That trying too hard part reminds me of a quote I found...."some people look for a beautiful place, others make a place beautiful." What a great saying.
But what if you try make beautiful place or work on yourself means that you are doing again what somebody who's interest is to make you believe in "world you can not believe" wants? 🤣 So you will just go into other trap...? 😂 Paradox
No. You don't control what happens to you. Cancer will not lessen just because the cancer patient has stopped caring about it. Stop stressing about your poverty and the poverty will remain as it is or worsen. People use these kind of silly arguments to avoid negative emotions. Life IS suffering.
It's not that caring less will lessen the situation. The situation will remain the exact same or even became worse but the idea here is to master your attitude towards the situation you're facing. Not to solve it, as a cure but as a way to perceive things around you.
I don't earn alot, I don't have friend or girlfriend. But I find the rise of mental health issue completely against my experience. Other may look down on me to be poor, no acheivement but those same people are stressed with work, stressed with debt or mortgage for their big house, car, branded goods, stressed with quarrel with significant others, some even feel life is miserable or even consider to unalive themself. Yet to me who have little, I love this life, I am in peace, I enjoyed the simple meal and occasional more expensive food. I manage to have gradually grow my saving, as I barely spend much. This life and world is beautiful for I had decided to free myself of societal expectation or other people opinion. I mainly try to practice the philosophy of Daoism, Buddhism and Stoicism.
This is very similar to my experience and so I can relate with exactly what you are saying. Less is more and simple is a path to satisfaction and happiness in my opinion.
I feel the same. I used to think there was something wrong with me, because I didnt have ambitions like other people. But I realized that in the same way that having ambitions and always want more is the mainstream thought of society, so is to have mental conflicts all the time, I see that on almost everyone I know. It was absurd to think I was living "the wrong way" if all I have in my life is peace.
I am 62 yo, physician, very successful in the eyes of society and was trying to find happiness in the world. True happiness is not in the material world. It’s within but of course you need the basic needs fulfilled. Look at the Mazlovs scale. I was a catholic before and all my friends and almost all I know are Catholic or Christian. I follow Buddhist teachings because they make me suffer less. Good luck on your path. You need a sangha or community so you’ll stay on your path
This is on point, but with a nuance. The idea is to not care and be happy with what you have. The nuance is that to be content, you need to be in a situation where you are not starving or freezing. There has to be some sense of stability to be able to be content. The stability meaning, that your basic needs are met and then you can be happy without running after anything in the luxury category.
True, there is a baseline. In addition, by being happy with less, the road to being debt free and having those basic needs is perhaps then, an easier one.
Don’t linger about yesterday or worry about tomorrow. We can’t change what happened yesterday and we don’t know what will happen tomorrow. Be present and do our best, that’s all we can control. 🙏 Sabbe satta bhavantu sukhitatta!
I have a friend of mine who is completely pleasure driven, a very conventional “sheep of the herd” and thinks of me as a loser just because I decided not to follow conventions and choose my own path. He pitied on me for “having bad luck” and hence choosing the path towards learning philosophy but then I tell him that I have pity towards him because he never experienced the true beauty of meaningful suffering and never ended up discovering his true self, only ending up being an addict to substances for most of his life and having a friend group who does the same. Things aren’t always as they appear, happiness is much deeper than material success or even good luck! ☯️
We do not have to care about the opinions of people like your friend as they do not possess your knowledge, thoughts or experience. Everyone has their own biases, interpretations, misconceptions, misinformed perceptions etc.
63 years old now Healthy and happy having figured this out 40 years ago. Love my 1991 pickup truck Why would I struggle with payments ? To impress others ? I think not 😂
Nach einem Burnout vor ca 2 Jahren, hat mich das leben gelehrt langsamer zu machen . Ich habe meine Sachen radikal reduziert und fing an mit Minimalismus . Je leere meine Wohnung, mein Terminkalender und mein Keller wurde desto leichter und zufriedene fühlte ich mich . Ich habe zu meinem erstaunen festgestellt dass ich viel weniger zum Leben brauche als mir all die Jahre von der Gesellschaft eingetrichtert worden war. Ich lebe jetzt alleine in einer schönen kleinen minimalstischen Wohnung und habe keinen Kontakt zu meinen damaligen Freunde. Von außenn führe ich ein langweiliges Leben und doch war ich noch nie in meinem Leben so zufrieden wie jetzt. Danke für deine UA-cam Videos . Sie zeigen mir dass ich auf diesem Weg nicht alleine bin.
This definitely applies to me. When my friends or other relatives ask why I'm still single all these years I said: Having a family of my own will just constitute to unnecessary pressures in life therefore, I have no mental peace in that" because for me freedom and peace from existing societal pressures is the true wealth anyone can have
I really connected with the story of the hermit and his simple happiness. It reminds me that we often complicate life by chasing success, when true peace can come from letting go of those pressures. I think this is something we can all apply in our overly busy lives.
@@stoicexcellencepath Now YOU are success! HEY! 🧐 I don't care to success anymore either! 🤔 NOW ERY-BODY SUCCESS TIME COWBOY WINNER 100% SUP-AWE DUP-AWE NUMB-AWE ONE A-OKAAAAAYY!!! 🤘🤠
It is assuming that "rich" people are discontent, and poor people are happy. Not true. It is a state of mind. You can be happy with everything or nothing.
