Coping VS Thriving - The #1 Distinction That DEFINES Your Life (Fix This)
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Owen Cook Breaks Down The #1 Distinction That DEFINES Your Life! A Step By Step Guide On How To Move From A Coping Paradigm To A Thriving Paradigm. Do You Have What It Takes?
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“YOU CANT CHANGE EMOTION WITH LOGIC, YOU CHANGE EMOTION WITH ACTION”
Thanks 🙏
Thanks for the props guys. I appreciate it! The video of Luke I refer to in this video is ua-cam.com/video/Fdo7DGAqSdA/v-deo.html -Tyler
ty for the amazing insights!
Any top books on source energy and meditation? what were the most impactful for you?
Anything that comes out of your mouth Tyler is Fucken gold. Keep being awesome.
Hey dude, how are you doing?
Hey Tyler) I'd love to work for you!
rsdfreetour thank you Tyler this is what I feel like I needed
Owen's talking about operating from the God Frequency or (I AM) frequency. Unadulterated, unconditional love to everyone, without expecting anything in return. It's a magical feeling, once you get there
D Weez that was beautiful D Weez
It's hard to reach his level but man does his energy and positivity feel good!
god frequency doesnt fuck semi drunk semi dumb chicks. thats not godly.
Not hard at all actually u just cloud it and make it hard on yourself.
any book reccomendations bro?
the best 2 things I've done in my life undoubtedly, have learned english, and have met RSD.
20:15 "when you're in coping, you need to believe the world is an unfair and stranger against him _to cope!_ "
24:10 sometimes in life you're so needy and screaming so loud that no one can hear you; you're tuned out.
38:50 coping versus thriving -- you want to share. Like the guy who everyone in the room listens to. It almost comes from "another place"
40:24 by becoming "less" you become more. The stressed taxi driver was "more" -- he's also carrying baggage and pain into the situation
41:08 you change emotions with action, not logic. That's how you move from coping
42:11 walk with her. You might hang back. You feel into the situation.
46:24 your mind should be trained and in a mindset to actually appreciate the thing you're after.
54:08 you have to be open to receiving (it's not just giving 80%, you need to be able to recharge and build up, and you can give more)
56:40 if you're sharing so much, then how does it add more energy? Because the energy is coming from source. I'm just guiding the energy; it's flowing through. You're actually doing better than the typical way, too
57:44 this may be pseudo-sciency, but it's a point of reference about the ideal. Think through for yourself
RSD... I actually think you guys might be curing the depression I've had for years....
You are in good company friend
@Roland tell me about it 😅
Went the opposite. Cured my anxiety
Gratitude is the most important energy vibration because it's love. For those people who are just coping they must at least mechanically say thank you for something good that comes their ways and there are Many good things that come your ways all the time but most people don't even recognize those good things because they are tuned in to unempowerment. Gratitude is Empowerment. Practice this at least mechanically and see what happens. For the haters out there if you want to say something nasty to retaliate for someone else making you feel jealous, envious or ashamed (unintentionally) then do Not react with the usual nastiness. Then see what happens in you if you don't give in to the knee jerk reaction. Look within your own mind instead and allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling in that moment. If you do that tears will flow and then you are in the now moment and that is the path of healing. Forget about shame and pride those are old stories from your parents that mean nothing at all. Tune into the now moment and allow the other person to be happy. I have seen the anger towards me Numerous times in chat rooms because they always write what they think with the incognito account. They lash out at me for being Happy as if I didn't deserve to be happy. Everybody Deserves to be happy! And you deserve to be happy. Do Not lash out and instead sit or stand with that emotion that wants to speak to you. End the resistance to the past trauma. Allow the raw emotion to come up and that is not about the other person who innocently happened to trigger your pain. This is about You so seize the moment and work with that and feel that past pain and cry with it. Then you are flowing with the now moment and it is Freedom.
Owen this was one of the greatest videos yet. Thank you.
