to 7 with 5 other foster kids in the past I am blessed to have / had 12 kids call me dad. With me nearing 60 and my gang range from 36- 8 your profound words of insight, experience, wisdom and LOVE will resonate with many.
I am # 5 of 7 myself and my dad went on permanent disability when I was 8 due to adult complications he experienced from contracting polio as a young man. I started working shoveling snow, raking leaves, and delivered newspapers ( remember that) 7 days a week. We don't know when our time here in earth ends, and while I am a devout lifelong CHRISTian I am not threatened by heaven, just not in a rush to get there.
I just had this discussion with my 30 year old yesterday. He needs to step up, quit the excuses, and man forward. To my younger kids without putting too much fear into them , they need to pay attention, learn and prosper. As a young boomer, having a Gen X wife, both millenial, and Gen Z kids the common lesson is ACCOUNTABILITY, and. becoming self reliant.
Peace, to All
Ah yes 👍 a Saturday pep talk by a thoughtful and successful tradesman
We had a huge windstorm overnight Saturday just gone. Sunday morning, there were branches all over our acre property. All I had to do was ask 2 of my kids, and in spite of the heat, they spent almost an hour bringing all of the branches to me, I cut the larger ones down and they all went on the pile. I found myself smiling as I watched them head back inside, after I thanked them for their efforts. It's these simple little things that make me proud of my kids. And the backstory here - these 2 boys are my foster sons, they are both on the ASD spectrum, and neither of them like the feeling of getting sweaty or dirty. Yet, without complaint they accepted that they had a responsibility to help, and we worked together to do the work. One proud dad.
I’m 23 and my old man left when I was 11. I was my own dad and I did a damn fair job. I own my own renovation company. I had this realization at 13 and I’ve never had anyone explain it like you have. God Bles Tou
Felt that! But we're the type of people that didn't take on a victim role.
I’m really glad I opened UA-cam and caught this video. Appreciate your videos so much. Thanks for helping to keep me learning, focused, and humble!
It’s far too easy to go either way on this. We all laugh at the people who are so unprepared for life that they dial 911 when a restaurant messes up their burger order, but at the same time we can’t fall for the myth of the self-made man. (Unless you’re one of those crazy survivalists living off the land in the Alaskan wilderness with no outside contact or something). Maybe you say you hung out your shingle and built your business from nothing, but beyond just the mentors and guidance of your upbringing, you build that business by relying on customers and suppliers, on your own skills and labor and on the skills and labor of those you employ, you rely on a stable social order, the rule of law, a reasonably steady economy, access to capital, and too many other things to list.
Living in a society means living with obligations, both the obligations society demands of you, and the obligations you depend on from society. Taking responsibility means not just seizing the reins of self-determination, it means bearing the weight of your obligations too.
That's a beautiful summary. Excellent!
The only well thought out comment in this whole mess
its like listening to my dad when I was young. I love the construction skills you teach almost as much as the wisdom you impart. thank you.
Words of wisdom. Good video man. I'm glad to have met you. You have impacted an aspect of my life and I'm thankful for that and your channel.
I just watched this with my boys for FHE. Very inspirational. Thanks Scott and Nate.
Love hearing wise words from essential craftsman, gives me a good boost on a Saturday morning
The way you said this actually bought a tear to my eye, mate. And I’m a crusty rusty 56yo 🙂. I sent this to all 4 of my kids, just to reinforce the progress they’ve made. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, skills, family and friends with us, it’s a wonderful thing.
4:42 that’s how I move all my leaves around too! Just pull out an old tarp and rake them right on top then drag to the compost pile. Works a treat!
Amazing timing in MY life. I will share this with certain family members that although I've done my best to show them this, I just can't say it in words as you just did in this video. Thank you and keep up the good work.
He'd make an excellent shop teacher, reminds a little of my freshman woodshop teacher "Boss" a guy who found as much value in life lessons as he lessons in the shop.
This comes up on my feed periodically. I stop & watch it everytime. This wisdom bring tears to my eyes everytime.
Saturday morning, doing laundry, drinking my coffee with muffin, EC’s pep talks are refreshing. Thank you sir 👍🏼
This is probably the best piece I've seen from you (and I've seen most all of them.) I've asked my 13-year-old daughter to watch it and we'll discuss it when she's done. Thank you for being a positive part of our lives.
Wow! that was a little off topic for your channel but strangely right on the money, Great delivery as always. I am struck by how many people out there are looking for somebody to blame for everything that besets them. The fact that something is not your fault doesn't automatically make it somebody else's. Like you say 'Take Responsibility'
Not too much. The message runs throughout his videos. In a way it is the heart of all his videos. These are, "how to live" videos as well as, how-to.
This video has made me want to reach out to a few people who early on were great mentors and thank them. They may not even know they had an impact in my life. I think this is probably the best complement you can give. I'm going to start working on that right now.
Being financially independent is also advantageous. Don't rely on employers.