I see as whether you are rich or poor, if you care about material things to give you joy or desire/obtain them to show others “you can afford them” or get in a trend, then you are not going to be happy. “Money cant buy happiness, but i’d rather cry in a Ferrari parked in a 2 million dollars home” 😂
Yes thats a better interpretation. Also satisfaction comes from achievement also. Such as making a good video about philosophy rather than scrolling TikTok toka for those hours
Absolutely, embracing simplicity and letting go can be so liberating. Whats one simple joy in your life that consistently brings you happiness, no matter the circumstances?
I don’t get caught up in American materialism too much. I don’t care about appearing wealthy. However, as a chronically ill person, I struggle mightily with my self perception in regards to usefulness. I’m convinced it’s my lesson to learn in this lifetime. Thanks for reminding me that my worth as a living being isn’t dependent upon my productivity or lack thereof. Have a like and a sub.
Gosh I love these videos. They are so calming. I feel ancient texts are so valuable, because they expose the simplistic ways of living and thinking that used to exist but don't any more in the modern world. Coming back to that is really valuable.
Followed Daoism for a period in my life. This is what I learnt -- The less you care, the greater you feel. But the downside is, the things around you fall apart more and more. The more you care, the more stress you will have, but things will be more under your control.
There are things we can control, and other things we can't control. It's a matter of knowing which we can control without much effort, and which is better to let it flow their own way.
Recently I did not have the greatest interview. Because I cared so much level of my stress was quite high... Because of that I could speak calm, thus it could be one of the reasons, why it did not go further. However, realizing that there are quite many jobs out there, and there are many opportunities to learn from, it makes me calm. Thank you for the video!
My teacher once said humans have an infinite desires. If we want happiness we will decrease our needs and wants. Being content and enjoying what we have makes us peaceful.
that's fantastic, everything we desire, everything we need is truly within us not outside, we don't have to go anywhere or do anything, just go within. :)
Good timing. For me learning to care less has also helped me learn to be more mindful of what I really do and do not care about, like who needs a perfect social reputation when you can just ignore nearly all the rest of society and live authentically and learn to be on your own where you have more freedom to express your true self in all it's positives and imperfections with little to no need to impress others, and so you'll be truly at peace
I just wanted to add, that once you do adopt this attitude of not caring, of accepting the bounties of life wherever they are... it makes living and doing whatever you want more more achievable, realistic, and inspires a sense of passion that might be obstructed by past feelings of trauma, stress or being trapped. Wishing everyone a great day, Best
Any extreme is bad. Not care about anything but myself is also really sad way of life. It seems to me that more and more people today follow this philosophy and I like less and less this kind of world.. I want to live in a community where everyone cares about others and I know living in community like that would make me truly happy. Making happy just yourself and do just what you want gets old pretty fast and next thing you know you feel empty inside.. If you don't have loving people or even animals around you.. All those old hermit stories are good for gaining another perspective, but I see all of them as people who developed very effective coping mechanisms that's all.. We are social animals and there is no way around that..
I’ve been reading your books, “Loose” and “Thriving in a World of Jerks” … you are very wise, my friend. Thank you for your contributions. They, and you are much appreciated 🙏🏼
This is the only channel that actually motivates me, suits with my energy and work for me. I have been watching thousands of channel, everyone is like chasing, running, fulfilling wishes, blah...blah... that's are completely wrong. Since I have been started to watch this channel, it helps me to understand the reality and finding the true self. Thanks.
Bro your videos are to me the most valueable on youtube i swear... they are such a great addition to therapy and therapeutic principles. Love them fr. u do a great job!
Facts! If it’s just me the happier I will be. I can’t imagine having kids and constantly worry about if they’re safe when they’re out of my sight. I already do enough of that over my siblings.
People, in my opinion, including myself, often tend to struggle identifying the fine line between when it's necessary to actually care and when to just let go. Stoicism definitely has useful insights in this regard. The recurring theme of non-attachment across Buddhist and Taoist scriptures seem so vital, it sometimes surprises me how these are not mandatory subjects in every school and other educational institutions.
@@chriswilliams8159 I hit the jackpot when I finally stumbled across some basic Stoicism. Practicing the simplest techniques saved my life more than once since then. The amount of control over life's toll on my emotions alone was/is like night and day. Still it's unfortunate it was well into my adult years, and out of desperation to survive overwhelming mental anguish. I'm more suspicious than surprised it's not a basic mandatory school subject. It's been my observation that narcissistic people still always try to frame it as some kind of callous form of malicious bigotry with their sick, endless fight for control to tell us what to think. I used to try to argue in good faith with them. Now I just agree with them as I back away 🪨👍
I love your videos I don't know why but I imagine you in my mind as a young man with the mind of a wise old man while living in a chaotic world full of idiots trying to fit in and at the same time he doesn't give up on his principles I know this is weird but I'm really in love with your mentality I don't know how to explain but I like how you think
Less you care, happier you will be. Completely agree! However, I am not in control of how much I care!! I've spent years working on this, even managing 6 months or more not caring. Great. But deep down, in my subconscious and out of my control something still cares. So it is effectively suppressed... Then one day you suddenly explode, and it is so much worse than if you had actually cared all that time! The act of psudo-not-caring means that situations slowly get worse (I mean "worse" to the now festering subconscious). Now if I GENUINELY didn't care then the premise is true. But that is the trap, one isn't free to choose whether or not one truly deeply cares about something or not! To believe otherwise just stores up a world of pain, the longer you keep believing it, the worse it will be when it finally gives...
