The one phrase that shatters a narcissist
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- Опубліковано 2 сер 2024
- Please use this phrase safely when confronting a narcissist #narcissist #narcissistic #narcissism
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I told my narcissist ex something similar but a little more profound. "You can fool everybody, But you can't fool God. He sees right through you". And the end result was me being discarded.
Lucky for you. That's the best thing that could've happened for you!!
Good for you. Take care. I have said something similar. That is " you can fake. But i will come true *&%₹# " before going no contact and concentrating on myself
I've said that to my ex too, that even if he manages to put it over on me, God sees everything he does and he's playing a dangerous game w/ his salvation. It really didn't do much. I think he feels shame and regret in the moment, but he's able to shake it off, rationalize and go right back to his usual way. I don't see him as evil, just really dysfunctional and someone to keep a safe distance from.
What a blessing!
@@saintejeannedarc9460 Because a proper grandiose narcissist don't believe in your God, they believe that they are the only God, the one and only perfect object in the world.
I prefer to tell them exactly what I see inside them: "You're a horribly insecure coward who pretends to be something you're not. You're a poseur. You're a fake. Your game is up. Go find somebody else to try to fool, 'cause it ain't workin'."
Yup, I said the same thing! 😂
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Amen.
I said "You are empty and you've been filling yourself up with me!"
I wish I knew all this Narcissist information back in 2014,then I could have avoided my Ex-Wife altogether!
However, I wish as well I could have said that very statement to her face when I was Discarded back in November 2023....
Years ago, I asked my ex “Were you born evil, or were you traumatized as a child” same effect for me.
The answer is neither. Narcissists are simply people who chose to do shitty things in pursuit of superficiality. Because it doesn't dawn on them the media is a lie.
I can 100% see how that would have a devastating effect on them! I would also follow up with "I really feel sorry for you as you will probably never become the person you try to appear to be".
Love it👍
Agreed 👍
Pretending to be would be more accurate. But yes good come back.. then run!
Well said
That phrase will cause them to UniLife themselves. Super powerful.
Hating themselves is the only just thing in their lives - they have indeed plenty of reasons to hate themselves !
The one thing we can agree on with a narc.
I'm sick and tired of hearing that narcissist hate themselves without any prove or an authentic confirmation of it. In my personal opinion, I would said they love themselves to much to the point that they hate good loving people, thats why they are jealous, invy, superficial materialistic evel people. They love themselves so much that they look at themselves so special that everything else is below them, but also they fill entitle. Is my personal opinion only
Even more powerful if you do it in front of a bunch of people. You won't get any hoovering after that lmaooo
And do not clarify with them .. leave it at that ..
Danielle omitted a caution that they might smolder or spontaneously combust.
That would be worth a watch 😏🚩🏃♀️
Rage fits, are probably not worth messing with them. Besides that I had almost everything in my home broken, appliances and furniture, one by one. Had to witness him throwing the puppies across the room, which was extremely upsetting for me as I love animals. All for saying that he'd lost all the respect I once had for him.
Want to destroy a narc humiliate them in public better yet in front of their family and tell them to fuck off and never have contact with them . This will mortify them and will go through a self destructive self disgusted ego meltdown But be cautious afterwards, watch your back .
Caught mine cheating and exposed her to everyone we know. Unlikely that he's took the massive hint and fucked her off after I told him what she is but that's his problem now. I came out of the shit smelling of roses and her reputation is in the gutter. I just wish she had a conscience to notice.
When people show you who they are, believe them and act accordingly.
I see she survived a narc relationship and is helping others.
True! My. Phrase is. I see how u are now! Don't let the door hit u in the ass on ur way out!
It might be game over but it's also game on.
They will up their abuse of you because now they see you as a threat.
A) to try and make you discard them so they can play victim or B) out of retaliation.
So true, narc's love a challenge.🤺🙄
So true!!
That's what my ex did to me. Now I'm homeless and penny less. I lost every possession bc I had to leave when he wasn't around. I had a protective order against him which he violated. So I was in hiding given an alias name. But I'm free of his daily abuse and much happier on a daily basis not that he's out of my life.
*now
@@kimberlywoodson7190 So much respect to you Kimberly.
I’m in a similar situation but I live in a tent on his land in Spain and I cannot go back to the UK.
I have tried escaping twice in 5 years. I’m planning my third.
3rd time lucky 🤞
Lots of love to you ❤
This is why when you catch them out doing things they were insistant they were not doing, they discard you. Because you dont even have to say it. They know now you know the real them
Agreed, but that’s very dangerous to do in certain situations.