EvilAlbear lol ya ty, its a great one.
at first i was like "is that tyler durden?" then i was like "no thats joe rogan wtf " xD
I don't comment on videos much but this whole PUA life skill has taught me how to converse with not just women, but with strangers, my coworkers, my classmates, etc. When people discourage PUA I don't get it at all. I use to be a really shy guy until I learned about PUA. Now it seems like all I'm doing this year is hanging out with friends and girls that I meet in real life. I've gotten girls numbers, took pictures with models, but yet I still can't get one simple date lol. But it's fun and a lot of learning experience watching these videos not only from RSD but from simple pickup and other pickup artists. My life use to be depressing but now I'm truly happy even if the 20+ girls on my phone blew me off or never texted me back.
Any luck since? If not hang in there player
Quick summary of important statements at the beginning
keep in mind:
As a person you are already fulfilled and complete and you doesn't need something from the outside
answer yourself:
1. How do I add value to a situation
2. How do I offer positive emotions
3. How do I feel into situations, recognize whats needed and offer
These attitudes will let you evolve a "natural instinct" to feel into every social situation..!
thank you
Perfectly sumarised!
this is one of those videos that I will watch at least 4 times to fully digest/internalize it. One of the best speeches Owen has made in my opinion
entermusic93 be present. there ya go. no need to watch 4 times
ladev91 thanks maing
How you doing 7 years later? Lol
Thank you so much for these man. It's funny I avoided your videos when I was in coping. For a long time. I wouldn't even start to watch them. That's when I backslided and relapsed big time. I'm just now coming back into thriving and it's the right thing to do, it's obvious when I'm in it. But it's also a stumbling recovery. So anybody reading this know that coming out of coping and into joy is not going to be a smooth and perfect transition. You can't go from 0-100 and stay there permanently. You will relapse, you will backslide. Just keep waking up and coming back to positivity as much as you can. Videos like these are a godsend for helping to do that.
In other words don't expect recovery and going into thriving to be 100% smooth and perfect without mistakes or backsliding. Acknowledging that helps me keep taking action instead of giving up.
1234kingconan Dude, I used to do the exact same thing. During times of darkness in my life I would avoid these videos, like I was a vampire avoiding light. I almost cringed when they would come up in the related videos.
Can relate man, couldn't bear to look at anything like this or do anything productive. So easy to get distracted and forget what's important.
Can't thank Tyler and RSD enough for everything they do, pick-up or not related
"It's funny I avoided your videos when I was in coping."
The same for me, man.
Epic! The Gandalf of self-development :)
Mario Tomic ol
santa claus
was waiting for this mario tomic comment
It do be fact tho
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I'm a frenchgirl, but I finnd your videos so intersting and amazing.
Love from France 💙
Maignan Claire Who lies more men or women?
H-hey you two best friends?
I can only stay a second; I have my friends here
My sister just bought this poster of David Bowie. Is that weird? He's dead! Do girls like dead men?
chingu69 *a little too blue
Love the latest version of Tyler. He is physically embodying all of his teachings. And he's so in tune, it results in super clear and enlightening impromptu-speeches. It's amazing.
How so?
Woah. I was able to cook dinner and listen to this, and
receive it so well. His smoothness and
vocal cadence just seems to hum information from the ear to the brain, which
holds onto it longer than most people’s words.
Plus, the build up and structure to how Tyler orders his points. Not only that, but
Tyler, I have to thank you because my dishwasher just broke recently and
scrubbing all the dishes I had to catch up seemed like torture at first glance,
but time just flew by.. Almost as if I didn’t have to wipe a soap scrubber back
and forth 150-200 times.
