I NEVER Get Social Anxiety Because I Spent 20 Years Mastering THIS...

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  • @OwenCookSelfHelp
    @OwenCookSelfHelp  2 місяці тому +9

    CHICAGO see you this week for the free event - www.selfhelpfreetour.com - NYC, Boston, Philadelphia, DC NEXT! Here is the free course - www.higherpurposeprogram.com - a step-by-step and easy to understand, super hard hitting free course with my best content to get you going. Super recommended to watch it, designed to get you results FAST -Owen

    • @PremiumUserUltra
      @PremiumUserUltra 2 місяці тому

      Thanks for the videos Owen, love you! Seems like the work never ends!

  • @OwenCookSelfHelp
    @OwenCookSelfHelp  2 місяці тому +119

    Hey guys I didn't have my camera team with me in Hawaii so thought it would be fun to test out a VLOG format using a small DJI Osmo 3 camera. Let me know what you thought of the format and I can potentially shoot more of these. I thought it would be fun to leave it without any fancy edits or effects and just leave it raw, to make it a classical vlog style similar to videos you saw when UA-cam came out during it's golden era -Owen

    • @nf-ib2cr
      @nf-ib2cr 2 місяці тому +5

      Hello Owen. I watch every video of you and I think they are the best. I remember that during Covi* 1* you we were making instagram lives and also IGTV videos. They were also unedited and awesome. I think this will also be awesome. Your edited videos are very good and best in youtube but by doing unedited videos you can upload more and with and increased speed and without getting stressed. Maybe you can also open a new channel for the unedited videos.

    • @Kyle_Fall
      @Kyle_Fall 2 місяці тому +9

      I like it! More organic

    • @MX-CO
      @MX-CO 2 місяці тому +2

      Looks good 👍

    • @MX-CO
      @MX-CO 2 місяці тому

      Are you sure it's 3? There is a 4 out now

    • @MX-CO
      @MX-CO 2 місяці тому

      Ohh you must mean the pocket

  • @harryjezreel1653
    @harryjezreel1653 2 місяці тому +27

    Owen and his teachings are like a living, breathing example of exactly how to live that cool life that mainstream flashes in our faces and tells us we have to be lucky, in order to live like that. Owen literally just shows you exactly how to live like that and I really, really appreciate him for that. God bless you brother.

    • @Alex.9.9
      @Alex.9.9 2 місяці тому

      exactly❤,you also got a cute avatar.

  • @theophila214
    @theophila214 Місяць тому +2

    7:00 - "Why are you giving them that much power over you?" is exactly it.
    (that much power over your perception of yourself).
    I would say that it's even more than just one's self-perception or self-beliefs that you are letting them take.
    You are letting them take your most essential, core self-agency over your inner being-your hopes, dreams, even your future.
    Don't let them take your power.

  • @SuperAwesomeHobo
    @SuperAwesomeHobo 2 місяці тому +13

    Been a fan of yours for a long time, this is the best video you have ever made. First time I have literally pulled out a notebook and wrote down notes

  • @pastelchan9371
    @pastelchan9371 2 місяці тому +18

    The camera quality goes crazy 🔥🔥

  • @__OL__
    @__OL__ 2 місяці тому +9

    @23:23 Tristan feels like he doesn't need anything from you because he knows your love is unconditional - he knows (from experience) that you don't need him to be a certain way for you (i.e. you don't need anything from him).
    Not making your child feel like they need to abandon themselves & their authentic expression in order to be "loved" is the greatest gift you can give them.

