Taoism & The Underestimated Power of Softness

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  • Опубліковано 30 тра 2024
  • Strength isn’t always the answer. In many situations, softness, not strength, weakness, not firmness, is the way to go, and we’re better off yielding than fighting, adapting than opposing and submitting than dominating. This video explores the underestimated power of softness through the lens of Taoist philosophy.
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    00:00 - Intro
    02:06 - The king and the philosopher
    04:56 - Taming the tigers
    08:04 - Soft overcomes the hard
    11:00 - The rigid and stiff

КОМЕНТАРІ • 707

  • @Lunay08
    @Lunay08 Рік тому +888

    As a generally soft person, this gave me so much comfort. I always thought there was something wrong with me because of it. Regardless of how strong I've tried to be, I could never really accomplish it. This made me realize that there was nothing wrong with me all along

    • @rationalised
      @rationalised Рік тому +29

      me too, i have aways thought that being a strong , dominating person is only one to win the situations , i have been always trying to be rigid as much as possible but i always turned out to be weak and soft, this video gave me content of myself for who i really am....

    • @Lioness_of_Gaia
      @Lioness_of_Gaia Рік тому +2

      🥰

    • @Gumbier_Than
      @Gumbier_Than Рік тому +1

      Same

    • @davachi
      @davachi Рік тому +8

      Ha, u soft

    • @Reskyboy1
      @Reskyboy1 Рік тому +8

      @@rationalised Yes. I think this is cause society paints that kinda picture often and there is so many who acts like that including maybe our parents. Its good that people realize these kinda things.😊 Okay i wrote this before watching the video and now realized he kinda tells this already :D.

  • @mindfulnesswithmatt
    @mindfulnesswithmatt Рік тому +884

    Softness is what enables us to lean into our resilience and build our courage overtime. We have become so resistant towards any signs of weakness and vulnerabilities that we now automatically equate soft with weak. Not the same, thank you for the video

    • @luminouswolf7117
      @luminouswolf7117 Рік тому +46

      Attempting to hide weakness is ironically weakness

    • @Rattus-Norvegicus
      @Rattus-Norvegicus Рік тому +8

      @@luminouswolf7117 Not always, it can be advantageous for survival. If driven by ego, that's when it can be problematic.

    • @user-zu1ix3yq2w
      @user-zu1ix3yq2w Рік тому +5

      Like a flexible sword vs a brittle one. Tensile strength has its uses.

    • @janeeeyyy2421
      @janeeeyyy2421 Рік тому +3

      clearly you miss the point here. Thanks for your opinion.

    • @youlovealex
      @youlovealex Рік тому +4

      @@youdontlikewords Did you accomplish what you wanted to? Did you accomplish anything?

  • @Azir223
    @Azir223 Рік тому +649

    Being like water/being gentle is so easy yet challenging at times. We often try to control & force things to happen in our lives. But when we let go life unfolds effortlessly and you save much more energy.

    • @UniqueGeekFreak
      @UniqueGeekFreak Рік тому +16

      Yes I agree and it's hard reversing back to the "ways of water" lol (Avatar)
      This comes from someone who's been floating like a piece of wood for decades and ended up being washed up on other people's shores, instead of following my own compass....i still have no idea where to go or what to do with my life, now i've frozen the water a bit, in order to get some stability BUT also people have walked all over me because of being watery, so i ended up a volcano fire & brimstones lol.
      Now that the steam is off....im trying to go back to the "ways of water" 💙🧘‍♀️
      I must say with my experience, everything always turned out well in my favour when i indeed did flow like water & let things come and go as it wanted, instead of controlling or forcing myself others or situations to be a certain way.
      So yes as Bruce Lee says " Be water my friend"

    • @seagullpoet
      @seagullpoet Рік тому +3

      I was reading WALDEN last night. He really was something.
      A 27 year older - just graduated Harvard - stayed outside 2 years.

    • @lifebydesign9435
      @lifebydesign9435 Рік тому +3

      Well that's not true at all! there's a rhythm to it sometimes you need to put an effort
      Don't forget that that's the taoist way.

    • @jonber9411
      @jonber9411 Рік тому +2

      One should not be afraid, of being afraid.

    • @joaotanaka3071
      @joaotanaka3071 Рік тому +5

      @@jonber9411 that’s very similar for something I’ve heard Alan Watts saying. In one of his lectures( you can find on youtube, Alan watts lectures eastern wisdow and modern life) he stated that one way of be kinda of liberated from suffering, is to actually suffer, without resistance, or any complaints/negative thoughts about it.
      An example is about worrying, something we do very often. But what if you know worrying is bad, and you try to force yourself to stop worrying. In the end, what happens it’s similar to what einselganger said about in his videos of seeking happiness and reverse effort: try not to think about a elephant, you can’t, and the harder you try, the worse it gets, and you ended up in a vicius cycle. But, in the case of worry, of fear, whatever, if you allow yourself to do that, after a while it goes aways.
      So, Alan Watts ends his video talking about a toy, that has his center of gravity in a way that you can’t push it down, it always gets back up, because it yelds and doesn’t resist, contraty to any other solid object.
      Thus, he states that in order to be truly unshakable, you must not block(resist) and be yelding

  • @alexxx4434
    @alexxx4434 Рік тому +75

    _“Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves._
    _Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.”_
    ― Bruce Lee

    • @SkyScannerBtown
      @SkyScannerBtown Рік тому +2

      Wind can also shape the water naturally

    • @jenz720
      @jenz720 Рік тому +2

      This whole video is missing the crashing part of this quote. Just as the waves have got to crash upon the shore at some point you will be bound to use force.