Unless you have a unionized government job.
So how are you meant to become financially independent? Even if you are self employed you are dependent on your customers.
I'm not so sure financial independence promotes maturity, if anything young men who are given everything get stuck. If you want to see a trail of misery, look at what happens to lottery winners, or rich kids. Everybody needs a job, a challenge, an occupation.
@@spelunkerdfor sure. Financial independence means you do not have the responsibility to go out and earn your keep. This is a recipe for disaster. Its not just humans who have this problem. Most pet dogs do not earn their keep in that they do not serve and function besides being a pet. Thus they become useless.
@@spelunkerd Not talking about a gift here. I'm talking about working hard and having an entrepreneurial mindset. I started with nothing, retired from the military and invested in real estate. #noboss
Young guys, I urge you all to grow up as fast as possible to avoid the regrets I'm having now after wasting many years of my life.
I'm 35 years old now and that light bulb went on just a year ago. Pretty late...
I grew up in a family that only tought me depended on my parents for everything.
Now through people like Scott I learned to take responsibility and my life is getting so much more satisfying. Not being a big child anymore but becoming an adult, building up my own thing. And guess how happy my wife is about it.
Thank you Scott for the good influence on my life!
Getting married and having children are the things that gave me purpose in life. Well said and thank you Scott.
Agreed, with a couple of additions. First, when you are in a situation where you need to be reliant on someone, express your gratitude and communicate your progress towards not being dependent on them. Second, don't confuse self-reliance with total autonomy. We live in a society that works best when people contribute into the system. I don't just mean paying your taxes. Share your time, knowledge, wisdom with those that are in need. Don't just hope societal problems will go away. You have no right to complain about society coming apart if you have done nothing to hold it together. It's also okay to reach out to people that have the skills or abilities that you don't. But be willing to learn if they're willing to teach you. Once again, communicate your gratitude, but don't make them regret their time and effort. Get involved in the bigger picture and not just yourself. And allow the good of the many to outweigh your wants for a while. It feels really good to volunteer for a good cause.
You have to learn to connect the dots between where you're at and where you were, as well as where you want to be.
I have a good friend who makes an easy $300k per year sitting at a desk. His job is very simple, even he'll admit to that. But he doesn't show any gratitude. Even though he lives in the only country in the world where his job pays well, and he works for the government, yet has no respect for this great country. He doesn't give back in any way back to society. He cashes his paychecks and believes he deserves every cent and more. He complains about things like fuel prices even though he works from home, while people commuting for hours can barely scrape by. He cannot connect the dots between the opportunities in this country, the position and salary that he has, his education being paid for by his family, or anything else. In his proud mind, he did everything by himself.
Years ago, I was jealous of the easy life he had. But then I realized that he is stuck. He can't move forward because he doesn't think he needs to. Whereas I've been blessed with so many challenges that have brought me closer to an understanding of society, of people, of struggles, of relationships, and how everything is entwined and connected.
Don't be selfish with your talents. God gave you those talents to be shared with others.
"Second, don't confuse self-reliance with total autonomy." 👍
I still remember the day that my dad said "Kid if you want sympathy, look in the mirror".
My dad said if you're looking for sympathy you'll find it in the dictionary between shit and syphilis...
True dat.
And then the mirror was cracked?
@@josephroberts7597 LOL
😂 good stuff
Oh my!! My son who is a Eagle Scout is calling together a group of other Eagles (all YOUNG adults now) to camp at a local ag museum and perform service to that organization during their stay. My son who is a Eagle Scout will also find a way to present this video to this group of young adults at the Saturday night bonfire. I've watched you build a house and I've watched you take responsibility for mistakes (something about that stair run being problematic). Your wisdom is a blessing! God bless you and yours.
Always great content from this channel.
Honestly wish i could sit and talk with this man. Such knowledge and wisdom
Essential Craftsman for President 2024👏 got my Vote Boss👍🏻
Essential Craftsman and Mike Rowe on the same ticket!
He's got no chance. You either need to know how to sellout to CCP or be an asshole on twitter.
Ha that crosses my mind, but no matter what leader is in place they're always surrounded by snakes and they're own nefarious agendas. He's good where he is at.
As long as its not that piece of garbage Trump!
@Thomas Greiwe There's something wrong with everyone, Trump has just as many faults as the next guy.
Great talk...it all begins at home...80% caught...20% taught. Finding good people that influence you in the right path are rare...keep looking. This guy is one of them.
"You can't reach out and lift another human without strengthening yourself." What an amazing quote.
I rarely make comments the videos you produce are very informative. But the wisdom and ethics are what keeps me watching. This one of the best messages I have seen in so long and presented in a way I believe everyone can understand. Keep up the good work!!
Thank you sir. Do appreciate all you do. Proud to say this how my mother raised me. Originally from Chicago moved out and become a wildland firefighter in southern Oregon. Greatest decision of my life. 21 years old in the prime of my life and Im working hard for my future family.