  • @1motorfan1
    @1motorfan1 2 місяці тому +8

    OG Owen is back! Loving this content

  • @austinjrb
    @austinjrb 2 місяці тому +17

    As a hardgainer with social skills, I wanted to add a potential helpful perspective on the "social pinging" concept that Owen dived into here. Because it's nuanced as shit and the lightbulb moment I had with it really saved me from a lot of awkwardness and pain.
    Social pinging isn't exactly "leader vs follower" in the sense that you 100% absolutely always want to be leading. In essence, your goal should NOT be to become immune to social pinging. On specific subjects and ideas, you maintain your certainty because it's your identity. There are specific things you can't and won't be moved from (your view of self, your core values, ect)... however on the more trivial/fun/little things in conversation, social pinging is natural lol. Allow that energy exchange to happen.. basically don't vilify this aspect of socializing is the crucial caveat. Took me literally years to stop disagreeing simply to disagree, or refusing to buy into someone else's frame on ice cream or music, solely because I had to "be the leader" lmaoooo.
    You can build rapport by buying into other people's perspective and allowing their views to be valued too. But you've got your foundations and you stay strong to them.
    It's some serious nuance there and Owen probably goes into it on his live trainings way better than I can write. But I think this comment might help someone out there a lot because it sure would've helped me lol.

    • @WestinBDrums
      @WestinBDrums 2 місяці тому +2

      It helped me. Thank you

    • @ranc1977
      @ranc1977 2 місяці тому

      Sounds a lot like narcissism and sociopathy.

    • @austinjrb
      @austinjrb 2 місяці тому +1

      @@WestinBDrums my man! 🙌🏾 happy to help! 🔥

    • @austinjrb
      @austinjrb 2 місяці тому

      @@ranc1977 I know right? lol.

    • @ranc1977
      @ranc1977 2 місяці тому

      @@austinjrb Yes. Dark triad predators don't feel ashamed for being criminally insane.

  • @peakexperiencelifestyle
    @peakexperiencelifestyle 2 місяці тому +5

    I like this format a lot I feel like it’s much more intimate and is a window into the REAL Owen as opposed to the videos that are mainly hammering wisdom, lessons and information. This one feels much more candid and honest in terms of your moment to moment experience and the inner workings of your mind well done bro 👏

  • @natureboy6941
    @natureboy6941 Місяць тому

    Always learn from you Owen , shine forver man .

  • @mohamedfahim5017
    @mohamedfahim5017 2 місяці тому +1

    MORE of this type of format. Absolutely loving this video bro.

  • @hansymillery8309
    @hansymillery8309 2 місяці тому +3

    The GOAT doing what he does best!

  • @2Shadow6
    @2Shadow6 2 місяці тому

    Love the small group talk lots of value thanks owen

  • @otakuharu331
    @otakuharu331 2 місяці тому +1

    You know what they say, "less is better." that is why this is a BANGER video. Very cool shots, nature by itself and catching these conversations you have in vlog format is a great mix into what you are already doing. Love it

  • @Mymarkpath
    @Mymarkpath Місяць тому

    Thanks for all your content. Its been really helpful to me through difficult situations. Really appreciate it!

  • @andoi9292
    @andoi9292 2 місяці тому

    I miss these kinds of videos, Owen. Just you and the camera. You were a huge therapy to me growing up and a huge impact in my life. Sending you love mate!

  • @joaovictornave
    @joaovictornave 2 місяці тому +11

    you just gotta respect the OUTPUT - man has been in it for the good part of two decades and still puts out 45 minute-videos talking off the cuff like it's 2011. And in a way, it is.

    • @ranc1977
      @ranc1977 2 місяці тому

      Yeah, narcissists have a lot of energy when they find a way to suck narcissistic supply.

    • @astreocclu
      @astreocclu 2 місяці тому

      @@ranc1977 RSD Tyler is 100% an empath.

    • @ranc1977
      @ranc1977 2 місяці тому

      @@astreocclu So are narcissists when they get their supply.

    • @SahilTayal
      @SahilTayal 2 місяці тому

      @@ranc1977 Tyler has here and there mentioned about his narc side so let's not make it something he isn't self-aware of. Dude had a rough childhood!

    • @ranc1977
      @ranc1977 2 місяці тому

      @@SahilTayal all narc had rough childhood - that is how they become psychopaths in the first place.

  • @chasehassen5650
    @chasehassen5650 2 місяці тому +1

    Love the quality of this. Looks amazing! Love it.

  • @camerongreenebaum1418
    @camerongreenebaum1418 2 місяці тому

    This man just broke down his entire thought process..... thank you. Im so excited to come to free tour in Chicago soon!

  • @disguisedlife
    @disguisedlife 2 місяці тому

    Yes, this format feels more personal/authentic and also the debriefing part with your clients was very interesting. Please more! Appreciated.