The message seems to be, to not care about things that need no caring. Or more simply, to not create unnecessary dependencies that you could have avoided. Like if you have friends, you would obviously care about them and how things in their life are, but don't go around buying a car just because all your friends have one and you don't need one but feel like getting one to match their standard. Care only where it's needed, take only what you want and feel comfortable with, no more, no less. That's my primary take, though will have to re watch it.
also to add, don't use unnecessary energy worrying or caring what others think of you. As long as you like yourself and did your best for whatever situation you're dwelling your thoughts on, that's all that matters.
True. Thanks for sharing this good video. I too feel that to force myself to fit in societal expectations makes me weary and tired. I would prefer to live life according to my own pace. No need to chase more, just being contented and grateful for what i have. And caring less what others think of me also frees my soul. I can just be myself, just the way I am. In all, I think, happiness, is we just BE.
The key I have found is to be ambitious for yourself. For instance, I like to make things. Woodwork, boxes, wooden swords. I just recently made a tomahawk for a friend. Ground down an old axe, made a leather sheath for it. My first metal work and leather work. Came out awesome. I put in a lot of hours researching and doing metal detecting. Found a lot of cool old stuff. As far as work? I just do enough to keep my job. Ambition to impress the world means nothing. Ambition to impress myself is priceless.
I'm not wearing myself out seeking riches. I only want to keep the electricity on in my rented apartment and buy food. I'm wearing myself out just to survive. Perhaps some people can find a peaceful state of mind even in an unjust society.
I chose this path before I ever knew what philosophy was, now the only worry is health and income, even a small amount to provide shelter, nourishment & warmth, although I am blessed with minimal worry compared to many.
One can care very much and still be happy. Happiness has nothing to do with caring or not caring. It has to do with whether we are attached, possessive or not. We can experience anything; if we don't grasp, force, etc. we are happy. It is happiness without a reason. When happiness must depend on a reason for being, it is a recipe for unhappiness.
Very true. These earthly things we care about mean nothing. It's all a distraction. Peace and enlightenment come from hard battles within not finding comfort externally
Dropping gold as usual. The more you have the more you have to worry about. What others say that is important might not be that important in reality. When you realize that nothing stops when you are gone and the world never really needed you a weight is lifted off of you. Realize that your value is within you not in what you can have. Live to treasure that with self care and positive connections. Many blessings 🙏🏾
Your survival matters. That's the basic, most fundamental and important purpose of life. We humans are here to fight the most important battle : survival. We cannot dismiss it, ignore it, be indifferent about it.
I'll buy peace and trade my stress to others once I'm rich. I'll begin to enjoy and cherish life, I'll appreciate what I have in front of me once I'm famous and loved by all. Strangers and friends will want to be around me all the time, and I will be free to pick and choose who I call my friends. Oh, I can't wait to be someone special. I can't wait to be worshipped for all my talents and abilities. Once I'm rich and famous, then will people finally see how I see myself, special and deserving of the good life, but also better than the rest of you who aren't somebody special like me.
I'm listening to this sitting atop a hill overlooking a lake on vacant property. I took a fun trail through the woods on my cheap motorcycle to get here with a thermos of coffee and a fishing pole, I plan to sit here, breath fresh air in peace and watch these hawks soar above the field adjascent. It's a magnificent 72° afternoon after my 3-day 30 hour work week coming off a 5 day weekend. I work less than 200 days a year. I listen and think of how captured everyone else I know is. Life is good with the right decisions, NEVER follow the herd folks... never.🙃
My brain needs to be fed. Being ambitious helps me focus my energy. Not for fame or glory, but to remain calm and happy. That organ needs to be used. Unlike Lie Tzu’s idea that ambition disrupts our natural state, I find it essential for keeping my mind sharp and at ease.
I 100% choose the life of a rich man. For me life is all about achieving something exceptional, endlessly winning and triumphing at all cost. But in the end it's all about being true to yourself. If the conventionally called "loser" path seems like the best possible scenario for your life, then so be it.
The less you possess, the less you care, the less you speak, the less you overthink, the less you eat, the less you consume unnecessary stuff...all these will have a significantly positive impact on your mental & emotional well-being overtime...LESS is always MORE! 😊❤
The key is to find out what truly matters to you(!) (and what not) and act on that. This task seems easy on the surface but can actually be very difficult/confusing.
