If you ever feel like a loser, remember: Diogenes (the philosopher) was homeless, lived in a barrel and told Alexander the Great to move out of his sunlight, and he’s still more famous than half the ‘winners’ in history.
I'm just chilling now from 55 onwards....Will not be anyone's wage slave and have no inclination to become self employed and running around like a headless chicken chasing money while the clock tick out. Loser? whatever, I have time(and health) to do whatever the hell I want, and just enough money to live on. That's a win in my books.
@@AD-zu8uc I took what pensions I have as early as possible, despite a financial penalty and believe me monthly it's probably what most people on minimum wage in the UK get for 2 weeks. We paid off the house 12 years early as when I was on a decent wage (only one job in my life like that!) I was overpaying the mortgage by an additional £1000 a month for several years. I'm a stonemason to trade and can do all trades, have amassed the tools over the years and the house isn't old so don't foresee major issues, it's also detached so nobody else will create financial issues. ie shared roofs/walls etc. I also do all my own mechanics(within reason, modern cars are getting worse to work on!) so can keep the car cost to a minimum (wife still working and she needs a car, usual car/work trap). I stopped drinking 3 years ago and have zero vices, my outgoings are my share of utilities, about £150 a month, and food. The money I get looks a pittance, but the amount it costs for rent where I am I know I have way more than many of the unfortunate ones working full time and renting. I'm 10 years off of state retirement (56.5) now but that will disappear I reckon by then, some UBI nonsense. I just want to do the things I like doing (bikepacking, road cycling , hillwalking, camping, kayaking and swimming in our local loch) while I can.... No kids thankfully, and if this proves untenable due to inflation there's either going back to work a couple of days a week, get a lodger, or sell the house and downsize use any profit to tide getting to "official" retirement, or selling up everything and moving somewhere abroad where life is cheaper and the weather better... or vanlife even! (Especially now the govt plan to offset the state pension against private pensions you have paid into, why work any longer there will be no benefit at the final analysis ? Get the hell out and enjoy the time)
As long as you aren't a burden on anyone and self-reliant, don't concern yourself with social expectations. I have my hobbies, goals and self-expectations inspired by my own experiences. What others think are of no worry to my day-to-day.
Society so bad... the city where I live in it is near impossible to become self reliant without being ambitious and success driven since it is VERY VERY expensive here just to become financially independent...
Absolutely correct. U are the only one who is responsible for your life. Other ppl are not the one pay your bill and that's make make no need to think about how other ppl think about u but how u feel about yourself is really mattet.
Being called a loser doesn’t define who you are. What exactly have you lost? Life isn’t about winning according to someone else’s rules, it's about learning, growing, and finding your own path. People may never see your value, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have any. Don’t let their labels hold you back. What really matters is how you feel about yourself and the progress you’re making. Keep moving forward, because your worth isn’t determined by anyone’s judgment but your own.
I always think: What is all my failure and lack of ambition going to matter 1000 years from now? It's irrelevant. Here to enjoy my time, not to meet someone else's definition of 'success'.
I’m a total Loser, overly educated, piles of student debt, life at home, 46, work everyday, but make little to no money, happy not being in the mix, I think I’d be happy under a bridge: I was micro homeless in Venice California, used a bucket for a toilet and showered every three weeks or so, but I was able to work on my passion, without an audience: I don’t need an entourage. ❤ love this channel
What I love and respect about this channel is the emphasis on quality and staying in the lane of philosophical inquiry, without the need for clickbait and other degenerative stuff that is often found online. I am happy for your relative success just by delivering quality content, without having to resort to "hawk-tuah-content".
It depends on what is your ambition. Mine is to develop wisdom! By society’s criteria I am a loser but by my own standards I progress a bit every day 😅
Dear Einzelganger, Your videos have been helping me to decide for myself what the best version of me is. You’ve helped me to filter out the noise of the outside world and to consider for myself what a meaningful life is and feels like for me. Your thoughts have helped me to untangle the mess in my mind. I deeply appreciate all the work you do! Thank you! ❤️
Yup, being happy taking lots of medicine, anxiety, your self esteem depending totally on likes and comments, and having people around you just because you got beautiful house, car and bank account, and can offer them opportunity to status also. Imagine having a relationship with someone just because they follow some superficial protocols, not because of their intimate and real traits. Real happiness indeed.
I've seen people with lots of money, designer and material things and they look like losers to me. Being a slave to appearances screams insecurity and being a sucker that buys into what society wants them to.
I also look at the whole "loser" thing from a nihilistic perspective. No matter how much you achieve in life, how much money you make, your accomplishments and name will eventually be forgotten and worthless. Even our greatest leaders, scientists and artists' names and works will succumb to the entropy of the universe. Time shows no mercy and has no favourites. That doesn't mean you shouldn't try to do absolutely something with your life, even if it isn't major, but people who attach their ego to what they have done or what material goods they've obtained will still lose everything they have in death. Edit: So just to clarify, I already tried to explain my contradictory statement above to one of the commenter's below. I was dealing with an unhappy brain fug when writing this, but here's the gist of what I originally meant: Your life is objectively meaningless on a macro-scale, but that's okay since you can craft your own meaning and hold yourself to your own standards, not those of other people. Don't compare yourself to other people or whatever they've done, since in the grand scheme of things it doesn't really matter. Don't beat yourself up by thinking you're a loser or worthless. One day even our world will be swallowed up by our sun when it starts to die, and then even its corpse will drift away on stellar winds.
As the late Christian theologian, R.C. Sproul, said, "Right now counts forever." Your nihilism is a lie, but if you don't know the know God Incarnate, The Lord Jesus Christ, by faith before you die, the everlastingness you experience will make oblivion seem a thing devoutly to be wished for. Read the following, straight through: The Gospel of Luke, The Gospel of John, The Acts of the Apostles, St Paul's Epistle to the Romans at least through chapter five. John 11:25, 26.