    • @TrueWisdom135
      @TrueWisdom135 2 місяці тому

      Water is the embodiment of the Tao :)

    • @shadicspeed2523
      @shadicspeed2523 2 місяці тому

      But isn’t being assertive still important in life

  • @swordmonkey6635
    @swordmonkey6635 Рік тому +444

    I would use the more Taoist accurate terms of rigidity and flexibility instead of weak and strong. A flexible plant bends (adapts) to strong winds while a rigid plant breaks. Water flows around hard objects because it adapts itself while a hard object with run up against the rock. Taoists teach "softness" as adaptability and compliance rather than as weakness. Bamboo is one of the strongest plants for its size, but it bends and adapts to strong wind. Taoist "softness" is not a measure of strength, but adaption.

    • @moustachio334
      @moustachio334 Рік тому +9

      Thank you. I was scratching my head at the beginning.

    • @lidsss1
      @lidsss1 Рік тому +38

      I think its useful how he uses the term "weak" to convey softness/flexibility because in many ways that is how those qualities are conceived by our society.

    • @swordmonkey6635
      @swordmonkey6635 Рік тому +33

      @@lidsss1 But that's not how Taoism looks at it and he's trying to convey a Taoist lesson about Taoist principles. It's a disservice to bend Taoist ideas to make them more "Western friendly". The very reason Western society misunderstands flexibility and adaptation as weakness or softness is the exact problem.

    • @username2872
      @username2872 Рік тому +10

      @@swordmonkey6635 why don't we adapt his terms and go with the flow...

    • @swordmonkey6635
      @swordmonkey6635 Рік тому +16

      @@username2872 Because people who are unfamiliar with Taoism will take the labels literally and then become confused or jump to conclusions based the image being painted inaccurately.
      It's easy for someone versed in Zhuangzi and Laozi's teachings to mentally replace the inaccurate word, but people new to Taoism don't have that going for them.

  • @Luk844
    @Luk844 Рік тому +111

    To be gentle as a warm hearted feather
    And as solid as concrete
    As ferocious as a lion
    Is an art within itself
    People mistake love and kindness with weakness
    For they don't have the wisdom to understand the immense strength it carries
    And the heart of the lion
    Is far more powerfull than its roar

  • @kistar3460
    @kistar3460 Рік тому +102

    ”Self-control is Strength, Right thought is Mastery, Calmness is Power” -James Allen

  • @mellow_melody
    @mellow_melody Рік тому +136

    This reminds me of the story of the Willow and the Oak. People tend to admire and want to emulate the great Oak tree because it is big and strong and sturdy, but, when a big storm comes, the Oak can be completely toppled, pulling its roots from the ground. Whereas during the same storm the Willow tree being supple and pliant will bend, sometimes almost all the way to the ground, but when the storm is over it springs right back up into place, thus surviving.

    • @Startupsandsushi
      @Startupsandsushi Рік тому +2

      Love it! 👏🏼 🌳

    • @mellow_melody
      @mellow_melody Рік тому

      @@Startupsandsushi thank you! 💙

    • @ethanwaugh8184
      @ethanwaugh8184 Рік тому +2

      Most definitely!
      "No one is more dangerously insane than one who is sane all the time: he is like a steel bridge without flexibility, and the order of his life is rigid and brittle." -Alan Watts

    • @Padraigp
      @Padraigp Рік тому +1

      Big willows also fall down and oaks when young are supple. So thats more a feature of being large ...also depends on the roots and the crowdedness of the forest ... if very crowded trees grow fast and tall and not strong like the oak and though young and thin they are quite sucseptible to storms. And if its an evergreen pine they have very shallow roots ..so a lot of the willows and hazel here will fall because they are planted too close together. The big oak trees often lose a branch but have withstood many hundreds of years storms lightning etc and generally pretty damn strong. One of the reasons a willow will regrow when toppled is not because it is soft and yeilding but because it has growth hormone throughout the whole tree so any peice of it left can grow roots again from a branch etc.

    • @mellow_melody
      @mellow_melody Рік тому

      @@Padraigp thanks for the dendrology lesson but it’s just a metaphor.

  • @AspieMemoires
    @AspieMemoires Рік тому +85

    The more I learn from many religions, philosophies, and just general wisdom throughout society as I travel.
    The more I find that the greatest philosophical wisdom for life there is, is to be balanced. Everything comes back to this. Not too little or too much of any one thing. Like the Yin and Yang. You have a little of yin in the yang and vice versa, and you have both flowing into each other. Balance.

    • @89CherryGirl
      @89CherryGirl Рік тому +1

      Bro. Bro. Bro. You just explained why I love the yin and the yang. Just brilliant!