1:00 There’s always gain in what we perceive as loss 3:00 Slave to your possessions 5:20 Trying too hard to be happy 7:20 Look beyond social conditioning 8:10 *Story of the useless TREE* 10:10 There’s always some GAIN in loss 12:30 Embrace FATE and find CONTENTMENT
Life is a state of mind, like pain it’s just wat you think ..not wat you experience. In a sunlit backyard, a father and his young son engaged in a spirited game of tag. Laughter echoed through the air as they darted around the soft green grass, the father playfully pretending to chase the son, who was full of giggles and delight. They were enveloped in a world where the mundane fell away, replaced by the magic of pure, unfiltered joy. Suddenly, in the midst of the playful chase, the father lightly swatted the child on the buttocks, a gentle tap meant to evoke laughter rather than harm. The boy squealed with laughter, unbothered by the playful thump. In that moment, the swat felt like a part of the game, a fun interaction that only added to the excitement of their play. The sensation was barely registered, overshadowed by the joy of the moment and the bond of love shared between them. Later that day, however, the atmosphere shifted. The child, drawn by the bright wrappers of candy on the kitchen counter, felt a surge of excitement. In a moment of temptation, he reached out for a treat he had been told not to touch. Just as he grasped the candy, his father appeared, stern and authoritative. “Not that one!” the father exclaimed, and in a swift response, he delivered a quick but firm smack to the child’s bottom. This time, the sensation was entirely different. The boy’s eyes widened, not with surprise, but with fear and guilt. The same force applied, yet this time it registered deeply; the joy of the earlier encounter had vanished, replaced by feelings of shame and disobedience. As he sat on the floor, tears welled in his eyes. The pain felt sharper, more pronounced. The blow had not only physical weight but also carried emotional consequences that made it resonate more profoundly. The child’s mind raced, linking the sensation of pain with disappointment and fear of his father’s displeasure. That evening, as the father held his son in his lap and comforted him, he gently explained the differences between their playful interactions and the disciplinary moments. “You see, my dear,” he said softly, “how you feel about something changes what it feels like. When we laugh and play, even if it’s a little hard, it doesn’t hurt as much because we are enjoying it together. But when we feel scared or guilty, even a gentle touch can feel much worse.” In that exchange, the little boy began to grasp a profound truth. Pain, he realized, was not just about the physical sensation but stretched into the realm of context and feeling. It was an illusion, shaped by his emotions and the situations around him. With this newfound understanding, he snuggled deeper into his father’s embrace, feeling safe and loved, ready to embrace the lessons that life would inevitably present-knowing now that pain could change under the lens of perception. As the sun dipped below the horizon, casting a warm glow over the backyard, the child smiled through his tears, grateful not only for the playful moments but also for the challenging ones, realizing that both were essential parts of the dance of life.
Our capitalist system necessarily makes us cogs in the wheel to continue it's existence. What could be more dehumanizing than such a singular utilitarian existence. This video is so spot on to expose the fate to which we have assigned ourselves.
Basically all of society looks down on you if you don't chase money, jobs and success... It's tough but as long as you know yourself and don't get lost in the false illusions projected onto you, you will be fine.
I've begun to care less at work, and everyone listens to what I have to say now. So I'm actually doing better now at work by caring less. WTF, but whatever. Physical appearance and mental health are about as good as they have ever been though thanks to gym dedication...that might have something to do with it also.
I have found that if I just focus on what I already have, it is always more than enough. If I focus on what I don’t have, it is never enough.
GRATITUDE and
ACCEPTANCE
...keys to happiness
I believe this to be true yet I am interviewing for a job and require income
@@Bridgetsky14don’t take it too literally. your feelings is irrelevant when it comes to priorities
Don't spoil what you have for desiring what you have not
Another precious quote of the day, thanks🎉
That trying too hard part reminds me of a quote I found...."some people look for a beautiful place, others make a place beautiful." What a great saying.
Thanks for sharing, that saying is awesome ☺️
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Thanks for sharing 👍
But what if you try make beautiful place or work on yourself means that you are doing again what somebody who's interest is to make you believe in "world you can not believe" wants? 🤣
So you will just go into other trap...? 😂
Paradox
Absolutely right, when you start putting less stress on situations and start caring less, life becomes much easier
Absolutely, everything the video said
No. You don't control what happens to you. Cancer will not lessen just because the cancer patient has stopped caring about it. Stop stressing about your poverty and the poverty will remain as it is or worsen. People use these kind of silly arguments to avoid negative emotions. Life IS suffering.
@@Hurt-to-HealingThe way you look at it will change. It’s not a cure, it will help.
@@Hurt-to-Healingstress free people wont get cancer in first place
It's not that caring less will lessen the situation. The situation will remain the exact same or even became worse but the idea here is to master your attitude towards the situation you're facing. Not to solve it, as a cure but as a way to perceive things around you.
I don't earn alot, I don't have friend or girlfriend. But I find the rise of mental health issue completely against my experience. Other may look down on me to be poor, no acheivement but those same people are stressed with work, stressed with debt or mortgage for their big house, car, branded goods, stressed with quarrel with significant others, some even feel life is miserable or even consider to unalive themself. Yet to me who have little, I love this life, I am in peace, I enjoyed the simple meal and occasional more expensive food. I manage to have gradually grow my saving, as I barely spend much. This life and world is beautiful for I had decided to free myself of societal expectation or other people opinion. I mainly try to practice the philosophy of Daoism, Buddhism and Stoicism.
This is very similar to my experience and so I can relate with exactly what you are saying. Less is more and simple is a path to satisfaction and happiness in my opinion.
I feel the same. I used to think there was something wrong with me, because I didnt have ambitions like other people. But I realized that in the same way that having ambitions and always want more is the mainstream thought of society, so is to have mental conflicts all the time, I see that on almost everyone I know. It was absurd to think I was living "the wrong way" if all I have in my life is peace.
Couldn’t agree more. Less is best
I feel the same too.
I am 62 yo, physician, very successful in the eyes of society and was trying to find happiness in the world. True happiness is not in the material world. It’s within but of course you need the basic needs fulfilled. Look at the Mazlovs scale. I was a catholic before and all my friends and almost all I know are Catholic or Christian. I follow Buddhist teachings because they make me suffer less. Good luck on your path. You need a sangha or community so you’ll stay on your path
This is on point, but with a nuance. The idea is to not care and be happy with what you have. The nuance is that to be content, you need to be in a situation where you are not starving or freezing. There has to be some sense of stability to be able to be content. The stability meaning, that your basic needs are met and then you can be happy without running after anything in the luxury category.