@@bobtaylor170Here's a different view to brighten your day: when we expire, we once again become our basic building blocks, Carbon- as is the case with all living things. Nothing goes to waste. So in a sense we continue to live - as something else..
@@bobtaylor170 You misunderstand how I view nihilism. It's not from a vantage point of despair, but from great freedom. Since life is devoid of enforced "higher" meaning, you are free to make your own, and succeed or fail by your own merits. Also, please don't use your messianic death cult's little holy book to try and frighten me into cow-towing to the malignant fiction you worship. I grew up in that culture and know all of its dirty little manipulative tricks. It was a sublime day when I finally threw off the barbed chains of that odious religion. Maybe learn to market your religion better and perhaps I and the majority of the human race won't view you with contempt or abandon it to the dustbin of history.
I am poor, old and NOT happy. I AM aware of my own "blessings" : I am not sleeping on the streets, I have a very modest "fixed income", and I am in relatively good health for a 75 year old man. However, the unnecessary inequities in this world really break my heart. Worse yet, they make me question the very viability go the human species. We DO know better.
If you have a two sheets of paper. One is blue and one is yellow. But otherwise they’re the same size and weight. They’d be distinct. Things can be equal and still be distinct. And besides, getting a shred of a piece of paper from life while others have reams or even paper producing factories is not a tolerable inequality.
To those who are watching this video: May you and your family be surrounded with peace and tranquility, and may your lives be filled with the most wonderful blessings and beautiful moments. Here's to a future where joy, health, and prosperity follow you all the days of your life.
i worked my ass of in my last job only to end up with psychological issues. it was a mentaly very challenging job. quit after 8 years. found another job more inline with what i am naturaly good at and enjoy, more physical work. thought i had finaly found my place only to be met with resistence again. forces beyond my control that no effort would ever please. the only thing you can ever hope to control is yourself. how you think. how you manage your emotions. Breath, focus, believe and trust yourself. "stay true to yourself and all will be well"
@@Zepster77 we all have certain alignments to our nature and character. identifying those and accepting them as well as embracing them is being true to yourself. if you are a fish dont try to fly, just swim. just because you are good at something does not mean it suits you. i prefer to listen to and act on instinct instead of thinking about something. sure i can think about something an come up with a solution that works but it is exhausting and usually does not result in a better outcome. if you choose a job or relationship that align with your aspects you certainly did all you can to walk into the right direction. of course you need to know yourself first.
I don't know if my opinion is too radical, but I think that "survive as you can and with what you have" applies to both those who have a lot and those who have less. Nowadays it is very confusing to determine who is "successful" or not, I think that just finding peace and tranquility within your reach is the best thing you can do today. Without listening to third party opinions on how to manage your life. Just live it.
The real funny thing is when youre doing "great" (stressed but material success) NO ONE SAYS ANYTHING and you have no time to actually enjoy any of it lol Only when youre unemployed or tired do people literally interrogate you bc they already know but they want you to say it and explain yourself with reasons they already decided to not believe anyway so they can give you bad advice on how you should live your life and be miserable like them lol
Id say that, out of all people, Americans will struggle the most with these ideas. Its the very opposite of what they are taught, from a very young age.
Some of us have woken up, especially during 2020 and on. I'm a minimalist who refuses to work more than 40 hours a week. I'm not even tempted anymore to have nicer things, I e trained myself to be content. Sadly, most Americans are still in the dark.
Yeah people would consider me a looser, I’m a man about to turn 33, I’m on disability struggling to work or hold a job so I am unemployed, I am not married and have no children, my bank account is empty and I have no desire to be rich or famous or become a father and honestly who cares, it’s okay. Im alive, I love, I learn, I grow.
its not that im unambitious its just im accelerating through life at my own pace so i dont make comparisons to friends or family or people around moving at a different speed and tempo then my own, and so i may come off as a loser because i just dont care what other think about the progress ive made. life is not about just getting from point A to point B its about finding your own specific way to do it that works for you, and thats why ive always been an outcast and a reject because theough school and my early years everyone always wanted to be someone else and to try and fit in but i always just stayed in my own lane just trying to be wholistically myself and the best version of myself, without putting on a facade and changing myself for anyone.
In Taiwan, they sometimes call a loser a "looooo (low intonation) zhur (high to much higher intonation), essentially a fanciful form of the English word
agreed. for almost 40 years, I considered myself and family near the top 10-20% in our country. But 2008 GFC happened, and we haven't got back from our previous wealth. Several years ago, I decided to become a loser, spending little so that I wouldn't have to work so hard. Besides, being wealthy only makes you more susceptible into buying poor value luxury products/services and the scam expenses/activities society expects from accomplished people. Additionally, just a few weeks ago, I decided to look/choose a partner who aren't as classy/wealthy, so that they're expectations in life and from me is low.
I think men should walk away from dating. I did and here is my little story why. The last girl I ever met off a dating site called me a loser because I don't have a car, left my job earlier this year and live with family. She still put out first so clearly her priorities are wrong 😂. I told her I sold my car to invest in Bitcoin back at the beginning of COVID when I became work from home. I left my job because I saw layoffs coming and I was right. I live with family until I find a woman or goal worth leaving them behind for. I even told her I had over 2 years wages in savings and investments. She literally had $400. But because she was in nursing school and "planned on making tons of money" she said this will never work. I checked out of dating since then. Life is genuinely so much better without the stress, pressure and grinding to be more.
There are moments at life when we try to give everything to succeed, but there are other moments when we need to cuddle, and stop trying. Life is made of both "pushing" and "letting it go".