Here comes the rage, gaslighting, blame, accusations, smear campaign… it’s a heads up to them for war.
On yourself.
It's similar to saying their a Narcissist, with out actually saying it, it could go either way 🤔
They are going to utterly destroy you as much as they are able either way
Might as well shine the light
At least
It will prevent a hoover
We all want them to know that we know. But I learned that the real "fight" is about getting away from them.
@suzyhome 💯% agree, messing with them is not worth it
@@angelakeely5859depends on the individual involved, for some it's water off a ducks back whilst another will turn it on you an call you the narcissist, and convince the family/community/church people too.
Perfection Danielle,, just throw in as you close the door " and I'm not attracted to you at all" that will do it .right on DR🔥🌟
😂😂😂 Excellent! And Just throw in a, “I was mostly pretending to enjoy it towards the end…” for good measure! 😮😂
I did this, never heard from them again 👍🏻🤜🏻
I told my husband I can see the devil in him and he just went quiet
Once I said that she began to go after me legally and a massive smear campaign. She’s managed to rope my sister into it even. I began to hear that she feared fir her life and that I was a truly scary person. Which is ridiculous. But she’s good at crying and playing the victim and lying.
I think there are certain people who would kill you honestly. So just make sure that’s not who you’re dealing with.
This is my mom. She’s a dangerous piece of 💩
Similarities here.
The smear campaign part has been interesting and she definitely bitches to her lawyer.
My version was:
‘I don’t know who you are
but I do know who you are NOT’
After that, he upped his game.
This is great if (1) you don't have them living in your home and you have somewhere else to go; (2) they're not bigger and stronger than you; and (3) they don't carry a weapon as part of their profession.
I was trying to figure out, why he was so different than I had got to know him and kinda jokingly asked: "Who is the person you're idolizing, and can I have his phone number?". I'm guessing that was the thing I said for him to finally discard me.
This would apply at the very last minute to me which is soon, so game will be over. ❤️ to all healing.
I told my mom this and wish I hadn’t because she went ballistic on me.
I told my husband this, and he wasn’t happy about it at first, but seemed to quickly forget about it like he didn’t care. This is the difference between narcissism and ASD. People with ASD are like robots so they wouldn’t even care. They don’t register this as an issue.
My mom really was a narcissist, but
I’m so glad that I was wrong about my husband.
This is a bit toxic, but concise. When you've finally had enough of their poison look them in the eye and calmly say, with a little bit of disgust in your eyes, and addressing them by name, say, "You're a disease. You make me sick. I don't even want to look at you."
2 wrongs don't make a right. Choosing hate to fight deception is playing into the devil's hand.
@@scrappydappydoo Sometimes fire must be fought with fire. As I unequivocally started above, "calmly state..." You don't have to respond to nastiest with hate. In fact, it's better to respond with truth in order to let toxic people know that you are not putting up with their contempt any longer.
My mother is a narcissist and I grew up hearing this exact phrase. I might have been 6 the first time and at 41 there are still scars from that statement. In my humble opinion, only such a person could say such a thing regardless of the circumstance.
@@katsato3118 I grew up being the victim of a narcissist too. They know the truth when they're told the truth and it makes them furious when you remind them of their short comings.
@Walter Benny *hugs* I'm sorry to hear that. I spent my early years full of so much shame and anger that I felt as if I were turning in to her. So, I do understand your feelings on delivering the same pain, we all handle it differently. I took a lot of self reflection and work to choose to never hurt anyone, even a narcissist because I feel that in doing do they have won and that bit of humanity takes from us making us more like them. I'm now married to a highly N person and doing my best to navigate to preserve myself and marriage because I feel due to the way they were raised it was a defense mechanism. 13 years in and was losing myself by the day, but slowly regaining my strength again to stand my ground while staying true to myself. I've been discarded temporarily more times than i can recall. Call me naive, but there are glimmers of hope. I truly believe when I see them vulnerable and continue to respond in kindness that it has made an impact for the better. My mother on the other hand, I've been no contact for years. I hope you find peace and healing and know that you are good.
Thank you Danielle
No wonder I got discarded... thanks for making this video ( my closure)
This is SO valuable , because MOST things you might say back to them will either hit their wall of delusion or actually empower them further ! They just don't think or function like the rest of us , do they 🤔😂 Thankyou so much 💪🙏❤️
I said something pretty similar to my ex recently. The fact I didn't say it w/ disgust, but more firm resolve and sad resignation seemed to deplete him further. I also didn't say it to get to him or undo him, just it was just a firm boundary that I don't want to go back. 10 years, 5 months kicked him out, the girl he was cheating w/ seems to have dumped him and I'm the quickest route to him not being alone and lonely. They just rationalize it away. It's their coping mechanism.