  • @tcztcz
    @tcztcz Місяць тому

    You have some great stuff about self aspects, I respect that because it's been observations from your life events and how you interpreted them. I can get in your position and it's easy to feel superman among all the common people around you. Even millions of dollars don't equate that. I wish my mind was blown just like yours.

  • @jeffreyzie
    @jeffreyzie 2 місяці тому +3

    “Ok I’ve got a little weird energy right now. Doesn’t make me a weird guy. Just means I’m having a bad day”

  • @jr_omw
    @jr_omw 2 місяці тому

    Loving this format! Very natural, we get to see cool places while you also go deeper than the house videos

  • @merchrich9758
    @merchrich9758 2 місяці тому +3

    OWENN hope you're having a great day can't wait to see this video, got a job interview tomorrow for a high position so this is JUST IN TIME :D

  • @musicadeverdade1
    @musicadeverdade1 2 місяці тому +1

    One of best videos from recent ones I urge u guys to watch it complete specially the feedback in the end.
    Tks Owen for giving it for free, really appreciate

  • @lucyparsonage6907
    @lucyparsonage6907 2 місяці тому

    FANTASTIC stuff!!! Different refreshing approach too 👌✌

  • @AnibalMoraga-vg5ho
    @AnibalMoraga-vg5ho 2 місяці тому +1

    Love this format

  • @jmontour5933
    @jmontour5933 2 місяці тому +3

    THE BEARD OF WISDOM

  • @MikeWoot65
    @MikeWoot65 2 місяці тому +2

    soo much value here. thx bro

  • @JoshBeetler
    @JoshBeetler Місяць тому

    Belief system shifts
    Focus changes how you act
    Physiology changes reference experiences
    Self fulfilling prophecy gives evidence of beliefs

  • @jadedadiz9018
    @jadedadiz9018 2 місяці тому

    Seeing you explore Hawaii hits different knowing how much time you occupied in a wheelchair this year :) it makes me SO HAPPY

  • @FR-lt6nx
    @FR-lt6nx 2 місяці тому

    Insane video on inner game - like the editing and didn’t know Owen was doing this kind of coaching

  • @Sam.Mikhail
    @Sam.Mikhail 2 місяці тому +1

    This video format is great, you should do more of these solo vlogs

  • @recoverwithnate
    @recoverwithnate 2 місяці тому +5

    10/10, love the style and the live Q&A debrief was awesome. 100% would like more content like this.
    Only constructive feedback is that the audio sounded unusually high pitch to me, and there’s a couple shots where the mic was picking up quite a bit of wind noise.
    Thanks for doing what you do, Owen! Unbelievably helpful content

  • @ChicagoJ351
    @ChicagoJ351 2 місяці тому

    Owen, you have made alot of great content over the years, but I love seeing you coach people. Just like you were doing with the guys in the video. Infield is great too. Both are valuable because many of us have the same sticking points.

  • @e.i.846
    @e.i.846 2 місяці тому +1

    Thanks for the great video. It was very insightful and valuable. The fancy cameras are cool but videos like that are amazing too

  • @D.J.MicOne
    @D.J.MicOne 2 місяці тому

    dillan and tristan can teach each other about the real world, they naturally have chemistry to nurture each other!

  • @sanjeev0075
    @sanjeev0075 2 місяці тому

    Nostalgic moment of watching the blueprint decoded, Owen.
    Thanks for your teachings, Brother!

  • @FabioPintoTalks
    @FabioPintoTalks 2 місяці тому +1

    Love this vlog style video.

  • @v1x00z
    @v1x00z Місяць тому

    It would be great to have these videos in audio format on spotify...

  • @andrebraganza3607
    @andrebraganza3607 2 місяці тому

    Seeing owen’s kids is so dope

  • @aceofslayz
    @aceofslayz 2 місяці тому +2

    I like this VLOG type of content. Would you consider putting out more of it if this upload gains more traction than most others?