By not trying to amass wealth and material things, one is forced to be very judicious about what to do with their few resources. In crass terms, that means that those people know how to get their moneys worth or really stretch a dollar. In human terms, it demonstrates their values and the amount of thought that they have used to determine them.
I agree, it also shows creativity, intelligence, patience and a person who is not impulsive in their actions. That seems to be a more interesting way to live than doing whatever for a bunch of money. When I see a person with lots of material wealth, I tend to ask myself what morally corrupt thing did they do for it and also how sad it must be that they see their power in terms of what they can accumulate.
“Whether you succeed or not is irrelevant-there is no such thing. Making your unknown known is the important thing-and keeping the unknown always beyond you.” - Georgia O'Keeffe
The problem is that life is a downward escalator, and if you’re not moving enough, you’re going down. The other thing is that if you’re not taking care of yourself, someone has to. The better philosophy is to play this life like a video game, level up and customize your character with skills, and use them to help others and yourself.
Your own addition at the end is a perfect summary of the topic. From my point of view many rules that seem to be lying above and around all of us like a net come as a byproduct of modern society. Those rules make it very hard to truly appreciate life and live in the moment because they make us doubt our own existence if we don't accommodate to them. We constantly have the feeling that we need to justify our own existence. That's why our view towards life is always in the future or in the past. We worry the hell out of everything and we fear to stop that thinking pattern because of society's judgment. To stop the noise around you is to find your way back to yourself and to know what it feels like to be yourself. 🙏
There is more to ambition than just stigma. It's actually smart to be ambitious because life can be cruel and doesn't care about you. Ambition can help you create a safety net for yourself and your loved ones. There is so much talk today about stigmatization, when in reality some things just suck regardless of what society thinks.
Luck says it all. Some have very little access to resources & opportunity while others have excessive amounts. Some defy the odds while some squander their fortune. Make the best of whatever is available to you & may Fate be kind.
Was once said by someone that I was only lucky to be where I stand, and was extremely angry at that time. Like putting in efforts or not doesn't even matter. But come to think of it, it is so true. What kind of family you are in, where you are born, and who you meet in your life are all by luck. Sometimes it just doesn't work no matter how hard you try if you don't have one of the components. Just be greatful for what you have.
I had a brief conversation with a man who had inherited wealth and he talked about that when he had a nervous breakdown there was money for him to get psychiactric care, and that he was grateful for that. Also, we had a slightly more frivolous discussion that our footwear happened to have had the same price - mine were custom-made leather moccasin style boots, his were specially made shoes because he has flat feet. .
In this society, the advantages and perks are for the winners... So why play their game? Just live your own life on your own terms and pace (not harmful to you or others), giving purpose, value, and meaning to yourself!
It is important to find a balance between ambition and contentment and that balance is different for everyone. We all need the baseline ambition not to be a burden to our families and society and baseline contentment to enjoy what we are given.
As many others mention in various ways 'success' is an endpoint with ever changing goalposts. One thing that has settled in my mind in retirement age is there is no endpoint where it is finally 'done' To live is to engage. There never is a final destination in other words only the journey. Depending on the accomplishment of end goals like social success for fulfillment sets one up for never ending anxiety. Dying while fully engaged in one's latest project is success in my mind. Nevermind what others may think.
People can be however they need or want to be as long as they don't adversely affect themselves, you or/and me. Life can be hard even when it isn't horrible.
Thank you for sharing your video. I have read that Positivity is a sign of wisdom. I believe that no one should be labeled as a loser especially if they are trying their best to make a living. I totally agree that not everybody who can afford luxury cars is a winner because most rice farmers don't own a luxury car or should I say can't afford a luxury car, but they have a fulfilling and peaceful life. Without them, we won't have food on our table. So winning in life should not be based on the amount of money or property you have, but on how someone holds their intangible values.
I want to tell you that destiny brought me here to click this video and watch it I have been arguing with a very close friend and he told me the same thing I have heard from this video a few moments ago we have to respect the destiny and don't give a hoot about outcomes all we need to do is to enjoy the journey of achieving goals not goals itself Thanks so much for this video ❤❤❤
another banger from Einzelganger, reminds me of another video he made on the topic where he’d talk about how made up societal structural labels have no use in our lives
I love the fact that you made this video specifically now as I have reflected on my self about this yesterday,I have been living as a closer for more than 5 years... I feel stuck now I know I need to do something but not because I feel bad of living loser (intentionally) but because we need some upgrade but at the same time i am aware of all you have included in the video +being taoist oriented myself so I do not know what thing to do to enjoy while being like this.. It is bit tricky but I am sure I will make it
I am a loser from Uruguay, latin America. I have enough income to have a very simple life, yet the real needs are covered, no need for more. I don't work, it comes from a house in rent. I only feel energy to do what i want to do, even if i've tried to achieve goals, sooner or later i leave, cause nothing has more importance than feeling good in this crazy world. Time has value, i can't spend it on other than enjoying what i can.
All in all, I agree with you. I have followed wu wei for most of my life (I am currently 76) because it seemed the only way to cope with the turmoil of change. Still here.
"What's wrong? Are you scared that you're gonna go crazy???... Go crazy!!" - Jiddu Krishnamurti. This is the true concept of being a 'loser'. Someone who loses fear, frustration, judgment, desire, wanting, sadness... Just goes 'crazy' by cutting out the middle man ( mind babble) and just takes things as they are!!!
I definitely think ambition has its downsides where you can over do it, I'd always rather try & be the best version of myself over inaction. Interesting philosophy I'll have to read more about.
I wonder how these sages came up with these philosophies in times where stress, city rush, burnout from work, being in the rat race,... were not common in that era.