    • @rairaur2234
      @rairaur2234 Рік тому +2

      Our whole universe, as do our minds, seeks a neutral, balanced state. By striving for balance we merely act as a continuation of the "will of nature", both spiritual and physical.
      Balance is standing on the dividing line between yin and yang

    • @jjstarrprod
      @jjstarrprod Рік тому +1

      If you put all the religious symbols side by side, the Taiji (yin&yang) is by very far the closest to the true nature of life. It's not antagonizing, it shows the duality of life and how it's a neverending dance. It tells a story everyone on the planet can understand at first glance without any context, all on its own in a single image.
      It's the perfect symbol.

    • @Wellwtfallthenamesaretooken
      @Wellwtfallthenamesaretooken 9 місяців тому

      @@jjstarrprod I b suken dek. 👩🏻‍🦱

  • @EyeToTheSkyPerth
    @EyeToTheSkyPerth Рік тому +22

    It takes much emotional strength to be soft and warm hearted in these times.

  • @savanahjoeckel9805
    @savanahjoeckel9805 Рік тому +12

    I’ve always been told “You’re too soft” and “you need to be more aggressive” even though I’m gentle by nature so hearing this is reassuring. For a lot of people it’s much more difficult to be nice rather than mean in this world sometimes. I always find great admiration in those who remain kind and calm even in the toughest of situations

    • @TKUA11
      @TKUA11 11 місяців тому

      It's cuz ppl don't know what too soft or too aggressive is nobody can be too soft I think but too aggressive is not good for anyone

  • @pepefroglive
    @pepefroglive Рік тому +41

    That example of the tiger is so true. When I was painting the deck in my backyard last summer. A neighbor dog kept barking at me for 10 minutes. I said nothing and continued to paint. The dog eventually stopped barking and adapted to me lol

  • @dianaverano7878
    @dianaverano7878 Рік тому +43

    Such wise words. I realized I want to imitate the qualities of water.
    "Nothing can compete with it"
    What I liked about the water is it seeks the lowest position. That is humility.
    Something I need to learn.
    I need to learn how to be more gentle.
    Listening & being humble.

  • @madmanmikey
    @madmanmikey Рік тому +43

    I would like to recommend the movie "Everything, Everywhere, All at Once" for a sample of this. The husband is disdained by his wife and through her journey she learns to see the benefit of his yin.
    Thank you for your videos.

    • @chavaliernsharps159
      @chavaliernsharps159 Рік тому +3

      Yes same with mom and daughter and mom and IRS agent, Great movie!

    • @jjstarrprod
      @jjstarrprod Рік тому +2

      This movie is the perfect modern illustration of Daoism to today's audience. That's why it's so powerful ! (If you look carefully, Jobu's symbol, the Bagel, is a Black circle with a white hole in it, while the Googly eye, the symbol of Waymond, is a white circle with a black dot in it. Sounds familiar ?)

  • @Rasputinska
    @Rasputinska Рік тому +71

    As a Finn just innocently listening to a video of Taoist teachings, I questioned my sanity for a long second when you suddenly started talking of my small country. Kiitos for bringing us up 🙏🏻🇫🇮

  • @KootFloris
    @KootFloris Рік тому +121

    As an educator I often try to teach students that insecurity is often a sign of sensitivity, read caring for who might be hurt by consequences. And I think the world needs much more sensitive leaders, not 'strong man' with tunnel vision.

    • @Donna-cc1kt
      @Donna-cc1kt Рік тому +10

      Well said. Thank you for opening that truth to your students.

    • @ayampencen6363
      @ayampencen6363 Рік тому +1

      👍👍👍👍

    • @Dowlphin
      @Dowlphin Рік тому +1

      It depends on how insecurity expresses itself, or doesn't. Many insecure people devote to strength, rigidity, in order to fit in and make it in the system. The true softness taught in a Daoist context comes from cultivation of internal power and leads to a feeling of security.
      Retreat from society and its clashing points is just another way of managing insecurity.
      Sensitivity can lead to confusion and thus insecurity, though, when one seeks blame in oneself because gaslighting influences by other insecure people are accepted.

    • @KootFloris
      @KootFloris Рік тому

      @@Dowlphin Great addition. For me, kindness, and awareness are helping to be soft, and the toughen up I see as a false dogma. But there are a few people who thrive on hard work and some who benefit from retreating. Those that retreat out of fear, avoidance should dig deeper.

    • @chriskaplan6109
      @chriskaplan6109 11 місяців тому +1

      Well-said. Thank you for bringing this more mindful and balanced perspective to your very important work. We need educators like you.

  • @leev1498
    @leev1498 Рік тому +52

    Wonderful clip. A lot of these philosophies, I have always known intrinsically since I was a child. But along the way I got fooled into thinking we must be the strongest, toughest, and most dominating to survive and thrive in a materialistic world. This is a great reminder that the latter is an illusion that can lead us to break, instead of bend.

  • @cliphound80
    @cliphound80 Рік тому +10

    Softness and soft power is the way to go.Become gently flowing water.Don’t project,force or try to dominate in life with you expectation of everything to go your way. Just let go and be gentle and let everything be. So much will come back to you! I am very physically strong as a person,but getting flexible now in my core as I practice various yoga asanas. I am accepting softness and embracing vulnerability now

  • @nyeonii
    @nyeonii Рік тому +7

    A strong man can win many fights, but a smart man never has to fight at all.

  • @Peter_Parker69
    @Peter_Parker69 Рік тому +132

    Your videos has inspired me for years man. The way you summarise huge philosophies into something short, enjoyable and very relevant for modern age is astounding!