True, there is a baseline. In addition, by being happy with less, the road to being debt free and having those basic needs is perhaps then, an easier one.
Don’t linger about yesterday or worry about tomorrow. We can’t change what happened yesterday and we don’t know what will happen tomorrow. Be present and do our best, that’s all we can control. 🙏 Sabbe satta bhavantu sukhitatta!
“…there’s always gain in what we perceive as loss.” Wisdom!
Philippians 1:21
Ezekiel 23:20
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@@TheBleson indeed. They do
I have a friend of mine who is completely pleasure driven, a very conventional “sheep of the herd” and thinks of me as a loser just because I decided not to follow conventions and choose my own path. He pitied on me for “having bad luck” and hence choosing the path towards learning philosophy but then I tell him that I have pity towards him because he never experienced the true beauty of meaningful suffering and never ended up discovering his true self, only ending up being an addict to substances for most of his life and having a friend group who does the same.
Things aren’t always as they appear, happiness is much deeper than material success or even good luck! ☯️
And I hope that you both can grow to understand that comparing, judging, and having pity towards others will not lead to happiness.
This is the reason why I like to read comments 👍❤
True beauty of meaningful suffering 😅 well put!
You can be a rich original or a poor copy
We do not have to care about the opinions of people like your friend as they do not possess your knowledge, thoughts or experience. Everyone has their own biases, interpretations, misconceptions, misinformed perceptions etc.
63 years old now
Healthy and happy having figured this
out 40 years ago.
Love my 1991 pickup truck
Why would I struggle with payments ?
To impress others ? I think not 😂
Nach einem Burnout vor ca 2 Jahren, hat mich das leben gelehrt langsamer zu machen . Ich habe meine Sachen radikal reduziert und fing an mit Minimalismus . Je leere meine Wohnung, mein Terminkalender und mein Keller wurde desto leichter und zufriedene fühlte ich mich .
Ich habe zu meinem erstaunen festgestellt dass ich viel weniger zum Leben brauche als mir all die Jahre von der Gesellschaft eingetrichtert worden war.
Ich lebe jetzt alleine in einer schönen kleinen minimalstischen Wohnung und habe keinen Kontakt zu meinen damaligen Freunde. Von außenn führe ich ein langweiliges Leben und doch war ich noch nie in meinem Leben so zufrieden wie jetzt.
Danke für deine UA-cam Videos . Sie zeigen mir dass ich auf diesem Weg nicht alleine bin.
This definitely applies to me. When my friends or other relatives ask why I'm still single all these years I said: Having a family of my own will just constitute to unnecessary pressures in life therefore, I have no mental peace in that" because for me freedom and peace from existing societal pressures is the true wealth anyone can have
I really connected with the story of the hermit and his simple happiness. It reminds me that we often complicate life by chasing success, when true peace can come from letting go of those pressures. I think this is something we can all apply in our overly busy lives.
@@stoicexcellencepath Now YOU are success!
HEY! 🧐 I don't care to success anymore either! 🤔
NOW ERY-BODY SUCCESS TIME COWBOY WINNER 100% SUP-AWE DUP-AWE NUMB-AWE ONE A-OKAAAAAYY!!!
🤘🤠
It is assuming that "rich" people are discontent, and poor people are happy. Not true. It is a state of mind. You can be happy with everything or nothing.
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I see as whether you are rich or poor, if you care about material things to give you joy or desire/obtain them to show others “you can afford them” or get in a trend, then you are not going to be happy.
“Money cant buy happiness, but i’d rather cry in a Ferrari parked in a 2 million dollars home” 😂
I have been happy with nothing, now I would like to experience being happy with everything hahah.
The video was not talkimg about rich people in general, it was talking about rich people who got rich by working too hard
Yes thats a better interpretation. Also satisfaction comes from achievement also. Such as making a good video about philosophy rather than scrolling TikTok toka for those hours
It’s a refreshing reminder that happiness often comes from letting go of societal expectations and appreciating the simple joys in life.
Absolutely, embracing simplicity and letting go can be so liberating. Whats one simple joy in your life that consistently brings you happiness, no matter the circumstances?
The world today needs Taoism more then ever
Tough pill for masses to swallow.
Taoism is a passive philosophy we need strength not doormats
@AwakenZen water can crash & trickle
I don’t get caught up in American materialism too much. I don’t care about appearing wealthy. However, as a chronically ill person, I struggle mightily with my self perception in regards to usefulness. I’m convinced it’s my lesson to learn in this lifetime. Thanks for reminding me that my worth as a living being isn’t dependent upon my productivity or lack thereof. Have a like and a sub.
Almost first but I don't care. That's the way of the tao
Good for u man
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Gosh I love these videos. They are so calming. I feel ancient texts are so valuable, because they expose the simplistic ways of living and thinking that used to exist but don't any more in the modern world. Coming back to that is really valuable.
With all this ancient knowledge and wisdom buried by the modern world it's no wonder so many people turn to alcohol and other drugs to cope with life.
Followed Daoism for a period in my life. This is what I learnt -- The less you care, the greater you feel. But the downside is, the things around you fall apart more and more. The more you care, the more stress you will have, but things will be more under your control.