Feeling like a loser is just a thing that happens to everyone sometimes. We can’t control it. Sometimes we just have to let it go. God bless u all, peace ✌️🕊️💜💟
I think a respectable social status is good and all, but constantly standing on your tiptoes just to please and impress people we aren't even familiar with not only is a product of the current neo-liberal capitalist society, but also highlights its inherent and potent nature of convincing us to over-identify our Ego with the Persona, and distancing the Ego from the Personal Unconscious, which if not dealt with properly, breeds psychological neuroticism.
I'm writing this down because I believe that I will achieve my happiness and a fulfillment of joy as a human being not as a thing. Hope you reach your dreams as well! ✴
I don't know who, but someone said, "The key to happiness is the patience to accept what you can not change, the courage to change what you can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
Vielen Dank für dieses Video! Ich glaube, dass dieses Gedicht vom Hermann Hesse wohl zu diesem Thema passt. Glück Solang du nach dem Glücke jagst, Bist du nicht reif zum Glücklichsein, Und wäre alles Liebste dein. Solang du um Verlornes klagst Und Ziele hast und rastlos bist, Weißt du noch nicht, was Friede ist. Erst wenn du jedem Wunsch entsagst, Nicht Ziel mehr noch Begehren kennst, Das Glück nicht mehr mit Namen nennst, Dann reicht dir des Geschehens Flut Nicht mehr ans Herz - und deine Seele ruht.
If you ever felt like a looser remember gregory pererlman who rejected noble prize and a million dollar after solving the pancre conjecture one of the 10 mathematics problems in history
Being successful is being at peace with yourself. Dont worry what other people think, this will take time and effort and discipline to be more stoic. Also always remember so called successful people suffer a lot. Nowhere it is more visible than in a airplane in a business class compartment. A lot of passengers are either working still and not enjoying their luxury. Others keep on demanding more and complaints can be heard that they lack something. The more you have the more you want and thats a vicious circle.
If you ever feel like a loser, remember: Diogenes (the philosopher) was homeless, lived in a barrel and told Alexander the Great to move out of his sunlight, and he’s still more famous than half the ‘winners’ in history.
😂😂
He would hate that he is famous.
Well, Diogenes lived in a sunny country, was considered a philosoph and never ever had to fear to be killed by asocial subjects.
As long as you can beg or steal food, sure.
Even a Tiger must hunt, or starve.
😂
I'm just chilling now from 55 onwards....Will not be anyone's wage slave and have no inclination to become self employed and running around like a headless chicken chasing money while the clock tick out. Loser? whatever, I have time(and health) to do whatever the hell I want, and just enough money to live on. That's a win in my books.
So how did you do it? You need some source of income to survive right? And at 55 yoi are still far from retirement
@@AD-zu8uc I took what pensions I have as early as possible, despite a financial penalty and believe me monthly it's probably what most people on minimum wage in the UK get for 2 weeks. We paid off the house 12 years early as when I was on a decent wage (only one job in my life like that!) I was overpaying the mortgage by an additional £1000 a month for several years. I'm a stonemason to trade and can do all trades, have amassed the tools over the years and the house isn't old so don't foresee major issues, it's also detached so nobody else will create financial issues. ie shared roofs/walls etc. I also do all my own mechanics(within reason, modern cars are getting worse to work on!) so can keep the car cost to a minimum (wife still working and she needs a car, usual car/work trap). I stopped drinking 3 years ago and have zero vices, my outgoings are my share of utilities, about £150 a month, and food. The money I get looks a pittance, but the amount it costs for rent where I am I know I have way more than many of the unfortunate ones working full time and renting. I'm 10 years off of state retirement (56.5) now but that will disappear I reckon by then, some UBI nonsense. I just want to do the things I like doing (bikepacking, road cycling , hillwalking, camping, kayaking and swimming in our local loch) while I can.... No kids thankfully, and if this proves untenable due to inflation there's either going back to work a couple of days a week, get a lodger, or sell the house and downsize use any profit to tide getting to "official" retirement, or selling up everything and moving somewhere abroad where life is cheaper and the weather better... or vanlife even! (Especially now the govt plan to offset the state pension against private pensions you have paid into, why work any longer there will be no benefit at the final analysis ? Get the hell out and enjoy the time)
Then you're doing it wrong; AD.
@AD-zu8uc likely saved/gained enough to allow the late life chill time... There are no secrets and no free lunch 😅
@@jakecutter1487 doing what wrong exactly?
As long as you aren't a burden on anyone and self-reliant, don't concern yourself with social expectations. I have my hobbies, goals and self-expectations inspired by my own experiences. What others think are of no worry to my day-to-day.
The glories of the private life, disconnected from the Zeitgeist, can't be overestimated.
The glories of the private life, disconnected from the Zeitgeist, simply cannot be overestimated.
nah. be a burden.
Society so bad... the city where I live in it is near impossible to become self reliant without being ambitious and success driven since it is VERY VERY expensive here just to become financially independent...
Absolutely correct. U are the only one who is responsible for your life. Other ppl are not the one pay your bill and that's make make no need to think about how other ppl think about u but how u feel about yourself is really mattet.
In the battle of ego, the looser always wins
~Buddha
Excellent pun!
Loser*
Daoism tried to warn you 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] ❤
Being called a loser doesn’t define who you are. What exactly have you lost? Life isn’t about winning according to someone else’s rules, it's about learning, growing, and finding your own path. People may never see your value, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have any. Don’t let their labels hold you back. What really matters is how you feel about yourself and the progress you’re making. Keep moving forward, because your worth isn’t determined by anyone’s judgment but your own.
Daoism tried to warn you 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] ❤
Well put.
@@VeganSemihCyprus33 and you need to hush
Nothing is EVER enough. Be happy with what you have.