    • @saadmanara7519
      @saadmanara7519 Рік тому +3

      @You dont like words yep
      switched from reading books to only watching this channel and it's worth it

    • @MakeMonneyOnlinne
      @MakeMonneyOnlinne 9 місяців тому +1

      He is God sent...

  • @TrueWisdom135
    @TrueWisdom135 2 місяці тому +1

    Totally agree! Sometimes, softness makes us win. Hardness destroys things.

  • @sallylemon5835
    @sallylemon5835 Рік тому +9

    Softness but with dominance. My softness makes people walk all over me because I tried to live an ideal world of "there's no hierarchy, we're all equal" so I feel bad to put myself above anyone even if I may be a manager, or teacher, and voila! My softness killed me that the only way to draw boundary is by being harsh, hard and project anger.

    • @wesleywallace4426
      @wesleywallace4426 Рік тому +6

      Softness is accepting is that some people are just bad or just unhealthy to be around and no amount of domination can change that. Being soft is to save your energy instead of constantly getting into fights.
      That anger could be better used pushing away your shyness and trying to establish new, healthy relationships.

  • @RiiDIi
    @RiiDIi Рік тому +42

    _I tried to imagine the most powerful superhero for a story. It was a boring story since nothing happened. The hero was so powerful as to solve all problems before they formed._
    Power and effort are inversely related. The most powerful exert the least effort.
    Fear belongs to those who must exert the most effort: They do not believe they possess the ability to exert sufficient effort in times of crisis.
    -Some recent shower thoughts I've had.
    Good video - thanks!

    • @recklessnotion1899
      @recklessnotion1899 Рік тому +4

      Check out Vinland Saga. Thank me later.

    • @sasagoro8783
      @sasagoro8783 Рік тому +1

      This is present in the anime, One Punch Man.

    • @KootFloris
      @KootFloris Рік тому +1

      That thought I had too. Hence we are also bombarded with dystopian and post apocalyptic futures, for they are full of drama and fights over limited resources. So what we need is a drama series in a great future, with human flaws. ;)

    • @magnamia
      @magnamia Рік тому

      Lovely! :)

    • @user-iu1ru1qz7u
      @user-iu1ru1qz7u Рік тому +1

      I disagree. In most cases, *power is the result of effort*.
      Michael Jordan trained harder than anyone he ever ran into. He isn't the goat because he was born more gifted than any man on earth(he wasn't). He is the goat because he took his natural ability and combined it with insane effort and determination, which in turn made him the most powerful.
      Millionaires and high achievers work insane hours to achieve and maintain their status, not less. The best artisans dedicate their life to their craft, they are not born sculpting Pietas with minimal effort.
      If you stick to fantasy, like in your superhero statement, sure, you could make a man into a god(like Superman), and thus he can do everything by default and it's an uninteresting story. That has nothing to do with reality.

  • @ShibaniSur
    @ShibaniSur Рік тому +6

    Being a soft hearted person was tough in the modern society until I started practicing Bhakti Yoga. Devotion channelizes my sensitivity so well. I feel proud and powerful with this sensitive heart ❤️
    Goal of my life is to purify myself more and more 😇

  • @pawankmrrai
    @pawankmrrai 8 місяців тому +1

    I hardly comment on any youtube video but this one is life changing. As a human being , we are trying hard to get best out of the situation , fighting for everything so that we could get ahead of others. The entire education system right from our childhood force us into this unending loop of belief where comparison with others become a new normal. But this video changed my decade old belief that strength is not the only answer to navigate the complexities of life infact its just not sustainable in the long run , its softness ..being flexible and accommodating is the secret for a sustainable and content life. Thank you Einzelganger for teaching me the importance of being like water , "seek the lowest yet be the most important".

  • @markisaki979
    @markisaki979 Рік тому +43

    Wait, so I'm basically living like a Finnish prisoner? 😂
    Jokes aside, I really love your content. I'd love to see you do a video on Lagom, the Swedish principle of 'just enough'.

  • @dirtyunclehubert
    @dirtyunclehubert Рік тому +36

    all my life, "youre so insecure, bah, haha, youre such a softie!"
    these character traits made me endure so much more than the other guys, and that allowed me to develop so much deeper insights and lessons...i like to be considered weak. isnt it also mentioned by sun tzu, that one should feign weakness?

    • @Aldarinn
      @Aldarinn Рік тому +13

      Appear weak when you are strong. Appear strong when you are weak

    • @kevinmills1318
      @kevinmills1318 Рік тому +4

      In business, some wisdom I once heard was-
      Complain about business when you're doing well, and boast about business when you are struggling
      It is a psychosocial technique, however - to properly realign yourself, and strike a balance to manifest more positivity.

  • @Youtube_surfer_
    @Youtube_surfer_ Рік тому +50

    In my opinion weakness and softness are two different things.