They said don't care what other people think, not stop caring about surviving this Life. You just don't need that much to survive, truly.
There are things we can control, and other things we can't control. It's a matter of knowing which we can control without much effort, and which is better to let it flow their own way.
@@giftedsun say that to our wives lol 😂
道教是权利失败者写的书。失败者是多数，成功人士是少数，所以大多数时候你会觉得老子说的对。
Recently I did not have the greatest interview. Because I cared so much level of my stress was quite high... Because of that I could speak calm, thus it could be one of the reasons, why it did not go further. However, realizing that there are quite many jobs out there, and there are many opportunities to learn from, it makes me calm.
Thank you for the video!
Its insane how this video fit the conversation I had today with my psychologist about how I too much care about the others
My teacher once said humans have an infinite desires.
If we want happiness we will decrease our needs and wants. Being content and enjoying what we have makes us peaceful.
This
Being content with whatever Card fate plays on us.
Now that’s one of the greatest challenges of existence.
I agree! I’ve found true love, success, and happiness within myself! 🙏❤️😊
Same, never understand others feeling pity that I choose to be alone
that's fantastic, everything we desire, everything we need is truly within us not outside, we don't have to go anywhere or do anything, just go within. :)
Good timing. For me learning to care less has also helped me learn to be more mindful of what I really do and do not care about, like who needs a perfect social reputation when you can just ignore nearly all the rest of society and live authentically and learn to be on your own where you have more freedom to express your true self in all it's positives and imperfections with little to no need to impress others, and so you'll be truly at peace
There is always some gain in loss…Best thing I ever heard
I just wanted to add, that once you do adopt this attitude of not caring, of accepting the bounties of life wherever they are... it makes living and doing whatever you want more more achievable, realistic, and inspires a sense of passion that might be obstructed by past feelings of trauma, stress or being trapped.
Wishing everyone a great day,
Best
Any extreme is bad. Not care about anything but myself is also really sad way of life. It seems to me that more and more people today follow this philosophy and I like less and less this kind of world.. I want to live in a community where everyone cares about others and I know living in community like that would make me truly happy. Making happy just yourself and do just what you want gets old pretty fast and next thing you know you feel empty inside.. If you don't have loving people or even animals around you.. All those old hermit stories are good for gaining another perspective, but I see all of them as people who developed very effective coping mechanisms that's all.. We are social animals and there is no way around that..
Yes
the timing is crazy
On god
Indeed 🙏🏼
Yes😢
The Matrix we are in.
what timing?
I’ve been reading your books, “Loose” and “Thriving in a World of Jerks” … you are very wise, my friend. Thank you for your contributions. They, and you are much appreciated 🙏🏼
This is the only channel that actually motivates me, suits with my energy and work for me. I have been watching thousands of channel, everyone is like chasing, running, fulfilling wishes, blah...blah... that's are completely wrong.
Since I have been started to watch this channel, it helps me to understand the reality and finding the true self. Thanks.
Bro your videos are to me the most valueable on youtube i swear... they are such a great addition to therapy and therapeutic principles. Love them fr. u do a great job!
Huh, I didn’t know I had reached enlightenment. I just thought I was an antisocial ass, perfectly fine alone in my meager house. Yay me.😂
Lol,u2?
Another great video. Taoist still knocking it out the park with timeless wisdom 2000 years later :)
Facts! If it’s just me the happier I will be. I can’t imagine having kids and constantly worry about if they’re safe when they’re out of my sight. I already do enough of that over my siblings.
Thanks!
People, in my opinion, including myself, often tend to struggle identifying the fine line between when it's necessary to actually care and when to just let go. Stoicism definitely has useful insights in this regard. The recurring theme of non-attachment across Buddhist and Taoist scriptures seem so vital, it sometimes surprises me how these are not mandatory subjects in every school and other educational institutions.
@@chriswilliams8159 I hit the jackpot when I finally stumbled across some basic Stoicism. Practicing the simplest techniques saved my life more than once since then. The amount of control over life's toll on my emotions alone was/is like night and day. Still it's unfortunate it was well into my adult years, and out of desperation to survive overwhelming mental anguish. I'm more suspicious than surprised it's not a basic mandatory school subject. It's been my observation that narcissistic people still always try to frame it as some kind of callous form of malicious bigotry with their sick, endless fight for control to tell us what to think. I used to try to argue in good faith with them. Now I just agree with them as I back away 🪨👍
i started gardening from a wisdom, 'be like the plant. its just quiet in its life growing to be big and strong'
I love your videos I don't know why but I imagine you in my mind as a young man with the mind of a wise old man while living in a chaotic world full of idiots trying to fit in and at the same time he doesn't give up on his principles I know this is weird but I'm really in love with your mentality I don't know how to explain but I like how you think
Less you care, happier you will be. Completely agree! However, I am not in control of how much I care!! I've spent years working on this, even managing 6 months or more not caring. Great. But deep down, in my subconscious and out of my control something still cares. So it is effectively suppressed... Then one day you suddenly explode, and it is so much worse than if you had actually cared all that time! The act of psudo-not-caring means that situations slowly get worse (I mean "worse" to the now festering subconscious). Now if I GENUINELY didn't care then the premise is true. But that is the trap, one isn't free to choose whether or not one truly deeply cares about something or not! To believe otherwise just stores up a world of pain, the longer you keep believing it, the worse it will be when it finally gives...
You are very wise and what you wrote is 1000000% true.