I always think: What is all my failure and lack of ambition going to matter 1000 years from now? It's irrelevant. Here to enjoy my time, not to meet someone else's definition of 'success'.
And especially: never enough for this system society.
Embrace stagnation?
@jonathanj.7344 that's a funny way of looking at it
I have more than I want. Will you take it from me?
I’m a total Loser, overly educated, piles of student debt, life at home, 46, work everyday, but make little to no money, happy not being in the mix, I think I’d be happy under a bridge: I was micro homeless in Venice California, used a bucket for a toilet and showered every three weeks or so, but I was able to work on my passion, without an audience: I don’t need an entourage. ❤ love this channel
Sounds like you may in fact be a winner ;)
Same!
@@therichbuddha3277 😂🤙 mahalo brawddah
Hej! What is micro homeless?
Your education will never be a waste.
We are just visitors in this world. We can't chose to be born. And yet, we must live in this world. Just be yourself and make your own path.
Loving yourself and then loving others like you love yourself makes you a winner.
Daoism tried to warn you 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] ❤
What I love and respect about this channel is the emphasis on quality and staying in the lane of philosophical inquiry, without the need for clickbait and other degenerative stuff that is often found online. I am happy for your relative success just by delivering quality content, without having to resort to "hawk-tuah-content".
Right on… *or hawking some kind of wares
"better to do nothing than be busy doing nothing".
True
Need to use that line on my gf.
Daoism tried to warn you 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] ❤
It is the relentless ego of powerful leaders that drives unnecessary wars in the world. As Buddha said: In a war of ego, the loser always wins.
What a masterpiece! This video will save a lot of people's lives in today's society. Thank you for making this video.
SHort answer before watching the video: Its okay, accept yourself.
That’s literally every video in this channel.
@ Thats why this channel is so great.
@@REALCaptainAmericanexactly! I thought I was the only one that noticed..
Current global employment stats would say that this message is being addressed to a growing number of people.
Ambition is the polar opposite of contentment
It doesn't have to be like that
It depends on what is your ambition. Mine is to develop wisdom! By society’s criteria I am a loser but by my own standards I progress a bit every day 😅
This !!!
Yeah, that seems to be my natural mission in life, but acknowledge other things matters too.
Me too. For me, the most important goal is to be wise in this life. I live a simple life and I am content with what I have.😊
Dear Einzelganger, Your videos have been helping me to decide for myself what the best version of me is. You’ve helped me to filter out the noise of the outside world and to consider for myself what a meaningful life is and feels like for me. Your thoughts have helped me to untangle the mess in my mind. I deeply appreciate all the work you do! Thank you! ❤️
Ambition feels like a threadmill when you're someone who enjoys contemplation more than running after something precise and, often, artificial.
Chasing clout and social status carries an inherent risk to real happiness.
It actively works AGAINST happiness.
Social media is cancer
Yup, being happy taking lots of medicine, anxiety, your self esteem depending totally on likes and comments, and having people around you just because you got beautiful house, car and bank account, and can offer them opportunity to status also. Imagine having a relationship with someone just because they follow some superficial protocols, not because of their intimate and real traits. Real happiness indeed.
Daoism tried to warn you 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] ❤
@@tomw.6757Dominion (2018)
I've seen people with lots of money, designer and material things and they look like losers to me. Being a slave to appearances screams insecurity and being a sucker that buys into what society wants them to.
Yeap..Sir
I also look at the whole "loser" thing from a nihilistic perspective. No matter how much you achieve in life, how much money you make, your accomplishments and name will eventually be forgotten and worthless. Even our greatest leaders, scientists and artists' names and works will succumb to the entropy of the universe.
Time shows no mercy and has no favourites.
That doesn't mean you shouldn't try to do absolutely something with your life, even if it isn't major, but people who attach their ego to what they have done or what material goods they've obtained will still lose everything they have in death.
Edit: So just to clarify, I already tried to explain my contradictory statement above to one of the commenter's below. I was dealing with an unhappy brain fug when writing this, but here's the gist of what I originally meant:
Your life is objectively meaningless on a macro-scale, but that's okay since you can craft your own meaning and hold yourself to your own standards, not those of other people. Don't compare yourself to other people or whatever they've done, since in the grand scheme of things it doesn't really matter.
Don't beat yourself up by thinking you're a loser or worthless. One day even our world will be swallowed up by our sun when it starts to die, and then even its corpse will drift away on stellar winds.
The only thing you bring to grave is your faith to Allah, kind heart and good deeds in the world
As the late Christian theologian, R.C. Sproul, said, "Right now counts forever." Your nihilism is a lie, but if you don't know the know God Incarnate, The Lord Jesus Christ, by faith before you die, the everlastingness you experience will make oblivion seem a thing devoutly to be wished for.
Read the following, straight through: The Gospel of Luke, The Gospel of John, The Acts of the Apostles, St Paul's Epistle to the Romans at least through chapter five.
John 11:25, 26.
@@bobtaylor170Here's a different view to brighten your day: when we expire, we once again become our basic building blocks, Carbon- as is the case with all living things. Nothing goes to waste. So in a sense we continue to live - as something else..
seriously, dude. 😂
@@bobtaylor170 You misunderstand how I view nihilism. It's not from a vantage point of despair, but from great freedom. Since life is devoid of enforced "higher" meaning, you are free to make your own, and succeed or fail by your own merits.
Also, please don't use your messianic death cult's little holy book to try and frighten me into cow-towing to the malignant fiction you worship. I grew up in that culture and know all of its dirty little manipulative tricks. It was a sublime day when I finally threw off the barbed chains of that odious religion.
Maybe learn to market your religion better and perhaps I and the majority of the human race won't view you with contempt or abandon it to the dustbin of history.