    • @amendtheman
      @amendtheman Рік тому +1

      Fear and Excitement, the same. Love and Hate, truly the same. Weakness in its own perspective is in fact strength, and softness is just the inverse of hardness, not really made of anything different, just different form

    • @silrana7166
      @silrana7166 7 місяців тому

      I agree. Strength or power is the capacity one has to do something; the control, mastery of it. Through hardness, this is standing firm and remaining chin up when appropriate, a degree of rigidity, hardlining. Through softness, this is control and mastery by being adaptable, flexible and more thoughtful. This isn’t flabbiness, it’s water. Both softness and hardness comprise strength. Both require active engagement and being, softness is active because it is a purposeful means of being (through ironically, it’s accomplished by ‘not trying’; but this itself is active). Softness and hardness are used when it is needed. Complete clarity is here.
      Weakness, on the other hand, denotes little to no capacity one has to BE in any purposeful way; no control, no mastery, no focused intent. Weakness is surrendering your choices to the whims of others and calling it fate. It is entirely passive, flabby, and involves remaining in delusion and being deluded; no clarity.

  • @1957fordold
    @1957fordold Рік тому +8

    Don't mistake kindness for weakness. Everyone has a fight inside them.

  • @happysmurfette
    @happysmurfette Рік тому +15

    Beautiful✨🦋 just what I needed to hear in creating a better bond with an elderly who’s been very hostile, bitter, and angry…I’ll come from a place of love, compassion, understanding and lots & lottts of patience😊 which will in return help me to grow and learn🙏🏼
    I appreciate this content so much 🙌🙌 Thank you!!

  • @improvingmyself7410
    @improvingmyself7410 Рік тому +9

    This is one of your best videos I would say. I have been criticized for being soft when asking questions or being silent but you proved those wrong who criticized me by explaining that scenario in this video. Also now I am able to relate how to 'fit in' by being more adaptable like water as said by you while explaining the 'survival of the fittest' part. Thanks for this masterpiece.

  • @TheRevelationTheRevolution
    @TheRevelationTheRevolution Рік тому +7

    It’s become easier to be quiet when I have knowledge but to ask questions to get more knowledge is something I’ll have to do in the future :) thanks for this !

  • @JaysonT1
    @JaysonT1 Рік тому +3

    I'm not religious but the same is stated in the Bible; "The race is not won to the strong and the swift but to those who endure". As in resilience.

  • @skyler1469
    @skyler1469 Рік тому +1

    Soft and calm yet able to dominate and conquer what i desire, but keeping that impulse in check is what strive to become

  • @kosherre6243
    @kosherre6243 Рік тому +2

    Be malleable but unbreakable. Be able to bend but not snap.
    Rigidity and softness are best together in moderation.

  • @saahilh.3141
    @saahilh.3141 Місяць тому

    Vulnerability is power as it helps you connect with the hidden parts of yourself and accept yourself more freely! It is to be embraced and not run away from!

  • @loggedinasguest7830
    @loggedinasguest7830 Рік тому +3

    Watching your video indeed reminded me of an old story I once encountered about an oak tree engaging with a swamp reed in a debate. The oak mocks the reed for being small and feeble while boasting that itself, is strong and firmly rooted to the ground, even in times of storm.
    Indeed, a storm does come and the oak stands, as expected, and the reed is swayed. The storm grows stronger and stronger. Eventually, though, the oak loses its ground and falls to the ground, roots and all, whereas the reed, though feeble, retained its stance and unscathed.
    Watching this video did help me establish the connection between these two outlooks, but I also understood that true power doesn't originate from the widely accepted definition of strength, but from the fact that having true strength arises from a manifestation of your identity and a belief on yourself.

  • @rairaur2234
    @rairaur2234 Рік тому +2

    Bruce Lee, one of the greatest martial artists of our recent history, taught us to "be water". All true strength is founded on softness.
    Gojyu-ryu, one of the main schools of karate, literally means "firm-soft style".
    Be like water, and you will be able to be strong in times of need.

  • @sasagoro8783
    @sasagoro8783 Рік тому +10

    Amazing. I was reflecting about this earlier today. The hard and the soft are as the Tao, they complement each other, you can' t choose one over the other. It is a delicate balance, to live well, one has to know when to be hard and when to be soft. Thank you once more. Einzelganger.

    • @martinesejour3361
      @martinesejour3361 Рік тому +1

      Yes, it’s called common sense which most people lack. At times i think that even if you have a P.h.D., but lack common sense you’re doing a disservice to our planet.

    • @SkyScannerBtown
      @SkyScannerBtown Рік тому

      Hi Can you give an example of having to be hard please? Thanks a lot

    • @sasagoro8783
      @sasagoro8783 Рік тому

      @@SkyScannerBtown Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself, for example you shouldn't put up with disrespectful and nasty people but rather cut ties with them.

    • @SkyScannerBtown
      @SkyScannerBtown Рік тому

      Thanks. I usually just let them throw there best punches as nothing ever lands. Then will try to avoid seeing them

  • @qqwertazsx06
    @qqwertazsx06 Рік тому +23

    the content is very well explained, translated, and delivered. Keep up the good work!

  • @nachohtv59
    @nachohtv59 Рік тому +3

    i really needed to hear this right now in my life, thanks for uploading so often!

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    This is still my favorite youtube channel EVER since I've discovered it!

  • @ryates16
    @ryates16 Рік тому +4

    I love all your videos, but the Taoist philosophy ones are my favorite. Thank you!