  • @globalcat
    @globalcat 2 місяці тому +2

    I don't know. It's micro examining social interactions that RSD did - and he's doing here - that I believe played a big part in my social skills going out the window and becoming a social outcast for years. I had good skills. But I wasn't getting women. Then using David D's cocky/funny that changed. It wasn't just the method but it helped with my confidence. Then this RSD super analytical stuff and fwooosh.. everything out the window. Maybe just enjoy the interaction, believe you have a lot of offer, shrug if off if for whatever reason it doesn't work and find the next girl until it does.

    • @realestateagent7184
      @realestateagent7184 Місяць тому

      Yeah i dont think Owens stuff is as good for beginners as it is for advanced who are just looking to fine tune. If you're an absolute beginner its information overload, even though the core concepts are not all that complicated.

    • @globalcat
      @globalcat Місяць тому

      @@realestateagent7184 Well I wasn't a beginner really. More of a natural with some David DeAngelo cocky funny advice. It was when I was transplanted into a whole new place with no social circle that things started really sucking. A lot of the PU advice made me socially uncalibrated even tho I have skills - go too far from one end of the spectrum to the other and then my sh;t results hit my confidence, so love that negative spiral..

  • @datrollingpanda7812
    @datrollingpanda7812 2 місяці тому

    best video yet brother

  • @scoon2117
    @scoon2117 Місяць тому

    Looking like Socrates these days, love it.

  • @saem901901
    @saem901901 2 місяці тому +1

    Wow is that the dji pocket 3!! 😱😱🤑 Owen about to fire his entire camera team! 😂

  • @TimBrown-e9l
    @TimBrown-e9l 14 годин тому

    This is why multiple warm up approaches are so effective, because they foster the power of belief one approach at a time. Also, if you cannot VISUALIZE yourself being unstifled in front of a VIP group, you will not be able to do it in person either.

  • @JoshBeetler
    @JoshBeetler Місяць тому

    Frame cues:
    Voice control
    Eye contact
    Tempo of speech

  • @taitalexander7511
    @taitalexander7511 2 місяці тому

    switching up the format a bit. Nice. I bet Jonathan had a blast with this one. And Makapuu!!! bringing back memories my dude.

  • @MrCleon22
    @MrCleon22 2 місяці тому

    Incredible video Tyler 💪🏾

  • @djbj9632
    @djbj9632 2 місяці тому

    Licking the bar makes you strong. Got it!

  • @Hobrecht
    @Hobrecht 2 місяці тому

    Thank you soo much!!!! This is really helping!

  • @chasehassen5650
    @chasehassen5650 2 місяці тому

    Amazing video. Thanks for advice Owen.

  • @ajajpk
    @ajajpk 2 місяці тому

    yess more of this! Just tell your editor to buy a denoiser plugin for the shots at night time, there's so much noise. But overall great quality

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  2 місяці тому +1

      Thank you, and btw this IS using a very good A.I. de-noiser - those clubs are insane loud! -Owen

  • @tatewinters5565
    @tatewinters5565 2 місяці тому +1

    Tyler! Tyler! Tyler!

  • @casey1571
    @casey1571 2 місяці тому

    I am thankful for Owen

  • @SomboonCM
    @SomboonCM 2 місяці тому

    I have been a shut-in for years now. I go to work and the grocery store. Thats it. I see or speak to nearly nobody for weeks, even years. I consider working on this, but it was people who made me like this, and I am no longer interested in people.

  • @pablowoods9886
    @pablowoods9886 2 місяці тому

    Awesome video and message

  • @sunexia4252
    @sunexia4252 2 місяці тому +1

    Love you Tyler! I’m in Honolulu but DAMN so bummed I couldn’t meet you.. GGs Tyler hopefully next time! Much mahalos 🤙

  • @GooseTheFlick
    @GooseTheFlick 2 місяці тому +1

    Owen described pumping his state with gratitude. He gets the payoff of what he already has, without needing it from what he doesn't have.
    Ill-will and victimhood is giving others the power over your state. Therefore, he forgives everyone.
    He's trying to create a positive ecosystem with "high intention" to share the positive state he has created.
    The cup runneth over. This is the state of being he's describing.

    • @MrCleon22
      @MrCleon22 2 місяці тому

      Hello, what does high intention mean please?

    • @GooseTheFlick
      @GooseTheFlick 2 місяці тому +1

      @@MrCleon22 On purpose, deliberately, proactively, consciously.