I am poor, old and NOT happy. I AM aware of my own "blessings" : I am not sleeping on the streets, I have a very modest "fixed income", and I am in relatively good health for a 75 year old man. However, the unnecessary inequities in this world really break my heart. Worse yet, they make me question the very viability go the human species. We DO know better.
Inequity is a feature of disequilibrium...without which nothing could have a distinct existence.
If you have a two sheets of paper. One is blue and one is yellow. But otherwise they’re the same size and weight. They’d be distinct.
Things can be equal and still be distinct. And besides, getting a shred of a piece of paper from life while others have reams or even paper producing factories is not a tolerable inequality.
These are beautiful videos that have changed my life at 20 years old. Thank you so much. My only hope is that you continue to make more.
To those who are watching this video: May you and your family be surrounded with peace and tranquility, and may your lives be filled with the most wonderful blessings and beautiful moments. Here's to a future where joy, health, and prosperity follow you all the days of your life.
Likewise! Same to you!
And to you as well.
Amen !
It’s rare nowadays where the prayer is not related to wealth or success.
Thank you ❤ Same to you
i worked my ass of in my last job only to end up with psychological issues. it was a mentaly very challenging job.
quit after 8 years. found another job more inline with what i am naturaly good at and enjoy, more physical work.
thought i had finaly found my place only to be met with resistence again.
forces beyond my control that no effort would ever please.
the only thing you can ever hope to control is yourself. how you think. how you manage your emotions.
Breath, focus, believe and trust yourself.
"stay true to yourself and all will be well"
Love your comment. But could you please explain to me what defines “being true to yourself” ??
@@Zepster77 we all have certain alignments to our nature and character.
identifying those and accepting them as well as embracing them is being true to yourself.
if you are a fish dont try to fly, just swim.
just because you are good at something does not mean
it suits you.
i prefer to listen to and act on instinct instead of thinking about something.
sure i can think about something an come up with a solution that works but it is exhausting and usually does not result in a better outcome.
if you choose a job or relationship that align with your aspects you certainly did all you can to walk into the right direction.
of course you need to know yourself first.
@@sion7651 thank you 🙏
Hey, loser here. I tried and tried, but I'm just average and will likely die alone. At least life's peaceful.
Same here Mike, there's many of us amigo. I console myself by reminding myself it's not a healthy thing to be well adapted to a maladaptive society
Cheers to a peaceful life!
LoL yes my friend same here.
@@mrnice7570That's a wonderful quote, thank you.
There's a lot to be said for quiet contentment.
I don't know if my opinion is too radical, but I think that "survive as you can and with what you have" applies to both those who have a lot and those who have less. Nowadays it is very confusing to determine who is "successful" or not, I think that just finding peace and tranquility within your reach is the best thing you can do today. Without listening to third party opinions on how to manage your life. Just live it.
Socieities definitions of success and failure are very messed up
Humanity can be very neurotic as a whole.
That's why it's like that, I think.
I'm great at this.. Never knew i was a Taoist
The real funny thing is when youre doing "great" (stressed but material success)
NO ONE SAYS ANYTHING and you have no time to actually enjoy any of it lol
Only when youre unemployed or tired do people literally interrogate you bc they already know but they want you to say it and explain yourself with reasons they already decided to not believe anyway so they can give you bad advice on how you should live your life and be miserable like them lol
Haha!! Very insightful 😂
Very well said!
Perhaps 100 years from now it won't really matter my stature is in this world. Everything here is temporary.
Being comfortable where you are and satisfied with what you have are the hardest things to achieve. Usually one is sacrificed for the other.
Wealth is calculated by your means minus your desires; success is calculated by your achievement minus your ambition.
Id say that, out of all people, Americans will struggle the most with these ideas. Its the very opposite of what they are taught, from a very young age.
Some of us have woken up, especially during 2020 and on. I'm a minimalist who refuses to work more than 40 hours a week. I'm not even tempted anymore to have nicer things, I e trained myself to be content. Sadly, most Americans are still in the dark.
Yeah people would consider me a looser, I’m a man about to turn 33, I’m on disability struggling to work or hold a job so I am unemployed, I am not married and have no children, my bank account is empty and I have no desire to be rich or famous or become a father and honestly who cares, it’s okay. Im alive, I love, I learn, I grow.
So many have gone so early for not wanting to be a loser not knowing they were survivors and winners all ready.
RIP homies.
There’s a saying: there’s no winners or losers, only survivors.
@edwarddodge7937 amén big dog!
its not that im unambitious its just im accelerating through life at my own pace so i dont make comparisons to friends or family or people around moving at a different speed and tempo then my own, and so i may come off as a loser because i just dont care what other think about the progress ive made.
life is not about just getting from point A to point B its about finding your own specific way to do it that works for you, and thats why ive always been an outcast and a reject because theough school and my early years everyone always wanted to be someone else and to try and fit in but i always just stayed in my own lane just trying to be wholistically myself and the best version of myself, without putting on a facade and changing myself for anyone.
These videos are very meaningful in my life. Thank you. The last shall be first
In Taiwan, they sometimes call a loser a "looooo (low intonation) zhur (high to much higher intonation), essentially a fanciful form of the English word
What an amazing video. Maybe the so called losers are really the winners? "The meek shall inherit the earth."
agreed. for almost 40 years, I considered myself and family near the top 10-20% in our country. But 2008 GFC happened, and we haven't got back from our previous wealth. Several years ago, I decided to become a loser, spending little so that I wouldn't have to work so hard. Besides, being wealthy only makes you more susceptible into buying poor value luxury products/services and the scam expenses/activities society expects from accomplished people. Additionally, just a few weeks ago, I decided to look/choose a partner who aren't as classy/wealthy, so that they're expectations in life and from me is low.