  • @sittingfrogleg
    @sittingfrogleg Рік тому +1

    This was likely the inspiration for Tarkovsky who wrote this for his film “Stalker”:
    “Let them be helpless like children, because weakness is a great thing, and strength is nothing. When a man is just born, he is weak and flexible. When he dies, he is hard and insensitive. When a tree is growing, it's tender and pliant. But when it's dry and hard, it dies. Hardness and strength are death's companions. Pliancy and weakness are expressions of the freshness of being. Because what has hardened will never win.”

  • @jaxtraw72
    @jaxtraw72 Рік тому +5

    You have an uncanny knack of creating and publishing something that I need to hear at that moment I need it. Many 🙏

  • @roblegeny9511
    @roblegeny9511 Рік тому +2

    This is excellent information have used both approaches ruined my first career being using what I thought was my strength came to this realization that if I’m lowest and help full with out imposing my knowledge or will just let go and help I never made more positive work relationships that people would do anything to help. Stay humble which Is not always easy. Just be a helper for good. Good for goodness sake’s is my motto. Love life.

  • @BaneBurden
    @BaneBurden Рік тому +1

    I absolutely love your videos, they have helped me more than words could possibly express. Thank you so much. ❤️

  • @nicomarti13
    @nicomarti13 Рік тому +1

    Great video. Made me think of Jon Gomm's line "weakness is not your weakness"

  • @89CherryGirl
    @89CherryGirl Рік тому

    (I'm only halfway through the video so that's why my expressions won't be accurate, but I needed to express myself)
    In my previous relationship, the guy I was with used to say that we were complete opposites. He always said that he was strong, and that I was weak. He'd also say I'm delicate (even though physically I'm on the bigger side), and that he'd make me strong... But never told me how*.
    I always thought that deep within, I'm a strong person. I always thought that despite everything, I always pull myself out of things and places. I though of myself as someone resilient. But him calling me weak when I'd cry when I was upset, or very quiet when I was annoyed, or expressed my emotions and concerns, well, I questioned myself to the core.
    This video really confirms the inner truth I always had. Instead of being indifferent when facing situations, I may engage more in them. Instead of easily pulling an intimidating appearance, I may have it harder to do so. Instead of using threats or beneficial premises ("you're the one who hurt me in the first place, you should be apologizing to me"), I like to understand the other party and work for a win-win need satisfaction situation. But all of that, despite everything, doesn't mean I'm weak. I got this, but my own way. Déjame rodar a mi bola!
    * It's funny because things got pretty twisted and he ended up threatening, scaring, spying, sabotaging and blackmailing me. I had a really, really, really hard time. I learned a lot. Specially that I got through that, and my way was actually harder. But hey, I got through it. I'm strong. And you too.

  • @yul7960
    @yul7960 11 місяців тому

    "Change is life and life is change" - I like that :)

  • @avawilliams4227
    @avawilliams4227 Рік тому +1

    Perfect timing for this message. Thank you.

  • @luisrubenreyesflores7005
    @luisrubenreyesflores7005 Рік тому +2

    In my opinion, this has been the best video I've seen in your channel, loved it, thank you

  • @MeditativeMuse
    @MeditativeMuse Рік тому +3

    Beautiful message. 💜

  • @Jonathan-rm6kt
    @Jonathan-rm6kt Рік тому +1

    I can’t stop thinking that the concept of power through softness in Daoism is related to the great stoics. Being flexible implies faith that you can attain a positive outcome, regardless of the path taken.

  • @wuweiJ
    @wuweiJ Рік тому +2

    This is just what I needed to hear this morning, thanks!

  • @stuti4457
    @stuti4457 Рік тому +6

    this was amazing! changed my perspective rather, I've always looked at this characteristic in me as a weakness , something that needed to be overcome but learnt it must be embraced.

  • @drbinoculars
    @drbinoculars Рік тому +4

    It’s almost as though something lead me here. How wonderful.

  • @itzajdmting
    @itzajdmting Рік тому

    Excellent reasoning and sharing of wisdom once again.... I almost feel like I sigh with relief with every new video of yours I watch, as a few pounds of life's pressures lift from my shoulders. Thank you.

  • @gayu8695
    @gayu8695 Рік тому +1

    Wow, this is the best explanation of this concept that I've ever heard. Thank you!

  • @nunya722
    @nunya722 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for this video. I find myself relinquishing to strength when I’m scared, and recently, forgetting to appreciate my softness. I’m grateful for my resilience and I’ll strive to continue sharing unconditional love with my softness. Sending you peace, restorative justice, and enduring faith ❤ -from wind seeking ocean

  • @JulienCHAMPOL
    @JulienCHAMPOL Рік тому

    Thank you so much for the knowledge you share about philosophy, watching your videos always brings me peace !

  • @nitinkumar6913
    @nitinkumar6913 Рік тому +8

    Thanks for this amazing video. This was an enlightened experience 😃🙏.

  • @reggaespiritdance
    @reggaespiritdance Рік тому +2

    Always a pleasure to hear such wise words. 🙏🏻

  • @arvindahiremath9896
    @arvindahiremath9896 Рік тому +2

    I loved your content and I watched all your videos,your videos all truly perished my all of my pain and cherished my heart

  • @chausaaanglwi2117
    @chausaaanglwi2117 Рік тому

    Your videos always give me a lesson to learn while living through life! So thank you 🙇💚

  • @brandonking3036
    @brandonking3036 Рік тому +3

    Great lesson. Very well laid out. This will inspire many.