The message seems to be, to not care about things that need no caring.
Or more simply, to not create unnecessary dependencies that you could have avoided.
Like if you have friends, you would obviously care about them and how things in their life are, but don't go around buying a car just because all your friends have one and you don't need one but feel like getting one to match their standard.
Care only where it's needed, take only what you want and feel comfortable with, no more, no less.
That's my primary take, though will have to re watch it.
also to add, don't use unnecessary energy worrying or caring what others think of you. As long as you like yourself and did your best for whatever situation you're dwelling your thoughts on, that's all that matters.
Then there is another video - the harder you try the worse you get.
True. Thanks for sharing this good video. I too feel that to force myself to fit in societal expectations makes me weary and tired. I would prefer to live life according to my own pace. No need to chase more, just being contented and grateful for what i have. And caring less what others think of me also frees my soul. I can just be myself, just the way I am. In all, I think, happiness, is we just BE.
There are many paths to happiness. All of them are distinguished by satisfaction.
Excellent video. Btw I loved this kind of animations, is refreshing to see
The key I have found is to be ambitious for yourself. For instance, I like to make things. Woodwork, boxes, wooden swords. I just recently made a tomahawk for a friend. Ground down an old axe, made a leather sheath for it. My first metal work and leather work. Came out awesome. I put in a lot of hours researching and doing metal detecting. Found a lot of cool old stuff. As far as work? I just do enough to keep my job. Ambition to impress the world means nothing. Ambition to impress myself is priceless.
Majority of our emotion also comes from what we consume (food) believe me.
I'm not wearing myself out seeking riches. I only want to keep the electricity on in my rented apartment and buy food. I'm wearing myself out just to survive.
Perhaps some people can find a peaceful state of mind even in an unjust society.
Good life is the act of balance
It's not about being selfish but about not caring more than you should
I chose this path before I ever knew what philosophy was, now the only worry is health and income, even a small amount to provide shelter, nourishment & warmth, although I am blessed with minimal worry compared to many.
Just what I needed to hear.
Let's laugh and sing!
Thank you.
Pursuing and don't care about the results, that's the perfect balance.
One can care very much and still be happy. Happiness has nothing to do with caring or not caring. It has to do with whether we are attached, possessive or not. We can experience anything; if we don't grasp, force, etc. we are happy. It is happiness without a reason. When happiness must depend on a reason for being, it is a recipe for unhappiness.
I've found that people who say that they don't care, including myself, often care more than most.
Namo Buddhaya! Great video, focus on what you have, the only happy way!
The less you care, the closer you'll become enlightened.
Very true. These earthly things we care about mean nothing. It's all a distraction. Peace and enlightenment come from hard battles within not finding comfort externally
Enlightenment comes when you stop caring about enlightenment. It’s just another “thing to chase.”
@@Raptor_Renenlightenment comes when you stop caring about stopping caring about enlightenment, its just another thing to chase
Who cares about enlightenment? :)
enlightenment comes when you stop caring about stopping caring about stopping caring about enlightenment, its just another thing to chase
Just what I needed right now. Thank you for the video !
There is no necessary connection between less caring and more happiness, but only conditionally
This video was so good that my eyes got watery a few times. Beautiful.
I love your Taoist videos!!! These are my favorites 😊
As usual, you really made my day. 💕
Dropping gold as usual. The more you have the more you have to worry about. What others say that is important might not be that important in reality. When you realize that nothing stops when you are gone and the world never really needed you a weight is lifted off of you. Realize that your value is within you not in what you can have. Live to treasure that with self care and positive connections. Many blessings 🙏🏾
This is a very powerful message with the current society we live in and all the expectations it come with
Yes..the more we care less the more our life is well. Being care less is not controlling everything.
Nothing matters, and everything is as it should be.
Your survival matters. That's the basic, most fundamental and important purpose of life. We humans are here to fight the most important battle : survival. We cannot dismiss it, ignore it, be indifferent about it.
@@Hurt-to-Healing So the meaning of life is to live, eh? I agree
I'll buy peace and trade my stress to others once I'm rich. I'll begin to enjoy and cherish life, I'll appreciate what I have in front of me once I'm famous and loved by all. Strangers and friends will want to be around me all the time, and I will be free to pick and choose who I call my friends. Oh, I can't wait to be someone special. I can't wait to be worshipped for all my talents and abilities. Once I'm rich and famous, then will people finally see how I see myself, special and deserving of the good life, but also better than the rest of you who aren't somebody special like me.
My ambition lies within myself, not on the petty things around me.
So much wisdom to be learned from this.
Thanks Einzelgänger. ❤
I'm listening to this sitting atop a hill overlooking a lake on vacant property. I took a fun trail through the woods on my cheap motorcycle to get here with a thermos of coffee and a fishing pole, I plan to sit here, breath fresh air in peace and watch these hawks soar above the field adjascent. It's a magnificent 72° afternoon after my 3-day 30 hour work week coming off a 5 day weekend. I work less than 200 days a year. I listen and think of how captured everyone else I know is. Life is good with the right decisions, NEVER follow the herd folks... never.🙃
My brain needs to be fed. Being ambitious helps me focus my energy. Not for fame or glory, but to remain calm and happy. That organ needs to be used. Unlike Lie Tzu’s idea that ambition disrupts our natural state, I find it essential for keeping my mind sharp and at ease.