I agree and respect everything you just said, and I hope you don't loose viewers for telling the truth and telling it how it is
I dont believe people these days want to take responsibility
I am so lucky to have father figures like you. I would be a lesser man if I didn't have advice like yours to live by. I am beginning to hear your wisdom in my head. You are influencing young men in positive and meaning way.
Keep being an role model to all us who need you.
A parents responsibility is to teach their kids to the point of their own obsolescence
I wouldn't say that.
Good parents start out useful and die much less useful.
If you die being highly used, then you either died young or didn't teach your kid fast enough.
If you die being lightly used, then you either have a very bright hard working child or you did something right, or you have a dumb kid who won't take instruction but is independent.
(edit: and if you die obsolete(not used anymore) then you have a know it all independent kid or you yourself didn't learn enough to still be bestowing new information.)
In short never stride to be obsolete, just less useful and almost not useful at all by the time they are 18 or 21.
@@FeroceObsolescent means you will become obsolete. A good parent never becomes obsolete, a good parent dies being useful.
No again..what is it with people on here?
A parents "job" is to bring up children to be at least sort of good people.
@@jasonmartin5430 Is it though?
I mean there are plenty of good people who are totally useless.
I'd call that far too simplistic too.
I would hope to teach my future children far past my own obsolescence
Love your life lessons EC, I've watched you 'build that ramp' video for you mom, about a dozen times, always something good to take. stay healthy my friend.
This is great advise, I was blessed to have had a father that taught me from a young age the meaning if responsibility. This world would be a much better place if the entitlement attitude was not so strong in the minds of some.
You never cease to amaze me with your internal drive to teach and share life, it’s a great ministry sir.
All true. Important to add, being an adult, and taking responsibility, doesn’t mean doing whatever you want, at the expense of others.
Beautifully said. Thank you.
Scott, you tipped your hand! I finally realized why I like this channel so much and your general approach to work/craftsmanship. Watching this video I found myself (70 years old now, retired but active) agreeing with everything you were saying. Then you make the reference to Jordan Peterson and carrying a heavy load - the light went on! Everyone should read Peterson’s 12 Rules for Life. Scott, you have obviously incorporated those rules into your own life and it shows in your work and your caring approach to sharing your knowledge and craftsmanship. I’m sure you followed those rules instinctively before you read or listened to Peterson, but he does a great job of clarifying those principles and why they matter.
Self reliance, hard work, and caring for others will make your life and the lives of others better.
I had some amazing examples of this growing up but no one ever sat me down and explained it to me. It was supposed to be common sense, and to verbalize it was redundant. Talking about these concepts were akin to talking about feelings and when they were talked about the phrasing was definitely not as thoughtful or kind . While I watched this I think about how much of an impact this might of had on me. As a 50 year old father of two boys I also see the reality of having this conversation and their reaction to the message, the “I know Dad” that always comes. Seeing this video today has strengthened my resolve to continue my important journey as a Father to my boys and the leader of my family. I needed this today, thank you.
This is something my Dad tried to teach me when I was younger. I wish I had listened.
It's not too late!
Not too late , for sure !
I share that same sentiment, but then, I never was one to learn the easy way😉
if Humans listened to everything their parents said, we'd still be swinging from trees.
It sounds like you did listen.
I have to say, I recently happened upon your channel while getting into blacksmithing and I love it. This video is a mentality that I adopted at a very young age and really wish more people my age could wrap their heads around it. I'm 32, I own a home and have a wife and two beautiful young daughters. I'm the sole income and work 3 jobs, and still work on my own projects and hobbies. At 3.5 years old I'm already trying to instill the self reliance and you can do anything attitude in my oldest. We built a lemonade stand together yesterday because I was talking about building a "stand" for my new anvil. But this message is so important, I have people I went to school with who are under employed and have no skill set. They just keep working that dead end job and hope some one else will solve their problems, mooching off parents or the government. I'll never understand how people can live like that or even think that way. It's ok to ask for help, as long as you are asking others to help you, help yourself.
This guy is a knowledge god
Yep sure is; and utterly inspirational. If only I had a dad like this!
Totally agree!!! You're comments reflect a measure of integrity immediately apparent when I've watched some of your 'hands on' episodes. That quality comes across very clearly and is what draws me to your channel. I am a physician by profession, but pride myself in being a pretty fair handyman and woodworker around the house - which has been the source of many important life lessons. So pleased as well to hesr that you are an admirer of Jordan Peterson, which is not surprising given your views on living a 'good life'. Warm regards!
I just had a long personal thought on this very subject the day before this video came out. This also applies to parents who leach off of their kids.
A good life lesson chat. I'm 70 and you handed off some good information. I hope there is a long list of people that will stop and give it a listen. Thank you for your videos! good stuff.
This realization happened to me at about 12. Every teenager should watch this video.