This video put me in a pretty good mood; I’m just going to
keep on typing. The red flashlight
through the green filter is crazy to think about. And for a split second after
hearing that, I was able to have a quick “That’s So Raven” glance, thinking of
times where I were super numb and flickering between green and red. Pretty much in third person. Extraordinary,
yet faintly painful. Also, that video
with Luke promoting Social Circle
was great. I’ve seen Dan’s Instagram and I would see him in small appearances
on Lukes snapchat but still crazy to get enough time to see the vibe and feel out
the chill session. Evenly, a great way to start explaining the coping vs
thriving idea. By the way Luke, if I weren’t
saving up for new camera equipment and a drone I totally would have bought it
by now. My buddy and I do this meet up
every Monday at the local Starbucks with a bunch of Au Pairs, owed to many of
your social circle concepts. It really
is insane how effortless the conversations become.. the momentum and confidence
I feel after is becoming normal. They created a Facebook group which is now
bumping, bringing in many new Au Pairs within a 10 mile living radius every
Monday. Getting invited into multiple Whatsapp
groups, getting “no big deal” phone numbers, going from table to table, couch
to couch chatting, personal mini dates and looking in hindsight.. it’s so
surreal to me. Many of which I
subconsciously learned from all your videos, and the actions. Not that I think
about them in the flowy moments, but at certain times, I can now surge into a mindset
frame that mimics and resembles yours, Owen’s, Julien’s, Max’s, Jeffy’s,
Madison’s energy. Just from watching the
videos you and your team have consecutively added over the years. Then, later, being able to pull that
information and follow the leader, so to speak. I never thought about it as in depth as I am
now, which is a real chin stroker. 2 years ago, if I woke up and snapped my
fingers, an average Monday would not look the way it does now. Much thanks to the change you guys fountained
over me. And these are just from what I’ve seen from the free videos you gave
online, so I can’t imagine after I buy the products, let alone a boot camp.
Hovering over a quick
dark point regarding coping, it’s sad to say in the beginning I was debating
just shutting off the video because of the one guy in the audience answering,
responding, and talking over Tyler.
I’m so glad I snapped myself awake again.
I would have let one person get in the way of being able to soak up loads
of value. I think all the 2-7 minute
CNN, Fox, PBS, and MSNBC politic videos I was watching the past few weeks just
put me in this apathetic numbness on UA-cam.
Making it physically hard to watch your video at first because I was
just so caught up in the yo-yo emotion of “give me what I want to see now”
vibe. I can see the correlation to
watching your videos regularly and how much I consciously think about my
actions, how much I share in my classrooms, and exertion of energy. Super powerful stuff. Incredible. The foggy coat has left my eye..nudging
closer every day to keeping my visions focused and clear.
P.S. the titty lick and boob grab during the “Tyler!” chant… YES
Ryan Lesko Holy shit dude
Ryan Lesko Pretty good writing tho
im playing ego shooter survival game and receiving it easily. its awesome. i have to add, i play really casually just for the funs and my main brain is listening
I cannot believe this was released in 2016...I remember exactly where i was when i first watched it and it really moved me at that time. Over 3 years later i still think about these concepts and look at life through the lens Owen describes here. The coping/thriving ideas are some of your best material and its great to see you revisiting these topics in more recent vids. love it, never stop. Appreciate you man.
Man i've been following you for two years and i'm finally starting to get it! I feel like a strong work ethic as opposed to laziness is the main difference between coping and thriving!
I'm watching this video while doing a workout at home. I will be sitting soon to eat an awesome healthy meal while texting the few amazing girls i'm seeing right now. Also sending/ receiving funny texts from the great friends i made along this journey. After the food i will be working on my side business( i work 9-5) that im trying to grow. I'm saying this just to show that its an ecosystem its not abt going out and trying to get girls its about living a life of your own design with plenty of choices. FREEDOM.
Btw its crazy how accurate the shit youre talking abt in the video is i can't beleive its actually free. Thanks a lot brother for everythinv you taught me and everything you do i appreciate you and im soo grateful for your virtual mentorship. I hope to see you in person someday! All the best to you and all your team! Keep pimpin 😆
i started shaking when he said we have the coping mechanism to save energy in times of scarcity. shit hit sooooo hard.
TYLER IS BEYOND!!!! all other instructors. LITERALLY BEYOND!! Years of instructing paying off.
Dominicanbulk Agree Owen/Tyler is a Zen Master. The man is in a class all of his own.
Dominicanbulk
It's the beard
i want to like the video, but i heard disliking the video is how you show you really like it. im torn on how to actually show my appreciation for the video
pleure retroish just hit like lol
lmaoo
couldn't find the video u got a link ?
I disliked this comment hehe
like it because you are thriving not coping! THRIIIIIIIIVEEEE spread the love to the universe.