I 100% choose the life of a rich man. For me life is all about achieving something exceptional, endlessly winning and triumphing at all cost.
But in the end it's all about being true to yourself. If the conventionally called "loser" path seems like the best possible scenario for your life, then so be it.
The less you possess, the less you care, the less you speak, the less you overthink, the less you eat, the less you consume unnecessary stuff...all these will have a significantly positive impact on your mental & emotional well-being overtime...LESS is always MORE! 😊❤
Thank you so much for sharing this Taoist practical wisdom prodding us to care less and be more content!!!
Thank you very much for the video, Einzelgänger ❤❤.
This video is enlighten me.
Very wise words indeed 😊
The key is to find out what truly matters to you(!) (and what not) and act on that. This task seems easy on the surface but can actually be very difficult/confusing.
Morning all
I don't care.
It’s afternoon in South Africa 🇿🇦 😅… but good morning to you too 😊
@@suchhun😂😂😂… good one
Night in India.. 😂
Cultivating contentment is a very good place to start.
i love these videos, always reminds me that detachment is key 😌
I relate to this on a very deep level.
1:00 There’s always gain in what we perceive as loss
3:00 Slave to your possessions
5:20 Trying too hard to be happy
7:20 Look beyond social conditioning
8:10 *Story of the useless TREE*
10:10 There’s always some GAIN in loss
12:30 Embrace FATE and find CONTENTMENT
Life is a state of mind, like pain it’s just wat you think ..not wat you experience. In a sunlit backyard, a father and his young son engaged in a spirited game of tag. Laughter echoed through the air as they darted around the soft green grass, the father playfully pretending to chase the son, who was full of giggles and delight. They were enveloped in a world where the mundane fell away, replaced by the magic of pure, unfiltered joy.
Suddenly, in the midst of the playful chase, the father lightly swatted the child on the buttocks, a gentle tap meant to evoke laughter rather than harm. The boy squealed with laughter, unbothered by the playful thump. In that moment, the swat felt like a part of the game, a fun interaction that only added to the excitement of their play. The sensation was barely registered, overshadowed by the joy of the moment and the bond of love shared between them.
Later that day, however, the atmosphere shifted. The child, drawn by the bright wrappers of candy on the kitchen counter, felt a surge of excitement. In a moment of temptation, he reached out for a treat he had been told not to touch. Just as he grasped the candy, his father appeared, stern and authoritative.
“Not that one!” the father exclaimed, and in a swift response, he delivered a quick but firm smack to the child’s bottom. This time, the sensation was entirely different. The boy’s eyes widened, not with surprise, but with fear and guilt. The same force applied, yet this time it registered deeply; the joy of the earlier encounter had vanished, replaced by feelings of shame and disobedience.
As he sat on the floor, tears welled in his eyes. The pain felt sharper, more pronounced. The blow had not only physical weight but also carried emotional consequences that made it resonate more profoundly. The child’s mind raced, linking the sensation of pain with disappointment and fear of his father’s displeasure.
That evening, as the father held his son in his lap and comforted him, he gently explained the differences between their playful interactions and the disciplinary moments. “You see, my dear,” he said softly, “how you feel about something changes what it feels like. When we laugh and play, even if it’s a little hard, it doesn’t hurt as much because we are enjoying it together. But when we feel scared or guilty, even a gentle touch can feel much worse.”
In that exchange, the little boy began to grasp a profound truth. Pain, he realized, was not just about the physical sensation but stretched into the realm of context and feeling. It was an illusion, shaped by his emotions and the situations around him. With this newfound understanding, he snuggled deeper into his father’s embrace, feeling safe and loved, ready to embrace the lessons that life would inevitably present-knowing now that pain could change under the lens of perception.
As the sun dipped below the horizon, casting a warm glow over the backyard, the child smiled through his tears, grateful not only for the playful moments but also for the challenging ones, realizing that both were essential parts of the dance of life.
Thank you for posting this.
Wonderful & timing is excellent, ty, 🙏
This song does something to my withering soul
The tree story was really profound! Great video!
the illustrations are a delight :)
It's like the hunt for wealth is the pleasurable bit. Afterwards the problems can start
Our capitalist system necessarily makes us cogs in the wheel to continue it's existence. What could be more dehumanizing than such a singular utilitarian existence. This video is so spot on to expose the fate to which we have assigned ourselves.
Play is key
Time to play
Remember
Winning just means the game is over
I've self sabotaged many times. Not because I'm scared of failure - though that's happened. Many times its been to avoid feeling trapped by accolades
Basically all of society looks down on you if you don't chase money, jobs and success... It's tough but as long as you know yourself and don't get lost in the false illusions projected onto you, you will be fine.
Wonderful channel by far the best of it's type ❤
Great storytelling! Love it…thanks for sharing it with us!
Excellent video 👍 Thank you 💜
I should be here more often.
Never been this early on an Einzelganger vid wow
Me too, buddy !😂
Actually, I often watch his videos almost 1 or 2 month after upload!
I LOVE THIS VIDEO SO MUCH, THANK YOU
I've begun to care less at work, and everyone listens to what I have to say now. So I'm actually doing better now at work by caring less. WTF, but whatever.
Physical appearance and mental health are about as good as they have ever been though thanks to gym dedication...that might have something to do with it also.
Roflmao😂 Einzelgänger! 6:57 spot on! Thanks for ALL you do, brother! 💙✌️💫
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I am happy. Enough is enough ❤