  • @c.galindo9639
    @c.galindo9639 Рік тому +1

    Very nice. It is true that whatever puts out lots of force can have it deflected upon itself and it is also true that something that can adapt without force really can overcome anything

  • @stevethomas9320
    @stevethomas9320 Рік тому

    Just what I needed this morning. Thank you

  • @omarsabeur9039
    @omarsabeur9039 Рік тому +3

    Compassion is true strength

  • @weebler
    @weebler 5 місяців тому

    Man! I freaking LOVE your videos. I watch all of them over and over learning and absorbing your lessons about philosophy. And I am adding these lessons to my life. Thank you! 9:30

  • @denzelsugayan432
    @denzelsugayan432 Рік тому

    this is such a great video. as a person who is not strong enough in some ways, this gave me hope that being soft doesn't equate being weak. i find being soft calming, and easy to understand people.

  • @gefginn3699
    @gefginn3699 Рік тому +1

    Thank you so much for sharing this post. I appreciate this reminder of truth. 🤩

  • @yaksauce
    @yaksauce Рік тому +1

    Powerfull insight in a timely manner, is sudden wisdom and what the world needs now! “The rigid will break, the soft and yielding will overcome.” Yoda could not do better.
    Indeed, soft, gentle Water is the most potent element in the Universe that not only wears-away rock, crumbles mountains, douses fire, churns wind, and permeates all living things, but water is a rare compound that also transmutes states of matter (solid crystal to liquid, liquid to vapor to solid crystal, and repeat) in cyclic manner and has done so for countless eons. Water not only sustains Life but is Life itself. As Bruce Lee once said, “Be water my friend”.
    Monkey Mind is the default mind-program of our species that operates in the background of every person on the planet and is our own worst enemy, if not only to our Gaia planet, a home and refuge to us all.
    Laws, religions, and business models were all created in the context of Monkey Mind. Indeed, Business Mind is Monkey Mind on full display.
    If there was a singular cause for ALL the problems in this world, undoubtedly it is Monkey Mind. It is the default program of our species (dogs just know how to be dogs, elephants just know how to be elephants, etc) and this program operates in the background of every person … from peasants to presidents, from popes to professors, from doctors to prisoners, and so on for eons past.
    The 3 Elements of Monkey Mind were elucidated by ancient Hindu and Buddhist philosophers with texts dating back 5000 years. Many monkey habitats have thrived throughout Asia and make easy subjects to observe and investigate. In contrast, the 3 Abrahamic religions were conceived in regions barren of simian/monkeys/apes and for the few that existed there in those times were displayed as exotic curiosities and kept as imprisoned pets. Therefore, to the detriment of succeeding civilizations, Abrahamic religions missed out on key understandings of, “who are we” and thus synthesized mythologies based on magical thinking and story telling to enslave the minds of many. But Truth, just like the sun and the moon, cannot remain hidden!
    The 3 Elements of Monkey Mind are common to many other animals on this Planet of the Apes, however, through specific practices it is possible to breakthrough our default program and attain enlightenment (many in throughout history have). Past civilizations attempted to elevate society above our feces-flinging ancestors, but had limited success. And so, the 3 Elements are:
    1) Limitless Greed - nothing is enough for us, especially if it is pleasurable to the senses or rewarding to ego. The popular idea that ‘greed is good’ has many fans. Ex: Got a pay raise? Not enough, want more! Enjoyed sexy time? Not enough, want more! Feeling powerful with a gun? Not enough, need more power! Etcetera ad nauseam.
    2) Tireless Fear - Nothing in life is certain, except uncertainty. Uncertainty is certain and indeed, is a Law of Physics. One can plan, scheme, organize, rehearse, but tomorrow is still uncertain. Fear is the result of uncertainty and inability to control variables beyond one’s reach. Fear is crippling and keeps people from living life fully and maintaining happiness. Governments and businesses (insurance industry in particularly) understand and exploit peoples’ fears to enslave and dominate their patrons.
    3) Impassive Dominance - monkeys seek the highest position in the trees, especially when under threat, to get ‘above it all’. People ambitiously seek the supreme by reaching and grasping for higher social status (fame), higher career positions, higher educational degrees, higher athletic achievements, higher domicile dwellings (skyscrapers), higher highs, etcetera ad nauseam, all believing it will reduce their suffering but often has the opposite effect!
    These 3 Elements (Limitless Greed, Tireless Fear, and Impassive Dominance) have not been sufficiently managed by the ancients(if no-one’s teaching it then no-one knows it) and so today’s civilization continues to bring suffering to itself and the planet and all life living on it. In fact, the only thing man-kind has mastered is imprisonment! Man can cage, bottle, ensnare, entrap, enslave, mostly anything his Monkey Mind desires with few exceptions.
    However, through practicing the 3 Virtues of Human Mind, we could transform suffering into happiness. The 3 Virtues of Human Mind are:
    1) Limitless Generosity - you will always have more than another in need and kindness does not cost anything. Practicing limitless generosity alone can generate an abundance of positive merit (good Karma) to turn the Wheel of Becoming. It is a powerful practice that does not have involve money, but just being helpful to others - the definition of Human Being is sufficient. To the giver, comes the fullness of life. To the greedy, just an empty hand.
    2) Tireless Trust - trust is the foundation of human civilization (past-present-future(?)). Trust forms the basis for all relationships. It builds confidence and instills security. Trust implies an understanding that we are all same, with same circumstances and our survival depends on our trust. “Trust yourself, Trust Others, Trust God” is a wonderful book for everyone with trust issues or without! Most importantly Trust dispels Fear and opens a world of possibilities! Do not fear your enemy, for he is your greatest teacher!
    3) Passive Abiding - dominance is rigid and unyielding, therefore subject to fracturing and breaking. Abiding is soft and conforming, like water. Our bodies are 70-80% water, for it is the most powerful element in the universe, yet it is soft and abiding. Water conforms to its’ surroundings, seeks its’ own level, extinguishes fires, wears away rock, moves the wind, permeates all life, and transmutes states of matter (from solid, to liquid, to vapor) in cyclic forms. Water gives life! If it isn’t Life itself! Just get with the flow and as Bruce Lee famously said, “Be Water, my friend”!
    Practicing these 3 Virtues causes a breakthrough in Monkey Mind and can transform this planet’s tragic history. But it can not be forced or indoctrinated because truth speaks for itself. As Michael Jackson once sang in “Man in the Mirror”, “… that’s why I’m starting with me!” It is more than a catchy tune, but profoundly insightful and effective! (Though, it is about Dharma and not mutilation of genitalia)!
    The essence of our being is after all pure energy, that according to I. Newton, is neither created nor destroyed, only transferred or transformed. We are all compounded aggregates genetically composed of 25% mommy, 25% daddy, and 50% Creator/God/DivineLight/Allah/Ra/Jeweh/GalacticCenter/etc. The DarkSide obfuscated this ancient knowledge long ago when we were still a feces-flinging race and had constructed a system of slavery that has been operating for many eons (2500 years) upto today. To Team Dark, true Liberation is a threat to the business model of systemic exploitation, i.e. slavery, today known as Capitalism. Keeping the masses drunk on greed, consumerism, and kept ignorant to the Universal within has yielded Team Dark large profits with little effort. Truth is Liberating and cannot remain hidden. Karma is the Great Equalizer that brings balance to all things, from macro to micro, throughout all solar systems and galaxies in the cosmos. Simply put, Karma (Natural Law) rewards wise action and punishes ignorant ones. Anger, hatred, and greed are the three poisons that Monkey Mind thrives upon and thus generates self-inflicted suffering. But it doesn’t have to be that way and transforming Monkey Mind to Human Being Mind yields epic spiritual experiences.
    There is no alternative to our Gaia Earth and we must all learn to coexist in unity. The longer we live, the more we learn. And Gaia has much to teach. H. Sapiens divorced themselves from Nature long ago and missed teaching opportunities so necessary to honor the gift of Life! Like all rivers empty into the oceans, we too return to what we create for our future selves. We should live The Way of Water!
    ✌🏼🌞🙏🏼 🐝