Very interesting video. We have to be very cautious in this world.
Thank you for the brilliant magic sentence.
This is brilliant, simple, and to the point! I can see how this could be useful to keep in mind if you have a narc you know you'll likely run into although you're No Contact. Maybe they're a coworker/neighbor/family, it doesn't matter. You may have already left, but they aren't leaving well enough alone. You know the type! Something like this--maybe in front of others--could do the trick to get them out of your life finally. Thanks so much! New sub! Peace and safety to all...
When you say "whatever" or "i'm sorry you feel that way", they go nutz. But yeah, that phrase "I see you" has to be the best i've heard. Kuddos to you Miss Danielle.❤😊👍
Words of truth spoken, thank you.
I told a friend of 15 years that I see you now. She has never spoken to me since.
My Mom said to me, she is not your friend. But I ignored this advice. This was at age 30 so not a youngster.
But I did date some!
Lessons learned.
Perfect phrase, thank you🙏
I told my Narcissistic husband I don’t care what you think he got really hurt . I told him once you can’t love anyone! Also what works is when he trying to gaslight me I say there’s nothing wrong with my eyes there is nothing wrong with my hearing there’s nothing wrong with my brain. I know what I saw I know what I heard . I funny when he try’s to tell me what I meant by what I just said !! I know what I meant when I said what I said he will keep saying something else call them delusional he got really upset when I said that. I said your delusional!
Ever experienced the narcissist with compounded issues? If your narc has never cried they are sociopathic as well. RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!
I told him that his fronting character is a politician (that constantly changes parties to suit himself ) and the real him is the shady dark energy in the board room out back..
he loves politics and he understood exactly what I meant.
and in all honesty, it sounds harsh but it's exactly true.
he started driving around with crystals in his car when he was love bombing and mirroring the new supply and yet prior to that would totally bag out anyone into that sort of thing.
such a fraud and phony.
a baby kissing politician
I told him I SEE YOU.
he blocked me then 😅
I would re-order the word "now" to being up front - "I now see you for what you are". This will make it clear it is a permanent change in state, rather than being a temporary state which if they manipulated you enough, it could all go back to how it was before.... I now see her for what she is and there can be no going back from that.
This is exactly what I did to my ex-wife. She's a covert narcissist. She ran away like a chicken with its head cut off. 😂
He was absolutely terrified of me exposing him to his new supply, family and friends. I told him those exact words and that he could no longer hide behind the mask. He told me he didn't trust me anymore and he ran from me. I had already left him. Haven't heard from him since.
Bless you for helping me and I will help you in turns. 🙏🙏
Thank you. I wish I heard this years ago.
This only works if it comes from a person they respect. Otherwise they will take it as a joke.
Isn't calling out a narcissist (covert or malignant) highly likely lead to a very dangerous relationship?
Amen. This is absolute...
The eye in the sky sees all...
Dam girl that was deep
I will try it. Thank you for your encouragement 🙏 ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Brilliant dear ❤
Once you can see through their mask it's over. They will just know
Brilliant 👍💯
When my first block and unblock happened because the conversation wasn't going her way, after 2 happy years together with zero friction. I realised what she was. When she unblocked me with the excuse "can we talk my nan just died" 🙄 I responded with "I want to help you through this but you discarded me. Now you're back because you need something? What kind of person does that? " I was permanently discarded 5 minutes later.
Excellent 🎯
This is what I said without knowing about this. This is who you are. The gig is up. He then disappeared.
Powerful yet dangerous advice, even if I am on my way out they can become explosive and pursue their revenge against you for that.
They may want to take revenge on you for that, if they are a malignant cluster B type.
Your take is quite crisp. I appreciate. So very everyday. The drives and the approaches. How nice I heard you say that although the narcissist knows how to play you fron your micro expressions that doesn't at all mean that they actually KNOW you. They only know a few cues you give off. Very nice to hear because when people are duped they sort of lend a little extra intelligence at the person that tricked them. Speaking of being duped. Could duping delight also apply to narcissist as they look and act so continentally all the while planning on pulling the lever on your up coming free fall
Yes, dupers delight applies to the narcissist. It’s also known as the
narcs smirk 😏
I have observed it many times in narcissists & psychopaths.
Great comment btw.