I think men should walk away from dating. I did and here is my little story why. The last girl I ever met off a dating site called me a loser because I don't have a car, left my job earlier this year and live with family. She still put out first so clearly her priorities are wrong 😂. I told her I sold my car to invest in Bitcoin back at the beginning of COVID when I became work from home. I left my job because I saw layoffs coming and I was right. I live with family until I find a woman or goal worth leaving them behind for. I even told her I had over 2 years wages in savings and investments. She literally had $400. But because she was in nursing school and "planned on making tons of money" she said this will never work. I checked out of dating since then. Life is genuinely so much better without the stress, pressure and grinding to be more.
Let them date their careers then 😅
Oh Gawd! Nurses are the worst marriage risk ever. You dodged a bullet.
If it’s by your own choice to be a looser it’s a lot different than when it happens by circumstances it will perceived and feel differently
There are moments at life when we try to give everything to succeed, but there are other moments when we need to cuddle, and stop trying. Life is made of both "pushing" and "letting it go".
By not trying to amass wealth and material things, one is forced to be very judicious about what to do with their few resources. In crass terms, that means that those people know how to get their moneys worth or really stretch a dollar. In human terms, it demonstrates their values and the amount of thought that they have used to determine them.
I agree, it also shows creativity, intelligence, patience and a person who is not impulsive in their actions. That seems to be a more interesting way to live than doing whatever for a bunch of money. When I see a person with lots of material wealth, I tend to ask myself what morally corrupt thing did they do for it and also how sad it must be that they see their power in terms of what they can accumulate.
@@coolbreeze5683It's an old saying that 'All great fortunes start with a crime'...
“Whether you succeed or not is irrelevant-there is no such thing. Making your unknown known is the important thing-and keeping the unknown always beyond you.” - Georgia O'Keeffe
nice one. thanks for sharing! 🍁
you’re missing out if you ain’t read the ebook Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, it breaks it all down
Shut up bot
Nobody is missing out of anything.
Amazon’s missing out on that book too.
The problem is that life is a downward escalator, and if you’re not moving enough, you’re going down. The other thing is that if you’re not taking care of yourself, someone has to. The better philosophy is to play this life like a video game, level up and customize your character with skills, and use them to help others and yourself.
Please relisten to this. I think you miss the point. Take care.
Agree - to live is to engage. And we do have duties.
You win some, you lose some. There is no "sore loser".
Your own addition at the end is a perfect summary of the topic. From my point of view many rules that seem to be lying above and around all of us like a net come as a byproduct of modern society. Those rules make it very hard to truly appreciate life and live in the moment because they make us doubt our own existence if we don't accommodate to them. We constantly have the feeling that we need to justify our own existence. That's why our view towards life is always in the future or in the past. We worry the hell out of everything and we fear to stop that thinking pattern because of society's judgment. To stop the noise around you is to find your way back to yourself and to know what it feels like to be yourself. 🙏
There is more to ambition than just stigma. It's actually smart to be ambitious because life can be cruel and doesn't care about you. Ambition can help you create a safety net for yourself and your loved ones. There is so much talk today about stigmatization, when in reality some things just suck regardless of what society thinks.
You missed the point. The downside of ambition is the stress it creates.
Never achieved anything, always lost. Great to watch the video though.
Achieving is not winning.
Don't forget that you won the sperm race.
So at least you have an achievement. 👌🏻
Dont take criticism from someone you wouldn't take advice from (or want their results)
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“Your boos mean nothing to me. I’ve seen what you cheer for.”
@edwarddodge7937 "dogs always bark at what they dont understand"
🤝💪
Passivity disguised as wisdom is a good line.
According to people, I am a loser. Yet, when I watch them go to work every day, all day. I wonder who the real loser is.
Let me guess benefits scrounger?
Luck says it all. Some have very little access to resources & opportunity while others have excessive amounts. Some defy the odds while some squander their fortune. Make the best of whatever is available to you & may Fate be kind.
Was once said by someone that I was only lucky to be where I stand, and was extremely angry at that time. Like putting in efforts or not doesn't even matter.
But come to think of it, it is so true. What kind of family you are in, where you are born, and who you meet in your life are all by luck. Sometimes it just doesn't work no matter how hard you try if you don't have one of the components. Just be greatful for what you have.
"Make the best use what's in your power and take the rest as it happens." - Epictetus
Most people think being at the Top (Winner) can feel lonely. Trust me, being at the Bottom (Loser) can feel even more lonely!
Good thing there's always gravity to pull the winners back to earth. 6 feet under.
I had a brief conversation with a man who had inherited wealth and he talked about that when he had a nervous breakdown there was money for him to get psychiactric care, and that he was grateful for that. Also, we had a slightly more frivolous discussion that our footwear happened to have had the same price - mine were custom-made leather moccasin style boots, his were specially made shoes because he has flat feet. .
Perfect timing
In this society, the advantages and perks are for the winners... So why play their game? Just live your own life on your own terms and pace (not harmful to you or others), giving purpose, value, and meaning to yourself!
It is important to find a balance between ambition and contentment and that balance is different for everyone.
We all need the baseline ambition not to be a burden to our families and society and baseline contentment to enjoy what we are given.
As many others mention in various ways 'success' is an endpoint with ever changing goalposts. One thing that has settled in my mind in retirement age is there is no endpoint where it is finally 'done' To live is to engage. There never is a final destination in other words only the journey. Depending on the accomplishment of end goals like social success for fulfillment sets one up for never ending anxiety. Dying while fully engaged in one's latest project is success in my mind. Nevermind what others may think.
Losing is an valuable opportunity to reveal our deficiencies, it is up to us how to treat this new piece of information.