  • @ChessMasteryOfficial
    @ChessMasteryOfficial Рік тому +3

    Thank you for the video and thank you for your last book. It's wonderful.

  • @dttdaniel5435
    @dttdaniel5435 Рік тому +2

    That was refreshing and well presented 🙏🏼

  • @user-bs1zg9nk3g
    @user-bs1zg9nk3g Рік тому

    This is one of the most challenging topics in Taoism. I feel like it's easy to misunderstand it.
    To put it in the simple statements, I believe Taoism simply making this points:
    You don't have to get more resources to have more of them, you can just spend them more economically. Both positions have pros and cones. I can't agree with the notions it's always best to spend less than to get more, albeit the former is in general more sustainable. You can imagine to men, big one and small one, in the island with limited food. Small will require less food, but the big one can the small one food. So it's obvious in this simple situation it's better to be the strong one. You don't always have space to run. You don't always have room for negotiations, pleas or coexistence.
    But it is, undoubtedly, a good thing to have less needs and to avoid any restriction to your movement. The Taoism offers us a good insight on how you can become more powerful by seemingly becoming weaker and smaller. You don't have to always grow.
    And, well, all the talk about moving with the flow and being soft and flexible, it's just a fancy way of telling that prioritisation, ability to spend your energy in smarter, less "expensive" in terms of resources ways are useful tools in achieving your goals, if you can get results in this way.
    And, finally, it's important to pick your goals wisely. Because you won't last long if you try to die on every hill you come across. A guy who constantly fights will sooner or later be finished with crippling injuries

  • @blanckieification
    @blanckieification 2 місяці тому

    👍"change is life and life is change".

  • @smallvillepodbr3
    @smallvillepodbr3 Рік тому

    Great knowledge. I hope to be able to put it into practice. Thanks for the video.

  • @Deicy55
    @Deicy55 Рік тому +2

    Awesome video!! 🤗👍🏽 It's so great to realize that my so called 'weakness' is actually flexibility and ability to adapt!! 🤩🎉🎊👏🏽💛💙❤️

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    @jeanettebroady866 11 місяців тому

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    @malinskytt9242 Рік тому

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    @jobkrumeich2566 Рік тому

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    @drewford3205 Рік тому +1

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    @johnaseffa1166 Рік тому +2

    I always love this moment of tao

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