Tyler,
Im in Business and the same principals apply. I see a lot of people struggle to realise this mentality can be adopted to be great at anything in life.
ONE OF THE BEST VIDEO's ON UA-cam!
I think some negativity can be good as it's an energy that propels me out of coping and following society's expectations, gets me to overcome fear and danger and risk death etc. to do what I want and be how I want. That negativity can just be a form of courageous energy.
For a while of being in a relationship, I didn't want to hear advice from pickup/self-development teachers anymore. I thought it would be unfaithful or wouldn't resonate with me. I unsubscribed from a lot of RSD stuff I watched religiously. I decided to watch this video not expecting to enjoy it, but here I am halfway through, and I am feeling this amazing sense of inspiration and positivity that I have always gotten from these long Tyler videos. I think I needed to hear this performance/education on thriving because stress has put me into some coping lately. I feel like this thriving mentality and vibe that Owen is getting into here is applicable to so many areas of life in besides pickup. I think if I really get being present and thriving down, it will help me in my relationship, school, my future career, and anything else the future may hold. I'm not trying to flatter necessarily or suck up to anyone. I just soak up a lot of positive energy from watching these videos and felt the need to express that, as well as say Thank You to Owen and the RSD team for mastering the art of inspiration/motivation and using it to help people for free.
Every new video is like a refined version of a previous one. This is not a critic but a compliment. It's like Owen is rewriting a book many times and this one is one step closer to perfection. And this stuff needs to be eared many times.
Hermetic Wisdom masquerading as pick up technique. Love it.
Another useful way to think about coping vs thriving is “survival-focused mode” (coping) vs “possibilities-focused mode”! I hope that helps this concept land a little better for at least a couple of you lol, it helped me at least.
I started this content/journey about 3 years ago and your teachings really saved me get back up out of a rut recently and I couldnt have done it without you. I'm in momentum again! Thanks beyond thanks and much love.
Tyler you have changed my life in so many ways. Thanks to you I can sit in the train and truly join the sight again thinking about all the wonderful obstacles I had to climb over in order to be stronger and where I am as a man today.
I know I still have a lot to learn, but at least I am coming from a positive and happy frame having a good time almost anywhere I go, while I used to be so addicted to stimulation and suffered from depression.
Thank you so much!
this video and the "power through the river to the mountain of gold" are the best videos, they're all you'll ever need
2 Years ago I have started watching your videos beacuse I wanted to be better with women. After this video i have realized that now I am not only some better pick up guy...... I am the better person. Thanks to you. Always when i cant find clue what is going on with my emotions or why am I acting weird I go watch your video and you give me the answer. Dude I think you are the philosopher of 21st century your speeches are amazing. You are big inspiration for me. Thank you my brother. Thank you for everything.
Adding up all the content combined. i have picked up a few lessons so far
1. Take action
2. Handle your own emotion
3. Be a good person in general, then the ladies will emerge, and start attracting good stuff
Its crazy to think that there are 1000's of hours of Owen delivering gold.
This and your "Snort a line of self help" videos are the best ones I've seen you do in my opinion man. Insane. Thank you so much. You could watch this 20 times and still get something new out of it every time. Much love Owen xx
To everyone watching this video, love you all. And thank you RSD team for the free content.
You can always give value. One of the way to measure your success is how much value you can offer.
There's alot of similar concepts that are in Mark Manson's "Model". Great Video Tyler, if not one of your best
Owen, I needed to hear this so bad at this point in my life. all of your videos are very informative, and I can tell that they come from the heart, but in this video especially something about your energy and presence was like something I've never seen before. Thank you.
That point about 1v1 win or lose, taking 80 from one person to "win" then holding on to it rather than giving giving giving and getting 20 back from more sources realllly flipped me. Beyond that overall fantastic speech. Thank you for this incredible value ✌
Man this shit is so deep i love the last question and how you rounded up that point about 10x and being ready to receive. Thank you for the years of great content since im 17 you freaking helped me change my life !