People can be however they need or want to be as long as they don't adversely affect themselves, you or/and me. Life can be hard even when it isn't horrible.
Thank you for sharing your video. I have read that Positivity is a sign of wisdom. I believe that no one should be labeled as a loser especially if they are trying their best to make a living. I totally agree that not everybody who can afford luxury cars is a winner because most rice farmers don't own a luxury car or should I say can't afford a luxury car, but they have a fulfilling and peaceful life. Without them, we won't have food on our table. So winning in life should not be based on the amount of money or property you have, but on how someone holds their intangible values.
I want to tell you that destiny brought me here to click this video and watch it I have been arguing with a very close friend and he told me the same thing I have heard from this video a few moments ago we have to respect the destiny and don't give a hoot about outcomes all we need to do is to enjoy the journey of achieving goals not goals itself
Thanks so much for this video ❤❤❤
another banger from Einzelganger, reminds me of another video he made on the topic where he’d talk about how made up societal structural labels have no use in our lives
Again so much wisdom for the modern world even though it’s ancient knowledge
I love the fact that you made this video specifically now as I have reflected on my self about this yesterday,I have been living as a closer for more than 5 years... I feel stuck now I know I need to do something but not because I feel bad of living loser (intentionally) but because we need some upgrade but at the same time i am aware of all you have included in the video +being taoist oriented myself so I do not know what thing to do to enjoy while being like this.. It is bit tricky but I am sure I will make it
Just what the world needs, more youtubers
I am a loser from Uruguay, latin America. I have enough income to have a very simple life, yet the real needs are covered, no need for more. I don't work, it comes from a house in rent. I only feel energy to do what i want to do, even if i've tried to achieve goals, sooner or later i leave, cause nothing has more importance than feeling good in this crazy world. Time has value, i can't spend it on other than enjoying what i can.
All in all, I agree with you. I have followed wu wei for most of my life (I am currently 76) because it seemed the only way to cope with the turmoil of change. Still here.
happiness is to have no feelings that anything is missing
"What's wrong? Are you scared that you're gonna go crazy???... Go crazy!!" - Jiddu Krishnamurti. This is the true concept of being a 'loser'. Someone who loses fear, frustration, judgment, desire, wanting, sadness... Just goes 'crazy' by cutting out the middle man ( mind babble) and just takes things as they are!!!
I definitely think ambition has its downsides where you can over do it, I'd always rather try & be the best version of myself over inaction. Interesting philosophy I'll have to read more about.
Being a loser is a behavioral issue. Pettiness, greed, seeking validation....
I wonder how these sages came up with these philosophies in times where stress, city rush, burnout from work, being in the rat race,... were not common in that era.
I needed this video today
love the quality and breadth of the ideas shared on this channel ❤❤
Feeling like a loser is just a thing that happens to everyone sometimes. We can’t control it. Sometimes we just have to let it go. God bless u all, peace ✌️🕊️💜💟
You can not win or lose in life, you can only live life☘️🎩
I think a respectable social status is good and all, but constantly standing on your tiptoes just to please and impress people we aren't even familiar with not only is a product of the current neo-liberal capitalist society, but also highlights its inherent and potent nature of convincing us to over-identify our Ego with the Persona, and distancing the Ego from the Personal Unconscious, which if not dealt with properly, breeds psychological neuroticism.
Why is this so timely, Einzelganger?
I'm writing this down because I believe that I will achieve my happiness and a fulfillment of joy as a human being not as a thing. Hope you reach your dreams as well! ✴
Yes never be outcome dependent. However, always give it your all, never leave any stone unturned.
I’m a happy loser or you might say good for nothing but that nothing that I’m good for I’ve found to be true peace and happiness 😊
You can never get enough of what you don't want.
If it makes you happy, it's right for you.
I don't know who, but someone said, "The key to happiness is the patience to accept what you can not change, the courage to change what you can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
Vielen Dank für dieses Video!
Ich glaube, dass dieses Gedicht vom Hermann Hesse wohl zu diesem Thema passt.
Glück
Solang du nach dem Glücke jagst,
Bist du nicht reif zum Glücklichsein,
Und wäre alles Liebste dein.
Solang du um Verlornes klagst
Und Ziele hast und rastlos bist,
Weißt du noch nicht, was Friede ist.
Erst wenn du jedem Wunsch entsagst,
Nicht Ziel mehr noch Begehren kennst,
Das Glück nicht mehr mit Namen nennst,
Dann reicht dir des Geschehens Flut
Nicht mehr ans Herz - und deine Seele ruht.
The glories of the private life, disconnected from the Zeitgeist, can't be overestimated.
Embracing is too strong a word, but I've learned to accept it. Not that I have a choice anyway.
If you ever felt like a looser remember gregory pererlman who rejected noble prize and a million dollar after solving the pancre conjecture one of the 10 mathematics problems in history
Truth is - like most cases - in the middle. Thanks for the video, food for thought!
It's the same as Advaita Vedanta. You are not the doer, not the sufferer nor the enjoyer but just the witness. That is the only truth that matters...
Rather than winning or losing i think being happy is what matters most.
After decades of considering the views of many wise and thoughtful people, I have come to the following philosophical position: No money, no honey.
Being successful is being at peace with yourself. Dont worry what other people think, this will take time and effort and discipline to be more stoic. Also always remember so called successful people suffer a lot. Nowhere it is more visible than in a airplane in a business class compartment. A lot of passengers are either working still and not enjoying their luxury. Others keep on demanding more and complaints can be heard that they lack something. The more you have the more you want and thats a vicious circle.
Honestly i think we can all be winners if we chase our own life and not someone elses. A tree has many leafs and eachone is beautiful in its own way.