She freaked when I told her that she was a stone in the water dry in the inside. Few weeks later I was completely gone of her abusive cycle. Forever
thats right
Their greatest fear is being seen for who they truly are
What happens/what do you do if they say something to the effect of “and what is that”?
Silence.
No explanation is the biggest middle finger you can toss at them...
@@vanessamorey3812 I suppose that’s a valid response. Never considered not even answering the question. Hell, being honest, they probably already know the answer.
I said to the sly covert narc a few times "get behind me Satan" and he never replied.😁
I think if they said that, my response would be, you figure it out, as you always seem to know everything,and walk away.
@@angelakeely5859 I like this!!!!
Great
With most narcissists, just get away from them. Calling them out can be very dangerous. Even the meek, covert ones can be extremely vindictive people.
My ex narc admitted she hates herself on more than one occasion.
I had no idea this game was being played
This will definitely initiate a discard. Ouch!
You know... I don't think that's right. I mean... I was involved with someone with untreated BPD (or maybe NPD, I cannot say that, maybe she was a narcissist), I told her "I feel worthless, I'm afraid you don't know me yet, I think I'm a shitty person etc". And... I actually think I'm just undermining myself, but in the end I was treated like I was a shitty person. It was like hearing "I now know who you really are". And, you know, that just hurts when you're trying to be a good person and someone tolds you that you're a piece of trash :(
They are projecting that lovely character they all of us want to see but then treat us badly as a reponse to how they project themselves poorly on to us. Part of me want to believe they want to change but psychology says the total opposite. How can someone can put an attractive mask only to show their ugliness hidden from within? #irony
Perfect😂
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I said, " i know you don't want to take any responsibility, but what you did, was Fucked Up!" She immediately walked away and I have not talked with her since. She is a liar and a cheater, now she's that still and also a unmasked and a forever unhappy soul.
Hoping for a response: So, I really like how that phrase “I see you for what you really are now” is concrete, to the point, and brutally honest. My sister-in- law, I suspect, is narcissistic. She and my brother live about 5 hours from where I live. Hypothetically- if I were to say this to her, how would this affect our interactions since I’m not her main source of supply? Honestly I wish I had this phrase a few weeks ago when I really needed it 😭
Isn‘t it the problem congruent to the subject of „The picture of Dorian Grey“ ?
Can i say it by text because i already left and we are starting divorce procedures
Yeah ! Don't be a victim . Of course the narcissist victimizer will become the victim . The oldest trick in the book .
Well in my situation he admits that he's a shell of a person and a lost soul, His response is,,I don't know what to tell ya,, After reeling me in again!
I roasted the narc alive for 2/12 hours with this phrase and many, many others, then sent him packing from CA to Nova Scotia! YEEEEEEE HAAAAAAAAhahahah!!!
My ex used to say he wanted to be back because living w/ me was living w/ someone who really knew him. This was either me kicking him out or shortly after I did. I'd reply that I didn't know him at all. That seemed to really bother him, just not enough for him to fade. I did say something similar to him since he's been out 5 months and trying to hoover back, now that his mistress seemed to dump him. I was vague about how I realized how he is now and had no desire to go back. My look was likely resigned knowledge and firm resolve w/ a bit of pathetic pity. He looked defeated.
"I'm starting a UA-cam Channel on you and all Malignant Narcissists, with a pending 5-book contract and you're the star. Remember when that old man hit me on my bike and I was almost killed, and he bought me a new 10-speed that you took? Well that's a video right there. Remember how you manipulated everything as the Golden Child? That's another video. People are really hip to this stuff nowadays. Wait till your kids read all about their real...."Hero."
@@lookupyourredemptiondrawsn7285 😆
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JESUS of Nazareth had another phrase for these demons. COME OUT !! And the demons fled from the people.
Make no mistake people, this is not a psych condition
It is possession by the Jezebel spirit. God help us all. 🛡️
Sad
Really ? I have a friend who is a narcissist and she absolutely loves herself. I mean truly really really loves herself. Loves her money,her pool, her fancy vacations,her rich husband,her many many many friends,her fabulous house with air conditioning. How are you saying they hate themselves ?
Narcissists are actors, experts at hiding the true self. One thing they will never admit unless forced to look into their ego is self-hate. That would deny of how they think of themselves, as being better than you. A narcissist is defined by 2 words, nark, a gossip, and sissy, fearful.
I told my Narcissit, don't be a stranger now. You keep in touch ........ with youself...
I have one better than that! "As a child of God, I can literally really see a demon in you" 😈...... Which by the way is what is actually happening to them.