When I watch these, I KNOW it’s priceless information. You are literally and figuratively giving the game to us! Many thank Owen and team!❤
Now I know that if I am ever driving a cab for Owen, all I have to do is just say "Aww" throughout the journey.
"As the form fades you grow in essence" i can relate to that so much, that is the process when you give it your all and love what you are doing.
Your videos are ace as always Owen. Here is a poem I wrote a while ago which is my idea of what life is like.
It's called: Shit Tests
We all get shit tested
Whether we like it or not,
By family
By friends,
By work,
By life,
We need to take the blows
get up and go
so we strive in this world
free from ourselves
So go out and get shit tested
Don't let the world
Mess with you
Show the best of you.
Love it. Recognized myself getting into coping mode
thank you for helping me be less creepy I love you bro no homo ❤😂
This is spectacular. Can you imagine 1000 fucking years ago, you’d have to explore the fuckin world and find some gypsy in an Egyptian desert just to get this wisdom.
I was in the low of my life, this video helped me realise that slowly im starting to cope and go in to the downward spiral. then I saw this I've spent time to think about my life and the direction im heading if I'm gonna stay in this mindset. and now I'm back to my diet, healthy sleeping habbits, game, exc
Wow, this really blew my mind. I find it incredible that everything you put out is so relatable but so new and challenging at the same time. Thank you so much Owen!
Looked at this video again, and I’m still blown away. Damn! 🧘🏽♂️
Owen, thank you for providing this info! I appreciate you . Also, the lighting and color looks great on this vid. Love you, man!
breath in gratitude, breath out success.
Your speaking has grown over the years. I know you probably study how to do it, but your pauses are powerful.
Tyler is King! Tyler is King! Tyler is King! Great big thank you Owen for your amazing work and free sharing content. 20|20|20|20|20|20|20|20|20
Gratitude as a weapon for peace . Thank you Owen . Super video
Watched this video yesterday, when I was driving to the MC Drive to get a burger and something to drink, I just said to the guy sitting in the MC Drive, good evening for you (before leaving), and he almost felt insulted, because he was trapped in his own head and sadness. So weird. But this teaching you gave here, is very powerful.
By the way, I went out to the bars tonight in a coping state, began communicating with friends and girls and started to shift into a thriving state. However, I was drinking and once I was drunk as soon as things started going badly I went back into coping mode and got became nearly impossible for me to get out of it since I was drunk so all I’m saying is if you go out in a coping state DO NOT DRINK. It might seem like a fix but it actually just makes it worse.
I'm watching this and it's 2020, and I can tell your voice is cracked man. Thank you for the good work.
One of my favorites so far! Thanks for all of your hard work Owen! And RSD! Love you guys. You guys have helped me change my life
You could be a comedian Tyler. You're so funny, laughing my ass off cause of your coping imitations haha. Keep up the good work
This is probably one of the most important vids you’ve done Owen, I’ll always return to this.
I was just thinking about guys (like me) who are in a 'coping' state of mind. By watching your video, I came to the following inspiration: everyone has disregarded wealth/abundance in them. By first figuring out what is going right for you and what you feel thankful for, you may begin to develop that 'thriving' vibe. Thanks lads & all the best from Dresden!!
You are preaching to people who need it
thanks for sharing! I procrastinated going to the gym for a whole week and finally made myself go and after i was done with my workout my mind suddenly shifted to thriving mode and i actually had more energy AFTER working out than before. it really is true that motion creates emotion
Thanks man this video changed my whole perspective peace and blessings
Owen, thanks for all your videos! Feels like todays way of sharing information has given you a powerful platform to change lives. I have found over the course of around 3 - 4 years, that like any skill set, success with women is a trial and error process which requires persistence. Your video's are great reference tools for "sexually unsuccessful" men and I still watch them as they come out, despite now being more confident, and dating frequently these days. Helped me out of a depressing, demoralising dry spell ( 4 years! ) which is now far behind me. I look back now at the first kisses, numbers, and nervous one night stands and smile.
Every girl on the journey will teach you about the next, the upward spiral is a natural force.
I am wathing you for a few moths and i tinks it is the most valuable information on hole f.acking youtube! tankyou so much man!!