    • @MrCleon22
      @MrCleon22 2 місяці тому

      @@GooseTheFlick thank you bro

  • @chasehassen5650
    @chasehassen5650 2 місяці тому

    Awesome OG content!

  • @ArrozAguado
    @ArrozAguado 2 місяці тому

    I need to have a book from you man, all this info makes me go fucking insane, I would like to know it all, everyday I spend, knowing that there are mindsets, core beliefs, belief systems and theories and stuff that I could learn to get better socializing makes me MAD, ABSOLUTELY FURIOUS. WHERE CAN I GET THIS?

  • @samanglais
    @samanglais 2 місяці тому

    I talked some shit in your comments in the last vid. But your energy is great in this vid. It's easy to see how you made RSD so big

  • @killa704
    @killa704 2 місяці тому

    Wow man such a good father

  • @taitalexander7511
    @taitalexander7511 2 місяці тому

    switching up the format a bit. Nice. I bet Jonathan had a blast with this one.

    • @taitalexander7511
      @taitalexander7511 2 місяці тому

      also, I love that you’re in Yokohama Beach. That’s such a tucked away spot in Hawaii. I used to camp there all the time.

  • @MiqueinhaGordonLewitt
    @MiqueinhaGordonLewitt 2 місяці тому

    Owen is like the tom bombadil of pick up artist

  • @Sean-xr1xj
    @Sean-xr1xj 2 місяці тому

    Woah, the way you phrased it at 1:00 really makes it click.

  • @ezmoney2008
    @ezmoney2008 2 місяці тому

    Great video!

  • @jaheinema
    @jaheinema 2 місяці тому

    Really helpful video thanks!

  • @richard-ei6np
    @richard-ei6np 2 місяці тому

    GREAT video bro

  • @Hobrecht
    @Hobrecht 2 місяці тому

    Thank you!

  • @ErvinMitchell
    @ErvinMitchell 2 місяці тому

    Insane 🤯

  • @Zizoumadden
    @Zizoumadden 2 місяці тому

    Positive ecosystem and sexual mastery !!

  • @monkmodementor
    @monkmodementor 2 місяці тому

    Love this new style! Saw on your story that you got the Osmo. If this allows you to drop weekly or even bi-weekly videos, it is worth the trade-off in professional set-up as there is not much difference in the quality anyways. Been following since 2014-15 so I'm talking from that perspective. Oss.

  • @user-je1hi6jy1i
    @user-je1hi6jy1i 2 місяці тому +19

    i swear Owen's sons are luckiest person on this earth

    • @aaron.social
      @aaron.social 2 місяці тому

      Been saying that lol

    • @AlexA-tx3ql
      @AlexA-tx3ql 2 місяці тому

      We are all his sons lol 😂

    • @user-je1hi6jy1i
      @user-je1hi6jy1i 2 місяці тому +2

      @@AlexA-tx3ql i love flamenco music and bull fights

    • @omidkd
      @omidkd 2 місяці тому

      Free mentoring program for life!

    • @omidkd
      @omidkd 2 місяці тому

      Free mentoring for life!

  • @joshuakelly997
    @joshuakelly997 2 місяці тому

    Thank you

  • @nf-ib2cr
    @nf-ib2cr 2 місяці тому

    This video is awesome!!!

  • @divyanshsh
    @divyanshsh 2 місяці тому

    9:30 gold

  • @mikebarker8861
    @mikebarker8861 2 місяці тому

    Good stuff Owen

  • @Sean-xr1xj
    @Sean-xr1xj 15 днів тому

    How hard/how long does it take to reprogram yourself?
    I have great parents/childhood so i think mine mainly stems from high school days where I experienced some bullying
    But now I've been out of high school for like 8 years! I'm a lot better and pretty regular now but I can still tell I have these deep beliefs causing social anxiety

  • @ZombiePanda501
    @ZombiePanda501 2 місяці тому +1

    there is no such thing as having a permanently rotten core, not for anyone who is conscious anyways

  • @GioBerserk
    @GioBerserk 2 місяці тому

    4:00 peace

  • @dmytoe5679
    @dmytoe5679 2 місяці тому

    Owen is practicing frame control with his kids! 😂 Where's Vincent btw haven't seen him

  • @ElijahXMedia
    @ElijahXMedia 2 місяці тому +1

    🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @Hobrecht
    @Hobrecht 2 місяці тому

    All I do is sit here and read. I’d actually like too be seated.