Tyler is edging this MASTERY. This is what you call a MAN!
I think that between 11:30 to 15:00 Tyler finally explained the truth about picking up women in general, the difference between win and loose paradigms, it was very interesting that beneeth all titles, lies an unseen wisdom of life, raw, and basic.
Cheers
Thank you Tyler. This video should have more views.
One of the most brilliant men on the planet right here.....
Stephen Covey concept but this guy took it to another level. Tyler always amazes me
So much value, awesome. What I'd like to emphasize on is that if people have been stuck in coping for many years, they have to understand that the body with its thought patterns and emotional system and so on is heavily conditioned to that state.... and they need to be patient and persistent with allowing the "internal system" to adapt to being open, which as Tyler says, is a completely different way of going about life. This "detox process" is not always pleasant, but of course highly rewarding.
I just wanna thank you for showing me, that only I am in control of ME. My past two years have been fucking awesome because of RSD teachers and your teachings. Wish you only the best in the future. -Alexander S.
dude, Owen, thank you for all the time and attention you put into this content
Wow, thank you for this Owen! :D
i love coming back to these videos years later. so much value/real talk
The sheer presence and passion that comes from this video is inspiringly reaffirming. Very good shit
Love it. The concept of "The Cup Runeth over," is definitely pretty nuanced. A lot of people can't really say that objectively about right, but they can shift their perspective of course, I've been there. It's hard to say that when you had sleep for dinner! But, when I was at that point, I would always remember that it's better to give, than to receive. Cheers, good work as always!
He is really present in this Video and some of the explainations he talks about are already implementet in the here and now
Hello guys, hope you all have an amazing day. But damn, that shift from the cab driver story. Instead of being ungrateful you can instantly change your life experience. Gratitude! Thanks for the awesome content tyler, i learned a lot from this video. Cheers.
Watch this vid before and was so bored. Just watched it again and its so valuable. Thx tyler
Interesting how things turn out to be much easier, when we get off them frame of "coping" and just going to a learn and listen frame, with afterward taking the right and needed action to produce results
this is one of rare videos in past year or so, when so much clicked, very hard, very deeply, i resonated with 4-5 ideas at least, haha, specially with this with molly on 49min, on having a glimpse of loving everybody, of heightened state. he was so much on point, in this vid, so good.... thanks tyler!! ^_^
Thanks for expressing that Owen
Resonate with this a tonne. It's like you've found my key to being my true self, just changing your mind in this way makes things flow
The thing is, sometimes it’s so difficult to tell the difference between the two paradigms. That’s when high quality male friends come into the picture. You want to surround yourself with guys who force you to look then in the idea and say that you’re happy and that you’re doing the best you can (and if you can’t, push your boundaries).
This is so genius! I can't even describe it :D
13:11 I can't believe I didn't catch this before but that exchange he gave to the guy wanting to ask his question blew me away. Well played, Tyler. Subtle. -David
Thank you Owen.
I'm going through a break and have been in a non stop spiral of coping the past couple of days.
Something inside me resonated with the words you spoke and I have found gratitude and opportunity of growth despite the current circumstances. All of a sudden I feel love for the experience and optimistic about the future.
Thank you.
not sure if you mean break up but check out the video he did with julien about break up its gold, the name of the video is "How To Get Over Your Ex: Julien & Tyler’s Detailed Guide To Forget Your Breakup And Have MORE GIRLS" hope i helped you, stay strong
so grateful to listen to this mans wisdom everyday, hes changing lives,
No lie its pretty damn awesome when you understand
Tyler is getting wiser and wiser. I am so impressed :)
Amazing content
this Video Made Made me cry ... such good Work, keep it up man
Already said this, but as I keep watching the video, Tyler keeps spitting more and more truth. This shit truly rings. Real talk, keep it up.
I've watched majority of your videos and I've found this one to be the most beneficial for my life going forward. Thanks Owen!
no words, simply thank you.
Owen I ve been watching your videos and see you evolve into a Zen master of sorts. Dude thanks for teaching and giving insight - You take it to a whole new level with pearls of wisdom that enlighten my mind- Thank you bro ,thank you thank you thank you.