  • @e.i.846
    @e.i.846 2 місяці тому +8

    I love the positive version of Tyler. When you rant too much about negative aspects of society or spiritual woo woo stuff etc, not my cup of tea

    • @patrickdyess7797
      @patrickdyess7797 2 місяці тому

      When Tyler tells me true facts it hurts my mommy

    • @e.i.846
      @e.i.846 2 місяці тому +1

      @@patrickdyess7797 I love when he tells me facts, just like this video. The negative social criticism isn't facts, it's subjective interpretation. I prefer him sharing his experience and what works for him and staying in his lane, that's where I think he provides the most value 😊

    • @AviapoIis
      @AviapoIis 2 місяці тому +2

      He should wear this beautiful blue shirt when he is doing chill spiritual calming talks, and angry red shirts when it's time to wake people up and to get them to take massive action.

    • @e.i.846
      @e.i.846 2 місяці тому +1

      @@AviapoIis yeah totally :D

    • @ethanconrad4488
      @ethanconrad4488 2 місяці тому

      Well people need to respect both sides

  • @tatewinters5565
    @tatewinters5565 2 місяці тому

    What on earth is Hawaii. Or a better question. What did it used to be to look like that? The landscape is unreal

  • @divyanshsh
    @divyanshsh 2 місяці тому

    27:50 ummm right there

  • @divyanshsh
    @divyanshsh 2 місяці тому

    25:40 look at those eyes

  • @MaximilianMorkramer-fq5mu
    @MaximilianMorkramer-fq5mu 2 місяці тому

    Thanks so much for this beautiful video Owen. I was looking to go do the Hawaii Bootcamp because in Miami I felt like it was so many ppl and you mentioned that Hawaii is a smaller group... this was a small ass group. it felt so intimate. a bit like a madison bootcamp. really nice insight... How excited r u about Las >vegas... I am not necessarily set up financially for another 3k investment but if you say its seriously the last bootcamp ever and we'll do the biggest shitshow this earth has ever seen I'll put down a payment plan on it by the end of nexxt month if you'll have me.
    Max

  • @DominicLeonMarketing
    @DominicLeonMarketing 2 місяці тому

    notes: 5:16

  • @JohnDoe-qq8et
    @JohnDoe-qq8et 2 місяці тому

    You ever come to the comments to try and get the cliff notes, scroll for days and not see any comments say anything specific about the video? Just generalities that can be applied to anybody without having watched themselves?

  • @SahilTayal
    @SahilTayal 2 місяці тому

    Hey, Tyler and team, I've been growing up on this content and I have genuinely been helped especially by Owen. See, I love you no matter what but this guy Andrew Tate said something like RSD Tyler is for losers. I have found the people following RSD material are quite well accomplished people. I know Owen doesn't speak back negatively and let whoever say what. But say something? Would love to hear your opinion, Owen. For me, it was like - I like Owen no matter who says what, my independent judgement says that this specific teacher is the best I've found!!! Love!!

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  2 місяці тому

      @@SahilTayal he's a competitive guy and said that before he was big, it's part of the fun -Owen

  • @Tupac25Shakur
    @Tupac25Shakur 2 місяці тому

    Interview Neil Strauss

  • @josheves9022
    @josheves9022 2 місяці тому

    Do you guys come to New Zealand

  • @cocobololocoloco
    @cocobololocoloco Місяць тому

    *"People will see you as you see yourself"* .....Positive beliefs rap at end...wow.

  • @NiteshKumar-tt7gt
    @NiteshKumar-tt7gt 2 місяці тому

    Hey owen how will I become like you you are the king ❤

  • @Greg-lg3cp
    @Greg-lg3cp 2 місяці тому

    The thumbnail made me think you were wearing a turban for a second

  • @jonsnow911
    @jonsnow911 2 місяці тому

    1:10, 25:05 low energy nbdvn tata char, 28:15